A Promise & A Prayer {new every morning}

GreatIsHisFaithfulness

Jesus, I’m so grateful for Your love and compassion
that never fails. They are new every morning.
Not just on my good mornings, or mornings that follow good days.
But every single morning. Your faithfulness is so much more than I deserve.  

 

Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail.
They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. Lamentations 3:22-23

Instead of Giving In…

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I’ve always admired people who never give in.

You know, the ones who don’t consider defeat when they blow it?

I wish I were that brave.

But honestly, I tend to beat myself up a little when I fall short of the woman I want to be, or the woman God is calling me to be. Like the other day when I got upset with my son and went on a rant about his room being a mess.

Soon after, my internal bully (the mean voice in my head) started ranting about the mess I had just made and how I’d blown my chance of being a good mom that day. I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve let failure knock me down, tie me up with ropes of regret and hold me hostage for a day, or two.

Maybe you’ve been there? If so, let can I whisper some assurance into your heart. You are not alone. I am with you and so are a boat load of other women just like us. In fact, while I was writing  A Confident Heart, I surveyed over a thousand women and discovered two of the most common causes of self-doubt are rooted in our past failures and our fear of failing in the future.

The greatest defeat comes when we allow failures, sins, and broken relationships to convince us we might as well give in.

But look at what God tell us in Psalm 37:23-24, and insert your name in the blanks as you read it:

“The steps of ____________ are established by the Lord, and He delights in ____________’s way. When ____________ falls, __________ will not be hurled headlong, because the Lord is the One who holds ________’s hand.” (NASB)

Instead of giving in, Jesus wants to empower us to get up again. {Read the rest of today’s post on (in)Courage) where I’m sharing more about giving in or letting Jesus help us get up again. I’d love to connect with you there!

Oh my word{s}!

KeepItShut

Why did I say that? Why couldn’t I just keep my mouth shut? If only I had zipped my lips!

At least once a week I say something I regret. Sometimes it’s more like once a day. Or more.

Words come too easily for me. Especially words fueled by flaming-hot-emotions.

Sometimes it’s the words I say but other times it’s the way I say them.

The struggle is real. And I’m seeing a correlation between my emotional exhaustion and my verbal exhaust fumes.

The more depleted I feel, the more impatient I become with my tongue, my timing and my tone.

Thankfully, my good friend Karen Ehman has written a whole book to help me. In her new book, Keep It Shut: What To Say, How To Say It, and When To Say Nothing at All, Karen shares her own honest struggles, regrets, and hard-fought wisdom packed with a humorous punch. And today, I asked Karen to share something I loved from Chapter 9 that has significantly helped me (and thousands of others) reduce my word-regret.

Karen_headshot1“I am the proud owner of a  Snuggie®. Yep, I have one of the “amazing blanket with sleeves.”

It was a surprise gift from my husband last year along with some dark chocolate, sort of as a joke. But do you know what? I absolutely adore this wacky infomercial item!

Not only can I stay toasty warm in the Michigan winters while typing on my laptop with my arms completely free and functional, but that cozy wrap is the softest blanket I’ve ever owned. It just begs me to swaddle myself up inside its fluffiness and sit for a spell. My only trouble with it is that my kids often steal it for themselves!

Softness feels good. It calms me down. Comforts me. Makes me feel wanted and welcomed.

I want my words to be like a Snuggie® – something soft and calming and comforting. Especially when I’m trying to answer a question asked by someone I love who is getting on my nerves. For example:

“Mom? Where’s my football jersey?”

“Honey, you don’t mind if my mom comes to stay for a week, do you?”

“Mom? Will you make your oatmeal dried-cherry cookies for my first-hour class? There are thirty-two kids, and I told Mr. Billings you would make some for me to take. Oh yeah. Tomorrow.” (Question posed at 10:15 p.m.)

“Do you mind sending me that information right away?” from a coworker who lost the emails already sent two other times.

So, what is the the biblically best (and softest) way to respond when irksome questions come flying our way? Proverbs 15:1 tells us: “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” (ESV)

Sadly, this is wisdom I don’t always follow. I can snip. Be snarky. Escalate the climate by barking back with another question like, “Well, how am I supposed to know where your jersey is? I’m not the defensive tackle for the junior varsity football team, and it isn’t my job to know where your things are, so deal with it, bubba. You can wear your sister’s pink dance leotard for all I care!”

Un-soft answers only worsen the mama drama in my house. And they don’t win many points with my coworkers or neighbors either. When we give an un-soft answer, we drizzle a little gasoline on the tiniest spark of a potential spat. It may combust and flare, setting off a big old blaze. However, when when we are intentional about giving a gentle answer to (sometimes foolish) questions, it prevents the anger from escalating into an inferno.

Giving a soft answer doesn’t mean I don’t give a truthful one; I just give it in a respectful and kind manner. The mark of a soft answer is that it doesn’t spark higher levels of friction and irritation but instead sets the stage for a healthy discussion. For example …

“I don’t know where your jersey is, but I need you to take charge of it yourself. I already have so many things I need to keep track of.”

“What week are you thinking of? I’m snowed under right now, so even thinking about having a houseguest stresses me out.”

“Honey, I wished you’d told me sooner about the cookies. I guess you’re just going to have to disappoint your teacher. We can pick up some store-bought ones on the way to school.”

“Here is that information. Lost emails are a bother, aren’t they? I’ve had that problem too. You might try an archiving service.”

In addition to these “softer” answers, I’ve asked myself a few questions to help pinpoint when and why I become irked, so I can plan ahead, and I encourage you try it. Just get a way by yourself for a few minutes and jot down your answers:

List the last three to five times you verbally let loose, and regretted something you said and/or how you said it.

Are there commonalities in these situations? ie. people, circumstances, physical or emotional states, etc.

Write down one or two patterns or triggers you see about why or when your anger gets the best of you? 

Which patterns or triggers happen most often? For example: We’re running late for school or church. I’m interacting with a difficult coworker. I am tired. I am hungry. I’m overwhelmed.

Briefly consider the patterns that happen at home or at work, and how you and your family members/co-workers could do things differently to begin breaking bad patterns and create new, healthy ones. For instance: Can someone else help pack lunches for school and work? Is there a shortage of supplies? If so, how can you all identify items ahead of time so it’s easier to make sure everyone has what they need?

And for the next week, when someone asks an annoying question and triggers some sparks, silently pause (count to three) and shoot up a prayer asking God to help you craft a truthful, helpful and soft answer. Then watch to see how gentleness softens the climate in your home and at work. God’s word is true: “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

More about Keep It Shut:

kis.book_The average women speaks over 20,000 a day—not to mention the ones we type online. Karen Ehman—a woman whose words have often landed her in a heap of trouble— shares from experience the how’s (and how-not-to’s) of dealing with the tongue in her new book Keep It Shut. Using biblical examples, as well as her own personal (and sometimes painful!) stories, Keep It Shut will equip you to know what to say, how best to say it, and when it’s better to keep our lips zipped! You’ll also learn:

      • The difference between gossip and properly processing with a trusted friend
      • A helpful grid for using our digital tongues as we talk online or on social media
      • How to pause before you pounce, attacking the problem but not the person
      • How to avoid saying something permanently painful just because you are temporarily ticked off
      • What the Bible teaches about making our speech laced with grace, as sweet as honey, and yet seasoned with salt.

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Fringe

I have a confession to make. I’ve been struggling with something for a while.

It’s called EXHAUSTION.

I don’t seem to have enough hours in my days.

Not enough time to write or work or read or rest. Not enough time for God or my family or friends. And definitely not enough time for sleep and exercise … or for myself. To just do something for me.

My brain feels fried. And my body is starting to feel burned out.

And I’m wondering if it’s just me, or is there a bigger epidemic among women?

It hit me when I was recently asked two questions and didn’t have good answers. But I also couldn’t think of many women who do. Here are the Qs:

How good are you at taking time for yourself? Do you block out regular time to do things you enjoy that aren’t for work, for your family or for ministry, things that refresh your soul, refuel your heart or relax your brain? 

If those two questions had been a quiz with hours I listed determining my score, I would have failed.

I have a habit of minimal-me-time and bad-self-care, and it feels like I’ve struggled for a lifetime. God knows I need to change. And God knows I want to get better at working less and “enjoying” more.

And maybe, you’ve been feeling that way too?

What if we decided to spend our lives differently? What if there was a better way? What if someone showed us how to find hidden pockets of time in our busy days and doing something for ourselves without feeling guilty? I know…

  • I’d be less stressed and more fun to be around.
  • I’d get better the life and gifts God’s given me.
  • My family would get a happier “me”.

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But I can’t figure this out on my own. I need someone who is good at this to show me how and that’s why I was SO HAPPY when I got my copy of  The Fringe Hours that just released this week. This book feels like a life-raft God is using to help me find my way to shore. 

Jessica Turner has written a beautiful message every woman needs with tools and strategies every woman can use. She shares why it’s important we take time for ourselves and the most common reasons we don’t (based on a survey of 2500 women). Then she shows us how to find fringe hours we all have but rarely use for ourselves through simple, doable ideas and strategies she’s discovered as a busy working woman, mom, blogger and creative. 

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Because {YOU} are His

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Startled by the silence, I shot up in bed and searched for blurry neon red lights that confirmed it was three in the morning, time to feed the baby. But Andrew, our then newborn son, hadn’t made a sound. Was something wrong? Or was he actually sleeping through the night?

Wavering between panic and joy, I felt my way down the hall to the nursery and leaned over my sweet baby’s crib. Listening for the sound of his breathing, I carefully rested my hand on his tiny chest to feel the gentle rhythm of its rising and falling.

Moonlight slipped through the blinds, helping me see he was perfectly fine.

Most sane mothers would have gone back to bed, but not me. I stood there for a while watching over and delighting in my child. 

I desperately needed sleep. And I should have gone back to bed knowing Andrew might wake up any minute. But my desire to be with him erased all logic. I wanted to savor this quiet moment and overwhelming sense of love I felt for this little guy who set my days in motion with his cries and smiles.

Andrew developed a routine of sleeping through the night soon after, yet there were nights when I’d still sneak into his room because I wanted to be with him. To watch over him. And then I’d tiptoe into his big brother Joshua’s room and watch him slumber, too.

Looking at my children’s faces, I’d sometimes imagine the boys God was shaping them to become and I’d ask Him to calm their fears, fulfill their dreams, and establish their steps to follow His.

My sons are seventeen and nineteen now, but sometimes I go in their rooms to pray over them and watch them sleep. They aren’t doing anything to make me feel proud or happy. In fact, they may have even driven me to my wit’s end that day, but it doesn’t matter. I delight in them because they are mine.

Zephaniah 3:17  reminds us that God feels the exact same way about you and me.

“For the LORD your God is living among you. He is a mighty savior. He will take delight in you with gladness. With His love, He will calm all your fears. He will rejoice over you with joyful songs.”(NLT)

I don’t know about you, but I need to be reminded that God wants to be with me.  He loves to watch over me – and {YOU}. Not because we are doing anything for Him, but simply because we are His.

Right now, in this moment, HE is watching over you with His love. He is there to quiet your fears, insecurities, and doubts each day….

KEEP READING HERE => I’m sharing more about God’s love for us over on the (in)Courage blog. I’d love for you to join me there and share your thoughts!

Be STRONG and COURAGEOUS

Joshua 1.9

God’s been showing me how much I rely on my own strength and strategies to do His will. It’s one thing for me to really sense God’s direction but it’s a whole other thing when I think I know where He’s leading me to go AND I know how to get there.

My ways are wearing me out, and the stress and strain of life and ministry are catching up with my husband. Let’s just say my journal and my Bible are damp with tears. And my heart is deeply convicted.

But, can I be honest? I’m also afraid. Afraid I won’t change. Afraid I don’t know how to change. 

Letting go leaves me feeling completely out of sorts. Yet I know God wants my best, which means He needs my obedience. He can only give me what I’m willing to receive.

Last week I started asking Him to teach me how to trust Him more, and I landed in the book of Joshua. There I found a brave and obedient man called by God into unfamiliar territory.  I’ve always thought Joshua was so naturally BRAVE. But this time I underlined how many times God told Joshua to BE STRONG and COURAGEOUS before Joshua even packed his bags.

Before Joshua accepted the job, God was giving Him a pep talk. And the only reason I can figure out why God would say the same thing three times, is because He must have known Joshua might forget what he needed to remember most. Or maybe He was saying it for me. Because gosh I need to hear it more than once:

“After the death of Moses the servant of the Lord, the Lord said to Joshua son of Nun, Moses’ aide: “Moses my servant is dead. Now then, you and all these people, get ready to cross the Jordan River into the land I am about to give to them—to the Israelites. I will give you every place where you set your foot, as I promised Moses. Your territory will extend from the desert to Lebanon, and from the great river, the Euphrates—all the Hittite country—to the Mediterranean Sea in the west.

No one will be able to stand against you all the days of your life. As I was with Moses, so I will be with you; I will never leave you nor forsake you. Be STRONG and COURAGEOUS, because you will lead these people to inherit the land I swore to their ancestors to give them.

Be STRONG and very COURAGEOUS. Be careful to obey all the law my servant Moses gave you; do not turn from it to the right or to the left, that you may be successful wherever you go. Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.

Have I not commanded you? Be STRONG and COURAGEOUS. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:1-9, NIV

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Sometimes I forget…

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Sometimes I forget.

I get wrapped up in all the Christmas-giving and forget to unwrap the gift of Immanuel, God with me.

In all the rush I forget my need for His soul-calming hush. But I want to remember.

I want to unwrap not only the gift God gives but the gift He {is}.

His presence is the present I need most. And so I quiet my thoughts and whisper a prayer, asking Jesus to create a quiet space, a dwelling place for His presence in the manger of my heart…

Join me over at (in)Courage today, where I’m sharing a prayer I wrote for our hearts at Christmas. I’d love to pray for you, too. See you there.

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