Top

Renee Swope

Encouraging and equipping moms to parent with God's grace and confidence.

Uniquely You!

Have you ever wondered why you are the way you are or why you do things the way you do? I remember all the way back to Jr. High feeling like I didn’t really like who I was. I’d compare myself to those around me and try to figure out who people liked most, so I could be like them. It was exhausting!

I want to to talk a little more today about something I shared in my devotion, “The Real Me” featured at Proverbs 31 and Crosswalk. The journey God’s taken me on to become the woman He created me to be has totally changed my life, and all of my relationships, for the better. I hope I can encourage you today with somethings I’ve learned.

First of all, comparison can be my worst enemy. My friend Genia summed it up well one day when we were talking about it. She said, “When we compare ourselves with someone else, we can never measure up because we compare our insides with their outsides.”

She’s right. I usually compare how I feel on the inside with how someone else looks like they have it all together on the outside. Paul talks about the comparison trap in 2 Corinthians 10:12, “but when they measure themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are without understanding.”

Comparison leaves us confused and discontent. It causes us to compete with each other but God never intended for women to compete with each other; He wants us to complete one another. Seriously, He wants us to encourage each others’ strengths and then be who He created us to be.

Paul explains why in 1 Corinthians 12:18-20, “But now God has placed the parts, each one of them in the body just as He wanted. And if they were all the same part, where would the body be? Now there are many parts, yet one body.”

The truth is: You are uniquely you because God has a unique purpose for your life. God created you with a unique personality because you play an important role in the story He’s writing in your life. You are “God’s masterpiece…created anew in Christ so that [you] can do the good things He planned for [you] long ago.” Ephesians 2:10, (NLT)

There are certain thing He wants to do through your life and that is why He gave you a personality that is one-of-a-kind! In her book, Personality Plus, Florence Littauer describes four personality types. Most of us are a blend of two. See if you can relate to the desires and emotional needs of one or two of these:

Phlegmatic: Desires PEACE
Needs times of quiet, reduced stress, feeling of worth, relaxation

Choleric: Desires CONTROL
Needs appreciation for achievements, opportunity for leadership, and participation in decisions

Sanguine: Desires FUN
Needs attention, affection, approval, activity with people

Melancholy: Desire PERFECTION
Needs sensitivity, stability, support, space, silence

  • Which personality best describes you?
  • What are your greatest strengths? What are things you think you need to work on?
  • What challenges do you face in discovering your unique “you”?

Click on the word “Comments” below to share thoughts or questions. If you don’t have a blog, click on anonymous, then leave your name and email to be part of a drawing I’ll do this weekend to give away a copy of “Shaped with Purpose : A Practical Guide for Discovering Who You Are” Workbook and CD.

Each comment will be entered for the give-away so be sure to include your email in your comment, and I’d love to know your age and where you’re from.

Discover more from Renee Swope

Subscribe to get the latest posts sent to your email.

Comments

  1. Dear Renee,

    I'm 36 and though I think I know my purpose or at least I know "my" purpose for me, I think it's time to find out what God's purpose is for me.
    I fit into the personality type of melancholy, and desiring perfection for myself is tiring.
    I really enjoyed your blog today because it fits right into where my thoughts are right now in finding out what God's purpose is for me and how He wants to use me for His purpose.

    Sincerely,
    Crystal

  2. This is an issue I struggle with quite a bit. I'm 34 and a new mommy. I know being a mommy is one of my purposes, and I love my career, but my "me time" is non-existant. When I was younger I wanted to be so many things – an artist, a gardener, an executive, etc. I often wonder where my passion went and what my hobbies are besides cleaning and paying bills. I need to ask God for guidance to find balance. Thank you for this post!
    [email protected]

  3. Hi,
    I am also reading Cure for the Common Life by Max Luccado which also addresses God's unique design for you. I am a teacher and I not only try to see my uniqueness but also my students' and my childrens. Thank you for your message, it was validating and unlifting! I think this journey is ongoing on refining who you are in God's beautiful plan.

  4. I am a 42 yr old wife and homeschooling mother. One child is a young adult in college, the other is a 12 yr old and still at home. I do have dreams that surface from time to time, but those dreams seem to get buried under the busyness of taking care of my family (and aging parents).
    I have been struggling with this very issue for some time. Funny how the enemy can almost convince me that it's only me. Well, as I've read through all these many comments, I'm clearly not alone!
    Recently, I asked the Lord to please point me in the right direction toward fulfilling His dreams for me and He directed me toward this Bible Verse: "He hath shewed thee, O man (or O woman in my case), what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?" Micah 6:8
    So, I am now asking God for daily opportunities to show mercy, to live justly, and to walk humbly wherever He'd have me to go. It may be on an overseas mission trip, or across the street to my neighbor's. I know if I am faithful in the little things, He will unfold bigger dreams and plans for me in His time. But today, I can praise Him for already fulfilling one dream, and that is of my entire family serving the Lord!

    Be blessed!

  5. I had not really thought about this topic before. It was quite an eye opener and one that has now caught my attention. I look forward to finding out more about "me"!! [email protected]

  7. Renee – I am fairly positive you must have crawled inside my thoughts and written this devotion from my own perspective. I am 32 years old in a job I don't like at a company I LOVE and am still trying to figure out who I am and what to be when I grow up! God created me to be his precious daughter despite my own perceived imperfections. Even in looking at the personality types listed in your devotion I was thinking, "Well, I'm some of this but some of that too." Ack! Thank you for your inspiring message. I am going to look up the resources you listed to see what God has in store for me. 🙂 Thank you again for this precious message.

    Brenna Smith
    [email protected]

  8. Thank You! This so touched my heart today, I am 53, a mother of eight and a grandmother of 9 soon to be ten grandchildren. I have lived my life for my children and so struggle with who I am and what my dreams are. I have defined myself as a mom and as a grandma but i feel God has more for me. I just wish I felt I had some clue what that was. Thank you again for the encouragement. God bless!

  9. Wow. Thank you for speaking to my heart today. I have never left a comment on a blog before, but at 49 am still learning and trying things — although I still don't know what I wanna be when I grow up. Thank you for the encouragement. After reading through other comments I can see that I'm not alone.

  10. Wow. Thank you for speaking to my heart today. I have never left a comment on a blog before — and at 49 still don't know what I wanna be when I grow up. Thank you for the encouragement. After reading through the other comments I can see that I'm not alone.

  11. I have really been trying to figure out what God wants me to do with my life. I am 29 years old and went back to school after I had my first child. I have changed my major more times than I can count, all because I have not truly found my calling yet. I wondered if you could share the titles of those books you mentioned? I truly hope that everyone who has commented on your devotion today gets the answers they are praying for. I know that God has a purpous for my life and that I am uniquely gifted in some way, I just have not been shown what that way is yet. I pray that I find out before graduation… =)

  12. As I sat and read this this morning I know that it was perfect timing and of course it would be because God is perfect. He knew I'd would need this at this moment. This my second attempt to comment because for some reason I lost my first draft. I am struggling in my marriage right now of 23 years. My husband and I married young. We have 4 boys.I am 42.
    I wonder at times of discord how would I support my famly if something were to happen to my husband, God forbid,I know God will provide. Is there something that I should be doing or could have done to be somewhat prepared for such an event. I have been a stay at home mom for the most of our marriage which has been a blessing. I have attended some college courses here and there but never attained a degree. I'm getting to a point where I am tired of being fearful and not knowing who I am and when I do find out will the people in my life accept or reject me because I'd be different. I love my husband but I'm struggling to trust. We have been through so much. I think a big part of the struggle is because I don't know who I am.
    Today I begin to pray that God reveals what it is I am to do. To reveal what my true dream is and the freedom and courage to carry it out.
    Thank you for your sharing your knowledge of how God has used you and is using you in the lives of others.

  13. I turned 48 years old today. I'm a mother of 3 (ages 24, 21, and 17), grandmother to 1.
    Great devotion. It made me think that I truly dont' know myself. I'm so busy all the time helping and listening to other people I dont take the time for myself.
    Dont know if I ever will.

  14. Thanks so much for your devotion today Renee! It spoke to my heart as it has done with so many people here! It is comforting to know that I am not alone in this journey of finding out who I am in Christ!

    Jennifer, 39 yrs

    [email protected]

  15. Your devotional today met me where I am. I have struggled for so long over "who I'm gonna be when I grow up." I am about to turn 40 and feel that I am finally growing comfortable with who I am, yet there are still many questions about exactly what I am supposed to be doing, as far as using my gifts and talents for the Lord. I am a wife and mother, which was a major part of my dreams as a child, but I desire also to have defined my "own" special calling. I am thankful to have seen the Lord working in my life through the years, and I know He will continue to do so. Thank you for the encouragement.

    [My name is Tina and my email address is [email protected]]

  16. Isn't truly amazing how these devotionals ALWAYS seem to be what we need to hear from God each and everyday. I must say that at times I also struggle with this in my life. I am 39 turning 40 and I feel like I have lived 1/2 my life and I'm still not sure where God is taking me. I struggle with this because I have 3 daughters and feel like I should be more of a model or example to them but if I were to be completely honest I am still looking for that "thing" that lights up everything in my heart with passion. This last Sunday the sermon was about "Jesus is close so hold on–Don't let the Dream Die" I was amazed at how God spoke to me through this sermon. When we had our alter call my soul and spirit were rejoiced but my brain was confused becuase I couldn't understand what was going on…it's like they knew something is going to occur in my life but my brain was waiting to get the message. Has anyone ever experienced something like this?

    Thank you Renee for speaking (writing) to us from your heart!!!! May God continue to bless everything you touch.

    In Christ Service and yours,
    Silvia from South Florida ([email protected])

  17. wow … i'm 43, thought I'd be a stay-at-home mom of a few children by now (we'd talked of 3 or more…!), maybe even looking at colleges for the oldest by now … shoot! My Mom became an empty-nester @ 40 and Grandma a few days shy of her 42nd birthday! sigh… but God's given my hubby and I 4 boys of the feline kind and "adopted" kids in our church (some even call us uncle and aunt!). But then you mentioned in the devotional "I was also a constant candidate for burn out." … and that's what I feel LOTS of times … and what in the world does GOd really want me to do?! Tho I feel i'm where I'm suppose to be in the jobs & ministry I have, there's still been something "off" or missing … thank you for sharing and giving guidance to find out who God's really made me and each of us ladies!

    Thank you for sharing!
    Su, Austin, TX
    [email protected]

  18. I was just crying about this same thing this week. I am a 33 yr old mother of 2 and attending CCU at night for my teaching degree, while working part time at my church. During class Monday night we took a "smarts" test and out of the 8 smarts tested, I scored lowest in knowing myself. I have always placed everyone else's needs and desires before my own. I have always believed it best to strive for humility and always with a servant heart. In the process I have neglected self and now I have no idea what my dreams are. I can never make up my mind about anything and I always wait for someone else to tell me what to do. I have never been confident in who I am, though I strive to be Christ-like always. For the first time in my life I made a choice for myself and went back to college again to get my elementary teaching license. I want to be confident that this is going to be me, but I'm scared.

    I really needed today's devotion, and I almost skipped taking the time to read it! I would've missed out greatly in what God was trying to tell me! Thank you! Thank you for being obedient to God's leading in your service. It is obvious that so many of us needed to hear this today!! I pray that each one of us women will take some time to allow God to tell us His dreams for us. I pray we will embrace them and go for it under God's leading!

    Bless you Renee!
    Love, Christina -GJ, CO
    [email protected]

  20. Renee;
    Thank you for your devotional. I am just coming out of a very stressful and depressing time in my life. I have realized that for, at least the last 33 years, I have been trying to find my significance in other people – most specifically, my family.

    Having realized this I know I need to find out how to be "uniquely me". I read your online devotional this morning, thankful that God is helping me to become who He wants me to be but sometimes not knowing who it is that He made me to be. Does that make sense?

    My prayer, recently, has been that God would help me to love Him with all my heart (affections and loyalties), all my soul (my "self" and my will), all of my strength (physical activities and fortitude) and my mind (intellect/my thoughts).

    May I share a recent experience I have had? I was having a quiet time with the Lord one morning when I began to sense His Presence in a way I have never felt before. Whenever I have felt His Presence near me it has been a wonderful experience, but this time was different – more wonderfully sweet, if you will. I wasn't quite sure what was happening so I said, "Lord, I have experienced Your Presence before but this is different. What is the difference?" His response to me was, "Child, I have you in my lap and I am hugging you!"
    God is so good!!

    Thank you for being obedient to God and allowing Him to work and speak through you.

Uniquely You

My devotion “The Real Me” is featured today at Proverbs 31 website and Crosswalk. If you found my blog through my devotion, I am so glad you stopped by. The journey God’s taken me on to become the woman He created me to be has totally changed my life – and all of my relationships – for the better. I hope I can encourage you with what I’ve learned.

Have you ever wondered why you are the way you are, or why you do things the way you do? From the time I was in Jr. High, I didn’t really like who I was, so I compared myself to those around me and tried to figure out who people liked the most, so I could be like them. It was exhausting!

I am convinced that comparison is our worst enemy. My friend Genia summed it up best when she said, “When I compare myself with someone else, I can never measure up because I am comparing my insides with their outsides.” Isn’t it easy to compare how we feel on the inside with how someone else looks like they have it all together on the outside? Paul talks about the comparison trap in 2 Corinthians 10:12, “but when they measure themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are without understanding.”

Comparison leaves us confused and discontent. It causes us to compete with each other but no one wins! God never intended for women to compete with each other; He wants us to complete one another. We need to encourage each other’s strengths and be who God created us to be. Paul explains why in 1 Corinthians 12:18-20, “But now God has placed the parts, each one of them in the body just as He wanted. And if they were all the same part, where would the body be? Now there are many parts, yet one body.”

You are uniquely you for your unique God-shaped purpose. We are all “God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ so that we can do the good things He planned for us long ago.”Ephesians 2:10, (NLT) God created you with a unique personality because you play an important role in the story He’s been writing since the beginning of time. There are certain thing He wants to do through your life and that is why He gave you a personality that is one-of-a-kind!

In her book, Personality Plus, Florence Littauer describes four personality types. See if you can relate to the desires and emotional needs of one or two of these:

Phlegmatic: Desires PEACE
Needs times of quiet, reduced stress, feeling of worth, relaxation

Choleric: Desires CONTROL
Needs appreciation for achievements, opportunity for leadership, and participation in decisions

Sanguine: Desires FUN
Needs attention, affection, approval, activity with people

Melancholy: Desires PERFECTION
Needs sensitivity, stability, support, space, silence

  • Which personality best describes you?
  • What are your greatest strengths? What are things you think you need to work on?
  • What challenges do you face in discovering your unique “you”?

Click on the word “Comments” below to share thoughts or questions. Or simply leave your name and email to be part of a drawing I’ll do this weekend to give away a copy of my CD and Workbook, Shaped with Purpose: A Practice Guide for Discovering Who You Are.

Each comment will be entered for the give-away so be sure to include your email.

Discover more from Renee Swope

Subscribe to get the latest posts sent to your email.

Comments

  1. Hi Renee,
    Thank you for your obedience to the Lord. I really needed that message. I was sitting here feeling “down” – feeling burnt out. I have been running from pillar to post doing things because I feel I have to and not necessarily because I want to. Trying to please my husband, the pastor, the church, etc.
    I need to find out who I am – have just turned 47 and still don’t know what I like doing!
    Think I’m a mixture of Phlegmatic and melancholy.
    Thanks your your message.
    Linda

  2. Renee,
    I want to be used by God so bad and lately God has really been working with me. I have been praying somewhat to be refined by the fire, but I am afraid of what that means. However, I know that God will make me stronger through that process and that my faith will be developed even more than what it is now. I have a heart for young girls ministry and to let them know the importance of having a passion for purity. I have made some mistakes in my life and I want them to understand that there are consequences to every action whether good or bad. I felt called to the ministry when I was in high school and I have a degree in religion from a Christian college, however, I am working full time at a bank. Any advice on that?
    Jennifer

  3. The last week’s devotions have really hit home w/ me, and this one, Renee, hit like a ton of bricks. I’m so lost, wandering through this world feeling defeated and wasted. I had dreams–a long time ago. Unfortunately, my number one dream of a happy marriage with a houseful of children hasn’t turned out like I dreamed. I have the houseful of children, but my marriage isn’t good at all, and the anger I carry around because of it makes me a snappy mother. My other dream of singing was dashed because I chose to follow my heart and be with this man. If I were thinking correctly, if he loved me unselfishly, he would’ve supported my decision to at least try all those years ago. He didn’t and he never will. Oh, well. I’ve been praying earnestly for the past weeks for God to show me the way. Anyone reading this–please pray for me–I want so much for my life to bring glory to God.

  4. Thanks for the great article! I’m a SAHM and have been struggling with finding the “real” me for a while. I do have a dream of going to college and getting a degree, but have no idea what I would study even if I did! LOL I know God has a unique purpose for me. Just still trying to figure out what that is! Thanks for understanding and letting me know I’m not alone.

  5. Amazing! I was just asked this question yesterday! “If money, time and talent were no object, what would you be?”. I have no idea! I definitey need to look into this during my devotional time.

    francess @ [email protected]

  6. Dear Renee,
    I enjoyed reading your article. It hit right at home. I am always trying to please others before myself. I know that is not a bad thing but you are right, it does hold you back from accomplishing God’s goals for you. I know you probably can’t write back to everyone who commented but I was just wondering what some of those books were that you read to help you figure out who you are? Thanks and God Bless
    [email protected]

  7. Renee…remember your post from Thursday? Your totally rotten, forgotten day? Well…you certainly aren’t forgotten now! Can’t help but think this morning that God was preparing you and calling you to trust Him with all that He was and is about to do with and in your life as you open yourself up and became real with so many ladies. Thursday you could only see the moment – but look what lay ahead. Renee – 200 comments and still growing!!! Did you even imagine such a response? God does beyond what we hope or imagine! Oh my goodness my friend, you have not been forgotten.
    “JOY MAY SEEM TO PAUSE AS GRIEF TAKES ITS COURSE, BUT THOSE WHOSE BROKEN HEARTS ARE BOUND BY HIM WILL EXPERIENCE IT AGAIN.” Beth Moore (sound familiar?)
    Praying for you as you process through these responses and as you seek God in where to go next.
    Love & prayers,
    Joy

  8. Grace & Peace Renee, as i read today’s encouragement, it tore me up on the inside. I am 37 yrs old, a mother of 3 daughters and married for 7 yrs. I’ve been battling in my marriage for the past 2 yrs with infidelity on my husband’s part. Prior to my latest pain, I’ve always been an introvert, unable to express myself openly due to fear of being hurt or looked upon as stupid. The journey of finding myself/purpose has been the hardest. So hard that I have lived for the sake of others and sacrificing my own peace. Smiling on the outside and dying on the inside. This morning my heart is so broken. I sleep with a liar every night who tells me he loves me, but behind my back he’s a wolf in sheep’s clothing. I want to leave, I feel bound and hindered daily. It’s a daily thorn that pierces my heart. On top of it, we both are spiritual leaders in the church. I deal with women daily who are stuck on unhealthy relationships. How can I assist in their liberation if I myself feel imprisoned? I know God is with me, but sometimes I feel so alone and I’m tired of crying. All of my life, I’ve experienced pain and disappointment. I don’t want to follow this pain anymore. I need deliverance. Please pray for my deliverance.

  9. The article you wrote concerning uniquely you really hit a home with me. I have been praying wanting to know what God wanted me to do for him what I could do for him. I am 38 years old and not well versed in the word so I feel like a fish out of water. I have really started studing the word daily and noticed the differece in the way I feel about myself and my relationship with God. I know I am here for a reason but I just don’t know what. Then here comes your article. Thanks so much for the encouraging words and the references information I can refer to for help. Keep up the good work. You have found your calling from God and he is definently working through you.
    Angie Owen

  10. Renee,
    The quote that struck me the most from your Ps. 31 devotional was, “Isn’t it easy to completely neglect ourselves to meet the needs of everyone around us, and call it self-sacrifice?” Alright, you can get off my baby toe now:)

    I went to prayer last week at church and spoke with my pastor and an elder. The elder had a word for me “rest”. “Rest” I thought, I get plenty of that! He did not mean physical rest but spiritual rest in the Lord. I began to realize that my life is so full of “stuff” that I have very little time to “be still” much less “rest”.

    He also asked me a poignant question which relates directly to your Ps. 31 & blog topic. Do you ever take time for yourself, or what do you do for yourself? My answer was nothing! Nothing? Nothing!

    I am the mother of 3 daughters
    (14, 11, 7), and my husband is disabled at 48. I am also a 3rd grade teacher and work 3 part-time jobs just to make ends meet.

    My role has changed drastically within the last year. My husband and I closed our 7-year-old business that was very profitable. I am now the breadwinner, mother, wife, caregiver, and I could go on and on.

    I now know that the self-sacrificing role I’ve been playing is not sacrifice but martyrdom. When we are a martyr we die for something or someone else. I am literally dying for my family and my jobs! Not only am I losing myself, but the very people I am a martyr for are becoming a burden to me because I feel I have no life, no outlet, nothing:(

    YES, today I WILL use that gift certificate to get my nails done! YES, I will play Bunko with my friends the next time I call! YES, I will take my girls to the park and play! YES, I will spend time with my heavenly Father, so I can experience spiritual rest…real rest:)

    BTW (by the way, sorry I have a teenager), I can really relate to the peace and control personalities & will be purchasing the book and actually read it!

    Sheri
    Macon, GA
    [email protected]

  11. I have been praying and praying about just this! I wrote the prayer from Prov31Devotions so I can repeat it again and again. I actually strayed away from praying for this because I “got busy”. Reading your blog today is God’s way of bringing me back. I do have dreams and goals. I am just praying for my talents/gifts to come to light. I do not understand what His plan is for me. I sooo desire to know. Thanks Renee!
    [email protected]

  12. Thank you for your words – I came across them in the Proverbs 31 devotional. For several years now, I have continually felt like I was in that group, anxious about having to give an answer to the question of what I am passionate about in this life. I have longed for a passion and asked God for one many times. I am waiting for that answer and willing to do whatever I can to discover it. When I read your article, I felt a small sense of relief because I don’t know anyone else like me who loves God but at the same time is floundering to find her way. It’s encouraging to see that someone has come out of that kind of season victorious. Again, thank you, Amy – [email protected]

  13. Hello Renee, or i have to say hola…I am from Argentina, and here are 3:00 pm and I read the devotional of today and I sometimes or almost everydays asked to me the same and If that I studied today is that God real want for me. Thanks for your love and your time.My email is [email protected]

  16. While reading your devotional, I totally could relate. There are things i would like to do as hobbies and maybe a career. But i don’t know who I am or what God created me to be. i am person pleaser and think that’s just what i’m suppose to do. But i too feel unhappy no matter what i think i want, i get burned out real fast too. I desire to know what God created me for and looking at the personality types I am the sanguine(oh forgot how to spell it) I like to have FUN!!! I desperately seek approval and desire attention.
    here’s my email address
    [email protected]

  17. Renee,

    What a beautiful way to put the real me…. Currently, my life and carrer is changing direction.
    Since having burnout from 14 years of being a coordinator for infant/toddler programs, I took a year off. It gave me time to build a closer relationship with God, work on my home based business and to just learn more about myself.
    ~~Don’t get me wrong some days I still question “Is this for me Lord” “What is it that you have planned for my life?” Since starting out on this journey, I have not always been listening, some days a nap would be better and other days I just surrender to His goodness. Deep down I have always wanted to speak, show everyone the town by having my own travel show, act, sing(even though everyone may cover their ears)and help those in need.
    After sharing my story about being in a controlling and mentally abusive relationship that ended 15 years ago, God has been whispering to me to take a step and help those girls/women. Others have said really, more need to know about this or I just wish my daughter knew how to have a healthy realtionship while dating.
    Where ever he leads I will follow.
    It will not always be easy but He is the master planner for us all.

    with blessings,
    Rachel
    [email protected]

  18. Hello Renee,
    I just finished dinner and decided to read my email. My sister in law Sandra is just a joy. She is always thinking of me. I never would’ve thought prior to reading all the comments on your blog, all the women who were reading my thoughts and putting it down for me. I hardly ever consider what I want out of life.. other than being a good wife and mother. I have been through alot in my life, and the LORD has always brought me through to the other side. My mother was an alcoholic, and passed away at 40 due to the disease. My sister is now following in her footsteps at 50. I have 3 beautiful children and a pretty nice husband.. been married now for 23 yrs this march. I often wondered what else I was suppose to be doing with my life besides, being mom and wife.I go to work everyday,helping others and trying to be a blessings to others..I often keep in mind.. GOD is watching, does he approve?? is this pleasing in HIS sight? I always try to be the peace maker. I have always done this. Growing up with alot of siblings, it was hard. There was alot of sadness and pain. I made a decision while. I was quite young, not to let alcohol take over my life. My mother was always sad…working hard to care for her children by herself. I really dont stop to consider what my dreams in life are very often. I am just going through my day. I do know that I have a desire to write a book about my life with my family, growing up…. just not sure how to get started. I truly want to be the woman GOD desires for me to be. I often think I get in HIS way. I hope I can stay out of HIS way long enough so I can what HE wants me to/be… Thank you for these questions… I believe I am a little of all 4 personalities and that’s ok…. He is showing me. I look forward to reading your book/and hearing you cd. Thank you for your website. I will come back to it often. Sincerely, Regina, Sister in Christ since childhood.

  20. Dear Renee,

    funny I have been wondering that very question all of my life, iknow I ahve wanted to make a difference however i spend most of my time wondering,ha i have loads of stories that are quiet unique that I just seem to fall into however the end is always the same because i am never quiet sure what to do with it or where to go with it.”The Real Me” who is that?
    Thank you for your insight.