There is a longing in the heart of every girl.
A longing to be wanted and pursued.
Each night when I pray for my beautiful girl, I want her to hear me thanking God for who she is and for the gift of being her mom! I want her to know she is wanted and valued. That I miss her when we’re not together. I want her to know she’s not a side-item on my very full plate, but she is my heart’s delight and dessert! And you know what? She’s thinks I’m pretty amazing too?
Well… at least for now.
But I’ve been a mommy before. And I know a day is coming when there will be competition for my girl’s attention.
More than me. More than her daddy. More than her big brothers. One day Aster is going to want a guy to want her, to pursue her, to choose her.
And when it happens, I don’t want to panic and wish I could do something to get her to stop chasing after some guy, hoping he’ll notice her. I want her to know…
She’s already been noticed.
She’s already captured Someone’s heart.
She’s already being pursued.
And even though Aster is only five and a half years old, I’m realizing that now is the time for me to start planting these truths in her heart. But it wasn’t until I read my friend Lynn Cowell’s new book “Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants,“ that I realized I needed help to get started.
Lynn’s new book is for girls (and their moms) to walk alongside and help them discover how to become the best version of the beautiful girl God created her to be. There is so much I love about this message. And that is why I wanted to share with you an excerpt from Chapter One today {and I’ve got 3 copies to give away too!}:
“Why doesn’t he like me? I just couldn’t figure it out.
What is it about me that isn’t as attractive as her? Am I not as pretty? Am I too loud? Are my friends not cool enough? The questions gnawed at me, eating away at my confidence. He had liked me once,; surely I could get him to like me again. There had to be a way.
I was determined to find out what was wrong with me.
Back in my own “wish I were dating” days, my highs and lows depended on whether or not I saw him in the hall; my happiness was determined by whether or not he noticed me. The crush I had was crushing me.
I wish there had been someone who could have helped me…someone who could have helped me understand that the longing in my heart pointed not to my need for a guy, but to my deeper need for something, Someone, even greater.
How I wish I had known sooner that I was created to be loved perfectly and unconditionally, made to have my heart filled each and every day with love from the perfect Man – Jesus.
Then I could have spent my time, energy, and emotions, not on a guy I didn’t have, but on the One I did. I could have moved from obsessing over why I wasn’t wanted to becoming the type of girl a godly guy would want. Not just someone to date but someone he’d want to spend the rest of his life with.
I remember making the list, a gargantuan description of everything I was looking for in the guy I would marry one day. The more powerful list would have described the woman I wanted to become, the woman he couldn’t resist!
What would happen if you made the switch now? Shifted your focus off a guy and onto the Guy?
What if, together, we discovered an irresistible beauty deeper than designer clothes, jean sizes, and flaw-free skin? A confidence so attractive, nothing could cause us to lose it? A glamour simply magnetic?
In my quest to discover true beauty, I began to see gorgeous as much more than the face in my mirror. Gorgeous is not skin-deep but heart-deep, a beauty that develops as my heart discovers and returns True Love.
This beauty, this attractiveness, is found in the girl who has what I call “captivating characteristics”—what the Bible calls “the fruit of the Spirit.” These heart traits are described in Galatians 5:22–23: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
These magnetic traits are the result, or fruit, of the girl who has given her entire life to Jesus. The girl who spends her emotional energy allowing Him to live His life through her.
But, you don’t have to burn yourself out trying to become perfect. These gorgeous qualities will show up as you spend time with God and He pours His perspective into you!
When you’re “planted” in God, He provides all you need to reach your full potential—to be the best you you can be!
And, instead of chasing after the guy running from you, you’re pursuing the One coming after you. In the process of seeking His heart, you’ll become the amazing individual He designed you to be, a girl who is irresistibly magnetic, beautiful inside and out!
ENTER TO WIN:
Packed with honesty, encouragement and perspective-changing Magnetic, truth by Lynn Cowell,(available at Amazon, B&N, CBD, everywhere books are sold), will empower girls and young woman to reach their fullest potential by focusing on becoming who God made them to be! A girl who reflects God’s love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. A girl who will attract the right type of guy one day: one who loves God with all his heart and who will cherish her!
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Lynn Cowell is a Proverbs 31 speaker and the author of several books including “Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants”. Her passion is to empower wise women to raise wiser daughters. Her husband and their three children live in North Carolina where they love to hike, raft and enjoy anything that includes chocolate and peanut butter!
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I so wish that I would have had this book to read years ago as a teen and even with my daughters. My oldest is in her 20s and the youngest just went to college she is 18. But I would love to still have a copy of this book to share with them and with other young girls… I work with the 6th grade and our youth at church…
I wish…cam only go forward now …differently
I truly believe the most precious gift we can pass on to the girls in our life is to teach them to see who they are in Christ. When we get our eyes off of the World’s definition of beauty and focus on the truth of God’s Word- it is life-changing. Then we are free to share His love with others!
You are so right, Susan! Knowing who they are in Christ gives them confidence. It is from this confidence they can love others.
I wish I had this book when I was a teenager, I wish I knew the Lord when I was a teen. Sometimes I think if I had these things maybe I wouldn’t have made certain choices I made. I would love to win this book. I can see myself and my 8 year old (2nd child but the oldest of three girls) cuddled up reading chapter by chapter right before bed, then praying all these things for her. I don’t want my kids to make those same decisions I made and think they need the love of another to made whole and need to be seen by the opposite sex to have value. When God sees them and values them, they are princes and princesses of a King!
I wish I had known how important to God I was. Then I wouldn’t have needed to strive so hard to please a boy. I have 2 teenage daughters – This book would be a great resource!
If I had wisdom to pass on to my granddaughter is love God with all your heart and run every decision your about to make by God. Thank you for your book and all the P31 books. They have helped me so much, I wish I had known what I have learned when I was still a child. Love you.
Oh how I wish when I was a teenager that I knew how truly loved and special I was. But instead I believed so many of the lies and insecurities that were around me. I was hurt and damaged for many years. I never want my daughter’s to go experience the things I did when it came to getting boyfriends and how I looked at myself.
I wish I had realized not all attention is good attention.
Wow, this book seems to be very interesting. Even though I don’t have a daughter, I could give this book to my 3 nieces who could learn so much about loving themselves and loving God. I wish as a young girl growing up, I would have had a book like this one to read. In today’s time there are so many good books that are written based on God’s word and how w should follow His will for our life. Thank you for sharing this book.
This book is a book I would like to read for myself and use to mentor other girls and women alike. Girls this day and time need these insights more than ever. It seems that everything focuses on the outward appearance instead of the inward beauty of the soul. Jesus pursues us and all we have to do is turn around and embrace Him for all the love we need. God wants us to edify one another, support one another and mentor one another. Thank you for the opportunity to register to win this book. Thank you for the tidbits from this book. Have a wonderful day and bask in the sunshine of God’s love.
Oh so much truth in what Lynn has written in that first chapter. I remember oh so well those days and as I sit and reflect, I wish I had known the depth of God’s love for me. I knew he loved me, but didn’t comprehend the depth. Nor do I today @ 50. What a treasure it would be to know fully and completely that he is the ONE you should be pursuing and everything else would fall into place. Would love to win a copy of this book. <3 Blessings!
Cindy,
I appreciate your comment. I knew God loved me too, but I didn’t understanding the implications of that. Knowing His love and relying on it would have made an major impact on my life when I was younger.
I have 4 daughters. The oldest is 22 and my youngest is 6. I also have a 12 yr old and a 15 year old. This book would be such a blessing to help my daughters to realize that THE GUY they should focus on is the One who will never leave them or forsake them. Thank you for writing this book and helping young women to realize their value and the respect they deserve. God Bless
I am currently raising 2 girls on my own, age 8 and 15. I ran from God for a LONG time and have just recently found my way home. I pray daily that it is not too late to teach my oldest daughter that God loves her more than anything and that the issues she has with friends, school, and boys aren’t the end of the world.
Love the pic of Aster!! This is a book I needed and one I can’t share with my girls and nieces. Such an important life changing message!! Thanks for sharing!!
Loved “seeing” you on the webcast the other night!
This sounds like an amazing book. Wish I had this book when I was growing up. This would be such a wonderful experience for my daughter, who also struggled with the same thing and now has two daughters – ages 7 & 11, to share the wisdom in this book with them.
For me had I know how valued I was my life would have taken a drastic turn. The last of six children I became the forgotten child for most of my life….but true to His Word. I have found that I am valued, loved, and pursued by a Heavenly Father who loves me. I pray that my daughters will know this same love in a deep and meaningful way. Blessings.
He is so faithful, Wanda! Thank you for sharing!
I wish someone would have told me to focus on God. Grow your relationship with Him first. Pursue Him above all else. I hope I can teach my daughter’s to pursue God and help them understand how much he loves them!
I love my three girls. The best advice I could give my daughters from my mother is,”Do as i say not as I do.” My mother was not perfect, she made a lot of mistakes,as I do daily. She was an alcoholic and drug addict. I am neither by the Grace of God. I know I make lots of mistakes getting angry and saying things that I shouldn’t and more. I love my mother and also by the Grace of God is in recovery here to share in the love of these beautiful gifts from above.
I wish I would have known and understood God and his love for me! I want to make sure my 3 year old daughter knows and understands! I need all the help I can get!
Praise God, The Lord has blessed me and refined me. I am so happy and joyful. When a child I would ride by bike to church through the week and go in and pray. God is faithful He is all I need.