I’m Learning to Let.It.Go.

I don’t know about you, but I love to do things my way! I love to know what to expect and have life fall into place and meet my expectations.

I love feeling like things and circumstances are in control – or that I am. And honestly, in some circumstances I need to be in control, but then there are those times when I need to let it go and trust God with the outcome. 

My friend Karen Ehman is a self-professed recovering control-freak. I love that about her! She’s joining me today to talk about her new book, Let.It.Go. Karen is my oh-so amazing-friend and ministry teammate with Proverbs 31 Ministries. She’s also the wife of one very wonderful guy (he helped move furniture and a huge wall hanging at my house not too long ago}! She’s also the mom of 3 great kids, a national speaker and 4-time author. Here’s a little about her new book and how you can win a copy!

Karen’s book Let.It.Go. will empower you to:

  • Take control of your schedule yet welcome interruptions from God
  • Draw the line between mothering and micromanaging
  • Influence your husband instead of manipulating him
  • Learn to control your emotions when you can’t control the circumstances
  • Stop pursuing the appearance of perfection and start pursuing the person of God

*A companion 6 week dvd and Bible study guide is also available.

I had the chance to interview Karen about this new project. Here is what she had to say:

Karen, tell us a little about why you wrote this book. Are you a control freak?

Ummm….yeah! What woman isn’t about at least some aspect of life? We have so many areas that we must be in charge of—at home, at work, in the church and community. What happens is that we let our strengths of multi-tasking and getting jobs done morph into a weakness of being controlling.

So, are you saying controlling can actually be needed at times?

Of course we must control our homes and schedules and such. We should work with diligence and excellence. What we have to be careful of is going from being conscientious to being controlling. Being conscientious is doing a job well. Being controlling is trying to manipulate the outcome. There is a difference and we know deep down inside when we’ve crossed that line. This book helps women determine how to control what they should, trust God with what they can’t, and most importantly, how to decide which one is which!

What are some areas you cover in the book where women try to run the show?

We try to be in control of our homes, our schedules, our kids, our husbands, our circumstances, others’ opinions of us…..the list is long!

So what is at the root of why we women control?

We control because we don’t trust God. We think we know better than Him just what is best for us. It is as old as the garden of Eden. Well, guess what? God called and He’d like his job back!!

The holidays are coming up. Do they bring out the control freak tendencies in women?

Oh yes….in fact. One whole chapter of the book is about my friend Lisa Whelchel daring me five years ago to not make any decisions for a whole three weeks RIGHT AT THE HOLIDAYS!! It was painful. And actually, in the end, wonderful. I think this topic is so important that I’ve written a free five day resource for women dealing with the holidays called From Chaos to Calm: The LET. IT. GO. Christmas Challenge. Your readers can sign up for it here.

What is your prayer for the woman who reads your book?

I pray that through learning to relinquish control and let go of the reins, she will be able to grab hold of her faith. That her relationship with God will strengthen as she learns to stop trying to fix outcomes and get her own way but seeks His perfect will for her life—and the lives of her loved ones—instead.

Thank you so much Karen!! I’m so excited about your book! 

Enter to WIN: Click “Share your Thoughts” below this post and let us know why you’d like to win 2 copies of Karen’s new book, Let.It.Go. as well as a Starbucks gift card! Also, share on Twitter, Facebook and via email and link back to today’s post and then leave another comment for a second chance to win! {I’ll be announcing last week’s winner in another post shortly>}

About Renee

Renee Swope is a Word-lover, story-teller, heart-encourager and grace-needer. She's also a wife, mom, friend, daughter and author of A Confident Heart, a Retailers Choice Award winning book that became a best-seller and has been published in six languages, with over 150,000 copies sold. Renee is speaks around the country at women's events and and serves on the writing team for DaySpring’s inCourage blog. For twenty years, Renee served in leadership at Proverbs 31 Ministries and as former co-host of the ministry's radio program, “Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee.


  1. God is good all the time. I’ve been throwing myself a bit of a pity party and self-doubt since there are job, family and health issues that are out of my control. And wow! this devotion today hits me right between the eyes and heart! Thank you for reminding me that every day God handles stuff that I cannot fathom being able to handle and it all works for the Good of God’s Plan!!! I can feel my Faith growing through these times. Would love the book!

    • Oh, Patti: I so like your statement: “…every day God handles stuff that I cannot fathom being able to handle and it all works for the Good of God’s Plan!!! Yes! Every day He does, and we should place
      the day in His hands from the get go! Praise Him! Thank you for sharing!

  2. Claudelle Pilgrim says:

    The highlights of this book touch on my life situation right now and I will look for the book whether I win it or not and also I would love to have a copy for my friend who could really use the insight and encouragement as well.



    I would like to win a copy for my mom. She has always been a great Christian role model and my closest friend. She is struggling with a lot of stress in her life and the other day she was saying she wished she could stop worrying. I saw that this book had come out and told her I needed to read it. She said if I got a copy should would like to read it too. I think she could benefit from the book. I thank you for the chance to win and I truly enjoy your devotionals.

  4. I soooooooooo needed today’s devotional. I have some heavy stuff going on in my family and with the holidays just around the corner I am feeling really blue. These issues consumed my thoughts on my commute to work this morning. I just kept telling myself that I had to trust God to intervene but some days it is so hard. It has gone on for so long that it is hard to imagine that it will ever get better. I refuse to let the devil win. I am sure your book would help renew my faith that God is in control and it will all work out in His time. Thanks for the encouragement.

  5. Julie Gilstrap says:

    I was recently introduced to the 5 Day Challenge to learn to deal with the chaos at Christmas. What great insight and ideas. Life is so liberating and enjoyable when we learn to let go. I would love to have a copy of this book to read myself and to share with some other mothers trying to be the best they can be, but at the same time they are missing some if the most precious times. (Spoken by a recent empty nester!) thank you for the encouragement. Hope to use this as a Bible study at our church.

  6. My mother was such a great inspiration to me. She never questioned anything that she was going through during her struggle with MS and every day she thanked God for the day that He blessed her with. She has been gone now for 10 years and in the mist of all our struggles with job, school, finances, life itself I have found myself following the road of despair and pity. Then this morning after reading Renee’s devotion, “Sometimes I have to boss my heart around”, I could hear my mother’s voice saying, “Jo, be thankful for your problems and allow God to work them out. You’ve got to have faith and trust that God will handle everything because He is there during the good and the bad.” Thank you Renee for reminding me of this! I would love to be able to read Karen’s book, Let It Go, to see how to handle the stress of life through God’s Words and Wisdom and not try to handle things through my own power. Letting go is a struggle because I feel that life’s situations are man-made and should be man-handled; then if I hadn’t of handled it to begin with then I wouldn’t have found myself where I am. Thank you Renee for your devotions – they are truly part of my everyday quiet time and a must for me each and every day! God bless my mother and her Godly advice, love and support.

  7. My prayers this morning mirrored your blog post and the theme of your book Let.It.Go. Funny how God works those thing out… just about every day in my life! My life is a perfect storm – the trifecta of all things – teacher, step mother and no children of my own. I work each day to make sure that everyone is doing what they need to do in order for things to happen smoothly…. often losing sight of what’s important. Our family is fractured right now, partly due to my obsessive need to control every situation in my path. My intentions are so good and pure, but they are causing great strife. At school, my job is to control and run my classroom. Home is a different place and not having my own children makes it a difficult place for me to be. As I read about your book this morning I realized that this is EXACTELY where God has me right now – needing to give up that control and walk in His grace, as I extend it to those around me. I’d love to read your book and begin this journey and Let.It.Go! Bless you for sharing your heart with the rest of us!

  8. I would love to win this book because I am a control freak and perfectionist…not a good combination. It causes me alot of stress as well as my loved ones. I just signed up for the 5 day challenge and have enjoyed it so far. Thank you for your words of encouragement!

  9. Sure is encouraging to hear that other women struggle with the same things I do…. control freak, people pleasing & perfectionism!! Thanks for sharing! Would LOVE to win this book!!

  10. I would love to win this book to help me on my journey to trusting God more and relying on me less. To help me lose the feeling of “I’m the only one who can handle it”. I also have a mom-friend who would benefit from this book. Thank you!!

  11. I would love to win a copy of this book. I would like to share it with my small womens group at church.

  12. Stephanie Rose says:

    This is PERFECT for the season I am in. I can tell you the day, the hour just a few weeks ago when God decided enough is enough and started to let things spin out of control in order to show me that I AM NOT IN CONTROL! I am very thankful that I know that, and have hope in Him, but it doesn’t change the fact that I have to convince myslef of it and walk in obedience to it. Ahhhhh!!!! Looking forward to your insight as I hash this one out.

  13. Not only am I a control freak but I have a sister that is a bigger control freak than me. I am always trying to control things in my life. Everything that was mentioned: husband, kids, job, etc. I try to control it all and when it all goes haywire, I get discouraged. I know i need to give it over to God, but I just don’t know how.

    I would love to have a copy of this book for myself and my sister.

  14. Well since I’ve been accused of being bossy you’d think it would be easy to boss my heart around, yea not so much! Lol. Seriously I could definitely stand to Let It Go! I would keep a copy of the book for myself and give the other one to one of my girlfriends since we always talk about this kind of thing. I signed up for Karen’s Christmas challenge last week, invited my friends too as well. We all are loving it!!

  15. I am excited about this book…it may well have been written for me specifically. Winning this would be a great treat for the holidays and would really jump start some changes I know that God is encouraging me to make. I would share the second copy with my sister.

  16. Debbie Myhre says:

    If you were to ask just about anybody in my life to describe me, I am sure the words “control freak” would be said by most of them. However, over the years I am happy to report that compared to my younger years I am now a “control freak” with boundaries, if there is such a thing :). I have read many books that have helped me to relinquish my control to The Lord! I would love to win this book, because I know that there is always room for more learning . Thank you for the opportunity.

  17. I would love to win a copy of this book! I am looking forwad to gaining some insight on Letting It Go! Definitely struggle with this. Thanks for all you ladies do!

  18. I’m excited to know I’m not alone in this endevor and feel at times I’m controlling my family, I’m excited to read LET IT GO and see what wisdom has taught Tammy to share with others. I look forward to God teaching me from this resource……

  19. As I sat here reading emails, searching for recipes online for the next week, planning gifts that need to go with us next week as we travel, the feelings of being overwhelmed are very strong! As always, a message from God, through a P31 devotion, tells me to stop and remember all the great things God has done for us and how He’ll get us through the next weeks and most importantly how much He loves me! Thank you P31 ladies for listening and obeying God and sharing with us how He works in your lives!

  20. It’s amazing how you can think your the only one with this issue but its a deception.

  21. I am a major control freak. I have some things I’m walking through right now that are making me deal with this, and boy is it hard. I am so excited to hear about this book!!

  22. Bev Franklin says:

    I need to learn to let go. My life is a mess; have been betrayed by family & friends, am seeking psychiatric help for depression, stopped going to church………I NEED TO RELY ON GOD again – I’m so far from where I used to be. The Let.It.Go book & study sound perfect for me. xoxo

  23. Thanks for this post and for the offer of Karen’s book. This is one of the main issues that God has to work on with me. I was raised with the mantra of being self-sufficient, not needing anyone, etc., and it has spilled over into having to have control over every aspect of my life and every person in my life, to the point of going into depression and having anxiety attacks when things don’t go as planned. God has been working with me on it, and it is a constant struggle to let go and let God. A good friend of mine is going through a whole series of personal crises and it would be a true blessing to her to have this resource, and we could use the Starbucks card to meet over coffee and go throught the book

    Bless you Renee for your ministry. It has been a blessing to me in so many ways.

    Mary Mc. in Va.

  24. My name is Pam and I have a control problem!! Oh my! I would love to read LET IT GO and share another copy with my friend : )

  25. Thank-you for your devo this morning. I am passing it on to my hubby. We are struggling thru a circumstance that has the potential to drag us into the pit but we are trying to rise above it as Jesus would. It is soooo hard not to focus your thots on worry rather than God. Thank-you for this reminder for us especially at this moment!!! We needed to hear it. I think like us all I would like to be able to control the situation.

  26. Id like to learn how to know when to stop controlling. It is so engrained in my nature it surprises me sometimes. When I do catch myself it fees so much better to just give it to God instead. Of course it affects all areas of my life. My best friend Marjorie would benefit from it too. Thanks.

  27. I would love it if i could win the book & join in on the study, holidays have always made me go batty…I know alot of it is unneccessary, i am interested in learning some strategies:)

  28. I am Letting Go and Letting God…..have it all today!
    Thank you for your devotionals and this post today regarding this great book.

  29. Jill Kuiper says:

    I SO NEED this book! I struggle with being a control freak! I try to let go and let God, but Satan has his way with me time & time again. Thanks for the friendly reminder that God wants His job back!

  30. Tonya Ellison says:

    The holiday season is definitely a control inducing time of year for me. Thanksgiving and Christmas have to many things attached to them and it feels like one forgotten thing will be catastrophic. I know it won’t be, but it feels that way anyhow.

  31. I’ve always been a control freak and so need to change this attitude. This book sounds so helpful and encouraging.

  32. I have to admit I am a major control freak except when it come to our finances, I leave all that to my better half! but that’s another book I’m sure. Every year as the holidays approach I feel a little anxiety coming on. This season I’ve decided I’m just going to let it go…. I will of course decorate my house and the tree but ya know this year it doesn’t have to be Perfect. My mother would benefit from this book as well sorry to say control runs in the family!

  33. I struggle with being a control freak, perfectionist who thinks I am in complete charge of my life and my family, and have a dear friend who deals with these same struggles. I would love to win copies of the book for she and I – plus we are both big Starbucks fans, so we could discuss what we’ve learned over coffee! 🙂

  34. I have learned over the years – the hard way – to let God have control and to step back. It is still a very big struggle that I continue to pray about. I am doing lots better and in return feel lots better and a lot more relaxed. God is GOOD!

  35. I would like to win this book so that I can really let go of my perfectionistic and controlling ways. I would like to be free from control in order to fully rely and trust God.

  36. God has answered my prayers. I have been over controlling of my husband and family for many years. I learned this from my mother. If I am in control, then I do not need to worry about any surprises that I have to deal with….. well I’ve learned this is not true!! Since learning recently of my husbands unfaithfulness, I have been learning how to be a good wife, not controlling him to get my way. Our oldest daughter was just married, and I want to be a better example to her of how to be a loving, influencial wife, not an overbearing control freak! I am hungry to learn how God wants me to change and be a godly wife and mother. God seems to provide for us the resources that we are yearning for to learn how to do things His ways. This book must have been written specifically for me.

  37. I think I actually need a copy for almost every woman I know! ;0) Most of all myself! God is still wrestling with me over my control issues. I’m a work in progress.

  38. Wow. Great stuff I wish I realized a long time ago but God can take our good intentions and work them out for His glory. He is in control… if we let Him be.

  39. I can’t wait to read this book! I have heard nothing but good things about it and I’ve been told I’m pretty controlling myself which is a trait I would like to correct (or at least harness for good purposes only)!

  40. I am excited about this book. I know that I need to let things go and quit trying to control.

  41. I really appreciated reading this today. I’m not a mom and I’m not even married. But I am trying to figure out God’s plan for my life and who I am supposed to be with (as far as a significant other) is very much a part of my inner control freak. I’ve already experienced the loss of a spouse at the age of 25 where I had no choice in letting go. Relationships now are a lot different, I’ve found someone that I think is worth committing to (again) but he’s not ready. This is where the “letting go” gets hard…stirring up past emotions. It would seem that understanding that its okay to let go in so many different areas would end up helping in this area as well. Control is a scary thing. And the irony of it is that we think it is easier to control….but isn’t it actually easier to let go and let Him handle the details and the concerns? That is the conclusion that I’ve come to…I’m just trying to figure out how to comply. Thank you so much for the obvious….I love the part where you say “God called and He’d like his job back.” 🙂 God Bless!

  42. I just recently realized I’m a control freak. I used to have a different name and point of view for it. As my kids have grown they have shared their points of view… We didn’t match! I’d like to win 2 copies of this book so I can do it with my adult daughter. Then blog about it! 😉

  43. Thanks Renee for sharing this message. I am so looking forward to receiving my book and the DVD study. I believe Karen has a timely message for me. Blessings.

  44. I think Karen’s book will help me focus on God more and help me keep from irritating my husband. I would share it with friends also!

  45. I am not a control freak with every aspect of my life, but feel that I can benefit from this book as I learn to let go of worry & self-doubt. I am my biggest critic, like most women. I am searching for a way to live more freely and value myself like He values me! I would be honored to receive 2 copies of this book, one for me and one for my sister. Thank you for the consideration! Have a blessed day!

  46. Being in control has been a way of life for as long as I can remember and now as I truly admit to being an empty nester that control tendency is rearing it’s head even more. I continue to heap responsibilities on myself thinking I need to do it all while realizing that I’m filling my days with more stress than God intended for me to have. I’d love winning two copies of Karen’s book so I can share one with a friend and we can study it together and pray for each other.

  47. I am happy to find out that I am not the only one with these struggles. I just added a book to my Wishlist.

  48. I would love to win the book to give away to one of my christian sisters. I have already ordered it for myself. Seems I am always trying to control someone especially my daughters and husband, or my circumstances. When what I really need to do is learn to controll my self. Having just finished the unglued online bible study, I am doing my best to make some impertect progress. Can’t wait to read this book.

  49. I am a control freak. Oh, I’ve gotten a little better than I used to be. Over the years, I have learned to let go in some areas, but that just means the ones where I haven’t let go are the really tough ones, the areas that I am holding onto for dear life. I know this book will help me. Plus, today is my birthday.

  50. Learn to control your emotions when you can’t control the circumstances. That is the draw for me. I have two kids with special needs and frankly there is a lot I can’t control. But I’d love to learn how to control my emotions. Looks like a great book

  51. Let it go…..It would be so nice to be able to not let your adult children lives impact you so much. How do you let it go when you see your kids hurt and know you could help but it’s best to stay out of it. Mother’s love is hard to turn off!!! I would love to read this book and just Let it go and let God have it!

  52. kristen barkdull says:

    I have got to learn how to pet things go! I would love to win a copy of this book and share it with some close friends and family. I am looking forward to reading this book and learning how to let. It. Go!

  53. I need this book!!! This has been a struggle for me since a young age. I try to control things because I feel that my life has been so out of control. Ever since I was molested by a VERY close female in my life for only God knows how long…my life has felt out of control causing me to try to control everything and everybody… The things and the people I cannot control I seem to quit or give up on… I need help…

  54. Polly Schneider says:

    What a great devotion. Something I sorely need to put into practice. I try so hard to control what might happen in the future. Does that make sense? I don’t know, but that is the way I feel. I think too much about what the future might hold that I can hardly function here in the present. I love Psalm 103 that Renee mentioned in her devotion. It is one of my favorites. The book sounds like something I really need and I would love to win a copy. I also know someone to give a copy to. Thanks for your encouragement today.

  55. I have read the Chaos challenge, I am going to try my best with the help of God to not be controlling during the Holidays. My fear is that if I don’t do the cleaning and the cooking and the decorating it won’t get done. I did start practicing the concept just the other night. My husband and I were talking about ordering some gifts from the company I work for, we went over the list of reciepents together and then picked out the gifts for each together, instead of me just ordering what I thought they should get. Not only did we get something accomplished but we were spending time together. He says I need to get a chair in my home office so he has somewhere to sit.

  56. Please, please “pick me” this has been one heck of a year. I am learning the hard way ALL of the lessons it looks like your book is teaching on. My husband and I were on a great path and, even though we know it is all in HIS mighty hands, I am having a miserable wrestling time ever since things completely jumped track. My husbands career had finally taken off only to be terminated his last day of 6 month training. We were planning on conceiving another child this summer, that was harder for me than him losing his job. I know I need to LET. IT. GO. in so many areas because I know that HIS plans for my life are SO much better than I can imagine, but the the hurt is also there. I would love to share the second book with so many different women, but I would give it to my mom. We are very much alike in our personalities of being “take charge” which more often than not tetters if not completely nose-dives into a control complex. I believe she would gain much from it in how to walk in relationships with not only me but also my younger sisters whom are both in college and striving to find balance between honoring mom and finding themselves. A good cup of coffee never hurt either! Thanks for sharning this book with us! Even if we are not picked to win, I have it on my Christmas wish list! Thank you Karen for your heart!

  57. Looking forward to reading this book. I need to learn to let things go when it comes to stressing out about things that happen in my grown childrens lives.

  58. Greetings in Jesus’ Name:

    This is a great post! I really appreciate this thought: “What we have to be careful of is going from being conscientious to being controlling.” Selah! I can surely try to be controlling at times, and it certainly doesn’t work often at all. This is sobering and thought provoking: “We control because we don’t trust God. We think we know better than Him just what is best for us. It is as old as the garden of Eden. Well, guess what? God called and He’d like his job back!!” 🙂 I so want to trust God and believe I am getting better at it, but, obviously, I haven’t made it. I like what the Amplified Bible says about trusting in, leaning on, and relying upon God. Whew! Why must it be so difficult to put into practice. 🙂 I guess I make it that way. God has been dealing with me about being .” “…swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to wrath: for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.” (James 1:19-20, NKJV) That would surely help with control issues.

    I have a 15 (almost 16) year old daughter with whom I seem to always be at odds. The issue is invariably control – she wants to control and I SHOULD be the one in control. Maybe I need to find different words. 🙂 Thank you for helping me think on this a little more. God bless you all richly!

  59. I’m so excited about learning to Let. It. Go. with Karen. This has been a theme in my life as I learn to take responsibility for me and let others live however they choose. Yikes!! That’s scary especially when those others are dearly loved by me & of course, I know best. Lol letting God be our expert and leader can be hard. I love how Karen says to stop pursuing perfection and start pursuing the person of God!
    Thank you for this timely message!

  60. Thank you for this message. This is an area of my life I am working on. My job of 13 years is ending as the year comes to an end. I am newly divorced this year, and have one son at home. I know that God does have a plan for me, and to provide for us. Thank you for the reminder to walk in faith…I look forward with anticipation of what He has in mind. I would appreciate reading your book and giving one to a friend that too is strugling with understanding God’s plan for her.
    Thank you again for your heartfelt message.

  61. Being a single mom of 2 teenage girls can be challenging enough, but without letting God be in control it is the makings of “insanity”. My life has been so much harder when I try to control others and do what I think is best for them, they are each individuals with different personalities, talents, and God given gifts to use as He wants them to, not me! The more I learn this and accept it, the more peace I have with my self and in our home. Instead of trying to do the same thing over and over, expecting a different result, I need to just give it to God (LET IT GO!) and watch him do his thing! He is so faithful, he always provides and gives us just what we need at just the right time.
    I am finishing The Confident Heart in my bible study and would absolutely love to have a copy of this book for myself and to give as a gift this Christmas.

    -A Work in Progress ☺

    • Well said Jennifer! I too am a single mother and the ‘control freak’ comes out in me often. When we’re trying to do the same for two parents, is more than a lil’ challenging. Your comments about ‘accepting’ people for who they are and expecting different results is so true. Thanks for posting, I will try to remember….

  62. First time to Renee Swope’s website, but as we know, God’s planning is perfect. I have a large plaque in my bathroom that reads ‘LET GO LET GOD’, I was part of a women’s group organizing our church retreat titled the same, and have a few books (unread) by my beside with this topic in them somewhere. You’d think by now I’d be able to follow my own speeches, yet have not. I continue to hold onto things for far too long, i.e. relationship that is going nowhere, home that I cannot afford, grudges to an ex-husband, clothes that I don’t where and probably never will!, exercise routines, hurts from dear friend, and I could go on…
    So do I need to finally learn to Let. It. Go. …? Yes, I think so.

  63. Unfortunately I’m pretty prone to hold onto things, especially when I have my heart set on something or when dissapointments or hurtful things people say and do against me.
    I have especially recently been facing this more so, as if God is trying to prepare me for something more.

  64. Oh how I need to learn to let it go!!! I feel like the world record holder of control freaks. I struggle daily with surrender to God’s will vs. just let me get this one thing done. Looking forward to reading this book.

  65. Jenny Kozar says:

    Do you ever just see yourself written about in a post…. Yep this has my name all over it! What a freeing feeling to know that there are other women out there just like me and who seek the Lord to help redirect it all to HIM! Thank you for these resources.

  66. Lord help me. Why do you ladies keep reading my mail??? I so needed this today. Usually my glass isn’t even half empty, it’s broken… My path to self pity is well worn. All the stones have been kicked aside, and the way has been made clear so there are no hinderances to get there. I WILL start bossing my heart around. I WILL take authority over my spirit. Can’t wait to read this book.

  67. I would LOVE to win this book!! I need SO much encouragement and direction when it comes to acknowledging that GOD ALONE is in control!!!

  68. This book is going to be a great read,sometimes we don’t realize we are control freaks until someone shows us. We all have areas that we try to totally control,and it’s so much better when we give it to God,he can do it all.I would love to curl up with two of my favorite things,a great book and a Starbucks coffee.

  69. Wow! I’m reading thru “A confident Heart” and read this very section on the bus this AM. I guess God knew I was going to need it twice! I really highly recommend that book, and so I’m sure the next one will be equally impactful, can’t wait to read it!

  70. Trying to figure out the balance of life as a new working mom. Would love a copy of this book to help!

  71. Thank you so much for your encouragement Renee. I bought your book and started read it but I stop for some circumstances at that time period. I will read it back soon. Today I have learn how to praise God or boss my heart, there are times that I don’t find it easy to do it, but you said that I should focus on God than even my circimstances. I am praying to boss my heart deep down. I am so thankful for all the team pf prov. 31 I am encourage by each one of you every day. Thanks and God bless Karen’s new book.
    I want to win it to get those insights into my daily life and 1st don’t let other things to control me, but to have the wisdom to control them but not to negg or get frustrated. 2nd to share with my friends about it.

  72. I would like to win a copy of the copy because I want to learn how to “Let Go”.

  73. would love to learn more about control issues!

  74. Your devotional came at just the right time for me. I have a small vacation coming up where we’ll be visiting my brother for a few days for Thanksgiving. I should be excited, but I’m looking at all the stuff I have to do before we leave, as well as everything that needs to be done before Christmas. Just this morning my heart was turning towards The Pit. Thank you for reminding me to boss my heart around. I can praise God for all He has done. I can thank Him for this opportunity to go and visit my brother. I can thank Him that I have a warm home to celebrate Christmas in. Thank you for reminding me to praise at times and not always being “doing.”

  75. I’ve got find a way to learn how to control my emotions when I can’t control circumstances – this applies in so many areas of my life – as well as my family’s lives.. Would love a copy of your book to help 🙂 Thanks for encouraging words!!

  76. I never pictured myself as a control freak until I read your blog post. I now see so many areas in my life where I really need to let go and let God. I know that He can handle all that life throws my way, but losing my grip and trusting Him completely is often a struggle.

    Karen’s book, Let.It.Go, sounds like a resource I could use (in addition to my daily bible reading) to learn to let it go. I also think he her book would be a great gift for my cousin who is also a bit of a control freak. Win or lose, this book is at the top of my must read list.

  77. Ariane Kouadio says:

    This is a timely Word this morning for the season that I am in right now.
    I have always been a planner and tried really hard to control things and recently I was dissapointed by a situation that occurred and really wanted to give up.

    The Lord comforted me with Proverbs 3:5-6 and then when I absorbed that in my system- He told me to stay in my lane. That was His way of telling me that the only thing that I can control is my growth, my response, my contributions to life.

    Whoa!!!!! He was telling me to mind my business in a nice way and I am reminded of that great serenity prayer to accept the things I cannot change and the wisdom to know the difference.

    I’m in a big process of Letting It Go and I believe that this book will be a great supplement to what the Lord is showing me.

    I also lead the Women’s Ministries in my local church so I would love to give the other copy as a door prize at our next meeting.

    God Bless

  78. Unfortunately, I think most women think of being control freaks as a badge of honor in our culture. Thanks for steering us back to God’s thoughts about the subject!

  79. I am a control nut & need to let it go and let God!!!!

  80. I need this book. I have such a hard time letting certain things go. I must learn to TRUST God in all the areas in my life.
    I can be controlling, wanting things to go my way and when they dont I start to doubt myself and get angry. I most definitely need a better way to relax and trust the Lord.

    I would love to win 2 copies of this book because, I love to inspire and encourage others. I find reading my bible and other spiritual healing books. Im able to help those who dont know Christ, learn about his love and promises for us. GOD is GREAT all the time!!!

    I also love to win those 2 copies to share with my sister who needs to know that Christ loves her despite of her circumstances… and besides Ive never won a contest. I’d love to know how that feels…

    Thank you for your time and consideration.. God Bless

  81. I need to “let go and let God” and I think Karen;s book will help me gain good perspective on that

  82. As a woman, it is refreshing in a way to know that others struggle with the same issues as me! I don’t feel so alone. Looking forward to reading the book.

  83. Oh, how I need to read this book. I just mentioned to a friend today that the season my family is in right now is one where I need to have more flexability in my vocabulary & that is way out of my comfort zone.

  84. looking forward to reading the book and understanding more about my control issues.

  85. Would love to win this! Need to let it go!

  86. Carol Hamilton says:

    Help, Mom has 1st stage Alzheimers and getting out of control. God is definitely in control but i need your book! And prayers……

  87. Barbara Swarthout says:

    Wow I guess I’m not alone in being a control freak. I would love to get your book. I think it would be a blessing to receive one. Thank you for sharing.

  88. I would love to win because (let’s be honest here) who doesn’t have something that they need to let go of? He who Christ sets free is free indeed! I love that He continues to set me free; however just when I think ” I am free!” then my wonderful God sets me free of something else and reveals something new to me. New level of freedom we did not even realize existed! He knows my needs better than me. He continues to amaze me and I stand in awe! I have a new friend at church who needs encouragement and has advised she has a hard time with these issues. I would share with her.

  89. As a mother of 3 girls this book would come in handy. When our children can see that it’s okay to Let go and let God, that’s powerful. They need to know that we don’t always need to “have control” and where does it begin, in the home 🙂 I’m really looking toward to reading this book and applying what I learn to my life and walk with the Lord.

  90. I would love to win this book for it will bring me closer to the end of my race on this earth finishing it GREAT with letting go of the control!

  91. I need to learn to let it go and be a woman of influence, especially with my husband.

  92. JHollyhock (aka Jennifer H.) says:

    Oh my! My whole house is full of control freaks and I’m afraid the six children got it from their Mom and Dad….Thanks for the opportunity to learn from a fellow sojourner.

  93. My daughter and I both NEED this book; plus, I would like to use it as a resource in the ladies’ class I teach

  94. Xiomara Tucker says:

    I would love to win a copy of your book. Being a homemaker with 3 young children, while still caring for younger siblings and aging parents makes it challenging for me to let go. God has and continues to do so many things in our lives. Since everyone else depends on me I find it hard to seek God when I now He is the only one who can deliver me from any situation with victory. I am currently reading Unglued by Lysa Terkeurst and making imperfect progress. It is a blessing to know that I am not alone. Thank you for sharing your story. It gives women like me hope and help with the direction of the Lord that we can become all that God has created up to be. Thank you. May God continue to bless you and your ministry.

  95. i just started being honest with my self about being a control freak after doing the Christmas 5-day challenge! really want to read this book to go deeper.

  96. Having been a teacher for over 30 years, I find it hard to relinquish “control” at home. I really would like to be more of a Proverbs 31 woman. I am reading The Excellent Wife – and this is very helpful, but Karen’s book focuses directly on the issue that I am currently battling. I have already ordered the book, but it would be wonderful to share a copy with my twin sister – so I hope I win a copy as well.

  97. I’ve loved Proverbs 31 for years, and the godly wisdom and encouragement I receive there. I try to share resources with our small women’s group and the college age girls I mentor at our church. Always looking for new sources of encouragement and thoughts on issues we all share.

  98. The devotions that have come from this book describe me so well. I am a perfectionist and a control freak with very high expectations. Consequently, my poor family cannot begin to please me. This makes for a very tense and sad home. I suffer from anxiety and depression and a lot of guilt. I would love to hear about some ways to truly trust God and slay this ugly control monster!

  99. Hi, thank you for the opportunity to win this book. I’d like to win it so I could read it, and also have the pleasure of giving a copy to a friend or family member – the only difficulty would be in choosing WHO would receive the other copy!

  100. The message of Karen’s book and your interview with her really speak to my circumstances right now! So I thank the Lord for using you BOTH! I am about to begin an eight-week, full-time work assignment in our local school. I have prayed for wisdom to be able to simplify our celebrations at Christmas and to rest in the peace of Christ. This message of “letting it go” is one I will especially benefit from this year. Thanks, and God Bless! Amy

  101. Oh, how this book would speak to my soul. I have far more to do than I can reasonably cope with and stay well and sane, and yet I don’t want to let anyone down. I know I ought to start saying no, but how can you, when you feel that God has led you to be on this committee and that committee and do this and that, oh yes, and the other. How do you actually STOP, and listen and learn and hear. Where is God in all of my mad life. We so like to be in control don’t we, and think we can fix things, in fact think we have to fix things. I can remember when I was young, my parents expected me to fix whatever I’d done wrong, and most things were always my fault – and I have carried this through to my adult life. I have to be in control and know what is going on otherwise I go into total panic mode. Oh dear, now I’ve started putting all this down in writing I can’t stop…… sorry! I would so love to win this book please!! God bless

  102. I so need to let go especially as my children are getting older. I definitely need to trust God completely.

  103. Wow, this really hits home! I have signed up for the five day challenge. My mind says, “I can’t do this!!,” but I know with God’s help I can overcome my control freak tendencies. Thank you Karen for sharing your struggles and how you overcame them and inspiring the rest of us control freak moms to do the same.
    Please pray for me to overcome and enjoy this holiday season….out of control!
    I would love to win the two books so that I can read through this book with a special friend who shares the sames struggles.

  104. I know that I try to control too much and overthink every decision I am faced with. I think this would be a really helpful book and I would like to read it.

  105. I need to win, because I am a bad control freak! I need help! thanks.

  106. I cannot wait to get a read through Karen’s new book! It sounds totally ‘written for me’! I would love to win a copy of the book!

  107. I follow Karen’s blog and have been wanting this book, but really cannot spend the money for it right now. There is alot going on in my life right now and my control freak tendencies are in overdrive. I cannot be a control freak to my 17 month old, she fights back. I cannot be a control freak with my Mother in law who lives with us, she has dementia and other health issues and has lost the ability to speak english. I cannot be a control freak when my kids are in school. I cannot be a control freak with my husband, even though I try my best, he is stressed out enough. Do I need this book, yes. Thanks for the opportunity!!

  108. I would like to win the book because I have been noticing my tendency to overbook my life. My husband reminded me that when there’s no peace in my decisions to do something, then it’s not from the Holy Spirit. I’m sure this book will show me how to find that balance!

  109. Sometimes you don’t have a choice in ‘letting go’. My husband died suddenly last year, and letting go has been the most difficult part of mourning his loss. 41 years of marriage. How can one let that go? He took care of me, my every need for all those years, and now I am alone. Yes, let it go…make sure that you are focusing on the most important things, the one thing really; time to love fully. Perhaps this book will offer some insight for this lonely pilgrim soul. Happy Thanksgiving!!

  110. I would love to win this book!!

  111. I never thought about controlling as not trusting God. I’d like to win the book so I could read more about it.

  112. Can’t wait to get started. Just what I need to help de-stress the upcoming “mad house”. Thank you KAren and Renee.

  113. I would love to win this book. I could use advice on how to “Let It Go” especially when it comes to doing things my way.

  114. Mary Blair says:

    I would love to win 2 copies. I would read it and then give them away as gifts to my friends.

  115. All my boys really want me to read this book. I know some friends I could share it with also. We can laugh with and encourage each other with our imperfect progress.

  116. Loan Nguyen says:

    Karen & Renee, thank you for focusing on this area of spiritual growth. For me, 40 years of being in control is enough! I’m ready to let.it.GO!!! 🙂 and to trust God more fully.

  117. Perfect timing for a book like this – just before the holidays! The holidays are big control times for me.

  118. First off, thanks for being real about this. I struggle with this a lot! Being a Pastor’s wife, people think you are to “have it together” and be in control and not struggle. But, this is my biggest struggle and I do need to give it back to God and not pick it back up! My husband and I were just talking about this very subject! And I would love to win 2 copies of this to share with ladies at my church! God Bless you both!

  119. I feel this book may help me in the area of restoring my joy. I have lost organizational skills and can feel very discouraged about it. When I can stay organized, I feel such freedom in my spirit and then find the time to reach out to bless others. Thank you, thank you for your thoughts to pull together our world of busyness AND our hearts towards God and others.

  120. I’d love to win a copy of this book so I can learn more how to hand my control issues over to God! How freeing that would be!

  121. i need to take that challenge. I will not make any major decisions from Dec. 15 to Jan 7th. I will put life in auto pilot and let God run the Holiday rat race. My girls will have college finals starting Dec. 17 to 21 and then be off for almost a month. My son is going to be off for two weeks at Christmas and is off all of next week. (Where as the girls only get a 4 day weekend)
    Lord Help me.

  122. Loni Hammontree says:

    My daughter, Laura, and I have issues with letting go and leaving our problems at the feet of God instead of constantly worrying about them. My daughter has a young child and a husband on disability. She has a lot of responsibilities at home, church, and a new business. She feels overwhelmed and has not been able to keep to a schedule. Her 3 year olf gets to bed late. Dinner is always late. No time for herself and she tries to control her husband. I feel partly responsible since I live with them and I had control issues myself. I have found when you turn it all over to God, everything works out for the better. This book sounds like a God send and we both need it desperately. It would be a blessing to be able to receive this book as a gift. If not, we will have to save up to purchase it. Thank you

  123. This book sounds awesome! I’d love to win!!

  124. Jennifer D. says:

    I feel like this book was written just for me. I’m the one that needs to Let more things go. Can’t wait to read it!!

  125. Ricki Simpson says:

    I have just became a subscriber to the 31 ministries and I have to say that I can already see a change in my life and the way God is now a big part of me again. I was so lost on a path of destruction and pain that it took hitting rock bottom and a good old slap in the face from the big man himself to get me on the right track in life again. I give all the glory to God and all my praise to him. I am proud to be a part of this subscription and I thank you for your many blessings. In God’s name I praise you.

  126. Sounds like this book would be very helpful in balancing my “empty nest” with finding lots to do for the Lord.

  127. I would love to read this book as it is a struggle for me to let go. I also see this happening in my oldest daughter.

  128. Today has been a FULL day…My mom has been dealing with severe stomach problems bloat, nauseousness, etc. for over 2 months. A visit to the Er and a bunch of tests revealed nothing. She had an upper GI and just found out she has inflammation of the stomach & esophagus. And will have to have more tests (scary!) Praying
    Someone I know and admire just revealed she has breast cancer and she will have to take time off work. She shared a few other family struggles, her husband was recently in a head on collision,9I believe he is ok, no details) a new vehicle was required, her 2 young boys have something on the autism spectrum and one just had the flu so severe he lost 10 pounds in 9 days. My heart ached for her. Praying
    A friends called to confide in me that she found out her husband has been viewing pornography and he denies it but she checked out his computer and he has since deleted 35 contacts. She called me for
    advice, I told her the only thing I know to do is pray and ask God for wisdom.
    A couple at church the wife had previously had cancer and beat it. she now has it in her liver, had the part removed and goes through chemo again. Her husband has to have major surgery on his back Nov 24th (the problem is so sever if problem left alone he could become paralyzed) having vertebra removed an steel rods implanted in
    I was looking forward to an inspirational christian event The 12 Gifts of Christmas and was excited to win tickets to it yesterday only to find out today that they did not sell enough tickets to this city’s event so it is being canceled. ( i could have used the encouragement to recharge my batteries)
    Trying to be something for everyone is exhausting. I would love to bless someone with this book.

  129. monet r. davis says:

    I should win the copies of the book Let It Go , because for years I have been trying to take the place of the Lord and doubting what He can do in my life. I can honestly say i have wasted some years running the show when I should have basically “let go and let God”. I was trying to control a relationship that i was in and found out that without faith it is impossible to please God. Some months ago I gave myself to the Lord and began to dive into His presence like never before, and He has been so good. Now I do have a problem with patience and waiting but what I do is ” find and replace”, meaning whatever im worried about I replace it with Gods Word. Im not all the way there yet so I need to win these books so I will be able to trust God more and walk by faith and faith only. This will also help me to build a strong foundation with my relationship with the Lord. I deserve to win these books. God definitely knows my heart.

  130. Would love to do this as a small group study! This is someting in my life I struggle with, due to my husbands job working 24/7 and raising two kids.

  131. I would love to have the Let. It. Gg book for my control hog self and for my good friend who is also a control freak. We make quite the pair! The good thing is that we can we laugh at how silly we are sometimes! This would be a perfect Christmas gift for her and a terrific Bible study we can do together!

  132. Jackie Smith says:

    I would love to win this book….it sounds like just what I need to read at this time….as I struggle with health issues and other concerns. Thanks for the giveaway.

  133. I am looking foward to reading this book. I am facing some tough issues that are forcing me to trust God more. My walk with Christ is still very new so control is something I still struggle with. My work schedule doesn’t often allow me to attend church services so I’ve been reaching out…radio, internet, tv. There are so many tv pastors, books, websites its overwhelming. This is where I starting letting God take the wheel. He would know best what resources to look at or avoid altogether. Last year, I stumbled on KLOVE radio. They broadcast Lysa TerKeurst and Renee Swope’s radio segments so that is how I stumbled on Proverbs 31 Ministries and a wealth of blogs, devotions and other resources. Sorry for this long comment but I am sure had I not chosen to let God take control and say “Yes listen to that station” or “No. I don’t think that book has a message you need right now”, I wouldn’t be sitting here waiting to read Karen’s book. In fact, I don’t think I would know who Karen is either..lol..or commenting on this blog post. Thank you Karen and Renee for the opportunity to focus on this topic. God blesss.

  134. I honestly believe Karen wrote this book about me! Everything mentioned in the recap above is something I need help with. This book would be a wonderful addition to my Proverbs 31 library. Thanks!

  135. I think this would be a great study with some of my friends. I don’t think I’m a control freak, but I work with someone who is and maybe this would help me understand her a little better.

  136. Valerie Hohenberger says:

    Renee, I really needed the devo this morning! Isn’t it amazing how God works? I would love the opportunity to win the books and I would share with women in my church. Maybe even lead a study on letting it go (of course, with Karen’s permission!)

  137. I’d like to win this book so I can help myself learn how to let go, learn how to deal with my emotions when things don’t go my way. I want to be an example to my daughters and right now I’m not much of one.

  138. I tweeted.

  139. As a PERFECTIONIST, I find that things start to control me rather than me ever feeling like I’m in control! All in all, it’s all a matter of heart, attitude and style of thinking!

  140. Vonnie Kronk says:

    Thank you for reminding me that every day God handles stuff that I cannot fathom being able to handle and it all works for the Good of God’s Plan!!! I can feel my Faith growing through these times. Would love the book!

  141. Sherry Taylor says:

    Just reading all the other comments about this issue makes me feel better. I thought I was the only one who always felt like she has to keep it all together. I have been blessed in so many ways yet I am constantly so overwelmed in my need to make sure ” I ” handle every detail that I don’t have time to enjoy my blessings!
    I so want a trusting relationship with the Lord but I just don’t know how. I have a note taped on my monitor at work that says ” Don’t worry about tomorrow…..GOD IS ALREADY THERE” I would love a copy of your book to help me take that leap of faith, I just can’t seem to get there on my own.

  142. I’d love to win two copies, so I could read it with a friend 🙂

  143. I’m actually not a controlling person of other people’s lives. However, I do like personal control of my own life and I do know that when chaos hits in clusters it can unnerve me no end when it’s out of my control to fix or prevent and I don’t know where it’s all heading. That can send me scrambling. Those are the times I have the challenge of reining in my heart and emotions and focusing on God’s goodness to keep from acting in a panic or sliding down a slippery slope of despair. I hope you have a deep chapter on strengthening trust 🙂

  144. As always, God’s timing is perfect. Thank you!

  145. Nancy Silvers says:

    I would love to win two copies of this book. One, most definitely for me but I would also like to give one to a friend so that we could do the book study together. It’s always bettter to implement changes with a true friend that loves you enough to hold you accountable to the changes you say you are going to make!

    I didn’t think I had any control issues but the more I prayed about it-the more I saw. Not in my home so much as in the ministries in which I serve. I don’t want to serve in a controlling way.

    God Bless you,

  146. Suzie Rape says:

    Saw a bit of me here and honestly….you gave good advice……I have a few bruised toes that you stepped on..but they will heal while I let others do a few things THEIR way! 🙂

  147. I would love to win 2 copies, one for me and one to share with a friend who is really struggling with control and perfectionism right now. I would like to encourage her to do the study with me, so she could enjoy her life more fully.

  148. kelly wiley says:

    would love to share these books with our pastors wives!!!

  149. This book has my name (and several of my friend’s names) written all over it. I have been excited about this book and study since Karen announced it 2 months ago.

  150. I also shared with FB.

  151. ‘Let it Go’ – Wow, those are difficult words for me to apply to myself (but a lot easier to say to others). It is much easier to try to maintain control ourselves- but what an illusion without God. I would love to read this book.

  152. I definitely would like to read this book.

  153. So many ladies need this type of encouragement!! It is so wonderful that you have put these common struggles into a Christian light so that other ladies can use God-driven tools on how to approach these crazy lives we try to lead! I need all the help I can get in that arena. Looking forward to finding this book to read!!

  154. I would love to win two copies of this book ~ one for my adult daughter and one for myself. My daughter has learned a lot of her control tendencies from me. One area we try to run the show is in others’ opinions of us. My daughter’s is at her job and mine is in my personal life. We are both working on it, but have a ways to go.

  155. I sooooooooooooo need to read this book! I am very controlling and don’t know how to change! I’m forced to make all the decisions because I’ve been raising my 3 boys by myself for the last 13 years now.

  156. I read your post and thought “It’s not possible to give up control!” I would LOVE to win your book. Two reasons: Tomorrow is my birthday and what a great present 🙂 but on a more serious note…..

    I was sexually abused as a child and am probably obsessive about having control. I think, in a situation like that, it’s hard to trust that it’s OK for someone else to have control – even God! So I’d love to read your book and continue working towards a better relationship with God.

  157. Krystal Comer says:

    I would love to win this book; it might just be the begining to breaking free from all the yelling and nagging I am spewing out on a daily basis.

  158. I am so excited about this book…both as a therapist AND as a Christian woman myself. Thanks, Karen! (And Renee for posting about tit! Can’t wait to read it. 🙂

  159. Since we’ve moved overseas, I’ve been trying to learn to let go of the control of my family and the myriad of circumstances we face. I’m learning that nothing that happens to us is out of God’s control. We are trying to teach our kids they can’t control their circumstances, but they can control how they react to them. I am telling myself that as much as I’m telling them! As a control freak, this book would be an excellent resource. Is it available on Kindle?

  160. Well, guess what? God called and He’d like his job back!!
    Love this…what a relief. Looking forward to learning to strike the balance of what I can and should control and what i must hand over.

  161. Tammy Keefer says:

    My friend Marcia and I just finished the Unglued series. It made such a difference in my life. My relationship with my teenage son is stronger than ever before. I want to ocntinue to grow in my relationships, especially with my family.

  162. I need help letting God take the reigns. I would love a copy of the book!

  163. I so need this book right now. Lots going on with lots I can’t control and need to know how to deal with it.

  164. Oh, how I’d love to be reminded that I’m NOT in control and that I should be daily asking the Lord to take the driver’s seat in my life. This morning’s devotion was beautiful timing to a rather ugly day.

  165. I have control issues and need this.

  166. This book sounds wonderful and I am anxious to read it and apply it to my life.

  167. I am not a person who usually enter thing like this. I came from a father who was a very controling person. I hated it . i destised it. But as live goes, I became that person. All my life I have struggled with the Christian walk. I don’t know if it is because I want to control my life orI have trouble with the Father figure. I wonder sometimes that maybe I am afraid to let go. Your title stuck out and then the word control. I use to try to read to learn. But as I got older I quit. Maybe i need to get back to reading material again.

  168. Life is so out of control, I can’t even be in control anymore. Maybe that is God’s lesson in the whole thing.

  169. Would like to put in our church library

  170. I would love to receive this book! I am especially interested in the parts about emotions. I am the worst at trying to control those. Everyone says that I am to emotional so if I could learn to tone it down a bit that would be great!

  171. Kristi Seat says:

    You hit the nail on the head with the subject of this book. I’ve been looking forward to the release of this book since I first heard about it. My problem is letting things go and then trying to pick them up again! I loved how you talked about the difference between being conscientious and controlling. Do I really trust God with the outcome? I should but do I always? Sadly, that would be no but I want to improve!!! Thank you so much for tackling this subject and can’t wait for the online study of your book with Melissa Taylor’s Online Bible Studies early 2013! Blessings!

  172. I am a control freak that needs to let God Handle the tings that are beyond my control. I have a friend the same way

  173. I need to let go Of contrl issues and Lt God do it for me I need to trust him

  174. I have so much I need to let go of. I feel I really need to read this book. Thank for the opportunity to receive a free copy.

  175. I need to learn to let God do the conttroling and I need to rest. I try to control way to much in my family and my life. I would like to share with a feirnd who dose the same things

  176. I can not wait to read this book!!! I loved everyone’s posts!!! I don’t think of myself as a control freak, but know that I am..to the point I’ve suffered depression and anxiety for over 20 years… I think if I take control everything will be ok or go right. I pray everyday for change…. Knowing God will take care of everything, but silently wondering, and I know I shouldn’t!!! Faith is what I crave!!!! Thank you girls so much for all the lives you have touched and helped!!!! I love you!!!!

  177. I am so intreeged by this title, as I am so struggling AGAIN with letting things GO! Seams I learn how to let go and then some other circumstance comes along and poof…it all goes out the window again real quick…I have learned and know that God can do such a perfect job, so why am I still struggling with it again! It is very frustrating…this time it has to do with my daughter and God knows that is soooooo close to my heart!

    I look forward to reading this book! Thank you and God Bless you

  178. I just shared on facebook and pined it…Also…I LOVE STARBUCKS

  179. I know I still need a lot of help in this area. I would love to win a copy of the book and see what the Lord teaches me through it.

  180. Cecilia Abena Gyaubea Addo says:

    I really need a copy of this book. I feel this book or the whole devotion on “let it go” is purposely for me. This came at time when I thought I could get things done all myself relying on my abilities. But the devotion taught me other wise. I’ve now learnt to let God take control. Trust me since I started this I’ve experienced some inner joy n peace in my life. I put Him in control over everything including having a healthy lifestyle.
    I need this book, Im gonna get married next month, I really need to read so it will help me concerning my.marriage,husband, family n home to make me a better person. I’m from Ghana

  181. Kimberly Fields says:

    I think you had me in mind when you wrote this book. I so want to be in control all of the time. I want to be a better person, a better Christian, a better mom and a better wife. I would love to win your book. Thanks for sharing and being there for all of us control freaks.

  182. I would love to get a copy of Karen’s book “Let It Go”. I am a total control freak and it leaves me stressed out and frazzled at the end of most days. I desperately need to let go of the control issues and let God take over.

  183. Your devotions are so inspiring and get me through each day with encouragement and blessings. I would love to win a copy of your book and one for a dear friend and relative that could benefit from it and bring joy and peach through Christ to her life. Thank you for all you do.

  184. Lesly Verbeten says:

    I really want to read the book Let.It.Go. God is showing me that I am very controlling. I don’t know why I feel like I need to be in charge and running it all. I put so much pressure on myself to do everything right, and I fail sometimes. Hoping to do this book/dvd study with some friends at some point. 🙂

  185. Carla Frazier says:

    I am so excited for this book; I’d love to win a copy! This is something I have already identified as a need in my life and how awesome to have a book to help guide me! I am definitely an over achiever that takes on too many things and needs to seriously learn how to Let go and Let God!!

  186. I have a friend who is just like me. We love to control things. We both stress our selves out trying to control so much in our lives. I would love to share a book with her. We would both benefit from the book.

  187. Tiffany Green says:

    Karen, Thank you so much for writting this book. My husband often reminds me to “Let it Go” and unfortunally I have not mastered that at all. It is something I struggle with a lot. I hope I have to opportunity to read your book and share it with my small group. 🙂

  188. I would love to read this book. I’m a little bit of a control freak myself (my husband may say that little is possibly underrated). I already have a good friend in mind to share the 2nd book with (and to share the starbucks giftcard too).

  189. I find myself saying I’ll let God handle this, but before I know it I’ve grabbed “this” back. I find it very hard to truely let go. Carol

  190. Jessica Hermanson says:

    Would love to read this book!! I am definitely a control freak, always trying to make things perfect and stressing myself out (and others) instead of letting things go. I’ve been making a much bigger effort lately to let things go, walk with God and renew my faith.

  191. I’m super excited for this website.

    I’ve been learning what it means to be a woman of God so I’ll definitely be on your website often (thank you!). As for this book, one of my friends just got engaged this past weekend (!!!) and this is something she struggles with a lot- and another one of my friends just got married this past summer. I would really like to win these books for them. 🙂

  192. Sherri Smith says:

    I can tell from just the description that I need this book…like, yesterday. Just the description is stepping all over my toes! Ouch! I can’t wait to read it. While mothering three teenagers, I know I cross the line that you are talking about often. This book is just at the right time for me and my family.

  193. I signed up for the 5 day challenge, wow talk about timing.Just yesterdayI had a situation come up with my in-laws that I need to be prayful and loving as we go through this situation. THanks for the challenge and my boys are deciding where my furniture in my living room will go for the holiday season. Hmmm wonder how that will work out?

  194. Thank you for this wonderful resource! I have so needed this for quite some time as I working through ways to let go of my controlling nature. It is a daily journey; yet, I am now reaping the fruits of my labor. This resource will greatly enhance my journey! Thanks again!

  195. Did my pastor tell you to send me an email encouraging me to “just let it go”? 🙂 It’s something I’m having a hard time with right now (even with his help). I welcome the chance to read and benefit from Karen’s book!

  196. I don’t really think of myself as a control freak…initially. But, then, I start to realize that I like things done in a certain way and as a result, I can get a bit cranky. Maybe it’s time for me to learn more about letting go.

    I think that learning with someone else is a great way to grow. I would love to win these books and, of course, the Starbucks gift card!

  197. I really love this idea and really need this book to help my relationships

  198. I just finished up the 5 day Christmas Challenge. I loved every devo! It got my mind off of myself and back on what matters most this season!

  199. I have financial issues. Not because i don’t know how to spend or save what i have, but because i’m disabled and my monthly amount is not enough to even pay my meager amount of bills and Apt. rent let alone have anything to live on. I desperately want to control this and there is no way i can. I have to rely on God every month to see me through and it is so hard when i can’t fix it myself. I should be able to take care of me so this is very hard for me to deal with. I also have other control issues, i keep hoping to win a book because i can’t afford to buy one. My thoughts are if God wants me to have it somehow He will provide it. I just have to “Let It Go” and let Him.

  200. Women encouraging women in the faith. God is so good to provide just what we need to hear. Thanks, Karen for using your talents to help us.

  201. I can definitely be a control freak. It is exhausting. My latest realization of being a control freak is with my 13 yo daughter. I want the best for her and for her to do better than I did. I’m learning the hard way that she has to make her own choices and live with those consequences.

  202. I am enjoying the relevance, insight and humor of Karen’s daily challenges in preparation for Christmas. I can envision my close friend and I going through her book together as we continue to face the challenges before us right now (husband’s unemployment, ill aged parents). We commit to build each other up with joy. I think her book would be treasured (and the Starbucks would be relished on a cols winter day in Minnesota) 🙂

  203. I read Proverbs 31 daily and it always seems like it has been written just for me. I have faith but I think I am lacking trust in God. I don’t usually enter to win things but this is speaking to my heart so I am responding.
    Thanks for your honesty Renee and illustrating how living a Christ centered life is real and everyday.

  204. Definitely struggle with letting go! Would love to win a copy of this book—-my husband would love for me to learn something from it :o)

  205. Wow – do I need this book – at home recovering from a week in the hospital – recoving from a colitis attack caused by NOT. LETTING. IT. GO……worries have been huge these last few years – a separation from an emotionally abusive husband, near loss of my grandaughter to meningitis, divorce, ongoing legal troubles from now ex-husband, job stress, children stress…..I could go on. Through it all, God has been my constant guide and support, but I had lost sight of that the last few months and Here. I. Am. today…..using this time at home recovering to learn to Let. It. ALL. Go. and let God take back over!

  206. I’m a Martha who desires to be a Mary.

  207. This book sounds so helpful in so many ways! I think it would be a wonderful resource to use in the ministry I’m involved with right now. I’d love to win a copy!

    Tammy ~@~

  208. My women bible study just finished studying the series “Greater”. Karen Ehman’s new book, study guide, and DVD sound just like the right material for our next study. Would love to have copies for some of the stay-at-home mothers in the study.

  209. Sounds great. Would love to read it.

  210. I would love to win these and share one with my mom or a friend! I dwel on so many things and so many times have a hard time having the right attitude. I need a little perspective. I also need to learn to loosen up with my son a little, much like in her proverbs31 post on her son doing dishes. 🙂

  211. I adore every devotional posted by Renee and after recently receiving the book A Confident Heart am excited to begin reading it. If I do not win this new book by Karen there is no doubt it will be added to my Christmas wish list. I am a perpetual control freak and as a teacher, wife and new mother (my baby was born Oct 2), I constantly find myself down about the things I can’t control and need to be letting go of to God. My husband also struggles with depression brought on by PTSD from his 2 tours to Iraq as a Marine and from childhood abuse so as his wife and helper it is hard to give these things to God and remember it’s not my fault and I sure can’t fix it. I think Karen’s book would do me a world of good as a way to, not only help myself and my relationship with God, but also my marriage. My sister-in-law (married to my husband’s brother) who also happens to be my best friend, could also use a copy to aid in her life, marriage, and close at hand adventure of becoming a new mother as well (she’s due in June). I look forward to reading this book one way or another and seeing what I can do about my problem being a “self-professed control-freak”. Thank you both for your encouragement!

  212. Letting go of control, could really use some insight and guidance. Looking forward to the book. Thanks!

  213. I would love a copy of the book. I have 4 kids, ages 8 and under, I am a pastor’s wife and work part-time. I have a hard time knowing how much to expect, out of myself and out of my kids and husband. I know how I WANT things to go, and dealing with them not going that way would be a great help! 🙂 Happy Thanksgiving!

  214. Jennifer Rice says:

    I need this lesson: “Stop pursuing the appearance of perfection and start pursuing the person of God”! Looking forward to reading.

  215. Jennifer Rice says:

    I need this lesson: “Stop pursuing the appearance of perfection and start pursuing the person of God”! Looking forward to the book. 🙂

  216. I would love to go to Starbucks with my mom. Then, come home and read Let It Go.

  217. Letting go and trusting God completely is the only way to find true peace and is the turning point of learning to let go and let God. Thanks for putting this message in a book – would love to read it while sipping Starbucks – thanks, Tammy

  218. Karen – I cannot wait to get your book! Thank you for sharing your heart and life with us!


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