So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded.
You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God,
you will receive what he has promised.Hebrews 10:35-36
Today we have a short video message based on our key verse. I recorded this message to encourage and equip you as we begin our Confident Heart journey! In my video message I share how we can stop throwing away our confidence and start throwing away our doubts instead! I also show you how to replace your uncertainties with the certainty and security of God’s promises – every day! Please click the arrow below to watch. [If you’re reading this via email, CLICK HEREto find the video on my website.]
- Don’t Throw Away Your Confidence PRINTABLE (click here)
- Message Notes: Although the bideo and message notes say Segment 3, I decided to make this Segment 1 for us, so just ignore that little detail. You can download my video “Message Notes” in a PDF format here or in a MSWord doc here. I encourage you to watch the message once and let God just speak to your heart. Then watch it again and follow along with the message notes (if you want to) which include parts of the message, verses and blanks to fill in. 🙂
- This Week’s Assignments: Please watch today’s video today and finish reading (or start reviewing) Chapter One. Then when you have time, answer the questions at the end of the chapter. I’ll post a PDF to download with our word and verse of the week here later today. (Heading out the door to a Dr appt this morning.) Then on Friday we’ll have another post where we’ll share/discuss our answers and get to know each other a little better.
- Connecting in Community: Ok friends, let’s talk. What are your thoughts about today’s video message? Are you going to take the 7-day challenge and actually write down your doubts? What about printing the download? Where will you put a copy or two so that you have it with you to help you identify your doubts and replace them with God’s truth?
{Remember, if you’re reading this via email, CLICK HERE to find the video and share your thoughts on my website.}
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Thank you for the video it helps to stay focused by your reaching out in various ways. We are studying trusting God in bible study and this teaching goes hand in hand. Trusting God in what he will do when things seem so dark and having the confidence to accept the sufficient grace is what I’m struggling with.
There is a saying from a famous basketball coach ( I don’t know his name – I’m a football fan) that says “Dont let what you cant do stop you from what you can do”. I am going to tape this to my desk so I can see it all the time now.
Thanks Debi! Just copied down the quote. Have 3 x 5 cards on a ring (Scripture, Inspirational Sayings, & other Quotes) & will add this to them.
What a great video message, thank you Renee! What a great idea to write down our doubts and throw them away. I think my trash can is going to be pretty full this week, LOL.
But on a serious note, I love that you provided the “Don’t Throw Away Your Confidence” worksheet with scripture and God’s truth. It’s easy to allow doubt into my head and sometimes scripture isn’t always louder than the lies. So having this worksheet to refer to will be a great help. I am a visual learner, so this will help me to memorize some key verses to counteract the lies.
I’ve printed two of the worksheets because I am planning on framing one of them and giving it to my daughter to put on her dresser. She is in Jr. High and I remember how much doubt played a part in my life back then.
Thanks again Renee and all the ladies participating in this online study, your words are inspirational.
THANK YOU SO MUCH, I AM TURNING 40 THIS YEAR AND AM A SINGLE MOM AND NEVER MARRIED. I HAVE ALWAYS COMPARED MYSELF TO MY SISTER WHO MARRIED HER HIGHSCHOOL SWEETHEART AND SEEMS TO HAVE THE PERFECT LIFE. SO I HAVE ALWAYS VIEWED MYSELF AS INFERIOR AND USELESS.
THANK YOU FOR SHOWING ME HOW GOD SEES ME. NOT THRU MAN’S EYES OR MY OWN.
I HAVE ALREADY STARTED CLEANING MY HOUSE AND MY MIND.
TWO THINGS I HAVE ALWAYS THOUGHT WHATS THE POINT I’LL NEVER GET IT ALL DONE
BUT NOW I HAVE HEBREWS 10:35-36 TO HELP & PHILIPIANS 4:13 HANGING ABOVE MY BED AS A REMINDER.
I love those passages too! Praise the Lord for directing your path here.
I printed the “Don’t throw away your confidence sheet”. The line that struck me the most was the third one, “No one sees me. ” To which I could add, “No one hears me.” I love your answer from God.
“I see you. You’re precious and loved by me.” Isaiah 43:4 We are precious and honored in God’s sight.
Wow! While I know this as God’s truth, I need to picture it across my forehead and reflect it to others.
Thanks Renee!
Thank you for the video message, it was really what I needed to be reminded of – ” do not throw away your confidence…”. Too often I let my fears and doubts stop me…….I forget whose I am, and who I am in Him. I focus on my fears….not on Christ nor His promises. The video message reminds me to stop doing that. I am a worrier, and the same thing worked for me to help me stop worrying…..I called it a “worry box” where I would write down whatever I was worrying about, throw it into my box….then write down a promise of God that would help me, and carried that promise all day in my pocket to focus on all day long. In time, it was cool to go back thru my “worry box” and see all the ways God answered my prayers and took care of my worries! This week I am focused on turning my thoughts to the confidence I have in Him……turning away from my fears and doubts. I will not be one who shrinks back!!!! Thank you Renee for the daily reminders and encouragement, as well as the prayers! Praying for all who are doing this study!!!!!
I love this idea. Making me a worry box this weekend. Going to give it a try. Thanks for sharing
Ok so I can be lazy at times but I think I’m really going to try this challenge out. It’s for my own good right! Anyhow the part of the video that really stuck out to me was where you talk about talking trash vs. talking truth. So often I find myself speaking doubt instead of truth. But you know what I can encourage others in this area and speak it to them. I wonder why it’s so easy to do it to others but not myself. Well that’s why I’m taking this study to get to the root of some things so that I can truly have victory in this area!
Also the scripture verse Hebrews 10:39 is speaking volumes to me. Wow is all I can say. I do believe I have read that verse many times before; however it really is talking today. To think shrinking back will destroy you. When I think of this I envision someone who is walking backwards and because of this they don’t see the danger that is behind them. Pitfalls and rocks that can cause them to fall on their backs. There are a few scripture passage that I’m thinking about now in light of this verse being shared. This is really some good eats!
Isn’t that the truth about being able to encourage others in their doubts and yet at the same time drowning in our own! I guess that’s why we are told fellowship with other believers is so important in the Bible- so that we can be encouraged by others.
You know I’m thinking now…if you don’t believe in yourself you won’t receive the encouragement that others do give you. I need a changed mind in order to believe the great things that they do say about me. I’m not sure if I am making myself clear but I guess you get me.
I love the analogies used to help me see how easy it is to use the method of throwing our doubts away. I too often don’t even realize when I’m doing that, but have been more aware recently after reading chapter one, and viewing this video. I’m currently battling seeds of doubt in my profession as a teacher and recently passing the exam to allow me to teach a grade I’m not used to. I’ve caught myself thinking I’m not good enough to do that job, and all the other lies Satan tries to get me to beleive. I now will have the tools necessary to train my brain the truths in God, as well as who I am…a woman fully capable and confident! Thank you, Renee!
Thank you for taking the time to teach and encourage us. I love having the print out of “don’t throw away your confidence”, I will put mine on my refrigerator. It’s so important to replace the negative voices with “THE TRUTH”, God’s Word, and when we meditate on the truth it will change our thinking, feeling and actions. When I have that voice come up, I am going to run to my scriptures and repeat it over and over again. I think I might put the ones that apply to me the most on index cards and attach them to a ring and carry them in my purse, b/c I am sure I will be hit with the negative thoughts anywhere I go. Like you mentioned, we allow these thoughts to be a part of us without even recognizing we are doing it, I think it’s because they have become such habits in our lives, now we must retrain ourselves to keep thinking on the truth instead. I think that’s why we have the word “persevere”, it won’t change us overnight. I will persevere.
Great idea! I did that too but the mess in my purse kept smudging the writing so I but them in those $1 pocket photo books-works great!!! Good luck with the study, will be praying for you!!!
oh wow I love this idea as well, I have a 3×5 card binder that would fit perfectly in my bag that I carry. I was wondering what I could use it for . Now I know. Thanks for the great idea!
THANK YOU FOR SUCH A WONDERFUL IDEA, I HOPE YOU DON’T MIND IF I BORROW IT.
That is what I was planning to do, although I think what I’ll do for this week is record my doubts on a paper, and ‘X’ them out while putting the reference to a corresponding scripture, and at the end of the week I’ll pick my top 3-5 doubts, and start memorizing the scripture to battle them with- including making 3x5s for my purse. And at the end of the week I WILL throw them out!
What a great idea, Lydia! Think I will keep track of mine as well. If I start with the doubts have most often can deal with them and then move on to others!
I love the ideas about the verse for your bag. One thing that struck me with writing the doubts down and waiting until the end of the week…. don’t let them stay even for a second. Maybe try not keeping track of the doubt, but add a new verse for each doubt. If you have the same doubt 10 times, find 10 verses to battle it with. To me, I have to trash doubt immediately or satan will just keep bringing it up as I review the doubts I marked off. Use the verses gathered a proof of your progress. Just a though that God laid on my heart.
That is good insight Angel! Perhaps I will just make hash marks on the verses or something to see what one comes up the most for me to memorize it. Probably seeing the doubts repeatedly would not be beneficial. Thank you!
Wow this really came just at the right moment. I was born again exactly a year ago yesterday :-), but my husband hasn’t yet. I have struggled with expecting him to make changes in his life and behavior and this morning I thought this will never change. It’s funny because I know God is going to make the change is just that sometimes I feel discouraged just like this morning. I will definitely start throwing my doubts in the garbage! Thank you for the video Renee.
Lord, thanks for guiding Rita here today. I pray right now for her husband, that she will be a reflection of You that he can easily see. I pray you would give her the confidence in Your Word and she will remember to throw those doubts out where they belong! She is your daughter and we are so happy to have her in this study. Amen. Blessings to you, Rita!
Thank you Renee for sharing this video! It was exactly what I needed to physically face my doubts. Looking at them and crumpling them up and throwing them away then replacing my doubts with Gods word and hope buoyed me up. Keeping those doubts at bay and keeping God’s truth at the forefront of my heart, mind and life is the challenge. I believe with God’s help and through this study I will be changed, encouraged and propelled into a future that is significantly different than my past.
Please pray for me to continually recognize doubt and negativity and replace them with God’s truth and hope.
This morning i was interupted while doing my Bible study and book study. My husband can not find his new debit card that came in serveral weeks ago. I have given it to him twice and he did not call it in and has put in somewhere! Well, he sees it as i have lost it and came in blaming me for moving it. I had gotten to the point years ago that I believe that I am a very responsible person because if anything goes wrong it seemed like I was responsible even if I was not even in town!! This is just another way that I have let people get to me and through all of it the shadow of doubt just grew and grew. Between this and everyone always telling me that I could not do things that I wanted to do. Depwnding on what mood that I was in, it could make be react in two ways. Either I would die or show them that i could do it or more often I would just quit and get even more depressed!! Between the depression from not pleasing everyone and doing what i wanted and the anxiety of trying to please everyone, not only have I suffered emotionally but also physically. I have finally realized that I am not suppose to be trying to please man but trying to please God. I am slowly trying to adjust my life to this but it is a long habit to break and I di find myself backsliding at times and I pray for God to help me with this and the self-doubt that it has caused everyday. I want to be a good wife, mother, grandmother, daughter and friend but I now realize that it has to be done through God’s will not through the guilt that some people put on me to make me do what they want. Their guilt causes doubts and so I am not going to give in to their guilt. everytime i start feeling that the guilt treatment is starting to work on me or that i start feeling the anxiety or depression and doubt creeping in, I stop and pray and ask God to please take it away!! I thank God for His love for me!!
Hey, your comment really hit me cuz that’s me too!!! I just spent a weekend with in-laws where everything that went wrong was somehow my fault and, unfortunately, my husband does not stand up for me in those situations. Also have an issue where my mother-in-law is recently widowed and “needs” my husband more than I do. He is going out to help her again this weekend (I can’t go cuz I have no one to watch my critters — darn!!) meanwhile one of our vehicles has been broken down for two weeks now because he doesn’t have time to fix it but he has time to help his mom. So I have been without wheels while she is getting a new floor. Yeah, it makes me feel pretty worthless. BUT, when I was out driving our only running vehicles today, the one my husband has to take this weekend to go help his mom, the alternator went out so maybe God is trying to tell my husband to stay home and take care of things here first. I’ve been praying for that. Hmmmm . . .
My husband put his parents before me since the very beginning of our marriage. It did not matter what they said or did to me, he never took up for me. If he did not want to do something that they asked him, then they would tell them that he was not doing it because I sould not let him so he would do it just to show them that I had no control or say in what he did!! Also he lied throughout our marriage and he also cheated on me off and on. Some of the times I found out about and some I do not have proff, just suspect. But I have stayed. I thought that I might be treated like a wife should after his parents died but there was always an excuse and then I found out that he had been calling a ‘friend’ of mine for 3 1/2 years but supposedly had not met anywhere and had no physical contact. Who knows because all i have is their word and that to me is not worth anything. She use to tell me that she would do anything to have a house like mine and also that if I did not be good enough to my husband that she would. When I found out about the calls, I called her and told her that he could have a divorce but he would not get the house. She did not talk to him anymore. But he was in love with her and not me. He could not get over her even though there supposedly was not making anymore calls. Ten moths ago I sent him to her house and told him to decide what he wanted. He asked her if there would ever be a chance for them and she told him no and then he asked if ther ever had been a chance and she told him no. She only wanted him becasue of the house so when she found out that it did not come with him, then she did not want him! We are still together but things are not very good. I love him but not like I use to. I also found out that he has never really been in love with me. He has feelings for me because we have kids together and have been together for so long and because I have been here no matter what. he makes himself look good to everybody and he knows that I would not be able to support myself, so he can treat me however. I was not treated any better by my parents either. talking about feeling worthless, unloved and alone!!
Now I have really turned to God more than I ever have before. I always tried to build him up and show him how much I loved him but it was never good enough. I have turned it over to God.
My husband can look at other marriages and see where the husbands are treating their wife bad but he never sees the problems in ours.
I pray that things get better for you! Thank you for answering my post.
This so perfectly falls in line with my personal goals of growth, and throwing away my confidence remains my greatest struggle. God has been placing Is. 43:19 on my heart and in front of my eyes for the past four months as I have witnessed Him changing my marriage, my husband and myself after 25 years of the same repeating struggles and negative patterns. He is doing a new thing, and I am grateful for this study and the part it will play in strengthening and refining me.
Renee, thank you for this wonderful tool! I think this will really help me move forward!
Wow. I am going to take the challenge. I also printed the PDF and will place it in the kitchen and at work just about anywhere I personally look. This really it me because when I was talking with God about a issue he whispered to me a solution and I automatically said no way. I couldn’t do that. I am not smart or gifted enough. This study is really hitting home.
LOVE THIS!!! I am going through a time right now of fighting with self doubts of being a good parent and a good future wife. so the throwing away of those doubts is an awesome idea. My trash can is going to be full!!! LOL But it is needed. Thank you so much for our reminders of how God looks at us. 🙂
Thank you so much for writing this book and doing this online study! I have struggled this year with God calling me to leave my full-time teaching job to stay home and homeschool my two youngest children. Financially this seems crazy but I know in my heart that it is God’s will. I do doubt myself sometimes and I even wonder how we are going to make it. He promises that He will provide and I have to believe that. The doubt and lack of confidence does sneak in but I always feel better when I spend time praying and reading the Bible. I LOVE the verses this week! I know in my heart that everything will be fine because I am doing what He has called me to do. I am so looking forward to this whole study. I can’t wait to see what God does in my life and in the life of others doing this study.
Melissa, I think following God’s calling was a courageous move! Good for you! My Sunday school teacher has said before that God calls us to do things we are unable to do on our own, so that we are forced to let HIM fill the gaps. I’m sure you are making lasting memories with your babies!
thank you for such an uplifting video! i look forward to writing down my doubts/insecurities and throwing them away! this exercise will really open my eyes to how much doubt i carry with me each day and remind me of the power of my God!
Thank you for the hand outs you are giving us and the videos. I am such a visual learner and I love them!!!! I am looking forward to seeing how God will engrave on my heart this week how often I doubt myself. I am going to do the Doubt challenge and write them down and throw them away. I pray this will connect my head and heart through knowing I am confident through Christ to actually BELIEVING and LIVING my life confident in Christ!
Thank you! I have grown tremendously in overcoming my doubts but one lingers. That I will always be alone/lonely since my divorce. I didn’t ask for it, didn’t see it coming and wonder if I will ever share my life with a husband again. I also wonder if my children will ever get better as the ugly effects of divorce rear it’s head in their lives from time to time. I have led ladies in a study I teach to write down their doubts, fears,worries, and then bring them up to a shredder and shred them. Reminding them that the only way they are allowed to continue worrying,doubting, etc. is to dig the paper out and tape all the little pieces back together. Guess I need to get shredding, huh?! And reminding God and myself that I Trust Him!
Danielle, your words and honesty hit me hard as I too am carrying many doubts after being blindsided by a divorce. By God’s grace and His love for me I am working on building my confident heart. I pray that my children see that my trust in God is what is getting me through this all. My heart hurts for all children of divorce who have had their worlds turned upside down. Danielle, may your children be blessed by the care, comfort and peace that only comes from our loving Father, who holds them in His might hands.