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Renee Swope

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R.a.k. ’em with Kindness

Becoming a gold-mining mom has encouraged me to look for ways for us to live out God’s truths in our family’s life – not just tell my kids about them. It’s not always easy, and believe me, I often fail. But finding creative ways to keep God’s Words in front of us and put them into action with my kids has helped. That old saying, “It’s better caught than taught” is so true. So, we’ve adopted the approach as a family that “we” are learning together how to live and love like Jesus – not just trying to teach “them.” They seem to respond so much better when we make it a team approach.

As a continuation of yesterday’s post, I wanted to share with you a few more practical ways we’ve focused on living and giving the treasure of “kindness.” Here are some more “treasures of truth” that tell us how to show kindness through our words and in our actions:

  • “Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.” Proverbs 16:24
  • “An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up.” Proverbs 12:25
  • “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32

 

A few years ago, we were on vacation, and we’d taken our Mining for Gold in the Heart of Your Child chart with us so we could do family devotions. We decided to focus on “kindness” that week. M husband came up with ways we could do Random Acts of Kindness, and developed a contest to see who could do the most. That afternoon we were headed to the grocery store and I heard him say, “Come on boys, let’s go R.A.K. ’em.” Here are few ways we have learned to “R.A.K ‘em” with kindness in our house:

1. Make a list of different ways to rack up R.A.K.‘em points. Here are some ideas:

Offer to take someone’s grocery cart to the “cart corral” in the parking lot.

 

Open the door for someone you don’t know.

 

Cook brownies for a new neighbor.

 

Pay for the order of the car behind you next time you are in the drive-thru.

 

Mow grass or shovel snow for a neighbor

 

Wash your spouses car.

 

Send a note of encouragement to a pastor at your church.

 

Take flowers to a nursing home.

Hug your mom or dad when they least expect it.

 

Make your brother or sister’s bed.

 

2. Pick a day this week to do Random Acts of Kindness. Saturday is a great day to start!

3. Have everyone look for ways to R.A.K. someone at the grocery store, in the neighborhood, at work and even at home.

4. Keep a tally of how many times each person RAKs someone and see who has the highest score the end of the day.

5. The person with the highest RAK’em score gets to choose something special, ie. pick a family night activity or order their favorite dessert.

I don’t think we can ever be more like Jesus than when we are kind! And I don’t ever think we can emphasize it too much in our homes, our churches, our schools and communities. What are some other ways your family shows kindness?

Coming up….since we all learned so much from Marybeth’s post here on Tuesday, I’ve asked her to share more financial truths we can teach to our kids in tomorrow’s post. See you then!

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Comments

  2. I love the comment about learning together how to live and love like Jesus.

    When we were first trying to figure out how to pray with our kids, we would tell them what to say and they would repeat, but didn’t seem to be getting the meaning. Now we all pray together at night, and we each go through praising God, giving thanks, asking forgiveness, and praying for others. The kids especially like my husband and I asking for forgiveness, because they can see that we are not perfect and are working towards being more Christ-like as well!

    Thank you for your sweet comments on my blog. Your encouragement means a lot to me, especially as I am still not sure where this writing thing is going!!

    Have a blessed day,
    Lindsey

  3. Thanks again for such practical and concrete ways to teach children God’s truths. I have been blessed each day in January by reading your encouragement for moms and I’m a little sad that it’s almost Febuary! I’m sure you’ll have something great in store for us next month too 🙂
    Thanks again!

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  4. Thanks again for such practical and concrete ways to teach children God’s truths. I have been blessed each day in January by reading your encouragement for moms and I’m a little sad that it’s almost Febuary! I’m sure you’ll have something great in store for us next month too 🙂
    Thanks again!

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  5. Renee,

    Thank you so much for sharing so many good ideas to build God-like character traits in ourselves and our children. You’ve given me a new direction to take with my children’s discipline. Thank you!

    JD at jdav7@aolcom

  6. What a blessing your blog is! I’m so glad I’ve found you here–I’m looking forward to all of the wonderful nuggets you have to share!

    Be blessed this evening!
    Cynthia Robin
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  7. This whole thing is great, but the best part was when you said that we could learn together. Too true! That’s exactly what we’re trying to do now, but your posts this week have been exactly what I need – and I’m sure that my children can learn from it, too. Please keep posting lessons like this!

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  8. Hi Renee!

    I just wanted to tell you my GNO post is up, finally. I have no electricity and I’m in Panera with wireless interet service that keeps cutting out. all that to say, I’ll be back to visit your blog when my lights are back on!

    Love you!
    Sandy

  9. My kids at 5, 4 and 2 are still learning to do this at home with each other.
    I would love more ways to teach this in a way that will stay with them no matter where they are.
    And we want to be the example when we are around other people.

    THankyou for sharing these with us.

    Chrissy
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  10. I will be introducing the Random Acts of Kindness to my kids this weekend. I think it will be fun as well as imprinting a valuable quality/fruit in them.
    Thanks for your encouragment!
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  14. Renee, we’ve been doing this for years but we call it R.I.S.K. = Random Incidents of Sincere Kindness. We found this name worked well for a couple of reasons. Sometimes it truly is a ‘risk’ to randomly do something for others. You often have to step way outside your comfort zone and you don’t know how you will be received. Also, we wanted our actions to be sincere – not just trying to do more than the next person, but really have the heart behind the action.

    I love all your suggestions! I’m sure there’s a never ending list of things we can do for others to demonstrate Christ to them. Thanks for this reminder.

    Love, prayers and hugs,
    Joy

  17. Hi Renee!

    I just wanted to tell you my GNO post is up, finally. I have no electricity and I’m in Panera with wireless interet service that keeps cutting out. all that to say, I’ll be back to visit your blog when my lights are back on!

    Love you!
    Sandy

  19. Great way to send acts of kindess to others. We try to practice these alot! My husband and I learned a lot of these in our Growing Kids God’s Way classes!! But like many other things you can always seem to lose them over time. Thanks for the reminder.

    Kristy Baca
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