“What’s wrong with me?” I asked myself in a frustrated and condemning tone. I had forgotten an appointment and missed an important call that morning, so that same question had popped into my head more than once.
But it wasn’t just a question, it was an assumption, a label of defect I slapped on myself every time I asked it — not just that day but on so many other days. When I forgot to do something important, was late for a meeting, yelled at my kids, lost my keys, missed a deadline, or walked into a room and couldn’t remember why I went in there. The list was endless.
And every time I asked, “What’s wrong with me?” I actually told myself something was wrong with me. Then I would try to figure out my elusive fault so I could fix, or hide it.
But that morning, for the first time, I started to recognize what I was doing. And when I paused to really think about it, I realized how damaging my thoughts were. To my soul and my mindset. My question wasn’t making things better; it was making things worse. And something needed to change.
What about you? How often do you berate yourself with questions and assumptions that make you feel defective? Are you tired of assuming something is wrong with you? Are you tired of trying to figure out and fix your elusive faults? Are you tired of feeling like a defect?
We all do this for different reasons, but we have at least one reason in common: we have a spiritual enemy who is a pro at pointing out all that is wrong with us (real or perceived) and getting us to forget anything that is right with us.
Scripture tells us when Satan lies, he speaks his native language because he is a liar and the father of lies (John 8:44). His intent is to get us to believe lies that make us feel defective, defeated, and discouraged.
It’s what he did with Eve in the Garden by getting her to take her eyes off who she was and all she had as God’s child and to focus her thoughts on what she lacked, so she would spend her time trying to hide her insecurities and inadequacies.
“Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden at the time of the evening breeze, and they hid from the Lord God among the trees of the garden. So the Lord God called out to the man and said to him, “Where are you?” And he said, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked, so I hid.” Then he asked, “Who told you that you were naked?” Genesis 3:8-11 (CSB)
Notice how God asked them: “Who told you that you were naked?” In other words, “Who told you something is wrong with you?” By asking this question, He acknowledged someone else was pointing out their flaws and casting shame on them — but it wasn’t Him.
God wanted them to know there was another character in their story, someone speaking lies into their hearts causing them to move away from Him and each other. He wants us to know this reality in our story as well.
We have the same enemy who wants us to believe the same lie – that something is wrong with us. But what if instead of going along with him, we stopped and asked the same question: Who is telling me something is wrong with me? What/who is making me feel defective and defeated? Is it me? Is it someone else? Or it the enemy telling me lies I easily believe?
It’s time to change the questions we’re asking and the assumptions we’re making about ourselves.
We’ve got to recognize Satan’s schemes and defuse his deceit with discernment and truth. So, the next time you feel defeated or defective, instead of asking “What’s wrong with me?” stop and tell yourself all that is right with you:
You are God’s “workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works.” Ephesians 2:10
You are “remarkably and wondrously made.” Psalm 139:14
“In all these things [you] are more than [a conqueror] through Him who loved [you].” Romans 8:37
Period. The end.
With Christ in you, there is nothing wrong with you. Don’t let anyone, not even yourself, convince you otherwise.