Courage to Look Back – Hope to Move Forward

Today is another day where I can’t just write what I want to say – I need to “show and tell” you. In today’s short video message below I share how God walked me through a process of looking back with courage – so I could move forward with hope. He helped me identify things I didn’t even know were affecting me and gently led my heart on a journey towards freedom – showing me how to of let go of the pain from my yesterdays so I could live with confident hope in my todays… and tomorrows.

Please {like pretty please even if you don’t normally watch video posts} click the arrow below to “hear” today’s message from my heart to yours. 

{Are you a note-taker? If so, I created “Video Message Notes” in a PDF format here or in a MSWord doc here, just for you. Even included key verses and blanks to fill in.} 🙂

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About Renee

Renee Swope is a Word-lover, story-teller, heart-encourager and grace-needer. She's also a wife, mom, friend, daughter and author of A Confident Heart, a Retailers Choice Award winning book that became a best-seller and has been published in six languages, with over 150,000 copies sold. Renee is speaks around the country at women's events and and serves on the writing team for DaySpring’s inCourage blog. For twenty years, Renee served in leadership at Proverbs 31 Ministries and as former co-host of the ministry's radio program, “Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee.


  1. Thank you for sharing your heart. It gives me courage to know I’m not alone in these struggles and challenges of dealing with the hurts in my life!

    • amy martin says:

      This weeks session is very timely for me. I have a daughter who is 36 and she has autism. Recently her behavior has me thinking she is depressed. (she is mostly non-verbal) I have found myself being reactive to her behavior rather than quietly be there for her through it. Your reminder to let God redeem & restore us and how to process things through Him will be so helpful.
      Lord bless your day Renee, Amy Faith

    • Thank you for sharing your heart and your thoughts!

    • Allison says:

      I’ve been really struggling with frustration lately. Wondering why, God?? I know He must have a plan, but being in the valley makes it hard to see the mountain top. Im a young mom with a two beautiful little girls, one who has had a lot of medical complications. It taxes me both physically, mentally and financially. Thank you for your words of encouragement. I look forward to reading your book and I appreciate your words of wisdom! Thank you for sharing! Sincerely, a young mom

    • I am really enjoying the study, Renee. I have wanted to give up on it and God due to many overwhelming circumstances happening in my life. I sense God speaking to me through you sharing your story and words of encouragement in your videos, emails and book. Thank you for being REAL and HONEST. When you sent the verse yesterday that said “Be strong and take heart. Don’t Quit. Stay with God.” I knew God was speaking directly to me! So I’m going to hang in there and trust HIm. I know He has good plans for me.


    • Sherryl Wilson says:

      What a perfect timing! God always sends just the message I need when I remain open and available. Once again…your devo touched a special place in my heart. Bringing tears and feelings up that had been long buried. Prayers for healing and relief are the balm to my soul.

    • Hello,
      I want to thank you for your videos and teachings. Life is a hurricane for me right now but I’m slowly through the help of a therapist realizing how my childhood affected everything. I would love to read your book as I am finally trying to connect with God by joining a church and a Christ-centered support group. I was always told to keep everything to myself and don’t cry. I’m trying to reach out for the first time and begin trusting people again. Thank you for your time.

    • Cheryl Harrow says:

      It was comforting reading your post today. I have been struggling for as long as I can remember on what Gods purpose is for me. I was born with a serious bi lateral cleft lip and palate. Growing up I went through a lot of painful corrective surgeries, constant teasing and riddicule, loss of identity, many periods of depression and self confidence and self worth worries. Luckily I was from a religeous family and had an hour before school to learn and attended two masses each week. Knowing God and knowing prayer helped me get through my childhood, but there were a lot of times I would get angry with God and turn away for awhile. I was doing well after high school, going to college and getting married, I pushed all my pain in the past and tried to leave it there. I was having a baby and very excited until my second ultrasound when I found out my son would be born with a bilateral cleft lip and palate.It was at that moment all of the pain of the past flooded back in. I was angry with God again for creating another life that would have to endure so much. At first I wasnt sure I could go through with the pregnancy. After Bradley was born I felt horrible all of the time. It seemed like everything Bradley was going through brought back painful memories of my own, It took a long time before I could look at him without the memories getting in the way first making me cry. Ive had a lot of health problems as an adult and possibly with the help of all of my stress I was diagnosed with adult onset epilepsy in December of 2008. I was mad again wondering why His plan for me included epilepsy on top of everything else.
      For the last two years Ive been trying to build my relationship with God and praying for answers on how to deal with my past, help Bradley with his hurts, how to deal with both of us going through surgeries still, and praying for help to know and understand His plan for both of us. I know I need hope and confidence for myself and I need to be able to help Bradley deal with whats going on as well as be able to lead him towards confidence and hope and give him the tools to eventually find the plan God has for him.
      The title of your post caught my eye and after reading it I think the book you wrote would be very beneficial. The giveaway package would be exciting to have! A confident heart is exactly what Im looking for. Ive been praying to get through the fear of my past, learn from it, so I can be able to show Bradley the way to freedom, hope and confidence at an early age.

  2. Donna from Honolulu, Hawaii says:

    Renee Thank you for sharing so deeply and exposing your hurts of your past- this is helping me to deal with my present challenges. I would also like to Thank you for sharing the music video “Your Love Never Fails” by Jesus Culture featuring Kim Walker & Chris Quilala, I went to U Tube and searched this group out and fell instantly in love with their music and listened to them all night- it was so soothing to lift my hands and worship our God. I really love the song “I Surrender” it was a perfect song to listen to after reading chapter 4, it was like a cleansing Spirit washing over me and letting me know I’m accepted and to come just as I am.

    I feel so Blessed.

    Aloha from Hawaii oxoxoxox

    • Karen in Canada says:

      Hi Donna
      Thanks for sharing, I love being introduced to new powerful uplifting worship music!
      I listen to it when I get a chance to run… my most recent favorite song is from JESUS CULTURE too, it is called FREEDOM REIGNS…
      the chorus shouts :Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is FREEDOM!! It is always signing in my heart lately – Praise GOD!!!
      He is doing a good work in us…

      many hugs

      • Donna from Honolulu, Hawaii says:

        Karen- I love this song!!!! We should share this song with all the other women of “A Confident Heart Online Bible Study” Ladies if you do one thing- do this go to the “YOUTUBE” site and and get ready to be blessed by Kim Walker’s voice as she sings for an audience of one… just let yourself be free let the music flow through you and be touched by Jesus! It’s absolutely inspiring!!!!

        Thank you Karen my sister in Christ from Canada I LOVE MEETING all of you!!! Thank you Renee!

        Jesus Culture – Freedom Reigns (By Kim Walker)

        Verse 1: Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. Lift your eyes to heaven there is freedom. (Lift your eyes) Lift your eyes to heaven there is freedom.

        Verse 2: Freedom reigns in this place, showers of Mercy and Grace. Falling on every face, there is freedom. If your tired and thirsty, there is freedom. If your tired and thirsty, there is freedom. Give your all to Jesus (Give your all) There is freedom. (ohh) Give your all to Jesus, there is freedom.

        Chorus: Freedom reigns in this place. Showers of Mercy and Grace. Falling on every face, there is freedom. (Cause Jesus reigns… yes) Jesus reigns in this place, showers of mercy and grace. Falling on every face, there is freedom. (yeah)

        Freedom reigns in this place, showers of mercy and grace. Falling on every face, there is freedom. (Jesus my Jesus) My Jesus reigns in this place, showers of mercy and grace. Falling on every face, there is freedom. (yeah-yeah)

        Bridge: Feel the chains fall away, Feel the heaviness all the weight. Jesus reigns. Where the Spirit of the Lord is there is freedom, there is freedom, there is freedom. (ohhh) Jesus (yeah) You reign, you reign (ohh-ohh) My God (yeah)

        Great is your faithfulness, Great is your faithfulness, Great is your faithfulness. Oh God to this generation all my life, All my life, Great is your faithfulness. We call the name tonight, Great is your faithfulness God. Great is your faithfulness (yeah-yeah)

        Freedom reigns in this place, showers of mercy and grace. Falling on every (every) single face, there is freedom (all the grace I need Jesus) My Jesus reigns in this place, showers of mercy and grace. Falling on every face there is freedom.

        Aloha from Hawaii xoxoxoxox

        • Karen in Canada says:

          Hi Donna
          Glad you found my comment/post and discovered this song! Isn’t it Awesome!
          We have such and Awesome God!

      • coleen hayden says:

        thanks, karen…that is such an incredible song! and thanks, donna, for giving us all the words…a blessing! <3

        • Karen in Canada says:

          Your welcome Coleen
          It’s a GOD thing!!!
          (Another Good one is I GIVE YOU GLORY by Klaus!)

    • wow! There was someone in my group who listened to a song as she was gowing through the timeline and felt that song was totally God telling her. I got You. I love you and will never leave you. God is so good. in different ways He speaks to us.

      • Donna from Honolulu, Hawaii says:

        Ana- You need to listen to this song go to YOUTUBE and search this song: …By:Jesus Culture – “Freedom Reigns” (Sung By Kim Walker) This song will simply move you! Just makes you want to praise and worship Jesus with all your heart and soul! Just read the lyrics to the first verse and you know this song is going to bless you:

        “Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. Lift your eyes to heaven there is freedom. (Lift your eyes) Lift your eyes to heaven there is freedom.”


        Aloha from Hawaii xoxoxoxoxo

  3. Bless you for this message of hope. I cried as I listened to your words. You touched my heart and showed me that I need God’s power to take me through the pain of my past so that I don’t have to keep making the same poor choices. I don’t want to keep reliving my pain or let it affect my future. Only God can heal me and make me strong. My eyes are on Him!

  4. Renee:

    Thank you for your words of wisdom and inspiration. I lost my beloved husband Richard of 14 years on August 31, 2011. We both had been widowed before but he was truly the love of my life – my soulmate. My heart has been broken into thousands of pieces and aches each day with his loss. But I know he has no more pain – no more sorrow and is indeed with God.

    In addition, my 43 year old son and I I had been estranged for over 6 years due to a terrible case of “falsehoods, miscommunications and harsh unfounded judgments of things that could not have been possible to have occurred” that were not handled at all in a Christian way on his family’s part . A good man (my husband) was destroyed in this world and a family torn asunder. But God’s ways are higher than our ways and his thoughts higher than our thoughts. God promised hat the truth will come out some day and has already dealt with some of the individuals who beared false witness and caused division and heartbreak in our family. Sadly several of them are suffering some of the same health issues my husband did as well as other trials.

    My son has suffered 6 strokes within the past 3 and a half months. With the exception of 10 days he has been in the hospital or rehab since January 28, 2012. God willing he will be going home soon as he has come a long way in recovery – but still has a king way to go. We have reconnected but things remain a bit strained. He is my son and I love him – I know he is in God’s hands and i know my husband is sitting with Jesus and the Father and has no more worries. I must trust in the knowledge that God is indeed in control, working all things together for his glory.

    Thank you again for your wonderful ministry.

    • Donna from Honolulu, Hawaii says:

      I’m sorry for your lost of your soul mate- I cannot even imagine how you must feel. I pray for God’s strength to pour over you and may you be able to face everyday knowing Jesus & your husband is watching over you. I also pray for son, may God heal him from the top of his head to the soles of his feet- I pray that you both will be able to let go the past and move forward- to love one another, to share and to communicate openly. I pray all this in Your precious Sons name Jesus Christ. Amen

      Aloha from Hawaii xoxoxoxo
      p.s. my name is Donna too…. 🙂

  5. Miranda says:

    Dear Renee,
    It is 4 am in Ohio and I wasn’t able to sleep a wink tonight. So I got out of bed…snuck down the stairs…and decided to dig into “A Confident Heart”.
    I am writing this message with tears in my eyes. Last night I had let go of a very dear friend of 20 some years and tell him that we could no longer have contact. It was a very unhealthy friendship. One of flirting and a lot of sexual tension which felt amazing while in the moment…but painful during the times of silence
    I am married and it’s not a happy marriage but all the same this is where God has me at the moment.
    This is the second time that I am reading through your book. I actually just finished it for the first time two weeks ago. When I finished I was so sad because I felt that God was speaking directly to me through your words. So many similarities…at times I felt as though I was reading my story. I contacted the friend who had recommended your book and mentioned that I was sad that this journey was coming to an end. And then lo and behold she told me about your online study. Wow! How could I pass this up?
    So, here I am. I have just listened to your message for today. I too come from a divorced family and have always (and to this day) tried so hard to please my earthy father and constantly feel I come up short. I too am facing a crisis in my marriage. Bitter because my “prince charming” is not so charming. Not who I thought God would surely want for my life to help me heal.
    Your words are in allignment with my everything that my spiritual mentor has been telling me the past several months. She has told me that I need to look deep at the “untruths” that I have filled my life with and pluck them out of my life. And then I need to replace them with the truths of the person God sees me as. She said that it is then I will feel whole and no longer look for my “Knight in Shining Armor”.
    Thank you Renee! Thank you so much for your book! I have been blessed!

  6. Deborah says:


    I am so grateful for you always sharing your heart and allowing to know we are not the only ones that struggle with the Whys? I was in an abusive marriage for 20 years and finally found enough courage to divorce him after I found out that my children had also been abused. I have went to a counselor who is Christian and would pray before and after our sessions, and most recently I had went to Domestic Violence classes to share and hear other stories. I ended up taking one on one sessions with a Domestic Violence Advocate, Sharon, who was also Christian and she would pray and share her experiences with me. She was so supportive, encouraging and loving…and continued to tell me how much I was growing and overcoming my self-confidence issues, my insecurities…and that I was coming to realize that I also need to appreciate what I have in my life…give everything to God…Praise God…the hardest thing to overcome is that the Advocate that was assisting me passed away unexpectedly on May 4th…and I am asking why? She had such a heart to serve and love others…please pray for Sharon’s family and friends for God’s love, comfort and healing…Thank you, Renee! God Bless You!

  7. Hi Renee,

    It is 5am, and an hour ago I could not sleep, so I figured it was a good idea to get up and read some devotions. I’m so glad I did because I was led to your devotion for today, and then your video. You have spoken right to my heart. I believe I need to take a peek into my past to see why I have these constant doubts, particularly in my marriage. You have encouraged me today to search deeper with God, with my past hurts and disappointments. I don’t know just yet how to go about it, but I am encouraged by your words, “It’s a moment by moment process of coming to Him, talking to Him, believing He listens and letting Him love us into a place of hope and healing.” I’ll trust He’ll walk with me through the process, and as He heals and reveals His plans, I can walk with confidence (without a double mind) towards my future.

    Thank you so much….

  8. Mary Sue says:

    Hi Renee,
    I have been feeling “stuck” for quite a while now. Unfulfilled dreams and desires, feeling that at 55 years old my lot in life is to stay in my job that is unsatisfying, and to care for my aging mother. I so desire to let God back in wholly and completely, instead of shying away and feeling a little resentful of where He has me right now. Why is that so hard? Why do we know what is good for us, yet it seems to be the one thing we avoid? Why do we tend to self-destruct, when we have healing within our reach?

    I think your book and Bible study is for me. I’m going to work on that!

    I appreciate you.

    • We appear to be in the same boat…unfulfilled dreams, feeling stuck, feeling weary…I know I need help! Sending prayers your way, Mary Sue….

  9. Renee,

    I read your message on Encouragement for Today Devotions and because I felt there was so much truth to what you said, I decided to check your blog as well. When I got closer to God, I wanted so much to just ignore my past, I couldn’t see anything valuable in it and the few good I could find there was wrapped up so much in all the pain that I felt there was no point digging through to them. But God wouldn’t let me, he startled me by telling me quite plainly the most destructive of my past habits, how terrible I felt about it and the possibility of a relapse if I do not face them and deal with them the way HE wants me to.
    At that moment, I remember feeling exposed, embarrassed and ashamed. But God took me through the process one little step at a time and He is still on it actually and though I’ve not had any instantaneous dealings from Him (except for that shocking moment He told all my past to my face), I’ve seen myself evolve very gently into the woman I know He wants me to be – courageous and bold, humble and empathetic and I’m certain I will discover more with time and let me add that I completely believe your whisper of hope – “If you are living and breathing, your purpose has not yet been fulfilled. No matter what you have done or what has been done to you, God does have a plan for your life”. Thank you.

  10. I would love to receive your book and find out more.

  11. Josephine says:

    Once again God has used you to pierce directly to my heart! Thank you for hearing from Him and continuing to minister His word!

  12. Rebecca says:

    Renee, I have been doing your Bible study of Confident Heart. What means the most to me, is to know that you, as well as so many other women, feel/have felt the same way I do. Morning after morning, I struggle with my confidence, in my roles as a Christian, wife, mother, daughter, friend. It seems that every day, I need to start my life over. My hope and prayer is that as I do my daily Bible reading, study on God’s word, improve my “pitiful” prayer life, that every day will no longer be a struggle. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and struggles with me in your book. I do hope to be selected to win a copy of your book; I have a dear, dear friend, who also struggles as I do…my wish is to give that copy to her. Bless you, Renee, for sharing your life…it greatly helps me feel that I am not all alone.

    • Karen in Canada says:

      Hi Rebecca
      I agree with you and feel as you do most of my time! This study and reading what all the other ladies are sharing is very encouraging to me, thanks for sharing where you are too!
      With each day – I feel more and more hopeful that God will brings us all to the FREEDOM IN HIM we all desire!

  13. Esther Bird says:

    Thank You for your thoughts today.They were very encourageing.I went throught some really hard times in my younger years also.Raped by a brother several times,malested by three other men,and used by a young man my age in my neighborhood.(The one good thing that come from pain of young man was a beautiful baby son).But what I wanted to tell you was the biggest encouragement I have recieved was when I asked my Pastor why God would let me go through all that pain and not stop it.Where was God then.And his responce was “God was with you the whole time.He felt every pain you felt,shed every tear with me when you was hurting”That has helped be so much.Even tho I did not know God then It was helped me to have such great comfort knowing that he was with me and I was not totally alone (alltho I sure feel totally alone then) just know God now and his love for me and knowing he was with me has erased all the loneliness I felt back then.And helped me love my awesome God even more.Thanks for letting me scare this today.

  14. Stonnarae says:

    Thank you for today’s message. I’ve been praying lately to see God’s plan for me. What an exciting promise!

  15. Brenda Bean says:

    Thank you for sharing this message. I love the verse in Jeremiah 29: 11 and have shared it often. I do a Bible Study with 2 women who are older and are new believers who have some of these things you mentioned in their past and it has totally held them back from being able to move forward in their life. One in particular has passed the anger and bitterness on to her daughter. You put it so much better than I could have that I am going to play it for them this week when we meet. God is so good as it dovetails so well with what we will be discussing this week.
    Thank you for allowing God to work through you.

  16. Jessica says:

    I think every woman needs to hear this message. Because we all have pain in our past, and most of us don’t know what to do with it. But I love the truth that God can redeem our past, redeem our pain, and turn it all into something wonderful. What a message of hope! I know this was a truth I was a long-time in learning, and it’s still a process. Thanks for sharing, and for pointing us to Christ.

  17. Julie Collier says:

    Oh how I feel for my sweet husband for having to put up with my past. My past that included an abusive 1st husband. I know there are many things I need to let God work through with me.

    Thank you for your message today!

  18. melissa says:

    Thank you for your post today “If God loves me, why…?” Sometimes, especially lately, I have asked God that very question. For years and years I longed to have children of my own. I thought it was something that would never happen. Then, 8 years ago God blessed me with my daughter. Since then I have been blessed with 2 sons. I love all 3 of them more than anything. But, I struggle with my daughter. She battles me on everything that she can. So much so that I am truly ashamed of my feelings and reactions to her behavior. The thing is, I don’t understand why behaves the way she does and I really don’t understand why God gave me such a difficult child when he knows how I struggle with impatience and anger. Even as I sit her writing this, I feel guilty and ashamed for these feelings and thoughts that I have. I just wish he would show us both how to deal with our anger and frustrations in a better way. I don’t want to fight with her day in and day out. I just want to love her and raise her to be the wonderful person that I know she is. I pray that God will show me His will for my life so that I can learn to be a better person, a better mother. Thank you for reading this. It helps me to know that I am not alone. God bless you and your family Renee.

  19. Jeannie says:

    Your message really struck my heart hard. I didn’t realize the expectations I too had of my husband because of what I failed to get from my father and now see he can’t make up for my dad. I have a wonderful husband who has stuck with me, I owe him a heartfelt apology. Thank you for opening my eyes.

  20. Thank you for speaking the truth through your words. We all have pain in our past and present, but it is what we do with it & through it that defines how/what we believe to be true. The evil one preys on us because we threaten him. How empowering is that…..we threaten the evil one! Through His grace we have been redeemed! He does prevail, but only if we let Him in to our mess. It can be used for good.

  21. Tiffany Green says:


    Thank you for sharing what God put on your heart today. It is something I very much struggle with from time to time and currently am in the season of life God has me placed today. As a newly wed I know God has great plans for my husband and I it is just hard to look past so much of the unknown in our life right now. What a great reminder today and thank you so much.

  22. Machelle says:

    Thank you for the encouragement..Amazing hire this affect us that we don’t .if we are willing to go deeper in faith they slowly bubble to the surface so they can be dealt with!

  23. Angie Lyn says:

    It feels as though I have come full circle. 3 years ago, I lost my marriage, and then my job. Moved my children and self back home to live with my Mom while I picked up the pieces. Found a man who loves Jesus, and we are to be married next month. Due to budget cuts, I may lose my job again, along with several others. Feeling very hopeless and wondering what I haven’t learned that God has brought me here again. My son’s first year of Kindergarten has been so traumatic, we learned he has a learning disability and have been working hard to help him gain ground. My insurance through work covers my daughter’s braces. We live in a very rural area, and jobs are not plentiful.

    • Renee,
      This is my first time to read your comments. They touched me and made me realize that I too have issues with past hurts. God has impressed on me that I need to work on them. As you stated, it will not be easy and the road will be long but I press on to know what He has in store for me. Thank you for your willingness to share and your open heart to help. I have also been had the desire to be involved in a Bible study and I see that yours is offered here. How great He is!


  24. Thank you for your heartfelt words and always knowing what weighs on my have definately been given a gift from God!

  25. Thank you for sharing a part of your journey with us. I have been struggling to keep my head above water for years now. God has been leading me into a deeper relationship with Him over the last 5 or 6 years but it seems the deeper we go the more satan turns up the heat. He has attacked my children and my grandchildren. I have been led to places I never imagined myself going. I have had to visit my own child in prison, I am now raising my 4 granddaughters, and believe it or not there is more. My husband and I have remained steadfast in our faith but still the questions come, “WHY?”
    Your devotional was God ordained “for such a time as this” In everything God had for me today in my quiet time He put them together in such a way that I was truly blest. It started with 2 Samuel 22 & 23 &Ps. 557 to my God’s Minute devotional, to your testimony. What an Awesome God we serve.

  26. Kim Smith says:

    I read your daily devotion on Encouragement for Today which then led me to this video. Powerful! The personal things you shared about your disappointments in your past family life and how it affected you now in your marriage relationship with your husband was like a picture of myself. My parents were divorced and my father was never around and I too try to control my husband and make him be what I wanted so badly for my father and family to be. I didn’t even realize where that was coming from. So I’ve made my list, I have several things on it and your right, there are tears. I know as I take these things to the Lord and let him walk through them with me, he will reveal to me his healing power and give me hope for the future. Thank you so much for sharing and caring.

  27. Jer 29:14 spoke to me, often times I feel like I’m in captivity. I was encouraged with your devo and especially enjoyed your talk last year at she speaks.

  28. Thank you Renee, all of the Proverbs 31/Encouragement for Today team & all the previous commenters. It encourages me (and it must you too) to know that so many are blessed and encouraged by God’s heart through your words. I too am walking through this process with God & a spiritual mentor and counselor trying to uncover and deal with past issues, beliefs formed from circumstances and doubts and find my identity in Christ not my past. It has been and is a difficult and painful journey. I was blessed to grow up in a Christian home and I grew up without the pain of divorce or abuse but in a controlling environment filled with rules and expectations. I then have been married for almost 18 years to a good man but one who also has controlling expectations. Then he was in a 4- wheeler accident 6 years ago that caused severe head trauma that, praise God, he completely recovered from, but this left him with a different filter, personality, depression, and short term memory loss that has prevented him from maintaining gainful employment for any more than 4 months at a time. So many things have caused me to lose my trust, and reliance in him and I am struggling trying to get to know his ever-changing mind that I feel bitter, resentful, disrespected in our past that I don’t feel like I can give myself fully to him right now until I work through these feelings and get to a healthier place. I have also asked and asked for him to go to counsel as well and he keeps putting it off. I have hope and am hanging onto that with every ounce of energy I have left.

  29. Thank you for sharing your words of truth and encouragement! I am praying and working through my unreal expectations I heap on my husband. I have been so critical towards him. Your words and insight in chpt 4 have brought focus to my prayers and direction toward healing in my marriage and family.

  30. What you’ve shared makes a lot of sense. I guess my question/fear is: what if I can’t hear what God is trying to tell me? Both my husband and I have been praying about some things and asking God to please show us what He wants of us, and it has been hard to discern a response.

  31. As I read your encouraging words and then listened to them spoken out oud, I felt “hope” again. I am at a place in my life where I am being haunted by rejection. Not so much in my marriage, but in my own heart, which bleeds it in other areas which at times includes my marriage. The scripture focus and your words helped me to see, be reminded and BELIEVE in my heart that God DOES have a future planned for me in His kingdom. Although I have alot of emotional doubts and fears to work thru, I just want to finally get to that place where I can feel God’s confidence in me. Thank you for going there first, otherwise all of us women that you’ve touched thru your post today, would be that much farther from knowing God’s plans for our lives are good and full of hope and a future in Him. God bless you, Renee.

  32. Peggy Kennedy says:

    I have not had a lot of positive influences in my life, partly because I did not seek them. So I have a lot of baggage God has been showing me through this study. Thank you Renee for coming along side of us and being a great influence and mentor.

  33. Th Lord put your message today on my heart to share with a good friend who is “hungry”for Gods words. She is now attending a great church..working on healing her marriage. I am going to share your message today with her! Thanks!

  34. Margaret says:

    I don’t ever remember reading the Jeremiah verses that follow His promise for giving us a hope and a future. This chapter is the perfect application of those verses. Thank you.

  35. Kimberly says:

    Renee: I too have struggled with demons from my past. I have been unemployed since November 2011- the longest ever. I can only believe that God has other plans for me and my family. The 2 prior lay offs- I found a job within 6 weeks- however, that is not the case this time. God is providing all my needs and I am giving him back a portion as always. My walk, readings and talking to Him has increased since Februrary and it feels good to trust HIM in all that I do.

    I till struggle daily with anxiety and depression and short temperment withmy children- but I know I am much better since I have released so many things.

    Thank you for your encouragement and life story.

    Many blessings


  36. Berthina Lawhorn says:

    Thank you for sharing your message on today. It truly was a message that I needed to read and share with my family this morning. My prayer is that I releass all doubt and trust more in the Lord. Keep up the good work and please pray for my family. Love, Berthina, Adrian, Tisha, Meshia, AJ, & Brandon

  37. It’s a struggles sometimes, trying to let go of the past and trust people from those past hurts, but God and my faith in him as been helpful. Along with sharing with my sisters in Christ.

  38. Monique says:

    Thank you for your words of encouragement. Chapter 4 is a difficult one. But, I believe God has prepared my heart to receive this call to action because there are pains in my past that I have buried and not dealt with. I am excited for this journey and thankful for the confidence in Him to move forward!

  39. Thank you for sharing your heart with us. It is always encouraging to know that others go through the same doubts and questions that I have. I am older now but I have had doubts about being good enough. But as I have grown older I have found out that only through Jesus can I be good enough. I can’t do it on my own, I have to rely on God to lead me every step of the way. Sometimes he takes me out of my comfort zone, but when I obey Him then I get the blessing I would have missed. One of my daughters has been going through a rough time and she has been struggling. She is a widow with 3 young children and I know that things get overwhelming for her at times. I would love for her to have your book. If I don’t win, I will buy it for her.

  40. Kimberly M says:

    Renee, Thanks for being so real. There have been studies I have been through that I just cannot connect with, because the leader seems to have the perfect life. Your book and words have encouraged me to continue on processing my painful past, and begin removing my mask of “everything’s fine.” Thank you, thank you dear girl!

  41. This video was exactly what I needed today. I have had so much healing from the hurts and wounds of my past, but right now God is taking me deeper and it involves my marriage and resentment I have realized I held toward my husband. We have been married over 40 years and there have been a lot of good times, but also a lot of hard times as well. He is ill and critical of seemingly almost everything I do or say. And I was totally losing all hope. Even tho I am crying out to God. This video and the quote from page 81 …”As we process the pain of our yesterdays and live through the disappointments of our todays, doubts may still creep up, threatening to steal our hope. But each time that happens, we can stop and seek God in that place. We can ask Him to show us His purpose by revealing what is true about who we are and what we have been through to make us start doubting.”

    Then we can ask Him to help us re-define our future, not through the filter of our past and pain, but through the power of His life-giving truth. And do you know what happens when we do that moment by moment, day by day, doubt by doubt? God tells us in Jeremiah 29:14, “I will be found by you…”

    We find Him again and again. We find the One who longs to lead us out of captivity to our doubts into a place of freedom and hope. God’s love is not only unfailing, it redeems and restores. His Truth cuts to the core of our struggles, bringing purpose to our pain, redemption from our past and hope for our future!

    Was exactly what my heart needed to hear today. I have got to continue to walk in love and forgiveness. I can not continue to be upset, or get angry or bitter. I still do not see how God will do that, but somehow listening to your video gave me a stirring of hope again.
    Thank you.

  42. Anonymous says:

    Thank you so much for sharing your heart in this devotion. The past couple of months have been really hard on me and my family. I started as a young Christian on fire for Jesus, however life has taken its toll and a lot of hurt has happened. I feel like every devotion I read is one more day of God calling me close, reminding me of His great truths and promises that I apparently have forgotten. I need to be reminded that I can trust God, even when there is nobody else I can trust in, because they’re not trustworthy or literally smearing my name in the dirt. Because that is truth. I appreciate you bringing up bitterness because it truly has clouded my vision. I hope today I can let some of that go, and rest in the comfort of my God. That He sees where I am, cares, and hopes to make new things.

  43. Thanks for guiding me through the reading of this book, it helps me in the moment I feel stuck. I find myself getting closer to God as I read the book and the videos along with your emails. you mention your situation with your husband in this video and it took me to the season I’m living right now. My husband and I are currently separated, going on four months but I have come to realize that it’s thru God that my healing will come, not my husband. its been a tough journey but I am still believing and know that God has a plan and a purpose for our life.

  44. I subscribe to Proverbs 31 email devotional, and I read your devotional this morning. I wanted to tell you thank you SO much for your devotional you wrote. I’ve been struggling a lot with finding a job, and feeling rejected, but your devotional really helped me this morning. I just have to trust that God will find something for me.

  45. Wow! How did it take me so long to find your website/blog and to discover A Confident Heart? I need to read this whole book … and I need to read it soon! Thank you Renee!

  46. On occasion, I have a horrible pain rise up into my throat and I do all I can to push it back down. It is so real that it leaves my throat sore because the lump is bigger than my throat can handle. I fight and fight to keep back the tears. You message today, May 16, and this video clip, help me realize that I’ve never even been able to have a true relationship with the Lord because of my past. It is so hindering my future with the Lord. I, like you, have been praying and asking the Lord what is causing this but in all honesty, I’ve not had the courage to look at so this morning, after reading your devotional, I told the Lord I want to hear the truth. I admit I’m afraid, but I so want an intimate relationship with the Lord, which I have never had with anyone in my life. There is a fear that it’s too late because I’m 58, but I remember Moses. I, too, come from a broken home and never knew my father living with us. I did know him and saw and spoke to him over the years, but it wasn’t a father/daughter relationship. Anyway, I found some hope in this message today and although I’m afraid of being hurt and disappointed again, I pray for strength and courage for just the next step only . . . nothing more . . . just the next step. What I became was not who I was created to be so thank You Lord for giving me hope today for my future with you through your daughter.

  47. Thank you for sharing your words with me today. God used you to get this message to me. I also come from a broken home. My father was a huge disappointment. To top things off, my high school sweetheart, whom I married after college, left me when I was nine months pregnant with our daughter. He disappeared from our lives. I don’t believe I ever truly grieved this loss because I had to focus on caring for a newborn. I tried to move on, clinging to God for dear life. I remarried years later and gave birth to a precious baby boy. My marriage, though, has been very difficult. My husband struggles with depression. He is often rude, and emotionally disconnected. I’ve often wondered if I should even stay in this marriage. I feel that I harbor resentment, and I don’t want to end up with bitterness in my heart. Jeremiah 29:11 (I have this on my screensaver) reminds me that there IS a light at the end of this tunnel. I pray for the Lord’s guidance every day and throughout the day. My daughter, now a preteen, loves to sing, and sang a worship song to me last night about fighting the unseen forces that try to bring us down. It’s called “We’re Waging War”. Between her song, and your words, I feel God is reaching out to me. Thank you for giving me hope.


  48. Kimberly says:

    God Bless You Renee!! I thought I was the only one that felt that way. I too did not have a good relationship with my father. I was married for 14 yrs and my marriage failed and I still do not know how it did. I have since then remarried and I am so exactly like the way you said you used to be. I am controlling, critical and so so bitter. Sometimes I do not even give my husband a chance. It’s like I am taking out my past happenings on him and he doesn’t deserve it. Our marriage is not perfect but who’s is? I feel like the problems we have stems from my past hurts and my mind set is that nobody is ever gonna hurt me again. The the reality is that I am the one that is doing all the damage. I pray everyday for God to help me let it go, because I want a good life, I want to feel whole. I cried the entire time I was watching your video. Thank you so much for sharing. There is light at the end of the tunnel after all. Please pray for me in your daily prayers.

    • Karen in Canada says:

      Thank you for sharing Kimberly! There is a lot of power in the truth of Renee’s book and her message.
      I am also praying for you that God will strengthen you in the journey of healing and awakening!

  49. Elizabeth says:

    I can’t tell you have much you have touched a very tender spot in my heart right now. Thank you for sharing not only from your heart… but for sharing your heart. May GOD bless you as you have ministered to others. I know that there is much I need to pray thru with GOD.

  50. Rosemary says:

    Renee I want to thank you for sharing your struggles with us. I have a lot of issues with my husband that I feel will never be resolved for he committed adultry and conceived a child out of the affair. I struggle to let God take control of the situation. I leave it in His hands and then I take it back. It has been almost 4 years since I found out and though it isn’t as painful as it was when I found out, I still feel devasted about what my husband did. I still haven’t fully forgiven him and I hold a lot of bitterness and resentment towards him. I found out about his other child when she was already 3 years old. She is the same age as our youngest child we have together. I am at the stage where I just want to separate and move on. But then I listen to people like you and how you put all your Trust into God. I try, but as I said I stuggle. Reading your book is an eye and heart opener.

  51. I hope to share your book with my five children. We are dealing with an alcoholic husband/ father. We are just now beginning to talk about the pain it is causing in our life and learning how to deal with it. I know that god’s word and his love are the only thing that will see us through this. I am hoping with all my heart to help them to learn a healthy way to deal with the anger and bitterness that this is causing in our lives. Thank you.

  52. So encouraging – thank you. I definitely would love to read your book and work on ways to deal with past hurts and struggles along with current insecurities and truly give them over to the Lord.

  53. I truly enjoyed your devotional on Proverbs 31 which led me to your web page and your story. I plan to purchase and read your book The Confident Heart. Thank you for sharing hope through God’s Word.

  54. I thank God for placing you in my path. I just recently uncovered alot of hurt from my past and do not know how to deal with them. I am so used to covering them up with a smile and acting like everything is okay. You made me realize that I can’t heal unless I deal with my past hurts. Hurts that have been done to me and what I have done to myself. The enemy loves to keep reminding me of those hurts and uses it to distance me from God. I have just been too scared to ask for help, for fear of judgement in who I confide in. I know that Jesus gave us the ultimate sacrifice and through him we have grace from God. I just can’t find it in myself to forgive myself and that is what is holding me captive. I want to be able to have all of what God has for me, to see his purpose for me in my life.

  55. Heather says:

    I am so, very excited about this study! I am in a Bible study group at my church, but they only do sessions in the spring and fall. I have a difficult time between sessions keeping up with my Bible studies. Our spring session just ended a few weeks ago and I was just starting to feel the disappointment of me failing to keep up with reading my Bible every day. I had come across your book via a Proverbs 31 Facebook post. It was when you were giving away free downloads of it. I glanced, thought “Eh, I’ll go ahead and download it, since it’s free and all, and SOMEday, I’ll read it.” A week or so later, I saw another post (also on Proverbs 31’s Facebook page) that you were doing a Bible study on it. I signed up immediately! It has really helped me in this “in between sessions” time.

    I have not started Chapter 4 yet, but I am already nervous about it. 🙂 Until now, I have honestly felt like I really haven’t had THAT severe of a hurt in my life. I have had quite a good life, actually. But now I feel God tugging at my heart that there is SOMETHING down there that I need to deal with. Not quite sure what it is yet, but we’ll see!


    P.S. – I see that to enter the contest, all you have to do is comment in this section. But how do you pick the winners? Do you just pick random posts? Or do you pick posts that you particularly like? Just curious how it works. :0)

  56. thanks. im here from proverbs 31, that your friend didnt have an answer made me feel better and sorry did too. b/c i’ve learned you never know what your born into. perhaps your forefathers made poor choices and now you are reaping the fruit. God doesnt promise to protect us from others bad mistakes. So to say im sorry is the right response. u see my dad was a criminal and because of it i suffered a great deal. I look back on my own mistakes which followed in suit with his and there’s more. God isnt going to change my reality but allow me the opportunity to choose Him to choose better. my dad took me to church a decision that is yielding tremendous fruit. so i suppose there is hope but its not going to happen overnight.

  57. Jessica LaLonde says:

    I just came upon your page from Proverbs 31……your devotion hit home! I can’t wait to explore your site and join your site. Hoping I can win a book…but if I don’t, it is getting ordered!

  58. Wow! This book is helping me to bring out things i didn’t even know was there. I’m on the path to freedom! I feel that it was meant for me to do this study so that God can take me to a higher level in him.

  59. This really spoke to my heart tis morning. This is so in line wit things I a struggling so deeply with right now and I’ve been hearing from the enemy that it is just me and that no one else is this messed up or miserable but I feel so much hope and encouragement just from what ou said and ht I’ve read. Thank you so much and I am looking forward to getting a copy of your amazing book! God showed me that He is thinking of me and lves me through you today, thank you.

  60. I am scared of the timeline. I am scared of the sorrows in my past. But your book is helping me find the courage to face my past hurts and look towards a promise filled future. Thank you.

  61. Lisa Haynes says:

    Thank you for sharing- I love your ministry- I so relate to many of your experiences- and I love your heart for adoption- your daughter is beautiful and blessed to have you and your husband. We, too, hope to adopt in the near future.

  62. Thank you for this post and video. I have several things from my past that always seem to rear their ugly head at the most inopportune time. Thank you for this very wise post and information. I am prayerful that I too can make this tremendous transformation in my life, as you have done in yours.

    May God Bess You!

  63. D. Trahan says:

    I love your blog and your books. I’m dealing with so much from the past and I know it’s crippling me and I try every day to “let it go”, but it doesn’t go away. I always enjoy when you speak about dealing with your past. I guess because my past deals with my children being hurt and my daughter still hasn’t forgiven me, so it has an impact on my daily life. Thank you for your words! I would love to win your package and receive this book. Have a blessed day!

  64. I thoroughly enjoyed your video post today. I, too, am currently reading A Confident Heart and loving every minute of it! I would love to have extra copies to give to some very close friends who truly need this. I’ve thought of passing my book on to them, but I just can’t stand the thought of losing it. I have highlighted, written notes, etc. inside of it. So the gift pkg would be very welcome by me.
    Keep up the good work. God is SOOO blessing us through you!!!!

  65. Thank you for allowing God to speak to me today, through these words. I have been struggling with physical health issues for the last 2 years. I never thought I’d be in this position. I try to be strong, but every now and then, I have a little break down – “Why, God?” I’m so thankful that I was obedient to the Lord this morning and found my way to the devotional. In this short time, the Holy Spirit has given me a new hope – one that I didn’t have last night. I know that He wants to work in my life, and I don’t want my hurts of yesterday or my pains of today to hold me back. Thank you for the encouragement I’ve found here!

  66. Suzanne says:

    Thank you Lord! Thank you for leading me here. I have just recently, Monday night, been contacted by my father who walked out on us when I was 9. He was very bitter and hateful, he hated my mother and often would tell me and my brother, “if I had a gun I would shoot her.” When I was 16, he called to say My kids are dead to me, I want nothing to do with you. We tried to repair the relationship but his bitterness and hate were more that I could take and I haven’t seen him since I was 21, I am now 46.

    Your video is as if you have been watching my life from afar. I am have struggles in my marriage, and I am not sure why. Now my father had contacted me and I feel lost, confused, hurt, angry…. I want to forgive and move on but just as you say in the video, I am realizing, has moved into so many aspects of my life, I don’t know where to begin, and I feel more hopeless than I have in a very long time.

    I have a family of my own, and I have so many responsibilities that I am over loaded. I don’t know where to start to crawl out from under the load. I try to talk to my husband but I am so ashamed by the things of my past. I find myself pushing him away, almost daring him to leave…

    I so want to get past this hurt, I don’t know if inviting this person back into my life will do that or just cause me more pain?

    Thanks Renee, I look forward to following you, and how you got to a place of peace.

    With kind regards,


  67. I have started on the timeline. It is difficult. I pray God will heal me through this process so I can have joy.

  68. Karen in Canada says:

    Thank you Renee for being so faithful to bring this message of hope and restoration to us!!!
    Wow! I am encouraged to continue despite my daily struggles with thoughts that try to keep me from the powerful truth you are sharing.
    As thoughts come into my mind, I am throwing them away!! Replacing them with God’s truth!! Simple thoughts like : “I am not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough….” Attack me all the time, but I am recognizing them more quickly and replacing them more easily lately – PRAISE GOD !!!
    I actually drew out a timeline a few nights ago and was amazed at all the ‘stuff’ I’ve gone through; that God has brought me through and I wasn’t even aware of it at the time! Yes it’s scary, especially the thought of sharing it with someone other than God!
    Your video was very encouraging this morning, especially the revelation of Jeremiah 29:12-14! Funny how we neglect to read on to find out more truths…
    This is my first on-line study and I love it!
    Blessings to you and your family

  69. God gave me this passage from Jeremiah 29 just a few weeks before my young son died unexpectedly. In the last 14 years since that time it has resonated in my heart so many times… it’s such a great reminder that even when I don’t understand my circumstances… I can rest in knowing that He still has good plans for me. Thank You for the reminder that when He whispers these words to me that it’s also a call to seek Him wholeheartedly & that when I do… He will listen to my prayers & I will surely find Him… waiting with open arms to hold me & comfort me.

    Thank you!

  70. I am deaf and cannot understand your video. But I do want to say I am always encouraged by your blogs. I have been searing high and low at library to see if I could find your book to borrow…none so far! Please keep up with your positive yet realistic blogs!

  71. Thank you for allowing God to speak to me today, through these words. I have been struggling with health issues for the last two years. I never thought I’d be in this position. I try to be strong, but I had a meltdown last night, asking, “Why, God?” I’m so glad I was obedient to the Lord this morning and found my way to my devotional time. I feel a new hope, one that wasn’t there last night. I don’t want the disappointments from my past and the pains of my todays to keep me from living out the life God wants me to live. Thank you for this encouragement!

  72. Betty in Texas says:

    Hi Renee! thank you so much for that video clip.i don’t know where to begin,lately I’ve battled with my spiritual life-not a real desire to read the Bible&to fully trust God-I feel ashamed even saying that because He’s done so much for me&then I have these feelings.i need prayer-if I look back I’ve had a good life,Christian parents,grew up in a Christian school.always went to it because I’ve had it all&Im ungrateful?even when I constantly thank God for all those things&pray for those that haven’t had that opportunity.have I let to much pride in?somedays I pray humble me Lord&yet I’m scared what is Gods response gonna be?please pray that I may release these trust issues.IWANT TO STOP DOUBTING&LIVE IN THE SECURITY OF HIS PROMISE!!!!

  73. There is no temptation that has seized you except that which is common to man…… or woman! Thank you for helping me and so many others realize we are not alone and that there is a way out of the confusion of these struggles.

  74. Thank you for hitting the nail right on the head! You’re exactly right when you said that we avoid dealing with pain from our past because it would take too much time and the pain would come to the surface and I’d fall apart. I’ve danced around the issues for so long, it’s time to begin to face issues head on and let the healing begin.

  75. D'ana H. says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this today….. I had a whole page of things I was going to share on here, but after writing it and re-reading it, I realized that God is opening my eyes and heart to things that I wasn’t even aware were still buried so deep in my heart. I am going to listen to your message again and then I’m going to get into His word…… I know something BIG is going to happen today!!! Thank you for blessing me today – sister!!!

  76. I would love to receive your book. I have been damaged as a child and dragging my junk around for too long not knowing how to release it and truly believing God has the best for me. My most troublesome issue now, is how I’ve let my past affect my children. Thanks for sharing your heart to help others learn how to be free in Jesus.

  77. Renee,

    Thank you for this messge today! I had a particularly rough day yesterday. My son was being defiant which happens a lot with his ADHD and language/speech delay. He will be 4 in July and the daily struggles we have with him are so challenging. I am often embarrassed in public with his tantrums and sometimes I just can’t do anything about them. The people around me just stare and give you the look that says “Lady, why can’t you control your child?” I wish people would understand.

    In my Lifegroup at church, we just studied GodQuest and one of the chapters dealth with “Why do bad things happen to good people?” I have learned that it’s okay to question God but at the end of day still put your trust in Him. One of the verses that sticks with me is this, “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” Romans 8:28, NLT

    Even though, I struggled with my son, struggle with not knowing my purpose yet….your message today has made me think once again to pause and listen to what God is trying to tell me.

    I continue to pray everyday and know in my heart that God is always with me. I tell Him everyday, “God I don’t understand your plan for me or even know what that plan is yet but I have faith that whatever you have decided for me, I will be grateful and happy.”

    “‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'” Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) This will be added to my wall of hope here at work.

    • Jenny,
      I understand your pain and embarrassment. I have four children and a husband with ADHD and teach Special Education. Sometimes the stress is so bad that I just want to give up. I pray that God will strengthen and help you.

      • Lana,

        Thank you so much for your encouragement and prayers! Taking it one day at a time….but there are just some days so much worse than others and yesterday was one of those days.

        Thank God that today is a new day and so far, so good!


      • Dallena Hess says:


        I’ve got a severe to profound hearing loss in both ears. I sign some. I’m loving this community and this study. I hope you find a copy of the book soon!

  78. Thank you for sharing your testimony. I am going through a very difficult time as we speak. Separation leading to divorce, separation from the Lord little by little asking HIM “where are you?”. Yet, I have been getting revelations since last night and this morning but what hit me profoundly was your Encouragement for Today Devotion “If God loves me, why…?”. As many times as I have read Jeremiah 29:11-14 it has not hit me the way that I understood it from your perspective. I guess sometimes someone has to give examples or share what they have gone through for someone else to see it in a different light especially through a broken heart. I will be clinging on to your words and to what God says in Jeremiah 29:11-14. I don’t know how to thank you for what you did in just sharing. Thank you.

  79. I have read this scripture a million times over and up until now, it has truly come to life in my soul and heart ! Thank you renee for this teaching, I am having one of those days where the disappointments from my past are crepping up on me, so i needed this today. thank you and god bless!

  80. Susan Skaling says:

    Just going through my timeline and asking God to reveal anything that is blocking victory in my life. I’m just waiting on him as I truly want to have the confidence only he can give.

  81. Thank you for your message of hope…I really need it today! I pray that I will be able to find a more intimate relationship with God, and not feel like an outsider and unworthy of Him.

  82. I’m currently struggling through a separation from my husband. This is has been both difficult and painful and liberating and peaceful. The more I hurt, the more I take to God, the more I find peace to help me through all this. I too have been asking God to show me what I have done wrong, help me correct it and to redefine me. Through my asking, I have discovered much unprocessed pain and hurt and disappointment from my past that IS defining me and my relationships today. I don’t want to be known as who I was. I have traveled a long journey to become the woman I am today. I have discovered that God doesn’t keep me in my old cage and ask me to daily try to live from within that cage. I do. Instead, He is helping me escape that cage that I keep myself locked in. Through Him, I find release and freedom and the opportunity to be who I am now and forever escape that old cage. It’s not easy. I write and cry and pray a lot. When reminders come of certain hurts and disappointments, I ask God to help me work through them. I ask Him to open my memories so that I can honestly look at them and process them and see my part in them. When I acknowledge that I had a hand, small as it sometimes may be, in what has happened to me, then it is easier to walk through the door towards healing. Sometimes I can get through a hurt or disappointment or broken dream in a day. Sometimes it takes weeks. I always depends on how much effort I put into really wanting to heal, really wanting to be free from that cage. God has spoken to my heart and told me that He wants me to soar. He doesn’t want me to be caged and to be forever longing for freedom. In order to do that, I must ask Him to use his “key” to unlock my cages and set me free. Your words today, Renee, confirm to my heart just this very concept. I know I’m on the right path. The Lord’s plan to prosper me includes setting me free from the pain and mistakes and heartbreaks of my past so I can soar. Thank you for your guidance and help through this process.

  83. I am currently struggling with my daughter living a life that I do not approve of. I do know that God will lead her out of this in His time and I have the hope and faith that this will happen. Then we both can look back and have the courage to move forward. But reading your passages continues to lift me up and give me courage to continue hoping and praying for her and her life with God.

  84. Hello Renee!
    Thank you so much for sharing this video, I was reading the daily devotion on Encouragement Today and then was drawn to this video. I went through a divorce five years ago (from a marriage of 22 years) and still don’t know what went wrong. I lost my mom almost four years ago and she said something on her dying bed that left me with harsh feelings toward her and so I have not yet cried for her or even tried speaking to her through God. I have often thought about counseling but can’t really afford it so it’s just a thought. I do plan to purchase your book ‘Confident Heart’ in the near future because I am always touched by your words. I know there is a God and I have faith in Him but I too, asked ‘Why?’ when I was going through all my pain of deception and losses. All week the word ‘HOPE’ has popped up in front of me and so I have decided to keep the Hope and Pray that I find answers and give my whole heart to God!!!

  85. Tiffany says:

    Hi Renee – I think the toughest thing for me is to realize that I do have past hurts and wounds that need to be healed. We go through life so intent on covering up those hurt and jagged places in our hearts, that when God wants us to uncover those to Him to allow Him to heal, we balk at this request. We tell God that we’ve spent years trying to “move on” and that looking back will just ruin all those years of heard work and progress. But those years weren’t progress…we weren’t “moving on”…we were just making due. Now when we have the opportunity for true healing and restoration, we’re afraid. That’s my biggest challenge and what I’m glad to be confront through your book…my fear. I pray that God continues to bless you and all of those who are reading your book or your devotions. God desires to heal that which is broken…we have to trust Him with our brokenness and know that everything He wants to do with us is from a place of His amazing love towards us. Thanks for providing a place to release and share.

  86. Martha Leeper says:

    A truth that I needed to be reminded of today. Even when my hurts, disappointments and pain trigger fears that cloud out God’s truth HIS HOLY SPIRIT sends a messenger like you to bring me back to HIS WORD of hope and love that never changes. Please pray for my husband whose past hurts and disappointments are not only keeping him from God’s best but is creating a barrier that gets thicker with each day when he faces yet another career failure and disappointment. Pray he will be open to getting the help he needs to begin the process and that we can deal live in God’s victory instead of sweeping it under the rug and the dust continues to leak out. Pray that I will love him where he is and be Jesus to HIM and depend on the Lord to provide and I will allow the Lord to heal my wounds as well.

  87. Renee: You are such a blessing to all of us. It is always so difficult to recall our painful past, but so necessary in order to move forward. I know I have a lot of unresolved issues, but I keep them well hidden as I have been taught to be strong and un-emotional. I have always worked with men and have had to take on the male persona so as to not appear weak. I have sought affirmation in good grades, good work performance and the approval of others. This has been disappointing, as people will always disappoint us, even those who profess to be Christians but don’t emulate Christ. You are helping me reach more deeply and seek the Lord’s guidance on moving forward. Thank you so much for your ministry.

  88. Colleen says:

    Renee Thank You Thank You for writing this book and sharing so many things. This is my second time reading this book.It is so helpful for me to know I am not alone. So many of the things you have shared about your feeling I am so graetful for.I have gone through a deep depression and still struggle on days. I believe God led me to your book. I want to be able to share this book with my sister. so we can work together on the difficulties we both have gone through. Thank You again for sharing some very hard things.

  89. I’ve been feeling “stuck” for about 10 years now and can’t seem to get over that wall; some of it is because deep down, in spite of the scriptures I hold onto, I don’t think I’m deserving of God’s grace and love. I know the scriptures that pertain to that, I’ve read the books, but the wall is still there. In addition, I’ve let a relationship with a long-time male friend go places it shouldn’t have, and even though I wasn’t the one who actively pursued it, I allowed things to happen. I’ve asked God for forgiveness, but I don’t think I’ve forgiven myself, and that, I think, adds to my “wall”. There, just a little psychoanalysis of myself, 🙂
    No one really knows about this situation and it’s getting increasingly hard and frustrating to deal with.

  90. I couldn’t believe it when I read the Proverbs 31 message today. It is so me. I am a recovering alcoholic and addict. I was married to my ex-husband for 35 years. We have 3 grown sons and I have 2 grandsons. We were divorced 6 years ago. He was a practicing alcoholic at the time. Now he has been sober for 5 years. It tears me apart to know that I broke up our family. I was always proud that my family was not a statistic. Now we are. I remarried 3 1/2 years ago and I just am not sure about my love for my new husband. I have been battling it ever since we got together. We moved in together, I felt guilty so he married me. it has been a battle ever since. He loves me, treats me really good, accepts me for who I am, even with my faults, and I left him about a month ago because I was tired of pretending and felt like I was living a lie. I am now living with my sister. No papers have been filed. It is tearing him up. I just don’t know what to do. I don’t feel like I love him, but it seems like I should. I want God’s will for my life. I just am not sure he is it. The confusion, depression and chaos is something I have dealt with, or not dealt with all of my life. Thank you for your words of wisdom. I have an appointment with my pastor today. I pray God will speak to me through him. I look forward to your future emails for encouragement. Thank you again.

  91. Lana Black says:

    I love your devotions and your dedication to helping others to gain their confidence in Christ. I am having a difficult time in my life due to going through menopause at the age of 43. I feel broke and that my husband deserves someone better than me. I am thankful that he is a Christian and tells me that we will get through this together. We are a military family and have been through several deployments and have been told he will deploy again in 2013. We have survived many challenges and I know that Christ will help us through the tough times ahead. Thanks for your encouragement and making me feel that I am not alone.

  92. Renee thank you for investing your time into GOD’s kingdom! I recently came across Psalm 143:8 in a book I was reading from a co-worker and then again in your devotion last week.It has been in my opinion God speaking to my heart and now today’s devotion that includes one of my favorite bible verses!I have struggled remembering his promise that he has a plan for my life that was designed by him just for me.My life has been filled with many disappointments from bad childhood memories, a failed marriage and drug addiction that destroyed my ex-husband and has had a tremendous effect on my two sons.Yet I know my redeemer lives and this week I decided to let go of the past and to cherish the time that I have with my growing teenage boys focusing on the good things that GOD has done for us and letting go of the victim that I have become.Your devotion today was again a message for me to keep moving forward and pushing the doubts behind! I cannot thank you enough for your words of wisdom and taking the time to share them with women like me who sometimes just need to hear that there is hope!

  93. Thanks Renee for this message. Your words of encouragement and healing have touched my heart. I, too, am in process of grieveing the childhood I never had. I receive your emails and decided to take advantage of getting your book free on Kindle, so I read it on my computer. You have great insight and wisdom. Praise the Lord for how you are allowing Him to use you and your story to grow so many hurting women who long for wholeness. Thank you for your honesty and compassion. As I read this post and watched your video, God moved in my heart not only to continue to seek after Him harder to allow Him to grow me, but to share this message with an unsaved, hurting friend who has been so wounded by divorce. I have tried to reach out to her and share the gospel with her, but her heart was not opened at the time and I have been praying for her evr since. It would mean so much to receive a copy of your book for her as I think God could use it to bring another child home!
    Thanks again so much for serving the way you do!

  94. terri schmidt says:

    Renee, thanks so much for sharing your story. You put it so simply and it made sense. I to came from a divorced family, but there was also some abuse. I’m starting to understand now what I need to do so I can move on and stop being “stuck”. Thanks for sharing. Terri

  95. Dennise says:

    Your word have touched me deeply and comes as confirmation from God that what I need to be doing is seeking after him with all my heart

  96. Renee,

    What perfect, God-timing for this message! Thank you for sharing your heart. I agree with so many previous commenters that this is a woman-message if there ever was one 🙂 I, too, come from a divorced family and have just recently left an emotionally and psychologically abusive relationship. How tempting to try to put a bandaid on all those hurts, but after hearing your message, I know Jesus wants to walk through the healing process with me. Thank you again!

  97. Renee thank you for this message. It made me realize the things in my past that I had not yet dealt with and need to but am afraid to. Because I don’t/ didn’t want to bring them back up again, but when I don’t they do creep back in unseen ways or untimely ways and it affects the way I see my husband. I don’t want that.

  98. Hey Renee,
    Can’t begin to tell you how much i needed to hear your video message today… really appreciate your transparency and wise words. Jeremiah 29:11-14 is an area of Scripture I’m very familiar with, but it’s sadly we can often push back God’s promises when we’re in pain. Was amazed at the similarities of yours and my past… i too, suffered the pain of my parents divorce, my dad leaving, and trying to grow up with very little parental guidance and no Jesus. I didn’t realize the depth of the damage and how much i had not ever dealt with until the last year or so. Once I came to Christ, seemed the world was a big adventure and i’ve lived an exciting ministry life – but now at 45, i find myself deeply struggling with the pain of my past and it’s profound effect on my life. i’ve never married, have no children and yet deeply hunger for it. It’s been painful for me to know that God declares “it’s not good for man to be alone” and the beautiful role of a woman to help a man… yet not allow me to walk in this. And now, unlike my younger years, i feel like a failure as a woman. Even despite all my “ministry successes” – i still feel like a failure. it haunts me now and it’s caused so much of my past to surface and reinforce those feelings. Lastly, and so amazing… I have been to Ethiopia, and have a huge desire to adopt from there! But with no husband and in full time ministry – I haven’t seen a way to make adoption happen. When you shared about your adopted Ethiopian daughter… i was stunned. Only God could have had placed your story in my life for such a time as this… as if God is saying… it can happen for you too, Lysa. i pray one day it will. But your story breathed hope into my heart today… i’m grateful. To you and to God. May His anointing continue to rest on your life such that many women would know His touch through your life!

  99. Jenny Rutan says:

    Hi Renee, God brought me to your website today to hear His words spoken through you! I have struggled for over 40 years with myself worth and have tried, prayed, talked to God with working through these things that still haunt me today. I have a 16 year old daughter, who is precious! I have tried to teach her that she is so beautiful just the way God made her (even though I steel don’t feel that way about myself, I am working on it) I pray for my children daily, but I also know she needs a little extra prayer due to her esteem and self worth. I intend to print this devotion off for her to read. I know that not only God’s work but also His work does not come back void. I would love the book “A Confident Heart” to help us both learn and grow to be able to help others who are dealing with the same issues and hurts from the past that so many are dealing with in todays world. THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO FOR GOD’S KINGDOM! May He bless you abundantly Renee!
    Love and Prayers,

  100. Thank the Lord for Proverbs 31 ministries, else I would not have been directed to this video. God is working in me to free me of my past hurts. I am afraid. What if I can’t stop crying? What if I can’t change my negative self talk? What if my husband doesn’t support me if I try and let go of my past (he doesn’t do well with tears and such.)? I am “this close” to being too dependent on wine and the shame I feel during the day for it is daunting. I am afraid, but I want to be free from the deep deep deep hurts from my past. How long will it take? Can I make it? Will God still honor my prayers for my kids? He is touching my heart deeply – like many others – tears flow as I type. I am afraid. The pain is so intense when I try to go to the hurt places. Fear, shame, insecurity. Yet, I WILL sing to Him. I WILL praise Him because He really has blessed me in so many ways. I believe He can make me whole, just not if He will. If anything I appreciate your prayers. Blessings to you, Renee. What an amazing woman of God you are.

  101. Some of it sounds too easy or something. I’m working through with a counselor right now that my marriage is an abusive relationship. I also grew up with an abusive mom. Is it just the brevity of your video that makes this sound like a “quick fix”?

  102. Proverbs 31 ministraies and Renee…thanks for all the comforting words and stories. Your message was heartfelt. I struggle to allow God to be in control, not me. My neighbors who are youth pastors at my church are also struggling right now. Finances aren’t growing as fast as the needs of the church and mixed with economy…you can guess the outcome 🙁 Everyone’s past – even if they are still climbing the mountain – can be paving the way for a better future. We all just have to trust in God and know that he DOES has great plans for us and we should be anxious for nothing!

    Wishing everyone the best and remember to place your hope in God, not wordly things and people.

  103. I can definitely see that I am going to have to get this book. I believe that the message within this book could really help me get past some of the obstacles that I am facing in my life right now. I definitely need a healing touch from God and for his Holy Spirit to help me deal with stings from the past. From a broken home to broken relationships, I am battling low self-worth, insecurity, and this completely affects my current job and relationships. Please pray for God’s healing touch in my life. I know that He has a plan for my life. By faith, I believe that! I just have to draw closer to Him and let him show me His plan.

  104. Sue White says:

    I really love your message today!!! I am having a really hard time with my daughter, see doesn’t talk to me in person or on the phone she will text me. I just want the relationship that w once had back. Don’t know why she hates me so much. She is married has two grown sons. She seams to want to hurt me in every way she can.

  105. Thank you for sharing your message, it was what I really needed to help me realize I can let go of past hurts and learn from them!

  106. Anonymous says:

    Your devotion today was such a huge encouragement to my heart today. Yesterday I wen to see a Specialist and had some tests done and the results did not come back well at all. As I sat there in the doctors office after the tests were done and we were going over the results and what needs to be done I felt so overwhelmed and alone. Thank You so much Renee for sharing from your heart because today you have truly blessed mine in a very special way!

  107. thank you, renee, thank you. i sit here endeavoring to type the words that would adequately describe what is brewing in my heart…and failing. but that’s ok ’cause my Father knows (oh! HOW He KNOWS!) and, as i pray for you and each of us working our way together through this study, He will apply my prayers to each heart as He sees fit…as He knows each need…as He perfectly supplies through the holy spirit. i am thankful, renee, for His choosing to work through you. may the Lord bless you and yours today. <3

  108. Oh my this has so touched something deep in me. In a couple of days I will be 66. Sometimes I feel like its too late to change why bother after all these years. My Mom abandon me at birth. Unbeknown to my Dad I was given to my adoptive parents when I was less than 24hrs old. When Dad came to the hospital the next day I was gone. PTL I found him 51 yrs later. Together we discoveed that Mom had passed away 8 yrs earlier. So I will never know why. My adoptive Mom really wasnt cut out to be a Mom. She tried to fit my square peg into a round hole. I became an emotional eater. And now struggle with being really overweight. I cant imagine what the pain would feel like if I let it out & that scares me. Plus by keeping my mind blank I dont have to deal with the pain. Just realizing that somewhere in life I have shut down. I function very well no one would be able to know. I have never taken care of me. I dont even know who me is. However, I am going to get Confident Heart and try to let the process begin. HOPE. This is the word that keeps coming to me. Thank you for sharing your life with us. It has opened a door that I pray will not close no matter what the pain.

  109. Hi Renee
    Listening to you was like listening to myself. Thank you for sharing because it is through sharing we learn we are not along in our struggles.

  110. I began reading chapter 4, then saw your VIP message and thought to my self… “some people must be REALLY sensitive. Then I got further into the chapter and saw that you, (really God) is speaking straight to me! I have cried so hard with this. I have felt like a failure since I was 5 years old. Forty four years is a long time to feel this way. I am so ready to have His hope. I have not done my time line yet, but I may put on it (or make another) the times I have hurt a loved.

    Thank you so much Renee. I have been in such a pit for so long, and I want to get out without the pain of my past, but I think I am ready to deal with it. How can I not if I want to do what God is calling me? ( I would like to hear his plan(s) for me. I think I would feel better, get motivated and be able BELIEVE Him more!)

  111. Donna Ham says:


    WOW – What an on-time word for me. Jeremiah 29:11 is my favorite scripture and hearing it again today by you and your story just reminds me even the more that I have a future and a hope. I’ve had a habit of not going pass verse 11 and today I’m reminded to include 12-14 each time I think of or read my favorite scripture. I can relate so much to your story as my childhood was a painful one. God is truly doing a work in me, but I must be even more willing to allow Him complete access to my heart at all times. I’m so ready for all that He has for me and I certainly don’t want to be a hinderance. I bless God for causing me to click on your link because your story has so encouraged my heart. May the Lord Bless you and Keep YOU and May He Smile upon YOU everyday!

    Abundant Grace,


  112. Shannon Steckel says:

    Jeremiah 29:11 is something special to me. I’ve had friend who instructs Zumba but what she doesn’t know but maybe she does that the month even though I was getting helped I was thinking about ending my life due to job hunting and moving back home, loosing indepedence it was hard and I felt like I couldn’t succeed and I was letting my parents down that is how I felt. That verse “God has a plan full of hope for me” I was like why. She even announced Bible Studies that has helped me strengthen my faith and trust in God and I was not going insane. I felt like I was going insane due to a Church I was attending hurt me so much that I didn’t want to go to Church and said I should go to the hospital. I even told my counselor that and she said “You don’t need that” However, it took me almost half a year to back to Church I wanted too and tried to get in my car but I just cried and than I would be upset that I’m crying again. I even got to the parking lot of the Church but couldn’t get out of the car and yes started crying again. Finally, I went to 3 different Churches and still didn’t feel right but one day I overslept one Mass and I had something going on that I couldn’t go to the later Service. So I went to one that is close and I just knew that was the place for me. I still get worried but I’m singing in the choir and wow what wonderful caring director that God has placed in my life. So I was a little nervous about those Bible Studies but I’ve learned that we all go thru struggles. Again, I have been laid off a second time, but due to the Zumba class where the instructor reads a scriptures and we have 15 minute devotion afterwards. I know I will get through this time too because God sent me to this class and I’m so glad He did. In addition, the Jeremiah 29:11 verse has appeared almost every other day especially when I feel down. Furthermore, if I didn’t take those Bible courses I wouldn’t have taken this course and oh my God’s love is amazing and I will persevere because of His grace and love.” Thank you Renee for writing this book it has helped me and I’ve shared some of this with some of my friends and strangers. God Bless you!

  113. nancys1128 says:

    I love your openness and transparency. It really goes a long way in making us realize we are not alone in our struggles. Thank you for your willingness to follow God’s path for yourself and in the process bring such blessings to the rest of us.

  114. Sandy Dvorak says:

    Hi Renee,

    Thanks for sharing your heart. I am 53 years old and I am finding myself at this age with a very low self-esteem because of all that has happened to me in my life. My life certainly has not turned out the way I planned. Those words sound so silly to see in print because I know my life is not my plan but God”s plan for me. Even knowing this, I keep asking the hard questions, “Why have these things happened to me?” At 53 years old I am divorced my husband left me 10 years ago and I am an empty nester, my 4 girls are raised. I am all alone and it is scary to be all alone. I know God is always with me but when I come home, the house is empty. I ask God, “Why am I alone. You said it is not good for man to be alone and yet I am alone!” Hurts from my childhood and dealing with a narcissistic mother further adds to my poor self-image. I think what is wrong with me because I pray and I love God and then I saw your Encouragement for Today message which led me to this blog. Your message gives me hope. I don’t want to live the rest of my life trapped with these insecurities. I want to give it to Jesus but even thought I want to, I seem to fail at actually doing just that. Right now my financial situation is not good so I would be so blessed to received your book as a gift. Thank you for praying for me and considering me for your generous offer. God Bless You! :o)

  115. So much of what you are saying is exactly what I am struggling with. All the questions, doubt, and wondering if I will ever heal and feel normal again. Thank you.

  116. It is very difficult for me to find hope, due to the many things that have happened to me throughout my life. But, I have been trying to find that hope since returning to the Lord a couple of years ago. Though this is a difficult journey, I know He will be there for me.

  117. Connie Collins says:

    Hey Renee:

    I have went through some of the very things you are talking about as far as our past goes. I didn’t really till recently that I was harboring pain from my past. Things happened when I was a young teen, that forever changed me. I didn’t turn to God, but others, who didn’t necessarily give me the best advise. It changed my life forever and not in ways I am proud of. As I have went through several painful events, I have discovered that some of the hurt was not coming from the current situation, but from my past. We all need to examine our lifes to the point of figuring out who we are and mostly who God wants us to be. Think back to events in your life that changed you and see what effect they have had own you. Once you realize where the pain is coming from, you can give it to God and he will free you. Jeremiah 29:11 is my life verse and continues to bless me often. My church home that I had been searching for became obvious because this was their life verse on their bulletin. Also as you concluded, the verses that follow are all part of God’s plans for our lifes. Give all your concerns, hurts, pains, joy; whatever it is, to God. He does forgive and he forgets! He wipes our slate clean to become to christians he wants us to be. Choose to grow your faith and trust him completely, he will bless you beyond measure.

    Sister in Christ

  118. Thank you for your sharing, Renee! I have been having a “boot camp” of a season the past year. Been through a tough patch but looking back, I could see that God was dealing with me on my past. And truly, He is faithful to take us through all our hurts and pains if only we allow Him to. I may not have liked the journey somewhat, but through the tears, God is slowly mending this broken heart of mine to wholeness. He does have a plan for our lives, and a good and perfect plan too.

  119. Thanks for sharing your life. So much seems to happen in life. The last year has been challenging with my husband’s injury, which he still is recovering from — it’s been challenging for both of us as well as our young daughters. The last month has been challenging with my shoulder dislocation and my husband’s ankle surgery and then having both my daughters comes down with strep throat this past week. It’s easy with all that is going on to just shut off the emotions and keep persevering. I am encouraged by the assignment to do a timeline to examine past hurts/events which have molded me and still cause me doubts…a lot which stems from my childhood and things that were said to me. Denying it does not make things go away! Amen, that we always have HOPE from God!

  120. christine lowe says:

    After reading chapter 4 and some of the comments I have a lot to think about. I may not do the timeline right now because I’m not feeling called to. I have given my testimony several times at Celebrate Recovery a Christian 12 step program for anyone with “hurts, habits or hangups” and have found a lot of healing in sharing what I thought were painful secrets. I will start to think about what God wants me to do and what I can now allow Him to do with me. One woman called Jesus her Knight in Shinning Armor and it struck me I’ve never felt that. There are many things I need to transfer from my head to my heart and I know this is a safe place to do that. Thank you Renee for providing this safe place for growth. Since my best friend died in December 2011 I’ve lost that safe feeling. I think God is urging me to find more safety in Him through this bible study. Thanks to all the women who are willing share their stories.

  121. This study really speaks to me and has allowed me to reflect, react and know God is speaking to me in so many ways, through you. Thanks Renee for allowing God to use you to touch our lives.


  122. Kathy Sturgis says:

    working on the time line. and want to be on the contest list ^J^

  123. Renee, I’m learning through this study so far that God is wanting to heal me. He’s wanting to heal those past wounds and hurts that people or sin has affected me in my life. I want God to use my story to help other people find the true freedom that comes in knowing Him… I am learning that’s its okay to trust God and be vulnerable to Him. He knows me, and everything he does is good. It’s okay to have a story, for we all have one. But it’s how we use our own story to help lead others to make their stories turn out good with making wiser decisions than what we have. I want people to see how much Jesus truly loves them… if only we could truly grasp how much he loves us. It’s beyond our understanding, but I want to see God’s love everyday in my life, for his healing hand and touch of unconditional love are the only things that can help us move forward, and face the past to draw courage like you said, and see and hit the future head on!

  124. Thank you, Renee for giving each and everyone of us hope from our loving Father.

    One line in this weeks lesson spoke loudly to me. “He wants us to live in the promise that He offers hope for our future despite the pain of our past.”

    Thank you, too, for taking me beyond God and His plans and showing how to come out of captivity! Amazing promises.

    I love the story of “Sam.” She gives us hope.


  125. Thank you for your openness, and willingness to share what God has done in your life. Your insights are an encouragement to me as I go through the process of healing from wounds that I have not dealt with from the past. Jeremiah 29:11 is an encouragement to me, along with God’s promise to never leave us or forsake us. Thank you.

  126. A.Renee says:


    The wisdom in this chapter is amazing. God has already started me on a journey to look at my past and see those things that have caused me to be insecure and doubtful. I never thought that I would need to do that. I’m a missionary kid and come from a wonderful family. Nevertheless, given the enemy and our sinful nature, we can turn even good examples into unrealistic expectations for ourselves and always come up short of who we think we should be.

    I want to encourage those reading, that on the one hand, they shouldn’t ignore the timeline if they don’t think there’s anything “traumatic” that has happened in their life. On the other hand, I wan those who have suffered more significant trauma and mourned their whole lives that they have not had a “good childhood,” that a perfect childhood does not exist. We are all human. We are all flawed. Recognizing this has given me the freedom I needed to forgive people I held dear and looked up to.

    I am still on this journey and God is still revealing things that have affected me 8 months later. I am beginning to taste freedom and I love it. Thank you for this chapter, this book. Let us hold on to the hope we have in HIm. He loves us so much. I love the example of Aster you gave in the video – it makes sense, my sister has three adopted kids. I

    Thanks again – Annette

  127. Jalisa Ray says:

    I am 21 years old and have been struggling with sex, lust, pornogrophy, masturbation, faithfulness in relationships with people and with God. I know why I have been struggling with these things but IDK how to deal with the core of my issues. I have had a hard time doing the timeline and answering the reflection questions about my past because I don’t remember much of it. My biological older sister molested me from a very young age until around the time I was 13 and started having sex. Nobody ever knew until I was 20 when I decided to tell my current boyfriend and eventually my mother. This lead to us finding out why my sister did those things to me… She was molested by her go sister and one of our aunts. This also lead to us finding out therewas a generational curse of incest in our family. This video revealed to me that this and the fact that my father wasn’t there for me, cheated on my mother for about 15 years of their marriage and has never really been a father to me, the sexual abuse as a child, a series of relationships and 35 sexual partners, failures and disappontments throughout my life have led to my struggle of not being able to have a consistent relationship with God. I do not want to deal with any of this but I am tired of wearing a mask and living my life in silent pain covered with a smile. Thank you for sharing your story and writing this book. I know it is time for me to deal with this tremendous amount of pain so all of you reading this PLEASE pray for me as I take this journey to freedom…

    • Jalisa Ray says:


      • Jennifer Caballero says:

        I will pray for you. Know that God is with you and that there is nothing that you could have done, that could change God’s Love for you. I can relate with you on a certain level, and I know the pain it brings to reopen that wound in order to heal. Many times in my life, I’ve felt so uncomfortable even thinking about my past because the pain and guilt was so unbearable. So I went about my life trying to ignore that past and pain. But recently God has revealed to me that it is that particular thing among others that have affected my relationships in life. But I know God isn’t doing that in order to hurt me, but to heal me. In order to be able to speak openly about it someday to other woman and minister to them through my pain and healing. Remember sister, that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, those who have been called according to his purpose Romans 8:28. God always uses our ashes and turns them into something beautiful…its just a matter of giving them to Him first.
        God Bless you

    • Donna from Honolulu, Hawaii says:

      I pray for you that there will be a great healing within you- that God will shower you with his love and give you the courage to face your past and let the healing begin. May your future be full of sunshine that will chase all your cloudy dark skies away for good. In Jesus Name I Pray. Amen

      I think your already on your way…. Be Blessed!

      Aloha from Hawaiixoxoxoxo

    • Oh Jalisa, sweet friend I am so so very sorry for all that you have been through and the deep pain of each wound you have shared with us. What courage you have and what precious value you hold to our Father who wants to scoop you up and hold you close. He knows all the thou have done and all that has been done to you and He wants to wipe it all away with His redeeming, cleansing grace, mercy, love, forgiveness and healing. I am going to come back here to pray for you tomorrow – as it’s really late and I need to get to bed. BUt just know you are not alone, all of us who read your story are going to pray for you. Healing and redemption are yours in Christ if you have received His gift of life through His death.

      I want to make sure you have my book? If not, I would love to send you a copy. Calling on Jesus on your behalf tonight!!!

  128. Thank you for such an encouraging word today!! Gods purpose for my life I know has not been fulfilled but there is one!! There is so much hope in that verse alone!! No matter who we are are where we have been we serve a forgiving God that loves us more than our human bodies and minds will ever understand!! Without him my life has no purpose!! God is so Good!!

  129. Susan K says:

    Wow – I didn’t even realize how much of my past is affecting my personality today. What an amazing revelation. I’ve heard of the timeline before but have never done one. It’s a great idea. Thank you for sharing your story. Now to tackle my past 🙂

  130. Brenda Benoit- adkins says:

    In the past year I have been called every name in the book and said I am someone I am not just to get my son taken away from me! please pray that I get my son back!

  131. Kristi Stirler says:

    I was doing really good with this chapter until yesterday. Yesterday my husband was fired from his job and with it went our insurance. Our oldest son is on multiple medications each day so this is devastating for us. But the verse you put in the chapter…”for I know the plans you have for me. Plans to prosper me and not to harm me.” This struck so hard because right now I am overwhelmed with being the primary breadwinner and knowing I don’t make enough to make ends meet. I also felt that the word HOPE was so right on, too…because my hope has to be in God to see us through this! Thanks for your amazing words of encouragement!!

  132. Carolyn Rogers says:

    Thank you, Renee, for another timely encouragement and reminder to have confidence in the Lord. It’s scary to purposely go reminding myself of past hurts but you are right, God is there with me to love me through it.

  133. Angie Trost says:

    Renee once again you are speaking directly to my heart. I’ve had a lot of hurt and loss in my life and I know I have resentments because of it. I do ask God why me and know he has a greater plan for me. Thanks for reminding me of Gods great love. Angie

  134. What powerful scripture! There is pain from my past that I need to talk to God about. I so needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing.

  135. Jennifer Caballero says:

    Hi Renee,
    Today I woke up with a bit of discouragement and I’ve been reading the devotionals on a daily basis. This one in particular really spoke to me. Its funny because I’ve been reading Jeremiah 29:11 this whole week and everytime I read it, I always get something different from it. It reminds me that God cares very much about the things that matter so much to me in life. Especially about the hurt from my yesterdays. I believe I’m going through a healing process right now, but it gets very difficult at times. God has removed many things that were standing in a way from getting closer to him, and let me tell you it hurt a lot. Now that those “distractions” aren’t in my life any longer I’ve become much closer to Him. But I know that He still has to work a lot in me. I learned a while back from a really good friend of mine, that healing is a process. It takes time, and when you mentioned it in your video, I thought of my friends’ words. There are times when I feel so alone, like no one understands me, but then God shows me different. There are sisters of mine, like you, who have gone through what I’m going through rite now. He’s always reminding me that I am not alone, that He loves me with an Everlasting and Perfect Love and that He is always with me. Thank you so much for today’s devotional, it was such a blessing and I thank God for using you in such a beautiful way to touch women all over the world.
    God Bless you

  136. Priscilla says:

    Thank you Renee for your video today. I am slowing starting to realize how my past is affecting my current thoughts and feelings. I’ve grown up always being shown “a better way” of doing things. While my father meant well, I always felt that no matter what I did, I was never good enough. I am starting to see that in my relationships and situations today that many of my feelings of inadequacy probably stem back to childhood. I feel like I’m not good enough to have certain friends, do certain things, act certain ways, I’m starting to think they are all lies from satan. Now for the hard part, to overcome them. Thankfully I can ask God to overcome satan.
    Thank you again Renee for your encouragement.

  137. This has been such a blessing. Yesterday as I was reading chapter 4 the Lord highlighted many things to me and then I also felt compelled to tune in to a message streaming live online… right when I connected it was talking about the same exact thing God had just ministered to my heart. I originally downloaded the e-version of this book because I seen a link that it was free, but then I went ahead and bought the paperback book so I could have a copy in my own hands. I was not expecting to have as much breakthrough as I have had. If anyone is having trouble going through chapter 4 I encourage you to DO IT! I received tremendous breakthrough, not just because of the words written in the chapter, but because the Holy Spirit breathed on some of the things written in the chapter and expounded on them as I prayed and asked the questions the chapter suggested. Thank you for the message of hope you shared today. God truly is using you Renee!

    God Bless


  138. Hi Renee,

    Even though I already have gone through your study once, I was intrigued by your e-mail’s this week, so decided in spite all the things I have to face and do, I would take some time today to read through Chapter 4. As I have gone through it so far, I am so glad I did. it has brought such encouragement, hope, help at just the right time for me. Your words on the pages are helping me to keep carrying on to face and do the many difficult and not so fun things in my life. I had a feeling It would be helpful for me to skim back and also follow along some this time. I can tell I am at a little different place than the first time going through your study, so it is helpful in that way too. Thank you so much Renee for your love, honesty, perseverance, joy. You have been an encouragement today.

  139. Cindy P. says:

    Jeremiah 29:11 is my favorite verse. Seven years ago my husband abandoned my kids and I for meth. He was abusive both physcially and mentally. I believe that I went through this trial to have a closer relationship with Him. He was with me through the struggles of my divorce and has been with me everyday since then. He has blessed me so much. Just this year, I was listening to a Steven Curtis Chapman song that brought me to my knees and I forgave my ex. I believe that God was speaking to me through that song. I have no contact with him but I still continue to pray for his salvation. I have forgiven but I still struggle with the pain of low-self-esteem and insecurities. There are some days I still can’t look in the mirror. As long as I stay in the word and continue to pray, God is right there helping me grow. I trust in Him. Renee, thank you for this study. It is great. I am praying for you and for all the women doing this study.

  140. I have grown up in church and i made some wrong decisions in life, so when i thought i had made the right decisions ( without the councel of God, but they sounded right), i thought God was going to bless me and my family. But it all fell apart and i was so hurt that i dont know how to get back to fully trusting in God. I want to… But i just cant see myself being prosperous again… This book would help me a lot! Thanks for your words!

  141. Isabelle says:

    Renee thank you for your ministry. I read through many different life situations other women are/have dealt with. I have felt so utterly alone and angry at God for allowing hurtful event after hurtful event in my life. The one that has “taken the cake” so to speak has been my relationship with my husband. The second day of our marriage we began to deal with the effects of his past before Christ in addiction to pornography and his unrealistic expectations of what he thought his future wife’s body would be like. I didn’t meet the criteria and he admitted he was disappointed in me. He admitted that he didn’t really deal with his disappointment in taking it to God but avoided it expecting it to vanish. Before our wedding night he had never had sex. Only a past riddled with sexual sin and exposure to nakedness that reduced women to body parts rather than eternal souls. The expectations he had buried inside resurfaced and I was very sensitive to his response to me. My husband does find me beautiful and wants only me. He has repented and is asking God to renew his mind through His word at what the most important things are to Him because my husband really believes God brought us together for HIS purposes. It has just been under two months and I am still grieving the hurt.
    We are both growing in Christ and love His Word and are striving to live holy lives that are pleasing to Him. Thus we are great targets for Satan to deceive us, cause division amongst us and stir up feelings of inadequacy and bitterness. The hardest thing for me to do has been to look to Jesus to remind me that I have been made adequate by the blood of the cross and that I am much more than just what I look like on the outside. Which used to be pretty nice in my eyes prior to all this.
    All of this has led me down a road of asking God “Why?!” Why has life always been painful? Why has everyone important in my life always treated me like I wasn’t good enough?”
    My current struggle is that church is the hardest place to be. It USED to be my favorite place, a place of freedom and joy. My husband has struggled with interest in other women physically (and at times lust) and comparing me to other women and we both get caught in a web of him being afraid of where his eyes are because I’m super sensitive to where he is looking and blame myself for not being enough. I hate church at times and I especially start to hate other women because I compare myself to them and at times I believe that my husband finds them more beautiful than me and that I am chopped liver and can never measure up. It’s a complete battle because I used to love being a part of the women’s ministry and so enjoyed getting to know other women and encourage them in their identity in Christ. I now approach much in fear and insecurity.
    I have, in my pain and discouragement, turned to smoking cigarettes after 7 years of being free from its grip and now struggle with condemnation and walking without a clear conscience wondering what people would think if they knew.
    I haven’t been running to God because I have been angry with Him.
    BUT. Yesterday morning I prayed for the first time in a whileand told God that I missed the sheer JOY I used to have in just knowing and experiencing Jesus. I couldn’t sleep at all last night. I opened my bible with the right heart for the first time in a while. I spent three hours immersed in 1 Peter chapter 1. It was as if God was answering my heart’s cry: He would NOT let me sleep because He wanted me more than I even wanted Him.
    He wanted to reassure me that my faith is being tested for a purpose. He reminded me that when my faith is being tested by various trials and distresses, if I ENDURE and hold on to Christ, this faith is proved genuine. He showed me that PRAISE, GLORY and HONOR are all the result of faith that has been stretched and gone through fire because the outcome of genuine faith in Jesus Christ is SALVATION of my soul. He revealed CHRIST to me afresh and in doing so reminded me of what is MOST important: not that my husband would meet all of my needs or vice versa, but that I SUBMIT my life and my whole self to the GOD who laid down His life for such a wretched sinner as myself. I owe Him everything.
    This truth has renewed my mind to realize that while I struggle with bitterness that it seems as though I never had a “honeymoon” period in my marriage, God DOES have a future and a hope. And HIS idea of what that will be is so beyond my scope of understanding or short term sight. And the truth is that as believers, our best days are yet ahead. We are all just passing through this earth while God is transforming us from glory to glory making us more and more like His Son. It’s going to be painful, it’s going to be difficult, it’s going to not make sense. Because we are being changed from what we are and were into something otherworldly. But it’s going to be worth it all. And in the midst of it we can either die to ourselves and our dreams and expectations and praise God and proclaim to others the TRUTH about who He is OR we can shrink back in to self pity and allow ourselves and our dreams to continue to occupy the thrones of our hearts. Even still God has more compassion, mercy and grace than we could ever try to articulate and He knows just how hard each person’s battle is. He can meet us there if we ask Him to come in.

  142. As I was reading ch 4 the statement being knocked off or feet struck up thoughts of my childhood, During those times of being knocked down I had no problem getting up – I did not know Jesus yet- so what came to mind was so profound as I reflect on how I felt. A one point I had said I am going thru this abuse because God knew I was strong enough to deal with it. As I sit here and write these words in my journal it dawned on me it was God’s strength that made me strong. It was only thru God that I could even attempt to get back up after being knocked down. It was only thru God I could continue to take one step in front of the other, Praise God !!! Because it was His Strength that sustained me and kept me going. In Him I had the power not to give up and give in. And yes there were moments i wanted to throw away the book but its on my kindle which is on my pc , so I couldn’t do that,, hehe. So glad i’m doing this study.

  143. Michelle says:

    Thank you for sharing your story and letting us into the deepness of your heart. Today has been a rough day, one fully of humility, pain, all part of the healing process. I was cleaning my kitchen and just felt led to read a different devotion today, which led me to this video. I am going to go watch it now without distraction and try to let Jesus walk with me.

  144. I bought a hard copy of your book for a friend at Christmas-time. Then I got it for myself on my Kindle when it was on sale. Now I’m doing the study with you.:-) Thanks for being obedient to God and sharing your story! I have dealt with some of my past hurts over the years and as I was thinking about my sins that have brought such shame on my family, myself, and my God, He reminded me that where sin abounds, grace abounds even more. I have specific memories of such grace that remind me of His love. I am so undeserving, but He means what He says…”If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” Thank you, Jesus!

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  146. Kathy T says:

    Thanks I like the hope you said of working through the pain of today and allowing God to fill us and work with that pain.

  147. Esther Grace says:

    Sweet Renee, thank you for sharing your heart with us! God is using your transparency to help so many including me! Thank you!

  148. Barbara Milburn aka Sunshine says:

    As I continue to read “A confident Heart” and all of the comments that are posted here by other readers what sticks out in my mind more than anything is how there are so many other women who have experienced the same kinds of hurts, the same kinds of pain and heart aches as I have. I don’t know why I thought I was the only one; I don’t know why I hid my pain and disappointments behind the mask for so long……. but then again, I do. Shame, guilt, humiliation. Since beginning this study so many things have come to light that I had forgotten or perhaps maybe I had suppressed them so I would not remember. My step father who wanted to have sex with me when I was 13 and then who also thought it ok that he could pass me around to his friends as well, rape by gunpoint when I was 18; my own blood uncle who tried to molest me, my first husband who would beat me for even making eye contact with another man and accused me of being a lesbian if I was friends with a woman. I think of the relationships I have had where the man always had a reason why they did not want to marry me but when our relationship was no longer they found it easy to commit to the new woman in their lives. What was or is wrong with me that I am never good enough, always the bridesmaid but never the bride. Was I only good enough just to play house with but not for the real thing??? I guess these things; these memories that have re-surfaced have a lot to do with the tears that just won’t stop flowing as I read. I don’t want to keep going around the same o’le mountain over and over again. I want to experience the healing that I know God has for me and I guess He could never really do that until I allowed it to come to light. Thank you Renee for being obedient to the call that God has placed on your life. Thank you for sharing your story thru this book and your devotions and the videos. I thank God that even though you may have run from or avoided your calling for so many years that He has chosen this time and this place to use you. I pray for restoration, I pray for healing, I pray for the wonderful promises that I know God has for me. Jeremiah 29:11 has always been a favorite scripture for me along with Ephesians 3:20 but I’d never read verses 12-14. Now I know that God is waiting for me to get really serious about seeking Him and to want it more than anything else, then and only will He make sure that I won’t be disappointed.

  149. Michelle says:

    Your comment at the top “{like pretty please even if you don’t normally watch video posts}” must have been for me. I don’t normally watch video posts preferring instead to read. But it is a wonderful message at a very appropriate time. My husband and I are struggling in our marriage and I have been struggling with the question of why God. Your post spoke truth into that question and had helpful suggestions that I will try. Thank you.

  150. I receive your devotional by e-mail, but today I was led to this site to listen to your words … I know my time line … it is filled with rejection after rejection after rejection. Thirty-two years ago I married a man who loves me and I love him … neither of us knew the Lord then. By the time our first child was celebrating his first birthday, my husband began to pull away and reject me … after our second son, my husband deserted me but stays in our home … I love him so much and I know that he loves me … I have faced death many times and at those times, he lets go and I can see the love…but then the walls go back up. There are days and days that go by without speaking. I sought the Lord and He is my saviour. Just recently my husband agreed to come with me to see my Psychiatrist … he was willing to go if it would ‘fix’ me … after two visits, he has refused to go back with me as “he knows what to do” … I feel like I am disappearing and my hope is gone … I get through my days by repeatedly reminding myself to just breath … when I speak, I am not heard unless the words I say are what he wants to hear … I have no idea why I am even sharing this … desperation perhaps. Anyway, thank you for your words … I hope your message will touch many lives. God bless you … and thank you for meeting me every morning …

  151. Thank you for sharing your message with us today. I truly believe this message was meant for me. My parents also divorced when I was very young (only nine years old) and my mom had to raise me and my sister ALONE. My father was hardly in our life and if it wasn’t for his mother I don’t think we would’ve had a relationship with him at all. Sometimes I think I look for my husband to give me the love I lack from having an absent father and when he doesn’t I get upset and feel like there is no true love in our marriage and I become resentful and want to let it all go.
    My family has gone through some very difficult times (like never before) and it seems that once we get pass one struggle another one pops up. Just back in November my car was repossessed , then here at the end of April we had to move in with my sister and her family b/c we couldn’t make the payments on our rental home. And now it has been hard for us to find a decent-safe home b/c of credit issues. Just in the past few weeks my husband and I haven’t spoken and contemplating divorce. Sometimes, like now think it’s best b/c of all the past hurts. I pray daily for us to find a place to live and for answers on what to do about my marriage b/c I don’t want us to end in divorce but at the same time I no longer want to have to pry love from my husband when it should be given genuinely. This has been a very depressing time for me and I’m just at a lost. We still have our two youngest teenage daughters that we’re responsible for. Right now, I feel like I have failed as a mother & wife and can’t figure out how to get back on the right path. I’ve been praying continously and I know everything is done in God’s time and I trust God’s timing. I also know that all this will come to past and there will be happier days again in our life’s but it’s difficult going through it now and having my girls having to suffer too.

    Thanks for the prayers for my family…we shall smile again!

  152. Renee,
    Chapter 4. It was hard for me as I was doing my timeline. Leading a bible study doesn’t make it any easier. But as a leader I have to be the first to be transparent. We first watched your video of “Don’t throw the book across the room” because some of us were feeling a little paralyzed with our feelings (not wanting to go deeper). Some of us have been doing “fine” not having to relive those areas in our lives. Thank you for your video of explaining further of the timeline. It really helped my group wanting to go deeper. You are a true blessing.

  153. I downloaded a Confident Heart and read through it on Kindle . I read the first few chapters of the book at lightening speed….it was as if you were voicing all my past hurts and fears and insecurities. . I wish I would have read this book 20 years ago! I am now going back and working the exercises and re-reading the chapters. It truly has been a blessing and a healing in my life. I’ve known God from a very young age but until I’ve read your book couldn’t understand why I just didn’t feel good enough and thought I must be the only one out there that felt this way. One thing you wrote particularly touched me and it went something like this…”When we compare ourselves to others we are comparing our insides to their outsides” How true and no wonder we don’t ever feel we measure up!.The hardest part for me was allowing God to help me revist and heal those hurts, and not just bury them…and I’m still a work in progress!!!. Thank you for sharing your experiences and know that you are blessing others in your ministry!

  154. Reading and watching the video has been enlightening for me. I do have past hurts from others and disappointments in myself that I have and continuing to learn to let go, to give it all to God. I can see daily how the past with hurts has effected my daughters out look on life and now how it has hindered my life also.With some of my past hurts I have been able to forgive, let go and have peace with it with the Lord and myself, but it took me a long time, of continual daily praying with asking for forgiveness before the situation when heard or thought about did not raise my blood pressure and cause anger. After being able to deal with this which was very close to home/family, I did find peace, even thought to this day, I do not know if with saying I was sorry for my part and asking for forgiveness from those that I hurt has been accepted. And even though my childhood does not bring back memories of sadness, I know that when finding out I had a sister, years and years later, it did bring up thoughts of finding my biological father and anger knowing that he left mom and I and has never once attempted to find out anything about me. It did leave a scar for my sister due to the situation. I do believe that her scars hindered us from having a sister to sister relationship at first even though I tried to reach out, but I find that now we are bonding to be closer and I give all the glory to God, for I continue to pray for us both in this matter. So now it is time to work on the timeline of the past and resolve those issues so that any hard feeling or resentment I have will leave my heart so that the Lord can fill those spaces with His love, hope and His word. I thank you for sharing your stories and this wonderful bible study and your ministry to women, for this touches my heart, for I can see where I need help with dealing with my past and my mistakes so that my heart can be filled with Gods love. God Bless

  155. Praying for the walls to come down and God’s truth to find it’s way in.

  156. I thought I had finished processing my childhood disappointments but now I realize that I had just buried them. Now I think I can face them head on with God’s help.

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  158. GISELLE GRAS says:

    Thank you again for the personable videos and your vulnerability. I can identify very much with you! This “Confident Heart” study and the support you give by your words, verses, and your testimony is very powerful!! Love, Giselle from Fellowship Church- Miami

  159. Four years ago this month, my 33 year old son was diagnosed with a malignant brain tumor after only a week of symptomatic headaches. The neurosurgeon told us he expected it may be the worst type of brain tumor. However, the surgeon asked me to go home and ask everyone I knew to pray. He explained that he had been in for the worst and had seen miracles. What a blessing. On the day of the surgery, my sister unexpectedly was given a Bible verse that came along with a receipt from a local pharmacy. It was Jeremiah 29:11-14. I held that little card in my hand throughout the surgery. Reading over and over. I claimed it as a promise for my son. He came through the surgery beautifully. It was NOT the most malignant tumor. It was malignant, but slow growing. The oncologist told us “our cup was half full” The treatment was grueling, but he managed to work. I kept the card with the verse in my wallet. One day when he was discouraged, I gave it to him. He carries it now. He has faith and courage and has had many challenges in this journey. But, he is now cancer free, off of chemo after 31/2 years. I still claim the promise of God to Jeremiah for us all. He has perfect plan no matter what. God does want us to prosper. The most remarkable part of these verses is the part that tells us, “when you pray, I will listen. And, when you look for me with all your heart, I can be found by you.” Really finding God is the greatest part of all.

  160. Chapter 4 was a hard read for me. At certain points I found myself holding back tears and wondering why I even had the urge to cry. It was then that I realized that on the surface I was “fine”, but the pain of past hurts is still like a fresh wound. Honestly, I don’t know if I want to come face to face with those who have hurt me and share my feelings with them and express forgiveness to them. Do I have to in order to have a confident heart? Can’t I just forgive them from a distance and press on? This is something I definitely have to pray about.

  161. Barbara H says:

    Renee, this chapter is really heavy stuff to deal with. Do you think we should linger in chapter 4 for another week in order to give our hearts time to process some of it?

  162. Donna from Honolulu, Hawaii says:

    Thank you Renee- I subscribe to “Encouragement for Today” Proverbs 31 Ministries- and was delighted to see that you were giving the women’s devotions today on: “If God Loves Me Why…” I especially loved this part:
    “Can I whisper some hope into your heart today? If you are living and breathing, your purpose has not yet been fulfilled. No matter what you have done or what has been done to you, God does have a plan for your life.”
    You have whispered to my heart the hope I need for the healing start… it has to start with me I know this… I need to be brave and face those deep hurts and learn to forgive… baby steps….for now but praying for Jesus to come live in my heart now – instead of the dark shadows of my past… I believe faith as small as a mustard seed… Miracles like something that small can grow into a strong Oak tree one day…until then… baby steps for me- I will get to where I need to be.

    Aloha from Hawaii xoxoxoxox

  163. Susan Strandberg says:

    You have helped sooo many by sharing your story and teaching Gods Truth, my favorite part is that you may have saved marriages and families…….God is good. There is so very much hurt and sadness in this world..I lost my marriage to infidelity,husband left, and it breaks my heart everyday for me and my children(who are adults)just so hard all the broken dreams…financially devestating also..and loss to death (my brother and two of his beautiful children killed in a car accident last June 17th) sometimes just very hard to go on and you shared hope, Thank You.*not gonna lie,hoping I get the book to share w/my children.. also I have to somehow find peace w/all of sorry for all the hardships for everyone…prayers go Jesus name AMEN

  164. You said you tried to create the happily ever after that you didn’t have in your family of origin. My parents were married until death separated them. My parents had that lifelong marriage, but there is great disappointment in my marriage and children. I wanted to create that perfect family, where the kids meet the high expectations of the parents and become positive role models. Enter my husband from a very different background. We were rarely on the same page, and often I allowed him to lead me astray from God. When we married I thought he was saved, although now I look back at the warning signs I chose to ignore. He did come to God during a particularly dark time in our marriage, but I’m still not sure he’s saved. I see how disrespectful he is to our son, who gives that same disrespect in return. I see poor choices being made. His poor choices have hurt our family. I feel my family is broken, although not because of divorce, because of disobedience, on everyones part. I was inconsistent of my expectations and modeling good behavior when my children were teenagers, the really tough years, because I often felt undermined by my husband and decided “if you can’t beat em, join em”. My children are adults now, and have made some choices leading to hard lessons and embarrassment. Because I failed, I have an enormous amount of disappointment in myself and my family. How do I forgive myself when God expected me to train them up in the way they should go? How do I look at them through God’s eyes and stop scolding them, yet hold up a higher standard? I still want that perfect family, but we are beyond that. I do need and want restoration though, and for my family to find a real relationship with God. But I need to get my thoughts right.

  165. Virginia S says:

    I recieved your book “A Confident Heart” today. I’ve read thru to Chapter 4. Reading the posts I wondered if I would throw the book. No, I didn’t. I ‘m thrilled, happy, that God has a plan for me. Looking forward to finishing the book. I know God has been nudgeing me to come out of myself and share my story. We don’t have to be identified by our past. However, telling of our past can set another free to living God’s plan for them. Praise and all Glory belong to God!

  166. Oh Renee, How you have blessed me.. i really needed to hear this tonite. I wonder so much what is His plan for me and for my family. So many crushing hurts from other Christians. This has been such an encouragement.. Thank you and know you and you sweet family are always in my prayers!!

  167. Nancy Garcia says:

    Wow this is a powerful nugget! Thank you for posting this I’ve been following in twitter. Things have just seemed to be overwhelming lately with finances and I know this may sound silly but praying for a future husband. In my head I had this idea before 25 I want to be married. Well with graduating college soon I’ve def have been leaving it all in Gods hands. Being away from home now for the last two years of college was a hard move. Making new friends and finding a home church I see all god has done and continuing to do for me. But like you said its a healing process and I feel like the devil tries to brig up hurts in the past to kill my joy. I have hurts that only God knows about. Is that healthy? The thoughts creep up of the past and I sometimes feel like I’ll never find someone because I struggle to trust people and by people I mean guys. I’m continuing to pray for his will and vision in the ministry I’m in now helping young girls and college students in my generation!! I feel like im still in the healing process and realize that as soon as this is over God will bless me with an aweosme husband! I think ive come a long way in my walk with God and yes I have been at a point where disappointment seems to creep in and I ask the why?? Just being in a financial struggle really hurts more than I thought. Im believing in such a breakthrough! I think I’ve viewed God small enoough! I’m praying big. I don’t want to be self ambitious but he know my heart! I know there is a purpose for my pain and making me a strong girl right now. I thank God for my family and friends for what I do have! Thanks for the encouragement!!

  168. Thank you for your message. I am dealing with past issues right now. It has been hard, but I can truly say I feel God present in my life for the first time. The book helps me believe more and more daily that he does have a plan for me.

  169. Miss Penny says:

    I want to thank you for sharing your past and, most especially, your hope. I find myself in tears listening to you speak of a past that creeps into your present and how it manifests itself in your behaviors. I’ve fallen into an on again, off again depression since losing my dream job 7 months ago (with the job went my home at a time I was already dealing with an ’empty nest’ and the loss of a close loved one).
    I KNOW God has a plan for me; I TRUST in His word; but I have whole weeks of crying that just won’t stop. I’m blessed with awesome women in my church who pray for me daily and anoint me whenever they get the chance :-). I look for His blessings daily and I see them; I just can’t seem to shake an overwhelming sense of being alone. I go to God and cry my heart out and He shows me I’m not alone. But I still can’t shake the feelings. Your message makes me wonder if this isn’t my past coming up to slap me in the face 🙂 My father was a drug addict and had serious psychological issues as well. My parents divorced after some serious violence had taken place while I was still pretty young. The last time I saw him was at his funeral (he died of a drug overdose, alone) while I was pregnant with my first child. I wonder if the overwhelming sadness and fear I’m experiencing stems from all of that………..
    Thanks for having the courage to share….

  170. Beth M. says:

    Thank you for being so open and honest with us! When you share your heart, it makes so much sense to me-I have been through similar circumstances; my parents divorced when I was young and I have the same fear of abandonment and trust issues. I also tried to make my husband be the perfect spouse by control. I am working on all these issues, and it really helps to know that other Christian women are going through the same fears and doubts as I am.

  171. January says:

    Renee. Wow what a powerful video. The part that resonated most for me was the last section when you quoted from the book directly. This study has been such a blessing. I even had a moment today That would normally make me doubt myself and incorporated some of the promises from the previous download and felt better immediately!!

  172. Dallena Hess says:

    Renee mentioned the struggles her daughter is facing in the video. I so relate to that as I had a challenging childhood-i cannot almost imagine my childhood without remembering me and my mother in a doctor’s office. I have a severe to profound hearing loss, have both ADD and Asperger tendendices, and have Type II Diabetes.

    I was thinking back to my chihood-trying to identify where it all started. I was around 4 or 5 when this happened-my parents told me that the dr’s came out and told them “she kept telling us I’m going to be okay”
    With all the stuff that happened in my childhood, I had the attitude of “I’m going to be okay” from that forward on. I put on a brave front and developed the attitude of i’m going to be okay-for myself because I wanted to be okay in the future. I overlooked alot of things in my adulthood-causing alot of problems, had a couple of online relationships that I’m not proud of.

    God revealed that I didn’t depend on him enough to meet my needs in the past and to rely on him even though I do have a severe hearing loss. He revealed stuff today at work-putting my past in perspective.

    I thought long

  173. Chris Tennison says:

    Really do appreciate your honesty and obedience to share. This is a tough chapter and hope to glean from all that is in store for me as I am open to what God has for me. It would be wonderful to be free from the past and decisions made that affect me today. I am reading your book for the second time and loving it again. I bought copies for every woman in my family and hope to share more with my friends as well. I love the videos you share too. Thanks for sharing.


  174. I’m pregnant, not sleeping at all, and exhausted every day. I loved in your video when you talked about taking each “day by day, moment by moment, doubt by doubt”, because it is so easy right now to be so easily overwhelmed by all the ways I’m feeling I fall short….and while I have a wonderful husband who keeps reminding me this is just a passing season, I needed your reminder about taking it all “doubt by doubt” and trusting each untruth to Jesus to be rewritten by Him with His truth. If I could only master that for every hour of every day! 🙂 Thank you for sharing your struggles with your past. I find that right now in my state of sheer exhaustion, I revert back to old habits of my own mother when I was a child, because it’s “what I know”. I need to remember that moment by moment, Jesus is molding me into a different kind of mother, one that looks to Him first for her strength and endurance. And I love the reminder that my responsibility is to GO to Him and the Father in prayer, and SEEK the truth!

  175. I have beat myself up on a daily basis over so many past mistakes. Recently someone told me that someone from my past will be coming into my space by attending church where I worship. I have not seen this person in many years and the thought of facing them has taken me back over 20 years to a very dark place. I have wondered, why now? What is this all about? Is it a cruel punishment that these consequences live on? Someone reminded me that God does not operate to hurt but to heal. Your message today is confirmation of that. I cannot move on completely until this pain is healed. Maybe I need to stare it in the face in order that its power over me be broken. I appreciate your message and will appreciate your prayers.

  176. I have been with Isaiah 61 in preparation for Women’s Day this month- I have learned I need to pay close attention when God brings me His word over and over- Chapter 4 also capture God speaking to me from my study for this year- If you seek me with your whole heart you will find me- I have visited many of God’s seeking me invitation this year-you helped me to see how I need to begin living this invitation daily by surrendering (a struggle for me to do in the manner God would have me to) my plans for His- every time I come to Him, talk to Him and really believe He is listening I get His plans for me, I wasn’t going to do the timeline because I didn’t think I would be able to remember when events occurred when exactly doubt begin to become a part of my life- but your video help- I may not do it the way you intended but I am now open to processing the pain, hurt, disappointments with Christ- the need to move on is far greater than the need to stay in the past- healing looks beautiful- it times to let the ashes go and put on the crown of beauty. Thanks Renee for letting the Spirit be upon you. For finally living Isaiah 61 1-2.

  177. Phyllis says:

    Your video spoke to me. Thank you so much.

  178. casseta says:

    Jeremiah 29;11 keep speaking to me of late, i know that there is a lot of things that i need to process from my past to move forward. I know that i need to trust God completely to bring me to the place He wants to take me .I need a special prayer of deliverance on this one Renee,God bless

  179. Michelle says:

    Jeremiah 29:11 is posted in my office but honestly, I don’t remember reading past verse 11. Thank you for reminding me to read the rest of the chapter and to seek Him for all the answers.

  180. Bonnie Falkowski says:

    Dear Renee,

    I just discovered this site today, and have truly been blessed! I read the Proverbs 31 every day but have not really had the time to go elsewhere when it directs. Today God led me to your site where you are going through your book “A Confident Heart” and it sounded amazing. When I read that you were giving a free copy of your book and CD away I thought I had to at least try to win it as I can tell it definitely a book that could help me immensely. Your video message really blessed and encouraged me, and I am not afraid of looking at the past . . . regardless of the pain it holds, because I know every time I trust God to take me back He heals me a little more each time and takes me from glory to glory.

    Right now, I am going through a very difficult season in my life as my ex-husband molested my daughter when she was only 3 1/2 . . . she just turned 9 this March. So for the past 6 years I have been fighting to protect my daughter. During this time I have been able to, by the grace of God, maintain full custody without my ex-husband having even a moment of supervised visitation. HOWEVER, I just went through a 2 week Trial in February which was brutal, and at the end of the Trial . . . in spite of the hard evidence and evil that was revealed, the Judged ruled sole physical custody to me and joint legal to both of us with a plan for RE-UNIFICATION!!! Needless to say I have been terrified at the very prospect of that ever happening . . . yet, that is what the State of California’s laws state . . . RE-UNIFICATION regardless of what a parent does to their child!!! I really believe God has been calling me to try and change the laws, and I know for the last 6 years He has indeed set precedence in our case . . . and I have to believe He won’t stop now . . . even though with my human eyes I can’t even imagine how God will be able to rescue and protect us from the evil and corruption of our legal system . . . but as long as I have air in my lungs I will keep fighting to protect my beautiful daughter! It has already cost me well in excess of $150,000.00 to date, while my ex-husband has not paid a single dime because he works for the State of California and has free legal counsel through his work!!! Hence all of this has really been taking it’s toll on my precious daughter and me, BUT, I will keep pressing on and TRUSTING the Lord regardless of what it looks like.

    When I heard your message and it talked about the past, I cringed at first, then I realized that God wants me to do some more work with regards to my past . . . you see, my ex-husband thought if my daughter ever told me what he did to her, that I would be too afraid or ashamed to do anything about it because I had been molested as a child from the age of 4-13, that was when I finally told someone. What my ex-husband did not count on was that my “love” for my daughter far outweighed all the shame and fear of the authorities (who did nothing to protect me or my sisters when we were little). Needless to say, God has been bringing me full-circle for the past 6 years, and I know that His Word promises me that “What the enemy intends for evil HE intends for good!” That is my life verse and I have seen God redeem so many things in my life and turn what the enemy intended for evil into some not only good, but WONDERFUL beyond words . . . like laying my daughter in my arms as a new born (I adopted her from my best friend who had been in a head on car accident and was left with physical disabilities and a brain injury — her husband was left with the same injuries only from a motorcycle accident — they met in physical therapy)!! You see this is beyond a miracle because I was never able to have children because of the sexual abuse I endured as a child . . . yet, I know today that God created me for such a time as this . . . to protect my daughter!!! Today I am grateful I worked on my issues when I was younger so I would have the strength I now need to fight to protect my beautiful little girl. But as you know, dealing with, and healing from, our past is a “process” . . . one in which God is perfecting and healing us, until the day He calls us home.

    As such, I would absolutely love to be the winner of your contest for your book and CD because I really need something right now to help me through this process and cannot really afford it at this juncture in my life as I am and have been buried in legal fees for the last 6 years and do not see an end in sight. So, I will TRUST this into God’s hand, and if this is where He wants me to go next, I will follow and obey.

    Regardless of whether or not I win the contest, I need you to know that I am so grateful to you and your Devotionals on the Proverbs 31 website. God has used you in such powerful ways over the past year since I discovered the Proverbs 31 ministry. Thank you for your obedience and faithfulness to God. I pray that the Lord will continue to Bless You and your ministry.

    The Daughter of the King,
    ~ Bonnie ~

    • August Rose says:

      I am praying for you and your daughter. God, bless Bonnie and her beautiful child, heal, make whole, set free and God change or remove her ex-husband in Jesus Mighty Name Amen. August Rose

  181. I agree with you today… I’ve always struggled with past failures and issues that I probably should have done differently and perhaps the outcome would have been different… It’s very hard to bring them to surface because you think you have forgotten them or you are over them and the pain of re-living the whole thing again just terrifies me… Recently I had to deal with a comeback dealing of anxiety attacks… I battled anxiety for a few months and God healed me of this… I will forever be grateful but recently I started to feel the onset of anxiety and it freaked me out… all of sudden I started to doubt that perhaps God didn’t heal me and I was struggling again…. After praying and bringing this whole thing again before the feet of Jesus He once again reassured me of His love and the peace of mind that calms my anxious heart…. It’s a healing rain that showers me and lets me know…. no matter what I have in the past… I can confront it I can face it and with Christ there is really nothing I can’t overcome…. Thanks for the sweet reminder…. Bless you!!

  182. I woke up at 4am with a heavy heart to watch your video and I thank you for sharing I cried through the whole thing. I am holding my family back, and I’m afraid it might be to late for me to keep my family together my husband abandoned us and the killer is he’s in afganistan so I can’t talk to him but I have learned that it doesn’t matter cause I must get right with God again and his plan and I must accept that no matter how many tears he must wipe. This is a hard one for me but just what I needed. I’m so afraid to leave my home because of an ex domestic abuser and God doesn’t want me to be in fear he wants me to trust he has me and he wants all of me. I hoped that makes sense a lot of abandonment issues obviously. Thanks for your guidance.

    • August Rose says:

      I married to get away from an abusive relationship with my high school sweet heart. I wanted out of my hometown and I chose the fastest way out. It wasnt the right thing to do but fear can motivate us when we dont trust God. Something I had to come to grips with and be honest with God and myself about. Aly trust God to keep you safe. Read and meditate on Psalms 91:. God keeps me everytime I go back to my home town. I havent seen the high school sweet heart in over 20 years. When I am on the plane I pray and I rest in God. I pray God’s will for your marriage, that your husband will hear from God in Afganistan be obeident as well as be protected over there and that no danger will come nigh you or your husband. God heals and restores allow Him to restore you that is the best gift we can give our families. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. August Rose

  183. August Rose says:

    Good morning! I started reading Chapter 4 and things started coming to me from my past and I closed myself off. Thankfully God started showing me what was happening to me. I called my Christian counselor and she along with the Holy Spirit helped me process that God was healing me and trying to get me to a place of heart knowledge instead of just head knowledge. Also, I realzed that knowing the truth and appropriating it correctly is not always easy. However, with God All things are possible to she that believes! I had to keep telling myself I can do all things thru Christ who strengthens me. I am so thankful to God and you for your ministry. Keep bringing healing to hurting women Renee. Keep teaching us how to forgive, how to let go and how to trust God confidantly. We need you and I love you for your honesty and your maskless life!

  184. August Rose says:

    One more thing Renee, I too like many of the women have been awaken by God at 3 or 4 am and was prompted/led to open your book. God is truly amazing and I pray that I can help bring healing to hurting men and women.

  185. God woke me with a revelation of an event from my past that I always knew and have shared, but today, he showed me how that has impacted my life and I am so very grateful. There is always more healing and deeper layers of it. May God bless each one of us who is reading this book.

  186. Jessica H. says:

    This is my first Bible/book study and I haven’t commented much on these blog posts, but chapter 4 gave me that extra “oomph” I needed to “right a wrong” with someone from my past from about 12 years ago.

    I was the one that needed forgiveness – forgiveness from her, from God, from myself.

    Without going into full detail, I did/said something to… let’s just call her “K”… that was/is completely out of my character. I hadn’t spoken to “K” since “that night” 12 years ago, but this past Tuesday I told her I was sorry, truly sorry, for what I did. I think she was pretty shocked (and so was I)! She acknowledged that it was a long time ago, that my apology meant a lot to her and that it took courage for me to apologize.

    She accepted my apology!

    “K” and I are not all of a sudden instant best friends and I may not even ever speak to her again, but I don’t think I would’ve had the courage to confront my shame and embarrassment before reading this chapter (or this book) – my heart is a little more free and on it’s way to being confident!

    Apologizing to “K” is just a baby step, but it’s a step.

    I’m in my twenties and still trying to figure out what God’s plan is for me? All I want is for Him to use simple me – however, whatever, whenever, wherever that may be! Jeremiah 29:11-13 gives me comfort!

    I, too, grew up without a dad – wouldn’t know him if I passed him on the street. I still have WAY bigger issues to deal with (y’all are so BRAVE! I haven’t had the courage to share anything from my past except what I just typed) and my journey of asking for forgiveness, forgiving those that have hurt me and finding the strength to forgive myself is far from over, but I am no longer afraid of my future or of my past because “God promises hope for my future despite the pain of my past!”

    A quote I recently came across:
    “Down on my knees that’s where I learned to stand, Lord, I can’t even walk without you holding my hand!”

    Thanks Renee!

  187. As I read Ch. 4, two things in particular stood out to me. First, I can relate to feeling God’s call for me to share my story of true freedom from an eating disorder through Christ’s strength. In fact, it is what led me to attend and eventually become a She Speaks “Graduate”. I went to the conference every year seeking support, equipping, and encouragement to write, speak, and lead others by sharing my story. I have been blessed to share my story in front of a small church groups as well as 275+ crowd and regularly write devotions for those who struggle with eating disorders and negative body/self image. However, it is my daily conversations with those around me, those I meet through volunteer work or chance encounters that can only be God-designed, where I feel like God is saying…”This is what you are here for…” At SheSpeaks conferences, I would leave ready to go stand on the mountain top in front of anyone, publish articles and books…shout my hope to the world…Instead, God has asked me to crawl into the quiet places, the dark, lonely, cavernous prisons wherein many of those around me live. To sit where they are, and whisper about the hope and the comfort that God has given me…and let them know God has it waiting for them too.

    It is interesting that this has been the way my ministry has manifested itself. At my first SheSpeaks Conference, I was in the prayer room. I noticed a woman from my Speaking Group near me praying. As I left, she came running out of the prayer room, “I need to tell you something…meet me later,” she said. Now I had only met this woman once during our first break out session, I couldn’t even remember her name! Throughout the entire weekend we would have brief encounters, but because of the busy schedule and the fact that I was staying in a different hotel, we did not get a chance to talk. Everytime she saw me she would say, “Don’t forget…i need to tell you something.” On the last day of the conference, I was leaving early to drive back to Florida. As I walked quietly out of the room of 600+ women and headed to the parking lot, I heard her…”Wait!Wait! Don’t leave!!” She happened to have seen me leaving and didn’t want to miss telling me, “When I was praying next to you in the prayer room that first night, God told me to tell you that you were going “undercover” in you ministry…We could not figure out what this meant…but I did not forget this. Now as I work, not only with women who have eating disorders, but also in the fitness industry, I often find myself sharing God’s truth, not overtly in a “mountain top” kind of way, but in a discreet, quiet way…almost “undercover” I guess you could say!!
    I am so thankful that SheSpeaks prepared me for the many different ways God has asked me to share my story…and I am blessed to do so, even if it means “setting one more captive free” at a time 🙂

  188. Angie Poole says:

    Hi Renee, We too have been thru many struggles over the past few years(16) to be exact. From the loss of both sets of parents, a very rebellious child, the same child suffering from cancer, the loss of jobs and many major financial issues. I just cannot list it all. I am at that point in my life where we have had to make so many changes even career changes that I am scared of and hope I have made the right choice. Your message spoke to me letting me know that the changes, difficulties and pain have all led to this point in my life-a hope for the future. That it was in God’s plan all along. Please pray for us that I have made the right choice, that it is all going to fall in place, and pray for me to have the confidence to move forward and to step out of my comfort zone. Thank you!

  189. Susan M. says:

    Renee, as I listened today to your video, I realized being the eldest girl of six, I didn’t get the attention and love I needed as a child. Also I saw things happening outside my home in other families that we as a family did not do and I felt left out and different. We never did daddy ~daughter dances, never did the school open house, or other school activities done with parents, they were too tired from work or too busy with the younger siblings. So as I listened to you speak, I realized I too was seeking to make up for these things in my husband and my two children, and my life. My husband does not fit the role I wanted my husband to be, I wanted a suit and tie and he is blue jeans and a sweatshirt guy. He is not what I wanted a husband to be and it caused conflict and to this day does still. But after listening to you and realizing I was wanting him to be what I didn’t have as a child I think working through some of these issues may be easier now. But I do see my daughter wanting my husband to be a certain type of dad to her now that she is 34 and I kind of commend her for speaking up and saying to my husband, “Dad, lets go for a walk” and make an effort to spend time with him~~~~~~~~thank you for sharing with us.

  190. Stephanie J says:

    I’d love to hear how God speaks to you through today’s video message:
    I love Jer. 29:11! That is a verse I pray over children. However, God’s plans include everything that has happened in my life! Everything can be used for my highest good. Thank you for the chance to read your book.

  191. I just read CH 4 and I will honestly say…I am sorry to say it..I haven’t heard the call. I wasn’t a bad kid growing up but I did get into my share of trouble. Boy trouble that is. My husband and I have not been to church in a while. We come from two different religious background and we are trying to find our common ground. I know this is bad and hopefully we will find something soon…I wonder if this is my problem with a lot of other stuff. I do enjoy bible studies….so what is my problem

  192. I thank you for posting this Mrs. Swope because I believe that it will help me to get down to the root of what’s been going on with me. Thank you!

  193. I wanted to share apart of my quiet time with you this morning, as I feel led to do so, This morning at about 3:30 am my spirit began singing praises to God. I drempt I was in a cafe around Christmas time and was singing – Although I do not remember all of the words when I woke up these were the words that stayed with me and I thought they were timely for our study. The words were ” You know all of my wants, you know all of my needs. i may not get all of my wants but i do get all of my needs. And what I need is Jesus. Feeling His blood wash over me cleansing me of my sins. Then refreshing me with His living water. Jesus died for my sins and brought me salvation. All I need is Jesus … Jesus… Jesus…”

    And after that I awoke. I knew then that it was the Holy spirit speaking on my behalf and immediately prayed as i laid in bed. Thanking God for sending Jesus and the Holy Spirit so i could know Him better and be with Him. I just felt I wanted to share this with my sisters (in Christ)

    Hope your day is blessed…


  194. Crystal M. says:

    I read the daily Proverbs 31 message and watched the video. It is truly amazing how God works with the people of His kingdom to give me the words that I need. I had a conversation with a friend of mine yesterday about our fears, wants, promises not met yet and peace. I too felt that my past had hindered me from the outcome of I things that I want in life. I haven’t always been peaceful at waiting for God. I thought if I could “control” or “help” God out in different situations in my life, I would get what I wanted. However, every time that I did that, I could never get the result I was looking for. Like you said, I was disappointed and hurt because it didn’t work out in my favor.
    So many of the things in my life that I had to let go of; my divorce, men, partying, depression, anger, and abandonment. Every now and again, satan has tried to seep into my mind that I am not where I would like to be. But that just isn’t true. The things that I have asked for in life, I have received and not in the form of what I wanted it to be. I asked for a family, and God had blessed me with a wonderful church & “church parents” who love me unconditionally. I asked for peace from my nightmares & singleness. God put activities from church, cooking for many people, and volunteering. I had asked for love to fill my loneliness, and I have to tell you that I have received so much love in the many forms that God could ever show me. I realized something, that I am not alone, that I am loved by Jesus and to keep moving forward with His plan.

  195. as soon as i read your post on Proverbs 31 tears filled my eyes. I am currently in a womens group that focus on healing from our past. I have been so scared of looking into my past out of fear that i migh just fall apart of what i find. I have been so numb to my feeling for many years that alowing myself to feel is very scary. i know that coming accross your website is no coincident. God has a plan and the time to face my fears is now. God is such a gentle God that he has been working with me throught these last couple of years to prepare me for today. I will be subscribing to your email and know that i am not alone as i face into this journey.

  196. Lorraine says:

    Thank you for sharing your hope … I am a recent widow and am stuck in my grief but your words “keep us from experiencing all that God has for our tomorrows” so applies as I wonder what God has in store for my today and tomorrows … and what purpose He has in this journey. I have struggled with my past and the hurt and fear from relationships and the isolation and I know that is not God’s plan but it “feels” easier to run away from it. Thank you for your ministry.

    • Virginia S says:

      Lorraine, I’m sorry for your Loss. I won’t tell you that I know your grief, but I do understand what it’s like to be a widow. I was widowed when I was 27 with 5 small children to raise. I remarried, but that husband was also killed. I was in my late 30’s. Now as I look back, I know I have survived by the Grace of God. Stay close to God and our Savior Jesus Christ. Virginia

  197. Renee- Thank you for the devotional. I have been working through trusting God with the issues I had growing up and the even bigger ones that surfaced 2 years ago. I had a father, but he was not a loving one. He was an overbearing, controlling person who could never tell me he was proud of me. I spent all my school years trying to please him. For example, I graduated in the top 10% of my graduating class and often made straight A’s. His comment was always, “well, you could have made an A+, or you could have placed higher”. When my mother was dying, he was intolerable. Afterwards he served me with a legal document to prevent me from having a memorial for her. I could have stayed angry, but I gave it to God, and he gave me peace. I can’t say it was easy, and I did go to a very low place as my heart was breaking, but God showed me Psalm 34:118 – The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. He showed me this after I cried for 3 days and 2 nights. I then felt peace and began to heal. I am still working on it, but I know with God I can. I want to read your book.

  198. Your post has encouraged me to go to the library and check out this book. I’m so in this place you describe and I want to be able to move on. I know it’s possible because that’s what God promises, I just don’t know how! Thanks for sharing.

  199. rebecca rodriguez says:

    This is wonderful. I have always had low self esteem. I always struggled in school and never felt good enough to do better. I am working on it day by day and I will be 34. I have an 8 year old son and he has bad speech delay andi am trying to help him as i read your book.along with helping myself. The Lord is amazing .

  200. Your message is so true and a truth I’ve recently experienced. My son was killed in a car accident at the age of 19 and his death changed my life. My soul was pierced and I no longer knew who I was without my child. God set me on a journey of discovery that included examining the relationship I had with my own mother which had always been troubled. God allowed me to remember the hurts, recognize how those hurts had affected me, accept my mother’s imperfections, forgive and love her and in doing this, forgive and love myself. Because I stepped out of the shadow of bitterness and hurt and into the light of God’s truth and grace, my mother and I are close and our relationship is healed. I’ve let go of the lies Satan whispers in the dark shadows that I’m not loved, not good enough, not worthwhile, will never be successful. God shows me His truth and gives me the courage to face the darkness of my hurts in order to walk with Him in the joy of His light and the hope of a future He has intended for me.

  201. christine lowe says:

    Hi Renee, I pickedup my book again and am happy I didn’t quit like I wanted to two days ago. Your video and encouragment were spot on. Pages 74-79 were just what I was ready to understand with God’s help. Growing up without a father led me to self sufficiency and I was always very proud that I could do things on my own. I can’t identify when it started but I will. I’m 62. By the grace of God I became a christian Oct 13,2003…my husband walked the aisle two months later. I started going to Celebrate Recovery a few months later and began to see that my self sufficiently was stopping me from relying on God. I can see how doing a timeline will help. Like you said, I can do it a little at a time. I’m working on not being perfect and doing everything right. I know there is still a lot of processing to do but that’s ok now. I’ll let God take the lead and do it in His time. I think God led me to this study to help me on my journey to become closer to Him…….He is the Father to the fatherless.

  202. Thank you for this book , right now I ask for prayer’s, chapter 4 is a struggle for me, because they tell me I have .P.T.S. so remembering is a real struggle for me. I know I am going through this study for a reason. I’m sure thing will become clear with Gods help.
    Thanks for your prayers.

    • Esther Smith (formerly Kyrie Eléison) says:

      Susie I will be praying for you. I don’t have P.T.S, but I have anxiety/panic disorder, in addition to my depression, so I know some of the feelings you go through 🙁 I know how much it hurts, and how much of a struggle it is, how it affects everything in your life. I know I don’t have the same triggers, as your disorder was caused by a traumatic event, and mine, well, I think it was as a result of stress, and of a childhood that wasn’t stable. However, we both suffer :(. I have for had my anxiety for more years than I care to say, and depression for almost ten years, but with the help of therapy, medication (again please ladies, no comments on the issue of medication or therapy and please. It is hurtful to me some of the things I have heard from others in the Christian arena on the issue. Thanks for understanding everyone!), and now Renee’s book and God’s help, I am slowly starting to understand more. I have even seen an improvement in my depression! So I have faith you will see some results too. (((HUGS)))

  203. Esther Smith (formerly Kyrie Eléison) says:

    God spoke to me through your message and through chapter four Renee by revealing to me that I was still hurting and wanting that fairytale marriage, just as happened in your marriage ten years ago. My parents divorced when I was five. One day we were at my mom’s parents house, my grandparents, where as a kid I had sleepovers quite a bit. On this day though things would change in my life forever. My mom called me privately into the guest bedroom at my grandparent’s home, and told me that she and daddy were getting a divorce, and that although they loved my baby sister and me, they didn’t love each other anymore. She then told me that we wouldn’t ever be going back to the house I grew up in, or my school. I didn’t get to say good-bye to anyone, or my old house. Everything had been moved up to my grandparents house, where we would all now be living. I remember feeling as if the room was spinning, and then I ran from the room and threw up in the restroom. Not too long after that we moved again, this time out of state, and I didn’t want to move then either. However once we got there and settled in with my aunt, I didn’t want to leave, but just short of a year later we moved back to my grandparent’s home. And a few years after that to another new town when my mom remarried, and then three months later divorced (the man had mental issues and had decided he didn’t like having children in his life). So we were back again at my grandparents until I was twelve, and then she married my step-dad, who was very good to us, and I loved. It seemed life had settled down, I was starting to relax into a regular, settled life. Then, sadly, my grandparents lost their home, and they moved in with us. The three bedroom, two bath house was crowded, and the adults all argued constantly for space, and about who exactly was raising my sister and me. So once again life became unstable.

    My desire for stability led me to move out of state with my now husband after only knowing him a short time. I had desire for him, and he made me feel safe when I stayed at his home, so moving away with him seemed like I would finally have stability. Well, it was a horrible solution. We fought all the time, I threatened to leave multiple times, and although we really cared about each other it was very hard, and I hated the feeling of living together. I felt dirty and sinful. I wasn’t raised to think that way, in fact quite the opposite. However after attending church as a teen I learned a different way of living, and had just come back to the Lord after experimenting with new ageism, when I met and moved away from home with my now husband. After a few years we got married, and I had come to love my husband. After taking a deep look at our marriage last year in therapy it came to me that I had lust for my husband, wanted him to be my everything, but before we married, I didn’t love him yet. I had used him to escape, and to fill myself up with all of the affection, and love he gave me. I felt horrible. I never consciously thought if it that way, but looking back, it was true 🙁 Our marriage was great for years, but after having a child I focused on our child, and made raising our child my everything. My child was now my fill up. I saw that just recently while reading Renee’s book. Now after looking back on everything, I am seeing all of the places I looked for filling up, and in my time line of life, where my need for those fill ups happened.

    Just before reading this book my husband and I saw Fireproof, and we made a commitment through the Lord to stay in our marriage, no matter what. I am fighting for my marriage, looking to let God fill me up, and not expecting my husband to do it all, or my daughter. God is the only one who can do it, and it isn’t fair to expect anyone else to do that. I also learned that I was looking for friends who would be my fill up, and it was just too much pressure on them. I think that most people could feel that needy quality in me, and it scared them away, or I got the people who exploited my needy, fill up needs, and used me to fill themselves up. Either way it wasn’t healthy, and I am seeing that now. From now on I will pray daily for God to be my fill up, no one else, and I have learned I have to be very aware of it daily. I can easily revert to looking to others to fill me up, and I don’t want to go there again! I think all of the relationships in my life will improve now, slowly, but they will. I am learning more than I ever thought I could through a Bible study. I know God brought me here, and to this knowledge, and I will be praying He will continue the work He has started in me, and that I can help others with the knowledge I am gaining too. Although all of this is very hard work, and I stumble, I look forward to learning more with each chapter. Thank you for this book and God’s work in you as you minister to us all. And thank you to all of the ladies on here you share their stories, and encourage, and pray for me. God bless you all!

  204. Susan Jones says:

    My mom forwarded an email to me with a link to your page. Thank you for doing what you do. Your video message was exactly what I needed to hear today. I too have a past filled with failed relationships, drug addiction, health issues, anger and resentment. I turned away from God for many years because I was so hurt and angry & felt like He wasn’t answering – much less listening to my prayers. Now I know that wasn’t the case- God was actually softening my heart and leading me back to Him. This year I was led to a church where I fit & have joined a weekly Bible study group. At 33, I’ve gone back to school and am preparing myself to hopefully become a nurse, wife & mother. I’m single, and health issues will prevent me from physically having a child, but I have hope that God will lead me to the right man and we can adopt children. Thank you for your words of hope and inspiration- I’m looking forward to reading your book!

  205. brittany jacobson says:

    wow this messege really spoke to me i have a hard time dealing with my pain from my past i dont want to go through counsling i went through counsling since childhood i would have to say i have tried to pray away the pain as you mentioned in the video . ive taken many support classes but quit them cause the pain was to hard to deal with

  206. Crystal says:

    Thank you, Renee, for reminding me that it’s a process as we heal from our hurts. Every once in a while something I thought I had dealt with creeps its ugly head, and the hurts feel like they just happened, but each time Jesus is there as my Comforter as I look to Him.

    As a side note, so many of our verses add that line “as I trust in Him.” It’s an important reminder that we have to place our trust in Him and that it is a choice.

  207. Boy God must really want me to look at my past… I am taking a leadership class at church and one of the things the teacher wanted us to do is to make a time line of our past to present. There has been alot of hurt. When i was very young my parents divorced too but I was determine not to let my kids go through what I did. I love my husband. We have been married for 27 yrs. Not only the hurt from the divorce but also from family members passing away. With every child I had a death in our family. Yes it is a process to look back and see all that God has brought me through it is a joy to know that God has always been in control of my life even through the hurts. Thanks for your words of encouragement.

  208. Great message!!! I really needed it. Thank you for all you do for us through your ministry.

  209. Thanks for the encouragement, I love the Jer. 29:11 promise, and I loved focusing on the promise that comes after….that He will listen to us, that He will be found by us, and that He will set us free! So amazing. This weeks study is really opening my eyes to seek Him moment by moment, turning everything over to Him. One of the things in my past, that I have put on my timeline is losing my hearing at 6 years old, from meningitis. Growing up, I was very bitter, jealous, and asked “why?”. I struggled feeling that I belonged…..I have a cochlear implant that allows me to hear, but it is not perfect, and I didn’t fit in with the deaf world either, because of my implant. I was depressed most of thru college. Thankfully, that all changed when I found God after college.

    Your Prov 31 message today was just what I needed – going thru a challenging time with my soon to be 5 year old daughter,….and I know I need to be “full of grace” all the time, so often I am not. It is so helpful to know I’m not the only one out there!!!!!!! And helps me to be focused, and prayerful to change, realizing I am still going to mess up from time to time, and thankful for His grace the !!!

    • Dallena Hess says:


      I so identify with you. I started losing my hearing probally when i was around 5. My hearing loss is now severe to profound.

      I had a difficult childhood with the hearing loss and other issues-i always felt different than the other kids. I wear hearing aids.

      God has shown me few things about my past. I’ve always had a bit of hope and faith. Just wanted to let you know-i relate to having a hearing loss starting so young

  210. WOW! I was looking on Renee’s own website and found an awesome free download Praying for My Husband from Head to Toe…IT was just what the “Doctor” (Jesus) ordered as to how to pray, because there have been some hurts in my heart and this is just what I needed to read. Goes along with a lot of others comments too.

    • Virginia S says:

      I printed that prayer and gave to my husband for Valentines Day. He said it meant more than all the cards I could have purchased. When we are praying positive statements, we don’t have time to dwell on the negative. Marriage isn’t the easiest relationship. We been married 27 yrs. I was twice widowed with 5 children from the 1st marriage. I wondered why God sent such a good christian man to me. I (we) are so blessed to have Christ in our marriage.

  211. Thank you for sharing this encouraging words through your video. It really blesses me and my heart.
    The hope I have is only found in Jesus. The healing and redemption from my past is only thrught the Truth of God’s word when I let Him speak to me.

    Today I pray that God will continue speaking to me and that His power enable me to seek Him rvery moment.

    Thank you amd God bless you!

  212. Thanks for a great reminder! Just went through a painful divorce last year, in the healing stage. A great reminder.

  213. Jenny Mabe says:

    One of my favorite verse is Jeremiah 29:11. Powerful video message. I’ve got to learn how to let go of the pain of my past. I’m glad that he has plans for my future. I am going through a healing process of being let down by a pastor and having to get used to a new pastor. So needed this study.

  214. Dianne M. says:

    Thank you for this message. I get stuck in my past so often, not really being encouraged as I grew up, not believing I could do anything great. Pray for me that I can break free from past failures to have the future God wants me to have. Thanks

  215. Bonani( South Africa) says:

    Thank you for sharing with us. The pain of disapppointments from the past have led me to do things my way instead of letting go and let God. thank you that i recognised that God a has plan to prosper me and not to harm me. the plans to give me hope. Lord i am searching you with all my heart, i surrender all my disappointments to you.

  216. The Lord is is using you to help heal and restore his children. Thank you. Reading and listening to this
    today was God. I know and love God with all my heart but have been going through a hard time lately. I’ve beeen dealing with loss of family members, health issues, and severe PTSD .I’m hoping to be abe able to get your book and join study thank you again.

  217. Margaret says:

    Just like you said, the Holy Spirit did bring to mind something from my past that is affecting my todays. Now, I know what I am struggling with. Thank you.

  218. You are all so brave to share your stories, there are so many hurts that need to be healed. So often we look fine on the outside but underneath are buried all the hurts and emotional turmoil of our past. As I was cleaning my stove yesterday I noticed a parallel to my emotions. After polishing the top it looked shiny and perfect but as I bend down to view it from a horizontal view I could see a white film and I know that when this film is left the minute the burner is turned on that film turns to a yucky brown film.
    That film parallels to our emotions. When the heat is turned up in our lives our outside facade quickly deteriorates leaving us with feelings of insecurity, self doubt and even anger at our circumstances. How do we get rid of that “film” (replaying of negative thoughts) forever?
    By daily bringing it to the foot of the cross and “humbling ourselves and casting our cares upon him who loves us.” He is the only one who can put on the final “polish” and take us from whining (despairing about our circumstances) to “shining” through the light of his Glory.
    Praying for you all in light of your circumstances.

    • Karen in Canada says:

      Thank you for your words Lynn
      I love how you were able to see the paralel of stove top to our emotions!!
      A dear friend reminded me this week of doing every thing onto the Lord, even cleaning! See how he can use us and enlighten us while doing housework!!!! Awesome
      And thank you for the reminder of bringing ourselves to the foot of the cross daily!
      What an awesome study community this is – PRAISE GOD!
      Thanks also to Renee for letting HIM use her to minister to us

  219. I have to admit that it was only 2 years ago that I truly discovered that I struggled with RAD based on all the research I did for a few months. Thanks to a dear friend & mentor I’ve begun that healing process, but it takes time to let go of all the hurt one experiences in their life. Through the grace of God I’ve been learning to surrender them over to Him & to receive the peace that He has to offer.

    I think the Devil knows when we want to go deeper in our relationship for there’s always been obstacles in the past months every time I desired to take this study. Last time it was no book. This time it’s moving, school, work, & job hunting. I’ve found myself struggling to keep up with it, but I am not giving up this time.

    God bless your ministry!

  220. Thanks for the encouraging words today. I struggle with God’s call on my life. He has given me a vision of being a speaker and author someday down the road, bur I constantly obsess over how I can get there. Right now he has called me to be a wife, mom, and homeschool my children, while I just write in my journals and blog almost as a hobby. This was encouraging to me as it gave me my daily reminder I need to not worry and to trust Him.

  221. I once again thank you for the inspiring words that so hit home. I am so in a broken place and to here your message of courage and hope today really helps. I have claimed Jeremiah 29:11 for a long time but never read past that. God used you today to reach me and I praise him so much for that.

  222. Julie B says:

    This is my thank you note to you Renee for writing this relevant and God inspired book. It crossed my computer just when I needed it (just turned 50, empty nester, no idea what my purpose was). I couldnt wait to take the study at the prescribed pace, had to keep reading and soaking it all up. I’ve learned some beautiful answers to the questions in my heart. I’m learning to combat Satan’s incessant lying with God’s constant and faithful promises to me. I’m learning to turn my prayers from lists to listening times. I am learning to turn my worries into worship by shifting my focus from “what if” to “what is” – looking for how God is working in my present situation and trusting He is involved in my future situations. I’ve learned that as members of the Body of Christ we are to complete each other, not compete with each other. I think the most powerful thing I took from your book is that my confidence needs to be in God alone, working out His purposes for my life. It cannot be confidence in myself or others – Him alone. In Him I find my value and my courage and my peace. I appreciated your personal email and advice on anxiety and depression issues. God has used you in mighty ways and I have already been used by Him in sharing things you have taught me with others who needed to hear it. Write some more!!!! Thank you.

  223. Renee,

    I am truly loving your book, posts and study. So many things are surfacing for me while going through the study with you. Your video today was great and reminded me when I have asked God to reveal where I need healing in my life, he has revealed those things – gracefully and lovingly. Watching your story about your adopted daughter brought tears to my eyes because I was adopted (praise God) and I realized that I have never asked God to reveal my hurts around abandonment. I know these hurts effect my relationship with my husband. Thank you and I am on my knees now. I know God is good and will walk with me/carry me through this process.
    Thank you!!

  224. I know the scriptures you refer to but after a long period of losses and sadness I wonder how God can restore hope ad happiness. I have two sons, the youngest lost his battle to brain cancer two years ago leavng behind a 4 year old son and a 6 year old daughter. My husbad, who always struggled with his relationshp with God, could not overcome this loss and turned to drinking. He was emotionally and verbally abusive when he drank and after many months I left and moved in with my,now only son, in another state. A few months ago he passed away from hypothermia, leaving me with guilt for leaving him.

    My son, wih whom I live, and my daughter-in-law, are wonderful to me and I have the privledge of caring for my 3 year old Grandson. But there are days that I am consumed with grief, guilt and tears. I am close to my other Grandson and Grandaughter whom I love so very much.
    I know the Lord’s ways are not our ways but some days hope is diminished, I try not to question why, but my losses it someitmes seems overhelming.
    After listening to you today, I am trying to examine my past hurts ad losses and pray I can gain some peace and understanding.
    I am thankful for Christian parents, my sons who love and loved the Lord, and my Grandchildren who do bring me great joy!

  225. Treasure says:

    I busted started this yesterday and have only read chapter 1, my book should be here on thursday and I am very excited to read all the chapters. Somehow God directed my to this website because I did not even know it existed. I do know that he wants to heal me and get me going in a forward direction again after all I’ve been thru.
    Thanks for being here

  226. Thank you Renee for doing another study. This time deeper roots have been discovered that the Lord is helping me work through. I guess i will always be ‘a work in progress’ (even in my 70’s) going through the caverns of my heart to find those dark areas that the Lord wants to heal in me. I like reading the comments too as there are always different ways hurting women use to push forward, to never give up, to encourage, and scriptures the Lord uses that are unique to each one of His children.

    Does anyone see a ministry here to reach the young girls around us to teach them how to avoid some of the pain we have suffered; to let them know they are loved, unconditionally loved, by our Lord, to show them there is a path that leads to victory, that life is about choices.

    I too like Jeremiah 29:11-14 that i am planting deep into my soul.
    Thanks again, Renee, for being faithful to your Lord and to yourself. Us women need your guidance.

  227. I have always believed in God. I am just now beginning to delve into my faith in Him. I know I need Him to help me through each day. Your thoughts today hit home for me. My past is full of heartbreak. I do not want that to keep me from enjoying my future. I have many decisions to make and know He will help me make the correct ones. Thank you!

  228. I just went to a seminar today about Inner Healing. God revealed to me some things, and I found some peace, but at the same time, unearthed some other things that have left me exhausted and trembling. I know I need to journal some of this, but I just can’t get myself to do it right now.

    In the midst of the wake of this seminar, I get your email, urging me to watch your video post. I can only sigh at the thought of more processing and remembering, but I know it will have to happen in order to get more victory.

    Thank you for your heart for helping women.


  229. This is the second time I’ve done this study so it’s the second time I’ve read chapter 4 and see this video. For me it hasn’t really gotten easier to ask God to show me my wounds so that He may heal them. I know it is what I need to do though. I will remember to stop in each situation and seek God’s perspective.

  230. Susan G says:

    Thank you Renee, for this video and for being so transparent – so that you can help other women who are going through trials and challenges of this life. We know that God promises to be with us, to never leave us, and that He does have a great plan for each of us, to give us “hope and a future”. Today you reminded me once again, to never doubt God…He always has our best interests at heart, and loves us more than we will ever know…
    May He continue to bless you abundantly!
    Thank you!
    Susan G

  231. Again a powerful message! I can’t seem to let go of those past hurts, my desire for approval from others, my need for reassurance. I am going through this study for the 2nd time, this time on-line., I am praying that I can’ give God all of my hurts and pain and move past them, that my heart can heal. My husband is awsome, but doesn’t understand my past, he sure trys though! Thank you for a safe place to open up and be myself. I pray that all you you would pray for me as I pray for you for this healing to appear in my heart AND my head!

    Thank you again for this study!

  232. Hi, Renee Thank you for the encourageing video! Thank you for making me realize I need to let go of my past hurts if I’m ever going to enjoy the blessings God has for me! and the awsom plans he has for me! Thank you Renee you are so encourageng!

  233. This was a difficult chapter for me as well. Not because I wanted to throw the book away but because I had a hard time reading through my tears. I had an abortion a few months ago from an extramarital affair and have yet to really deal with it. Thank you for your words of encouragement!

  234. Chere Webster says:

    Very lovely. Thank you for sharing your story with us.

  235. Kelly from Canada says:

    Hi Renee,
    Thanks for speaking to the hearts of so many women. I appreciate you sharing a piece of your past. It shows that we can pick up the pieces of our broken past and hurts. I too have had adultry and pornography in my marriage. It almost ruined my marriage. My husband came home but still struggles with his sinful choices and desires. He is a backslidden Christian who stopped going to church a decade ago.. I do want to feel loved again by my husband and have a confident heart and good self esteem. I am hurt from the past. Struggling with the present and fearful for the future. Jeremiah 29:11 reminds me that God has a plan and I should not worry and be afraid. God will work on my husbands heart and in his timing our future will be full of hope. Keep up the good work. You touch many womens hearts. Kelly

  236. Hello Renee
    this is the only way that was possible for me to contact you. your website is great, I will spend the whole day reading, in particular that it fit with the topic I am presenting on the 16th of June 2012 at 12pm EST. it is an educational, interactive and engaging teleseminar online, and I wanted to invite you to it. Unfortunately, this was the only way for me to reach you. My face book name is maggie.pimm, my fanpage is ‘unlock your potential’ and my webinar name is “confident you”

    I’d really would love to have you with us at this webinar, it is free. If anybody else from your contacts would like to attend, feel free to register, it is FREE.

    I look forward to hearing from you


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