So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded.
You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God,
you will receive what he has promised.Hebrews 10:35-36
Today we have a short video message based on our key verse. I recorded this message to encourage and equip you as we begin our Confident Heart journey! In my video message I share how we can stop throwing away our confidence and start throwing away our doubts instead! I also show you how to replace your uncertainties with the certainty and security of God’s promises – every day! Please click the arrow below to watch. [If you’re reading this via email, CLICK HEREto find the video on my website.]
- Don’t Throw Away Your Confidence PRINTABLE (click here)
- Message Notes: Although the bideo and message notes say Segment 3, I decided to make this Segment 1 for us, so just ignore that little detail. You can download my video “Message Notes” in a PDF format here or in a MSWord doc here. I encourage you to watch the message once and let God just speak to your heart. Then watch it again and follow along with the message notes (if you want to) which include parts of the message, verses and blanks to fill in. 🙂
- This Week’s Assignments: Please watch today’s video today and finish reading (or start reviewing) Chapter One. Then when you have time, answer the questions at the end of the chapter. I’ll post a PDF to download with our word and verse of the week here later today. (Heading out the door to a Dr appt this morning.) Then on Friday we’ll have another post where we’ll share/discuss our answers and get to know each other a little better.
- Connecting in Community: Ok friends, let’s talk. What are your thoughts about today’s video message? Are you going to take the 7-day challenge and actually write down your doubts? What about printing the download? Where will you put a copy or two so that you have it with you to help you identify your doubts and replace them with God’s truth?
{Remember, if you’re reading this via email, CLICK HERE to find the video and share your thoughts on my website.}
I just LOVE this! It’s so refreshing to be able to throw away these awful feelings of inadequacy and failure and replace them with God’s truth. Thank you for helping me to clear out some nasty mind clutter and refocus on Him! Now off to memorize these verses!
So I listened to the video on my way 2 work. And I walked into work with confidence & prayed that the lord would walk in with me. I was going 2 take hold of my doubts & trust in the lord. But then i got hit, when I sat down next 2 my coworkers they were whispering & all I heard was, “She’s sweet but dump as dirt”. Now I don’t khow if they were talking about me but the doubts started rushing in & the rest of the day I was doubting every decision I made or any conversation I was part of b/c I was worried about what they were thinking of me. I was so afraid they WERE talking about me that I didn’t have the courage 2 ask them. How do I take hold of those doubts?
Hi sd
Someone once told me to get over myself, not everything is about me. I want to say that to you with kindness. If you’re doing this study you are NOT dumb. Far from it. I’ve always felt not quite good enough and yet 9 years ago God loved me enough to connect me with a woman who was a Christian who invited me to church and bible study. I never even knew there were bible studies and I hadn’t been to church since I was in grade school. I know I didn’t have anything to do about meeting this woman now. At the time I was just happy to meet someone I could share my love for dogs with and do rescue. I can see now God was directing my every move. He loved me enough to give me this gift even when I was at my lowest. If He did this wonderful thing for me He will do the same for you. You’re worth it.
Wow. I am so excited that I obeyed God’s nudging me to watch this video tonight. His timing is always so perfect. I’ve been feeling “out of sorts” today, starting a new job, and feeling very unconfident and “like a failure.” All those negative messages about not being good enough and this won’t work out have been running through my mind all afternoon. Thank you for the encouragement and especially for the wonderful chart to use as a quick “go to” for reminders of God’s truths.
Your video ministered to my heart and self doubt can creep in a lot. It’s what we do with it, I loved the exercise u gave. Im a visual person and this really is a great way to physically, not only mentally, throw those doubts of self confidence away, and then to meditate on Phil 4:8-9. Think about only those things that are true and lovely, things from the Lord. I was talking with a friend the other and she reminded me to count my blessings, name them one by one. If u go straight to a bad thought and staying there not trusting the Lord….then u r doubting what God has or says to you. I am so blessed to be doing this study, it’s refining, refreshing and so encouraging. Thank you so much!
God bless you sister!
I love the printout, it will be so helpful to me when those horrible doubts start coming into my head, which they do all day long. Lol, I confess though I feel bad throwing away as much paper as it would take for me to throw away each doubt I have! However, I am going to make a page on my computer to write the doubt down on, and then trash it on the computer 🙂 For me it will have the same affect, making me aware of my doubts, and negative thoughts, and throwing away them away, both literally and figuratively, and replacing them with truth of God’s promises. Hope that’s an OK way of doing it still!
I also liked the message about how easily we throw away our confidence. I know I have trashed my confidence so much that I was pretty sure that it had long ago been sent to the dump 🙁 With Renee’s gift of presenting me with God’s promises though, I am starting to think that perhaps it my confidence didn’t make it to the dump, but rather it is just sitting in a dark place in the attic, with lots of dust on it. With help from this book, and most of all God’s promises, I can bring it out of the attic though, and into God’s light, polishing it until it shines through me for all to see!
Already I am feeling so positive compared to when I first started. I know there will be the bad days still, and I wont always be able to cast out my doubt, but I am human and not perfect, and as long as I have God, I know that I will eventually be able to come back to this new place of feeling hopeful. Don’t get me wrong, I haven’t made a 360 degree change. I am still a doubting Thomasita (since I’m a girl I changed it from Thomas ;), and will probably to some extent always be. I just feel hope creeping in that as long as I pray about my doubt, God will bring me back to His promises eventually, and what I am learning here, and restore me.
Thanks for the sheet, and the video Renee. It was a blessing!
Thank you for this study and for the video. I am going to take up the challenge. I have always suffered from self doubt but did not fully realize the impact that this lack of confidence has had on my life. I have been paralyzed by this for years. Looking foward to overcoming this.
I wasn’t sure I needed this study, because I was confident that I believed in God and I believed God, for everyone else, that is. Surely his promises don’t apply to me, right? Well, I have to say that after just one chapter, and answering all the questions and being completely honest with myself, I know this is exactly what I need. Becuase the truth is that my confidence in God’s promises for me doesn’t even register. The pain that has been allowed in my life has only intensified those doubts, even if, through it all, I have leaned more and more on God to bring me through my suffering. If he can get me through the worst of things (the bare minimum of what he can do) how much more could he have in store for me that I have been missing out on?
I have been deeply moved by reading everyone’s stories that have knocked down their confidence and those who have failed to develop it completely, like me. I was taken aback by the question about my earliest memory of doubt. I seriously can’t remember. I have always been like this and nothing sticks out. My goal in this study is to get unstuck from that cycle of doubt and non-action. I know that it isn’t Gods plan. Not for me, and not for anyone. I am blessed to know that I am not alone in this!
I also will be writing down and throwing away my doubt. My biggest struggle will be recognizing it and stopping it. I plan to memorize the verses that help me the most with my doubt and use them as a shield. I want to be secure in my faith- Secure enough to stop the doubt in it’s tracks! I want to claim God’s promises that I have been missing out on!
I will take you suggestions and remove my feeling of doubt, I love throwing away stuff I no longer need!!
Jan from Hancock
Great to have you here, Jill! God has a plan for your life. So thrilling to see that you are willing to do His will!
Wow, your video message was conformation for me of what my counselor said to me just this very afternoon. She wanted me to become more aware of the doubts that go through my brain and ask myself why I believe it and to replace it with truth. I struggle with not only the doubts in my head but also with knowing where in God’s Word to find the truth to battle the doubt. I am a struggling single mom of three (although one currently lives with his dad). I am trying to figure out who God wants me to be. I went from being a daughter to a girlfriend to a wife to a mother in a very short amount of time and never really figured out who I was. I am praying that through this study I will not just know that God loves me but actually believe that he loves me and that I can figure out what he wants for me. So thank you very much Renee for this video.
I am enjoying this study so much! It has been eye opening to see scriptures that point to God’s love for us and how He wants us to walk in confidence. Thank you! Can’t wait for the rest:)
I need this, and will listen to the video again. Thanks for doing the study.
Oh thank you for the video. I want to throw the doubt away!! I will have a printout at work at home and in my purse. When I go to my bad place I can pull them out and go over and over God’s Word. May I allow it to speak to my heart and change me!!
Thanks so much for the study and video! Have been dealing with self-doubt and confidence issues since my pre-teen years, and feel like God brought me to this study. Bless you in all you do to help women!
I too have dealt with confidence and doubt since I was a teen. I pray God will use this study to help you overcome both of those! God bless!
Looking through all of this comments really made my day. It is awesome to read about how each of you are doing and what you are learning from this study! I wish that I could get to know each and every one of you! If anyone would like to talk more about this study I welcome e-mails: [email protected]. Or if anyone is looking for an accountability partner I would love one! I would love to get to know anyone and see how God is working in your lives. God bless!
I have lived with doubt my entire life. I never felt good enough. Even now, I don’t feel good enough. I have been asking God to get His promises out of my head and into my heart. It’s time to start throwing away those doubts!
I too have lived with doubt my whole life. So i Understand how you feel. I pray God will use this study to help us both! God bless!
I love when I see others struggling with the same things I’m struggling with. It helps me to realize that I am not alone in my struggles!
How encouraging was the video you posted. I too struggle deeply with doubting myself. I am committing to the 7 day challenge and throwing my doubts away!
Renee, thank You so much! This week i have had so many doubts creep up and in… I needed to hear this and be reminded!! I love the trash picture and the free resources!! God Bless your ministry and thank you so much!!
Through this study, I’m learning to identify doubts I didn’t even know I had! Like “God doesn’t really love me or want to help me unless I do this and this and this.” I commit to writing my doubts down for 7 days and trashing them! I printed out the download and will keep it in my purse to refer to as needed, whether at work or at home. At work, I often struggle with “I feel overwhelmed” and “I’m not strong enough”…I’m thankful for the resource to help me replace those thoughts.
I really enjoyed your video. I also, love the idea about writing down my doubts. I think it will help me to start loving my self and to really get closer to the Lord.
Thank you for making this affordable and doable. I love that I am sitting in my kitchen after a long day at work and feel like all these ladies are sharing a cup of coffee or tea and sharing such wonderful insights……I have allowed myself to miss so much by listening to the many voices of insecurity and am so excited about the scripture and study. Good luck to everyone and I hope we all finish with verses to guide us etched in our brains and CONFIDENCE strengthening and freeing our hearts to be persevering warrior woman for God.
I love the idea of actually writing my doubts down and throwing them away. It is so easy to throw away my confidence. The specific verses to replace those doubts with will be very helpful. Thank you so much.
Hi Renee, I read that verse earlier in the week and it caught my eye and made me think about it, so I am glad you chose that one to start with. And then to actually write down your doubts and throw them away, was fantastic. The writing part makes you think about it more and then the action of throwing it away actually casts it to the wind and out of your mind~~~~~~I love it~~~~~Thanks Sue
I thought about the one deep desire that I have had for years. I tried to meet the need in other ways because I didnt trust God and that caused pain. I realize I have made excuses for this because I am not confident in this one area. Thanks for having this online book and bible study. God Bless you Renee and every woman reading and studying along with us!
This message was definitely needed today. I’m having trouble at work feeling I’m good enough. I will be writing down my doubts and throwing them away. I’m tired of feeling this way. I am good enough! Also I want to thank you I signed up for something today I have been wanting to do for along time and was always to scared to do. Again thank you for showing me I am good enough!
Thank you so much for the encouraging message that spoke to me. I love the idea of throwing away our doubts and the exercise of writing them down and throwing them in the trash. It will be a great act so that I don’t let the negative crowd out my confidence!!
God knew what He was doing when He allowed me “stumble” onto Renee’s devotion that was posted on crosswalk.com. I have been lingering in the darkness of doubt from the time I was a little girl. Even though I have been successful in many aspects of my life and I come across as a confident strong woman. I am still that scared little girl who believes she is “never good enough” “never smart enough” “never pretty enough”……the list goes on and on.
I feel as though this was an answer to prayer and I am anticipating learning much and allowing God to use this work in me so that I can glorify Him with what I have learned and use this to serve Him victoriously.
Amen!
I love the idea of throwing my doubts away instead of my confidence! And yes, I am going to write them down. And print the message. I am excited to start this process and am looking forward to big changes.
What a blessing this book has been to me. I am going through it a second time and the Lord is using it greatly in my life. Thank you for being faithful. Praying for your daughter.
Wow. This is going to be a good study for me. I am really struggling right now with some big decisions, and I am having a hard time not doubting myself!!! I have also been doubting that God will come through for me. I would appreciate your prayers. Thanks!
Working hard to change my mindset this week and lean on the promises of God and his strength to do all things. Self-doubt is an issue that I have faced for so long that I came to a point where it had become something I thought was normal. In my discovery I was faced with the fear that I won’t be able to change and I am throwing that doubt away this morning.
Hi Renee and all the wonderful women doing this study!
in regard to this day’s video and download, has anyone had a an issue downloading the PDF with- negative talk v. right confessions along with Bible verses? I have a Microsoft Word for Mac. and only see scramble words as I try to download it. Please help!
Thank you, Giselle from Miami
P.S. Praying for Renee’s precious little daughter, that her MRI does not show anything serious!!
I had to download the PDF and I am not using Safari. I am using Firefox. I do not know a lot about the technical aspects of this but it seems to work very well. I am also using a MAC.
Typically PDF files are better suited for readers, not Word. Can you try opening it in Google Chrome to see if this helps?
Thank you Renee for the video on learning how not to throw away your confidence. I like many of the ladies here must throw confidence away without even knowing it? You know you get so use to doing this that it becomes an everyday normal thing to do… I’ve been defeated so many times- or let down by friends and family without them even knowing that they put me down or make me feel bad…I do the whole snow ball effect just keep adding it to the pile of all my insecurities, self doubt, I’m not good enough feelings until I’m so far in I don’t know how to get out??? My favorite friends right now are my 3 dogs- my pillow & blanket!!! But after watching the video and taking notes I am on the right course of leaving those ugly feelings behind—I’m going to start throwing away those hideous feelings!!! I printed out “Don’t Throw Away Your Confidence” and I will read through it each night before I go to bed to give me back my confidence. I know God loves me, but sometimes I don’t feel worthy of His love. I will continue to learn to draw close to Him.
Much Aloha~~
Donna,
I love your idea about reading through the “Don’t Throw Your Confidence Away” worksheet every night. That didn’t even occur to me to do. Thanks so much!
This spoke to me tonight. I have often said I am a failure. Yesterday I said that I must be a bad mom because my seventh grader is not succeeding in school. I am so very frustrated because no matter how hard I feel that I try, I just can’t seem to juggle motherhood and working even though I work from home. But it didn’t devastate me as much yesterday. I know that I am a good mother. My kids are clean and well fed and smiling. My seventh grader has always struggled in school which breaks my heart but this does not make mea bad mother. I know the enemy wants me to think that I am bad but I know that God is holding me up and walking with me and together we will make it through this struggle too it doesn’t mean I won’t think it again but through this study I am changing the way I think about myself.
Oh Girl! I know where you are coming from. It is so hard not to base our parenting skills on the success of our children. Yet every one of us know that children have their own battles and choices. We can’t control every piece of their lives; that is God’s job, right? I am so thrilled to see your words that this study is helping you change the way you think about yourself. If you have accepted Christ as your Savior, then you are the daughter of the King! He loves everything about you and knows how much you put into caring for your children. Blessings to you!!
As a single mom (for 18 years now) of two girls there have been many days I felt like giving up, doubting that I had the strength to do this on my own, that I was a failure, etc…especially these last six years with one of my daughters having medical issues. I am so thankful that you started this Bible study Renee so that I can learn to throw those doubts away and and replace them with the Truth. Philippians 4:13 has been what I call my life verse and it is posted all over my house, my job, and I even carry it with me wherever I go, engraved in tote bags, etc. I loved the “Let’s Take God’s Commandment and Make it Our Commitment” on the PDF version of the video message. I am going to write it on index cards and post-its and place it in several places as a reminder.
Thanks for the video Renee. I really enjoyed how it pulled all the concepts from ch. 1 together. I appreciate the tangible activity of throwing our doubts into the trash can. I think I need to get a bigger trash can. lol I am very thankful for all the free handouts that you provide as well. Words cannot express how grateful I am for this study.
I did it I have finished chapter one and watched todays video. After church tonight I plan to start rereading chapter one and and then answer the questions at the end of the chapter. Sometimes it takes me reading a chapter twice to get the full understanding of it. Thank you Renee for the Pdf I am going to hang it on my bathroom mirror so it is the first thing I see when I look in that mirror. I will not throw away my confidence but the doubt instead. Praying for this study and all the women doing it. Thank you
It is so nice to know that I am not alone in my feelings of doubt and insecurity. I look forward to renewing my thinking minute by minute, if need be….and I think at first it will be:-) I am eager to take the 7 day challenge and physically throw away my doubts!!!! How refreshing and what a relief! Thank you Renee for your willingness to reach out to us women and share the lessons you have learned! In the future, I hope to be able to do that as well! God is good!!!!
Already loving this! The video really hit home. Great word! Thank you.
I can really relate to your video for today and it is a very good idea to actually throw insecurity away instead of my confidence. I need to recognize when my thoughts of insecurity arise so I can write them down and put them in the trash!
I love the assignment. Can totally relate to writing & throwing (literally) my doubts away. Thanks for the wonderful idea. 🙂
What a wonderful way to start the book! I have read the first chapter and already been blessed numerous times. But the video message hit me in a completely different way from just reading the book. And the added challenge of throwing away my doubts brought me to a whole different level. Thank you, Renee, for taking the time to do the videos and for your commitment to us! I can’t wait to continue the study and see what God does in my life and others.
I am so in need of confidence it has something i hve struggled w/ . I speak alot out of my emotions and b/c i hve had a so many struggles to face and i hve to say trying to keep on going and learning and changing at time is overwheling to me. My life as a child and growing up had no Jesus. I am at point that the only way thorough this is confidence how much more can i do. I don’t know why but w/o Jesus i am nuttin i don’t know how some can succeed w/o HIm. I feel like everthing i put my hands on i miss up or never goes right. I am hoping for some great things from this study. Plz keep me in prayer i am still wating on my book. Hope to get it soon.
Lord Jesus, I pray for Lupe right now. Please get that book to her quickly so she can continue to pursue your plan for her study time. Help her know that we are all in the same boat as humans. Without You, Lord, we can do nothing. But with You, we can do all things. Amen.
Phil 4:13 Lupe! 🙂 Blessings to you!!
This message has really reflected a lot of what I went on this week…had lots of challenges both professionally and personally…and the negative thoughts came back..didn’t do so well on a job interview….still feeling stuck in the same situation, no husband, boyfriend, underemployed, ..feeling defeated…and hoping things would change…but then I felt a sense of peace and joy come over me on my way back from work…a joy I haven’t felt in a long time despite my feelings, and my circumstance…I heard my self saying…”feelings are just feelings” they don’t reflect reality or who I am….and felt joy.and I believe this was the Holy Spirit talking to me comforting me and saying “I can’t do all things through Christ who strengthened me….
God Bless, all.
Thanks for your comment! Keep coming back to share what God is teaching you. This is fabulous! You CAN do all things through Christ who strengthens you. :0)
I love that: “feeling are just feelings, they don’t reflect reality or who I am”….
I absolutely loved the video! I’ll be honest with you all, as soon as I have started this Confident Heart Study, guess what’s been being tested since?… my confidence in God. I just want you to know Renee that I am praying for you as you give us the wisdom that God has given you. Yesterday was a rough day in general, and as soon as I got home from work I just cried. It’s easy to have confidence in God when your days go great, or even okay, or when you feel good; but it’s on those hard/trying days when I just don’t “feel” like being confident. I’m amazed how God always shows up and just loves on us when needed. I don’t want my feelings to control my confidence in God. I may have not felt like praising the Lord during a hard day at work yesterday, but I need to raise my hands up and praise God. Greater is he that is in me, then he that is in the world. I’ll pray and believe by the end of this study that I will have the wisdom and confidence to not be moved by how I feel no longer. I’m ready to see what all God’s going to teach me in and through this study! I love the throwing the doubts literally away… I believe a lot of us will be throwing a lot of paper away… It’s a challenge I want to do no matter how I may feel.
I love the idea of throwing away my doubts…such a simple exercise with such a big reward.
I posted yesterday that the idea of moving from just believing in Him to really believing Him by relying on the power of His word was resonating in my heart. I read further in Hebrews today and found in The Message Heb 11: 1-2 ” The fundamental fact of existence is that this trust in God, this faith, is the firm foundation under everything that makes life worth living. It’s our handle on what we can’t see…” Further on in Heb. 11: 11-12, in talking about Sarah bearing a child in old age, it says, “…she believed the one who made a promise would do what He said.”
She believed the one who made a promise would do what He said….
I love this and I think it is a good excersice to write the LIES we women so often believe and look at it call it a lie from the pit of Hell and throw it out thank you for that and thank you God for your Grace shower us with Your truth and guard us from the lies we often get entangled by!!!
Thanks Renee! When I saw you were going to do this online group I wasn’t sure if I should join. Then I felt God telling me I need this and this time it will all be okay. I have read chapter 1 and got my downloads. I watched the video and now crying with JOY that I listened to Him. I have very low self esteem and you are God helper in helping me. I will write down and throw away. Being a mom of 5 and wife of 15 yrs it’s time for me to be still and listen so He can change the lies that chain me. Thanks for helping me! I even posted todays verse on my fb wall to see when I get on there. I can change! God bless!
I LUV LUV LUV the PDF today! Do you know I didn’t even know I lacked confidence until I read “I’m not good enough” & “I’m nothing special” with what God says, “You are royalty to me” & “You are a masterpiece”. THANK YOU RENEE!
Just today, a friend posted on her Facebook page the following quote — “God doesn’t call the qualified; he qualifies the called.” I have heard this quote before and skimmed my friend’s status when she posted this, but not until I watched this video and finished chapter 1 did I really take to heart what it meant. God provides me so many gifts — family, friendships, financial and physical health — but He also provides me the abilities, courage and CONFIDENCE to be who I am each day. God is my cheerleader! Who better to cheer me on then my Lord and Saviour!
Amen Melissa!
Love the video. I have the download up on my kitchen cabinet. I am also going to put it into my project notebook and up in my office.
If the small groups come together, please let me know. I would love to participate!