No More Guilt-induced Doubt

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Sometimes I wonder how I can go from being in such a good place with Godfeeling peaceful, loving and patient.. but then something happens that sends me into an orbit of aggravation!! 

It happened just the other day…

Things were going well. I’d had a lovely afternoon working from home. Alone. Life was peachy.

But then school got out and kids came home. Within 15 minutes of arrival, one of my boys did something and said something that wasn’t so peachy. Then he did NOT do something I’d asked him to do and let’s just say… I lost all my peace and patience right there in the middle of my kitchen.

I was not And I let my precious boy know it in a not-so-nice kind of way.

Then I felt GUILTY and like the WORST MOM on the planet.

For a few minutes I was pretty sure that’s exactly how God wanted me to feel ~ so I wouldn’t act so ugly the next time. 

But finally, after I’d almost convinced myself that I was the worst mom and had no business in ministry, I remembered something a pastor said about the difference between conviction and condemnation. He explained it like this:

Condemnation sweeps across our thoughts with generalized statements such as, You’re such a failure, You’re so hypocritical, or You can never be counted on. That is the accuser. His tone is condemning, questioning, and confusing. His accusations lead to guilt and shame.

But the Holy Spirit’s conviction will be specific. He will reveal a sinful action or attitude and instruct us on what we need to do to right the wrong: whether it’s restoring a broken relationship or returning something that isn’t ours. He’ll give us steps we need to take to change our behavior or attitude.

•       Instead of You’re such a failure as a [wife, mom, daughter, friend], the Spirit might say, You were really critical the way you talked to _________ (your husband, child, parent, etc). You need to say you are sorry and ask for forgiveness. Then tell them something that will build them up instead of tearing them down.

•       Instead of You’re so hypocritical, the Spirit might say, You judge others for gossiping, but you are doing the same thing when you talk about your neighbor at work. Tomorrow at lunch break, apologize for what you said and share a few things that are positive about her.

•       Instead of You can never be counted on, the Spirit might say, You didn’t keep your promise to go see your mom today. Call her to apologize and maybe set up a lunch date for this weekend.

Satan condemns accusingly, to make us feel guilty. God convicts lovingly, to lead our hearts to repentance. {tweet this?}

Jesus’ convictios draws us away from destructive behavior that hinders our relationship with Him and with others. His goal is to bring us out of the darkness of sin and back into the Light, so we can walk with Him in the freedom of forgiveness and the confidence of His love.

The next time we blow it or lose it, let’s ask Jesus to replace our guilt-induced doubt with HIS grace-infused confidence, as we hold onto the promise that His grace is sufficient because His power is made perfect in our weakness. 

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About Renee

Renee Swope is a Word-lover, story-teller, heart-encourager and grace-needer. She's also a wife, mom, friend, daughter and author of A Confident Heart, a Retailers Choice Award winning book that became a best-seller and has been published in six languages, with over 150,000 copies sold. Renee is speaks around the country at women's events and and serves on the writing team for DaySpring’s inCourage blog. For twenty years, Renee served in leadership at Proverbs 31 Ministries and as former co-host of the ministry's radio program, “Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee.


  1. Barbara Kessler says:

    I love the explanation between conviction and condemnation. Apparently I am very condemning of myself. I know God has been trying to help me see myself in a different light and relase a lot of the hurt I’ve had over the last three decades. It’s hard, but I’m taking baby steps. Thanks for the devotion. P.S. Please enter me to win the devotional book. I know I can use it. Thanks.

    • I’m a little overwhelmed in a good yet heart-stretching way by your responses. Im so grateful Jesus knew and nudged my heart to share what He did – in my devotion and here in this post. And sweet friends, Im praying over each of your hearts and your words. I’ve been reading your comments and praying since 7:30 this morning when already over 150 of you had shared your thoughts and been so vulnerable and real with me and with each other…

      So grateful we have this space to share. To look at each other across the screen (in a virtual kind of way) and say: You.Are.Not.Alone.

      (we) are in this together, with each other and with our sweet Father who moved Heaven and earth to set us free from the chains of guilt. Through the lavish gift of His grace – in Christ -and then through His continual outpouring of LOVE through His spirit.

      Honestly, I knew I struggled with this, but didn’t realize how much we (all) struggle with guilt. Thank you for taking time today to say ~ me too.

      • Georgette says:

        Thank you for this blog! I lived my entire life in guilt. That’s how I was brought up and it’s very difficult to change. I call myself a hypocrite daily. I have given up on being a Christian, but I feel God trying to pull me back. I have stopped going to church, and tithing, I owe God so much money over the past 7 months.
        Your blog has encouraged me. Perhaps it’s not God calling me a hypocrite .

      • your daily posts resonate with me everyday! thank you for running this blog!

  2. This hit the mark today. Guilt. Not living up to what I expect that God wants from me makes heavy hearted. So I go and approach the throne and find no condemnation! Just mercy and rest. Good word.

  3. Wow, you have no idea how much u needed to hear this! Thank you!

  4. Thank you for this devotional. I have allowed condemnation to be the loudest voice in my head and in my heart for too long. I am just realising that this is no way to live. Why have I forgotten about Gods grace? The greatest gift. Now I will make an effort daily to ask for forgiveness and the grace and embrace it.

  5. This couldn’t have come at a better time I really need to hear this message I am going though some real trials right now and God I do believe is trying to teach me something. Please enter me to win the devotional book. I know I can use it as well. Thanks.

  6. Kriaten says:

    I love this. I am often doubting my worth or ability to do things. I want a confident heart always!!

  7. I would love to win your devotional book, loved your message via P31 today. Dont know if I’m elegible to enter though, as I live in Australia

  8. Stephanie says:

    I would love to have your book. I am very hard on myself, feel like I fail as a Mother daily and often let my condemning inner voice rule me. I could use the encouragement. Your post was just what I needed !

  9. I have these moments with my son almost daily. God is gracious and one of the greatest joys, sources of peace, consolations as a parent is asking forgiveness of my children when I have wronged them and letting them see, firsthand, how grace can work for me and for them.

  10. It’s so easy to fall into the trap of self-condemnation. Explaining the difference between condemnation and conviction was really helpful. Thank you for the reminder that God can use us in spite of our mistakes and shortcomings.

  11. Val Lucas says:

    Thank you so much. I’ve had a awful day today and you were an answer to my prayer. There are times I think GOD must get sick and tired of me and give up on me. Thank you again for redirecting my thoughts back to the ONE who loves me . Amazing Love.

  12. Joyce McLerran says:

    After being raised in a Church that never preached about grace, God’s love, and forgiveness I have a hard time forgiving myself and accepting His grace and forgiveness. Thank you for your articles. I am about to go to the Cancer Center for more test and I need all the love, grace, and forgiveness as well as courage each day.

  13. I must say that I get it. As much as I WANT this book, I can hear the hearts of the ones that NEED and others that just WANT the book. I can now see why the mother in Judges said give the baby to her.

  14. Sue Spencer says:

    Your words are a comfort to me. I suffer from self -induced guilt all thd time. Thank goodness God sends people like you to help us on this journey!

  15. I was just praying and asking God to help me with my mess, and asking myself if i was saved after 15 years of serving Him, thank God, his Spirit reminded me that he gives proof to my spirit that I am. Whew, and I saw a new email and read the encouragement for today and was shocked at the honesty of your post and how totally identified I am with it all. My husband after being a deacon at my church is now in care of the young adults ( ministry), im 30 and am feeling the pressure of the standards the congregation places on us which have made me a bit cranky, i feel like I need to go through my process, my marriage is only 4 years young in May and we have a 3 yr old toddler that doesn’t show his its all fine face or we got it all together posture many times. I’ve been serving on the women’s ministry for the past 6 yrs, and sometimes I think how is it that I’m here, the other day for our monthly service I was to pray and give the announcements and after an all to similar to your story chain of events i didn’t know how i was to pray, but I can honestly say God’s grace surprised me again, i was so humbled by my messy condition ( im a housewife, and I want to be up to par with what I know from the Word but I can’t seem to get it all right at the same time) (i want to be the Proverbs 31 woman sooooo much) i really just tried to pray as honestly add I could without giving away to much to those praying with me and Good met me there and was so faithful and loving, blessed us all with my particular participation in the program, specially me. So yes now the pressure is on but so is His grace. And well its like my marriage and raising my kids is on full view with a magnified glass not to mention my having to grow up and understanding we all age, we all pass, we all live in a temporary world and heavenly things are most important. but thank you so much for sharing your post, it reminded me that God understands, i do strive to do better each day but it’s His grace that I need to seek conscientiously to sustain me daily. thanks again for the uplifting words seems im going to be in need to hear them more in the near future, so if you enter me for the devotional book, i don’t mind lol, ( I’d love it actually) 🙂 again thanks and blessings. 🙂

  16. My mind so quickly jumps to the “you’re such a terrible wife/mother/friend/whatever, instead of listening for the Holy Spirits sweet, loving conviction I stead. Thank you for the reminder to quiet the lies and listen for the truth.

  17. Timothy Maloi says:

    The guilt part has been holding me from even facing GOD or even go to church at times but now I know GOD does not look at me as I look at myself but with love and grace.

  18. Lori Johnson says:

    Renee, your honesty is so encouraging! How many times I forget that it’s all about Grace. I am living through a new season of widowhood, and so many times feel like I am failing to do it “right”. What a great reminder to return to His throne of grace every time and find His help.

  19. Temitayo Balogun says:

    Totally blessed by your contribution to Proverbs 31 Woman, still trying to figure out if what happened to me today is similar. Noticed that my prayers today didn’t quite feel, right (and of course I knew why) but I still carried on in praying. It was on my way into work whilst talking to GOD that it dawned on me that i was not walking in love. I had so much as already concluded in my self-righteous manner that I was doing the right thing – it seemed right and am sure I also justified it with a few scriptures. But the uneasiness I felt didn’t disappear until I sincerely had a heart to heart with GOD on my may into work. I felt such a great peace wash over me I admitted to myself that I was not walking in love and needed to do this to be able to serve GOD better.

  20. Sarah Phipps says:

    This devotional was for me!! Sounds EXACTLY like my life! Good to know that Im not the only one who struggles with guilt after a bad moment. AMAZING GRACE!!

  21. Carol S. says:

    I must say that the explanations of condemnation and conviction were among the best I’ve ever read. It really made sense to me this time and I could clearly see how the voice of the enemy has been permitted in my life for way too long. I think most of us (especially women) are very good at condemning ourselves and don’t even realize that we’re even doing it. Condemnation is also encouraged by our society which constantly reinforces the message that we’ll never be good enough, rich enough, smart enough, pretty enough, etc. I’m also intensely aware of the many times I’ve allowed myself to use a condemning voice/attitude towards my children and husband. I certainly need lessons myself in ministering grace to the hearer.

  22. Trish Church says:

    My guilt is killing me. God’s mercy is sufficient. Quit beating your self up Trish.

  23. Karen Skinner says:

    Welll, I just accidentally posted my comment on facevook with a picture of your book. Now more guilt. I am a nures and often find I am full of grace and compassion at work and by the time I get home I am tired and in shoert supply of patience, grace and compassion. I am filled with guilt and regret for my abrupt answers to my husband and children. Would love to win a copy. Now embarassed I posted on face book. Realized it was at the end to post the comment a little too late.

    • Kristy Marcum says:

      There is a delete post button…on the right of ur post I think…but you can always take it back off. 🙂 there’s a lesson there ha.

  24. Kristy Marcum says:

    One of my biggest struggles have always been dealing with guilt…and where it can lead my heart. My fav line today (although there were many) was to replace “our guilt-induced doubt with HIS grace-infused confidence,”. That’s my prayer.

  25. Cathy Bowers says:

    I belong to a ladies book club. We are a bunch of Christian sisters who are all different ages and at different stages of life. We are studying Max Lucado’s book “Grace” and your message fits perfectly to what we are studying. We are so easy to condemn others and ourselves but forget about the Lord’s perfect grace that is offered to all of us freely. May we all accept His grace daily and extend to others freely.

  26. BrumMum says:

    Thank you for your much needed wisdom. It has been an especially difficult, long season having moved two times, having a fourth babe and trying to jumpstart my at home business in the past two years. As a family we feel out of control…and I like control! Maybe my kids are just being typical kids at 9, 7, 6 and 18mos. but my reactions have not been typical or godly. I feel like I’ve been in this pattern for so long that I don’t deserve grace, forgiveness or love…because I’m not giving it. Oh, this hurts. Thank you for the reminder. I always identify with your struggles and today, I will focus on His grace thanks to your sharing and prayer. God bless you and all struggling mums.

  27. Teresaandrea says:

    Your devotion hit the spot, I find it so easy sometimes to lose it, and then condemnation cuts in, but it hasn’t been changing how I act; I realize I have been condemning myself so loud I haven’t been hearing the Holy Spirit. I am going to try to listen more to the Holy Spirit and less to myself/

  28. Chloe Yeh says:

    I feel the same that sometimes I just cannot win over my weakest point that one moment I can be such like a happy and bright women, but the next moment, my sky is full of darkest clouds. I was thinking whether I have changed since I have started in believing in Jesus 18 years ago. And I still feel that He is not finished with me yet. So thank you for your sharing which is echoing in my heart and strengthening me. I know that Grace is needed everyday and I will not give up in searching God and His Grace and I know that He will not give me up neither. Chloe

  29. This really hit home. It seems lately I have to keep reminding myself that God is in control and that I’m not perfect. I too, like Kristy, am always struggling with guilt. As a homemaker, homeschool teacher, mother of four boys I sometimes just feel so inadequate and then doubt and guilt come raging in. I love that I can go boldly to the throne of grace and receive mercy and find help in time of my need. So thankful for His mercy and lovingkindnesses each and every morning.

  30. Vicki rogers says:

    It feels comforting to know I am not the only woman who feels the doubt in self worth and lack of confidence that I am a good mother, wife, daughter, and friend. I definitely want to read your book as I felt today’s message was written especially for me…I really enjoyed it!

  31. Melanie says:

    Thank you for the message today. I was just in those same shoes last week and felt so guilty. Thank you for sharing and letting women, including myself, know we aren’t the only ones who make mistakes.

  32. Theresa Mullins says:

    I have the same issue with guilt about not living up to what I think God expects of me, and I am relieved to know that I am not the only one who has the Guilt complex.

  33. allison says:

    Was just saying yesterday that I needed to soak myself deeper in the word, this would be a perfect way to get started!! Thank you for your words of wisdom.

  34. melissa says:

    I struggle everyday with my faith…am I really saved,if I was I wouldn’t be saying or doing etc. I know GOD is good all the time. Please enter me in sweepstakes

  35. Jennifer Thompson says:

    I really needed this today! I struggle with guilt and doubt literally every single day, as I’m sure most women do. Some days it seems like words of condemnation are stuck on repeat in my head and I’m left feeling battered and useless by the end of the day. It’s wonderful to know that I’m not alone and to have a reminder that true conviction is just God opening his arms for us to receive his mercy and grace. Thank you!

  36. I am a new pastor’s wife. I have always dreamed of serving the Lord full time and knew it would not be easy. However, I had no idea how intense the trials would be. How difficult it is to just take every thought captive. Things that were easy for me to handle are now very difficult to see let alone deal with before they become a problem. I am battling with breaking that guilt, condemnation, and second guessing my every decision with my family and church. this article helped me see I’m not alone. I can get through this. He lives in me, He loves me and my family more than I could ever imagine, and He will carry us through! In the end, we win anyway, right!?

  37. Love how you explained the difference in condemnation and conviction!! I will put this into action today!

  38. Debra McGowan says:

    WOW! Each devotion that I read “hits the spot” for the day! Isn’t God good… all the time? When I need to be my “best”, I do something that I feel condemns me for the ugliness in my heart…. Thankfully, I DO know that God forgives us… I have to learn to forgive myself more!!

  39. I am so thankful to read today that God can still use me in spite of my failures. I have always loved serving the Lord and tried to do so with my family, church, etc., but when you feel like you have fallen short and trials come, you feel like you can not be effective. The verse you shared that we can approach Gods throne boldly and find grace in time of need, helped me not too long ago, when I was desperately needing Gods strength and help (which has been the norm lately). I truly needed the words that He can still use me .

  40. I was drawn to your honesty in the devotional I read morning on bible gateway.
    Thank you for being real with us!

  41. I really need a touch from the Holy Spirit. I constantly feel useless, a terrible mother, wife, daughter, servant, you name it. I know I’m God’s child and I shouldn’t feel this way but I do. Ever since I became a stay at home mom I’ve lost my identity. I know what I do is soooo important, I’m raising my son to serve God, what could be more important? But Satan constantly tells me because I’m not making money I’m useless. I know I’m valued in God’s eyes but I don’t feel it. Thank you so much for your encouragement, it gets me through my day on many days.

  42. WOW! Thank you Jesus for using Renee’s devotional to speak to me this morning! Thank you for your gift of grace and mercy and for giving it to me when I need it! Thank you Renee for being “real” and allowing God to use you to speak to me this morning!

  43. Great message! Reminds me if our pastor’s message of ‘crashing the chatterbox’-that voice of condemnation… Thank you for the reminder of His grace & mercy that is new each morning!

  44. It is reassuring to know that I am not the only one who struggles with these same thoughts and feelings. Often times, I “let myself down” because of my words or actions, and then I feel guilt and shame which is hard to shake. Thank you Renee for your transparency as you apply God’s Word in such a real and positive way! I need this message to be replayed over and over in my head! God Bless you sweet sister!

  45. L.Martinez says:

    This was meant for me especially after this past weekend!!

  46. Yesterday I was upset with my daughter and said things that I should not have said. Instead of showing Gods grace and mercy I handled it in a very carnal way. Although she was wrong, I could have shown her Jesus in my speech. I will ask for forgiveness when she wakes up even if she does not forgive me. I do not want my prayers to be hindered for any unforgiveness. Thank you for reminding me this morning.

  47. I know how it feels to be convicted, and full of God’s righteousness and then in a word, lose that feeling and end up feeling self-condemned because I failed to hold my tongue…again. I am my worst enemy and it took almost 40 years to learn that God loves me as I am. So great to read your stories and know that I am not alone here!

  48. Melissa says:

    Thank you for sharing this. As soon as I finished reading this today, I closed my eyes and thanked the Lord for His Truth. I’m NOT too far gone in my messes. He CAN and WILL use me….in the midst of my yuck….to help and encourage others. Like you said, if you haven’t gone through something yourself, how qualified are you to help others going through those “somethings”?
    Thank you for posting this. It brought me to a place of freedom in the midst of my mess, relief from the heavy chains of not feeling worthy, and a whispered “Yes Lord, use me” with surrendered hands wide open.

  49. Shannon says:

    I really needed to hear this today!

  50. Lois George says:

    As I reflected on the devotional and on my life, I find that at times, when I am most in need of grace and help from God is when I shy away from His outstretched hand…..yes, probably because of guilt over a failure. It is great to be reminded that God extends his grace, mercy and forgiveness to me….to us, despite of our shortcomings.

  51. I know, I’m a guy and don’t belong here! This book would be for my struggling wife who so needs a touch of Gods grace in her life! Even though these devotionals are directed towards women I like to read them too, hope that doesn’t make me weird? God bless you all!

  52. Setting yourself out there, leading, often benefits you as much or more than those you minister to. We serve a generous God.

  53. This scenario happens to me quite often I have been spending time in prayer asking God to work on my heart and make my words and my tone less harsh. Thanks for the devos.

  54. Ursula Nixon says:

    I enjoy reading your messages…they are always insightful and always give me confidence!

  55. Sarah Reasons says:

    I’m so glad I found this site! Every day the devotionals hit home, but especially this one. I’m recently divorced and struggle with being “good enough” for a God to use. I’m slowly coming to realize that He will use me BECAUSE of what I’ve been through. I may have something to share that someone not divorced cannot understand. Thank you for the encouragement!

  56. Kelly Pagel says:

    Thank you for this devotional; not only what you wrote but also for this forum allowing for all the responses after. Sometimes it is not only the guilt I/the enemy pile(s) on but then I feel like I am on the only one that struggles with such things. While I am sorry that you and others out there struggle, I am grateful for your candid writing and hearing I am not alone…it helps depersonalize the enemy’s attack and highlight Gods grace. It was exactly what I needed to read this morning.

  57. Heathef says:

    I struggle with this daily. Thank you for sharing.

  58. Ginny Larvin says:

    Your words give me so much hope and remind me to focus on Jesus instead of the voice of the accuser. I have the poor choice of abortion in my past so there are days that Satan really try’s or bring me down. Especially since I have been leading a post abortion bible study. Thank you so much for your book, A Confident Heart. Many blessings to you!

  59. Jeanette Thompson says:

    this sounds really good to me and just what I need to grow thankyou xx

  60. Georgette Magness says:

    Dear Renee,
    I’m sitting here in awe of how the Spirit led me to your devotional. Every since I got engaged and married 7 years ago, I have found I have anger issues and lose it with my husband, children, and family. My husband is also a pastor, and I try to live up to that pastorial wife image the world and myself created. I am about to go on a mission trip to Haiti and have been feeling unworthy and alone, like I’m the only pastor’s wife who has cursed out her husband or her children, whether aloud or in my thoughts. Along with this came doubts of God, Jesus, and my salvation, which happened 20 years ago. Why would I be struggling with issues if I’ve been a Christian for this long? Or at least the same issues? Why would I have not learned my lesson? Am I not a Christian? Other women are better than me! Why have I lived luke-warm? Does God want to spit me out of His mouth? Shouldn’t I be nearly perfect or have my life together by now? 🙂 all questions the enemy throws at me since giving my life over to my King. I understand why He led me to your post this morning, and so many others. Truly you spoke Jesus’ words of love and forgiveness to me. Thank you, Renee, for your words, blog, books, life, and testimony. He truly shines through you! Well done my good and faithful servant….<3

  61. Myra Tallent says:

    Thank you for your devotional today. Very encouraging for me.

  62. Genny West says:

    I am so grateful! I have that guilty feeling much more than I thought ; ( and that is the enemy…I wish I could see it as him and not me just being an awful Mom, Wife, or Daughter. Thank you so much for your humility and allowing your experiences for the good of God for us! My soul feels free this morning!

  63. Rebecca says:

    WOW…right between the eyes w some powerful truth. I have NEVER thought of it that way and condemnation is one of my biggest issues. Add mommy hormones and I am a mess in 10 seconds when I am 100% convinced that I am the worst screw up mom there is. I would so appreciate this devotional. Thanks for offering this and for sharing some awesome truths in this post!! 🙂

  64. His power is made perfect in our weakness! Thank you for that reminder this morning.

  65. Maria Hardin says:

    Thank you for being obedient to God and writing this book. I am thankful for your courage! God bless you!

  66. Thanks for the chance to win, you are very inspiring!

    sparkle & shine *~*

  67. Georgea says:

    Thank you for sharing your heart; you are human just like us. God is so good and know the struggles we face. I am so thankful for your honesty .

  68. Lori Shuman says:

    I always love to hear that other women aren’t perfect either!

  69. I have never heard explained the difference between condemnation and conviction. How freeing to understand this!

  70. As each devotion, this is exactly what I needed to hear today! So often I feel unworthy because I feel like I constantly fall usually by being quick tempered. Thank you!

  71. Thank you for your devotional today! I have felt like that so many times with my children, my husband, and even my kids at school! Then, afterwards, I question whether or not I should be the one working with my kids at church. However, we are all human and are going to have those moments. Thankfully God is there to give us that grace and help us to see what happened and what should’ve happened. I would be nothing without Him! I praise Him for forgiveness and the opportunity to try again with those we love. He is so good!

  72. This resonates so clearly for me. In the past as a younger christian I’d always feel so harried trying to do all the right things, say all the right things, and be the right person….it was exhausting and moreover it wasn’t the real me. In recent years I’ve learned to let go and just be because it’s even harder to try to be this perfect woman I envision myself being “one day” with two kids and a youth and young adult pastor husband going back to school so he can become a deacon. (Did I mention that I also try to watch kids from my home to make ends meet? Yikes!) Sometimes, even when we know the truth, condemnation becomes so easy to listen to and accept. The voice of the Spirit is such a gentle voice and it *is* so specific to what we need in each moment. Thank you for this post.

  73. You wrote this devotion just for me, right?! Just like the sermon my pastor always preaches just for me! Wow! It would be fantastic to have this book. God has begun showing me and speaking to me about the doubts I have about myself and how they are not from Him. Loved the explanation between condemnation and conviction. I could use 60 days of similar devotions!! I’m excited and hopeful to be free from guilt-infused doubt and full of grace-infused confidence!!

  74. holly jacjson says:

    I am so inspired and uplifted by the Proverbs 31 devotional each day.

  75. Kathy A says:

    Your devotion today was great. I know we all experience these things. We just need to take them to God first. This I don’t normally do. Thanks you.

  76. I really needed to read this.

  77. Valerie Sandow says:

    I soooo needed this this morning!!! Can’t wait to share it! Thank you !

  78. Would love to win…thank you

  79. Rachel Sitton says:

    Love your devotionals……hope I win!

  80. Thank you for your transparency and honesty. Having been a part of women’s ministry on various levels for many years, I know all too well what a trap that guilt and condemnation can set for us. Your message is a reminder once again that it really is all about receiving and giving grace!

  81. Sara Sikes says:

    This was a great devotional. Thanks for sharing your heart.

  82. I am always amazed at God’s timing and today was no different.I needed those reminders. I needed those reminders today after last few days. Thank you Renee and her team. Thank you God for perfect timing as always.

  83. Karen Turner says:

    Sometimes I feel I am so far away from God. I feel like I am the worst Mother and wife, and such a bad example of a Christian. Then I read your devotional and realize that we all fall short. Your studies help me to focus on Gods truth and get back on track!

  84. I can totally relate to this. Thanks for your wonderful devotions.

  85. Deborah Friddell says:

    Thank you. Sometimes I need to be reminded. Thank you for doing that in such a way I heard the Lord smile.

  86. Joyce C. says:

    I’m my own worst enemy when it comes to this! Your devotional today is so timely for me, because I feel like I mess up this way often with my kids, my mom, and sometimes my husband. This brought to mind Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus ”
    I condemn myself all the time. Thank you for reminding me of the Lord’s all sufficient grace.

  87. Thank you so much for the devotional. I have struggled all my life with guilt for doing or saying the wrong thing. I have a hard time accepting that God loves and forgives me inspite of my sin. Thank you for helping me to fight those thoughts and feelings in a righteous way.

  88. Loved the message in today’s post – hope I win!

  89. Kelly Tyson says:

    Please enter me! Thanks for sharing. 🙂

  90. Patricia J. Greenwood says:

    Sis. Swope, thanks for blessing my soul this morning with your devotional, No more guilt-induced doubt. It clarified the difference between conviction and condemnation, gave vivid examples of each, and instructed me on how to make wrong right. I would love to own a personal copy of your 60 day A Confident Heart devotional book! I am striving daily to work on me so that I can earn my way into heaven’s gates. I feel your book would be an essential tool that I could use to better myself and strengthen my walk with God…and once I’ve completed the 60 days, I can bless another sister along the way just as you’ve blessed me by allowing her to read the book! IT’S ALL ABOUT KINGDOM BUILDING!!!!

    Your Sister in Christ,
    Patricia J. Greenwood

  91. Lorraine says:

    Thank you for that message. There have been many “bad mother/wife/woman” moments in my life. Even though I know God has forgiven me, I still have doubts about the long term effects especially on my daughters. I needed this message. I need to trust God is sovereign and my mess ups are insignificant in light of his omniscient plan,

  92. Natalie Howard says:

    Thank you for your honesty and transparency. How refreshing this is to me. We don’t have to be perfect, and that feels great. We are all a work in progress.

  93. Sharon Blackburn says:

    Would love to win your book!

  94. Aneesa Paulsen says:

    Any article/story that has the word guilt in has my full attention. I am permanently riddled with guilt. From what I have done to what I am currently doing and to what I should be doing, I have always got the heavy collar of guilt around my neck.
    I don’t know why, well I can guess it’s from my past huge sinful ways which I have prayed for forgiveness and accepted that God has forgiven but yet I am still burdened with guilt. Every day I look at myself and wonder how God still stands by me.
    I am old enough to learn from my mistakes but when if ever will I be bold and old enough to shake off the “guilt”
    This book sounds like it has a lot of advice and help and I would love to read and share it
    Thank you for the wonderful women’s ministries I receive they somehow all seem to hit the nail on the head for me
    Regards Aneesa

  95. Spoke volumes to me. God bless!

  96. Wow! This is exactly what I needed to here. I have been in a vicious cycle of self-doubt and it is affecting all areas if my life. You’re message is timely and so very encouraging. Thank you.

  97. Jessica says:

    Thank you for your post today! Sometimes I struggle with feeling condemned by my actions. Who doesn’t, sometimes, right? I love your devotionals on Proverbs 31. That’s what lead me here. Thank you for your honest stories. I can relate and I feel like I am not alone, reading your blog today and the comments of all these wonderful women. 🙂

  98. Carolyn Cummings says:

    God always knows! This was just the inspiration I needed this morning. Thank you.

  99. Wonderful message. Thank you 🙂

  100. I laughed when I read your P31 devotional on 4/2. It’s refreshing to hear someone else’s shortcomings. Thanks for the transparency. We need more of that in the Christian circles. No one is perfect!

  101. Thank you so much for being so honest! I often feel like the worst mom and wife when I lose my patience and yell at my kids and husband! It’s nice to know I am not alone and that God’s grace is sufficient!

  102. Thank you for sharing the difference between condemnation and conviction. So often we listen to the destroyer rather than the Redeemer.

  103. Thank you for your words of encouragement and sharing a testimony of God’s goodness! This is exactly what I needed to begin my day today!

  104. Sharon Gingerich says:

    Your devotional on P31 resonated with me totally! How many times I blow it! How many times I hear those words of the accuser, “you are an awful mom!” Thanks for your words. I am so grateful for the Grace of God with me! May I extend the same to others.

  105. Annette Lyle says:

    I so appreciate what you say about guilt and where it originates. I’m a pastor’s wife and I live with guilt more than I’d like. I know that the Liar’s attempt to make me feel unworthy is just a scheme, but I get drawn into it often. I will look for God’s convicting in my circumstances, not Satan’s way of condemning. Thanks!

  106. Natashia says:

    This is a blessing to read and comes at just the right time. As usual Gods grace isalways on time. I would love to own a copy ofthe awesome book. I’ve experienced that guilt induced doubt plenty of times and im ready to move on from those times and be filled by Gods grace infused confidence. Praise God that He freely gives and offers us Grace rime and time again even when we dont deserve it. Thank you Lord Jesus.

  107. I grew up in a home that focused on guilt. I am trying desperately to break that chain with my own children. I realized i can’t break it with them until I have realized I can walk with freedom. God is chaging my heart to receive grace instead of guilt!

  108. Robyn Guest says:

    Wonderful devotion topic. I know I struggle with this same issue often and you naiked it perfectly. Thank you.

  109. Wura Jacobs says:

    Oh, what would we do without grace? Very inspiring. God never calls the qualified. He qualifies those He calls through His grace.

  110. Angela Christensen says:

    Hi Renee! I want to live out Proverbs 31 to the fullest. I try to take every verse from 10-31 and make it practical for today and for my situation. Yes, I admit, I am very legalistic sometimes. My hubby had to lead me into the principle that just because It says, “She rises while it is yet night” did not mean that GOD wanted me to hurt myself in the long run if I had not gotten enough sleep the night before. She also “keeps her arms strong for her tasks.” He reminded me that my body is a temple of the Holy Spirit. I am so thankful for a wise husband. 🙂 I’ve struggled with guilt when it comes to the verse, “she looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.” So many times I have seen something that should be done NOW, and I have to admit I have neglected those things. “I’m just too tired to do this. I’ll come back to it later.” Sometimes (most of the time in my situation), it is a ploy of the devil. It reminds me of the verse in Proverbs where it talks about this man going past someone’s house and seeing how the weeds had grown up and everything. That reminds me of my domestic downfalls sometimes. You know, I saw in the fridge back some time ago how a good bit of something had gone to waste, and I felt so awful. My husband works so hard, and now look at the “waste of the fruits of his hands.” Oh, how I want the precious heart of my husband to trust me that there will be no “food spoil”, either. GOD spoke to me and said, “Better some wasted food than a wasted life”, and just encouraged me to keep trying to improve. I must admit, I have a tendency to forget about left-overs, even when I am looking directly into the fridge. 🙁 Praise the LORD for infinite mercy and grace! Thank you so much for your devotional this morning. Much Love, Angie

  111. His grace is sufficient because His power is made perfect in our weakness…. This statement right here is absolutely amazing and sums up everything that I needed to hear. I have been trying so hard to focus my girls lives on being happy, leaning on God and letting go of guilt in bad situations. Its not easy when you were raised in a home where I was constantly being pressured with guilt over big or little things. Please enter me to be in the drawing for the devotional! Thank you, have a blessed day 🙂

  112. This is so true! I just recently experienced God’s amazing grace in this manner. I’ve been a Christian for over 35 years, but I’m still learning how to conduct myself in ways that please my Father. I’m so glad that He does send His Spirit of condemnation when we stray, it’s so much better than having the non-specific guilt. And it’s great knowing the difference between the two. I’m still learning how to not let the world or other Christians guilt me into things, but now I recognize more when God is bringing something to my attention that needs to be changed.

  113. This message spoke to me! I have struggled with this my whole life! Thank you for clearing this up for me. It is so freeing to realize that God has been speaking to me as to what to do and the condemnation can finally stop! I pray that this message blesses everyone that reads it!

  114. I love your honest and heartfelt blogs! We are all a work in progress and in need of God’s grace and mercy. I too feel the guilt when I realize my thoughts, words, or actions haven’t measured up to God’s standards. It is comforting to know that when I confess my sins, I know God is faithful and will forgive me.

  115. What an amazing message today, as I am getting married in 3 days and have been finding myself wondering if I can be the Godly wife my future husband deserves. This message was so freeing and inspiring, just what I needed. It’s amazing how in the throws of life, distractions can shift our thinking from truth to lies without our awareness! Thank God for special women and devotionals to refocus our minds and our hearts.

  116. Rachael says:

    It never fails that when I need to hear “Him” something always jumps off the page of one of your stories. I love what you all do at Proverbs 31 Ministries. It’s always refreshing when I get into work and realize I am not alone in this world. Thank you for all you do…

  117. Thank you so much for your devotion today. Your story with your son and husband could have been my own story. I have so many of those moments and when they happen I feel terrible and guilty and like I have no business having the blessing of my family. I appreciate your words about the difference of conviction by the Holy Spirit vs. condemnation. I fear that the guilt and condemnation I have for myself will be passed down to my kids. I’d ask for prayer to help recognize those times I’m condemning so that God’s grace can fill me up. Again, thank you for your honesty and encouragement!

  118. Thank you for this post. I needed to read and hear this today!

  119. Refreshed Again! says:

    I had a come to Jesus moment with my three kids this morning as I had to be at work early! I did repent out loud and felt as if 400lbs has been lifted! Thank you for sharing this today! #blessed

  120. Thank you so much for allowing the Lord to use you to deliver that message to me. I have prayed a lot recently for me to hear God’s voice and be able to determine if it was doubt being used by the liar or a message from God. I so needed to hear that explanation. Thanks again. I would absolutely love to be blessed with a copy of your devotional:) God bless!

  121. Thank you so much for sharing your very human normal experiences! The words of grace spoken to you are powerful for me to hear!

  122. Its amazing how God speaks to me every single day through psalm 31 ministries. every single day i battle with self doubt and fear. i am surrounded by highly intelligent people (siblings, work colleagues, etc ) and then there’s me..always been called slow and never seem to be able achieve anything. this made me feel like i’m the victim of some sick joke. for as long as i can remember, i have felt worthless and unworthy and have made a lot of wrong choices based on these feelings. I am usually defensive and snap easily at people, and then i feel so guilty for doing so, etc. Its a battle but i know God is in control and wont give up.
    God bless!!

  123. Sometimes I feel like such a failure, that I promise God to do better then I stumble and fall again. I am so thankful for His grace and mercy. I always feel like I’m the only one that continuously fails him, obviously I am not. I’m so blessed to have friends to pray for me and continue to believe in me.

  124. This is my very 1st time on your page. Thank you for being obedient and ‘putting things out there’. I believe we all have those moments of guilt and shame (I know I sure have!)… but the more we know ‘who’s’ we are.. the quicker those thoughts (and yes.. that’s all they are.. stupid, unfounded thoughts!) are replaced with HIS grace and mercy.
    Thank you for being ‘real’. I am looking forward to browsing the rest of your site and keeping plugged in.
    May God continue to bless you and your family.. as you step, know that HE is the light unto your feet.

  125. Nanci Dr says:

    Great message! I’m a pro about feeling guilty, dwelling on it and bringing myself down. My word this year is “trust”. Learning to believe God and to trust Him. It’s hard! As I am trying to change, Satan is doing his best to keep me feeling guilty. Thanks Renae for this message!

  126. Kristi Long says:

    I can so relate, and so appreciate your honesty in your book “A Confident Heart.”

    For ALL have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. None of us is perfect..

  127. Cheryl Hardiman says:

    sometimes i feel like giving up but i know i can’t i pray every day, i know i can’t do this on my own i need his help.

  128. Thank you Renee, this was amazing. Blanket statements are easy to make because it’s easier to color over someone with a broad stroke than to get to know all of someone’s true colors. God never created us to be one dimensional and doesn’t deal with us in a “all or nothing” way. I’m thankful for this reminder and that the Spirit does not condemn, but rather convict with love and guidance. Amen!

  129. Sheri Yoder says:

    Self-condemnation is something I have lived with for years since the death of my son. Unfortunately, my other two children have had to live with this as well. I have learned through staying in His word that His graciousness is our salvation. All of the heavy burdens and guilt, He takes from us and reconstructs us daily. P31 is a part of my daily devotions and this one spoke volumes to my heart this morning. Thank you for sharing.

  130. Thank You for such an inspiring message. Everyday I realize Again that I’m only human and I am a child of God!

  131. I have recently purchased your book and would love the devotion to go along with it. As a mom, working full-time in the local church I constantly feel the pain of not being good enough and insecurity runs deep. So looking forward to getting into your book!

  132. Andrea Barbour says:

    First timer here. Thank you for being transparent, because your struggles are also mine. Though not in the ministry, I hope to minister to those I’m in contact with on a daily basis.

  133. Donna Branda says:

    I have just signed up to go on my first missions trip ever at 65 and I am so relying on HIS grace to be with and use me for HIS perfect will in Honduras. I know I am inadequate but that his strength will sustain me in each situation. Yes, I have doubts, but TRUSTing in Him will give me the confidence I need. Now if I can just do it?

  134. Carol C says:

    I love the explanation between conviction and condemnation. It is so easy to put ourselves down but not to realize that it is not what God wants to do. Thank you for sharing today. I really liked your message.

  135. This was Perfect timing.

  136. Carol Boney says:

    Wonderful reminder that those teaching and those being taught are not that different. May we always share the same mercy and grace for others that our Savior shows each of us!

  137. Frances Oare says:

    Wow – that really resonated with me today. I have a 15 year old special needs daughter who is full of joy outside of my house and I can see God’s work in her when I see her interact with others. At home however, she is a four year old with the hormones and defiance you might expect from a normal teenager. I am not always graceful when I respond to negative behaviors and that always comes with guilt when I loose it. I like the definition of conviction verses condemnation – God continues to give me grace and mercy every day.

  138. Kelly Krieger says:

    Ive struggled with self condemnation for years. Reading about your struggles with your own shortcomings helps me to know Im not alone. Thank you.

  139. How often have I fallen short and allowed my internal voice to beat me up over it & then probably miss God’s blessing? Thank you Renee for this reminder- we aren’t perfect & yet God can use our imperfections to reach others- that we are right there with them. Instead of being on a stage or pedestal you become one of the girls sitting & having coffee- someone they can relate to because they’ve been there too. Sometimes I strive so hard to be perfect that I miss the point- I so needed this reminder. Thank you for sharing.

  140. Becky Highsmith says:

    Wow! This is exactly what I needed to hear this morning. Distinguishing between condemnation and conviction is key to living a joyful and grace-filled Christian life, I think. Thanks for your post. This is my first time here, but I’ll be back. 🙂

  141. Yvonne Rentschler says:

    I literally just wrote in my journal about not being godly enough or cut out for ministry…I quit. then I open up my encouragement for the day to find the title, ‘no more guilt induced doubt’. thanks, may I accept His a Grace with confidence in my time of need.

  142. Jeannie says:

    Oh, how God has used you this morning! Your words on grace-infused confidence have touched my heart deeply. I deperately needed to hear your words! God has used your “realness” to speak to me and tell me just what I needed! Thank you from the bottom of my heart! May God bless you and continue to use you!!

  143. Wendy Green says:

    Knowing the difference between condemnation & conviction is very enlightening. Now I can identify what my actions & thoughts should be when faced with feeling guilty.

  144. Hi Renee,

    I do enjoy that you allow us into your reality. Many times, people assume because you are in ministry that you don’t have those moments where a (beep) comes out. 🙂 Transparency coupled with God’s grace yields a freedom in knowing that He still loves us in our imperfections. Blessings.

  145. Susie Webb says:

    I once told my pastor, I’m not good enough to teach. I’ll never forget, he said when you think you’re good enough, that’s when we have a problem. We are never good enough, but Jesus is. So grateful for His grace. Your experience is a great reminder of this. His power, not ours!

  146. Robin Thomas says:

    What an eye opener today’s devotional is!! Thankful God is using you to speak to women.

  147. Rebecca says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this story. I can’t tell you how timely it is! I am in a support group/bible study at my church for women going through infertility. Recently, I was asked by our Director of Women’s Ministry if I would be interested and willing to step in to lead or co-lead the group starting this summer or fall. Well I told her I would pray about it, but inside I thought there was no way I could lead this group when I was in the thick of it, battling my way through some pretty tough times. Then last night after the group was over, the leader asked me if I would consider co-leading. Another prompting! I told her I would pray about it, but still wasn’t sure. And then this morning there is this story in my devotional time. Boy, when God nudges us, sometimes He whispers and sometimes He resorts to a swift kick in the rear! I suppose it’s time to step out in faith 🙂

  148. Traci Sanders says:

    I needed this today. I am so guilty of saying things to my children that I later regret!

  149. Kristina V says:

    Thank you for the encouragement!

  150. Blanche says:

    Your message today was timely in my life. So often we feel as women that we have to be perfect in order to be models for our children, and show the world that we have it all together. I am a home visitor working with families and babies, and recently “fell apart” at a reflective supervision time. It is group supervision, so I was laying myself open for ridicule and or judgement, but I have many difficult cases and one just tore at my heart and I could not hold all the feelings inside anymore. I felt some relief and support afterwards, but something I said during this made me realize just how tightly wrapped I have been…”I usually don’t cry at things like this in front of others”…Crying actually opens doors for God to enter…one of many places that He does without our knowing until afterwards…I have found this past year talking with God more each and every day…I started the “Stressed Less Living” series, but had difficulties with the computer blogging, so have the book and will go back to it again one day. But the one Bible verse I will always hold near and dear is Isaiah 41:10….Trusting God is what we all need to do, in spite of the place we find ourselves sitting. Thanks for your message and to others who share theirs each and every day.

  151. Thank you for the message God gave you for me today. You said exactly what my counselor said about guilt is not from God. I struggle immensely with guilt and my thought patterns from the effects of abuse.

  152. Thank you for sharing this. Knowing the difference between conviction and condemnation is very important. God’s voice is loving and perfect. His grace and mercy neverending.

  153. Thanks! What an AWESOME devotional to read first thing this morning! Thank you for your honesty and for sharing.

  154. I needed to hear that this morning as I am bringing my heart closer to God and to be more Godly each day. Each of us needs reminding that we are not perfect but we are still loved and will make mistakes along this jouney! This book would be sure to help me with my journey to get me through each day!

  155. Thank you for sharing your weak moment. It is refreshing to know that others have experienced situations similar to our own. Your post was a great way to start a fresh new day.

  156. Julie Ann says:

    Thanking God for the REMINDER & WAKE UP CALL that I am under construction…and not headed for destruction by the enemy. “Although guilt can make us give up on ourselves, God won’t. Instead, He offers to take what feels like destruction and use it for reconstruction in our journey with Him.” Today I am blessed by you! What a way to start my day…You have been my morning coffee !! Amen.

  157. Margaret says:

    Thank you for being so real in your blog and in the devotions you share. One of my biggest struggles is self-doubt, which leads to so much more. Your transparency makes me realize I’m not the only one and that it is OK.

  158. Loved the book, would really enjoy the devotional! Thank you for sharing and for encouraging me!

  159. Rebekah says:

    I am always guilty in my mind. Anything that happens to my children, grandchildren or husband….I am the one to blame. In my own head. I am going through one of the hardest times in my life and reading your stories and devotionals have really helped.

  160. I think when a leader is “real”, makes a bigger impact on people that they can relate to you & therefore will be more open to your teachings. Thank you for your open, honest struggles showing us all we are not alone. I’ve learned so much from P 31 ministries & am applying to my life, making imperfect progress.

  161. Maria Ferrer says:

    Thank you for this encouraging word. It definitely hit home. Thank God for His amazing grace!

  162. Renee … you have no idea how much I needed to ‘hear’ this on this particular morning! I love that God speaks through women such as yourself and we receive these messages in our “inboxes” … ‘for such a time as this’ …….. and I agree … you can’t teach what you don’t ‘know’ 🙂

  163. Paige Gunter says:

    Reading your post on Proverbs 31 this morning was the absolute best way to start my “second” morning. With being up all night with my 4 year old up crying all night for a reason we still do not know, to trying to console my 9 year old boy who is frustrated with the actions of a classmate, I am w-e-a-r-y. My husband left without a sweet “good-bye” and kiss from me, and all I could think about is how I am just failing in helping each of my ‘boys’ to start their day feeling loved. I sat down at my computer to look for an inspiring word from my daily emailed devotions, and Voila! your message was delivered in God’s perfect timing as I needed it this am in particular. I try to remember that the Holy Spirit convicts and the enemy condemns. Your message with how to determine this is priceless for me. I just printed it off so I have the reference with me. Joy is on the way!

  164. Thank you for reminding me that I am not the only one who reacts…asks forgiveness and then despite best intentions, does it again. I will keep striving in God’s grace. Thanks again.

  165. Esther Martin says:

    I loved your devotional today!!! I am a pastor’s wife and sometimes it is a struggle to remember that I don’t have to be “perfect”, just ready to live and love others as Christ would have me do!

  166. Monica Ames says:

    I read this before I even grabbed my coffe, and I’m so glad I did. Strange/crazy day yesterday. God bless and thank you for sharing!

  167. Needed this today 🙂

  168. Ha… I was hired to teach a parenting seminar this week at our church and I can not tell you how many times the thoughts have entered my head – doubt, fear, “you’re a fake”, you don’t know anything. Yet God just keeps showing up and showering me with great information to share. I love the part – that the ministry coordinator said to you- I need it just as much as the people I am teaching… I know I am a better parent every time I teach a class. Thanks for sharing this. I would love your devotional!

  169. Karen Walton says:

    God is amazing. The grace and love shown over the past several months has been life changing. I’m not perfect and God loves me anyway. Oooo that could be a song!

  170. Cindy Wells says:

    Thank you for your encouragement and being so open. God spoke to me through this devotion.

  171. Annette VanCamp says:

    Thanks for the reminder that God is not done with me yet.

  172. A new devotional would be perfect for a fresh start every morning…

  173. Mary Weiss says:

    Thank you for sharing your gift of putting into words what so many of us need to hear.
    You bless me daily.

  174. Beth Gilpin says:

    Thank you so much for this devotional, this morning…it was exactly what I needed to hear! So grateful for the compassion and conviction brought by our Lord… while at the same time removing the condemnation we can be so quickly entrapped by! Blessings to you!

  175. Lindsay says:

    This is one of my biggest problem areas…as a wife and mother of two young kids I have lost my cool so many times. Each time I am riddled with guilt and feel like I should just go to bed, pull up the covers and never leave…I needed to hear this today and would love to read this book!

  176. Alana Humphrey says:

    This devotional hit the spot this morning. God is good and knows exactly what we need to hear! You are a blessing.

  177. Thanks for sharing the story about losing with your kids. All too often my failure is in the same arena. It’s good to remember that these failures do not condemn me!!!

  178. God is merciful.
    Fellow believers be merciful also.
    We all have stuff we’re dealing with.
    Smile because you never know who’s day you just may touch.
    In HIM, Jacki 🙂

  179. Heavenward says:

    I love how the Lord is always teaching me something new. God is Worthy of all of our praises!!!

  180. Heather says:

    Thank you for being real and being honest! It’s so wonderful to know we are not alone in our struggles.

  181. Jamarra Robinson says:

    Thank You for sharing this devotions with me, as a christian I struggle with guilt of not studying like I am suppose too especially since its NCAA season. But I have been making major progress and understanding that we must seek God First. I thank you and I look forward to reading more devotions and books from you. Blessings

  182. I am trying to overcome 3 decades of verbal and emotional abuse from my husband and more recently, his emotional affair with the same woman with whom he had an EA 18 years ago. I have had such low self esteem for so long. I allowed myself to be treated like a doormat and took every fault he accused me of to heart, where they took root. I lashed back out at him for what he did instead of handing my lost confidence and respect and his infidelity and abuse over to God, and I said and did many things that I now regret. I have judged my husband on his anger, but yet justified my own. I lost my temper with my kids many times when they were younger, sometimes over the same things that I had done myself. I have done so many things that are ungodly — gossiped, judged, did not keep promises–I could go on and on. God’s grace, especially during this time of trying to reconnect with my husband after his last affair and the abuse I endured, has revealed to me my weaknesses and I am trying hard to work on ME and quit trying to fix everyone else. Your message was so helpful and comforting for me today. Thank you so much!

    • Suzan Schlipp says:

      I will pray for you today Karen, keep your focus on God and his Word. Your not alone. God Bless you and have a Beautiful day. Suzan

    • Karen, I am also praying for you! I pray that you you can your pain and guilt and exchange them for love, mercy, and forgiveness!

  183. I felt like I was ” eating” your words today!

    Thank you for sharing your heart.
    I feel as though God is bringing to me exactly what I need right now to grow in him.

  184. Takiesha Goode says:

    Loved this devotion today! Most of all, I love the example of Grace the Women’s ministry director showed you. On both sides of the coin it resonates with me. 1) To show grace to people even when I don’t understand because God has shown grace to me. 2) That I am NOT perfect but God can use me anyway. Blessings!

  185. Suzan Schlipp says:

    Thank you for sharing that devotional, the Lord truly wanted me to read it today. I am not alone, another weakness I must ask the Lord to help me work on. Thank you for being you Renee. If I don’t win, I’ll make sure I purchase . Thank You,Suzan

  186. Angie Nelson says:

    I had a lot of darkness in my life and still do at times. It is good to know that other people have similar problems. For years I felt alone. Thank you for reaching out to other people and showing them God’s love.

  187. WOW! Such a great example. Thank you for reminding all of us that we are not perfect. Thank you for you daily inspiration.

  188. It is reassuring to think that no matter what our walk in life, we all have similar shortcomings, and thankfully, God has grace enough to cover each of us. Please enter me in your book give a way.

  189. Angela Williams says:

    Thank you for your words today. As mothers I think that we are the hardest people on ourselves. Nobody is perfect and we forget that sometimes. God is using you for good things. Bless you!

  190. One of the best things I’ve learned as a believer in Christ has been the difference between ‘conviction’ and ‘condemnation’. It has helped me to be able to minister ‘from love’ and not ‘for love’. Thank You Father that there is now no condemnation because I am in Christ and also for Your gentle conviction when I am not in line with what You want for me. Amen

  191. Karen Arneson says:

    Renee, honestly, I do not read every Proverbs 31 devotional that comes into my inbox. Today, the title drew me in. After a nasty church split, I’ve found myself riddled with doubts and fears. Although my husband and I have found a new church home, I’ve held back from ministry because of those doubts and fears. After reading your devotional, God spoke. He revealed that I’ve fallen back on my perfectionism, rather than putting my confidence in Him to guide me into ministry. I’ve put on armor that is not God’s armor. Shielding myself in making sure everything is perfect…I am perfect, (insert rueful laugh), before being used again has left me on the shelf. Thank you for your clear examples of the difference between condemnation and conviction. I’ve been walking in that condemnation too long. It’s time to turn my ear to what God is saying. Thank you.

  192. Canaan Best says:

    What a wonderful word! I would love to read more?

  193. Sherri J says:

    Great words…I needed that…sometimes the condemnation I place on myself is overwhelming and I don’t think I can recover so your words touched a cord with me.

  194. Renee, your devotionals always hit home. Would love to study from your new book.

  195. Bennie Mitchell says:

    Thank God for godly women who are for real. Condemnation and doubt have been my two best friends for the last 27 years. After having two failed marraiges and a life of bad decisions I have finally given God back the steering wheel of my life. Your words encouraged me to the upmost today. I’d been living every day always thinking that others were talking about me. I realize that this was only Satan’s way of keeping the guilt inside me. I’ve have decided there will be no more guilt and no more condemnation. I have approached that “throne of grace”, and God has spoken back to me. I feel His love and grace enveloping me today like never before and today I able to smile a genuine smile again. Thank you so much for being you!

  196. Diane aka yaya says:

    Dear fellow followers : Each morning I read devotionals knowing it is a positive way to start my day. When I read ones such as Rene’s message today, it helps me to understand the depth of Christ’s love for me. It helps keep me buoyant when I think I may be going under, it helps remind me of my humanness. Thanking you, Renee, for sharing your humanness that I know I am not alone in my journey to walk closely with our Lord.
    I am blessed with three little grandsons, Liam, Aiden, and Collin and because of them, I understand even more the importance of love, empathy, compassion, gentleness, forgiveness, and humility. They are among my most inspirational teachers.
    Thanking you, and thanking our Lord, for all my many blessings amongst which are woman like yourself who inspire and support me through the good times, and the challenging times.

    Most grateful,

  197. Stephanie Snyder says:

    Thank you for your words this morning. I constantly question my words that I use with my husband and kids (especially during certain times of the month)! Thank you for reminding me that I’m not perfect & that I can ask for their forgiveness and build them up.

  198. I am new to God’s word the more I read all of I can get my hands on. I feel that I really needs God’s grace in my live also. Your book would be a great help to me in finding and understanding His grace. Thanks for all your words and great help.
    As right now in my life there is so much guilt and anger in my life I need God’s grace with me right now. Kellie

  199. Brenda Bowling says:

    Thank you for your message this morning. It truly spoke to me!!

  200. There is a lot of pressure to be the wife and mother I need to be. I carried the mentality that I Can Not Fail for years which would really lead to a sharp tongue followed by regret. I have been working on allowing His grace in for at least 4 years. However your message hit like a ton of bricks. The I Can Not Fail suddenly looks like With Him I Will Not Fail.

  201. Allison Tomlinson says:

    Whoa! Do I ever get the “self-induced doubt” concept…I’m mothering 3 teenagers!!! Somehow I managed to go from a loving and attentive mother and wife to “pathetic” and a “loser” (this is what they say to me) in a span of a few years! It’s crushing!!! And, in our interactions, I often find myself acting or speaking in ways that seem “foreign” to me; so my self -doubt is soaring! But you said two things that really gave me focus: (1) God doesn’t condemn; He uses conviction to show us where we erred. (2) God uses people with great faults for His even greater purposes and good!!! So, today I’m gonna breathe deeply and listen for the Holy Spirit to guide me through the rough patches! Thank You!

  202. Jen Griffin says:

    Love this book – I have it on my kindle and I try to read it daily! I would love to win a book for my friend who still likes to feel the pages of a book in her hands! Thanks for all you do for God’s glory – you inspire me!

  203. Mary Lou Pilafas says:

    Thank you so much for actually sharing from your heart and soul. We all know that God loves us so very much – HE gave his life for us – yet there are moments when we all struggle with something or someone or some assignment and feel so unworthy of what HE has done for us.

  204. So often I struggle to decipher what’s the Holy Spirit and what’s the enemy speaking to me. Today I got out of your blog that it’s so necessary to really listen to what is being said. You said is it generalities or specifics…which I love! But then I also got to thinking…is it truth or lies? Am I running by what’s said in my head with the word to check it’s accuracy? Does it go against what God teaches me as truth? Thank you so much for sharing your life so honestly!! It was a joy to read this morning. 🙂

  205. Sharon Phillips says:

    I know your devotionals are for women and I DO get alot from them. But often there are things that can help my son….such as this one about Condemnation and Conviction…..and I will share with him as well! Thanks!

  206. Debbie Mizelle says:

    What a great explanation of conviction vs. condemnation! And I find that when things are really happening in the ministry I facilitate, that’s when the Accuser begins to work overtime! Amazing how quickly we accept his condemnation. Thanks for the clarification.

  207. Thank you so much for this good word of truth. I find it so easy to go right into the self-pity zone of wallowing when I realize that I’ve sinned. That somehow makes me feel better about my sinfulness. Thank you for this truth that I am set free from guilt and able to walk in the truth of conviction by the Spirit. Amen!

  208. Theresa Sweeney says:

    I cannot put into words, how much your life has spoken to mines in regards to guilt – induced doubt. Of all days, I needed to hear this message. Even as Christians, we never feel good enough to serve GOD, but HE takes our brokeness and does something miraculas in ourselves and others. Thank you Renee, for reminding us that we do not have to perfect to serve GOD. We just have to be a willing vessel, no matter how broken.

  209. Rebekah says:

    Awesome Word this morning and explanation of God’s grace and His loving conviction and not condemnation! I also loved reading others testimonies. It’s so great to see God work.

  210. I love the explanation of condemnation vs. conviction! It is just what I needed to hear! Thanks for sharing it with us.

  211. I can identify with your devotion today. I’ve been feeling the same thoughts when dealing with my daughters. Trying to teach them about the love of the Lord, but struggling to live it out daily, when messes and attitudes and fussing toddlers abound. But His grace is there! To pick us all back up and place on the rock Christ Jesus. Thank you for your thoughts today.

  212. Quanna Coleman says:

    This was a much needed devotional for me. I often deal with self condemnation, always very critical of myself and thoses closest to me. Many people have told me I expect perfection from myself and often my children. When I feel as though I have missed the mark I am very quick to condemn myself, on being a good friend, mother, person, daughter, girlfriend, employee, etc.


  213. I feel so lucky to have started my day reading both your Encouragement for Today and Blog post. It was perfect timing. I lost my patience with my small kiddos yesterday, they had been misbehaving so badly at my doctor appointment, that it was cut short and I was asked to leave the building! I was mortified, embarrassed and angry. I said something to them that I wish I hadn’t – and have been feeling like the Worst Mom in the World. I feel so guilty. Your post made me feel a lot better and gave me some tools to work through this. Thank you! I’d love to read your book!

  214. Kris Smith says:

    I really enjoyed this message – as a wife and mom I feel I make many mistakes each day and end up feeling discouraged and guilty. Wonderful reminder that I need to ask God for help and forgiveness throughout my day and he will never let me down.

  215. Ladies really need one another despite our proud independent ways. Sharing honestly, praying heartfelt, and seeking forgiveness will always mend hearts together for the journey of life.
    My mother passed away early in my life and it’s always amazed me how God has placed many wonderful Christian ladies in my path to help lead the Godly way.
    I pray often for compassion because I’ll never know of any circumstance where sweet compassion doesn’t make a difference.
    Created to Serve.

  216. Thank you so much for sharing your stories. For me, learning of other people’s struggles helps me in my walk. Definitely words I needed to hear. God know who needs them and always sends them at the time we need them.

  217. I struggle with getting out of the condemnation and focusing instead on the conviction from the Holy Spirit and fixing my actions. Often times, I will believe Satan’s lies and continue to punish myself. Thank you for being so honest and open with your own struggles, as they are truly helping me to identify and work through mine! I would love to win this book but will definitely purchase a copy if I don’t win 🙂

  218. This is my first time to your sight….
    I was raised by a perfectionist, to be a perfectionist. I’m so thankful that God is moving me from
    ‘perfectionist’ to ‘growing in Christ’. Perfectionism is all-or-nothing, Growth is little-by-little.
    Perfectionism is all about the goal, where Growth is all about the journey. I’m a better person since
    God has introduced growth to me. I am getting better and better at relying on Christ
    and His grace, instead of on myself and my own weak abilities.There is so much freedom there!
    Your devotion resonated with me this morning. Satan loves to use my old perfectionistic tendencies
    to condemn me, but God is helping my ears hear more of His Spirit these days, and I’m so thankful for
    that. I believe your devotional book would be another blessing to me from God. Thank you for what you
    do. It made a difference to me today, and I know it makes a difference for many others.

  219. Trying to be all things to all people is impossible, I feel I fall short and therefore I must be guilty for trying to do this all on my own. I know I can’t. This story is encouraging and forgiving! God is Good all the time!

  220. Thanks for being open & honest & reminding us about grace.

  221. Lorraine Palmer says:

    Dearest Renee,

    What can I say, you have said it all, I am not perfect myself, then again none of us are. I would love to read your book and dealt deeper into your wisdom that you have been bless with.


  222. God certainly used you to hit me with that 2×4 this morning. Thank you.

  223. This message really spoke to my heart. Thank you for your openness and sharing how God is working in you. It is such an encouragement!

  224. Melanie says:

    Thank you so much for being the inspiration and having the words I needed this morning! I have so much going on and conflict occurring within my self at this moment, it is challenging and your words are a great source of inspiration and guidance!! Thank you Renee and God Bless!!

  225. Becky Holmes says:

    This spoke to my heart! At bible study two nights ago, this came up and I confess, I wallowed in my guilt and shame. Thank you for this!

  226. Lindsay M says:

    As a mom of two young kids, I often struggle with my response to them when they have done wrong. I will try so hard to respond to them with patience and speak words of Life over them, but by the late afternoon my patience is gone and I will be snappy towards them when they misbehave. It always makes me feel horrible! I find myself crying at night to my husband about feeling defeated. This devotional really hit home for me. What great motivation to know that God uses our weak moments to teach us so that we can teach others who are struggling with the same issues! Now that’s a great way to defeat the enemy!

  227. Michelle Benfield says:

    As always God uses your ministry to speak to me the words I need to hear at just the right time. Gods timg is always perfect!

  228. I would love to add this book to my newly formed bible book club. Two close girlfriends and I started this book club in hopes to hear God’s work and words through fellowship. We’re all young and married and that seems to go hand and hand with comparison and self-doubt at times so I can assure you your lessons would not be lost on us. I’m looking forward to reading your book with my girlfriends if we’re selected!

  229. What a wonderful devotion of encouragement and the difference in hearing God’s word and the enemies.

  230. Kimberly Prutsman says:

    Thank you for your devotional today. I serve on staff at a church and work with many wonderful volunteers each week. Sometimes it is hard not to judge and write stories in my head as to why people do some of the things they do. I have to constantly extend grace, but sometimes I don’t extend that same grace to myself. Thanks for sharing your experiences with us .

  231. Cindy ferro says:

    Thank you so much for making me feel normal! I am far from perfect but yet Christ still showers myself and family with grace and love! You have reminded me to try and stay on the Christian path! For example I shouldn’t have doubted my husband he made the correct decisions for us regarding how our money was spent. God gave him the direction in were to go.
    I wake up every morning to read these wonderful uplifting devotionals. I thank God that He made you the way you are so I could learn from your experiences ! They are just how I feel at times.

  232. Corinna says:

    Sometimes Satan’s condemnation can be louder than the Spirit’s conviction. It can be hard to squelch his noise so that we can hear what we really need to hear. Sometimes, a lot of times, I need that daily reminder to listen to His still small voice and block out the noise of the deceiver.

  233. Veronica Russell says:

    Thank you for your devotion. It really hit home. Many times I am filled with doubt and that leads to insecurities and feelings of discouragement. I know God loves me just as I am, but sometimes it’s hard to believe that he can love this sinner woman. Your devotion is exactly what I needed to remember how much God loves me and how much he wants me to trust Him, just as I am. Thanks again and God bless you!!!!

  234. Thanks so much for this and for Confident Heart. The LORD has used it to encourage me so that I can encourage others. And He used numbers 21 and 22 to settle me concerning a leadership decision with which I was struggling. Praise His Name.

  235. Cheryl C. says:

    Today’s devotion is spot-on! When I blow it (every day, it seems), I feel as if I’ll never be perfect in God’s eyes, or mine. I believe that I’ll never get there, that I keep going around the same mountain, struggling with the same thing, never seeing progress or victory. I can be my worst enemy. But then I hear God’s voice inviting me to come to Him in confession and repentance, and He’ll forgive me, help me to overcome this struggle and continue to love me unconditionally! Renee, thank you for this…I sure need to be reminded of God’s grace every day!

  236. Heather B says:

    I loved the explanation between what Satan says vs, what the Holy Spirit says. It’s so easy to believe the words of Satan, but we know that God’s grace and mercy is sufficient for us, regardless of the things we may do wrong!

  237. Carissa says:

    God knew this was exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you for following his calling and sharing your talents with us!

  238. Edith Gish says:

    I am trying so hard to “let go and let God”. I keep letting go but I keep taking back also. I feel like a failure somewhere at some time each day it seems. I let stress come in and I lose my attitude of gratitude at work or with my family. Instead of relying on God to carry me through, I try to take control and usually make a bigger mess of things.

  239. Stephanie says:

    Yep,just had a fail about 5 min ago, needed this. Thanks for posting!

  240. Patty PicinichPatty says:

    Hi. There, reading your email today has inspired me to get moving! It has been very stressful here. My husband got a job transfer and he has been very stressed and taking it out on our family. We need to live in forgiveness and Gods grace everyday and remember we are all human and we all need a savior! God bless you for giving us this message today. I really needed it and I sent it to my husband and friends who need it to. If I win the book I plan to share it with others who need it right now.
    Thank you for all you do!
    Patty picinich

  241. Thank you for sharing and your honesty! I needed to hear this today.

  242. WOW! What a great word. I understand exactly how the enemy can use our emotions against us for self-doubt. How beautiful it is when a child of God can stand before everyone and be totally transparent, like Adam and Eve before the fall. When someone does that, it gives room for the Holy Spirit to move and that is when lives and hearts are truly changed! What a beautiful place to be – almost like back in The Garden with Him, without shame!

  243. Jana Hack says:

    Your devotion today made me cry (well, not ‘sob sob’ cry, but tears fell from my eyes just the same.) It is SO amazing how women deal with the same issues in daily living. Your story could have been written by ME, because I have frequent days like yours. You look forward to a particular situation/event, have everything planned down to the minute, just to have total chaos interfere from almost the beginning. (And I KNOW very well that tightening in the stomach…the blood pressure perspiration starting to come from my forehead…lol) Anyway, the verse you shared today was quite soothing to my heart! The response of your women’s ministry leader was PERFECT. I will never forget it. I’m glad it all worked out, and I thank you for writing devotions/books that relate to so many women just striving to live a godly life in this tough world today. Bless you!

  244. Thanks for the reminder that we are all a work in progress! It can be easy to hear the words of others and absorb them as final truth. PTL there is grace and that our God is Truth.

  245. Janet Neidholt says:

    Wow! what a real and “easy to relate to” kind of story. Many times before I sing at my church, I think God why did you ask me to do this and am I really qualified to share your message in song to these people? All of the incidents from the recent past come rushing to my mind of how I did not respond with a giving or a compassionate heart…. and that voice in my head says… “See, these are the reasons why you shouldn’t be in front of all these folks you’re not godly enough.” Thank you for sharing that story of your frustration; it reminded me we all have to take each day, each situation and each moment to “renew our mind” with what God says in His Word. Romans 12:2

  246. This devotional hit very close to home! God knew it was just what I needed!

  247. I very much needed this today! Thank you for the explanation between conviction and condemnation. I snapped at my husband last night during a conversation about swimming lessons for our daughter. We didn’t see eye to eye and instead of listening when he was making valid points, I snapped and went to bed angry which is wrong. Thankfully His mercies are new each morning! And my sweet husband kissed me goodbye this morning like nothing had happened.

  248. Tina Newton says:

    I needed this!!! Thank you

  249. Great message and a good way to begin my day. Because of the realization of your wrong, you were absolutely the one to deliver a message. It is very much like having a shared experience with others. You understand because you have been there, done that. Others may be more open to the message when you are where they are, sharing together. thank you for not giving up on your message. God uses us where we are.

  250. So very thankful that His grace is sufficient because His power is made perfect in our weakness.  Love reading your work – it always ministers to me. Thanks so much for being real.

  251. Candice Fisher says:

    It is wonderful to know I am not the only one that gets frustrated. I have a daughter with Autism and a teenage son. So needless to say, my patience gets stretched pretty tight. Thank you for being so open and honest about your person experiences. It makes me feel better! God Bless~

  252. Brenda Moore says:

    Hi. Decided to share with you in hopes of gaining wisdom from others. I love the lord. The word says, “If you love the Lord, you will keep his commandments”. I desire to to know the Lord and to love others as I love myself. But, some days it is not so easy to love. My confidence in my abilities are at an all time low. I feel like a failure most days. I miss the mark most days.

  253. Although I am not a mother, I definitely see this in how I confront my two younger brothers when they misbehave. Most the time I am the condemning type, and I usually end up feeling negative or guilty afterwards but it is hopeful to learn that there is a better way!

  254. So many times we beat ourselves up with guilt instead of going to the Father; asking for his forgiveness; accepting His grace and then moving on to fulfill His will in us.

  255. Thank you so much, Renee, for the lovely reminder that God can indeed use me in my mess. I needed to hear that right now!

    Blessings to you,
    Lori Lynn

  256. Christy R. says:

    So many times I will let my patience fly out the window and forget to be focused on speaking words of life and having mercy for others. Christ had mercy on us, but we so easily forget to share that mercy with others. It’s just like the parable of the servant who was forgiven his debt but immediately went out and demanded payment from a fellow servant that owed much less to him. We’ve been forgiven it all, but we can’t let the chatter of the enemy hold us in guilt and shame, telling us we aren’t good enough. Thank you for your honest post and devotional today. It gives us all that sigh of relief that we all make mistakes and all have grace through Christ! God Bless!

  257. I did the online Bible study of your Confident Heart book last year and it was such a blessing. I remember this excerpt from one of the chapters. Through reading the book and the Scripture included throughout the study, I’ve learned that I can be confident in the grace God gives me daily to overcome self-doubt, fear, and anxiety. I would love to have a copy of the devotional to go along with the book. Thanks so much for following God’s calling to write this and help so many women who struggle with self-doubt and helping them realize that they are God’s masterpiece.

  258. Lea Ann says:

    Good thoughts to ponder. Thank you for sharing.
    Would love to win the book too!

  259. Becky B. says:

    Boy this sure hit home with me. Not only a great reminder of God’s grace but that we are a work in progress, always being refined. Thank you.

  260. Thanks for the reminder of God’s grace. I need to apologize to someone right now so I can quit feeling guilty and get on with what God has planned for me.

  261. Lynn Bowman says:

    Hi Renee’! I would love to win the devotional book. As women we can be so hard on ourselves, and others, and so quick to condemn. Thank you for giving us tools to help us and also pointing out that this is another scheme of our enemy, Satan, to throw us off track and live guilt-ridden lives. Learning to live confident and free from doubt is a daily process and only God’s Word can combat the lies of the enemy! Thank you! Many blessings to you and your family!

  262. Love it, need to hear, keep them coming Renee

  263. I am struggling with an addict husband and have been very negative with him when he relapses. I need to stop

  264. Heather says:

    Thanks for the wonderful devotion today! I had a very trying evening with my 11 year old yesterday. We both ended up with hurt feelings. I asked God to help me be a better mother who doesn’t yell and scream at her children to get them to understand their wrong doings. I ended up feeling very guilty and not confident as a mom or a christian.

  265. Thanks, Renee for the reminder that in the midst of the journey, no matter how difficult or how messy, we can know that “in all things God works for the good of those who love him…” Romans 8:28

  266. As a young woman about to graduate college, this is something I struggle with regularly. No, I do not have children just yet, but every day I struggle with the guilt of my mistakes. In turn, I question myself and my worthiness. It’s a battle that I think many young women face. This message really hit home for me, as I constantly need to be reminded that He is gracious; even though I may stumble, I cannot let me guilt stand in the way of my relationship with Him. This was exactly what I needed today.

  267. Holly Lemons says:

    Thanks for this! I often find myself thinking how bad I am for the way I reacted when in all actuality, God is reminding me to do better next time!

  268. So many times I have felt so overwhelmed with guilt of how can I lead others when I feel I haven’t lived up to the word that I was to deliver. I never looked at it in the way of realizing that the same mercy and grace of God that I would be encouraging the women with would be the same mercy and grace that God would give to me. Who much better to do this than the one who had first been a partaker of the same downfalls and mishaps? This certainly blessed me and helped even the more to realize that when I encourage others, I encourage myself. Thank you so much for sharing this devotional. I really needed to hear this.

  269. Wonderful words to hear. Sometimes women worry to step up in ministry because they are not perfect. We can speak to others through our messiness. Thank you for sharing your words.

  270. I love this devotion today. I am struggling with trying to get my prayer life back in order and dealing with self-condemnation because of my daily thoughts and struggles. Then I feel like God is mad at me or punishing me because I am such a mess. Instead of trusting God more, I end up feeling defeated, negative and short-fused.

  271. Michelle says:

    This was a good devotion. Thank you for sharing your struggles. We are to encourage one another. Thanks!

  272. I loved and needed this reminder! I have learned that the things I tried to hide and cover up, are exactly the things God wants me to share when I speak, and when I write. The things that embarrass me and I do not want anyone to know; are the things God has used in my life, to touch and help others. Sometimes I laugh, and think, ‘how could God use me and this awful mess of a situation for His glory?’ and then God shows me how He uses that mess and makes it a miracle! I’m real, and that’s all people need to see from each of us … we are real. We make mistakes and messes. But through Christ, we can turn them around!

  273. Melissa Berling says:

    I really needed to hear your P31 devotion today, I’m also in ministry and often feel unqualified to lead the beautiful women who attend my small group and your message reminds me that I’m ministering to my own spirit as well and how much we need the Holy Spirit to guide us. Thank you.

  274. Linda Curtis says:

    This sure hit home with me today! Hard as I try to keep calm and always look on the positive side of things, there always seems to be that ONE day where it all seems to go to the wayside and I snap. Then I feel so guilty afterward because I know that is not how God wants me to act or feel. Then I wind up asking for His forgiveness (AGAIN) and wonder just how many times is He going to grant me His grace! I am so grateful that He loves me and continues to listen even though I call on Him quite regularly. He is my rock and salvation, forever!

  275. God has repeatedly brought before me this week the difference between convictiòn and condemnation. Thank you for reiterating this truth.

  276. Thanks for being human, as we all are.

  277. This is the kind of advice I need everyday! So often all I hear is the deceiver instead if the forgiving voice of my Lord.

  278. Thank you for this. I let myself be led off track in my purpose of bringing value and encouraging women. I’m the one that leads me off track with self doubt & insecurity, thinking I must be crazy to think I can help women feel good about themselves when I don’t always feel good about myself. Remembering that God’s strength is made great in my weakness helps, knowing that He can use it all. Thank you!

  279. It is so easy jump from allowing Grace to work to me trying to do all I can to earn it, as if I could! But, then I do feel guilty and doubtful and unworthy and think I do not deserve His Grace at all.Thanks for the reminder that it is not about me or my feelings or my “doing” or “undoing”. I have to learn everyday to just take Him at His word, trust Him and lean on Him. Thanks for the reminder that no matter our status in the world, we still are in need of the Holy Spirit and Grace every single minute of our human lives. And, yes please enter my name in the drawing today..

  280. Stephanie says:

    Oh I can so relate to your comments as both a Christian woman and mom, and that makes your wisdom all the more appealing to my imperfect heart. Thank you for your encouragement. I especially want to soak in the truth of the difference between condemnation and conviction–I’ll be re-reading that several times!

  281. Mary Williams says:

    I love reading your words of wisdom! As I read these I realize I’m not alone. We are all so guilty of this. The devil sure tries to take hold of our failures! God bless you and keep up the great great work God has chosen you to do!

  282. Shaunda Trotter says:

    Wonderful post! Just what I needed to be reminded of today.
    Thank you!

  283. Thank you for today’s email devotional. Even though I feel certain of the calling God has made on my life, I sometimes feel as though I am not good enough, strong enough, Godly enough to manage it. However, I don’t have to be good enough, it is God’s ministry that He has entrusted me with and I am just a vessel. Thank you for the encouragement this morning 🙂 Sometimes we need to be reminded of our worth in Christ!

  284. Lyynelle Merritt says:

    Dear Renee, I so relate to the dilemma of peace filled moments when all is going well and then one instant can have all that we thought and learned come crashing down. I am praying that we are all one step closer each time that happens to experience more and more of His grace as we grow and become more like Jesus!

    Blessings to you the ministry God has called you to,


  285. Teresa Foley-Batts says:

    I have struggled with God’s calling on my life because of some things that happened in my past and my feelings of unworthiness. The devotional today really opened my heart to the fact that my confidence is not in my ability, it in my Savior, who is gracious and has forgiven me of my sins. Like the Samaratin woman at the well, God has given me living water and I can walk confidently in Him. Thank you for allowing God to speak through you to encourage women across the world.

  286. Wow, I really needed to hear this today. I have been feeling so much guilt over what I consider “bad parenting” lately. Being under a lot of stress through life transition right now, I haven’t been leaning on His mercy, grace, and love to sustain me. Thank you for sharing.

  287. Brittny Hemphill says:

    I was just telling (in a moment of frustration) my husband the other day how I lose it so easily and I hate it. I want to be calm and happy and not have little things set me off. I have been hoping to find a devotional to help me with this very thing.

  288. Thank you so much!

  289. Melody Byrum says:

    I read your devotional from Proverbs 31 today and it really touched my heart to know that I am not the only one who struggles with that. I have had days like that too and it’s good to know that I shouldn’t beat myself up for not being perfect. And then your devotional on your blog hit that home even more. We aren’t perfect and sometimes we lose it with our family or our husbands and I will try to remember to apologize and ask forgiveness when I blow up again. I’m not perfect and it’s bound to happen. Thanks for the encouraging words.

  290. Loretta says:

    This was just what I needed to hear this morning. Every single time I think I’m all alone and deserve nothing good, I get a message from God that he hears me and is with me always. Still trying to learn that I am deserving of mercy and grace. But messages like these help so much. I am so grateful and thankful. Thank you for sharing this. L~

  291. jennifer says:

    Thank You!

  292. Would love to win your book!

  293. Angie Ellis says:

    Oh my Goodness, I have just read your devotional on Proverbs 31 and have tears flowing!!!! I am felt that guilt a number of times and am truly thankful for God’s mercy and GRACE each and every time. There has been many times that I have not felt worthy to be a leader at Kings Kid’s or start teaching Jr. Church for the first time this month with my husband. We are not worthy of that great role, but with God’s Grace and Mercy we are!!! Praise God for that! I totally need A Confident Heart Devotional 🙂 to guide me thought the new challenges I am facing in my church ministries!

  294. Reading with tears in my eyes-what a comforting message-grace and forgiveness! Thank you for sharing!

  295. Thank you for your devotion, it really hit home with me. I love the part of your prayer which asks Jesus to “replace our guilt-induced doubts to grace-infused confidence.” I will be praying that prayer as much as I can, I need to replace the anger and doubts with the confidence and grace that only Jesus can give.

  296. This devotional helped to reassure me of Gods Grace!! The church I was raised up in did not teach me about all of His forgiving attributes. I truly felt the Holy Spirit come into my life when I was 23 and I am 47 now so I have had to “re-learn” things and sometime its hard for me. I find myself not taking an opportunity because I feel like I am not worthy to speak on His behalf. Even though people will tell me and show me in scripture it is so uplifting so see people share their individual experiences, makes me feel more confident to do the things He has called me to do. Thank You!!

  297. Thanks Renee for such a great reminder of the wonderful ways that God “parents” and loves on us as His children, even when we fail. God Bless you and your family. : )

  298. crystal morgan says:

    I subscribed to your facebook posts a while back & they have really helped me in many ways. I just subscribed to your devotion email and todays email was exactly what I needed to hear. It always amazes me how God puts just what I need to hear in front of me!!

  299. Barbara Wood says:

    Since I work for Hospice you can imagine that my days are often so full of stressful situations that I tend to get caught up in that and don’t take the time to read the Proverbs 31 devotionals for that day. I guess God knew I needed to read what you wrote today because I was prompted to read it before starting my normal daily routine. Thank you for allowing God to speak through you. It was a much needed message for me. May God continue to richly bless your ministry.

  300. Danielle L. says:

    I struggle with this daily! I have been pregnant or nursing for the past eight years and counting. With all of these beautiful, noisy, smart, strong-willed children around it is common for me to go from doting mother to screaming banshee several times a day. One thing that has helped me exercise more patience with my husband and children is to think of the Lord as a parent. I think of how much He loves me and how patient He continues to be with me.

    Thank you for this word of encouragement! It’s good to know that I am not alone.

  301. This was a great devotion and touched my heart this morning. As i sat a read these words, tears came to my eyes just realizing how God’s loving grace is sufficient and he loves me despite the messed up package that I am. I too often find myself doubting him when i should have the confidence that his grace should give. It is so difficult to let go of the things we always thought was right and start living a life guided by our heavenly Father–his way, not our way. I pray for this confidence and peace from him to control my life in every situation and stop beating myself up when i do mess up– I need to realize all of this struggle is a result of “Me” being a work in progress.

  302. Molinda Bailey says:

    What beautiful words Renee, Thank you for being so real with each of us. We as wives, mothers, friends, sister, etc can always look and see our faults and weakness but God’s grace is always there in every situation. When we can look at our weakness that’s acutally a blessing because when we are weak He is made strong! Amen!
    HAve a blessed day sweet friend, thank you again for your kind encouraging words. They were just what I needed today!

  303. Julie Boone says:

    I love this devotional. I so see myself in it. I let all those things get to me, then get so overwhelmed and start snapping on everyone. And now I see myself in my kids. I need to change ME so I can help change THEM with God’s help!

  304. Thank you for all your inspirational messages. It helps to know others struggle with the same things I do at times. Thankfully God sees past our flaws and loves us despite our shortcomings. Have a blessed day!

  305. April Winn says:

    God has spoke this message to me over and over again this week. On my own, I am not good enough, but because of his grace, I can do what he has called me to do.

  306. Christine Arsenault says:

    I really enjoy reading your devotionals I get so much from them.they really do give me the encouragement that I need.thank you

  307. Stephanie says:

    We can all use such a devotional to help with the everyday attacks of satan.

  308. Melanie says:

    The devotion today really hit home because I have done the same thing this week and then felt like I needed to be put in a hole somewhere. This reminds me that God can use me because of the experiences and failures I have done for His glory.

  309. Amber M. says:

    Thank you so much for your words here and on the P31 devo. I am like so many other mom’s and we all slip up and then seems to beat ourselves up. Peace is something I feel like I am constantly chasing…. and that is anything but peaceful. I am so grateful for the wonderful resources you offer that provide insight into a better way to do things…. God’s way.

  310. Rachiel says:

    I confuse those two often. I will start to be down on myself after one mistake, instead of accepting it for what it was and learning from it. Thank for this message. I needed it.

  311. Bobbie Gardner says:

    What a wonderful reminder today that Gid doesn’t call us to be perfect! He calls us to let His forgiveness be revealed through us and His wonderful, amazing grace be perfected in us! Thank you for your ministry!
    God bless you today. I pray you continue to reach the thousands!

  312. Teah Griggs says:

    I really enjoyed the devotion today. It spoke directly to me and gives me the encouragement that I need as a wife and mom. God’s grace is awesome! Thanks for taking the time to share.

  313. Linda F says:

    Just yesterday I said I was a failure of a mom after I had yelled at my son and totally lost my patience-I did “get up” and I repented and apologized to my son and he also apologized to me-point is Satan played on my sin and caused guilt to take hold and thoughts to run wild. This devo helped me see the forgiveness of God is there even tho I really messed up. I need to hold on to the Spirits voice especially during rough times when i sin b/c that’s when Satan will try to pour on the condemnation. I really liked your pastors example of the difference between guilt and condemnation-so thankful for a devo that meets me where I’m at-God is good and I pray for a better day today b/c this is a new day-made by God who is here with me as I do my ministry as wife and mom.

  314. Found your blog via P31. I can’t wait to read more of what you have to say.

  315. I’m finishing up my Master’s at the age of 46. This week is hitting me as to exactly what I will do with it. I don’t feel equipped enough to speak even though I have been a worship leader for nearly 10 years. I see God pulling me in a direction that I would love to go, but lack the confidence to ‘pull it off’. All my night time dreams involve me doing what I believe He is calling me to do, however. I read the email devotional and it’s becoming clearer and clearer that I need to press toward the mark of His goals for my life and even though I do not feel the confidence to be what he’s calling me to be, He will give me what I need. Thank you Renee for your words today.

  316. Lorraine Furtner says:

    I do this to myself over and over. I am like Paul– a chief of sinners! Thank you so much for posting this. I am plagued with self-doubt every time I start to do something for God. There’s the enemy right there shutting me down, making me think I’m not good enough. And I’m not. But God’s grace is. “My grace is sufficient for you.” God has given us all we need to succeed in our ministry for him. Wow. Thanks for being real, Renee.

  317. I just wanted to thank you for this devotional today. It really registered with me. Especially the whole confidence building. When you ask the Lord to help build confidence in you really have to watch out for him to send a challenge and a lesson builder too. That’s what I feel he is teaching me this week. Thank you for reminding me that he is there to give grace along the way.

  318. Lynda Munsey says:

    Thank you so much for today’s devotion. I have been in these spots more often than I care to count. You are a blessing to me and I am thankful that God uses you like He does. So often, we hate to admit that we are very much human and in the flesh and that even through these times, He can and will still use us. We must praise Him in the storms as well as the good times. He can call on a rock to cry in our place. His grace is unlike anything that any of us have ever experienced except through Him, or at least it is to me. May my life glorify Him every day.

  319. Thank you so much for the reminder that Satan wants to condemn us and hold us in the pit of guilty shame. But the Holy Spirit will convict us and provide us with a way to repent and turn our wrong choices around for good.
    This reminds me of when I have not been keeping in touch with someone. I start to feel guilty for not calling them, the shame of the guilt keeps me from making the phone call, then with out realizing it another week or two has passed and I still haven’t reached out to them. When I finally get over my guilt and make the phone call, apologize for not calling, then everything is okay. Instead of feeling guilty and being stuck in a mirey pit, i will choose to see this as conviction and take ACTION to repent and make things right!!!
    Putting some “to dos” aside and making some phone calls THIS MORNING!!!

  320. God is so good. I really needed this today!

  321. Jennifer says:

    I have done the same thing this past week with both of my boys. I am so glad you shared this as I was feeling Satan attack and God convict. Thank you for sharing.

  322. Michelle Torres says:

    Thank you for your heart. I love your book The Confident Heart as well as your devotional. My husband and I have been reading them together. I would love to share them with the ladies in my ministry. God bless all that you do.

  323. Irma Breaux says:

    This was just what I needed to hear this morning. I am very critical of myself and don’t always feel worthy of God or his love. Thank You for this devotional on this day.

  324. Dorre F says:

    I’ve never been the speaker for a women’s retreat, but I was the speaker last night at our monthly ladies ministry get-together. I could very much relate to your feelings about not being qualified and not living up to what I was sharing… I so appreciate your honesty in what you shared, along with a scripture that covers this (and gives us peace and joy) so well…. Well done!!!

  325. Emily klassen says:

    Thankyou for all your encouraging devotions! I esp needed today’s. That’s me exactly. I struggle with guilt so often, feeling like I can’t possibly be good enough to raise these kids that God gave me. But I’m so grateful for Gods grace.

  326. Love your messages!

  327. theresa says:

    This post really resonated with me. I so often can go from feeling “peachy” to an “orbit of aggravation” in a split second and then the feelings of guilt and unworthiness take over. Thank you for this post!

  328. I enjoyed this today! I sometimes forget that i am still loved by God as messy as i can be sometimes. I am my own worst critic. Sharing our humanness and mistakes helps us to relate to one another, and know we are not alone or unique in our being human!

  329. I so needed to hear this today. Thank you for being real with us!

  330. This speaks so strongly to my heart. It’s one of those “hit me in the face” moments. For the past 45 days, I’ve been doubting the work I’ve been doing within a 19 year ministry. Your “No More Guilt Induced Doubt” devotional is exactly what I have needed to hear. Thank you for sharing. I would love to receive the book to continue the healing and guidence.

  331. Thanks for this reminder. I have been living in guilt and doubt over the past week and desparately needed to hear and be reminded of God’s grace and the tactics Satan uses to discourage us. This was like shining a light in the darkness, a place to start, a ray of hope!

  332. Sandra Gates says:

    It is so easy to recognize your own faults and feel so unworthy of the saviors love. It takes courage, strenght and faith to believe that even in our “imperfectness” we can be an instrument for good. I struggle with this on a daily basis. I need the constant reminders and encouragement. As I pray and read scruptures each day it helps, but I have a long way to go. Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights.

  333. Thank you so much for sharing this. This really relates to how I feel somedays. I feel like I am not good enough or worthy enough for God’s grace. I have in fact questioned/doubted my self and had to do some deep soul searching. I really feel like God Himself sent this message to me today. It really spoke volumes. Thanks and God bless you.

  334. Sometimes the negative, condemning words come from those around us and it is hard not to believe them. Thank you for reminding me that God does not condemn but convict…

  335. Delaine Shay says:

    This meditation spoke to me words of God’s grace and mercy. Thank ou. I’m saving it to read again.

  336. I find that doubt in my ability to be used by Christ can really trip me up at times. I so appreciate knowing that I am not alone in this. When my head knows the truth but my heart response is in the flesh, the outcome is messy. The Holy Spirit keeps me humble and graciously allows me to be a part of the things that He is doing. I wonder if I did not struggle in this way if I would be less aware of what God is up to in this world. Would I be prone to focus on my own effort and strength? So, I strive to praise God for my weaknesses, for it is there that His glory shines brightest in my life.

  337. Jessica says:

    I needed to read this today!

  338. Krista Stewaret says:

    I just read your devotional that came as part of my daily readings from Bible Gateway. I appreciated your message and the thought “You were appointed and anointed for this…” has lingered with me. I needed to hear that today as my failures and setbacks try to assail me and keep me from the ministries that God has given to me. Thank you.

  339. Shalonda Todd says:

    I really related to the article of the day starting off well and all of a sudden a tailspin. Then the words that are spoken out of frustration makes a mountain out of a mole hill. #powerfullesson

  340. Vicki Shannon says:

    Your devotion today was so real. Thank you.

  341. Elaina Hunt says:

    This is such a beautiful reminder of God’s grace. I am soooo in need of this today. Thank you for being obedient to the call of sharing your witness with us. You bring Him glory!!!

  342. Thank you so much for this! I needed to read this. today. Guilt about my past has held me back for too long! I have got to stop listening to the accuser and listen to the Spirit. God bless

  343. Love reading the daily devotions on Proverbs 31! It is mind easing to know other women are striving through the same obstacles.

  344. MIchelle says:

    Thank you I really needed to hear this!

  345. Bless you for your humility to share with us this powerful lesson on conviction vs. condemnation as guilt-induced doubt. Having enjoyed your Confident Heart study last fall with P31’s OBS, it offers tremendous hope to me that even someone who so passionately wrote a study on confidence, has moments that she stumbles and crashes allowing the flaming arrows of the enemy to penetrate your mind. Wonderful to have your study’s biblical reminders and other tools from the awesome teachers at P31 ministries as weapons to allow Jesus to draw us back to the light and not stay where the world would have us stuck in the dark. Thanks for sharing & God Bless!

  346. I have this same problem. I’m a planner, and get extra frustrated when my plans are drastically changed when it could have been easily avoided. I find myself snapping and missing the mark Jesus set for us with patience and forgiveness. This part of my sanctification process is especially painful for me.

  347. Rosa Maria Debroy says:

    I sólo need es to read something like this today. Thank you for letrina yourself be used. God bless you!

  348. Mandy Zipfel says:

    This was exactly what I needed today!!! Being in the ministry has its ups and downs!! So thankful God daily equips us because I could not do this without him.

  349. Thank you for sharing your stories and I truly related to this specific one. I am constantly condemning others but I guess what is really happening is me not being able to forgive myself for things I’ve said and done in my past so I’d love for more inspiration and guidance along with scripture 🙂

  350. I can relate today, and many days to your post. Because of a great co-worker, friend, I have been able to enjoy daily inspirations. Some confidence has started, but to have the book by my bed every morning to get my day started would be Fantastic! You and all the Proverbs 31 staff are truly an inspiration!

  351. Misstie Pollard says:

    I related to this post because I always want things to go my way. I have to constantly remind myself I don’t have control over many things and it does not pay to get upset. I pinch myself to stop the anger, repent, and ask for forgiveness.

  352. Donna R says:

    God has been speaking to me lately telling me to come to him with a confident spirit rather than weak and to CLAIM my place as His beloved child . . and I’m working on it!

  353. Debi Morris says:

    I am in ministry as well and many times feel so “not right” for this ministry, so hypocritical. Thank you for the devotion.

  354. Priscilla says:

    Thanks for sharing your word.

  355. Enter me to win.

  356. Wow! I don’t realize how much this devotion truly open my eyes,indeed! Thank you so much for such phenomenal encouragement that surely needed in the middle of storm season.!

  357. Elizabeth L says:

    Thank you so much for your thoughtful words today. Guilt can be a daily struggle sometimes and it is nice to be reminded that God’s grace is always with me.

  358. Sharon Grant says:

    Thanks for this message it was much needed. I’m encouraged just by reading this. I know God does use me in the midst of my mess.

  359. I am in a study of Fierce Women by Kimberly Wagner and this excerpt went along with some of the thoughts we have been considering this week. We are all fearfully and wonderfully made but sometimes we ARE fearful and do not act so wonderfully. Our husbands feel the brunt of our reactions too often. Mine is the sweetest man in the entire world and I am trying to become the wife God intends for me to be. He is teaching me.

  360. Renee–I so much need your devotional. I believe it would help me put me crazy life in some sort of order and put it all in our Dear Lord ‘s hands!! Thank you and God Bless–Barb

  361. I needed today’s devotion. I am currently in school following what I believe to be God’s leading, but it seems as if I’m being crushed by this new responsibility along with all of the other factors that are in my life. I am so quick to doubt that what God has shone me can’t be for me. I understood exactly how you felt, because I often wonder if I’m able to be the wife, mother, daughter, christian, professional, ministry leader, etc. that God has called me to be. I’m barely holding on. Thank you for today. I needed to remember that it’s not through my strength and through my perfection but through His. He doesn’t need me to be perfect for Him to be able to use me for His glory. Thanks for the great reminder!

  362. Yesenia Ramirez says:

    I love the explanation of the two differences. Now I am sure I’ve recently heard from the Holy Spirit.

  363. Jessica Jacques says:

    What’ a great reminder today! Would love to win this devotional!

  364. I feel very alone right now. I am a mother, wife, and I work a full time job. My husband lost his job almost a year ago. unemployment was cut in dec 2013. we are struggling financially and I am very stressed. I try to think for better or for worse, I try to think, God has a plan. I just got licensed as a professional counselor and am trying to get things going in my career. But I am so stressed and overwhelmed and think how can I help others when I myself am so stressed, hurt, broken, overwhelmed and just fed up!!! My mind is filled with worry on a daily basis. And I know that God does not want that but I cant help it. this was an inspiration to read but I still cant get rid of the doubt, fear, worry, not when mortgage, car note and other bills are behind. we have four children and I try to set an example for them. But I have but so much to give.

  365. So needed this today!!!

  366. I sometimes lose my patience and not respond to things in a peaceful way, even when I intend to. Thank you for reaffirming that the enemy will condemn me, but the Spirit will lovingly convict me to change my behavior, attitude, etc. What a blessing!

    God bless!

  367. Christine Torres says:

    I am so glad to have stopped by your site this morning. I was in a rush trying to get my devotional done so I could hurry and get the kids out the door on time. Of course, with love and care. I wanted to share that The Lord is so amazing and I am thankful to grow in these areas. I struggle with condemnation and hypocracy and guilt. I needed to read this at this very moment to actually grasp what I needed to to move forward in my walk with Christ. To be able to set these down at the feet of The Lord through His grace… just, is a beautiful gift. Thank you.

  368. Thank you so much for your honesty. I try to teach my child about grace but rarely if ever give it to myself. The reminders of the difference between condemnation and conviction were l timed. God is using you to touch so many people as evidenced by all of the comments.Continue to walk in God’s grace.

  369. Vicki Hampton says:

    I loved this devotion & I have enjoyed your books so much. I would love to have this devotional. Your words hit my heart always! God is great..!!

  370. Kim Brooke says:

    I needed to hear that God’s grace is sufficient for me today. Thank you for speaking words of truth today.

  371. I loved your P31 message today as well as this one. I really needed a “reminder” of this today. I’m so hard on myself. I need to remind myself often to fail forward, give myself a break, and go forward in grace! I read Confident Heart. It was amazingly helpful to me. I’m sure the devotional will be just as good!

  372. I was so encouraged by your message and would love to read the rest of the story in your devotional.
    I am a 67 year young woman who has two grown sons who are men of God.
    For the past two years I have retired and live with my youngest son, his wife, and two teen aged grandsons.
    Grace and gratitude are necessary to be living this life, thank you for reminding me of this.

  373. Angel Griffin says:

    So many of your daily devotions touch my heart. It always amazes me how God uses others to say exactly what I need to hear at that exact moment. Knowing that others have experienced the same things I have is such a blessing as I realize it really is alright and that God REALLY does have it all under control and that I am never alone as he is with me always just as he is with others. Thank you so much for your honesty and wisdom.

  374. I sure appreciated the definitions for condemnation vs conviction this morning. I definitely see myself on the condemnation side of things! Thanks Renee.

  375. This resonated with me so much today and I am so grateful. After a failed marriage, dealing with ailing parents and three children I feel like I’m doing it all wrong. I think God must be disappointed in me. This reminded me today that I am worthy of his grace, AND I need to pay that grace forward with my friends, family and college students I teach.

    I appreciate your uplifting words that spoke directly to ME today!

  376. Vikki Le says:

    I love you devotion on Proverbs 31 today. Regardless of how many times we mess up, God’s mercy remains and His grace is greater still. He always turns our mess into something beautiful.

  377. thank you… i needed this message today.

  378. Jennifer Richards says:

    I love the scripture with this , His grace is always sufficient!! He is a loving and sovereign God. The second part is so powerful, in our weakness he is made perfect!! There are days that I repeat this over and over as a reminder that I don’t have to be perfect ; I am loved and accepted as is and further than that God redeems my imperfections for his glory!!

  379. Emily Murray says:

    This post was very enlightening to me. I guess I never really realized or understood the difference between condemnation and conviction. I have been letting condemnation drag me down and my guilt destroy me. I will be praying for the discernment to listen for God’s voice and his directions on how to turn the situation around and live with confidence!

  380. Marlenne Noriega says:

    I’m actually still struggling between knowing the difference between God’s voice and my own guilt voice…I grew up in a Catholic home and since I was very young I always heard “be good or God will punish you” I didn’t grow up with an image of a loving Father desiring a relationship with me. When I realized who God really is I felt cheated and manipulated bc I spent so many years doing what’s right out of fear or doing wrong feeling miserable afterwards and never really knowing what grace was…I was never good enough, just ok thinking Illescas be lucky to go to heaven…sadly, many ppl still live this way and it is heartbreaking. ..I struggle still like I said but I’m getting better at forgiving myself and running to God instead of hiding in shame when I do wrong.

  381. Janell Sponburgh says:

    This is very good to realize that you don’t have to feel guilty when you know you do wrong but to do what needs to be done to make it right. When you know better, you can do better!!!

  382. Thank you for this morning’s devotional. I start each morning enjoying Encouragement for Today and am inspired by the words each of you ladies share. Please enter me in the book draw.


  384. Kathy Walker says:

    Sadly I do this more often than not, then I feel guilty for the rest of the day, and usually end up giving in when I shouldn’t.

  385. Ardis Rivera says:

    God has been showing me this very thing. For years I didn’t understand the difference. It is freeing to understand that when God brings conviction, it is for our good. Only Satan keeps bringing up the past sins that have already been forgiven. Only Satan tells us the lies that God can’t love us. God’s conviction proves His love for us. He loves us too much to let us continue down the wrong path.

  386. I believe when we mess up and feel badly about it that’s just Gods way of letting us know we have hearts for him and only him.

    He made us human. We fail, we succeed. We mess up, we make up.

    If we are listening we hear his voice leading along the path we need to follow but there will be times when we take another path. One that looks better at the moment. That’s when his love and conviction step in and guide us back to his heart.

    Thank God for a shepherd who loves his wayward sheep a bit more than the ones who never stray.

  387. This was what I needed to read today!

  388. Your devotional was just what I needed to hear today. Thank you.

  389. Michelle B. says:

    Read your devotional from P31. Loved it! Definitely something I need to hear. Thank you! !

  390. Jessica Repp says:

    Renee, what an amazing and soul filling blog today. Your writing is always amazing but of course as God would have it, this is exactly what I needed today. I am wrecked with guilt in areas of my life and this sheds a whole new light on God’s love and grace for me, for everyone. Thank you so much!! I’d love to work through the Confident Heart devotional.

  391. I have felt God’s prompting to lead a women’s Bible study at our church but felt inadequate. Your post is the confirmation that it’s okay if I don’t know the scriptures end to end, but that I have a willing heart to serve. Thanks!

  392. Felicia Guerrero says:

    Wow! Today’s “Encouragement for Today” resonates with me as I always feels like I am not doing the things I should be doing that would make God proud of me. I have had several days like “no more guilt-induced doubts” then I beat myself after its all done.

  393. shannon s rice says:

    We are usually quick to judge ourselves more harshly than we wrongly judge others….. Blessed to know God extends His grace!!

  394. catherine says:

    Wow, could I ever relate to your entry today! I sometimes share with God that He is using one of his weakest, sinful persons, who needs Him continuously, desperately. And because He chooses to use me, I am overwhelmed constantly by His great love! I certainly don’t deserve this love of HIS and am reminded of His grace, mercy, and love every time I get to breathe, live, and try to put others first. As a full time caregiver of my sister in the LORD, and mother of adult step and adopted children, who are not always receptive or even around, I am forever reminded that God is intentional in whom He chooses to serve. He chooses those who need Him the most! Otherwise, we could not possibly be sensitive to Him and to others’ needs! I am continually reminded when I mess up daily on many things, despite my best efforts NOT to mess up, that God loves me and everybody else unconditionally. WOW! That fact that He loves me every second and no matter what just comforts me so much! I just want to learn to love others the way He does. I know I cannot ever do that as well as He does, but I am encouraged to do all I can, the best I can for Him, no matter how much I mess up. I am learning to forgive myself as well as others. The enemy just wants to shovel guilt in our lives. But sisters, we just get the HOLY SPIRIT to blow that bad stuff right out and the LORD floods us with Living Water to refresh us all over again! Oh, how precious it is to share His love with all of you today! Praise the LORD now and forever!

  395. Your devotional today was just what I needed. I suffer from self doubt all r he time. This week I was trying to help a friend and was not successful and rhe doubt set in and them I started to think wrong things about our friendship.
    Please enter me in the sweepstakes as I could definitely use the help!
    May GOD bless you all today!

  396. Nancy Cooper says:

    My middle daughter could really use a confidence booster. Sixteen, new school, new living arrangements, not many friends, family health issues–that’s a lot to deal with. And those poor middle children–they’re always the last ones to get any attention.

  397. Delayna D. says:

    I was just talking about this on Monday night with my best friend. She is doubting if she is still a Christian and even questioning if God can use others including me because we have not yet overcome every issue in our lives. But I tell myself that regardless of her questioning or my own doubts, God’s strength is made perfect in my weakness…and I keep going!!

  398. Thanks for sharing especially the differences between condemnation & conviction.

  399. Wow, you have no idea how timely this is. If I hit a season in my life where it seems that condemnation is finding me from every angle- within my mind, from the mouths of strangers, even my husband ….. It’s torturous. And hard to find the soft voice if God and the Holy Spirit among all the noise. Thank you for your post! You have no idea how helpful it is! In His love, Patty

  400. I’ve been there so many times, thinking there’s no way I can be a good woman of God because I struggle with anger, jealousy, addiction, etc. Thank you for the reminder that that’s why we NEED the Savior. God bless you.

  401. Polly Schneider says:

    I loved your devotion today. I use condemning statements to myself but I am going to try (with God’s help) to recognize them and turn to the Lord instead, who loves me no matter what. I need to learn how to recognize convicting words from Him instead. Thanks for your encouraging words today.

  402. Wow! Thank you so much, i really needed that today! I am always so hard on myself when I slip up or have a bad day. I am in constant need of being reminded that I God is not as hard on me as I am, that He loves me regardless and wants to still use me for His glory!
    Thank you for that reminder.

  403. Maria Thomas says:

    I have been struggling lately with frustration and knowing if I was still able to be used. This post really touched me today. Thank you for sharing.

  404. GUILTY!!! Thank you for your transparency!!! Wow!!! I can totally relate….
    GODS timing is so perfect. TODAY was the day-feeling like this was just for ME.
    God Bless!!!

  405. Deborah Heath says:

    Your devotional today really resonated with me. It seems that when I am preparing for leading a conference or Bible Study, that’s when life starts crashing around me. Such is the case this week as I plan to lead a conference at a ministers wives retreat. I don’t know what God has planned to do through me & in me at the retreat this weekend, but it must be something big!

  406. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. May The Lord continue to bless you.

  407. I felt like I was reading a memory from my own life! Thank you for sharing.

  408. Amber Butte says:

    I read both this devotion, plus the one on Proverbs 31 today. They are both excellent, but I have to confess that reading the one about your ruined day of writing, stressed me out and I began to feel angry. I think it touched a nerve for sure. Haha! Thank you for your transparency.

  409. I really needed that. I’ve been really struggling lately with many things going on in my life. My boyfriend of 7 years, with a severe addiction problem (he is going to get help) has not been easy to deal with and I definitely haven’t handled things the right way. My temper has really taken over because I’m having trouble cooping with the problem. I felt everything was my fault, no matter what I did right.
    Things got pretty bad and I almost completely lost faith in God while wondering why I could feel so hurt and lost . Until I read this and the Proverbs 31 Devo. Thank you so much. This was exactly what I needed to hear today.

  410. I am praying that I will extend mercy as God has extended mercy. I want to extend mercy to people (parents who lie incessantly!). It is so hard to be obedient to God’s commandment to “honor your mother and your father”. His commandment to “Not Lie” holds some weight too. Urgh … only God knows how my spirit is grieving.

  411. Ellen Hill says:

    Loved this devotion and also reading the responses of my sister’s in Christ. This goes along with the theme of the year the Lord has been sweetly whispering in my ear that His grace is sufficient. It also left me with a bit of conviction about the way I respond to my family at times. I myself need to offer more grace. Thanks again.

  412. Terry Cook says:

    I enjoy reading your devotions and I realize that they are always timely. Must be a God Thing!
    Thank you and Bless you!

  413. I feel like I blow it often with my children. I end up feeling like I am not cut out to be a mom. I apologize and we hug and kiss and things are good, until the next time I blow it. I’m really trying to work on reacting with a positive attitude.

  414. Chellie Mulberry says:

    Wow. This was exactly what I needed to hear today. I struggle so much with self-doubt and am always trying to be “good enough” on my own. It’s like a constant battle in my mind to rely on God and walk in His freedom instead of trying to be in control, which leads to feeling like a failure and doubting whether or not I can even do this whole “walking with God” thing. I would love to win a copy of this devotional book. I am so in need of a fresh perspective and a new outlook. For too long I have continued to stay trapped in the cycle of self- doubt, and for too long I’ve been relying on myself and other people to take that doubt away and fill me with confidence. I really feel like I would benefit from reading this book, and since we are on a tight budget with no room for extra spending, it would be a wonderful blessing and treat if I were to win a copy.
    Thank you Renee and P31 ministries for caring about women enough to share your struggles and your encouragement with us! So blessed by this ministry!

  415. merranda says:

    Wow, I could so relate. Especially the beginning story. I have had many days where I have struggled with that.

  416. Good stuff needed this today

  417. I loved today’s devotion. My daughter is dealing with a recent breakup and was having a bad evening last night. As the evening went on she seemed to be getting short with her 3 year old daughter and me. I pulled her aside and explained to her that I understand she’s going through a rough time but that she shouldn’t take it out on the people that love and care for her especially her daughter who is too small to comprehend whats going on but realizes that things have changed. I encourage her to open up to me any time she feels the need to talk. A little while later, she came into my room and apologized. It seemed that when she sat down and reflected on the evening she realized what happened and asked for forgiveness and patience. The holy spirits conviction was obvious. I know we could all benefit emotionally and spiritually from a copy of your book , please enter us in the drawing.

  418. Ana Baichu says:

    Thank you for today’s devotional. I sometimes do have moments when I feel guilty. I think maybe I wasn’t patient enough with my daughter or my husband. And I hate that nagging feeling that I did something horrible. But when we live by grace everything is a teaching moment from God. Please include me in the drawing for your devotional book. I do believe that it could help me not onlygrow my devotional time with God, but also grow to know God’s perfect purpose for not so perfect me! Thank you!

  419. After all that God has bought me through, I still have fear of not being able to handle some things with His help & I would truly appreciate prayer & direction on having a more intimate relationship with Hin

  420. What a great lesson for me today. I’ve often stood in my kitchen & not reflected the light of Christ to my children, then consequentially burdened myself with shame.
    God, help me to rise up and be the woman of peace you’ve made me to be.

  421. Susan Weatherford says:

    I still have trouble putting my faith in God. But I know that if I trust Him, He will help ease all fear that I have.

  422. Ana Baichu says:

    Thank you for today’s devotional. I sometimes do have moments when I feel guilty. I think maybe I wasn’t patient enough with my daughter or my husband. And I hate that nagging feeling that I did something horrible. But when we live by grace everything is a teaching moment from God. Please include me in the drawing for your devotional book. I do believe that it could help me not onlygrow my devotional time with God, but also grow to know God’s perfect purpose for not so perfect me! Thank you! and God Bless!

  423. My lack of confidence and self doubt continue to plague me… although I know that God loves me and His Grace takes care of my downfalls. Thank you for your insight!

  424. I read the Proverbs 31 today, which led me to your blog. Both were things I needed to hear today. Our son and 5-year old grandson have been living with us for the past 4 1/2 years which has presented many challenges for me and my husband in many different ways. This morning was an especially difficult situation, and part of me wanted to say what I felt and in a manner that would have destroyed fragile feelings. I had prayed about the situation since about 4am, and although the outcome wasn’t as I had hoped at the time, I felt better about the way I handled the issue. I have definitely been in the ‘guilt’ frame of mind many times and hope that I continue to seek God’s grace and guidance first, because it will be through Him that things will rise and become better. Thank you for sharing your experience, it will help me in the future to remember to let God use me to His glory.

  425. Esther M. Moore says:

    I truly am blessed by your devotionals online. Thank you so much, and GOD’S Blessing on and through you always.


  426. Valerie L. says:

    Thank you so much for the devotional. I have been blessed to know that I am not the only one and have sisters in Christ who have my feelings. Thank you everyone for sharing and being a blessing to me. The devotional was great and I am trying to put it to work in my life.

  427. Guilt and doubt are two of the enemy’s favorite weapons against me. Thank you for sharing this!

  428. Elizabeth Messer says:

    Thank you so much for sharing Renee! I often feel I am not up to the tasks that God has put before me. Thank you for making me feel that I am not alone in this 🙂 Elizabeth M

  429. Satan condemns accusingly, to make us feel guilty. God convicts lovingly, to lead our hearts to repentance. Love, Love, Love this!! Thank you for the reminder and for sharing your own struggles it is an encouragement to all Moms!

  430. Thanks for sharing. Such a good reminder.

  431. So good to be reminded of difference between conviction & condemnation.

  432. Cynthia Bailey says:

    This devotion was right on time for me today! Thank you so much for just being transparent and allowing God to speak through you. I realize it isn’t easy to share ourselves. I have been struggling with God calling me to lead. To just step up and be obedient. The main struggle is just what you have written here. I am not perfect and have areas that I need to allow God to give me complete freedom from. However, I know He wants to use me and not let those failures continue to be failures but stepping stones. Victories to use for others’. Thank you again. A much needed word!

  433. Thanks for all the uplifting and real thoughts!
    God is so good!!

  434. Great lesson and makes total sense. The Lord puts it on our hearts to right the wrongs, not judge ourselves or others for our wrongs. Need to remember this lesson daily!

  435. It is easy to allow satan to bring us down and make us feel guilty and defeated. That is his plan, because when we feel defeated we surrender and defer from God’s plan. But inthe Lord’s great mercy He reminds us that is we fall, He picks us up. Thanks for sharing your encouraging message and reminding us we are in this struggle together.

  436. Teresa Ligon says:

    I often have mommy guilt and doubt. Thanks for this reminder!

  437. Kristin Perez says:

    Thank you for your devotion it spoke volumes to me today. if I am honest. I listen more to the accuser & his condemnation.I buy the lie because of lack of intimacy there is something wrong with me.I struggle with co dependency,co sex addiction,social anxiety & self hatred..I struggle with clearly hearing the voice of God. & doubt myself & what God is doing in my life & marriage daily..Thank you for your reminder of how God speaks.

  438. I lack confidence in most areas of my life. I am a peace maker! I try to sooth everyone else’s problems and not focus on my own. I am probably contributing to their problems more than helping by trying to “fix it”. I was able to gain some confidence in Oct when I asked my husband to leave after 20 years of him abusing alcohol and drugs. Now I see that he wasn’t the only problem, it was I as well. My kids have suffered greatly from the disease. I need to gain control of my household. I ask for God’s strength and Confidence to set boundaries and rules and routines so there isn’t so much chaosis. My husband is doing much better working the 12 step program at AA. I too am in a program, but it is so hard to break bad habits. Thank you for listening…..I am not even sure what point I am trying to make. Thank you God for always loving and forgiving me daily! Anna

  439. Lynnette B says:

    Needed this today! I know I am harder on my mothering abilities than others are. A good reminder.

  440. Thank you so much for your devotion and sharing your moments! “For the word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword…and is a discerned of the thoughts and intents of the heart” (Heb. 4:12). When we study the Bible, it requires that we have a personal relationship with the Author. When I have come apart moments like you have described, and I open my devotions to find the message you had to share today, I come face to face with God showing me what I need to hear at just the right time!! His timing!! To be confronted with Gods prerecord end answers in the Bible is to be confronted with God Himself!!!WOW!! I would love to win a copy of your daily devotion book!!

  441. Renee Primer says:

    Thanks for sharing! VERY helpful!

  442. Sara Killian says:

    All my life I have struggled with what you have written. I want to get past this feeling of guilt. Thank you for describing the difference between what Satan wants me to hear and the grace that God wants me to receive. May God continue to keep growing you just as He keeps growing me.

  443. Rhonda Wagner says:

    What a wonderful reminder of God’s grace and mercy. Thank you for reminding me that I can confidently approach God and he will gladly replace my guilt with his grace. Always.

  444. I will remember this next time Satan tries to trip me up..Thank you for this awesome devotional.

  445. Sharon Miller says:

    REALLY struggling with my ill husband and the issues that has created. I am weary and am struggling to find the words to pray. Asking God to give me strength and wisdom. Would love to hear His words through yours. Thank you.

  446. Loved your Encouragement for Today devotion. It’s so much better to know that you are human! I have read devotions and books before by authors who make you feel that they are perfect and while of course I know that no one is, when an author shares their less than stellar moments, a connection is made with the reader (as opposed to the reader feeling that they can never measure up).
    Love the condemnation vs conviction post as well.. Sometimes the condemnation comes from others spoken in anger and we need to turn to God to see if there is a grain of truth (conviction) in the words spoken but not to internalize the condemnation. Thank you!

  447. Leslie Hudson says:

    Thank you for the wonderful encouragement and reminder that we have a great inheritance in our Lord. May we all know today that we have great confidence and strength as we walk along with God each day.

  448. Thank you for sharing what the Lord taught you about condemnation and conviction. It is good to know we can relate and are not alone, we are all daughters of the King and His grace is sufficient for all of us.
    Bless you, Renee

  449. Loved the devotion. Look forward to being lifted daily by your book.

  450. Margaret says:

    I am always guilty! Guilty that I am not super woman and can’t be everywhere and do everything. Somedays the more I try the more I fail. I allow the condemnation to take hold and then I become the monster I don’t want to be. Thank you for your encouragement! It is amazing how knowing we are all not perfect helps!

  451. This devotional could not come at a better time. I switched jobs about 8 months ago and feel that I do nothing right. This morning I decided maybe the problem is me and I am not perfect. I started to look for a new job. Nothing grabs me and I know this is where GOD put me, but at the same time I feel that he has made a grievous mistake and I should not be here, or have any employment as I am not good enough.
    Thank you,

  452. I’m looking to connect daily…and find peace consistently.
    Especially challenging at times with a three year old and 10 month old twins.

  453. Amy Turner says:

    What a great message! I needed to read that today. 😉

  454. Oh thank God for His grace! Nothing quite convicts like my kids. In a not-so-glorious moment this morning, I completely freaked out when my 8 year old had a spot of chocolate from his granola bar on his shirt and with the bus pulling up, no time to change. I told him that other people will think his mom doesn’t care anything about him when he goes to school with stains on his shirt. He actually apologized while walking out. (Jesus forgive me for my mommy fail moments!) I sat in my car about to rush off to work in a huff and thought, how can I teach my son that Jesus only cares about what’s in our heart, not our outward appearance when I’m freaking out about a spot! Oh, Jesus, pour your grace on me. I wanted to somehow chase the bus down and pull him off so we could talk about this and get it resolved. How it doesn’t matter one bit what others think about what we wear. God is so pleased with my Braden’s inside heart, and so am I. A little spot on a t-shirt means nothing. I can’t wait to see him this afternoon. We have something to get straight before anything else is done. Thanks for sharing, Renee!

  455. Oh my goodness…I could have written today’s excerpt. Thank you for your wonderful transparency and God’s grace which covers all our “Dad said you would be mad…” experiences! Thank you, Jesus, you love us and care for us and forgive us no matter what!! I am worthy in the eyes of my Beloved!!

  456. Very encouraging and uplifting. Excellent message. Thank you!

  457. Thank you so much for your encouragement! I feel as though I have those days quite often, and I wonder how can God use me when I mess up. We all need that confidence to do what God has called us to do! Thanks again!

  458. Dora Moreno says:

    Thank you for the encouragement.

  459. Arlene Fukai says:

    I was reading one of the Proverbs 31 Devotional books and I really related to your entries. Your honesty about yourself and your marriage was refreshing for me to read. Thank you.

  460. Lesley Perrien says:

    Thank you so much. This devotional is just what I needed today.

  461. Wow! I really needed this today. The Grace that I’ve been shown has not exactly been flowing from my lips and life lately. Subsequently, the guilt sets in and Satan has been hitting me hard…to the point of damaging relationships. Thank you for the reminder that God takes my face in His hands and lovingly convicts me of the things I need to change….through Him and only because of Him. I would LOVE to receive your devotional book. Thank you for your ministry and encouragement!

  462. Hannah Paulk says:

    Even when we fail by our standards His grace is always there. Thanks for sharing.

  463. Tammy Dobson says:

    I would love to have A Confident Heart Devotional:):):)

  464. Cindy Rogers says:

    Ran upon this by faith today. Currently going through a battle – a battle that I don’t necessary want to battle but with God’s grace I will overcome this battle. Please enter me in today’s drawing for the Confident Heart Devotional Book – it will not set on a shelf – it will be used daily. Thanks again for your uplifting words of encouragement.

  465. Graciela S. says:

    I have been dealing this very issue–just this week! I am so THANKFUL to you for your timely message!!

    Bless YOU!

  466. Lori Anderson says:

    This really hit home with me today! It seems like every Sunday when my husband & I are getting ready
    for church, something little happens to set either one of us off. Then, we get in the car & argue all the way
    to church with nothing resolved.
    We walk into church & put on our game face like everything is right with the world, smiling & hugging people
    we know, still steaming mad at our spouse. The praise & worship starts & while you are singing, you feel
    the guilt rising up & you feel like such a hypocrite.
    You would think being Christians for so many years we would see a pattern here & pray the night before
    to avoid all of this guilt.

  467. Kimberly Semon says:

    Wow! Did I need this devotional today! I struggle with inadequacy and lack of confidence due to past failures and life circumstances! I know God desires for me to grow in this area. The devil wants me to think I am unworthy and tries to create such mind sets but, in Christ I have freedom from condemnation and I am being made whole! I appreciate your transparency in sharing! It reminds me that it is not just I that has these struggles but, they are real for many others. I could so relate to your real life scenario with your husband and kids. Been there done that. I would love to have a copy of your book!

  468. Mary Seelhammer says:

    This devotion was just what I needed this morning. My husband, mother in law and I are traveling from Minnesota to California, camping in our travel trailer. My mother in law has macular degeneration, glaucoma, and has hearing in only one ear (has a hearing aid for this ear). On this trip she has been diagnosed with shingles in her “good” ear, she had the shingles vaccine so is not experiencing pain (thank you Lord) but is unable to hear much at all unless it is repeated many times. Then she “may” understand. My husband also wears hearing aids. I am thankful to my Lord that I do not need hearing aids yet. So …. I am praying, and my friends and family also, for patience! Some days have been easier than others. Your devotion is just what I needed this morning. Thank you. My mother in law is living with us now and we do feel blessed to be able to have her with us and to be able to love on her and care for her; but at times it is difficult for all of us.

  469. Thank you so much! Your words are a blessing to myself and many others.

  470. Thank you! I needed this so badly. The devil stays in my head to remind me daily of all my failures past, present, and future. My soul is filled with self doubt until I read these encouraging words and than the Holy Spirit puts smile on my face and warms my heart and says….its ok to not be ok…. I’m here and you are forgiven. Hallelujah!

  471. I have been fighting with depression and anxiety for so many years. i continue to blame myself for so many tragic events that have occurred in my life. The most difficult one I find is the fact that I was sexually abused by an uncle between the ages of 4 – 13 yrs. of age. Somewhere in my mind, I can’t help but blame myself and think that i should have known better. Forgiving myself for this has been a long and continual process. I am in hopes that after reading your book, i will have a sense of a new direction and a more self-aware way of forgiving myself. This was not my fault. I was a young child. I am so desperately trying to learn how to forgive myself over this awful event in my life.

  472. This is just what I need right now in my life.

  473. Virginia Gore says:

    I love your daily emails. I struggle with trying to be a Godly woman only to fall short on a daily basis. The emails I receive let me know I am not alone in this struggle and that God is still working on me. Thanks

  474. This is so true. Thank you for sharing.

  475. So relate to the struggle in my though patterns that defeat me and many times almost cause me to stop leading, speaking, teaching and serving Him. Thank you for sharing this wisdom and insight and for also letting me know there is another Mom who loves God and is doing her best to serve Him amidst the craziness of life’s demands and often messes up too!


  477. needed to hear this message

  478. WOW – God really knows what we need, when we need it. Feeling like the world’s worst wife and mother these days, everything was hitting me at once this morning after I got to work. But then I read the message today and realized that even though my family has all these issues – I can still be a blessing to others but only by God’s grace. He never leaves me – just had to be reminded. Thanks & God Bless!

  479. Trudy Peters says:

    Thank you for the encouragement today! I have these moments daily when I feel like a failure as a mother. I know it is only by God’s grace that I pick up the pieces, ask for forgiveness and try again.

  480. Christine Potter says:

    Wow – I needed that this morning. The response from the women’s ministry director not only spoke to your heart it spoke to mine. As a leader, it can sometimes feel like we have to have it all together in order to lead other women. And boy or boy I am definitely do not have it all together. Thank you for the reminder that we need to be clinging to Him in order to reflect that back to those around us.

  481. Thank you for this devotional. It was what I really needed to hear. I thank you that God spoke to me through this. I have a ladies get together once a month and I wonder how I can do this when I fail so many times. I know that this IS what God wants me to do but Satan is always putting douts in my head. God is so good and He gives us just what we need to hear at just the right time.

  482. Helen Koepper says:

    Thank you for sharing your message. Guilt is ingrained in so many women but we just need to hold to God’s love to find our peace.

  483. Ashley Rodriguez says:

    While scrolling around on the p31 website, I clicked on your link to find this blog and a related recourse with it. No doubt God led me here to read this. Thank you for sharing this so openly and honestly. This will help me with my walk with God. If its meant to be I pray that I will receive this book. Thank you again for sharing Christ’s love with us women and to know that many of us face the same struggles. You’re a blessing!

  484. Thank You so much for sharing. I struggle so much with guilt & not having the right thoughts. It’s good to know that I’m not alone.

  485. Thank you. I needed this. God bless

  486. A friend & I are reading & studying through the book A Confident Heart together. Would love the devotional book as a companion to the work we are doing.

  487. For years I have struggled with the cartoon image of the devil on one shoulder and angel on the other whispering into my ear, my head turning back and forth in the volley of messages competing for my reactions and responses. It created doubt and shame, as if I were spanked. But since I have been reborn, and eager to learn the truths of God’s Word, seeking a relationship with Him, I am able to boldly and confidently knock that deceiver cartoon devil off my shoulder! And yes, there are times I am convicted and it feels as if I need to be put in a time out, but it is always lovingly followed with a hug and redirection. Thank you, Abba, and Renee for your messages on Proverbs 31 that are teaching me, and leading me into a Confident Heart.

  488. Michelle says:

    I am so thankful that God convicts lovingly. He truly wants what is BEST for each of us, and He disciplines those He loves. Thank you for your efforts – may God be glorified through them!

  489. Loretta says:

    Wow! loved this post, thank you for giving specific examples – I will be using this one often:
    Instead of You’re such a failure as a [wife, mom, daughter, friend], the Spirit might say, You were really critical the way you talked to _________ (your husband, child, parent, etc). You need to say you are sorry and ask for forgiveness. Then tell them something that will build them up instead of tearing them down.

  490. This message hit right at home with me this day. I had to sit back and reread some areas in this message. Shut my mouth, the Lord clearly said I’ll never leave you nor forsake you. Here is a message for you and you are not the only one. Thank You, Father! I’m getting better with this but still need more work. Forgiveness is so powerful and freeing.

    As I have read the previous messages, a song comes to my mind. Love Lifted Me. It is sung in a many of churches and God’s love continues to surrounds and lift us up. Thank you Lord and Renee for this message.

  491. Faith Atkinson says:

    So glad to know that I am not the only one who screams at my kids and then instantly feels guilty about it and like I am the world’s worst mom! I would love to win a copy of your book! I am always looking for new devotional book to help guide me through this crazy world we live in!

  492. Eugenia Cole says:

    My son and daughter went away for a Science program last weekend and their groups did really well in their presentation. I picked them up and they were exhausted but very happy about their experience. I noticed my daughter had a nice book bag from the program and my son didn’t. I asked him why he didn’t and he gave me a very nonchalant response “I didn’t take mine because I do not need it”. I was livid at this point and I yelled at him and called himself. If he didn’t need it, his younger siblings (twins) could certainly use and he didn’t seem to care or be bothered by me. I was driving and yelling at him and he turned to me and said “Get out of my face”. I was mad and enraged, I immediately developed a lot of anger and resentment towards, I am still having a hard time with this whole situation and I do need God to help me move past this anger, it is consuming me.

  493. Lisa Rettig says:

    It’s so nice to be reminded that we are all human and fail sometimes, even those we consider above it all.

  494. Elaine Segstro says:

    I loved reading your book “A Confident Heart” and reading your devotionals. They are SO real and contain such nuggets of truth and the good news of Christ. I struggle with doubt and my worthiness to do what God calls me to do.

  495. Thanks for sharing. It is nice to know that other people struggle with the same issues.

  496. Kayla Perkins says:


    Thank you for the post today! It really moved me to see that God still wants to use us in spite of our flaws…perhaps even because of our flaws. This shows the world that God can save and use anyone, at anytime, and that one person is no more qualified than the other to serve Him.

    Thank you for sharing your heart and experience! Sometimes we have slips, like the one that your child overheard you say to your husband. I commend and appreciate your honesty, as we all can relate to having said things we know we shouldn’t. You illuminated that we can go to God and ask forgiveness, and He’s ready to forgive us and get us back on track! He’s awesome!

    Thanks again,

    Kayla Perkins
    Baton Rouge, Louisiana

  497. I have the condemnation down pat! But operating out of “fear/anger” mindset afterward, doesn’t always lend itself to the lifestyle change required by conviction. I pray that I will operate from a mindset of conviction, not the fear and anger of condemnation.

  498. Jaimie Chapman says:

    Guilt and unworthiness plague me. Your post today spoke such life to me. My husband travels weeks, sometimes months at a time and I’m finding solo-parenting to be a huge struggle and I fail everyday. Letting the doubt, guilt, and unworthiness in only perpetuates the downward spiral. thank you for addressing this issue with honesty!!

  499. cassidy says:

    This hit me spot on! I pray I am able to make a change

  500. “APPROACH GOD’S THRONE OF GRACE WITH CONFIDENCE…” Feeling anything but. I know, I know, I know that God is merciful, I will not allow the Devil the upper hand. Sometimes, just slipping, so low.

  501. Heather says:

    I have experienced “Mommy guilt” lots of times! I love the grace I get from God, and I pray that I myself can share His grace with those around me.
    I LOVE your book, Renee, thank you so much for sharing your story with the world and giving us all hope!

  502. BRENDA WHETSELL says:

    I alway feel unworthy to be God’s messenger, I have the Confident Heart book and look forward to the devotional.

  503. Thank you for an uplifting and thought provoking lesson. God is so good all the time!

  504. Cathi Previe says:

    your message hit me like a ton of bircks! I have been allowing satan to run my thoughts as I scream at my 5 grandchildren (which I do a lot when they act out, which is all the time. Coming from a split home due to drugs, they all have special needs) I nended to hear the story about how your kids getting home made you feel worthless, because I let satan do the same thing to me! Next time, I will try to remember to go to Jesus for instruction and grace.

  505. Eileen Piasecki says:

    It’s amazing how God knows just what I need to hear on any given day. Thank you so much for your blog. Not feeling worthy has always been an issue for me and I’m over 70 years old. I am trying not to listen to the negative remarks I hear and just concentrate on the positive. That I am a child of God and that He isn’t finished with me yet.

  506. Susan Ford says:

    God had been working on my heart in this area lately and I definitely needed to read this today.

  507. Kristen Foley says:

    As I read the Prov 31 article today, this hit home big time. I was on my way to Bible Study this morning (running late, driving like a maniac, catching every red light on the way and grumbling under my breath at the grocery store while trying to get a pot of flowers for the table that I was supposed to set up for our monthly brunch), it occurred to me that I am not living like Jesus acting like this (on my way to “bless the ladies in my small group”.) What a joke I am and what growth I still need! But that is the point…we aren’t perfect, but God is and He loves us and can use us anyway. He can grow us IN that situation by revealing to us what we need work on and that He loves us regardless of our flaws and (outbursts) and He can use us as we are…to encourage others, to be “real” with one another so that we can relate to each other and work on our flaws (with His strength and grace). Praise God for His amazing grace and mercy!

  508. It’s always good to know that no matter how much we feel we “fail” in every day life, that God is always there to pick us up, dust us off, and keep us going.

  509. I used to be so bad at condemning myself and having very unworthy thoughts until I realized that people not only want to here my story but that I have provided hope to those who thought they were at there end. Now when I feel like a failure I give it up to Him and ask Him to provide me a way to help others with it and show His love. Blessings!

  510. It has been such a hard month…so much hurt, intentional…..that I am so upset, angry, crying out, tired of struggling for so long…thank you I was feeling like a dirty Christian …not called…and your message resonated with me…I need it….there are so few Christians who truly care….I am so tired of being ignored….thank you….

  511. Wow, I needed to hear that today and would love to learn more on this subject.

  512. Thank you from the bottom of my weary heart. Your words refreshed and calmed me today by reminding me of our Father’s love and grace. A reminder that was sorely needed!

  513. Karen Howe says:

    Renee, You make it so easy to understand conviction vs. condemnation! I am working to come before God confidently and boldly. Thank you for touching so many of us with your writing. And thank you for not being perfect, so that God can make perfect your, and His, message to us! 🙂

  514. Melissa B says:

    I read your Proverbs 31 devotional today while sitting in a doctors’ waiting room awaiting the prognosis of some tests…I had convinced myself that poor decisions I’d made for 2 years (though at the time I thought those were decisions that were best for my family but proved to be just opposite of what I should have done) were going to have negative consequences for the rest of my life because that’s what I deserved. But I read the verse in Hebrews 4:16 and it hit me between the eyes that God’s mercy could extend past my choices. And in my time of need, I received this morning at the doctors’ office, a huge answer to many prayers.

  515. Christy says:

    I am divorced, then i became a widow after an 8 year marriage, then i was abandoned by an abusive, manipulative, fraudulent man. After my divorce i was certain God forgives and that i could overcome the stigma attached to divorce and live a Godly life for my children. Now after all of that i feel like a failure and worry each and every day about my children. God has definately been real in my life, always there through every struggle. I have never lost my faith or doubted God and know i’m blessed that my children have seen that. However that nagging doubt, that feeling of failure of me being the wonderful mother, wife, daughter etc. is oh so near.

  516. Kathleen says:

    You are such a blessing!!! I have those moments way too often!!! It’s so reassuring to be reminded that our Father understands that we are gonna slip up sometimes. Would love to have your devotional!

  517. Ephesians 6:12-13. “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.”
    Satan wants us to fail and feel terrible about ourselves. Christ wants us to stand tall with him and defeat those whirlings of doubt which in turn lead to bad feelings that expose themselves to us throughout our day. The armour, I am learning, is Christ’s word and a relationship with him.

  518. I almost died 3 times in the past 2 years. I went from being on the worship team, leading the women’s ministry, starting a free health clinic, substitute teaching, being a wife & mommy of 4 to a sick mess for 3 years. I thought I was doing the right thing by not talking about how sick I was or what was going on with me. But I’ve realized that I wasn’t doing the right thing because I wasn’t speaking the good things of the Gospel over me. I was bearing in silence the illnesses instead of rejoicing out loud the healing. I am doing great now thanks to God’s grace. I look forward to everyday so that I can speak blessings & God’s love into people. My family suffered the most with my husband watching his wife wither away & my children not having a healthy mom to take care of them. Today I am focused on being that Proverbs 31 woman!

  519. This is so timely for me. I constantly find myself snapping at my husband and my kids and the wallowing in the guilt afterwards. It’s something I’m working on and the Lord is helping me.

    My favorite line: His grace is sufficient because His power is made perfect in our weakness.

  520. Tabitha says:

    This is so true and so applicable for me today! Self induced guilt and doubt can be our own worst enemy that Satan can use against us.
    We must remind ourselves that we are daughters of the King and He loves us despite our struggles.

  521. Needed these words today. Hit very close to home. Thank you.

  522. DaLania says:

    What a great message- I have felt like that more than once.

  523. Jeanine says:

    I needed this today! Thank you for sharing…

  524. I know I’m not perfect, but I continue to beat up on myself when I mess up and then realize that’s what God wants me to remember that I am human and I’m going to make mistakes.

  525. I am glad that God put in my path women that understand the frustration we tend to all have within ourselves. I have been tormenting myself over some major decisions and not taking that leap of faith, because instead of trusting God I am trying to trust myself and my judgement and that is not going to work, I need to work on letting go and letting God so it will ease up self condemnation.

  526. I enjoyed the devotional for today, and since my morning started off kind of ruff I need this to encourage myself in the word. We are not perfect and we don’t always have it together and just when you think you are in there and have everything in order then the unexpected happens. I am so glad that God extends grace to us and his mercies are new every morning. I give God the praise for all that he has done and is about to do for us the words says to fear not, for I am wiht you; be not dismayed for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10 He tells us that anxiety in a man heart weigts it down, but encouraging words makes it glad. Prov. 12:25 I thank God for and encourageing word from the Proverb 31 Encourgement for Today.

  527. Joanna M says:

    This was a great message. None of us are perfect. So thankful for God’s grace and mercy! Thank you for sharing!!

  528. I would really love this…I have such a hard time focusing and reading the word and these devotionals help to direct me to a good scripture and then eases me into reading the bible. Thanks!

  529. I would love to win a copy of your book.

  530. Starette says:

    Praise God for the manner in which He speaks to us, my chatterbox fills me with such negative upbraiding so that the Spirit must work overtime to turn me around to where God wants me to be.

    I am blessed to know that My God and Saviour loves me, died and rose for me and all.

    The battle is within (self doubt, pity, confusion) but therein lies the victory through the spirit, filling my time with Gods word, songs, books and through the communication and fellowship of my sisters in Christ.

    God is and I pray he continue to teach me that “that is enough! No fault is great enough to take away His Love. I need not be perfect because He is!

  531. Sandy M says:

    This blog brought tears to my eyes as I reflected on listening to the evil ones voice You are NOT worthy You could never do anything for God I came to the conclusion that God does love me and His voice is the one that whispers gently to me that I have faults and that’s okay as long as I am aware of them and willing to change them to become more Christ like I have allowed the enemy to paralyze me oh too long and I am ready for God to use me and I will battle satan Instead of being defeated I will be know that I am worthy of his great love Thank you for sharing this blog with us 🙂 !!

  532. Jeannette Ragan says:

    You do not know how much I needed to hear this message today. I have been so frustrated lately and reading this showed me that God can use me even when I do make mistakes. It is hard, but God can get me through it. Thank you.

  533. Yes, yes and yes.

  534. So very timely. I have been struggling with this. Feeling like a failure as a mother and also dealing with insecurities. Thank you so much for this message! God is good! Would love to receive this book.

  535. I have so been there! It gives me peace knowing that you too still struggle with the same everyday frustrations of a mommy, wife, and then some. I know that I am ok even though I am a work in progress. (Even when the progress regresses or slows to a hault in moments of frustration.). The Lord is always there with a heaping helping of grace and forgiveness when I need it. Thank you for your honesty.

  536. Tiffany says:

    I am excited to read this!!! I have ALWAYS struggled with guilt of poor choices I made in my past and unfortunately some in my present!!!

  537. Sherree says:

    Oh my! I’ve been there and done that. Friends and acquaintances sometimes think I’ve got it all together and am living the smooth Christ-Follower life. In reality, I’m living a life destined to be heavenly and trying staying in God’s shadow along the way but find myself saying, doing, or thinking something wrong everyday. I am grateful that I can ask for forgiveness, find grace and be an example of a woman who keeps trying.

  538. Gosh I needed this!

  539. Mela Lopez says:

    I love what you shared about grace and mercy when it comes to self-doubt. Thanks for being so open and genuine! Blessings!

  540. Lyne lorens says:

    Thank you Renee for sharing. I can so relate to what you have experienced. I have just come back from Tahiti to speak at two women’s retreats, and I must admit that a couple of times those thoughts came to my mind. But as you say we serve a loving wonderful and merciful God. The moment we come to Him humbly He is faithful and just to cleanse and forgive us of all our unrighteousness. Thank you for your encouraging words. I would love to receive you book, I will try my chances at winning it but if I do not, I will eventually buy it. May our great God continue to bless your ministry.

    Cheers for now

  541. It is a nice reminder to know that we don’t have to earn Gods love and He is the one that can “fix us” not ourselves. We just need to always go to God with our troubles. Praise God!

  542. I blew up at my son recently over a small and insignificant matter, but I was able to apologize pretty quickly. I am going through a recurrence of cancer and start chemo Friday. Thankfully, I have great faith in God and his care and provision for me, but I’m still human and will fall down. It’s good to connect with you all to share the stuggles and victories. God’s grace is sufficient.

  543. Every time I write a faith blog, or speak or share, I feel that nagging self-doubt of who are YOU? I will never feel good enough..I have to be conscious that its God’s goodness and not mine that take over, and despite my best attempt, can use whatever I do, good or disastrous to further His message.

  544. Miranda says:

    My thoughts are that grace is ever surprising me. In moments like this where I’m not the best mom I feel I should be, or the best wife, friend, bible-study-sister, etc…I realize that if grace wasn’t intended for EVERYONE, we’d all be magically “perfect” and extremely FAKE. I find it such a blessing that Guilt and Grace go together. And I know I’m walking more confidently to the throne with each step of my journey in the life because the faster that my heart feels the guilt, I know I’m getting stronger at realizing it and can accept the grace faster too. Whether I believe I deserve grace or not, in that moment, I know it’s readily there for me if I chose to admit the guilt, and extend grace outwards to others.

  545. Jessica says:

    Wow – thank you for this insight. I have struggled so many times with condemnation, and felt like I will never be good enough in many areas of my life. Thank you for the encouragement today!

  546. Theresa Seabrook says:

    God’s timing is PERFECT!! Thanks for sharing

  547. A confident heart, found in Jesus in me and flowing through his grace and our growth as me move closer to Him. Everyone struggles with self doubt, but if we remember that greater is He who is in me than he who is in the world, we know that our confidence rests in who God made us to be and in the power He gave us through the Holy Spirit!

  548. Mary James says:

    I feel so inadequate teaching sometimes…because of exactly what was in this devotional. It so spoke to my very core. I know God has heard my prayers. It was not by accident that I got to see this today. I desperately needed this today.

  549. I’m a little overwhelmed in a good yet heart-stretching way by your responses. Im so grateful Jesus knew and nudged my heart to share what He did – in my devotion and here in this post. And sweet friends, Im praying over each of your hearts and your words. I’ve been reading your comments and praying since 7:30 this morning when already over 150 of you had shared your thoughts and been so vulnerable and real with me and with each other…

    So grateful we have this space to share. To look at each other across the screen (in a virtual kind of way) and say: You.Are.Not.Alone.

    (we) are in this together, with each other and with our sweet Father who moved Heaven and earth to set us free from the chains of guilt. Through the lavish gift of His grace – in Christ -and then through His continual outpouring of LOVE through His spirit.

    Honestly, I knew I struggled with this, but didn’t realize how much we (all) struggle with guilt. Thank you for taking time today to say ~ me too.

  550. I was truly blessed by your today’s devotion.

  551. Kristi Aleman says:

    Thanks to my friend Sonia for sharing this today. Truly what I needed to read and hear today! I have beating myself up so much lately with guilt induced doubt, this is exactly what I needed today! Thanks so much!

  552. I just love your book! I have taken notes & re read it several times. Thank you for your honesty & vulnerability to let The Lord use you.

    Kerrie, Clovis, CA

    • Your note was an encouragement to me. When I wrote “A Confident Heart” I prayed that women would read it again and again and keep it close by to remember every truth He had me put in it because I know how much my heart needs to know those promises again and again.

  553. Melinda Hall says:

    Todays devotion helped remind me that I continually need to stay in His word and know that He loves me unconditionally. He has been leading me to work in the children’s ministry. As much as I come up with excuses He reminds me that He will lead me.
    Thank you for your continued perseverance in helping all of us women stay on track with God and all of your encouragement! 🙂 Have a blessed day!

  554. Thanks! I must not be so critical when facing an issue. I need to seek confidence and I must speak His truth with compassion without offending. Lord help me!

  555. Heather S says:

    Today was a “worst mama ever” moment for me! I kept thinking how I was such a failure as a mom. Your timely devotion was just what I needed. I may have to print it out and keep it handy for future “worst mama” days! Thank you so much!

  556. I have so often felt that I am not worthy to be a “leader”. It is like the devil has camped out on my shoulder and is constantly whispering in my ear statements of condemnation. These statements are echoed by my children when they don’t like my answer and my students don’t seem to know how to do anything but condemn my efforts to help them. After all this, I tend to jump on the same bandwagon and tell myself that I have fallen short. I am desperately in need of God’s compassionate love. As I learn to turn my thoughts toward who God says I am, I can hear his grace-filled words and I don’t feel like such a failure! Thank you for sharing your heart.

  557. I have been the bad Mother, Wife and Friend. Your blog tells me to regroup, apologize and try to do better. I know God will be with me every step of the way. I need to count on his strength. I need to make more room for God in my heart. I can’t change without God’s help. I welcome God into my heart and my life today, tomorrow and always. Thank you God for being there with me.

    I have heard this saying “May God wrap his arm around my shoulder, and put his hand over my mouth.” I need God’s strength to control my anger and the words that fly out of my mouth. I need to stop and think before I open my mouth. I have hurt to many loved ones by not stopping and thinking before I speak. God is helping me with this personal challenge. Thanks Be to God!

  558. Wow, I really needed this today !!! I also just started a study of Hebrews today,

  559. Barbara says:

    Well, it felt comforting to know i am not the only one who goes throught this, i thank you to being honest, so as well i know there are others going throught the same way, at times it is hard to come out being foward on it , for the reason of being judged on, however it motivated me in to do as GOD says to be and to take action too, that its ok, just repeat ask for forgiveness to him and not to hold back on what GOD was for you , us. GOD BLESS YOU AND THE MINISTRY, its a true blessing for me. 🙂

  560. Thanks! To have never met you, it sounds like you know me pretty well!! LOL I totally identify with todays blog. I really appreciate the explanation of condemnation and conviction. Again, Thanks!

  561. Jamie Troyer says:

    Thank you for your open honesty.

  562. Christy says:

    I truly enjoy that you Gods Grace is so forgiving and uses us everyday, normal, average people to preach his word. Thanks for the encouragement.

  563. Sandi Perez says:

    Your devotional was perfect today! The devil struggles with us daily and I love your explanation of conviction. I would love to win the Confident Heart Devotional to share with my daughters and then friends. I believe it is so important to not keep what we learn to ourselves but to share with others and since I might not be so eloquent with words, I would love to share your experiences with them. God bless you as you continue testifying and encouraging women!

  564. Dawn Witt says:

    I loved the message in your blog today. I recently became familiar with this topic in our “Made to Crave” Online Bible Study. I believe it is so important to look for the positive message rather than labeling ourselves with satan’s lies. Finding ways to amend or apologize for wrongs done to others is far more beneficial to us emotionally and spiritually than labeling ourselves. Thank you for bringing specific examples of this practice to us.

    May God bless you and your work.

  565. Rosemary says:

    I’ve been a Christian for many years but still struggle with self-doubt and condemnation, to the point that at times I think no one can love me and that I’m the worst mother, wife and friend around. I know these are lies from the devil but the power these doubts hold is sometimes so strong. I so appreciate your honesty and vulnerablility in sharing from the heart, Renee. God bless you.

  566. Amanda Evans says:

    This was just what I needed to hear today! Thank you for all that you do!

  567. There’s always the noise, talk running in the back of my head…… You’re so selfish, you’re not smart enough to even be part of this conversation….how do you think you could even measure up to that? So thank you for this devotional today, and maybe this book can help calm the deception that Satan uses to convince me, us that we are use than.

  568. What a great post! Thank you for being so honest. I have often stepped up right alongside the enemy and helped him condemn me for mistakes I’ve made. It has been a struggle, but one well-worth it, to start walking in the truth of who I am to God and asking Him to answer the door when Satan comes a-knockin’. Conviction by the One who loves and treasures strengthens my character and my faith and gives me a peace about myself that I’ve often lacked. Thank you for so clearly explaining the difference between condemnation and conviction. What an eye-opener that will be for so many – self included.

    • Me too: “I have often stepped up right alongside the enemy and helped him condemn me for mistakes I’ve made.” ~ Let’s quit that ok? He doesn’t need our help. Jesus has so much goodness for us. If only we believe.

  569. Una Ireland says:

    I’ve been reading alot about grace lately and how it’s not about me but about God. Today’s post is another reminder of that.

  570. Thank you for your devotional. Nice to know I am not the only cracked pot that God is mending on a daily basis!

    • We’re all cracked pots. Butt that is how his LIGHT shines through and His Living Water spills on others through our lives. The cracks tell the world that the best we have to offer is only what HE has put in us.

  571. Jennie Macy says:

    Thank you for your thoughts and devotional. This is something I definitely struggle with.

  572. I felt quenched when I know the thing I am struggling with and I finished the support class in church. I am looking for a devotional when the relationship that my long marriage have been struggling. I need to find myself in God arms daily, asking him to replace my guilt-induced doubt mind with his grace, and fill me with confidence. Thank you for your testimony. It has strengthen me.

  573. Joycelyn says:

    Hi Renee,
    I appreciate the way you define the difference between condemnation and conviction. It helps me to know when it is my words, Satan’s words, or God’s words being spoken to me. Today I was looking for a reason to get out of the house. I had promised not to do any unnecessary spending. Then an idea popped in my head to go to the Christian bookstore and “just look around”. YEA RIGHT! I knew that if I went that I would be tempted to buy something. So I removed that thought from my head knowing this was not of God. Scripture says that Satan can appear as an angel of light to deceive us. Granted, going to the bookstore is not wrong, but spending what I don’t have is. I thanked God for giving me the discernment to know the difference.

    Keep doing what you’re doing Renee. May God continue to bless you and pour out His favor upon you.

  574. Thank you Renee,

    God is Great. What a gift you have.

  575. Chasity Spotts says:

    This was truly inspirational, i saw myself in this reading and areas of my life where I can do better as I am working on becoming a better Proverbs 31 Woman and things I can share to help others. Thank you and God bless

  576. That is so me..I fail so much and get so mad at myself when I act so ugly. I wanted to ask you how do you get pass this stage of walking with God, I have been walking with Him since 1987, I blow it so much. Then cry out to God to help me and forgive me for my ugliness. But guilt and regret seems to plague me. I know the feeling of not good enough but God didn’t call us to be good enough, only Jesus is good! We are called to be obedient, to love others, to walk humbly with God, daily thank you for listening

  577. Zel Jones says:

    No more doubt!!! No more guilt! AMEN!

  578. Cindy Wilson says:

    Thank you for the post! God’s timing is always perfect and He knew I needed to see this today. Many blessings to you!!

  579. I am grateful for the story shared today. I am a youth director for one of our state conventions. I am constantly trying to stay qualified for the work at hand. When I fall short, I often do wonder if I should step down. I know we are not perfect, but as a leader I should have a stronger handle on things. I am grateful for this testimony for it has become mine too. God Bless.

  580. Thank you for your comforting words, Renee. So many times when I re-read A Confident Heart (going on my 4th time) I feel as if you are following me around and spying on me!!! I can relate to so much from your book and I often carry it in my purse to re-read sections when I’m waiting at the dr or in line at the drive thru pharmacy:-) Thank you for using the talent of writing that God has blessed you with. He is working through you in so many ways.

    • I love that Shelly. I love that we get to spend that much time together, even in the drive thru 🙂 Thank you for your words of encouragement. They are a gift to me too.

  581. Thank you so much for your devotional! I find myself being ridding with guilt-induced doubt more often than I care to admit. I often become overwhelmed with negative thoughts, such as: I’m a terrible mom, wife, etc. We all need to be reminded that we are not perfect and God loves us still. I believe that it is these difficult moments that make my relationship with God stronger and help me to be the mom, wife, friend, and Christian that he wants me to be.

  582. I have been in a certain trial for almost 8 months. I find myself going to God in prayer trying to figure out what I’m doing wrong that He has not released me from this trial. I know better and I know it is the voice of the enemy telling me to pick every situation apart to see what I’ve done wrong and then repent. This ritual is tiring. I had just got off my knees in a frustrated prayer to God when I turned on the computer and read your post. I feel the release to let self accusation go and to stop allowing the enemy to accuse me. Thank you for sharing. Many blessing to you!

  583. Maryann says:

    Struggling with some nagging doubt today and your message is helping me realize what I need to do to turn it around. Thanks for your support!

  584. Loretta Pearson says:

    I LOVE your devotional book! I have it on Kindle and it blesses my mornings! Thanks for writing it!

  585. Tracey M. says:

    This post hits too close to home. I really need to replace my guilt-induced doubt with His grace-infused confidence. I am going through a very stressful timer period right now. I find myself saying things I know are not what a “perfect” mom would say. I always ask for forgiveness. Lately, I feel like a failure. I could definitely use more confidence and need to trust the Lord more. I would love to be entered into the drawing – I know that I would benefit from reading your words and the scripture references you make. Thank you!

  586. Thanks so much for this truth! We ‘know’ the enemy is the accuser yet we keep ‘listening’ to critical, harsh words whispered in our ears. So thankful for Christ’s redemption & the way He speaks to us, encouraging us to watch His example & learn from Him. I’d love to have the devo – thanks for the offer!

  587. Heather B says:

    Thank you for the reassurance I need that, even on my “worst” days, I still qualify for God’s grace and His unconditional love. In fact, it’s on those days that He most longs for me to come near and ask for His help.

  588. Tari Butler says:

    You NAILED it! Again! This is so me…. I was asked to lead a Tuesday am Bible study…within 24 hours I reacted this same way to my husband and thought I had NO business leading this study if I acted like this! Your book has helped sooooo much. Have read it twice and have vowed to read it at least once a year! I began the devotional yesterday! I have sooooo many ladies in mind who would benefit from this devotional as a starting point! Thanks for sharing all your trials and lessons of faith!

  589. I battle with feelings of inadequacy. My failures cause me to doubt myself and yet, truth be known, when I share my doubts with other women they tell me it makes them trust me. As a leader in women’s ministries that is such a wonderful gift. Thank you for giving me confirmation today. Thank you for giving me a verse that I can hide in my heart at times of need!

  590. Yep, that’s me! I forget God’s mercy quite often and live in Guilt for awhile, even for a few days, then God knocks and sets my thinking right!

  591. doubt, worry, fear, anxiety and feelings of never being good enough overwhelm my mind and heart daily but I’m learning to take baby steps by repeating God’s promises and attempting to look at myself like God sees me…. A daughter of the king!! Thank you Renee for pouring your heart out but also for being open enough to share it with other ladies so we don’t feel so alone. God is good and He can take the broke and make them beautiful.

  592. Raechel Mabry says:

    Such great words. Encouraging

  593. Leading the Confident Heart Book Study for the 3rd time.
    After three times you would think I should have it altogether.
    Nope something else seems to rear it’s ugly head.
    Praise God His mercies are new every morning, Great is His faithfulness.

    Thank you Renee.

  594. Cecelia Ford says:

    Fear and Doubt is present in my life as I go through the toughest storms of my life ,but Ever day God is teaching me to trust him for the day and not worry about what is to come or the future but just day by day

  595. Cyndi Keith says:

    My husband and I were just discussing the other evening about my “guilt “. He says if I have guilt than I don’t truly believe that Jesus Christ died on the Cross for my sins. I know that worry is a sin but I don’t think of guilt as a sin. My problem too is that things can be running smoothly and then one thing can set me off and then I get mad, and not always so kind and then feel guilty and even if I apologize I cannot forgive myself so how can God forgive me. Which I is where my husband says, God has already forgiven you, so you need to forgive yourself. Help!! I try, I pray, I read the bible but I just can’t seem to forgive Me.

  596. It’s so easy to accept the condemnation and think it’s from God as a reminder to not act that way again. But while His Spirit convicts us to repent and ask forgiveness, God’s grace and mercy covers us and is something we could never earn or lose.

  597. diana eckler says:

    I like your style of writing. It is a great encouragement to read your emails.

  598. Deb Cary says:

    Thank you for the explanation and I thought it would be a great lesson for our ladies group to share in a devo. It was excellent for me to hear and good to pass along to my daughters when they tend to be critical of themselves. Deb Cary

  599. Loria Corder says:

    I was so encouraged today, because some of the same things cross my mind. Actually I can be at peace one moment with God and then things just go really crazy, usually this happens when I’ve been in prayer before going to work, then the moment I get to work all kinds of situations and attitudes come my way. Glory to God I recognize that I was doing the right thing by praying before going to work.

  600. Very happy to hear the negative thoughts in my head are not the Holy Spirit!

  601. Felicia Tindal says:

    This really spoke to my heart today. Thank you for sharing! Guilt is such a strong and powerful word, yet it can bring along so much hurt as well. There see times throughout my day that guilt just overcomes me. Your words are an inspiration. Thank you!

  602. Renee, your blog today spoke directly to my heart. I am in an emotional war of do I stay or do I go in my marriage and in a physical battle of an eating disorder. The feelings of guilt and feeling unloved become more than one can deal with day after day. Your encouragement gives me hope bringing Gods promises to light. Thank you. Marti

  603. Thank you for the words of encouragement. I fall for the condemnation/guilt/self-doubt combo all the time, especially as a single mother who feels responsible for everything. I plan to pray about things and listen more closely for what truly comes from the Lord!

  604. Guilt, for everything big and small, has plagued me for so long. Thanks for the comparison to how the enemy would say it and how God would speak to us about it.
    I missed the opportunity to download your e copy of A Confident Heart,. Please think about doing it again.
    Thanks for sharing your words so openly with us.

  605. I really enjoyed reading your devotional. Thank you.

  606. Cynthia says:

    I find myself listening to the condemnation and thanks to this devotional I can see gods truth through the lies. I’m learning to Listen to god and pay more attention. Thanks for this it was just what I needed to hear.

  607. Thank you for sharing the difference between what the enemy tells us and how the Holy Spirit would speak it . That helps me a lot ,I have been dealing with guilt and shame almost my whole life ,but I am a work in progress 😉

  608. vicki m says:

    in your email today I felt it was for me. I have such a problem with this, and the enemy knows it but ill keep trying to build down and not be torn down doing my best

  609. Guilt, that feels like my middle name. Condemnation seems to follow me everyday. My husband of 30 years left me 2 years ago and I still struggle everyday. What did I do wrong? I pray, plead everyday for help to get past the pain. I need the holy spirit to keep reminding me that I am worthy. I m reading one thousand gifts, by Ann Voskamp and am trying to find the joy in each day. I feel your book might help me move to another step. thankyou for your consideration.Please keep writing.

  610. Thank you for your devotion. It was an awesome reminder of how He forgives. I was also able to share it with my 15 year old daughter!

  611. Wow, your words really spoke to me today. I strive to use kinder words but I don’t always succeed and am so grateful that God continues to love me and show me a better way to deal with upsets. thank you for your ministry.

  612. Thanks so much for sharing this. There are so many times I deal with trying to decipher condemnation and conviction. You made it so clear and easy to understand. I am very thankful for your posts. Thanks for your obedience in being transparent to speak to the lives of so many. I am blessed by your posts.

  613. annelise says:

    The comparisons between conviction and condemnation provide an example for me to filter my words too so that I do not give place to the evil one by refraining the lies he has spoken to me that had erroneously believed.

  614. Thanks for sharing!

  615. Thanks for the message. This is something I struggle with as well and needed to hear.

  616. I was searching for a new devotional today while delving into the Bible for the first time in quite some time… I am thankful to have found your particular entry, as well as Proverbs 31 devotionals in general!!

  617. Renee, thanks so much for the encouragement you give us. I tend to condemn myself, allowing Satan to get a foothold. I am struggling to listen for the Holy Spirit’s conviction instead. I desire to serve Jesus however He guides me to do so.

  618. Chris Jones says:

    I have been blessed to be able to lead a group of young women (they are my youngest daughter’s age) in Bible Study for 10 years now. Your story so resonated with me because I have felt those same feelings on more than a few occasions….only I never have had a mentor who told me that I need to push on BECAUSE I needed what I was teaching as much as those I was teaching needed to hear my story and the lesson. Thanks for putting it all in perspective!

  619. Thank you so much for following Gods calling on your life and allowing yourself to be fully transparent and used by Him!!! I loved what you shared today! I really struggle with not hitting these ridiculous expectations that I have set for myself. I often find myself freezing from doing anything. I think because Im afraid that I will fail and am not good enough. I wonder if I maybe I misunderstood Gods path for me. Your devotional really gave me a glimmer of hope. Thank you for sharing and showing me that an anxious heavy heart can become confident and whole. Thank you again for sharing from your heart!

  620. This is what I have been needing to hear. It gets really hard to not feel guilty when life gets into full swing.

  621. Jeannine says:

    I loved your book and went through the online study when it first came out. I loved your honesty, the whole theme really resonated with me. God obviously used that to start a new work in me, as it’s been followed up with bible studies through my church about not believing satan’s lies and cleaning out my thought closet. 🙂 Replacing lies with God’s truth is an ongoing process, but oh so worth it! I am so grateful to you and all of the bible study authors and leaders out there who put so much of themselves into women’s ministries.

  622. Miss Mary T says:

    Renée, my very first OBS was your A Confident Heart a year ago. I learned so much about myself and my relationship with God. I am sometimes left feeling doubtful and guilty for the same reason you spoke of in this post. Starting my day with a quiet time that refreshes my spirit and leads me into a day filled with God’s Love and Peace…only to be shattered by something that triggers an out of control response which then fills me with guilt and doubt. I loved being reminded once again about condemnation vs. conviction. I had downloaded the free eBook of your devotional but would love to have a copy to hold in my hands, to read during my quiet time. Thanks for this encouraging and inspirational post! God bless!

  623. Thank you for the healing words.

  624. Such an inspiring message. I definitely need to work on the confidence thing.

  625. What a wonderful reminder that my guilt and self doubt is not of God and by his grace I am set free. And thank you for sharing your personal experience with these same struggles.

  626. Thank you for such an inspiring message. Would absolutely love a copy of your book.

  627. Chris Kraemer says:

    God continues to use your blog and devotionals in so many ways to reach me right where I am. I serve in children’s ministry at my church and I have in the past served in our church’s M.O.P.S. group. At times I feel that I’m not qualified to serve in these ares because I find myself losing my patience and messing up a lot with my children. Looking back on my mothering, I have felt that I have blown it in a lot of areas and felt I wasn’t qualified to mentor to moms in M.O.P.S. so I stepped down. Thank you for helping me see that God can still use me and that there is no condemnation in Christ. May God continue to use us all despite are flaws and weaknesses and may we always remember this truth.

    God Bless!

  628. Yes, I’ve been there too. But if God doesn’t convict me, then why do I convict myself. As one pastor taught, without some guilt we would not necessarily be cognizant or appreciative of that which is good and right. Guilt tells me that I was wrong and need to correct myself. Long-term self-punishment, on the other hand, reveals someone who doesn’t believe that God is forgiving nor that man is redeemed by God’s grace.

  629. Charletta says:

    I am so encouraged when I read your down to earth honest happenings. What an encouragement and I feel a go girl.

  630. Nana Bon Plowe says:

    This word resonates with me, especially because this week I have felt so quilty about not following through with promises I made to The Lord regarding putting feet to my prayers and ‘getting out there’ …. visiting my unsaved friends and neighbours and sharing honestly with them about Jesus, instead of skirting around and around and just ‘being nice and kind and helpful’ but with no meat to the message. Thank you Lord for being specific with me, and I will NOT take on the guilt the enemy throws at me. I am completely undone by your love and your mercy and grace. And so thankful.

  631. There is such comfort in knowing that I am not the only mother, wife, woman who stumbles and falls sometimes. And your clarification of conviction vs. condemnation was extremely helpful. Thank you so much for answering Gods call to minister. You are a blessing and encouragement to many!

  632. I am a homeschool mom of two daughters one is now in her first yr of college she is now making decisions on her own and when she makes decisions I don’t agree with I feel I have failed as a mom. I am still homeschooling my second daughter and feel I am not living up to Gods expectations on teaching her. There are so many times I feel I am not good enough or I am not doing what God wants or how he wants me to do it. I so want to hear in eternity ” well done my good and faithful servant” and am afraid I won’t. Thanks for sharing your story and helping me see even if only for today that God’s grace is sufficient for each day.

  633. I love your devotional and would love a copy to give to a friend. You’ve been such a blessing to me. Thank you for following the Lord to minister to women like me.

  634. Karen Smith says:

    Wow! I needed to hear this today. Thank you!

  635. Lori Johnson says:

    Finally-an explanation between conviction and condemnation! And I know who is “The One” who brings conviction, and “the one” who brings condemnation, and I know which one I’m gonna listen to from now on!

  636. This is me all the time. I’m constantly giving in to doubt which is only hurting my walk with God. I must force myself to stop and remember that no matter what I do, He love me.

  637. I have battled self condemnation my whole life, and although made huge progress over the last couple of years, it loves to rear its ugly head and set me several steps back now and then. My deepest concern is to not influence my own children, but especially my daughters with this. I see them struggle with it and try fervently to denounce it in their lives and train them differently but it comes so natural and easy for us. I’m so grateful for this message that the constant battle I and (who knew so many) fight in their minds can be an area of victory in Christ, lived out to other women. Much thanks!!

  638. Courtney J says:

    Renee, thank you so much for reminding me that God can still use me in spite of my failures and shortcoming.

  639. I want a confident heart. This message really hit the mark. I am my own worst enemy sometimes. I doubt myself and my abilities. I am glad God uses me in my weakest moments.

  640. Alicyn Keller says:

    It was so refreshing reading your post and knowing that all of us make mistakes. We just need to be sorry for them and God takes care of the rest.

  641. Brandi Mendell says:

    Love this!!! Thank you for sharing!

  642. Annie Sutton says:

    Thank you for being so real. The explanation of the difference between condemnation and coviction , thank you. I wish I could afford to order a case of the devotionals to give away !

  643. Kristie Bash says:

    Boy, as a mom of a 2 & 4 year old I doubt myself multiple times a day. I could really use this book.

  644. Bertha Callahan says:

    Thank you!!!!!

  645. Confidence before his throne has been such a theme of my heart lately, something that I desire and pray grows in my life. It is so humbling how God reveals what is truly in our hearts through life’s bumps. We are all cherry until we get bumped in a tender spot and then the not so nice (Christ needing) us comes out. Thank you for your post, so authentic and refreshing to know we are all in this together.

  646. Lerato Molwana (Johannesburg) says:

    Thank you for sharing i wish to be counted in for the competition I need to be one of the winners

  647. So many times we do feel the guilt because of our actions. Why then, is it so difficult to go a apologize and ask for forgiveness. We (I) need to remember to trust God and not rely on Satan’s goals to make us feel guilt and down. As a Grandmother and Great-Grandmother, I feel my granddaughter could greatly benefit from this devotional. Please enter me in your drawing.

  648. Great message as I have felt that same way many times.

  649. C. Blyler says:

    I loved your devotional today. It really spoke to me.

  650. this is what I needed to hear! I have been struggling so much. I have been blessed by your words & looking forward to being able to read your book when I can afford it (hopefully sooner than later). blessings!!!!

  651. I’m finally getting in touch with the Holy Spirit in my life…..because….I didn’t always ask Him for help, guidance, assistance, direction, prodding, peace, insight, and knowledge. I didn’t remember to ask…..
    I went to Jesus and I prayed to God and I knew about the Spirit, but I didn’t know much about the Spirit… I didn’t go to Him. I do now…..what difference to feel His presence in me every day. A completeness…Beautiful.

  652. Colleen Ladd says:

    Thank you so much! “Condemnation thoughts verses conviction messages, that’s so good. I only pray that I can remember this important message. So very helpful when put into application.

  653. Suzanne says:

    Just what I needed to hear today. Said something hurtful to a friend and I needed to make it right. Afterward, there was no condemnation in Christ because I followed His word and humbled myself to make amends. Thank you for your ministry.

  654. I so need your thoughts today, been feeling down and out, self blame and lack of confidence , energy and conviction. But God has paid the price and through prayer today, I feel better. Just need to remind myself and every one else, that with God all things are possible. alone, well, you are alone

  655. Thank you for this devotion! I feel guilty most days; mainly just for my thoughts. I do find that now as soon as a bad thought enters my mind I am praying for God to forgive me and get rid of it.

  656. I REALLY needed this devotion today. I was not very “Godly” last week nor this weekend toward my husband and I see areas where I need to be the first to apologize and build him up instead of verbally tearing him down. Thank you for this necessary encouragement.

  657. Felicia Smith says:

    This really resonated with me. Thank you!

  658. This blog post really spoke to me. I try to control the hypocritical thoughts I give myself and the guilt and condemnation that goes with them. I know I am saved by grace and a new creation that needs to see and feel the Holy Spirit’s conviction when I do or act in a certain way. Love the examples given on how to know the difference between Satan’s condemnation and the Holy Spirit’s teaching conviction.

  659. I have struggled with guilt for years. After reading all the comments, I realize I’m not alone in this. I found your devotion on condemnation and conviction to be very uplifting. It was just what I needed to hear today. Thank you Renee for sharing your thoughts. I would love to win a copy of your book.

  660. Jessica says:

    This is exactly me. So many days I will lose my patience with my son & “blow up”. Immediately feeling guilty and ashamed. Doubting my abilities to be a good mother. I have experienced both the condemnation and conviction. I’m happy to say that more and more I’m hearing Jesus speak to me to immediately go give my son a hug, apologize for the way I reacted and calmly talk to him about what he did to make me angry (which I should have done the first time). Thank you for your words!

  661. Sonja Bailey says:

    Thank you for the realization that we are all human…It seems the older I get the less I feel confident ~ I know how to be , I have taught my daughters as they my grand children, but I just let doubt in, feel insecure in my abilities and let others take away my ability to be happy and confidenr… Life is full…good un happy beauty sadness and if we let God in it is full of peace, joy , and a love full of forgiveness…

  662. Brittany says:

    I really needed this post today. This is a perfect example of God’s grace and I really needed to hear it.

    Thank you.

  663. His grace i need it daily. Thank you for the post a much needed scripture to carry me through.

  664. Great post! I pray for God to hold my tongue and lift those up . His grace is sufficient for all.

  665. Christine says:

    His Grace is sufficiant for me. Thanks for your daily devotionals. God has truly worked through you and used you to spread his gospel to others. I am so glad that you listen to his sweet spirit and obey his commands to bless others. May God bless you ten fold.

  666. Thank you SO much for this loving reminder of God’s character. Even though my head knows that God does not condemn us, my heart needs lots of reminders.

  667. Thanks for explaining about the difference it makes when the Holy Spirit does His work
    to guide us in God’s ways.

  668. As a Christian who is most definitely a work in progress, I very much appreciate the gift of testimony.
    For most of my walk with Christ I have held on, with not a firm grasp in God’s word or in fellowship with others.
    Thank God for his loving grace and strong grip. He continues to bless me with the opportunity to grow through the honest sharing of others.
    At this time in my journey I realize I have a need, desire and responsibility to hold on tightly to my Heavenly
    Father. Through any and all self inflicted or man made obstacles along the way, he continues to amaze me. He faithfully leads me back to where the road begins and ends with him.
    In being able to read of others experiences in their own walk with Christ and how God’s word blesses them I am truly grateful.

  669. Virginia Webb says:

    love this today it really encouraged me as my 94 dad is staying with us and I feel at times I can NOT do this and am not very kind to him – thank you for encouraging my heart

  670. Peggy Henderson says:

    Thank you so much for this message!! What an amazing explanation between conviction and condemnation. I have struggled living in a guilt condeming world for over 40 years. It is my prayer that God will continue teaching me to from this destruction and focus on the TRUTH of his word.

    P.S. Please enter me to win the 60-Day Devotional.

  671. Nancy Getbehead says:

    These thoughts are ones that I need to hear over and over. I want so very much to make them a part of my self talk. I was bullied as a child and teen and I have so much negative self talk floating around in my head. I’m looking to turn my talk toward God so I can be free to listen to what He has to say!

  672. Patricia D says:

    I would love this devotional as I love your Book a confident Woman and the devotional would be Awesome to read and have.

  673. Just what I needed to read this morning. Now I know I am human! And not alone! Thank you.

  674. Thank you, for reminding us the we, despite trying to be Christ-like, are all too human in our judgments, assumptions and rash behavior common of busy parents and professionals, yet God forgives and loves us anyway; it is such a relief. I find myself lately praying for favor and blessing, yet at the same time questioning whether or not I live my life in a way that is deserving of the gifts I am asking for! There is so much self doubt within us, is it nice to be reminded that although we may doubt ourselves, God does not doubt us. He loves us and believes in us, and has a plan for us always. Thank you for reminding me today that although my prayers have not been answered, that they are not ignored or disregarded, and God has a plan for me, even if I don’t know it yet or see it coming to fruition.

  675. Gail Renfroe says:

    I recently went through a 12 step program for eating disorder. I discovered that being real with other people and letting them know who we really are and that we all need God in our lives is awesome and peaceful way to live. Knowing who we are in Christ and not letting what people think of us matter…it’s what God thinks!

  676. MARY DAVIS says:

    I know God led me to this today. Really needed the encouragement. Close family and friends struggling with terminal illnesses and the enemy is hard at work. God Bless you for sharing this.

  677. This was perfect timing! I’ve been struggling with this issue lately. I love how you shared that condemnations are general and conviction is specific! This will be very helpful! Thank you!

  678. Satan condemns accusingly, to make us feel guilty. God convicts lovingly, to lead our hearts to repentance.
    This leaped out at me, it’s so true. God is amazing and loves us so much. I had just gotten off the phone with our eldest son, who is working away from home and struggling with doubt, and satans condemnation…I called him back and I shared this with him…
    Renee I love your book, I’ve mentioned more than once that it is high lighted, written on with many colors, so much information, scriptures, encouragement. I use it as a reference to go back to. I have page 194 copied and hanging on my tack board by my computer (God’s names) I truly love El Sali, God of my strength. Guilt induced doubt can cripple your life, I know. I go back to page 72 “Hurt that robs us of hope”….hurts and a haunting shadow robbed me for so long, but as my walk with Proverbs 31 began/with all you beautiful ladies and my Savior, my life has changed tremendously. Your write in your book “When we let Jesus pour His healing power into our lives, His love flows into our pain and cleanses the wounds from our past.” What a true, true, true statement. I also loved your God says statements, I still go back to them…
    I love your book, and I shared this on FB….I must learn how to tweet ;o)
    Than You, Blessings Anna

  679. Debra K Yarbrough says:

    Your book a confidant heart was so inspiring and helped me walk through a really difficult time. I had lost all of my confidence after I found out my husband betrayal our entire marriage of 23 years. I had to make
    decisions to stay or leave. I choose to stay committed to my marriage. My husband asked for forgiveness and admitted he was sexually addicted. So we started a long hard journey through Celebrate Recover.
    I can now say he has learned to use II Cor 12:9-10 to help to overcome his urges to lust. This is the scripture I clung to in order not to be overcome by the flesh. It is not easy to walk through addiction with anyone. It truly takes forgiveness, grace, and searching yourself for areas where you were into the flesh.
    My husband and I both have seen so much flesh, so grateful for the grace to be set free. My journey is to
    build my confidence in the Lord not in my husband. Thank you for sharing I am praying God will provide
    a way to help me be able to afford this book of devotions.

  680. A great reminder. The enemy is a liar, and he will keep using the same old files if we let him. We need to learn his tactics so we can call him on the lies. God does not want us walking around defeated and condemned.

  681. Oh my… my mailbox gets so full, sometimes I don’t take the time to really stop…think and pray about a post that I have read….sometimes I skim over them…if I even have time to open them.
    With the events of this week (over 50 people in our church have been saved) a lot of talk has been about doubt, and when I saw the title of the post I was drawn to read it. I appreciate so much your explanation of the difference in condemnation & conviction.
    Last night the Lord allowed me to lead 3 people to the Lord….after the first one, I began to pray and thank God for allowing me the opportunity, yet a wave of self-doubt came over me….. and I began to think ” Lord I don’t understand why you would use me in such a way… I am so unworthy of your love. I am a sinner just as they are and, and…… then another came to me and wanted me to talk with them and pray with them. I have beat myself up for feeling like I am not worthy, because He chose me… I am HIS and yet I am struggling so. Satan is the one that is condemning me…. using me against myself. I have wavered back & forth today, between, I am so unworthy to God loves me so much. When I read this…. I thought THANK YOU LORD!!! I know this is not conviction this is condemnation – “There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. ” Romans 8:1 Oh, yes there is some conviction …. in that I need to remember that I am HIS and I need to walk in the spirit and allow HIM to fight this battle that I seem to be facing…… and realize that He chose me….He gave me an opportunity… He doesn’t need me…. but He uses me if I am obedient! Praise the Lord for leading me here….and thank you Renee for sharing this!!

  682. Janice Noto says:

    This is such a wonderful message. It is so easy to listen to the negative and ignore the positive.
    Thank you so much for this!

  683. Jill Kuiper says:

    As much as I try to be the perfect mother, wife, daughter, sister, friend, co-worker, etc. I fail. Instead of constantly being down on myself, I need to remember His grace is sufficient, His forgiveness is granted. Thanks for the reminder.

  684. I am so thankful for God’s mercy and goodness. I have lived many years with guilt and have condemned myself consistently. Your explanation was very meaningful to me and I will repeat it each time I begin to condemn myself from things today and many things in the past. I would love to be entered into your giveaway. I feel I really need to work hard on these issues and I’m sure your giveaway would lead me in the path I need to take.

  685. Learning the difference between condemanation and conviction was a real eye opener. It is so easy to fall into the guilt-induced trap the enemy sets but if we know the truth we can replace it with grace-infused confidence! Thanks so much for this!

  686. After reading this, my prayer is that God will help me to stop and think before I speak.

  687. GInger M. says:

    My friend recommended Proverbs 31, and it is changing my life. I so enjoy reading the daily devotionals, and I find that Lysa Terkeurst and your devotionals really find a way to my heart. Thank You so much!

  688. Awesome! We are not perfect. Oh when that devil tries to pull you in and u know it… Its like come on u know to do what is right and then we get emotional and blahhhhh. This was so true renee. Love your truth and the truth of god you share.

  689. Laurie G says:

    THIS is what I needed to hear tonight…

    “Satan condemns accusingly, to make us feel guilty. God convicts lovingly, to lead our hearts to repentance.”

    THANK YOU!!!

  690. If only I knew this at a younger age when I was raising children. I’m still learning and doing much better now but my daughter is 30 now and can’t seem to find forgiveness in her heart (she is not saved) for what I have done in the past. She and our granddaughter have lived with us for 15 months now and she has seen how different I am with Hadley (she is 2 1/2 now) but still won’t forgive me. A devotional reminding me I’m not alone would be very much appreciated.

  691. Adedeji Adetola says:

    I really like your devotions. it helps to keep me going

  692. Suzy adkins says:

    I needed this today.

  693. Your post was very timely for me today, exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you.

  694. April V says:

    I love this! Thank you for the chance to win!

  695. Katrina Somers says:

    Faith is the only thing that keeps me going on more days than I would like to admit. Proverbs 31 emails and books have really fed my hunger for scripture in ways that open new doors for me. Hearing how scripture is used in others’ lives helps me to apply it to my own in ways I had not thought of. Thank you for being willing to share your naked truths to help others. You and the other Proverbs 31 writers are truly angels.

  696. So many times I have let my tongue say things I should not say and hurt someone’s feelings I feel so guilty afterwards and don’t always have the opportunity to say I’m sorry. I struggle with this everyday. I am not a bad person but sometimes I feel I am the most horrible mother, sister, wife, friend and person overall. I know this is not God’s plan for me and fight myself daily to overcome this. I’ve learnt the hard way that the last thing you say to someone will the last thing you say to them. So I am trying to be a better person but the guilt I feel is so overwhelming I just don’t know if I will ever feel peace again. I had someone very close to me pass away and our last words to each other were not pleasant and I cannot apologize and tell them how sorry I am. I struggle daily to make sure the last words I speak to someone are pleasant and encouraging. They may very well be last words you say to them.

  697. Oh Renee, I love your timing because I blew it yesterday and I was feeling just like you. I love your book and would love to win your devotional too…

  698. I was thrilled with the article, No More Guilt-induced Doubt. I have been in church all my life and believe that God is real and the only way to true peace. However, I struggle with fact and feeling. Thanks for the insights in your words.
    Please enter me in the free devotional so I can continue to get encouragement.

  699. Just what I needed today!! Thank you! I would love to have your book! 😉 Have a blessed day everyone!

  700. I really needed this today. You put into words what I often experience when I too feel guilty about how I sometimes act. I serve on a team of women who lead a Bible study at our church. I also write encouraging devotionals on a blog. Instead of listening to the enemy tell me I am not worthy of doing these things, I will choose to accept the grace and love of my Lord and Savior!


  701. Hi Renee! Thank you so much for this post! The hardest thing in my life is this guilt I carry around for the bad things I have said to my children in my moments of weakness. They are so precious, and sometimes I say the wrong things. Your post has helped me to understand that I just need to be convicted to make the wrong right, and try to move on.

  702. Hi Renee! Thank you so much for the email! I carry guilt around for the bad things I have said to my children and my husband. Thank you for reminding me to make the wrong right. I have to pray daily for God to “guard” my mouth and tongue.

  703. Kristen says:

    It is often easy to feel like the failure, rather than letting the Spirit of God send conviction towards changing the wrong behavior. What an amazing truth that His grace is sufficient to change us, even our sin!

  704. Cathy Lentz says:

    I love this idea, I love your emails I get. The always inspire me and alot of times I send things to my friends. Thank you so much for all your heart felt time.

  705. I would love to read this cause I struggle with my self conscious ! I want to be strong but when it comes down to it I am scared I will say the wrong things! Thank you for this devo.

  706. Stephanie says:

    This is just what I need to read! I’d love to win it!

  707. I would so love to win this book. Having quite a time recently of not feeling good enough. So enjoyed your devotional today. Awesome! Thank you for your input into my life.

  708. Rebecca Lovie says:

    I just wanted to say Thank you and give you my personal testimony. The Lord is moving mountains in my life. I am a Veteran who is 80% disabled due to PTSD from MST. This has left me with anxiety, low self esteem, and a great amount of self doubt. Your writing has helped me so much and through this and God’s Grace I am proud to announce that today (the day I finished your book) I am conquering my fears and doubts. Today I will go to a meeting of local veterans organizations and share my idea of RISE.

    RISE will be a group that comes together to run or walk in formation while shouting out encouraging christian choruses and songs. This will promote a cheerful view of life and duty, which will combat depression and fill souls with Hope and Joy, shifting the focus from self doubt to seeking and believing in God to give them confidence.

    Your writing has led me to rely on the Lord, and listen to this idea that is almost constantly on my mind. I think I have finally found my purpose. So happy to see where this faith driven life will lead. Thank you again and God Bless

  709. Leonora says:

    Wow! what an awesome read to start my morning off. I’m always told that I’m too hard on myself and my children, even for the tiniest of things. I’m not new in my walk with Christ, but I always felt that I wasn’t where I
    needed to be” in my walk; that I wasn’t as strong in my relationship as others around me were, but the more I prayed for my confidence to be built up, for the Holy Spirit to lead me, I would get subtle reminders of what I needed to work on. In dealing with my children: I wanted to be a better mom, I wanted to speak life into