When You Feel Like You Can’t Measure Up

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Do you ever compare yourself to other women and feel like you don’t measure up?
Maybe you feel think you’re not as smart, pretty, fun, organized or as good at _______ as they are.

I’m sharing my heart over at P31 today about how easy it is to think that if we had more or knew more, we’d be secure. But the truth is, even people who have it all still struggle with feelings of insecurity. The Bible opens with teh story of a woman who had everything but it still wasn’t enough (Genesis 2).

Even though God established Eve’s worth as His child; the crown of His creation and lavished her with gifts of intimacy, beauty, security, significance, and purpose – it wasn’t enough. Satan convinced Eve to take her eyes off what she did have and focus on what she didn’t have.

Have you also heard Satan’s whispers, saying  you’re not all you could be — or should be?

Just like Eve, you and I have an enemy. The Bible calls him the father of lies, and tell us there is no truth in him (John 8:44). Interestingly, the meaning of the word lie  is “a falsehood with the intent to deceive.”

Satan doesn’t just lie. He has intends to deceive us by getting us to take our eyes off of who we are and what we have in Christ. It’s exactly what he did with Eve:

“Then the eyes of both [Adam and Eve] were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves.

Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from the Lord God among the trees of the garden. But the Lord God called to the man, ‘Where are you?’

He answered, ‘I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.’” (Gen. 3:7–11)

In response, God asks who told them they were naked. In other words, “Who told you that something is wrong with you? By asking this, God made sure they knew someone was casting shame on them—and it wasn’t Him. 

The enemy whispered lies into their hearts, causing them to move away from Him and from each other.

Satan’s intent for us is exactly the same as it was for Eve. He wants us to believe his deceptions and fall into the distraction of feeling inadequate, insecure and like we’ll never measure up. But we don’t have to go along with him. Instead we can pray, “Lord, help me recognize Satan’s lies, refuse his temptations and rely on Your truth about me instead.”

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If we have put our trust in Jesus as our Savior, we can stand on the promises of who we are in Him. And when we are tempted to measure up, we can choose to focus “up” instead as we rely on these truths to remind our hearts of who you are in Christ.

I am accepted . . .

  • I am God’s child. John 1:12
  • I have been bought with a price and I belong to God. 1 Corinthians 6:19–20
  • I have been chosen by God and adopted as His child. Ephesians 1:3–8
  • I have direct access to the throne of grace through Jesus Christ. Hebrews 4:14–16

I am secure . . .

  • I am assured that God works for my good in all circumstances. Romans 8:28
  • I am free from condemnation. I cannot be separated from God’s love. Romans 8:31–39
  • I have been established, anointed, and sealed by God. 2 Corinthians 1:21–22
  • I am hidden with Christ in God. Colossians 3:1–4
  • I am confident God will complete the good work He started in me. Philippians 1:6
  • I have been given a spirit of power, love, and a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7

I am significant . . .

  • I have been chosen and appointed to bear fruit. John 15:16
  • I am a minister of reconciliation for God. 2 Corinthians 5:17–21
  • I am seated with Jesus Christ in the heavenly realm. Ephesians 2:6
  • I am God’s workmanship. Ephesians 2:10
  • I may approach God with freedom and confidence. Ephesians 3:12
  • I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13

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Renee Swope is a Word-lover, story-teller, heart-encourager and grace-needer. She's also a wife, mom, friend, daughter and author of A Confident Heart, a Retailers Choice Award winning book that became a best-seller and has been published in six languages, with over 150,000 copies sold. Renee is speaks around the country at women's events and and serves on the writing team for DaySpring’s inCourage blog. For twenty years, Renee served in leadership at Proverbs 31 Ministries and as former co-host of the ministry's radio program, “Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee.

Comments

  1. Kim Stewart says:

    Oh sweet Renee! I am tucking away the promise that “I am confident God will complete the good work He started in me.” Philippians 1:6 under my pillow tonight! Thanks always for your beautiful encouragement in every area of my life!!!

    • I love that promise! Thank you for your constant encouragement and the beautiful ways you SHINE His love sweet friend! Praying for you today!

  2. Love this, Renee!! It is always great to reminded that we are HIS and we have a purpose. I have been chosen by God and adopted as His child. Ephesians 1:3–8 Is the one I most related to (I related to all, but this being chosen is the one I struggle with most) I always think I am not good enough and don’t measure up to the expectations of being a Christian then I remember that God loves us just the way we are and He is working in my life to mold me into His image I just have to let him.

    • Yes, Miranda! Thank you very much for this reminder. May God continue to bless you richly.

    • Such a beautiful promise and reminder – one I need everyday too! Praying this beautiful truth of being chosen and enough will sink deep into our bones today Miranda!

  3. Thank you for speaking truth into my life. I find myself so many times comparing myself to others and feeling like I am not as talented as others or that I am more of an annoyance to them then anything. Then I am reminded that God doesn’t make mistakes and that He made me the way I am for a purpose and that He calls me altogether beautiful. I love the verse by 2 Timothy 1:7. Living insecure is the last thing that God wants for me. Now it’s about taking that head knowledge and transferring it as heart knowledge! Thanks again for your encouragement 🙂

    • Thank you for everything you shared, Katie. These days I am feeling like I am more of an annoyance lately. 🙁 I ask a lot of questions, and this makes people feel like I want too much detail. It probably makes them feel other ways, too, that I know not. God is dealing with me, too, about trying too hard to help others. I really like your statement,: “Living insecure is the last thing that God wants for me.” That is so true – otherwise why would He have provided us with so much encouragement, so many promises and such a great and deep love! 🙂 May God continue to bless you richly!

      • Thank you for sharing Cindy! I love what you said here: Living insecure is the last thing that God wants for me.” That is so true – otherwise why would He have provided us with so much encouragement, so many promises and such a great and deep love!

        So so true. Praying for you today!

    • You are uniquely and wonderfully made! Hand-made by your Maker and He loves you! Praying for what we know in our heads to sink deep into our hearts today. And praying 2 Tim 1:7 specifically for you this morning Katie!!

  4. mary aldridge says:

    I was feeling way down tonight about my self and then I seen this thanks so much for posting all of this I am going to put it under my pillow tonight too my favorite is God works for my good in all circumstances

    • Praying for you this morning Mary, that you will sense God working for your good in all circumstances. You are so loved by Your Maker!!

  5. elisabeth says:

    I am holding on to the promise that there is no condemnation in Christ and nothing can separate me from His love.
    Thanks for these reminders, Renee!

  6. The comparison trap speaks to my heart so very much. I am so guilty because of circumstances I struggle with, of comparing my life to other women I admire. I never measure up in my mind. Thank you for reminding me that I don’t have to measure up to be loved by my Heavenly Father, and for the truths from His Word. Much needed today.

    • Oh Becky. I so understand. I’ve come to realize that we’ll never measure up to others because we are only able to compare how we feel on the inside to how they look like they have it all together on the outside. It’s only an illusion and yet it’s such a powerful distraction Satan uses to keep us from loving the life we have. Praying you will see how wonderfully made you are today – and know that you are LOVED by your Maker!!

  7. I needed to see this today. I am currently struggling with doubt regarding school. I feel as if I am always facing obstacles and I get a little burnt out from time to time. However, reading today’s post reminded me that with God by my side I can continue to overcome and succeed.

  8. renee schuitemaker says:

    Thank you for your words they are ver encouraging. I would love to read the whole book.

  9. Elaine Jones says:

    I feel useless. I know all the promises in the Bible are meant for me, as well as others, it’s just hard for me to grasp.

    • Praying for you, Elaine. I am praying that God send His ministering angel(s) to break the power of that lie over your life. If is a lie, you know. You are not useless, at all. You can pray for others, and that is so very important. I am sure God has more for you, too. May you be strengthened in your inner man to keep your eyes, heart and mind fixed on Jesus. He is your Lord and Savior, no? May you be enabled to be still and rest in His great and deep love for you, then be able to hear His sweet voice, receive His promises as for you, and finally move forward in His plan and purposes. In Jesus’ Name, Amen! Love, hugs and prayers, Because of Jesus, Cindy

  10. Thank you for the reminder!Thank you for the truth!God bless you!

  11. Thank you for these reminders that I am who God says I am! I often struggle with insecurity and tend to compare myself with others. I need to look UP instead of looking around and comparing. I have prayed that God will help me to focus on that today.
    Thank you for the printable book mark as well. <3

  12. This really speaks to me today. I am starting in a new position today at work. It’s easy to feel insecure and lose confidence. Today I am just going to focus on who I am in Christ, and the rest will fall into place. I pray He works through me and gives me confidence and security.

  13. Grace Ashama says:

    I have been chosen and appointed to bear fruit. John 15:16
    I am holding on to the above. It’s so easy to sometimes forget that I am significant or that I matter. Chasing one thing or the other in life and how long it takes at times can make one begin to feel like I am doing anything and lose a sense of self worth but I will choose to just focus on God knowing that no matter what. I AM SIGNIFICANT IN HIS EYES. Thank you Renee

  14. Grace Ashama says:

    I have been chosen and appointed to bear fruit. John 15:16
    I am holding on to the above. It’s so easy to sometimes forget that I am significant or that I matter. Chasing one thing or the other in life and how long it takes at times can make one begin to feel like I am not doing anything and lose a sense of self worth but I will choose to just focus on God knowing that no matter what. I AM SIGNIFICANT IN HIS EYES. Thank you Renee

  15. Nancy M in NJ says:

    I keep the 2 Timothy verse on a which I use as a bookmark 🙂
    Life is such a struggle sometimes… Thank you for your beautiful post, Renee.

  16. I love how you stated God’s reaction to Adam & Eve knowing they were naked, “Who told you that something is wrong with you?” For me a pause to reflect on that question could help ease self doubt. Thank you Renee.

    • Thank you for sharing that, Amy. I guess it didn’t stick out for me as much as I read through the devo, but it is a very good question! It makes me smile! May God bless you richly!

  17. Donyelle says:

    Thank you, thank you! I’m sitting here this morning battling with feelings of inadequacy about many aspects of my life. I realize that it’s the enemy and I will keep Philippians 4:13 close today; especially at work.
    I can do ALL things through Christ who gives me strength.

  18. Thank you Renee for your encouraging words. I have struggled with comparing myself to others for years and still do. I am however learning to look at my strengths and listen to GOD’S voice instead of Satan”s lies.

  19. I’ve always wished I had the confidence of those around me, thanks for powerful thoughts to help retrain my insecure ones

  20. Manisha P. says:

    I am confident God will complete the good work He started in me. Philippians 1:6

  21. Rita Stephens says:

    Thank you for sharing your heart. No matter how old we are it seems we as women still struggle with feelings of inadequacy. Thank you for reminding us where our true worth comes from.

  22. Nicole Benjamin says:

    I’d often think I’m not qualified to preach because I haven’t been through enough or someone else could minister better. However I’m beginning to realize that God has,placed in me what no one else has,to reach the ppl He has in my path. But in life it’s so easy to look at someone else’s yard & desire their green grass all to try and fit in, but God is showing me to truly appreciate what you have and if truth be told you wouldn’t have joy with those things because they aren’t you. So be OK with who you are and enjoy life. Thank you Renee for reminding us to enjoy our uniqueness.

    • Thank you, Nicole for sharing here. I really appreciate the phrase, “…you wouldn’t have joy with those things because they aren’t you.” Wow! What a thought to ponder before our loving Father God. I also appreciate the phrase, “… enjoy our uniqueness.” Why do we not do that more? I guess it goes back to the world, the devil and our flesh and their lies! Oh, my! Time to stop listening to them for good – though I know that is easier said than done – it is very possible with our loving Heavenly Father and His Holy Spirit. May God continue to bless you richly, Nicole.

  23. Sometimes we get so buried in lies that we can’t see the Son, or his liberating truth. Thank you for pointing us back to the One who is our all in all, and the foundation of who we are. He is faithful. He never wavers.

  24. After being up with my 8 month old twins at 2am, I couldn’t fall back asleep. So I checked my email, instead of checking Pinterest. I found myself drawn by the Spirit to read today’s devotional now, instead of with my morning coffee. Your devotional helped my mind reframe my comparisons of others into an authentic prayer for them and to restate God’s promises over my life. Thank you for sharing your wisdom & knowledge with me!

    • Wow, Tiffany! Reframing in your mind your comparisons of others into authentic prayer for them and restating God’s promises over your life is such a good idea! Thank you very much for sharing. May God continue to bless you richly.

  25. This was perfect – thank you for the lovely reminder not to compare ourselves to other’s when the only person who really matters is God in our lives – He knows us, accepts us and loves us no matter what. I love the reminders you added in the devotion of who we are in Christ. I will print these and put these up in my cubicle at work. And, I will share these with my daughter, who is 9, and well, being a girl going through changes can be tough. thank you.

  26. Satan doesn’t just lie. He intends to deceive us by getting us to take our eyes off of who we are and what we have in Christ. That statement makes things so clear for me. Many times what I am perceiving as real fact about my life and circumstances is just a deception of Satan to keep me in doubt and fear. God’s truth implanted in my heart will give me confidence to live a powerful and secure life. It’s good to know Satan’s devices because the truth will set me free.

    • Thank you, Karen. True statement: “Many times what I am perceiving as real fact about my life and circumstances is just a deception of Satan to keep me in doubt and fear.” May I also add, to keep us in the lie. Does that make sense? It could also be be lies from our own flesh and the world – two more enemies of God – our loving Heavenly Father. I so do not want to entertain those enemies. Please help me, Holy Spirit. In Jesus’ Name, Amen. May God continue to bless you richly, Karen.

  27. My desire is to have God Confidence!

  28. Thank you for your word this morning! Deception and comparison will suck the life out of you. Satan wants to steal our joy all the time. I struggle with this as does my daughter and it’s so hard not to compare, question, etc. Thank you for this devotion as a fantastic reminder that Satan is the real enemy. Help us to be strong in Christ!

  29. Thank you for reminding me of the truth that I am accepted and secure in Christ. I am holding onto that as I embrace some change and move toward his plans for me in my life, particularly my career, right now. I need that reminder to boost my confidence to pursue my writing dreams.

  30. Thank you so much for the devotional today. More often than not I find myself comparing and this was such an encouragement to me. I love Ephesians 2:10! I’ll be writing that out as a reminder to myself!

  31. Christina says:

    This was such a great truth! God really showed me that I need to keep my eyes on the One that sets the standard, holds the standard and has brought me up to standard, rather than those that insist they are the standard.

    • Wow, Christina! This is great: “I need to keep my eyes on the One that sets the standard, holds the standard and has brought me up to standard, rather than those that insist they are the standard.” Much food for thought here! Thank you very much. May God continue to bless you richly!

  32. I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13

  33. Erin Tunnell says:

    Thank you so much for sharing your heart. I needed this today. Today is the first day of a medical treatments that I will receive weekly for the rest of my life. Two days ago, I was at the lowest point I’ve been since this journey started. In addition I felt guilty for feeling so low when so many others face even worse and untreatable medical scenarios. A sweet friend reminded me that we each have our burdens and challenges in life, and I shouldn’t compare mine to another’s but instead rely on God to be the finisher and perfected of my faith.
    So Philippians 1:6 really hit home. I have to trust God to complete this work in me, and trust that He can and is working in and through whatever comes my way.

  34. I am a child of God! I am a daughter of the One True King!! I am a princess of the Most High!!! What a wonderful truth to tuck into my heart to start the day.

  35. I love the affirmation and knowing that God created us to be who we are – we are loved. I want to live this out in a way that my children will understand these truths!

  36. I just recently studied this is my bible study…I think it’s so hard as women not to compare ourselves. God doesn’t compare us, why should we? This is something we need to be reminded frequently. Thank you!

  37. I loved this reminder! It got me thinking about who God made me to be! Comparing myself to others can be such a trap! Especially when I try to be like them in ways that God never meant for me to be. I need to focus on God’s truth and not the lies the enemy is constantly whispering to me. I am God’s workmanship! Ephesians 2:10. Our good God does not make mistakes!

  38. Martha Parrish says:

    I am struggling lately with why I can’t lose some weight, be organized, have a clean house, be a patient mom and the list goes on. All of these promises bring me such encouragement. I loved your devotional this morning and the places in scripture I can turn to when I feel like I need reminding of these promises. Thank you!

  39. Jill Dupre says:

    Lord, help me recognize Satan’s lies, refuse his temptations and rely on Your truth about me instead.”

    I needed that prayer today!

  40. I struggle with confidence and significance. Thank you for reminding me that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

  41. I felt like your devotion today really resonated with me. Comparisons are a constant struggle for me. Even as I read through some of the previous posts I started to worry that I don’t have anything as profound to say/comment as others but I found it so comforting to be reminded that God loves me for who I am and that I am secure in Him. Thank you.

  42. I was so deeply moved by your message about comparing ourselves, but mostly the “who I am” statements . I struggle with this daily, and have just began my healing journey. I am an incest survivor and have had many negative messages instilled in me quite contrary to what these statements affirm that I am. I do like these much better, however, trusting and believing the validity of them is another matter. As I said, I am just beginning what I’m sure will be a long road to healing, wholeness, and hopefully fullness in Christ.
    I would so dearly love to be blessed as a recipient of your book, and although I doubt I would win, I will still pray for favor. I pray you are blessed with all you do in your ministry. It is obvious that you tough lives, for I am a life that was changed by just this message. Thank you. God bless

    • Praying for you, Cindi! Father God, thank You for speaking to Cindi through Renee’s message. Please consistently remind her of who she is in You and because of You – because of Jesus and His death, burial and resurrection. May the lies/lying voices be silenced and Truth prevail in her mind and in her heart. Thank You, Father God, that Your will is indeed healing, wholeness and fullness in Christ. May Cindy be strengthened in her inner man to hold on to that and CLING to her loving Savior, Jesus. May she securely anchor her Hope in Him whom God made our Wisdom, Righteousness, Consecration and Redemption. 1 Corinthians 1:30.

      Here it is in the Amplified Bible: “But is from Him that you have your life in Christ Jesus, Whom God made our Wisdom from God, [revealed to us a knowledge of the divine plan of salvation previously hidden, manifesting itself as] our Righteousness [thus making us upright and putting us in right standing with God], and our consecration [making us pure and holy], and our Redemption [providing our ransom from eternal penalty for sin].

      THE MESSAGE BIBLE: “Everything we have – right thinking and right living, a clean slate and a fresh start – comes from God by way of Jesus Christ.”

      The New Living Translation: “God alone made it possible for you to be in Christ Jesus. For our benefit God made Christ to be wisdom itself. He is the one who made us acceptable to God. He made us pure and holy, and He gave Himself to purchase our freedom.” 31 As the Scriptures say, “The person who wishes to boast should boast only of the Lord has done.” (Jeremiah 9:24)

      Love, hugs and prayers,
      Because of Jesus,
      Cindy

    • Susan W. says:

      Cindi, I want you to know that I’m praying for you. My first online Bible study was Renee’s. It was rewarding, to say the least. Her book is awesome and full of encouragement. Saturate your mind and heart with God’s Word, read a devotional (Renee has a devotional that goes with her book), music (I enjoy Christy Nockels CD Let It Be Jesus, and put Renee’s statements “Who I am” in a place where you can read them over and over again. God Bless You Cindi! With Love & Friendship, Susan

  43. Thank you for the encouragement. It really spoke to me this morning. May God bless you as you continue to speak his truths and speak into the lives of women everywhere.

  44. This couldn’t have come at a better time. I was just dreaming–literally-of how I fall short at work. I want to do more and be better. Lord Jesus, please help me to stop comparing myself to others and to follow the path you have laid before me. Amen

  45. Wow! The timing of this message was perfect. Just this weekend, something sent me into a downward spiral. Deep down I know it’s the enemy just trying to beat me down. But when my feelings take over, it can be so hard to climb out of that rut. The you so much for sharing this beautiful message.

  46. What an amazing reminder amidst the things that are happening in my newly married life. It is so easy to look at couples starting out and think they have it all together and wonder why we are struggling. Renting to pay off debt first and then buying a house vs seeing new couples buy houses and “start off well” has been a struggle of mine lately as I want a place to call my own. This devotional really helped me to remember that we are on our own path with God and not someone else’s path.

    • “…we are on our own path with God and not someone else’s path.” What a great reminder, Mandy. Thank you very much. May God continue to bless you richly!

  47. Michelle says:

    Started my day this morning with a heart full of worry. That’s not so unusual for me. But reading this has reminded me of my strength. The strength I have because of who Christ is. I only need to call on Him, and now I can handle the day ahead. Thank you!

  48. Thank you! I woke up measuring myself this morning. This is exactly the reassurance I needed. To reaffirm that I am God’s child. My focus was redirected.

  49. Such a great reminder of how God sees us!

  50. Thank you ~ I am a child of God and He loves me now matter what…. He is who fills me, loves me, strengthens me . I am loved no MATTER who I am or what I have done. I am HIS!

  51. I remember having all those “not good enough” thoughts and now I see my adult daughter struggling with these thoughts too. Thank you for dedicating yourself to the Lord to help so many ladies grow stronger in their faith!

  52. Thank you for your uplifting devotional. These words are truly encouraging to me!

  53. Fredda Brown-Kemp says:

    I am a daughter of God and good enough for him!

  54. I can do all things through the Lord who strengthens me.

  55. The comparison game is deadly! I’ve been trying to overcome it for some time—and there is no reason to compare. I am unique because God made me that way. I’m trying to remind myself to stop believing Satan’s lies and know who I am in Christ

    • Yes, Julie! Thank you very much. I especially appreciate the phrase: “there is no reason to compare.” There really isn’t is there? Must think on that. 🙂 Just a reminder that there are lies from the world and form our own flesh. 🙁 We must focus on The Truth and cling The Truth Himself, Jesus Christ. 🙂 May God continue to bless you richly.

  56. Jennifer Barrett says:

    The truth is my brokenness is a lie that Satan wants me to continue to believe. Real truth is I have been made whole by my belief and faith in Jesus Christ.

    • Amen, Jennifer – to the Truth! Praise God! May we all rest and grow in that. May God continue to bless you richly.

  57. Thank you for your words! They spoke directly to my heart. I fall into the comparison trap all too often. Thank you for the bookmark and the reminder of God’s promises in His Word. Today I am clinging to Philippians 1:6 and trusting God to continue on to completion His good work in me. Thanks again.

  58. Thank you for encouraging my not so confident heart this morning! I was doing some comparing of myself just last night and forgot that I need to rely on God and know that I am perfect in His eyes until after reading your wonderful devotion this morning. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me Phil 4:13

  59. Amy Mathis says:

    I often compare myself to others. Thank you for reminding me to look to the true goal.

  60. Reesa Novak says:

    Oh, if only i could remember who I am according to Christ on a daily basis!!!!

    • Yeah, Reesa! So be it! We have Holy Spirit to remind us, to strengthen us, and to come alongside against the enemy, the world, the flesh and their lies! Praise God! Thank You, Jesus! May God continue to bless you richly.

  61. Tammy Trietch says:

    I keep reminding myself (1) I am a child of the One True King – Amen! and (2) Comparison kills contentment (I heard this from a Wendy Pope video, but not sure if she was quoting someone). Comparing myself to others will destroy the contentment I have in my life.

  62. Thank you so much for the encouragement. I agree with it all and the attitude we should have, but I think the real test comes when we (unexpectedly) find ourselves in these circumstances that make us compare and devalue ourselves. It does take major perseverance, discipline, and practice to develop an automatic attitude of looking UP, and not across at other people- and be content wherever we are with whatever we have, regardless of how ahead other people may seem.

    • Yes, Karol! I especially like these thoughts you shared: “It does take major perseverance, discipline, and practice to develop an automatic attitude of looking UP, and not across at other people- and be content wherever we are with whatever we have, regardless of how ahead other people may seem.” Thank you for sharing. The phrase, “…not across at other people – …” really sticks out. We must stop looking at others in comparison, and look to God for perspective. May God continue to bless you richly!

  63. Comparison…a trap I so easily can get caught in…daily! Instead I need to focus on God’s Truths about me! God is bigger! 🙂

  64. Thank you for sharing God’s promises. I needed to hear this today.
    Would love to win your book to share with a friend.

  65. Thank you so much for this message today. I think most of us do this so often we don’t even realize we’re doing it. We allow Satan to slowly chip away our armor. Well thank you for the tools we need to put our armor back on and stand strong in the Lord.

    • Thank you, LaTonya! I am really thinking about your statement: “We allow Satan to slowly chip away our armor.” Good thing Jesus is all those parts of the armor to us – Satan can’t do Him in in the least. 🙂 We must not (as Ephesians 4:27) give the devil (or the world, or our flesh) a foothold. Let’s clothe ourselves in that armor daily and indeed stand strong in the Lord. May God continue to bless you richly!

  66. Today when insecurities creep in I will remind myself that they are lies that Satan wants me to believe! I will say out loud that I rebuke him and his lies. I am a child of God and I am dearly loved and accepted. Comparison is the thief of Joy!

  67. Nicole Sedelmeier says:

    Thank you for this devotion today, it spoke straight into my heart and put a balm on my heart. I deal with daily migraines and fibromyalgia and lately I’ve been feeling completely broken and done. I’m blessed by my husband and two kids but I’m often misguided by satan’s lies to believe after the pain and working full time with a long commute… I’m just not good enough as a wife nor mother. Satan’s lies tell me my family deserves so much more.

    Today I’m holding onto “I am free from condemnation. I cannot be separated from God’s love.” Romans 8:31–39. I will not compare myself to how well I think anyone else at work is doing (compared to me) nor other mothers and wives. God made me and knows exactly who I am so I am trusting that whatever I lack… I am enough in Him. Thank you for your words today, truly.

    • Thank you, Nicole! I really appreciate your statement: ” I will not compare myself to how well I think anyone else at work is doing (compared to me)…” I am 59 years of age and work in soft-lines at K-Mart. I am older than most of my co-workers who put back returns, clothes from the fitting room, strays and straighten the clothes on tables and racks. It seems I work more slowly than my younger co-workers. I play that “game” that you mentioned above – especially lately – there has been so much to do – so many returns and clothes at the fitting rooms, and so many messy tables and racks. I often have to tell myself, “I can only do what I can do.” I am just now thinking, “God knew my capabilities when He provided this job.” Very thankful for that. 🙂 I like to straighten , and had often thought I would really like a job that allowed me pick clothes up off the floor and straighten things. Wow! There was actually a job like that! 🙂 I have been doing it for a little over a year and a half. There are other responsibilities, too. Thank you so much for helping me remember that I mustn’t compare myself to my co-workers, and remember Jesus, by Holy Spirit, enables me to to do what is necessary. I can do my best ( and don’t always do that 🙁 ) .

      Precious sister in Christ: May you know fully the comforting love of our wonderful, all-knowing Heavenly Father; the love of Jesus Who can relate to our weaknesses. Here is Hebrews 4: 15-16 in the AMPLIFIED BIBLE:

      “For we do not have a High Priest Who is unable to understand and sympathize and have a shared feeling with our weaknesses and infirmities and liability to the assaults of temptation, but One Who has been tempted in every respect as we are, yet without sinning. 16 “Let us then fearlessly and confidently and boldly draw near to the throne of grace (the throne of God’s unmerited favor to us sinners), that we may receive mercy [for our failures} and find grace to help in good time for every need [appropriate help and well-timed help, coming just when we need it].

      Here is Hebrews 5:7-9 “In the days of His flesh [Jesus] offered up definite, special petitions [for that which he not only wanted but needed] and supplications with strong crying and tears to Him Who was [always] able to save Him [out] from death, and He was heard because of His reverence toward God [His godly fear, His piety, in that *He shrank from the horrors of separation from the bright presence of the Father]. 8 Although He was a Son, He learned [active, special] obedience through what He suffered. 9 And, [His completed experience] making Him perfectly [equipped], He became the Author and Source of eternal salvation to all those who give heed and obey Him. [Isa. 45:17]

      Wow! These verses speak! We are well equipped to stand against the lies of the enemy, the world and our flesh because of Jesus having been perfectly equipped, and then sacrificing His life for us. He went through a bunch of hard stuff when He was on this earth, and now He lives to ever-intercede for us – understanding what we are going through. Praise Him! This is only part of what it speaks.

      If anyone has anything to add, please do so.

      May God continue to bless us all richly with His grace, mercy, hope, wisdom and all with which He so desires to bless us. Please forgive us for ever hindering Your move in our lives and help us to really let You fully love us – whatever that might mean for us individually. Thank You for Your sacrifice for each and every one of us. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

  68. Marissa Cooper says:

    The “Who I am in Christ…” promise I’m holding onto today is “I am assured that God works for my good in all circumstances.” I need to recite Romans 8:28 in this season of my life when so much has happened to make me feel defeated.

  69. Lynn Thompson says:

    This is such a good reminder to me. I step on the scale every day and look at the number to see how I am doing. Sometimes I step on the scale 7 or 8 times throughout the day to make sure I am on track. I know that checking in with God and my heart would be a much better way to measure myself, but the weight and the numbers on the scale are so much more tangible and easier to control. My prayer is that I would see my worth as a child of God, loved, redeemed and accepted. I want to break free from finding confidence in the flesh and how much that flesh weighs.

    • Amen, Lynn! Thank you for sharing. May God continue to bless you richly! By His Holy Spirit we can do as you have written.

  70. Connie B says:

    It’s so easy to read the Bible and shake our head in dismay when the ordinary people (just like me) do foolish things. Like when the children of Isreal grumble over the hardships of the wilderness soon after the huge miracle of the Red Sea parting. Or Eve when she was so easily deceived by the cunning lies of satan. The truth is that I am more like these flawed folks than I care to admit, and I can be just as easily tempted. That is probably my favorite aspect of the Word of God – I can relate! And for every mistake made by those who love God, both past and present, His forgiveness, grace, and mercy are always available in abundance.

  71. As a brand new mom (3 weeks tomorrow!) a whole new set of comparisons have begun. Thank you for the reminder that I am who I’m supposed to be; in Christ and to be the mama of this new life. Also, Phi.4:13 has been a key verse in these early days!

  72. Loved this devotional! Today I want to stay “hidden” in Christ. I can think of no better place to be!

  73. Lines up perfectly with what I have been learning this week! Thank you for your sweet sweet words!

  74. These verses and your writing are amazingly helpful, no matter our age or circumstances! I’d love to get a book for my daughter and every younger mom to have on hand. Bless you!

  75. A great reminder on who I am, not who I don’t measure up to be. Perfect timing in my life! Thanks!

  76. Heather Mays says:

    Thank you for your thoughts and reminding us that we are who God wants us to be. This was very helpful in reminding me that I need to look to him and not others for my confidence and security.

  77. Christianne McCall says:

    I feel inadequate when I don’t receive the affection from my husband that I crave. I know I am still worthy and loved by Jesus, though.

  78. Seek truth! This is great! Thanks.

  79. Thank you for this much needed message. I am keeping I my head and my heart;
    I can do all things theough Christ, who strengthens me.

  80. Thank you Renee for this devotion this morning. Comparison is one of my biggest downfalls and areas of struggle. I compare myself to other women and I really need to rely more on God’s word and what he says about me.
    Its a struggle but with your scripture references I am reminded.

    Thank you – Be Blessed

  81. Sarah Leonard says:

    I needed to read this! I am transitioning from being a stay at home mom to working as a teacher after nine years at home with my girls. My fears and insecurities have robbed me of joy in this journey. I am grabbing hold of the promise, “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.” Thank you for speaking truth into my life.

  82. 2 Timothy 1:7… Thankful for a sound mind in Jesus. My mind is prone to wonder… Lord please keep my thoughts anchored in your truth!

    • Amen, Cassie! Thank you for sharing. “Oh, to Grace how great a debtor…” God is so very good. I am so very thankful. “Come Thou Fount of Every Blessing” – what a hymn. Thank you for reminding me of that, too. Are you familiar with it? Here it is: (I hope and pray it blesses you! )

      Come, Thou Fount of Every Blessing
      The United Methodist Hymnal Number 400
      Text: Robert Robinson, 1735-1790
      Music: Wyeth’s Repository of Sacred Music, Part Second
      Tune: NETTLETON, Meter: 87.87 D

      1. Come, thou Fount of every blessing,
      tune my heart to sing thy grace;
      streams of mercy, never ceasing,
      call for songs of loudest praise.
      Teach me some melodious sonnet,
      sung by flaming tongues above.
      Praise the mount! I’m fixed upon it,
      mount of thy redeeming love.

      2. Here I raise mine Ebenezer;
      hither by thy help I’m come;
      and I hope, by thy good pleasure,
      safely to arrive at home.
      Jesus sought me when a stranger,
      wandering from the fold of God;
      he, to rescue me from danger,
      interposed his precious blood.

      3. O to grace how great a debtor
      daily I’m constrained to be!
      Let thy goodness, like a fetter,
      bind my wandering heart to thee.
      Prone to wander, Lord, I feel it,
      prone to leave the God I love;
      here’s my heart, O take and seal it,
      seal it for thy courts above.

  83. I totally agree with Renee about how easy it is to compare yourself to others and find yourself lacking. I am guilty of doing this often. I see what others have or don’t have in their lives and I turn a blind eye to the blessings God has bestowed upon me. We are all created to be unique and different to better serve God. I recently heard a talk about spiritual gifts that referred to what the body would look like if the ear decided it wanted to be an eye instead. The same thing can happen in the church body. We need to rejoice in our unique qualities and realize God has given us some things and not others for some reason He knows and we may never know.

  84. I am free from condemnation-praise the Lord that His love is always and forever and is unconditional. Thank you for this devotion!!! I needed to hear this message today.

  85. Greetings: Thank you so much for sharing these truths today. I am most impressed with this statement: “And when we are tempted to measure up, we can choose to focus “up” instead as we rely on these truths to remind our hearts of who you are in Christ.” “FOCUS UP.” I want to do that always. God has been dealing with me lately about trying to do too much for people, and ” the comparison game.” I don’t think I do that as much anymore, but … I know I have placed people on pedestals, and maybe I still have some there. 🙁 May God continue to bless you richly.

  86. I am hidden with Christ in God….

  87. “I am God’s child.” John 1:12

    I am struggling with exactly this issue currently, and this devotion could not have come at a better time. My (Christian) counselor/therapist just yesterday gave me homework to complete before our next session: to make a list of “untruths” about myself that I had convinced myself were my weaknesses/failures/shortcomings. (We are dealing with my desire to want to be a better Christian servant to others and a better minister’s wife.) Then I am to list the TRUTHS corresponding to each lie. Then I am to find scripture to back up the truths. So first and foremost, it is incredible to be reminded that I am the child of God (John 1:12) and that, in spite of His amazing omnipotence and how He created the WORLD, He still knows every hair on my head and aches with me when I a in pain. If He created something (me) exactly the way He wants it, and He loves what he created, then how can I put that (me) down or doubt it (me)?

    Your words couldn’t have been more timely, Renee. Thank you!

  88. Sam Evans says:

    Thanks for such wonderful reminders!!

  89. I’m holding on to the fact that I’m not done yet, because He will be faithful to complete the good work in me that He began. I’m not finished; it is OK that He is still refining me!

  90. Michelle says:

    A mentor and I had a discussion once about my future career aspirations. After I expressed all these and mentioned how so and so had such an awesome and ideal career, he simply replied with a shrug and the words – “the grass is always greener on the other side”. He said it so confidently that those simple words have stayed with me all these years. The second I veer off from where I know God has established me and I begin to doubt my worth and feel insecure about my current career status, I simply utter that sentence, and it reminds me to put my focus on God once more and not on what I don’t have or have not yet achieved. I don’t want to miss the blessings God has for me and those around me in this season in my life.

    Thank you for sharing this insight on the story of Eve and how women still get lured the same way she did that very first time in the garden. So many of us read it and think, “Wow, how could she mess up her perfect world? What more did she want?” We forget that the enemy is very cunning in planting doubt, discontent, and discord. It is such a sobering reminder that we must stand guard and constantly have the word of God in our hearts!!!

    I am holding on to the promises on 1 Cor. 6:19-20 – I have been bought with a price and I belong to God!

  91. Pam Crosby says:

    I don’t know why it seems to be more appealing to hear and accept Satan’s lies about than to believes and receive God’s precious words of who I am to Him and all His promises He has given me. I believe…..Lord, help my unbelief!

  92. I really need to read this book. Courage and confidence is what I believe God is wanting to build in me right now.

  93. Jeni Smith says:

    I’ve had such a heavy heart lately and this post is EXACTLY what I needed to confidently place my trust in the Lord and live like I’m His. Thank you for letting the Lord use you!

  94. Just last night, as I cried to a dear friend about all of my insecurities, I admitted to not feeling as if I am ‘enough’ in any aspect of my life. I am a Christian, wife, mother of 3, teacher, friend and family member…feeling as though I am failing at each and ever task in my life. The internal struggle that I have with myself moment by moment each day is so real and strong. Thank you for bringing me back to reality and reminding me that while each person struggles, what we need most in our life is God.

    Amen!

  95. I “stumbled” upon this post this morning through the Proverbs 31 devotional. I needed this message today. Thank you for listening to God’s voice and letting Him use you as His vessel.

  96. I believed lies about who I was & what I should be for many years – most of my life…not until I gave up comparing myself to others & began seeking God’s TRUTH for my life did I find PEACE…such a difference in how I see myself now – how I view the world & my purpose on earth! I pray for all the young women reading your words today – I ask God’ blessings over your hearts & minds so that His truth becomes clear to you.
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  97. Thank you so much for reminding me of Gods truth on this matter. It’s been something I’ve been struggling with as of late. I know I shouldn’t feel that way and I will be studying those verses over and over! Thank you for the words of encouragement!

  98. Jennifer says:

    Comparison really does steal my joy and ruin the blessings I have from God. I am always comparing how I look and always noting how it’s never quite good enough. I appreciate the reminder that my status as a child of God and that I am loved beyond measure. Thanks for the reality check! More of Him and less of me!!!

  99. Nancy Butler says:

    Renee, Your words ring so true in my life. Your gentle reminder of God’s love is beautifully worded. May you continue to be reminded of that love too in your life! Thanks for your ministry.

  100. Lorraine says:

    Thanks Renee. This morning was journaling which is really a conversation with God. On this exact topic. I get frustrated with myself for allowing others (satan) to distract me to thoughts that I am not good enough in school at 55, in a startup business, as a friend..on and on. Listening to what the world tells me instead of God. So I am choosing today the promise “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”. Phil 4:13.

  101. This is my personality in a nutshell. I am always comparing how I look, how my home looks, how my faith is not as strong as the person sitting next to me in church. I can go on and on. Whenever I am now tempted to compare myself to anyone I will remember your words – I will commit to measure UP by focusing upward on Christ. Amen!!

  102. Jennifer says:

    The good Lord provided these encouraging words in the midst of near despair in my feelings of inadequacy. Thank you Renee for providing nourishment to get me through today. Printing and posting the verses as soon as I’m done typing!

  103. Penny Nesity says:

    Thank you! Any time I start to compare myself to others I will repeat to myself that “I am confident God will complete the good work He started in me.” Philippians 1:6. With that in my heart why I would compare God’s work to His other beautiful creations?

  104. I was blown away by this devotional this morning!! It really hit home for me when you used Eve as an example of not measuring up. For Eve to feel this way at the beginning of creation as Satan tempted her and got her to believe his lies…this is just so powerful to me. I just can’t allow Satan to have that kind of power over me – I refuse! I will arm myself with these wonderful verses you have given us and say them as I feel Satan tempting me. Thank you so much for this encouraging message!!

  105. Wendy Fanta says:

    I am standing firm on the word of God, I am His child and Jesus died for us so we can live freely for our Father in Jesus name Thank you for reminding me that we are God’s children and He loves us and made us a image of himself, and God don’t make no junk!!!!! <3

  106. Marsha Hufford says:

    This has been a real eye opener. I am bad about comparing myself to others or feel others are comparing me in a bad way. I know I am a child of God and will complete and compare myself only to how I can be whole in Him, who strengthens me!

  107. stacy myers says:

    This devotional spoke to me and I am going to share it with a group of teenagers this Sunday. It is very easy to compare yourself to the worlds standards. I am a much happier person when I keep my identity Christ centered and focused.

  108. I love this devotion. I’ve struggled with comparison my whole life but it’s only intensified since I became a wife and mom. I would love to be free from this toxic thoughts. Thank you for this lovely devotion. My favorite promise is remember I accepted. It’s hard to believe God chose me but I’m so glad He did! !!.

  109. Beth Thomas says:

    Love today’s devotion! I often struggle not to compare myself to others, because I know I will only end up feeling like I’m not good enough. Turning to Scripture is the best way to remember who we are in Christ. Even with all my faults, God loves me!

  110. This was a good reminder today. I continually have to remind women in our ministry to quit doing this and that they are perfectly made.
    My struggle that satan continues to nail me with is that I am in the shadow. I get to hear what a great job my husband is doing, but rarely hear those words to me. I am proud of how God is working through my husband, but continually have to remind myself that God is using me too, just in a different way.

    We may not see the fruits but the seeds are still planted.

    Thanks for a timely reminder.

  111. Having a hard time today and this message was in my inbox! Perfect timing. Holding on to Who I am in Christ………”I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me”. Thank you for your perfectly timed message.

  112. I am a child of God. He is for me nothing can be against me. He loves me and knows the disires if my heart. Thank you Lord for your unconditional Love

  113. I woke up this morning and the first thing I did was checkmy Facebook. Immediately I felt jealous as I saw pictures of my friends doing something fun without me. I so quickly compare myself to other women in so many ways, and Satan knows exactly what to do to make me feel insecure. Thank you for this lesson, I needed it so much!

  114. God has already given me everything I need. Now to get my heart and mind to stop comparing. It’s a hard struggle but I continue to try and with His help can be victorious!

  115. What spoke to me most from this devotion is how the enemy whispered to Eve to “be” more and “have” more when she already had everything from God, he made her doubt God and herself. How easy it is for us as women to fall into that because of society and even because of comments from those we love. I will learn to focus on the truth of God’s acceptance, security and significance. Thank you Renee for sharing this, I needed to read this today, helped me to realize that I need to see myself as Christ sees me and not compare myself to others, because I am unique and created by a very creative God.

  116. Whether I realize it or not, I am constantly comparing myself to others, even you! “If I only applied myself like she did, maybe I could be an author too.” Thank you for pointing out that I don’t need to do that, that the Bible says it isn’t wise, and giving us truths to hold onto of who we are in Christ.

  117. Thanks for this reminder today. Be blessed!

  118. Oh, this is so me! Thank you for this beautiful lesson. I did not even think about the fact that I was doing this and letting satan win! No More!

  119. Just as I was about to write a comment I went back to start to compare what I thought about saying to what others where saying! The struggle is real y’all.
    This devotional struck down so deep for me today. I couldn’t fall asleep last night because I didn’t believe I was enough, that I could be enough! Even with my husbands strong arms around me reminding me that I am enough for him, and I am for God too. And it’s not always I compare myself to others, I compare myself to how I think I should be. And the scars I have on my arm remind me every time I look in the mirror that I’m not enough for myself. I wear long sleeves even in this Texas heat so others wouldn’t be ashamed of me as I am in me.
    BUT there is truth in God’s word. Truth that trumps my expectations of myself. Truth that kills my deep desire for it all to be over with. Truth that breaths life into a very tired weary soul. I am accepted as Child of God! I am secure in my relationship with Jesus Christ my Savior! I am significant in the eyes of my God!

    • Thank you for sharing Lindsay. That last paragraph really speaks to me. Whew! I can talk about truth, pray for Truth to prevail in others’ lives, but do I really believe what you have written here? I am especially asking just how secure am I in my relationship with Jesus Christ my Savior – when I continue to play this comparison game, and give in to temptations and more – not run to Him!? I read His Word, pray, but still struggle. I do know I am human, but it doesn’t seem like it should be quite this way. Does that make sense? I am also thinking seriously about your statement, “Truth that kills my deep desire for it all to be over with.” Wow! Am I really trusting God and believing He knows best and wants what is best – really? It would seem not, too many times, especially if I am too often wanting it to all be over with. What about the growth that comes from plodding through with a loving Savior Who does know what He is doing, what He wants to come of it, and sees the big picture for all it’s worth. What about how he wants to use things in my own life and from my life in the lives of others? I hope this is making sense. I am sort of thinking as I write. Praise God! May God continue to bless you richly, Lindsay.

  120. Regina Vollmer says:

    Many times a day I do just this comparing myself to others. Ask myself many what ifs. I just realized the what ifs are satan trying to get me react. Thank you for the reminding me I am a child a God and through him I have all I need.

  121. I feel like I need these truths tattooed somewhere in my brain where I can always refer to it irrespective of where I am as I fall into the trap of comparison too often and I can feel my mood go down once I focus on the things I don’t have yet instead of the many things God has blessed me with!
    Lord Jesus, help me.

  122. What a great reminder-I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Comparing myself with someone else brings so much discontent and is very wearying, thanks for the reminder to be what God has made to be.

  123. Nykesha J. says:

    This was a word that was sent from God for my healing. As a child, adults compared my beauty to my cousin’s, teachers compared me to my older brother’s behavior, my Earthly father compared me to my sisters. The need measuring was engrained in my brain. I have been freed by your words and by the word of God. His love makes me perfect in His sight, not the sight of this blind world! Was blind but now I see!

  124. Melissa wood says:

    Thank you for this truth. I often forget as I look at other people in movies, magazines, on the street, at church, or wherever it may be that God made me EXACTLY how He wanted to. I will definitely save this devotional for the times of doubt.

  125. Thank you so much for this timely article today. I have been feeling like I do not ‘fit’ it in anywhere, that I am invisible and that I do not matter or have any purpose. This has been very encouraging and I will hold onto both Philippians 1:6 and as a very independent woman I Love the verse 2 Timothy 1:7.

  126. Thank you for sharing this devotion. Something we always need to be reminded of.

  127. carylkane says:

    Renee, thank you so much for this timely post! I struggle in this area! I hold on to Philippians 1:6.

  128. Today I am clinging to the promise that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

  129. Jeannie Ferguson says:

    Today’s devotional really spoke to my heart! Thank you for being real! I love the scriptures – I downloaded the bookmark and am sharing it!

  130. So very touching, spoke to my heart. Great reminders in the verses. Thanks so much.

  131. I definitely needed this today. For years I’ve battled feeling insecure about my relationship with God. Whether I was “spirit-filled” as much as others were. Some days, I’m perfectly ok and amazingly confident! Then those other days come around where I literally feel like I’m not enough as I am. My take-away statement is definitely going to be “I have been given a spirit of power, love, and a sound mind.” God has given me everything I need in order to live a life full of purpose, love and joy. He’s given me everything He’s wanted me to have. I can go back to looking Him in the eye and give up silently suffering with “what if’s” being tossed around in my head. Let’s keep fighting the good fight, ladies 🙂

  132. I need this reminder, I often feel ALONE with no friends ogle family around…. Everyone is too busy for relationships!

  133. This was the perfect message at the perfect time! Thank you so much for your wonderful insight into Eve’s doubt and temptation through comparison – satan is truly the evil deceiver.

  134. Courtney says:

    Thank you for such an beautiful reminder. I pray my children will grasp this knowledge and allow it to transform the way they see themselves now, rather than later. I only wish I had understood this sooner in life, as a lot of heartache could have been avoided… but Romans 8:28.

  135. Chelsea Jones says:

    Thank you for this reminder. Comparison is the thief of joy.

  136. Thanks, Renee, for these uplifting words. I needed to be reminded that I am God’s workmanship and that He will continue the good work that He’s started in me! I am working on not comparing myself to others, although it is, admittedly, very difficult. This devotion gives me the strength that I need to resist making comparisons.

  137. Tarshia Slade says:

    Thank you for sharing I new to this site and your words are so encouraging .Thanks for the down load of Who I am In Christ.!

  138. Carolyn Rogers says:

    Thank you, Renee. That’s a good point from Dr Neil Anderson. I’m going to remember that I’m chosen, holy and dearly loved (Colossians 3:12) and I am hidden with Christ in God (Colossians 3:3). Bless you.

  139. Thank you for sharing this devotional. It is just what I needed to hear today. I struggle with feelings of doubt and insecurity. I sure would love to read your book and share it with my daughter too.

  140. I do struggle with this behavior. I question myself worth all the time. So I try to be like someone else because they appear to have a better life than mines. I ask myself why is it that I go through all these things. What did I do to deserve this. So thank you for these promise so now when I think so negative these bring me back one with God.

  141. Michelle says:

    This is such a perfect reminder for me today! Thank you for letting the Lord use you to help me refocus. 🙂

  142. Thank you Renee for sharing this inspiring article about what most women have issues with today: comparing themselves with their peers or celebrities.
    I’m holding onto that promise in Romans 8:31-39 which states that I am free from condemnation and that I cannot be separated from God’s love. Many times we feel condemned by the enemy with his lies and deception but it’s good to know that this can never separate us from God’s love. God bless!

  143. gail wilburn says:

    Hi I am glad you posted this today. I needed to read it and get that reassurance. I know this and know the truth that Jesus did for me. But the devil tries everyday at work to get to me, and I let him. I need to listen to the holy spirit, and stand strong in the Lord…

  144. I so relate to your posting! I do it all the time and usually find myself getting more and more depressed which makes me eat or buy more! I eventually find my way out of that rut and it’s by recognizing it and using God’s word against it. It’s getting easier and easier to recognize it and fight against it sooner. Thanks for the scripture passages. I will work on reading them to myself out loud as a reminder of who God says I am. Thanks again and God Bless!!

  145. I am reading through each of your comments and praying for you by name. I wish so much I could leave a prayer for each one of you. I’m asking Jesus to lead me through the scriptures listed in today’s post to pray over your comments and stories. You are beyond comparison in HIS eyes, hand-made by the creator of the universe. Im praying we recognize that comparison isn’t just a bad habit, it’s a strategic weapon of the enemy.

    Every time we catch ourselves comparing our lives or our __________ to someone else, let’s pause and say THANK YOU JESUS for __________ in my life. That’s what I’ve been doing and it’s making the biggest difference!! xoxo Renee

  146. Thank you very much, Renee! I really appreciate this, especially, “You are beyond comparison in HIS eyes, hand-made by the creator of the universe. Im praying we recognize that comparison isn’t just a bad habit, it’s a strategic weapon of the enemy.” I will surely try to remember to pray the prayer.

    Love, hugs and prayers,
    Because of Jesus,
    Cindy

  147. LOVE LOVE LOVE todays devotional. I am Gods child, that alone, Ah-mazing! We are so much more in his eyes and isn’t that really all that matters?! YES! Lord help me see myself through your eyes not the worlds view. Amen.

  148. Rosemary says:

    I am struggling with worth in light of financial circumstances. For me the battle raging is that while I KNOW who I am in Christ (thank you Jesus), every single thing I’m going through is finances related. Thank you for this precious list of Gods reminders of His lovingkindness to me.

  149. This devotional really hit home with me, im 25 and have 4 kiddos. I have been struggling for years with insecurity. I tend to judge my life of other people my age who go out do what they want when they want, or the people who are sucessful business people already and are buying their own houses and all sorts of stuff. Yet here i am stuck in a rut of having to rent and watching my husband struggle to find a job cause of oilfield. I envy the people who ” have it all, or have it all together. Then theres the world throwing pretty tiny girls around or celebrities who just have kids and already have six packs and no stretch marks. Im 25 with stretch marks and a c section scar, i have a little tummy from 4 c sections that will probably never go away. Half the time i look in the mirror, I hate the woman i see or become. I hate seeing my own shadow. Why can I not be like the other girls who have kids and have no stretch marks or who get abs like nothing. I just wanna be that gorgeous in shape girl like you see everyone always posting about. I want my husband and others to just see gorgeous not what I see. Then I see mothers whose kids you wouldnt believe arent perfect, makes me think well why arent my little ones that well behaved or my house always spotless like others with kids. This devotional showed me that all my thoughts about myself and the thoughts i think that others have about me are satans lies. I need to learn to see myself as god sees me and not listen to the lies.

  150. Thank you Renee for sharing your heart of God with me and other women just like me! I am good enough because I am a child of God!!

  151. Susan Milillo says:

    I just read the blog entry by Renee , called ‘When you feel like you just can’t measure up”. It was so encouraging to me, and a much needed reminder. I printed out the bookmark with the ‘I am’ statements, because I need to study the truth more ! But yes, I think I’m always comparing myself, and almost always coming out on the losing end in my mental court and jury….. Crazy that Satan, who hates the truth, would use part of it but twist it, to get to me. Arggg~ ‘But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory in Jesus Christ our Lord’ ! (Romans 6 / 7)

  152. Thank you for the reminder of “who & Whose I am!” Needed ammunition to fight off attacks of the Enemy.

  153. Today I found myself getting caught up into comparing my workload with someone else. I have to remember who I am and what I’ve been assigned to do.

  154. I always like the verse about I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. I have it on a sticky note on my bedroom mirror, so I see it every morning as I get ready. It definitely helps me get through the day.

  155. Thank you so much for this reminder tonight Renee! I will be praying about this tonight because so many times I am comparing myself to others and feel like I don’t compare. I also suffer from depression which makes this so much worse. God has promised and gave me so much and I just need to keep reminding myself that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

  156. Thank you for the reminder that I can rest in the assurance of Rom. 8:28. I am assured that God works for my good in all circumstances.

  157. I love the reminder that I am significant because I am God’s workmanship. Eph 2:10

  158. Thank you. I needed the reminder today as this month has been rough. I know God is there for me every day and is our strength but I needed the reminder.

  159. This was so timely for me as I am.preparing to go back to school in the fall for massage therapy. I have done a lot of comparing over the years and even asked the if I only had this thing too. I am trying this year to get healthy spiritually, mentally and physically. Not doing too bad so far but there is room for improvement in all these areas.

  160. Thanks so much for the truth of who we are and whose we are! “I have been given a spirit of power, love, and a sound mind.’ Would love to have any of the give-away items!

  161. Thank you for this today. Insecurity keeps me shackled from shining my true self. Thank you for helping crush those links.
    Let’s shine together! I’m encouraged when my sisters are shining their authentic selves. You being you brings out the best in the rest of us. ?

  162. Thank you. I’ve been believing that I may not even really know Christ because my thoughts and feelings are so unChristian and selfish. I’ve been unable to even read the bible because all I see are my failures. I know there should be a spiritual transformation within me, but I seem to be stuck.

  163. Bethany Flaming says:

    Thanks for sharing these encouraging words today. It’s just what a new mother of a 7 week old needed to hear on a rough day. I am a child of the most high and loved.

  164. Janice T. says:

    Thanks so much for your post. I have been struggling for years with the comparison demon and God has been freeing me greatly. I have realized through the power of the Lord and the Holy Spirit that I am
    you-niquely made and God loves me without me doing anything to get this love. My worth and value has nothing to do with what I have, do, or abilities. I’m precious in His sight just being me.

  165. Low day today so thanks so much for this post. I pray for my acknowledgment that I am enough as is and blessed in Christ Jesus. God bless all of you…

  166. We are in the middle of searching for a home in a new area and I definitely needed this reminder that I am secure in Christ. I have been struggling with comparison and a desire to impress others and needed to be reminded of this truth. Thank you!

  167. Thank you for all of your encouragement…. For helping me to see me as God sees me

  168. Julia Williams says:

    Today it begin with the phone ringing early in the morning prior to me getting up. Then I went to work and it felt like there wasn’the enough time in the day to complete tasks. As the day went by I continued to think of things that needed to be done. Had class tonight but after I got in I said to myself I was going to read my email. I would like to say thanks for these encouraging verses this really put a smile on my face.

  169. Joyful Hawbaker says:

    2 Timothy 1:7 sure hits home with me today. I’ve been battling Breast Cancer since August of 2014 with a ton of complications, too numerous to mention here. Still battling and still trying to heal and that is where 2 Timothy 1:7 comes in as a constant reminder that God gave me a Spirit of Power to beat this. A Spirit of Love to help my fellow Breast Cancer Sisters along the way, and of Sound Mind even in the midst of horrible pain.

  170. Thank you Rene, I have struggled all of my life with self esteem and having confidence. I realize now that it is Saton. God has a plan for my life , all of us, and saton lies to prevent that from happening.My daughters and son struggle as well.

  171. Powerful words! I am secure…established, anointed and sealed by God.
    Love this!

  172. Wow I needed this tonight. I need to remind myself that God is with me and I need to understand that even though I’m unworthy Je loves me and is taking care of me I need to believe and trust.

  173. A prayer answered!
    One of the things I always believed was that my future would be better than my present. I’ve had this faith that something awesome was waiting in my future for ages. Until I turned 30 and started to panic! Surely this awesome future should’ve been here by now! I should be living in it, not still waiting for it! After all, the average life expectancy for females in my country is 60 – I felt like I had very little future left to bask in this awesomness and be happy & content. With this panic came comparison – and I was less than mediocre. I prayed fervently for breakthrough and even more fervently for deliverance! Somewhere along the way, I just stopped hoping. This year I felt not only do I not measure up, the future doesn’t hold anything better – this less-than-mediocrity is as good as it gets for me.
    For the past two weeks I have been praying for joy and strength. I was honest with God that I had lost my joy because all my hope had come to nothing so far and I was afraid this was as good as it would get. And I was hurting. I desperately begged Him to speak to me. To reassure me. And then this morning I opened my email and had lots of unread mail. I chose to read Renee’s first because the subject line caught my attention – that’s exactly how I was felt! And there it was! My reassurance!! He did speak to me!!

  174. Quite a few years ago, I was on an excellent women’s slo-pitch softball team that had a record that was pretty good. We were challenged more by teams outside of our town to really “take us on.” I played the shortstop position, and really prized my “good arm.” There were 2 of us Kathy and myself, who could be counted on for large, home run hits as we generally “belted that ball way out to the far fence.” What’s my reason for sharing this? Now, I have found myself “getting ushered by Satan” and my confidence is wavering. Who I am in Christ? NOW I AM GOD’S CHILD John 1:12 and I AM FREE FROM CONDEMNATION. I CANNOT BE SEPARATED FROM GOD’S LOVE. Romans 8:31-39 I believe I have my God-mindset, and I am going forward!
    Amen

  175. Mary beth blake says:

    I never knew that God loves me for who I am and not who I’m comparing myself to. I loved this and so glad God directed me to this teaching.

  176. Thank you!

  177. Jennifer says:

    Thank you so much for this post! This semester I taught my first college class, which was a great experience…but between issues with my dad and feeling like my co-teacher was everything I’m not, the attacks left me with a deep feeling of inadequacy. I’ve learned a lot from the experience, from both my students and the struggles I faced, and I’m glad to have these verses as a reminder that in God’s eyes I am capable, worthy, and wanted. Thank you!

  178. When I hear the enemy whisper “you’re not all you could be or should be,” I will hold onto the truth of Philippians 1:6. “I am confident God will complete the good work He started in me.”

    Thank you, Renee, for reminding me who and Whose I am. : )

  179. Thank you for sharing. This is an area I struggle with daily. I love how God brings confirmation by different people in our lives. My pastor just said last night at church that the devil whispers and is trying to get us to doubt the truth about God. I never thought about it the way you with Eve. Thank you again. I would love to win!

  180. Bobbi wineberg says:

    I like the version that says, I’m God’s masterpiece. I know that an artist can take a long time to create a masterpiece and a lot of work and changes are done before it’s finished. God is taking His time molding me into His perfection which isn’t necessarily the same as mine.

  181. My favorite line is “I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13” as it is a reminder that I am not in this life alone, no matter how alone I may feel at times. God is always with me. And I need to be reminded of that sometimes.

  182. Thank you for your message. What spoke to me the most were your lists of ‘I am…’ statements. I know Satan tells lies but sometimes they get past my radar and I start thinking that way. Thank you so much.

  183. Kimberly says:

    Isn’t it funny how sometimes I feel the P31 Daily Encouragement was written specifically for me?! Thank you for the the reminder that “comparison will always leave us feeling like we don’t measure up.” This is so true! I compare myself to my children’s stepmother all too often. I’m left feeling inadequate and stressed every time! I’m my mind I always fall short because my house isn’t spotless and dinner isn’t planned.

    I’m focusing on the daily prayer:
    Lord, thank You that in Christ I’m chosen, holy and dearly loved. When I’m tempted to measure myself according to the world’s standards or my foolish comparisons, help me recognize Satan’s lies, refuse his temptations and rely on Your truth about me instead. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

  184. Susan W. says:

    Dear Renee, Thank you for your words of encouragement. God has given you a gift of words to encourage many women. Your book is an awesome read. Your devotional today is just what I needed. Thank you and may our Lord bless you! — Susan

  185. Renee this devotion was just for me. My whole life I have compared myself to others and made choices and decisions because I thought that is what others wanted or based on their opinions. Sad to say a couple of years ago God showed me what a sin it is to compare myself to others. I am doing better at this but satan is still there to whisper negative thoughts. I love that you have given us scripture and I plan to print it and memorize it so when satan tries to deceive me I can have my armor of God’s word. Thank you for sharing this. God bless you.

  186. Lenyse Koontz says:

    Thank you for these words of encouragement. This past year, our oldest has moved 4 hours away & is starting his family. Our youngest is finishing her first year of college and moving home for the summer. These changes have required me to remember to rely on God to “grow” as a momma. It’s a mixed blessing to watch our children grow up and spread their wings. I have to continue to focus on the fact that God loves our kiddos even more than my momma’s heart. The scriptures you’ve shared are a blessing.

  187. Debby Reedy says:

    Hi Renee,
    Thank you for all the encouraging words you share. The Lord has blessed me through your encouragement.

  188. Aimee Ward says:

    Thank you for the beautiful words of encouragement.

  189. We do foster care. A family of children are going to be adopted. I am nervous about “not being good enough” when the new parents come to meet their children. Reading this put me at peace and reminds me I may not be on their wealth level but I am on the level of wealth and knowledge that God wants me to be. That is all that matters.

  190. Diana Acker says:

    Dear Renee, Your faithfulness in sharing and encouraging God’s deep love for each of us is a refreshing drink in dry times! When we treat ourselves well and then share the same grace and encouragement with others the blessings keep going and growing. Sometimes we unintentionally make life so much harder than it needs to be for ourselves and others. I hope others spread your words of encouragement so that all of us will know the love, joy, peace, and hope of our Savior and friend Jesus. Thank you for your faithfulness!

  191. Jennifer Broersma says:

    I, too, struggle with the constant comparing of myself to other women. Today’s devotion really helped me remember that I can only find my significance in Jesus Christ himself! Thank you!

  192. I have alway struggled a lot with confidence and since becoming a mom, comparing has gone up more than ever and my confidence down more than ever. I want to write your entire message down on a post it on my bathroom mirror. Since my mirror isnt quite big enough, I will settle for the prayer you left us with, our doubts and insecurities are from satan. I will try hard during my next comparing game to remind myself that it’s Satan luring me like Eve. Thanks for your message. God’s blessings on your ministry.

  193. Nay Gelvin says:

    I have been having a big issue with looking to others for approval and comparing myself with others. I have learned that I should be looking to God for approval and trying my best to study His word and to try my hardest to be what it tells me I should be. Its a battle, but one I intend to win. Your post help me to keep fighting. Thank you!

  194. Renee Dye says:

    Thanks so much for this, it spoke to my heart and is very timely for me. The promise that stands out for me is: “I am confident God will complete the good work He started in me” – Philippians 1:6 I am currently going through a difficult time with the loss of my job about 9 months ago and at times it is hard to remain positive. But I know that he will place me where I am meant to be.

  195. Thank you for the devotional. I’ve been struggling for a while now and am working on changing my mind and telling the devil that God has this. God knows everything that is going to happen and doesn’t give us anything we can’t handle.

  196. Phillippians 4:13 ” I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”…..I continually cling to this promise. It has helped me quit smoking, deal with a breast cancer diagnosis and most recently in my weight loss journey. I repeat it to myself whenever tempted by foods that are not advantageous to losing weight.

    I truly love your Confident Heart book and Devotional.

  197. Rebecca N says:

    This message of yours came to me in my daily proverbs 31 email. It’s amazing because that very night before I received the email I was struggling with comparing myself to the other women in my Bible study and it was causing great anxiety and fear. I then read this message the next morning and it instantly perked me up. It was the kick I needed. I can’t wait to read the whole book. Thank you.

  198. Thank you so much! As always, when I need it the most is when I get encouraging words from you. I have always felt not good enough, less than, and the horrible word jealousy. I need a reminder always that satan is indeed working on and succeeding in making me feel the worse about myself.My favorite verse is, I can do all things in Christ who strengthens me! I will start repeating this over and over
    Thank you so much for reminding me, I needed it.

  199. Elsie Kappler says:

    Thank you for this reminder of who we are in Christ. We are daughters of our King, we are royalty. He loves us more than we can fathom. Thank you, Lord for loving me and all my sisters in Christ Jesus.

  200. Awesome to see your post on comparison today, Renee! I actually quoted a passage from this chapter of A Confident Heart Devotional in my recent release, Over It. Conquering Comparison to Live Out God’s Plan:) I get excited seeing God’s girls letting go of comparison!

  201. Jennifer D. says:

    I don’t know a woman out there that doesn’t need a reminder of this from time to time! Thank you!

  202. I can do all things thru Christ who strengthens me. Phillipians 4:13
    Thank you Renee! At a low point in my journey, this has given me renewed Faith & reminded me I am His daughter and He gives unconditional love to His children. Praise God!

  203. Thank you so much! I have been struggling through a season of my kids just being sick all winter and while I fully trust in God I feel like others have tried to place doubt in me. It’s also isolated is pretty well and it’s been hard to fully rely on God. It’s really shown me how much I was seeking support through others. Thank you so much for sharing. I really enjoy read your devotions.

  204. Delores McPherson says:

    Thank you for that Word. I needed to hear that. I know God can use me if I will just let Him but it is so easy to hear Satan tell me what I can’t do. Thank you for helping me to refocus and keep my eyes on Jesus and my ears tuned to hear only the Holy Spirit as He speaks truth and affirmation into my heart and uses me for God’s glory. May God overwhelm you with His presence today.

  205. Thank you for this great reminder! All women need to be reminded of this truth!

  206. Jennifer Sulzner says:

    Renee, thank you for your devotion. Sadly, I have fallen victim to the “if only’s”…If only we had more money..if only, my body was back to pre-babies….if only I didnt have a forehead wrinkle….if only my teeth hadnt shifted when I came out of braces 25 years ago…if only I could stop obsessing on the number on the scale…if only my husband would really listen to me….if only, my kids would really hear my cries…well, list has gone on and it has impacted my happiness so much. Daily life has been a journey of wishes and cries and I have been imprisoned to the “if only’s”. I know other women have the same “wishes” or the same “battles” and it’s a sad way that we as women compare ourselves and determine our worth based on other women. Men certainly don’t do that. Why do we? Your devotion reminds me that my worth is enough and my “if only” mental list means nothing to God and I have to accept that it shouldn’t matter to me either.

  207. Halona Luna says:

    I love this and the more I read your words of God’s words it makes more sense. It truly speaks to my heart and clearly reminds me who I am in Christ. Thank you.

  208. Ihave read alot of yourposts in P31-and actually bought the daily devo to Confident Heart..but havent opend it yet..been so stuck in the place of not good enough..been stuck long enough. I think its time to open it up! Loved your devotional today and am printing those verses out. I would rather see myself as God sees me..not as my past or others may.Godly timing with this devotional.

  209. I’m not at a healthy weight and there fore have self esteem issues. I used to be very tiny and compare myself to other women who are thin and wonder what they do to stay that way. I need to remember that I am a child of God, no matter what I weigh.

  210. Kathleen Bennefield says:

    Thank you for you encouragement and for allowing God to use you!

  211. Denyse Tomlin says:

    Thank you Renee 🙂 Your words are refreshing to my soul! I’ve struggled with comparison for years. This can cause me to feel inferior or superior/ jealous or proud!

    Only becoming a born-again Christian and allowing God to work in my life has allowed me to conquer this Goliath. I love that you remind us of God’s promises, which divide soul and spirit.

    It’s nice to know I’m not alone and that we can help each other continue to grow in this area. Onwards and UPwards, only measuring UP 🙂

    God bless you heaps xo

  212. Nichole Sullivan says:

    I find myself comparing myself OFTEN!! Just like Eve I feel I don’t measure up because of satans lies he is feeding me! But like you have said by filling my heart with the truth God has in his Love letter to us, the Bible, I can be reminded daily of his perfect love for us! This world is full of so many hurts and comparing, Lets stop competing and run this race together!!

  213. What a great way to start one’s morning. Beautifully written.

  214. christy says:

    Absolutely LOVED your measure up article written for Proverbs 31 ministries. Just think if we could all stop comparing and start seeing not only ourselves, but one another for the good things we have what a different world it would be!

  215. I am in constant struggle with the lie that I’m not good enough. But at the same time, there is truth in that I am not good enough BY MYSELF. WITH God, I am enough. God is enough. And I am enough for God. See how it can be a bit confusing if we try to use our words to describe God’s perfect image of us. Really, only He can comprehend it all. Lol.

  216. I have been struggling with image for such a long time. I feel like I’m on the outskirts of everything … I know Satan sends all of these little “you’re not good enough, pretty enough, funny enough …” thoughts into my head. I’m desperate for a way out!

  217. I am secure . . .
    I am assured that God works for my good in all circumstances. Romans 8:28
    I am free from condemnation. I cannot be separated from God’s love. Romans 8:31–39

    I needed to be reminded of this SO much right now, at this time. Several things just this week that involve finances, because we already had numerous things we were trying to take care of: replacing broken refrigerator, lawn mower unfixable, then emergency surgery for my dog, caring for him & not knowing how, daughter having trouble…anyway, these & some other stuff all culminating over the past week to 2 weeks have lead to my insecurities & doubts skyrocketing, lack of sleep & desire to eat, plus affecting my job to the point of making a pretty serious mistake – which could possibly lead to pretty serious situation for me at my job, which I love & am so grateful for! Have been battling the anxiety with my favorite go-to verse Phil 4:6-7, but the additional assurance is perfect timing. Thank you so much!

  218. Glenda says:

    This post is truly a blessing and an encouragement to me. I have always thought so little of myself, I find myself comparing constantly in every area of my life. My marriage, children and my career. I thank God for you and how you have allowed Him to use you through your trials of life. I know that the devil is the father of lies and that he is a deceiver. Thank you for sharing this word of truth to encouragement and enlighten me of His Word of who I am as His child. May God continue to bless you, your ministry, marriage, and family.

  219. Lindsey says:

    Romans 8:31-39 is where it is for this girl. Especially 38-39 ❤️❤️ I cannot tell you how many nights of doubt in myself and lies from satan these verses have gotten me through. No matter what is going on or where I’m struggling today He loves me. Nothing and no one can take that away from us. Thank you ladies for being such an amazing support to women all around the world who share this love for Christ. You are a blessing.

  220. Theresa LeBlanc says:

    Thank you for posting the “Who I am in Christ” verses – I so need them! Love your ministry!

  221. Debbi Boyd says:

    Over a year ago I bought the book A Confident Heart, yet due to my own fear, doubt, and negative self esteem did not open it. I lost myself and for many years stayed in doubt. During this time I have lost my husband to separation and feel unworthy of anyone’s love. I believed Satan’s lies about men and my husband which now I want my marriage and husband back. I want my relationship with God and love in my heart.
    In the worst darkness I have struggled with my relationship to God and purpose as a women. Now I am grabbing hold of Christ and asking for support.
    Thank you for your journey and inspiration. I look forward to this journey.

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