A door opened in my work that, while wonderful and exciting, would be way over my head to accomplish. Without even a single prayer, I headed to my office to write the email. Fearful to how hard the task would be, I didn’t have the kind of confidence it would take to say yes.
Then I stopped. What if this was God? Would God ask me to do something that was beyond my normal strength?
Yes, that did sound like it could in fact be a plan He would create. He would plan to put me in a place beyond my ability, so He could be fully seen.
There was a group of women in the Bible who also had every reason to also be fearful, yet they found the confidence they needed to make their move.
In Numbers 26, The Promise Land is being divided up among the sons of the tribes of Israel. This where we meet the daughters of Zelophehad (or the daughters of Z as I call them). Their story begins with their problem. Tradition dictated that only men were land owners. During the passage to Canaan, their father had died … with no sons. This would mean when the five daughters entered the Promise Land there would be no promise land awaiting them.
If they didn’t do something, they would be homeless.
They had a choice: listen to the voices of their culture’s tradition, the voices possibly whispering in their own minds or make their move.
In Genesis 17:8 God had said to Abraham, the daughters’ ancient grandfather, “The whole land of Canaan, where you now reside as a foreigner, I will give as an everlasting possession to you and your descendants after you.” I believe the Daughters of Z knew this promise; the land was for all of Abraham’s descendants, even his granddaughters.
Confidently, they made their move.
They “… approached the entrance to the Tent of Meeting and stood before Moses, Eleazar the priest, the leaders and the whole assembly, and said, “…Why should our father’s name disappear from his clan because he had no son? Give us property among our father’s relatives.” Numbers 27: 2 & 4
Look at these gals!
Did they shrink back because that is “just the way it was”? Hiding behind their problem, this rejection? Allow it to paralyze them?
No. They were bold and confident.
The daughters of Z claimed what was theirs’s because they knew who they were and whose they were. They didn’t allow their confidence to be in doubt because of who others said they were.
What have you faced, what are you facing, that is blocking the way of you being a more confident you? Standing in the way of you making your move?
Maybe like the daughters of Z, it has been what you haven’t had. You’ve felt that in order to be confident, you needed more. You see others experience the success you want, but you don’t have the self-worth it takes to step out, take a risk. Daily, you compare yourself to her. You know who she is. The one you wish you had her life: her job, her family, her husband, her body. No wonder she’s confident. I would be too if I had what she’s got. If I just had more.
I get that. I, too, have faced situations where I felt I needed more; more education, more connections, more creativity, more opportunities, more favor.
Perhaps you have felt confident in the past, but it just doesn’t seem possible any more. Your someone is gone, your someplace you no longer are or your something you no longer have … and you no longer have your confidence.
But you want it! You want to be brave, bold and go after the desires in your heart.
The daughters of Z knew what belonged to them as granddaughters of Abraham and daughters of God. This knowing gave them the confidence they needed to do what they needed to do.
I’m discovering, as I learn of and believe what God says about me, confidence comes!
My thinking is switching from what I think about me and my circumstances to what He says. Putting down confidence-crushing thoughts allows us to pick up Christ’s Confidence.
- He says He is my confidence.” for the Lord will be your confidence and will keep your foot from being caught.” Proverbs 3:26 (ESV)
- He says I am blessed when my confidence is in Him. ““But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him.” Jeremiah 17:7 (NIV)
These are messages we have to tell our heart: His truth.
Today’s our day to get the confidence we desire – Christ Confidence.
We can choose not to build our confidence on someone, someplace or something – things that we can lose or have taken from us. Unshakable confidence is built upon our unshakeable God! We can choose to dig into God’s word for ourselves and discover His promises. We can stand on those promises, becoming wise and confident women like the Daughters of Z!
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Trish Graham says
In May 2012, with so much excitement at the plans to meet with others who had veterans in their heart and the need to help find horses to help them heal, I left for a horseback ride in Arroyo Grande. I just knew God had a plan adn He was letting me be a part of getting this coordinated for the veterans I love adn being able to minister what I had learned throughout my walk with women to help them heal. My confidence and plans for outreach and ministry were shaken to the very core when a horrific life-changing horseback riding accident happened on that ride that changed my life forever and really shook everything I thought I knew about God, my walk with Him and what His plans were for me. I have spent the last almost 6 years focusing on healing and learning that sometimes even these things that stretch my absolute ability to cope, to where it is second by second, where I trust Him to continue to help me walk through what comes at me… I am trusting that He will redeem the time, resurrect the dreams, restore all the enemy has stolen, adn give me a lift out of the pit when it is time. I believe He will help me to be able to be the part in the beautifully woven fabric He intends me to be. At 60 when I get so fruustrated, He reminds me He is my Saviour, my Husband, my Friend and brother and My Lord and He has a plan of hope to bring good from all the bad that has happened in my life….
Karen M says
Lynn, I am 61 years old. I have always struggled with confidence. However, now, it seems that struggle has taken a new twist. I have been a Pastor’s wife for over 40 years. At this age, I feel like I want to do more than I have ever done for the Lord!
Looking back, I can see so plainly the times I could have done so much for the Lord, had I just had the confidence that He could use me, inspite of my inabilities. I don’t want the latter years of my life to also be imprisoned in this lack of confidence in who I am in Christ! Thank you for your words! They were a great encouragement to me! God Ble
Thank you for sharing this Lynn. I got to see you speak at “she speaks conference” last year. It has been a tough year for me and my family, walking through loss, miscarriage, and relocation…and just when I thought we were rising out of the ashes, our marriage was hit a huge blow. The most painful thing that my husband could say to me — the thing that could pull the rug out from under me in a moment, he said. I later asked him when things were calm if he meant it and he did. So now I’m working on pressing into God realizing I put way too much confidence in my husband and rely on him for my worth. It’s going to be a long journey getting back some of the confidence that God had restored but he’s good at that.
The struggle is real! I have been writing (mostly blogging) for years now, and suddenly feel as if there are no words left. I long to hear God’s voice speaking words for me to share, and this fear is there instead, that maybe He is through with using me for this. I want to think that, if that is true, then He has a better plan, but doubt and exhaustion are trying to win. Add that to an unanswered cry of my heart, and I have been a big pit lately. I miss the confidence- confidence in my abilities, but especially my confidence in God. But I know He has been faithful in the past, to me and to people I know, and people in Scripture, and I need to hold on to that ❤️ Thank you for your beautiful words ❤️
I believe God wants me to help hurting women due to my own life experiences but I do not have the courage to do so. I know I can’t help them until I learn how to let the Lord help me. But being divorced and single trying to make ends meet, resources are hard to come by.
Thank you for the encouragement.