You’ve Been Pre-Approved

What if this week, every time we look in the mirror and think … “Uggh, I need to ______ {lose weight, do something about these wrinkles, get rid of those dark circles under my eyes, etc.} you say this out loud:

“He calls me Beautiful.”

Because it’s true. He does!

You are chosen. Treasured. Redeemed. Loved. Cherished. Enough. You are Pre-Approved!!


What if we surrounded our hearts with truth seekers and truth-speakers, who told us these truths again and again? Friends who point us back to the One who calls us Beloved, Known and Valuable.

This week I’m  honored to be joining a community of women that do just that, everyday. Speaking courage, truth and Hope into the hearts of women around the world through their words, blog posts, community groups and more. Oh how I’d love for you to join (me) there as I join the contributing writers team of:


Perhaps (in)courage is a place you already know? Or maybe it’s a community waiting for you? I’ll be sharing more in the weeks to come. But I hope you’ll hop on over this week, and find out more about (in)courage, see me with bed-head (in my favorite place on earth), and meet the other new writers here. BUT BEFORE YOU GO be sure to ENTER TO WIN (Sorry, the giveaway is over, but would still love to hear from you)!

loveIdolTo celebrate the (in)courage-ment, and the fact that this week will be different because we’re going to tell ourselves the truth every time we look in the mirror…  I’m giving away Love Idol: Letting Go of Your Need for Approval and Seeing Yourself through God’s Eyes, by my friend Jennifer Dukes Lee. Jennifer is also a newbie (in)courage writer along with several others and me who joined the (in)courage team today!

Jennifer wrote “Love Idol” for women like us—who’ve had “enough of the not-enoughs.” This book is her journey toward freedom from the approval-seeking-cycle where she invites us to a place where we can lay down every mirror, every tally sheet, every report card — everything that tells us we aren’t (____) enough.

ENTER TO WIN by  leaving a comment sharing one area of your life where you would love to see yourself as God sees you: loved and pre approved. (Sorry, the giveaway is over, but would still love to hear from you)

About Renee

Renee Swope is a Word-lover, story-teller, heart-encourager and grace-needer. She's also a wife, mom, friend, daughter and author of A Confident Heart, a Retailers Choice Award winning book that became a best-seller and has been published in six languages, with over 150,000 copies sold. Renee is speaks around the country at women's events and and serves on the writing team for DaySpring’s inCourage blog. For twenty years, Renee served in leadership at Proverbs 31 Ministries and as former co-host of the ministry's radio program, “Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee.


  1. Thank you for the reminder that I have been pre approved 🙂

    • I love the title “pre-approved”. What a wonderful reminder that we are all loved with an everlasting love. I’ve shared several copies of a “Confident Heart” and feel sure this book will be another of my favorites.

    • God has redeemed me from any bad things that I may have been through in my past even before coming to know His my own Lord and Personal Savior. I ♥ just how He can redeem me f…rom anything that Imay have previously done before.”What if this week, every time we look in the mirror and think … “Uggh, I need to ______ {lose weight, do something about these wrinkles, get rid of those dark circles under my eyes, etc.} you say this out loud:

      “He calls me Beautiful.”

      Because it’s true. He does!

      You are chosen. Treasured. Redeemed. Loved. Cherished. Enough. You are Pre-Approved!!

      What if we surrounded our hearts with truth seekers and truth-speakers, who told us these truths again and again? Friends who point us back to the One who calls us Beloved, Known and Valuable”Renee Swope
      I ♥ this incredible thought tonight. God sees me as a valuable person in everything that I may do throughoutmy life. What I’m not really good at means absolutely nothing to God, even if other people around me may think that I’m supposed to be good at just about everything I try to do. “Enough chosen children dearly loved treasured FREE redeemed whole Lord cherished pre-approved beloved valuable.” Ultimately, what this quote is saying is that we’re God’s chosen ones, and He has pre-approved our purchace before the devil even had a chance to collect us for his own distructive purposes. Though I’m not certain I got the quote worded correctly because of having difficulty reading it. I ♥ knowing that I am redeemed from whatever sins I may have done.

      • Christine says:

        Knowing how God sees me and seeing me as God sees me are hard to see in the same light. But beleiving is what he tells me makes it so much more beleivable.

    • sounds like a wonderful book!

    • Heather says:

      One area of my life that I’d love to see myself as God sees me is in my parenting. In today’s society there is such a tug-o-war that goes on. There’s this lure to be successful and accomplish things in the work force and yet this desire to be home with your children, pouring into them, and taking care of your family/home the way that I believe God intended. There’s this guilt for me that accompanies my position as a professional in the work-force. I desire to be the best mom that I can be and yet at times I’m discouraged, tired, and stressed by the multiple demands and competing obligations of work and home. I desire to see myself as forgiven for my short comings and mistakes, granted mercy and grace each day. I desire to feel loved unconditionally by a God who created the universe and has numbered my days. I desire to be the mother that God has created me to be.

  2. Chosen. Redeemed. Loved. Cherished. Enough. And Pre-approved indeed! I remember the first time I met you. It was in a book-signing line at The Relevant Conference. And to be honest, I’d never heard of Renee Swope or Proverbs 31 ministries. And to be totally honest, I really only stood in the line to get a free copy of your book! (Sometimes being clueless is a helpful thing 🙂 But you know what I found? A humble sister in Christ who had a big smile and a welcoming heart…who treated this new girl like she was the most important person in the room. And then, to top it off, after I figured out who you actually were, YOU visited my tiny blog that next month and left a comment…a comment for ME! { sigh} YOU, Miss Renee, live Jesus gospel. Real and true. And you shine the love of Christ with beauty and radiance. And I can not be more thrilled for your wisdom, and elegance, and grace to be a part of (in)courage. No guilt, my friend. God knows, and THIS is from Him. I am celebrating with you tonight my friend, cake and all!! xoxo

  3. I am not sure that I can pick just one area. Like so many women, I tend to see myself differently than those around me do. I find myself wondering if I am good enough as a mother or wife. I feel fat and frumpy simply because of a few pounds while those around me keep telling me that I do NOT need to worry about those few pounds. At school, I attend workshops with other teachers who have fewer years of experience in the classroom, yet I feel inadequate and somehow a disappointment to my students.

    It isn’t ALL of the time, of course. There are those glimmering, shimmering moments when a parent tells me how much I have helped their child, when a colleague commends me for some activity or unit and asks for help, when my daughter says, “You know I love you, don’t you?”, or when my sweet husband lets me know that I am still beautiful to him. I simply need to remember more often that I truly am ENOUGH in God’s eyes…. and that is more important than how anyone else sees me.

  4. Thank you for the reminder that I am preapproved. As a rebellious teenager I was told I would never have anything or amount to anything. Somehow that stick with me most of my life and I don’t think it has truly ever been removed. I know I am loved but it’s always in the back if my mind am I really this enough. I too as the previous lady said have a few pounds to lose and when I look in the mirror don’t line who I see. Thank you for the words and reminder may they stay in my heart and soul day and night !!

  5. Thank you for this beautiful truth. I know this in my head but I know that I need to get it in my heart. Sometimes that just seems a little more difficult. Thank you for the reminder.

  6. Loved, known valuable and pre-approved – that sounds so wonderful! Thank you for your message today and for reminding me that I am enough because God’s love is enough. I’ve never thought of myself as a good enough daughter, wife, mother, friend or employee and so many of my life circumstances have caused me to doubt whether I can ever be good enough, but the good news is that I don’t have to do anything to be good enough for God. I struggle to keep my focus on what the Lord says about me and not let the world cause me to doubt. Thank you for this message – it brings renewal and hope.

  7. bettie b. says:

    Daily struggle with feeling loved and chosen BUT God is so faithful to his daughter…. when he hugs me daily and reassures me that HE is with me every minute of the day…..i am not alone….and HE carries me in the palm of HIS hand!! Thank you Lord!!

  8. Accepted just the way I am. I think deep down I feel I need to change to have others and God love me even though I know that’s not the case.

  9. I want to see myself as preapproved for many reasons, but one of them is performance-based value. I’ve always struggled with basing my worth on my job, my volunteering, or other things I “go go go” doing every day. I would love to read this book!! 🙂

  10. Susie Y says:

    I so needed this just now. I’ve had a busy week so far and it’s going to get busier as mom & I plan for our vacation to Germany in May. I seem to lose sight of myself and what’s important when I get so busy. Thank you!

  11. There are so many areas in which I want to see myself through God’s eyes. I definitely long to see myself physically through His eyes. As I approach 40 and my body is changing…wrinkles appearing, pounds showing up…I am very hard on myself and trying to remind myself that I am not supposed to look like I am still 18. And that it is okay, I want people to love me whether I am a size 6 or a size 16 because that would mean they are seeing through to my heart and loving the important parts of me. I need to see as He does and only worry about His approval and ideals of me…not the opinions and thoughts of others. As an imperfect human that is very hard, but I long to love myself the way I love Jesus and the way I love others. Thank you for doing this giveaway…what a blessing! I think this book would help me SO much! God bless!

  12. Need to learn to not always worry so much about what others think of me and know that I am preapproved in Gods eyes 🙂

  13. Tammy Dobson says:

    I would like to see myself as God sees me in everyday life and be able to smile without worrying and wondering what I didn’t do or did do and if I am where and what I am suppose to be.
    To See Myself as GOD sees me, To Love Myself as GOD Loves me:)

  14. Kristen says:

    Honestly, I need to see myself as God sees me in every area of my life! This book sounds amazing!

  15. Wow, how about every area! I recently have been working on feeling more worthy and beautiful as I am my own worst critic. Would love to win the book but thank you either way!

  16. Katrina says:

    thank you for the reminder, God has chosen me and pre approved me for his kingdom. I need to live that everyday

  17. sheila mckinzie says:

    love that concept- never heard it put that way before

  18. Debbie F says:

    I think one area of my life that I would like to see myself as God does is that I am good enough. So often I don’t feel good enough because with health issues I can’t do everything everyone else seems to do and I am not a super energetic person so I lack the energy to keep up with everything like others do and my husband seems to remind me often that I don’t measure up although those words don’t directly come out of his mouth but the words spoken definitely let me know. I know God made me and this is me and in His eyes I am loved unconditionally.

  19. There is so much about me I question. My weight, my looks, my abilities. I already wonder how other people see me and usually think the worst.

  20. I have hit rock bottom. I would love to see myself thru God’s eyes. Thank you.

  21. Midnight Salty says:

    Thank you for the reminder that I am pre-approved! I needed that especially today! This is a constant struggle for me to see myself as God sees me. I constantly put myself down every minute of every day. it’s hard to see the beautiful, approved, loving, good mom, good wife, good friend, etc side of me when all I think about are the negatives. Thank you for this!!!

  22. I am working on this very thing in my life! My husband pointed out to me that I was envious of others & of course it made me mad at first. After I thought about it though he is right, not to the point that I do not want others to be blessed but I was evaluating my worth by their blessings & not measuring up in my eyes. I have been praying to be filled with God & let that be enough, to count my blessings & not the blessings of others, to find my worth in Him:-)

  23. D. Cahill says:

    The more I study the Bible and learn about God’s unfailing love, grace, mercy, the more sure that I am loved just as I am, with my strengths and my many weaknesses. Instead of being a timid person not feeling worthwhile so often, now I am much bolder at times and can reach out to others, encouraging them. I am an overcomer through Christ Jesus who loves me unconditionally.

  24. I have been struggling with my worth. As a child and now as an adult. It is so strange how “things” creep into our minds and zap us of our beauty….looks, weight, education, being a good wife, even our worth as a mother and grandmother. Thank you for reminding me to try and look through God’s eyes.

  25. Colleen Long says:

    I am a recovering alcoholic. I wasted 10 years of my life drinking to self medicate myself through my depression . I know God loves me and forgives me, but I have such regret. 🙁

  26. Weight…yep I said it. I lost over 25 lbs. and gained it and more back. Tend to stay away from mirrors and pictures which is ironic since I am a photographer mom. I would love to receive this book.

  27. I struggle with feeling like I am a good mother and wife. I compare myself to others and feel so inadequate. This is a great message! Thank you for sharing!

    • Mary Moli says:

      wow! I thank God for this wonderful encouragement. I often feel and think negatively about who I am and never stop comparing myself to other women around me. I just need to think positively the way my God created me in his own image saying, I am his child no matter how I look, rich or poor! God bless this ministry

  28. Candace says:

    Love this reminder of this truth that is often hard to keep in my heart.

  29. I’ll have to work on changing what I say to the image I see in the mirror and to my self-loathing heart, to say it so much that it will finally change my default mode of self-condemnation to seeing my identity in Jesus.

    I’m so grateful you are one of the women joining (In)courage’s group of writers, Renee. God led me to it towards the end of last year, and it is an Elim in the wilderness of this world, a place to refresh our souls with hope and courage.

  30. I want to see myself as a daughter of the King not as what my past keeps telling me I am.

  31. I would love to see how God sees my beauty and talents. To have him speak to me and tell me what he thinks about me. To feel his arms around me. The struggles have gone on so long. I need his healing. Deeply.

    • Rita Walters says:

      God does speak to you about how He sees you ……the Bible. In Ephesians He tells you that you are His Masterpiece. There are soooooooooo many times He tells you how wonderful. There is a wonderful list of all these statements from God in a book by Josh McDowell called See Yourself as God Sees You. I understand fully your struggle but He can change that ! Just listen to Him. He changed me from seeing me as a mistake to now seeing me as a Masterpiece. And He wants to and will do the same for you, His Masterpiece.

  32. Definitely enjoy positive words that reaffirm truth!

  33. There are so many areas in my life where I’d love to see me, the way He sees me. I’ve struggled most of my life, and have just recently really come to terms with having a relationship with God. I need to hear, see, feel, His love, forever.

  34. Kathleen Peters says:

    I have a sign on my mirror in my bathroom: “You are Chosen!” Every morning I flip flop into the bathroom with cup of coffee in hand and then, as I take a sip of that coffee, my eyes catch that sign. My heart picks up tempo, a smile crosses my face, and it’s then I am reminded…He loves me…He has chosen me. My day couldn’t begin any better. Thank you for all of the other warm reminders. I am nowhere near beautiful…but your words make me feel beautiful. I am pre-approved…how great is that…no need to fill out an application, or wait for acceptance; I am already proven. And loved. And chosen. Renee, you do great work. I love the emails that I receive and I always look forward to them. And I always receive a blessing. Thank you for your faithfulness. (P.S. I did not write this to win a book, you can pass that on to someone else…I just wanted to let you know the part you played in my day today. God Bless.)

  35. Oh and my one area would be my self image! I would love to see myself as God sees me for once.

  36. Worthy to stand before other women and share with them the LOVE of Jesus. To let them know they are not alone, that they are wonderfully and fearfully made!!!

  37. CrissyK says:

    Wow, what a powerful message. I am so good at encouraging and uplifting others but so quick to put myself down. I can relate to so much of what everyone wrote. When I leave my house I feel good about myself, but then I see someone and think her outfit is cuter, her hair looks better, ooh her nails her done and mine aren’t, why didn’t I workout before I left for the day. I feel guilty if I eat something bad, I worry about my kids, my husband, did I do enough, did I encourage enough, and then I start planning for the next day. I never think about God loving me more than I love myself or my sweet family. I think it will be amazing if I can commit and actually tell myself this every time I look in the mirror. I have so much to be thankful and appreciative for – it is a shame that I let Satan steal my happiness by buying into his lies. Thank you for the message. So inspiring!

  38. Rhonda Crews says:

    I love the idea of this blog. I am a writer and I struggle with a low self image. I am so happy to be a part of this.

  39. Boy, did I need to hear this! Such a struggle for me……..How I wish I could
    rest in this fact!!! I have never measured up! Grew up with 3 sister’s who always
    had the “advantage” over me…..better student, better personality, more friends, better
    child, no matter what it was, they always seemed to excel where I always struggled!
    Still feel as if God surely loves them more than he loves me!!!

  40. I am struggling right now with self esteem. I’ve always had a little issue with self esteem but it’s gotten
    worse since I lost my job. I am starting to think that I can’t do anything right. It’s not a good feeling.

  41. Julie Sorensen says:

    I am “pre-approved”. Thank You, Jesus! I need to be reminded that He sees me through the eyes of love and acceptance. God sees Jesus in me! Amen and Amen!

  42. Cindy Young says:

    I would like to believe that God is really using me. I always feel like He uses others, but not me. I have such a burning in my heart to do more, but need to learn that he is happy with me and what I am doing right now for Him.

  43. Terri Karslo says:

    Today was one of those days when I got up (slowly) and moved (painfully) to my knees, asking that God work His mercy and grace thru me that I might be a more acceptable person. That I might not dwell on the extra pounds, graying hair and achy body that follows me around daily. That I might stay focused on my loving Father and share Him with just one person today. Now that I am reminded that I am preapproved, it adds confirmation to my daily walk. He loves me any way shape or form and He will love you too if you let Him! Blessing for another day closer to His kingdom! Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.

  44. I would like to see myself in the sufficiency that God has provided instead of the lack the enemy tries to get me to focus on. If I remind myself that I truly am valuable to God, then I will realize that there’s nothing God will not provide for me. It reminds me of the reference in Matthew 6:25-26: 25 “Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? 26 Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they?

    Yes, I am valuable enough to God for him to supply all of my needs!

  45. Jennifer says:

    I just love that we are pre-approved! Just need to get my heart in line with what my head knows to be true and see myself how God sees me!

  46. Heather H. says:

    Thank you for this post. I am having trouble choosing just one area. The last six years have been a rough road for me and is hard to look in the mirror and see anything about myself that reflects how God sees me. I am coping, but I don’t feel that there is anything that I am doing really well at. Mother, wife, daughter, sister, friend, teacher, co-worker — there are so many “hats” that I am trying to juggle right now, while trying to get some health issues under control. It is hard to let go of the person I used to be and allow myself to not only accept who I am today, but to embrace her and love her the way I know that I should. I find myself often comparing myself to the me of years ago –saying things like “I was a better ______ before I got ill”, “I could do _________ better before I got ill”, etc. I am a work in progress, and every day I am grateful beyond measure that He will never give up on me no matter how tempted I may be to give up on myself. I think tomorrow morning I will start the day by looking in the mirror, smiling, and saying “I am pre-approved!”

  47. Sandra M Clark says:

    Its Great to know that in spite of How I view myself or what others see, God’s Vision of who iam in Him reveals His Love, patience in the area of procrastination. I have been irritated that my writting has not been consistent. God has approved me , acknowledge that he has already made a way for me and I need not ever give up.

  48. I know this is in my head. I believe it in my heart for all others. I try to convince others of this as much as possible. How do we make our own hearts believe it for ourselves? If I could do that, I think I could do anything.

  49. Michelle says:

    I would love to see myself as God sees me as being worthy; worthy of His love and grace. Sometmes it is difficult to remember that He does believe in me and that I am worth it. But, I look at all that He has given me and continues to give me and it helps to remind me. My self worth is wrapped up in God’s love, His kindness, His forgiveness, and His sacrifice of His Son so that I may live for a greater end. I thank God each and every day for all He has done and continues to do to help make me a stronger more confindent woman!

  50. Rachelle C says:

    How true this is – to remind ourselves of it everyday and the women around us. But not only the women in our lives but the young women as well – my 13 year old daughter needs this reminder everyday as well. God’s vision is more important than all others – how I wish someone had told me this so many years ago. Thank you for this and all your words of wisdom.

  51. H. Selzer says:

    Although I am a guy, I struggle with body image too. I need to always keep in mind that I am beautiful, because HE is beauty, and HIS opinion is the only one that counts!

  52. I can’t wait to read this book. It is just what I need.

  53. This is something I tell others quite often yet lately I’ve forgotten this. I’ve been focusing on the weight I’ve put on and not how my God see’s me. I don’t share this because I’m a minister and feel others would not understand my struggle and judge me. Crazy I know. That’s for the wonderful reminder. For such a perfect timingin my life.

  54. I would love to learn to let go of the need to please others by always remembering that I only need to please One, and that One, our Lord, will always love me and accept me know matter what. Thank you for always sharing such positive messages.

  55. Joyce Kaiser says:

    I’ve had the priveledge and honor of being one of the three organists for the churhc that I attend. I usually play 2 times a month and I am know as the “Hymna’s Lady” I am 59 years old, and used to play for my Mom and Dad. They had adopted me at 3 1/2 months old, and they were in their 40’s. So I learned to play many of the older hymns. When I would play “Leaning on The Everlasting Arms”, my Dad would get out his fiddle and play with me. We would play it many times as it sounded so neat. My Mom who dies 6 years ago at 95- loved all sorts but really liked “Trust and Obey.” So I have used them in my list of songs for the services. My Parents were so good to me, and I just loved them so much…I feel first when I play – I play for the Lord, and then, I play for my Parents. I have had difficulty with depression and am bipolar- which constantly challengey older parents to keep trying to learn and keep on loving me. I really miss them now. I figure that if I “foul up” once-in-a-while- I keep the Lord helping me and probably my parents ar sitting right beside Him saying …be sure to tell her “We love her.” The final hymn I played for each of the funerals was the song..”Victory In Jesus!” What a glorious life, memories, my life now, and I am so excited what heaven shall be like when Iget to see my Mom and Dad again. I do feel pre-approved!

  56. I would love to see me as God sees me in a lot of places in my life. Recently I learned something that really knocked my self-confidence and how I see myself. If I were more this, if I was more that would this have happened. It has been really hard but I know that I am a good person but at times I feel that I am not worthy of His love if no one here loves me.

  57. Every area of my life, I often feel not… skinny enough, pretty enough, smart enough, compassionate enough, not good enough to be loved… if I had to pick one are, it would be strong enough to be confident in God’s love, to know I am enough in all those area’s because I am enough in his eyes to be, do and achieve what he has always had planned for me.

  58. I’ve struggled with low self esteem since I was young in school. I finally conquered it for a while after my divorce back in 1989. I’d lost 100 lbs. in the year after that at age 40 and started a new life.Keeping the weight off was always a struggle, I gained 50 lbs. back and then took it off again, but I have osteo arthritis in my knees and was unable to walk on one of them until I finally had a replacement done last Dec. Now I’m trying to get that 50 lbs. off again. At 66, I do have lots of wrinkles and sags and bags that I didn’t have when I was younger. I always looked about 10 yrs. younger than I was, so I look in the mirror and don’t like what I see. This book would be a good self confidence builder for me, I’m single and live with my dog. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life without a mate to share good experiences with.
    Thank you, Carol

  59. I would like this book because I would like to see myself as a woman that is positive about herselk. I am always wondering if people like me for me or are saying hello just to be courtiest to me. In my heart I know that God loves me how I am suppose to be. It is hard for me to see this in myself.

    Thank you for listening to me. God Bless You

  60. Brandee says:

    My area is my parenting I’m pretty happy with the rest of except my parenting I always feel I’m failing at the most important job. I know God has my back but I fail anyway . Thank you for the blog it does help some days.

  61. Wow – what a powerful message. I f I do not win I believe this will go on my BUY list.

  62. Danice lee says:

    Looks like a great book. I def need the reminder.

  63. I don’t feel beautiful or that I’m skinny enough or good enough. I purchased The Confident Heart and am about to start reading it. Would love to win this book! I need encouraging. Thank you! And please pray for me.

  64. I too have thoughts of not being good enough, thin enough. I’m thankful for this reminder that I am pre-approved, worthy, and loved. Thank you so much for this timely reminder.

  65. Lisa Thompson says:

    I would love to see myself as God sees me. He sees me as beautiful, capable and full of purpose and promise. I have a hard time believing that. It is a slow process.

  66. I needed the reminder as I have struggled the past two years with finding my confidence that I am approved by God. Ending a marriage from a husband that was mentally and verbally abusive, moving to another state, trying to get my diagnosis of rheumatoid arthritis under control and having to place my 24 year old special needs son has been a challenge indeed. I do see the blessings everyday and know He will see me through it all.

  67. Chasity Spotts says:

    An area in my life where I want to me as God sees me loved and pre-approved is in my spiritual walk/ relationship with. I desire to fully walk in my purpose and set out to help those he desires for me to help. Though in every other area I need him as well but this one is the top. Thank you and I will be joining in(courage) because I daily bed to be encouraged and I know others that can use encouragement as well. God bless

  68. Courtney J says:

    Thank you for this sweet reminder. Now that I’m divorcing and finding out I can not have children makes me feel unwanted and ugly. It’s a tough being 31 and having a full hysterectomy. It’s even harder for your husband to stop loving you and walk away from the marriage. I feel less of a woman and like something is wrong with me. I need to remember that God will get the glory, no matter what the situation is.

  69. Susan G says:

    Hi Renee,
    Jennifer’s book ‘Love Idols’ would be an encouraging and truth-telling book I’m sure. I would just love to feel ‘loved for who I am and what I do’. I want to be an encouraging wife, mother and grandmother as well as an encouraging friend. But I must come across much differently than I mean to. I just want to share God’s Word and truths and promises with those around me…
    Thanks for the opportunity to win this book.

  70. We do need to be reminded daily probably every second of the day that God says: we are all those fabulous things and so Approved of! I am pretty good and reminding others of how wonderful they are so now I just need to say them back to myself. We are so blessed that God has gifted women like you all to share these truths with us daily.

  71. Thanks for the reminder that no matter what the world or other people say, we are already approved by God, the only One Who matters. I’ve suffered from the need for people approval for a long time and am just now becoming able to realize that I’m pre-approved.

  72. I could use this book! I have struggled with this my whole life! Good to know that we are not alone in this-huh? 😉

  73. Trisha Harrison says:

    Thank you God for accepting us just as we are, trying my best to remind myself of this each time I feel I’m not enough.

  74. Rosalba says:

    I believe that God sees me beautiful I am His daughter, it is hard to accept it but still praying. One thing that I would like to do now that I moved into a new community is share with my new neighbors about the love of God and how God sees them, I am encourage by this blog to join you in encouraging others about how God sees us. God bless you.
    Please pray for my new journey.


  75. Chasidy says:

    The main area I wish I were able to see myself as God does is definitely my role as a wife & mom. I feel like a failure in those areas more than any other.

  76. Laurie A says:

    Timely reminder, thank you. My self-comparison to others always leaves me feeling less. Why do they have and I do not……. I am focusing this year on remembering that I have exactly the gifts God want me to have and need no others; that I am exactly who He wants me to be and that is enough for me.

  77. I would love this book! preapproved is a great reminder. Thank you!

  78. Like so many have said, my head and my heart argue…going thru a divorce really causes the devil to play a Mira of mind games. I praise the Lord I am fearfully and wonderfully made, but my human side is trying to break me with feelings of what ifs. Thank you for the encouragement to all!

  79. Diana Muckelrath says:

    I’d love to see myself Pre-approved by God in all areas. I desire for every part of my being to bring Him glory & honor & praise & to see me the way He sees me. I ask for a divine perspective on life. Yet the world bombards us with not good enough images, comparison traps, which are all lies the enemy uses to keep us from being all who God created us to be in Him. It’s hard to guard our hearts from these false ideologies. If you are not careful those negative behaviors & thinking can sink in and grow roots which are what Satan the liar uses to keep us from being all who Christ created us to be. I pray that He will sift my thinking & beliefs through His thoughts, His ways, His Word. Until I am so completely molded into His image So others may know the hope to which He’s called us to be in Him. Which ultimately glorifies Him. In Jesus Name. Amen. My prayer for all.

  80. Laura Hegemann says:

    Hi Renee! This book sounds like just what I need. I was raised in a home with conditional love, if you were just thin enough, smart enough…This led to an eating disorder in high school and then into a verbally abusive marriage. But God is so good and loved me in spite of myself. I am now married for the second time and the Lord has Blessed me with a wonderful husband. I have two sons, 18 and 21 months old and what I have taught daily is I love you no matter what, but God loves you even more. But the devil is always lurking around the corner with words of doubt. Even after all the years I wish I could finally lay that to rest and see my as God sees me, LOVED! Blessings

  81. I would love to see myself as God sees me!!

  82. Thank You For Reminding Us We Are Chosen. The Lord Had Plans For Our Lives And We Are doing His Work And He Is pleased.

  83. I’d like see how God sees my heart. I feel so unworthy so many times (as I’m sure others do also) And satin likes to bring up my past to make me feel guilty. I’ve learned consequences do not equal un-forgiven.

  84. I know I need this book. I can’t think of an area in my life where I don’t struggle with this. Lately it’s the worst when it comes to my gifts and talents. When someone asks me to do something, the first thing that pops into my mind is, “Who me?”

  85. Melanie mckinley says:

    My ministry.

  86. I always felt all my life I wasn’t worthy always thinking I deserved bad things but now I thank God that he is showing me is that I am worthy and I deserve everything he has for me.

  87. Loved and pre approved in rest, not having to do more but focus and be at peace with resting more.

  88. Shannon J says:

    The one area in my life I need to hear that is in being a mom. I want to raise our children to love God and having faith in Him to get us through anything. I want to be a better example to them. That we don’t need to take all our blessings for granted. Thanks for this reminder today!

  89. Gail Dryden says:

    This is something I need. I have very low self esteem at times. I don’t like to look in the mirror because I don’t like what looks back at me. So, yes, I would love to find out what God thinks of me.

  90. I want to accept myself as pre-approved by God. Even though I am a tall woman, I want to believe that I am not a mistake. That He sees me as beautiful.

  91. Rebecca Finkenbinder says:

    I would like to see myself as His beloved.

  92. Brianne says:

    One of the many, many things I struggle with is despairing over how other moms seem to “have it all together,” even though I know this is a lie that satan wants me to believe to make myself feel more and more like a failure! It’s easy to compare myself to the little bits of life I see other moms around me living when I LIVE in the chaos of my own life every day. With 5 kids ages 7 and under (that I’m also homeschooling) I’m often at a loss for how to get through each day with sanity in tact. More often than not I feel overwhelmed and ashamed at my lack of patience and organization – telling myself that “if only… I could get up earlier, take better care of myself, have more patience, be more organized, get rid of half the stuff in my house that contributes to the clutter that never ends…” and it’s hard to sometimes enjoy the moments with my kids that are passing me by so quickly.

  93. I needed this reminder that I’m pre-approved. Self esteem is my area.

  94. Jenny Rutan says:

    I would like to see my body as Christ see’s it! I have struggled all of my life and I am 52. Thank you!

  95. I would love to see myself as God sees me in the area of my redemption. I always end up feeling that I am not good enough. That I must need to do something for God to love me. I would love to see that I am pre approved by God and need nothing else.

  96. This looks like just the book for me! I have spent my whole life seeking approval and I just want to be able to live my life being the person God created me to be and not worrying about what people think….and being confident in that.

  97. Thank you! I needed this today. I continue to struggle with not being _______ enough. This post helped me today – I am pre-approved by Christ and covered in his grace!

  98. Polly Schneider says:

    One area I need to see myself as God sees me is my weight. I always feel fat when I look at myself in the mirror. I am pre -approved by Christ. Thank you Renee.

  99. Becca Dowling says:

    Chosen. Treasured. Redeemed. Loved. Cherished. Enough. Pre-Approved!! Wow! I needed to see & read that today.

    Where I need to see God’s perspective is in the “but” areas – I’m a good worker but…; I was a good mother but…; I’m active in ministry but…: I’m trying to eat better and exercise more but…; and etc. Like many others who posted, I struggle with low self-image and esteem. Grew up believing I was fat & ugly and couldn’t do anything right.

    Thank you, for reminding me that, to my Father, I am beautiful and chosen.

  100. Christina says:

    I would love to be able to see myself TRUELY as a daughter of God! We worship and here how me have an inheritance and I am excited and sometimes I am homesick for heaven! I do not always believe I am deserving to be his daughter!!

  101. I need to KNOW this, in my heart, not just in my head. Because every day I am reminded of those lies that not just the enemy has fed to me since I was a child, but the ones I feed myself- and believe. I cannot imagine feeling, or ever BEING *enough*…. for my children, for my husband, and definitely not for God- the one I want & need to be enough FOR!! Thanks for this opportunity and for this book!!

  102. One area I need to see myself as God sees me is…the feeling that I am “good enough” and “smart enough” to be used.

  103. I know God planned everything about me when I was created and I’m so thankful HE adores me….but I am a soft heart and feel deeply about others and life and that can sometimes be so painful when in the company of those who think soft heart’s are nonsense.I desire to encourage others and I know this is just how God made me, but I would truly like to change the need for approval from the people with the temperament that is opposite from mine. Granted this doesn’t happen often , but it seems God has put this type of person in my path often over the years so I’m pretty sure God is trying to grow me beyond this. I’m so thankful He never gives up on us. He is my anchor.

  104. Karen W. says:

    a few areas unfortunately – not good enough – didn’t do enough with my life – not good enough – still renting after al these years, others look with disdain and disbelief LOSER

    I know God things otherwise in my head, hard to feel it in my inner being

  105. Carol Duncan says:

    I just want to feel loved and accepted.

  106. Thanks for the reminder. When you are the one who is in leadership, everyone looks to you to have it ‘all together’. AND that is not always true. I struggle with weight issues and try not to allow the world to dictate how I should look, but I falter. I struggle with being a ‘man-pleaser’ —wanting to be liked and loved, all the while KNOWING that God loves me, so I shouldn’t look to man to satisfy what only He can. BUT, I AM PRE-APPROVED—God knew what He was getting when He called me. Thanks for the post today, it was needed. I love what you do for the ladies of the Lord.

  107. I’d love to see myself as “beautiful” like God does. I find myself fat, ugly, and repulsive. 🙁

  108. Thank you for these words. I am struggling with my image and the need to lose weight. For health reasons, I need to work on getting rid of a few pounds. You reminded me that I am still beautiful in God’s eyes and he will be with me on my journey – cheering me along the way. Blessings to you and all our fellow sisters in Christ

  109. Latasha says:

    I struggle with low self esteem with my looks,feelings of worthlessness ,also feeling like there will never be a man to love me just because.I have been one to always try and fit in with any and everyone and now I just mostly stay to my self.I try to lift others up but it’s hard to encourage myself at times and know that I am fearfully and wonderfully made.

  110. Karen Simpson says:

    Oh my I love this! I spent years in the “never good enough” cycle. Then I found God, formed a relationship with my Heavenly Papa, who loves me. Now I know He always did, no matter what, I am Pre-Aproved!. Thank you Renee for your book “A Confident Heart” and your online study. It helped me SO MUCH on my journey to overcome, to gain strength and confidence. Thank you Jesus for coming to save me!

  111. Shirley Mason says:

    Thank you. I am in a phase now that I am not good enough for lots of things. I try to be good enough but always feel that someone else is better.

  112. Having grown up in an alcoholic home, I lived with strife, rejection etc. I am not a young woman but I still find myself feeling a lot of ingrown negativity. I so appreciate A Confidant Heart and all that the ladies at Proverbs 31 ministries do. Thank you so much. God bless you with all you need to keep on keeping on.

  113. It’s hard to remember I am a princess , a child of the king, when I so often tell myself I am a slug…thinks for the encouragement to do better.

  114. Greetings to everyone. My area of feeling unapproved and ugly too is my body. I have been grossly overweight since I was 8 years old – 58 years. I accept my face and hair but cannot believe that God could call my body beautiful. Tears right now, but I am more able to believe that I am beautiful on the inside now.

    God Bless, Laurel

  115. Cathy McCoy says:

    I would’ve to see myself as valuable. To be worthy. To be able to contribute to God’d kingdom in a meaningful way.

  116. This is very hard to do when you have an Earthly Father that doesn’t love you, probably hasn’t ever loved you, was absent, neglectful, abusive, alcoholic, and addicted, and doesn’t care whether you are alive or dead, hurt or hurting. I thank God everyday that I have a Heavenly Father that does care however. Helps you get through those very difficult times when you feel all alone in the world. One area??????? Impossible to determine.

  117. I’m 54 years old. I still struggle with insecurities and tend to feel that I’m not a good enough person in many areas of my life. The other day my boyfriend said to me, God thinks of you as his beautiful daughter, but you don’t see it. I need to work on that.

  118. I am loved by The Lord. So ermines I move away but in my heart I know He is there. When I feel unloved, I seem to pull away from others.

  119. I would like to see myself as God sees me instead of how I see myself after abuse. If I had to choose one thing it would be innocently pure. I wrote the following poem that includes how I feel about myself. I wonder what God sees and what he is shaping me to be.

    My life is a puzzle created by a loving God
    Starting out as a breathtaking masterpiece
    Flawless, unique, pristine, and pure
    Untouched by the sin of the world

    Crumbled into fragments under the pressure of life
    Now wrecked with missing pieces
    After effects of unwelcome abuse –
    Ashamed, embarrassed, humiliated
    Confused, degraded, guilt-ridden,
    Frightened, anxious, angry,
    Insecure, inadequate, undesirable,
    Depressed, hopeless, despairing,
    Withdrawn, hesitant, secretive,
    Distrustful, suspicious, apprehensive,
    The original left shattered and damaged.

    Busy restoring His work of art,
    Gently loving and waiting patiently
    Healing the pain and nursing the wounds
    Slowly and deliberately refurbishing
    Replacing the pieces-
    Broken, missing, scratched, and neglected
    Gradually enhancing its magnificence
    Bringing the puzzle back to life
    That is my creator God – a Virtuoso!

  120. nancys1128 says:

    I would have to say the appearance of my body is where I have the most difficulty feeling approved.

  121. As I scroll down to get to the place where I can leave my comment, it strikes me just how many of us there are,who have believed the lie that Satan whispered to us somewhere in our life that we were ‘less than’…..thank you for reminding us all of the truth that we all are pre-approved, chosen, are loved extravagantly, and all that we need to do is believe and live in this truth!

  122. I struggle with accepting God’s unconditional love for me. I need to saturate my mind with God’s truths about His love for me instead of allowing the old tapes from childhood that play in my head that anything I attempted was never good enough. I strived for perfection to please in all things and never seemed to achieve the mark. This effected my self-esteem greatly and instilled in me a fear of failure, rarely wanting to venture out of my comfort zone for fear of not measuring up, being humiliated or exposed as inadequate. I pray with God’s help I will be victorious and overcome these inadequate feelings and see myself as God sees me, fearfully and wonderfully made, beautiful, loved, cherished, treasured and usable for His kingdom work.

  123. Vicki Cook says:

    I like being pre-apporoved.

  124. Holly Grace says:

    Thank you Renee! What at timely topic! God has been leading me through a process of recognizing areas in my life where I am bowing down to idols and instead need to look up to my Heavenly Father as my source. I want to stand up straight, connected to My Creator, not bent over serving the world as a master. Am very interested in the book you are recommending, “Love Idol: Letting Go of Approval and Seeing Yourself through God’s Eyes.” Thanks for letting us know about it :-).

  125. Thanks Renee – Proverbs 31 always has the most amazing topics!

    Like the majority of women, I have issues feeling “God approved” when I look at myself naked in the mirror. In my heart I know that what’s on the inside matters more than the outside, but I still do not feel worthy of God’s (or anyone’s love) when I feel so weak that I cannot convince myself to work out and/or stick to a more nutritious meal plan.

  126. Weight! Definitely weight!! Other things also but weight is #!. I just don’t feel beautiful or confident these days but I am working on it… Thank you for reminding me that God loves me just as I am.

  127. Oh wow! I have been struggling with depression for the last couple of years and with this winter being so long it just got worse! I finally opened up to the ladies of our church, after not going since before Christmas, on our ladies FB page about my struggles, opening up to them in a way I never thought possible! After my sharing I was contacted personally by another church sister that she too is struggling but had not shared with anyone either. Then today I found out 2 more church sisters are struggling! I hate asking prayer for myself!! But by opening up and making myself vulnerable it seems to be a much needed opening up which I can see now was what God has been wanting me to do for sometime! Thanks to Proverbs31 Ministries for all the encouragement I receive daily and am able to share with my sisters at church!


  128. Thank you for the reminder of how God sees us! I feel I fall short in so many ways, but, I need to remember, I’m pre-approved!

    Where is the stamp and ink pad to stamp it on our hands. To show that a great price has been paid for us all.

  129. Kathy Sturgis says:

    When I was younger I never was concerned about what others thought. I was determined, focused, and pushing toward doing for God. I was so sure I could be a perfect Christian and made an agreement to that end. Then one day I realized that I was doing for God and was terrified that I was not perfect for God, my parents or any other believer that I wanted to think I was THE BEST. God has been working at ripping out the weeds and sin and idols that have grown in my heart. It is hard and I struggle with anxiety and depression in the midst. I know God is able and I am cooperating with Him in the learning. This is hard work, but very rewarding to be clean before God. I read the Forward to this book and I would love to have a copy to study.

  130. Enough?

  131. Thanks for the reminder we are pre approved. At the moment I need this as we sit in the emergency room. Our daughters feeding tube came out We are waiting and feeling guilty … Again. So great to remember God loves us no matter what

  132. Blessed to be pre approved! Some days so hard to wrap that around my mind and to just live in His love and grace for me. I just want more Jesus!

  133. Kendra george says:

    I could pick from many areas but my lifelong struggle is with my weight and how I feel about my body. It was passed down to me and my biggest prayer is that I don’t pass negative self image patterns to my children and especially my sweet daughter. I wAnt her to know and in want to know for myself that I am deeply loved, she is deeply loved no matter our size. God has made us beautiful on the inside and out but he is most concerned with our hearts and who we are to the world. That’s my prayer for my family.

  134. Linda S. Aranda says:

    I was not raised with my brothers and sisters (9 of us altogether) and I always felt like I didn’t really have any valute. (I also was told that.) I am still learning that I do have value and I am not a throwaway but rather a daughter of God and I do have a family (church). I still have to remind myself of these things. I downloaded the book and devotional of Confident Heart and am taking the course again myself this time. It has really helped me. Thank you so much for making me feel like I am a part of God’s kingdom and that I really am pre-approved by God.


  136. Bridget K says:

    Hi Renee,
    We’re just finishing up your Confident Hearts study. Perhaps this would be a next good one? Would LOVE your thoughts for a smallish 4-5 gal group. Thanks; we’ve just loved your devotional.
    Peace friend,

  137. Thanks Renee for the touching so many lives. it made me smile as the message entered my heart, “I am preapproved by God” WOW…

  138. Thank you for the positive reminder that we all are beautiful, pre-approved, and accepted by God. However, my whole life I have struggled with never feeling accepted, beautiful, or part of the popular crowd that seems never ending even as an adult. I would rather follow God than be part of the popular crowd that doesn’t, but still never manage to feel adequate or good enough to do anything or to be accepted by others. I really have been battling this lately. My feelings of inadequacy led me down a horrible road of drugs years ago in order to cope, but I have been clean for almost 10 years but it haunts me. No matter how hard I pray or tell myself how much God loves me, it doesn”t sink in. I hope this book may help, thank you for offering it even if I don’t get selected to win it. Bless you and your ministries

  139. I need to remember I am loved and preapproved in all areas of my life.

  140. I’m pre-approved by God is just what I needed to hear today with where I’m at on my healing journey. After surviving a evil system.

  141. I can tell myself I am good enough but feeling it in my heart is the struggle. Being a good enough mom so my childen make Godly decisions. Being a good enough wife. And the list continues. I have to daily tell myself we are not all the same. What a boring world it would be if we were. So embrace my difference as good enough and I am what God created me to be.

  142. I have ZERO confidence and it would be great if I could think different and know that I am pre approved

  143. Thankful for your ministry and blogs…it is so important to find, believe, and accept our true identity in Jesus. He is the only One who remains constant, trustworthy and His love is unconditional. People’s feelings and thoughts are ever-changing – our God is the same yesterday, today and forever!

    Thanks for your give-away offer. Thanks for the encouragement and wonderful reminder of our true identity!

  144. Janice Palmer says:

    What an honor it is to have been adopted into Christ’s family and to be a child of God. Too often we forget that He created us just the way He wanted us to be and that He loves us and is faithful even when we are not faithful.

  145. I want to see myself as preapproved to take the next step of obedience in my life that God is calling me to and stop worrying about whether I will succeed or fail-instead trust in Him!

  146. Natasha says:

    I need to not worry all the time what other people think of me. I am loved, beautiful, pre-approved by God. He made me just the way I am, I am His. I need to get rid of all my insecurities.

  147. Laurie Fritsch says:

    Thank you for this awesome reminder. When I came home from work today in the middle of a converstaion with , my 12-year-old son, that he told me he had low self esteem. I listened and shared that I had experienced similar battles until I learned by reading the Word that I didn’t have to suffer from low self esteeem. He does read his Bible, but like many young Christians, he doesn’t think it’s making a difference. I told him that it’s what God says about who he is that will give him confidence as to who He is in Christ. This book would be resource that would help me trully minister to my son, and reinforce my understanding about who I also am in Christ. I need to hear it again and again. Even a few times is not enough. There’s so few books on the market like this. I am going to pray that God uses Jennifer’s book to minister to the masses. I believe her message will minister to millions, and that the Lord will make a way through to those paralyzed in this area due to the lies of the enemy. His Truth through her message will set them free from the lies they’ve believed for far too long! 🙂

  148. Debra K Yarbrough says:

    So really need to read this book. I am 60 and my whole life I have always listened to what others said. Its hard to know your are beautiful when you have been betrayed by your husband. Its hard to know you are worthy to be loved when others have rejected you over and over. Some days I am so thankful that I know Jesus and God love me even when others seem not to.

  149. Alexis Plett says:

    I would like to see me as God sees me..PERIOD. I just can’t get past the flaws and self condemnation. This is exactly what I talked about today in counseling. This would be a great book and I’m looking forward to reading it.

  150. Pat Hill says:

    The book sounds great. It is so easy to fall into a trap of feeling that I am not good enough. Why, do I deserve His love. Then, I have to remembefr that He loves me for who I am.
    We all need to know we have otheers that pray for us.
    Good luck to all that may win this book. God bless you all.

  151. Charity says:

    Faith and Trust. I know God is who He says He is. I’m struggling with being stuck in lies of the enemy.

  152. Melissa says:

    I have a hard time feeling beautiful because of my weight. I look forward to seeing myself as God sees me.

  153. Janice Noto says:

    Thank you for this. I need to know this in the area of who I am and that I am worthy of good things and to be loved. Thank you again. I look forward to reading more.

  154. Mostly in my mothering

  155. Christine says:

    I wish I could see me as God sees His daughter who loves Him. I feel a sort of disconnect that I know is of my own making not His.

  156. Loretta Pearson says:

    There are many areas…but working on it.

  157. Sandra M Clark says:

    Approved: Heidi talked about God being a Virtuiso it reminds me of the Song by Julie True she states over and over how God is a Paint Brush and in spite of what I and others have found in themselves to be flaws, His word states that we are created in His Image Genesis 1:27and likeness and sealed with a treasure 2 Corithians 4:7. May the Spirit of Truth enlighten our hearts of who Christ is and reveal His Love to each of us and who we are in Him!!

  158. Malinda Barbee says:

    I constantly deal with the struggle of finding fault with myself. Whether it may be with my physical apperance or comparing myself to others telling myself I am not as good as others. I was one of few in my family who did not obtain a 4 year degree in my family, and was told as a teenager that I needed to be something like my cousins. My goal was to get married and be a mother. I have such a precious Christian family and would not change what I have today, although those cousins I was compared to do not have the spirital life that I do today. Even though I know I am so loved and treasured by Christ, I continue to struggle with self worth and confidence.

  159. Gennie Griffin says:

    Needed to hear this today. I need a constant reminder that I am the mother that God chose for my daughter. I feel like a failure in that area every day.

  160. Melissa says:

    Needed this! Thanks so much.

  161. I was in an abusive marriage for 34 years before I got out. Through wonderful Christian counselors and friends I have torn down the horrible words that were spoken to me but sometimes they come back out of nowhere and bring me to a place of insecurity and fear. Thanks for the reminder “pre-approved” no matter what has happened to me, my Father loves me.

  162. I know God sees me as a beautiful, confident,strong, and loving daughter. I really need to really take it as he sees me but I am struggling because of my weight and being more outgoing. I am grateful he sees me as I am no matter what I think.

  163. Being chosen, valued, pe-approved by God is such powerful wording to my ears….
    Loved by my Heavenly Father forever and ever…


  164. I would just like to be joyful again. Somewhere over the years I have lost it and am struggling to have the deep joy. Not sure how that fits here, but I want to see myself as God does, and that includes joyful.

    • Rachel,
      I wanted to share a story with you, I used to allow negative things to enter my life (others words, circumstances, etc.) and it changed how I saw myself. One day my son came into the room where I was and said something negative about himself. It broke my heart, as I turned to him fighting back the tears, I said “no you’re not, you are beautiful” and as I said it, I could hear God say “And so are you”…it took seeing my son hurt, to understand how God must feel when we hurt. As God’s child we have access to his fruit which includes: Love, JOY, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness and Self Control. Galatians 5:22-23….Grab hold of what he’s already given you. And don’t forget, you are a child of the one true King!!

  165. I struggle every day with feeling loved, adequate, and chosen. I know God is faithful and there to walk my family and my through some extremely difficult times. Yet I often feel alone, isolated and unsupported caring for 2 young adult children who are medically fragile, technology dependent and doing my best to support our son who is currently incarcerated awaiting trial for a crime with no evidence to support the accusations. Missing our son and granddaughter (who we rarely see now while her daddy awaits trial). Fully relying on God and faithful prayer warriors as we walk this challenging journey

  166. Bonnelle says:

    Funny… In Church on Sunday Jesus took me to the portion in 1 Peter to remind me that He has chosen me & then You send this as another much needed reminder. I struggle with rejection issues & not feeling good enough in so many areas. I love how He takes time to remind me that He has already chosen me and won’t ever reject me or abandon me or fail me & that His love for me is never-ending.

    Blessings to you & thank you SO much for being the voice of confirmation to me!!

  167. Positive self talk and affirmation. God doesn’t want us beating ourselves up. He made a masterpiece with each of us.

  168. I need reminders in my daily life everywhere. As women we are so critical of ourselves and I don’t think it’s easy to see ourselves as our Father does.

  169. Vicki R says:

    Knowing I’m accepted by God, knowing He made me the way I am, is what encourages me daily. I am learning to disregard others disapproval & striving to please only Him. I follow you, (in)courage & many others in your ministry on twitter. Thank you for the many encouraging words & resources!

  170. I would love to receive this book……I grew up always being told I wasn’t wanted and
    I wasn’t good enough. I am learning to rely on God’s promises that I am wanted and that I am special!

  171. I need the reminder that I’m pre-approved by God even before I DO anything for him. He loves me first, not after all the work. Sometimes this is hard to remember!

  172. Chasidy says:

    I think the one area I would love to see myself as God does is “My Heart”…I love God so much and aim to please him in the things I do and say, however, I feel like I fall short so many times…I think it would be awesome/scary to know what he sees when he looks at my heart.

  173. cindy shipley says:

    weight been battling my weight for years and i love the the way god see me thank you for reminding me my word for the week will be pre-approved

  174. Knowing God sees me as worthy & pre-approved when I don’t

  175. rachel wemple says:

    Each time I feel as if I have overcome my need for approval;something will be said and the cycle begins again! I have noticed that I continue to be drawn to people who challenge me in this area! I have come to see that God is using them as a reminder that I need no man’s approval.I am His beloved child!

  176. Janet Daniel says:

    Dear Renee,
    Do you ever feel like you just want to never go home because you have no one to share your disappointments with. That is how I feel tonight. I have been accused unjustly, completely left out of something our unit did, at our event, failed at getting anyone to be a friend and come with me to my event, and my husband says don’t come home and tell me anything I don’t want to hear it. I feel like there’s no other person I can trust but God right now. I don’t want to talk to anyone. I know God loves me but I can’t stop crying. Maybe that’s a good thing. He’s the only one I can turn to now. I worry about my disabled daughter because I don’t think my husband cares. I needed to hear that I have been pre approved by God to be loved. I’m sorry! LOL

  177. Treasured.

  178. Everyday I pray the Lord would transform me by the renewing of my mind. With everyday living out ‘life’, running this race Heavenward here on earth as a wife, daughter, mom, grandma and friend. What a wonderful reminder I am pre-approved by my Heavenly Father and that He chose me and loves me. I am one of The King’s kids. I am so thankful for His amazing grace, mercy and love. His promises do endure forever.

  179. Stephanie A says:

    Pre-Approved by God! I need to be enough to myself

  180. Knowing that I am per approved and loved what a great reminder!

  181. Popping my head through your cyber-door here, Renee, to thank you — from the bottom of my preapproved heart — for sharing about Love Idol on your blog this week. You are so generous to share your beautiful space with my book.

    And to all of you sisters sharing here in the comments … I wrote this book for you … for any of you who needs to know that you are ALREADY loved and approved. You have nothing to prove to anyone. You are preapproved. That’s the love language of God.

    God bless you, each and every one.

    ~ Jennifer Dukes Lee

  182. One situation where I struggle with remembering that I am loved and pre-approved by God is when I am around mothers of children whom do not like and are unkind to my children. I do not know why I feel uncomfortable, but I want to end those struggles so that I can be fully present for my children to be able to help and guide them.

  183. I never feel I’m good enough

  184. I am SOooo ready to break the approval-seeking cycle. You name it, I’ve probably felt inadequate at it. My latest “not-enough” is my Christian walk. I find myself spending lots of time wondering just what God’s purpose is for me. So much that I end up not doing anything for fear that it’s not the right thing. I’ve truely had enough.

  185. Kara Marks says:

    I need to see myself how God sees me in so many areas; the biggest ones would be weight, not being able to do as much as I used to due to pain and chronic illness and the accompanying fatigue, but most of all I “have the guilts” as the mom of 2 great young men, 21 and 25. No matter how well they do and are turning out, I still blame myself for long-forgotten failings as a mom when they were younger, and esp. when I couldn’t take good enough care of them due to my illnesses. I would love to see myself as God sees me.

  186. On mornings when I’m not loving anything about myself…it could be my look, my job, my thoughts. Anything. Life has been rough and I’d like to think more like Christ in the midst of everything.

  187. Brenda S says:

    As I daily inch closer to 60, I look at myself and wonder who that is in the mirror. I don’t recognize that person looking back at me. I don’t feel almost 60! How has this happened?! I see my Mom looking back at me and find it rather disturbing. We did not have a good relationship. I was the 5th child of 7. I was the child she didn’t want. I was the child that took away her freedom from all that having a baby in the house again entails. I was in my early 30’s when she told me how much she didn’t want me and how much she cried because she was pregnant again. That was when I understood why I felt unloved, unwanted and in the way growing up. My poor younger brother and sister had it even worse. It took me quite a few years before I realized that God wanted me here!!! It didn’t matter that she didn’t! He loves me, cherishes me and died for me! It is very hard some days to not go back to feeling unloved, unwanted, unappreciated but with His help and knowing that I was “pre-approved” I don’t stay there long. Thanks for the chance to own this book.

  188. Motherhood! I never feel good enough, but I know God thinks I AM good enough.

  189. Dana Mays, MD says:

    As a working wife I feel very inadequate at home.

  190. Michelle K says:

    I would like to see myself as He does…I’d like to know what that is….who am I in Him?

  191. Celeste Argumedo says:

    One area I would like is knowing that I matter and my opinions matter. I don ‘t want to over analyze everything I say anymore. That it’s okay to be me.

  192. I love this thought and like so many others here have daily struggles with my self worth and if only’s….

  193. Sydney Roach says:

    Ready to break the approval seeking cycle–no way I can have enough “done” to keep the aging process from happening–its okay to be my age and enjoy this season in my life. I want to be an asset and valuable to the Kingdom, seeing myself as God sees me.

  194. jenny bushmaker says:

    I know that God sees me as a work of art. Created in his image and beautiful in every way. I dream of being able to look at myself in the mirror and zee myself as God does. Not shy away and tell myself I’m fat or out of shape.

  195. I would love to remember in my soul that Im enough just being me, no strings!

  196. I worry too much about what other people think about me when it should only matter how God sees me. I finf myself seeking approval from others, even family, only to be left disappointed and hurt. This is a constant struggle for me. This is a bondage that I need God to rescue me from.

  197. The main area I have issues with is reminding myself to love myself where I am & I don’t have to “be” any stronger, smaller or better at anything else to be loved by Him! I always have room to grow but I don’t need to get to that certain place to love myself! I can love myself exactly where I am right now!

  198. Cindy Hudson says:

    This book sounds amazing! I am so bad at trying to avoid people when I am grocery shopping , etc., because I think I don’t look as good as they do. They have aged so much better. People actually tell me that I look younger than my age but I don’t see that. I guess we all see ourselves differently than others see us.

  199. Just not being “good enough” falling short in most any area of my life.

    • I’ve been thinking about this. It’s funny, I was asked what I thought my best trait was earlier on another site. I said that I strive for excellence in most every thing I do. It’s true. I’m highly competitive, put 125% into most any task and yet I feel that I never quite do as well as I should. I’m caught in a loop, striving for something I don’t really believe I can attain. Would like to just find rest in Him but not sure how together off this treadmill!

  200. This books sounds great. I heard Jennifer being interviewed on the God Centered Mom podcast. I would love to learn that I am pre approved as a Mom. I am the Mom God chose for my kiddos.

  201. One area of my life where I would love to see myself as God sees me is as a mom.

  202. forgotten says:

    I was as bused, neglected and forgotten at an early age. I spent my life trying to be accepted by my family. At early age I received attention in wrong ways, sexual abuse started at 5yrs old. I spent 2yrs n foster home to grow up being handed back n forth to aunts and reminded I wasn’t there child. At 15 I left home and married 10yrs ended in divorce. Now, im blessed with a wonderful husband who loves God. I still find myself asking why? My family still doesn’t love me. I have no contact with any of my relatives. Forgotten!

    • Chasidy says:

      Dear God,
      I pray right now, that you will wrap your loving arms around this person, that feels forgotten. Please let her know that you have not forgotten her. You knit her together in her mothers womb, she is fearfully and wonderfully made, her frame was not hidden from you…you knew exactly what you wanted her to look like and exactly where you wanted to use her. And I pray that you will do just that, allow her to love herself the way that you do. Help her to focus on the family/husband you have given her right now, and to love him with all her heart. Knowing that you are able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine. In Jesus Sweet Name, I Pray!

  203. Trust the God in me

  204. I would love to remember that I simply am good enough, period! That I need no ones approval but God’s!

  205. Michelle says:

    I would say truly knowing I am loved… self esteem is definitely a struggle.

  206. As a single Mother it seems like lately everyday is a constant struggle. I live paycheck to paycheck and am so tired of just scraping by each month. My dream is to buy my own house….my answer…”You don’t make enough or I’m sorry we cant help you.” Its heartbreaking each time I hear those words and it really starts to wear on you in every area of your life. Same thing when it comes to dating…I haven’t had a date in over three years and I wonder “What’s wrong with me. Why am I not enough?” I find myself envious of my friends who seem to have it all. Many of them are married to their best friend, have their dream homes, can pay all of their bills each month and still be able to get by until the next paycheck comes. I know that we cant compare our lives to others lives because nobody has a perfect life but its really hard not to be envious and wish we had what they do.

    There are a lot of days that I really struggle with my faith and I wonder if God hears my prayers at all.

  207. Joyce Bencomo says:

    To Learn,,Renew and Own the Truth Regardless The Outside Voices..(Corporate perform base work & Single Motherhood ).. Perfect Timing …Yes!!

  208. Definitely needed this reminder. Really struggling right now due to physical limitations, weight gain, not sleeping, etc.

  209. Suzanne Culpepper says:

    I lost my leg above the knee a few years ago and it is very hard to see myself other than maimed.

    I fell asleep at the wheel and hit a tree head on. I was lucky to have survived as I was in the hospital for 6 months. There are many days I wish I had just die in car accident because life is so hard living it from a wheelchair.

    I struggle with my amputation defining who I am because it already defines what I can and can’t do. Life is not easy but no one ever said it would be. I find myself at a low point in my life trying to figure out suffering vs. the sovereignty of God! That is a hard topic to conquer when your healthy let alone when you know that the rest of your life will include pain and suffering.

    I will hush….I’ve said more than enough. If anyone has tidbits or big bigs for that matter of encouragement – I would welcome your ideas and encouragement. Here is my email:

    Thanks for listening and reading.


    • Chasidy says:

      My heart breaks for you! Jesus loves you and will use even this, if you will allow him too. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4….says Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. I pray that you receive God’s comfort and then go and comfort others in such a mighty way. I too, have had a rough life, my dad was murdered when I was 14, I lost a brother in a car wreck at the age of 31, and another brother was paralyzed from the chest down in a shallow diving accident at the age of 25…..Some might think it would be easy for me to become bitter or angry. But, I try not to allow any of those things to define who I am, because God tells us “His grace is sufficient for us, his power is made perfect in our weakness” I pray that you will allow him to be strong in you. So that you can do all that he created you to do. Jesus loves you!!
      Love in Christ,

  210. I would love to see myself as a good role-model for my children.

  211. Parenting, I need only see myself through God’s eyes in my parenting, toughest job ever.

  212. If I had to choose one area I would like to see myself transformed when it comes to insecurities is the notion of being “fit,” fit to carry out the duties that God requires of me. I undermine my strength and my abilities. I sometimes wonder if who I am or what I have to offer is enough. Though, I know God can use anyone I still wonder if I’m a vessel that He can be glorified through.

  213. Chelle Renee says:

    I have been overweight my whole life. Ever after losing about 200lbs I still see my self as fat and unwanted. I have been pre-approved

  214. To pick one area is quite hard when you are struggling with deep depression. When you are barely keeping your head above water it’s hard to remember that God loves me and His is the only approval I need. I’ve struggled with depression and anxiety since I was middle school. I am now 28 years and going through the worst depression I’ve ever dealt with. I actually just went back to work after being on medical leave for about 2 1/2 months. By the grace of God I am still here and 3 weeks clean of self harm and doing better with my eating disorder. I know that God loves me and will always be there however when the pit is deep and dark it’s difficult to see the light. I am a people pleaser and will do anything to help another no matter the cost (financially, emotionally etc.) to me. I want to see myself like God sees me and tell Satan to take a hike! I DESPERATELY want freedom from my depression. I would love to win a copy of this book however I’ll be super excited for whomever you choose. Thank you for reminding this very broken heart that I am loved. God Bless you and your ministry!

  215. I want to see myself as God does when it comes to raising my daughters. I am a Navy wife and have three beautiful daughters. There are many days like I’m failing as a mom and wife. I would love to know how God sees in doing at the job He gave me!

  216. Megan B. says:

    there are many areas I would love to see myself as God sees me!! but if I had to pick one it would be the confidence God has in me!!

  217. Kathie H says:

    I carry self-doubt around almost every day. I have a history of depression which I wish would become a real history and not poke it’s ugly face in my life on a fairly regular basis. I live in fear when I don’t know if I will have enough money to pay bills, rent and purchase food some days. I have been blessed with one true friend who reminds me that the Lord made me and he knows and believes in me; he made me beautiful in his eyes. She is so encouraging to me and it helps on my really down days. I sit and read his Word and tears flow sometimes. This is when I am truly blessed knowing that he is reaching out to me himself because the words I am reading at that time are the words I need to make it through a day.

  218. Reading through the comments above- mine echo what so many have already said!! My biggest is my weight and being seen for who I am- not how big my body is/ isn’t. Also being a good wife and mother- Satan attacks those hard- like it’s never enough. Redeemed-
    Chosen- Inconditionally loved daughter of God! Thanks!!

  219. I struggle with always missing the mark. There is much I get in my head that hasn’t settled into my heart.

  220. I’d love to feel as strong as God says that I am. Have confidence in myself and my abilities.

  221. Becky Soto says:

    It’s really hard to just pick one area about myself that I seek approval for. Unfortunately it seems like I seek approval for everything I say, do or even the way I look. I try not to show how insecure I am or how hurt I feel that I don’t have any true close friends. Many people tell me that I’m a sweet person but then I ask myself if I’m so sweet then why can’t I make and keep a really close girlfriend. I ask myself what is wrong with me? Did I do something wrong or say something wrong? My sister-in-law told me one time for somebody who is so insecure about them self you sure hide it very well and all I could do is agree with her and tell her you are absolutely right. I beat myself up enough that I can’t afford for others to beat me up too. So I have to appear strong. Then my sister and I were talking and I was telling her that I wish I had a close girlfriend and she said but you’ve always liked being alone why are things different now. That comment hurt because I told her I have never liked being alone but I had no choice but to be alone because I could never make and keep a close friend and I didn’t want to appear needy because people don’t like that either. Still till this day these are things I battle with and I ask God to change in me because I have a daughter and she says a lot of things that I used to think but have never said to her. I don’t know where she gets that from. Well I think I will stop there I could just keep going and going but I won’t because God is working on me.

  222. It always feels like I’m not enough.

  223. I would like to see myself as good sees me in relationship. Relationship is a struggle for me.

  224. I would love to see myself as God sees me in the area of my weight. It’s so hard to not love the person I see in the mirror because of how I look and feel. Even when I know GOD LOVES ME FOR ME!

  225. Cheryl Olsthoorn says:

    Thanks for reminding me that I have been pre approved.

  226. Abbie wells says:

    I would love to be enough in my own family. Just like God sees me as enough & chosen in His family.

  227. Miss Mary T says:

    Renee, I do feel loved by God always and often when I am “beating myself up” it is because I have made choices or behaved badly because I have lost my focus on Him. It is definitely like moving and losing my balance. I either stumble or fall. Asking for forgiveness is automatic but feeling forgiven can sometimes be another story. So I would say my greatest area of struggle is remembering that I am forgiven. My Jesus gave His life in place of mine. “For God so loved the world that He gave His only Son that all who believe in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life!” I would love to read this book. Thx for sharing!

  228. Tracy Estelle says:

    Love love love this reminder! I struggle with the way my body looks now after having 3 kids in 3 years. (Wouldn’t trade it for the world though) I will be telling myself “He calls me beautiful” when these thoughts creep up on me!

  229. Struggling sometimes with feeling rather socially dysfunctional.

  230. One area….wow. I am a perfectionist and I am also my own worst critic. Yes, lets start with the circles under my

  231. I would like to be reminded of my worth and value to Him. Reminded that He finds me beautiful. After 25 years of living with a verbally abusive alcoholic and raising 3 kids in that environment I don’t feel that way about myself and am second guessing everything I do now that we divorced add another woman as the icing on that cake and enough was enough. Now I’m still living with parents and feel pretty useless most of the time.

  232. This is just what I needed today! Thank you! My biggest struggle is truly seeing what God says about who I am. Battling with depression since my teens, I am having a hard time believing it. I tend to feel like I am not good enough in my mothering/homeschooling and as a wife. The more I study His Word, the more I can see who He says I am; now I just need to believe it.

  233. I’m a new wife, and a fairly new Christian, happy and hopeful, but scared to death that I will fall short. With no role model of healthy relationships, I’m pre-approved to be a godly wife to this husband who chose me? Oh, Lord, I want to believe that.

  234. good enough in my Dad’s eyes.

  235. Lana Miller says:

    I want to learn to be secure in God alone and not keep thinking that what I do, how much I know, what I know, how much I do… that those things will ultimately make me feel important! A lie from the past with which I wrestle to this day!

  236. michelle says:

    Would like to see myself as beautiful as I know God sees me as beautiful… Thanks for the this opportunity to win the book.

  237. Julie E. says:

    I have always struggled with self-esteem issues ever since I was a kid. I’ve never felt good enough or pretty enough. I didn’t finish college when I started years ago and now have daily regret about that because if I had finished, I would have a much better job (better pay, benefits, etc.). I am always comparing myself to others and now seem to find myself in the middle of a mid-life crisis. I am in a constant state of panic over not so much growing older as looking older. I am uncomfortable around others as I feel like I never fit in. I’m just not where I thought I would be by now in my life and its very disheartening.

    I appreciate your message today as this is something I really need to focus on. Thank you!

  238. Beverly Aiwohi says:

    Talk about confirmation! This is the 4th time in less than a week I have read something about how I am beautiful. It is so easy to look in the mirror and see a flaw or two, something which we would like to see differently. We must know that we are made in God’s image: fearfully and wonderfully made. Amen? Amen!!!

  239. Pre-Approved sounds amazing! I have always battled with my self-image and this book would be a blessing! I also battle with not feeling I could possibly be good enough for God to love me and also use me in furthering His Kingdom!! I would love to win this giveaway!! Thank you, Renee, for telling me about this book! To Cod Be The Glory!!!!

  240. I want to walk boldly in God’s word to break free from my doubts and insecurities about myself from weight issues, looks etc! To let my heart become so filled with God’s words and promises that it fills the next person and the next!!

  241. I am not sure that I can pick just one area where I wish I could see me as He sees me. Like so many women, I tend to see myself differently than those around me do. I find myself wondering if I am good enough as a mother or wife. I wish I had a beautiful smile so I could take pictures with my kids. I wish my hair wasn’t thinning at such a rapid pace that a wig doesn’t sound ideal. I feel fat and out of shape simply because of a few pounds I put on while nursing a broken foot and broken collarbone. However, those around me keep telling me that I do not need to worry about those few pounds as they will shed. I would just like to look in the mirror and see what He sees.

  242. Cheryl Keller says:

    Just what I needed to read for confirmation and reconfirmation of seeing myself through God’s Eyes.
    I am a mother of 6, a grandmother, have been married 3 times(almost4), was brought up with alcoholism, verbal abuse and my parents were separated when I was 9 and my mother verbal abused me blaming me for the brokenness and discouraged everything I did. I ended up being an extremely rebellious teen, an alcoholic and drug user, and looked for love and to be love with anyone willing to give it.
    God has moved so much in my life, and looking back with new sight I see where He was throughout.
    Now in what seemingly is another failing marriage having experienced verbal abuse, emotional & mental infidelity, being denied intimacy including sex, told I’m overweight, being ignored, disregarded, avoided, blamed, resented, disrespected, and the list goes on. I Praise God through it all, seeing myself through His eyes is what pulled me through it all and continues to pull me through it all, especially with His Divine appointments of affirmation and confirmation through other people, blogs, emails, Devotionals, etc. He is such a GREAT Father, God, Savior, Friend, King, my everything.

  243. Needed to hear this reminder today…. preapproved and valuable…. thankyou!

  244. Amanda Langston says:

    Bless God! I am thankful that God makes me worthy.

  245. Thank you for reminding me that I need to live for an audience of One. Not good enough is an “AM” thought I struggle with a lot. esp. when the house never seems to get cleaned and I just can’t get the kids to listen, in limbo w/job search and lack of confidence…just feeling overwhelmed.

  246. Lisa Rettig says:

    I always hold something back because of my weight. I would love to just be able to be me and not be so self-conscious.

  247. I would love to look in the mirror and see what He sees, instead of criticizing what He as Creator loving made.

  248. I would love to see my past the way God does, as part and parcel of a plan working for my good.

  249. Lynn L Favor Cole says:

    This is an area The Lord has been dealing with me about. Thanks.

  250. I was raised by an over the top critical parent and needless to say the disapproval has unfortunately been a struggle for me as an adult . I know GOD loves me and all my imperfections but I need to find a way to let that thought sink way down into my soul.
    Thank you Renee for being such a blessing and encouragement to myself and so many others !
    GOD BLESS you Sister 😉

  251. Rachael says:

    I am a 45 year old womanI have 4 beautiful boysage is 22, 12, 8 and 5. I am married to a wonderful man. I’m completely bald due to alopecia and recently made the tough decision to have all my upper teeth extracted after years of dental work & thousands of dollars. My hope is to one day rely soley on my true identity in Christ & not the worlds view. Being bald as a woman has been one of the toughest challenges. I pray my story can help someone. I would love to gain Godly insight into dealing with this on a daily basis. I want to see me & love me as Christ does. I whole heartedly believe this can help me. This is my third attempt at writing this. Praying it works this time. I thank you for this opportunity.

  252. To summarize, I don’t feel I’m good enough of a woman – spiritually, physically, intellectually, mentally…the list doesn’t end! But God is enough & His Love is more than enough! Can’t wait to read thing book!

  253. I would love to see myself as a wonderful mother and role model to my kids. I feel like I fail them constantly when I know deep down that is not true.

  254. Lori Tlatelpa says:

    The one area in my life where I would like to be reminded that I’m pre -approved is in how I view myself, as a whole, that I don’t have to BE anything, or DO more, or HELP more, or even REACH out and care/take more. I’m loved and pre approved already, so just relax, and rest assured that I AM enough, follow where He leads me and relax in the loving arms of our savior who ALREADY loves ME! Thanks for this opportunity and for the reminder, now if I could just hold on to that……! God bless, Lori T.

  255. I love the way that sounds… just the word preapproved makes me excited. I guess that is what God’s grace is; it’s preapproval. He loves and approves of me, not for anything I’ve done or will do, but before I have even attempted to earn His love.
    We have been looking at real estate during this chapter in our lives and a preapproval letter is a part of that process to having an offer accepted on a house. How wonderful to know that I have God’s preapproval written through the story of Jesus’ death on the cross and life that He gave for me. He did that so long ago, before I was even born, but He did that for ME!
    I would love to take this message of preapproval to heart and share it with the girls I meet with at our youth ministry. Each week they come and talk about how they aren’t good enough, smart enough, funny enough, skinny enough, etc. I see how amazing they are, but like them, I often fail to see how amazing God thinks I am and really how amazing His love is for me. I would love to read this book and gain more insight on this. Thanks for the info!

  256. Christine says:

    I am so desperate to know that I am enough in every area of my life.

  257. I need this because I still struggle to really see myself as God sees.

  258. I would love to be able to be comfortable in my own skin with my health. However, I am very self conscience about it. I am on oxygen and in a wheelchair and to me it’s embarrassing and frustrating because I caused it (smoking, overweight) and while I don’t smoke anymore, I cannot exercise in a great plan, because of my lungs/heart, therefore, don’t loose weight. It’s a vicious cycle, and I know that God will one day heal me.

    But now, for now, in the present, I am very overwhelmed with it!

  259. This book sounds amazing. I could use a boost in that department for sure.

  260. Thanks for the encouragement. In a world that paints pictures of “perfect” women (the ones who seem to have been blessed which some superhuman abilities that the rest of us missed out on), it’s very hard to see ourselves as God sees us. It’s a daily struggle for me and I know I’m not the only one. I crave the day I’m able to feel worthy just as I am, to be able to let my guard down, to stop feeling like I need to overachieve and overcompensate for the areas that I feel flawed (physical and otherwise).
    Can hardly believe I’m posting this but all these brave women who are sharing have inspired me to share.

    May God bless you and your ministry and to all the ladies who have posted, may we be able to see ourselves as God sees us.

  261. So thankful for another reminder that we are beautiful in His eyes in a world where beauty is a treatment.

  262. Barbara Rivera says:

    There is nithing I need to do to win God’s approval. He loved me when I was unlovely. Christ did it all for me. I just need to accept His free gift and rest in Him

  263. Michelle Salyers says:

    Wow, let me count the ways that I need this book. I used to weigh about 370 lbs and was married to a preacher whom I had 3 children with. He degraded me continuously about everything. Asking once why I couldn’t be skinny like our deacons wife. I built up all these hurts and defenses and finally I left him. There was horrible verbal abuse but there were other issues that I won’t post but left me feeling I was pathetic. I lost a lot of weight with diet and exercise and I felt beautiful. I met a wonderful man and we fell in love and married. We’ve been together for a yr now and I’ve gained about 60 lbs back and out of nowhere, here come these past feelings, you’re getting chubby again, he doesn’t want a chubby wife and he can’t possibly love u now. I cry a lot and he tells me, where in the world do these crazy thoughts come from and I say IDK. I so need this book.

  264. Praise The Lord! My life has been changed because I find my truth in God’s word instead of what others say or what my negative feelings might tell me. What if the norm was for women to be confident and secure in their worth? I started a blog in November to share the beauty in my life that comes from finding security in Christ.

  265. Bernice says:

    Thank you for sharing about this book ….The area’s that popped-up instantly are …as a mum and wife…….!

  266. I often let doubt or negative thoughts creep in and take over my thinking. I need to remember that I am preapproved and look for the truth in God’s word rather than in what others may think.

  267. I need to feel this in every area if my life. A lifetime of perfectionism has taken its toll as there is not a possibility of perfection on this earth. Would love to read this book!

  268. Desiree Taylor says:

    I think my biggest areas of need for approval are in my physical body. I have always felt I don’t measure up and still working on making God’s truth imprinted so deeply in my mind that I know I am completely who He says I am that way. Also my husband and I are Deacons at church and I really need to work on not worrying about people people approved in this area of ministry.

  269. Debra Rose says:

    i need to think of myself as per-approved as i move on after a divorce.

  270. Desiree says:

    The area in which I would love to see myself as God sees me is in my self confidence. I have always had low self confidence and just have always portrayed myself in the opposite so that people don’t know. It affects every area of my life. Bad relationships, job loss, inability to do the things I have desired to do, like start a non-profit business, write a book, move forward with and inventive idea because I have always been told things I talk about don’t make sense and the people I look up to seem to know better than me so I put those things away. If I could see what God sees in me maybe I would be able to do better but even I can’t figure why he has me here.

  271. I needed that reminder that I am per approved by God and only need to seek is approval of me. I am having a rough time this week, feeling inadequate and unworthy. I am so thankful that I AM a child of the one true God.

  272. Reina Alvarado says:

    It is so easy to loose sight of the fact that God calls us Beautiful and Pre-Approved. We forget that He created us! He chose us from the beginning of time! How easy it is to take our eyes off of our creator and His promises for our life, look around at the world and compare ourselves to others. God sees us, He knows our beginning to end, He is not surprised by our choices, our actions, or our hearts…. He loves us and placed His Son in our place as an investment… Yes! We are His investment! Amen! When God spoke these truths into my heart I found myself in Awe of a God who truly loves and cherishes each and every one of His dear Children, and YES! that includes ME!!!!

  273. Mary Ann Leonard says:

    What an amazing phrase…”Pre-approved”! God never judges us and we as women feel so much pressure to always be flawless because we do not want to be seen as weary and worn. God still loves us unconditionally and calls us Beautiful even when we do not always agree. I want God to see me in a loving and positive light. I have placed too much pressure in my life over the fact that I have never been married or never had any children and started to believe something was wrong in my life. I know God is my ROCK and RESCUE ! I have learned to focus on what he has given me such us plenty of neices and nephews and little cousins to have been privileged to assist in raising. I know GOD has something in store for me and I believe ! I am Pre-Approved for this Destiny. Thank you so much for this opportunity.
    Blessings and in His care,
    Mary Ann Leonard

  274. Tabitha Scherer says:

    The fact that I never approve of myself, I am constantly cutting myself down. I know that He loves me, but I still don’t accept and love myself. It is like a bipolar cycle with me I am on top of the world for a while and then wham! the bottom falls out!

  275. My biggest struggle is me weight but I’m learning that God loves me right where I am! There are no stipulation to His love ~ he loves me as a big girl and he will love me as a not so big girl! I need to remember that I’m pre-approved and His love is all I need. Thanks for this reminder!

  276. I would love to see myself as more confident; able to get up in front of people without feeling like I could faint. I am getting better as I become closer to God but still feel as if I could stop breathing.

  277. I have never been quite *good enough* for anyone that has been in my life. I don’t seem to have measured up to everyone else. I really struggle in self esteem because of this as well as seeing myself as ever being beautiful to anyone. I am having difficulty seeing myself a certain way in God’s eyes because of how the people in my life have viewed me, especially to be *Pre-Approved and Loved*. 🙁

  278. Danitra says:

    I would love to see how God sees my inter -beauty. How do other people see me? Can they see the loving heart? or the broken heart? The strong woman or the scared woman? I wonder how God sees my heart. Thank you so much for this subject, pre-approved.

  279. I am famous for saying I am not good enough at doing anything right for my family. I have confidence in my job, but not in family. I feel like I need to be a better mom and need to be a WAY better wife. I feel like I am cranky at them or dont push them enough to go outside of their comfort zone. I feel I am not good enough cook, good enough with homework, dont spend enough time, dont have enough patience. I just period dont have enough confidence. There is only one spot in my life where I feel like I am good at something and that is my job, but only the work. Not confident with the people. I would love to read this book, whether I win it or not. To make me feel human again and to push me to be better and feel like I am good enough. This sounds like a great read!! I do always lean on God and I believe that is the reason I am still above water!!! I do feel I am a good person, but misread and misunderstood!!

  280. There are several areas that I feel less than…. but the one I struggle with the most is being “mom”. So many times I fail…. Praise the Lord He pours grace on my children…..

  281. I don’t have a lot of self confidence… your book sounds wonderful.

  282. Karen M says:

    Thanks for the wonderful inspiring statement. I am pre-approved. I love God and knows he loves me buy I look at myself and say Uggh, I need to lose weight. I have gain more than an extra pounds since I got sick with a chronice illness and have to have IV steriod treatments. Its tough. It affects everything your weight and moods. I like looking in the mirror thinking & saying I am beautiful because I am redeemed by Jesus precious blood. I would love to win this book to pass along to others I know who stuggle in this area that needs to be reminded that they too are pre-approved. God bless you. In His Hands

  283. I need God to show me he loves me and approves of me and is my Father. My family-dad, mom, and sister have disowned me because of a divorce. I have struggled with feelings of unworthiness and insecurity. Afraid of being left because I don’t measure up.

  284. This is a hard thought, but one area I would like to see myself as God does loved and pre-approved is with my work

  285. Shanon Bagwell says:

    I would like to feel pre-approved for being created a woman. I struggle with self-doubt. There are a lot of things that just don’t come natural for me as a woman, wife, mother, and homemaker.

  286. I would love to see myself as God sees me. I know he loves me & I am His daughter. But life still gets me down sometimes, just like every other woman. I have been struggling with my weight & my career. I am a newlywed so like most I have gained some weight. I have been back and forth trying to eat healthy and work out. Its really hard but I’ve got to do it for myself. I have been contemplating going back to school. I know it will be hard because I work full time too. But I want a career for myself. Not just a job. I want to feel like I have accomplished something. I know God will help me do these things if I just trust Him and look too Him for guidance.

  287. Vickie Tessener says:

    This sounds like just the book for me. Suffering from the “not enough” syndrome as well as the comparison game and coming up short every time…God is doing a new work in me and showing me that I am his valued and treasured daughter. So sad to be 51 and still not know how valuable I am…but God is leading me to His truth and I am so grateful for the opportunity to win this book. I loved your book Confident Heart…it has helped me so much. God Bless you Renee for being transparent and showing us we all struggle with the warfare that the enemy lies to us about. He was all about beauty and power and that caused his fall…when we face these battles of not measuring up or lack of Hollywood beauty…we can know our enemy is behind them.

  288. Thanks for the reminder

  289. You want me to pick just one area? That is impossible. But probably my biggest area of trying to gain approval is from my Mother. When your Mother tells you something you tend to believe it, it’s your Mother right? Seeking that approval leads to me trying to gain approval from others. Since gaining it from others is much easier that getting it from her. I desperately needed to hear that I am Pre-Approved today! And I will need it again tomorrow and days after that!

  290. Wow, I agree with so many. You really want me to pick one. I seek approval from my “step-father” and even a few weeks ago my grown children said “Mom, you are never going to get that….give it up.. it’s ok.” I have always wanted men’s approval in general …..and now wisdom tells me it’s from my REAL biological father leaving all five of us when we were tiny. This this type of insecurity created around this is life changing and a downhill spiral without God.

  291. Colleen Ladd says:

    I would love to see myself as God sees me in the area of my existence. Am I doing that which He has called me to do in this season of my life or do I need redirection? Am I really making an impact on those around me or am I missing the mark? Am I pleasing Him in the way i’m living my life and in the daily choices I make or do I get so caught up in “doing life” that I fail to live the life He desires of me? To see myself as God sees me in this area or many others would surely be life changing.

  292. I would love to see myself as God sees me in my own body. I’ve kept on 46 pounds since having my second child. I feel slow, I feel fat, I feel like a failure for not losing it and for not having more motivation. My husband tells me I am beautiful every day, and for a moment I believe him. I think peace with my own body is only going to come from a peace that is not of this world.

  293. I am bigger than most women, in height and I think sometimes because of that I intimidate people. I feel I am judged before people get to know me . So I get very self-conscious about it. So I would love to see me as God sees me and be free.

  294. The biggest area of my life that I need to give full control to God is the need to be accepted by others. I worry so much about what people think of me and always feel that I will never measure up to the other ladies in my church or on my job. I am constainly worried about what people are saying about me when I leave the room and If they think that what I just said was the dumbest thing they have ever heard. I try so hard to please people, but need to learn the God is the only person that matter. It is hard to release this becasue I have spent my whole life this way trying it my way. I am ready to let god have control of this.

  295. I am a little overweight and I have been told many times that I am not as pretty as I used to be and don’t look like I used to. I like myself on the inside but not on the outside, you hear things for so long that you tend to see what others see.

  296. Kimberly Mitchell says:

    The biggest area I need to give full control is in my marriage and with my self esteem. Both of these areas have been a struggle lately and it’s hard to release it all to God but I am trying. Please pray for me.

  297. Vanessa Wynn says:

    Well, every day, I think we all see areas of our lives where we feel we are lacking. We see others who are thinner, prettier, more put together (in our eyes) and we let the “not good enough” attitude creep in. I have posted around my mirror many thoughts to encourage me and remind me on a daily basis that I am who He says I am..I am an adopted, loved daughter of the one true King. I am not who I see, I am who He sees. Thanks for the continued reminders and encouragement that you all provide us!

  298. Thank you for the reminder that God calls me beautiful even when I don’t feel like it and always feel like I need to have a better body. Looking forward to this ..

  299. I have been so down on myself lately for not being able to lose the rest of my post pregnancy weight. I wish I could see that God sees me as beautiful when I’m looking in the mirror at stretch marks, extra skin, and too much belly. I’ve never been able to see myself as beautiful even though I try to remind myself that I’m chosen and perfectly made in God’s eyes. Would love to read this book to boost my confidence in His opinion instead of my own.

  300. I want to see myself as ‘forgiven’ the way God sees me. Forgiving ourselves is a tall order, and sometimes I have to do it daily!

  301. I love this title! I need this reminder EVERY day! Being married to a man who tore me down at every opportunity, it is hard to keep in mind that God loves me anyway. I constantly find myself seeking approval from those around me. Am I doing this right? Am I wearing the right outfit? Am I saying the right words? But God has already pre-approved all my actions, words and yes probably even my outfits. 😀 I would love to dig deeper into this book! Thanks for the opportunity with contests like these (since I’m out of a job and slow to find one, but God will open that door when it’s time, it’s hard to buy new books). Thank you again for this reminder!

  302. Brenda W. says:

    I try to stay positive even through the problem and all that I am going through right now because of my 22 year old daughter. Beautiful young lady who have had a bad experience in life with a guy who told her he loved her and broke her heart it causes her to self doubt herself a lot. I would love to win this book to give to her so she could really see who she is in the eyes of God. She has a beautiful spirit. She’s an awesome praise dancer in church. But the Am I Good Enough To…. always get in the way. I ask for your prayers for my daughter, Krystal.

  303. Kelley Wallace says:

    I woke up this morning feeling dragged down by the same old stuff. Never enough. Never enough. Then I saw your FB post, Renee. Thank you so much for the reminder that in Christ I am enough. I’d love to read your friend’s new book. I read “A Confident Heart” last year and found it so encouraging. I guess I need some serious encouragement every spring!

  304. WOW. needed this reminder badly. The feelings of self worthlessness… am I doing what needs to be done in many areas of my life… witness, wife, mother, taking care of myself. THANKS!!

  305. Married 9 years, 31 yrs old, 3 daughters and I’m not where I feel I should be with God. Alot of it has to do with my confidence and being shy. I would love to see myself “Pre-Approved” wtih GODS boldness to be the “ME” he destined “ME” to be!! Our girls are watching and I have to take a stand especially in todays society….Amen

  306. Sherri Smith says:

    I’ve never thought of it as being “pre-approved!” What a great reminder!

  307. I know God loves me and finds me beautiful, but I have been thru so many set backs in my life (relationships that have failed) that my self esteem is rock bottom. I do not see myself thru God’s eyes…..I see myself thru my eyes. I see every failure, every fault, every “less than perfect” flaw and every hurt that sets me back. It is a journey that I am struggling to get thru. Thank you for your post in my email that reminds me of God’s unfailing love

  308. Ha! I thought you were going to offer a credit card or similar credit based offer! 🙂

    I’m glad to know that my debt has been paid and my value is not based on how I look, my performance, or other limiting notion that keeps me from seeing things through God’s eyes.

  309. As I consider leaving work to pur into my daughter in her high school years I’m wrestling with worth and purpose apart from my part-time paycheck. I know who I am in Christ and live in that, but wrestling a bit as a woman, just the same.

  310. Debra Jean says:

    I long for the rejection I have felt, on so many levels to be removed from my DNA.
    Once and for all claiming the VICTORY of God’ seeing me as Loved & Preapproved; this would be the final healing balm to the uncertainty in me; one which no one else sees.

  311. At 58 years of age, I have endured a lifetime of emotional abuse from my mother who, among many other things, regularly tells me that she never wanted me; I’m a rotten daughter. Add to that the past 17 years of being married to an emotionally and verbally abusive man; I’m a lousy wife. I KNOW that God sees beauty in me through His eyes; I KNOW that Jesus is the Lover of my soul. I KNOW that I am a daughter of the King. But wow…..sometimes the weight of my world just overwhelms me and His voice fades into the background of the louder voices. I do need to hear and truly listen to encouraging voices, reminding me of who I am in The Lord.

    • Brenda S says:

      Oh Greta…… and I have shared many things. I had a Mom who told me she didn’t want me and treated me that way most of my life and an ex husband who was horrible. I had panic attacks for years. Please know that no matter what anyone says to you……..God loves you, God values you. You were born because He wanted you here and you are a treasure to Him. I know how hard it is to not listen to the voices saying otherwise but those voices are satan trying to tear you down and hinder your witness for the Lord….but through Christ you have the power to silence them. I use to suffer greatly from those voices until I started saying, out loud where ever I was “I am the daughter of the King. Go away, satan! You have no power here. In Jesus’ name I tell you to go and leave me alone!” Satan must flee at the name of Jesus. Sometimes I had to do this several times a day. I was well trained and he is persistent and will return but if you are consistent with your stance as a child of God, eventually the voices will lessen and lessen and fade away. They are replace by a sense of well being……….even if the situations in your life don’t change………you have the peace of God and the knowledge that you are valuable to Him. Every time you do this is a victory for you. Really, that is all that matters in this life and how you shine your life for Him. It’s possible that through your changed demeanor that you could make a change in your mother and husband treatment of you but if not, you will have the peace that only Jesus can give. I pray that through this study you can see that you are truly beautiful.

      • Thank you, Brenda, for your most encouraging words. Kindred spirits, are we? I too experience panic attacks, as well as intestinal issues, sleepless nights….all brought on by stress, so my docs say. I will now start to use your declaration to rid my mind of the voice of the evil one. Thanks again for sharing! I will pray that your light will continue to shine hope and encouragement to others!

  312. I used to think that my worth is defined by what I do and what I achieve. I kept on filling my schedule with tons and tons of work until it came to a point when I was left with no joy and peace. I believed in Satan lies telling me how worthless I am when I fail to accomplish something the world regards as “great.” But God, in His love, mercy, and faithfulness, made me realize that I am valued not for what I do but for who I am and whose I am. I still struggle with my identity in Christ, and I know I must get intentional each and every day about resting in His love and fixing my eyes only on Him whose love endures forever.

  313. Shanna D says:

    One area I would change is how I feel about myself. Seeking affirmation in everything can be hard because you want positive response and yet at times you get negative ones, which can make me feel like I am not good enough.

  314. patricia says:

    Thank you for this e-mail. I really needed it and especially at this time.. GOD KNEW!!! I have struggled off and on with my emotions of acceptance. Am I good enough, smart enough, nice enough etc…. I know God loves me as I am, but sometimes I just need that assurance and confidence to not wither…..I am very blessed to be in HIS FAMILY… SO with this e-mail it does remind me that I am loved and preapproved…. THANK YOU


  315. I am so (in)couraged to be reminded that I am pre-approved. I look in the mirror everyday looking at myself thinking of what i dislike rather than what I like. I would like to overcome verbally beating myself up about all my faults and listening to the negative comments of my loved one. I know God doesn’t see or think of me that way. Thank you for all you do!

  316. Bobby Gonzales says:

    I love this!
    I know that I am beautifully and wonderfully made. A perfect piece of art, that may seem imperfect in this world.
    God made me for His purpose. His perfect design.
    I pray more people understand that. But through free will, we have not honored God’s property, God’s instrument for His Kingdom. This is where we fall short and need to do a “180” or for a better biblical term, “repent”.

    I don’t want the book. If I win this book, I will pay it forward and give it away. Not because I’m proud and perfect (which I am far from), but because I know to whom I belong and where my focus should be. And, I need to remind myself about that A LOT. 🙂

  317. Wow! What timing! I am really in a struggling season of feeling like I’m on hold. God has been pruning like crazy and causing me to analyze my motivation for fear, worry and judgment in my life and the life of my family. Almost every decision or stress comes with me having to ask, is this something that matters, or am I worried what others think? Is this something God wants me to do, or am I trying to impress others (ouch, that one hurts!). I pray that God help me see me and my life through His eyes and not what the world says it ought to be like. Help me to accept the simple life He is leading me to and find contentment in it. That not everyone’s platform is a stage, a book or an established ministry. He keeps leading me to the word “simple.” And keeps engraving 1 Samuel 16:7 on my heart. “God does not view things the way men do. People look on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” Jesus help me have a willing heart!

  318. Catherine says:

    Redeemed how God saw me before I was born, redeemed as a wife, mother, daughter, sister and friend! I struggled with acceptance of who I am and need to be. I often tell my self I have no regrets but my gut says otherwise. I struggle with the thought of being pre-approved.

  319. Elaine Segstro says:

    I struggle with approval – my appearance and what I do with my life, now that I’m in “semi-retirement”. I am a child of the king – lovely, desired, and “pre-approved”. I don’t need to prove anything – oh to believe this, and live it.

  320. Blessings, Renee! So blessed to enter the give-away of Jennifer’s book! I want to know that in my mid-50’s I’m not a spent force and that I still have my most fruitful seasons ahead in my art and writing for His glory! Thanks so much for your encouraging posts on FB – always blessed!

  321. I need that reminder daily. Since I was a child I struggled with wanting to be loved , and excerpted by my friend’s. I take one day at a time.

  322. Lori Bearden says:

    I struggle with feeling accepted. At work I feel inadequate.

  323. I would love to win this book for my daughter. She is a 20 something and struggles with this issue everyday! She also mentors a group of high school girls that this book would be perfect for 🙂 I am excited to hear of this book and can’t wait to read it.

  324. Michelle Wells says:

    In the area of chronic illness. Have believed since diagnosis 17 years ago, for that divine healing spoke of in the word of God. Over the years, have sought the reason behind baring it for so long…knowing that God see’s me in my full potential according to His promises…yet my faith chipped away year after year…feelings of not being worthy enough to receive those promises have over shadowed my faith. Overwhelming unworthiness I deal with daily.

  325. Margaret Gentile says:

    All my life I have been told if only you lost more weight, were like your sister, etc. etc. etc. then I would be accepted and good enough. I would like to believe that God does love me just the way I am and I don’t have to lose weight, be like my sister or change in any way. I just want to see how God loves me everyday and how I am special to Him.

  326. Allison M. says:

    Thank you…I needed this today. I don’t often feel valued or approved.

  327. Janet Lobdell says:

    I struggle with questioning so many things. My role as a wife and mother, my abilities. What God wants me to do. Would love this book!

  328. I AM PRE-APPROVED. NO make over needed.

  329. Thanks for reminding me I am pre approved. I need to be reminded how God sees me and not that I’m overweight.

  330. I go through times of feeling inadequate and not doing enough to further God’s Kingdom. I try to remind myself to serve and do whatever I can for the Lord, but sometimes that is not enough to overcome my feelings of unworthiness.

  331. Melinda Hembrough says:

    Seeking approval of others! Need only God’s approval, but still worry about what others think!

  332. We are usually weighted down by our own thoughts of comparison or trapped by what we “think” others are thinking. Its’ crazy. Thank you for reminding us to view ourselves through God’s eyes & like God tells us- Words for building up- we consider this when speaking to others; however, it must be said that we have to apply that to ourselves / our self talk:)

  333. I would love to see myself as a successful writer. I have something to say that I think would be of benefit of the Kingdom of God but, and their it goes, but I can’t seem to get it out of me.

  334. Stephanie M says:

    I struggle daily with need for approval and self worth. I love the idea of being “pre-approved”! It is so easy to forget God’s love is truly unconditional, because in our relationships here on Earth, they often times seem “conditional”. I have a hard time grasping the love God has for each and every one of us. As everyone has, I’ve made some pretty poor choices in my life — and the fact that God loves me anyway — is just amazing. I need that daily reminder of His love for me — because for me it is so much easier to believe that He is disappointed in me.

  335. Beverly Wright says:

    That I can be the wife and daughter that God wants me to me. I do not need to be insecure about others love to me. I know that God always sees me exactly as He as intended me to be and never changes His love for me. I have been “pre-approved” for many things by God!!

  336. My weight . I’m 53 and still struggle with my appearance . The number on a scale , my pants size . Not being good enough . I’m so thankful that God loves me no matter what size I am .

  337. Sharon Yoder says:

    I would like to become more God conscious than self conscious. Often in decision-making I tend to worry what others might think of me.

  338. Lorrie Bechtel says:

    thanks for reminding me that I am pre approved. I need help with this area of my life

  339. Jessica F says:

    Thanks for reminding me that I am pre approved! That HE loves me no matter what. I struggle so much in this area that I wish I could see myself the way God sees me.

  340. Thank you for this Renee. I am a people pleaser and while working with God and other supports to get away from this awful tendency. The most challenging thing for me, actually heartbreaking, is living with an amazing man of 48 years old. Two years ago he had a massive ischemic stroke that hit the right side. It us a miracle he is alive and functioning.

    This type of stroke has now caused seizures, sleep walking, and behavioral issues, not to mention loss of motor skill sometimes. Long story short, experiencing all of the hospitalizations which arise out of the blue, has forced me into the caregiver position which loves to people please. My emotions become overwhelming and of course the fear that comes each time that I might lose him

    I am seeking how God sees me but through these trials I lose focus but always know God is with me. This new endeavor and book sounds wonderful. Thank you for letting me share. Tristine

  341. I struggle in all areas of my life” in being good enough” and never measuring up. I believe God sees me as all the above mentioned because He sees me through The Blood and His Grace with eyes of love. But in reality I am not those things and I can not see myself that way.

  342. The enemy continues to haunt me telling me I am not pretty enough, skinny enough or good enough. When I look in the mirror I see someone who is ugly and not attractive. I know God thinks I’m beautiful but why don’t I see myself the same way? Please pray for me.

  343. I struggle with being “good enough” and not always making mistakes. There is always the fear that God will tire of forgiving am and loving me. I try so hard sometimes to be her daughter, but other humans seem to expect so much at times and want me to change who I am.

  344. diki b. says:

    Oh my there are so many areas of my life I don’t like. I guess the biggest area right now would be my weight. Every time I look in the mirror I see this fat, ugly person. I’m not very good at taking care of me and I kept trying to figure out why, then it finally dawned on me. I don’t like myself let alone love myself. I know God loves me but it doesn’t seem to even matter, I just don’t know how to fix this. I sure would love to win this book, but even if I don’t I appreciate the chance to try for it.

  345. Cecily R Bornemann says:

    I struggle with my weight so I need help seeing God’s preapproval on my body image.

  346. I’d love to see myself as God sees me in my value of just being me. I rarely think of myself as a person of worth and err on the side of people’s opinion of me for my identity. It is something I’m working on and taking baby steps forward. But I am going forward not backwards or standing still, so I’m hopeful.

  347. Alice Redmond says:

    My mother-in-law, who is paranoid schizophrenic, lives with us; she is very negative towards me although before the disease took over we were the best of friends. However, if though she is literally crazy, I find myself still seeking her approval, which I am never going to get! This book may well be the answers to my prayers for seeking God’s approval only!

  348. Looks like a good read.Accepted & not rejected I would like to see myself through God’s eyes.

  349. Amanda Evans says:

    Body image and focusing too much on my inadequacies versus trusting God and allowing Him to change me.

  350. Jessica Brevard says:

    There are many areas of my life where I would love to see myself as God sees me, but I think the biggest area I struggle with is not being able to be pleasing to people. I have always strived to be a people pleaser. If I fail or disappoint someone, or they are not happy for some reason I blame myself. I feel unworthy, useless and an enormous failure. I know God sees me differently and His Word says that I should not be a man pleaser but a servant of God. I would love to win this book. I struggle with this area of my life and I want to change this attribute of myself and be fully submitted to Jesus. Thank you for your service to Jesus and to all women.

  351. W Housley says:

    All I can say is WOW, God is good all the time

  352. This book sounds area of struggle is my body.I pray to one day see myself as God see’s me. Thanks for all you truly are a blessing……… vicky

  353. I really struggle with my physical appearance. (weight, clothes, etc.) I would love to see myself as God sees me.

  354. The area I would love most to improve is to be free from the need to hide in the shadows. After growing up with a hypercritical, abusive father and family members, I’d worked to get my teaching certificate and license. I was making progress and growing. I finally felt I was worthwhile and able to fulfill what I thought God had designed me to do. However, during my tenth year, an abusive principal, hypercritical parents, and the extreme demands from my principal stole my health. My doctor told me I had to find another career. A couple of months later I developed pneumonia. That was four years ago, and I’ve been slowly trying to rebuild, but still want to hide in the shadows. I’m almost finished with my Paralegal program, but still struggling with self esteem which will hinder job hunting. I know God doesn’t make mistakes, and has a much better plan for my life. Would love to be able to walk into a room and not want to hide.

  355. I love this….and I’ve learned that the only voice that I need to hear is God’s voice of approval…Yes, we are HIS BELOVED. It doesn’t matter if “he loves me or he loves me not”…because HE (God) loves me.

  356. Hello all,

    I love your posts. As women we struggle in so many areas to feel accepted and approved of. Barely over a year ago I lost all hope and tried to take my own life. It has been such an uphill battle since then. The hardest times are when I try to do “it” on my own. I have always been the fixer, doer, go to person. You know the mom, wife, college student, working mom like so many of us out there. I forgot about God, grace, love, and Jesus. Everyday all women should have the confidence of the Fathers love and know it exists. Some days I remember but many are spent toiling until a gentle reminder finds it way to me like this email today. Thank you again for reminder that no matter what there is nothing we can do to earn the acceptance, love and approval that was given in the greatest act of love of all time.

  357. Congratulations on joining the (in)courage team! Looking forward to reading this book… Thanks for the giveaway!

  358. Just one area?? I don’t feel like I’m enough in a lot of ways! I just want to feel like I’m worthy of love instead of having to earn it by cooking gourmet meals, keeping a clean house, balancing the budget, choosing the right activities to nurture my son’s development, achieve more at work… I want to really believe that I’m loved and adequate because of who I am, not for what I do.

  359. It’s funny how the Lord works sometimes, it’s really amazing. There is a stumbling block within me concerning my self worth. I have been asking in prayer to see myself as others see me because I believe they have more of glimpse of seeing me through His eyes. They see the good in me, They see Him in me, His developing character. Last night at church service I made vow to Jesus to believe what and who He says I am. Now, I just need to know who He says I am in Him and what makes me so special that He would die such a death for me. Thank you for the opportunity to share and a resource to pursue to help me understand and receive the love that He obviously wants me to receive from Him.

  360. I need to doubt less and trust Him more with ALL areas of my life. It’s the little things that cause me to doubt. I know He’s got the big things. I just have trouble with the daily little things that probably shouldn’t matter.

  361. I would love to see me as God sees me in the area of balance. His balanced woman, not dealing with depression, able to do what He calls me to do.

  362. I am chosen? Treasured? Redeemed? Loved? Cherished? Enough? I am Pre-Approved? Really?! It has taken 47 yrs just to begin to understand that I AM all by HIM! So hard to walk daily moment by moment wanting to believe that I, me, am really one that God chose and loves me. How can He when it’s so hard to truely believe in myself. Every day it hurts less than the day before. Yes I become stronger but a very difficult road to walk. Having been through a valley of so many trials in my life, still trying to keep my head above water and just believe in HIm! Every day is a yearning to know more about my Lord and Savior. On this walk Proverbs 31 has been with me. Thank you. Hearing speakers…or reading your books or websites, I know this is God showing and leading me. I want to know Him more and serve Him to be able to serve others.

  363. “Preapproved”? I never thought of myself that way. I am so self conscious about the way I look how much I weigh, etc. I forget that God knows and loves me just as I am.

  364. I need a constant reminder that God has preapproved my personality and my appearance.

  365. There are too many areas that I need God to work on in my heart. Through the OBS I am learning so much and God is beginning to work in many areas and I am slowly relying on him to be my everything. I still have a long way to go, but with God’s help I’ll get there.

  366. Terry Wood says:

    There are so many areas of my life that I would love to see myself as God sees me. I don’t even like myself most times and often wonder how others can like me if I can’t like myself.

  367. Yes, I’ve always wondered whether I am “approved” by people around me.
    Am I ok doing this, will this make them happy, etc


  368. i would like to see myself as someone good enough to love.

  369. I’m a few days behind in reading e-mails but think God had that in mind to see this today! Just got back from a 5:30 a.m. meeting with a friend @ the hospital, prepping for surgery. She wasn’t allowed to wear mascara because her eyes will be taped shut. Vanity welled up in my as thoughts ran through my head “Oh my… hopefully I never have surgery – I look bad without mascara, etc”. At 58, it doesn’t typically bother me – but today Jesus revealed there’s still insecurity. I’d love to have the book, not only for myself, but to share it & the Truth in it with others.

    • I am so glad that I took the time to read this. However, I would love to have the book. I want to get into the swing of things and help all of the young women at my church. I see a big need in our community. We don’t have any mentors that is doing it. So I would love to start this session with a group. what a great way to start with this book. Everyone still needs a little in couragement in a lot of areas. Today there are a lot of people going through several trials without hearing these kind words which lead to suicide. I would love to win this book if it isn’t too late. Thank you.

  370. Stephanie says:

    Work. I constantly have to fight the battle of needing some kind of approval and/or affirmation that I’m on the right track. New management style pretty much has none of that. God is teaching me that all I can do is the best I can and that He will give me the strength, patience and affirmation necessary whether in this job or another. In the meantime, my role is more than enough if co-workers feel comfortable coming to ask for prayer, encouragement or to share a smile. The bigger picture is why I’m here or anywhere. Steeping myself in Christ!

  371. Once a conference speaker, worship leader & pastors wife, but shame came to my family, and I hid from all the embarrassment that we went through. Reading some of the printing in your book, has reminded me, that God’s not done with me. I feel each day a tug at what God is calling me to do and I know that from my beginning I was pre-approved, and the enemy came into my camp to only destroy what God was doing through us. I look forward to reading your book. Thank you for sharing.

  372. The mirror can distort our image and make us view ourselves as defective and inferior to others. God has pre-ordained us to become transformed into His image and what we see should reflect His glory. This is so reassuring to me and gives me hope and joy during my journey with God. I would enjoy reading this book to gain more of Jesus.

  373. I’d love to see me as God sees me as a Mom. Preapproved sounds wonderful.

  374. My parenting and my work.

  375. Rachel Sitton says:

    So many areas……parent, wife, teacher, daughter, etc…

  376. Marie Bride says:

    Such a privilege to share the message with so many
    and be Blessed with an opportunity to win Love Idol
    This is a subject that is so needed in my life to bring that healing only Christ can bring!

  377. Mayra Morla-Sterling says:

    Rene I thank God for your passion and dedication to help women!
    I been blessed! Everything you write about is like taken from my own life story. Since I’m reading the Confident Heart Devotional I’m experiencing hope.

    Now I pray that the head knowledge of being approved makes its transition to my heart by God’s grace and infinite power.

  378. Every area right now. Not coping. Everything in my life has come crashing down at once.Would like a new life or to be someone else for once or be able to handle all the mess this time one more time1

  379. Thank you for the reminder of reminding myself who I am in Christ. One of the things I need to remind myself is that I am enough, so “preapproved” is a fitting word to remind myself of! Love that word :0)

  380. I struggle with worth. Those I know have great jobs, families etc. I struggle on the back 40 feeling I have nothing of value- a ho-hum dead end job and a slow slide to retirement. I would love to see things differently as my Lord must see them. I feel there must be more to life- I would love the Lord to show me what it is.

  381. Miriam Alford says:

    This is such an important message to be talking about. So many young ladies I mentor struggle with this very issue so early on in their lives. Praise God there is a message of hope for all of us.

  382. One area, that is a difficult chiice. I think it would have to be acceptance of my coworkers. They don’t talk to me, include me in conversations. It is sometimes hurtful. I try to be friendly, but it just makes more guarded. I think it’s easier to be friends with guys less drama.

  383. Almarie Nel says:

    I totally love this thought that we were already pre-approved by our Master. Such an eye opener and a relief!! I would LOVE for all my friends and all the ladies that I know to also receive this amazing message. We have somuch still to learn. Thank you for this awesome message. I would love to receive your book to learn and share!!!

  384. Chelsea Garcia says:

    The area I need improvement is to know that I am pre approved to not give up in my faith. To know that my many faults are going to improve. To keep encouraging others to stay strong and lift others up who are going through the same thing I am. Thank you Renee for your encouraging words.


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