Satan loves when we feel inadequate and insecure. He’s good at getting us to believe we’re not good enough and don’t have what it takes to be used by God.
But we don’t have to let him trash us the way he does – and we definitely don’t need to keep agreeing with his lies and trashing ourselves.
In my P31 devotion today – How to Stop Trashing Yourself – I share how I caught myself trashing my confidence one day, and how God challenged me to stop throwing away all that is mine in Christ – by believing and living in the truth of His thoughts about me.
Have you ever been there? If so, I’ve got a short video message I created for Confident Heart book study that will equip and empower you to stop talking trash and start talking truth to your heart:
{Download FREE Confident Heart “Don’t Throw Away Your Confidence” printable.}
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“Confidence Boost” Giveaway:
Today I’m giving away a copy of my book, “A Confident Heart” along with my message “Don’t Throw Away Your Confidence” on CD and a Starbucks gift card! To enter, click “share your thoughts” below this post and let me know why you’d like to win the “Confidence Boost” gift pak.
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And the WINNER is…. Julie {announced September 19, 2012}
I am trying to learn to live “new” in an abusive relationship. One in which everything “me” has always been bad, wrong or sinful. I heard you on the radio this morning and was dumbfounded by the things you said about learning to believe in yourself and the gifts God has given you. Not only that but the male announcer agreed with you!! I was so shocked that I called my best friend and told her and then found time today to come to your site. Book or no book. Thank you for speaking truth today. I don’t know if I believe it yet, but thank you.
I need a confidence boost because I’m scared to take the next step. God has given me a vision for my future and put some wonderful things to share in my heart, but He hasn’t been clear what the very next step is. So while I want to follow His perfect will for my life, I get caught up in the “perfect” part and get fearful of taking the wrong step so sometimes (like now) I take no step.
Thanks Renee. I have been learning who I am in Christ and I am seeing how important knowing this truth is. In my own strength I am weak and continually mess up, but In Christ I am a conquerer and I have His strength to make me strong. I thank you for sharing with women this truth that God shined into your life. I look forward to growing in this that I may glorify my savior.
On such a pot hole filled journey right now. It’s so easy to allow the enemy to pull me into the dark place of inadequacy…. and yet I know without a doubt I am called to the journey! Would love this tool of encouragement!
Love this ministry!
I am about to turn 50 this year and you would think I would have gotten this confidence thing by now. It is a daily struggle and I know who the enemy is, Satan. He knows me better than I know myself and knows all the buttons to push to get a response from me that does not bring God honor and glory. It’s getting better daily and with Christ’s help, it will continue to get better. I would love to win this give away and be able to share it with a friend who can truly benefit from it.
Thanks and God Bless,
Tricia NKT
I have struggled with confidence issues since I was very little. I had thought I was over it until I started applying for jobs at the same time my boyfriend went away for college. I am a certified athletic trainer. I received an amazing education at both Azusa Pacific University (bachelors) and University of Southern California (masters) and I have been practicing as an athletic trainer for three years now. Despite my God blessed education and my experience I doubt my qualifications to work at the University level. I also find myself arguing with the devil a lot when it comes to my self confidence in relationships. This doubt brings out the worst in me and I need to learn how to overcome it. It would be such a blessing to receive this book.
I need confidence and I need direction. During the day it is constant accusations. On and off all day long the message is I don’t measure up. Some days are better than others but lately it has been horrendous. I know I need to take the focus off what is said to me and put the light and focus on myself and on the truth and on what is real. It is exhausting.
I can relate Barb and I pray that God will show you His truth and how He sees you. You are His precious treasure, His delight even. He loves you.
I would love to share your “Confident Heart” book and gift pak with my daughter. She does not have a Confident Heart right now. She is being deceived by satan to believe that she has no value. But she is valuable to me. Depression at times is more than I can watch her go thru. She is a blessing to me in that she never gives up. I am a call Minister of God, and I am seeking Him thru whatever source to open her eyes to His Wonder and His Grace. She was in a car accident that changed her life. She was in nursing school and had to stop. She now has a rebuilt right ankle, with a plate across her foot; rod and pins are in her left leg from the knee down to the ankle. She is my champion, and this is why I would love to have the “Confidence Boost” gift pak.
You made me think of how my mom must feel about me. Your daughter is blessed to have you for a mom! Keep lifting her before the throne. May she be set free!
So enjoyed reading the book! Thank you !
I heard you on 88.3 on Word Radio this morning (Maryland)! I was right with you in everything you said. It was ministering to my heart. Thank you. Looking forward to reading the book.
I must get this book! I lost my job earlier this summer and I have been fighting the doubts of my ability to do my job. Actually I have had a life long struggle with self confidence and this sounds like such an encouraging book! I am so glad I discovered Proverbs 31 website. Praise the Lord!
I had permanent birth control surgery, but am now 6 months pregnant with our 4th child. I feel guilt, and shame for putting more pressure on my husband and having more children that we can’t afford. My husband is working odd jobs that are demeaning to make ends meet. I lost my job 3 years ago and I’m still afraid to re-enter the workforce. I’d love to stay home but my husband needs the support. We’ve talked of separation, but I refuse to give up. I don’t mean to sound faithless, and hormones may be somewhat to blame. I trust God, I really do. But I KNOW He requires action from me that I’m currently to scared to take. Could really use the boost, thank you!
I haven’t read this book-but would love to! I am a military spouse who is just recently seperated from him, as he ministers to soldiers overseas. I opted to stay in the states, and share our home with my two mid-20’s daughters. As a minister’s wife, and a chaplain’s wife, it is easy to appear to be confident on the outside, but really be scared on the inside. I would love to be able to boost my confidence and encourage my daughters. This book sounds like the confidence builder resource I need to live ans serve God.
I need a confidence boost because I tend to let other peole make decisions for me & thrn end resenting them & myself
I love this book! It is so awesome! I actually gave away my copy to a very good friend in a care package who had been feeling very down and I was hopeful it would help her like it had me. I am getting better at talking truth rather than trash but I still have a long way to go! I would love to win this book again so that I could re read it! Thank you Renee for writing this book!
I was raised by a single mom because my father abandoned us for drugs and other women. I’ve struggled my whole life with feeling good enough, like I had what it took. I found security in worldly things. As I’m in my first year of marriage I have relied heavily upon Jesus and he has helped me but I am definitely making some imperfect progress. I have a heart for teenage girls that are going through the same issues because today this is so common. These girls are the next generation of women and I have yet to meet one that has confidence. So as a young woman I am here to do God’s will and teach these girls that they have a purpose and that God is going to make something beautiful out of the pain they should not have had to go through.
I would love to feel more that i am truly a gift from God, & that my past mistakes do not change His thoughts of me- through bible study & reading His word, i’m coming closer to this understanding- i would love a chance to feel more confident in my journey with Him- thank you-
Hi, I would really like to win a copy of this book. I have struggled with self confidence all my life- I still struggle with feelings of not being good enough, smart enough, popular enough (I feel like I am easily forgotten by people so if I see them out and about after meeting them, I won’t say hi as I’m afraid they wont have a clue who I am). I’ve made some mistakes recently which have really caused me to be even more down on myself- I am bombarded by the negative voices in my head. I am thankful for these recent struggles though as it is really strengthening my relationship with the Lord.
I see a lot of myself in my oldest daughter (9years old) and I really want to learn how to help her overcome this and grow into a confident woman. I know this will be so helpful for me as well as my family. Thanks for your consideration! 🙂
I grew up having little confidence as I was raised believing that I had to be the best in everything and anything less would be failure. I have had to learn that what counts is that I just do my best….it’s the attitude that counts, not the accomplishment. I always need to be reminded that my confidence comes from God and need to continually pass that along to my daughters.
I like most women grew up having absolutely no confidence; now that I’m an adult and thinking about having my own kids I’m working on having Christ centered confidence in and through Him. I think your book would be an awesome encouragement and would help me to grow even more.
I’d like to win because my homeschool mom’s group is reading your book this year. We start in October and I haven’t bought it yet! I talked both of the mom’s groups into reading it after checking out your facebook page!
I have previously been a part of the 7 Day Doubt Diet and absolutely loved it. I still however need a confidence boost, mainly because I feel so unworthy of God’s grace. I can never repay Him for what He did on the Cross. Thank you for your encouragement and sharing God’s word.
I have always struggled with feelings of inadequacy. Always felt “beneath” others or not good enough. Your devotions help me tremendously!!! Thank you so much for sharing your insight. It’s much needed.
I believe I have struggled with insecurities and lack of confidence in my abilities my whole life. Now, as I try to work each day and raise two little boys, I find the demons haunt me more than ever. I would love to overcome this stronghold on my life.
I would love to win this “confidence boost!” I think that this is one of the areas that many of us women deal with and I am excited to see that you are ministering to all of us about it. I have sisters, a mom, and friends who could all benefit from your book. I think winning it would help me as well as them, as we could read through it together and help boost each others confidence and our own!
I need a confidence boost because in January my husband left our home and has not returned. I am praying for the restoration of my marriage, but sure could use an extra boost of confidence that I will be ok through all of this. Thank you for your devotionals…they are a big help!!
Compared to most people my story isnt that bad. So honestly I will
say I would just really like to have this book so I can learn more on this
subject. I would like to offer prayers for each one of you who have commented.
I pray that Gid will bless you and keep you all safe on all your journeys.
God bless you all.
I could spend time and list my resons like the others, that are all worthy reasons, but i’m not. I just need a more confident heart.. Please pray with me that I can find one.
I feel that I need the book a Confident Heart becuase I still struggle with an affair that my husband had almost 7 years ago. I feel that it is a struggle still becuase he conceived a child out of the affair and kept it hidden until his other child was 3, which is the same age as our youngest child that we have together. It absolutely has destroyed our family. We have 3 children together and I had a child before I met my husband, we have been married for 13 years and I just can’t comprehend why he would do something so devasting to our family. Our marriage was already on the rocks, but this just blew it under the ground. The hard thing is that he still hasn’t been completely honest about it. I would think what could I have done for him not to step out of our marriage. We made vows and how could he break those vows.. Our marriage now is like live in room mates, not husband and wife. I started going to church almost 3 years ago and it has helped, but I still have those doubts about myself. I feel this book would be really helpful to me. It’s not that I don’t trust in GOD but I am one of those people who gives my problem to GOD and then take it back. So, I can’t fully move past this.
Rosemary,
Please go to this website for standing for your marriage. God can restore it to what He intended it to be from the beginning.
Love and God Bless,
Tricia
http://www.rejoiceministries.org
Rosemary, thank u for sharing this and I’m sorry u have been going through such trying times. I certainly can relate to some of the things u have and r experiencing. I don’t know the Bible inside/out but I do know that God loves u and I, and if we turn to him he will comfort us through anything. I am a firm believer that anything is possible through Christ our Savior and even a torn marriage – don’t give up just yet, forgiving is sometimes an extremely hard thing to do but what helps me is that I keep telling myself if God forgives me for all my sins I most certainly can do the same to the ones who have caused me pain/sorrow. May ur family be blessed.
As a mom of 9 I am in need of the confidence that God has entrusted these blessings to me & with him I am able to do all things with the strength only he can provide . It’s hard not to feel inadequate as a young mom with a large family but I must remember Satan is a liar ! It’s ironic that Starbucks is my one indulgence & that is part of your giveaway!
Thanks for sharing your heart with us. I’d love to win the “Confidence Boost” gift pak to give to my daughter-in-law. She and my son are struggling in their marriage and I can see that she lacks in the confidence she needs as a woman and as a mom to go through this rough patch alone. Please also help me in praying for them. My son needs God in his life.
i really need a lot of confident boost. My husband was arrested in July of 2012 for charges i know he wasn’t guilty of and he is still in jail waiting a trial, he was a pastor of our church. It has been a very hard year for me and my two daughters. i lost my job at the same time because i worked at the same place as my husband and he was the supervisor, so they no longer needed me. I have been working a few temporary jobs but can’t find permanent work, i have alot of health problems with no insurance. I do thank Jesus for being there for me each and everyday, i thank him for my salvation and i want to continue to do is will in my life but lately i just feel so worthless, down and discouraged.
You know, when I saw this post on Proverbs31 Ministries, it dawned on me that I trade truth for the lies all the time…and without realizing I’m doing it. It’s my defense mechanism of sorts. i’m very excited for your online study that will be starting in October, as God is speaking to my heart, moving in me, to continue to strive to exchange the lies that I have made a part of my life for the truth that God more than desires to be my whole life.
Hi! I will be honest I do trash talk myself sometimes but I have a copy of your book on my kindle fire & am glad I do!
However, I have a sister who is having some very real & extreme trials right now. She could really use some encouragement. If I win the gift pack I would encourage her by giving the pack to her. Just to let her know I care & that God loves her right where she is at-struggles & all!
Thank you for the opportunity to win.
~Blessings~
I’m going through a time where I’m exhausted in my ministry and my confidence is nearly gone. I have been praying…and praying…and this morning especially- and what do I get but the devotional you sent along with all the info on this book- the LORD hears and is generous and I’m so grateful! It sounds like this is just what He wants to tell me. And Starbucks is the perfect place to read!!
I could use a confidence boost pack because so often it is difficult to listen to God’s whispers over the noise of the world. I’ve longed to read your book, but rarely have the opportunity to get anything for myself, and have not been able to find it at the library. If I do win the confidence boost, I would love to share it and pass it along to another in need of this message of God’s love, or maybe even donate it to the local library.
I am more than a little socially awkward and tend to ruin friendships before they begin. I sorely under-employed and live with my mother (I’m in my mid-30s). Itseems like the only thing I’m good at is making mistakes. I know I’m loved by God, but life gets real lonely.
I need a confidence boost because I am a single mom of 1 kid in college and 2 kids in high school and I am really struggling right now with balance and just feeling like I am not doing the best job at all of this!! It really plays into your confidence level daily when it is only you to do everything and be everything to everyone and sometimes I just totally fail I feel like.
i’d like to win this not for myself but for my bestfreind/sister…she has been i a really bad relationship for about 3+ years and has tried to leave him 5+ time… but he always talks her into coming back. she afraid she wont find anything better.. this man is 47 and she is only 25….. she really needs a confidence boost ,she need to realize she deserves better and God has better if she would just trust Him…..i think your book could help her out…
Would love to have your book, seems each post I read on Facebook directly hits home!
I am still trying to find my confidence after an abusive relationship in my teens & a divorce. I have remarried and I have 2 daughters that I want to be able to show how to be more confident in their lives so that they do not fall into the same traps and patterns that I did. I have your Confident Heart book and I am slowly trying to find the time to read it. So, far I am just in the first few chapters and it really speaks to me. I want to get this for my Mom also because I feel like it would help her. Thank you for sharing with us.
I have ACH and have done an online study. If I won the the gift pack I would pass it on to a friend (I already know who!).
I recently heard about your book through a friend. I have three daughters and a son and would love to be able to teach them to live confidently through Christ. I struggle to overcome those voices from the past and to listen clearly to that Voice of Truth.
I have been unemployed for quite a while and my confidences has taken a beating,; perhaps your book will help me to elevate my confidence.
i need confident boost cause i ordered it and it never arrived. and also i read the first two chapters and they was a real connection. im a pastor’s wife and i do lack confidence when i have to be at the pulpit and share the word of God. i think these book can boost me up and give me confidence to find the inner me. im in Botswana, Africa. i really need the book.
I need a confidence boost because I am struggling as a friend, a daughter and a wife. The season of life I am in is finding me trying to juggle what I used to feel pretty confident in, however, lately I seem to be disappointing those I am trying to love well. There doesn’t seem to be enough time in my day to meet needs or maybe I have just forgotten how to prioritize. Either way, my confidence is shaken and I find I am anxious about what used to bring me great joy.
I work hard to instill confidence in my kids, but with myself, I do more “trash talk” than truth. I need to work on ME and remember that I am God’s child, and as my Father, he gives me confidence.
I read your article in the daily encouragement from ps 31 and it spoke right to my heart. I love that you are focusing on the issues of self doubt, as I know so many of us struggle with this. I, personally, have been battling a series of doubts for months now. I am trying to overcome the biggest obstacle I have ever faced in my life, and the challenge puts doubt of my ability into place. It’s not that I don know that God is right beside me to help me get through it, but I can’t seem to shake those thoughts of insufficiency out of my mind. I just need continued strength through prayer and devotion to build the confidence that is rightfully promised to me as a daughter of God!
Thanks for sharing this! I truly needed to hear this. Been going through some things the last few months where I have lost some of my confidence and securites.
I love to learn to be more confident in my life & my relationship with Christ.
I need a confident boost because I am raising two daughters in what until recently was a secure environment. I personally need it to boost my own confidence from the recent affair with a close family member that my husband had. We are currently working through it. I need the confidence to pass along to my girls.