Living Stressed-less

Does stress impact our confidence? Today I’ve asked my friend Tracie Miles, author of Stressed-Less Living to share how stress once diminished her confidence and threw her into a pit of doubt causing her to  question her ability to fulfill God’s plans for her life.


Although it was seven years ago, I remember it as if it were yesterday. Every morning I dragged myself out of bed, dreading another stressful and emotionally draining day at my job.  A job which  I had grown to hate, working for a supervisor whom I had grown to fear.

Not only was I overwhelmed with job stress, I was trapped in a deep pit of despair that was filled to the brim with doubt, low self esteem and zero confidence.

My heart and my mind were ravaged with turmoil. I had a demanding and stressful workload and a supervisor who used continual harsh words  and often unwarranted criticism.

Even though I gave 100% and tried to do my best,  I started doubting whether or not I was good at my job. Eventually my doubts began to creep into my personal life as well. Thoughts like “maybe I’m not a good enough wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend…” plagued my heart. Self condemnation started consuming my thoughts, and eventually I hit an all time low in self-confidence.

Juggling all the stress and pressures of the workplace was nothing compared to trying to carry the crushing weight of self-doubt.

The time finally came when I admitted I needed to make a change in my life. You see, I knew God had been calling me for several years to lay down my job, and allow Him to lead me into new places, but I had been too afraid and too insecure. But  change was necessary, or else my physical and emotional health would continue to decline.

I resigned from that position, and although I no longer had the stress of corporate responsibilities, my life was still filled with many other stressors. Yet, upon leaving my job, I picked up my Bible more than ever before. And when I started making my walk with Christ a priority, I came to realize that even though my life was still stressful, my heart was at peace.

Why? Because as my faith grew, my self confidence grew with it. You see, I was coming to realize that my value is based on who I am in Christ, not who a supervisor said I was. I embraced the acceptance and value God promises, tucked in Deuteronomy 14:2, which says You have been set apart as holy to the Lord your God, and he has chosen you from all the nations of the earth to be his own special treasure.” (NLT)

As my heart slowly healed from the brokenness of a broken person’s words, my spirit began to soar. God helped me understand that my value lies in Him, not in the approval or acceptance of the world. I need not base my self worth, intelligence or value based on what man or woman says, but on what God says about me instead.

It was a long journey, but the more I kept my eyes focused on Christ, the more my self confidence increased. I not only discovered my confidence again, I also learned that God is the answer to our stress, no matter what form it comes in.

And I finally found a calmness in my spirit that was not present simply because I left a stressful job, but because I had embraced my unstressed God: a Savior who loved me, despite my mistakes, sins and imperfections. My Jesus who told me I was His precious treasure, even if nobody else saw my worth, including myself.


God not only showed Tracie the path to acceptance, self-confidence, and worth in Him, but He used her experiences as the training ground to build a story in her life which is now the basis of her new book, Stressed-Less Living: Finding God’s Peace In Your Chaotic World.

Today we’re giving away 3 signed copies to three of you! Leave a comment below this post and share with us something that is currently causing you stress.  I’ll share too.

To find out more, be sure to visit Tracie’s Stressed-Less Living website: . And if you purchase Stressed-Less Living between Sept 30-Oct 7th you’ll receive 7 FREE GIFTS. 


About Renee

Renee Swope is a Word-lover, story-teller, heart-encourager and grace-needer. She's also a wife, mom, friend, daughter and author of A Confident Heart, a Retailers Choice Award winning book that became a best-seller and has been published in six languages, with over 150,000 copies sold. Renee is speaks around the country at women's events and and serves on the writing team for DaySpring’s inCourage blog. For twenty years, Renee served in leadership at Proverbs 31 Ministries and as former co-host of the ministry's radio program, “Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee.


  1. christina g says:

    i have so much stress that i have constant heartburn in my throat and chest. also IBS.

    • Renee, Hi! how have you been lately? this book sounds good.

      • The statement written from the book was very useful this morning. I still get up in the morning; and I am just now starting to want to get up and know it’s God’s day. I need to rely on him for every thing. I also feel God is possiblly wanting to make some changes in my life and I’m scared of it. I need to remember it’s in Gods hands and what ever he wants to do is ok. I use to have the same type of boss and can relate to what you are talking about what ever the boss did (well, the picking about everything was hard,) I knew I could do my job, but when she was around I began to wonder. I would have to pray before I could ever go to work every day that God would work through me, and help me to know what to do each day. Those are the days I would ahave a good day, But, if I didn’t have my time with God first, I would have a really bad day with the boss wondering about me. I must state hear and now, I had know idea at the time I was coming down with diabetes, which will threw of your ability to think. But, I am a person that suffers from depression. but, I also know the job God gave me was mine for a season and I know he has something else in mind for me. I just get scared of changes. I know you undersstand what I am talking about. Thank you for listening, and for being able to read what she put down. God bless your dayl. Cindy

    • My daughter sent this to me. I too have been so buried in a stress-filled life. My job, life, and low self esteem where killing me. Here I was a Christian, pastor’s wife, Sunday school teacher, mother and grandmother. I had forgotten how to live and sometimes felt I had to remind myself to just breathe. I have determined to gain my life back and follow God’s lead to a better way.

  2. Stress can lead to all kinds of bodily side effects…I know, I’ve had about all of them I think!! I am learning now matter how much I stress out about a situation, it’s always out of my control. God is and always has been in control of every situation!!

  3. Her 10 day detox was amazing! Proverbs 31 is amazing in my life right now!!!

  4. I’m looking forward to reading her book!

  5. I don’t see anywhere to enter for the signed copies. Do we just leave a comment here?

    • HI friends,

      So sorry I wasn’t clear on how to enter when I first posted this. :0) Just leaving a comment is all you need to do.

      • I had a job where I was so stressed out that I went to the doctor for help. I told him I did not want something for depression because I was not depressed. I was so stressed out to the point of being burnt out. He wrote me out a prescription for a pill and sent me on my way. I finally quit that job but unfortunately went from the frying pan into the fire and ended up with no job. I am now back in church and am on th road to recovery but am scared it will happen again if I go back to working in the same line of work. I would like to win a copy of this book so I can prepare myself for what God has in store for me. Thank you. I loved reading your Confident Heart.

  6. I clicked on every possible thing on the website and couldn’t find any information about winning one of the free copies. Hmmm . . .

  7. I would love to win a copy of this book. It looks fabulous. Going to pin it right now 🙂

  8. I, also, could not find a place to enter to win one of the copies being given away. Thanks for helping us figure this out. Blessings!

  9. Lynn Cole says:

    Would love to read the book.

  10. Gerry Varney says:

    I don’t even think of it as stress any more, it’s just LIFE!! Six years ago we went from a 2 income 1 house family to a 1 income 2 house family… trying to get our youngest daughter out of a bad situation, we packed up and moved from FL to NC right as the housing market crashed! We know that we did the right thing, God absolutely put us here in this community, to raise our 10 year old son – even though our daughter rejected us and our efforts to help her… I work part time, but my main job these days is taking care of our 8 acre farm, the house, chickens, horses, rabbits, dogs and dairy goats… and it’s HARD! I am almost 50… My husband is gone 12 hours a day 5 days a week, and though he is EXCELLENT at what he does, it almost isn’t enough to pay the bills these days… God always provides, even though the numbers are impossible and have been impossible since we moved, and cannot get the house in FL sold… lately we have had extra expenses and, honestly, I just dont know how we’re going to make it… but I will continue to TRUST that God knows our needs, and He will provide as He always has, but it is HARD some days when nothing makes sense and you’re staring at what appears to be impossible. That, my friend, is STRESS… if it wasn’t for our faith, and commitment to the bible which says to honor your debts (despite the world’s voice, which says let that house go back to the bank!), we would be in a new world of hurt. Doesn’t mean it is easy, but it is manageable with God on our side… Thank you, Jesus!

  11. This book sounds great. I was really at a breaking point earlier today. Just feeling the heavy weight of single parenthood, and all the stress that comes with that, and also needing to find work to just keep a roof over our heads. Really just feeling overwhelmed and very much “on my own”, in this single parenthood journey right now.

    I know God’s ways are best, but the reality of it all is very daunting sometimes.

  12. I would love to read this book!!

  13. christina p says:

    My name is STRESS I pray that one day it’s released and I never have to look back. 🙁

  14. Andrea A. says:

    Drug addictions with my family members! It’s difficult and some of the scariest situations my family has faced! I’d love and enjoy getting to read this book. I pray answers will come out and in addition to great release, forgiveness & freedom! I feel like stress is all I know anymore. I feel tested and confused but my faith keeps pushing me forward!

  15. Beverly M says:

    Keeping up with aging parents.

  16. My stress is hormone related issue with husband, problem with employee at work, and health of widowed mother. Would love to get a copy of book!

  17. My son has Asperger’s Syndrome and is still dealing with the affects of Viral Meningitis almost a year ago. He has spinal inflammation and nerve damage in his legs. He’s being homeschooling. I am taking 3 college courses, 2 of which are 5 weeks long at the same time. It’s been very intense lately.

  18. Tracie’s excerpt describes exactly how I feel every day. It is a consuming feeling that has stolen the joy out of my life. I must read this book!

  19. Amanda Franck says:

    Thanks for the chance to win. Can’t wait to read the book.

  20. Heather Muhs says:

    Right now all of my stress is health related to me. I can’t do much.

  21. LuAnne Fortner says:

    Have 2 kids in college. Learning to let go, stop trying to fix things when they make their own choices even if they are bad ones, give up control and surrender them to the Lord.

  22. Tami Robinson says:

    I am currently homeschooling our 5 children (range in age: 8-12 – I have 2 sets of twins – 22 months apart), and although the younger years seemed to have been very stressful and pulling me in lots of directions – it seems the older years are not only stressful with time and energy, but also with emotions!!! I took the call of homeschooling very well last year – but I am not an organized person – trying to keep up with 5 at home, and their education, and the house and all that goes with it – needless to say there are a lot of days it’s just hard! Everyone is encouraging, reminding me that God will not give us more than we can handle – there are days I do question that. I know that with homeschooling I have learned more about my own shortcomings/ failings than my kids’. I am thankful for the days of having my kids at home, just need to learn to stress less and live more!

    • Tami Robinson says:

      I should have read some earlier posts…..please don’t include me in the drawing – yes my life is stressed, but there are lots that are more stressful than mine. I will look forward to purchasing a copy of your book soon!

  23. Marisa Maese says:

    As soon as I saw the title of this book on my facebook feed I had to find out about it! Especially when I found out that you were giving away 3 free copies ;). And Free is good for me! I’m a full time mom of a toddler and a teenager, pastor’s wife, volunteer children’s director at church, homeschooling mom, and did I mention full time mom of a teenager and a toddler! I fight against anxiety and stress daily. I’m so tired of living that way. I know that I can’t avoid all the pressures and responsibilities ministry and of life, but I know I have to allow the Lord to take control of the anxiety and stress. Please pick me!! I would love to read your new book 🙂

  24. Kathi Campbell says:

    I have a job that basically I am on call all the time. My time is not my own. Whenever I plan something fun or relaxing it never fails, the phone rings and there go my plans. To make matters worse, my sister-in-law was diagnosed with melanoma yesterday. We just lost my father-in-law to melanoma 1-1/2 yrs ago. I am not looking forward to going through this all again. Just when I thought my life was finally getting back to normal . . . I feel like I’m complaining but that’s what you all asked us to do. Thank the Lord I have the Lord in my life and I just finished Renee’s Confident Heart bible study which was WONDERFUL!! Highly recommend her book.

  25. Going through a ton of stress, lost house, lost husband, firstborn daughter husband left her with 2 kids, no where to live, no jobs, etc… yes it does affect health. We will get through it all by the grace and peace and strength of God.

  26. Stress is hard to avoid. Learing to completly trust God to help us with it is the key. Any help and insight would be much appreciated. I have learned so much from the different books that Proverbs 31 has offered. Would love to read this book.

  27. Strew can be so consuming. I have been searching for a book to do a small group.
    study on with my friends. This just might be the book.

  28. Mary Hayes says:

    Thank you for writing the book & following God when you resigned your job! My current stress is finding out girlfriends (so called christians & some not) are gossiping/spreading lies about me behind my back. It has been stressful, painful & downright ugly. What’s worse was finding out your long time friend (so called christian/not really) of 28-30 years cuts me off as a FB friend ~ talk about stress, shocking & heart-wrenching pain & tears, not including the physical side effects of these situations. I know it was a test from the Devil & he’s trying to win my joy. I’ve been praying for all the ladies who have gossip behind my back & the Lord to give me the attitude to “forgive them for they don’t know what they’ve done”. I would LOVE a copy of your book. My previous stress was caregiving for my mother who passed away last year.
    God bless you!

  29. Praying for each of you right now. My stress has been stretching me in so many directions lately but as I read your stories the hard things we are going through seem manageable – although they have felt monumental for the past few weeks. Right now, my greatest stress is working from home with a toddler who has special needs that include a severe speech disorder, sensory processing disorder, anxiety and sleep disorders and developmental delays that require physical and occupational therapy each week. I want to give her all that I can to help her grow and become all Jesus created her to be – while also giving my teenage boys the attention they need and somehow figure out how to fulfill GOd’s calling on our lives in ministry. Finding a new normal is our prayer and goal these days.

  30. Susan Smith says:

    My mother has an as yet undiagnosed mass on her (non alcoholic) cirrhotic liver. It is in the process of being diagnosed. My step father, mothers husband, with severe althzeimers and Parkinson’s and’ has a tumor in his pancreas and a cyst on his liver and is in the nursing home 1/2 mile from my mother. They live 17 miles from my home. My older sister who is almost blind, and is single; retired from her job to move in with our mother to care for her. I am 51 and a Mental Health/Counseling Graduate Student. And I care for my inlaws, Father in law with Althzheimers, Mother in law with Macular Degeneration. AND I am pursing this study on a Call from our Lord. He is carrying me through. He will not carry me where His grace will not cover me and deliver me! Today, I discover I may have plurisy in my right lung. The pain is incredible! I allow my self a stress and pitty party…Like today…I have a mid term this week and need to study!

  31. Susan Daggett says:

    Would love to read this book.

  32. I would say that I find the speed of life stressful and overwhelming. It can be difficult to figure out what I need to do and what I is just busyness.

  33. My dad has been diagnosed with Alzhemier’s and my mother has not come to terms with it yet and it has been approximately a 1 1/2 since diagnosis. My sister lives in the same town, but does not really check on them. But when I read this my thoughts were really of my friend who is not feeling well and has RA and is stressed out over a aging mother, no health insurance and felt like this book would be beneficial to her.

  34. My marriage is causing me stress. I am considering a separation after 13 years of marriage, where the last 9 have been a big struggle. This is a very difficult and stressful situation.

  35. My weight is causing me stress… I just can’t get motivated to diet and exercise.

  36. Delia Garrett says:

    Love the 7 day diet, now would be thrilled even more to have a copy of “Stressed-less”. You are awesome at sharing God’s word. Keep it up!

  37. I am stressed right now due to the suicide of my niece. The sudden, unexpected loss has caused me to lose focus on day to day things.
    M. Waters

  38. The stressors of handling/disciplining behaviors and attitudes my kids portray on a regular basis.

  39. There are so many stressful situations in my life at the moment. My finances, my children and their situations in their homelife aren’t good and worry about my 2 almost 2 year old grandchildren who life in those homes right now.

  40. Time management is one of my biggest stressors. And lately I am having added stress learning how to parent my teenage daughter who chooses to engage in self-harming behaviors.

  41. Stress in my life is currently supporting my mother-in-law, praying for our oldest who recently went to college, and helping with a sister-in-law diagnosed with cancer. We do all have stress-and have to find ways to “let go and let God” even especially when its difficult.

  42. Peggy Newman says:

    I would LOVE to have this book. I’m stressed and feeling all alone right now. Never married, no children and getting on up in years. Lost my job, financial problems, depression and lonely. Trusting in God!

  43. Stress kills joy and I would love to share this with a beautiful friend of mine!

    Thank you for sharing!

  44. Lisa Selan says:

    Wow! This is me. I had just been thinking it was me…I’m a failure, this is what my work life has become and there is no way out of where I’m at in my job. I feel very torn with desiring to honor God in where I’m at, but wondering if this is where I’m to be. My family life has suffered…that time, events, etc. that I can’t get back. In 28 years of working since college graduation I have never felt this stressed, tired and weary. I keep clinging to my Savior as this time has drawn me closer to him.

    • Suzy Smith says:

      Honey! You are not a Failure! U are a creationof God, His Child! He gave His Sons life for you and accepted His son and love His Son! You sweet sister are no failure! Satan wants u to think u are a failue! U are standing in the shadows of your own doubts! Be Confident in the Promises of God! He will never leave u nor forsake you! RUN OVER, dont walk this is a crisis!!!TO THE P31 store online and order Renee Swoope’s A Confident Heart. Or download it to ur Kindle! If P31 doesnt carry the app, Amazon Kindle Store Does! That book pulled me from the same self destructive mirey mudbog of no worth and self loathing. Email me eith a book report after Chapter 3 or so. If u can stop reading long enough!!!! I could not be more serious girlfriend! Movethyself!

  45. Everyday we have to thank God for our blessings- living on this earth is a constant opportunity to have stress. Thank you for this teaching.

  46. LaToshia Jordan says:

    I am stressed a little. A lot because I’m a single mom who had 3 girls 9th , 6th, 2nd. I teach 1st grade, and try to hold an active live with family n church. I’m stressed because my ministry of educating other people’s kids leaves me to drained to minister to my own kids. I need help

  47. I have been in the position of stressful job turning into stressful life. Fortunately I have a great job that is very fulfilling. I’ve been here 12 years and am hoping for at least that many more!

  48. Joyce Bencomo says:

    As I read this I relate to I feel today…10 yrs of being a single mother of 2 now teen girls + 40 hr. corporate job, with due-lines and where for management your performance is never good enough…I must say some days are just tiresome…. Thanks for your Testimony, Reminders and Encouragement xoxo

  49. HI, I look forward to try to find time to read this. I never thought I was stressed, just the way life was, well, my body told me different the last few years, it has reacted badly to all the stress to where I couldn’t take it anymore. In the last 1 1/2 yrs I have tried to get healthy ( I have numerous health issues). I started yoga & bike riding, threw everything away and started a new way of eating (not a diet), saw many dr and had tests. Today I am better than I was, but not quite there yet, everyday I continue my journey to be healthy in mind & Body.

  50. Mia Small says:

    I find that living under constant stress has diminished the confidence I once had in myself. I find that I’m less confident then I was a decade ago.

  51. How timely. When the only reason you stay is the money…you know you’re stressed.

  52. Sharon Peart says:

    I just moved house, single mum with kids, couldn’t afford the rental I was in. Moved back with parents it feels a huge step backwards to live with parents again at 42. Though I know they have sacrificed a lot for us to move here. It’s a new huge house, beautiful but I feel so irrelevant.
    I’m disabled too, my mother is so efficient and does things before I even think of them!
    Broken marriage, divorced last year.
    I was so stressed over move I just couldn’t function and my brain shuts down.. Too much info I just got lost!
    I still feel lost even though I’ll save money now and won’t have trouble with bad agents. And it’s cheaper I can pay back bills..
    God bless anyone who reads. I am so blessed just hard to appreciate it all sometimes!
    It’s good to learn from others what we can do to make it easier on ourselves and which ultimately affects our families and wider world! Thank you for your helps to us!!

  53. Stress is a funny thing a constant battle to keep what really masters in. focus in a world where you are expected to give your all and be everything to everyone! Its a decision I have too make everyday!

  54. Deedra Nagy says:

    Lately I have been stressed about paying bills, providing basic needs for my daughter and working at a job that doesn’t challenge me. With all the stress I have no confidence in myself any longer.

  55. On a day to day basis 8-5 my job consists of hearing people needing help basically due to the economic tailspin the country is in. Separating the true requests from the false one wears on my heart. My “hard outer shell” is starting to melt into my heart. This is causing stress for my spiritual well being as much as my physical and spilling over into my personal life. I could use some blessings to find my peace with everybody and joy in mankind.

  56. Loralee Wilcher says:

    going to the college fair with my son, who is a junior this year – can’t believe this day has already arrived !

  57. Looking forward to reading this book!

  58. Would love to have a copy of this book!

  59. OH WHERE DO I START! I don’t usually have high blood pressure but today I think it must be through the roof! I am a homeschool mom of 1 12 year old boy. We have been homeschooling for 2+ years and today BY FAR was the most stressful day I have ever had with homeschooling. I can’t even put it into words. My son can be difficult and usually is but today he was beyond difficult. I was just about in tears and that is saying a lot because I don’t cry much. In addition to the stresses of homeschooling I have a 1 year old granddaughter who is the most beautiful little baby I have ever seen, she is so precious. Her parents are really messed up and into drugs and alcohol. It is really sad and upsetting to see the choices they are making. I am so worried about my granddaughter. I have so much stress in my life right now. Some days it just seems hard to function.

  60. Can’t wait to read this book!!!

  61. Stress at my workplace has simply overwhelmed me this past month. I know that God is in control. I just forget that so etimes.

  62. This book looks like a wonderful read!

  63. This book would be great for my daughter, a young working mom with 2 small children. Can we say STRESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! TY TY TY & GOD BLESS

  64. Kim Lawson says:

    I’m struggling just this week with not allowing
    Stress at work and negative attitudes in
    The workplace bring me down. These situations
    Mixed with my people pleasing personality
    Have previously brought me to an all time low
    In my life. I’m praying and keeping the faith
    That the closer I grow with God and His word,
    I will be able to refocus and become stronger
    In these situations.

  65. My plate is overfull, but there all good things, just trying to figure how to balance it all.

  66. I would love to read this book. The area I stand against stress is finances.

  67. Stress. I try not to let it get to me or affect my life but it does. Right now my biggest stress factor is drving to my job. It is an hour one way and the gas prices are killing me. I am also getting ready to move my 91 year old mother in with us in two weeks. I so want her to come live with us, but I know that there will be some adjusting for all of us as she gets settled in. And one of my biggest stress triggers is the coming winter months and having to drive on snowy/icy roads. That sends me into a panic attack every time. God’s Word does calm my racing heart and I look for reassuring verses during my stressful times. Reading His Word every day gives my the strength to get through.

  68. Felicia S. says:

    My husband and his friend own 3 companies and just started another. I have done the book-keeping for the 3 and have been able to keep up. This fourth company is stressing me out so much. I just don’t have time to give to each company and home. I was talking to my 11 year old daughter and told her I am sorry I have been stressed out so much lately. She said when the stress is gone we will be happy again. It breaks my heart to know our stress is effecting our home life. I have to work on this area in my life. I can’t wait to read this book.

  69. I have found peace in my life through continued bible study and fellowship. I am even going on a mission trip. However, my stress in living with husband that does not live the same way. I will not give up but daily stress has caused uncertainty in my life. I see God working in his life so I know that I need patience. I love reading books like this so I can recommend to other people in our same situation.

  70. Life, stressful career, 2 teenage children (3 if you count my husband 🙂 ), and parents that live with us. But God is GREAT. Would love to read a copy of the book.

  71. Billi Ott says:

    This book sounds like just what I need. Working 50+ hours a week with no end in sight.

  72. My stress comes from trying to be the perfect wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend and employee. I never seem to know when to stop, and I go overboard in everything! I can’t stop and I want to try to make everyone else’s life perfect at the expense of myself. I really want to be able to just trust and rest in God knowing that he has all of this under control.

  73. Having difficulties at my job, brings me a lot of stress. Been there 15 years and would love to stay and learn how to deal better with the stress and not have to quit! Mix that with normal wife, mom, home owning…lots of stress!

  74. I’m such a people-pleaser. It affects everything I do. I’m learning to let God’s opinion of me be the one that matters most.

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  76. I can’t wait to read this book! I left a 17 year teaching career in May. I still teach but now I am teaching my own children. I left the stresses of being a teacher but now have the stress dealing with our finances. I do have a peace that I am where He wants me and He will take care of us but the devil does a great job making me doubt myself and lose my confidence some days. I am getting stronger and my faith is growing so I know He is working on me.

  77. Tammy Wilshire says:

    Shall I list the top ten stress items or the whole list? 🙂
    God is trying to work in my life and it seems no matter where I try to make changes, I am cut off. But our God is faithful!!!

  78. I am praying to God what feels like every second of every day to grant me peace, grace, and patience. I am in a job that I do not feel is where I need to be but can not leave because my husband and I are in the final stages of purchasing a new home. I am trying to follow scripture and turn all of my stresses and worries over to God but boy is this tough! Keeping my eyes focused on God sure does keep my stress levels lower but I would love to read more about how a sister of God has learned to deal with stress.

  79. I remember taking one of those stress indication tests several years ago and being told I should be dead … LOL … still here! …. right now it would be our next upcoming move (Active Duty Army family) and whether the house will sell in this market, will our older son move with? if not then we will only move with one child instead of 4? how weird is that? If the house doesn’t sell we can’t afford to upkeep two houses,etc,etc … I know God’s got it all I just wish sometimes He’d show me a little clearer before instead of after the fact! 😀

  80. Halona Luna says:

    Stress WOW recently let go from a position of nearly10 years & being the sole provider for my blended family of six Mine, His & Ours. As I process unemployment, new employment opportunities, going back to school or disability at 39, Knowing God has me in His hands… Just wish He’d share??

  81. Currently my job is a huge stress to me. As a new college graduate, I had a completely different idea of what my job would look like. I am praying that God shows me the path that he wants me to take.

  82. This would be such a blessing right now , with all the current stress, along with returning to work, and taking online classes. I pray that God guides me along this path and that there is a rainbow at the end.

  83. I am currently 8 months pregnant with our first child and I get stressed trying to keep up with housework, meal planning, and meal making, in addition to trying to get the last-minute things done before Baby gets here and all productivity goes out the window. I’m a perfectionist, so I often stress myself out about things and have a hard time getting the right perspective on them. I’d love to win a copy of this book to help with my ways of dealing with stress. 🙂

  84. Rebecca Shiplett says:

    I think I am self-imposing my stress. 3 of my adult children are having marriage/relationship issues and although I keep trying to give it to God, I continue to try to “fix them” myself.
    I also teach and the beginning of the year is always a stressful time. This year has brought many, many changes and although some of them are good, it’s causing anxiety and additional work.

  85. Connie B. says:

    I really feel like I have more stress now then I have ever had in my life. I would love this book.

  86. Stress for me is this menopause phase of life & no energy

  87. Stress? Yes — I am stressed, like so many people. I can’t seem to figure out how to balance and de-stress. I am a military wife with 2 small kids and living in another country. I can’t seem to figure out how to make things work… so the stress just piles on and I don’t sleep. This book would be sunshine for me right now — it would give me an outlet and help me figure out how to change the stress in my life into something positive.
    thank you!

  88. Work is a stressor for me, but most of the stress I’m dealing with comes from myself. I downloaded the intro and chapter 1 for this book today and can’t wait to get a hard copy, probably in addition to a Kindle edition!

  89. It’s been about three years of almost no income, and not knowing month to month what will happen. Trying to trust, but still suffering much anxiety and health issues.

  90. JoyceChurchwell says:

    Junior high teacher and mother of one with one on the way=stress. I know that
    Trusting God is the answer to handling stress but I can never seem to let go and trust Him completely. I am
    Hoping that this book will help me in my walk with the Lord.

  91. Donna Zeh says:

    Needing to de-stress. Learning to take care of myself after being a caretaker for so long. Grieving my mom’s passing three weeks ago.

  92. Stress? Like someone else said, I’ve lived with it so long it has become life. Nineteen years ago I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy and became a single mom (his biological father wanted nothing to do with us) and learned shortly afterward that my beautiful baby boy came with a little something extra (Down Syndrome). The two of grew and learned together for almost six years, then I married my husband. Let me tell you, single parenting a child with special needs isn’t nearly as stressful as becoming a stepmom and attempting to blend two families into one, but we managed and came through that. We added two more boys to our growing family (in 23 months) while having every other weekend and whenever DH’s ex didn’t want their daughter around (we had her). Around this same time my oldest starting waking throughout the night. Might not have been a big deal except he was getting into everything! (Developmentally he was probably at that 2-4 range when they are into everything even though he was 6-8 chronologically.) We spent the next 4-6 years sleeping with one eye/ear open to catch him before he got into anything. (He still doesn’t sleep through the night that great.) So, more stress plus sleep deprivation and we have one stressed out mama. I’d love to be have a little less stress in my life.

  93. The busy life of a mom of 2 teenagers, keeping schedules, making sure everyone is where they need to be at the correct time. I love being a mom, but it can definitely cause stress.

  94. Count me in! Without getting into all details we are dealing with a very difficult home situation- which was escalated last week when my tween girl escaped out her bedroom window and ran 8 miles away from home. 6 hours of hell on earth as 30 police officers in 3 districts searched for her…we are still seeking help for her and dealing with daily stress. Thanks for the chance, and hugs to Rene and all the P31 staff and team!

  95. It is a shame that we have so much stress in our lives. I am thankful for ladies like Renee, Lysa, and Tracie who write books to help us get back on track. 🙂

  96. I deal with stress once I get home and face my husband and son and always thinking about our future. We are living under my husbands parents roof, been for 4 yrs now, I’m ready for a change. That alone, trying to raise my own family in someone elses home and raise my 4 yr old is so stressfull and difficult!!! Granted I am truly blessed by my In-laws for allowing us to stay until we are able to move out, but I’m learning each day to be patient and allow God to take control of our finances. I know he will lead us to a home that we can afford and enjoy as a family of 3. God’s REALLY laid his hands on my heart a lot this past week, and I’m learning each day to be Blessed, he will heal our stress for us.
    Thank you fo this passage! Also I am reading your book, “A Confident Heart”, I love it, and It’s helping me seak God more and more each day.

  97. Anne Bailey says:

    Wow! I came on the site to leave a comment, in the hope of winning a copy of the book, thinking that my life was stressed right now. Reading these comments has put my stress into perspective!! I especially like the comment “My name is Stress!” Thank you Renee (and Tracie) for your inspiration and encouragement.

  98. Would love to learn more. Proud that I am in the Word more now than ever. It does help to lower the stress. Thanks for this ministry!

  99. I am a 51 year old Type A personality, perfectionist, borderline OCD, woman who takes care of a husband, a 17 year old high school daughter, elderly parents 4 hours away (only child – dad in hospice care) and is the Education Administrator of 40-50 third and fourth year medical students on a daily basis. Even with anxiety medicine, my mind still races all the time, while multi-tasking in this fast-paced world in which we live. Also have a very hard time sitting still at home when there is always something that needs to be done! Perhaps this book could help me?

  100. I have a wonderfully blessed life, and for the most part my husband and I have a very peaceful life. Not to say that blending a family or raising children was stress free, but with God we have over come. I feel in comparison at this point in my life I have nothing to be stressed about and my daily work or extended family member issues are minor – but I know staying in Gods word is the key to keeping the stress down and out of my life. So Yes I would love to win a copy of the book.

  101. I quit my job in August because of stress. I simply couldn’t deal with the pressures of working for an atheist anymore and his snide comments all the time. My work schedule was changing and I had to make a decision between being involved in church or working. Since quitting, I have a different type of stress. I am adjusting to being at home, and to not making any money. I am also relearning how to spend more time with the Lord and am slowly growing closer to Him. God is faithful and I know he directed me to quit my job. I look forward to reading your book.

  102. Stress is everywhere. Just try to remember to give it to God.

  103. My stress is self-induced becuz I spread myself too thin and get involved in too many things outside the home….then my family suffers!

  104. I have daily stress with my job and whether or not I should leave it. I have stress among family relationships and I have stress with health issues that we are trying to get in remission.

  105. Stress is always there! Knowing how to better manage it is the goal,thanks for sharing what God taught you!

  106. I signed up for Tracie’s 10 day stress detox study 3 days ago and it has already helped me so much. I wake up excited each day to see what the peaceful thought and prescription for peace is. I plan to order the book, but a signed copy would be awesome!

  107. Tammy Carowick says:

    I work in child welfare and there is a lot of stress that goes with this position. There is no doubt in my mind that God has called me here, but sometimes Satan whispers in my ear that what I do here isn’t good enough. Additionally, the other people that I work with outside my office are not Christians, so it is truly a spiritual battlefield when trying to deal with high risk situations showing unconditional love … more so with the professionals than the families!

  108. Renee,
    I met you in Memphis when you spoke to our Hope Women’s Ministry Kick Off for our Bible Study . We studied your book “A Confident Heart” that semester. Now, as one of the Hope in Kenya team, I get to share your message of God’s love with women half way around the world. “A Confident Heart” helped change my life and the lives of many women who finally understand what it means to let God be all we need.
    I read Tracie post in the Proverbs 31 daily devotional and realized she was describing my life. I too have a very stressful job, but I really enjoy what I do everyday. However, sometimes the demands from other people and the responsibilities can overwhelm. Tracie’s message came at just the right time for me…I really feel it is God speaking to me through her… reminding me He is always there. I would welcome the opportunity to read her book and it looks like very good Bible Study material as well.
    Thank you for your messages and may God bless you as you continue to share the wonderful love of God in all you do.

  109. Thank you for sharing this encouraging word with us. It was good to be reminded of our true worth…and of the far-reaching effects of stress.

  110. Shauna Biggerstaff says:

    I love how God always knows what we need….I needed to read what you posted today.. I can’t wait to read the book.

  111. Thank you for sharing. its so true.Social pressures can increase everyday stress.

  112. PAM SCHAEFFER says:

    I can totally relate to Tracie’s comments today. Two years ago I was an emotional wreck dealing with a job in which I experienced control, emotional abuse, and my confidence took a nosedive. Also, family members, friends, and other situations have caused me to doubt who I am just recently. . Tracie’s book and her posts have been a great encouragement, as well as Renee’s book “A Confident Heart” and Lysa’s book, “Unglued” Most of all, believing the truth in God’s Word changes my perspective , as I internalize God’s love for me in my imperfect progress. Thank you so much for all the encouragement on Proverbs31. The daily thoughts from all of the ladies have been a blessing. I would love to receive a copy of Tracie’s book..

  113. I am stressed right now by a move to a new state and the worry of finding a job. But my God supplies me with everything I need so I try to not get too stressed about it!

  114. Wow! What timing! God’s timing. Last night before going to bed I had some new thoughts….at least new for me. I had been to a Bible study and on my way home I was thinking about a lady who I was telling myself was opinionated and probably had opinions about me as well. Wasn’t sure about my relationship w/ her…could I really trust her? Yet, the most blessed thing happened next….New thoughts came to me….I don’t care if she approves of me or not….I have a peace now in my heart that I am receiving from my walk w/ Jesus. He accepts and loves me as I am and that is ALL that now matters. These thoughts are so refreshing and have emerged out of 8 years of living by myself. (Was married to a minister who chose a different lifestyle and am no longer his wife.) I am a people person and have talked to God a lot about not liking living alone…but my time and fellowship with Jesus has made me more at peace with myself and with the world. I am learning that Jesus love’ is really ALL that matters! Wow! What a gift! Would love to have a copy of the book….my daughter is still reeling from the after effects of the divorce-self doubt, people pleaser, and bound by having to do everything RIGHT! God is working-slowly but surely-in her. She is so precious! So love what you share, Renee’. God is not finished w/ us yet!

  115. I’ve learned that our life is like a rollercoaster… Lots of ups, but lots of downs. We are in constant battle of fighting for our peace and joy. The battle always starts with the mind. As soon as I start to feel stressed, whether it is at work, family related, or just life in general… God draws me to go to Him and ask for his help. As soon as I do, the weight is lifted… and I have my peace. In God’s presence is the best place to get rid of stress..

  116. Juggling work, teenagers and being a single parent. Praying for God’s guidance every day!

  117. Lynn J Simpson says:

    Stress is a health buster.. So important to have resources that keep our mind and body healthy so we can serve him. Having a grown child just move back home and launching a new business adds stress in my life. I. I look forward to reading this book!

  118. Judy Vance says:

    It is so amazing how God knows when to send words of encouragement to us! Thank you for sharing your struggles.

  119. When I read this I cried. I just got fired from a job I had for 5 1/2 years that everyday I dreaded and I thought it was me. I have been on depression medicine and sleep medicine for the past 5 years. I prayed day and night constantly because I could not deal with the stress and anguish. The women I worked with despised me and bullied me. They thought of it as a game but it was them 4 and the boss against me. In some ways it is a relief but the healing will take time. I would love to read this book! I think it might help me with this situation! I was just glad to read that someone else knows what I went through it wasn’t just me! Please if anyone reads this, PLEASE PRAY FOR ME! Thanks!

  120. Job stresses are definitely causing stress, but Tracie’s experience with her job has been my experience at every job but the job I was laid off from due to downsizing and well I made more than everyone else because I had been there longer. It is led to so much self doubt, low self esteem and lack of self confidence. Growing up my mom always expected more from me, unless I was getting straight A’s and top of/best of everything it wasn’t enough. Even when I was told I did a good job it was always followed with but if you did this it could be better. It has been very hard to believe that God loves me and values me and accepts me even though I am far from perfect. This book seems like its just what I need.

  121. Jalisa Ray says:

    School is currently stressing me out. This is my last year and I have a lot of other responsibilities and relationships outside of school. I feel overwhelmed and off balance,

  122. Marina Cameron says:

    My boyfriend of 7 years ended our relationship 2 weeks ago, because I told him I needed more of a commitment from him and wanted to get married. He broke my heart by saying he didn’t feel the same way and just wants to be friends. The loss of the future I thought we had together and disappointment from his words have devastated me.

  123. My husband has PTSD. Enough said?

  124. Jodi Summers says:

    I’m dealing with my 22 year old daughter. She has a 3 year old son. Anxiety and depression is a genetic trait that seems to run through all my children and although my daughter was always difficult, it has only recently been thrown out that she may have a personality disorder in addition to the anxiety and depression. My beautiful grandson is used as a pawn for her to basically “get her way” and we are smack in the middle of not knowing which direction to head. It has caused serious problems with my 13 year old son who seems to be his sister’s main target. I’m sure that an answer to this situation might “look” obvious to someone reading this but there are many twists and turns that haven’t been mentioned. But the good news is that through the bible studies I have participated in on-line (and definitely including the Unglued I’m in now), I am learning (slowly) how to deal with this and more importantly, how to handle it like who I am, a God’s girl. So thank you Renee for all you and the group you are involved in do to support and encourage all of’s really working.

  125. Gina Powell says:

    My stress is standing up for myself with the insurance company over a claim they should pay. I have the servant mentality – which is normally good because I do want to serve, but I realized recently I always feel inferior to everyone. I miss out on promotions at work or getting what my family deserves. My low self confidence is affecting my rewards from Christ. I want to learn to claim what is rightfully mine.

  126. Jennifer Pritts says:

    I’m overwhelmed with stress and need to make some changes in my life before the stress/anixiety takes over me. Thanks!

  127. kristina a. says:

    One thing that stresses me a lot is my husband’s job. He works in the oil fields, and he is gone usually 3-4 weeks at a time. I am both mom and dad when he is gone. He also works a second job when he is home. I worry about his safety, and getting everything done at home. I work full time, have 2 kids, a grandson on the way (baby’s mom is still at home). Thankfully I found God last April, and He has been a huge help! Thank you for this post!

  128. Margie F. says:

    Good morning,

    I downloaded the first chapter of this book and I can’t wait to read more. I also hope that reading your book will lead to reading more of God’s Book! Thank you for all you do for us in sharing your walk with God.

  129. Stephanie Hernandez says:

    I am a single home health RN working 50 – 56 hours a week. I also have a 2 year old granddaughter that i have been raising, an abusive unsaved daughter who lives next door, an unsaved son who wont have anything to do with me, and I am praying and standing for the salvation, healing, & restoration of my husband, our marriage and family.

    The stress has gotten so bad that my lab work revealed that i am completely nutritionally depleted, my red blood cells aren’t even normally shaped anymore . I could go through the whole list but it is lengthy, only God was keeping alive. I have started taking vitamins and I’m supposed to get new lab work in 5 months.

  130. Melanie Shannon says:

    Stressed about all that needs to be done and so little time – feel as I am pulled in so many directions – work, home, church, etc. I am sleeping but never wake up feeling rested & refreshed. Plus worried about my son who just went off to college 6 1/2 hours away from home (and how to pay for it). God has blessed me so much – I need to learn how to count those blessings instead of being stressed by them.

  131. Heather P says:

    When I think about all that I do and don’t do, I get stressed. At the moment, I have church responsibilities on top of my business to run and a family to care for while my husband is in school full-time in order to change careers. Saying I do not have stress would be a blatant lie. We wonder how we will make it some days and other days God provides another avenue. Would love to read this book.

  132. Thanks for sharing! Sometimes we bring on a lot of stress ourselves because we don’t have the confidence to believe that we can do something great. So we stay in our box where it’s safe never fulfilling the plans God has for us to do. So much time we waste or spend with the enemy “low self-esteem”.

  133. Lelsey Morris says:

    Love the book! I”m working on my “timeline”.
    I’m stressed about my job and lack of financial means.

  134. Could really relate to Tracie’s story. I used to enjoy my job but with increasing demands and expectations and no support from my boss, it became increasingly difficult to do my job. I was very stressed. I was losing confidence in myself and my self-esteem hit rock bottom. I was burned out and finally resigned my position. I thought leaving my job would make things better. That was 3 years ago and I struggle daily trying to get out of this rut and learning to turn it over to God. I would love to read this book. I believe it would give me the encouragement and start to helping me put God first.

  135. Oh goodness. As blessed as I am, I definitely still have stress in my life. My husband just started a new job and though I am very thankful that he HAS a good job, some lifestyle adjustments we are having to make since he started that job (although small) are taking a toll on me a bit. We also have a very active, ALL-boy 2-year old, 2 teenage girls (14 and 17) and a 10-year-old girl. I think their ages speak for themselves. 🙂 And the girls are actually my step-children, and live with their mom, who semi-frequently causes drama in our lives and has different morals than we do, so we constantly butt heads with her. My dad is about to start treatment for prostate cancer. My mom, who has been 30 minutes down the road from me my entire adult life is about to pick up and move to another state thousands of miles away. I started a new postion at work this past January and I have already grown to no longer like what I do, but I can’t leave anytime soon because I am 4 months pregnant and already have my short-term disability and maternity leave built up whereas if I went somewhere else I wouldn’t have such good benefits. Plus, who would hire someone that they KNOW is about to be out on materniry leave? Yes, I am VERY grateful to have those benefits, but that means I am stuck doing something I don’t like for at least another year and 2 months.

    Thank you for all you and P31 do, Rene!!!! You are truly a blessing to all of us.

  136. Cecelia Saigeon says:

    Oh yes, I can relate to work stress. I used to take everything personally and it would make me fill like I was not doing my job well.Then stress at home because of major life changes, taking on three little girls to raise and trying to figure out after all these years how to manage and work full time. God has definitley been with me through all of this. That is not to say I was always listening to Him. It took a lot burn out and emotional break downs. I finally heard Him saying “give this to me. You don’t have to do it alone. I am here for you” Now my stress is not as bad as it used to be. The more time I spend with God, reading His word and trusting Him I can handle things without the stress. I know that I can trust God and my confidence is in Him.

    John 16:33-“I have told you these things so that in ME you will have (perfect) peace and confidence.”

    1 Peter 5:7-Give all your worries and cares to God, for He cares about you.”

    So it is an ongoing renewing of my mind with His word and love everyday.

  137. Wow, I can so relate… why is it so easy to believe the negative people say about us and not the positive… I can be so sensitive when I hear comments about me… It’s not long before I start to believe them and forget that it is GOD who gives us value and we are His treasured… I have to remind myself that my worth is because of HIM, because I have Him in my life, I can do all things through HIM… thanks for a great post!!

  138. I have stress from all sides right now. Work, home, marriage, health. It’s now time to practice letting go and letting God in all of this because it’s way too much. But He can handle what I cannot. He just wants me to relax, trust and watch His wonders. Hard part is relaxing! 🙂 lol. I’d love to read this book to learn how.

  139. I have stress in my marriage, a 17 year old son and a daughter sick in California (I am in Ohio). I just want to jump on a plane and go hug my daughter and hold her tight!

  140. Wow! I could hardly believe my eyes upon reading this. I was just sitting here asking God to please show me what I need to do. Stress is not even a strong enough word for what I am under right now and there is no job over me to press me down. I can do that just fine on my own. My 19 year old daughter who has Down Syndrome had to have surgery to reconstruct ACL and PCL on right knee. This was Aug. 22. She still will not bend the knee in therapy because she is terrified of the pain she perceives as happening upon moving the knee. I know we are quickly approaching time of knee freezing up, but she does not understand that. That is just one of the many things concerning her right now. Oh, did I mention it is just me and her. My husband of nearly 30 years left nearly 4 yearsz ago and divorced me nearly 2 years ago. Time heals all things? REALLY STRUGGLING WITH THAT AND FEELING MAJOR STRESS BECAUSE OF IT THAT AFFECTS EACH PART OF MY LIFE. Did not mean for that to all b in caps but don’t have the time to back up on phone as Caitlynm is currently yelling for help. Please pray for God to just settle a cloud of peace over my home.

  141. Isn’t it weird how we allow a person’s negative comment, or a coworkers mood or just the fact that someone didn’t return your smile or even constructive criticism will make us start that ‘stinkin thinkin’ and it will tear you up unless you realize it in time and ask God to help you realize it is satan stabbing at you with thoughts he knows will hurt you. You can be on top of the world one day and feel like pond scum the next.
    I feel like I am constantly saying ‘Jesus is Lord over my thoughts, finances, coworkers, whatever the case’
    I just came out of one of those ‘funks.’ Thank you so much for your encouraging words and truth that you share to let us know we aren’t alone with this never ending battle.

  142. This is where I live. I chose going back to school rather than taking on more clients a the death of one client and the need to put another in a nursing home. My self worth was gone and my walk with God wasn’t what it should be. Returning to school and my Bible I gained the self confidence I needed. I am in a 31 Day “Crazy Joy” search with Ann.
    Today’s goal is to find three things: one caught, one given away and one on the way.

    I praise the Lord for my son’s goodbye kiss I caught on my nose this morning, my hug I gave him and the job on the way.

  143. It seems everything in my life is causing me stress right now, like the world is caving in on me. Would love to have the book.

  144. Jill Kuiper says:

    I had been so stressed that I didn’t even realize I was so stressed. I went into a depression for a couple of years that I didn’t even recognize until a good friend outed me on it. Marriage is stressful, along with family life, along with work, along with extra curriculars, along with church obligations, etc. I have since realized that I am worth it to take care of myself first. I am a giving person and had given until I was “bleeding” so to speak. I have cut back on my responsibilities/volunteering/etc and am now focusing on me. It’s amazing how much more free I feel, I’m a new person. I am special, I am wanted, I am a daughter of God!

  145. So true…I loved this know that feeling and right now I’m moving into a different norm of parents relationship to Jesus. I need to be honest that I’m not connecting with who I want to be. Feel trapped but I know where I should follow Christ in my own way. I know no Church is perfect. I believe if we were perfect we would not be here on earth. Don’t know for sure. I’m scared I’m going to hurt them but I think they already know the answer though…I just need to tell them. My goal is to tell them in the next two weeks. Talking to a pastor sometime next week to see what his suggesstion might be.

  146. Polly Schneider says:

    I am stressed out about my dad’s health lately. He is not doing good and needs alot of help just to get around. He is 85. Please pray for hi. Also my daughter just got back from Afghanistan and is looking for work. Keep her in your prayers also. Thanks alot.

  147. S T R E S S….seems like its everywhere these days. My husband and I are at our peek of stress as of late. A business that is struggling, selling our home. And aging parents.

    We look to God for strength and guidance and pray continuously. But admittitedly its just so hard. I humbly ask for your prayers in shoring us up through this time. I know no matter what God is with us and we need to just keep looking up.

    Thank you so much for your daily words of encouragement

  148. I know how Tracie felt, I too have an overwhelmingly stressful job. There are days when I close my office door and cry. There are so many demands placed on me that I can’t keep up and I feel like I’m not good enough for my job. The financcial situation at work is bad and I may lose my health insurance and have had to hold my paycheck for a week or more before I can cash it.. I go home at night to my husband whom I love very much but is not walking with the Lord. I have to deal with his demands and those of his home based business. Again I’m left feeling like I’m not good enough. I will be turning 50 in November and am dealing with accepting that change along with accepting that I’ll never be a mom. I need to lose weight, but I’m a stress eater so it’s a vicious cycle. There are situations with my siblings and other family members that cause me stress too. Though I know God is in the midst of all of this, I feel like I’m slowly being crushed by the weight of life. I need to focus more on Him and less on my circumstances. My stress are pretty insignificant compared to most on here, but thanks for letting put in writing, it helps!

  149. I look at all of the needs I see around me in my family and friends and I feel I should do something yet I feel so inadequate and I hear this voice that says if only you would…. then… and this really stresses me.

  150. My current stress is my vehicle being repaired. I was in a hit and run accident friday and now my car is in the body shop. I am stressing that is repaired correctly. Also, I am stressing about money. There is alot of things we need to repair in our home and don’t have the money right now. But the longer we wait, the worse the problems get, the more it will cost to get the things done. So many different reasons to stress and be fearful but I am trying to cling to the fact that God works all things to the good in my life. Sometimes it is hard though.

  151. I can so relate to this blog post and I think the book is going a valuable resource. I too have been wondering if God is calling me to do something else and make a change in my jobs…

  152. I have a son who is trying to live life as a recovering drug addict, whom the drugs have done a real number on his mental health, did i mention he lives with me! my daughter who lives with her dad bounces from one teenage high and low, approving and loving and wanting a relationship on the highs, dropping me, trashing me and leaving me love-less on the lows. my mom is elderly in poor health and my only sibling is in poor health who has been out of work for nearly 2 1/2 years. i’ve taken a new job, starts in 2 weeks and will be required to travel for the first few months but it promises finanical security and opportunities i felt i couldn’t pass up. i AM SOO STRESSED and yet trying hard to remember i am not alone and God’s love is constant and secure so even when i feel lost, alone and like the world and it’s weight is going to drown me, He will lift me up! prayers PLEASE!!


  153. A daughter who is on the mission field and expecting her first child. She and her husband are having trouble getting back into the United States. God is in control and we put our faith and trust in Him. Sometimes I “think” He needs a little help from me….ha ha ha…..I just have to keep trying to pull it out of God’s hands.

  154. I’ve allowed myself to be pulled into the demands of this world (aging parents care, dtrs. marriage that was just postponed after everything has been arranged for and paid for, son who has returned home abruptly with a mental disorder, running a small business and have put aside the time spent in God’s Word opting to listen to Christian Radio thinking that would fill the gap-somewhat but certainly I’ve lost the peace/joy and my confidence is in the basement. – seems like one more thing on my to do pile – nobody gets satisfied – hmmm, I picture a juggler, juggling but he’s dropping more objects than he’d like. A hamster wheel – but how do you get off. Help!

  155. Ashley L. says:

    Just like Christina G., I have been experiencing so much stress and anxiety, my IBS has rendered me nearly useless. We moved out of state about a year and a half ago. It was my first “real” move away from all that I have known, and it’s been rough. With the added pressure of staying positive for my kids, I have just buckled under the pressure of it all. Not having my family and friends and church and community for support has made a much bigger impact in our lives than I ever dreamed. Renee, your book has been so great to read, and I look forward to reading Tracie’s!

  156. This is just what I needed to read today. I fell stressed about my job, the feelings of not being a good wife, mother, friend, sister, or co-worker are consuming my mind. I feel like giving up but I know that God has me here for a reason, not sure what the reason is but I am here for something. Reading this just gave me some answers like I need to stay in the Word more than I do and I can go to the Father and lay it all down in front of Him and he will answer. Thank you !!

  157. Fiberquilt says:

    Stress can rob us of so much in the wonderful life God has given us.
    I love that I can pray and give over my stress to God. Thank you for this healing message

  158. Stephanie says:

    Learning STRESS should be stress,
    and God should be GOD in my life!

  159. I experience stress constantly especially at work (which I am trying to change) But after attending a Girlfriends conference on 9/29/12 with Renee Swope I KNOW there is peace and hope for me!! I am sharing it with a fellow coworker who is going thru the same thing as I am It is a daily battle but God on my side we will be triumphant.

  160. Tracie Miles really shared her heart and what happens to a lot of women who are in the work place. Supervisors tend to only want more, more, more and forget that we are not machines. A simple thank-you goes a long way on a job. We (women) also tend to forget that our jobs are not our source, but GOD is. Once Tracie realized this she began to soar. We live in an imperfect world, but we serve a PERFECT GOD. Thanks for helping me to remember whose in control – My Father God, not the world (job)

  161. Stress is making me sick. There are too many things to do and not enough time in the day. I am trying to stay focused on Jesus, so the stress doesn’t build up. It is so hard most days. Would love to win a copy of Tracie’s new book. Hopefully I could find the time to actually read it 🙂

  162. Stress seems to be a constant companion for me, especially as a single mom trying to juggle everything. This book sounds like a must read for almost anyone 🙂 Thank you!

  163. Vicky Bell says:

    As a mommy of a 21/2 year old and new beautiful baby girl born June 27, my life has been filled with the new stressors that are created with bring home baby #2. We found a approximately a week after Sophia was born that she was born with a genetic disease called cystic fibrosis, my whole world came to a sudden stop and I could not even take a breath without crying for my baby girl.
    We have faced cystic fibrosis head on and have no plan to ever let it get in our way but with that has come a few added cares for Sophia on a daily bases. Along with this I have chosen to return back to work to my part time job.
    I feel like prior to all of this I was not that confident of a person added to it the guilt of the diagnosis, I am sufficating in stress that I am allowing myself to have. I dont feel like I am a good mommy to Jacob because when he asks mommy can you play with my I am either busy feeding Sophia, giving her treatments caring for basic baby needs and sometimes I am just tired and dont want to get down on the floor to play, which in turn makes me feel more guilty and the cycle goes on!
    Trying to make it out of the house in the morning with everything going on is very stressful and I start worrying about it the night before and no matter how prepared you are children are unpredictable.
    My husband is helping but he is busy with his job and I feel like if I am frustrated I take it out on him which in turn cases more guilt….the dreaded cycle!
    I turn to God but as soon as the pray is over its all over and the stress and guilt just sit back down on me.
    I would love to feel less stressed for my family but feel like I am caught in a cycle this is my destination to feel on edge all the time.

  164. I am currently 19 weeks pregnant with my third child and I work for a female boss whose idea of child-raising is to make sure there is a babysitter at home while she is pursuing her career. I cannot afford daycare and my husband and I both need an income to pay our bills. I want to speak with her about working from home part or full time but am nervous about her reaction. I desperately need confidence and a trust in God’s plan to lead me in the direction I need to go to take care of my family. Renee, your book has been most helpful and I thank you and all the readers for posting such encouraging words.

  165. As a single parent, finances keep me worried at night. While God has always provided for us, the uncertainty of making it through the month is hard. Unfortunately my job is also stressful at the moment. While I do not fear I’ll lose my job, I’m uncertain I have what it takes any longer to perform all that is demanded.

  166. Wow, when I read those first few paragraphs, I could easily relate. I’ve been working at a job for 3 years that has eroded my confidence, leaving me feeling not good enough, and oftentimes finding myself in the black hole of despair and hopelessness. By God’s grace, with the help of many of the daily devotions of Proverbs 31 Ministry and other books by Renee and Lysa, I am being reminded of who I am in Christ, God’s great love for me and to live in His promises. Thanks for your ministry to all women!

  167. Hilda Quintanilla says:

    Dads third and totally different battle with cancer.

  168. WOW – what Tracie described is so real! I felt like she was writing my own thoughts. I have been repeatedly told that my “perfectionism” is what is keeping me so uptight. I would like to learn how to let go and be more carefree….to not have so many self-doubts about my worth – to learn not to be a “people-pleaser” in hopes they would simply like the “real” me……

  169. melissa bell says:

    Thank you for your wonderful post! I have always been quiet and shy and well I guess worried about what others might think of me. I have recently started a new career and had no confidence in myself. I would tell myself today you can do anything! But when I went out to talk to people about my company its like I shut down. Reading your post has given me so much encouragement for today!

  170. Thank you for this post. We serve an amazing GO

    I’m turning 48 in Dec. I have been single now for 7 yrs. I had no desire to date for the first 6 yrs after my break up. In the last year I have put myself back out in the dating world. It has been so, so hard. The rejections have broken me down so low that I find myself doubting that I can ever truly be worthy of being loved.

    I’am trying my hardest to try and rest in the arms of my Heavenly Father.

  171. My grandson is really stressing me out. He is rebelling against both of his parents and I find it so hard to deal with him. This is causing me to worry more about him and when I think about what he’s doing I just get sick to my stomach and sometimes I find it hard to even prayer about it. I journal and I find it even harder to write about it. The part that gets me more is that he knows better. He’s 13 and has been taught right from wrong. I guess that ‘s what hurts the most. This is the first time I have even written anything about this situation. Sorry to burden you.

  172. Sharon Brown says:

    I loved this quote from you- “but the more I kept my eyes focused on Christ, the more my self confidence increased. I not only discovered my confidence again, I also learned that God is the answer to our stress, no matter what form it comes in.”. I have found with my stress of wanting to quit a weekend and evening job to be with my family more that the more I pray about it, the less stressed I am about it. I haven’t quit yet – I still feel this is where God wants me right now – but know something different is coming along soon!

  173. I have so much compared to others & in comparision my problems at times seem petty, but that doesn’t make me any less stressed. Due to a hip problem that has yet be diagnosed live in extreme pain & can’t even sit up very long, which means even using my wheel chair doesn’t allow me to do much. Each month God has shown me how I can hang on financially, when there seems to be no way. Instead of helping out Daddy he is having to take care of me & now he is facing knee surgery. I want daily updates on my Grandmother (in the hospital) but spending hours on the phone with my mother ranting & raving is more than I can handle some days. Then if don’t call feel guilty. (Mother was taking care of her parents & my dad (step). Granddad died in March, Dad in July, & now Grandmother …) I want so much to help others & I can’t even take care of myself. I know God has a plan & will some how use this, but is it so hard to see some days, escpecially those when I haven’t been able to sleep.

  174. Brooke Richardson says:


    Thank you for that email. I DEFFINTELY NEED A STRESS FREE LIFE. WE ALL DOO. I am 23 with a husband and 2 sons ages 2 & 4. My parents are one of my stresses as I feel that I am their mom and they are my children. My mom is a drug addict and my dad an alcholic, for the past 18 years of my life they have been in and out of prison/jail and have recently got into an altercation after they have been divorced for 18 years and they are putting me in the middle and I dont want to have to choose. I just wish my children could have normal grandparents. I am also dealing with a husband who makes 16.00 an hour and works 80 hours every two week, but only brings home 260 every two weeks. So his check only pays part of daycare and my paycheck pays, rent, food, gas, insurance, and the other half of daycare. We don’t qualify for any assistance, because they look at his gross income and not his net income. I hate stressing everyday and wonder where we are going to get food from or gas from. IM EXTREMELY STRESSED AND DEPRESSED. I went to the doctors to see if i could get help and ended up with a $130.00 doctor bill, so needless to say, I cant back there until thats paid. Im at a loss…IM TRYING TO DEPEND MORE ON THE LORD. INSTEAD OF MY OWN STRENGTHS. I JUST DONT KNOW WHERE TO START. Well that is some of my stresses, but there is TONS MORE! So I would LOVE to get this book, BECAUSE I AM IN DYER NEED OF HELP! HELP! HELP! I feel like because of everything that is going on with my parents to my husband it comes out on my children and it hurts my heart, because i feel like a horrible mom, i know they want a happy mom, but i just dont know anymore…..

    • Kristi Seat says:

      Girl! I believe God led me to your post. I’m so sorry for the burden that you are bearing right now. It sounds like you feel like everything is falling down around you. I have been there too. Different circumstances but same hopeless feeling. It’s so difficult when you feel as if the weight of the world is on YOUR shoulders. When you feel as if you are responsible for creating a safe environment not only financially but emotionally for those around you, that weight feels even heavier. And, I know what you mean about not knowing where to start. I’ve found that it’s easy for me to “depend on God” when everything is going well but it wasn’t until I lost everything that I found that I wasn’t truly depending on Him. I was still in control. And, for a long time, I told God that I had surrendered everything to Him but I would still try to pick up this piece or that piece of my life and try to “fix” it myself.

      It was a gradual process but I challenge you to explore faith in Hebrews 11. God has a story that he wants to write about your life. And, it is those messy pieces which He wants to use for His glory. When I tried to be strong by myself, eventually something would crumble but when I started giving one area of my life over to him (health, career, home), He began to show up! It wasn’t easy though and still isn’t. In fact, I felt alot like you earlier today. I think it is important to take small steps like you did here and allow God to do the rest. I found that one action would help me feel better. Even if that means taking a walk or distancing yourself from the situation. For me, it was often about simply journaling and getting my feelings on paper, writing out a prayer or reaching out to others like you did here.

  175. I’m stressed with what it is I’m supposed to be doing in life. I enjoy what I’m doing now, but I wonder if this is where I’m supposed to be or am I supposed to be doing something else with my life.

  176. My husband & I just completed our last fertility attempt to learn we are not pregnant. To say the least, we are disappointed. I am still believing God for a miracle but can succumb to the stress of unanswered questions in my weak moments. Please pray for us. PS I would enjoy reading the book you mentioned.

    • Heidi – I have walked in your shoes & can relate to what you are experiencing. After unsuccessful IVF attempts, my husband & I chose to pursue the Snowflakes Frozen Embryo Adoption Program through Nightlight Christian Adoptions, and have not regretted one single moment of it! We have our son Matthew (almost 6) because of Snowflakes, and 2 years later had our son Andrew (almost 4) through “spontaneous” – aka God – pregnancy. I can’t promise you the same results that we have had, but Snowflakes has been a tremendous blessing to our family. I cannot say enough good things about them. (((hugs))) and I pray that God gives you His peace as you are journeying down this very difficult path.

  177. Tracie spoke at our Women’s Retreat last year – she is an amazing woman & I am SO looking forward to reading this book!!

  178. After reading all the stress that many of the readers have experienced, I cannot complain much about my piddling problems. Yet the “little foxes that spoil the vineyard” sneak in to steal my joy and give me anxiety that translates into a stress in life. The book , “Stressed Less Living,” could be an antidote to those little incidences in life that the enemy uses to keep me from the enjoyment of living for Christ.

  179. I could write a book just on the amount of stress that I have! A 2 yr long custody battle for children (that has led my current marriage into therapy b/c of the stress from that!) opening my own business within the last year, moving 5 hours away from everyone/everything I know- including my family at my church and having a VERY difficult time finding the right church now……
    LIFE in general! Some days, I literally feel like my head turns around in circles! I can’t eat b/c everything but water and crackers make my stomach hurt. I don’t exercise any more b/c I am too tired, depressed, or stressed!
    ARRGGHHH!!!! Something has to give somewhere!
    So after reading this today, my number one priority is daily devotional in God’s word. Try to open my heart and let go of some of the anger and allow God to help me heal.
    Prayers Please!!!

  180. Carri Walker says:

    I am struggling with anger and my children carry the brunt of it because I’m home with them. The other day I had a thought that caused me to break. My kids could die and go to hell because they have an angry mommy who doesn’t act like God is real in her life. I’m working to correct this with God’s help, but learning to be stress-less would be such a help.

  181. Anything stresses me out, unfortunately. As I walk closer with God, it is getting better. I really need this book.

  182. Kimberley says:

    I’m currently battling battling cancer and recently returned to work, i just started chemo treatments 3 weeks ago and my stress comes from the management at work. They were trying to fire me while I was out on medical leave, now they are questioning whether I am sick because I dont look sick. I serve God and my faith and strength comes from him. Thank you for the message.

  183. It has been a long stressful past three years, full of loss for our family….BUT God. It is difficult some days, but I know God is with me and I am just holding on to the strings of His coat tails, praying for the strength to keep hanging on. I am glad God never lets go of us! Thank you for your encouragement!

  184. Mary Beth says:

    My marriage causes me stress.

  185. Elaine Segstro says:

    I need to realize that the work I do doesn’t define who I am. I feel if I only……… then I would feel fulfilled. It never works, and I KNOW I shouldn’t feel that way, but tell my heart that. If I could only be at peace with where I am at. I don’t need to prove anything. God won’t love me any more than He already does.

    • Amen. I understand. I am in a job I know God has called me.. working with K and 1st in ESOL population as a teacher. I have my strengths and weaknesses. Supervisors lately have been negative with me.. Reminding myself what God thinks of me in scripture

  186. I am currently stressed and depresses I am 20 years old trying to go to school and work at a local hospital. I have been sick and have been to the ER and many doctors and still doing test to figure out what is going on.I have missed a lot of work because of this. I went in for a interview for a different position that would give me a regular full time schedule . I had them sold other than my attendance. I wanted this job so bad we are struggling with money and I feel like I am not providing for me and my husband . It doesn’t help that I get lectured at everyday about it! I am trying so hard and I feel like no one sees.

  187. Stress is very hard to avoid in this life. I remember when my hair used to be all black and now day by day stress changes it color 🙂 My job becomes very overwhelming at times and I feel like I am buried under work. My co-worker just had a heart attack so now I have double the work. Every now and then the question of if I am a good enough wife pops into my mind. Sometimes I don’t always remember that Jesus says be anxious about nothing. I need to remember that God is always there with me no matter what I am going through and He will never leave me 🙂

  188. Nicci Ramirez says:

    Current stress –> Employment and Lost Loved ones :((((

  189. I am loved says:

    I feel stress and was playing on going to the doctor for “irregular ” women issues. Just trying to receive encouragement from God and to move forward.

  190. I broke my arm two weeks ago playing sports. I’ve not been at work for however long I need to recover but one thing that has gotten me all stressed out is whether I am able to play again, to do the things I love to do again. I broke my dominant arm, so, it’s been scaring me a bit. I pray for complete healing and restoration, but I do tend to stress quite a bit…

  191. Wow…Tracie’s narrative describes my life circumstances to a T right now. Always grateful for your blogs Renee. They have God’s finger prints all over them :-).

  192. Sandy Bizon says:

    Being a single parent is stressful enough, then losing your job adds to that. I was unemployed all summer, thankfully got a job but am very underemployed & underpaid. Adding to that is the fact that my kids’ father hasn’t paid support for months and I have to keep calling to push the state to go after it.

    I do try to enjoy the time with my kids, watching band and soccer and having them in my life. Just trying to figure out why He has my life the way it is and has been for years now.

  193. Dear God, Help Me Please…

    Ugggg. Today I am stressed (much much more than yesterday).

    I came home after Bible Study tonight and “Something” told me to check her ears out.

    Without hesitation I obeyed, and was instantly mortified!!!!!!!

    I looked in my little doggie’s ears and she has ear infections. Yes, plural, “ears”, not one, but BOTH ears.

    Her inner ears are so red and swollen, and there is drainage that is dried up…ok I’ll stop with the details.

    I must confess, yes, I do feel horribly negligent as I am typing this.

    I just looked at her while asking myself how could I be such a horrible “mom.” I broke down crying even more while apologizing to her.

    She just looked back at me. She appeared to be sad, although her beautiful brown eyes always look sad, particularly when she is just sitting still and staring. But she looked sadder than normal. Oh how I wish she could talk to me.

    I “laid hands” on her ears and prayed in faith asking God to please heal her right away, comfort her keep her from future ear infections, and all other illnesses.

    I prayed also for God to please provide the resources I need to take care of her needs as well as my expected and “unexpected” needs.

    I really didn’t need this. She didn’t need or deserve this either.

    I already was stressed out about finances. (* the top of the list)

    Just yesterday the panel on my car notified me that not one, but BOTH brake lights are out.

    Hummm, I could’ve sworn I just got those or at least one of them replaced less than 5 months ago. I’m gonna check my car paperwork.

    Sigh. No more stress God. Please God, no more.

    I can hardly wait to dive into Tracie’s book. God knows I need all the help I can get.

    I could go on and on about the stressors of my current circumstances, but I would probably be “blocked” from ever commenting again and there would probably be some sort of red flag identifier tag like

    ” real downer” that pops up.

    In all seriousness, I know that I can call my Abba who knows my needs before I do. I know He is true to His Word and will provide all of my needs. He’ll pick me up when I am down.

    Jehovah Jireh, my Provider. Jehovah Rapha , Jehovah Nissi, Jehovah Shalom He is the Great “I AM.”

    I love that He doesn’t block my calls (lol) .

    Thank you, for all of your resources and encouragement. I am blessed all the more for them.

    PS: I can’t wait for the Bible Study for Stressed-Less Living to come out as well. I know this for sure I will be signing up for that one 🙂

    God Bless You All


  194. I am so excited to see this book come out! I have been following Renee through some of the Confident Heart study, and now working through “UNGLUED” for the 2nd time……I am ready to take that to the next level with this book/study!!

    I have started a new business about a year and a half ago, and scary as it was, got the ball rolling, had money in the bank, no worries. In the past few months, the money has not been as readily available as before, and at times we aren’t sure we can make it. I have never had such a time in my life that I knew I had to completely trust God to provide where necessary. Funny thing, He does!! This has definitely put a little stress in mine and my husbands life.

  195. Stephanie says:

    I would love to read this book! I put so much pressure on myself to “do it all” and spend too much time comparing myself to others, most of whom are in totally different situations! When I don’t follow the feeling to just unwind, relax or set something aside for awhile, it just boils over onto my family and that never turns out well for anyone. Funny how I can admit this but often, in the moment, can’t seem to put it into practice!! 🙂 I have to just remember to hold fast to the promise that God does not leave us on our own ever, and whatever the situation, He is still there.

  196. Right now I am dealing with the reality of a divorce, living with my sister (Thank You God for letting me find a place to be) having to give up the pets and a job that I hate. I just keep on going though, knowing that God has something planned.

    • Kristi Seat says:

      I’m so sorry Tracie. I will be praying for you. Although i have never been married, I know how difficult it is when a relationship is dissolved even if it is for the best. Compile that with losing some pets which made your day brighter must be difficult. Your words “Thank you God for letting me find a place to be” ripped at my heartstrings because I am there as well. I am currently in transition right now as well and have been for awhile and it has been very difficult but I know in my heart that God has a plan. God has been faithful in so many ways over the year as I continued to pursue Him in spite of my circumstances. Just keep on trusting in Him. I know that He will answer all your prayers in ways that you never would have imagined.

  197. I too have been struggling to release the stresses in my life. I think my biggest stress comes from our house. Now that our kids are grown and we can really start focusing on the house, it seems we’ve let it go for too long. I would almost rather move out than try to fix it.
    Anyway, I have been praying lately for the Lord to show me why I am so “obsessed” with the fact that our house isn’t perfect. Still no answer, but I know He is faithful.
    With the house in the shape it is in, me not really happy with my job, and finances not being what they need to be to have someone else do the work, it feels overwhelming and somewhat hopeless. We’ve done alot to the house through the years but now I am noticing the structural issues, and frankly, I am tired of working on this place!!

    Yep, I think that is my biggest source of stress.

  198. I have enjoyed discovering all of the wonderful resources through the Proverbs 31 Ministry. It had been truly a blessing for me to find other women who struggle with things I can so identify with on a daily basis. Surrendering my stresses is a daily challenge for me. I appreciate all of the wisdom I receive from reading the other comments. Thank you for sharing.

    • Kristi Seat says:

      I agree with you Suzanne. I look back to my life prior to finding Proverbs 31 Ministries and I see a completely different person. The words of these women have given me such hope during some difficult challenges. Although I am still a work in process, I am so grateful that God has used this ministry to help me release the stress, anxieties and fears which used to torment me. It’s wonderful to know that I’m not alone and that there is someone out there with a similar story to my own or one who has different perspective on the situation.

  199. Kristi Seat says:

    Thank you so much for this blog post Tracie. It tugged at my heartstrings in so many ways. I remember when I first graduated college and was working as the laboratory manager of the molecular diagnostics program at Virginia Tech. It was a standard government job. Forty hours. No more. No less. But, I was there most days for 12 hours or more. It was a great opportunity but the stress I placed on myself was killing me. I was making little money but the work was intriguing. Yet, I never felt satisfied. Although I loved trying to discover the cause of diseases, I knew in my heart that God wanted me to be an active part of the healing process.

    My thoughts began to revolve around the old dream I once had of becoming a pharmacist. I had been on the other side of that counter numerous times and I wanted to make that person feel less alone and frightened. Internally, I was struggling with this issue as well as the doubts and fears which had begun to arise in me due to an emotionally & physically abusive relationship. I can still recall the day that I decided to take a risk and move to the coast of North Carolina to move in with my sister and her new family. I had always been independent but now I was admitting that my life wasn’t perfect. But, as soon as I left, I began to feel a peace surround me. Looking back, I am amazed how, by taking that step, God began to ease many of my fears. I found a job in a pharmacy where I met a wonderful woman whose husband had just left her and needed a roommate. We became best of friends. That move eventually led to one divine encounter after another. Work became a joy. I eventually began working for the behavioral hospital there as well as for the military and ended up applying for the doctorate program at UNC.

    However, I still had not given everything over to Jesus. Years of hard work and an endless string of abusive relationships began to erode that stress-free facade and my body began to break down. I decided to take medical leave and was unable to return due to a host of events which were out of my control. Yet, throughout the horrific next few years, I can now look back and see that God had another plan for me.

    Through complete and utter dependence on Him during those years, He began to build a faith in something larger. My anxiety and depression began to lessen. Although I still struggle with the words that come of out of my mouth as well as the ones in my head due to years of abuse, I am in awe of the change He has made in my heart. As a woman who can’t remember not feeling stressed, I am simply thankful for the peace that He is developing. Throughout the past two years, God has surrounded me with His Word and the stories/voices of others during those dark moments. I discovered a voice that was there prior to the abuse and I found that words can bring even greater peace and healing than medicine ever did.

    I have been on both sides of the coin of stress-homeless, abused, ill, financially broken. Yet, I am still trusting that in those dark moments, He has a greater plan. I just moved recently and the stress has been more than I can bear at times. However, I know that when God places something on my heart, I have to respond even if it doesn’t make sense at the time. I didn’t want to get out of bed this morning but I did and I found your post. It was such a reminder that even though I feel lost, He still uses the words of others to speak His truth into our souls. Although I feel out of control, I don’t have to act out of control. Even if my car has been beat up since I moved here. Even if I don’t understand how I will ever be able to pay the medical expenses & loans. Even if I don’t know what job God has for me. I know that He has drawn me closer to His will than ever before. And, when God places a need on my heart, I have to trust that He will equip me or position me so that He will be glorified. That is my prayer. Of course, when I write, I can see the positive but there is a gnawing sense of restlessness in my chest which is beginning to cause me to feel that burden of stress and fear. And, I must repeat the mantra of my church: “I believe God for greater.”

  200. Stressed about leaving my son in FL to go to college 10 hours away

  201. Wow did I ever relate to what Tracie shared, only my position was eliminated; this occurred the same week my Dad passed away. It’s been a challenging past few months but I have used this time to draw closer to the Lord and make Him my number priority. I too am growing in the areas of confidence and self-worth. Thank you so much for sharing this.

  202. Truthfully I am not sure what is creating it, but my nonstop eating has me stressed to the max. Something is creating me to eat all day long, but I don’t know what the hidden problem is. I now need to lose 50 lbs and can’t stop on my own. I need help.

  203. I am a kindergarten/ esol teacher in a title one school. I am single and live on my own with my cat. I have had to make a position switch from kindergarten teacher to ESOL position. Leaving my children and teacher assistant behind and trying to explain why this has to happen has been hard and sad. Administration has been negative and not very supportive. I am learning to rely on what God thinks about me. That He loves me with an everlasting love and will never leave me nor forsake me. Also that His Grace is sufficient in my weaknesses and to do everything unto Him which helps my attitude. That He does see it all and my worth is in His love for me. The Confident Heart Book by Renee Swope has been such a blesing to me and a good reminder that my self worth is based on God’s thougths toward me which are good and He believes in me even when others do not.. I would like to win this book on how to destress or will plan to buy it. Thank you again for reminding me that God is for me and not against me and still has plans and purposes for me in my life.

  204. Stressed With No Way Out says:

    Thank you in advance for reading my comment. I think it’s absolutely wonderful when people like Renee can get out of their stressful corporate work life, but unfortunately I feel I have no way out. I am a christian & have been since I was a child. I grew up in a Christinan home. I have a young daughter and work full-time. My work is all consuming. I used to work 6 days a week but since my daughter was born I now work 5. I wish I could quite my stressful job and pursue more godly things, but I can’t. My family needs my income. I can relate to the women’s comment about praying every morning before starting work. I pray every morning in the bathroom when I get to work and at least several other times during the day. I feel so badly that I am so miserable and so does my husband but there is just no possibility of me quitting. There is nothing my boss/owner can do either to lessen my work load. I feel as if I am a bad mother because I don’t get to spend as much time as I would like with my daughter. I cry every morning when I drop her off at the babysitter. Everyone always says it’ll get better, but she just turned one and it still hasn’t. i have been praying for years that God please do with my life whatever he wishes and for my clarity to understand and see that. While my daughter was of course one of the biggest blessings of my life, I just don’t understand why God has put me/allows me to have such a stressful job. I have also been praying that since my job can’t change that God alter/change my emotional state of mind, but things just keep getting worse for me emotionally instead.

  205. Kathy Fanus says:

    I have to deal with stress and depression on a regular basis. Recently we lost our health benefit coverage and I’m working with the rx company to get my medication. A month’s worth is over $400. They switch to a medication I took before, but does not work near as well. I trust in God that he will get us through this difficult time. Any extra tips or stratigies are always welcome. I do love to read.


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