Satan loves when we feel inadequate and insecure. He’s good at getting us to believe we’re not good enough and don’t have what it takes to be used by God.
But we don’t have to let him trash us the way he does – and we definitely don’t need to keep agreeing with his lies and trashing ourselves.
In my P31 devotion today – How to Stop Trashing Yourself – I share how I caught myself trashing my confidence one day, and how God challenged me to stop throwing away all that is mine in Christ – by believing and living in the truth of His thoughts about me.
Have you ever been there? If so, I’ve got a short video message I created for Confident Heart book study that will equip and empower you to stop talking trash and start talking truth to your heart:
{Download FREE Confident Heart “Don’t Throw Away Your Confidence” printable.}
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Reading Chapter 1 of your book really struck a cord with me! It could have been me standing in front of the mirror; your story sounds so much like mine when it comes to self-doubt. I’d love to receive your book and that Starbucks gift card! 🙂 God’s Blessings on you, Renee!
I like so many women, am struggling with being a single mother of 3 daughters, (teenagers!), trying to just get by financially each and every month, while working at home, taking care of my 88 year old Father, and learning, trusting and seeking out God’s plan for me and the ones that I love. I am attending a weekly Bible Study by Beth Moore, and when I’m there, I’m there…but when I leave, man oh man, does the dark one jump into my head! I need more confidence…and a Starbucks card would be great too…;}
I would like to win this to give to my adult daughter. Her husband is chipping away at her self-confidence through emotional abuse and it seems to be filtering through all areas of her life. Perhaps this book could help her see the treasure that she is.
Blessings!!!
I AM A MISSIONARY IN GUINEA BUT AM IN THE US FOR SOME HEALTH CARE ISSUES. I AM RE READING THE BOOK AND LOOKING AT ALOT OF THE PROMISES DURING THIS TIME OF WAITING FOR RESULTS FOR TESTING FOR CANCER. I LOVE HOW EACH TIME I READ THE BOOK I GET MORE AND MORE FROM IT….THIS IS TIME 3!
I have some health issues that I try to cope with everyday but when I also look at my health and being overweight I just get so mad. I have had confidence in the past, when I felt better, but now right now. I really need a confidence boost.
Thanks for all you do.
Shiela in Colorado
I would really like to see if this can work for me, despite the thought at this moment that it can not be. I do feel the good intention to become what the Lord’s wants of me…but really I have not found what can. I like the strong biblical perspective to have a change. I know that much to make sure to seek truth for answers in my life. Thank you for the opportunity to have resources so relevant to women and leading to find answers in Christ.
I’d love to win this because it is something I struggle w/ daily.
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I would like a confidence boost because I struggle constantly with self-doubt. I’m always feeling like I’m not good enough for my husband, not good enough for God, not good enough for my employer, my church, ect.. I know they are lies, but it’s hard to shut them off. I feel like I have to do everything for everyone and I fail miserably. The truth we are all good enogh in God’s eyes. It’s just right now my stress level is very high and my confidence level is very low.
Thaks Renee for this very timely message!!!
Hi Renee, I received a message from Melissa and in the contents, there was mention of your book A Confident Heart. I decided to download the first chapter and I have to say, as soon as I started reading it, I started crying..and since I was at work, I had to try and hold those tears in, didn’t want others seeing/hearing. I certainly am not telling you simply to win something, I am sharing this with you because just from reading such a short passage, in how it truly touched me because I could relate to absolutely everything you had said in the chapter. I don’t know how to explain it, but I just completely felt an instant connection and I was feeling all these emotions that just came flooding out and it was actually overwhelming. I had thoughts of when I was a childhood and how horrible it was and then those thoughts would lead me to more thoughts of when I was in a unlovable marriage and then it hit me – I am still living in the past and constantly beating myself up. I grew up with my parents telling me that I was stupid and wouldn’t amount to anything, then I married a man who pretty much did the same thing and when I think about it, those words sincerely damage a person inside and out and I don’t want to live that way anymore. I want you to know and anybody else who happens to read this that it is very difficult for me to type all this and post it, knowing that others will read. I have just recently re-dedicated my life to the Lord after finding myself lost for quite some time and even though some days are awesome, there are days when I just struggle. I just want to thank you for giving me the opportunity to read this first chapter and giving me hope. If it weren’t for people like you and all the others at Proverbs31, the world would be an even colder place. Thank you.
Thank you for your willingness to share openly what you would rather keep hidden. I appreciate it and I know it will help others know they are not alone. May God heal you, redeem your past and bless you with His truth. You are beautiful and valued and cherished in His sight.
Thank you for such kind words. After reading your original post, it amazes me how I start my day praying for guidance and direction and just seriously looking for some answer wondering if God ever hears me, especially on days like today where it is hard to deal with it all, but then all of a sudden I’m led to an area where I read about this book and can actually download the first two chapters which truly touched my heart when I needed it most – I know that God hears me and waits for the opportunity to provide me what I need to pull myself through the day…but mostly I am thankful, so thankful that I’m not alone!! Reading others posts, I have come to realize I can relate to each one of these women. Thank you all for sharing your inside…
So, I shared with a friend a couple days ago that I have been struggling with depression again. I usually don’t let anyone know (though it’s hard to hide from my husband 🙂 ). I let her in to my world and asked for her prayers. She was so gracious. She listened and prayed and suggested that I take a sheet I paper and write down all the lies I am believing. Then, through that same pen ask God to give me His response and His truth to write down next to those lies. I put off doing it. Today while I was making breakfast my husband asked how I was doing. The tears started flowing as I proceeded to tell him all the ways I was currently beating myself up. After he left for work I decided to try out my friends suggestion. I began writing the lies…I don’t measure up, I’m a failure, I’ll never change, I can’t do this, if only I were different… Then I paused and asked for God to speak His truth into my heart and mind… You are my daughter, I created you for a purpose. You are complete in My Son. In your weakness I am strong. I am at work in you. I have called and equipped you…
I tried to believe the truth and reject the lies. I moved on to check my email. God wasn’t done yet. I knew this instantly as I opened an email and read the title of my Proverbs 31 devotion- How To Stop Trashing Yourself. Really God? Really? You heard me!?! Why do I doubt? Oh thank You God. You know how much I needed his today. Thank You. Thank You God. And thank you Proverbs 31 Ministries.
I am trying to learn to live “new” in an abusive relationship. One in which everything “me” has always been bad, wrong or sinful. I heard you on the radio this morning and was dumbfounded by the things you said about learning to believe in yourself and the gifts God has given you. Not only that but the male announcer agreed with you!! I was so shocked that I called my best friend and told her and then found time today to come to your site. Book or no book. Thank you for speaking truth today. I don’t know if I believe it yet, but thank you.
I need a confidence boost because I’m scared to take the next step. God has given me a vision for my future and put some wonderful things to share in my heart, but He hasn’t been clear what the very next step is. So while I want to follow His perfect will for my life, I get caught up in the “perfect” part and get fearful of taking the wrong step so sometimes (like now) I take no step.
Thanks Renee. I have been learning who I am in Christ and I am seeing how important knowing this truth is. In my own strength I am weak and continually mess up, but In Christ I am a conquerer and I have His strength to make me strong. I thank you for sharing with women this truth that God shined into your life. I look forward to growing in this that I may glorify my savior.
On such a pot hole filled journey right now. It’s so easy to allow the enemy to pull me into the dark place of inadequacy…. and yet I know without a doubt I am called to the journey! Would love this tool of encouragement!
Love this ministry!
I am about to turn 50 this year and you would think I would have gotten this confidence thing by now. It is a daily struggle and I know who the enemy is, Satan. He knows me better than I know myself and knows all the buttons to push to get a response from me that does not bring God honor and glory. It’s getting better daily and with Christ’s help, it will continue to get better. I would love to win this give away and be able to share it with a friend who can truly benefit from it.
Thanks and God Bless,
Tricia NKT
I have struggled with confidence issues since I was very little. I had thought I was over it until I started applying for jobs at the same time my boyfriend went away for college. I am a certified athletic trainer. I received an amazing education at both Azusa Pacific University (bachelors) and University of Southern California (masters) and I have been practicing as an athletic trainer for three years now. Despite my God blessed education and my experience I doubt my qualifications to work at the University level. I also find myself arguing with the devil a lot when it comes to my self confidence in relationships. This doubt brings out the worst in me and I need to learn how to overcome it. It would be such a blessing to receive this book.
I need confidence and I need direction. During the day it is constant accusations. On and off all day long the message is I don’t measure up. Some days are better than others but lately it has been horrendous. I know I need to take the focus off what is said to me and put the light and focus on myself and on the truth and on what is real. It is exhausting.
I can relate Barb and I pray that God will show you His truth and how He sees you. You are His precious treasure, His delight even. He loves you.
I would love to share your “Confident Heart” book and gift pak with my daughter. She does not have a Confident Heart right now. She is being deceived by satan to believe that she has no value. But she is valuable to me. Depression at times is more than I can watch her go thru. She is a blessing to me in that she never gives up. I am a call Minister of God, and I am seeking Him thru whatever source to open her eyes to His Wonder and His Grace. She was in a car accident that changed her life. She was in nursing school and had to stop. She now has a rebuilt right ankle, with a plate across her foot; rod and pins are in her left leg from the knee down to the ankle. She is my champion, and this is why I would love to have the “Confidence Boost” gift pak.
You made me think of how my mom must feel about me. Your daughter is blessed to have you for a mom! Keep lifting her before the throne. May she be set free!
So enjoyed reading the book! Thank you !
I heard you on 88.3 on Word Radio this morning (Maryland)! I was right with you in everything you said. It was ministering to my heart. Thank you. Looking forward to reading the book.