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Our word for the week: CONQUEROR
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God’s WORD for US this week:
“No, in all these things you are more than [a] conqueror through Him who loved you.” Romans 8:37
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Renee,
Thank you so much for your teaching. I am learning to be a conqueror. I’m am working very hard to find what God has for me in overcoming the things of my past. God Bless You so much.
For anyone who is counting…it’s me at Starbucks in California. I have DSL at home, but this is “my place” to rest between rushing to get my 16 year old son up and out for school and driving the next 15 miles for my class 3 hours later. It isn’t total rest, I also have 2 girls that are getting reading and driving themselves and not until 9a.m. when I know they are on the road to their classes do I take the big breath. I don’t even hear the words to the music, I just feel the rest and cheer of the staff here.
Here…in the chat place with Confident Heart. A safe place we can cheer with our friend from Australia in the salvation of a new sister…encourage someone who is hurting…advise someone who is questioning. Color, Language, Style…we are all sisters in the family of God. We all come with stuff. Lots of stuff!!!
2Tim. 1:7 is my verse from chapt 6 too ~ JennB.
Lam. 3: 19-23 “Remember my affliction and my wanderings…”The LORD is my portion,” says my soul, “therefore I will hope in him.”
The part about “New every morning” I am sure is familiar to all of you. The face has a new winkle, there is another gray hair, but the stead fast love of the Lord is New every morning, great is His faithfulness. ~Amen
This chapter was even more powerful for me than the last. I identify with Renee’s story about feeling like a failure as a mother. I wish I had failed forward with my feelings of doubt, but I struggled on trying my best as a single mom. Now I have learned that I was listening to my enemy and God was for me all along. The part of the chapter that stood out for me was the story of the woman caught in adultery. No one was left to accuse her and Jesus did not condemn her either. I am so glad that I know the difference between conviction and condemnation now. I can seek the Lord to help me identify my thoughts or actions that I need to change without fear of rejection. This is a wonderful lesson to begin walking in!
I guess for me, the main thing that stands out is that these thoughts that come are from the enemy not God, I seem to have deep-rooted ideas about myself that I’ve believed for a long time, even after salvation, I kept believing the lies. I don’t want to do that anymore. I also feel just like you did as a mom. I homeschool. I have an 11, 9, and 4 year old. I’ve felt like a complete failure. I’m going to start trying to mine for gold instead of looking at their faults. I have been crying out to God for help. Maybe that is my answer. Thanks for sharing Renee. It is such a blessing that you have followers all over the world. It is exciting that you are a missionary to all these countries without even having to leave the US!. May the Lord continue to bless and use you for His service and His glory!
Blessings
The reminder on page 122 that accusation does not come from God, but from the accuser really resonated with me today. I might have some difficulties or have some thoughts that do not agree with what God says about me. This is a reminder from chapter 6 that God’s thoughts are for me and not against me. It is also a reminder that Satan is out there and does not want me to be successful.
Praise songs really help give the correct perspective!!
Renee,
I want to thank you that through Christ you had the courage and wisdom to write “A Confident Heart” and I was led to the book and bible study.
I feel I need to share my experience that has taken place through Jesus and this bible study, in hopes that I can be a witness and blessing to someone else, as to what God can do.
Even though I was “approached” and saved 4 years ago(the key word being “approached”), I wasn’t seeking Jesus on my own. I by no means want to in any way disregard that devine entervention from God or my savation that took place, because it was in God’s perfect plan for me.
I was changed for about 6mos. and then resumed my old lifestyle and was seperated from Christ and living a life of turmoil, doubt, insecurity, and struggleing with major conviction.
Through this study, spending much time with God, doing the time line and confronting my past and present hurts in chapter 4( which was very enlightening and painful to say the least), I finally had the courage to face my demons and “Seeked”(the key word being “seeked”) God on my own with all my heart and broke down with everything that is in me, and begged God for forgiveness, and asked Him to take my life, I was giving it all to Him, I wanted Him to direct me and lead me in everything I do.
He answered my prayers immediately. His Spirit was with me right there, as if He was sitting next to me, in me, and through me.
It was amazing, beautiful, and extremely life changing. I know the spirit of Christ is living and dwelling in my heart in everything I do. He will never leave me. I am one in Christ, an amazing child of God. I can’t express in words how blessed I feel that God gave me His amazing grace and the overwhelming love, joy, peace, strength, hope, faith, and “confidence” I now have.
I am seeing everything differently now, even reading the bible is new now. I am understanding and comprehending it like I never have before and can’t get enough of His word.
Looking back, I know I was afraid to completely let go and give it all to God. I wasn’t letting Him work in me by completely having faith and trust in Him.
Now that I am one with Christ, I see how amazing He is and what only He can do, if you just let Him, I never want seperate from Christ who is in me. Through His spirit in me I want to be an obediant, courageous servant.
Thank you God for Renee and this bible study and giving me salvation through Your Son Jesus Christ.
May God richly bless everyone in this study, as much as He has me.
Thank You So Much for sharing that. It was definately encouraging to read that. That’s great that you have felt such a break through in your relationship with Christ. Hope you keep going from strength to strength. 🙂
Praise God for We are More then Conquerors -ROMANS 8:37-39]Through Him that Loved us.I Thank God for the next verse As well.For I am Persuaded that NOTHING can harm us or Come Between us and Our Savior.He Loves us so much that His Word saids He goes before us to make it safe for us to Shield us from the fiery darts that try to come near us.And as Long as our Faith and Trust is in Christ we can make it.We will be VICTORIOUS OVER DEATH HELL AND THE GRAVE!!!!!!!And all you Precious Women of God know that your loved and your secured in Christ and nomatter how others see you God sees a Beautiful Masterpiece He created your worthy and your Vaulable.And He accepts us just the way we are.I am Praying for each and everyone of you and Remember that it is so Important that we as Sisters in Christ Pray for one onother and For Sister Renne the enemy will be raging more in her life because of the Dilverance she is causing from her Obedience in doing God’s Work.She needs ALL our Prayers.God Bless each and Everyone of you and your families.
Thanks for this Online Study Sister Renee it has really cause me to grow more in my walk with Jesus.And to know I am Nothing on my on But I am Powerful in Christ.
I love the fact that no matter where we are on our faith walk, we can come here for support. Although I’ve been a Christian from birth, I never grew up studying Bible verses for my own use. This “A Confident Heart” book/Bible study has armed me with new ways to combat the evil one. Because of our obedience and commitment to this study, I’m sure I’m not the only one who has been tested more often in recent days. I thank God for all of the support that I get from all of you to stand strong. Thanks, Renee, for creating this online community.
Thanks everyone for sharing so openly. As I read all the comments I realise that we might be worlds apart but we all desire the same things; love, acceptance, affirmation and just knowing that you are chosen. I read a few weeks ago a comment from a married woman who said she feels rejected by her husband. I was also feeling quite rejected because I am single. I realised then that even though she is married and I am single we both feel rejected somehow so it occured to me that the devil will use a different weapon for everyone with the same reuslts – to get us to feel unwanted. I could hear the holy spirit saying “Mercy, if its not one thing its another” So I became determined that I will not let my situation define me or degrade me. I am precious in his sight. Lets continue to pray and encourage one another in christ. Thanks Renee for agreeing to be used by the Lord to touch so many lives in a profound way.
I so agree and what a beautiful name you have!!!! Love to you my sister…
I felt so sad as I read the pain of all our sweet sisters who feel that they are alone. Sometimes the pain of feeling rejected is so heartbreaking. I am feeling some of those same feelings at this new season of my life as both of my boys have gone off to college. I was a stay-at-home mom for the last 21 years and didn’t realize how much that had become not only my life but my identity. I’m struggling now to discern where God is calling me. I want so much to serve Him but I’m not sure where He’s calling me.
Sandee: I am glad to know that I am not alone. I too am an empty nester and I am also struggling to figure out what God wants me to do next! My trouble is that I have too many options and something has to go but I’m not sure what. Or perhaps God wants me to do something totally new?
And of course, along the way I am struggling with my self-confidence! But learning how to overcome this problem!
Carol, that is exactly my struggle. I’m also involved in a lot of things but don’t feel called to give my whole focus to any one of them even though they are all good things. I’ve been trying for a long time to discern whether God is calling me to pursue making my writing more public but the self-confidence factor always tell me that what I have to say isn’t important or has already been said before. I just keep praying for wisdom and discernment. I will keep you in my prayers as well.
I too am a new empty nester struggling to figure out where I fit in and what God has planned for me now. I believe God calls us to different seasons in our life. Stepping into a new season is at times confusing and painful in our own humanness. I am quick to feel I can’t do that or I am not as good as someone else.Trying to listen more to what God thinks of me as his masterpiece. Enjoy reading how God is working in all of you as well.
I like the illustration “God is the gold miner.” I was reminded through this illustration how God saw the gold of His image in the Twelve Disciples He CHOSE. Twelve ORDINARY men with each carrying their weaknesses, sins, faults. Christ knew all their faults long before He CHOSE them; yet ,He CHOSE them. These twelve men did not let their past, present define them. Ladies….(including me) we can not let our past, weaknesses,etc. define us! As Renee says in the book “we must allow God to write our stories”. I am finding so much healing and comfort in claiming God’s promises through A Confident Heart. That is where the healing balm is..in the power of God’s promises there for us! This is a moment by moment process I need to check where my focus is and with God “We can do all things through Christ , who strengthens us.” Phil. 4:13 Once again, thank you Renee for allowing God to use you all around the world! Praise God!
Thank you so much Renee you are a big blessing to me. Reading your book , joining the bible study and listening to you give me encouragement to go on and pursuing God everyday and every way in my life. I am still struggling from reflux but I keep claiming His promise that all things are possible in Him. May our Good Lord bless you and your family more everyday in every way.
2 Timothy 1:7 For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid,
but gives us power, love and self-discipline.
I have been feeling much of conqueror lately. challenges at work, and with family members. I’ve been revisiting my past, flashbacks of growning up in a alcoholic home, having an alcoholic parent, since I started the reading, and I was wondering if anyone are experiencing or have had similar experiences? I found book title “Perfect daughters”…and I fit the profile explained in the explained book. I know now that a lot my insecurities come from the experience of growing in an abusive enviroment and having an alcoholic parent. My dad was a highly functional alcoholic and he was great when he didn’t drink, but when he drunk he was abusive to my mother, sister and me.
DF, So good to read that you are conquering! I, too, relate to the “Perfect Daughter” profile. Sadly, there are too many of us. Our advantage as daughter’s of the Holy God is His power – the Holy Spirit within us! He makes us MORE than conquerors!!! Yes, it’s a day-to-day life but as we live more triumphantly each day in God’s provision and power, we have better things to look back on to encourage us as we look forward! phew!
God bless you, sweet sister. May today be filled with much beauty and blessing and encourage you as you move forward in His holy power!
I feel the same way when reading it. My timeline could fill a poster. I just in Microsoft Word where only I could see it wrote out my feelings of why I am what I am today and what my insecurities are and why I beieve them to be and in doing that I started remembering more than what I wanted to with my father who is still alive today and has asked for forgiveness and I did forgive him 2 years ago, but there is still a part of me that doesn’t want a relationship with my parents because I don’t want to remember again. My father basically molested me and my mother watched and did nothing about it but apologize for him. To me that is sick. I have more of a problem with her now than with him. She still tells white lies to my own kids and has split the family apart and what is worse is she strongly believes she is a Christian and does no harm. So mind-boggling things come to mind.
It is mind boggling. I AM SO SORRY for your pain Jennifer D. Somehow God can bring those memories to a place of healing for you. Can you choose to forgive your mother and tell her so? Has she been confronted with the truth of her participation?
God has planned healing for you in this. He is using Renee’s words, heart, and obedience to bring us to these places of healing and reconciliation. He is powerful, all knowing, loving, and TRUSTWORTHY in the process.
Take care, grieve, and work through this. YOU are worth it and your kids are worth it.
I would love to know more about the perfect daughter. I, too, grew up in an alcoholic family. I have been wondering this week how far reaching this sin in a family goes. I married a child of an alcoholic at 16/19. We trusted God, did our best, and of course were far from perfect. My email address is [email protected] if you’d like to talk more. Put A confident heart in subject line so I open it if you do.
God heals……..blessings!
I so identify…My mom and dad were both alcoholics…Doing studies like this, having to go back, is still painful…when I think I have “fixed” it all i read and feel pain again…It makes me not want to do them but I press on…I always cleaned the house and thought that would make everything ok…I still do that…I clean when I am stressed or feeling like I am not worth much…Those things somehow have not left after all the work I have done…But God!!! He will take it all away if i stay close to Him and remind myself He is my mother and my Father in Heaven whop loves me more than anyone ever could….Love to you my sweet sister…Peggy
I loved the Carnegie analogy of gold mining. Even though there is so much dirt – you never go in looking for the dirt but the look for the gold! The more we look, the more we find.
Renee,
Your book is great and as I read and study it gives me a greater understanding of Gods love for me even in hard times when I feel alone . he is giving me an atitude overhaul. I am thankful for for your ministrie and hope to one day be called to do Gods work. He is renewing my spirit from some hard times .I am gaining more confidence everyday Thank you for Giving to the lord
I so agree Miranda…I am struggling so much feeling alone…I am trying to reach that place of “overhaul”!! I pray for your confidence to get stronger every minute of the day my sweet sister…I have to remember that I am never alone but have to consciously tell myself…I love that we have printouts, pretty ones, that I can put in my kitchen and bathroom, to remind me who I am and that I am never alone…And neither are you…Love your sister in Christ…Peggy
I was glad to see that you used someone who is single and not yet married (page 121) as an example of how we might feel like a failure as everyone else around us is moved onto the next phase while I seem to remain in the same phase, year after year after year. It is so unbelievably painful. I am reading this book and praying I can really apply it to myself so that I won’t let my singleness define the way I see myself….and to get to a place where my trust in God and his plans for my life outweigh the fear, the longing and the loneliness. I also really liked how you wrote on page 126 that God convicts but doesnt condemn us. There is a huge difference between the two and it has been an eye openener for me to stop living with such a guilt based faith.
Connie, my 29 year old daughter is single, too. She sometimes feels like you do. She is strong in the Lord, so I don’t worry too much. I will pray that He will send you a godly mate. Keep claiming the promises that Renee has provided for us.
Thank You Claudia, I really appreciate those prayers and the encouragement. I’m in my 30’s now and I feel that the only way I can stay half sane is to claim those promises for my life. I hope it soon becomes a reality for me and will be heart knowledge, not just head knowledge. Thanks again. 🙂
It is incredibly difficult to not fit into what many in society, especially those in the church, see as a woman’s role. I too was grateful to see singleness mentioned; it seems like many books for Christian women focus on the wives and mothers and their challenges.
I am a single 41 year old who has actually never been on a date which makes me feel like a huge failure. It is difficult to deal with because the reality of my situation is that I really am not good enough for that. It has been proven over and over. In some ways society itself already has labeled me as a failure and a misfit, and I repeat those messages to myself over and over. I struggle with understanding why God would not think that I was fit to have children of my own when there are so many people around me who are able to have kids. It is painful not to be included in the small group at church with people my age simply because I am not married and do not have young children like they do. Our lifestyles are just too different. It hurts that they do not see that they are being exclusive. I know that I need to keep trusting that somehow God will lead me to the place he wants me to be and to the person he wants me to become.
I love the part of this chapter that talks about Peter and the fact that Jesus knew about his past and future failures and chose to look beyond that. I also like the idea of failing forward and of using failure to become stronger and better people.
Jennifer, may i be bold and ask: would you be willing to step out and start a group (even 1) for singles? Others may feel like you do, but are hesitant to come forward. You have been bold in sharing your feelings. Maybe God is whispering in your ear. You are good enough! Keep referring to the chart: Who I Am In Christ on page 107 and 108. God has a Plan for each and every one of us and that is for you too, Jennifer. You are beautiful in His eyes, inside and outside. God made you just the way He wanted you to be. He Loves you and we love you, Jennifer.
Jennifer,
I can relate to absolutely everything you wrote. I feel those exact emotions and it is so true…society does label us as ‘mis-fits’ and even in the church, it seems there is no place for ‘single’s’ who are older in age. It is an extremely harsh reality to live with. I know that I have spent the last few years being consumed by it all….its hard not to when everything is a reminder that you are on your own. But I pray for the both of us that we can trully believe in our hearts that we are ‘worthy’ to be loved and that God’s love for us will satisfy our needs. I pray that we can see ourselves the way God see’s us. And I pray we can feel hope for the future, regardless of what it brings.
I can see where you are coming from. I’m newly single. Yes again. another mistake, at 48. I met someone online that feels like a soulmate and he is also a Christian. I do not go to church regularly and i think I got that way when I just didn’t want anyone to ask me how was I doing or kids doing, (they don’t talk to me at all as adults now and I have no clue), and now this time, I really feel awkward in the church. There was a church in one city I lived that had a singles group and most were younger. It is definitely a need out there for older singles. Some of us don’t know if we are supposed to stay single, or get remarried and if so, does being a Christian automatically mean a marriage will survive? I know God satisfies our needs and if we are not marrying for children anymore then what are we doing it for. I woke up with alot of questions today.
Dear Jennifer, I have been all the places you have in one way and another. If advise is what you want I would say you need to rest in the Lord. The illustration that Renee gave at the beginning with the vase and the stuff is so true. Fill all your emptiness with God. May I also suggest Lysa TerKeurst’s book “Made to Crave”. It is has a food aspect, but Men or Food it is all the same. We need to be filled with God.
It is hard and I will praying for you to find some women in your area to support you. I would ask you to look into your Crisis Pregnancy Center for women of God who are not interested in being match makers, but giving the truth to a lost and dieing world. They may help you with a church that will help you too. A pastor who peaches the word, a supporting group of women and keeping in touch with Proverbs 31 ministry. The ladies here are so helpful and at hand.
Love you sister. (from California)
Jennifer, I’m sorry you are going through that, I have been struggling with some of the same things. I have never been on a date. It’s been hard because I start to wonder, i’m not pretty, not good enough.
Thank you for the kind words and encouragement. I know that I am very fortunate in life and that there are many women in different places both in the U.S. and around the world that are in much more difficult situations. That knowledge makes me feel even worse when I start to feel discouraged. It is just hard sometimes to not fit in. I realize that I can’t change the way the world thinks; I can only change the way that I think and react. Some days I’m better at that than others.
I think sometimes I doubt not myself but situations I’m in. I have to figure this out.
I’m praying for you today, Jennifer. May you hear God say, “This is the way; walk in it.” Isaiah 30:21
Reading the passage in John where Jesus writes in the sand reminds me of a devotion I have used with the youth on the shores of the Carolina beaches. I have them write in the sand their struggles or their doubts and we leave them there and give them to God. After the tide rolls in, those things we have written are washed away. It is a beautiful illustration of how God takes our imperfections and makes us whole again. He is a God of second chances. Through his love, mercy and grace we are more than conquerors of self-doubt.
Rebecca, i love your illustration of (us) writing in the sand and the tide washing doubts, fears, etc, away. I am going to share with my family. Thank you for sharing with us.
Thank you for sharing this Rebecca I love the illustration and will have to keep it in mind.
Love this illustration also!!! Love to you my sweet sisters…
Hi Renee, you may remember I am in Australia giving your books to girls here and personally mentoring some of them through it a chapter a week.
I just had to tell you that my friend today gave her heart to Jesus with the prayer you gave in Chapter 2! I am tickled pink.
Your book is such a blessing to women who are connecting to your story and realising they are not alone in their struggles.
This book has been a wonderful resource for the brand new ministry God has led me into for helping women and I didnt really know how to get to the “accepting Jesus” part (this was my first one), but your book did it for me and her and I just thank you so much for it.
You are such a blessing, more than you could even realise i suspect. Even all the way down here!
Blessings to you Renee. You will remain in my prayers.
Fiona
WOW, Fiona!!! I just read your note. And then I read it out loud again, to my husband and my two sons who are 14 and almost 17. We are all so very blessed by the news you shared!! We rejoice with you and your friend and celebrate with the angels in Heaven that God’s family just got bigger today. So thankful for your heart and your obedience to share the love and life of Christ with women. I am so very honored to be part of what God has called you to — and so humbled that He would use someone like me to join someone like you in His Kingdom work. Bless you sweet sister in Christ – and we’ll be praying for many many more to come to know and fall in love with Jesus in the days ahead!!
It is so funny that you say that Renee, because I told my friend that Heaven was throwing a party right now becuase of her!
I am also feeling very humbled and thanking and praising God for using someone like me to join someone like you in His Kingdom work!
Thankyou again for your beautiful heart and your wonderful book!
I so agree. I look forward to it each week and I could reread things in the book as a reference.
I’m going tthrough the flu right now and not able to catch up but I know the book is there waiting on me. I had just had too much time sick today in bed to think of too many negatives and doubts and it’s still hard for me to figure out what is from God and what is Satan putting out to deceive with. The word conqueror helps me as I have so much to get done in the next 6 weeks deadlines to meet and I’m all alone. I will cling to this verse.
Jennifer, you are not alone. You have Jesus with you, the Holy Spirit living in you, and us gals in this Bible study right there beside you in thoughts and sending up prayers for you. Yes, as a conqueror with His help, you will get everything done. Yes, cling to Jesus and His promises. We love you and may your body be healed. Trust in Him.
Jennifer, I also am praying for you! Just like Lois said, you are NOT alone! You may be lonely and/or overwhelmed right now BUT Jesus IS with you…day in and day out. AND…He wants to be with you and carry your burdens! Listen to this song for some encouragement…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CdjRmM0Q0qs
Be encouraged. You are loved. Praying for you…
Praise God for clarity and open hearts. May your ministry florish!
WOW Fiona I am rejoicing with you my Sister In Christ. We serve an awesome God. Keep up the good work and thanks for being there for the sisters in Austrailia may God Bless all of you.
Thank you Martha for sharing the song it was a great way to begin my day by remembering that i am loved. God Bless
Thanks so much for the encouragement. It really blesses me. God bless you all too.
Renée, you asked us to share from questions 1, 2 and 3 today. In question 2, you asked if I had ever felt that my failures were final or fatal. Well, what I’m about to share with you is shameful and scary for me, but I feel I must share it…Just recently, I had a very painful argument with a friend I am very close to. She began hurling remarks at me, using very personal information I had told her in confidence, and twisting it to make me look evil. It pushed every button from my childhood, because my dad used to do that to me. I got so inflamed and angry that I tried to slap her. Now, I have never resorted to physical violence with anyone in my life, not even my own child, so I was completely shocked at my own behavior. I grazed her cheek but missed slapping her.I left her house after that. The next morning, I wrote her a letter, making an amends for slapping her. She told me she could no longer be friends with me, but over time, we have been texting one another and emailing each other. However, she won’t see me. I feel that what I did was worst than anything I have ever done. I’m so ashamed. I have repented to the Lord, but I don’t feel like it’s enough. I am filled with shame. Satan tells me that I am the dregs of the earth. I want to show my friend how much I love her and how sorry I am for what I did, but she won’t see me. So, I continue to feel this deep seated shame pain.
dear Leslie,
The enemy would love for you to believe the lie that you are not forgiven but according to 1 John 1:9 you are
Are forgiven the minute you confess. Who are you going to believe? Sometimes our sins have consequences that result, that does not change Gods love. I pray in time, things will heal between you and your friend and that God will use thiscin your life to fail forward. Could God be showing you an unresolved issue that you and he need to work on? blessings, Kelley
Dearest Leslie….I have had the same pain and live with it 10 years later…I was friends with a woman for 20 years and she was with me through many things…Suddenly, she decided she wasn’t going to deal with my issues any longer…I am still feeling the pains of her rejection….I talked with her years after and she still felt the same…I have had it hard, my personality and hers balanced. She was very strong and confident and me, I am still trying to become a “Confident woman”…I have had to give the relationship to God and know that whatever her reasons and insecurities she had herself, {even though women are strong they still have insecurities), she was not going to let me in any longer…I helped her in so many ways in those 20 years. I helped raise her daughter who was a month older than my son. I took care of her while she worked for 12 years until Middle School…None of it mattered to her anymore…She was painfully aloof the last time I saw her…I think of her sometimes and all it does is bring back the pain…Soooo, I hope your friend can come to terms with herself especially because she must know your actions were so out of character for you. Sometimes we have to ask forgiveness and then put the ball in their court and live with the consequences…I pray you give the pain to God and that your relationship heals, please try not to be so hard on yourself…you are a good person who made a mistake… What did the book say….I think paraphrasing we are not what we do we are who we are…a child of the most High God, unconditionally loved by Him…People will always let us down, but God never will…I have learned that the hard way….Love and joy to you my sweet sister…Peggy