Satan loves when we feel inadequate and insecure. He’s good at getting us to believe we’re not good enough and don’t have what it takes to be used by God.
But we don’t have to let him trash us the way he does – and we definitely don’t need to keep agreeing with his lies and trashing ourselves.
In my P31 devotion today – How to Stop Trashing Yourself – I share how I caught myself trashing my confidence one day, and how God challenged me to stop throwing away all that is mine in Christ – by believing and living in the truth of His thoughts about me.
Have you ever been there? If so, I’ve got a short video message I created for Confident Heart book study that will equip and empower you to stop talking trash and start talking truth to your heart:
{Download FREE Confident Heart “Don’t Throw Away Your Confidence” printable.}
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I am currently leading a Bible study of “A Confident Heart!” Your book and the message in it inspired me to step out in faith and teach this class, though I’ve never taught a study in my life! God was preparing me as I went through the online study last January to teach other women His Truth and tell them my story! I am so blessed by your ministry and feel like this book was one of the catalysts that lead me to discovering God’s calling on my life.
My friend recommended I should check out this book. My husband recently accepted a job and moved us and our 18 month old to a small town is northern Saskatchewan, Canada… I’ve been struggling with the move. Up until recently we had lived close to both of our families and a large church family. I worked outside the home while grandparents took turn babysitting the first and only grandchild. I loved our home and our community and felt like I was contributing to our household, church and community. When we decided that the best employment opportunity for him involved moving, we had 30 days to do it. It has been an emotional roller coaster. I’m a stay at home mom, which I love. But struggle with being away from family and a strong church family. I feel like, after working and being our primary financial contributor for the past 10 years, that now I’m a burden. I know this isn’t the case. In fact my husband and I have discussed it multiple times that the biggest help to our finances is to be the stay at home mom. But I still feel guilty. I miss home, our families and church. I feel disconnected, especially with understanding “why I’m in this place.” I’m constantly doubting my abilities to adapt to our new surrounding and wonder if I’ll ever make friends: what do I have to offer them? I feel like I have little to no worth or value.
As I read all the comments, so many people need to receive your book more than I do. But I will share my story and my dream. First I was having an axioms moment when I heard about your book on the radio. It was like God was speaking to me. My heart calmed and I felt like he was telling me there is something more he wants from me. I’ve been searching for a book study to do with our small church. I feel that your book the Confident Heart is the book I should use. This is about more than me, it’s what other’s in my church need As well. I lost my Mom suddenly 1and 1/2 years ago. I am a teacher who has taught 32 years but 24 in the public system. I experienced abuse as a child, which I ran from. I have had to travel down the painful path to heal and grieve what never was. God has sent an amazing pastor to our church to counsel many of us. Another member of our church has lost his job and lost health benefits for his family, yet is being led into ministry. He has no idea how he can provide for his family yet he serves our chuch with a passion and commitment that God will provide. Our church can’t afford to bring him on full time or give him health benefits. So much good is waiting to happen at our church, yet we need new members since our congregation is getting older. Is God asking me to lead the people in our church is the studies you offer thru your books. Will that provide opportunities for others in our small town community to draw closer to God? As I find my career as a teacher winding down, is God leading me to teach in other ways? God is not only providing me with personal healing but pushing me in a new direction. I will wait and be attentive to his slow gentle push, where ever it may lead me. Always remember it is through our pain that he leads us. May God use us all to our fullest potential! It is very hard to change the voice within us from our childhood programing yet before us lies many oppurtunies to reach out and touch others. Thank you for sharing your story in a moment when I most needed to hear it. Now help me share mine with anyone else who needs to know God loves us even when we feel unloved.
The tears keep streaming down my cheeks. I don’t understand what released them from their well. I simply wanted to pick a women’s study group at my church. Your book “a confident heart” was the one I chose. When I visited your website to acquaint myself with your book; an unknown dam of tears burst forth from my heart. I am inferior. I am valuable because God says so. But I recognize that I am inferior. Is this a contradiction? I ache for God to heal my heart. I’m glad I chose your study. I need heart knowledge. Not more head knowledge. Thank you.
I would love to win the “Confidence Boost” gift pak because I have recently been called to share my own personal story in women’s ministry. My past includes things that I am not very proud of and I am wonder how I am going to gain the confidence to go before people and give away my deepest secrets. I know God is calling me into the ministry to share His glory from my shame and infidelity. I am choosing to obey even though I am shaking in my boots. This past week I have made it my goal to share my story with one new person each day. So far, my story has shocked people and my confidence to go on, but I am putting my faith in God that this is where He wants me. This gift pak would help me personally and as a resource as I am just starting out in my speaking and writing.
I work with with women who have had their children removed by Child Protective Services for various reasons. So many of them have just made a bad choice and do not see their strength, beauty and light. I need this to help them and myself see what the Lord has bestowed on us and make him proud of his children. Thank you for the work you do!
I think we all need to be reminded of this on occasion. Good message!
Being more confident in Christ can only help me be more of Christ to others.
I would love to read your book. It seems your book and message have been pursuing me for months, but I have neglected to respond. A few months ago, I missed the free Kindle version download day by about 3 hours. 🙁 Today, I was clicking through your resources because I LOVED your prayer for husbands. I read your article about “Becoming the Real Me.” You were 32 and facing the fact that you didn’t really know who God created you to be, and I’m 43 and facing that fact. I’ve been trying for a year to work through my people pleasing and dig down to find the real me. I know it is exactly what God wants me to do, but it’s so tiring and discouraging at times. I know God has a plan for me, and I know he wants to do something new in me. I am eager to learn even more how to listen to his voice and obey.
Renee, I am reading your book and praying God will at last free me from my life long battle with my lacking self confidence. Everything you write hits home and I am beyond hopeless. My family is supportive and I don’t think they are lying to me when they try to build me up, but I’ve been torn down by so many who didn’t care, how do I know the rest of the world doesn’t feel the same?
I have struggled with confidence all my life. Although my marriage is a blessed one, I know my self-doubt is heartbreaking for my husband. I want to be a better example to my two young boys of what a confident woman in Christ is. Thank you for sharing your devotion on P31 to reveal this ugly truth that so many women are battling Satan on.
I was just thinking to myself of things that I am passionate about and ways I could implement some change for good and I found myself waring within myself as if I was a crazy lady lol. I then decided to start reading devotions to clear my mind of the war that was plaguing my brain and found this email. I am definitely could use a confidence boost through Jesus in any way it may come. Have a blessed day ladies! In Jesus’ name, Amen.
This book has been a big help. I would love to pass it on to my sister, but neither of us can afford to buy it right now and I am not ready to get rid of my copy (would if lived in same state). I still need all the help I can get. God is doing a work, but takes time to undo almost 40 years worth.
I would love to win the confidence boost pak because after reading today’s devotional about trash and truth I am learning there is more to all these feelings. The quiz was a rude awakening. I teach the youth on Sundays and feel “why would they listen to me?”. I’m glad to know I’m not the only one feeling this way. I thought those negative thoughts whispers where caused by my past. I have a career but feel like I have nothing that others are better than me. After experiencing lack of being loved, abuse, abandonment, becoming a single parent I mean what else can I feel??!! I would love it if such a pak could help me out. I have so many ideas but they are stopped by ” no one is going to listen, you are going to make a fool of yourself, etc..
Help me God Almighty to overcome all these insecurities and allow me to become the woman you have created me to be. In Jesus name Amen
keep fighting! I too have experienced childhood abuse that taints the voice in my head. I have read extensively about Shame and abandonment. I didn’t know what Grace meant. But I know God has pushed me to travel down the painful path to heal. He is with you too because he has greater purpose for you! Read Henry clouds books and Damaged Emotions. Look to the people God has placed in your life, they are there to help you. As you are here to share your story to lead others through their experiences. May you feel God’s blessings!
I loved your book A Confident Heart and would love to win a copy to give away. I’m speaking at a local moms group in a couple of months and would love to be able to give away a copy of your book A Confident Heart or Lysa’s Made to Crave (I’m speaking on Healthy Self image) and both books were life changing!
Bridget – I have extra copies of Made To Crave I’d love to send to you whether your name gets pulling in the drawing. If you see this, email [email protected] and share our conversation here so my assistant will know what to do :0)
I have already ordered the book today. Just wanted you to know how much I enjoyed your devotion today on Proverbs 31 Ministries, it hit home. Thanks for allowing me to receive it and also share with some of my friends. God bless you and you Ministry.
I need a confidence boost because I’ve spent most of my life struggling with worthlessness, hopelessness, and everything else that comes with it, because of the various abuses that happened to me as a child. Sometimes I fall back into old patterns of thought, but everyday I’m learning more and more about who I am in Christ. It’s so awesome!
I want to win to give to my daughter. She needs to be encouraged to have confidence in herself.
Well i had the though” I WILL NOT WIN ANY WAY WHY COMMENT…”But guess what … i wrote it on a piece of paper and through it away…i guess it is working…and here is my comment… “PLEASE PICK ME…”
I’d love to win this pack. My husband has noticed/tried to help me with my lack of confidence, but he can only help so much. I still struggle with doubting myself about EVERYTHING, and that has led to keeping too much clutter, as well as impacting other areas of my life. I’ve been wanting your book, but money is a bit tight right now, so I’d love the chance to win it. I’ve been greatly encouraged by your devotionals through Proverbs 31 Ministries. 🙂