Your Heart Is Spoken For

Chosen…I love that word. I don’t know a heart that doesn’t long to be chosen?

Yet the disappointments of life and the deep pain of broken relationships can cause us to forget that we are – chosen, loved, and sought after.

“You are a chosen [woman], a royal priesthood, a holy [daughter], a [woman] belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of HIM who has called you out of darkness into His wonderful light.” 1 Peter 2:9, NIV

Yet, broken hearts and broken circumstances can make us doubt we are valuable, that our future relationships can be healthy, or that anyone would ever want us. Without even realizing it, we begin to see ourselves as disposable. Easily replaced. Not good enough.

As I shared in Chapter 6, this happened to me after my fiance broke our engagement  – twice.

I had always believed I wasn’t good enough and now I had proof.

But God…used it to show me a deep place in my soul that would only be complete when I realized that in His eyes, I was just right. Forever loves and chosen.

“It wasn’t until He was all I had that I realized He was all I needed (really needed). Recovering from the heartbreak of being unwanted and rejected, I started to discover my identity and permanent value in who I was in Christ for the first time. The promise of God’s nearness and the fact that He chose me as His own was the only assurance I could hold on to.” (Chapter 6)

{I have a song that I know without a doubt God picked for me to share with you…and then He led me to this version of the music video. How do I know? Because there are photos in it that I’ve used in different ways over the years, but I didn’t know they were in this video until I watched it. Please take time to listen and let your heart respond to these truths – let this words remind your heart that you are secure, significant and accepted. You are CHOSEN and your heart is spoken for.

Oh sweet friends, I pray you would let these words soak deep into your heart. Watch it again and again until your soul knows it’s true!!


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PS> I know it’s disappointing to not win, and I think it might be as disappointing for me to not to be able to choose every single one of you!! That is why I take forever choosing a winner.  But I also know you’ll be thrilled for each other ’cause that’s just the kind of women you are.  I love that about you {and I”m telling you – Iam seriously enjoying reading our roll call!! It’s so amazing to see where we are all from. In fact, I’m compiling a list to share with you all next week :-).

Time to Connect: Ok, let’s all share our answer to #7 in the questions at end of Chapter 6. And any others you feel comfortable sharing, too. {I now know you all know how to leave a comment 🙂 – after 885+ of you participated in our “roll call” here! What a blast I’m having reading all of them!!}

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About Renee

Renee Swope is a Word-lover, story-teller, heart-encourager and grace-needer. She's also a wife, mom, friend, daughter and author of A Confident Heart, a Retailers Choice Award winning book that became a best-seller and has been published in six languages, with over 150,000 copies sold. Renee is speaks around the country at women's events and and serves on the writing team for DaySpring’s inCourage blog. For twenty years, Renee served in leadership at Proverbs 31 Ministries and as former co-host of the ministry's radio program, “Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee.


  1. Thanks for sharing this video. I have always liked this song but it goes perfectly with this study.

    • It’s amazing to think that, way back eons ago, at the beginning of time (is there such a thing to God?) the Father chose me to be one of His children! It has been in place for all time. Yet, I had free will to decide whether I wanted salvation or not. I am so very grateful that on that pivotal day in my own personal history,
      I chose Jesus as my Lord and Savior. And in doing so, I fulfilled the prophesy of being chosen by God. I am chosen! It’s so hard for me to wrap my head around that concept! All I can do is accept it, and fall on my knees and thank the Lord for the reality of choosing me. I am so unworthy. So undeserving. So blessed.

      • Amen Leslie!! It truly is AMAZING!!!

        “Long before he laid down earth’s foundations, he had us in mind, had settled on us as the focus of his love, to be made whole and holy by his love. Long, long ago he decided to adopt us into his family through Jesus Christ. (What pleasure he took in planning this!) He wanted us to enter into the celebration of his lavish gift-giving by the hand of his beloved Son.” (Eph 1:4-6, The Message)

    • I do#7182n&;t know if Pryor is a good idea for Washington because he’s going to need a long time and a lot of commitment from a stable coach and front office. That ain’t Washington under Snyder.

  2. I never really paid attention to the words of this song before until now. I love the thought that I am chosen and my heart is spoken for by God. Thanks Renee for this study. Chapter 6 really resonatied with me. It reminded me again of the disappointment in looking to others for our expectations. God does not want me to look outside of His promises and provision for what I need. Other peoples’ opinion of me may change, but His thoughts toward me never will. I like this statement from pg. 115:” The truth is, when we belong to Jesus we are loved and accepted forerever.”

    Karen C

    • That should have been “resonated” above.

      Karen C

      • I knew what you meant :0)

        Everytime I listen to this song and soak in the reality that my heart is spoken for – by the One who spoke this world into existence – He has spoken for me and chosen me to be HIS!!! Breath-taking truth!!!

  3. Heather Little says:

    Boy, I need this song today. It’s a rough day in our house…deep breaths and prayers!!

    • Praying for you Heather! We had a deep breaths and prayers kind of night yesterday evening. He is there. Breathe deep and ask Him to help you and fill you with all you need – peace, calm, wisdom and comfort. He sees you and treasures all that you are and all that you do! Hugs!

    • Heather, I had one of those “deep breath” days yesterday and now I feel like I have a hangover (like after a migraine). The blessing is I did not have the migraine, just the crazy day. Today I will be resting and you will be in my prayers. Rest in the Lord my sister.
      Shalom, Deena

      • Heather Little says:

        Thanks Deena! I appreciate the prayers and will pray that God is giving you a day of rest to recover as well. 🙂

  4. Wow!!! Thank you for sharing that song I have song this song since I was baptized in 2009. Which is when I became a single mom over the last 3 years my relationship drew closer to god. In this video that you posted there is a waterfall in it that is punch bowl falls and I went on that hike just after Easter 2011 and I had asked my boyfriend whom I’m with now to find me a heart rock… As I was praying to god to show me a sign that he is the one 🙂 he found the biggest heart rock it was standing in the midst of the stream o that song you chose just spoke to me big time… Thank you so much Wow!!! God is awesome

    • Wow, that is amazing that God would choose that song and make it so powerfully personal to you today. And you know what else is neat, I had planned on choosing another song but He just kept playing the words of this one in my thoughts and when I went to find a music video to share, this one came up. It has a lot less hits than others but the images and design were so perfect, I just knew it was the ONE. And then to know that the images were so specific for you – well that is just nothing but AMAZING how personal the creator of the universe is with us – little ole us just hanging out together seeking Him and His heart for each of us!!

      Oh How I LOVE Him!!!

      • God tends to speak to me through music a lot and I feel his presence through rare birds… In July 2005, I was making a big life decision I had asked god for a sign of his presents and also asked if I was making the right descion. Within that next week a dove came out of no where I was inside the store checking a customer out The dove landed on me. I thought it was the strangest thing. I then released the dove back outside he perched itself in a magnolia tree. I prayed god is this the sign the dove… I said to god if the bird is waiting there tomorrow when I return that is my sign, lol. The dove was there perched like a magnolia blossom in the tree, Wow I said I was so excited. After work I took the dove home and called her my new pet since she almost got attacked by a hawk. The dove rode on my shoulder in the car with the window down all the way home ( it was a summer day). I got home and my father on law got the dove to start laughing it is the funniest thing. I have the dove till this day 7 yrs now it’s my testimony I tell to everyone when I can. There is more to the story I left out. So when I attend a church and I see a dove symbol I know god has me there for a purpose. So with the rare birds when ever a feel a strong urge to look up and I see a bald eagle, blue harron, ofsprey, egret, hawk, owl, doves. I know god is giving me a sign of his presents 🙂

  5. I absolutely love this song! It always speaks His peace to my heart when I need it the most
    and today I sure needed it! Thank you for sharing it and reminding us that Yes ….He has chosen us and our hearts are spoken for….Lord …take this world from me because I dont need it anymore, all I need is You…fill me and cover me with Your precious love! Amen

    • I so agree. It calms my heart and gives me such peace!!!

      Covered by your LOVE Divine, child of the Risen Lord. To hear you say “This one’s mine.” My heart is spoken for!!!

  6. Rebecca Greene says:

    How do I know God meant for me to see the video? 1) I usually do not click on those because I am not much on music videos. 2) My daughter had sent me a card this week with one of the images in the video. 3) I chose one of the pictures earlier this month as image for summer mission trip design. Okay God, I get it! YOU ARE IN CONTROL and YOU know my needs before I ask.

    • Well that is just amazing and so GOD!!!!

      As I shared with Jennifer, what else is that is so HIM is that I had planned on playing another song but He just kept playing the words of this one in my thoughts. So, when I went to find a music video to share, this one came up. It has a lot less hits than others that are on YouTube, but the images and design in this one were so perfect, I just knew it was the ONE.

      And then to hear you say that the images were so specific for you, too – well that is just nothing but a gift to remind us just how personal and tenderly acquainted the Creator of the universe is with us – little ole us just hanging out together seeking Him and His heart together!!

  7. Beautiful song. Thanks so much for sharing it with us! I might have to listen to it a few dozen more times today. It’s been a rough week and this song is very comforting — telling me the things I need to hear and remember. Thanks! Have a Blessed Day!

    • Praying for you Celia – that these truths and assurances would sink deep into you!! It’s a song I’m listening to again and again today. So good for my heart, mind and soul!!

  8. Oh my, this is so moving and touching for me. Just to finally realize after soooooo many years, that
    I am his that he choose me, and loves me, and I belong to him.
    Its something most women need to hear and be affirm of, this empowers us to move foward more excited to word for Gods kingdom
    Thanks Be Blessed ( yes God is really using you)

    • Yolanda, so thankful for how He works in and through us to minister to us and to others. Thank you for sharing how much this song/video ministered to you!

  9. Girls, I need prayer & I didn’t know where else to go. Yesterday, I received a phone call that I never expected. After 30 years of marriage, my Dad has asked my Mom for a divorce. She obviously is completely devestated as are my brother and I. Please pray for my Mom that she would receive the love and comfort the Lord has to offer and please pray that my Dad will return home. Thank you all

    • Natalie, I will pray right now for you and your family.

    • Natalie:
      Please know that you (and your family) are in my prayers. In this time of complete turmoil, hold tight to God’s truths.

    • Oh Natalie, my heart is so broken for your mom and your whole family. I am so sorry.

      Jesus, surround this precious family and wrap them in your grace, comfort and wisdom. Jesus we pray in the power of your Name and through the power of your blood shed on the cross that you would stop Satan in his tracks as he seeks to bring division and destruction in this family. Bind up the broken places we pray and pour your oil of healing, restoration, truth, unity, forgiveness, grace and mercy over them and their relationships with one another. For You, by You and through You all things are made and in YOU all things hold together (Col 1:17) so we commit this all to You and for Your Honor and Glory we pray YOU would turn hearts back to you and each other. In Jesus Name, Amen.

      • Thank you all so much! I have felt God’s peace all day & I know my Mom,Dad & brother have also. Please continue to pray. The Lord is already working at restoring our family & I believe that He can Heal all of us. Thank you all again.

    • Rebecca Greene says:

      Natalie- no matter what our age hearing our parents struggle is never easy. Praying for you to have a confident heart to face uncertain times.

  10. First when I saw the title of today’s blog post, I thought about Mercy Me’s song Spoken For right away and was so happy to see the video later in the blog post. Wow. I have this cd and love every song but this song has always touched my heart. They are an amazing band with an holy message. So happy that you used it here today to remind me of Who I belong too and Who is in control of this crazy life called my life. Thank you Lord.

  11. Betty Cummings says:

    I have No doubt who I am now I am looking at myself through God’s Eyes I am not here to be judged by others but by the Judge Himself I will stand before one Glorious day. I Have been Accepted by His Mercy and Grace into His Kingdom.I may not be Perfect but Praise God I have been forgiven.I just have to listen for that still small voice and Trust Him and I am Nothing on my own but to My Heavenly Father I am His Child I am Loved and Adopted into the Family of God.That is Something to Shout About!Thank You so much Sister Renee for all you Encouragment your Faithfulness in all you do to help women as myself see ourselves as more then Conquerors in Christ Jesus.And there is Nothing we cant do or accomplish in this Life if our Hope and Trust is in God.I Pray more of Him and His wants for my life and less of myself.I have been bought with a Price and it was a high price Jesus had to pay for me to be able to Spend Eternity with Him and for that I will be Forever Greatful.I Love the growing grace we are Put through to make us more like Him.Thank You again for all Your Wisdom Words to Live By I am Praying for you and all the Women of God doing this online study. Your Friend and Sister in Christ Betty.

    • Amen — preach it sister!! Thank you for sharing and praying boldly!! We claim these truths as our identity in Christ — individually and corporately as a group! We are so thankful for you, Betty, and for your prayers!!

  12. Thank you so much for this…my heart is so broken from a personal betrayal and I am only just beginning to grasp that God is truly the only source of my strength, my joy, my comfort…I am His!!!!

    • I’m praying for you Tricia – that you will remember and say these truths to yourself from Chapter 6:

      I am accepted…

      Ephesians 1:3-8 I have been chosen by God and adopted as His child.

      Colossians 1:13-14 I have been redeemed and forgiven of all my sins.

      Colossians 2:9-10 I am complete in Christ.

      I am secure…

      Romans 8:28 I am assured that God works for my good in all circumstances.

      Romans 8:31-39 I am free from condemnation. I cannot be separated from God’s love.

      Philippians 1:6 I am confident God will complete the good work He started in me.

      I am significant…

      Ephesians 2:10 I am God’s workmanship.

      Ephesians 3:12 I may approach God with freedom and confidence.

      Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me.

      In Christ you are!!! Amen!!

  13. My hubby and I need prayers today.

    We are going through a rough transfer from the Air Force to the Coast Guard and since nothing is decided we have been totally stressed out and our marriage is suffering.

    This song is a blessing today.

    • Jeana, I am praying for you right now. Lord help my sister, Jeana through this tuff time. Minister to her you plan and your peace. ~ Amen

    • I’m going to pray some of what I prayed for Natalies family over you and yours:

      Jesus, surround this precious couple and wrap them in your comfort, grace, and wisdom. We pray in the power of your Name that you would protect their marriage and give them one heart, mind and soul as they go through this difficult transition. Help them draw near to you and each other. Help them fall in love again and remember that they have an enemy but it’s not each other.

      Anoint them and their marriage with Your Holy Spirit and pour out the oil of gladness, the spirit of unity and lavish them with Your grace and mercy. In YOU all things hold together (Col 1:17) so we commit this couple to You. I pray You would make yourself so evident to them today that they would know YOU ARE NEAR!! In Jesus Name, Amen.

  14. peggybythesea says:

    I wish I could just believe it…I have gone back into a deep depression after months of working on coming out of it…I am home alone most of the time and can’t get out of my head that speaks evil to me…I have no purpose and I don’t know why I cannot get out of this…It seems all the good I am trying to do means nothing…i have no joy and I am fighting hard to break free and know in my heart all these truths…Maybe it is not good for me to be doing this study…I have worked through so much in my life I am tired and weary of falling back into these places I am in…I know it all in my head, tell my heart Lord, tell my heart….

    • Peggybythesea
      I love your name by the way. Joel Olstein’s mom was faced with some type of cancer, I don’t remember which but one that is not commonly cured. He speaks of how she plastered all of God’s promises of healing around the house and how would continuously focus on them and declare them out loud. I believe she is still doing it today. I wonder if you took today’s download of “Against Me/For Me Thoughts” and plastered them all over the house where you could instantly declare the “For Me” Thoughts as soon as an against me thought entered your head. I know I am not that good at memorizing so when there is a major attack I just find a phrase such as “if God is for me who can be against me” that I say repeatedly so no other thought can enter in, even if it makes me sound like a babbling fool. I understand how thoughts can take control and I think you can use God’s word as a weapon against unwanted thoughts and his words eventually reach your heart. My prayers for God’s peace, comfort and reassurance are offered for you. May God Bless you!

      • peggybythesea says:

        I am speaking Scripture all day…Thank you…for caring, for helping, for reaching out…I have to be OK, and get this…I have worked to hard not to…My Counselor tells me to just be Peggy…That I am intrinsically good…I have to start the work, and live it…I am trying to hard on my strength…God is my strength and i have to believe He really really loves me…God Bless you my sister…

        • peggybythesea says:

          Also, thank you for showing me the AM/Fm’s i missed that after the beautiful song that spoke to me…I do need to listen to that over and over and believe!!! I printed them out and will post them….Your a blessing Nancy…

      • Vicky Bird says:

        Yes, peggybythesea, I agree with what Nancy said about quoting those verses over and over, listen to the Holy Spirit as you are quoting those Scriptures….preferably quote those verses out loud…so that you not only see them, but that you are hearing them too. For our faith grows by hearing the Word of God. And remember God’s Word does not return void!!! It accomplishes exactly as His Word says.

        I know there are times when I have gotten on a roller coaster and felt I couldn’t get off….but a friend reminded me to read out loud (and really listen to what God is telling you) Ps. 91!!! And there was breakthrough, I was no longer confused, but was in peace!

        And just because it happened for me on first try doesn’t mean it will. What I mean is I’ve actually gone to this passage many times over the past 4 years. The more we meditate on a certain passage the more it fills us and we believe God’s Word. So I’m just saying read, read, and read again!!! And listen to what the Holy Spirit tells you. Personalize the passage. Say it as a prayer to God. If the Holy Spirit leads you to another verse…ponder on that out loud for a while…then pick up where you left off on in Ps. 91. And continue in the same manner all the way through Ps. 91.

        Keep your eyes focused on Jesus and His finished work. He must increase, we must decrease!!! (I think that is in John chapter 1). Do not think about yourself, but Jesus. Remember these truths: Jesus loves you with an unfailing love. He cares for you. He thinks the best of you! You are His beloved. You are in right standing with God, not because of who you are, but because of Whose you are. You are made the righteousness of God through Christ Jesus!!!

        There are many more truths you can remember…I’ve only listed a couple!

        God bless you, Peggy! I’m praying for you! I really know how tough it is to get out of that depression! Hang in there and keep Jesus before your eyes! He is the only way to get out of it!

        Love ya,

    • Dear Sister in Christ,

      You are a child of God, and God knows you. God loves you, and as my sister in Christ I love you too!
      Let God bring you peace. Let His love be stronger than those bad thoughts. You are stronger than you seem, and for what you mentioned in your comment, you are way braver than you think. I wish you could go outside for a moment and feel the love of God on the sunshine, or the grass, or the snow, whatever in the nature that reminds you of all His wonderful creations. Sometimes when I feel unloved or unworthy, I try to focus on the wonderful things and/or persons around me that remind me of how much God loves me. Give yourself a chance to enjoy God’s love. I’ll be praying for you and for peace in your heart.

      God bless you!

      • peggybythesea says:

        I did that today…I had to work and help an elderly lady…As a Caregiver to them I always feel so much better after being with them…I just dont do well alone and that is where I have to trust and believe…I took some pics of the sky and the Palm trees before work, funny you said that…God is faithful….Thank you my sister for reaching out….God Bless…

        • I love that God led you to do those things. He’s already working and leading your heart to see Him as you seek Him. He loves you Peggy!!

    • Dear Peggy,

      I’m so sorry for what you are feeling. I know how overpowering our emotions can be. I have sunk into a deep pit before and thought I’d never get out. I wanted everyone around me to reach in and take my hand and pull me out. But none of them could. Oh I wanted them to but no matter who I looked to, I was always disappointed.

      Only JESUS. Only His words. Only me talking to Him and listening to HIm through His promises began to rescue me. I put scriptures all over my mirrors and my mind. I would even look in the mirror and tell myself the truth. I would literally look in the mirror and say: You are loved. You are chosen. You are pursued. You are beautiful (even when I didn’t look so great).

      I didn’t “FEEL” thes things at all – but I said them, I chose to actively think them out loud if silence was ineffective. And I would claim them. Over time the patterns of my thoughts changed. But it took practive and time. It didn’t happen quickly. It took years. I had a lifetime of lies and old message to replace with God’s message and words. But now I have more time on this side of my salvation – 23 years verses the 22 I had on the other side.

      I know I might sound preachy but I’m just passionate about your freedom!!! Please take action. Move through the emotions and do what Karina and Nancy have encouraged you to do. No one can do this for you – but YOU CAN DO THIS FOR YOURSELF!! Think of all that Jesus went through to redeem your life from the pit and give You His power. It was because HE LOVES YOU!!! You are worth the work it took Him and you are worth what it is going to take to fight the enemy and believe God instead.

      Emotions are a direct result of thoughts – but sometimes we need to think outloud to out shout the devil. Say God’s promises out loud. Preach them to yourself — and one great thing to do is to turn on contemporary Christian music and surround yourself with praise . That way your heart and mind will be lifted up and your focus will turn to Him instead of your feelings of doubt and sadness.

      I know you can do this. Jesus believes in YOU I believe in you. We believe in you.!!!We are praying for you and cheering you on!!! In Jesus Name we claim progress and victory over the darkness in your home and in your heart!!

      • peggybythesea says:

        I thank you Renee for speaking to my heart…i am and have been doing all these things…Some days i feel like I have finally gotten it and some days I don’t…I am probably no different than a lot of women, I just get tired of the battle and I have to keep fighting…Thank you for your time…God Bless you for all you are doing…

      • Please forgive me if I sound preachy. I’m so proud of you for working through this and pressing into Him. I just hate the enemy and want so much for you not give up on yourself. LIke your counselor said — just be Peggy – you sound like you are a wonderful person!!! I know God is using you in the elderly’s lives and you must be such a blessing to them!! Love you and send hugs!!! < < renee>>

        • peggybythesea says:

          You do not sound “PREACHY” Renee…You are speaking the truth in love!!! I just wanted to say that this past November and December i went through sort of a mental breakdown…So good to be able to share without family and friends knowing what i am saying. It is my heart and soul I speak with…Anyway, I had left my husband and drove home to be near my grown sons and the home I lived in all my life. I left Florida and drove to CT and stayed with a dear friend in the town we lived in. It was a huge lesson of “Failing forward”!!! God was in the whole thing and I was lost…I am 55 and I have had a hard life but god has been faithful throughout, i just don’t always feel Him…I have huge trust issues from childhood and that is where my problem lies I think…Trusting God!!!

          Anyway, after 7 years, The year of completion in the Bible, I had to realize my boys had their own lives and my life was no longer there. I had driven alone all those miles frantically searching my heart! I also was addicted to pain medication and took an awful chance driving all that way. I came home to Florida and my husband , he welcomed me back with open arms, after almost 30 yrs married. I have been very fragile, healing, off the meds and trying to accept me and the dream that will not be…That is what I have been dealing with, without many more details I went through i have to keep pressing on. My dreams of a happy family with my grown sons and their families all around us and me being a hands on mom and Grammie are just not God’s plan. He has other plans for me and that has been my life verse for the 23 years I have been a Christian. 32 years after being raised Catholic and that being all I knew…I was always a bad little girl…So like you my journey to Christ has been long but still I search…still I haven’t figured out the plan God has instead of the one I had. I miss my boys so much, I was a stay at home mom and they were my life from the time I was 18 on…Soooooo, thank you for letting me write all of this…I love the lord with all my heart and soul….Before I left I had post its , scriptures and mirrors filled with his truth!! I took them all with me and that memory is in the past, I threw them all away. Now I have printed out each of your pretty downloads and have them in my bathrooms and my kitchen…I am speaking them and working at being God’s girl and accepting my life and who I am in His image…Thank you for being here at such a time as this…love your sister in Christ….Peggy

  15. Thank you for the video. I need the reminder that God chosen me.

    God bless you all..

  16. Thank you so much for this. I have been in a big struggle recently with this exact thing. I feel that I am not good enough and nothing I say or do has been helping. So, I started down the road that I used to always go, of isolating myself from everyone. I know this is nothing more than my way to protect myself. At least this time I have found this is a good time for a deeper connection with God. I keep reminding myself of His promises and what He says about me (from your chart in chapter 12 – Don’t Throw Away Your Confidence). So – thank you for helping me get through this!

  17. This verse is awesome. says:

    I love the song very much. It made me feel like I can do all things and now I know I can. I have been going through some tough struggles but after listening to that song made me realize that I am not going it alone. Thanks for your encouraging words. I have bottle up so much of who I am inside because I don’t think anyone understands but my God does. I can’t even discuss the bible with my spouse because he likes to argue it when I would like to know more of it. Please continue to keep me in your prayers.

  18. Barbara Cole says:

    These beautiful lyrics express clearly the message of chapter 6. The ladies in my town who are doing this study with me have been such a blessing to me and to one another. Thank you for writing this book and doing this study.

  19. “I can’t do it. God says: I have strength for all things in Christ who empowers me. Phil 4:13

    “I don’t know what to do. God says: If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. James 1:5

    Wonderful Song.

  20. Chapter 7 Am/Fm is powerful to me. 2Tim.1:7 I do not live with a spirit of fear, but of power ,love and sound mind. I lived in fear for so many years I can’t remember what started it, but I know WHO ended it. After struggling, sharing my fear and getting prayer to no avail, I just waked out of it one day. I don’t know the day, I remember saying to myself the tree and sky are so defined in the color contrast. From that time one one I feel fear and depression I look to the sky.
    I was raised in the place that had wide open gray sky. Now I live in a place that has that, but also has the contrast of green on blue in the winter. I praise God for a sound mind through His love and power in my life.

  21. Jeanie Kelley says:

    Please continue to be in prayer for us. For husband a better paying job and to get bills covered. Thanks so much for praying.

    • Jeanie, I pray just as you have requested and more. Our Lord owns the cattle on a thousand hills. (In my area that would translate, “My Daddy is a big cattle rancher”.) I have been where you are for a long time and it is amazing the different ways God has worked this through. Sometimes He has worked through me trying to take the ‘bull by the horns’, and that is the hardest of all.
      I pray for your peace as God works with your husband to supply for his family as God has commanded him to do. A picture of a bird in a nest, in a storm. That is our peace. God has his hand on us and will give us peace as He works through our storms.( I looked on line and this was the only bird in a storm I could find. ) Maybe you could find a different one, but know HE cares for you.

  22. There are just so many touching comments today that spoke to my heart. Sometimes my head knowledge is out of sync with my heart knowledge but when their together beautiful music is made. Everyone have a great weekend.

  23. “To hear you say, This ones Mine” makes me feel so loved and accepted by my Heavenly Father. I am chosen by Him and by Him I am saved, forgiven, loved and healed. Thank you my Heavenly Father for loving me and for this book and study group. Thank you for your most perfect and wonderful gift. Thank you for chosing me and say that I am yours!!

  24. Hallelujah!!! Child of the Risen Lord….tears of joy are flowing here. thank you Renee for sharing this song. I have always loved this song but it seems it means so much more now. Praise God!

  25. Thanks Renee! This self doubt plagues all of us everyday…….sometimes making me soooo weary! I find strength in you, Proverbs 31 devotions and the comments left by other women sharing. We are not alone in this daily battle. I had the opportunity to share with a 17 year old girl yesterday that the mind is a powerful thing and satan will use it against us if we don’t focus on God’s truth about us! I soooo want her to see the truth, grasp it, use it, and let it sustain her into womanhood. It is so much harder to do when you are in your 40 somethings! 🙂 Thanks again Renee and thank you God for loving me inspite of myself!

  26. This song…is timed for today….

    “I am my Beloved’s…

    He reaches out to me in His LOVE
    I cringe…and hold my breath, fearing the pain will increase
    But His love is warm and tender
    Not like the love of others

    His is pure and holy
    wanting nothing in return

    His love washes me
    The grime of the world is rinsed away
    I am clean again
    Cleansed by the Love of God

    My Lord
    My Savior
    My Redeemer
    The One Who Loves me Best

    Jesus Christ.”

    cjs -2*24*12

  27. Feelings of rejection and feelings of change is a struggle, but I am working on it more each time.
    Remembering 2 Cor. 3:18 transformed into his image with ever-lasting glory
    This is what is in my heart :
    Change me, Lord
    Change me to be more loving and kind
    Change my heart to be a servant’s heart
    Change my attitude to full of worship and praise
    Change my thoughts and help to trust in You
    Take all of me, Lord
    and Help me to change to be more like You. ~joyce

  28. Thank you for this song. I need to watch the video, and watch it and watch it! This idea has been in my head for most of my life, but I am having a really hard time getting it into my heart and soul, and I NEED to get it!

  29. Lisa Gilland says:

    I’m new to the blog and to the website, just purchased your book, and I LOVE IT. I would like to ask that you add me to your prayers, I have just recently lost my son and I have a huge void in my heart, I struggle daily with grief, some days are worse than others, I miss him greatly. I have found great comfort in the Lord and I pray to him daily to help me through this difficult time.

    • Praying esp. for you Lisa, I pray God would wrap you in His loving arms. Know that He still loves you! You are still His child. Read the book of Lamentations in the Bible. it might help you process your grief.
      Michele S.

    • Hi Lisa,

      I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I will pray for you.

  30. Beautiful video really enjoyed it!

  31. Vanessa Wynn says:

    Beautiful reminder that we ARE chosen. Spoken for. Loved. Beyond anything we can imagine. As a mother, I think we learn to some extent what unconditional love means, but we sometimes loose it and don’t deal with things in love. To be loved – absolutely no matter what – is such an amazing thing!

  32. Love Love Love that song! And today it made me cry because I know what he has done for me…I feel his love surround me like loving arms He always know what I need He is so Amazing!

  33. The printouts have been helpful to a friend as well as myself:)

  34. Loved the video! I loved the words and esp. the cloud heart in the sky.
    My answer to question 7 was When doubt comes against me, saying that I’m not good enough for a certain role or position, I will remember that God is for me! He says I am His masterpiece, created to be new in Christ so that I could do good things He planned long ago. and the other one is When doubt comes against me, saying I can’t do something because it’s too hard, I will cling to the truth that God is for me! He says I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

  35. Kathy Sturgis says:

    What amazes me is that HE knew my end from my beginning and all the mistakes and twists and turns and lies I would beleive and yet HE STILL CHOSE to walk and wait with me and to PURSUE me with all His heart and love. Praise the Infinte Eternal Loving God!!! I am His daughter!

  36. I love the song! Thanks for choosing it!!
    #7 AM – I will never measure up. FM – John 1:12 I am God’s child!
    AM – I cannot please my husband.
    FM – Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.

    Now to truly claim these and live them.

  37. Caroline McGinnis says:

    The song is perfect for this chapter. The pictures are beautiful and go perfectly with the song. It was so peaceful to listen to and watch good way to end a day at work. Thanks for sharing it.

  38. What a great video! Not only the words but the pictures as well. Really need to work on the AM & FM thoughts. However this is one I definitely need: When doubt comes against me, saying I shouldn’t get my hopes up because I’ll only be disappointed, I’ll remember God is for me! He has plans for my life that are filled with purpose and hope (Jer. 29:11).

    • peggybythesea says:

      Holly I feel the same way!! I go day by day wanting to believe that when things are going well and I feel I have finally reached a place where there is no going back, I know now who I am in Christ, doubt comes and life happens and I feel alone and the evil one whispers it will never change, it will never be that you feel that love all the time. I claimed Jeremiah 29:11 as a life verse over 20 years ago as a new Christian…I keep saying it and I have to believe it! Then that doubt comes…Lord help us to know that we can believe your promises, that we can trust your love for us never changes like our emotions do…God Bless you my sweet sister…

  39. I’m so thankful for the power of this book and study. They are speaking to all the issues I’ve struggled with for so many years. I know God is using these words to reinforce the truth that He alone is my judge. Other people’s opinions, no matter how close they may be to me, are not what’s most important; God’s is. He is my “audience of one” and he loves me regardless of how many times I stumble. I am His beloved daughter and I am so grateful.

  40. My AM it is so very hard to find patience.
    My FM I am confident God will complete the good work He started in me. Philippians 1:6

    The song is so reassuring!!!!!!!

  41. Fran Bruno says:

    I just can’t stop crying…
    His love is SO AMAZING…
    humbled I be His.

  42. Thank you soo much for the encouragement ..i am very broken from past and present hurts ..sometimes its all i can do to just breathe..i am thankful for the Lord in my life..

    • Jolene,

      I felt this way after my first husband died. We were only married a little over a year and it really was taking life moment by moment, to just breathe. I will pray for you.

  43. I know doubting the Lord, His work, His ways are not smart. Trust (confidence) is where it is at. Sometimes it is VERY difficult for me to do it. I plan to watch the video (song) over and over. Thank you!

  44. One AM thought that I have had before in the past is, who cares what I want? I have felt rejected many times in my life but, this was actually said to me by a loved one recently. I know that without the confidence I am gaining from this study I really would have been very hurt. Instead I recognized it immediately as being from the enemy and I have replaced it with FM thoughts – 1 John 5:18 I am born of God and the evil one cannot touch me. Romans 8:28 I am assured that God works for my good in all circumstances.
    I did not respond in any way to the person who made the remark only to forgive them in my spirit and know that I have the Word Of God in my heart and mind and for that I am thankful. I thank you Renee for sharing the wisdom that God has given you to help people like me to live knowing we can trust in Christ to be all we need. For He cares for me! “The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit”. Psalm 34:18 I Praise Him!

  45. My AM thought recently has been that I’m not acceptable or good enough. I am a single 41 year old woman who actually has never once even been on a date because the world cannot see past the outside. According to the world there are visible things about me that are not acceptable. I know that my experience has been very different from most and it makes me think there is something wrong with me. I know that God made me with a plan and purpose and that people who judge and jump to conclusions based on what they see don’t know the real me.

    • Jennifer,

      Thank you so much for sharing. Although my story is different, in ways I do relate. I have thought before that something is wrong with me, but as you wrote, God does have a plan and purpose for each of us, we are perfectly created by Him, our creator.

  46. Cindy Hunt says:

    My life has been plagued with depression, dispair, rejection, abandonment, hopelessness and feeling unloved and unworthy. I have been a christian for over 30 yrs. and still have a hard time believing God’s words and promises. I can believe them for somebody else but not me. This study is helping me to put God’s word into my life. I love the concept of the AM vs. FM ~ which one am I going to tune into more? I am finding when I start personalizing God’s word by inserting my name and say it out loud it has a stronger affect within me-so I am now trying to do this more when I read HIS words about me. One of these days and hopefully soon it will ring true for me where I won’t hear the “AM” station anymore where there will be no more signal to pick up. I will only get the “FM” station coming in and no more static.

    1. (AM) I am not loved or wanted. (FM) Before I was formed in the womb {Cindy} I knew you. Before you were born {Cindy} I set you apart. Jer. 1:5
    {Cindy}, I will never leave you or forsake you. {Cindy} you are mine, I have adopted you into my family. You are the King’s Daughter. Eph. 1:4-5
    2. (AM) I’m not good enough, I am a failure. .(FM) {Cindy} you are fearfully and wonderfully made; all His works are wonderful and {Cindy} you are one of them. Ps. 139:14
    3. (AM) I will never change, how can God use me I am hopeless. I will never measure up to anything (FM) {Cindy} I have a hope and future for you, plans to proser you {Cindy} and not to harm you {Cindy}.. See {Cindy} I am doing a new thing in your life. {Cindy}, do not look to the past , forget the former things. I am taking you {Cindy} out of the dessert and am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.

    • my life also has been fullof hurt people leaving and lieing im going thou it now and i try hard to remember god/jesus loves me and is there will never give you more then you can handle but i also end up saying why me alot why cant i have some good luck.

  47. Thank you, Renee for the beautiful video! An AM thought I have struggled with is “I am too shy to do…” and I am replacing it with “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Phil 4:13 I must share that I have felt the heaviness lift off my chest since I have been doing “A Confident Heart”. There is joy in my heart. Praise God! It is a minute by minute journey to turn my thoughts to God’s promises as He begins to transform me from the inside out. His promises are healing balm. I also praise God for the work He is doing in and through you Renee in reaching so many many ladies who are struggling.

  48. Wow, Just got to read the post and to listen to song. That was great it made me cry.I don’t know what else to say but wow. Thank you for posting it. God Bless you for all that you do.

  49. Hi Renee,

    Thank you so much for the song. It was so beautiful and encouraging. The words and the pictures.. I love how you said, “to remind our hearts that we are secure, significant and accepted.” I have not finished chapter 6 yet, haven’t touched the questions, but I really relate to the chapter so far. I have said, “What’s wrong with me?” many times to myself and brought back memories of one significant time, when I even questioned what God thought of me. How awesome to be reading this book and see exactly what God thinks of me. God is so amazing how He could bring this study into my life at just the perfect time.
    By the way, thank you Renee and to everyone who prayed for my family last week.

  50. My am is myself i am torn between two jobs one pays more and causes me grief the other pays alot less but would make me happy( i dont have it yet) my fm is with out a doubt the lord! He is always there when i need him, thru a song with just the right words or a phone call from just the right person

  51. first to question 1-3 which thursday said respond to.thereas struggle in with thinking im not good enough is looks ive always had doubt about being pretty enough never thought i was good enough no matter what i did. to #2 ive been lied to cheated on left 3 times in 9 years by my ex so he could go play the last time was at 9;30 at night and we had been doing fine for a few months.#3 who am i in christ 3 that stand out are i have direct access to the throne ,i have been brought with a price and belong to god,i am a child of god he loves me no matter what i do or look like if i mess up and say im sorry and try hard not to repeat the mistake he will forgive. #7 i have answered the usell im not pretty or good enough

    • Here is a verse that I pray will help you Marie, “Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, nor have entered into the heart of man the things which God has prepared for those who love Him.” (1 Corinthians 2:9) Hang onto that promise for He is preparing good things for you and not evil. Keep trusting Christ because He Loves You!

  52. AM-I am not smart enough to do anything that is worth anything. FM- Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ who strenthens me.

    Am-I cannot share my struggles or experiences with others because I am too shy to speak out and fear if I do it will not come out right. FM-2 Timothy1:7 “I have been given a spirit of power, love and a sound mind.”

    • Sheila Carroll says:

      Sherri B
      I have also had the same filling’s like that too your not alone!God bless you! It’s like you took the word’s right out of my mouth.

  53. Sheila Carroll says:

    Renee the one am thought is that I am weak and all alone,from the time that I was a small child and even some time’s even now I fill alone but with God’s grace he is letting me know that he is alway’s with me even when I fill alone,because even when I am around people I can still fill alone but the more that I study God’s word and pray that God will help me with this I know that God is with me and will never leave me nor forsake me. Duet. 31:6 so that is fm that I will replace am with!

  54. My am thought at this point in my life is doubt coming against me saying I can’t do something because it’s too hard. 18 months ago I was diagnosed with breast cancer and as I was dealing with that the position I was in at work was eliminated and I was asked to take on a role that I knew I couldn’t do and felt God didn’t want me to do so they laid me off after 26 years. I have had to adjust to living with my disease and learning a new job (which God provided). But I will cling to the truth that God is for me! He says I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me and He will restore health to me and heal me of my wounds, says the LORD. ( Phil 4:14, Jere 30:17)

    • Thank you for the words of encouragement. Through all of this, here you are standing on His promises and setting an example to all of us. I am praying for you Linda. How God puts new direction into our lives and He has new things in store for you. We may not understand it all right now but we will one day. I too stand on that verse often: I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Your sister in Christ, Linda

  55. The song is so beautiful! Thank You for sharing. I just happen to know another person who I am also going to share this song with who I think it will also be a blessing to. As I think back on the last few weeks and our little Bible study, my mind was so filled with doubt at the beginning of this and very little confidence in myself unless someone was cheering me on and giving me confidence as I went. I have grown from that point and yes, I am learning to fall forward and trust God. I simply began by writting down verses that spoke to my heart through this Bible study and also through reading. I have carried them with me and when those feelings of doubt would sneak in I would pull them from mind or from my piece of paper and stand on His promises for me. Satan comes in so quiet and so sneaky that we begin to doubt ourselves sometimes before we even really think about it. So now I just ask myself is this the peace of God or the confusion of the devil and pull out my verse such as my grace is sufficient for thee or all things are possible to him who believes. But most of all I look at myself as who I am in Christ and that I am His child and a child of the King. I still have a long ways to go but, oh my, have I grown.

  56. AM I will never change – PM Philippians 4:13
    AM I am incapable of sustaining disciplines such as quiet time, Bible reading PM Romans 8:31-39

  57. My AM thought is that I cannot really hear the voice of God, that it’s just my own thoughts. I struggle with this when I feel God telling me something that is my desire. I don’t really have a problem when it comes to Him telling me to do something or that I shouldn’t do it. I’ve been praying and waiting for a certain thing in my life for 2 years now, but when I feel Him telling me to keep trusting him, wait for him, put my hope in him, he is working I’m plagued with the thoughts that I’m missing what he really wants for me by waiting for what I want.

    John 10:27 The sheep that are My own HEAR and are listening to My voice; and I know them, and they follow me.

  58. I am So Amazed how much we are loved by the Lord.

  59. Marsha Cobbs says:

    Renee, thank you for sharing the video and for allowing God to bless my life and many others through this bible study. We haven been chosen by God before the foundation of the world and our hearts have been spoken for, what an awesome revelation, Chapter 6 has shown me so many things about myself and about others, doubting God’s promises makes it hard to trust His heart. (I have some trust issues) That’s why we need to recognize satan’s lies and refute his temptations and rely on God’s word. Compariing our selves with others is foolish and will always leave us feeling like we’re lacking something. (2 Corth 10:12) We must change the way we talk to ourselves and only speak what God says about us, sadly we often believe satan’s lies and live like they are true. No longer will this be true for me and all the other women in this bible study because the enemy has been exposed and kicked out forever !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Let God Be True .

  60. I feel as if I struggle with AM thoughts almost every minute of every day. I never believed anyone could understand what I go through, but In reading I see, I am not alone.
    My heart is spoken for – I repeated it many times, I needed to not only understand it, but believe it – in my heart – my spoken for heart. It’s amazing to me, to think of the love God has – for us – for me… Me? What wondrous love is this indeed.
    I smiled so big at the part of the song -“to hear you say this ones mine”. Because truly we are His. I need to remember this when those AM thoughts come to assault me. Ive never felt cared for the way I am to understand that God cares for me – never. It seems to take some time to get used to -oh but to know that this love is available to me. Dont wake me if Im dreaming.

  61. I feel truely blessed, i have been broken hearted many times and the Lord has been there, When evil touched my life God was there to get me through it although when i was young i did not see it that way at the time, I thought God had abandoned me. I have been on my death bed and God came to me and took away all my pain and brought me His peace not of this world and there is no way to describe in words what His peace is and He told me that it was not my time, I had a purpose and I would be healed. I was ready to go, that was 23 yrs. ago. Through my life God, the Lord has taught me to take my sufferings throughout my life and to allow Him into my heart to save the souls of many and touch the lives of others in offering up my suffering to help other people. I have been very sick for many years and in the beginning because the medical community did not know what i had i was dianosed with every mental illness there was, my children suffered greatly for having a Mom that was sick and always in and out of the hospital, The Lord has taught me forgiveness, compassion, love and to love one another and has recently taught me to trust in Him as I never trusted Him before and now He has taught me His love for me and all of Human Kind, every single person on earth. I understand that allowing Him into my heart people often let me know that i am a walking prayer and they could not understand how I could be in so much pain and have joy in my heart….there are days that are not so joyful but God listens and answers my prayers…lately i asked God if i have touched anyone’s life with my faith and people all of a sudden are telling me that they have returned to their faith, or where guided to make a life career from what they saw and learned from me and as i always say, it is not me but The Lord working through me. I am at a point, I am very tired, when i used to pray to the Lord and ask him if it was my time i always heard no, this time i am hearing yes and i am not sure if i should believe it or not, so i ask over and over and continue to hear Yes, my daughter you are coming home. I long to go home. This song has been so profound for me and i have just started A Confident Heart as there are still things that need healing in my heart but more importantly I want to love and know our Lord and God’s love more than ever. I feel God and all of the heavens with me every day and i am not saying i am going to die tomorrow but i will be happy to go home and have my pain and suffering to be over with. When i am in extreme pain and suffering i think of the passion and also think and hope that souls are being saved. God Bless every one of you and Wendy you have been a blessing in my life to address with God’s love for each of us in our brokenness. When i realized how much God loved me my entire world changed even on the really bad days when i am at my end, the end of my rope, feeling like i am all alone, the Lord gently reminds me that i am not, I will listen to this song over and over again it is so true. Bless you

    • peggybythesea says:

      Dearest Laura…you are precious and I so know how you feel….Mental illness is not recognized enough…We are a hurting people who need to be loved and protected from a world that sees me as weak. We are not weak, we are strong, strong in the Lord’s love…Most of the time that is all I have to hang on to so I don’t fall in that pit of despair…Some days i fail, some days I do better…I just wanted you to know that you are so not alone. You probably know that already seeing what and whom you have seen…But God!!! I see you and feel your heart…We have to hang on to Jesus robe, just the hem of His garment is enough to keep us going forward and pressing on. It is not easy but Jesus told us it wouldn’t be easy. I sometimes think of Him and all He suffered in His beautiful heart so that we could be healed and whole here on earth but one day…No more pain, no more tears…Just give me Jesus….Love to you my sister…Peggy

  62. Gotta love MercyMe! They are a favorite of mine!

    #7…I wrote down 3 in my journal
    1. AM: I’m not good enough. (I have let this lie go through my head so many times about various things that I was believing it!) FM: I’m fearfully and wonderfully made; all of His works are wonderful and I am one of them. Psalm 139: 14. I couldn’t sleep the other night…many negative thoughts were going through my head. I read this verse over and over again. Went back to bed, and feel asleep saying this verse again and again to myself.

    2. AM: I’m not good enough for this role. (Normally I am saying this regarding a professional role and/or being a wife and/or a small group leader.) FM: I am His masterpiece, created to be new in Christ so that I could do good things He planned long ago. Ephesians 2:10.

    3. AM: I can’t do _________; it’s too hard. This blank has been filled in with 100’s of things over the years. FM: I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. Phil 4:13. I have recited this verse more times than I can count. I am finally starting to truly trust and believe it!!! (Happy dance!)

    Praying for all of you, sweet loving Sisters in Christ! Big group hug, Online Sisters!

  63. QUESTION: This week’s video was the music video, correct? Wanted to make sure I hadn’t missed another awesome Renee talking to us video. Thanks.

    Praying for you! Happy Saturday!

  64. AM: I am a failure as a wife.
    FM: “I am doing this new thing in you”: God is changing me, He is for the success of this marriage.
    AM: I am not good enough at my job.
    FM: God put me in this position for a reason. He is for His light shining through me.
    These AM thoughts enter into my head each day. Before the therapy and prozac, each time these thoughts came into my head I would dwell on them, but now I am more able to put those AM thoughts aside. Along with my faith, He is allowing the therapy and medicine to offer me some peace so that He can speak into my life more…

  65. Caroline McGinnis says:

    AM my husband will never change FM Philippians 3:21
    AM I am not loved or wanted FM Psalm 139: 15-16
    AM I cannot please anyone FM Philippians 4:13

  66. When doubt comes against me saying I shouldn’t get my hopes up because I’ll only be disappointed. I will depend on the truth that God is for me, and He has plans for my life that are filled with purpose and hope (jer.29:11)

    Jer. 29:11 is one of my favorite Bible verses because it reaffirms that God has plans for me and He will never hurt me or let me down. I sometimes doubt if going back school is a waste of time, but I believe God has led me to that and He has geat plans for me. But I still let doubt tell me I’m wasting my time. I look at that now knowing the devil knows God has great plans for me and would love me to stop but satan (the liar) is not going to win!

  67. The last few weeks have been insanely challenging to me. 2 weeks ago I came home from work on a Friday night, fed our baby, and after she was playing on the floor, my hubby picked her up to hand her to me and she puked all over me like 3 times. This is our first child so watching this happen is just heartbreaking! She continued getting sick off and on until about midnight. I was almost going to take her to the ER cause I at one point she was hardly responsive and just laying there…super scary but she pulled out of it before we decided to take her in. She got over that, and then my husband and I started to feel sick. Never got sick like her but felt awful. Forced ourselves to go to work anyway and had a rough day or so but after that we were fine. This past week has been filled with PMS, craving all the food I am trying not to eat right now but feeling like a horrible person when I did give into them(I used to struggle with a borderline eating disorder so I constantly have to keep myself in check with my emotional thoughts on food and exercise). I have been trying to feed our family more whole foods and less processed things….so this of course made me feel like a failure as a mom, wife, and woman….some of us sick and me pms-y and resorting to convenience foods many times in the last few weeks. I’ve been going to bed later so on my days off I want to sleep during our baby’s naps instead of get done things I need to be getting done. My exercise schedule hasn’t been as great during this time either. Then last Thursday I get a call at work saying that my daughter has a fever and I needed to come get her…..missed the rest of the afternoon and the next morning of work, while my hubby took over watching her around noon so I could work a half day last Friday. My hubby is working full time and in school full time so basically parenting and household management are my job for the most part and at the same time I still work part time and want a few minutes to myself…..I am just exhausted. Yesterday I was able to get out of the house for a few minutes. I needed to breath. Needed to be away from it. I want to the grocery store…ha! So relaxing! I wanted to pick up a few items to start making some things for our daughters upcoming 1st birthday…..oh and that…..I am so stubborn. I want to make her cake. My mom made us all of our cakes and I want to do the same. I don’t know why I don’t just throw in the towel and buy one…..but I really want to do this for her. I want to learn cake decorating basics and feel like I might as well start practicing for her birthday cake. After 3 trips to the store yesterday because of forgotten ingredients and one more trip cause our dog got into some of the ingredients and ate them……I just wanted to collapse. I am struggling with comparison- all those other moms and the beautiful parties they throw for their children….I’m just not good enough. My pride- trying to do it all myself and not relying on God’s strength. I feel like a bad mom, wife, and manager of our home- the convenience foods, spending money on birthday stuff (even though I am trying to be frugal) just makes me feel like a bad manager of our money), not feeding my family more nutritious things…..and not being the perfect cake decorator my first time. Ahhhhh it feels good to finally get it out. I’ve been letting it build. As I read over what I am writing I must admit I laugh to myself. God is so much bigger than all of it. I am listening to the lies of Satan and feeling defeated about things I feel God has asked me to do. This is a busy season and I do pray that not all seasons of our lives are this busy but I know they will come. My hubby graduates in May and we are praying for job opportunities. When that happens I will get to be a stay at home mom. We are both so excited about this but we know that that has its own set of challenges and we also know that a job may not come for a long time. I do believe God has asked me to make lifestyle changes in our families nutrition. Little by little….not overnight. To rely on him to help me. Not my own strength. To do what I can as I have time. Not stress myself out trying to change completely in a day. PMS…..oh I how am thankful for you yet I dislike you at the same time! I think I need a whole slew of AM thoughts just for that topic alone. “No I do not look fat” “No my hair looks fine “No your favorite outfit is still your favorite even when your brain is all sorts of PMS wacky” “No you do not need to eat a whole bag of doritos”…..I do not think its bad to make my daughters birthday cake….or have a party for her. What is bad is when I have a party for her and make a cake based on others expectations or my own comparison. I pray for my heart to do this for your glory God. That I may love my daughter through this. That this will be her day. A day of celebrating her as a precious gift! Philipians 4:13 says I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” I have always loved this verse. It is still so true. Even at a busy season, you will give me strength to do these things as I bring them to you and place them at your feet….you give me strength to do the things you are asking of me, and wisdom to weed out the ones that you don’t want for me, or that I am putting on my plate based on the worlds standards. You have chosen me…
    “You are a chosen [woman], a royal priesthood, a holy [daughter], a [woman] belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of HIM who has called you out of darkness into His wonderful light.” 1 Peter 2:9, NIV
    Satan loves to channel his way into our thoughts. To place small thoughts of ungodly things in order to keep us from doing your will Jesus. Will you continue to help me put more of your word in my heart. That I may never go back to the place I was before starting this book…that I may never again believe the lies that satan uses to make my heart unpraising of you. For you do all things for my good and your glory.

    Sorry for the book… heart feels much better now!

    • Bridget,

      You need to give yourself a break, girl. Your primary responsibility at this season of your life is to love that precious baby of yours and your husband….all the rest is clutter. You do not have to keep up with every other mom that you see. We are all equipped to live the life that God has planned for us…not someone elses life. You may see the things that the other moms excel at but you may not see the areas where they struggle….and I bet they say the same thing about their lives…..As a mom of 4, let me tell you, we all struggle and we all fall short. It sounds like you are a loving, caring mother and that my friend is the greatest accomplishment of all….who cares who makes the cake…it will be admired for maybe 2 seconds, eaten and the container thrown away….not worth the stress….and your family will survive if you have to feed them processed food at times….I used to beat myself up all the time for not being Martha Stewart but I learned that I do myself and my family more good if I just let go and enjoy them more. The funny thing is….they want YOU! and only YOU! and you don’t have to do anything else but be YOU!

      Enjoy this season of life dear friend… will go by all too soon!

    • Judy Hescox says:

      I pray for you to find a MOPS group in your area. go to MOPS international on line and you can find a group in your area.

  68. Renee, thank you for the powerful resources for this week! God has been speaking so clearly through the AM/FM download and the song you shared this week. And amazing to see how others are affected in a similar fashion. Thank you for the prayer, dedication and Love that you have put into this study. It is so very evident. Thank you too for your message a while back regarding chapter 4…and not needing to do it all at once…that was a much appreciated message as well. The biggest FM thought that is carrying me through the week is: “I will give you victory!” Have a fantastic week everyone!

  69. This book has been a blessing to me. The messages are touching my heart and helping to provide new perspective. I have severe IBS that causes me to be homebound a lot. I can’t be the mom, wife, daughter, aunt, person, etc. I want to be. I need to work and can’t. I need and want to “go and do” with my son and husband, family, friends but can’t. A good day for me is when I am able to get my son to and from school along with a trip to the grocery store. I don’t know why I am on this journey and I have to remind myself often that God’s plan is better than mine. I have always been an outgoing person, ready to go, but my illness makes me feel worthless and useless. Others don’t understand. Those are my AM thoughts that I battle daily. My FM thoughts are now: I have been given a spirit of power, love and sound mind 2 Tim 1:7; I am confident God will complete the good work He started in me Phil 1:6; I am God’s workmanship Eph 2:10; I can do all things through Christ , who strengthens me Phil 4:13. This video was a love note sent by God reminding me I am chosen.

  70. Since Tuesday this week i have been sick. I would get on computer long enough to read the comments on here or on facebook and am encouraged. Then i would lay down to rest. I have found that i apparently get very depressed when i am sick i have no earthly idea why that happens so for my “AM” thought i wrote I feel depressed. for the “FM” on that i choose to believe His love and faithfulness will gaurd my heart Lam. 3:21-23 and i also apparently struggle with another “AM” thought that “I don’t have enough confidence” to that which i have chosen believe the “FM” thought that “He will be my confidence” Proverbs 3:26 . This Chapter was amazingly enlightning! I especially liked what you said in the video and the book about Think, Feel , Live. That we need to STOP and ASK God what triggered that thought and then COMPARE that thought with the word of God to see if it lines up with what He says. I am finding that more times than not this week my thoughts do not line up. So, from now on i am going to do this when those “AM” thoughts come about.

  71. Rebecca Greene says:

    When life kicks you, let it kick you forward. Am/fm thoughts

  72. I have been behind in the reading and just now finished Chapter 6. It’s so great that I’m finally, yes–FINALLY– learning that my identity is not in my successes, failures, whether I’m rejected or accepted, how I look or how nice I am, what my house looks like, my talents, ability to cook, or how I dress, etc., etc., but is through Christ…PERIOD! I’m already spoken for! I’m a Royal Daughter! And yes the video was definitely meant for me to be seen on this very night because I saw none other than MercyMe last night in concert! And there they are again. Our God is awesome!

  73. AM – I fail or mess up at something in everything I do.
    FM – I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Phil 4:13
    AM – I am not special
    FM – I have been Choosen by God. Ephes 1:3-8
    FM – I know the plans I have for you… Jeremiah 29:11

    Thank you Jesus I am not feeling this now and I pray it never comes back. However I have gone through times of feeling invisible like no one ever notices me and or I’m not special. Now I know that the enemy uses a little piece of truth and a lot of lies to trick us, so this feeling gets fuel with things that have or haven’t happend in my life. IE: I did not get a wedding or baby shower. My Birthday always gets forgotten. When we have family over for dinners/holidays they are always late, (like 45mins-1 1/2 hrs late) which makes me feel like I’m not important or respected. When these events happen it makes me feel like I am unimportant… But God Says: I am chosen, I am His, He gave His son for me.

    I’ve read a lot of the other comments and am praying for your peace.
    Blessings and love to you all.

  74. Sorry silly question, but I’m not totally sure what “my heart is spoken for” really means. Can someone enlighten me a bit, please. Thanks!

  75. Judy Hescox says:

    I have been reading your blog for awhile, so I will finally comment.
    I have been a Christian for a long time and you are correct!! we are His, we are spoken for.
    I am having a had time forgiving my self. I did something with my Mom. I took her to the ER to get patched up after a fall. We got the wound care that we needed, then the dr. said her shoulder was dislocated.
    Yes, her shoulder is dislocated, but it was not a result of the fall– it was how her shoulder healed– all by itself. Her shoulder has been this way for 3 years. we (the family) see it as normal, but the medical community sees it as strange. The doctors tried to pop her shoulder in place. They could not, and I feel soooo stupid and foolish for letting them attempt to do this.
    She is in pain and had the are X rayed and will see her own physician tomorrow.
    Pray that she is out of pain, and that we all learn to accept this as normal.

  76. Kimberly Stiver says:

    I had always believed I wasn’t good enough and now I had proof.

    But God…used it to show me a deep place in my soul that would only be complete when I realized that in His eyes, I was just right. Forever loves and chosen.

    I am starting to see this! Thank you for showing us that we are forever loved and chosen by God.
    I love that song so much! I am spoken for by God!

  77. How I love that song – thank you for posting this! If you only knew how much I appreciate your book, your words of wisdom and how YOU USE GOD’S WORDS!!! Thank you Renee.

    “I had always believed I wasn’t good enough and now I had proof.

    But God…used it to show me a deep place in my soul that would only be complete when I realized that in His eyes, I was just right. Forever loves and chosen.” OH YEAH!!!

  78. I am really struggling with feeling loved and chosen right now. My husband is being pursued by a former girlfriend (someone I know has no qualms about being a cheater, as she took up with her own former husband when he was still married to someone else). I trust him, but I don’t trust her, and after four years she shows no signs of giving up. He despises jealousy, is quite scornful of it, and every time I’ve brought the subject up, or asked him for reassurance, it has ended badly. He insists he is not interested in this woman, but also insists that “no one will tell me who I can talk to” I have caught him in some falsehoods about how often they are in touch, and who initiates the contact, and I feel “managed” and deceived. I would be so much happier if he would simply cut off communication with her, but I can’t ask him for that. He sees it as an accusation or statement on him, and he won’t tolerate that. I know I could blow the whole relationship apart if I don’t handle this well.
    I know the “correct” response is to realize that his fidelity is between him and God, and that God will take care of me no matter what. I”know” this but have a hard time feeling it. I also have a hard time not feeling rage and hatred toward this woman, and these are unlovely feelings I do not want to harbor. I try to focus on the qualities in my husband that drew me to him in the first place — honesty, loyalty, trustworthiness, and try to keep my misgivings between myself and God, but it feels insincere. This is a very special man, knowing what I know about him I know he would simply leave me and go to her if that is what he felt, and would never deceive me or go behind my back, but finding the self-confidence to truly rest on that is very very hard — my first husband was abusive, and his verdict on me was that I am “not the kind of person anyone could ever really love”, so that “training” gets in my way in this new marriage.
    Please pray that I will feel God’s love and assurance, that I can trust my husband as he deserves, and that I can have more charitable thoughts about this woman.

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