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Renee Swope

Encouraging and equipping moms to parent with God's grace and confidence.

She Smiles at the Future

I’m trying hard to be brave this week and smile at the possibility of what each day may bring, although the past several days have not brought what I wanted. I have to admit, having a baby and having a mom who needs me so much has made me wonder about God’s timing of all that is going on.

I’ve wanted to be strong, although I am weary. I’ve wanted to be available although I’m pulled in so many directions. I’ve wanted mom to see me confident in God’s plans and trusting in His promises, although I’ve had my own set of questions and doubts. I’ve wanted to be gracious so she doesn’t ever feel like a burden. And I’ve wanted to be calm so she doesn’t worry about us worrying about her.

I thought it would be so much easier being out of the hospital. Physically it is, because we’re all at home. But emotionally it’s been a hard week for mom. She thought she’d be so much better by now.

On Wednesday mom did too much and ended up with a racing heart beat of 115. Even after resting for an hour it was 108 and she felt really sick! I ended up taking her to the ER that night. All they could find was a urinary tract infection so they put her on a new antibiotic and sent us home, at 3am.

This morning we’re heading to the hospital at 7:30 to get her prepared for her surgery at 9:30 to remove her kidney stone and stint. There are risks but it has to come out. We’re praying she won’t develop any clots in her legs (or anywhere) during surgery and she won’t have any problems with bleeding since she’s on Coumadin, a blood thinner.

The thought of it all makes my head spin a little. I know you probably have hard things going on, too, and may be wondering why God would give you so much to process at the same time. I’m praying for each of you that stops by, and those who shared requests in my last post.

This week God has taught me the power of trusting His plans that don’t make sense. You see, each day I look into the eyes of a baby girl I didn’t want at one point, because I didn’t think I could handle it. The thought of starting over as a mom at 43 with two teen/tween boys who occupy so much of my heart and my days was a bit overwhelming. But my heart rushes with gratefulness that God convinced me to trust Him.

He has helped me smile at the future – whatever it holds – by giving me the smile of a little girl who almost didn’t have a future. The sweetest, funniest, most happy little girl in the world.

As hard as it is to be a mommy of an infant while also taking care of my 73-year-old mom, I’m so glad that, in His wisdom, God knew there would be blessing in the burden when He gave us the joy Aster brings to our lives each day!

I wish you could meet her. If you were here, she’d be so excited to see you. She gets this excited every day, about something or somebody.
She’d give you a hug! Every morning she reaches out to give us each a squeeze.
Then she’d sit in your lap and do something silly. And looking at those bright eyes and silly grin, you couldn’t help but laugh at the day ahead!

Aster reminds us all of the strength God provides for those who are weak, the dignity He offers for those who are low, and the assurance of His goodness and mercy to follow us, because we choose to trust and follow HIM!

Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future. Proverbs 31:25

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  1. Praying for you and your mom. I'm so sorry you have so much to juggle right now. I know it's hard. I was shedding a few tears this morning as I remembered the days of my mom being in the hospital (she broke her hip and had continued health problems for many years)when I had an infant. It feels as if the rest of the world is oblivious to your situation. But He is not. May His comfort and grace surround you today and through this special season.
    Blessings,
    Ann

  2. Reading your Blog and understanding how hard that it is. We have had multiply immediate family members in the hospital all at the same time and at the same time trying to hold down a full time job and be a mom to a college student and a high school junior. Wondering why God would throw so many bad things at us all at one time. So maybe your life is so complicated at the moment, just so I would read it and know that it isn't just our family. I love seeing the pictures and hearing about your family. Hang in there. Enjoy those smiles and cuddles and be sure to continue to share them with us thru your blog.

    Lisa Bunner – Elizabeth, WV

  3. Hi Renee,

    I've been following your journey of the heart more closely since Aster has arrived. I must say that even though times are tough right now, I think it is so "Just Like God" to encourage you each day through the presence and joy of baby Aster. What a blessing in the midst of heavy loads. From the P31conference, it's simply RemarkABLE. 🙂

    Praying for and with you,
    Sanya

  4. Renee, I love your words and the pictures too. As I read your post I thought of Aster's name – though you didn't see it coming and it is hard, she was put in your life for such a time as this. Thankful she is bringing joy to your days and providing another area of focus – even though those little ones can be demanding, they teach us and remind us of so much. Keep taking one step at a time, He's walking with you and I'm praying for you, your mom and all involved. Love, Jill

  5. God never puts more on us than we can bare. God will take care of you and give yu the physical and mental strength you need.

  7. My babies were just two and three when our family packed up everything and moved in with my husband's grandmother who had just lost her husband. That was Feb 2008. So for almost 2 yrs. I have been balancing preschoolers with caring for an elderly person in POOR health. It's the most challenging, s-t-r-e-t-c-h-i-n-g thing God has ever allowed in my life. It's HARD. I will be praying for you and your family as you learn to balance both ends of the care-taking spectrum. GOD is GOOD. and thanks for the verse– I needed to be reminded to "smile at the future."

  8. Aster looks absolutely adorable sitting on sweet Sylvia's lap. What a special moment for all of you has you celebrate Aster's #1 birthday. I know she has brought your family SO much joy and created a beautiful space in your heart that you didn't even know existed.

    Love you!
    Leah

  9. Good Morning Renee. As I read through your post I wanted to be able to leave you words of encouragement. Funny thing was, when I came to the end, I realized you had written your own best encouragement! I've had that happen a few times and it usually makes me smile that my written view of my situation is so full of hope, smiles and encouragement and completely opposite of what my mouth or head may be saying. So my encouragement for you during the coming days, re-read your post, it's a beautiful, strong and smile filled view of your life right now, and best of all it's your own point of view!! Love to you! Jill

  12. Loved this post Renee– thanks for sharing pictures. Can't believe I haven't seen Aster yet!!

    Just remember "Do the next thing."

    And another one that helps me: "This too shall pass."

    Praying today goes well.

  13. Oh Renee. Please know I have already prayed for you. I'm sick today…taking care of two little ones…so I will be lounging around…. and as I do so, I'll be praying for you and your Mother 🙂

    Hugs to you,
    Kate

  14. I remember you praying for Aster's hugs and smiles to flow freely when you first went to get her. And now just look at the joy on her face. So glad you have her sunshine in the midst of all of the storms of right now.

    Sweet Renee, I am praying for your mom today. AND I am praying for you. That you would be able to relax in His embrace. You do not have to keep it all together…not even for the sake of His name. Through your weaknesses He will be shown strong. You glorify Him in all that you say and do. I love that you are honest when things are too tough for you, cause we all face things that are too hard. And we need to know that God is indeed enough. And you always show that He is.

    Okay…that's way long for a day when you certainly don't have time to read.
    Love you,
    K

  15. I thought God sent you Aster so you could love her and minister to her. Now I think it might be the other way around. Praying for you as you navigate these difficult, tiring waters. So glad that Aster is there to make you smile. Watching the transformation in her countenance from the pictures you first posted until now is wonderful. What a testimony to the transforming power of love.

    Praying for you mom and her surgery. She's blessed to have such an attentive daughter at her side.

  16. She is precious. I am thankful you trusted the Lord. I will be praying for your mother, doctors and you and your family>
    Angela

  18. Renee, I am not unfamiliar with your struggle. Visiting dad daily in the hospital for 8 months and trying to be a great mom and a attentive wife all became a blur. Now that he's home, it is more convenient, but both mom and dad still require time and care. I honestly don't know how I would have handled it with an infant. May the Lord continue to carry you. I know He does.

    I too am leaving shortly for the hospital to sit with my sister while her husband undergoes surgery. It is scheduled for the exact same time as your mom's. I will be praying for you and your mom as I remember my family. So thankful that God can handle looking after two of His children having surgery at the same time and His presence be with us both.

    Hugs to you this day,
    Joy