Did you hear about my issue? That secret struggle I had for so long when it came respecting my husband. I confessed it all in my P31 devotion today. As I shared, I haven’t always been so good at following and trusting my man”s lead. BUT God has done an amazing work in me – and in my marriage – over the past 18 years.
I know marriage can be hard, and trusting someone to lead when there are things you struggle with together is really, really hard. But I also know God uses us in powerful ways to love our men like He does – unconditionally.
One of the best ways we can love our husbands is to pray for them. Praying for JJ has shown me all that he carried on his shoulders – at work, at home, at church, with our kids, etc. It’s also really helped me follow his lead. It assures me that he’s covered spiritually when I invite God to do His thing in JJ’s life.
Of course, it’s up to our husbands to respond to God’s work in their hearts but our part is not based on our husband’s response to God. It’s based on our surrendering and seeking God’s heart for our husbands – and trusting God to lead from there.
JJ has also told me that prayer is the best gift I can give him. Years ago I heard a concept about praying for our husbands – from head to toe. So, today I wanted to share some verses and prayers that fit with that concept:
Head
“Father, I ask that You would continually renew my husband’s mind, resulting in a transformed life. Help him bring every thought into captivity to Christ to make it obedient to You. Give him a greater understanding of Your Word. Help him to think on things that are pure and right and worthy of praise.” (Psalm 119:15, Rom 12:2, 2 Cor.10:5)
Eyes
“Lord, keep opening my husband’s eyes to deep spiritual truths. Help him to see things as You see them. Please guard his eyes from looking at worthless things. ” (Psalm 119:18, Psalm 119:37)
Ears
“Father, let my husband hear Your voice clearly. Help him to recognize your voice with certainty. Protect him from listening to anyone who is not seeking and walking with You. Help him not to be affected negatively by what others say and to discern between good and evil. Give him the ability to determine what is of You and what is not.” (Is 30:21, 1 Kings 3:9, 1 John 4:1)
Mouth
“Help my husband to speak the truth in love. Help him to be quick to listen and slow to speak. Give him the couraage to lovingly confront when necessary. Let the words he speaks be Yours, not his own. Help him speak words that bring grace and truth to the hearers. I also pray that you will help him to grow in his ability and desire to communicate with you and others.” (Psalm 19:14, 119:13, 41:3; Eph 4:15, 4:29; James 1:19)
Heart
“Give my husband a heart that seeks passionately after You. Teach him to guard his heart with diligence. Help him deal with anything in his heart that is not pleasing to You. Create in him a pure heart. Enable him to lead our family with integrity.” (Psalm 78:72, 119:10-11; Prov 4:23; 1 3:13)
Hands
“Lord, I pray that everything my husband does would be done with his whole heart, serving You rather than man. I pray that You will also help him to increase his skills and his abilities. Bless everything he puts his hands to.” (Psalm 24:3-4, Col 3:23)
Feet
I pray my husband would love Your Words and walk in Your ways. I pray He would be to walk in a manner that is worthy of You, bearing fruit in every good work. Jesus show him how to creatively share your truth with our kids as he does life with them each day. Father, when he walks through the valley of the shadow of doubt and difficulties, I pray he would fear no evil because He knows that you are with him. (Deut 6:7, 8:6, Col 1:10, Psalm 23:4)
I have seen prayer transform my marriage and my life. Whatever steps of faith God is calling you to take personally or with your husband, I want you to know that I am praying for you and your marriage today. We have an enemy set on destroying marriages and one of his tools is to pit husbands and wives against each other. I have experienced his efforts firsthand. What our husbands need most is our respect; what our marriages need most is prayer.
Let’s look for ways to build our husbands up – by giving them encouraging words and the gift of prayer – covering them from head to toe!
If you’d like a copy of my FREE Praying For Your Husband download to print with these prayers on it – click “Share Your Thoughts” and let me know. We’ll be happy to email it to you – although your email will not show in your comment. This will be sent out next week after the holiday. Happy Thanksgiving!
I would love to have this resource! Thanks for sharing.
I am convicted. My husband was grumpy coming home tonight, which is very rare. In fact, he took care of me all this weekend when I was hurting with a toothache. Well, tonight, I just blast him because he’s in a bad mood. I try to be sympathetic but I’m horrible at it when it comes to him. ugh
Please send an email version my way so I can learn the error of my ways and try to do better!
I would love a copy of this resource – I struggle to respect my husband and can relate to what you’ve gone through – I’m there now. Thanks for sharing, I need to know it’s possible for me to get that respect into my marriage!
Really good sharing. Thanks!
Been struggling with this issue so badly! would love to have a copy of your download! Thank you for being so honest with us!
Thank you Renee for this post and the prayers. I have been praying the same thing and just realized after reading your post that I have been doing the same thing. Thank you for opening my eyes and my heart.
Thank you for sharing, im struggling with alowing fear to bring on anxiety induced depression,I’m trusting God to continue to grow and teach me to love , trust Him in trusting my husband. please send me the prayers, so want to bless
God for what he has already done in my husband and me. so excited and Thankful God has chosen to heal our marraige.
Please send me a copy of “Praying for your Husband” download. I was greatly blessed by these words and although my husband is not a believer, I feel this prayer can touch his heart and turn him to the Lord Jesus for household salvation.
Thank you for sharing your struggle and being transparent. The devil wants us to think we are alone in our struggles. I think it is fear that I allow to creep in that hinders me from submitting at times. Please send me that head to toe prayer!
Blessings to you as you continue to minister to people’s hearts
This is us! I am vowing to be less controlling. I would Lo e the download. thanks for the post!
So appreciate your thoughts and encouragement in today’s devo. Such an rea of growth for me – would love the Scriptures/prayers for my husband!
Thank you!
Your devotional came at the right time. God is so good! Would like a copy of your download to pray for my husband. thank you for your ministry! I’m praying for abundant blessings for you and your family!
In Christ,
Crystal
What a great encouragement and reminder to build up my man through prayer. I’d love the scriptures! thanks!!
What a great encouragement and reminder to build up my man through prayer. I’d love the scriptures! thanks!!
These prayers are fantastic! Praying scripture is praying God’s will for my husband. I can’t change my husband, but GOD CAN!
After reading today’s devotional, I realized ways I don’t honor and submit to my husband. Thank you for the scriptures to pray for my wonderful husband
Please email me the scriptures listed in today’s devotional
Hey sweet sister, I really needed to read this today. Now, to apply it all in every day life! Please email me the rest!
Thanks for your encouraging words on marriage. I would love to have your download
Loved the idea of praying for Neil using scripture. Please send me the download. Thanks.
What a great devotion many times we forget to pray for husbands and they end up last on the list if they make it to the list :)….Learning how to do this I would love a download of the information…Thx
Thank you so much for your words today. What an encouragement, and verses that I was actually looking for today too!
Thank you for your faithfulness to God’s direction as you share your heart with us!
I would love a download of the Head to Toe prayer please!
Well, I’d have to listen to the tape – yes, that long ago – to be sure, but even if I said the traditional vows, my heart was surely rebellious and fearful. By grace, I have come a long way.
I love your prayer and would like a copy.
Beautifully said. We all need prayer… and our husbands as the head of the household need it more than ever!!!
Thank you for this beautiful prayer – can you please send me the “Praying For Your Husband download”?
Thank you so much for the devo this morning! My son’s father has been gone for 2 years and is coming to visit us in 2 weeks, I have been praying for his salvation and that if it is God’s will He will reconcile us and restore our family. I would love to have a copy of praying for your husband head to toe. Thank you again, I know God had me read this for a reason. God bless you.
Would you please send a copy of ‘How to pray for your husband’. Thank you, Vania Burney 3355 Benton Harbor Ct, Decatur, Ga 30034
Thanks for sharing this! I’d love a PDF of it to keep handy so that I can pray for my husband daily.
Thank you for your testimony, it was meant for me to start with today’s devotion. It was like looking in a mirror. It was like you have been right here with us over the pass few months or so. I am interested in the prayer from head to toe for my husband. I am ready for a change in my marriage and the only way I know is through God the father.
Renee, thanks for sharing this, I’ve been working on verses like this for a retreat this next spring. Thank you for sharing it confirms that we are on the right tract and we PTL!! Yes, I would like to have a printed copy of ‘How to pray for your husband’. Thank you, Brenda Brodmerkle P O Box 1629 Noxon, MT 59853 🙂
I would love a copy!
This is exactly what I have needed – thank you!
Thank you so much for sharing this today. I’d love to have a downloaded copy to share with others.
Thanks for that devotional!! Your willingness to be authentic was a bit like dynamite to this somewhat complacent heart, girl!!! Please share those tips for praying for your hubby with me. I’m sure we will both be blessed by me using them!! Thanks so much once again!!! Keep it up!!
Thank you for a wonderful devotional – my husband and I have been married 9 years and are currently struggling. I would love to receive a copy of the prayers!
Thank you!
Thank you for your honesty and encouragement. I have vacillated for far too long between wanting to be submissive and then snatching the lead in an aggressive and condemning way. I have been married for 13 years and would like to be married for many more, but I would like to do it better.
Your prayer guide would be much appreciated.
Thanks again! Continued Blessings to you and your family!
Would love your download! Thanks
I would love a copy of your email prayers for husband. My own marriage is proof of the power of prayer! I like how you work down his body to pray over him. I do a similar thing when I fold laundry and pray for hearts, legs, feet, etc of my family as I fold thier clothes. I like the Scripture you incorporate though! Great thinking!
I would like to have the prayers for my husband you talked about. My husband is a Christian but unfortunately doesn’t have a genuine relationship with the Lord, ie not a true believer. I pray for us of course especially that I’d love my daughter to grow in a true Christian family, but I sometimes lose faith. Thank you for your encouraging blog. Please pray for us and send those prayers. GOD bless.
would love to have the praying for your husband download that you have offered
thanks – your story sounds all too familiar 🙂
Thank you so much for writing with honesty and from your heart. I wish someone had given me this 20 years ago. God bless you.
oh please send me a copy of the prayers! THANK YOU!
That is just what I needed to hear and the head-to-toe prayers is just what I need to Do! Thanks!
Thanks Renee! Your message is timely and convicting.
I would like to save marriage , I have destroy my marriage with wrong though may Lord repair everything I have done, and help my family to come bag again in unity I was just ignorant, May the Lord bring back my husband and save my family , I have respectfulness my husband. I have just mess up all over the place by ignorance. MAY EVERY BODY PRAY FOR MY LOVELY wonderful FAMILY. Please could you help me to pray and ask Lord to repaired my husband heart who have suffer many years of my respectfulness. I am promising with Lord help I will do HIS will because of that he is living in me trough Jesus Christ. SEND ME A COPY FOR PRAYING FOR MY HUSBAND
Thank you Jesus for words of truth. Thank you for sharing, I needed to hear this and I do not want to be like Eve was in Genesis. God has a perfect plan .
God bless you for sharing. I would love to have a copy of this to share with others.
Hi,Renee,renewed and renewing others.Thank God who has a vessel like you to tell other women that they can build their home by wisdom.I love to share this with other women,quoting you.T hanks for the good works.
I have been really struggling with this issue lately. My husband has turned away from the Lord and it is breaking my heart and it is tearing our marriage apart. I truly do want to respect him, i just don’t know how. Just today I found out that he has lied to me, again, and told our children to lie also in order to cover his lie. This is yet another lie and it is causing me to not trust him. How do I respect a man I can’t trust? Lying has been an issue of his our entire 14 year marriage and I do realize that it is in part because in the past I have been critical about his decisions and he has resorted to lying in order to keep the peace. I know I need to change and allow him to lead, however, I don’t know if he knows the Lord and I’m afraid that he will lead our family away from the Lord. I feel so desperate and alone and betrayed and unloved. However, I do praise the Lord that He loves me and that is the only thing keeping me going.
I have been hurt by my something my husband has done and I am finding that as I draw close to God for healing this message of respect for my husband keeps coming up in my life. I have always respected him but because of what he’s done I believe God is giving me these things as reminders that my husband still needs this respect to get through his own struggles. It would be easy to give up on him, but I can’t. Thank you for all that you do, your online studies have been a real blessing to me!
Thank you for being willing to be so open with us!! I have been married 35 years now & sure wish I could of had some of these “tips” in our earlier years of marriage as I, too, learned how to honor God & my husband at the same time. It hasn’t been easy but so worthwhile & it does truly make a difference. Would love to have the prayer cards download. 🙂
I loved your devo today. I want to be the wife I should be. Although, it’s hard sometimes because my husband, while a believer, is not the spiritual head of our home. I am. And that is stressful, too! I am the example to my husband & children. I need to keep praying that my example will continue to nudge him in the right direction and that he would desire the Holy Spirit to come into his life & guide him & then us. I would love to receive your download. I also use “31 Days of Praying for Your Husband” from TrueWoman.com. The link is: http://www.truewoman.com/?id=366
Thank you, Renee!
My husband and I have been going through the same thing. God has showed me how to submit to him because he is the leader of the home however it if doesn’t line up with God’s Word then we talk about it. It’s a process and takes time but we are doing much better since God is number 1 and in control. I would like a copy of the download you’re offering. God bless you, your marriage, and your family! Happy Thanksgiving!