Being a mom is too important and too hard to go it alone. Isolation is dangerous. It’s where the enemy whispers, “You are the only one who thinks that way. You are the only one who feels like the way you do. You are the only one who acts like that.” Then he tries to convince us we will never change or guilts us into trying to be super-mom, super-wife, super-woman, super-servant – but all we become is super-tired!
When we fall short, we beat ourselves up. We hide our failure and flaws and work a little harder to do it a little better tomorrow. I don’t know about you, but it wears me out!
Even men are realizing it’s just not realistic! Today I want to introduce you to some Godly leaders who care about us moms. This video offers encouraging words from the D6 Conference.
We want to pass our faith to our children, but when we get to the end of our day most of us are out of time and energy. We need help. We need simple and practical steps towards becoming a D6 mom. But even Godly goals can lead to more tiredness. We’ve got to take care of our hearts first.
Last year, while speaking at a women’s conference, three women came up to me individually and secretly confessed that they were ready to walk out on their families. All of them were believers. And all of them had the same feeling – NUMB.
They were exhausted. Two of them said they didn’t feel anything anymore. They thought they could leave their kids and husbands and have no regrets. But as they listened to my messages, God spoke to their hearts, helping them realize they were not alone. And the Holy Spirit nudged each one to tell me. Isolation was losing its power.
I prayed and held each woman’s hands in that sacred place of confession and healing. Tears began to flow and hearts began to soften. I knew God wanted me to tell them to take care of their hearts, because our heart is central to who we are. Their hearts were shutting down and these women were scared. Deep in their souls they knew being numb wasn’t good and that walking out would hurt someone – even if they thought it wasn’t them. So, I encouraged them to:
- Set aside time to be with Jesus, to let Him love them. To carve out white space in their day to “come away with Him to a quiet place and get some rest.”
- Be still for even just 10 minutes a day, to write down thoughts and struggles, to find promises to pray in His Word and carry in their hearts.
- Talk to God and a trusted friend about things to cut back, to make room in their hearts for those who were slipping away – their families and even God.
You and I could get to that point if we are not careful. I don’t want that to happen. Next week we’re going to talk about practical ways to start living out D6 principles from Deuteronomy 6:5-9. But first I want us to promise we will focus on our relationship with Jesus. Ask Him to show you how you can take better care of your heart, because He wants that, and after all, that’s where being a D6 mom starts.
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I love the video. Thanks for sharing. I am everything that video said as I know I’m not alone. I take care of it all. From the finances to the spiritual leading. My husband and I didn’t grow up knowing Christ. I have chose to seek him and he hasn’t chose that. It makes it very hard. I don’t want my 9 year old to suffer the way that I feel that my 18 year old has, in the sense of not knowing Jesus all their lives. It makes it very difficult for me to know if what I am doing is enough. I didn’t have it growing up so I never had an example. Circumstances in my family just didn’t allow for that to take place. I want so desperately to make sure and break the cycle and I get so overwhelmed. I can agree with some of what anonymous feels. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for these words you post daily. They are such an encouragement.
Motherhood is an intense job, full of demands, worries, unpredictable situations and issues that we can’t control. Thank goodness we have our Lord to depend upon and put our hope and trust in. This job is too big to handle without Him. Thank you for reminding us to renew our heart through God in prayer and to prioritize Bible study. If we moms can’t or don’t make it a priority to care for ourselves(and our hearts!!), how can we effectively care for our families?? This is a reminder I need on a daily basis.
Cathy Dickey
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When my son was much younger I read two great books (I probably read more, but these to stand out right now in my mind.) One was called, "Mom, You're Incredible" (Linda Weber) and the other was "No More Lone-Ranger Mom" (Donna Partow). One encouraged me to keep going and the other encouraged me to make connections, that I didn't have to take the mom-journey by myself. Both helped me see that I was 'normal'.
Finding balance is important. We actually have a Ladies Day at our church the end of this month and the speaker who is coming is speaking on Finding Balance in our lives as women between children, husbands, work, friends, ministry etc… Putting God first, He will help us order our days and do all that He desires.
Such an encouraging word again today Renee. Hope Andrew's party goes well this weekend. Enjoy!
Love & prayers,
Joy
I also have a heart for young moms–I remember, at times, feeling so lonely and just plain tired out.
Thanks for doing what you do. God Bless.
Thank you for sharing! I spent my early mothering years feeling numb, and scared of the way I was feeling. Praise God, he delivered me. To those of you struggling in this very moment, hang on and seek Him with all you have! He is faithful and he does not speak in condemnation.
That is how I’m feeling too.
One word is what puts more pressure on me than anything…. PERFECTION! I have always felt that I had to do it all perfect, my home, marraige, my kids,and that when they were not perfect it was a direct reflection on me. This alone can wear a woman out, much less all the added responsibilities of serving at church,in the community, and our extended families. Now that my girls are older I see that I have instilled that in them as well and it saddens me to see the stress that they are under because of that with school, their looks, friends, etc. All of this would be so much easier if we would just seek God and HIS PERFECT will for our life. Thank goodness we don’t have to be perfect but we are forgiven. Our children are our main priority and the benefits we see when they start fostering their own relationship with God because of their own desires and not ours is truly amazing. I sit back and say, YES! I did do something right, maybe not perfect, but right. All because God provides new mercy every single day.
I am very impressed with D6.
Blessings,
Margaret
I too feel numb at times during my busy days! It is good to know that other moms also feel this way. I know I need to take time out for me and for God but that is easier said than done most days. Please keep praying for moms everywhere that will make time to take care of ourselves!
~Jessica
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Sweet Pamela, I am praying for you in this moment. You are a wonderful woman who loves the Lord with all your heart. It is so obvious in everything you write on your blog.
I’ve had my fair share of mistakes, too. But God has encouraged and even challenged me to land in a place of grace and not guilt. He reminds me again and again that, “There is NO CONDEMNATION for those who are in Christ Jesus.” He died to set us free from our guilt and regret so that we could walk with Him, face to face with our loving, merciful, grace-giving God.
When I beat myself up for choices and words I cannot erase, He reminds me that each day is new. His mercies are new. I am being made new, being transformed into His likeness with ever increasing Glory. This is true for us as His daughters.
Father, I pray your peace over each of us today. Wash us with Your Words. Lord, even if it’s just one verse to remind us of your love, ‘that we are precious and honored in your sight’. And Lord, we ask that you would heal the broken places in our lives. Help us ask for forgiveness from those we’ve hurt of pushed way. And help us to receive your forgiveness most of all. Help us to guard our thoughts carefully and measure our words wisely for out of the overflow of our hearts, our mouths speak. Help us to store up good things – like your Word – in our hearts so that those become the overflow.
Father, today we pray that you would remind us that we are in this together as moms but also together with YOU. We’re not alone because you promised to always be with us. I am looking forward to this day with YOU!
I pray the same is true for my sweet friends and sisters in Christ.
In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Wow! I am amazed at how this video answered some of the questions I posted after the first video. I really heard your post that I am the only one that feels like that. It made me feel good to read other mom’s posts that they feel like the Spiritual Leader of their house. It really validated me when these men said that so often moms are the Spiritual Leader of their house.
Please enter me into the conference ticket give-a-way. Are we able to choose which city?
Wendi
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Good morning…wow….the D6 clips hit it on the head as moms we are “tired, busy, overwhelmed, stressed out, have no private time”. So true.
I look forward to reading this blog and learning ways to share my faith with my kids as I must admit I am very remiss in this area. We attend church regularly etc but I have never been one who is good at ‘talking’ my faith. I am good doing my private bible study etc.. but not good at sharing. Hoping to learn how to be better at that as I know my kids need it
Kim
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WOW!!!! Again, I sat at my computer, crying while I read your post today and watched the video!! I have a tendency to get so busy with homeschooling my kids, running my home, etc., that time with my savior gets shoved farther and farther down the line…..it’s those times that the “numb” feeling creeps in, and I feel as though I can’t go on. Thank you for reminding us that mothering does come from the heart, and our hearts need to be in the right place, the loving hands of our heavenly Father, to mother effectively and pass on spiritual truths to our children.
Wow, Renee, another piece of very powerful video. Thank you for reminding us that we are not alone!!!
As a mother of 4 children (ages 5,4,2, and
9 months) I can relate to feeling exhausted and tired and worn out, not just physically but more so mentally. I yearn to spend quiet time with the Lord and want so much to have time for in-depth Bible study. Most days this is only possible if I squeeze it in at the end of a very busy day, after everything else is done, maybe around 10pm. Thank you for reminding me that I can teach my children best when my own spiritual cup is full!
I shared the last piece of video with my husband and it really spoke to him and I know that this will also be good to share with him. I know he understands that a mother’s job is hard but I think this will also be convicting video for him and will remind him of the type of support I need as a mother and wife. Thank you for sharing this with us and I look forward to the rest of the month!!!
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Oh my sweet sister ~ When God gets through and comes alive in your fingers to stike the keys, He knows what needs to be said! Today’s post nailed it for me! I have been so tired. Emotionally and physically. Praise His name that he has made the way for me to no longer work at a job outside of the home so that I can concentrate on my first priority.
As I prayed this morning my God blessed me with the revelation that I have been trying to do it all in my own strength. A bad habit and ingrained defense mechanism that I have been battling for years. Today I have once again surrendered all to Him. I praise His name that He doesn’t give up on me when I forget to give it all to Him!
Keep up the great work for the Kingdom sister!
I was at that conference.
God used you that weekend to really speak to my heart about what was going on here at our home with our special needs son.
But also helped me through a rough period that I was going through.
I have gone through a few seasons of depression over the last 10 mths.. times when I don’t care/don’t want to do this anymore.
The last time I went through this.. 2 very special ladies took the time to pray me out of this pit of depression.
Do you know.. I felt such a burden lift from me… and the enemy was defeated.
But when I am not in the pit.. being a wife/mom is all I want to be… can’t imagine doing anything else.
I want to be the wife and mom that God wants me to be with His help.
Chrissy Gunning
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Nurturing in faith-with a house ful of teenagers and a life that has hadits fair share of mistakes, I am feeling like a failure in this. Yet this is my priority..these girls on ours. I so want them to value and cherish God. I am discouraged at this moment in this.
In His Graces~Pamela
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Good morning.
I can identify with those women who felt “numb”. There seem to be more and more days where I would think that I could leave and not feel much of anything. You are right…I am one of those who is weary. I have gotten counsel from someone who says I need to change the way I think. I broke down and cried because even though I know it is true, I feel so weary…so tired. It seemed like too much energy to do anything. So I get it. I understand the “war-weary” mom’s. I have my theories on why we are war-weary…but it is good to know that there are some men who are beginning to show an interest.
Relationship? It seems my only relationships have either been unhealthy or with my own family…and have “sucked me dry”. After a while you want to isolate because you don’t want anyone else to ask you to do anything, you’re “all out”.
Rest? Even when I try to rest, I can’t seem to stop my mind from racing through thoughts…all my kid’s problems, people I know sick and dying, others with emotional struggles (like me), and the world itself in tumult. It’s hard to find rest…I think I’ve forgotten what rest feels like.
Yes, we do need help, do-able goals and practical steps…but most of all I need to know (not just with my head) in a tangible way that God is with me…that He is my strength. I need to know that He will bring healthy people into my life to help encourage me. I need to know His love in a way that I have never known…in a way that roots the fear from me and teaches me how to abide in His perfect love. (That sounds like only a dream to me right now.
I don’t want to feel NUMB any more…it scares me that I could feel that way about my family. I don’t want to feel like my only hope is escaping.
May the LORD deliver us!
I just want you to know that this touched my heart. I am a mother of 6 children and while I am not the super mother i love being a mother. I have felt though that I needed to get into other things in life and not spend so much time with my children. I want you to know that this blog and devotion this morning has helped me to see that it is my responsibilty to my children that matter in life and if I continue in the path I am traveling then yes they will perhaps become the people that my God wishes them to be. I thank God that he gave me this responsibility to take care of my children and raise him up in a pattern that he set
Wow, Renee, another piece of very powerful video. Thank you for reminding us that we are not alone!!!
As a mother of 4 children (ages 5,4,2, and
9 months) I can relate to feeling exhausted and tired and worn out, not just physically but more so mentally. I yearn to spend quiet time with the Lord and want so much to have time for in-depth Bible study. Most days this is only possible if I squeeze it in at the end of a very busy day, after everything else is done, maybe around 10pm. Thank you for reminding me that I can teach my children best when my own spiritual cup is full!
I shared the last piece of video with my husband and it really spoke to him and I know that this will also be good to share with him. I know he understands that a mother’s job is hard but I think this will also be convicting video for him and will remind him of the type of support I need as a mother and wife. Thank you for sharing this with us and I look forward to the rest of the month!!!