Don’t Throw Away Your Confidence

“So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded. You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised.”

Hebrews 10:35-36 (NIV)

Have you ever thrown away your confidence? One night I was cleaning our kitchen and found this little rubber thingy on our counter top. It wasn’t until after I threw it away that I realized it was the power button for our TV remote control. As I dug through the trash to find it, I sensed God showing me that’s how easily I throw away my confidence—without recognizing it.

It’s usually very subtle. Sometimes I’ll be thinking about something I want to do or sense God calling me to, and a feeling of uncertainty comes over me and whispers to my heart, You can’t do that. You’re not good enough. Out of the blue, I’ll just get that awful, insecure feeling.

Too many times in the past I’ve gone along with it, tossing my confidence into the trash without even thinking.

So, maybe I should ask again. Have you ever thrown away your confidence?

We throw away our confidence each time we say negative things to ourselves. We trash our security when we allow accusation and condemnation from others to define us. And it breaks God heart.

Can I share an important message and invitation with you? It’ll only take 3 minutes, but it’s the most important part of today’s post. And it’s part of today’s give-away, too. Please click the arrow to watch.

Renee Swope – A Confident Heart Book Trailer from SoundPost Productions on Vimeo.

(If you’re reading this post via email, please click here to view my book trailer)

Can you tell I’m a little passionate about sharing this message with you. It’s because I want you to experience the freedom and confidence Jesus gave this girl – freedom I’d never known – freedom that came as I learned to live in the power and security of God’s promises!

I know what it’s like to feel stuck in a cycle of defeat. I know how much “hopeless” hurts.

As I wrote A Confident Heart, I looked back and saw a pattern in my thinking that led to the pattern of my doubting. And those patterns led me to trash my security and become paralyzed with self-doubt.

But over time, I learned that I could ask God to show me when I’m tempted to throw away my confidence and then help me throw away my insecurities instead.

• When self-doubt whispers, “I can’t do that. I’m going to fail and look foolish.” I’ve learned to throw away that lie away and hold onto this truth (sometimes I even say it out loud): “The Lord is my helper, I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?” (Hebrews 13:6, NIV 1984)

• When self-doubt whispers, “I’ll never change.” I throw away that lie away and claim this truth: “For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in [me] will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 1:6, NASB)

• When self-doubt whispers, “This is too hard for me. I don’t have what it takes to…” I toss that thought and hold onto this truth: “No, in all these things [I am] more than a [conqueror] through him who loved [me].” (Romans 8:37, NIV)

Oh friends, how I long for you to join me in living with A Confident Heart. I want your life to be transformed through the Truths God engraved on my soul to share with you in each chapter.

That is why we’re praying over each book and each person who reads it, asking Jesus to use His words on each page to change your life as you read them. To make hope rise again in your heart. To bring encouragement where discouragement has settled. And set you free from any and all cycles of doubt and defeat so you can live with A Confident Heart!

Will you pray with me? Lord, I want to become a woman with a confident heart in Christ. Will you help me recognize when I throw away my confidence, and remind me to throw away my insecurities instead? I want to persevere in Your truth so that when I have done Your will, I will receive what You have promised. When doubt or insecurity tells me I can’t do something, I will remember that all things are possible to her who believes. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.


A Confident Heart Give-Away

Enter to win 3 copies of A Confident Heart as well as a gift card and my message, “Don’t Throw Away Your Confidence” on CD- by clicking on “Share Your Thoughts” below. I’d love to know one thing in the book trailer or in my P31 devotion that you could identify with, also is there someone or somewhere you’ll share today’s post? We’d love for others to hear about A Confident Heart through you! And to make it easy, there are “Tell A Friend” buttons just below this post.


Last week’s winners of the “Contagious Confidence” winners
which include a copy of  “A Confident Heartalong with “Confident Heart” sticky notes that have quotes and promise from my book and Starbucks gift cards are: Kelli Wommack, Debra and Stephanie Melton. We’ve got your email from your comments so we’ll be in touch to get your address.

About Renee

Renee Swope is a Word-lover, story-teller, heart-encourager and grace-needer. She's also a wife, mom, friend, daughter and author of A Confident Heart, a Retailers Choice Award winning book that became a best-seller and has been published in six languages, with over 150,000 copies sold. Renee is speaks around the country at women's events and and serves on the writing team for DaySpring’s inCourage blog. For twenty years, Renee served in leadership at Proverbs 31 Ministries and as former co-host of the ministry's radio program, “Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee.


  1. Looking forward to knowing more about A Confident Heart.I am dealing with mental illness and at times it is hard to walk the Christian life.As a male;I am more confident with woman ministries.Will have to buy the book and enjoy reading it.My prayers go with you.

    • Ron, I certainly don’t think it matters whether we’re male or female. Self-doubt can cripple each of us. Praying God will minister to you through this book. It is truly a life-changer!! Praying for your God-fidence!!

    • I understand the battle with mental illness. I battle with it too. It’s a struggle we face everyday and God willing we can overcome the effects of it. God has shown me a lot through my daily reading and it’s helped with a lot of the effects of it!

      Can’t wait to read the book and looking forward to the effects it will have on me.

  2. God-fidence!

    Eyes turned from self and to Him….

    I am so grateful for you, Renee … you with eyes fixed on Him, whispering to us all, “Look, just look to Jesus… ”

    With you, sister… looking onto Him…

  3. I love your video and I’m sure I will love your book! I’m trying to live each day in His Light! And with
    God-fidence!! 🙂 I was a very shy little girl too, but as we age, I think God gives us His Peace more (if we seek Him). If we trust He is in control, it just makes it easier to be confident! Thank you for your encouragement! (I love the picture in the background too!)
    I can’t wait read your whole book! 🙂

  4. Renee, Thank you so much for being faithful to follow His leading in writing this book, I am assured He will complete His purpose through it! The 7-day doubt diet was a huge kick off for me, revealing things I didn’t even know about myself! I look forward to the day I am able to get this book and devour it!
    In Christ,

  5. This is a book i believe that I can truely learn and grow from. My life is filled with so much self doubt that it almost consumes my life at times. It stops me from being part of things that have been offered to me. Thank you for this book. I can not wait until I get a copy of it and start reading it. When my funds are able to allow me I will get this book. Thank you again.

  6. Greetings
    Is it to late to order a copy of your book… a signed copy that is???


  7. Judi Splint says:

    I did post similarly on another site regarding your wonderful video. But I will repeat a part of it. The words on the screen, “Feeling like I am always disappointing someone.” My goodness, that has become my life. That is such a burden on me, and I can’t seem to conquer it.
    How do I maintain my focus on God and what he has for me, when my family constantly reminds me of how much of a disappointment I have been? Even though I have changed since coming to know the Lord over 14 years ago; I have even obtained 2 degrees from Bible college and Seminary. How do I maintain a focus and hold my head up when my own flesh and blood continue to be against me; to the extent of recently turning my granddaughter against me for my past?
    I desperately need answers.

    • Judi, it is really hard when our family is stuck in the old ruts and their words continue to tear us down. That is when we have to sit in a quiet place and ask Jesus to speak HIS words of affirmation over our hearts. He sees beyond who we are or who we were to who we are becoming in HIM!! Im praying for you sweet friend!!

  8. I know you are saying that this trailer is not promotion for book sales but your book is going to be a hit. Once women see the trailer they are going to buy it. We face doubts everyday but there are some truths that are in your book (based on the Doubt Diet) that no one has even pin pointed it like you have. For instance things that we worry about are really in fact called doubt. Sister we are all in this thing together.

    Thanks for writing this book. A sister who can identify with other sisters what we experience on an everyday basis. Is it too late to order a signed copy?

  9. Samantha says:

    I received your book yesterday and am already enjoying it. Thanks so much for allowing God to use you to help me!

  10. LOVE the trailer for the book. Just received it and my husband and I are trying to take several mini vacations within the next couple of months, so I can’t wait to begin to read it! I’ve slo been ask to lead a Ladies Bbiel Study at my Church and I’m thinking this just might be the book! Love you Renee!

  11. I have often wondered if something was wrong with me due to constant questioning/doubting myself and being overly self-conscious. I know the Lord has healed areas of my heart but also know there is more healing needed. It is somewhat comforting to know others have similar thoughts, and, even more encouraging, understand how this pattern can undermine, even ruin, what God has planned for each of us……plans to prosper with hope and a future! I am very excited about your new book Renee and agree with your prayer that God will use it to transform lives! In His mighty Name and Power!! Amen and Amen

  12. Julie Kelada says:

    Dear Renee,

    You continue to shine a bright light for Christ! I am proud of you and can’t wait to read your amazing book. You are so authentic and real and I know many people will find healing in your words.


  13. Renee,

    I received my copy of A Confident Heart yesterday and can’t wait to read it. I know God will change many lives through the message he has given you!


  14. I am so proud of you my friend. God is speaking directly to so many hearts, many that in the past were broken, and now with the assistance of the words of this book are healing. Thank you for being transparent and faithful to Gods calling.

  15. I ordered your book over the weekend and can’t wait to get it 🙂 I’m so loving the 7-day Doubt Diet! Thank you so much for your teaching, guidance and encouragement! <3 This is God's perfect timing in my life!! I truly need God's confidence to reign in my soul!

  16. Great encouragement for women today!

  17. Renee, I absolutely love the trailer. I love the book. I love you. I’ve received 3 copies this week and I can’t wait to start sharing this beautiful message of God-fidence!!! xoxo

  18. I’m waiting anxiously to have the opportunity to read your book. The cycles of my depression and anxiety have taken a toll on my hope. I start to feel better, only to be knocked to the ground. I know God loves me. The Bible tells me so, right? Then why do I struggle so? (One can get anxious about being anxious…LOL!)

    Thank you for committing your time and energy to spreading a message of hope.


  19. Hilda Quintanilla says:

    Completing the Doubt Diet and DEVOURED the first chapter! Cant wait to get a copy of the book!

  20. Yolanda Sanders says:

    Hello I would like to enter to recieve A Confident Heart, because i have struggle for so long with caring about what others think about me, say about me and tell me what they think I should do and be. It has affected alot of my relationships because I have taken so many beat downs that I doubt myself at times even thou I know I am what God says I am……fearfully and wonderfullt made. I am married and a mom of 3 lil ones. I want to be a better role model for my family and I need all the help and prayers that I can get. I also struggle with weight gain issues, I love to sing praises for God and I tend to let the negative comments other say get me down too. So I was hoping to get your book to see what God has to say to me thru you to help me get on track and gain confidence in God and myself to be a better vessel used by God. Thank you so much!

    • Yolanda Sanders says:

      Oops, i forgot to tell you what part of your book I mostly would identify with is, “I’m not good enough!” I feel like that all the time. I am a part of a small circle group of women and men from my church and I would love to share you books with them and be a blessing to them!

  21. I am sitting here reading these comments and my heart is just leaping with excitement for those who are about to read this book. May God continue to work through this message for years and generations to come! Love you, sweet sister!

  22. Lynne Koch says:

    I am so incredibly excited to start this bible study. I just finished Hidden Joy in a Dark Corner by Wendy Blight and learned so much. I have read the doubt diet and LOVED it. I think all the women in my HJ prayer group are going to take the class. I am looking forward to having tools to defeat my lack of confidence and overcome the disappointment when I don’t please everyone. If I won the 3 books, I would give 1 to each of my daughters. Thanks Renee

  23. elizabeth says:

    i am a wife and a mom as well as very involved with the children’s ministry and women’s ministry at our church. self confidence was something i didn’t struggle with very much when i was younger. i don’t know what changed, but here i am years later, having those occasional thoughts that i’m not good enough as a mom for my kids or a good enough wife for my husband. i’m not consumed by these thoughts; the thoughts that seem to be really have me in a “death grip” are the thoughts of: “if i fail, i might not get another chance so i’ll wait for something a little less challenging” or “what if i give the wrong advice and totally screw up someone else’s life”. i’m often afraid to step up/speak up fearing that i might say or do the wrong thing-more accurately, that i’ll do the right thing but no one else is doing it so i maybe shouldn’t.
    like i said, i don’t know why or when this all started, but i want that confidence back.
    not only do i need to hear this but i KNOW the women in our small group need to hear this too. i’ll for sure be sharing this post on Facebook with my bible study ladies. the book sounds perfect and so timely. i can’t wait to read it.

  24. Margaret Kirk says:

    “We trash our security when we allow accusation and condemnation from others to define us”…I have been trying to find words to explain to myself what happened to me…As a young woman, wife and mother I was growing comfortable with who I was and confident that I could walk in the path God had designed for me…as some years passed and my mother’s health began to fail the accusation and condemnation flowed until I shut myself into a closet of my own making and lost all hope that I would ever be what God wants me to be. In the past year events have occurred that enabled me to at first tentatively, but now ever so much more confidently open the doors of my hiding place and let the Lord love me in ways I could not have imagined…I’ve been reading your blog for a couple of weeks now and am daily encouraged. Thank you for that. I share your blog on my Facebook page and pray that those who are my “friends” there will also be blessed and nourished by your words…Thank you! I look forward to reading your book.

  25. I have lived with worry most of my life. It wasn’t until about a year and a half ago when I did a bible study with some ladies from church that I realized this is not what God wants from me. It’s hard to not worry daily, but I pray about it and move on. I would love to win your book.

  26. KT Mable says:

    Your email on a Confident Heart came at just the right time! Criticism from a family member over attempts to help them through a difficult time, changes in my husband’s work demands causing him to be away from home for longer periods of time, launching three adult children creating an empty nest, and experiencing the disappointment of friends walking away from a once treasured ministry combined to form a caldron of introspection, dismay and dejection recently. Reading your “Encouragement for Today” made me realize I have thrown away my God-confidence. Thank you for helping me pick my emotional and mental focus “out of the trash” and place it back up on God’s promises and character through His word. Thank you for allowing God to speak through you!

  27. Wow, this is something that I’m struggling with on an ongoing basis, like so many women. I’m so thankful that I saw you on Facebook this morning and read your story. I can’t wait to get my hands on your book and learn more of what God is speaking to you about. He knows our deepest fears and wants to set us free from bondage. Keep writing, Renee!

  28. I can definitely identify with this topic as I have struggled with a lack of self-confidence my entire life. Looking forward to reading your book.

  29. The Lord has been working on this area of doubt and self-defeating words. Thank you so much for this message. There is a difference between pride, self-confidence and God confidence. I think I misunderstood this and confused the ideas. I believed that these negative thoughts were actually godly~ humble and meek.
    I’m beginning to realize that the opposite is true; these thoughts are not from God and actually are derailing much of what He is trying to do in me and through me. I am excited to glean more from your book.
    I will email this to my family and friends. God bless you as you minister to others of God’s abundant
    truth in our hearts.

  30. Renee, I only just recently found your blog and it has already greatly encouraged me. I have been struggling with every single one of the things you mentioned as common struggles, not good enough, having nothing to offer and disappointing someone. I am a newly wed and I have discovered my insecurity and fears growing where trust and love should be. It is a daily battle with so many ups and downs, it is exhausting. But I am also discovering that God’s love and faithfulness to me is so much larger than my insecurity and stunted confidence. Thank you for your last two posts, they have spoken straight to my heart issues, and God is blessing me by your words.

  31. Nancy Silvers says:

    I “pre-ordered” your book “A Confident Heart” and recieved it Monday. Thank you so much for signing it personally and for the scripture. I have been struggling with confidence in a new business adventure and it seems you wrote this book for me. Lack of confidence has held me back and caused me to sabotage great possibilities in my life. I would love to share this book with some wonderful women I know that could use more God confidence as well but can’t afford to buy more books right now. I think t his would make a fabulous small group study. Thank you so very much for sharing yourself with the rest of us so that we might grow as well. I have hope now that soon I will have God confidence!!
    Thank you and God bless you!!

  32. I love your devotions but I am really having trouble putting this into practice. I am 54 and have lived in the shadow of self-doubt for so many years that I can’t seem to pull myself out. I have gotten so afraid of disappointing my husband and family that I have become almost inactive. My housework and my marriage are suffering because I second-guess every move. At my job is the only place i feel confident about what I am doing. My head knows that God is with me and that He is powerful enough to pull me through anything but my flesh is so very weak. Thank you for exposing your doubt and fear and also your faith in the One in whom we can do all things.

  33. The book looks like it will be a great resource for those of us who struggle with insecurities.

  34. I struggle with self doubt daily. I think I’m not good enough. I look forward to reading this book!

  35. I struggle with the meanie-me thoughts too, and too often listen to those thoughts rather than God’s promises for my life. I soooo desire to overcome that struggle and to be more confident with God’s help. I would love to win your book, and I plan on passing it along to share with others… plus I’ve shared your webpage link with friends at work and on facebook. Thanks for much for your encouragement and sharing your life stories.
    Love your sister in Christ,

  36. Each day you encourage me to live with confidence. When I don’t speak up or step out for fear of looking foolish, failing, or not fitting in I try to remember I am only playing to an audience of ONE, my Father, who always delights in me when I am following in His word! I can’t wait to read the book and share it with my friends!

  37. Linda F. says:

    In your devotion you mentioned that someof the arguments you had as a newlywed were b/c of your lack of confidence and having certain doubts, that resonated within me. I can’t really be called a newly wed anymore-6 yrs & 2 kids later:) But I do know that I think this has been something that has caused some problems within my marriage. There were other things that I need to take to heart and work as well but too many to count. I think this devotion is shouting to me that what I have been calling “fear” is really just not trusting God-I have been doubting that HE can get me through situations or help me to accomplish things. Such a wrong thought pattern but I am going to write up some notes and try to take action trusting God to work in me and through me.
    Thank you, Linda

  38. Nancy Millar says:

    I have struggled with self-doubt for most of my life! And I have called it all the things you talk about (worry, fear, etc.). I loved when you talked about turning around and seeing your shadow on the wall and how God told you that you could only see the shadow when you turned away from “the light”! What a great description of self-doubt – turning away from The Light, even briefly, takes your eyes off of Him! I am going to order your book today (hope I can still get a signed copy!) and I can’t wait to start reading it! Blessings to you and on your ministry to all of us!!

  39. I really related to your devotion this morning- in fact, I had a really bad last night because I let my self-doubt convince me that I wasn’t good enough. I really appreciate the daily devotions- I look forward to reading them each morning. Thank you for allowing God to use you to minister to all of us. I would love to win your book, fo myself and for my friends. God bless you!

  40. Fear of failure! So many times I have turned down opportunities because of the “what ifs.” I did the 7-Day Doubt Diet. It really spoke to me. I sent it on to my daughter, She ordered it! I know this book will bless every woman that reads it.

  41. Rosanne McLellan says:

    I recently saw a picture of my cousin on facebook. It flooded back all the feelings of judgement and insecurity all the way from childhood. My friends have asked me why I don’t really ‘like myself’, and until that moment, I couldn’t really put a finger on it. I knew I never felt like I ever amounted to anything, but wasn’t sure exactly why. Reading your devotions and postings, I’m working on claiming God’s promises instead of just accepting who others said I was. It makes it so tangible, knowing incredible women of God like you still need to remind each other every day the promises of God. Its not a one time thing, but a day by day thing. Thank you for writing in a way that touches my heart and brings the glory of God. I’m definitely sharing this with my facebook friends. Who knows what life could be changed…Thank you and may the Lord continue to bless you and your ministry.

  42. Sarah Brubaker says:

    I would love to read your book. I struggle with these thoughts in my personal and business life. It keeps me from talking to people for fear of being rejected or disliked. It keeps me from being happy when someone else suceeds because of course they did that, but not me, it’s impossible for me to do that.
    Thank you for this devotion! Blessings!

  43. I almost deleted today’s devotion without reading it due to a busy schedule and an overflowing inbox. But God knew this message was just what I needed today. Last night I looked around at my disorderly home and felt like such a failure. If I cannot even keep my home tidy, where can I find the confidence to embark on more challenging projects such as a prison ministry that I recently joined? Today’s message answered that question in a powerful way! Beginning this moment, I will ask God to help me throw away my insecurities and doubts rather than my confidence. Thank you for blessing us with this meditation today. One way or another, I plan to read your book.

  44. I have been soooo inspired by the readings and encouraged to take a firm stand in the promises God has revealed to me through the stories. Thanks for sharing and keeping me fed, for I also share what I learn with others. I may fall down, sin in either my thoughts, or words, but Praise God He has redeemed me and forgiven me. I am more in tune daily with the voice in my ear, that whispers when I am not doing what I am suppose to do, or trouble lies ahead. God has His mighty hand on me and He actually asked me to come outside one night and as the moon was full, invited me to come, sit, and talk to Him. He wanted me to tell Him what was on my heart and share some time with Him. I had such a passionate talk, tears and all…and MY Daddy heard me! Now everytime I see the moon in it’s majesty, I am reminded of that one particular night.

  45. Wow! You may have written this book just for me! My self doubt paralyzes me! I truly have trouble even commenting here thinking there are so many other women and they all deserve this so much more. I will definitely be checking out this book. It is very encouraging and hopeful to see that you have stepped out of the shadow of self doubt, maybe I can do the same.

  46. Helen Gilliard says:

    Renee- Thank you for today’s devotion! God definitely knows when to send me a wake up call! I started a new job several months ago in a managerial position – which I’ve never been before – and I feel so insecure. I love my job but have so many areas that I truly doubt myself in. Reading your devotion made me think back to my childhood and I could definitely relate. I see now that I’ve never had confidence in myself or in my abilities as a person, wife, mother, or employee. I’m definitely claiming the verses and pray that God releases me from this insecurity. I know that with God all things are possible:) Thank you for allowing God to use you to reach others…..May God continue to bless you and your family.

  47. Stephanie says:

    I can so relate to, “Feeling like I’m always disappointing someone” and “I’ll never change”. At 45 years old, this has been the story of my life. Time to get rid of some mindless thinking.

  48. Hi Renee,
    I am in need of this book. There was not one thing that you had said but all of them that struck a chord with me. I have been dealing with self-doubt most of my life. I feel as though I am not living the life Jesus died to give me. I believe He can change that though(and with a little help from the book)

  49. I would love to win your new book Renee! Thank you for using what you have learned through God to encourage others. I have struggled with worry and doubt as far back as I can remember and recently things got so bad that I was put on an anti-depressant. I’ve been so ashamed of it and the only person who has known about it is my husband and dr. I guess I feel like I should be able to overcome it without drugs. Anyway, I’v been feeling at lot more at peace and am working on my relationship with the Lord so that hopefully one day I can come off the medication.
    Thank you so much for sharing your heart and God bless you,


  50. Jessica myers says:

    Wow, I can so relate with this message of needing more of ‘God~fidence’! And so comforting to know I’m not alone in the journey. Im really looking forward to reading your book, especially to discover principles in holding onto God’s promises-His truths!

  51. Audrey McElroy says:

    Every part of your message today went straight to my heart! I am known as the “worrier” of our family and just by reading your message, I can see so much of that worry is related to my lack of confidence in both my personal and professional life. Today I am involved in a work related activity that I have never done before and even told my husband, “I am afraid I might have made a mistake and everyone will think I am dumb about what I wrote and I will be a disappointment on the review board”. Your devotion was just what I needed to hear before going to my meeting today! I think I need to read this book!

  52. As a woman who was sexually abused as a child and from a broken home, I have always struggled with self-confidence. Your devotions are always such a blessing to me! I am so grateful that the Lord uses you to help so many people each day. I’m really looking forward to the new book!

  53. Wow! Everytime I read one of your devotions about Confident Heart, I feel God is talking directly to me. I am guilty of throwing away my confidence instead of my insecurities. I am looking forward to one day reading your book.
    Thank you for your encouragement!

  54. Jennifer Henrichs says:

    Today your devotion on Proverbs 31, specially touched my heart this morning. I am preparing for a doctor’s appointment today through my pregnancy that could alter our lives. This just reminds me that I am mother and I am human and that I am also God’s child. I woke up this morning and the first thought on my mind was God speaking to me “Our child is Perfect in MY (God’s) eyes” No matter what the doctor reports say that doesn’t change the fact that this child inside of me is growing because of His love for all of us! Thank you Renee for the reminder to be Confident and I am hoping that soon I will have a copy of your book to really dig deep into this ~ Many Blessings to you and your family!

  55. Thank you, Renee, for reminding us to live in the light God’s love and the confidence He has given us through Christ. I’d love to read and share your book. Be blessed!

  56. Dianne McKagan says:

    Wow… the trailer and P31 message for today could have been ME! NO Confidence! Self-doubt! Feelings of worthlessness instead of worthiness! The same issues with family and husband and children! I taught elementary school for 25 years, and would take on troubled students feeling that I could help their hearts if not their academics… but my peers didn’t agree with my thoughts and later we all became challenged by test scores. (I took early retirement because of it.) I had a job opportunity, that I felt God had sent, a chance to mentor teachers… but when it came time for the interview, I had every doubt and it showed. Needless to say, I was not selected for the position. Now that I am home all day, I have joined a quilting group. I will take on projects, only to get the fabric and then say to myself… are you really sure you can do this? Then the projects sit until I am up against a wall to finish… and they always turn out beautiful! I am taking steps forward in this battle, but tend to backslide. I am looking forward to reading your book and participating in the study!

  57. I have always been shy and still feel shy. Worry and fear is what causes me doubts. I know it is having trust is God through all things, but easier said then done sometimes. I can’t wait to do a Bible study with your new book. I am hoping my MOPS group will, if not I need the confidence to lead it at my church.
    Thank you for sharing something I find hard to deal with. God’s blessings to us all!!

  58. I am in the midst of a separation from my husband of 26 years and I am struggling with the feelings of denial, no self-worth, and all of the other things that come along. With this trial in my life, I am being drawn closer to God through Jesus – leaving it up to Him to heal me of the hurt and the complete and total restoration of my marriage.

  59. Renee’ I cannot wait to read your book! Since God has opened doors from a full time working away from home woman to a stay at home wife and mom, who is starting homeschool, and trying to launch women’s ministries in our church I have realized jsut how much the enemy is trying to defeat me through lack of confidence. The biggest challenge for me is over coming that desire to please others and invest my worth into what they think! I would love to allow God help me overcome that through your book!

  60. I can relate to throwing away opportunities because I didn’t have the confidence to even try. As I get older I find it even harder to take that first step.

  61. Sandra newman says:

    I just discovered this site today and I am excited to think that someone understands. I look forward to spending time with you. I hope that I am given the opportunity to read your book. Thank you for all that you do.

  62. Ashley Lemons says:

    Wow! What a timely devotion today! I woke up thinking that I just couldn’t do it all again today. Our family recently moved out of state, and it has been quite overwhelming for me. The hardest part is not having my girlfriends here with me. Thank you so much for sharing your heart and words of wisdom today. God knew that it was what I needed to hear and used you to share it. Thank you!

  63. Penny Cox says:

    I read your devotion this morning thru P31. Last night as I went to bed, I felt a sadness. There are so many things I have wanted to do with my life but have not due to a lack of self-confidence. My parents are hearing impared (fully deaf) and I wanted to be an interpreter for the deaf when I grew up. Well, here I am at 39 years old and I have yet to do that because I don’t think I am good enough. I also enjoy baking and decorating cakes. I make cakes for my co workers and friends. They all tell me I should go into business. But I can’t because I doubt myself. If I had just a smidgen of confidence in myself that the people around me have, I could do all the things I’ve longed to do.
    Anyway, your devotion really hit home. I am going to do some serious soul searching and praying. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
    In His Name,
    Penny Cox

  64. I lack confidence to live life. I have been a stay-at-home mom for 10 years this year. My youngest son will be in kindergarten, and I feel God is leading me each day to break out and break free of these thoughts and struggles of “ONLY being a stay-at-home mom.” I am getting so many messages that are “making sense” to me, and I know it’s God telling me I am worth so much more.

  65. I’ve struggled with having a confident heart even after being a leader in many areas at church and at home. Your words are an encouragement and a reminder that I need to change my thought patterns. I printed out your verses that you can fill in your name for each one of my kids,my husband, and myself. Thank you so much for writing this book. If I don’t win it, I’m going to budget it in and buy it.

  66. Carol Bruntlett says:

    Hi Renee
    I want to thank you again for the encouragementI get evryday when I come to read your blog. The part that spoke to me was I am not good enough sometimes and lately I just sit here in the mornings in my home and tears just stream down my eyes because so much going on in my life right now jobless,taking care of my mom and doing a few others things and sometimes I just feel worthless don’t have to many people that I can talk to . So lately it has just been me and my God talking He is my Rock and I know He listens to me . One of my scripture verses for the 1st of August is Philippians 4:6-7 Do not be anxious about anything but in everything by prayer and petition with thanksgiving present your requests to God. 7- And the peace of God which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and mins in Christ Jesus.
    Can’t wait to get my hands on God- Confidence in my life and my heart and my mind.

  67. Patty Alley says:

    I just received a devotional from a friend that wa discussing your book. AS i read the devotion I could see my story all over it. All my life I have avoided things because I was scared of failure or letting others down and lots of others. I am very interrested in your book. I now know that I can do all things through Christ and my ability to try new things is slowly coming around. I am a very confidant women but I hide behind that confidence to keep peopel at a distance. Fearful of showing them my weekness. I would love to win this book and continue ot grow in my relationship with God.
    God Bles you and for all you do to minister to women!

  68. Though I doubt myself often, I don’t doubt that I NEED to read this book!

  69. Brooke C says:

    Speaking straight to my heart, girl! Confidence is a long uphill hike and a steep, speedy slide back down. It seems it’s up and down and not something tangible I can seem to hold onto. Part of me wonders if it isn’t more about pride vs humility or me losing my confidence and having to start all over. I can’t wait to read your book.

  70. Judy L. Rollo says:

    • When self-doubt whispers, “I’ll never change.” Throw away that lie away and claim this truth: “For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in [me] will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 1:6, NASB)

    This is the point that I most identify with in your devotion. I am printing this verse on a 3×5 card to have with me – I am going to memorize this verse. I will pray to have this confidence in my life. Thank you.

  71. I would love to read you book. I struggle with self confidence and I am a Pastor’s wife. Sometimes I look at other pastor’s wifes and say I need to be more like them instead of being who God has called me to be. Thank you for writting such a wonderful book and letting others see that most people do have the same struggles.

  72. Janet Volpe says:

    “For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in [me] will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.”; (Philippians 1:6, NASB)
    I know the good work began years ago. Now I need to cooperate in its completion. There is no room for
    doubt. I will trust the Lord.

  73. Your message is a timely one for women of any age. I suffer self-doubt at different times in my life but certainly in relationships. Beginning as a young girl, after my mother died I can relate to your doubts about someone not being there for you, the merry-go-round and water-skiing. I remember feeling exactly this way during school performances, looking out anxiously to be sure someone cared enough to be there for me. Sad that these feelings continue to haunt us even in adulthood. I am looking forward to reading your book and sharing your thoughts with others.

  74. Sheila Deal says:

    I can’t wait to get a copy and start reading. We are doing a bible study at church Self Talk-Soul Talk and this kinda goes hand in hand. I find myself doubting and insecure, self doubting so I have to tell myself God’s truth. I am a single mother of two Awesome children God has blessed me with and I want to be the right example in their life I don’t won’t them to grow up and not be confident. I would love to win this book and continue to grow in my relationship with God so I can be the Godly mother God has called me to be.

  75. Today’s devotional is so relevant to my situation (it seems like that is always the case – isn’t that true with God’s Word?) today! I interviewed for a job last week and was afraid for several days even to ask for prayer for God’s favor in the situation. My husband finally convinced me to ask for prayer, and so we did – together – and prayed with several of our friends. Self-doubt kept creeping in between then and yesterday, at some times particularly LOUDLY, but I remembered this very verse about perseverance and continued to pray for patience and peace. Yesterday I was offered the job! It is so perfect because it is a part-time position at my son’s school – I don’t have to worry about daycare! This job will be a wonderful opportunity to serve God and I am so grateful, blessed and humbled that I’ve been chosen. And I will continue to remain confident – these verses are so helpful! Thank you, Renee!

  76. Just the information I have been looking for! I have recently identified self sabotaging actions and thoughts. I am battling with a life long voice of defeat, which was instilled as a child. I am greatful for this ministry and information!

  77. God called me to minister to women a couple of years ago but I fought Him on it because I lacked confidence. I finally gave in to God and started a blog. I still struggle from time to time with lack of confidence. I am truly excited to read your book. Thank you for your ministry.

  78. It is funny how God brings the right message to us at the right time. I have recently finished reading two books with one message….. I am worthy because I am a child of God, because Jesus lived and died for my salvation. My worthiness does not come from my identity as a former educator, or my identity as a wife and mother. My identity and therefore my worthiness are in Christ alone. Based on your devotion today and the trailer for A Confident Heart, I believe this book will be the next step towards standing on the truth of my identity in Christ and throwing away the lies that cause me to doubt my worthiness. Thank you Renee for this message and the perfect God-timing in which I received it!

  79. Your devotional is so relevant to my situation. I have always struggled with self doubt. I have always tried to hide it also. I know God does not want me stuck in this place. I want out of here. Pray that as I read your book, I will be freed from this cycle….

  80. Confidence and faith in our Lord who knows me and cares for me is what carries me through each day. Your Prov 31 devotion was such a great reminder of verses to keep me focused on Him and not on the doubts that keep me from being who He has made me to be.

  81. Good morning, Renee…
    What can i identify with on the Proverbs31 devotionals? i’d have to say that each one speaks to me. i love getting it on my Blackberry so i can read and re-read it during the day whenever i take a break from the humdrum work of life. Thanks for sharing

  82. This sounds like a book I really NEED to read. Thank you for the devotionals on Proverbs 31.

  83. Stephanie says:

    It is AWESOME to see how God is speaking the same thing to His body all over the World. I started a Women’s Ministry, not by my choice, but by Gods. This exactly what God has been teaching us and bringing us through. The main purpose of it is to be the vessels God has designed us to be, to know His plan and purpose for our lives and renew our minds to His. I would love to be able to share these books with the other ladies in this group. I definitely plan on getting one of these books.
    Thank you so much for all that you guys do for the Lord and for being obedient to His calling. This ministry is a Great blessings.

  84. Renee I love reading your devotions thru Proverbs 31 Ministries. They are so inspirtational and also down to earth. So many times your words reach right down to the middle of my heart and I can relate what you are saying. Don’t throw away your confidence did this. I have always been a little on the shy side, afraid to step out of my comfort zone.
    Thank you so much for your words and God Bless.

  85. I broke into tears reading your P31 devo today. I struggle with self doubt but like you have named it “worry” or other things. It saddens my heart to think how the way I feel about myself and the way I listen to those voices when they tell me I’m not good enough or really why would God call you to do that. Even the part where you shared of early arguments with your husband due to your own insecurities, I totally did that. I look forward to your 7 day doubt diet emails I just signed up. I would love a to win a copy of your book as I think it would help me through this struggle, but if not Thank You for your posts, devos, emails, and other helpful resources. And Thank You Lord for putting this on your heart to share. May God continue to keep you in his will and may you continue to hear his guiding.

  86. This really touched me today. I have always been shy and don’t really volunteer for anything. I too often don’t see myself as being valuable to my husband even though he reassures me constantly. My sister is a lot like me in both of these areas, and I am going to send this devotion to her as well. I hope and pray it will touch her as it did me. Thank you!

  87. I can’t wait to actually sit down and read this book. I’ve been putting off ordering with hopes that I’d win a copy here! I’m going to have to order and I need to do that before the 5th so I get one with a note from you!!!

  88. Pam Uptmor says:

    Wow, Renee! I was praying about this situation in my own life just last night and crying out to the Lord because of my worry and fear about several new challenges/opportunities I believe He has called me to. While I am very excited, I am also scared to death. After reading your email this morning, along with the all the free downloads, I can see that I have been struggling with self-doubt as well – and have been for as long as I can remember. My life story of self-doubt sounds very similar to yours. So many opportunities missed out on because of it. I can’t wait to read your book. I pray it will change my life, as writing it has obviously changed yours. Thank you for being God’s servant. Many, many blessings for you and your family.

  89. It is amazing how God works. I have been struggling with self-confidence issues since I was in high school. I am now a College graduate and looking for a job. But myself doubt is holding me back. I receive the devotional from Proverbs 31 and it was just what I needed to hear. I know I need to exchange my negative thoughts that Satan is placing in my head with God powering scripture but I so easily resort to the negative thoughts. I know I am special but sometimes it is SO hard to remember and it is easy to let the negative thoughts take over. I myself have passed up some pretty rewarding experiences due to my lack of confidence. I’m tired of doing that and want to begin living a life that finds my full confidence in HIM. Because without him I truly am nothing and it is only through him that I am able to do great things.

    I plan to re-post this on my facebook for my friends in hopes that it encourages someone else.

  90. Erin E. Hall says:

    Renee, thank-you for sharing your wisdom. Today was my first time on your website although I have always loved reading your storys on P31.
    This morning before my daily time with God, and reading…I asked God to encourage me.
    You see, I’ve had these ideas that I know God has placed on my heart about reaching out to the homeless in my “neck of the woods”, but I’m constantly doubting my idea, and my dream, and am too afraid to put myself out there. I am thinking of “other” ways to serve, my way of taking baby steps, but that dream is dangling over my head, like a fly that won’t leave me alone. I want so bad to not be afraid, so I asked God this morning for encouragement in my reading, and I was lead to your scripture at the top of your beautiful story on having “confidence”. Isn’t God just SO good? Thank-you so much for sharing your heart and being an instument that God uses<3 I trust God for the right book to read, and I'm CONFIDENT that this is it. I believe it's just what I need.

  91. I’m so glad I took the time to read your devotion today! It spoke right to my heart. I am not confident in much that I do and I second guess nearly all decisions that I make. I pray daily for God to release me from this burden. It has affected my entire life and my marriage. I spent years hiding this issue from those who care about me and just recently started reaching out for help. Your book will surely be a treasured addition to my collection. Thank you for your encouraging words today.

  92. CINDI HERRING says:

    I do suffer from lack of self confidence. And your words were comforting to me. I know the enemy attacks us through our thoughts. I am in battle over this issue. I believe God, his word is true, and he used you to speak to me today. Thank You Father, your servant Renee wrote the very words you put in her heart. And your spirit renewed my heart as I read each word. This giving me direction and strength to continue to stand. Thank you Renee

  93. Your comments have hit me directly in the heart and the soul, I have been letting a co worker negative comments, jabs, direct my feelings and attitude. I am love by the lord, and have his power to overcome the negative vibes in our office. YOU have made me strong today, thank you.
    God bless your ministry and the women who read your book.

  94. Sandra Smith says:

    After reading your devotional today it made me realize just how often I chose to “believe the Lies Satan whispers in my ears”. Many time I consider doing this or that and think, or getting involved with something I am very passionate about. “I can’t do that, or I am not qualified, or What is I do something wrong.” I look forward to reading more of your devotionals and I am glad that you wrote this book, because many people face doubt and don’t know how to make it go away.
    I wish you Many Blessings and days with Confidence in the Lord.
    Thanks for writing this books.
    Your Sister in Christ,

  95. Jennifer Wallin says:

    Renee ~

    Thank you for allowing God to use you to touch many women and draw them closer to Him. I have struggled with confidence issues for as long as I can remember. Even now, I hear so many negative comments in my mind. I have always been a people pleaser….I so long to just be a God pleaser! 🙂 It is exhausting trying to live up to my expectations of who I think I should be. I am greatly looking forward to reading your book. Thank you!!


  96. I did enjoy your 7-Day Doubt Diet devotionals and KNOW this book is for me! One thing you mentioned in your promo video that I believe I relate to most is passing up opportunities for fear of failure. I often won’t take the risk. I want to read your book and would love an opportunity to win a copy : ) Thanks, Renee, for sharing the truths you’ve learned in overcoming self-doubt and keeping it from running your life. Sharing your story I know will help me and thousands of others out there dealing with the same issues.

    Blessings to you,

  97. I’m really looking forward to studying A Confident Heart! It’s the first book I ever pre-ordered on and received “hot off the press!” I will be joining Melissa Taylor’s online study, as well as facilitating a study through my church. I would love to be able to offer the free copies to women who want to study the book along with me.

    Renee, thank you for sharing your journey!
    In Christ,

  98. You probably hear this kind of thing from lots of readers, but confidence in several areas of my life has been a struggle lately. I just had a conversation with my husband about it last night. I wake up this morning, and what is in my inbox? My P31 devotion about confidence! God’s timing is perfect, and when He speaks to me this clearly I had better listen! So I signed up for the seven day emails and will share this on my facebook page. Thank you, Renee, for sharing your heart!

  99. Sharon Robison says:

    I am an older woman, but can tell you this is a subject that affects millions of women of all ages..We just sometimes have so much pride we hate to admit it..I loved your devotion today and I think your book is going to bless many is my prayer that the Lord will continue to use you for His Honor and Glory. May you be blessed ! Thank you for sharing these beautiful thoughts with us..

  100. Earlier this year, I started memorizing scripture to use to calm myself and refocus when fear creeps in (which it does often). Not until just now when I read your devotional did I think about doing the same when I struggle with insecurity. I’ve already written Hebrews 13:6 down…looking forward to reading the doubt diet.

  101. Thank you for the wonderful devotional today. I can relate to having your confidence suddenly yanked away by thoughts of the past. It has hindered my ability to share and to minister for years. I am looking forward to gleening some wisdom from your book.

  102. I have been dealing with depression for a couple of months now. I am a seminary student but God has yet to tell me what He wants me to do when I graduate. That fact causes me to doubt myself and what I believe is God’s call to be in seminary quite often. Your devotionals have helped to reaffirm why I am in seminary and helped me to continue to persevere and trust God through my self doubt. I can’t wait to read your book and have a deeper trust and deeper confidence in my position as a child of God. Thank you for this book.

  103. Thank you for your comments about how we need to keep our confidence in God and not be bound by our negative self talk. I would enjoy your book and hope to read it and enjoy the truths you present from God’s Word.

  104. Thank you for today’s devotion from Proverbs 31. I have a job interview for a position that is much more challenging than the one I currently have and although I have all the skills necessary for it, I have been concerned about taking on additional responsibilities due to some health concerns. I’m amazed how God speaks to me through others and I feel your words are meant to give me peace as I meet with the program manager today. God bless.

  105. Terri Flores says:

    Listening to Renee through the trailer, it hit my heart! I am on ministry staff in the church and I struggle each Sunday I have to stand in on the platform to lead in the call to worship or Altar Praying. I am so afraid I will say something wrong or my head message will overcome my heart message. When I saw the words Breaking Free, in the trailer, I knew that was the words I needed to hear. Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom through this book. I am excited to purchase this book and ‘study’ it! I will be leading a women’s spiritual retreat in February and I am in desperate need of confidence, so the timing of this book is certainly a blessing to me!

  106. I was a professed perfectionist and control freak before I had my daughter 5 years ago. When she was diagnosed with autism 3 years ago my perceived ability to hold it all together came crashing in. Ever since then I’ve been trying to hold it together while I balance caring for my child’s special needs, working part-time so I could afford to pay for her services, and volunteering on the board of the local autism society chapter, trying to find a way to serve others. Lately I have really struggled with my lack of service and connection in my church family. I feel like God has been leading me to a special needs ministry but my mind was constantly flooded with doubt that I could find the time, have the ability, be the person he needed to run that kind of ministry and take care of everything else in my life, most importantly my family. I recently took a leap of faith to take a baby step towards that ministry, despite my lack of confidence and fear. I could really use encouragement right now and have a deep need to be ministered to as I take this step.

  107. okay, seriously this devotion from p31 this morning was totally a devine appointment. i have struggled my whole life with having no self-confidence; more specifically in the last few years, i have really struggled with applying and believing God’s truth about how much He loves me. i will make progress and do really well, feel like i am solid, standing on His promises and truth, then Satan roars his ugly head and just like that all those irrational thoughts, fears, and doubt come flooding back. i think part of my biggest problem is that i rely on men’s approval/acceptance and not on God’s. i could probably write a small novel, so i will stop, but your devotion was totally what i needed this morning, as yesterday was a major setback for me. thanks so much.

  108. After reading the devotional I was hit straight on that I had experienced that twinge of fear as I contemplated stepping out upwards a new venture. It may not be the door to open for me, but I will never know if I don’t reach out and try the doorknob. Thanks for sharing.

  109. I am so looking forward to your new book Renee! I have ordered it and it is on the way! I am excited about the next P31 Bible Study. Today’s devotional brought tears to my eyes as I identify with your insecurities that began in childhood. I too, felt like I was not worth keeping. My parents joked about giving me away to their good friends because they did not have a daughter; I believed them. While they did not mean to hurt me, I believe it has affected me. I have lived a life trying to please others, and have been highly motivated to make something of myself. Finally reaching my career goal, I have continued to struggle with self-doubt, which has hindered my growth professionally and spiritually. Thank you Renee for your encouragement!

  110. Oh how I could identify with your P31 devotional. I always doubt myself espeically when it comes to my faith and stepping out for God. I listen to the lies way to much and need to find and stay in the confidence of Christ. I cannot wait to read your book and allow GOd to show me how to walk forward in HIs confidence.

  111. Renee,

    I struggle with so much self doubt that it is even hard to describe. Even if someone gives me a compliment, I turn it around as negative. Would love to have your book not only for myself but also for my mother.


  112. I am so thankful for you, Renee. I have done the 7-day doubt diet and am going through it again… so much to process and take in… 7 days just aren’t enough!!!
    I’m realizing that doubt is a bigger factor in my life than I thought… I know God has a plan for me and it is good… thank you for the lists of promises… especially the one to personalize… these kinds of tools are immeasurable… especially during those times when I’m down deep in doubt.
    Thank you for your honesty and transparency in your writing.
    It is truly a God given gift!!

  113. Denice Blunt says:

    I lacked confidence in myself so much that I didn’t complete the tasks for an upgrade of my job for too long. Your story today is so very real to me.

    Thanks so much!!!! I really needed this today.

    i will be sharing this with a friend of mine who needs to work on getting her job upgraded. She doesn’t believe that her superiors will work with her. I’ve been telling her she should still try.

  114. SAVANNAH says:

    Reading your devo today in prov 31 really touched my heart. Honestly I have lived a whole life like this also to see you struggled as a child so did I and do to this day. I would love to read your book because honestly lacking confidence drives me crazy. I really want to know why this has happened to me. I have a sister who is complete opposite. Having little to no confidence has negatively impacted my life and I don’t want it to anymore. Thank you for sharing your heart and you can’t even see the dirty dishes in the sink 😉 hugs 🙂

  115. I love P31 ministries, you aways give me just what I need when I need it. As I read your devotion this morning I felt like you were writing just for me. I struggle with self doubt on a daily basis. I can’t wait to get your book. Thank you for putting aside your self doubt to do what God called you to. Be blessed always!

  116. Boy, nothing like divine timing! I am trying to find God’s direction for me related to a potential job opportunity and after reading your message in Encouragement for Today I realized how much self-doubt I have in my past and present. You gave me a glimmer of hope that it doesn’t have to be like that in the future. I have always felt like an “imposter” and that if people really knew me, they would discover how little I know, how ordinary and without real value a person I am. I have been married to a wonderful man for 25 years and our early years were filled with arguments related to my insecurities, he said to me once, “I cannot convince you that your are valuable and loved and I am not going to try for the rest of our lives, you’ll have to figure it out and believe it”. I have come along way since those years but the self doubt is always present. This same wonderful man introduced me to Jesus early in our courtship and I feel like Jesus helped my husband stand by me despite my insecurities. Thanks Renee. Blessings

  117. I enjoyed reading your devotion today. It is amazing that God strategically places things in my path to encourage me in the very thing I’m struggling with, no matter what it is. I am married to a wonderful man, but he is very critical of everything I do. After 11 years of marriage I am feeling very beat down and my confidence is extremely low. Just last night I was thinking I’ll never be able to change the way my husband wants me to, so when I read that in your devotion it was really personal to me. I know God’s word says he who has begun a good work in me will perfect it until the day of Jesus Christ, but I so often hear the opposite from the person I love most that it is hard to hold on to that truth. Thank you for the truths of God’s word that replace the self-doubting lies I allow myself to believe. I am working hard to find my identity and worth in Jesus Christ.

  118. I really struggle with confidence. One of the things I could relate to was that I have given up opportunities because I was afraid of failing. I am going to share this message with my friend Tammy who is struggling right now with unemployment and uncertainty. I can’t wait to read this book. It sounds like it was written just for me but I know it will help thousands of women out there struggling.

  119. Patricia says:

    I got so much out of the first chapter and the 7 day Doubt Diet, I shared it with some friends. We are forming a book study group at our church..Can’t wait to get the book and get to it! This is an area so many women struggle with, I’m excited to see how God will work in our lives as we study this book.

  120. Renee, your Proverbs 31 devotional could not have come at a more perfect time in my life. I recently discovered that my lack of confidence is a huge underlying problem in my life and something that I need to confess, confront and work on with Jesus. Your book sounds like the perfect place for me to start. I’m going to share it with my mentor, who has been encouraging me to work on this, and my accountability partner who struggles with the same thing and would benefit greatly from this resource. Thank you!

  121. I could really relate to what you said about allowing what others think or say about us to kill our confidence. Whenever a relationship hits a rocky point, it’s easy to speak negative words to myself that somehow, the failure must be my fault. It’s often untrue, but it’s easy to get caught in those attitudes. What a great reminder this book is that our confidence comes from who we are in Christ, regardless of what others think of us or what mistakes we make.

  122. Well, what a blessing to open up Proverbs 31 this morning! I was just having my morning “I don’t know if I can do this” session (any subject, even the “I know I’ll mess something up” one) when I opened it up. I am so excited to know I am not alone and that God knows when I need the earthly encouragement also. Not that I’m excited others are not confident just that I’m not the only one who has struggled with insecurities. I look forward to the devotions and the book to come. Thanks for being transparent and sharing!

  123. I related to what you said about not being good enough; as a child, teenager, wife, and mother. I have lived my whole life always wishing I was nicer, prettier, skinnier, more athletic. I am hoping that reading your book will help me open my heart to God and stop destroying my self-doubt.

  124. Trish M. says:

    I feel like my life is one big self-doubt. I missed alot of opportunities growing up and in school because I never felt good enough. I have brought it into my marriage and am surprised my husband has stuck it out. I bring it into friendships. I always feel overlooked…like my comments and conversations are not important…I feel talked over…not a priority in anyone’s life…need I go on. I want to shake this someday! Someday soon! Thank you for addressing this issue.

  125. Leesa Westfall says:

    Renee, I have felt God leading me to share with others about my own life-long struggle (I’m 55) with self-doubt. Love that term – so much better than low self-esteem, no self confidence, etc. It really nails it for me! Thinking that God would even want me to facilitate a study, perhaps. You have no idea how threatened all of this makes me feel to just consider it. Your words are just the words God is using to affirm these things in my heart and to follow through and see where God leads.

    I can feel like the Queen of Self Doubt at times and I hate the crippling effect that it has had in my life and consequently in others. My struggles started as a little girl and have been with me even through a continuing wonderful marriage (36+years), my husband’s college and seminary days, and his ongoing ministry as a pastor. His teaching on GRACE while going through the book of Romans about 5 years ago gave a whole new perspective to my walk with Christ and how He views me. From Day One of our marriage he has been my biggest encourager in leaving this chain of bondage behind. Despite that my struggle with self doubt continues but thankfully with much more space between my ’rounds of doubt.’ I have painfully observed that this is a struggle to be fought on a daily basis – not just when I’m having a crisis.
    I’m SO thankful my women’s ministry director forwarded me a P31 devotional a few weeks ago. My heart has resonated with every single day. I love that it starts my day with such encouragement.
    Thank you for blessing my life and many, many, many others!

  126. Sounds like just what I need!

  127. Thank you so much for sharing God’s leading to write this book. I’ve struggled with this and was thinking I was doing pretty well. But you ask the right questions; questions that make me realize that I’ve won some battles but there is still a war to wage. Thanks so much for sharing. Carrie

  128. Renee, it is great to see all the comments in regards to your book…having read it myself I know God will use it in BIG ways!! Your devotion today hit me in a big way as well! Two weeks into life with a new baby and dealing with the lack of sleep, crazy hormones and change, you reminded me that I too have been throwing away my confidence. Rather than beating myself up, words from your book come back and God reminds me that I am (and always will be) a work in progress! I’m praying for you now Renee that satan will stay away during this exciting time and God will continue to fill you with His confidence and work through you for His glory!! Love you much, Jill

  129. Thank you so much for writing this book, I can’t wait to read it! I related to the many ways that self-doubt disguises itself.

  130. Stephanie says:

    I like the idea of when the negative thinking begins to turn my thoughts around with God’s promise…this is something I would love to turn around and conquer. I printed your Scriptures today to use as a tool.


  131. michelle says:

    I identified most with the statement, “I’ll never change”. I’ll be going along good and then slip and it’s not a pretty thing. Thank you for the chance to win a copy of this book. I will share with my friend Jennifer.

  132. Renee,

    How timely your book is for this season of my life. Do you know, just writing on a blog can bring feelings of self-doubt for me? My desire is to walk in God-confidence, believing and resting in who God called me to be in Him! Your devotion so ministers to my spirit today. I have been fighting the lies these past couple of days of words said to a friend because of insecurity and self-doubt. How my heart hurts. Stop believing the lies and stand upon Father God’s Word and promises!! Not only does believing lies open doors for the enemy in our lives, but affects all those around us. My family has been walking in a spiritual battle for quite some time, however, “No, in all these things [I am] (we are) more than a [conqueror] through him who loved [me] (us).” (Romans 8:37, NIV)

    Praying the heart of my spiritual eyes are completely open, to know all my Father has for my life to bring Him glory in my actions and words.

    Thank You, Renee for sharing your heart and life…ministering God’s truths to us!! His Word brings healing and wholeness. Oh how our Father LOVES us!!

    Abundant Blessings!!

  133. Fannie in Kansas says:

    I have had many years of things I have had doubts about especially my self-worth and my ability to do things. God has shown me where some of these feelings have been wrong but Satan knows that is one of my weak spots and he loves to bring up things that raise doubts. In 2007 I got very sick and was in the hospital for a while. Since then Satan has made sure to give me insecure feelings in things I would like to independent again but it is so much easier to depend on other people to do some things for me. I have been put in a situation now where I must make some adjustments or not do some things. I know God will give me the strength to do whatever He wills for my life.
    Renee, thank you for your willingness to share from your heart and be led by God to encourage others.

  134. THANK YOU for writing a book that I believe everyone could use sometime in their life> Specifically, I have been praying for my daughter who turns 19 this month who has had her heart crushed by a relationship, and I have noticed her confidence has been deminished. I plan on buying your book so that I can read it first in hopes to find ways to help her along, and to be an encouragement to her. Blessings to you for taking God’s lead in writing this helpful book 🙂

  135. Kristy Lynn says:

    What really resonates with me is telling myself things that shatter my confidence. I have two beautiful daughters but I hear them say things about themselves that they have heard me say. It is so heartbreaking to walk with little confidence but even worse to hear it repeated in my daughters. I can’t wait to get your book and allow God to use it to change my confidence through Him because then I can model that God confidence for my daughters (ages 16 and 11). It’s time to break the cycle of woman walking defeated rather than walking confident in who God has created us to be!!
    Thank you Renee for being such and encouragement! Blessings 🙂

  136. The thing that stands out to me most is how easily I throw out my confidence. I do it over and over all day long and find myself defeated and disengaging from the beautiful moments of life each day gives. It is really sad. I was surprised to see Hebrews 10:35-36, I don’t think I ever noticed it before and yet there it is, plain and simple. Thank you Renee for listening to God’s call on your life and following it through. Thank you for sharing your heart with the millions who will surely read your book and be blessed by the message. I pray God’s richest blessing for you!

  137. Deborah Flowers says:

    I just got a email about your book and it sounds like God is trying to tell me something. I am going through some hard times in my life right now. Confidence that is what I need, I know I know a lot of things but sometimes I just feel like I cannot do it. It is hard to explain. I have left my job and started another one and it is really scarey. I know I need the help of my God to do this. I wish I had the money to buy your book right now but I will have to save up to do it. I dont get paid much. God is having me work with children and I know I have to show them I am confident in myself so they can grow up to be strong confident adults. I pray all the time for God to show me the way. And this looks like a way. Thank you so much for helping us. God Bless.

  138. I just want to say that ironically, I’m actually encouraged reading others’ comments about how much they doubt themselves, turn positive comments into negative, etc….because I’ve always felt like I was alone in my struggles. I’ve made it one big negative in my life, in fact—the idea that no one is as “messed up” as I am in my thinking, and beaten myself up for it over and over. I would love to read your book—based on what I’ve read/seen so far, I really think you have a message that will truly touch many hearts! Thank you for being so honest and transparent about an issue most of us are too afraid to talk about!

  139. Love it, Renee! May many people’s lives be changed!

  140. I am entering a new chapter in life, and God is calling me to do awesome things for Him. My insecurities have always held me back, and I have always felt unqualified to do what I know I am called to do. I am looking forward to reading this book. It’s time for a change!

  141. This devotional, spoke directly to me. I have lived my whole life with a lack of confidence and fear of failure. I, of course, hide this very well. I shared this recently with one of my closest friends and she was very surprised. I know that God has me going a certain direction and I’m still racked with fear of failure and lack of confidence. I know that I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. So I’m taking a deep breath and stepping forward. I would enjoy reading this book; I know that it would be a great help in my struggle.

  142. Thanks for all of your encouragement and your hard work on the Lord’s behalf.

  143. Paige Strickland says:

    I am a constant self-doubter and worrier. I am looking forward to reading your book and replacing those doubting thoughts with God’s Word.

  144. Denise Machado says:

    Wow…God is so amazing! I shared with a friend last week that while I will turn 5o years old in a little less than a year, I am refusing to carry a life-time of self-doubt and fear with me over that threshold. It’s not what God intended for us as heirs to the Throne! So my prayer is for God to reveal those places and show me the way out. And then I read your devotional just now. Thank you, God! And thank you, Renee! Also, my pastor’s wife is looking for material for a women’s bible study, and I will absolutely suggest this!

  145. HI Renee! Reading your blog entry ‘Don’t Throw Away Your Confidence’ is a great blessing to me as I am currently struggling on the issue of self-confidence, sense of purpose and trust. I really want to read your book. Will it be made available in the Philippines? I hope to find a local bookstore where I can buy it.

  146. I received this book this week. I hope to be able to offer a copy to win on my website. I can’t wait to start it after I did the 7-Day Doubt diet. Thanks!

  147. I loved your trailer! I have been struggling with my confidence lately as God has been putting me into more leadership roles at my church. I start to get that feeling that I too will disappoint someone. I can not wait to read your book & let God restore & build up my God-fidence!

  148. This book is one my soul desperately longs for, and spritually I know I need it. One way or another I will have a copy of this book. I have spent my summer in a new season of trust ~ trusting God, and I still succomb to so much doubt in me, which in turn makes me doubt everything.

  149. Susan Billings says:

    I just read your devotional on Proverbs 31 Ministries titled, “Don’t Throw Away Your Confidence” for August 3, 2011. The section where you talk about when self-doubt whispers, “I’ll never change” I totally broke down and cried. I am so thankful you shared the scripture Phillippians 1:6. Thank you so much for that. It really hit home with me!

  150. i thank God everyday for p31 website. i know there is something written for me or someone else that needs what is shared on this website. i also can definitely identify with not being good enough.Today at work my boss told me where i do not measure up and the last person that had the job ,did not have that problem. I appreciate and thank you for writing this book and then sharing a small part of it on this site. it let me know Gold is still near. During my time with God in the am,i read ,pray,all is well. by the end of the day,or week,i am in big time doubt about myself

  151. I can so relate! I missed many an opportunity due to allowing my insecurity and fear to lead me. I thought it was because I had grown up in a single parent home, where my dad was completely absent. But as I’ve grown older and been a mother myself, I have learned through much study of God’s Word and contemplating my past without trying to outrun or hide from it, that I do indeed own the fear and insecurity myself! I’ve already shared with my Facebook friends your book trailer, so they may benefit too! I look forward to reading A Confident Heart!! Blessings to you, Renee…

  152. Courtney says:

    ah – seeing the big shadows, because we’ve turned away from the light… how many times have I stopped trying because my eyes are focused on something other than Jesus…

  153. Valerie Smith says:

    Your P31 devotional “Don’t Throw Away Your Confidence” led me here. Watching your book trailer I felt convicted of that self-doubt. I have missed opportunities to minister because of my doubt, I have been totally absorbed in trying to please others that I let their judgement of me consume my thoughts of self-worth, I have failed to experience the joy of trusting the Lord during difficult situations (in which He always allows me to prevail) because of my doubt, and in the end I hear the Lord saying to me, “Did you doubt?” My husband and I are following the Lord’s direction for our family and as such are experiencing a huge transition, relying totally on the Lord to sustain us financially. While He has poured overflowing blessings on us as we continue in His will, my confidence began to fail when I realized that in 3 short weeks my husband may be without a job. Last week I asked the Lord to make me like Abraham who trusted God’s promise to him. My prayer: “Please just reveal Your promises to me that I may have a confident heart and peace that surpasses all understanding. When others look at the decision we have made for our family and question it, help me to be confident enough in You to disregard men’s esteem and focus totally on accomplishing Your will for our family. You alone, Lord, know what is best for us.” Well, here I am discovering your new book. Isn’t the Lord’s timing perfect!! Thank you for being a willing vessel through which the Lord can accomplish His work. May the Lord continue to bless you through this ministry!

  154. Kayla Russell says:

    I’ve been struggling with being “good enough”. Am I a good enough mom? A good enough wife? Am I good enough at work? Etc. So your daily devotion really hit home with me. Thanks so much for sharimg. I would love to read your book 🙂

  155. P31 devotion brought me here. I am excited about your book. I am currently helping my husband dealing with PTSD. There are times that I feel every doubt you mentioned in your book video. Since he has returned from back to back deployments, it has been really tough on our family and very easy to let doubt take ahold of my thoughts. Thanks for the inspiration.
    Lana Black

  156. Bing Boettner says:

    Renee, I so love your devotion today. I have had some opportunities to do a presentation on a classroom management tool this summer. I had great reviews and feel like the door has opened for me to write a book. However, I have been having moments of self-doubt and the three examples you gave of reasons we tell ourselves are the very same ones plaguing me! I was so glad I read your devotion today to say the least. I need God’s confidence and I thank you for your encouragement to seek Him and only Him. And not to listen to the enemy of our souls.
    Please pray for me as I start writing my book. My target audience are teachers who teach high school and career and technical classes. God has already done an Ephesians 3:20 for me; I just need to keep trusting and seeking Him as I pursue this endeavor.
    Praying you have an Ephesians 3:20 also in the sale of your book. Blessings to you, sweet sister!

  157. I was so excited to receive my copy of A Confident Heart a couple of days ago (I’ve already read the first three chapters). When I first ran across the book, and read the sample chapter online, I knew I needed to read the rest of the book. I constantly live in doubt…doubt about being in the right job, if I’m being a good wife, mother, etc., my list goes on. I can completely relate to what you have to say.

    As I thought more about what I read in that sample chapter, I could feel that God was calling me to lead a women’s study group with this book. I could see the faces of many of the women I’d met at church and in Bible study groups, who I thought would also love the message your book contains. Of course, I don’t see myself as any kind of leader, so even though I will be leading a group – for the first time ever, I might add -, I’m completely terrified!

    I will be sharing this post with the women whom I’ve been praying for and plan to invite to my group when our church begins our fall group signups, in the hopes that they will be excited as well.

    Thank you Renee!

    (my book’s verse – Isaiah 43:19)

  158. When I watch your trailer and read your post…I feel like you are talking about me. I feel every word your say. I am so excited to receive a copy of your book in the mail. Thank you for all that you do and God’s blessings!


  159. Kimberly Crowe says:

    Self-doubt has never been so clear to me. Thank you for sharing in your devotional. It is as though you are writing from my heart, I just did not know what it was. I will put this book on my wish list. Freedom from these feelings sounds so amazing but getting there seems impossible.

  160. Kimberly Crowe says:

    Self-doubt has never been so clear to me. Thank you for sharing in your devotional. It is as though you are writing from my heart, I just did not know what it was. I will put this book on my wish list. Freedom from these feelings sounds so amazing but getting there seems impossible. Thank you for your obedience to Christ!

  161. Mary in Missouri says:

    There are times when I still find myself standing in that shadow of insecurity. It paralyzes me and often there are missed opportunities because I do not step out of the shadow.

    I am going to put this book on my list of “must reads” to give me that extra push when I find myself being surrounded by darkness. I also was talking to an old college friend last week who recently lost her job and has had trouble finding new employment. She is sinking into the depths of despair thinking these same things…she isn’t good enough…she has disappointed her family, etc. I am going to send her the link to this devotional and maybe even get her the book to help point her the way to the light.

  162. Bobbie Gillette says:

    Thank you for sharing:)
    I needed to hear ■John 1:12 I am God’s child.
    I would love to have signed copy of your book.

  163. Renee, I was so glad to get to see your trailer as I’ve never actually heard you speak! I can now put a voice with your words! In the trailer, what spoke to me the most was your story about how God showed you that looking away from Him (the Light) is when you where overcome with doubt and insecurities (large shadow) and fear. I can totally relate! It kind of reminds me of when Peter walked on the water to Jesus and only started to sink when he took his eyes off Christ! Thank you for the reminder and I can’t wait to get a copy of your book! Your ministry and P31 ministries have been a blessing to me and my co-workers as I forward the daily devotionals I get to them all! Thank you again and God bless you and your family!

  164. I just wanted to say thank you for everything you do for the ministry of God. I have gone through the 7-day doubt diet, and it has really helped to open my eyes to alot of things in my life that just aren’t right. I thank you for being encouraging and loving in your writing. Thank you for everything and may God bless you richly!!

  165. Donna Sand says:

    I was excited to find your book this morning as I was floating around the web. Confidence is my major issue. Most people don’t realize that because I’m a doer, but inside I’m eaten up with doubt. It shows in how I seldom accomplish the stuff that I want to do, the stuff that no one is expecting me to do.

    I can’t wait to read more and then share your book with the ladies in my accountability group.

  166. Christy Bradshaw says:

    I finished “A Confident Heart” last night and it was fantastic. I laughed and cried and all in all LOVED it. The verses at the back and the names of God page will make this a reference for years to come. I will recommend your book to all my friends- thank you and God bless!

  167. Adrienne Young says:

    My two other sisters in Christ, Deronda and Nakia, pray together every Sunday night on a conference call, and on this particular night, God revealed his plans for our lives concerning entrepreneurship. We were all excited and seeking God for the next step. On Monday, Deronda and I received an email from Nakia who confessed she had low self-esteem, didn’t think she was good at anything, and even after all of the pouring in we did for each other, she had fear of not being good enough. We called her immediately for intervention and intercession. When we received the devotional from P31 the next day, we were floored!!!! Everything we talked about on that Monday was in the devotional. We were and still are in awe of God. I would love to have this book for all of us so that we could study it together and include it on our Sunday night prayer time. Bless you Renee and your ministry. I’m excited for where God is taking all of us!

  168. Connie C. says:

    Thank you for sharing in your devotional. I felt you were speaking directly to me. I have struggled with self-doubt and called it all the things you talk about (worry, fear, etc.). I will be doing the 7 day doubt diet and I need to read your book.

  169. You said you would like to know ONE thing I could identify with in your book trailer or devotion – ummmmm, how ’bout the ENTIRE content of both!!! LOL

    I laugh, but I truly struggle with this. I know that it goes back to when I started 5th grade in a new school. Since I didn’t have one of the “certain” two last names and I had not been there since “Day One” (Kindergarten), I was considered and treated like a ‘nobody’.

    However, realizing where it started and knowing in my head that it is nothing but LIES from the enemy, doesn’t make it any easier to deal with and get past. I am soooooo looking forward to reading your book and getting scriptures to help me through this. I am even currently attending a program at our church called Celebrate Recovery to help me deal with this issue and move on so I, too, can help others.

    Thank you so much for being willing to wait on God’s timing for your book. I appreciate ALL that you had to go through to get to this point and I LOVED meeting you and seeing your “heart” at She Speaks this year.

    I will share your post on fb, twitter and on my blogs ( & and fb page, too.

    Working daily on developing my Godfidence 🙂

  170. I have always been a worrier and self doubter. Now that I’m a mom I constantly compare myself to other moms and I hate that. I can’t wait to read your book!

  171. Thank you for the giveaway. I have always been a worrier, it is hard work everyday to deal with it. Your facebook posts seem to be just what I need to hear day after day. Thank you.

  172. I love your heart and the message God has given it to encourage the hearts of so many women.

    I lost my confidence at a very young age due to being sexually abused by my cousin and my mother being aware of it and not doing anything about it. I felt I wasn’t worth “rescuing” and from there on the cycle of doubt and insecurity perpetuated throughout middle school, high school, and college as I continued to put my confidence in the hands of others and allowed them to determine if I was “worth it” or not.

    God has been working on me since and I have come a long way praise God but those doubts and insecurities still surface from time to time. I could completely relate to what you said in your trailer about being a young bride and doubting your husband’s faithfulness. I have experienced that in my marriage and am slowly realizing that it stems from the trauma of my past and not due to my husband’s actions or intentions.

    I would love to read your book in God’s perfect time. God bless you and your gift sweet sister in Christ!

  173. As I sit here searching the internet for more Christian blogs to follow- I stumble upon yours. You are added to my favorite blogs now. Thank you so much for your encouraging words- I believe that this book is just what I need to read. I have had those same thoughts of not being good enough, smart enough, etc. Thank you for opening my eyes to erase those thoughts and begin thinking the way the God wants me to think. Many Blessings, Krystal

  174. Thanks Renee! I am working on my God-fidence. I am a work in progress like many others and really appreciate the types of books that P31 makes available to us through people like you. I hope I’m a winner!!!

  175. I could most idenify with you doubting your husband’s faithfulness. My husband has never given me a reason to doubt that he would stay with me, but I feel like I don’t measure up in the area of looks or personality, so many times I still question whether I am enough for him and if he loves me enough to stay with me.

  176. I just finished reading the last day of the 7 day devotion. It was a wonderful blessing and full of truth. I have reccommended it to my sister and a few ladies in our church. Thank you so much for following God’s leading in your life to write this book. I know that it will be a blessing to all who will read it. I can’t wait to get my own copy. 🙂 Have a great day!

  177. Christie says:

    Need to read more about how my worry shows I’m doubting God.

  178. Deanne Fitzgerald says:

    I was sent a link to the site from a friend. I have been struggling with issues of confidence my whole life, as you said in the video, confidence in my appearance, in my ability to succeed in new endeavors, in relationships. Recently I have been doubting myself in my job, fearing my coworkers thought of me as a joke. As I talked to a coworker and friend she promised to send me the link to Proverbs31 and I am so glad she did! Grew up in a Christian home so I never doubted God’s involvement in my life, but I see that I need to turn toward the light in my dark times so as to avoid my doubts! I look forward to not only reading you new book, but to following the site and sharing with other women!

  179. God’s timing is amazing! I’ve always had low self-esteem and it’s kept me from venturing out to try new things and even build relationships with other people for fear of getting hurt. This has been most evident over the past several weeks as I’ve been going through a difficult time lately and have found it hard to ask and accept help from others. Renee, I started to read the first chapter of your book that you provide here on your web site and three pages in I had to stop because of the tears. I so need this right now, and as afraid as I am to take this step of faith, I really feel this is orchestrated by God and I don’t want to miss out on the opprtunity to be healed from past hurts and to gain new confidence in the Lord. I would appreciate your prayers. Thanks.


  180. I can’t wait to read this book. I have struggled with self-doubt all my life.

  181. Hello Renee,

    I love to read your devotionals that you sent out. They are very inspirational and encouraging. Howeve,r this one on “Don’t Throw Away Your Confidence” stirs my soul deeply. Years ago my confidence level dropped tremendously. It has taken me years to rebuild and I am still carrying on. Knowing that someone else shares in the same area makes me feel that I can persevere as well. God bless you for sharing with others. God is using you in a mighty way to reach others.

    Be Blessed,

  182. I haven’t been able to check out your trailer yet as the sound on my computer isn’t working, but I am so excited to see that your book is out and that I’ll be able to get a copy soon! I’ve grown already from your 7 day doubt diet and am really looking forward to reading your book! Thank you for sharing your passion for seeing us live free and confidently! It’s contagious!!
    Praying blessings on you as you pray for each of us!
    Caty :O]

  183. I identify with most of the devotional, especially fear of failure and being criticized. I could definitely use all the coaching I can get in being confident!

  184. Michelle says:

    I am working through the book on my own and keeping a journal (which I have never done before). I feel that I really need this book right now as I have no confidence and I am going to school to finish my Bachelor of Social Welfare degree, and need the confidence to do well. I might pass a copy to my mom, who struggles with her own insecurties.

  185. Denise Burris says:

    I need to break free from people pleasing. The only one I want to please is God.

  186. I am looking forward to getting a copy of your book and letting God restore me. I have had some things happen over the last three years that have shattered my confidence in myself and have shaken my relationship with my Lord and Savior. I have been working on rebuilding my relationship with Christ and feel the Lord drawing me to Him.

  187. Kendra Curran says:

    I need some God-fidence. Being a single mom and trying to be a great example for my kids is hard and seems like the world gets me down. I need to learn to lean on God more and be that great example to my kids. Praise God for you.

  188. What can I relate to?? All of it! (smiles) I have many times doubted the ability to be a good mother to my children, though I have a great mother. I have had doubts of my husband truly loving me, though he continually shows his love. I have even doubted that God could truly love me, though He proves His love time and time again.

    I look forward to reading your new book! Thank you for your ministry.

  189. Renee,

    I could totally relate to how self-doubt led you to miss out on many things…that has been my whole life. Even with your giveaway, I thought to myself, “Why try, I won’t win. Why bother? There’s nothing special about me or anything I could possibly say.” After an hour of battling with myself, I’m finally clicking on the “Post Comment” button!

  190. I haven’t been reading your devotionals long, but I am enjoying them so much. Seems like so many of them are written just for me!! I love sharing them with friends, and I know God is working to draw me closer to Him and is stripping away the layers of the world that have grown around my soul…like thick, ugly layers of paint stripped from a beautiful piece of wood carved by the Master. I look forward to being fully “restored”. Thank you.

  191. I too am a victim of self-doubt but I want to be free to live in God-confidence. I am looking forward to “A Confident Heart.”

  192. I can relate to so much of what you said in your book trailer! But the one thing that hit me right between the eyes was when you could see the shadow was when you turned away from the light! How true that is when it comes to our self-doubt! We start to doubt ourselves, and allow others opinions over shadow us when we take our focus of the Light. Such an awesome insight! I cannot wait to read the book!

  193. carla Villar says:

    (To make hope rise again in your heart. To bring encouragement where discouragement has settled. )this statement in your book spook to my heart, my son Chris went to heaven in 2006 from a drunk driver coming through our roof ,and i have struggled with pts from the wreck and with feeling encouragement and hope even though i am saved and so was my son.

  194. Lisa-Ann Hubley says:

    Thank you for letting me know that I’m not alone in my lack of confidence. Can’t wait to read your book 🙂

  195. Kim Cleveland says:

    I most identified with the part that talked about never being good enough….I think women in general, as well as myself personally, greatly struggle with this issue. I can’t wait to read this book – it’s on my “to read” list.

  196. Michelle R says:

    I would like to enter for a book. I am a mom of three and struggling with low self esteem, no confidence, worrying what others think of me, feeling worthless. I have got to the point of not going to church as often just because I leave there feeling worse that I am not doing good enough. I am going to counseling every two weeks and have a good friend that talks to me about God. I am just to far down to get out and need a little pick me up. I want to enjoy my children and husband more. I don’t want to rely on medicine to make it through the day anymore.

  197. Donya Dunlap says:

    Wednesday was a very difficult day for me. I have recently felt called of God to start a ministry to single women and since that time have been inundated with “you can’t” thoughts and overwhelming moments of fear. I know God has called me to this and thereby will give me the strength, direction, wisdom, etc. that I need, but now, more than ever, I also believe there is an enemy fighting God’s plan with all of his might. The battle in my mind has been exhausting. Around lunchtime I repeated Scripture back to the Lord asking him to please help me to feel his presence with me as he had started to feel so distant. When I went back to my office I read the email from Proverbs 31 “Don’t throw away your confidence”. It was my answer to prayer. It was exactly what I needed at the exact time that I needed it. Today I went out and bought note cards to write out the verses to combat the negative thoughts you wrote about in the email. Thank you so much for being the instrument God used to speak to me when I needed to hear his voice.

  198. Faith Dowd says:

    I throw away my confidence each time I feel negative thoughts regarding my reaction to life choices. It upsets my whole day and feelings about myself. I try so very hard to stay in tune with my Lord’s direction and help for my thoughts but it repeats so very often in my mind causing lack of confidence!! Give it to God and let Him be in charge not humaness.

  199. Cris-Annette Nicholas says:

    One of the first things that jumped out at me, was “Are you afraid to do things, because you lack confidence”. I have been looking into going back to school (college) to earn a Certificate and Associates Degree to be a Medical Assistant. I wasn’t very good in math while in High School, and in my college years, I really struggled. One of the requirements to complete this degree is to take a class in Algebra, as well as a class in Chemistry. Whoa….. can I do this? Am I smart enough?… these were the questions that plagued me as the Admissions Director took me on a walk through of the college. I felt my heart beating extra fast, and felt my confidence begin to shatter. I really needed to see this video book Trailer, and would be so blessed if I were to win a copy of the book.

    God Bless

  200. Such an encouraging article for such a discouraging time of my life. Just like God! Thank you so very much!

  201. Linda Thomas says:

    I ordered 2 of your book and was compelled to give them both away. Will be needing another for myself. Can’t wait!

  202. Not sure if I already signed up for this or not. I have tried to win your book on several different websites, so I apologize if this is a duplicate entry. I sure could use some confidence!

  203. Your very first words spoke to me so directly, “Do you ever feel like you are not smart enough? Good enough? Valuable enough?” Unfortunately, this was drilled into my head as a child. I am the youngest of 11 children, but by the time I started school, I was the only one at home. Two of my siblings used to taunt me and practically bully me saying those words to me. I was told I was fat and ugly, that I was stupid and that nobody would ever love me. I am sure that you know that after so much, a person just begins to believe what they are told… Needless-to-say, before I got to Jr. High, my self-esteem had been shattered and my self- confidence was not far behind.

    I will be sharing this post on my facebook page – all of the women that participate in the two Bible studies that I go to are also on facebook – maybe one group will want to do this book as a study at one point… In the meantime, thank you for following God’s calling on your life. I look forward to this study beginning this fall…

  204. Gerri Baker says:

    I look forward to getting a chance to read this book. Too many talk about a Christian’s self confidence as if it were a bad thing, and it’s not. It’s part of our boundaries as a person/part of our person-hood in which God created us to have. To Him be the glory.

  205. aaron pentz says:

    I have been terrorized by the doubts and being overly self concious. At times it has been crippling to the work that I know God has called me too. Would love to read the book in its entirety. Thanks for the message of this book so many women need to hear it.

  206. aaron pentz says:

    I have been terrorized throughout me life by doubts and being overly self concious. It has been even crippling in trying to do what I know God has called me too. Thanks for writing this book. It is a message so many women need to hear.

  207. aaron pentz says:

    I need this book. My life has been paralyzed by self doubt.

  208. Judy K Burgi says:

    Self doubt? That is me all the way! I have never had confidence in myself. Most of the time I look in the mirror and call myself Stupid! I’m never pretty enough, good enough, and definitely not smart enough. I’d love to get off this Merry-go-round. What would it be like to have confidence in myself? I haven’t a clue! I actually think it is too late for me.

  209. I have had problems with confidence all my life. And, am starting to realize that the more I trust in God then the more good I find in myself. I am looking forward to reading “A Confident Heart”. I can’t afford it yet, but I have the “7 Day Doubt Diet” and I keep coming to this site to hear more. Thanks so much for your ministry!

  210. Eventhough, I’ve been placed in a womens ministry leadership position and appear to be confident, inside I’m a wreak! In my head I hear the wisphers…”You don’t have the skills” or “YOU… you can’t do that, do you know how stuipd you’ll sound!”

    But I’m confident with God’s Word and your book, I will finally become the woman God had planned along!

    In His Grace~Tammy

  211. My life is often ruled by doubt and fear rather than by truth. My confidence goes in the trash. I think it depends on who and what I allow to define me. I would love to read A Confident Heart and confidently hold God’s truths in my heart not just in my head.

  212. Your trailer is describing ME! Since childhood I, too, have been plagued with self-doubt that has kept me from having the confidence to be all God wants me to be. I want that confident heart that you have found! I am excited to read your book and share it with not only my friends and family, but as an educator working with teenagers, I’m excited to share what I learn with my students too.

  213. Oh, Renee, I would love to read your book for encouragement to be confident in who I am in Christ! It seems that you speak God’s Truth in a way that greatly speaks to my heart. I so often let those insecure thoughts prevent me from living fully in God’s wonderful grace. Thank you for your honesty in struggling with that yourself. I really appreciated the bible verses you gave to fight those insecure thoughts. Thank you for sharing to help others like me! :0)

  214. Page 42 last paragraph where you state that God was not made in our father’s image is wonderful to hear and really set in my heart. That’s exactly what I’ve been doing. Looking at God as if he is going to leave or judge at any moment like my own Dad did. I think I’ve underlined the whole book to this point…….

  215. Also, I have been sharing your “A Confident Heart” posts with friends on facebook!

  216. I needed to hear your experience with your shadow revealing how high your thoughts of insecurities were. This is so true. My insecure thoughts get so high that I allow them to control me. I need to continuously make these insecure thoughts bow down to my MIGHTY SAVIOR CHRIST JESUS!!!(IICor. 10:5)

  217. My husband took the baby and I to a mall out of town when we were married less than a year. He told me he would keep the baby with him and I could go shopping wherever I wanted. I was terrified that he would take the baby and leave me at the mall! He thought I was being silly and just started walking away. I just walked around crying for an hour and then found them. It was horrible. We’ll be married for 23 September 6th and sometimes that fear still grips me. I completely understand not getting on the carousel!

  218. I’d love to win a copy of the book to give away on my blog. I’m reading it and it’s heart changing by God’s Spirit. I’ve been sharing a lot on Facebook about it. Appreciate the message of God’s truth!

  219. I really identified with the “AM” (against me) vs. “FM” (for me) thoughts. I’ve been a Christian now for 10 years but still suffer from the “against me” thoughts because of my life as a young girl in a false religion with a mother who abused me through her anger and a father who rejected me. I have memorized many Scriptures, but need to repeat out loud the ones that come against the lies satan has planted in my mind. Thank you, Renee, for being obedient to follow God’s calling and minister to those of us who suffer from some of the same insecurities. I pray for all of us to be rooted in His love, secure with the peace of mind that only He can give.

  220. Christine Penney says:

    Wow – I noticed this posting on Facebook and thought it sounded interesting but after reading the first chapter that was emailed to me I KNOW that this is a God sent journey.
    Coming from a very dysfunctional home I grew up doubting all of my words, abilities and self worth. Through the years God has been slowly growing me but that shadow of doubt never seems to get smaller and I am tired of looking at it and feeling defeated…because then I act defeated as well. How can I serve God when I am already defeated and surrendering to that feeling. I want the power of the living God in my life. I want to believe God not just believe in Him. So thank you Beth for posting this on Facebook. I am looking forward to the journey…May we see God’s rich blessings….

  221. Just reading these comments and realizing I am not the only one who feels this way helps tremendously! I have been under the influence of fear and doubt for far too long. The verse you commonly use, Hebrews 10:35-36, has been so helpful in giving me peace and helping me to keep going even when I can’t see the outcome. I really like how you encourage us to repeat God’s promises out loud. God bless you, Renee!

  222. cathy skipper says:

    From what I’ve read so far, all I can say is that God has led me to your book because it is the message I have been searching for. He is in control and has a plan just for me. Praise Him!

    I have been sharing quotes from your book on my facebook page (from your page and Proverbs 31 page) Thank you and God bless. Love, Cathy

  223. Thank you for this message, Renee 🙂 It’s a timely one, for sure! Right now, my struggle probably seems insignificant to most people, but it’s huge to me. About 4 months ago, I started running a few times a week for exercise. Nothing big, just a few miles each time. But, the more I did it, the more I COULD do. So, after about a month, I signed up to run a Half Marathon. I’ve never done anything like this before, so I was really excited to share with friends and family. I do have a few great supporters, but their encouragement seems drowned out by both the silent “Big deal; we don’t care.” attitudes or the vocal DIS-couragement I’ve gotten. I even had one friend tell me that I wasn’t a runner because my pace wasn’t fast enough, even though I am running 5 days a week, 30+ miles per week.So I struggle with doubting whether I can do this because of all the negativity I’m getting, especially from some people closest to me whom I thought would be great encouragers. I am trying to let it go and find my strength in the Lord and know that I will finish the race set before me 🙂

  224. I frequently have doubts and it was a blessing coming across your website and learning about your book. I’ve recently signed up for the 7 Day Doubt Diet and it’s been really encouraging and now when doubts come I flee to His Word, knowing that his promises are true and that He will never fail me. I would love to get a copy and I pray that many more women out there will be able to learn about your book and rely on God’s promises. I’m definitely sharing with my friends. God Bless you!

  225. Tracy Welmaker says:

    As a very young child, I always had confidence. But somewhere in the midst of my teens, I lost it. It seemed to get worse as the years grew. My heart tells me I can do anything. But the shadows in my mind saids it can’t be done. I usually step out on faith, but then fall short of completing because I allow doubt to take over. I look forward to getting your book in hopes of continuing to follow through on my hearts desire.

  226. I was in the kitchen looking around at the mess, feeling overwhelmed and a failure as a mom, when I sat at the computer, ask the Lord to give me a word, decided to look up Proverbs 31 and…

    I am going to have to read your book.


  227. Kimberly says:

    God bless you Renee for sharing the gift God’s given you with all of us through a Confident Heart! 😀 Our journey can often be so dark and difficult and the road overly long and extra rocky it’s easy to encounter disillusionment and loose sight of the journey. I’ve come to understand it’s a heart journey and God is our GPS. He is waiting to guide us, set the path straight and make the journey easier as we allow Jesus to carry us. We can know the truth in God’s promise, His glorious truth that He will never leave us nor forsake us, yet the enemy of our soul and heart whispers deceit filled lies and our confidence ebbs away. I’ve come to understand this can only occur when we take our eyes off of Jesus and His promises. Love, grace and mercy are the mainstay of our Lord and Savior. We can trust Him to be faithful when those we love, care about or simply know leave us with shattered hearts, broken promises and the death of dreams. A Confident Heart takes us straight to the heart of God and delivers us into His loving arms where we can be nurtured, heal and grow. It equips us with God’s truth and His word which is everlasting allowing us to understand we are valued, worthy and loved beyond compare by our Lord who created us and knit us within our mothers womb. As we hold fast to Jesus’ hand we can look forward to the journey with a Confident Heart because we walk with our Savior and King and know He alone defines us and His love will endure forever.

  228. I was so blessed by your video and am so excited about starting the Doubt Diet! Your story resonated with me so much and feel as though God has shown me this tool in the very hour of my own hopelessness against my self-doubt. I am praying that women everywhere will read this and know the trust and hope they have in our wonderful Savior!!

  229. Stumbling upon your message has been very timely! I’ve been struggling with the “I’m not good enough” syndrome. Just fill in the blank. I’m not educated enough, I’m not thin enough, I’m not wealthy enough, I’m not pretty enough…. I know the Lord has not been pleased with this pattern of thinking in my life. I desire to walk in His “strength & dignity”, as the Prov. 31:25 woman does. I’m encouraged that your book could be a tool on this journey.

  230. Kathy Sturgis says:

    Thanks for your honesty. Seeing somene put things in words gives me a way to explain what I can’t put in words. Now I can journey with you. Sure would like to win the books!!!


  231. I struggle with so much self doubt that it is even hard to describe. Even if someone gives me a compliment, I turn it around as negative. I think I’m not good enough, nor smart enough to be able to do certain things. It’s a constant struggle. I am looking forward to reading your book!

  232. Renee,

    I have started reading your book and I love it! Amazing! I have only read the first two chapters and I cried all of the way through them. Thank you for speaking to me and making me admit so much to myself. I look forward to continuing this journey in your words. I am finding a way to open myself back to up to the Lord Almighty!

  233. Heather JC says:

    I am so looking forward to this book. I was wondering if confidence is something I struggle with, but when I read your posts on Proverbs 31 and here, I knew that this is definitely a huge issue I deal with. I always feel as if I am not good enough and battle with rejection. I am actually dealing right now with this issue… especially with my job and my “friends”. Makes me doubt who my friends really are. Makes me doubt who I am, even though I know who God says I am. Thanks for your time. I love the Proverbs 31 Ministries, all the ladies, and the wonderful books you all right.

  234. Your book sounds wonderful! I can so relate, especially about trying to please people and feeling like I never measure up to what is expected of me. I will soon be 50, and I’m oh so tired of living like this!

  235. Kyndle Joyce says:

    I have lived my life always feeling “below” everyone and everything. It has always been hard to lose those negative thoughts and remember how much God actually loves me. I have enjoyed what I have read so far from Renee Swope’s new book – A Confident Heart. I hope to continue by actually reading the whole book.

  236. Just by the amount of comments that have been left for you, you can tell how much we are all going to be so grateful to have our hands around a copy of this book. To hear so many other women struggle with the same thoughts and emotions is a little overwhelming. I have beaten myself up so much on things – to have confidence in the things I do sounds a bit far reaching right now, however, as I realize suddenly how not alone I am in my thoughts…….that quite possibly, I can become confident outwardly to others. God Bless you and your gift of words.

  237. Crystal Scott says:

    Hi. Renee,
    I am always throwing away my confidence. Every time I hear God telling me I need to be doing something, I feel rejected by the people around me or in my church family. I feel I’m not good enough and have even been told by others that I can’t do this because it’s not what God is calling me to do. But I know deep down that God’s plans for me are great but I bury them because I don’t want to get hurt by others. I am looking forward to reading your book and I am hoping and praying for God to help me with my confidence issues because I am starting to see the trends unfold in my daughters.
    Thank you for all you do for God.
    Crystal Scott

  238. I have struggled with confidence for a long time & hope to continue crushing them and reaffirming God’s promises in my life and share them with others.

  239. I can identify with everything mentioned in the devotion and in the trailer. I’ve struggled with every form of self-doubt and insecurity my entire life. I long for the freedom that Christ wants me to have, I just don’t know how to be set free from it.

  240. Renee- I have struggled with self-doubt off and on for years… since elementary school difficulties….
    I seem to go through times when I am more secure in Christ and other times when the enemy makes me doubt my self… a wife and mom…..
    It has kept me from many things and makes me question peoples real motives….
    I want to be more confident woman in Him and as a mom and wife……

    I would love to read your book and learn how to be a more Confident woman….

  241. Brenda Schiesser says:

    I deal with self-doubt all the time………and I’m way too old to still be carrying these things……..I want to unload this very old baggage and move on with the confidence that being a child of God can bring and I want it to become a part of who I am………not just something that I come across for a season and then at the first turn……it’s gone because someone said something that hurt/angered/defeated me.

  242. I always feel like I’m not good enough and would like to change that to having a God-fident heart!

  243. Hi, “Confidence”? Its a word in the dictionary…You mentioned growing up with fears and doubt…I think that has been my middle name. So many things I missed out on from fear and doubt. I have worked to overcome it but I still seem to wrestle with doubting that I’m a very nice person. Just recently I was upset at someone who carelessly caused damage to something of mine. I felt as though I am a rotten person for having such thoughts. It spirals down to “what kind of Christian are you? A no good one, that’s what!” And the beat goes on… It makes me feel like I just want to hide, that I can’t handle things and be what I’m supposed to be. Confidence? No, not really. May God become my confidence as I grow in the knowledge of His love for me. Thank you…

  244. nancys1128 says:

    I’d have to say that the not feeling smart enough/capable is a problem for me. And I’m not so sure if it’s myself feeling that way, or the feeling that others view me that way. Doubts about being capable of doing things have definitely kept me from stepping forward on more than one occasion. As I process through this lost, it’s actually a fear of failure that best describes what holds me back. And what failure might look like has as many different faces as the situations/opportunities I’ve avoided because of the fear.

  245. Renee, thank you so much for your obedience to the Lord through writing this book. I have a debilitating issue with self doubt in practically every area of my life. From relationships to my career, self doubt always seems to creep up and rear its ugly head, sabatoging many things that could have/would have been very beautiful and successful. I am a Christ follower and believe every word in the Bible 110% but there seems to be some sort of disconnect between reading the words of hope contained in passages such as Hebrews 13:6, Philippians 1:6, and Romans 8:37 and actually applying and whole-heartedly believing them when it comes to me specifically. My prayer is that from reading your book, the Lord will help me overcome this obstacle in my life and will deliver me from my sin of self doubt. I absolutely know He can and is able! Thank you, Renee!

  246. I have shared this with a friend who works with prison inmates here in Nashville. last week we were talking about how one of the inmates just doesn’t feel worthy of God’s love. I told her of my new book, A Confident Heart, and your devotions about getting rid of the doubt of not being good enough. We both talked about how sad it is that women struggle with not being worthy of many things, but especially God’s love. I just received my new book and cannot wait to dig into it. I am praying that the doubt I have had all my life will be overcome and that I am able to share a Confident Heart of grace and mercy with others who are also struggling. Thank you for your beautiful words!

  247. Shawnia Holler says:

    Hello- I am SO grateful for all you have been sharing about your book. I have been sharing everthing to my friends and family on facebook. Lots of them have been enjoying it. I pray everyday to grow with God and for His will to be done in my life. We have recently moved to utah for my husbands job. At first it was REALLY hard. I knew in my heart that our Lord moved us here for a reason. But my fear was over coming my thoughts. By trusting God and His plans, it has become amazing. My husband, children and I have been able to witness to many others. God is so GOOD! Everyday I remind myself “With God all things are possible”. Everyday day I pray to be a light and salt to thee earth. I know your book would be truly encouraging. Thank you for all you do. May God bless you in all you. With Love Shawnia. Phil.4:13

  248. The Little Princess has laid her crown down at the feet of Jesus.
    When I look back, at those words I heard as I was growing up I took in all those things that was said, “you can’t”, “you will fail”, “you are not good enough”, and “you are not worthy”. Some things was due to struggles I had in school. Some things were asinuated by family members, who probably did not realize the harm it was doing. I cannot remember a time I ever felt secure, really loved, and don’t even say the word “confident”, that word does not even exist in my vocabulary. There were times I felt very lonely, rolled up in a ball in my bed at night and cried, wondering what was the purpose of living since I was not any good anyway.
    There use to be a saying “sticks and stones will break you bones, but words will never hurt me”. Actually, words can hurt, but there are also words, God’s words that can encourage, uplift and give us hope. He gives us a purpose for living and hope Jermiah 29:11.
    Total dependence on God means changing our way to His purposes, His plans, giving my thoughts, my feelings, and my inner lack of confidence over to Him. It is sometimes a struggle, but I want to hold on to His promises, trust Him and rely on Him for my security and confidence.
    I would like to share your book in a Bible study at my church and share with other ladies. Thank you for your encouragement. in Christ

  249. Rachelle says:

    This book is meaning so much to me. I’ve always thought of myself as “confident” and I am in some ways but I have also done many of the things you mention in the book, such as pulling away from others when I am disappointed in them or myself, finding my worth in how I perform on any given day, being a horrible perfectionist and beating myself up when I can’t be perfect. I have not even considered my talents as being terribly worthy. And yet I have known that God made me this way. He gave me my strengths. I have even cried out to him for help because I cannot stop being who I am. A person who is so un-perfect but who tries so hard to live up to all that she thinks she should be. I see that this is a recipe for disaster and disappointment. I realize now that God did make me who I am and that this is something to be embraced. Although I have no idea what the deepest desires of my heart are, God knows what he has in store for me and why he made me to be who I am with all my strengths and weaknesses. I am hopeful that I will stop beating myself up so much and that I will look to God every day for help and that I will come to understand what it is he wants me to learn and who he wants me to become. Thanks for starting me on this road.

  250. I had an “aha” moment when you made the connection of self doubt to worry and anxiety. Praying for God to give me the eyes to see when I do that. I hope to read and learn more about it. Thank you kindly!

  251. For so long I have battled depression. I found the Lord just about 2 years ago now, He has been amazing in turning my life around, but still I find myself falling into those awful thought processes that would bring me so far down into the pits…Thank God He is there to whisper my name before I hit the bottom again. I so need to read this book, every time I pick it up I just cry…is this because I am afraid or is it because I am hopeful…I really would like to share it with my daughter who sadly takes after her mom, hoping and praying that she can reach out for the Lord’s Saving Grace and Mercy long before the 43 years it took me. I am rambling, I did order another copy and can’t wait to be able to share it with her…

  252. I’m looking forward to reading and sharing the book. It’s been a struggle to get a resume together and job searching since it’s been over 10 yrs since I’ve worked on one. I can see my lack of confidence has affected my decisions and I sometimes battle the “what ifs” that are so dangerous bc they can lead to depressing thoughts. Doubts about mothering 2 young ones with multiple food allergies has also taken its toll. Somehow finding meaningful work that will accomodate their needs and schedules has become so daunting. I am reminded by your post that the battle is in the mind and what better weapon than the sword of the Spirit. Thanks for the reminder.

  253. A lot of things I have set out to do, confident and gifted, have been rejected by man.
    I know God is in control, and need to let those bad times go.
    Others I know have had similar experiences.
    I would love to read the book and pass it on.

  254. Regarding self doubt and this is to hard for me. I have entertained that thought for the last several years. There was trouble with my marriage and there was never a day that went by that I thought I would not be able to make it. This verse among many more was my constant companion. I had it written on a piece of paper I carried in my pocket. God was extremly gracious and healed my home. Then satan decided to try and uproot me again. My 18 year old told me she was pregnant and the thoughts came like a flood. God why is this happening? Dont you love me? I cant handle anymore God, please make it stop!

    Through all of this I could hear a voice saying, “I love you. Lean on me and listen to what I tell you. You are my child and I will give you everything you need.” I have held onto that because I know Satan will try to take all peace and self confidence out of you. We must remember, NO ONE IS GREATER THAN OUR GOD!

  255. I never win at anything. I have lost at love, family, friendships, career, and yet through all this I somehow teach my children to win and lose with grace. How is it possible to teach my blessings something that I apparently doubt? Society makes me believe that as a single mom I am not worthy and it would seem that I have bought into this mentality. I know I have Christ in my life, esp when I slow down and look, but I don’t often do that. I believe my children are His gift to me and I appreciate that God is in the whisper of the wind, not necessarily in the rumble of the thunder. But my life seems to be a lot of thunder and rain lately, so it is a little hard to find God. At least I am still looking to Him. I signed up for the 7-Day Doubt Diet and am looking forward to changing my thought process from me oriented to believing in the One who made me beautiful.

  256. Roseanne Phillips says:

    Good Morning! You must have been in my bathroom this am as I saw my huge shadow (My husband of 15 years told me that he did not want to celebrate our upcoming wedding anniversary…) My shadow is a result of my not releasing the facade of control in our marriage. Thank you so much for reminding me to turn back to the light, My God…not to Self!!! I think your book will definitely be God-sent to us shadow people reminding us of the truth…that we are children of the Light(our God)…may you be blessed as well as you walk in the Light. I look forward to reading your book as well as sharing it with my pre-teen daughter …have a bright day!

  257. Lacking confidence? I identify with doubting my husband’s faithfulness…his love even. Unfortunately, those feelings still creep in after 17 years of marriage. I doubt God’s love for me sometimes, too. Yes, I feel that He tolerates me. I’ve done a few acceptable things, but I keep messing up. I often wonder why He doesn’t destroy me now because I’m such a Christian failure. I believe that some of my insecurities stem from a past experience – I was a Jehovah’s Witness for seven years (and associated with them for a few more years). I know that I’m on the “performance tredmill,” and it’s really hard to get off of it and stay off. I believe your book will be helpful to people like me…as well as all the others who have commented already. Thank you! May Jehovah bless you and allow you to continue ministering to a hurting and suffering people!

  258. Love the idea of consciously “capturing” each self-doubt and replacing it immediately with scripture. This has encouraged me to do the same. Thank you for the inspiration!

  259. I think we all can relate to this in one way or another. I look forward to reading your book so I can share your message with other women! Thanks for having the courage to step out and share your story with the world, Renee!!

  260. Ashley Metz says:

    I am really excited to read the Confident heart! I struggle on a daily basis with feelings of doubt and inadequacy. I do not feel that it is an accident that I came across your website, I truly feel that there is a definite reason God would have me to read this book!! I can” wait to get a copy.

  261. Stephanie Melton says:

    Renee — thank you so much! I never win anything. This truly made my day! I can’t wait to read your book and share with a friend at Starbucks.

  262. I’ve been getting Proverbs 31 for two years. Yesterday I read yours and it just spoke to me. I went on your website and knew I was lacking a confident heart. Sooo many people have confidence in me and see my strengthen. I know it’s there but it seems trapped. I push myself. But I feel and know I truly lack confidence. I feel like I’m letting God down because I want to fulfill His purpose for me but I’m not.
    I read the first chapter twice and prayed the prayer at the end out loud. Each time I pray it, I cry. I’m tried of feeling unfulfilled. I’m tired of feeling empty. So, I look forward to this journey.

  263. Shawna Petty says:

    So struggling. Been thrown away like garbage, left behind holding a bag I can’t manage with no clue how I’m going to make it and survive. The Proverbs 31 devotional the other day described so much. I know I have no reason to doubt yet I have no strength to carry on………….

  264. Sherry L. says:

    I can truly identify with Day 5 of the 7-Day Doubt Diet. The prayer you wrote for us to pray seeks answers to many of the questions I have in my life. Is it suitable just to pray the prayer once and leave it in God’s hands, or should we pray this prayer daily?

    Thanks for sharing your story. It has been encouraging to know that I’m not the only one feeling like this.
    God Bless You!

  265. Renee,

    Thank you for reaching out with God’s Word. It truly is where we get real confidence from. At 47, I feel that I’ve wasted so much of my life in self-doubt. There is no re-do in life, so you just pick up where you are and move forward.

    I absolutely relate to your comments like “I’m not good enough,” “What if I fail and look foolish,” “This is too hard for me.” I’ve let so many things in life pass me by–important things like a promotion and relationships, to even the most insignificant things like opting out of pictures. I seriously seek to grow in the grace of God, to become the woman He made me to be.

    I am really looking forward to reading the rest ” A Confident Heart. ”
    God Bless You. =)


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