So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded.
You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God,
you will receive what he has promised.Hebrews 10:35-36
Today we have a short video message based on our key verse. I recorded this message to encourage and equip you as we begin our Confident Heart journey! In my video message I share how we can stop throwing away our confidence and start throwing away our doubts instead! I also show you how to replace your uncertainties with the certainty and security of God’s promises – every day! Please click the arrow below to watch. [If you’re reading this via email, CLICK HEREto find the video on my website.]
- Don’t Throw Away Your Confidence PRINTABLE (click here)
- Message Notes: Although the bideo and message notes say Segment 3, I decided to make this Segment 1 for us, so just ignore that little detail. You can download my video “Message Notes” in a PDF format here or in a MSWord doc here. I encourage you to watch the message once and let God just speak to your heart. Then watch it again and follow along with the message notes (if you want to) which include parts of the message, verses and blanks to fill in. 🙂
- This Week’s Assignments: Please watch today’s video today and finish reading (or start reviewing) Chapter One. Then when you have time, answer the questions at the end of the chapter. I’ll post a PDF to download with our word and verse of the week here later today. (Heading out the door to a Dr appt this morning.) Then on Friday we’ll have another post where we’ll share/discuss our answers and get to know each other a little better.
- Connecting in Community: Ok friends, let’s talk. What are your thoughts about today’s video message? Are you going to take the 7-day challenge and actually write down your doubts? What about printing the download? Where will you put a copy or two so that you have it with you to help you identify your doubts and replace them with God’s truth?
{Remember, if you’re reading this via email, CLICK HERE to find the video and share your thoughts on my website.}
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I am moving and have to look for a new job. I see great job opportunities in my new town, but many times I have recently thought, “I am not qualified to do that job.” Thank you for giving me confidence- to throw away that doubt! I will take up the challenge to write down, and throw out, my self-doubt!
He has equipped you to do His work! He has the perfect job out there for you; I pray He leads you right to it. 🙂
Awesome message, I often allow doubt to be a part of my life; I like the idea of writing it down and throwing it away. I used to write letters to people who I felt had wronged me and forgive them for their wrong doing; although I never mailed them it was easier to let it go by doing this. I have read chapter 1 twice and the scripture verses and have answered some of the questions. I hope to finish the questions today. Thank you for the Book & Bible Study; I know it will help me grow in Christ.
So encouraging to know that others have some of the same struggles with doubt that I do.
Very encouraging video.
Thanks so much .
so often we feel like we are the only ones goning through something. even when we look at other
sisters in our church bodies that look like they have it all together and haveing feelings of why dont
I have it like she does. I am really looking for change for this study.
I have not only had ti look at my doubts but my disappointments and expectations of people. I have had to pray to let go of these and leave the outcome toGod. Thanks for renewed hope and encouragement.
Deborah, I relate to your comment! I find myself being disappointed with my loved ones often recently, like my expectations are too high. I’ve had to actually tell myself outloud, “God can handle this better than you!” and quote Phillipians 4:6-7 :“Be anxious for nothing, but in all things, by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving in your heart, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Thanks for sharing your heart!
Awesome message and great exercise to write down the doubts and throw them in the trash! Will be doing that while saying “boo-yah!” to the enemy! =) The Printable with God’s truth is also another great visual and that is going up in every room of the house (can you tell I’m a visual learner?), including over my two son’s beds as they too have very low confidence and I’m tired of the enemies schemes! Thank you for your help and allowing God to use you!
Thank you for the video! I have done that literal “throwing away” before , but of all kinds of negative feelings.
I have not done that in quite a while, though. Thanks for the reminder and the word. I am looking forward to what God is going to do through this study.
Me too, Joann! 🙂
Gods timing always amazes me. I have been wrestling with extreme feelings of failure the last several months. I have almost completely stopped going to church, and I have felt like I have completely failed as a mother. We are going through some huge trials and such right now and I have just felt great attacks from the enemy. Instead of fighting off these attacks I am just wallowing in self pity. I am so looking forward to getting into this study and I will definitely take up the challenge of wrinting down and throwing away my doubts this week.
Peachy, Thank you for your honesty about the trials in your life right now. The past two years have been very challenging for my family too. I felt the enemy attacking so many times and at times I was so discouraged. But I would like to encourage you to keep attending church. There were many times when I felt like going was a waste of time. But on the worst of days, when I made myself attend, it was those days that God spoke truth into my heart. He spoke of His great love and support for me. It was those days that I was encourage to persevere and keep going. God is with you in the trials, even if you feel all alone. He is holding you and loving you through it all. I will be praying for you.
Thanks Pam. I’m trying. I just feel like I’m getting no where. I’m just really praying I can have a breakthrough. Thankful for this study and for being able to share and see that I am not alone.
Peachy, You are definitely not alone in this! I have been going through some hard things lately as well (and I can especially relate to feeling like a failure as a mother). I also tend to gravitate toward wallowing in self-pity. Sometimes I want to skip church too, but I can’t since I’m the pastor’s wife! My husband is currently suffering from depression, so he is having a hard time leading, so it’s hard for him as well. But in all this, God is faithful. I may grumble as I get myself and my children ready for church, but once I get there, God speaks to me (through my struggling husband) every week. Hang in there! God wants you to have a breakthough even more than you do! He loves you so much! I hope this study is just the tool He uses to help you. 🙂
Peachy, Please know that you are not alone! Satan wants you to keep beating yourself up & to have negative thoughts, but God is greater. Just keep trusting Him! I am struggling with the feeling of being a failure of a mother as well. My family has been through a couple of trials within the past couple of years & are still recovering from them. Just keep pressing on & know that God knows your heart & will never leave you or forsake you. When everything seems out of our control we need to give it ALL over to God. I will be praying for peace for you & your family. God bless you!
Trace,
Hi I appreciate you sharing of your husband battle with depression. So often we feel that pastors and pastors familys are excempt from the hardships of life because of their position.
This encourages me that we are all people with situations and that God loves us all. Please dont mis- understand, I am not happy about his battle it is who we are inChrist not what position we hold the world. I hope I said that unoffensivly.
Peachy, don’t give up on God… he will NEVER give up on you!!! Now, more than ever, is when you need to pray, pray, pray and seek God’s truth and direction through His word. Oftentimes, when we are going through difficult situations, we try to “fix” it ourselves and become discouraged when we fail. God has the answers and will help you through it in His own timing. Be patient, wait on the Lord and trust in His wisdom. I have been there and quite frankly the bottom fell out underneath me, but it wasn’t until I completely set my eyes on God and was obedient to Him, that I felt a sense of security and hope. I will be praying for you. God bless!!!
Blessings Peachy, I dont know what is your trails but its ok, what i do know is that God says let not your heart be trouble. Sis God works at His timing and His pace we are not to question Him, just know that we all are here for you. Father in the name of Jesus we come to you with thanksgiving for Your true love over us, Father God we pray that You will lift up our Sis Peachy that her faith in You will over come the enemy, Father may You bless her family abounantly and we pray that she allows You to do Your will with her according to how it is written in Heaven, Father God we also pray for the rest of the Sisters partaking in this seminar that will encourage us to do Your will in Jesus Name Amen
I have spent a lifetime living with doubt in so many ways, after reading the book and now starting the Bible Study, I know the Lord will deliver me and many others who drown in self doubt.
Thank you Renee for hearing the call of the Lord to help so many women no matter what their age with this debilitating thought process we wander into during our lives, often triggered at a very young age.
The video is wonderfully personal and the downloads make this whole study feel like we really are together in one place, God’s heart!
The physical act of throwing away the bad and replacing it with good is great! My trashcan is ready and waiting for my negative thinking. I am also doing some of my studies on the computer as well because the book is online so I want my notes to be there as well. And with the recycle bin once its been dumped theres no retrieving whats there. Yay.
Debi: I just love the idea that once you dump something into your computer trash, there is no retrieving it! Can’t tell you how many times I’ve thought I dumped my trash only to find it was still in my house! I’ll be working on that in this study. Thanks for sharing!
What a powerful word and fabulous visual! Thanks for making the word come alive with relevant illustration that helps us remember the truth!
I thought about how many times in my past I had thrown away opportunities in my life due to lack of confidence…in myself, in my decisions, and sometimes in my ability to succeed at an opportunity. My confidence in Christ has given me strength…not just to take on new opportunities and challenges, but also to be comfotable with NOT always succeeding. I am not afraid to fail because I know that God works through ALL things…when I get it right, and when I don’t…He is there!
Jeanette, thank you for post as I have learned that God is always here myself. Opportunities and challenges will always be in our lives and we must always remember He is with us. Sometimes we need someone else to remind us.
Joyce
Jeanette, I am so encouraged by your statement of “I know that God works through ALL things…when I get it right, and when I don’t,” because so often I’m tempted to think I’ve ruined everything by one small, poor choice on my part–forgetting that God is so much bigger than that!
Summer, I also often have times when I feel that I have ruined everything because of one poor choice. Thank you for reminding me that God is truly bigger than that!
When I came across this bible study, I felt the Lord tugging at my heart to participate. And I am so thankful I did. I am at a time in my life where my husband and I have stepped out in faith in a direction that is so scary. After much prayer and searching of our hearts, we have stepped out by the leading of the Lord to adopt. And self doubt and lack of confidence is something I have dealt with a lot in this process… often questioning the Lord, “Are You sure I can do this? What will people think? Where will the funds come from? Will I be a good enough mommy to our new little girl? ” But time and time again, the Lord had reminded me of the promise He has given me. And following along in this bible study and listening to your words of encouragement in Christ has been exactly what my heart has needed. Thank you for taking the gift the Lord has given you and sharing it with all of us 🙂
That is so awesome, stepping out is scary but how rewarding when you are allowing Him to direct you. I will be praying for you during this study and for your adoption!!!!
Heather, that is so exciting! My sister just finalized her adoption of a little girl in March. Adoption is such an amazing gift to all involved! I will be praying for you and your husband as you step out in faith. Do not let your doubts rob you of the blessings ahead!
Heather, I”m praying for you right now!! Did you know my family and I adopted a baby girl from Ethiopia 2 and a half years ago? She was 10months old then and she’s just over 3 now. It was a HUGE step of faith – and I cannot even tell you how amazingly God provided and continues to. It’s been an incredible journey – with many twists and turns — but we have experienced Jesus and come to depend on Him in the sweetest most-life changing ways. I just know He’s going to do the same for you and through you. I’m so excited that you are following His lead and bringing a child into your home who needs a forever family!!!!
Heather,
I hear your fears. I have 2 adopted children, 17 and 15 and we went through the same worries and doubts, and yes our faith was tested many times along the way. One thing I’ll never forget though, is when we brought our daughter home from the hospital, my husband sat on our bed holding her and said “we couldn’t have done better ourselves!” I was relieved to hear him respond that way. Trust God, he is walking with you every step of the way and knows what you’re going through and your needs. Look ahead to that day you’ll be bringing your child home. We have been extremely blessed by our children and I know you will be too!
Thank you for the print out I will be printing them out and putting together a folder for my answers to the questions at the end of the book and the print out sheets. I love your idea for throwing away our doubts. I finished chapter 1 and was in tears by the end. The entire chapter was like reading a description of myself out loud. I realized I stuggle so much with self doubt and I am excited about reading this book and BEING TRANSFORMED .. Thank you so much <3 Hugs
Savannah I love your post and how you are shouting you will be transformed!!! It’s awesome :). Praying for you
I too felt like I was reading a description of myself outloud. The Lord is showing me too that by applying this truth he imparted to Renee and which she is sharing with us, we WILL be transformed. I am so excited and honored and blessed that our Lord would transform me from my current doubtful, anxious self to a confident woman of God so he can work through me to bring others to HIM. Praise God ! He is so faithful!
Awesome Video. I loved it. I hope there will be more.
Loved the video Renee! It is vital that we not allow those bad thoughts to be entertained. We must replace them with the truth…God’s Word to us. And we must do this immediately.
I don’t know one person who has never had doubts; who has never thought themselves a failure. Who has never feared messing up.
Why is that? Because we all do. Because it is natural.
Why are we so hard on ourselves? Why do we think “its only me?”
The vibes we give out to others when we feel this way about ourselves, probably sends them a message of “stay away.” Even though we do not intend for this to happen….I think we often do bring it on ourselves. We so desperately need confidence…we need to love ourselves the way the Lord loves us. We are all special.
My pep talk again to me….shared with you all. :0)
good morning Judi,
I like your comment about the vibes we give out. It is so true and reminds me of something my supervisor told me one day in a review. She said that I carry everything out there and I get so stressed about life sometimes that people are afraid to approach me because they can see the stress just oozing out of me. Daily i have to remind myself of this and try to make sure that I am not pushing away people by the vibes i’m giving off.
Judi,
Thank you for sharing. Your comments are so true; I need to remind myself of this often because it often affects relationships with family and friends.
Wow, I think you spoke directly to me on that one! Although today i feel quite empowered by God and no doubts are floating about today…there have been many days that they are. Gid has been doing a work within me and through this wonderful bible study I firmly God is using Renee to helpso many of us women who struggle with self doubts! Thank you Renee for allowing God to use to minister to so many others!
God bless!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I agree wholeheartedly. 🙂
Thanks for the video. I am doing something a little different with this study. I am doing it all on the computer. It really gets me thinking quicker than how I used to do it. I love the assignment and got so much out of it. In the other study I am doing, they actually have a group on Facebook that will hold others accountable to the reading and doing the study. I wished we could do that here. I have enjoyed every time of doing this study. It does bring me hope and a confidence in who Jesus is and how he looks at me.
Good Morning Jeanie. I too am doing mine online and my kindle because that is where my book is at. I like your idea of holding each other accountable for doing it. Why can’t we? We have the FB page and we have these discussions here. I don’t see why we couldn’t do it.
God Bless
Jeanie Kelley.. Are you doing this study as well as Melissa Taylors? I think I have seen you in that group. God Bless. Angie
Hey friends!! You are welcome to form accountability partners and FB groups if you want to. I have some ideas I’m going to share on Friday about how others have done that. I just don’t have a large online team (or as much time in my week) as Melissa to form official FB private groups. But you are more than welcome to organize that on the side. Just please also share here too. I’d be so sad if I didn’t get to hear what God is doing in your life :0) and all that He’s teaching you each week. 🙂
I’m happy to share here. I get so mad at myself frequently when I can’t be a Godly woman. I feel like giving up and then remember how much satan would like that. No Way is he goona win. The video spoke to me on so many levels and I know I gonna fill up a bunch of trashcans. Thanks for all you do. Really looking foward to the journey. Praying for Asher
Blessings, this is just what the Dr. order no lie, I wished I was able to speak to someone outside of work or church.To someone that dont know me and we are, i had a bad time growing up was never loved by my grandma or dad whom i was left with from the age of 2 week when my mom gave a stwart desk me and a note with an address on it to take me to my dad. They was both young and he gave me to his mom that made me her maid, refuse to tell anyone i was her blood line. growing up i had to deppend on me, i had time i wish i was going to get out of there, i hit 17 years and then my mom send for me. from one slavery to another, here is was now i got a job as a maid in a hotel and every two week my mom will come for the check i sign she change it this went on for 2 years finally i met my kids dad and i moved in with him but up until i was 8th months pregnant i was still sign over my check to her. after i got the second one i learn he was cheating on me, i start holding a block not to get hurt anymore. i got involve with someone else thinking he care but it was just for papers after he got his card he was gone, which i was glad see his visa green card was taking to long to get and because of that i was beaten by him must the time. sometimes i was pull out my car when i work late shift (2:30-11) smelling me to see if i was intimite with anyone, or if i was found or he was told i was speaking to anyone there was a show. Then there was one that try help me and my 3 girls puting us up in hotel just to get a good night rest with out worrying, try to give the girls anything they might need without asking me or them, to findout later he was falling for me but was married, and stupid me believe he cared, after a will my oldest beg me not to have him pick them up anymore, see one day she had bad cramps i was at work and i asked him to take home for me, she said he must have think she was sleeping and he started corresting her leg, what kind of mother am i? I got tired of dealing with men i just wanted time for me and the girls, work have its ups and downs but that did not bother me as much as wanting to be loved, so i stop trusting anyone. one afternoon a friend from work invited me to his church and as i went i found some peace but not the real kind, then the voices start God you running to God, your satan child, no one will ever love you, you will make a bed of roses but no man will stay in it, you are a no body, they will used you but never love you, you will never make it, this words was my Grandma words to me growing up that start haunting me again. i used to love singing when i was younger i school i can never forget i never had lessed than an A for singing in school, grandma used to say you dumb girl no one will ever go and here you sing. all this start coming back when my last daugther at the age of 11 start singing in the church a song she wrote and the passion she had for music, i promised i will do whatever it take for my 3 girls and here she wanted music, God blessed her with a very talented teacher who fall in love with me and the girls, but i try trusting him, i wounder when will he hit me, cheat on me, lie to me or mess with the girls, he dont have kids of his own, but he keep doing things right, God blessed me/us with the man that makes me happy as if i was a teen again, just that God started to get jelous and ask me to choose Him or Dj, i told Dj i have to choose God over him that if i have to lose anyone it will be him not God. Believe it or not he said its about time, in other words he said God has been talk to you (me) alot lately and you need to stop doubting the voice of God and over come your fear of losing me (Dj). so when i saw your confident heart online study i saw God is making they way for me to start trusting and stop doubting, thanks you so much and God Bless
God Bless you and your girls Angie!! Keep your focus on the Lord and He will guide you in the right direction!!! Thank you for sharing your story!!!
Listen to the selective voice of the Spirit of God living within you, Angie. The world is full of all sorts of voices, but the one voice living within (Galations 2:20) is the one that always affirms you. Anything that brings condemnation is of Satan or his demons. God always loves us, and the Bible says when you listen, He speaks. John 18:37b, Jesus said that. Read His Word every day, out loud, and to your girls, too. You will discover that His voice is always full of love!
We all fall, Angie, but Jesus paid the full price for all of our sins, past, present, and future. It is all in the Person and work of our Savior Jesus Christ. Hold tight to Him, and listen to His voice! He is calling you.
Renee,
When you have those moments of self doubt and or insecurity, did you or do you get a hollow feeling in the pit of your stomach? Just you stating on this video how you experienced it brings that feeling to the pit of my stomach. I can always throw it away, but now that I have those verses that God help me I will memorize, I can replace them. Gods words is sharper than a two edged sword.
I had suffered from some severe anxiety that included panic attacks and fears that God has freed me from nearly completely. I have experienced a miracle. I am so much more confident know but I know I can be more confident. Confident to carry out what God has called me to do. To speak to women of his truth, publically and individually. The “coincidence” is that your book came out about the time I started experiencing some confidence…but that is still not enough. His work must be perfected in me.
In regards to FB groups… I actually wish I could meet with others face to face to do this study but I know that cant be. I prefer the warmth of the human presence, but hopefully I can join one of the groups and feel all you who are participating close to me.
Hi Diana
I know what you are saying, I dont get a pit in my stomach I get this awful nervous feeling
in my spirit. Its a little scary. really when you think u have God word then all of a sudden
a rush of fear and doubt comes over me about my situation. I have to calm my self down and
speak Gods word back to myself again. But memorizing Gods word helps. For me it gives me back the authority. I am looking for change through this bible study. God bless all of us.
Hi Renee,
Are these video messages available on podcasts as well? I’m doing the study early in the morning at work and the videos are blocked. I would like to download them on my iPod and then be able to listen while I have my morning coffee/breakfast.
Thank you!
Thank you, Renee. Tears of hope streaming from my eyes. Thank you, Father, for your Truth.
Shelly,
A quote from a movie is helping me as i start this:
“Hope is a good thing- maybe the best of things and no good thing ever dies”
I love this quote, Danella! So much truth in it! Thanks for sharing. May I ask from what movie is it?
Shawshank Redemption
This really hit home with me today, too. I actually spoke the words, “I don’t feel like things will get better.” I have problems with my emotions and negative messages taking over my thoughts and my heart, especially when things going on are hard (like now).
I will take the challenge and write down my doubts and then throw them away. I may need to do that more than once a day! I know that His truth can (and will) change how I feel and change my life.
Kelli I understand your feelings so very much. I have been living through a world of heartache for the last 18 months, well in reality the last 22 years. This message got me through some really rough days I over the last year!!!! I am sure it will do the same for you. I will be praying for you.
Wow! This hit home with me today because just yesterday I spoke the words, “I don’t feel qualified to do that.” My emotions get the best of me sometimes. It’s not always just about how I “feel”…it’s also being willing to step back & realize that I am more than “qualified” to do this thing.
The visual/physical act of throwing away my doubt is powerful! I DON’T HAVE ENOUGH CONFIDENCE is now waiting for the trashman to come take it away 🙂 I’ll do that as often as I need to & replace it with God’s Truth from His Word to transform my thinking.
Renee,
This video really spoke volumes to me and helped me realize that I do sometimes throw anyway my confidence without even recognizing that is what I am doing. The illustration about the button for the remote control was an excellent illustration that helped me see how important it is to pay close attention to what I am discarding and what I am holding onto in my mind, body and soul. I am going to be intentional about replacing “stinkin thinkin”with the promises of God and I am also going to definitely write down those negative thoughts and words of doubt and throw them away. I am so grateful to God for his grace, mercy and His unfailing love and I look forward to my thoughts being transformed by Him through this Bible study .
I personally will easily recall “stinkin thinkin.” Thanks for the visual. (Been changing diapers for 15 years, so that puts that kind of thinking where it should go, in the trash!) 🙂 You go!!
You are exactly right because ” stinkin thinkin” does belong in the trash. Thanks for the comment and the encouragement!!!
Wow! What an amazing concept! Writing down our doubts and negative feelings and throwing them in the trash, then replacing them with the promises of God! I believe I will take this a step further and write down God’s promises to me (and you!) and post them all over my house, where I can see them every day, all the time! Can’t wait to try this Renee! Thanks for sharing your ministry with us!
Great idea Tami! Posting promises from God in likely places of doublt is a great way to redirect the heart and mind.
This was a great video message. Sometimes I have stinkin’ thinkin’. I’m in Alcoholics Annoynomous and that is one of our slogans. I have been sober for 13 years and have made so many mistakes in the past and the present. I want to be a better wife and mother, sister, neighbor and friend. God has continued to Bless me, I feel unworthy sometimes. But, I know that if I repent my sins I will be forgiven.I am going to post some of these Bible verses in my car, bathroom mirror and on the fridge. Thanks, Renee. 🙂
Congrats on the 13 years…
Renee , I loved the object lesson of throwing away the paper too! The thing that struck me is how these doubts have just become a part of me over the years, and they surface in so many ways. I realize I am not confident in sharing my opinions, and many times that quiet voice in my heart tells me to speak up or do something in particular, but I ignore it because of the confidence issue. I’ve struggled with it all my life. I didn’t realize how much it affects me, though until today. I was composing emails at work. My boss recently left his job, and I”ve had to fill in. It has been terrifying and I found myself today at the computer emailing several folks and almost apologizing for asking questions – because I don’t know how he handled certain details of the job.
I couldn’t throw that apologetic self doubt in the trash, but I’ll tell you what, a DELETE button works pretty well! I did a bunch of deletion of doubt! And you know what, no one came back with a reply that was like, “Oh you can’t do that job” or “How dare you ask a question!” Everyone was full of helpfulness and optimism! In some ways it felt like freedom!
This video really hit home for me. For one I always worry what other people thinks about me. It stops me from doing a lot of things. Thanks for Hebrew 10:39, I can quote this when I think about this. Another thing is throwing doubts in the trash. I have a lot of those that is keeping me from doing God’s work. I know this study is really going to help me.
Brenda, I am with you. I totally worry about what other people think about me and it hinders my decisions. I always look for the approval of others and in doing so stops from doing what maybe God is calling me to do. I pray that this study helps me to gain the confidence that I know I have but have always been afraid to show it. Thanks Renee for your words of encouragement.
Im with you girl. I will pray for you during this study. If we open our hearts to him, We will overcome it. Praying.
I understand your feelings. It is trusting God and let Him lead you with the right words to say and not to say.. Reading His Word and meditating on it daily. Also I need to pray for courage to say things at work that will clear the air of any bitterness and resentment. To live at peace and good communication with my immediate assistant principal and co-workers. Thankfully my co-workers are wonderful and very supportive.
This study is such a blessing for where I am at right now. Thank you Renee