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Renee Swope

Encouraging and equipping moms to parent with God's grace and confidence.

Telling Ourselves the Truth (+ 2 Give-Aways)

Welcome to my eastern NC HIS Radio friends stopping by after hearing me talk with Briney this afternoon during “drive-time.” I’m so excited to have you join me here today! I’ve got a special guest I want you to meet, and some R3 Event tickets to give away, too.

As I write this, I’m picturing smiles stretching across your faces when you meet my sweet and amazing friend Jennifer Rothschild. Jennifer is a wife, mom, national speaker, founder of WomensMinistry.net and author of several books, including “Self-talk, Soul-talk: What to Say When You Talk to Yourself“ as well as “Me, Myself and Lies Bible Study.“

She’s also one of my favorite people, and I was so happy we got to have breakfast together this week while she was in Charlotte for a video shoot. I knew she’d have something special to share about the power of our words, so I grabbed my flip video camera on the way out the door. Turn up your volume, click on the arrow and join us for some girl-talk:

Jennifer’s points really are worth remembering, and obviously I need to write them down. So, here is what she encouraged us to do with the not-so-encouraging words we speak to ourselves.
  • Recognize – Recognize if your self-talk matches up with God’s thoughts.
  • Refuse – Refuse any self-talk that is not consistent with God’s words.
  • Re-phrase – Re-phrase negative thoughts to align with scripture. Tell yourself the TRUTH, and nothing but God’s truth!
When we take these 3 steps, God begins to erase the negative self-talk and lies we tell ourselves.Speaking of erasers, Jennifer needed one. That morning she bent over to get something and hit her eye on the edge of the desk. {Cringe} She had a video shoot for E-women at 1pm and a lovely black eye. So, I whipped out what I call my “magic eraser” makeup and covered it up. Look. You cannot even see the deep dark purple mark under her eye.

And it did a nice job on my dark circles, too. [The after-effect of my 2yr old waking up at 3am that morning.] So, what is my “magic eraser”? It’s Maybelline, and only costs $7.99! Now, here’s your chance win some, along with more fun stuff. I’ve got 2 give-aways!

“(R3) Refresh, Renew & Recharge Gift Pak” (1 winner)
2 tickets to my R3 women’s event in Williamston, NC Feb 19th
(must be able to attend event to win this gift pak)
Rest Assured message on CD by Renee Swope

To enter, click on the word “comments” right below this post and write in the white box.

  1. What “not-so-encouraging” things do you sometimes think or say to yourself? What’s a verse you can use to re-phrase that thought, if you know one? I know this is a vulnerable topic, but I hope you’ll go there with me. The first step is recognizing and naming the lies.
  2. If you are able to attend my event Feb 19th in Williamston, NC, let me know and you’ll be part of the 2nd give-away, too.
  3. Share a link to this post and all that Jennifer shared with us – via email, Facebook, Twitter or your blog. Then leave another comment letting me know, and you’ll double your entries!

On Friday night Monday(I decided to extend it through the weekend) I’ll post the winners and several of God’s promises to help you tell yourself the TRUTH. {PLEASE subscribe for email updates in my sidebar to receive your promises, and to be notified if you win.To just be notified of winning, you can leave your email in your comment.}

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Comments

  1. I'm my own worst critic every single day. I'm always telling myself things like I'm not pretty enough, smart enough, sucessful enough. I'm also telling myself things like I don't have real friends because they don't come to me first — I feel like I'm always chasing them to spend time. I grew up with a very negative image of myself and it still haunts me to this day.
    I've done Jennifers Me, Myself, and Lies bible study with a small group and it was just fabulous! I absolutely love her! I haven't read her book and would love too. Wish I lived closer to NC to come see you, but that's not going to work for me.

    Stephanie
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  2. Poor self-talk is nothing new for me, unfortunately. But, with God's great grace and through working with preschoolers, I'm learning to combat the negativity with God's Word. I am reminded that "I am fearfully and wonderfully made" and that God will "rejoice over me with singing". Imagine if our preschoolers could all start with really believing these promises, and more!

    I've shared your blog on my FB profile.

    Looking forward to reading more of your thoughts on this topic,
    [email protected]

  3. I just bought Self Talk, Soul Talk today!!! I can't wait to dig in!! As I've shared how ugly I talk to myself, several friend have recommended it. I say things to myself I would never say to or about anyone else. Ever. My mama would wash my mouth out with soap if she knew!!

    I'm starting to realize my biggest problem isn't that I don't believe God is who He says He is but it's that I don't believe who He says I am.

    Thanks and big hugs!! xoxoxoxo

  5. Thank you so much for sharing this. I struggle with it so much…I am going to repost now on my facebook and memorize those 3 R's 🙂 I am excited to look into some of her books too!

  6. Hi Renee — I am entering the contest to hear you speak in Williamston, NC, on behalf of my sister (who lives in Greenville, NC). She would LOVE hearing you.

    Angela Wilson

  7. I'm always saying things to myself, like how can my husband really love me. I am so fat, nagging, etc. Lately, I've been tryin to tell myself that God loves me no matter what and to focus on all the love and attention my husband gives me instead of focusing on the "what ifs". thank you for the giveaways and chance to win.

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  8. Tried to leave a comment earlier and google wouldn't take it..so will try now.

    Thanks for the great post. I'm sure your words and Jennifer's words have encouraged a great number of people.

    My main issue is trusting Him for provision for the future. My husband is self employed so our money has never been truly consistent and the last few years, it's been spotty…yet I can trace the hand of God and He has never let me want for anything and I have an overabundance compared to some. When the fear hits, I think back to specific times He has provided at just the right time and how He has always protected and provided for me all of my life.

    It breaks my heart to read of so many young people who are being led astray by the evil one in to thinking that they are less than what they are. Jennifer's books should go a long way in helping with that. His Word never fails. Thanks for giving it out…Blessings on your ministry.

    I live out of your state, so can not come to the conference. Thanks for doing this…

    Mary Lou
    dlowran1(at)comcast(dot)net

  9. When I 'mis-fire' in an activity, my self-talk says something to the effect of 'that was a really stupid thing to do, you dummy'. I need to work on letting my words minister grace to myself as well! (Eph. 4:29)

  10. Thanks for this post! I am doing a study now on what a great impact our words have on others! This is so great! There is so much power in words. We need to use them carefully, even with ourselves.

  11. I just posted on Facebook! Don't know why I didn't do that the other day. Duh!

    I can't make it to the 19th conference.:-( Have a meeting for our mission trip to Nepal–we leave on the 7th of March! PRAY! for us.

    But, if it's possible to get signed up for the 25th one anyway, please enter me!

  12. I love these inspirational R's! Thank you for sharing.
    I want to do my best to breathe truth and life into those around me so they never need to erase my words.
    Geralyn

  13. I've struggled with negative self-talk most of my life and as a 31 yr old mother of 2 (one being a daughter) I really want to be a good role model.

    Some of my thoughts include: I'm not good enough-not pretty enough, personable enough, thoughtful enough….etc. A common theme-enough.

    I'm learning to read what God says about me in His word and believing Him-even when I don't feel like it's true.

    I try to re-phrase those neg. thoughts with verses from the bible.

    Amy V. IN WI

  14. Like so many women, I've spent my life living in regrets of my past, listening to satan's lies (You are stupid, you are fat, you are a terrible wife and mom, comparing myself to other women, on and on.) The last few years, I have been fighting satan's lies with God's truths, Romans 12:2, transforming my mind, Proverbs 3:5-8. We must take those thoughts captive when they first seek entrance into our minds in order to stop satan dead in his tracks and hear God's victorious truth about us.

    Sweet Blessings for your ministry.
    Donna

  15. 1. Lies from the enemy
    I'm 42 years old and getting ready to co-lead a high school girls group for 5 weeks when the attractive 22 year old woman leading may step down (she's getting married!) The lies I tell myself and keep fighting off are simply my fears.

    "I'm not as young and hip as this woman is. The girls won't like me and will be disappointed to have me step in."

    I know God's called me to do this and am stepping out in faith ~ but the words that keep entering my mind (from the enemy) are trying to make me discouraged.

    2. I cannot attend your function due to my location.

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  16. I say so many things to myself and very seldom are any of them positive. I really need to change that. I'm not doing anything right, I'm fat, I shouldn't have said it that way, etc. You get the idea. I try to remember that I am perfect in God's eyes, it's not easy though.

    I don't live near NC so I cannot enter that giveaway, however, I'd love to win the other one. Thank you for the chance and for such an inspirational blog.

  17. Thankfully in my walk & daily life I have so many dear people that speak truth & encouraging words to me. However I do find myself saying negative things about my body & I justify those words because I am not currently do well on my eating & working out….those words feed into selfdoubt & hold me back in areas & there comes the defeat.

  18. I tell myself from time to time that it's hard especially a course that I am undertaking at university. I doubt myself too much. I will claim and declare Phillipians 4:13

  19. What a great post; I have to watch my self-talk AND I have dark circles under my eyes, so I need an attitude and make-up adjustment! 🙂 Of course, if I replace the lies the enemy puts in my head with God's truth, maybe I won't have as many dark circles to cover up. I think sometimes we use food and other things as "make-up" to cover soul blemishes such as negative self-talk, poor self-esteem, and shame.

    I have spent several years now fighting a feeling of unworthiness in friendship; I don't know exactly why, but I suspect a big part is tied to my self esteem and weight. I am determined to replace the lie that I'm not worthy of girlfriends with God's truth – Philippians 1:6 (AMP)
    "And I am convinced and sure of this very thing, that He Who began a good work in you will continue until the day of Jesus Christ [right up to the time of His return], developing [that good work] and perfecting and bringing it to full completion in you."

    Unfortunately, I won't be there to hear you speak, but I will be praying for you!

    Warmly,
    Kris
    [email protected]