Today is another day where I can’t just write what I want to say – I need to “show and tell” you. In today’s short video message below I share how God walked me through a process of looking back with courage – so I could move forward with hope. He helped me identify things I didn’t even know were affecting me and gently led my heart on a journey towards freedom – showing me how to of let go of the pain from my yesterdays so I could live with confident hope in my todays… and tomorrows.
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Thank the Lord for Proverbs 31 ministries, else I would not have been directed to this video. God is working in me to free me of my past hurts. I am afraid. What if I can’t stop crying? What if I can’t change my negative self talk? What if my husband doesn’t support me if I try and let go of my past (he doesn’t do well with tears and such.)? I am “this close” to being too dependent on wine and the shame I feel during the day for it is daunting. I am afraid, but I want to be free from the deep deep deep hurts from my past. How long will it take? Can I make it? Will God still honor my prayers for my kids? He is touching my heart deeply – like many others – tears flow as I type. I am afraid. The pain is so intense when I try to go to the hurt places. Fear, shame, insecurity. Yet, I WILL sing to Him. I WILL praise Him because He really has blessed me in so many ways. I believe He can make me whole, just not if He will. If anything I appreciate your prayers. Blessings to you, Renee. What an amazing woman of God you are.
Hi Renee, God brought me to your website today to hear His words spoken through you! I have struggled for over 40 years with myself worth and have tried, prayed, talked to God with working through these things that still haunt me today. I have a 16 year old daughter, who is precious! I have tried to teach her that she is so beautiful just the way God made her (even though I steel don’t feel that way about myself, I am working on it) I pray for my children daily, but I also know she needs a little extra prayer due to her esteem and self worth. I intend to print this devotion off for her to read. I know that not only God’s work but also His work does not come back void. I would love the book “A Confident Heart” to help us both learn and grow to be able to help others who are dealing with the same issues and hurts from the past that so many are dealing with in todays world. THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO FOR GOD’S KINGDOM! May He bless you abundantly Renee!
Love and Prayers,
Jenny
Hey Renee,
Can’t begin to tell you how much i needed to hear your video message today… really appreciate your transparency and wise words. Jeremiah 29:11-14 is an area of Scripture I’m very familiar with, but it’s sadly we can often push back God’s promises when we’re in pain. Was amazed at the similarities of yours and my past… i too, suffered the pain of my parents divorce, my dad leaving, and trying to grow up with very little parental guidance and no Jesus. I didn’t realize the depth of the damage and how much i had not ever dealt with until the last year or so. Once I came to Christ, seemed the world was a big adventure and i’ve lived an exciting ministry life – but now at 45, i find myself deeply struggling with the pain of my past and it’s profound effect on my life. i’ve never married, have no children and yet deeply hunger for it. It’s been painful for me to know that God declares “it’s not good for man to be alone” and the beautiful role of a woman to help a man… yet not allow me to walk in this. And now, unlike my younger years, i feel like a failure as a woman. Even despite all my “ministry successes” – i still feel like a failure. it haunts me now and it’s caused so much of my past to surface and reinforce those feelings. Lastly, and so amazing… I have been to Ethiopia, and have a huge desire to adopt from there! But with no husband and in full time ministry – I haven’t seen a way to make adoption happen. When you shared about your adopted Ethiopian daughter… i was stunned. Only God could have had placed your story in my life for such a time as this… as if God is saying… it can happen for you too, Lysa. i pray one day it will. But your story breathed hope into my heart today… i’m grateful. To you and to God. May His anointing continue to rest on your life such that many women would know His touch through your life!
Renee thank you for this message. It made me realize the things in my past that I had not yet dealt with and need to but am afraid to. Because I don’t/ didn’t want to bring them back up again, but when I don’t they do creep back in unseen ways or untimely ways and it affects the way I see my husband. I don’t want that.
Renee,
What perfect, God-timing for this message! Thank you for sharing your heart. I agree with so many previous commenters that this is a woman-message if there ever was one 🙂 I, too, come from a divorced family and have just recently left an emotionally and psychologically abusive relationship. How tempting to try to put a bandaid on all those hurts, but after hearing your message, I know Jesus wants to walk through the healing process with me. Thank you again!
Your word have touched me deeply and comes as confirmation from God that what I need to be doing is seeking after him with all my heart
Renee, thanks so much for sharing your story. You put it so simply and it made sense. I to came from a divorced family, but there was also some abuse. I’m starting to understand now what I need to do so I can move on and stop being “stuck”. Thanks for sharing. Terri
Thanks Renee for this message. Your words of encouragement and healing have touched my heart. I, too, am in process of grieveing the childhood I never had. I receive your emails and decided to take advantage of getting your book free on Kindle, so I read it on my computer. You have great insight and wisdom. Praise the Lord for how you are allowing Him to use you and your story to grow so many hurting women who long for wholeness. Thank you for your honesty and compassion. As I read this post and watched your video, God moved in my heart not only to continue to seek after Him harder to allow Him to grow me, but to share this message with an unsaved, hurting friend who has been so wounded by divorce. I have tried to reach out to her and share the gospel with her, but her heart was not opened at the time and I have been praying for her evr since. It would mean so much to receive a copy of your book for her as I think God could use it to bring another child home!
Thanks again so much for serving the way you do!
Renee thank you for investing your time into GOD’s kingdom! I recently came across Psalm 143:8 in a book I was reading from a co-worker and then again in your devotion last week.It has been in my opinion God speaking to my heart and now today’s devotion that includes one of my favorite bible verses!I have struggled remembering his promise that he has a plan for my life that was designed by him just for me.My life has been filled with many disappointments from bad childhood memories, a failed marriage and drug addiction that destroyed my ex-husband and has had a tremendous effect on my two sons.Yet I know my redeemer lives and this week I decided to let go of the past and to cherish the time that I have with my growing teenage boys focusing on the good things that GOD has done for us and letting go of the victim that I have become.Your devotion today was again a message for me to keep moving forward and pushing the doubts behind! I cannot thank you enough for your words of wisdom and taking the time to share them with women like me who sometimes just need to hear that there is hope!
Renee,
I love your devotions and your dedication to helping others to gain their confidence in Christ. I am having a difficult time in my life due to going through menopause at the age of 43. I feel broke and that my husband deserves someone better than me. I am thankful that he is a Christian and tells me that we will get through this together. We are a military family and have been through several deployments and have been told he will deploy again in 2013. We have survived many challenges and I know that Christ will help us through the tough times ahead. Thanks for your encouragement and making me feel that I am not alone.
I couldn’t believe it when I read the Proverbs 31 message today. It is so me. I am a recovering alcoholic and addict. I was married to my ex-husband for 35 years. We have 3 grown sons and I have 2 grandsons. We were divorced 6 years ago. He was a practicing alcoholic at the time. Now he has been sober for 5 years. It tears me apart to know that I broke up our family. I was always proud that my family was not a statistic. Now we are. I remarried 3 1/2 years ago and I just am not sure about my love for my new husband. I have been battling it ever since we got together. We moved in together, I felt guilty so he married me. it has been a battle ever since. He loves me, treats me really good, accepts me for who I am, even with my faults, and I left him about a month ago because I was tired of pretending and felt like I was living a lie. I am now living with my sister. No papers have been filed. It is tearing him up. I just don’t know what to do. I don’t feel like I love him, but it seems like I should. I want God’s will for my life. I just am not sure he is it. The confusion, depression and chaos is something I have dealt with, or not dealt with all of my life. Thank you for your words of wisdom. I have an appointment with my pastor today. I pray God will speak to me through him. I look forward to your future emails for encouragement. Thank you again.
I’ve been feeling “stuck” for about 10 years now and can’t seem to get over that wall; some of it is because deep down, in spite of the scriptures I hold onto, I don’t think I’m deserving of God’s grace and love. I know the scriptures that pertain to that, I’ve read the books, but the wall is still there. In addition, I’ve let a relationship with a long-time male friend go places it shouldn’t have, and even though I wasn’t the one who actively pursued it, I allowed things to happen. I’ve asked God for forgiveness, but I don’t think I’ve forgiven myself, and that, I think, adds to my “wall”. There, just a little psychoanalysis of myself, 🙂
No one really knows about this situation and it’s getting increasingly hard and frustrating to deal with.
Renee Thank You Thank You for writing this book and sharing so many things. This is my second time reading this book.It is so helpful for me to know I am not alone. So many of the things you have shared about your feeling I am so graetful for.I have gone through a deep depression and still struggle on days. I believe God led me to your book. I want to be able to share this book with my sister. so we can work together on the difficulties we both have gone through. Thank You again for sharing some very hard things.
Renee: You are such a blessing to all of us. It is always so difficult to recall our painful past, but so necessary in order to move forward. I know I have a lot of unresolved issues, but I keep them well hidden as I have been taught to be strong and un-emotional. I have always worked with men and have had to take on the male persona so as to not appear weak. I have sought affirmation in good grades, good work performance and the approval of others. This has been disappointing, as people will always disappoint us, even those who profess to be Christians but don’t emulate Christ. You are helping me reach more deeply and seek the Lord’s guidance on moving forward. Thank you so much for your ministry.
A truth that I needed to be reminded of today. Even when my hurts, disappointments and pain trigger fears that cloud out God’s truth HIS HOLY SPIRIT sends a messenger like you to bring me back to HIS WORD of hope and love that never changes. Please pray for my husband whose past hurts and disappointments are not only keeping him from God’s best but is creating a barrier that gets thicker with each day when he faces yet another career failure and disappointment. Pray he will be open to getting the help he needs to begin the process and that we can deal live in God’s victory instead of sweeping it under the rug and the dust continues to leak out. Pray that I will love him where he is and be Jesus to HIM and depend on the Lord to provide and I will allow the Lord to heal my wounds as well.
Hi Renee – I think the toughest thing for me is to realize that I do have past hurts and wounds that need to be healed. We go through life so intent on covering up those hurt and jagged places in our hearts, that when God wants us to uncover those to Him to allow Him to heal, we balk at this request. We tell God that we’ve spent years trying to “move on” and that looking back will just ruin all those years of heard work and progress. But those years weren’t progress…we weren’t “moving on”…we were just making due. Now when we have the opportunity for true healing and restoration, we’re afraid. That’s my biggest challenge and what I’m glad to be confront through your book…my fear. I pray that God continues to bless you and all of those who are reading your book or your devotions. God desires to heal that which is broken…we have to trust Him with our brokenness and know that everything He wants to do with us is from a place of His amazing love towards us. Thanks for providing a place to release and share.
Hello Renee!
Thank you so much for sharing this video, I was reading the daily devotion on Encouragement Today and then was drawn to this video. I went through a divorce five years ago (from a marriage of 22 years) and still don’t know what went wrong. I lost my mom almost four years ago and she said something on her dying bed that left me with harsh feelings toward her and so I have not yet cried for her or even tried speaking to her through God. I have often thought about counseling but can’t really afford it so it’s just a thought. I do plan to purchase your book ‘Confident Heart’ in the near future because I am always touched by your words. I know there is a God and I have faith in Him but I too, asked ‘Why?’ when I was going through all my pain of deception and losses. All week the word ‘HOPE’ has popped up in front of me and so I have decided to keep the Hope and Pray that I find answers and give my whole heart to God!!!
I am currently struggling with my daughter living a life that I do not approve of. I do know that God will lead her out of this in His time and I have the hope and faith that this will happen. Then we both can look back and have the courage to move forward. But reading your passages continues to lift me up and give me courage to continue hoping and praying for her and her life with God.
I’m currently struggling through a separation from my husband. This is has been both difficult and painful and liberating and peaceful. The more I hurt, the more I take to God, the more I find peace to help me through all this. I too have been asking God to show me what I have done wrong, help me correct it and to redefine me. Through my asking, I have discovered much unprocessed pain and hurt and disappointment from my past that IS defining me and my relationships today. I don’t want to be known as who I was. I have traveled a long journey to become the woman I am today. I have discovered that God doesn’t keep me in my old cage and ask me to daily try to live from within that cage. I do. Instead, He is helping me escape that cage that I keep myself locked in. Through Him, I find release and freedom and the opportunity to be who I am now and forever escape that old cage. It’s not easy. I write and cry and pray a lot. When reminders come of certain hurts and disappointments, I ask God to help me work through them. I ask Him to open my memories so that I can honestly look at them and process them and see my part in them. When I acknowledge that I had a hand, small as it sometimes may be, in what has happened to me, then it is easier to walk through the door towards healing. Sometimes I can get through a hurt or disappointment or broken dream in a day. Sometimes it takes weeks. I always depends on how much effort I put into really wanting to heal, really wanting to be free from that cage. God has spoken to my heart and told me that He wants me to soar. He doesn’t want me to be caged and to be forever longing for freedom. In order to do that, I must ask Him to use his “key” to unlock my cages and set me free. Your words today, Renee, confirm to my heart just this very concept. I know I’m on the right path. The Lord’s plan to prosper me includes setting me free from the pain and mistakes and heartbreaks of my past so I can soar. Thank you for your guidance and help through this process.
Thank you for your message of hope…I really need it today! I pray that I will be able to find a more intimate relationship with God, and not feel like an outsider and unworthy of Him.