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Renee Swope

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R.a.k. ’em with Kindness

Becoming a gold-mining mom has encouraged me to look for ways for us to live out God’s truths in our family’s life – not just tell my kids about them. It’s not always easy, and believe me, I often fail. But finding creative ways to keep God’s Words in front of us and put them into action with my kids has helped. That old saying, “It’s better caught than taught” is so true. So, we’ve adopted the approach as a family that “we” are learning together how to live and love like Jesus – not just trying to teach “them.” They seem to respond so much better when we make it a team approach.

As a continuation of yesterday’s post, I wanted to share with you a few more practical ways we’ve focused on living and giving the treasure of “kindness.” Here are some more “treasures of truth” that tell us how to show kindness through our words and in our actions:

  • “Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.” Proverbs 16:24
  • “An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up.” Proverbs 12:25
  • “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32

 

A few years ago, we were on vacation, and we’d taken our Mining for Gold in the Heart of Your Child chart with us so we could do family devotions. We decided to focus on “kindness” that week. M husband came up with ways we could do Random Acts of Kindness, and developed a contest to see who could do the most. That afternoon we were headed to the grocery store and I heard him say, “Come on boys, let’s go R.A.K. ’em.” Here are few ways we have learned to “R.A.K ‘em” with kindness in our house:

1. Make a list of different ways to rack up R.A.K.‘em points. Here are some ideas:

Offer to take someone’s grocery cart to the “cart corral” in the parking lot.

 

Open the door for someone you don’t know.

 

Cook brownies for a new neighbor.

 

Pay for the order of the car behind you next time you are in the drive-thru.

 

Mow grass or shovel snow for a neighbor

 

Wash your spouses car.

 

Send a note of encouragement to a pastor at your church.

 

Take flowers to a nursing home.

Hug your mom or dad when they least expect it.

 

Make your brother or sister’s bed.

 

2. Pick a day this week to do Random Acts of Kindness. Saturday is a great day to start!

3. Have everyone look for ways to R.A.K. someone at the grocery store, in the neighborhood, at work and even at home.

4. Keep a tally of how many times each person RAKs someone and see who has the highest score the end of the day.

5. The person with the highest RAK’em score gets to choose something special, ie. pick a family night activity or order their favorite dessert.

I don’t think we can ever be more like Jesus than when we are kind! And I don’t ever think we can emphasize it too much in our homes, our churches, our schools and communities. What are some other ways your family shows kindness?

Coming up….since we all learned so much from Marybeth’s post here on Tuesday, I’ve asked her to share more financial truths we can teach to our kids in tomorrow’s post. See you then!

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Comments

  1. Our family could really grow strong if we practiced RAK’s. I’ll be thinking about what I can do for my husband and be a better role model for my children.

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  3. I just ran across this site the other day and I think it is amazing! I have a 14 month old and I’m feeling the pressure of being the perfect mom…I know this is an unattainable goal, but I’m still going to strive to be the best Godly Mommy I can. Thanks again for the encouragement!

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  4. Oooh I can’t wait to head out a R.A.K. some people this weekend. I love that you said that we are learning not teaching our kids. So true that we need to be planting these lessons in our hearts as well.
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  5. My kids love the idea of RAK. On Christmas morning they got up and baked cookies to take to those that had to work that day, firemen, police and mursing home workers. But really you could do it any day.

  6. A book of your devotional would be amazing! My kids are going to love the RAK contest. It is so very important to be an example to our children. Love the caught not taught quote!!
    Christine
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  7. Oh, how I wish I had this insight while my kids were still young. They are 10 and 16 now. They constantly fight and argue with each other. I pray it’s not to late to instill this in them.

  8. I love RAK and more than teaching my kids about it, I love watching them do it on their own.
    Here are a few that my boys do:
    * Do each others chores on their birthday so that the birthday guy feels a bit more special.
    * When one is overloaded with homework, offer to either do the dishes or help with them.
    * Surprising each other by going out and taking care of the dog in the cold morning, so the other can sleep in.
    * Allowing the other to play xbox on single player.
    * Letting someone else have the last slice of pizza.
    * Making coffee for mom and dad.

    At Christmas we always have a set amount of money that is laid on our heart. When we get behind a person in line and the amount is close to what we have, we tell them that we will pay for it. It is a little way of giving what God has given to us. But it encourages us to speak of the Lord and it also encourages them to pass it on.

    My favorite it to pick up the tab for the drive through car behind us. Or pay the toll of the car behind you. It blows peoples minds.

    When I go to the beach I love to stand on the balcony with 10 one dollar bills. I wait for a group of young children to come out and let them drift out of the sky. With each bill is a note that says do something special with me. It is amazing to watch their expressions from a distance.

    Diane

  9. Great ideas. I was just looking at an old blog entry where Deut. 6 was on my heart that I might model Christ to my little ones. Older DS was born with a kind spirit–we even featured that trait on the “I’m really very good at” section of his ‘Star Attraction’ poster for school. It’s going to take a lot of modeling for the little one though. At 3 he’s a little too young to get the RAK idea, but I’ll definitely start to communicate the concept.

  10. Thanks so much for your encouragement…my husband and I are doing a FireProof BS series. This morning we discussed what we treasure about each other. He told me he enjoys that I keep our family together…through devotions, games, vacation times ect…It is true that I do that, but I so long for him to do that. But maybe this is God’s role for my life?!! It is so good to hear encouragement from my spouse…but also your ideas on what things we can do to help others.

    Shannon
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  11. All of your suggestions are just wonderful. I sure wish I was clever enough to come up with these things. Since I’m not, thanks for sharing. 🙂
    Love it!

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  12. R a k ’em with kindness. This may just we what we need to get my 5 year old daughter to learn how to treat friends better at pre school. She has major issues with hitting and kicking others.

    I have often thought of starting a random act of kindness by paying for person behind me at drive thru but have never had guts to do it…

    Your devotional has inspired me to do it and I will be sure girls (ages 8 and 5) are in the car when I do it

    Blessings

    Kim
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  13. Two of the three verses you mentioned are ones that I have started teaching my 2 year old son. I don’t think it is ever too early to start memorizing scripture!!! He can already say both verses but not the book of the Bible they are in. I love to watch him learn!
    Jessica
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  15. I’m all about random acts of kindness, including random acts of writing! I bought a card the other day to send to my pastor…but I haven’t sent it yet. Your post has encouraged me to get on it!

    Thanks!

    Rebecca
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  17. I love it. I read your devotional to my kids last night and they loved it. Who ever suggested you put your family devotionals in a book was right on. Count me in on buying one.

  18. Thank you for your words – as a new mom I’m wondering how to instill God’s truths to my children in a natural way – not “do this”,etc. Your tips are great and I’m really enjoying the D6 site.
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