There is a longing in the heart of every girl.
A longing to be wanted and pursued.
Each night when I pray for my beautiful girl, I want her to hear me thanking God for who she is and for the gift of being her mom! I want her to know she is wanted and valued. That I miss her when we’re not together. I want her to know she’s not a side-item on my very full plate, but she is my heart’s delight and dessert! And you know what? She’s thinks I’m pretty amazing too?
Well… at least for now.
But I’ve been a mommy before. And I know a day is coming when there will be competition for my girl’s attention.
More than me. More than her daddy. More than her big brothers. One day Aster is going to want a guy to want her, to pursue her, to choose her.
And when it happens, I don’t want to panic and wish I could do something to get her to stop chasing after some guy, hoping he’ll notice her. I want her to know…
She’s already been noticed.
She’s already captured Someone’s heart.
She’s already being pursued.
And even though Aster is only five and a half years old, I’m realizing that now is the time for me to start planting these truths in her heart. But it wasn’t until I read my friend Lynn Cowell’s new book “Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants,“ that I realized I needed help to get started.
Lynn’s new book is for girls (and their moms) to walk alongside and help them discover how to become the best version of the beautiful girl God created her to be. There is so much I love about this message. And that is why I wanted to share with you an excerpt from Chapter One today {and I’ve got 3 copies to give away too!}:
“Why doesn’t he like me? I just couldn’t figure it out.
What is it about me that isn’t as attractive as her? Am I not as pretty? Am I too loud? Are my friends not cool enough? The questions gnawed at me, eating away at my confidence. He had liked me once,; surely I could get him to like me again. There had to be a way.
I was determined to find out what was wrong with me.
Back in my own “wish I were dating” days, my highs and lows depended on whether or not I saw him in the hall; my happiness was determined by whether or not he noticed me. The crush I had was crushing me.
I wish there had been someone who could have helped me…someone who could have helped me understand that the longing in my heart pointed not to my need for a guy, but to my deeper need for something, Someone, even greater.
How I wish I had known sooner that I was created to be loved perfectly and unconditionally, made to have my heart filled each and every day with love from the perfect Man – Jesus.
Then I could have spent my time, energy, and emotions, not on a guy I didn’t have, but on the One I did. I could have moved from obsessing over why I wasn’t wanted to becoming the type of girl a godly guy would want. Not just someone to date but someone he’d want to spend the rest of his life with.
I remember making the list, a gargantuan description of everything I was looking for in the guy I would marry one day. The more powerful list would have described the woman I wanted to become, the woman he couldn’t resist!
What would happen if you made the switch now? Shifted your focus off a guy and onto the Guy?
What if, together, we discovered an irresistible beauty deeper than designer clothes, jean sizes, and flaw-free skin? A confidence so attractive, nothing could cause us to lose it? A glamour simply magnetic?
In my quest to discover true beauty, I began to see gorgeous as much more than the face in my mirror. Gorgeous is not skin-deep but heart-deep, a beauty that develops as my heart discovers and returns True Love.
This beauty, this attractiveness, is found in the girl who has what I call “captivating characteristics”—what the Bible calls “the fruit of the Spirit.” These heart traits are described in Galatians 5:22–23: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
These magnetic traits are the result, or fruit, of the girl who has given her entire life to Jesus. The girl who spends her emotional energy allowing Him to live His life through her.
But, you don’t have to burn yourself out trying to become perfect. These gorgeous qualities will show up as you spend time with God and He pours His perspective into you!
When you’re “planted” in God, He provides all you need to reach your full potential—to be the best you you can be!
And, instead of chasing after the guy running from you, you’re pursuing the One coming after you. In the process of seeking His heart, you’ll become the amazing individual He designed you to be, a girl who is irresistibly magnetic, beautiful inside and out!
ENTER TO WIN:
Packed with honesty, encouragement and perspective-changing Magnetic, truth by Lynn Cowell,(available at Amazon, B&N, CBD, everywhere books are sold), will empower girls and young woman to reach their fullest potential by focusing on becoming who God made them to be! A girl who reflects God’s love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. A girl who will attract the right type of guy one day: one who loves God with all his heart and who will cherish her!
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Lynn Cowell is a Proverbs 31 speaker and the author of several books including “Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants”. Her passion is to empower wise women to raise wiser daughters. Her husband and their three children live in North Carolina where they love to hike, raft and enjoy anything that includes chocolate and peanut butter!
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So many years I felt like I wasn’t good enough. I wish I had known that The Guy has always thought I am good enough. He loves me just like I am. I don’t have to try to be someone I’m not.
My Dad always told me to “remember who you are”. It didn’t only mean what earthly family I belonged too but also my Christian family. A good reminder during my teenage and young adult years.
Real love doesn’t hurt you.
Because you matter – to God and to me.
I always said I was raised by Daddy God, my father loved me lots but was absent and my mother was broken winged…I’m so thankful for God’s grace teaching me when I was a little girl to depend only on Him. He was my fortress while being a young woman… I always said I would not marry if I didn’t find a guy who wholeheartedly lives for God. God is still my Daddy and my Protector and April I was married for 20 years to my best friend.
I have a princess of 9 years that need to know God is her Daddy for now and forever.
I would love this book for myself & my four beautiful daughters. I feel overwhelmed at times because i don’t know if I’m meeting all of their emotional needs. I wish i knew how special I was to God growing up. I remember going to a new church & it was about God’s love. I had tears streaming down my face because it hit me for the 1st time how special I am to Him. I feel like I am learning along with my girls. I praise God for where He has brought me & that my prayer is that the girls can have this personal relationship with God at a young age.
This will be a great book for me and my 5yr old. 😉
As a young woman, the most important thing I wish I had known was that I was already loved and accepted by THE most important presence in my life. It would have given me a peace and a confidence I needed so much. My own daughter turns 8 in just a few days, and whether I win a copy for her or go get one at the bookstore, she will be receiving this from me with a special note inside for her birthday.
I wish I would have known that He already lived me and accepted me, that I was enough…still learning it and trying to show my 14-year old that she is His princess first and foremost! 🙂
I think this book would be great for myself and my daughter…thanks for the chance to win.
I wish I’d known Jesus as my Savior as a child, especially in my teenage years. I wish someone would have taken the time to teach me how much He loves me and that my identity is in Him, not in whether or not I’ve got a boyfriend. I’ve been blessed with 3 daughters whom I am trying to instill these truths in. <3
The best advice I had gotten as a teen was that love isn’t selfish. If someone is trying to get you to do something you aren’t ready for or is trying to make you feel guilty, then it’s not love. I did not have God in my life when I was younger. I hope that my daughters have been taught to value themselves and that God values them and true love is worth waiting for!
God was behind a curtain of ritual, performance, and tradition in my growing up years, and it seemed to be only perfection that could guarantee His love & blessing. The college years introduced the idols of intellectual recognition & material security as more attainable & fun to worship, but they crashed to the ground by the time I entered middle age. By God’s grace, He worked through my children to lead me to Him and to a life as His child, in spite of my years of not acknowledging Him. I want to read Magnetic by Lynn Cowell to find out what I may still be missing, and to reinforce in my granddaughters’ lives how lovable they are.
I want my granddaughter to have the freedom of heart to know who she is in Christ and how that relates to her everyday world. Thank you for sharing your heart.
Being the only girl in my family..having two brothers, my a Dad & a Mother that never came around after her divorce from my Dad……I was alone. I really could have used advice, a mentor, just someone that cared enough to tell me how God expected me to live & how much He loved me. Even when I felt like no one did. More than 30 years later, married & the Mother of two daughters of my own, my heart’s desire is to give my girls all the love, encouragement & hope I can. God has blessed me so much & I pray He holds my daughters in His hands always! I need all the help I can get in showing God’s Word to them! I love them deeply. Almost as much as He does! ❤️
We have a beautiful 15 year old daughter that I would love to share this with. I surely could have used this in my younger years.
This book sounds amazing…with 2 little girlies, I can’t wait to read it. I wish that I would have known (especially in high school & college) that I couldn’t do enough or be good enough on my own. I think I struggled to feel accepted & was the ‘good girl’ or appeared to be. Had I realized that God loved me right there…without all the effort put into being good enough or doing the right things, I may have stopped focusing so much on pleasing people & more on loving/glorifying God.
Our world teaches girls at a young age that beauty is physical and our value comes from others’ opinions. I have a few girls in my life/church that could benefit from this book.
Wish I would have known how I was worth so much more than I was told by certain people. And that God was going to place the right person for me at the right time.
Awesome!! Would really like to have this book