There is a longing in the heart of every girl.
A longing to be wanted and pursued.
Each night when I pray for my beautiful girl, I want her to hear me thanking God for who she is and for the gift of being her mom! I want her to know she is wanted and valued. That I miss her when we’re not together. I want her to know she’s not a side-item on my very full plate, but she is my heart’s delight and dessert! And you know what? She’s thinks I’m pretty amazing too?
Well… at least for now.
But I’ve been a mommy before. And I know a day is coming when there will be competition for my girl’s attention.
More than me. More than her daddy. More than her big brothers. One day Aster is going to want a guy to want her, to pursue her, to choose her.
And when it happens, I don’t want to panic and wish I could do something to get her to stop chasing after some guy, hoping he’ll notice her. I want her to know…
She’s already been noticed.
She’s already captured Someone’s heart.
She’s already being pursued.
And even though Aster is only five and a half years old, I’m realizing that now is the time for me to start planting these truths in her heart. But it wasn’t until I read my friend Lynn Cowell’s new book “Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants,“ that I realized I needed help to get started.
Lynn’s new book is for girls (and their moms) to walk alongside and help them discover how to become the best version of the beautiful girl God created her to be. There is so much I love about this message. And that is why I wanted to share with you an excerpt from Chapter One today {and I’ve got 3 copies to give away too!}:
“Why doesn’t he like me? I just couldn’t figure it out.
What is it about me that isn’t as attractive as her? Am I not as pretty? Am I too loud? Are my friends not cool enough? The questions gnawed at me, eating away at my confidence. He had liked me once,; surely I could get him to like me again. There had to be a way.
I was determined to find out what was wrong with me.
Back in my own “wish I were dating” days, my highs and lows depended on whether or not I saw him in the hall; my happiness was determined by whether or not he noticed me. The crush I had was crushing me.
I wish there had been someone who could have helped me…someone who could have helped me understand that the longing in my heart pointed not to my need for a guy, but to my deeper need for something, Someone, even greater.
How I wish I had known sooner that I was created to be loved perfectly and unconditionally, made to have my heart filled each and every day with love from the perfect Man – Jesus.
Then I could have spent my time, energy, and emotions, not on a guy I didn’t have, but on the One I did. I could have moved from obsessing over why I wasn’t wanted to becoming the type of girl a godly guy would want. Not just someone to date but someone he’d want to spend the rest of his life with.
I remember making the list, a gargantuan description of everything I was looking for in the guy I would marry one day. The more powerful list would have described the woman I wanted to become, the woman he couldn’t resist!
What would happen if you made the switch now? Shifted your focus off a guy and onto the Guy?
What if, together, we discovered an irresistible beauty deeper than designer clothes, jean sizes, and flaw-free skin? A confidence so attractive, nothing could cause us to lose it? A glamour simply magnetic?
In my quest to discover true beauty, I began to see gorgeous as much more than the face in my mirror. Gorgeous is not skin-deep but heart-deep, a beauty that develops as my heart discovers and returns True Love.
This beauty, this attractiveness, is found in the girl who has what I call “captivating characteristics”—what the Bible calls “the fruit of the Spirit.” These heart traits are described in Galatians 5:22–23: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
These magnetic traits are the result, or fruit, of the girl who has given her entire life to Jesus. The girl who spends her emotional energy allowing Him to live His life through her.
But, you don’t have to burn yourself out trying to become perfect. These gorgeous qualities will show up as you spend time with God and He pours His perspective into you!
When you’re “planted” in God, He provides all you need to reach your full potential—to be the best you you can be!
And, instead of chasing after the guy running from you, you’re pursuing the One coming after you. In the process of seeking His heart, you’ll become the amazing individual He designed you to be, a girl who is irresistibly magnetic, beautiful inside and out!
ENTER TO WIN:
Packed with honesty, encouragement and perspective-changing Magnetic, truth by Lynn Cowell,(available at Amazon, B&N, CBD, everywhere books are sold), will empower girls and young woman to reach their fullest potential by focusing on becoming who God made them to be! A girl who reflects God’s love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. A girl who will attract the right type of guy one day: one who loves God with all his heart and who will cherish her!
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Lynn Cowell is a Proverbs 31 speaker and the author of several books including “Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants”. Her passion is to empower wise women to raise wiser daughters. Her husband and their three children live in North Carolina where they love to hike, raft and enjoy anything that includes chocolate and peanut butter!
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I felt so lost as a teenage girl. I was boy-crazy, not God-crazy. I made mistakes that I’ve regretted ever since. Thank you for this book. I’d love to win a copy.
Why is it such a struggle to come to the realization of how completely beautiful and valuable we are to our creator. The one who made us and loves us without reservation. It doesn’t seem to matter what age we are- it’s still a struggle.I am a grown woman and still have to remind myself that I am cherished – daily – and loved completely. Thank you God! How important it is and also special to share in the mentoring of our daughters, nieces, granddaughters, friends, students, etc. A book such as this is such an asset. Thank you!
I am still what I consider a teen and would really benefit from this book. I deal with a lot anxiety and this book would show me what God would want me to do. I still don’t know what he wants for my life.
Thank you for writing this book. This is just what my two teenage granddaughters need. Would love to win
a copy for them. They need this information! Thanks again for offering this so appreciate it. I wish this book had been around when I was growing up, things would have been very different now.
LOVE, LOVE, LOVE it!!! What a wonderful resource for our soon to be young ladies. I am convinced that one of the enemy’s best tools is “busyness” – it keeps us stirred up, chasing others’ agenda, detracts from our relationships & prayer time, & leaves us exhausted & empty. I’m resetting this fall AND LOVING IT! Slowing down, changing priorities & enjoying my beautiful gift ~ my girl!
I was very shy growing up and afraid to talk to boys until late in my high school years. Growing up, I wanted to find someone who made me feel loved. I thought maybe a boy could really love me. I can totally relate to putting so much feeling into a crush! But, I didn’t feel worthy of their time or attention. I wish someone had told me then that I could have a relationship with Jesus, that He loves me totally and completely and that I am worthy!
I would love a copy of this book to share with my 10 year old daughter to let her know how much Jesus loves her and that she is worthy of His love!
Sometimes all the things we have to teach our kids is overwhelming. I would love this book to share with my daughter and all her friends and moms. We are all striving to the best we can to raise girls who love Jesus.
I havea little girl, 1 year old and we’ve just invited a 16 year old young woman into our home as well. I want both of them to know how much God loves them and that only he can fill them! I want them to focus on being Godly girls and women rather than focusing on getting a boys’ attention. Because a nice Godly man will come along and sweep them off their feet when they are becoming the women God intended them to be!
To have learned as a teenager to put God 100% first and not be consumed with all the trivial junk of teenage years.
I think my 21-year-old daughter would benefit so much from reading this book. I would love to win it for her. Thank you!
My 15 year old daughter desperately needs to hear that God loves her and notices her. We are going through a very difficult time and she tells me she feels unloved. She is hurting and nothing I seem to be doing is helping her. This would be a great book for her and I to read together.
I desire that my tween/early teen daughters learn to glorify God throughout their lives. I pray that they are magnetically drawn to Him and His love.
Oh how much I even need this now as I have been beaten down to believe I have no value. Isa. 43 is becoming very special to me because He tealls us we are honored, valued, and loved.
I have a 15 year granddaughter who has found out the hard way, you can’t get a guy or keep a guy by the things you do or the way you look. She was very depressed for a few months. To the point she didn’t want to live. We where very concerned able her, she wanted to go to a different school. Her mother put her in Christian school, which my granddaughter had being wanting to go to for a long time. That has helped and she stayed several weeks during the summer with her sister. Her sister talked to her and that helped too. I feel this book could help change her life and see what is really important in life.
Oddly enough I think some of the best wisdom I know and saw lived out I learned from my Daughter! You might be thinking that’s backwards but God has amazing grace in how He teaches us! I know my mother and grandmothers were praying for me and for my future husband but I was’nt always listening or cooperating with The Lord in my life. Though I’ve been so blessed to watch my daughter grow through her trials as she waited for The Lord to bring the right man to her life. She did something very wise and began praying for her future husband as she read Stormie Omartian’s book of the same title. It shifted her focus off herself and onto The Lord and His provision for that man and also who she was to become in The Lord. She was married this spring to that wonderful man The Lord provided and as an added bonus we love his family too! The Lord is so wonderful!
This message just electrocuted my heart this morning! Have been feeling the need for this message for myself, my daughter and the desire to teach other young girls the importance of God’s pursuit of and love for them, rather than their pursuit for acceptance and love from the “boys” of this world… I look forward to reading and sharing this book!
I have a daughter who will be 15 next month and we are struggling for her to see the inner beauty and peace she could have with a deeper relationship with the Father. This would be an amazing book for us to read together and discuss.
I have a sweet little girl who I would love to share these thoughts with. Thank you for writing this book!!
BE YOURSELF (QUIRKS & ALL). LOVE YOURSELF (ALL ASPECTS OF YOURSELF). LOVE YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER WHO CREATED YOU (EPH 2:10). THE REST WILL FOLLOW.
I have a group of girls I’ve been mentoring for a few years, I’ve been blessed to be a part of some of their lives since they were babies. My life has gone wonky in the last few years, let’s just say that I have had some major faith building experiences. One of the major things I’ve been working to stress to them is that they don’t need a guy to complete them. They are 22 and 23 now and at such a pivotal point in their lives. I share how when I graduated college, I had a 10 year plan…graduate, get a teaching job, get married have my first child within 2 years and my 2nd within 2 years after that. That’s exactly what I did. Then I tell them the one thing I forgot was God’s plan. I did it my way. I married, and loved dearly, the “one” God didn’t have for me. I had 2 amazing boys, but there was a lot of hardship that probably wouldn’t have been there if I had checked in with God. I explain that by not including God, by trying to be bigger and more in control, God’s perfect plan became God’s permissible plan. I stress that they are enough and are loved by the Creator. Walking with Him will bring His plan to fruition. I don’t want them to settle.