There is a longing in the heart of every girl.
A longing to be wanted and pursued.
Each night when I pray for my beautiful girl, I want her to hear me thanking God for who she is and for the gift of being her mom! I want her to know she is wanted and valued. That I miss her when we’re not together. I want her to know she’s not a side-item on my very full plate, but she is my heart’s delight and dessert! And you know what? She’s thinks I’m pretty amazing too?
Well… at least for now.
But I’ve been a mommy before. And I know a day is coming when there will be competition for my girl’s attention.
More than me. More than her daddy. More than her big brothers. One day Aster is going to want a guy to want her, to pursue her, to choose her.
And when it happens, I don’t want to panic and wish I could do something to get her to stop chasing after some guy, hoping he’ll notice her. I want her to know…
She’s already been noticed.
She’s already captured Someone’s heart.
She’s already being pursued.
And even though Aster is only five and a half years old, I’m realizing that now is the time for me to start planting these truths in her heart. But it wasn’t until I read my friend Lynn Cowell’s new book “Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants,“ that I realized I needed help to get started.
Lynn’s new book is for girls (and their moms) to walk alongside and help them discover how to become the best version of the beautiful girl God created her to be. There is so much I love about this message. And that is why I wanted to share with you an excerpt from Chapter One today {and I’ve got 3 copies to give away too!}:
“Why doesn’t he like me? I just couldn’t figure it out.
What is it about me that isn’t as attractive as her? Am I not as pretty? Am I too loud? Are my friends not cool enough? The questions gnawed at me, eating away at my confidence. He had liked me once,; surely I could get him to like me again. There had to be a way.
I was determined to find out what was wrong with me.
Back in my own “wish I were dating” days, my highs and lows depended on whether or not I saw him in the hall; my happiness was determined by whether or not he noticed me. The crush I had was crushing me.
I wish there had been someone who could have helped me…someone who could have helped me understand that the longing in my heart pointed not to my need for a guy, but to my deeper need for something, Someone, even greater.
How I wish I had known sooner that I was created to be loved perfectly and unconditionally, made to have my heart filled each and every day with love from the perfect Man – Jesus.
Then I could have spent my time, energy, and emotions, not on a guy I didn’t have, but on the One I did. I could have moved from obsessing over why I wasn’t wanted to becoming the type of girl a godly guy would want. Not just someone to date but someone he’d want to spend the rest of his life with.
I remember making the list, a gargantuan description of everything I was looking for in the guy I would marry one day. The more powerful list would have described the woman I wanted to become, the woman he couldn’t resist!
What would happen if you made the switch now? Shifted your focus off a guy and onto the Guy?
What if, together, we discovered an irresistible beauty deeper than designer clothes, jean sizes, and flaw-free skin? A confidence so attractive, nothing could cause us to lose it? A glamour simply magnetic?
In my quest to discover true beauty, I began to see gorgeous as much more than the face in my mirror. Gorgeous is not skin-deep but heart-deep, a beauty that develops as my heart discovers and returns True Love.
This beauty, this attractiveness, is found in the girl who has what I call “captivating characteristics”—what the Bible calls “the fruit of the Spirit.” These heart traits are described in Galatians 5:22–23: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
These magnetic traits are the result, or fruit, of the girl who has given her entire life to Jesus. The girl who spends her emotional energy allowing Him to live His life through her.
But, you don’t have to burn yourself out trying to become perfect. These gorgeous qualities will show up as you spend time with God and He pours His perspective into you!
When you’re “planted” in God, He provides all you need to reach your full potential—to be the best you you can be!
And, instead of chasing after the guy running from you, you’re pursuing the One coming after you. In the process of seeking His heart, you’ll become the amazing individual He designed you to be, a girl who is irresistibly magnetic, beautiful inside and out!
ENTER TO WIN:
Packed with honesty, encouragement and perspective-changing Magnetic, truth by Lynn Cowell,(available at Amazon, B&N, CBD, everywhere books are sold), will empower girls and young woman to reach their fullest potential by focusing on becoming who God made them to be! A girl who reflects God’s love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. A girl who will attract the right type of guy one day: one who loves God with all his heart and who will cherish her!
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Lynn Cowell is a Proverbs 31 speaker and the author of several books including “Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants”. Her passion is to empower wise women to raise wiser daughters. Her husband and their three children live in North Carolina where they love to hike, raft and enjoy anything that includes chocolate and peanut butter!
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While my girls have already found the man that we prayed for in their lives and are already married, we have a son that is still single and looking for a Godly woman and I pray for her in this manner. After having suffered much ritualistic abuse as a child and through it all finding my Savior Jesus Christ, I really have involved my life in the lives of all women from birth to 90+ teaching them of the One who truly loves and infiltrates our hearts with His presence….Our Savior and Redeemer and Lover and Counselor……He is our One and Only! Thank you for sharing this book and I pray that it will touch many hearts of women out there who are still searching and still have a hole in their hearts that can only be filled with Christ! May we all continue to “live” in such a way that Christ is seen in use, our only Hope!
Blessings to you all!
This is what I have been telling my girls for years. I wish it wasn’t so hard to sink in. 4 kids, 1 married all love Jesus.
I have a beautiful 9 year-old daughter, and I want her to have her self-worth through God instead of trying to find her value through the eyes of a boyfriend.
With two teenage girls…and being recently divorced, wow could we use this book. I need these truths just as much as my girls. What advice do I have now that I wish I’d had? Exactly what this book talks about. Pursue God with all your heart and let Him shine through you. Let His beauty radiate through you and it will capture the heart of the one He has planned for you.
Would love to win this book! I’ve got 3 granddaughters but also so many women still struggle married and single that need to know their # One love.
I have several girls in my life that would benefit from this book!
I wish I had this insight when I was a young girl. This would have saved me a lot of heartache and pain.
When I read this email, my heart immediately went to “my girls!” They are not really my girls. I do not have children, but oh how I love them and want to spare them the heartaches I had growing up. There are seven of them. I would be so excited to be able to sow this “powerful” message into their young lives. Thanks for giving me the chance at doing that! God bless all of you! You are ALL such a blessing to me!
As a girl that was sexually abused for over 15 years of my life in various forms (molested, raped, maritally raped – from age 5 -20), I wish someone would have shared the truth of Psalm 139 with me back then – this Psalm has transformed the way that I think about myself and I taught it’s truths to my 3 daughters as well and now I am privileged to teach it to women at my church. This book sounds amazing and I look forward to reading and sharing it with the young women and mothers of girls at my church. Thanks for the blessing!
What an amazing opportunity, thank you! I have two girls under the age of ten, and my prayer is that they seek Jesus first, before all else…although like you, I know there will come a day when their attention will be turned to other things. The world is so full of distractions.
Wow, how different my life would have been had I known these truths as a girl. I’m the stereotypical story. Divorced parents. Rarely saw (but totally adored) my dad. Only occasional, negative attention from my mom. Ergo, I go. Wrong direction, wrong guy(s), always searching, and not even sure what I was searching for, or even that I WAS searching. BUT – God uses ALL things for GOOD and for HIS glory. Because of my trials, and there were too many ugly ones to count, I believe God equipped me with the experience, knowledge, wisdom and tools to be His representative to my beautiful daughter (now 13). I know what I need to give her, because I didn’t get it. She DOES and WILL know that Jesus is her guy. I don’t know if I’m doing it all correctly, but God does. And with Him guiding me, how can I go wrong?! I’d love to have this book as a tool to guide my communication with my precious gift from God!
My daughter, Destiny, is 14 yrs old (already). This sounds like just what we both need!!!!
I wish I’d had something like this when I was a teen. It would have helped. Maybe I would have learned it then instead of having to learn it in my late 30’s. God has been working with me in this area for a few years. I now know God loves me unconditionally just as I am and He has been the One perusing me for some time. I had and am still learning God is the One I need to be chasing after, not some guy. My prayer has always been that God would make me into the woman He wanted to be, that woman who loves and wants to serve Him. Maybe someday God will send that godly man I’ve prayed for and I’ll be the type of woman he’ll want. As time goes on my love for God deepens and grows and my desire to chase after a guy lessens. I am a work in progress.
I have a 13 year old daughter, and I know those days are soon approaching. This book sounds wonderful.
This book sounds wonderful. If for some reason I am not able to get the book this way, I would try to buy it.
So excited for a book that encourages young ladies to.be confident in the Lord….
I want my daughter to realize that she is the only one like her in all the world, that God made her wonderfully, precisely and JUST RIGHT! I tell her these things a lot and it is what I grew up knowing about myself as I was blessed to grow up in a Christian home with two AWESOME parents. Unfortunately, just like me, she does not always believe me when she starts comparing herself to other girls…this book sounds like something that could really help her understand how to truly rest and strive to remain smack dab in the middle of God’s will for her life, no matter what is going on around her or what her friends are up to. As a young Christian woman, she, unfortunately, seems to be in the minority these days at school….she loves to read and I am sure would draw many truths and strengths from this book. She is 16 and there is no better time for her to really start “getting” this truth.
By the way I loved your Confident Heart book! Spoke right to my heart and felt like a friend in my ear the whole time I was reading it…especially the last several chapters.
I wish I could have realized just how much God loved me and how relentless His love is. When we realize this and place our focus on God’s love for us we can become truely beautiful and attractive to those around us. This book sound like a great tool to share with young women.
Oh my goodness the things I wish I knew then that I know now. This book would have been just what my little soul needed because everything she described in this excerpt is so what I was thinking. I made a mess of me and only until I got older did I realize all the destructive choices I made. I would so love to win this for my daughter. She is so tenderhearted and it scares me to death. If I don’t win this, I am definately buying it for her. Thanks for all you do. I love my Proverbs 31 ladies.
Lynn’s statement – “But, you don’t have to burn yourself out trying to become perfect. These gorgeous qualities will show up as you spend time with God and He pours His perspective into you!” – gives hope to older ‘girls,’ too! MAGNETIC sounds like a great book for all girls. Can you imagine how different our world would be if every young girl would know the song “Beautiful – in His eyes” (and of course, the meaning behind that song) and would cling to that, especially during their teenage years? Sounds like a great give-away!!! Pam
As a little girl if I had only knew that God’s love surpasses all things and is the only thing that can satisfy ones soul, I could have made better decisions and lived a happier childhood! I have two young daughters age 6 and 4 and my prayer for them is that they focus on Jesus’ s face first and foremost in all things they do and have him as their number one man…