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Renee Swope

Encouraging and equipping moms to parent with God's grace and confidence.

Cultivating Contentment with our Kids

Welcome to my “Month of Encouragement for Mom’s” in January. Whether you’re a mom or not, I pray that you’ll stay a while and that you’ll find something here to encourage your heart today.

I thought it would be fun to take what we talked about last week and go a little deeper with our kids. In today’s economy and our “I-need-more-to-be-happy” culture, there is one character trait I think we always need to grow in (at least I do) and one we’d love to see developed in our kids – the character trait of CONTENTMENT. I wrote this little family devotion that can be adapted for varying kid’s ages. There are a few options so you can do as much or little that fits your family’s schedule and style:

Contentment
means being happy with what you have or who you are.

Bible verse:Hebrews 13:5, “Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have.”

Biblical character and story:Paul learned the secret to contentment. He had lived in wealth and in poverty. Paul had experienced the luxuries of a man with power and the miseries of a man being held prisoner. But he had learned to put his hope in God and not in his circumstances, knowing his circumstances could change at any moment. This decision brought contentment, which lead to a peace that was separate from his stuff. (Philippians 4:11-12)

A Nugget of Truth: In Philippians 4: 6-7, Paul tells us his secret: “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need and thank him for all he has done. If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” (NLT)

Family discussion:
Paul’s prescription for peace is: talking to God about everything, trusting God and a thankful heart that reminds us of all He has already done and can do.

Explain to your children the importance of contentment and share the danger of comparison and the trap of getting more. Maybe share a time when the more you got, the more you wanted.

We will never have every thing. There will always be someone who has more and something we just have to have more of. But we can learn to be content by being thankful for what we have! Talk about a time when you, or your children, were not content and how it led to anxiety. Remind each other that contentment is not getting what you want; it is wanting what you have. If your children are struggling with contentment after a barrage of gifts at Christmas or birthdays (like ours do), take time discuss these questions:

  • What did you get for Christmas or your birthday that you really wanted?
  • Do you still want it or do you think you’ll be happy if you get something else?
  • What are you going to do when you decide you want just one more thing?
  • List all of the things you have to be thankful for.

Family Activity

Idea 1 – Start a family gratitude journal.

  • Commit for one week to have each person list 3 things they are thankful for each day.
  • Continue your journal by listing things daily or weekly as a family. Encourage kids to vary what they list.
  • At dinner, have each person tell one thing they are thankful for about the person to their left.

Idea 2 – Commit to not buying anything you do not need for one week.

Idea 3- Start each day by practicing Paul’s prescription for contentment with your kids:

  • Tell God what you need.
  • Thank him for all he has done.
  • Thank him for all that you have.

Family Prayer: Lord, thank you for all that I have. Please help me wantthose things, instead of wanting more. Amen.

I’d love to hear your thoughts about learning and living contentment today. And if you have some things you experience – big or little – as a result this week, be sure to share it with us. Tomorrow I have a guest blogger stopping by to share with us how we can teach our kids a Biblical view of finances, stewardship and goals to grow up being financially free. I also have some Dave Ramsey books to give away.

Copyright 2009, Rene Swope – All rights reserved.

 

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Today’s Mom Give-Away

Last week’s winners are posted below, under “Girl Talk”. Today we are choosing winners from the comments and giving away two D6 mom resources – a copy of my “Mining for Gold in the Heart of Your Child Chart and Angela Thomas’ best-seller “My Single Mom Life”. (A great book for all moms, single or married. From mommy guilt, loneliness, healthy boundaries to living the amazing life God has for you and your kids, Angela covers it all. I am reading it and loving it!)

To be part of these give-aways, click on “comments” below. Please include your email so we can get in touch if you win and I’d love to know your city/state or country.

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Comments

  1. Hello,
    I am a sunday school teacher ages 2 to 8. We are a small church. I have from 4 to 7 children in my class. I find that your devotions and info are very helpful in my teaching of our young ones. My heart was so blessed when our Pastor talked to the children of the church about the Heifer Project and ask the children to take offering cans home and bring them back to help children in other countries that need help and food to eat.
    One of the 5 year old boys went home and emptied his piggy bank into his offering can. He gave all he had. His amount came to 10 dollars of dimes, nickels, & quarters. He had no understanding about the amount, only that he wanted to help others. This piggy bank had been given to him when he was one year old and he enjoyed putting in the coins that his parents and others would give him.

  2. At a time where so many people feel ‘entitled’, it’s good to know that there are people like you out there still teaching contentment, gratefulness, and God’s word. Thank you!
    Elena Marshall
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    Lyme, New Hampshire

  5. This post about contentment really hit home with me. I love the challenge of only purchasing what we need for a full week. It looks easy on paper, but I know it won’t be easy as we drive around and get the urge to buy a coffee or a magazine? Do we need those items…certainly not! However, we certainly need the Lord and time with Him don’t we? Lord, help me to have a heart of contentment.

    I appreciate your posts!

    Caroline
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  6. I really liked the idea of a gratitude journal. I am definitely going to start doing that. Once again thanks for sharing your heart and for the chance of winning in the give away.

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    Columbia, Missouri

  7. I really liked the idea of a gratitude journal. I am definitely going to start doing that. Once again thanks for sharing your heart and for the chance of winning in the give away.

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    Columbia, Missouri

  8. Wow. God has been teaching me about contentment for a while now. We are not by any means a I want it and have to have it family, but still sometimes contentment is hard. Thanks for these great ideas on how to teach this to my children who are just entering the I want that stage.

    Heather in NC
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  9. Renee, thanks again for your wisdom that seems so timely for me right now. We are building a home and it has not been going well, the difference between what we thought we were getting and are actually getting keeps growing wider…ugh…thanks for the cahnce to win a tool that would greatly help out this homeschooling mom of 4 7 and under!

    Jennifer, Grand Rapids, MI
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  13. Thanks for today’s post, real good info and at a much needed time not only for the children but for myself. Thanks again and God Bless you and what you are doing.

    Heather in CT

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  14. thanks for blogging on this subject!i want to work on myself modeling contentment to the kids. I plan to use your devotional with them sometime this week!
    Cathy
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    Mtn. grove, mo

  15. I have been receiving the Proverbs 31 daily devotionals for about a year, but this is the first time I clicked on your link. Boy, do I wish I would have done that LONG ago! You have a real gift for sharing your passion for the Lord. I am super excited to check out your info on character traits as that is what we are working on with our 3 boys. Thank you so much for what you do! You are an inspiration and an asset to those of us who are working on our own relationship with the Lord and that of our families, too. Thanks again!
    Judy
    Holland, MI
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