Praying God’s Promises

Praying God’s promises — it’s changed me.

That’s why I included a prayer, at the end of each chapter, weaving together Scriptures from that chapter and others I sensed God wanted us to engrave on our hearts.

Praying God’s Word has been one of the most life-changing ways I’ve learned to live in the security of His promises…and isn’t what we all want?

“One way God tells us that confidence will come is when we ask Him for what is already part of His will. ‘This is the confidence which we have before Him, that, if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us’ (1 John 5:14 NASB). So there you go: we can be confident we are praying God’s will when we pray God’s Word!” p.25

But that’s not all.

Romans 10:17 tells us that “faith comes from hearing, and hearing by the word of Christ” so let’s pray these promises out loud again and again.

Out loud. Yes, even if it seems weird. Find somewhere you can be alone and speak these truths to God and let them echo in your heart

Trust me, it makes a difference.

“When we pray God’s words out loud, and hear them, the Holy Spirit engraves them on our hearts and writes them in our thoughts. We internalize God’s truth and our faith grows as we are transformed from the inside out!” p.25

Let’s pray this week’s prayer {together}:

Lord, I pray that You would give me a confident heart in Christ. Take me beyond believing in You to truly believing You. Help me rely on the power of Your promises and live like they are true. You say blessed is the one who trusts in You and whose hope and confidence are found in You. Those who hope in You will not be disappointed, because You work all things together for good for those who love You and are called according to Your purpose.

When self-doubt tells me I can’t overcome my insecurities, I will believe Your promise that all things are possible to whoever believes. I will not throw away my confidence, because You say it will be richly rewarded. I will persevere so that when I have done the will of God, I will receive what You have promised. My confidence is in Christ and I am no longer one who shrinks back and is destroyed, but one who believes and is saved! In Jesus’ name, Amen.  {See Jeremiah 17:7; Isaiah 49:23; Romans 8:28; Mark 9:23; Hebrews 10:35–36, 39}


A Song of Prayer

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About Renee

Renee Swope is a Word-lover, story-teller, heart-encourager and grace-needer. She's also a wife, mom, friend, daughter and author of A Confident Heart, a Retailers Choice Award winning book that became a best-seller and has been published in six languages, with over 150,000 copies sold. Renee is speaks around the country at women's events and and serves on the writing team for DaySpring’s inCourage blog. For twenty years, Renee served in leadership at Proverbs 31 Ministries and as former co-host of the ministry's radio program, “Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee.


  1. Katie Purcell says:

    How blessed to sit on a rainy afternoon and listen to such beautiful music and be still with the Lord, pondering the verses from today.
    Must say, my favorite page in the book so far has been page 55…..have told several other friends who are doing the study too, you have to read page 55.

    • I’m dancing for the Lord on a lake of ice in my bare feet. My dress is silver chiffon, and as I spin around endlessly, my skirt flows and whirls with me. I smile with each turn, for I know that Jesus is watching with
      great pleasure. He whispers to me from the banks, “You dance so beautifully, my precious child, and I love
      you so.” And my smile grows, and tears stream down my face, to know that my Savior loves me. And I leap
      across the ice with great joy, with my toes pointed for the heavens. And then He whispers to me, “But, even
      if you couldn’t dance, I would still love you so…” And I stop leaping, and I stand facing away from Him, my
      back arched and my arms at my side. “Did I hear Him correctly? Did I understand Him to say, I don’t have to
      be a ‘human doing’ for Him to love me?” I can hardly believe my ears! I turn in place and I want to run to Him and jump in His lap! But, He is nowhere to be found. Ah, yes, He is in my heart…forevermore.

      • Beautiful thoughts Leslie!

        • Leslie, that gave me chills! Beauty from ashes…

          • Yes, like Sherry said…Beauty from Ashes.. I am trying to restrain my tears at my desk at work~Very beautiful. I really felt hopeless this morning after a night of hardly any sleep (over a situation going on)…and to the point where I doubt my salvation because I am so stuck in my anxiousness and fear. I know that everyday we have is a learning process…I hate feeling so stuck in a rut almost everyday on things. I am glad that I am a part of this study.

          • Andrea Lopez says:

            Amy – your words “I am so stuck in my anxiousness and fear” really struck a chord with me. I too have been feeling this lately and it scares me because if I call myself a believer, why do I feel like this? Thank you for showing your heart – you are not alone. This song of prayer is just so peaceful to be me – healing water for my soul. Thank you Rene for posting it.

      • That is beautiful Leslie!!!
        Thank you for sharing!

        • Lesa herring says:

          I just think of the many names of God.Emmanuel, is whose presence I felt.

          • Thank you Leslie. I think on my path of following Jesus, I went from a “doing machine” before knowing Christ to a “being machine” (just wanting to pray, read and meditate in all my spare time) after encountering Him. And maybe I have gotten out of balance in the other way and/or are afraid of going back to being that “doing” person. Your message reminds me that I can glorify God in the doing as well as in simply being his child.

            God certainly pushed me out of my comfort zone this year by placing me in a demanding secular job where I often feel cut off from His presence due to the pace, culture and values of my workplace. My prayer today, for myself and everyone, is that I can learn to better integrate these two ways of worshiping and serving. Thank you again for this insight.

      • How Beautiful Leslie !! I REALLY love this Bible Study and am also doing the Made to Crave study. I really need both of these studies right now. I am divorced and Remarried w 11 yr old Boy/ Girl twins from my previous marriage. My ex husband is Really filling their heads and having them Reak havvock in our home My husband and I are praying and trying everything we can to keep the chaos under control We have given an ultimatum Shape up or they must go live w father Of course this is not what me nor my husband want but they need to know that we r in control not them Unfortunately they r in control at father’s house I know if they did go w father, they would be destroyed I know the Devil is preying on them, especially their father and my Son We really need prayers and I need faith that God is in control Thank You I am praying for all of u also God Bless Tara

        • Lakecia Harris says:

          Tara…stay strong in the lord and the power of his might! Clearly the enemy is attacking your family. Pray the scriptures faithfully over your girls. See them as God sees them. Continue to show them love and affection and don’t allow them to push your buttons. God has won the battle for you! Be encouraged 🙂

          • Lakecia. Thank You So Much for the encouraging words. The Devil is trying to get to us, bit God is All Powerful and I know he is with is. I know God led me to these Bible Studies and to all u Wonderful Ladies. God Bless U and all the Bible Study Ladies

        • Tara, My prayers are with you sister. It is extremely tough when you have children from a previous marriage. I have two step sons that didn’t have any respect for me nor our home and we had to do the same thing to one of them. We sat him down, gave him the rules and told him how much we loved him and that he either had to abide by our rules or he would have to go live with his mom. She never helped the situation either, they were told from the beginning they didn’t have to mind me, I was not their mother. Needless to say, he went to live with his mom, and even today there is a strain on the relationship and he is now 21. But at some point you have to bring peace to your home. God bless you and just like Lakecia I believe this enemy is attacking more families than ever before. I pray a hedge of protection around your home, your children’s mind, you relationship and your marriage. Put up an imaginary cross in between you and whatever the enemy tries to attack and speak out loud that he will have to come through the cross first. Prayers to you friend. Kristie

          • Tara, I feel your pain. I too am going through extremely difficult times in our family with a stepson. Things are causing my marriage to fall apart with no communication or quality family time. I too am in need of a house of peace. I have come closer to God in the past few years because of many family and marital issues. This study is hopefully bringing me back the confidence, peace and reliance on God that I desperately need. I want to transform myself into the Jesus Girl that God created me to be, I just haven’t known how. I pray that we all will find these things during this study and while I hate that you are in turmoil also, it is comforting to me to know it is not just me.

        • Tara – Stay strong in the Lord!! Because you are striving to be closer than ever to Jesus, Satan is feeling threatened and attacking. I am also doing the MTC at the same time as this one and really finding they tie in nicely together. Prayers and hugs out to you and your family. God’s got this!! 🙂

        • Tara-Divorce is tough on everyone involved. I have been through a simular situation, and I am sorry you are going through this. Satan dosen’t attack those he already had, but he attacks those that are a threat to him. Give your children totally to God…what better place to have them?? Even when things seem totally out of control, He is still there, walking w/ you. He tells us “Cast all your cares upon Me, because I careth for you.”
          Be encouraged by the scripture,”Bring up a child in the way he should go, and they will not depart from it”. The Holy Spirit will suround your children. Stay steadfast in His word, put your trust Him in in all times, know that he has a plan and a purpose, and praise Him always…, your sister in Christ, karen

          • Tara: I’ve been throught a similar situation some 14 years ago. I remarried and my 13yr.old son would not obey us at all. After quite some time we told him he had to obey or go live with his father. He would not obey and we had to have him go live with his father. It was the most heartbreaking thing I could go through. My son ended up in jail twice. He’s 27 now and has 2 beatiful children and has really turned his life around. We have a good relationship now. He is still not walking with the Lord but I know one day he will. Our God is faithful and always with us. He is with you and will get you through this. Don’t let your children walk all over you. They will always come back if you yourself are walking in obedience. I pray for you now.

        • I was in a situation similar to yours many years ago. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I have a framed picture that has the “Footprints in the Sand” poem on it. It reminded me then that God was with me always.There will be days that nothing makes sense and you feel abandonned by God, but keep verses in your heart that will help you through. Look at Psalm 25, verses 1 through7. He will be with you always!

        • Jodi Volquartsen says:

          Tara, this prayer is for you.
          Dear El-Channum (gracious God), I pray for Tara & her family right now! I pray that Your ultimate power of peace & comfort will fall on them right now. I pray as they raise these twins in Your Word, that it would not return void. Work Holy Spirit in these children & her ex. Stir their heart toward You. Show Tara that You are El Hanne ’eman (The Faithful God), El Shaddai (All-Sufficient God), Jehovah Jireh (The Lord who provides), Jehovah Shammah (The Lord who is there for them), & the Jehovah Shalom (the Lord of Peace)! Work a mighty miracle in this precious family. I ask this in Jesus Name! AMEN
          Be blessed this week Tara & keep teaching and sharing Jesus to your kids (& ex) ,oh and yeah, if you have to – use words.

        • Tara – I am in a similar situation. I have 2 of my own children that live with their father during the week and are with my husband and I on ther weekends and holidays/school breaks. Their father was very bitter from the divorce (plus has OCD and anger issues) and placed the children in the middle of things far too often. However – Praise the Lord – he has reformed his attitiude because…and this part gives me chills…both of my children have accepted the Lord while attending Church with my husband and I. Because of THEIR witness, their father is starting to see things differently and is much more reasonable in dealing with them and in his interactions with me.

          I also have a 17-year old stepson who is an avid atheist and openly argues with my husband about faith. He believes it is akin to mental illness. However, we have “made” him attend youth group as a contigent to getting his driver’s learner permit. He has bonded with our Youth Pastor and we are praying that the devil’s hold on him will be released soon.

          I wil pray for your precious children to learn by your example and for you and your husband to be surrounded by Godly counselors who can offer guidence.

          • I have a 20-year-old son, Dillon, who has abandoned his faith, since he went away to college. He thinks his life is perfect and that he is the one controlling it. Dillon is a great kid, getting good grades and having made his own decision not to drink or smoke. But, I have to pray every day that he will come back to his faith…and plant seeds intermittently.

            As far as what touched me the most in Chapter 2, my childhood was a carbon copy of Renée’s, in terms of my relationship with my father. Just like her, I thought if I got the best grades, did everything as perfectly as possible, he would finally love me…but, he didn’t. I actually labored under the assumption that perfect was an option! When I grew up, I even majored in his field of work, Marketing. As a result of my need to be perfect, I had a severe eating disorder in my 20’s, which plagues me to this day in the form of distorted body concept. I would give just about anything to get to the point where my body doesn’t dictate my self-worth. Anyone else deal with this? As a child, my concept of God was, just like Renée, made in the image of my father. i saw Him as unapproachable, judgmental, unloving and inaccessible. I am so blessed to be able to say today that my Father in heaven is my Abba Daddy! He is loving, compassionate and there for me whenever I need Him.

      • Leslie……how beautiful. Your words are exactly the way I feel. Thank you so much for sharing.

      • Kimberly Stiver says:

        I am visualizing what you said. Absolutely beautiful!

      • Oh my goodness Leslie … what a beautiful metaphor you painted with your words … I could shut my eyes and see the whole scene and God’s arms reaching down to help you float along that lake … thank you for sharing.

      • Absolutely wonderful..brought tears to my eyes as I read…to think, He loves us that much! It is hard to grasp, when we as humans love so conditionally. May I learn to love, “in spite of”, as He loves me!

      • Wow! What beautiful picture you painted with this message. To know that He loves and cares for us that much. God is so good.
        Thanks for sharing.

      • Merrie Ickes says:

        That is so beautiful! I was right there with you.

      • Phyllis says:

        hey leslie! I want to say I love your picture that you painted for us about jesus watching you dance. I want that picture. I am totally blind and it’s harder for me to sit still and visual. Sometimes, I try to hard and it doesn’t work. i’m going to try to hear the music again, and when I hear it, I’m going to dance, and then, Picture Jesus. I’m going to physically dance and then picture him that way ssee if that will work I’ll let you know!

      • Phyllis says:

        hey, Leslie remember me. I responded to your post yesterday. I’m the one who is blind totally blind. I was saying what a beautiful picture you painted of Jesus watching you when you dance. I said I wanted that picture! So right after I responded to your post, i put the music on and got up and danced and then, was able to picture Jesus easier when I actually got up and danced, now whenever there is pauses in the music, I really sense God speaking to my heart to tell me to be still and I think of psalm 46 be still and know that I am God Now this mornign, i put on the music again, I was struggling with a situation. i couldn’t relax about it. God was telling me to relax. I had the music on and was crying, and god was saying to me let everything out and I felt better after! Crying is Good Now, I need some help. I just got a great e-mail from you Renee about getting your book for free! Wow. I would like to download it. I think your book is a p.d.f. file, and is there any way I can get it in to a word file. Remember, in past posts, I was talking about my computer with the speech program that by using key stroke commands, i can do almost anything! Now like any computer, it sometimes doesn’t do what I want. I don’t know how to go about downloading a free Kindle. I don’t even know what a kindle is! I would love to be able to participate in this free opportunity! I would love to have this book on my computer! I’m praying for God to send someone to help me on such short notice. I got a great idea to ask here for help! I hope someone can help me to give me suggestions on how to go about downloading a free kindle so that i can download the book and if the book is in a word file, that I need to know two! I hope someone can help! I am going to have faith! Thank you Renee! this study is so cool for me! God is really using this study to challenge me to spend time with him! Renee, I want to tel you back in chapter one, when you were talking about ways that you spend time with god and encourageing us, I want to say, I loved the picture you painted about having lunch with the Lord! I tried it today! No radio! which I love my music I tried it today no radio! nothing just peace! and I loved it! thnaks! you are such an encouragement! and I love reading all the comments, as I read the comments, God is really speaking to my heart and he is challenging me to open to him about all the fears i’ve been hiding! Thank you! everyone
        ! I’ve never attended a study like this before! Thank you!

    • After reading this again this morning. I began thinking to myself how well it is fitting into my life right now. I have had a hard decision to make this week and confidence played a tremendous part in making a choice, I had to pray that God gave me the confidence to make an honest and fatithful choice to go to inpatient treatment or not to go. I didn’t believe in myself and making the right choice and without the help of prayers and many talks with God I couldn’t of made the right choice or had the confidence that I could make it through the program.. But just after this week and many prayers it gave me the confidence to do so. Thank God for the music as well. It helped to calm my nerves alot. Thank you so much Renee also for the feedback..

  2. I can’t think of a specific event growing up where I felt insecure or doubtful of myself.  I was the carefree little girl who would sing at the drop of a hat and ham it up in front of any sized crowd.  I always thought I would grow up to be a singer…but as graduation got closer, the doubts crept in and I chose the safer route.  Instead of pursuing my love of singing and the stage, I studied to become a DCE {a big fancy title for children, youth, and family minister}.  Oh, I still sang and acted, but it became my hobby instead of my passion.  Now, I have a new passion God has put on my heart, but those doubts still call out the same lies, urging me to put the “risky” choice aside and stick with what I know, what is safe.  

    I want to be that woman who exudes confidence.  Who knows just what God is calling her to do next…and what step He is leading her to take, no matter the “risk.”  Above all, I want to seek His heart before my own desires.  He has put a fire in me for a reason; I just don’t know how He wants me to move now.

    <3 Heather

    • Heather,
      I can relate to your post a great deal. I share the same thoughts, hopes, and dreams about living out my passion for God instead of staying in my comfort zone. I will pray for you as I do for myself that God will direct each step and that you will have the faith you need to follow.

      • Heather and Casey,
        My heart is right beside you both. I am so thankful for God’s neverending grace and He is not just our Jehovah but our Abba – gracious heavenly father, especially when we do not have an earthly father to trust or lean on. God’s plans, hopes and dreams for us do not change, even when we move away from them to stay in our comfort zone. I pray we will all live in the Grace and Confidence that He desires for us so that we will step into His plans for us and live in the gifts He has showered us all with. Thank you, Jesus, for Renee and her Confident Heart and obedience to share Your love and heart with us so graciously to help us move with You and not away from you out of fear.

  3. In answering question 4, I wrote in my study journal, that ” Reading God’s Words make me want and crave hope. I know God’s words are truth – but I sometimes (most of the time lately) am afraid I am not good enough for Him to help me.

    Thank you so much for the prayers that lead us to pray His Word. I know that this is most helpful, but I have never been able to figure out how to really feel like I was actually praying His Word. It always felt forced. What you have given us to pray is so calming and not forced at all.
    I do so want the confidence that God has for me. I am believing with all my heart that this study is the way back for me.

  4. Dawn Tuller says:

    I fight insecurity everyday. And no confidence. I’m praying your prayers daily and trying to memorize Jer 17:7

    • Dawn, I’m praying for you. I used to feel like that a lot and with persistence, reaching out and prayer it’s getting better! You are doing such great work just by participating in this Bible study and memorizing the verse. Hebrews 10: 35 “So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded.”

    • Dawn, I feel the same. I am so worried because I have GERD and inspite of taking the Nexium 40mg 2x a day as prescribed by my doctor in Canada , it still come and go. My husband’s job is in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil right now and if possible i don’t want to see a doctor here because of their language, Portuguese, and also medecines here don’t have English translations. We just had our Christmas vacation and my doctor in Canada told me that if it won’t improve , She has to refer me again to my specialist doctor there. Please pray that soon we can go back home. I praise and thank our Lord for Renee for this study and for all of you ladies. I cry out loud the prayer …..

  5. #5. I am my own worst enemy! I let my own low self-esteem and fears get in the way of living with God-confidence. God tells me to put my trust in Him, but life has taught me that trusting people is risky. That people who you trust will let you down and hurt you, time and time again. Do I think God will do this? Heck No! But that doesn’t change my initial reaction. That gut instinct. If I could get out of my own way, and put my trust in Him, truly and completely, I am sure amazing things would start happening. Romans 8:28: “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to HIS purpose.”

    • I too know that God will not hurt me… but I am sometimes not so certain that is true. My head knows (or is it my heart) the truth, but sometimes my heart (or is it the other way around?)

      I am trying to trust and have confidence, but there is so far to go….

      Maybe it’s a “Beth” thing?

      • Beth, I’m right there with you. I know that God loves me and will not hurt me but I have been through so much in the last year I’m having a difficult time totally letting all control go and completely, utterly trusting that He will protect me, not hurt me and wants good things for me. My challenge is having absolute confidence in Him. That is my prayer every day and you will be in my prayers, too! This Bible study and fellowship will be a wonderful, wonderful way for you and I (and sooooo many others)to gain the confidence and hope He desperately wants us to have! I’m so excited to be studying this very topic with all of you.

      • Kimberly Stiver says:


        It’s not a Beth thing, it’s a lot of us, including me. When people learn that I am on dialysis and they ask me why do I not just believe that God will heal my remaining kidney. I don’t know what to say. This week I have learned that God is with us even when we think He is not.

    • I have had low self esteem ever since i can remember. I grew up with an alchoholic father, and that just made it worse. I never wanted to go anywhere or stay with any friends due to my low self body image and worrying that my dad may hurt mom. Even though i was in church and knew God was there…i just couldn’t let go of it all. But finally in 2000, my faith grew stronger. In 2001 mom and i were in a car accident…my esteem went back down hill. I had lacerasions all over my face so i jsut felt i couldn’t even go to church. I was letting satan win. In 2002, i started feeling the nudge to go back …so i did; there wasn’t one person that ever looked at me funny….it was all in my mind. My dad passed at the end of that year. It took all those years for me to forgive him for all the stuff he had done. I am now 45. I have grown tremendously and am so thankful to you Renee and other bible studies that i do. It is because of your loving heart for others that so many people are healing. God has truly blessed you in this area.

      As for the music; i love the piano(even tho i can’t play)…..i felt like i was laying on a blanket under the beautiful sky with puffy clouds…talking with my Lord and Savior.

      • God bless you Jerri, for sharing your heart. You are a blessing as well. Keep on praising the Lord!

      • Jerrie

        I have similiar story. My father is an alcoholic and I have no relationship with him at all. I struggle terribly with many issues. But somehow I have lost all confidence in my self and continuously dooubt myself. I found this book by chance. I believe in Jesus Christ and I know through the Holy Spirit he is guiding me to do this bible study. I thank you for sharing. I look forward to learning about myself and to get to a better place…a place of belief that I am God’s child and that He loves me…

      • Kimberly Stiver says:

        Thank you for sharing. I like how you said that thinking others would look at you funny and when you went back to church they welcomed you.
        Today I went to a church for the first time in a very long time. The service was over being who we are in God and coming as we are.
        I see that you are coming as you are and you are being the woman God wants you to be.

    • Mary Ann Alexander says:

      I can relate to being my own worst enemy. I have often let past insecurities get to me and have carried them with me through my adult years. I was never good enough for my mother as a child so she left me when I was 8 years old. It fell upon my young shoulders to care for my three brothers..ages 7, 2 and 12 months. I was sexually molested as a young child at the age of 7 by a neighbor. He was the husband of my mother’s best friend. Of course she did nto believe me so I was scolded for lying.

      I was afraid to love anyone for fear that they would leave. I was fiercely protective of my brothers and woudn’t let my step-mother near them. I didn’t want them to be hurt if she should leave us too for not being “good.”

      I carried that with me through my school years and on into my married life. I was abused by my ex-husband and I thought I deserved that. I tried to be the perfect daughter (failed), the perfect sister (my baby brother committed suicide and I thought he would still be around if I was “good”), the perfect wife (failed), the perfect mother (failed–other wise my oldest son would have still been with me instead of going to live with his father at the time of our divorce), etc. It took me a long time to realize that I am NOT perfect and the things that happened to me were beyond my control. I feel that all of these things have made me into the person that I am today. I still suffer from insecurities but I am slowly working on that. I take it one day at a time and I know longer play the victim. I am the VICTOR!!!! Is my heart confident-not quite but each day, I strive for that feeling of feeling good about myself and who I am and what I believe. Each day, I try not to allow anyone to take that from me. God made me in his image, so I must be okay.

      As I sat typing and listening to the piano music in the background, I felt this incredible peace settle within myself. Within my heart. My face relaxed, my shoulders relaxed, the pain and tenseness in my neck was lessening and if I sat here with my eyes closed I felt as if I were back in my safe place-the beach back home and I could feel the waves rolling into shore. The peace and serenity that everything was okay in my world. I could sense the beauty and the power of the waves. The glow of the sun setting upon the water as God was slowly tucking the sun in and the moon was taking it’s place.

      With the turmoil and the storms that have engulfed me and my family this past year, this feeling is wonderful.

      • Mary Ann,
        Thanks for sharing your heart and the pain of your past. You are so right that God made us in His image. Keep truly believing that and trusting in Him daily!

      • Debbie Butler says:

        Mary Ann,
        Thank you for sharing. Insecurities are so the enemy. While I flux between confidence and insecurities, I too remember I am made in His image. I often read, write, and journal Ephesians 2:10. “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.”. (NLT). I often still myself, and think, we are His masterpiece…… powerful.

      • Andrea Hernandez says:

        Mary Ann,

        Thank you so much for sharing. I too had a difficult childhood with my mom. Only, she didn’t leave, but she was never really there. She really disliked my dad and was always sad. I thought it was normal to be sad all of the time. I became her counselor and friend. She would tell me she never wanted kids. I remember at 5 years old wanting to lay in bed and cry all day. I too was molested as a kid by a neighbor, but never told anyone because I didn’t think my mom would do anything about it. For a few years, I was so close with God, but this past year has tried me more than anything. My grandma died in April (she was more of a mom to me), my dad died in June, and another close family member died in November. I feel so alone sometimes, my dad was really the only parent I had. I guess I’m healing from my broken childhood. I’m tired of feeling like I have to be the perfect child who can handle everything. I always dreamed that my mom would be a mom to me. That she would tell me I was wonderful for who I was, not for what I accomplished. In my heart, I know it will never happen. I’m just struggling to find out now who I really am. The person God meant for me to be. I, too, am deeply in need of this study. Thank you Renee. Thank you for helping all of us see and know who God truly is and the healing he provides.

        The music is beautiful. I too am a pianist and sometimes don’t want to be because my mom is also.

        • Andrea and Mary Ann, My heart breaks for both of you. The one thing I can pass on from what I’ve learned is that forgiveness is the key. Whether you feel like it or not, make a conscious effort to forgive them. God will help you. He’s called us to forgive others as He’s forgiven us. The feelings will come in time, but the forgiveness needs to take place for it to all start. I’m praying for you both!

          • Natalie L says:

            God is our perfect parent. He is everything we long for in our earthly parents. He can fill all of the holes and dark places in our hearts. We just need to ask Him to come in to those places and fill us with His light. It is so hard to not get what we long for from our earthly parents, but they are not perfect. We are all full of sin. We can let God become that perfect parent and ask Him to give us all of the things we need and are searching for. He delights in us! He loves us! He is Perfect! I will be praying for you!!! Much love to you both!!!!

      • Your situation sounds similar to my mom’s & trust me when I say that there’s if there’s anything I want more than my own confident heart, it’s for my mom to have a confident heart as well. You are loved and precious in His sight. Thank you for sharing.

    • Beth R.,

      I totally understand where you are coming from. I’m in the process of learning to trust GOD as well. We just have to remember that GOD is not like man, and HIS aim is not to harm us, but to give us LIFE and not just LIFE but an ABUNDANT LIFE. In order for us to fully trust GOD we have to ignore our feelings and lean on HIS WORD (This takes faith….and remember…without faith it is impossible to please GOD). We have to believe what the WORD says about who GOD is and what HIS character is like. Once we learn to trust GOD, GOD will give us the discernment we need to know who we can and who we can’t trust.

  6. #4/#5 Those who hope in Me will not be disappointed. Isa 49:23. People disappoint us, but God never will. And He sees our disappointment when it happens, how it happened, and why it happened. I can trust His Word in Psalm 18:16-36 , that “He will recompense me according to my righteousness” (I just may have to start praying those promises even now :>). He is my strong defense and my shelter of protection, and He has never failled to be.

    So probably to live confidently I should take Renee’s advice and begin praying/speaking out loud those promises over my life and over this “situation” today. I’ll cast this burden upon the shoulder of God’s Word and let the power of the Word do the work, producing faith each time I hear it. Time to cast down some arguements.

    • Peace – a confident heart would mean peace like this music. I think this would help me feel peace and confidence.

    • Psalm 18: 30…The Word of the Lord is PROVEN….He is a shield to all who trust in Him. My translation: Trust in His Word, and He’ll prove it to ya. How I love my GOD!!!

    • self-doubt, low self-esteem—this is my life thru your book and thru God i am trying to lead a more confident life. Thru years of emotional and mental abuse, I have self destructed. When I thought it was all behind me it blew up in my face again. I am finding that by reading the word of God and by trusting in him, I do better, but I want more. I want to be with a confident heart, I want to drink in God’s love and grace. I want to throw it all to him and trust that he will take care of me. I love my God, now I want to just know how to do more with it?!?!
      The music was ablsolutely heavenly, so much peace thank you for sharing

      • Kimberly Stiver says:

        Amen! I like that you said that you find that reading God’s word more and by trusting in him, you do better. I also like how you said you want more. To me because you said you want more you are on the path of being a confident woman in Christ. You are an inspiration to me and wanting me to strive to be the woman God wants from me.

  7. Patty Skaggs says:

    I love the prayer at the end of chapter 1. It is my prayer for the ‘new thing’ God has called me to do this spring. I have printed it out and placed it in my journal to read often and claim God’s promises.
    Question # 6. I would describe a woman with a confident heart as one who has great joy in the Lord and great freedom in the Lord.

  8. 4. I feel so good when I think of Isa. 49:23 “Those who hope in me will not be disappointed.”

    5. What hinders me most is “I can’t do this” & “Things will never change”

    I have “allowed” the actions of humans to keep me from having a confident heart. I love this study. I am keeping my eye of the sparrow.

    As I was listening to Chad Lawson play it was as if I was hearing my father (God) say “Susan, I am here, relaxed and enjoy our dance.” It feels good.

  9. #1 & #2 i can remeber being 10 years old and active in girl scouts. i was working on achieve my song writing badge. When it came time to share what I had written with the rest of the troop, I panicked thinking … “They’re gonna laugh and make fun of me i can’t do this. i’m scared.” So needless to say I never achieved that badge, nor any badge that required individual effort. I loved badges that we got for working as a group, but I always lacked in the self confidence needed to just do it on my own. If I have to do it on my own i just don’t bother. A good idea is just that. I have always been imprisoned by my own insecurity.

  10. #5 – I believe the fear of failure hinders me most from living with God-confidence on a cosistent basis…BUT He is doing a NEW thing! He is making a way in the wilderness AND rivers in the desert!!! Praise the Lord! Right now I am learning the piano…last night was my 2nd practice…when I first got there I was almost in tears. I truly felt that it wasn’t going to do me any good to even try…I would never get it. Guess what? I decided to press through and before I left there, I was pretty much playing an entire worship song!!!! Praise the Lord!

    Renee, thank you so much for this book and this study…God has already began doing amazing things through it for me!

    In Him, Tasha

    • I struggle with fear of failure also…..I also know that failure is what others think not God. Fear does not come from God… is from Satan. Hope I can get past the fear. Or maybe my fear is only coming from me and not what others think. Does that make sense?

      • Yes That makes sense! 🙂 I have also been having to remind myself that we are to be God pleasers, not man pleasers!

    • Christine says:

      Tasha…….I understand fear well and feel like I am finally starting to overcome it. What helps me most is realizing God does not want me to have a spirit it of fear and it is not from him. When I feel afraid, I tell myself “God didn’t give this to you, He doesn’t want you to be afraid”. It does help!! : )

    • Tasha, way to go on the piano lessons! I always wanted to learn to play when I was young but never had the opportunity. I still think about it from time to time. I think it is awesome and you are rockin’ it!! Good for you!!

    • Kimberly Stiver says:

      You keep pressing through! Before you know it you will be able to play a lot of worship songs! I agree with Sherry, you are rocking it!
      I used to play the piano when I was young, but got away from it. I feel that God wants me to start again.
      Where do you get your lessons? I am going to look into getting lessons in my area.
      Thank you for sharing this with us.

  11. 4.Describe what happens when you read God’s Word.
    a. Those who Hope in me will not be disappointed Isa:49:23….Lightheartedness comes over me.
    b. See, I am doing a new thing…..Isa:43:19……I feel fresh and renewed.
    c.And we know that in all things, God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His prupose Rom 8:28…..I feel I am needed and improtant
    d. All things are possible to (her) who believes Mark 9:23….I feel hopeful
    All these scripture are uplifting and give me a light and open feeling. No darkness here.
    And this music is so beautiful……

  12. 5. The thing that hinders me most from living with God-confidence on a consistent basis is not spending enough time with the LORD and I therefore give in to the negative. The verse that really speaks to me is “Those who hope in me will not be disappointed” (Isaiah 49:23)

    6. A woman with a confident heart would be someone who is in communion with the Lord on a consistent basis. She would be joy filled and at peace.

  13. To me, A woman with a confident heart knows the Lord with every fiber of her being. She knows who she is in Christ. She trusts her decisions and believes what she is doing is good and right because she is directed by the Holy Spirit. She loves to help others and knows she is doing her best. God is her refuge and she lives in the stronghold of God. It is her home. Thank you for asking that question. It has made me think of the kind of woman I want to be.

  14. I am hindered by voices from the past and past failures; I lack confidence because I have tried many times and failed, but I have started to notice more of a difference in my life when I read scriptures. “See, I am doing something new!”

  15. 6. A woman with a confident heart knows she is fully loved by God and is free to look “foolish” in the eyes of the world…for His Names sake–She is a woman of courage and faith.

  16. Question 1: My earliest memory of feeling insecure/doubting myself. When did I not?! My dad left us when I was only 2 1/2 and that left me feeling very insecure about everything, esp separation from my mom. I cried every day the first week of school…so much that they had a high school girl come into the class and let me sit on her lap. 🙁

    Question 2: YES! 🙂

    Would love to win a CD. Beautiful song!

  17. Holly Fleener says:

    My respons to question # 4 – When I read those scriptures, I feel hope rising up in my heart. I am reminded that God will never fail me and that I have new things to look forward to. I’m reminded that God can take whatever happens in my life (my mistakes, difficult circumstances, trials, etc.) and redeem them to bring about good. I’m reminded that absolutely nothing is impossible with God. So, in my heart I begin to more clearly understand and see that if I put my confidence in Him, I have no reason to doubt or shrink back.

    Thanks, Renee for sharing this beautiful prayer song. Recently my daughter and I have been spending time in a homeschool day just playing instruments and singing whatever is in out heart to the Lord. What a precious time with the Lord when we can just bask in His love and worship Him from our heart using our voices and musical instruments. God is so good! I love Him so much and thank Him for you and what He’s doing in you and all the other women’s lives that you are touching.

  18. #4 Romans 8: 28 “and we know in all things god works for the good of those who love him, who have
    been called according to his purpose” speaks to me. I have to remind my self and trust gods word.
    God works “in all things” not just isolated incidents for our good. I have to remember that it doesn’t
    mean all that happens is good, evil is prevalent in our fallen world. But faith in god reminds me that he can turn every circumstance areo

  19. Renee! I am so excited to open your emails with a new surprise each day! I can;’t wait to see what special message of learning you have to share. THAT makes me want to share too!

  20. Sorry!
    around for our long range good.

  21. Sarah Sucher says:

    I’m in my office, snow is coming down in Chicago and listening to the piano music makes me feel as if I’m in a Holy Spirit filled snowglobe. Praise be to God for He is good and in THIS place, in MY heart and in Him I am free. Let it snow, let it snow, let it snow! This is the day that the Lord has made, thank you to Chris for such a lovely blessing on my snow filled winter wonderland day at work. ~ Sarah

    • You are so right!!! LOL, it’s great looking out the window at the snow listening to this music. God is so good. He is true to his promises. I look forward to getting that into my heart and not just my head.

  22. I find my self getting distracted with everyday life things. I have printed our the memory verse and have repeated out loud during the day. I long to believe God and the promises he makes us not just to believe in him. I never thought about it that way before thank you for repeating that and praying that.

  23. Judy Lowe says:

    I have been walking with the Lord a very long time and have done things I never thought I would be able to do, just by focusing on what the Lord says. Now a very difficult time has come where the odds are way way against me and my circumstances that are completely impossible in most people’s eyes, but with God all things are possible. The timing of your study coupled with the “impossible circumstances” remind me to latch onto His word even more, depend on Him more and renew my trust in Him that He is my only hope. As it says in the Amplified Bible in Hebrews: faith is perceiving as fact that which is not revealed to the senses. That is true faith! Thank you for hearing Him!

  24. I feel a stillness and a peace.

    Jessie Warner

  25. I have early childhood memories of being told not to try out for things because I was not going to make it or be able to complete the task because it would be too hard for me. And because of this now as an adult there are projects or events that I will not due because I do not think that I can do them or am worthy of attending. I think that I am not worthy sometimes to live with God-confindence afriad that I will disappoint God for the way that I am.
    But when I read isaiah 49:23 (the last part): Then you will know that I am the Lord. Anyone who trust in me will not be disappointed.

  26. A woman with a confident heart knows that God has her back, that no matter what “it” will all work out. God will turn dark into light. A woman with a confident heart will speak what God is prompting and he will give the words that need to be spoke and/ or give what is needed at that time.

  27. The music is sooooooooo incredibly anointed and peaceful…. Thank you for sharing…. I love it.
    Question #1 – I don’t ever remember feeling confident or secure……. 🙁
    Question #5 – what hinders me from living a God-confident life consistently is that I know what the Word says, I just doubt it will be so for me… I have prayed prayers that have gone unanswered for so very long and feel a lot of times I have been overlooked by God or I missed out somehow without knowing how I did. I feel very unimportant and powerless.

    • Hey Jean; I love your honesty.. I too feel the same way you do… I know that God is awesome, I know He is there, however after praying and praying and not having the prayer answered makes me wonder too if I am doing something wrong in my journey. I still feel HIS blessings in my life, but the areas I need HIM most to show up, I seem to be missing HIM… I will pray for you right now!!

      • Jean, I too feel this way many times. However I think that God has his own time in answering prayers and sometimes he has to wait for us to ask for what he wants us to have. I know it an be very frustrating but my two favorite sayings are :let go let God and God is in control” !

        • Interesting…we talked about this very thing this morning in SS. One of the ladies shared years ago about infertility & how God changed her prayer and her heart from please let me conceive to Lord, help me accept your will even if it means I will never have children. It really got my attention. I’m praying for a godly husband and He keeps giving me Ruth 3:18. My natural born tendency is to take matters in my own hands and make things happen and move on to something else but through this, He is teaching me to be still and let him work it out. He and I have been wrestling the thing out for months now and just last week he said to me – Cease striving and know that I am God. My prayer is changing to Lord, you know I want a man who is sold out to Jesus – lock, stock, and barrel. Lord, help me to accept your will, say yes to you no matter what it is, submit this desire to you, and lay it at the foot of the cross. I know it’s not really about me Lord, it’s about you. I’ve learned during this time that He wants to be my first love….I have grown more over the past 6 months than anytime I can recall in my journey.

  28. #6 a Woman with a confident heart…one who does not measure herself by herself or compare herself. She truly knows that she is a child of God’s and can accept herself the way God created her…in His image. She has discovered her spiritual gifts and is using them for the glory of God. She knows she will fail and struggle but through the power of God, she gets up again and tries again.

    Thank you, Renee for your love, prayers and valuable resources!!

  29. First of all, the music is incredible! I want so much to just lie down on the floor and let it wash over me; I want to get lost in the beauty of it. Secondly, I must share that I actually DID listen to the Lord’s voice on Christmas Day and was soooo richly and amazingly blessed. At 10:45 AM, with just my elderly mother and I in the house for a little while, I was upstairs in my bathroom trying to “fluff and puff” a bit before the rest of the family arrived and was prompted to go look out of the skylight in the bathroom. How odd!….so I ignored it. Until the prompting came again moments later. I walked to the skylight, looked up, and there in a totally cloudless, blue sky was a RAINBOW. How could it be?! Was it some kind of prism effect from moisture on the glass? No. I ran downstairs to share the news with my mom; ran back upstairs and stood there in awe, watching it until it slowly dissolved. A Christmas miracle! A beautiful reminder of His presence…His Gift. What a GIFT!!! What I would have missed had I not listened! “Be still, and know that I am God.”

  30. Chad’s music is so peaceful. Made me simply stop..and breathe. Something I don’t do often enough.

    I can’t remember a time when I didn’t doubt myself or have feelings of insecurity. Even as a child I just felt like I never fit in; like I was on the outside looking in. My self doubts have kept me from doing many things over the years although I have gotten better at pushing through them the last several years.

  31. Christina R says:

    The music brings me peace and helps me to focus.

    In answering Q #1: Insecurity and doubt are two of the earliest feelings I remember having.

    Q#5: Isaiah 43:19 Behold, I will do a new thing, Now it shall spring forth; Shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.

    Mark 9:23 Jesus said to him, “If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes.”

  32. That was the best I have felt all week…just sitting and listening and waiting on God to direct me. Chad has a wonderful talent. I’m sure everyone that listen to his music felt the Lord with them.

    #2 Has insecurity ever kept you from doing something? OH Yes, all the time. I wanted to be a cheerleader in high school but was afraid to try-out was afraid someone would make fun of me. Then my senior year in school I was working in a hospital and wanted to be a nurse but I was afraid I couldn’t do that. Now, I want to buy a business and I am afraid to step out and do it. But now have someone that is bigger than anyone that will help me. I have been praying that if it is meant to be that the Lord will open the doors for me. I know that doesn’t mean I won’t have any troubles, but I know that the Lord will not put more on me than I can stand. That is His word.

  33. What hinders me from living a God confident life is simply fear! I spend way too much time in the shadow of doubt. It is so paralyzing that I can’t even make decisions sometimes. I doubt myself so much more than anyone else has ever done. Other people have confidene in me but I don’t have it in myself. I fear I won’t live up to the expectations. I don’t want to disappoint anyone. I want everyone to get along and be happy : ))So, the promise that speaks to me right now is “…those who hope in me will not be disappointed” Isaiah 49:23b. Thank you Renee for sharing what God has put on your heart and enabling us to share it here. Thank you Chad Lawson for playing God’s music. He’s the most incredible artist, isn’t he? 🙂

  34. I recently spent some time in prayer asking God what was blocking me from fulfilling his desire for my life. The words that came to me were “Not enough.” It struck me with such force it brought tears to my eyes. That was exactly enough. I have been stuck in a rut of thinking I am not enough – not doing enough, not being enough, always falling short. It is a miserable place to be and has been blocking me from receiving his joy. I asked God what I needed to do and sensed the word “patience”. I’m trying to step back. To be more mindful and live in each moment fully. I can’t say I always succeed, but at least I have a starting point. Chad’s beautiful song will be a wonderful backdrop for some much needed quiet time. Thank you.

    • I can so relate to this Jill! I recently realized that in both my personal and professional life I suffer from “not enough” syndrome. I’m not quite good enough at my job, I’m not quite as good a wife or mom as I should be, and I definitely am “not enough” of a housekeeper! The only thing I am good enough at is cooking/baking, and that’s just made me fluffy, so I’m also not thin enough! I would love to be one of the godly women in my church that I so admire, exuding the peace and beauty of Christ – showing that they KNOW him so well. However, having grown up in a hypocritical, and critical, church (and hating the hypocrisy), I feel like I can’t speak out to people I know about my faith because then, when I am not perfect at some point (say about 2 minutes from any given time! lol), I will be being one of those hypocritical people who so turned me off growing up. I don’t want to be the cause of turning anyone off on Christ. The problem is, this same feeling of not being enough is preventing me from turning anyone ON to Christ. I have been praying and trying to show Christ in my daily life wherever I can, without worrying about being good enough. I will continue to pray that both of us may find our “good enough” in Him!

    • Thanks for sharing – it reminded me of last week when He asked me – Sherry, am I enough? Yes, Lord, you are enough & I’m sorry for acting like you aren’t!

  35. Chad’s song is the still of listening – a peace we all search for. I could listen all day. Thank You for sharing this song. Beautiful Peace of our Lord!

  36. Authorine says 1-20-12

    Question#1 My first year in high school.
    A women with a confident heart, she is a strong women with hope and believe in the Words of God,knowming
    that God has her in his hand and will see her through her situation.

  37. I have struggled all day with conflicting thoughts…Letting go of old thought processes is tough. Listening to music helps soothe my soul, I so need to believe God’s truths, as that is what will set me free. My head knows, let’s get it to my heart! One of the questions was our earliest memory of feeling insecure, I don’t remember a time I have not felt insecure. From being the last one picked to play a game in grade school, to having no dates in high school and the list goes on. I am so tired of feeling alone, afraid, unknown…I long to feel God’s arms around me and the security that goes with it. I am tired of always trying to please others with what I do or say…I need to focus on God’s truths and promises. I am trying but been a tough day.

    • Kim, I can honestly say I know how you fell. The girl you described was me!! I am married with children and grandchildren now, and I still suffer with those same emotions. I know in my head God’s promises, His truth’s and His word. I need in my heart. I need to feel him reach down and hold me and the security that he promises. I need it in m heart now. I am praying this study helps me gain just that!

      The music was absolutely peaceful, beautiful and brings peace to my heart and soul. Thank you for sharing that!

      • Kimberly Stiver says:

        Kim and Linda L.,

        I am praying for both of you right now. I too have been there also. I am so glad that all of us are in this study together. My prayer is that God shows us that despite what we have been through in our lives, He wants us to know that He is there with us always. May God bless you in this study and forever.

    • Kim, I am sorry for the tough day you were having. I understand, as well. I can know it in my head but my heart still hurts so very much. I can’t wait for that day for Him to hold me in His arms… I just need a way to get through this life now.

  38. Charlotte Lennartz says:

    I just want to stay focused on this study and God! I feel if I can do these 2 things slowly but surely my confidence in God will return and then He will take care of my confidence in myself.

  39. Thank you for posting this awesome song As I listened to the music at times I felt as if I was being cradled in God’s arms, other times it’s like running through a field and coming upon a beautiful waterfall.

    A confident woman would walk with her head held high and have poise and grace flow out of her. I long to be this woman. The book and this song are helping me see that it can be a reality for me.

  40. Tonya Ellison says:

    I so needed this today. I’m sitting at my computer wanting to cry! Out three year old son had his tonsils and adenoids removed yesterday morning and since the moment I woke up yesterday I have been a ball of nerves, not only because my baby was going under soon, but because I would be leaving our other two at my moms house on a school night, because I would be leaving my home unattended over night and because my “before surgery” to-do list was far from complete. The surgery went well. My older two were ok. And my house was fine even thought I didn’t remember leaving it that junky. We arrived home to kids who didn’t want to clean their room, medicine that kept wearing off way to quick and with me running off of almost no sleep, and looking forward to a night of waking up every three hours to administer pain meds to my little guy. I was feeling beat, and inadequate. I wanted to curl up in my bed and sleep and cry. I decided to jump online because my mailbox was overflowing. I missed yesterdays post so I went straight to today’s. I love inexpensive things and jumped on the .89 download price. THANK GOD and THANK YOU!!! The sound began coming out of my computer. I think I’m breathing for the first time in 2 days. I thank God for the surgical team’s hands. I thank God for the awesome nursing staff. I thank God for family and friends. I thank God for strength to push forward. I thank God for helping me put my house back in order. And I thank God for peace. I will never be able to check off every box on my before surgery checklist or any other checklist for that matter as long as my confidence is on myself to be the best. I did not place my confidence in the surgeon’s hands yesterday as he was working on my baby. I placed my confidence in God. I’m not going to place my confidence in my hands this next week as my son recovers I’m placing my confidence in God. And this evening when we’re working on our home, my confidence is not to going to be in my family, but in God. To continue to help me as a mother make my house a home for my husband and my kids. Question #4 asked what we felt when reading certain scriptures. Isaiah 49:23 “Those who hope in me will not be disappointed” My hope is in God. My home and life may not be perfect but I am never disappointed. I believe that God gives us things and allows circumstances when we need them. For that I am thankful.
    I am going to put my cloud player on my phone, put my headphones on, play this song again and clean my kitchen.

    • Well stated!! I can relate to all the feelings and anxieties you were feeling.. sometimes I feel that I need to fix everything…but then I am placing my confidence in me and not GOD…then I become very tired and disappointed when I can’t do it all successfully. Thanks for your honesty and I pray your son is feeling well and healing well!! Big Deal for a 3 year old!! But NOTHING too big for our God!! Bless you girl!!

      • Tonya Ellison says:

        I’ve been very “tired and disappointed” lately and my family can feel it as strongly as I can. He is doing better than expected. He’s a tough little guy. 🙂 Thanks.

    • Lakecia Harris says:

      Thanks “Tonya E.” for sharing your heart. I’m also guilty of trusting in myself and wanting to have all the answers and fix things taking my confidence off God and onto myself. We have to trust him with the big things and the little things in our life.

      • Tonya Ellison says:

        It seems easier for me to trust Him in the big things, but it’s the little things that are hard for me to stop trusting my self and trust God. My plan is to take more intentional steps in my days and reach for Him more often.

    • Kimberly Stiver says:


      Thank you! I like how you said in everything you are going to put your confidence in God. Amen!

  41. As I listened to the song I heard God whisper to me, “be still, listen to My Word, and there is Hope!” In question 5 from chapter 1, I think what hinders me most from living with God-confidence in the work place is the feeling that others take charge and have control over what is decided. The promise that speaks to my greatest need right now would be, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to His purpose.”

  42. Kathy Sturgis says:

    The chimes at the beginning sounded like God calling me to come. Rest was the word I heard as the meolody quietly took over and the joy of just leaning back in the strength of the Almighty–my hearts longing)
    In all knowing that his strength was whispering calm cool refreshment as HE always promises. Thank you.

    Kathy Sturgis

  43. My earliest recollection of being insecure was probably at the age of 3. My father died in a car accident and my brother and I were left with my mother who didn’t exactly know how to nurture or embrace us. I suppose that was the beginning of my insecure life.

  44. My 12 year old son was killed 1 1/2 years ago in a tragic accident. He loved Jesus so much and he would worship often by playing the piano – He played both worship songs he knew and songs he just made up. The piano in our home sits mostly in silence since his death. Chad’s music brought it all back – just how much I miss my son’s worship and I don’t think I realized that when my son played I worshiped with him. Chad’s music has settled my heart into worship this afternoon in such a beautiful way, letting go, filling my soul, allowing God to breathe for me.

    God has done a mighty work in me since my son’s death. He has revealed himself intimately and I believe with all my heart in (Rom. 8:28) “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Responding to this post is hard for me. I am very shy and I lack confidence in sharing who I am. I am usually a lurker on blogs, gleaning from others, and yet not feeling confident that I have anything to offer back, that I could encourage other women or that they could learn anything from my experiences.

    #7 Jer. 17:7 But blessed is the one who trusts in the LORD, whose confidence is in him.
    It has been my prayer in the past few weeks that I would truly learn how to hear God’s voice. God has answered and I have recognized his voice. Now I am learning about obedience and that means being confident in my heart that I am hearing him. I have been amazed at the peace I feel when I trust his voice and obey.

    • Bless you girl for sharing that!! Wow, you really have my respect!! I am so glad that you got the confidence to share your testimony!! Very touching!! I think your response will touch many women’s hearts!! It did mine!! Bless you!!

    • Donna Harris says:

      God knows just what we need, even when we don’t. Music often speaks when words won’t tell the wornder or glory of the Lord. God loves you and blessed you with his song. Thank you for sharing from your heart! May God richly bless you!

    • Teresa, I’m so sorry for the loss of your son’s presence and his worship music on the piano. I’m sure this struck a deep chord, but I pray that your sweet testimony and boldness to share (instead of lurk) will be a stepping stone for you and bring healing and minister to others. Thank you for sharing! I am deeply touched…I’m so glad that your prayer to hear God’s voice has been answered and now may you be confident and obey! God bless you and may Chad’s music continue to comfort, bring peace and remembrance that delights your heart as you breathe deeply in God’s presence and your son’s.

    • Kimberly Stiver says:


      You are in my prayers. May God’s peace be with you. I agree with Peggy in saying that I also pray that you will be able to be a help to so many others who are hurting. When you minister to others you are ministering to yourself.

    • Teresa, sweet sister – thank you for sharing. I love how the Lord just meets us where we are and loves on us and gives us intimacy with Him. I just thank Him tonight that He loves us. Press on Sister! There are women that need you!

  45. Listening to the song just made my heart and mind so peaceful! I felt like God was telling me he is here, he is always here and not matter what I am dealing with he will always be here to help me through it! Love piano music! Makes me feel so relaxed!
    Chapter 1 question 1. I remember doubting myself already in grade school. I wanted to be smart, have a lot of friends, be popular and have teachers like me. I feel like I lived so many years of my life being fake. Not being me. Now that I am older I feel I still have a tendency to be fake around some people but I feel lke I am stronger in my Faith and if you can’t like me for who I am then I don’t want you as a friend. It is hard though when you do want to be in a certain group but you just don’t fit in!

  46. Dianne Tonpi says:

    Chad’s song bought peace to my heart and soul. I passed it onto my 29 yr old son who has met Jesus before but when his dad died when he was 14yrs old he has been fighting bitterness,guilt, sorrow and anger for such a long time. He himself is a pianist. I pray that it calms his heart and soul as well! Thank you Lord for speaking to us in so many different ways!

  47. A Song of Prayer is beautiful! I would love to have this playing in the background each day as I go about my responsibilities. It is so relaxing, and encourages me to slow down and experience the Lord in EVERY moment of my day.
    Insecurity has kept me from doing many things throughout my life. I’m tired of living in this prison. When doubt whispers it’s lies I feel defeated, discouraged, and depressed. However, I can see the Lord working in my weaknesses. God is so good! His faithfulness endures forever.
    I love that you pray God’s promises, Renee. What you said in your post about the blessings of doing such is so true. It reaffirms His truths within our hearts. Thank you for sharing this very practical way of praying to our Lord. God bless you, your family, and your ministry.

  48. I’ve read Chapter One 3 times. All I can say right now is that I haven’t quit yet.

  49. Christine says:

    I love listening to the piano. This song is so peaceful!!! it forces you to be calm!!
    I actually don’t remember doubting myself until this past year, when the stress of my mom’s Alzheimer’s and my dad’s end stage kidney disease took it;s toll on me. Looking back, I can see God put me through these experiences, so I could draw near to him. I am thankful for them now. I see that’s how much he loves me. I am slowly coming back from the dark hole of fear and anxiety, because I am learning he has plans for me, plans to prosper!! : )

  50. How blessed this song is, the peace you feel when you close your eyes and listen only to the notes that are being played. what a amazing prayer, and awesome God we have , I think what hinders me the most is not keeping the confidence thtat the Lord will never leave me, especially when I want to sing about his grace, but feel like i’m not good enough in the eyes of others. which should not matter, Need to stay in his word more and quit doubting myself.

  51. I love the prayer,writing it out so i can have it to say aloud. my weakness is always not having the confidence to pray aloud
    Listening to the music i heard God saying” Be Still”

  52. Renee, I feel closer to God and my relationship to Him is growing daily. This beautiful piano piece has allowed me to meditate on scripture and claim His promises. I am encouraged by the others who have opened up their hearts on your blog. I am richly blessed to be part of this community. We all go through times of hurt and brokenness. I am praying for all the “faceless names” and comments I have read this evening. We don’t have to be lonely! Jesus knows our needs and He is always here for us. I am grateful and have been ministered to in a powerful way this evening.

  53. I’m listening to this wonderful music as I read down through everyone’s thoughts; I see so many people who struggle with the same things I do….somehow, I have hope for all of us!

  54. Stephanie says:

    Wow, what a beautiful song! It is such peaceful calming music. I could feel my frustration diminish as I listened, and by the end of the song I felt so relaxed and centered.

  55. I feel like this message was sent directly to me from you. I needed to hear just what was said here. I am going through a very rough time in my life right now. I need to reinforce that if I trust in God 100% he will be here for me. I need to hear what God’s plan is for my life and block out all negativity from humans. Thank you for sharing this. It is just what I needed to hear at this moment! God Bless!

  56. I really loved today’s devotional because I have been going through some things,and the holy spirit spoke to me when I finished praying and he stated grab ahold of my promises and see how it will change your life. I have 3 right now that I recite faithfully when I pray and since my bible lists all of God’s promises I will definitely be studying more!

  57. A confident woman would know what God’s purpose is for her. She would hear God’s direction and know that the tasks she carried out were the one’s to help fulfill that purpose.

    I never know if I am doing the right things (even now that I have tried to understand that the “right” things could be many, but what is most important is doing what God wants me to do). Sometimes I get paralyzed and just don’t make any decisions or take any action because I don’t feel God’s guidance.

    I am not good at listening to God when I pray. I have a hard time knowing when my voice stops and his begins because I have a hard time stopping my mind and controlling my thoughts.

    I want to be confident of my decisions and know that God’s hand is guiding me. I am going to try to spend more time in God’s word and see if I can know his will better and finally be confident in my actions and decisions.

    • Carrie swearingen says:

      Keep trusting in god and he will guide and direct your paths in life.

    • I know exactly how you feel Andrea, but like Carrie said we have to keep on trusting in God and He will make our path straight. Don’t give up!

    • Andrea, it helps me hear Him when I write out prayers to Him in my journal and pause from time to time. This may help you as well!

  58. Thank you so much for this!! I so needed this song of peace today, even though it’s my day off from work and most of the time, those are peaceful days for me. But this morning my office called to tell me about a mistake I had made. I feel terrible, I want to run and hide, and dread going back to work, but I know that God is with me. My trust is in His promise that all things work to the good for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. I also read the names of God and I saw that He is the God that is there. Yes, He is there in that office! Praise His Holy Name!!!!

  59. 1. describe how you felt or what you sensed God whisper as you listened to Chad’s Song of Prayer.

    He is obviously inspired and talented … I love piano music and find it so relaxing and loved listening to it while I worked on my answers. I would love to buy his CD so I could listen to it in the car as I drive 2 hours each day – I’ve been using that time to pray out loud!

    2. share one or two of your answers to questions at the end of Chapter 1.

    #3 Doubts make me feel incompetent, insignifcant, unimportant and not worth whatever it is that I would like/like to do.

    $4 Reading scriptures — I am inspired and excited about God’s words to us – renews my hope. There are still ‘human’ doubts which creep in my thoughts at times. I wish I understood the context and true meaning/intent of the words chosen to write the Bible – my pastor is so good at that!

  60. #3 – Defeated, useless. I’m realizing that I try to convince God that I’m not worthy or capable. He accepted me, but He shouldn’t have. He want’s to use me, but He shouldn’t bother with me. If I just fail to follow through one more time He will realize His mistake. The funny thing is, He already knows I’m not not worthy or capable on my own, I don’t have to convince Him. He accepts me and values me because He is Elohim, because He is Jehovah Jireh, and Abba. He created me, to be used by Him, He loves me, and He will provide for me. When I read the verses from question 4 my heart flutters with hope and possibility. My greatest hinderence is getting the truth from my head to my heart and back again!

  61. Pat Thompson says:

    What a wonderful way to relax after a busy work week. I need the quiet to remind me that I am loved by God and He is the one who should be most important in my life. Isaiah 43:19 promises He will be with me in my desert. I so need that in my life. I feel so unworthy at a wife, mother and friend. I pray this study will change my heart and give me the confidence to know that I am loved by God no matter what. My desire is to change and to really Believe Him.

  62. 5- disappoint, fear & sorrow keep me from being patient for tommorw. Lack orf patience is my selfish sin that kept me from truly living from within. My son abducted 15 years ago – I had almost given up waiting when God gave me a sign to keep me holding for a while. Just enough hope to give me strength , just enough grace like the manna given when lead out of Egypt. My son brought back 3 years ago – i praised the Lord & started to move on. I knew we had a long road ahead with all the baggage he had. Abandoned by the one who took him, he searched for significance in gang life & found God in prison – my only wish to have true healing & God reigning in his life – it seemed such a blessing. We spent our first Christmas a year ago & i had such hopes as my Mothers day gift. Then a month later he pushed us aside without an explantion – I proclaimed Gods promises & truths to get me through but recently the sorrow had taken my patience away. I gave it up so easily – not sure how or why but this study was God’s blessing to my life. My hope restored to affirm God’s truths. I give praise now as he’s always here at my side – his love sufficient for my life. . I know I felt abandoned by my son but God has reminded me I am not alone, God is here & hes provided me the tools & the biblical fellowship all around to carry me back to the place I was of obedience, patience & trust. I proclaim his healing power over my life & praise him for what he is & will do in my life as well as you all.

  63. I,too, am full of low self esteem. I feel like I am never good or smart enough even though I have returned to school to pursue my passion of working with domestic violence victims. My first marriage was full of control and emotional abuse at the hands of my husband. I stayed for eight years because I believe in the institution of marriage and for the sake of my child. However, I finally left because I knew if I didn’t I was going to lose my mind. Even now, even though I am now married to a wonderful man, I still feel unlovable. I want to become that confident woman of God. God created me for who I am, and I know He loves me totally. I love God, but I believe I disappoint Him. I want to be the awesome Child of God He created me to be. It is my daily prayer that everyone in this study become the same.

    • Mary, wow! This reminded me of the Beth Moore study, Loving Well….one of the questions in the study that just hit home so much with me was – God asking – “Do you think you need to prove yourself lovable to Me? Deep down inside, are you trying to earn my love and attention?? To whom have you compared Me and to whom have you confused Me?……”I’m not like them”. Abba Father!! Amen and Amen! This was a turning point for me in internalizing God’s love for me. I had NEVER realized that I was trying to prove myself lovable, trying to earn His love, attention and that I was comparing Him to my father and my ex husband. You sweet Sister, are an awesome child of God!

  64. #1-Feeling insecure has been a part of me for a very long time because i never felt as if I could live up to the expectations of others for me.
    #4-I can feel encouraged that God does want me to live a confident life and that He will equip me to live that way. “All things ARE possible to (her) who believes”

    I can already feel something stirring inside of me, and I know that it is God who wants to transform me…making me a woman with a confident hear.

  65. #4. All Things are possible to him/her that who believes. I am blessed to have a God where nothing is impossible. Not only do I believe in God I believe God. If I pray asking God to work in my situation-(i.e insecurity, fear, lack of confidence) and I trust God with my life He will be at work.

  66. I absolutely love the piano prayer song! I felt peaceful and started praising Jesus, then I recognized him playing “what can wash away my sins?, nothing but the blood of Jesus.” I loved how he would start to put his hand in one place and then moved it to another. He seemed really in tune with the Holy Spirit!
    Ok, the answer to a couple of questions. Well my earliest memory of feeling insecure was when I was 4. My parents left me to spend the night with my grandma. Daddy took Mama to the hospital to get my new baby sister. When they came back to get me and mama was holding my sister, I wasn’t sure if I was wanted anymore. I thought I had to keep staying with my grandma.
    How I would describe a woman with a confident heart is one who trusts in God and can perform the duties He asks her to do. I have missed opportunities due to doubt and fears, but I want to overcome that and be able to do and trust no matter what happens or what he asks me to do.
    Michele S.

  67. My earliest memory of insecurity came when dealing with my Dad and his new family. My mother and father were teenage parents but they never got married. He later a married woman with 5 kids. He rarely talked to me or came to see me. I always felt like i wasnt enough for him to love consistantly. I watched Him my whole life take care of kids that werent his and leave me behind. So i did whatever i could to fit in with friends and church people when my mother got saved. Even if they were bad for me i just didnt want to be left behind. “You’re not enough” plagued my thoughts daily. When i got saved, i thought i would be whole but i just transferred what i felt about my dad to God. I never felt like i was enough for God to use for anything…..let alone to minister to others. My heart and mind is still healing, but i thank God for loving me through my heart ache. He will never leave me, my heart is safe in His hands.

  68. The music is absolutely beautiful. It is calming, quieting, and focusing. You can listen and feel so at peace, so relaxed, and focus on God’s truth. You can almost feel God’s love through the music, Thank you so much for sharing such an astounding, special video.

  69. Carrie swearingen says:

    I feel encouraged and hopeful when god speaks his promises to me including some of my favorites I can do all things who Christ who strengthens me, I have plans to prosper you, not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future, and come to me all who are weary and I will give you rest. resting in god’s promises is something that god is working on my heart to do on a more consistent basis.

    Jeremiah 17:7 promises that if you trust and put your hope and confidence in him that he wiil bless you. To live in the power of this promise I need to come to and surrender all my worries and fears to him instead of trying to handle things on my own. I also need to pray god’s word and seek his will.

    • Carrie swearingen says:

      There is a song called my hope is in you that has been speaking to me and I wanted to share some of the lyrics as they do go along with our study.

      My hope is in you, lord
      All the day long
      I won’t be shaken by drought or storm
      A peace that passes understanding is my song
      And I sing my hope is in you, lord

      I will wait on you
      You are my refuge

  70. The music is beautiful and tranquil, I will be purchasing it. (No, I don’t have enough confidence to think I would win it). I am a massage therapist and can envision how wonderful it will be for me and my clients.
    As for the questions, let me give you the one I want to hide from.
    #5 What hinder me most from living with God-confidence? My biggest prayer has been (not always now as there are new things in my heart, or perhaps I am just coming to acceptance), to have someone to share my life with…a husband…one who loves me andwill work on the relaionhp. So far the answer is no. I desire Gods will yet the desires of my heart are unfulfilled. My 4 children (lost through miscarriages, 3 in second trimester) I never got to see alve. I know Christ is my husband until God see to give me one but sometimes one with skin on is so desired. If He isn’t going to give me one than please take away the desire totally and help me be comfortable where I am.
    #7 What does our verse of the week promise and encourage me to do?
    To grow my trst in God. To place my confidence in Him and believe I am His- called by Him, created in my mothers womb by God Himself. To trust in His love even when I don’t feel it.

  71. Stephanie L. says:

    Rest..I finally felt rest and peace when I heard this song. The stresses of the day fell off of my shoulders and I shed tears at the peace that overwhelmed my heart. The Lord told me to dwell in Him, in His peace and cast my burdens to Him. He longs to give me this peace always. Thank You Lord for being so faithful.

    #5- I focus so often on people pleasing and find my value and worth based on what I think others feel about me. Are my kids happy? Is my husband happy? Did I say the right thing to my friend today? Did I set a bad example? Should I have stopped a little longer to listen to my child? Should I have given more words of encouragement to my husband? Am I worth anything to anybody? But when I read Isaiah 49:23 I know I am not a disappointment because God does not disappoint , and it is no longer I who live but Christ who lives in me! Amen.

  72. The music is so beautiful. It brought tears to my eyes. Totally peaceful as if Jesus says “just rest, rest in me.” We just need to stop and wait patiently for Jesus to work all those things out in our life for our good. It also made me think of the question that you asked about how would that confident woman look. The music made me think of her and how she would look. I see her as a beautiful gentle spirit, filled with peace and yet a strong quiet leader filled with joy. Unlike I see myself when I am not confident. When I am not trusting in the Lord I become nervous and anxious, frustrated and cranky with no peace or joy. Such a difference from when we trust the Lord to trying to work things out ourselves. I must strive towards the mark and rest in Him and to be completely trusting in Him and His timing to work things out for good.

  73. Very peaceful music. Just what I needed right now…

  74. I think one of the most powerful parts of Chapter 1 for me is “when I choose to dwell in the assurance of Whose I am and who I am in Him, I have a confident heart.”

    One of my biggest struggles is the doubt that creeps in when the naysayers around me… family and former coworkers… become overly critical. It’s hard to focus on Whose I am or have a confident heart when the insults are flying at you. My parents have ALWAYS been more critical of me than of my siblings despite the fact that I ALWAYS tried so hard to please them. My sister could selfishly screw up and it would be quickly forgotten. I could accomplish something major… and it would be quickly forgotten. My house is never clean enough, my projects never ‘done’ enough, my bills aren’t managed well (HELLO, how do you know?). The doubt started to kick in around 3rd grade, or maybe I just started to notice it then when my classmates got all cliquey. It’s reiterated during every visit home and they wonder why a year passed and we didn’t visit… not intentionally, just always had something more enjoyable to do.

    I was in a job position where I was constantly set up for failure. With manager who instead of noticing/listening to individual strengths and capitalizing on them would look for weaknesses to exploit, withhold information, and work around you if they thought it was to their benefit. I’ve changed jobs… but before I did God had someone ‘accidently’ send a revealing message to the wrong person, the contents of the message were personal and revealing… I pray for the man and woman involved in that email, such drama… and it successfully settled my doubts about my performance, the only problem I had was being a manager between them with morals. My new position is part of a WONDERFUL God fearing team… in the real sense of team. Such a blessing!

    My confidence is growing in this new environment and I’m able to focus more on Whose I am and who I am in him. I am accepting that I’ll never be number 1 daughter in my parent’s eyes, and while that hurts deeply, it’s their loss… I can only work to not create that same atmosphere for my kids, to make a special effort to recognize each of their talents, reinforce the positive, and develop their confident little hearts.

  75. This song washed peace over me and whispered to be still…listen for his voice and be bathed in his truth. Being still and listening is where I struggle the most. Want to start praying more scripture and speaking those truths outloud.

  76. Chad’s music — what a gift!

    High school was the toughest

  77. Blessings all… my thoughts but not an entry…

    BELOVED, Come away with me. Drink from my Word. Let the words trickle down through the very core of you allowing you to know how very much I love you and want to restore your heart and spirit to be confident and trust in me. Blessed are you, my daughter… as you trust in me, as Lord for your confidence comes from me and is found in me, in my Word, in my sweet Promises to you. Come dance with me! Let your burdens and heartaches go as we dance and I’ll sing over you as you praise and enjoy your time in my arms. Hope in me, you will not be disappointed. Listen to me in the still, quiet place in your heart. Allow your fears to fall and any obstacles that keep you from drawing closer to me. Speak to me and I will listen. Listen closely for my whisper and you will hear me deep within, you will know it is I, who longs to go deeper with you, an intimacy that only comes when we spend time, healing, restoring, rebuilding, holding on to my words as your promises… speak them back to me and I will hear you… in the ‘hear and now’ moments, I am here, I have always been near. Be confident and let your heart be strengthened in me and find peace. Be refreshed and find your worth once more as my Holy Spirit fills you …

    I could probably go on for the entire time that Chad plays such a beautifully, peaceful piece!!! He’s inspiring…

    Sharing #1. I acted as if I was very CONFIDENT throughout my early years and teen yrs., memories as far back as age 4yr. old. where I was quite bold. However, after graduating from college, is when I had an experience that will always stand out as the one that shook any confidence I had… my confidence was stripped away in a locked ward for 1 week of the psychiatric unit in the hospital where I was born.
    Not sure if I doubted myself or felt insecure and my bold confidence was a cover up for the insecurities I had or felt or the rejection or attention I craved desperately. I was raped at age 13, and perhaps one would think that this would have robbed my confidence… I’m sure that it was the start but there were many other consequences and repercussions from that. Then I was raped again 20 yrs. later. Both occurred in
    my own home where I lived at the time of each one. Nothing violates you and tears away your confidence more than that. #2. Sadly to say, “yes”… it has often paralyzed me. It keeps me questioning my future security and where I truly place that security and trust. But I am more than a conqueror in Christ Jesus, my Lord. Forgiveness frees your soul to breathe once again. And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose. I have been called and I am serving Him and stepping out in faith since He called me at 13… to living out my purpose and calling now in Mexico with the women and children…

  78. I am feeling so alone since my husband’s death. I have suddenly got that God is always with me and I do not have to fear lonliness.

    • Hi Debra, yes. God is with you. Allow the Holy Sirit to comfort you and spend time with Him. Hevwill take away your lowliness …I remember when my mom lost my dad. Shevwas very lonely and didn’t know she could lean on God. But you do…Praise the Lord!

    • Hi Debra,
      Yes! God is always with you and you have nothing to fear. Isn’t that a wonderful promise? I lost my husband when I was 32 and had 2 children to take care of. I am so thankful for Gods healing hand as I learned I had nothing to fear. That was 13 years ago and though I will never forget that time I know that God is always there for me. Praises that we know such a wonderful God!

  79. “How lovely”, music that is not loud and garish but soft and gentle – as God speaks to us when we listen with all our heart. The repetition to the music seems like God’s Love – how he repeats His love for us by His Grace day in and day out. That love repeating never becomes monotonous but plays out in many ways making a beautiful sound. There were pauses in the music where I could feel the peace flowing over me like a warm summer rain.
    I could only think how blessed I am to be able to hear this beautiful music and to lift those up to our Savior those that do not know Him. A fullness fills me that can only say, Thank you Jesus. I am blessed. Song of Prayer is a reminder that there are many ways to pray when we listen to the Holy Spirit and are guided by Him. I was joined by my husband and we listened to the song and gazed around the room at the pictures of loved ones and was further blessed. Today our 39th wedding anniversary……….
    Chad, thank you for sharing your prayer with us.

  80. This piano piece sounded like music I expect to hear in Heaven….soothing, peaceful, encouraging, and full of love. What perfect melody for a perfect place to spend eternal life!
    Question #2: Insecurity has kept me from relationships with people I view as “better” than me which I base their superiority on earthly values, ie: looks, clothes, status, money, authority, etc. All the wrong things to compare myself to, I know.
    Question #6: A woman with a confident heart yearns for God to take control of her life, to direct her in everything, to know Him, to really love Him, joyful, walking daily with Jesus, and increased faith from the Holy Spirit.

  81. My answer to the first question was a memory of elementary school where I was selected to sing and dance in a speech class. I only sang and could barely move my feet.
    Praying the prayers outloud do make a difference.

  82. All I can describe with the piano music is peace and joy. It makes me feel happy and alive. I absolutely love music like that, it speaks to your soul.

    #3- “Its too hard” and “My life isn’t going to get any better” -these make me feel very defeated and hopeless. In my profession, these are actually common thoughts for me. Sometimes I just feel stuck or like I deserve the negativity I am in.

    #4- “Those who hope in Me will not be disappointed” and “all things are possible to (her) who believes”- this makes me believe in the power that is mine through the Lord. That He allows me to accomplish things and that His word is truth. My favorite is that Isaiah 49:23 because it offers so much hope, not despair! It speaks of trust and that is something I want to grow in this year.

  83. Listening to the piano music, I thought of Christ’s words: “I will never leave you nor forsake you”

    4. I feel hopeful and excited about the possibilities of what God can and will do in and for me. I also feel more relaxed because God says I will not be disappointed when I hope in Him.

    Karen C

  84. “No other fount I know…nothing but the blood of Jesus” was in part of the pray song. That song send refreshing of the forgiveness of Jesus. One of the earliest hymns in my mind. I knew all the words from an early age to all the old hymns…I am so thankful now as they speak to my soul.

    3) Describe how it makes you feel when doubt whispers:
    “I can’t do this.” I want to know who is telling me that.
    “Things will never change.” So, what, I know I can be cheerful anyway.
    “My life isn’t going to get better.” I have hope in Christ, so there is an ending in glory.
    “It’s too hard.” So, why not try and surprise myself.
    “I might as well quit.” Am I quitting for the correct reason. Sometimes it is better to cut the loses and quit.
    Too many times I tried to make a “dead horse” walk again. I am hard to give up on things…but sometimes you have to say enough it enough.

  85. The music relaxed me. I sensed one of the names of God – -El Roi – the God who sees…

    1. My earliest memory of insecurity was way back in the first grade – almost 40 years ago when my mom didnt come and pick me up from school and my teacher ended up taking me home. When I pointed out my house, she said – that’s where you live?? I grew up poor and I have never forgotten that day & the way it made me feel.

    4. Three of those scriptures continue to come up for me, even before this study. I am waiting on God to write my love story. I want a man who is sold out to Jesus. I was in a 23 year marriage, unequally yoked that ended two years ago.. For me, 3 of those scriptures have been ones God has given to me on several occassions over the past 6 months. Isaiah 49:23 – those who hope in Me will not be disappointed, Mark 9:23 – all things are possible to her who believes & “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose” (Rom. 8:28). He just affirmed them in this study which was awesome!

    • I am in prayer for you Sherry that you will be able to release those memories to Jesus to wash in His blood and return them to you in a loving way. And I believe that He will.

  86. What beautiful, tranquil music…obviously God inspired! Was fighting a terrible headache when I started listening…and now it is gone. Was praying and asking God to stop those constantly turning wheels in my head that say I must be doing something productive every moment…to help me “be still and listen to Him talk to me.” This music calmed my heart. Tomorrow is the 1st anniversary of my dear Mother’s death. I have been fighting depression over this for two months. I’m searching for that “confident heart” again. My first feelings of insecurity go back to a little tiny girl–2-3 yrs old…& have carried on thruout my life. Fleeting moments of security and confidence.

    Your “Acknowledgements” made me cry; and touched my heart deeply. Some of the words that captivated my heart are: words of affirmation, God’s calling on my life, courage, perseverance, sacrificing, passion, thoughtfulness, wisdom, laughter, contagious joy, hugs, unending gifts of encouragement, thank you for believing in me & loving me thru it all, for listening, unconditional love, grace, treasured friends & forever family, your prayers, thank you for believing in my dreams…YOU are my confidence.”

    Such powerful words….and desires of my heart. It is my prayer (for all of us committed to this study) that by the time we reach the last chapter, we, too, can relate and feel these gifts in our hearts.


  87. My earliest insecurity came when I was learning to read and I had a ruler under the line I was on and my dad called me names and said you can do it without that. My dad had a hard time with me being a slow learner thank goodness my dad in heaven doesn’t.

    • Donna Harris says:

      Amen on our dad in Heaven not having a hard time with me being a slow learner about HIS ways. HIs mercies are new every morning!

    • Dear Lesley, I remember that time in life too. It was so hard when you don’t feel you measure up to what is expected. Being the youngest of three girls and I have dyslexia, I never could measure up. Now I know that God has the measuring stick and no one measures up, but through the blood of Jesus we can measure up. He took our shame, our fear, our disappointments and rejection on the cross. That is such a freeing feeling. Because of my hard time reading I have had patience with children teaching them to read, and other things. We go through things so we can take the hand of another and walk them through those same kind of things.
      You are Blessed Lesley.

  88. The music was comforting. What talent he has and so grateful he shared with us. I feel secure and thankful to God because I have a warm house tonight (only 5 degrees outside right now).

    Question #3 When doubt whispers in my ear I wish I had the power to overcome it and be strong.

    Question #6 A woman with a confident heart has total faith in God and herself. She is not afraid to tackle obstacles.

  89. The Prayer song is beautiful. I don’t know how, bit it helped me relax & focus,. It set my frame of mind to stop & listen for God to speak. I would love to have one of his CD’s. Thanks for sharing that,

  90. Marsha Cobbs says:

    When i listened to the music i sence the peace of GOD, to be still and fell his presence is wonderful. I enjoyed it so much i downloaded it onto my ipod. Thank you so much for sharing. Renee there is something you said in chapter one that has given be great revelation, doubt and hope cannot live our hearts at the same time. We must always know that there is hope in every situation because if we don’t doubt will always creep in and we if allow it we will not get the victory or the manifestation of what we are hoping and believing for.

  91. I have dial up, so I couldn’t listen to the music.

    My answers for three & four:
    3. I feel small and wretched. I feel incapable of doing anything worth while, and like staying in bed all day. i feel afraid.
    4. I feel peace and joy and hope; those things I feel when I feel Christ’s presence. I feel strengthened and like I can do more, because of Him. Like a kid who is afraid of the bigger kids, until their parent comes and they can stand up because they know that parent won’t let the others hurt them. I feel reassured, blessed, and thankful.

  92. As I was laying in bed, ready to sleep for the night, I first listened to this music…I could feel the relaxation coming over me…so peaceful and quiet…mind quieting music Oh how beautiful that music would be to listen to and allow God to quiet my ever wandering and ever alert mind…I think it could quiet my doubting heart and the’ replaying and rethinking’ I so aften do regarding the day…I never download music but might have to this time! Beautiful!
    As for the questions…my earliest memory of doubting myself or feeling insecure was as a child when I ‘discovered’ I was a head taller than everyone in my school. The boys called me Jolly Green Giant. I just wanted to fit in. Middle school and dances made it worse yet…It wasn’t until later in high school or college that I was less insecure about my height.
    Isaiah 43:19 has been a verse for our family the past 8 years. We went through some big struggles and God has been with us every painful step and also every joyful step. Yes, it was hard but the blessing and knowledge of knowing God’s plans are superior to anything I could concoct…He has shown me that time and time again. SO I have to remind myself when I am down or can’t comprehend the why’s in life…that God is doing a new thing in my life…

  93. While I was listening to this music I closed my eyes and could envision the streets of heaven with children laughing and playing and people walking together hand-in-hand, dogs playing in the leaves in the grass. Sometimes the music was reflective almost as if they were stopping to look at the flowers or a butterfly or to watch birds take flight. Such a beautiful gift. So peaceful and calming and happy. You feel as if you can let go of the fears and self-doubt and all of the other trappings of this world that keep us from doing what we should be doing, what God would have us do. One of the questions at the end of the first chapter is “Has insecurity ever kept you from doing something?” I’ve been insecure and had problems with self-esteem for so long there is a life-time of things I have given up on or passed by because of it. I’m 56 years old now and feel like I have lived a life-time already but only partially. I would love to fill my heart and soul up with God’s love and let go of the insecurities I’ve lived with my whole life and actually live the rest of my life out loud instead of hiding in the shadows, hoping no one notices I’m here. Thank you for your study and the chance to find that confidence in my own heart.

  94. I felt the gentleness of the Almighty Creator. The desire and longing He has to be with us and to love us with an absolutely unconditional love. At times it felt as though it was God running after me, saying I’m not letting go, you can try this on your own but I’m just not going to let go. At other times I felt as if He was carrying me and I was looking and seeing the footprints in the sand as I wept in His arms and felt safe and secure. I heard What can wash away my sin, nothing but the blood of Jesus…then I heard the gentleness of the blood sprinkling down over me like a soft gentle rain. It was as if He was sending a beautiful reminder of His incredible love. I felt as if there were times that the music was so gentle and soft…a picture came of walking with Jesus down that beach just talking. Then there were times the music sped up as if God were saying I’m here child, don’t be afraid, I’m right here behind you waiting for you to turn back around. Over and over I heard the recurring theme of the blood washing away my sin and the reminder of what an incredible friend I have in Jesus. It was almost as if it were a picture of my life, our lives that God will never leave us, He will never forsake us. We are never left alone. I heard God reminding me, its ok child, I am here. Be still and know that I am God! Be still!!

    Question 4. Describe what happens in your heart when you read God’s words:
    “Those who hope in me will not be disappointed” Isa. 49:23

    “See, I am doing a new thing!” Isa. 43:19

    “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose” Romans 8:28

    “All things are possible to [her] who believes” Mark 9:23

    My original answer to this question was…honestly, the first thing I feel is…I so wish I could remember these things and feel confident. I trust God and take Him at His word but…there is that word…but I just don’t ever allow myself to REALLY let go and trust Him and believe Him.

    As I listened to this beautiful song, I felt this overwhelming feeling of His presence. An overwhelming feeling of that fear of disappointment being lifted. A feeling of all of these verses being poured out over me gently as if they were the blood washing me clean again.

    God is so incredible! He uses so many different things to get our attention and to bring us back into a place where we can focus on Him. These promises are incredible really. When you look at them all together, He said we won’t be disappointed with the new thing He is doing because it WILL work for His purpose and all be have to do is believe.


  95. My first thought was… slowly the song started and you might have thought he was ‘stuck’, but what occurred to me was…how often do I start out thinking that I’ll listen for god’s voice and if I don’t hear from Him right away……I miss that moment where He is beginning the conversation because I was in too big of a hurry. Beautiful song!

  96. Proverbs 3:5-6 With this I am to trust Him in my storm of life and know that as I do He will guide me. With Him all things are possible and in my trial I can believe Him because His word does not come back void.

  97. While listening to A Song of Prayer I felt a sense of peace, joy & serenity wash over me! i felt myself relax, and focus my thoughts on those things of God….

  98. To me, Chad’s song was a beautiful conversation with God. The louder quicker segments was my praise, confession, requests, and pouring out, the blank space between as I’m still, wait and listen for the quiet slower segments a sGod’s still small voice speaks to my heart, guiding, leading, comforting, showing me his path for his purpose. It made my cry!

  99. I thoroughly enjoyed listening to this music. I began listening to the song last night and I felt so at peace, I fell asleep. I’m listening to it again this morning, and I’m really thinking about ordering it, so that I may have it with me in those moments in life in which I may need to slip away and rest in GOD’s peace. I could be very wrong, but around about 12:00 into the song, it sounds as if he begins to play, Tis So Sweet To Trust in Jesus. I know for a fact, that GOD has been speaking to me about learning to completely trust HIM with my life, my future, and even my family and their lives. I’m sure He wants me to stop worrying and trust HIM to be GOD. Sometimes that’s difficult for me and I worry about things that I have no control over. I’ve been hurt in the past on several occasions, and oftentimes I find myself trying to avoid situations and people that may try to hurt me. I could talk about this all day, but I will complete this paragraph by saying that I’m learning to trust him, and it is a process.

    #6. I would describe a confident woman as someone who leans totally on Jesus. She lives the life of peace. Despite her fears and insecurities, she knows without a shadow of doubt that GOD will see her through. She knows this because she stands on the words that she sang as a little girl, “they are weak, but HE is strong.” She is also someone who has an intimate relationship with Jesus and who inspires others to be just like her. She is someone I aspire to be.

    Thank you Renee for this book, the song, and this blog!

  100. Wow, as I noticed the time of the song my first thought was I can’t listen to a song that long but as I sit here typing with the song still playing I am at peace. Even though I have once again jam packed my day with things to do I am so thankful that I listened to the Lord & picked up my book & read. Clicking on this song has set my heart & mind in such a peaceful setting. A setting in which I can listen & be hearing the Lord. A setting that tells me He is my confidence! He is my hope! He is my strength! I will stop doubting myself.

    I cannot think of a time when I was confident. When I read Isaiah 49:23 it makes me smile. Isaiah 43:19 gives me hope knowing the new thing He is about to start in me through this Bible Study.

    As I listen to this music & watch the snow gently fall outside covering the dirt making it look clean & new I am reminded of the hymn that says, “Wash me and I will be whiter than snow”. Thank you Lord for your incredible timing in my life!

  101. As i listened to this song i could sense the slowness of the start, but then see Chad’s smile as the peace built, it was truly beautiful, thanks so much for sharing a wonderful gift.

    my answer for # 7: This verse has become so important to me! things around me (people and their moods and temperaments really) change all the time, but MY Lord is ever present and loving 🙂 no matter the circumstances, He is dependable and loving and my ROCK. this makes next week, and month and year so much more DOABLE and joyful for me 🙂 thank you for this study, it’s changed my life already.

  102. thank you for the music…made me reflect on the beauty of God’s presence in my life at all times, even when I don’t acknowledge Him. He never leaves me, I’m the one who turns away to look for other things to fill me up.
    I do believe God has a purpose for me. I need to open my life up to His calling and leading. I need to stop, slow down, and let God lead. Again, thank you for sharing the music. Beautiful!

  103. I really enjoyed the song. What a blesssing it was! In Chad’s song I sensed God’s peace, love and Joy. Thanks for sharing.

    Question 2
    Insecurity has stopped me from communicating with people outside my circle.

    Question 3
    When doubt whispers, it makes me feel like a failure.

  104. Elizabeth says:

    Well I was brought great peace by “The Song Of Prayer”. Something dawned on me though…my deaf/blind son has been playing like this since he was 2. I will now look at what I use to call ‘noodling around’ very differently. They are his hearts song/prayer. My prayer is that I can get quiet enough to hear my heart song/prayer.
    Now for some of my answers: I think the first times I can remember the self doubt it would be the awkwardness we all hit in middle school and high school. And there have been a number of things over the years that I did not complete or accomplish because of it. I felt like a nobody most of my life yet being a pastors kid everybody was watching. The Rom 8 vs listed is he one out of all listed that brings me the most encouragement. No matter any of the good or bad or ugly God makes it all good if I just love Him. This vs is being lived out in my life in a very big way in a few short weeks. God shines through my broken places & He is using lil ol me to lead a women’s conf at my church. I grew up a tomboy and I love getting my hands dirty and using power tools so what in the world is He doing putting me in front of a bunch of women to lead them in anything? Well we will soon find out. Some have asked if I’m nervous. I’ve never done anything like this and while I have flashes of anxiousness pop up I know it’s God who is in control because all of this is so much bigger than I am. I’m scared to share the broken places God has shown up in my life but I know that being obedient to what He is asking me to do will bring blessings. And that is how Jer 17:7 blessed me this week. By reminding me where my focus needs to be. For WAY too many years I struggled with trust issues so for me to live a life trusting fully 100% in something I can’t see or feel in the sense of our earthly senses is a miracle in itself. I praise God I’m blessed & would love ur prayers as we head into this conf just 3 weeks away. Thank you Renee for this study & thank you to all those participating and sharing your hearts here. I’m blessed to be on this journey with all of you. Praise the Lord!!!

  105. I listened to the song very early this morning because I could not sleep and it was very spiritual just to sit and listen to what God was telling me to do. It felt like He was wrapping His loving arms around me and telling me that He has it all under control and not to worry about a thing. I truly felt His warmth and grace through the prayer song and can tell that it has been a blessing for many people.
    My self doubt began for me when I was in college and trying to find myself. With being in so many activities in high school, I didn’t feel like I wanted all the responsibility so I just stuck to working hard at getting good grades. But it just seemed like everyone was happier than I was with their new college-life. I admit that I did make most of my mistakes in college and have repented of that awfulness, but I think that contributed to my self doubt. It was also in college that I met a dear friend who cared enough for me and my soul that she showed me God’s truths in the bible and I have never been the same. I think it’s hard to be confident when you have the weight of your sins on your shoulders. I pray that the Lord will release our burdens and show us the way to live in total 100% confidence in Him. Heb. 35 has been my life verse for this week and I pray to never throw my confidence away again even in the challenging times. (Sometimes I compare myself to Moses because he was afraid to speak in front of the crowd but God reassured him that He would give him the words to say). On this journey, please pray with me that I would have the boldness to speak up when in crowds. I usually just sit back and listen, but I yearn to be someone who can contribute something to a conversation. Thank you!!
    Love and Blessings!

  106. What a beautiful song. Thanks for sharing. It is wonderful to listen to that as I contemplate all that I have been reading. What’s really helped me the most with this study is praying God’s word outloud and reading all the verses and name for God. I’m really desiring a real relationship with Christ on a daily basis and now I’m really reading the verses very slowly and really letting the word seep into my heart. Thanks so much for this study and the song!

  107. Had to laugh at all the times I used “really” above. Guess that’s what I really want.

  108. Chad’s Song of Prayer was a reminder to slow down and listen to God. The slow rhythm at the beginning helped me to focus, meditate and tune in to God. Then, the excitement starts to build as God realizes that I am finally listening carefully to only Him. Then, He pours out blessings and insight into my life!

    Doubt and guilt come into my heart when I look back and realize mistakes I made in the past because of immaturity, lack of faith or being too busy and rushing through life. Since I can’t go back to fix those times, I feel sad and doubt my abilities now. Faith in God’s love and goodness pull me through these times of doubt. During the times I grieve this lack of confidence, I just hold on to God’s promises and He is faithful to pull me out of that pit and set my feet back on the path of righteousness.!!! Romans 8:28 is a promise I regularly hold on to.

  109. Thank you for sharing this special blessing of the prayerful music. I have not stopped crying the entire time I have been listening, praying, reading and listening. I have always loved the piano and it soothes me. I began taking lessons before we brought our daughter home from China, but only got to take the lessons for a short while due to a job change and move. Oh, how I pray that God will allow me and I will be confident and faithful to continue someday. This is one of my loves and desires, along with writing and photography. God wants to bless me through them so that I will bless others. When I do share them with others, I am told they are blessed. But I shrink back and lack the confidence God wants for me to continue. So much has happened in my life to make it easy to shrink back. I pray for not only myself, but for other women, that God will help us to be the Confident Women He wants us to be so that we can shine with His glory and help others to know that God wants to bless us and heal us and use us, not to bring us harm, but a HOPE and a Future FULL of His blessings.

  110. I don’t remember a time in my life when I never experienced doubt or insecurity. It seems like they were always my constant companions. I always knew that I was an “accident.” My mother never wanted children. My parents were very wrapped up in each other and I always felt in the way. My first memories are of feelings of loneliness and being alone in my room. I second guess myself on everything. Sometimes the doubt gets so overwhelming that I don’t think I can take being me anymore. I am so hoping that I will be set free by doing this Bible study. I do know that God is faithful.
    The music is very peacful.

    • Vickie,
      I pray that you will be set free from your doubt and insecurity. Remember, above all that you are a child of God! and you were never an “accident” in his book. He wanted you to have life and have it to the full!!!! Hold on to Psalms 139: 13 which says, “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.” God loves you and that is what is most important.

  111. I felt HOPE! There are the quiet times in his song when I imagined the “nothing is happening” times in my life and then there are the really upbeat, excited times in the song when I imagined feeling God’s presence and how it changes my whole countenance. Thank you!!

  112. When I close my eyes and soak in every note, I feel such deep peace. A quiet spirit. No words cluttering my heart. Sometimes I think I get in the way in my prayer time… often I think God simply wants to speak to me, and I blabber away as if our relationship is all one-sided and about me. When honestly, it’s all about Him. Oh, when I can reach those moments of HIM. I love life!!!!! I feel so free. Like a little girl dancing before her father, I just let go and know that He loves me and He is smiling and WOW! life isn’t so tricky anymore. Grief doesn’t seem so painful when I trust Him with my pain. Today, I commit to more moments of simply listening. Thank you, Renee and Chad. I love you both!

    • I so know what you are saying … I’ve been feeling like the Lord is telling me to spend time just clearing my head of thoughts so He can talk and love on me. I tend to keep talking even in my thoughts and I think He is telling me to still myself so I can hear Him and not me.

  113. As I go thru the postings and read, I realize that the Lord wants each of us to know that there is nothing wrong with us. Yes, we may have insecurities and a lack of the kind of confidence we want, but He is showing us just by the sheer number of women who struggle with the same thing that we are not faulty or defective. We are created wonderfully by Him. Increasing our confidence is a side benefit from getting to really know Him more fully and more real. He created us with the desire to know Him intimately and for Him to be first in our hearts and lives. Maybe the confidence struggle is the way He is pulling us to Him so that we go deeper in our relationship with Him – that we don’t settle for knowing who He is but we go all the way to like Renee is telling us to believing and knowing Him so fully that our total trust is in Him. When we come to know Him so intimately that we know in our heads and hearts that He is trustworthy and He will never let us down or leave us — then that trust will heal our hearts with the oil of confidence and peace.

  114. This is the first time for me doing a on-line study. I am a missionary working in a country where Jesus Christ is not known by many. Sometimes one’s life gets so busy in ministry that it is refreshing to do this study. And I was in a bigger city this weekend and could listen to the music by Chad and it was wonderful. God is continuing to bring teaching into my life of looking at the promises of God. The Jer 17 passage was a balm to my weary soul. Thanks for your teaching and for all the comments….I have limited access to internet so won’t be able to read all comments but thanks to all who share.

  115. Im here reading and praying and thanking Jesus for what He’s doing in our sweet sisterhood already. Immeasurably more than I could think or imagine in less than a week. Oh my heart is so full!! And Chad…well he’s doing all he can not to break down and cry…reading your stories. Thanking Jesus for answering his prayer — for this song to lead God’s children into a deep place of abiding peace and worship. Praying for more…more security in the power of His presence and promises. God’s got so much MORE for us!! Love you all!!

  116. I’m not receiving the daily assignments. Am I not doing something right? The last assignment I saw was on Monday and that was to read Chapter 1. Where are we now?

  117. Cindy Hunt says:

    WOW !!!! I wished I would have listened to the “The Song of Prayer” last night to quite the demons in my mind. Since I have started this study I have been reading and praying the scriptures twice a day. When I get up in the morning and when I go to bed at night. I know in the long run it will pay off but right now it is very hard to see when I am so depressed. I thank you for all of your work and resources that you pass along to us Renee. I think now I would like to purchase one of his cd’s to help calm me at night.

    I don’t have a specific time when I started to feel insecure but I know it was in my very early years. I always thought that God made a mistake when He made me a girl. I pretty much was dad’s little son growing up and that made my mom very angry. On top of that my mother was an alcoholic and I neve knew what frame of my mom was in. Parents seperated when I was about 9 or 10 years old. Dad left me and my sister with my mom which just devastated me. Dad was my safety net. There were also times that I thought that I was adopted and my parents didn’t tell me. so as I child I was very insecure about who I even was. It never really helped that I was never good enough to have my mom’s love and affection. It was more for my sister because they were buddies and my sister did the things that mom liked to do.

    During my early age of 9 yrs old I was being sexually molested through out my whole childhood going into my early teens. Where were my parents then to protect me. I was just another object to be used by somebody else and I had no voice as a child. So you kind of get a small picture of why and what made me so insecure as a person. Not being wanted, wrong sex, sexually molested (by people in authority) and rejected.

    I have to say that I have come along way as God has brought a lot of healing for me. But I need God to bring about healing of my low self-esteem and who I am in Christ and realize that I’m not a bad person, that I am loved by him and many others. That I am worth something. These mind battles have really kept me trapped in a place that hinders me from being able to move on in a healthy spiritual aspect of my life so that I can minister to others and bring them through the lies of the enemy.

    In the late 80’s God put a call on my life and spoke to me very specificlly s to what He wants me to do. It was very clear as day to me. it comes out of Is. 61:1-4 where it talks about …”binding up the broken hearted and setting the captives free.”. since then my life has been a battle from the enemy as God is preparing me for such a calling which means He starts with me right where I am at to become healed in my own life. sorry I went on so much but it really helps me to express it out to somebody else who is lifting me up in prayers.

    I have to say that it is by no chance that You ( Renee ) started this study at this time of my life. Thank you for being faithful to bring about God truth for so many women who need to hear the truth of who we are as God’s children-the King’s daughters.

    • Kimberly Stiver says:


      I understand perfectly well. I too felt that i was called in according to Isaiah 61.
      I had a troubling childhood also. My mom and dad divorced just before my 3rd birthday and my dad got custody of me and my brothers age 5, and 7. When I was 3 almost 4 my dad was with this lady who abused me. After it was found out what she did to me, my dad sent me to live with my grandparents. I never was the same after that. I wondered what I did so wrong for my dad to not want me and not let me live with my mom. Then when I was 11 my mom tried to kill herself with me in the car with her. She ended up in the mental ward the rest of her life. I always felt if I was the girl I was meant to be, then she wouldn’t have done what she did and that my dad would love me for who I was.
      I know now that God put me in the care of my grandparents because that was where I was meant to be. At times I still have trouble with wondering what I could of done to stop my mom from not only hurting herself but also me and my brothers. I was too young to help her. I couldn’t help her if she didn’t want help. I also had to come to understanding that my dad does love me, just not the way I wanted to be loved. I know that I was my grandparents pride and joy and they made sure that I knew I was loved not only by them, but more importantly I was loved by God.
      So, remember that God loves us very much.

  118. Feel His peace that breaks down every wall, His love, His comfort. (It’s like a wonderful stress-relieving back massage, but more!)

    I heard in the song….Jesus, Jesus how I trust You, how I trust Him at His Word!

    My original thought to #4 was…I wonder if it’s really for me or maybe I have too many sinful thoughts and I didn’t pass the test and am not qualified for God to do something amazing or good.

    • B
      I know exactly what this feels like, your post really struck a chord with me. I often wrestle with doubts about my future. I had myself convinced for quite some time that I was not ‘qualified’ enough to be a christian wife or a mother and that’s why I was still single. I truly believed that God wouldn’t entrust me to help take care of or have a family of my own..but my mind was wrapped around as this was a punishment or something. That since I wasn’t an amazingly “qualified” christian woman, I didn’t deserve it. I now see this as an attack from Satan and I have been truly living the verse Jeremiah 29:13- “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” What a blessing that He loves us just the way we are.

  119. When I first started listening to the music, I turned it off because it was going too slowly for me. Then I read all the positive comments and tried it again. The Lord really spoke to me that I am not used to a slow pace – I am always multi-tasking, even in my time with Him, and because I love my work, I hurry through everything in the morning to get there early and start my day. How sad that my time with Him is shortened because of that. Each year I make the same resolution to spend more time with Him and each year I fail. I get into the negativity cycle that whispers I am never going to change, I am not disciplined enough to follow through. BUT I want this to change and am confident that the more I seek Him, the more He will become real, really real, in my life.
    #3 – I feel defeated, disillusioned, disheartened and a failure.
    #5- unbelief that it is an attainable goal
    #6 – God-trusting and peaceful

    • Kit, I agree with you. I am not one to slow down and listen to this calming music and ponder what is going on around me let alone what it is that God has for me to hear from Him. How sad that is. Why is it so difficult for us to just stop. Stop our minds from the business of life, what we need to do, what we did do/didn’t do…what’s next…etc. As I sit and listen, I’m reminded that I need to do this more often, and not just as an exercise that is part of my online Bible study. It reminds me of all the good that God has put into my life and why I am blessed. He really does love each of us, no matter our talents…and what more can we really ask for? I need to just stop sometimes and let God be God. He really is who He says He is…and how cool is that?

  120. I realized that what blocks me from making the LORD my confidence is doubting that he actually CAN be that confidence, and therefore not even trying to make him so. Today in prayer I had to stop and ask myself: why was I letting this doubt prevent me from receiving God’s promised blessing? It is clear from scripture that there is blessing when the LORD is our true confidence. What if I let go of doubt and reached to receive that blessing, acting in faith? Now I want to live by trusting that God will reveal to me how to have confidence in him instead of simply not trying because it seems too difficult. I want to know what it means to be a strong woman in the LORD!

    • I so understand what you are saying for I was once there myself. What helped me to totally trust that He actually CAN do anything was when I considered the vast universe HE created. He can be all things to us and if we will trust Him, he surely can be our confidence. He loves us that much!

    • Kimberly Stiver says:

      I like what you said about wanting to live by trusting that God will reveal to me how to have confidence in Him instead of simply not trying because it seems too difficult. I too want to know what it means to be a strong woman in the Lord! Thank you for sharing with us.

    • I am two weeks behind in this study because i only just got the book but I can really resonate with how you are feeling. I am praying that we can really just let go of our self doubt and trully believe that God is completely trustworthy, no matter what the circumstances are. I am literally tired of living in fear and doubt and I pray that thoughout this study, we can really have a break through. 🙂

  121. #1 I’m not sure what my earliest doubt or insecure feeling was but one of the ones that popped in my head as I read that was when I started 1st grade and found that everyone already knew each other and had paired off as friends because they had gone to Kindergarten together, which I had not gone to, I just started in 1st grade.
    My second thought that came to me was when I was in 7th or 8th grade and my Dad was complimenting my on my flute playing and telling me how I was probably the best in the school. I remember going into my bedroom and crying because I felt I let him down telling myself I wasn’t good at all and thinking how disappointed he would be in me if he really knew.
    Only a few of the thousands of lies I believed over the years.

  122. As I listened I wept. Deeply. I just wept to Him. I know He is still healing me. I felt peace along with His presence. I was definitely where He wanted me to be.

    2. Insecurity has kept me from living my life at times.

    4. When I read Isaiah 43:19, I receive Hope from Him.

  123. The Song of Prayer is beautiful. At first I was going to say that I didn’t feel much, but there is a definite reverence there, and I can’t explain it, but I feel the Holy Spirit with me. No doubt in my mind. It’s pretty amazing actually.

    Some answers from Chapter 1 that were telling for me were numbers 4 and 5:

    4. I believe those words (and all words in scripture for that matter) are true, but they aren’t true for, or meant for me.

    5. My past experiences hinder me the most. The pain and heartbreak of my past confirms my negative attitude. What speaks to me most is Isa 49:23 THOSE WHO HOPE IN ME WILL NOT BE DISAPPOINTED. Well, I am constantly disappointed.

    I’ll keep working….

  124. The questions below are the ones I felt were more important to share from the chapter. I love that God sees us just where we are and wants to meet us there to make us the women He wants us to be.

    2. Has insecurity ever kept you from doing something? Insecurity keeps me from pursuing close relationships with people because the trying causes me to be anxious. I don’t like the feeling. I have also been hurt several times, and that ultimately holds me back.

    5. 5. What do you think hinders you most from living with God-confidence on a consistent basis? Listening to the wrong voice. Forgeting who my confidence should be in.

    Is there a promise listed above that speaks to your greatest need right now? See I am doing a new thing. This is an awesome truth, and I believe God is trying to do a new thing in my life. He has answered so many prayers lately about Joy. I need to believe Him and trust Him to take care of me.

  125. beautiful, awesome, so peaceful and prayerful

  126. Suzanne Millsaps says:

    Thank you for sharing this wonderful piano solo with us. Listening to music helps me in my daily bible reading.

  127. #1 My earliest memory of insecurity is Kindergarten, being so afraid I wouldn’t have a friend that no one would like me. I have struggled with this in every new situation since.
    #2 This insecurity has hindered me from meeting new people & making new friends. I have always felt very uninteresting & boring and often wondered why anyone would want to be around me.
    #7 God promises me I will be blessed when I trust Him . . . and that means in everything including new situations & friendships as well as strengthening my present relationships.

  128. The message I receive from Chads music is…I am here.
    My answer to qestion #2 is….almost eberything. i «exist» most of the time. i dont truly live. i exist in fear and debilitating anxiey and depression. i feel like my life is not my own. i fear life. i fear God. Ifear failure and rejection constantly. I doubt most everything…esp my worth. [sorry for typing via my kindle]

  129. Last night I was able to borrow and watch the Gospel Of John DVD you suggested. Wow! That was so good. Thank you so much for the suggestion. It brought the whole gospel to life. It was really cool to see Jesus laughing. I just don’t picture him doing that when reading the Bible. I was very upset before I watched it because my daughter was on the roads last night and it was snowing very hard. I was so worried and kept asking … Why can’t I just trust you Lord? I know you will keep her safe. I was in tears. She would be traveling for a couple hours. Then I popped in that DVD and peace just came over me. Thank you so much Renee for your book and your insights. You have truly blessed me! 🙂

  130. Here are my answers to questions 2 and 3.

    Yes, insecurity has kept me from trying many things. I usually take the safe path instead of taking risks because I am scared of failing and disappointing those I love.

    I feel discouraged, defeated, and not good enough when doubt whispers that things will never change.

    I really felt God drawing me to a place of peace and rest listening to the beautiful music.

  131. The music is beautiful–thank you for sharing. I could feel God’s spirit when I prayed and felt God speaking to me with His still small voice.

    I enjoyed answering the questions at the end of chapter 1. The verses shared in question all spoke to me and reminded me of the awesome God I serve. Isa. 49. 23 reminds me God is my hope and He never lets me down even though I let Him down quite often. Romans 8;28 has always been one of my favorite verses and am reminded again of how much God is in control. Things often happen I don’t understand, but I need to learn to put this promise in action more often in that nothing happens without God knowing about. I write this believing it, but I need to put in action when problems and issues arise. Also, I love Mark 9:23 that says I can’t do but my God can!

    I want to be the joyous Christian women which is joyous, loving, pure, kind, hard worker, provider, consistent, honest, and fun. God doesn’t expect us to be “sticks in the mud” or so stuck on being pure we forget we are human. It is not an act, but something we are.

  132. I didn’t have doubt and much as feel like I was different from everyone else. I never “fit in” with my family or circle of friends. I always felt kind of on the outside looking in all the time. Maybe that is the same thing.

  133. Lakecia Harris says:

    As I listened to the song of prayer. I immediately felt peaceful and was reminded that I could give my burdens to the Lord. Nothing that happens in my life (no matter how big or small) escapes God’s attention. I bring stress on myself for failing to be confident in God.

    #6) A woman with a confident heart rests in God’spromises, believes in her ability to do great things for God.

    Thanks Renee for your wonderful book and everyone for sharing your comments.

  134. I too experienced God’s peace as I listened to the song of prayer. It is awesome to see how powerful the word of God can be. All we need to do is speak his word, because he is a God that is true. I find myself afraid sometimes when new challenges come my way. I have to remind myself that God is in control and no weapon that is formed against me share prosper and that he is working things out for my good.

  135. Kimberly Stiver says:

    Listening to the Song of Prayer, I could sense God was speaking to me. He was saying:
    Even when you feel alone, look and see that I am with you. When you are sad I am here. When you are happy I am here. When you feel you can’t be forgiven ask and I will forgive you. No matter where you are or what you are feeling I am here. Just look for me.
    Psalm 42
    As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, O God.
    My soul thirsts for God, for the living God. When can I go and meet with God?
    My tears have been my food day and night, while men say to me all day long, Where is your God?
    These things I remember as I pour out my soul: how I used to go with the multitude, leading the procession to the house of God, with shouts of joy and thanksgiving among the festive throng.
    Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise Him, my Savior and my God.
    My soul is downcast within me; therefore I will remember you from the land of the Jordan, the heights of Hermon-from Mount Mizar.
    Deep calls to deep in the roar of your waterfalls; all your waves and breakers have swept over me.
    By day the Lord directs his love, at night his song is with me-a prayer to the God of my life.
    I say to God my Rock, Why have you forgotten me? Why must I go about mourning, oppressed by the enemy?
    My bones suffer mortal agony as my foes taunt me, saying to me all day long, Where is your God?
    Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise Him, my Savior and my God.

    I feel just like David when he wrote this psalm so long ago. I know that God is with me wherever I go, but when I feel overwhelmed that is when I feel alone.
    All the questions for this week really got me thinking and searching. However, the two that really spoke to me was question 5 and 6. My answers to these questions Feelings of not good enough and having too many problems to living with God-confidence. The promise that speaks to my greatest need right now is Romans 8:28:
    And we know that all things God works for good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.
    Yes, even me being on dialysis works for the good, because I love Him and have been called according to His purpose. God doesn’t want me to feel all doom and gloom, He wants me to put my trust in Him.
    Question 6 answer:
    She will rely on God and not doubt that God loves her always. She will have the faith to tell others about Jesus. She will not be insecure about who she is in God. She will step out of the boat and step out in faith. She will not let her health problems rule her. She will believe God and not just believe in God.

    Renee, thank you so much for starting this Bible study. This week I have listened to God more than I have done my whole life! I feel good! I thank God that He is showing me that He is with me, I just need to look and listen to Him. Please pray that I don’t quit and that I keep on doing what God has called me to do many, many times. He wants me to spend alone time with Him.

  136. While listening to “A Song of Prayer,” I felt a deep sense of peace and also an expectancy of something good to come. When we get to a point of bring secure in God’s love, He is like a loving parent to us. He wants to give us good things in our lives.

  137. I loved the music! I was truly worshiping while listening to his talent. For me, a confident woman is one who knows that she is pleasing the Lord with every thought, word, and action.

  138. Caroline McGinnis says:

    #4 Isaiah 49:23 i will not be put to shame by GOD.
    Isaiah 43:19 GOD will make me a new person and do new and amazing things through me.
    Romans 8:28 no matter what I do in my life, even the bad things, and no matter how bad they seem to be, GOD will work out good through them. So that I may teach others what GOD has taught me through the bad in my life.
    Mark 9:23 this makes me feel hopeful that GOD can do anything as long as i believe in Him and his power.

    #5 What hinders me most is not spending enough time with GOD, through the Word and prayer; this leads me to have a negative heart and attitude. fear of failure can hinder me from living with a GOD confidence.
    YES, there are two promises that can speak to my geartest need right now.
    a) Isaiah 43:19 GOD is doing something new for me, He is helping me to fight through my fear daily.
    b) Isaiah 49:23 GOD won’t shame me only man will and can.

    #6 A woman with a confident heart knows she is fully loved by GOD and is free to look “foolish” in the eyes of the world. I act like this alot in hope to make people laugh and to brighten up there day.

    As for the song I found it to be an amazing piece. I felt GOD’s presence Chad’s playing. God has surely blessed him with a gift for music. I felt peaceful and still and thought of a scripture while i was listening. which was Psalm 46:10 Be still and know that I am GOD….(NLT). I surely was still and knew only GOD could have someone perform something so beautiful.

  139. I enjoyed listening to the music and enjoying God’s presence. As I listened I thought about who He says I am. Then I thought of all of the conflicting thoughts I have had about who I feel like I am. He told me that my thoughts and feelings do not change the truth. They simply keep me from walking as the person He has created me to be, I want to stop deciding who I am by my own thoughts and feelings. I want to believe Him.

    I think a confident woman seeks the Lord with all her heart. She knows Him intimately and knows who she is in Him. She walks in the fear of the Lord and not the fear of man, She is able to walk in faith and not fear because she knows God is with her and is guiding her steps.

    That is the person I long to be and am so thankful that God is helping me to be more like that every day. I have not arrived but I am on the journey to becoming a confident woman of God.

  140. Beautiful!!!
    For so long, I have thought of myself as not beautiful, someone who no one would ever want, but God thinks I am beautiful and He wants me. My whole life I have been searching for confidence in the worldly things: career/education, spouse/children, money, you name it I have wanted it all because I thought it would make me lovable, and give me the confidence to minister to others…to really have a sense of self-worth. Christ died for me, and He is the only one that has. What more could I ask for? Nothing in this world can and ever will compare to what He endured on the cross…for me. I am still trying to find my place in this world….I don’t have a college degree (praying about that), I don’t have a husband, not even a potentional, I don’t have a lot of money and still…. He loves me! God has really been working in my life, breaking me…restoring me….teaching me, it not about this life. This life and all it has to offer will fade away, but His love for me never will…never. Knowing that, I am slowly gaining confidence in Him. I just want to be obedient to His Will and His Calling in my life….If that means getting a degree, I will. If it means having a husband or children, I will. If it means being stable financially, I will. If not, then I just spent life deeping my faith, and being loved and in love with the greatest man ever, whom I will spend eternity with…what more could I ask for?
    Take Care, God Bless 🙂

  141. I was not able to listen to the music because my husband is in the same room with me sleeping and I didn’t want to disturb him. I did want to mention the answer to one of my questions on here.
    (1) I think my earliest memory of insecurity was when I was a child and felt rejected by the other girls my age at church. Our family was poor and I think we were looked down upon by others in the church. Because of that, my sister and I were never invited to the birthday parties of other girls from church, but we would hear all about them. Then when I was a teenager, my older sisters would make fun of my body. So, I grew up feeling that I was somehow lesser than others and my body wasn’t good enough. My complex about my body caused me to make some poor decisions that I now regret.

  142. It was a struggle for me to listen to the song. To listen to the Spirit with no distraction not thinking about my mistakes during the week or what needs to be done next. All that I needed to do is listen. And now I just want to listen continuously!
    I saw myself standing in a field, with the wind lightly blowing, looking for what direction to take. What way is The Way? Then Jesus was standing there, telling me to come His way, but I still resisted. I was afraid of falling and messing up. But He held out His arms and told it was okay and I didn’t have to go through this alone. I burst into tear and start running to Him with my arm out wanting to hold unto my Father and never let go. I was loved and cherished!!! I have never really felt that way from anyone on this earth! I knew my parents, family and friends loved me, but not with the intensity I felt coming from Him. When I was with Him there was so much peace. I want to hold that in my heart. I am not alone!!!

    2 & 5. (This was my answer for both) Insecurity stops me all the time from doing things. I struggle with insecurity everyday. What is my class work is not good enough? What if the professor thinks I am incompetent ? What if my work feels the same way? I try to hide my worries and problems from my friends because I am afraid they will judge and reject me if I not perfect. It consumes my life. I second guess every thing about myself. Am I good enough? Romans 8:28 speaks to me. If you read on to verse 38, Paul states,”If God is for us, who can stand against us.”(vs.31) and then “not ANYTHING in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord!” (vs. 38)
    -God is loves and is “works for the good for me.” No matter how unworthy I feel nothing (my insecurity, others opinions of me, etc.) can separate me from that love.

  143. Thank you much for this. God is blessing me more than ever

  144. I have been slow in responding this week, but get a rush of energy and enthusiasm for the Lord when ever I open up the book or the emails. I haven’t been able to find a computer yet to listen to the song, but will this week. As for the questions..
    #7– I have been able to see this verse in Jeremiah work in heart in just contining to pursue the Lord through this study indepently from those at my church. We are on a different path Isiah 43:19 in seeking out more opportunites to evangelize the love of Jesus and bringing people to the Lord. My cell leader continues to reassure me that leadership is in path, and so continuing here is important to me, and learning how to pray with the Word is new. I haven’t felt compelled in the past to memorize verses but see now how I can really use this in my toolbox. Thanks

  145. I felt comfort and peace.

  146. I was in pain today. As I listened to this beautiful music, I felt the pain deep in side start to disolve and flow out of my body. I felt totally at peace. I will give thanks to my Lord and Savior. He is always with me.

  147. Thank you for sharing the Song of Prayer….as I sat listening to this and reading the posts about chapter 1, I just felt so at peace. God is so good and I am learning daily to just Trust him….he only wants to show me his unconditional love….I just have to accept it.

  148. Ginny Weaver says:

    This song feels as if I am praying. It reminds me of the verse that talks about the Spirit interceding for us when we know we ought to pray, but only groans come forth.

  149. God’s peace is amazing…that is what I felt listening to Chad’s song.

    A Confident Heart – Chapter 1 Questions
    #1 – I have felt insecure most of my life. I second guess all of my decisions, I am learning to trust God and put my hope and trust in Him.
    #7 – Jeremiah 17:7 – God promised me that I will be blessed if I trust in Him and place my hope in Him. I claim this and pray this scripture for my life.

  150. I just listened to the beautiful song. It’s a cold, rainy day here, perfect for staying bundled up on the couch. Early into the piece, I felt like the music was the raining down of the Holy Spirit, full of love and encouragement. Thanks so much for sharing it with us.

    I loved Romans 8:28 listed in question 4: God has reminded much over the weekend that I have been called according to His purpose. And therefore He will work to my good. Talk about blessed!

    My confidence shakes when I forget to rely on Him and His promises for me and try to rely on my own pitiful self instead. Looking forward to reading the next chapter!

  151. I felt a lot of peace listening to the song. I remembered how when I surrender something to God, it’s then well taken care of. It’s no longer a worry of mine. I have to remember this every time something difficult comes up in my life. Because I remember of the reality that God loves me. That God loves us. My trust is rooted in his love for me/us. So I can surrender and dwell in that bubble of peace because of God’s love, his heart of love.

  152. I loved the music you posted! I had to work several nights very late so I listened to Pandora. Anytime the words especially spoke to me I wrote the name of the song down. I am building a playlist for our Bible study. Thought I would share the songs: Blessings by Laura Story, Lift me Up by the Afters, You Love me Anyway by Sidewalk Prophets, Before the Morning by Josh Wilson, and My Hope is in You by Aaron Shust. Also this verse was shared in my Life Group this morning: “Every word of God proves true. He is a shield to all who come to him for protection.” Proverbs 30:5

    I am going to start a list of God’s promises and a list of God’s character to read and meditate on, especially on the doubting days. God says to think on what is true, lovely, and of good report. It is sometimes the verses that you know so well that you never practice. At least I find that is true of me. Blessed to have this sisterhood all striving to know Him better. I think of us filling a gymnasium and the joy we are bringing to Jesus’ face as we study His words.

  153. Peacefulness!!

  154. This is going to be a great study for me. In doing the questions I am surprised by myself at what comes to my mind right away. I’m really mulling over my responses.
    Especially #4 When I read these scriptures I am enveloped with doubt and my self says REALLY????

    I feel like I”ve been waiting and hoping all my life and I do feel disappointed. I do know we serve a Good God and he will prove faithful. I need to really know this in my heart. Thank you Renee for putting this together. I’m expecting some changes in myself

  155. As others said, I felt Peace and Comfort, the song is like a warm blanket wraping me up in God’s love. I have been slow to get going on this study. Making time for the Lord is something I have always struggled with, I think partially because of confidence! I also have a newborn at home and am struggling to find our new routine and fit time with God in to that but I am determined! And I hope through this study to build confidence that will further encourage that. I have always struggled with confidence all my life. One thing I keep thinking is that lacking confidence as a Christian is selfish! As we have read, we need to have confidence in THE LORD not our self, so when I stumble and show doubt that I think is in him I am really taking Confidence away from HIM! That is what I am going to try and focus on!

  156. This music is a perfect backdrop to my studies. I think I may listen to it everytime I am having my time with the Lord. It is the beautiful noise I need in the background to keep my mind from wandering.
    #6 – I believe that a woman with a confident heart is head strong and heart strong. This is not because of her, but because she is in a relationship with God, she is in His word and because she has moved beyond believing in Him to believing Him.

  157. Corina white says:

    What a beautiful song I love it!! What I love is his smiles when he plays, it’s at that moment you know he is hearing from God!! I too am like all of you, I have no confidence in myself or any of my abilities. As I type this i struggle with my job, my kids, my walk with the Lord. I don’t know why I am here n I don’t know why it has to be so darn hard. I heard in the pastors service this morning talk about how we think God doesn’t hear our prayers but in truth HE is ALL OVER IT!! That gave me such hope as far as the job n kids are concerned.

  158. I realized more than ever the power of praying God’s word when my husband was deployed to Iraq. During a Bible study that focused on praying for our husbands, we discussed how God loves it when we use “His” language to talk to Him. That was a revelation for me that changed my prayer life forever! Thank you Rene’ for being God’s vessel and messenger to us!

  159. Natalie L says:

    This music was a much needed blessing! The past two weeks have been very hectic. It is hard to relax sometimes when the week is so unsettled. But I have been pressing in to God and can feel Him close! Satan just tries to make me unable to stop and be still sometimes.

    #1 – My earliest memory was when I was really little saying over & over that I am stupid. I was so frustrated that my dad didn’t want me or love me. I wanted to be delighted in so badly! Also, I read really slow and people in Sunday School & regular school made fun of me. I didn’t stop saying I’m stupid until recently, I am 28 now. I say God’s promises out loud when I feel discouraged. I am always amazed when I hear that I am smart or doing good. (Like at my job or at church) It is so nice to hear it! I could soak it in forever 🙂 By pressing in to God, I have noticed an Amazing difference in my confidence already!!!

    #2 – It kept me from developing real, deep friendships b/c of fear of rejection. It made me not think I have what it takes to be a leader. It has kept me from doing my best sometimes if it involves other people.
    … I have recently made friends & was asked to possibly be a leader at my work 🙂 I cannot believe it still, but by pressing in to God, I know that HE is my Confidence and I am only successful because of Him!!!
    This book has been a way for God to change my life in less than a month! Thank you so very much Renee!!!

  160. Sithembile says:

    Thank you so much Reene for this wonderful journey you are taking us. i too suffer from low self esteem, doubt and insecurities. My parents divorced when i was 3 months old, i never really felt the love of my natural Father because he was never a part of my life. i ended up getting into relationships with guys i thot would fill that gap. i made a lot of mistakes in my haste to get love and i ended up giving away my virginity before marriage. the Guy dumped me afterwards. i have confessed my sins and rededicated my life to Christ but some times i feel God really hasnt forgiven me for all my sins, i feel that i have to try so hard to be forgiven. Thanks to this Study , i begining to realise that God really loves and he is MY FATHER who will never hurt or abandon me.

  161. Chapter 2 stuck a chord in my heart. It was not my father, but my mother. And she didn’t leave us, but she did reject me. I’ve actually recently learned that she thought that I – as a newborn – looked in her eyes and communicated that I didn’t need her. And, because of her own issues, she wanted a “needy” baby. So she rejected me repeatedly and to this day, is jealous when I succeed in anything. I spent all of my childhood and most of my adulthood trying to understand what I could do to please her. How I could measure up. So I’d work harder, get better grades, etc. but nothing worked. For example, I graduated 7th in my high school class. My mother’s reaction was that I could have been valedictorian if I’d just tried harder. A few years ago, she admitted to all of this and told me that my sister is her “favorite” because she’d always needed my mother and I did not. My sister cannot have children and my mother has lamented that “fate” is cruel because my sister should have had children, not me. (I have the only children in the family – her only grandchildren).

    This translated into my first marriage, where I tried SO hard to be perfect. I’d have the house perfectly clean when he came home – he’d find something wrong. (Once it was because I didn’t vacuum the rug in the right pattern). After 2 years of working with a priest (which my husband refused to talk to because he saw the problems as all mine – he even told me if I could be more perfect we wouldn’t have any problems) I filed for divorce. It broke my heart but I couldn’t see living like that any more for my kids’ sake (plus my own).

    I am remarried and have a strong Christian bond with my husband. He knows all of the above and accepts me anyway – even when I spend all weekend on my recliner! (LOL)

    • Monique P says:


      Your life story has so many elements of my own. I too felt rejected by both my mother and father. My sister is the favorite in the family too – and I understand that pain that comes with that. My father has admitted it – but my Mom can’t admit to anything. My father told me to “forget I ever had a father” – and for now, while I realign a few things in my heart – I think this is for the best. I found myself as a nearly 40 year old (!) who was still trying endlessly to gain their approval. I realised it was time for things to change. I think it is going to be a process, but I believe that God is whispering to my heart and assuring me that He doesn’t play favorites – and to Him, I am perfect! I just wanted you to know that you are not alone in your journey and I really do believe that God works all things together (including the experiences which have left us with scars) for good. 🙂

  162. Lisa Hall says:

    What a beautiful song of prayer!

  163. This music just makes my mind and heart float to think and speak to God. Awsome!

  164. I can easily see how one could picture ice skating while listening to Chad Lawson’s Song of Prayer. I could also imagine snowflakes falling-each unique and beautiful. I guess that should be an encouragement to all of us–unique and beautiful on our own. I enjoyed listening while I worked on this and another Bible study. I enjoy how verses from separate studies come together. My first thought in the music was “Be still and know that I am God” since the music started so softly

  165. Tears just streamed down my face as I listened to this. Why am I doubting God? Why am I trying to figure out what’s best, when He already knows? A wave of peace fell upon me as I looked at the pictures of my five children hanging on the wall and realized God has everything under control — even my husband’s health (which has been a concern lately). Question 6 really struck me and reminded me of the need to feel at peace in my life. I don’t need to have everything perfect, or even OK, in my life. But if I’m confident, I will be at peace with God and what He is doing in my life. Unfortunately, that has not been the case for some time. Doing this study and just taking time to be with Him is helping me to find that peace again. Lord, thank you for people like Chad, Renee and others who work to bring us closer to You!

  166. Wendy Thrasher says:

    This is so beautiful. I feel it in my heart and my soul. I’m going to buy the mp3 on Amazon so I can carry this with me wherever I go.

  167. First off, I am far from the one that would normally post something. What an amazing week this has been! Thank you, Renee! Thank you to all of you women, who have shared your comments along the way. (Just as a side note, I lift up prayers for you after I read your post.) This whole “online study” is such an awesome idea! (This is the first one I have participated in.) What a blessing it has been thus far!

    I, like most women, stay busy busy busy, and wonder how the 24 hours in a day fly by so quickly. As I listened to “Song of Prayer,” I found myself totally at peace. Completely relaxed. Not caring what time it was. Calm, yet excited. I felt as if God was right here next to me with His arms around me allowing my tears to roll off my face onto His shoulder. Shed slow peaceful tears (hard to describe) but had a soft big smile on my face at the same time. Talk about feeling the peace of God’s presence!!!!

    As far as the Chapter 1 questions go, most of my answers were pretty long. Simple and sweet though: I love how reading God’s word turns my “down and out, sad, feeling conquered, feeling like a failure” into being “uplifted, full of life, reminded that all things are possible with Him” mindset. His words help me feel more confident!!!!! I am praying to be that confident woman with a confident heart. A woman full of His promises engraved on my heart!!!!

  168. I am in agreement with Kristin about the online class being awesome. This is my first time participating in an online bible study too. I am so glad that I am a part of this and I look for to what is yet to come. But I cant wait to share my experience with others so they too can be BLESSED.

    Thank you for sharing the Song of Prayer with us. It is absolutely beautiful that I had to share it with my son. The words we both came up with is peaceful and relaxing. As I closed my eyes I was dancing in my mind and smiling and I felt free. No worries at all. I know that I will be listening to this song over and over again. My son said he was definitely going to support this song.

  169. I began listening to this last week, but quite honestly, didn’t have time to sit and listen to the whole video. It went right along with what I’m studying in a Bible study with a few friends, how we need to sit still and just be with God. Sadly, I’m just getting back around it sitting and listening. You don’t realize how long 30 minutes is until you actually make yourself sit without doing anything else for that long. Chad’s music was absolutely beautiful – a song of praise to our God. I was very moved by it and it has inspired me to work a bit harder to find that quite time to spend with God each day – undistracted, not asking, but just sitting….listening.

    Thanks so much for sharing this link Renee.

  170. Ok, so I am totally playing catch-up. The day this all started I got the flu. Then my husband arrived home from ND after being gone for 4 weeks. Now he’s is on his way back to ND and I totally have some time to catch up. Here is a thought on the question #5. “What hinders you most from living with God-confidence on a consistent basis?” For me, I am still learning that He is not a punishing God. That He is a merciful and loving God. I was raised to believe that if I didn’t have enough faith and something happened then God was punishing me. If I didn’t do my devotions then God would allow something bad to happen in the day. When my car broke down it was because I didn’t have enough faith that God would get me to where I was going on time with the car. Mind you, the car was an old car and it was more than likely to break down! This believing led me to doubt in God’s true love for me and also the success of my life. I would doubt my own ability to accomplish certain tasks because I was afraid that if I made a mistake or didn’t have enough faith that god would punish me. I now know this is NOT true. The verse that gives me confidense to accomplish tasks wether they are big or small is ” all things are possible to [her] who believes. (Mark 9:23). NOT her who has enough faith!

  171. Good morning Renee – I am loving this study! I’m a few days behind; which is great that we can just pick up where WE are in life. Chad’s music is the perfect prayerful music and thank you so much for sharing that with us! I think the question that I found the most important and summed up the other’s was question 5 at the end of Chapter 1. What hinders us from living with God-confidence on a consistent basis? I would have to say the world around us. We have the media; televsion – magazine ads everywhere / things telling us how we should look; the latest fashions, the latest hairdo’s, etc. We are bombarded with the world says we shoul look like and it can really wear you down when you want to put those things away. About 6 months ago I cut all my hair for my 13 yr. old daughter that was about to begin chemo for ovarian cancer. I’ve had many people say they like my hair short and other’s that have said I looked better with it long. I did it for a reason; not to glorify “other’s” but to support my daughter. This is just an example of how the world says we should look one way and for so many women this will make them very self confident and shy away. Satan loves that – he only needs but a few seconds to paralyze your thought process! Thank you again for this study! -CiCi-

  172. Sonia Samuel says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this link Renee and thank you Leslie for this wonderful song of prayer.
    I know GOD led me to these Bible Studies and to all you wonderful Ladies.
    Stay strong in the LORD!!

  173. Hi, Renee and everyone, I have listened to the piano piece, it was relaxing, but need to hear it again. After jusut reading all your comments about how the music made you feel all of you, i need to listen again and really try to concentrate and block out things and get my mind quiet which is hard to do. i’m just catching up in the archives. I have posted my comments in earlier sections and am now posting in this section. I was saying i’m totally blind and have the computer with the speech program. that with keystroke commands, i can do anything with the computer! as I read all the comments, i’m saying to myself i am so there with her. I struggle with self doubt listen to negative thoughts. More and more every day, God is helping me to place my trust in him. I still a lot of times want to do my own thing and then when it doesn’t work out, i’m reminded, I hear a small voice well, you should have listened! I started this study, then, I worked on the seven day diet and now I’ve started the study again at my own pace thank God for those archives! Monday coming, I’m going to speak at a classroom about what it is to be blind. my neighbour asked me to. I’m excited! I have never been asked to do this and I’m thinking Renee when you talked about getting ready to do a presentation. it was in chapter one or chapter two. well, I’m going to listen to song of praise again now that I’ve read all your dcomments about how you all felt about it, and this time, I’m really going to concentrate on keeping my mind quiet so that I can listen to the relaxing peaceful music and really listen to what god is saying to me. One thing I will say about the music is that I have a lot of trouble sleeping, and when I was listening to this, I thought this will help me sleep thank you Renee!

  174. I just started this study.
    Q 4 : What do you think hinders you most from living with God confidence on a concistent basis?
    I am feeling inadequate. Like I am not good enough for His promises. Undeserving. They were/ are not ment for me.
    Reasoning kicks in and tells me perhaps I am not rightly dividing God’s Word? Can I just cherry pick OT promises and blessings for the Jews from the OT and make them mine? I so struggle with this.
    Please. Help me. I want to believe. I want a confident heart.

  175. Gillian Kenney says:

    Thank you Lord,for the invitation to come to you ,to run to you as your Love draws me closer. That I am and always will be your loved child you make plain to me .You lift me up as I run to you ,you hold me above the circumstances of the world.You will uphold me ,you ask me to run ,to run ,to run in Your Love for in your strength will I be Revived. Then I may Rest in you ,sing with you ,Be who you intended to be – Your child. You believe in me ,simply You made me in Love.

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