When My Desire For Control Starts Controlling Me

When I Give God Control

Ever notice how when life circumstances feel out of control, you’ll try extra hard to grasp control? 
For me, I’ll try to control my kids, husband, my schedule or what ever I can get your hands on. And it’s usually not a pretty sight.

Like the day I felt like my life was out of control, so I decided to do ALL . THE . LAUNDRY like a ninja warrior! But when I went upstairs to put clean clothes away in my then fifteen-year-old son’s room, I discovered he had not put his clean clothes away the week before! Instead, he’d stacked them on his dresser, thrown dirty clothes on top of them and his big pile of clean clothes had fallen over into his dirty clothes basket on the floor – filled with sweaty stinky boy socks, shirts and shorts!!!

I was not a happy mama! My words to Joshua were harsh and my reaction was excessive. Instead of taking time to breathe and coach my son in laundry etiquette, I yelled at him!!! And a few hours later I felt so guilty I couldn’t sleep.

I lost my temper, but that’s not all. My need for control was starting to control me. 

I wanted to do laundry and for his room to be clean so I’d feel like something in my life wasn’t a mess!  But what I needed was God’s perspective and peace. What I needed were tools and ahead-of-time strategies to deal with frustrating circumstances that set me off.

My friend Lisa-Jo knows how I feel and she’s created a life-giving resource for weary ones like me and you! I’ve watched her let God use the most shameful, raw places of her anger struggles to give hope to other moms. And dads. Honestly, at our house it’s helped my husband too. And even if you’re not a mom, some of just need to know we’re alone if we struggle with our temper.

IF YOU’RE LIKE US and could use simple tips that have made radical, life-giving difference I wanted to let you know about The Temper Toolkit  Lisa-Jo created.

The Temper Toolkit includes:

7 self-paced teaching videos, downloadable audio (so you can listen on the go) and key takeaways from each lesson beautifully designed as phone lock screens, computer wallpapers or a print so you can choose which format is best to help you take the lessons with you on the go.

5 bonus videos including special videos for how to talk to your husband about your temper journey as well as how to talk to your kids. If our kids also struggle with big feelings, here are some practical ways to help them put words to what they’re feeling. And to help them understand all the potential for good packed into their passionate temperaments.

Beautiful prints you can frame like the one designed for What to Tell That Kid Who is Pushing All Your Buttons.



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And you get all this for $29 – the cost of one exhausted drive-through dinner with the kids after a day of meltdowns (with a 30 day money back guarantee!) That’s right! If this isn’t a good fit, you’ll get your money back with the 30-day money back guarantee. 

PLUS the first 30 friends who purchase The Temper Toolkit using the links on this post, 
will receive a FREE set of 31 Scripture Cards from ME!! (valued at $5 )


If you’re tired of losing your peace, patience and temper,
let me know and I’ll put you on my waiting list
notification email for the Temper Toolkit.

I know you’re going to love it as much as we do!

Cheering you on! ~Renee

About Renee

Renee Swope is a Word-lover, story-teller, heart-encourager and grace-needer. She's also a wife, mom, friend, daughter and author of A Confident Heart, a Retailers Choice Award winning book that became a best-seller and has been published in six languages, with over 150,000 copies sold. Renee is speaks around the country at women's events and and serves on the writing team for DaySpring’s inCourage blog. For twenty years, Renee served in leadership at Proverbs 31 Ministries and as former co-host of the ministry's radio program, “Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee.


  1. Tammy Churchill says:

    Renee, you may also be interested in Shannon Popkins new release ‘Control Girl, Lessons on Surrendering Your Burden of Control’. Here is the link. It is currently sold out, but I highly recommend the book.

    I so enjoy your Blog!


  2. Thanks Tammy!! I just went and read about it. Sounds like a great book. I’ll have to get a copy! 🙂

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