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Have you ever gotten that awful pit-in-your-stomach feeling after finding out you let someone down? 

It felt like the wind had been knocked out of me as I read through an email from a client, sent to my manager and forwarded to me, describing how I had let some details fall through the cracks on a project.

A horrible sense of discouragement and embarrassment moved in for the kill.

In the past, I would have welcomed my uninvited critical thoughts to stay a while, resigned to the fact that I must be unable to do anything right!

But not this time; too many hurtful experiences had taught me to recognize failure as an opportune time for my opponent, the devil, to devour me with feelings of inadequacy and shame. This enemy is bent on making me believe that when my best isn’t good enough, I’m not good enough.

Fortunately, times of pain have also included hours of poring over God’s promises, gathering wisdom to deal with this unwelcome intruder. I have learned to be alert to the devil’s schemes and ready to stand against them. In 1 Peter 5:8-9, Peter tells us how:

“Keep your mind clear, and be alert. Your opponent the devil is prowling around like a roaring lion as he looks for someone to devour. Be firm in the faith and resist him, knowing that other believers throughout the world are going through the same kind of suffering” (1 Peter 5:8-9).

After reading the email and letting my thoughts run wild for a few minutes, I knew I had to clear my mind. I asked the Holy Spirit to help me un-clutter my thoughts with the clarity of truth from logistical, circumstantial and spiritual points of view….

Read the rest of this story and what happened in my Encouragement for Today on the Proverbs 31 Ministries blog. But BEFORE YOU go…

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About Renee

Renee Swope is a Word-lover, story-teller, heart-encourager and grace-needer. She's also a wife, mom, friend, daughter and author of A Confident Heart, a Retailers Choice Award winning book that became a best-seller and has been published in six languages, with over 150,000 copies sold. Renee is speaks around the country at women's events and and serves on the writing team for DaySpring’s inCourage blog. For twenty years, Renee served in leadership at Proverbs 31 Ministries and as former co-host of the ministry's radio program, “Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee.

Comments

  1. Meagan Rosen says:

    I love when the Lord speaks to me through daily devotionals. Today was one of those days. I tend to hold myself to a high standard, so when I make a mistake, I feel like a failure. It was great to be reminded that my best is great in the Lord’s eyes.

    • I have enjoyed your devotionals, they are so encouraging. especially when I have bad days. I don’t always look to my bible for encouragement. but do read devotinals. i am so glad that our lord sees us for who we are other then what others seem to think we should be.

  2. Being a pastors wife, we are sometimes held to different standards. Thank you for the continued grounding and reminder that my Lord is always with me, even during those rough times.

  3. Twylla Sutton says:

    This email spoke to me because I too have allowed failures to recriminate myself when I make mistakes especially when it affects others. I especially like the process you outlined for getting perspective.

  4. I think most women feel as if we fall short on a daily basis. The question is, what do we fall short of AND more importantly, whose expectations are we trying to live up to? I know that in the midst of walking through a very difficult season in my life, God revealed to me that He is enough and that as long as I am giving life my best effort and walking in His will, then I am truly meeting the ONLY expectations the really matter.

  5. This devotional spoke volumes to me at this time in my life. It was like it was written just for me. My plate is full. I’m trying to let go of the things I can’t control. I feel like I’ve tried my best in the situation that I’m in. But I’ve let some of the people that are closest to me down. I would love to win a copy of these books. Thank you.

  6. Satan often tries to tell me that I was not good enough or I didnt try hard enough with my kids dad. But then God is there to remind me i did do the best I knew how at the time. I am so greatful for Gods reassurance that I am good enough and I am worth it.

  7. I liked the part that says: “my best wasn’t good enough. But it didn’t mean I wasn’t good enough.”. Thank you for that reminder. Just yesterday Satan was trying to devour me. These daily encouragements get me back on track. The Lord knew I need to hear it. God Bless!

  8. Jenny Shinsky says:

    Thank you for today’s devotional. I really needed to hear that. Sometimes I forget that others – especially us ladies of God – go through the same things I do.

  9. I’m in university and it’s so easy to get bogged down and listen to Satan’s lies of ‘not being good enough’ or ‘you’re not smart enough for this’ but it’s such a relief to know that God believes in me no matter what. He thinks I can do this.

  10. This devotional couldn’t have come at a better time. I feel I struggle with “not being good enough” on a daily bases! In all areas of my life. Thanks for reminding me that everything I do is for the glory of God and not what someone else thinks.

  11. I tend to be a perfectionist and constantly feel like my best isn’t good enough. I’m always struggling to meet my own standards so this is an ongoing journey for me. I have learned to continually remind myself that God loves me as I am and created me to be who I am. Thank you for sharing this. It was what I needed to hear today.

  12. Saw your blog for the first time today. I know God sent me here because it was just what I needed to hear today. Thank you for devoting your time and energy to sharing this blog with us. God Bless You!

  13. Karen Phlieger says:

    This message spoke to my heart. I am a people pleaser – but often fail in my attempts. I know that my self talk needs to change, to be more encouraging and uplifting to ME – so I can be the person I want to be for myself, and to be seen differently by others.

  14. Robin Day says:

    Too often I allow the enemy to steal my joy in this area. When I fail at something – I feel like a failure. God is speaking to my heart and showing me that what I do or don’t do is not who I am. I am going to make my list and strive to let Gods words speak to me, not the enemy. With Gods help, I pray I continue to grow in this area as I know this is where God is currently pruning me. Thank you Lord for this devotion on this day, you know exactly what I need and when I need it.

  15. I feel like every morning, the Lord knows exactly what I need to read. These devotionals always hit home with me and help me to get a better look at things I might overlook if I hadn’t taken the time to read my morning devotional. I need to learn that MY best is always sufficient. I am such a people pleaser that I often fret too much over making everyone happy and being perfect for THEM, when I really need to worry about being the best me for Him.

  16. Bridgette says:

    Sometime our sincere intended best is not good enough, depending on whom or what we are encountering.
    Thankfully, God knows our hearts and good intentions, which gives me comfort and hope.

    When we are over clouded or over whelmed, the enemy often time uses our weakness to simply devour us.
    However, satan was defeated from the very beginning and is yet defeated when he comes up against God’s
    children.

    Truly enjoyed this devotion, how very uplifting . . . .

  17. This message is what i needed to hear this morning. Too often I try to put my best foot forward to please others, but yet I always feel like my best is never good enough. The enemy then starts to work in me and bring doubt and discouragement. But I thank God for being there to reassure me that I am his child, and that he loves and cares about me.

  18. Thank you. I needed this reminder as my mother is the one that makes comments that I don’t measure up to her expectations. Even though I’m an adult, the devil reminds me of my shortcomings and her comments. I need to rely on God’s Word more.

  19. Cindy Burgess says:

    My self esteem is where Satan gets me every time. I’ve struggled with being good enough all my life. It’s about time I take back my life and giving Satan a swift kick in the rear is my first step. I want peace back in my life. I want my faith to consume me so that there’s no room for Satan to enter back in to tear me down. What an encouraging message you had today. I’m writing down all the verses, sticking them to my mirror and making it a point to memorize them all. Your words were a blessing to me. Thank you.

  20. Andrea Tillotson says:

    This message truly blessed me today. I struggle with parenting our 9 year-old son. I feel like a failure when I lose my temper with him. I pray for God to remove my shortcomings of anger and resentment, but I just keep losing it and then I feel defeated again. My husband reminds me that the devil is trying to rip our family apart. Your message confirms this, the Word confirms it. I just need to believe and keep praying. “Just keep swimming, just keep swimming, as Dorie said…”

  21. Sandy Moran says:

    This reading certainly gave me perspective this morning. I’m struggling to get my business going since we have moved several hundred miles away. I also had 2 emergency surgeries in May, immediately after unpacking and organizing a new home. My upline wants more from me and my energy is low. Thank you Jesus for opening my eyes to my limitations and helping me reaffirm my strength lies in You.

  22. This is definitely a devotion that women in general need to hear. I think we all tend to have moments of doubt and “not measuring up”. I can be so hard on myself when there is absolutely no need. I can do well in others’ eyes and STILL doubt myself and feel like it wasn’t enough. Why do I hold myself to such high standards when all that really matters is pleasing the Lord and remembering that I am good enough in His eyes? I don’t know, but it is something that I am working on to change, by pouring into God’s truth and really listening to Him and applying His promises to my life. Thank you so much for this great reminder.

  23. christina says:

    Thank you for renee for your post today. I received your message in my inbox through Proverbs 1 ministries. It is exactly what I needed to hear and you explained it perfectly. I’m mother of six kids I just went back to work full time after being home with my babies for years. My husband is unemployed and struggling with depression . lately all I’ve known is that my best isn’t good enough and I also know that God is trying everywhere and anywhere to remind me that he loves me and I am good enough. But until reading your message today I haven’t been able to figure out how to live knowing that I’m good enough for God but my best isn’t enough to handle all that’s going on in my life. I look forward to trying your technique of listing out the three different kinds of truths and I’m confident it will help me break the cycle of listening to God until eventually I give in to feelings of inadequacy. Thank you for giving me new tools to fight the enemy today. Maybe someone can pray for me to remember those tools when I need them most.

  24. God knew i needed to read this and it spoke to my current situation. I tend to overbook myself and when i crash and burn i let the enemies lies drag me down to a state of depression. I choose to believe Gods Word and speak his promises over my life. I will start making those lists to help me unclutter my mind and see the truth over the lies and make wiser decisions. Thank you for letting Jesus use you to speak life to others in your daily devotional blog.

  25. Stephanie says:

    My son has a speech disorder that requires a lot of speech therapy. Oftentimes, I feel like I’m not good enough b/c he’s not speaking at the same level as his peers. I battle the critical thoughts of feeling like I’m letting my son down on a daily basis. This is a good reminder that God will accomplish what concerns me (Psalm 138:8). Amen to that! Thanks for sharing this biblical perspective! What a source of encouragement!

  26. This devotional spoke directly to me. When I make a mistake, when I disappoint others or myself, I can spend too much time hashing and re-hashing the details and making excuses. It is SO helpful to remember that the devil is just waiting for these opportunities to get my eyes on myself and off The Lord. Thank you for the outlined plan to deal with such a circumstance.

  27. Angel Bernard says:

    I see all the pain from the comments and im ashamed of myself . My problems are so small compared the others. Jesus said ” Get the hence behind me satan” . We have power over our enemies cause Jesus said so. Thank you Renee for this inspiration and thank you commenters for showing me My situations in life are my own fault for letting the devil tell me lies….. Ill wait on the LORD ….

    Angel

  28. Ola Cooney says:

    I am an older worker amongst younger people in my job. My job requires that I give speedy service to my clients. I have never been a person who is known for speed when I was younger, much less now. I pray everyday that God gives me the strength to carry on and deal with criticism on my job. I keep Phillipians 4:13 by my bedside to remind I can do all things through Christ who strenghens me and I get up early and do my devotionals everyday to give me peace and carry me throughj my day. I know what it is like to not feel good enough and feel encouraged by the blog today. May God bless you and continually help with your work and life.

  29. God is faithful! This devotion encouraged me to leave my burdens with Jesus. My family has been struggling with a horrific situation that involves loved ones living in a different place.

  30. This Word spoke to me, thank you. I struggle at times with I had done the best I could, my best wasn’t good enough. But it didn’t mean I wasn’t good enough. It just meant I needed to make some truth-filled assessments and wisdom based adjustments! I needed this, I tend to be hardest on me. I so desire to take care of me, God’s way.

  31. Carol Ames says:

    Wow today this really hit me where I am. I get the Proverbs 31 devotional every morning and I skim it and go on but today for some reason I took the time to really sit and read and take it in. I have lived through that and felt like i should just give up. Thank you Lord for pushing and pulling me on. What you said about evaluating logically and then admitting what happened to all and making changes gives me the courage to say I need to make changes and step back.

  32. Halona Luna says:

    I love how God sends me just the right words just in the right time. I struggle with such horrible depression and the enemy temps me into the darkness But then Jesus sets with me and brings me back to the light.

  33. Struggling with cancer 8 plus yrs. and weariness sets in some days. I want to give up on those days, but then I read something that encourages me, lime today’s devo. Thank you for it and for the chance to win this bundle.

  34. Meant to say “like” today’s devo.

  35. I constantly feel as though I should hold myself to a higher standard. Challenge is what motivates me, yet also causes me to take on too much. So when others feel as though I’ve not given enough or been good enough I tend to take it too personally.

  36. Thank you so much for this devotional!! I needed this today.

  37. I am a mom with a 22 year old handicapped daughter…I can really relate with the feeling of not good enough. I do continue to turn to the Lord and He never fails me. What an Awesome God we serve. Debbie

  38. Susen Waller says:

    Thank you for this inspiring post. I often doubt my abilities and the enemy uses my low self-esteem to whisper lies into my mind. Every day and every moment I have to set my mind on choosing God’s truth and to not give in to my emotions.
    I have started homeschooling my two children recently in obedience to God’s calling for my life. I feel like the enemy is literally on the prowl, waiting to devour me. But there is hope: encouraging words, biblical truth, a chat with a friend, a hug from my kids…These are the things I cling to, they help me to take it one day at a time to give my best for The Lord.

  39. Yolanda Perry says:

    This is such a timely Word for me! After being successful at weight loss and gaining most of the weight back, I have known for quite some time that it is time to get serious about a lifestyle change…rather than just dieting. I made the decision to return to the gym. I have been procrastinating. I would much rather return when I can do more, have lost more. I want to be able to do what I used to do…run, full hour of zumba, push ups, sit ups, etc. So many days, weeks, and months have gone by because I couldn’t bring myself to go and do less. However, I decided that today is the day. I almost talked myself out of it several times. But I kept feeling that nudge and encouragement from the Holy Spirit that I can do this. Well…I did it! And I feel great. I know now that I only need to endeavor to do my “BEST” each and every time I get on the treadmill, bicycle or whatever else equipment that calls my name each time I enter the door. Today…I did my very best (which was a little more than I anticipated). Tomorrow…yes I am making the commitment to return in the morning…I plan to do even better!

  40. Elizabeth says:

    This is so powerful to remember. I am great at taking negative comments and reducing myself to the smallest size! I often forget to look to Lord for clarity and love in those dark moments. Thank you for blessing my day Renee!

  41. Rae Shasky says:

    Hello Everyone,

    God’s timing couldn’t have been more Perfect! Three weeks ago my husband and I had a HUGE blowout. We do not have an easy marriage but things had been running there course and “all was quiet on the western front” . The argument led to sleeping alone and feelings of “what have I done?” FAILURE had made its way into my heart. Being a woman who already is plagued with low self esteem I recognized “it” all to well. Failure as a wife, mother, and woman of GOD. I have known the LORD for 21 years and in a single moment I felt like everything I had done was gone. The last three weeks have been an emotional roller-coaster for me filled with self doubt and remorse.
    Today, as I read the devotional ( which I do not do everyday mind you 🙂 ) I realized what I had done. I had allowed the enemy to rob me and have a field day with me for three whole weeks. UGH!!! ” And I have know my LORD, How long???
    I did the process that Renee had suggested. Admitting the truth to yourself about yourself is not the easiest thing to do, especially when it agrees with our spouses 🙂 I realized that I had to come to terms with how easily angered i get, that I can be complacent, and well here goes, I have disrespected my husband. Ouch! YUP! i did those things over the years and it finally came to a head.
    I did have a conversation with my dear Pastor, because this situation was eating me up inside. The light he shed aligned with what Renee expressed in today’s devotional. He stated that when “we” are attacked verbally and horrible things are spoken in anger the reason they still sting is because there is still “some” truth in those words. This was the hurt and failure I was feeling. The part that I had forgotten, was that “we” are “new” creations in Christ Jesus and that we are no longer those things but made new and I am a work in progress. Renee’s process of noting the logistical, circumstantial, and spiritual truths was the piece of the puzzle I needed to put this downward slope behind me.
    Thank you for your ministry……I am going to go humble myself before my LORD now, and basque in HIS amazing love and grace for me and remember who I really am…..HIS.

  42. Good Morning! What a beautiful way to start my morning, your kind words shining brightly to my heart and mind! This comes to me at a great time, Satan lurking in my weaknesses, trying to bring me down! :Stop., get behind me Satan.” Thank you for letting your love of God come through our email boxes and this blog! (the bundle pack would be nifty!)

  43. There are many days I feel like a failure and will allow the Enemy to convince me I’ll never be good enough… one thing, however small, can take me to that place of not measuring up. Then I’m gently reminded of the Truth and that one bad moment doesn’t make me a bad mom and that trying my best is good enough. As long as I seek God for strength and wisdom and try my best, then that’s okay.

  44. Brilla Hall says:

    Liked your post.

  45. Rachael Hayes says:

    I am also prone to beat myself up and talk to myself in ways that I would never allow anyone to talk to someone I love. What a great reminder that those hurtful and mean words are lies from the father of lies himself! After I read your blog post, I wrote down Psalm 73:26 “My flesh & my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and portion.” How amazing that our God loves us so much that He will fill the gaps and forgive our mistakes. Praise Jesus for His sacrificial love and overwhelming grace!

  46. Tanya Ferguson says:

    Oh my! I knew as soon as I opened my P31 devotional email that this was going to hit home…the verse was one that our Pastor preached on just a few days ago! And, boy, was I right! I am so hard on myself, and take everything so personally & critically. I have really been struggling with feelings of discouragement, hurt, anger, and even a hardened heart, because I feel so often like I don’t “measure up” in the eyes of my husband. I am struggling to change this way of thinking, because I fear for the state of our marriage if I don’t, but it is oh-so-hard. I need to start posting scripture verses wherever I will see them, to remind myself of my value in my Father’s eyes, and to stop letting the devil take over so much of my thinking! Thank you for this!

  47. I needed to hear this today. Shame is a daily battle I often forfeit. Thank you for this truth!

  48. Thank you for sharing. So good. Spoke directly to my heart. This has been a particularly hard week and I have felt I like I have been carting this burden around for far to long. Thank you again.

  49. Our Lord is an awesome God! Where I am weak He is strong and successful. As I grow older, I have come
    to the realization that when I fail, fall or feel useless it truly is an opportunity for me to seek for His presence. He is always willing to show us the way, comfort and heal us so that we may continue to walk with Him. We must take time to read His Word and take hold of all of His promises found within the Word. My flesh might cause me to weakened but with the help of the Holy Spirit and truly knowing our Father, I am strong. God Bless.

  50. Michelle h says:

    it’s often hard to separate what I do from who I am. thanks for the reminder.

  51. WOW!!! Opening my e-mail box and reading today’s message is what I need!!!! Yesterday I was put on a spot at a PTO meeting for my son’s school they put me on the board team did not know this until last night’s meeting also I had to get in front of students, parents, administrators, teachers, and the Principle. I got nervous speaking in front of everybody, I mess up very badly. Came home very sad I wanted to give my best but felt i messed up. Thank You so much for today message it help me out a whole alot. Keep Sending this messages. they me alot.

  52. Helen Morse says:

    As it so often turns out we are not enough, but our God always is! Thank you for the reminder that we are entirely, madly loved by Him!

  53. Thank you so much for this devotional. I have been having a lot of condemnation and anxiety lately. I think the enemy is just really beating me up. I’m on a medical leave from work, and may have to have a hysterectomy and am feeling so guilty. I feel like I’m letting them down. I need to just rest in the Lord.
    Thank you for these words of encouragement and I would love to win these devotionals. God Bless!

  54. Thank you for this devotion. Great idea on how to calm our minds during times of self doubt, anxiety, or inadequacy.

  55. Sheri Lee Johnson says:

    Praise the LORD for your devotional! Loved it! Thanks and God Bless You!

  56. Like so many others this is a daily battle because I fight against perfectionism. It is easy to take things personal and allow Satan a foothold in this area. It is so humbling to know that God still loves me and doesn’t expect me to be perfect. Thank you Jesus that I am always “good enough” in your eyes.

  57. Cindy Hansberry says:

    Thank you for the encouragement your devotional brought to me! Exhaustion from trying to please others no matter how hard I try to “do it all right” is one of my struggles. You’re correct about the shame and discouragement I feel as I beat myself up only to try that much harder next time. I especially connected with these words you wrote: “In the past, I would have welcomed my uninvited critical thoughts to stay a while, resigned to the fact that I must be unable to do anything right! But not this time; too many hurtful experiences had taught me to recognize failure as an opportune time for my opponent, the devil, to devour me with feelings of inadequacy and shame. This enemy is bent on making me believe that when my best isn’t good enough, I’m not good enough.” Thank you for the reminder to defeat the wrong thoughts, and that the enemy is seeking to devour us!

  58. How timely!!! I was just dealing with feelings of self-doubt based on work performance two days ago. Satan always uses such issues to instill worry in me, to the point of losing sleep. But God’s grace reminds me that my performance does not determine my significance, and my shortcomings present an opportunity to learn.

  59. Peggy McGinnis says:

    It is so true that we want to be perfect and in being perfect we should never disappoint anyone. Unfortunately we have to remember that God never meant for us to be perfect. He just wants us to strive to do His will and respond as He leads us. The trials of live often get in the way of our striving for perfection but it is so great to know a loving, forgiving God who always helps in times of need.

  60. Thank you so much for this devotional. It was just what I needed to hear today. I have been in training for a new job for three weeks & there is so much new information that I feel like I can’t remember it all & that I will never be good enough at it. I have a lot of anxiety & fears & do alot of self-doubting. I do know God’s word & read a devotional daily but alot of times let my own anxieties & fears creep in on my thoughts instead of being confident in myself & confident in God’s word and his promises. I really feel this devotional would help me. Thank you for today’s devotional as it spoke to my heart. Thank you for the chance to win this!

  61. This devotional email really hit home. I have been there too, and so thankful for God’s grace and love. I fall short most days but I try to give my best at all times, but some days we can’t help but let others down. I needed this gentle reminder that my best is good enough. Thank you for always being so transparent and real with us.

    Blessings,
    Cindy

  62. This year has been the roughest season of my life. I am doing all I can to survive and push on through the chaos, and sometimes I buckle under the weight of all that is going on. I have a dear friend that, though she has the best of intentions, has a way of pointing out the mistakes I am making in the process. I needed the reminder today that my circumstantial truths mean that just for now, it is ok that I stumble and fall more than usual. Thank you for the reminder! I desperately needed it!

  63. This kind of hit home with me today 🙁 I certainly feel like I have dropped the ball lately and I know exactly what the personal problem is that has consumed my life the past few months, but not many other people know.

  64. I have just begun getting these devotionals and doing the online bible study. Both are a blessing to me. I feel guilty and less than if I say no. I now realize the way I am living is not the life my Father intended for me. Thank you and God bless you and this ministry.

  65. Elaine Segstro says:

    I always love reading your devotionals Renee. I’m SO self critical and see a failed attempt or mistakes as another indication that I just don’t measure up. I’m still a work in progress and God patiently is molding me for His glory. Bless you Renee, in your ministry!

  66. This is so what I needed to hear, thank you for the reminder that my best is good enough. Especially if my motives are right and my heart is clear, all I can do is my best and let God be God to do what I can not do. So that He can receive the praise, honor and glory.

  67. Lisa Ann Wright says:

    Yes, I do feel like I can never do enough sometimes or that my best was not good enough. I never thought of it as being a scheme of the devil, however. I have found myself analyzing my rejected contribution only to come to the conclusion that what I offered was all that I could give as if giving unto The Lord. I then pray for the person who demands more to find their contentment in Christ Jesus and rest in complete joy found only in him.

  68. Right now my best has not been enough for my family, my work or my friends. I have mislaid priorities an become engulfed by my to do list. I have lost the calming voice of God in the storm. I loved your list for breaking down the truths of what happened, the circumstances and the spiritual truths. Thank you for that. Well timed.

  69. It’s a daily battle right now and I could use everyone’s prayers

  70. We are currently in a “pause”… Our family is trying to decide if a move is in our future. God clearly brought us to where we are now and we’ve only been here for 10 months. Neither my husband nor I feel we’ve finished what God brought us here to do, yet we’re being led away (not sure if by God or not… still seeking God’s wisdom concerning that). So, we’re diving into the Word, meditating on It and waiting for revelation to encourage our faith and guide us to the “Best Yes”. 🙂 The waiting was exciting at first, but now after a couple months, I find myself feeling worried not knowing what’s next for us. I’m encouraged by today’s devotional. It was a good reminder that even though I feel like we’re “paused”, God is not!

  71. Touched my heart in just the right spot. I needed the reminder that Satan is the discourager, God is the encourager. Now….to listen for God’s voice.

  72. S Giuntoli says:

    straight to the heart of a current friendship issue…..often people are disappointed by our ability to be what they need us to be and this was such a great reminder that I MUST filter others comments through the lens of God’s Truth before I let it pierce my heart. Fantastic Devotional….thank you!!!!!!!

  73. I loved reading today’s devotion. Such a great reminder that Satan is always on the prowl and we so often forget that.

  74. While it may not seem as a most critical issue, this verse made me think about playing golf. I love the game but feelings of inadequacies often rear their ugly head. There are so many occasions during a round when one can either acknowledge the evil forces working against us or put the game in perspective and acknowledge that you have a loving God…forever!

  75. I read the devotionals on the biblegateway most every morning before giong into work. Yesterday was a day that left me feeling less than all day. It was not the first , I feel that way quite often. When I read this mornings devotional, I knew instantly it was Abba’s heart speaking to mine and helped me see yesterday through His perspective. The scripture Renee used in the devotional, I printed it out and hung it on my locker as soon as I got to work. It will likely hang there for some time, I need to be reminded of that truth as often as possible.
    Thank you for your answer to His call to share your life with Him as you do.
    Angie Cramer

  76. Kristian Kirchner says:

    Wow, what an “aha” moment! As I was reading this, my eyes were suddenly opened. Thank you for this! I needed to read this so much!!

  77. DarcyOsborn says:

    This devotional came right on time for me, as so many do! I’ve started a new ministry at our church. It has taken all my skills, and then some. God worked on me for two years, before I said yes. I cleared my schedule to give this the best possible chance to succeed. It has turned out better than I had hoped for, as God always does with my prayers, but not without some discouraging thoughts and circumstances. I’m going to use Renee’s list of truths for this situation, and even others in my past, so I can totally let go of the guilt. I hate the guilt and how it sneaks up on me!

  78. Carol Gilbeft says:

    As a teacher there were more and more demands that had absolutely nothing to do with student learning.
    I had to turn to God each morning to help me through the day and to stay focused on what was truly important.

  79. Liz Chandler says:

    I am in a phase right now in that I am in complete burnout in all aspects of my life. This time in my life has really brought me to my knees in pouring out to the Lord. It has been a very special and sweet time with God in Him showing how much He loves me and also His grace and mercy on me. Thank you Proverbs 31 ministries for your daily blog because it is truly ministering to me and what I am going through during this time in my life.

  80. Cramping your time will cramp your attitude and abilities. Your Best Yes needs to be your Best Yes. Prayer goes both ways talking and listening. Sometimes this is so easy to preach yet so veryyyyyy hard to live! Father we need you daily!

  81. Sarah Stevenson says:

    Giving my best is what I’ve always thought I was good at. I have experienced that sometimes my best isn’t enough. Years of graduate school, and now working in the evaluation field, I’ve realized that my best has to be enough. People will try to discourage your work and put doubt in your mind. I know that I’m fully capable and do quality work, but it sometimes is disappointing when I realize it’s not up to par. Reading today’s devotional helps me to realize that I need to take other things into consideration when I determine my BEST!

    I pray that the LORD helps me to realize that we are HIS and not our own. Help me to realize that it’s OK to show that our best isn’t always at the top of our game.

    Sarah

  82. This devotion really helped challenge me on how I immediately internalize any wrongdoing. I expect perfection and more frequently fall short due to exhaustation and balancing too many tasks. I loved the practice of taking time to reflect on the logistical, circumstantial, and spiritual aspects and then creating a plan for redressing and moving on. I really need to implement this focus and continue relying on powerful scripture to encourage me through those thoughts. Thanks Renee!

  83. Karen Durrance says:

    I needed to hear this today. I am very overwhelmed with everything that’s going on in my life. Wife,mother,homemaker, friend, sister. The list goes on. Satan dies his best to keep me overwhelmed and alone. Thank you for these wonderful words of encouragement.

  84. I have just recently begun homeschooling. Now that the adrenaline-packed start to our year is over, the pressure (I am putting on myself) to keep things fun and engaging while challenging and structured has been wearing on me. God used this devotion today to encourage me to cling to him and remember that just like anything else in life, I can’t do it without him!

  85. Nadly Moline says:

    God gave me a vision to plan on outdoor extravaganza at my church this year. Through plenty of planning and a very limited budget, our Youth committee brought the vision to life and it came to past. When analyzing the expenses some people looked at the event as a failure because we didn’t raise enough money; not even to break even. I knew I put my best forward but couldn’t help but feel impacted by the negative comments. God brought me the revelation that success wasn’t in the amount of dollars collected at the end of the day but the souls that were touched through our event! Glory be to God.

  86. Teresa Sealey says:

    Hi Renee! Your devotional today really struck a chord in my heart. When I feel I’ve let someone down or made mistakes I usually beat myself up over it all. Thank you for the reminder that God neve lets me down and loves me in spite of my faults. I’m working on not over committing myself and doing my best at what God has asked me to so.

  87. Glenda Jackson says:

    I have struggled with this many times in my life. If I make a mistake, it is not just that that I have made a mistake. I feel as if I am just worthless as a person. My head knows this is not true, but my heart doesn’t. I would never impart this degree of perfection on anyone else, but it seems that I expect it from myself. Your article was very insightful. I don’t want to let the enemy win and keep me from being a productive Christian. Thank you.

  88. Donna Laslavic says:

    I have come into a new season in my life. Clearing my mind and spirit being of weeds that the devil has planted. Just like Autumn when the dead leaves fall getting ready for a new season of Spring. My mind, spirit and faith will renew with a meadow of beautiful flowers. The devil reminds me daily of my past experiences where he took full credit but NO MORE! I stand steadfast in the Lord always thankful that my past was forgiven on the cross. God gives me the strength to stop what the devil is trying to take back. In the name of Jesus, I declare, I will fight pulling those weeds and getting ready for my meadow.

  89. I love the encouraging message of this devotion. We know that God puts it out there for us, but we have to grab it. He will help us grasp it. In other words, HIS message is clear……we just have to take it in. His love for us is so deep and so wide!!
    There have been so many times in my life as a CHRISTIAN…. where I can look back and see that satan was whispering in my ear……”you aren’t good enough”, “you’ll never be good enough”, or “you are worthless”. I believed those lies before I was saved, and even after I couldn’t hear the truth for the lies that were still being spewed, but at a more fervent speed. I was always comparing myself to others, and of course I never won. They were always prettier, skinnier, smarter, and better at everything. If you had asked me though……I would have been horrified to conceive that someone would think I (a Christian) would even consider entertaining the lies of Satan. We always have good excuses to justify our bad habits. We are so easily deceived….just ask Eve…now she’s the one with a story to tell. God’s message is plain and simple. HE loves us with a never-ending love. He wants us to know it, to understand it, and live it. He wants us to believe it. HE wants us to believe HIM. He accepts us just as we are, and loves us….even in our sin. Ephesians 3: 17-19 says “And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.” GOD wants us to GRASP the idea that his LOVE is so wide, and so long, and so deep……. Believe it!! HE LOVES us…all of us just like HE says HE does.
    Satan is a liar. “Keep your mind clear, and be alert. Your opponent the devil is prowling around like a roaring lion as he looks for someone to devour. Be firm in the faith and resist him, knowing that other believers throughout the world are going through the same kind of suffering” 1 Peter 5:8-9 That is our clear warning to remember that satan wants to bring us down, to take our focus off of the Father, and clutter and confuse our minds. He wants to destroy us, our families, and anyone who might see JESUS in us. I love your words Renee Swope, “Lord, help me to remember that giving my best is enough in YOUR eyes, even when my best isn’t good enough for others. I will post them to my bathroom mirror, to remind myself that in HIS eyes I am good enough. Maybe if I can remember I am good enough I can encourage others to know that they too are good enough.

  90. Great reminder to have scripture at the ready for when Satan tempts me.

  91. I’m always glad that “I am who God says I am” and not what other people or I myself think of me. Supported by Scripture that I’ve memorized I’m able to overcome. Praise you, Jesus!

  92. After unexpectedly loosing my father this past summer, and traveling to a new school 1,000 miles from home there are defiantly times of joy and discouragement. Life isn’t always rainbows and butterflies, but the word of God stands firm and we need to remind ourselves of the TRUTH.
    Thank you for sharing your hearts and inspiring me to be BRAVE.

  93. I loved today’s devotional because it reminds me of myself & how I do tend to beat myself up when I fail at something or just when someone questions something I have done. I do not have a lot of self esteem so when this happens it is a big deal to me. All I want to do when that happens is crawl up somewhere & hide because I feel so stupid. But today I was reminded that in God’s eyes my best is good enough & that I am good enough. I need to turn to him & ask for his help to remind me of this more often. Thank You so much Renee I needed this more then you will ever know.

  94. Christina Garner says:

    I have been experiencing some pretty big life changes this year which leaves me open to satan’s second guessing tatics. This devotion really helps to remind me who is really in charge of my life and Biblical foundations to repeat when I am feeling weak and to renew my strength. Thank you!

  95. Lately I’ve been quite overloaded at work, with continuous requests and never-ending deadlines. I noticed though that if before I start my workday with a prayer, asking God to help me handle things I need to do that day, the day goes by much calmer (in my personal emotional and physical attitude and feeling) and I turn out to be way more productive than on the days when i try to handle everything on my own. While this is very helpful, to invite God in our days, I think it would be super important for me to learn how to say the best yes to things I should be a part of and find a friendly gentle way out of those I don’t really need to be involved in and learning to say no or delegate.

  96. I work in the women’s ministry in my church and many times we all share the same thoughts about ourselves. We think that we’re not good enough because of the high standards that we set for ourselves. And when we can’t meet those standards we think we failed everyone around us. God sees our efforts and knows the intentions of our heart. When we feel that we’re not good enough for ourselves, God steps in and reassures us that we are good enough for Him.

  97. I struggle with that too! I also have learned enough to recognize the enemy’s quiet whisper of failure. I am still learning the process of emptying my mind of his lies and filling it with Gods truth!

  98. God is GREAT and the way He pursues us is SO amazing. This past year has been CrAzY for me personally (as well as for my family) and I spent a lot of time questioning me, myself, and so on, you know allowing the enemy to grab hold. My husband was a recovering addict of 10 plus years, notice I said was, he returned to his addiction and that left my 2 adult children, three younger children, and myself ALONE with just me to rely on or so I thought. God is truly amazing and I have realized I can do ALL things through Christ who gives me strength that starts with loving myself and knowing that I am valuable. My husband has gone through rehab and has 70 days clean and sober and we both are working on ourselves as individuals and together as a couple, Praise God

  99. For some reason I have always felt the need to “please”. I never could get the amount of love and approval I needed. Great grades didn’t do it, so I tried as hard as I could to fail, that didn’t matter either, husbands didn’t give me that approval (I’m on number 4). Jobs didn’t do it, kids, friends, nothing. Your devotion this morning put the light on. I AM good enough for God, He dies love me. Enough. Thank you.

  100. I need help with the fact that some days, my best isn’t good enough. Most days it is, but there are days when my strength is low, my attitude is not so great, and the enemy is just waiting to pounce. There is outsourcing being done at my job, so I may not even have one in the next few months…that is a large factor in my sadness & disappointment. But, I just keep coming to work, doing whatever I can find to do, hoping they see my dedication and decide it is good enough!
    I am participating in The Best Yes study, and a LOT of things are jumping out at me!
    Thanks!

  101. I gave my Confident Heart book away 2 a young college student dealing with a break up by my nephew 6 months ago. I shared what u had been through Renee & she is realizing now that GOD has oher plans 4 her life. Thank you for sharing!

  102. I am so excited that I can read testomy’s on God wonderful story that we live daily.
    I looking forward for encourgement thru his word and people around us.
    I am so grateful for his grace and mercy everywhere I go as he open our spiritual eyes.
    God is Good!!

  103. It’s good a good reminder that we are all human and therefore we make mistakes. You just need to remember to lean on God for support and to learn from your mistakes.

  104. I think as a mom, I am constantly doubting myself. Especially with the age of the internet and all those “super mom” blogs out there. I am having a hard time with my daughter right now, and it makes me feel like a failure as a mom. Like I let her down and God down. He gave me her to raise and I feel I am not doing great at it. But then I remember and pray through the confusion. Thanks for that reminder. I have to remember how much the devil loves to see us breakdown. He fuels our emotions with a great joy. I just remember, I am not alone!!

  105. So weird there is a “Dawn M” above with my same problem! (My middle name is Marie) I swear this is not a duplicate entry, lol. I too have been having issues with my adult daughter. I left an emotionally abusive marriage with her father but unfortunately I find her repeating the very criticisms her father has always accused me of (not working hard enough, never being “enough” in so many areas…looks, work, making dinner, etc.) I have tried so hard to separate myself from those criticisms that were ingrained in me, but as I battle a very serious chronic illness, she is throwing those judgements back at me…I would be fine if I just try harder, I could work outside the home if I really wanted to, I am just lazy at heart, etc. I am getting better at realizing these issues are not a reflection of me but more of a distraction for her from her own issues and inner turmoil. But it still hurts so deeply as I sit in my hospital bed writing this, battling serious, life I threatening issues (crisis level blood pressure and heart rate swings, DVT blood clot, etc.), it breaks my heart that she is too busy judging me and trying to deny the severity of my health problems that she won’t ever visit me or help me in any way. I am anxious to read this book (and the others in the bundle) to help me a see myself through God’s eyes instead and shield myself from the hurt and trauma that comes back when I hear these criticisms. This devotion came at the perfect time as all of this came to a head today. I know it was no accident. Thank you for the encouragement and for the giveaway!

  106. “Although I had done the best I could, my best wasn’t good enough. But it didn’t mean I wasn’t good enough. It just meant I needed to make some truth-filled assessments and wisdom-based adjustments!” <— So powerful! Thank you!

  107. God is always helping me with this & I’m always in progress. I would love to win a “book bundle” to brighten up my least favorite season.

  108. As a teacher sometimes it is hard to meet eveyone’s expectations. I need to inspire my students, deal with parents and complete tasks for the principal. I often feel that I am not enough. I remind myself that God will give me the strength to do what he wants me to and let some of the rest go.

  109. Donna Haake says:

    The Lord speaks to my exact problems every single day through the Agape Cafe devotional, and through 3 more, forwarded to me by friends. One is “Jesus Calling” , one is called the Agape Cafe, another from Iyanla Vazants daily “Todays Prayer” and the last is David Jeremiah’s daily devotional. I pray as soon as I get up in the morning, then read the devotionals, then the Bible. Sort of a routine for the day. Then I feel that I can go out and deal with people in the way the Lord would have me represent Him and be a light shining when others need help. I also pray to help, and never harm.
    Two years ago I was awarded an early retirement that started my pension before I was old enough to collect or had put in enough years working at my current employer to collect my regular pension.
    I had a nervous breakdown. A drug and alcohol abusing teenager, spinal cord problems and a very well paying though extremely toxic job. I prayed before then, mostly the “God help” prayer, went to church and read the Bible “when I had time.”
    After all of the paperwork had completed, I realized what a blessing the nervous breakdowns were…God letting me know who was in control. And that I needed to stop relying on my own resources and plans, and follow His
    plan, and to slow down and spend more time with Him.
    Although I have very little income, I do have medical coverage and am free to spend my time being with Him and learning to depend on him. What a huge miracle. God truly uses all things to serve Him. And though they appear embarrassing and frustrating and sometimes scary, all things truly work for good to those who love Him and are called according to His purpose.
    My prayers now include thanking Him for that experience and every single thing, good and bad that followed it. God blessed me with a burning desire to serve Him. And I pray only that I am healed enough to volunteer and give back what he has given me. I also pray a prayer that my pastor shared with the congregation a couple of weeks ago. “Lord, please help me to learn what I am supposed to learn, and change what I need to change, so that I never have to go through this pain (circumstace) again. The devotionals are vital to my life here on Earth. Thank you for writing devotionals. I discovered the root of my fear and anxiety just a few weeks ago, during meditation. I was taught at some point that “I am not enough” and have internalized it and believe it and consequently overcompensate by expending emotional and spiritual resources that have been “running on empty for years.

  110. Pam Brandon says:

    We are way too hard on ourselves most of the time. Thank you for reminding me that my best is what God wants from me and that the devil wants us to be negative and unhappy so we can yield to him instead of God.

  111. Thank you so much for writing this devotional & for your transparency!!! I have been struggling with this for most of my whole life & was in the thick of negative thoughts regarding a situation at work again today. Thank you also for the practical advice of how to combat those thoughts. I have felt in a rut & also felt so alone in my struggle & never knew what to do. This is an answer to prayer!

  112. A wonderful devotional that really spoke to me and I’m sure many others. Satan makes me feel like a failure when I disappointment someone because of a schedule that becomes way too full when so many unplanned events like you mentioned arise. I love the practical advice you shared to counter satan’s attack.

  113. Doubting myself is something I struggle with in regards to work. It is so easy, when I make a mistake, to really beat myself up over it, and wonder why I can’t be perfect like some of the others I work with (even though I know they aren’t perfect, but that doesn’t help sometimes!). Been trying to remember to pray, and look at the big picture, and remember that one small mistake at work, doesn’t really make me a bad worker, and for sure doesn’t make me a bad wife, mom, or Christian! I just have to keep remembering that. 🙂

  114. It always amazes me how faithful our God is! He always provides the words we need to hear right as we need them!

  115. Mandy Dobrowolski says:

    Right now I am struggling with my responsibilites as a wife, mother and nurse. Going back to school and working full time, plus I am trying to push myself out of bed earlier to work out in the mornings before work. I depend on my wonderful husband and my Lord and Saviour to help me through this. I am constantly praying for energy and endurance.

  116. I often struggle (unrealistically) to do better than my best. I find a lot of days I feel that my best is nowhere near good enough. Praise God that He will always accept my best, even when I feel it’s not enough.

  117. I love the three ways to look at it: logistically, circumstantially, and spiritually. It really helps to put it all in perspective- HIS perspective! Thanks for sharing and for the giveaway opportunity.

  118. Kelsey Donahue says:

    Thank you for helping us see more clearly that each experience we feel inadequate or unsuccessful in requires proper perspective. I, like many, tend to be far too hard on myself but thankfully have learned over time (with age!) that these perspectives are crucial to not allowing the devil his foothold in our lives. Praise God that he still loves us when we have little to give on those days!

  119. Awesome message, I am a perfectionist who always tries to do everything right, make the right choices, and meet others’ expectations. How lucky are we as Christians to know our very best is all He needs.

  120. It’s too often that I feel this way. No matter how hard I try not to focus on the issue on hand I end up feeling guilty. I spend way too much time in doing this. Thank you for the advice on how to handle our guilt

  121. Neka McCreless says:

    I just read the devotional and it hit me like a rock. This was almost to the letter of what has been going on and around me in the last several weeks. Thank you so much really need to be reminded that I don’t have to try and handle everything, God can handle it for me.

  122. Denise Spruce says:

    I am a fairly new Christian and sometimes still hear the enemy’s voice telling me I am not good enough for anything. Being in recovery for 27years has helped me ignore it but it still whispers and can be difficult to shake. Your books and posts make sure I remember how loved and cherished I am by God. Thank you.

  123. Debbie W. says:

    Thank you for your message here. Like many others who have shared already, I can relate this one. I love the application of making the lists. What a great prayer and processing step! Take the time and remember to ask the Holy Spirit to bring clarity of truth from logistical, circumstantial and spiritual points of view.

  124. I woke up and could not sleep and searched for a devotional and found the one you wrote. Icould not sleep because I felt guilty about not being able to live up to al I felt I should be. The words you shared was exactly what I needed.

  125. Renee, I was meant to see this,especially considering that it is 2:42 a.m. as I type and I have ice on my neck, trying to decide if I go to work today. I am a paraprofessional in a new harder position this year in a public school and have made mistakes. I am 61 and feel my memory is worse than usual lately and I have been feeling exactly what you say – not good enough. It is scary to admit and I am leaning heavily on God and thankful that HE gives me patience and even joy in difficult situations. Thank you so much for this timely devotion and the reminder to search scripture – you have picked some good ones.

  126. So encouraging-thanks for sharing! I always struggle with feeling like I’m not enough whenever I try (and fail) to do too many things, but I need to remember that JESUS is enough even though I’m not. God is the one who works in me to get the work done as He sees fit and that’s easy to forget.

  127. I needed this today. I am always stuck on how I am not good enough. Now, I know I can totally change that way of thinking!

  128. Alice Schenk says:

    I am up at 3 a.m. feeling broken and hurt. Much of what you have said hits home. In so many ways I don’t know who I am anymore. Hurt has a way of doing that to us.

  129. What a wonderful way to take your thoughts captive! I’m struggling with depression in a way that hasn’t happened in over a decade. So much of winning against depression is taking your thoughts from the enemy & giving them to God. I will be writing these steps on my daily calendar to help change my thoughts & form new thought habits. Thank you for sharing!

  130. I used to worry so much about what everyone else thought I should do until my husband left! Never, not one time, did The Lord press on my heart the need for me to divorce! Could I, should I in everyone else’s eyes, YES! And thru this heart break, I learned to stop listening to what others thought was best for me and listen to my Father! He worked it all out in His time and by His grace, my husband and I have reconciled and are so much better on this side of our journey! Wow, what we would of missed if I had listened to everyone else! Thanks so much for your encouraging words.

  131. Today’s devotion was an excellent reminder of God’s love and grace. I feel that I constantly let people down as I try to balance working full time and a very active family. Thank you for speaking truth to me today.

  132. This summer has been a summer of “not good enough”s for our family. We have had one trial after another since June. I finally came to terms with everything that was happening in the last two weeks; realizing that GOD is in control and I need to “let go and let God”. I thought that I had failed my family for all the issues but then I realized that they (my children) were grown adults and I had to “let go and let God” in their lives. The grandchildren are precious to me and I have to remember that they are especially precious to God. He will protect them! I am “good enough” for God! Thanks for this blog. 🙂

  133. It was like a slap in the face to me because I just let my husband down and keep feeling guilty. It just reminded me that God is in control and to not let the devil have control.

  134. I work as a library assistant at an elementary school that has a large ELL population (almost 40%) as well as having a low-poverty population. I have to remember when the children don’t respond the way I need them to that it isn’t about me, it is the choice that they make. I am still good enough even when I feel a bit beat down.

  135. Margaret Evan says:

    I dislike disappointing others and struggle with pleasing others and fear of rejection. I remember as a 10 year old girl, “my parents would not be divorcing if only I had been a better girl”! God’s promises are essential to reminding me who am I am! Thanks for your words of grace!

  136. I have really high standards for myself and I make it hard to” be good enough”……. thank you for your thoughts today, inspiring me to get a new perspective and allow God’s view of who I am shine through : ) I am a righteous woman of God. ..a daughter of the King!!!! Amen!

  137. Renee, Thank you for this timely reminder. It has helped me to see things differently. I don’t need to wallow in guilt and shame or get defensive. I can ask Holy Spirit to guide my thoughts and go to the Word for nuggets of Truth to comfort, strengthen, and sustain me. While my best may not always measure up to others’ expectations, I rejoice in Jesus my Savior whose blood is sufficient to cleanse me from all unrighteousness. My beloved is mine and I am His.

  138. God has brought me through the pain of abuse and trauma. This journey of recovery has led me to cling to Him in desperation realizing that He is the breath I need to maintain my focus on the goal where God is beckoning me forward. I enjoyed your devotional as I have let my children down in my woundedness and this is now a deep regret in my soul. I have had the opportunity to rebuild a relationship and am encouraged that God has provided me with His grace, mercy, and love allowing this healing. There are days that I struggle with guilt/shame over decisions I made in the past and the consequences I see lived out in my children. This is a deep ache and a general attacking point of Satan in his goal to shift my focus from God to myself. I lose momentum at this point, remaining stuck in the path…BUT GOD…He always provides a way out. I am continually reminded of His power and the need for me to remain plugged into my POWER SOURCE. I am eternally grateful for the intimacy with God which was forged through my journey of pain. Thank you so much for being such a wonderful tool of God. You have spoken to my heart many days through your devotionals and books.

  139. I enjoy reading religious books.

  140. I am the kind of person that definitely needs these fantastic reminders. I have given God full control of my life, but sometimes I get a little off track. I love that I live in Charlotte, NC – where we have lots of fantastic churches, and ministries such as Proverbs 31. <3

  141. Wendy Taggart says:

    I am still in the midst of learning this lesson. My Pastor shared this thought with us, “when you take even just a minute to let the negative thoughts, anger etc… you are giving those few minutes over to the enemy’ meaning, that even for those few minutes, you are serving the enemy, and not God”. That really hit me. I don’t want to give over even a second to the enemy. So, when the depression, or anger start to creep in, I remind myself about who I am in Christ, and that I have authority over those things. Thank you for sharing this, I really needed the reminder this morning. I will praise Him, no matter what the enemy throws at me today!

  142. This is maybe one of my biggest struggles. Being a people pleaser is sometimes a down right curse! Especially since I am bound to feel inadequate in my trying a lot of the time. LIving with a perfectionist makes it all the more difficult as I am not one. I am working on finding my worth in God and knowing that he is pleased with me when the world often is not. Thank you for your insightful and sweet words!

  143. Lynda Munsey says:

    All of my life, I have felt like I was never good enough. I worked a job where everyone else has a college degree or some training for that particular job. I did that job but made less money. I have gotten myself in so many difficulties trying to please people, so I could be accepted. In the past few years, I have truly learned that it has all been for a purpose. God has allowed me to understand that He defines who I am, nobody else. Everyday is not not perfect even now, but God is in control and I pray more than ever and I know He has a purpose and a plan.

  144. This is a great reminder of how the enemy is always prowling and attacking at our weak moments. When I feel I am not good enough or smart enough, I need to remember that I am in Gods eyes because He created me. I need to be prayerful in times of weakness and remember that Gods strength will overcome the enemy.

  145. Christina says:

    Often while coaching mens gymnastics, I feel and hear how inadequate I am because, I am a WOMAN! Even though my teams have been State Champions 3 years in a row and being the only woman coach often on the floor at a meet, you’re not good enough creeps into my heart and thoughts. When these thoughts from satan creep in I have to step back and remember the verse I taught the boys on the teams when they are struggling. Phillipians 4:13 I can do all things through him who strengthens me. 10 fingers is our team motto this is what my boys chant at a meet when a teammate is struggling or has fear. When I hearbthese words from these young men, I GET IT…..who cares if I am a woman and j didn’t do mens gymnastics, these boys are going to be well rounded knowing Gid loves them and they can do anything!!!

  146. Jill Kuiper says:

    For a while I believe what people were saying about me. I got to a very dark place. Finally, I realized I am a good person and am not who those people said I was. I was right in His eyes and that was all that mattered. I am in a happy place now not accepting who others say I am, but resting in the fact that I am His and that’s all that matters.

  147. I often feel like I don’t measure up. Thank you for this devotional letting me see that in God’s eyes I’m OK!!!

  148. Wonderful devotion to be reading especially right after a bad breakup. Thank you so much for this, Renee! I needed it today for sure. Most of the time I feel inadequate, and I definitely did in my ex’s eyes. Thanks again for the reminder that God loves us just as we are.

  149. A few tears ago my professionalism and integrity were being questioned by my supervisor. I felt that everything I did was wrong and every time she walked in the room, I wondered “what have I done wrong now?” . I kept reading the Psalms and speaking the Word. I would testify about how God is my strength and my fortress. How He would turn this into good. Today, my supervisor and I are on very good terms.

  150. I’m a perfectionist – which often means I’m incredibly hard on myself… But the devotional reminded me that God doesn’t expect perfection – He simply expects me to do my best…

  151. Even as I begin to type my thoughts, tears flow from my eyes. Your blog reminded me of an area to do with my old nature/flesh that I thought I was finished with forever. I always struggled with worry that I let others down or hurt someone (even if it was unintentional). I was in a Bible Study group where I’d been asked to be back up to the facilitator. Thankfully, that day, I’d come prepared and really quite full of excitement about the topic. But I was well aware that I needed to stay calm and not say too much in all my enthusiasm in order to give the others an opportunity to express themselves. I tried and I think I did okay overall, though there were times where I maybe said too much. In one of those moments I even reached over and touched my neighbor reminding her that what she and her neighbor were discussing alone could wait until later. Today she called me on the phone and wondered when I became the leader and that this had been quite insensitive. whew! I really had to work hard to separate all the facts from the emotions on this one. But by God’s grace, I’m working through it and I have courage to face the group next week even though I was contemplating skipping. God comforts and reminds me that I am just the way He made me and He will walk with me through all of my learning.

  152. Being a ministers wife I feel an enormous pressure to give my best to honor my husband and the church. I also work full time and having the demands from both areas so heavily weighing on you the devil attacks in all directions to remind me my best is always going to fall short. I struggle with remembering trying is all God asks us to do, and if we succeed it is due to Him not us. I think remember that our best is not typically going to be good enough for the world will can remember it will always be good enough for God.

  153. Oh Renee I have disappointed my husband his entire family and even my own family and friends by my words and actions that up to this day some are still talking about it and the guilt I feel overflows in me especially when I have to depend on my mother in law to be here for me because I am scheduled to have surgery to remove my left ovary left tube large complex cysts, cervix and endometriosis. My ca blood level is high and they are concerned about that too. I had already had a partial hysterectomy in 2008 now I have to go through this I honestly feel fine but my gyn said I need to have this removed because it keeps recurring and I have to have Open surgery. I am scared because I m new in the area and I had to see a specialist and I am not so comfortable with the doctor with the way my paperwork is being handled but he cones highly recommended by my gyn and a co worker of mine. I am going to a hospital closer to my home. Surgery is scheduled for 10/21. I know I need to put my TRUST in GOD fully I have head knowledge and not heart felt. I just started to go Wednesday nights to church meeting with a group of people from church but its hard for me to open up with them for some reason, maybe I am paranoid and I know I have a trust issue with people in general.
    PLEASE PRAY FOR ME. I know others are going through worst situations than me too .thank you.

  154. Thank you Renee for sharing this today. So many times I have had that horrible feeling over come me. Thankfully I have learned to put it in Our Dear Lord’s hands. Blessings to you and thanks, Barb Wall

  155. I suffer from a couple chronic illnesses that are invisible most of the time to others, so there are many times I do what I can and others want me to do more because I don’t look sick to them. It’s at those times I need to go to my Heavenly Father thanking Him for my life, my abilities and even my disabilities, then I’m able to remove the guilty feelings about not doing more and not get frustrated with those that do expect more from me. God created me and I’m just the way He wants me to be, limitations and all.

  156. Mippy/Sabrina says:

    Hi Renee,
    You always seem to post what is on *my* heart. Your devotional is what I needed to ‘hear’. I feel I let people down. I asked for help in the way of yarn to be donated whether the yarn itself or the funds to get 3 huge balls of yarn in which I would knit washcloths to go in hygiene kits for Days for Girls international. I set the self-imposed goal of 12 washcloths a month and was hoping to do this for a year, but I found halfway through that I had not estimated the amount of time it would take me to make one (6-8hrs per washcloth). In the end, the deadline came (Sept.30) and I had not met my goal. I had 9 washcloths completed and a 10th in the works. I felt so awful about not being able to follow through on what I said I’d do. Someone even told me that I did well and I believed them for a second, but it was your devotional this morning that makes me feel better in my heart, not just words for my mind but a balm for my heart.
    I have to readjust my goal now and with the words of your devotional it won’t hurt, make me feel guilty, bad, less than, etc. I am still ok. 🙂
    Thank you!

    Sincerely,
    Sabrina/Mippy 🙂

  157. Need to always ask God for his best in us. We need to be his light to others.

  158. Thank you for a great devotional! I have always battled the lies of Satan that I am not good enough. My best was never good enough for my parents. God has blessed me with being bright and talented, yet there were other challenges that always got in the way of seeing those gifts fully realized. It has been a long journey to learn that God DOES love me where I am at. He has given me the challenges so that I would rely on Him instead of my strengths. All the other gifted people in my family have no need for God. They live like they are good enough, yet I know emotionally they don’t feel that way. I am learning to be like Paul and boast about my weaknesses, because God fills in the gaps, and does a far better job at it than I would in my strengths!

    What I appreciated the most about your post was the practical of making the three lists to get a clear picture of truth.
    Thanks!

  159. I’ve always struggled with feeling like my best was not enough. Other people would remind me of my accomplishments but for some reason I allowed the enemy to cloud my mind. I didnt believe it! It took some soul searching and the death of my father whom I love more than life to show me that I am exactly what god says I am. My dad use to say Tara you have to believe that you are and I never understood until recently. I might have made mistakes but God still loves me and I will always be his child. I should look to him and and keep my eyes and ears focus on what he says and not what man thinks.

  160. Sheila Starnes says:

    As a assistant manager in my place of business and leadership not one of my strengths I feel very defeated when let things fall through the cracks. I know I have to draw on strength from Jesus. He gave me this job and He has promoted me and blessed me in it. I pray for His wisdom daily and let Him work through me, I just need to quit getting in the way.

  161. I so totally agree with your post this morning. Feelings of not being good enough is Satan’s playground for me as well. When feeling attacked I go to God’s word for what is true and my verses are found in Ps 1- ” I waited patiently for the Lord; he inclined to me and heard my cry. He drew me up from the pit of destruction,out of the miry bog,and set my feet upon a rock,making my steps secure. He put a new song in my mouth,a song of praise to our God. Many will see and fear, and put their trust in the Lord.
    Blessed is the man who makes the Lord his trust, who does not turn to the proud, to those who go astray after a lie! You have multiplied, O Lord my God, your wondrous deeds and your thoughts toward us;
    none can compare with you! I will proclaim and tell of them, yet they are more than can be told.”

    Year’s ago God did put a NEW Song in my heart and when I feel like I am not enough I remember what He did for me and that I am a new creation. I need to learn from mistakes but not wear them.

    Thank you for you thoughts this morning and more truth from God’s Word to stand on.

    Blessings to you and on your day!

  162. Thank you for your encouragement and reminder that I really need to keep my eyes focused and fixed on Jesus, the author and perfecter of my faith ……very timely as I head off to a specialist appointment with Jesus accompanying me .
    I know that he is nearer than my very next breath, and I’m thankful for that……and no matter what He Will see me through this ……..

  163. It is refreshing to hear this. I have always strived to please my parents, but recently the Lord has opened my eyes that the person I need to be pleasing is Him(my parents truly are unpleaseable). Thank you for your uplifting words of encouragement!!!!

  164. Thank you for sharing these thoughts, Rene. Wow! I need this right now, as I am starting a new job, at the ripe young age of nearly 58. 🙂 There will likely be opportunities for my thinking negatively about myself and my abilities. God’s Truth is that upon which I need to focus! God continue to bless you richly!

  165. I’m a very big volunteer but I volunteer for the wrong reasons. I do it because I want please people so they will like me. Sometimes by stepping out I’ve made a mess of things. I have a friend that won’t do anything until she’s prayed about it first. Sometimes you have to make a quick decision but the best way is to pray and wait for the Lord to say go. I remember in the bible where Saul was supposed to wait for Samuel and he didn’t. It would have been a short wait but he suffered for that decision. I get so hyper and emotional inside that my mouth is saying yes before the idea even gets to my brain. I’m doing a study now about saying yes and no at the right time. I’m learning that it’s okay to say no and when you do say yes it will be the best yes. Thanks for your devotion today.

  166. I am learning to say no to things and it isn’t easy because I want to but I truly don’t have the time to and it would cause a sacrifice in something else, such as family and schooling. But I do know it would not have been my best yes. I pray for others to step up and make their best yeses.

  167. I was contemplating this morning, not the ways in which I let the world’s judgements get to me, but the ways in which I let Christian ones. I had five minutes, between arriving at work and needing to be at my desk. I had packed lunches for a Kindergartener, a husband, myself, gotten office ready, I had read my devotional in the car and now I had five minutes to spare. Was five minutes really enough for prayer? Was I giving God the dregs? Was I not spending enough time in prayer? Should I just go to work and wait for prayer until I had more time to devote? And there whispers the devil, five minutes isn’t ideal, but five minutes of nothing is a victory for Satan, five minutes in prayer is a Holy victory. “But not this time; too many hurtful experiences had taught me to recognize failure as an opportune time for my opponent, the devil, to devour me with feelings of inadequacy and shame. This enemy is bent on making me believe that when my best isn’t good enough, I’m not good enough.”And man! You can pray over a lot in five minutes, I’m about ready to change the world now! http://smallwordsbiggod.blogspot.com/2014/10/day-237-five-minutes.html

  168. Helen Loewen says:

    I often feel like my best just is not good enough. It is so know good to have that assurance that in God’s eyes I am good enough. And that is what ultimately matters most, God’s thoughts. Amen.

  169. Doubt or you have to do more and be better in order to be first or the best or make something of yourself. But with struggles or live events, God has shown me that His will and His presence and peace is what is worthwhile in my life. That I need to look to God for the assurance and not people for everyday living and then: All things work together for good…… I know that what I do, to my best is good enough.

  170. Thank you for this post today. It was much needed encouragement.

  171. Thank you for addressing this topic of not feeling good enough. Your work-related example hit home for me. As a young, recently married professional working in a field I didn’t study in school, I labor so hard and yet things still fall through the cracks. I can relate to doing my best only to discover it wasn’t good enough… At work and at home. It is hard to have grace for myself and remember I am still learning. Your strategies to approach the situation with truth and courage, and maintain your identity apart from your failures are an encouragement to me!

  172. Michelle Hunt says:

    When I feel my best isn’t good enough and I had big obstacles going on at the same time, I have to remind myself that God does know how hard I tried to complete the task at hand. Perfection isn’t obtainable but I have to remind myself that sometimes trying my best has to be good enough sometimes.

  173. For a long time I allowed what others thought of me to control my days (and nights). My every move was under a microscope. I’m a single mother with a very active child, so I make every effort to still make time for me. Most days while he is at football practice, I use the time to run a couple of miles, just to relax myself. I prepare meals at 4am, so that we can still have dinner at home at the end of the day. Some days my son’s activities are so that my exercise is what I refer to as “cross-country” driving. Recently, I decided I didn’t want to run during practice, I just wanted to sit. Another parent approached me and made the comment, that I didn’t have my “S” cape strapped on that day. And it wasn’t so much of what was said, as much as it was the tone in the message. I had no idea my taking time for myself was an issue for others. Initially I felt defensive because I didn’t feel like I should have to explain myself for taking a day off from my routine.

    It took a few seconds and a quick prayer to realize that it was okay for me to rest my body and I didn’t have to justify my rest to anyone. God knew I needed the rest and He approved the time off.

    I simply smiled and responded, “I had to wash it [my cape]”.

  174. Nita in SC says:

    It’s an awful feeling, to do all we can do and still feel we are not doing enough. I try to remember this verse:

    Galatians 1:10 New International Version (NIV)
    10 Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.

  175. I am working on not “fearing” people but having the appropriate response. My God created me and loves me and I will mess up. But, I do not want to fear so that I am afraid to try things. So, when I mess up, I need to be okay with it, work harder the next time!!

  176. Lorie Walker says:

    So many times we use the wrong measuring stick to measure our value. We are precious and loved by the one true Lord. We will stumble and fall but He is faithful and just to forgive if we ask. Satan will attack us by using others and our weaknesses but the Lord is there by our side.

  177. Everyday when I wake and pray God it is a new day and I know your Grace is renewed. Guide me to do your will. As a single mom lord give me what I need to make it through the day. Then I read devotionals. Not a day pass that the devotional doesn’t speak to me in what I wanted to say but didn’t. And there are days I don’t get to my devotionals. Cause I hit the snooze one to many times or oh no there is a load of wash in didn’t move to the dryer. Or getting kids here and there dishes are waiting and I do them. That is when messages I am to hear come stronger in different ways. Post on Facebook, email from a friend, title of a devotional jumps at me in my email, song on the radio.

    Being mom and dad to 3 kids (ages 9, 11, and 16) wears you out before you start the day. Do they have this remind them that. Last min mom I wanted to pack lunch today.

    Rushing to get to school and work on time. Then home to start the evening rush, homework, supper, practices, housework, laundry. Mom you said you would get milk today.

    Mom sits and cries. Lord help!!!

    I wish that is what I always did. Yeah I sit and cry. How did things get like this. Why won’t the kids help. Can’t keep going. Yells at kids to do homework.

    Then I remember others have these issues my seem harder cause I am alone. But God is right there to walk me through.

    I am dealing with many behavior issues and have a teen heading down the very bad path. A teen that has learned all the triggers of the things her dad did to me when we were married. So most of the time my day isn’t like above. It is like that plus that teen who is struggling and won’t let me help. A teen who several times a day finds ways to make my day even harder. Giving me days on the weekends when the kids are with their dad I just want to stay in bed all day just because it is quiet or sleep because the last two weeks only had half the amount of sleep I should have.

    But each day I sit and give each kid 5 mins or more to tell me things. To show I love you.
    There are days my friends get texts, emails or phone calls from me crying in return I get encouragement and love.

    The love from friends is great but the love from God is the full filling love!

  178. What an amazing devotional!! Growing up, I never was able to do anything good enough. I was never a good enough sister, despite me practically raising my siblings. I was never a good enough daughter, despite me always showing grace, love, and respect to my parents when others thought I was crazy to do so with how I was treated by them. I was saved in an unsaved home in high school which added a whole other realm of just me being the “weird” one. Now as a wife, and mother of two, I am faced daily with this mindset of “I’m not good enough.” Satan constantly feeds me lies of “I’m not a good enough wife,” “I can’t meet the needs of both my kids at the same time.” The enemy continues to use the wounds of my past to try and defeat me today. Thankfully by the Lord’s never ending grace, I don’t have to be perfect!! I will never be! This devotional so spoke spoke to me today. I would LOVE to win this bundle, as it would be an amazing tool for me to find freedom in knowing that my best IS good enough!

  179. Joyce Kaiser says:

    Awesome Lord, let the words I write here reflect your thoughts in my heart and my own ideas…..yes, Lord, I try to work with you when helping and/or dealing with other folks. But I do realize sometimes I miss someone, and I even miss my own thoughts and feelings. I value devotionals, various books on faith, and the Bible. You are so close to my heart and I love you dearly.
    Let me go about each day in the way you wish for me Lord, and that I get my appointmentsa done with “Praise to you!_
    Awesome, Lord, I thank you for all that happens, and all that needs to be worked on…I smile Lord, as I PRAISE your name.

  180. Mary Ellen says:

    I thought, when I read your post Renee, “Boy she nailed me!” I often have that thought that I have failed someone. Maybe I could not do what they asked, or did and did not do as well as I wanted to. And with God-I fall so short of His standards sometimes, that it could be tempting to throw in the towel. Stepping back, I realize I am not Super Christian. I am human. And God loves me-goofs and all. He even wants us to run to Him when we get ruffled, and worn out, and just have not done perfect. He knows. He just wants us to tell Him so He can comfort us, and heal us, and make us better for the next time. Resting in Him is so strengthening! Reading His promises, I know that they are for me! And He has said He will never leave us. That said some time to lick my wounds can be in order, as long as I let God heal them.

  181. Nancy Silvers says:

    Loved this devotion, Renee! I love that the answer to all of life’s troubles is to delve into the Word of God and seek Gods truth. I only wish I could remember this when I am in these kinds of situations! I am getting better at remembering who I am, a totally, unconditionally loved, imperfect child of the one true God and that alone gives great comfort and peace!

  182. Ginger M. says:

    I needed to be reminded of this today.

  183. I have, too often, let the evil one swoop in and take my thoughts to those places where we wallow – “my project didn’t come out as I planned, I’m no good at this…”

    I am blessed to be surrounded by a core of believers at work…and they help me out of that pit. PLUS, when they’re in that same pit, I can witness to them.

  184. This devotion was so timely for me. I am a people pleaser and my thoughts can run wild when I think about what others may think of me. I want to be approved by others. Your devotion was a great reminder of God’s promises for me. I am approved by God and that’s what matters. Thank you!!

  185. Ah, yes…trying to come to terms with criticism that too often develops into self criticism.
    As a HIGH SCHOOL teacher I put on the board at the beginning of the year…”Your Best is Good Enough” and then when a project didn’t meet the standards or looked surprisingly like a total failure, that is the only question I would ask (though with much observation I already knew) “did you do your best?
    I judged accordingly….and so does the Lord….! It’s in Him I find my peace or my conviction and I go from there. Jean

  186. Dearest Renee, your devotional this morning is very beautiful, uplifting, and most certainly gives me a new view. I’ve been through so much, as I feel most of us have, but have so much faith that God’s a plan. One that we can not see, so I keep walking trusting fully in Him.

  187. Rachel Brunswick says:

    I am currently finding my way back to God after a 14 year hiatus. I am also the single mother of 2 beautiful young ladies, age 8 and 15. I feel like I am constantly in a battle with my 15 year old and that I am never good enough. I have been really working on my relationship with God and sometimes I feel like I fall short of him too! I am thankful that I was raised in a good Christian home where even now after so long of not talking to God, I can still hear him in my heart. Whenever these thoughts try to invade my head, I pray pray pray!

  188. Beautiful writing of a beautiful truth: Ian not a failure just because I sometimes fail. I’m approaching 2 years at my new company and sometimes I still feel like I should have done more or handled more even though I know I’m doing my best. Your list of what to work through is so valuable, thank you!

  189. Gayle McKenzie says:

    Thank God I’m not the only one who has these kind of days; these kind of feelings.
    More times than not lately I have felt so worthless. On the job, at home, socializing and yes, even in church. I just feel like every time I open my mouth, the wrong things flow out—I never seem to say the right things. I never seem to DO the right things. Even things I may feel good about, someone else comes along and makes me feel bad about it. Never the right things by other peoples standards. I put so much time and effort into everything; and it is never good enough. These are the days I really have to seek God. I have to be in His Word. I have to constantly be in prayer. Thank you so much for this devotion. It hit real close to my heart.

  190. Rita Scott says:

    I tend to lose site of this often. God is the only one that matters and not others and what they think. Beautiful devotion to help stay on the right path that God has for you. Thank you for sharing! Love your work!

  191. I have struggled with the feelings of not being good enough for ever. This was an awesome message. I now cling to “My best is good enough for God even if it is not good enough for others!” Thank YOU!!

  192. Christie E. says:

    This is just what I needed to hear this morning. All week I’ve been running on empty setting things up for my son to get back in school after HE was the one who made a poor choice. I had to trust no matter what happened I had to trust God and pray. Ultimately, its my son who has free will to choose his path, and I trust God Agapes him more than I ever could! I felt like I was carrying the world on my shoulders and my son was never grateful. He always wants money etc. Today he asked again and I after husband said no because he is not budgeting his money. Told him no. He said he wouldn’t go to a drs appointment I just set up for after school today to get him back on important medications. This was very hard for me to do as I have boundary issues and I felt bad but I know it was my best yes as he needs to be more responsible. If I keep rescuing him he is only going to keep taking from me emotionally, spiritually, and physically ( I have a chronic illness that flares up with stress). So thank you for this post via my email, God Bless you!!

  193. I tend to be so much harder on myself than on others. People’s unrealistic expectations of me can leave me beating myself up.Feelings of not being good enough is Satan’s playground for me as well.

  194. Jennifer Dykes says:

    I am blessed every time I read your devotions. Seems to always be what I need. Thank you for using your beautiful gift of writing to bless and encourage others!

  195. “Been there; done that; got the t-shirt” as they say. Knowing I let someone down despite my best efforts was a tough confession to make. I, too, have always been harder on myself than others, but this time I knew I had really screwed up. I had hoped for understanding; a little compassion, but instead was reminded that I had failed…at least in the eyes of man. The Lord knew I did what I thought was best. I was wrong, I admitted it, and took responsibility. Still the thought haunts me at times…it’s just the Evil One trying to make me lose faith, but I know, too, that “when I am weak, I am strong” because the Lord is with me…holding me up, carrying me when necessary, and always, always, always there to love me. For that, I am so grateful. Love and blessings to all.

  196. what a daily struggle i have trying to please everyone. As secretary of my church, i try to make everyone happy wearing myself to a thin frazzle only to realize i cannot do it. it’s a great privilege to serve my church family but. during difficult days of struggle between church members i find myself getting caught in the cross fires and feel anxious, defeated, discouraged and ineffective for the Kingdom. As i try to minister to women in my life these struggles i keep hidden deep inside are only chains tightened by the enemy to keep from maybe helping someone else who may be struggling in similar ways. I have both of these amazing books, but there is one particular friend in my life who desperately could use these. What a great gift it would be for her. love you and your ministry. it’s been a huge help in my walk. 🙂

  197. Wow!!! This meassage is exactly what i needed this morning in all areas of my life. At times i find all of my attetion on one area of my life and my BEST has slacked in other areas. To help with this i pray for this alot. Stay grounded in God’s Word daily. Keep my self accountable. God is the only one who knows what my BEST is. I dont truly know what my BEST is until to try. Thanks ladies

  198. mary ellen burt says:

    A new employe has been having difficulties and like me relies on God’s Grace to guide, lift and walk with us.
    I found this to be exactly what “we” need to remember when we feel we are trying so much yet feeling “less” than others expectations. Thank you.

  199. I would be so honored to win this gift. I am also amazed at how just at the right time God knows just what we need and when, I should not be because He is awesome and powerful, but It still awes me… HE IS GOOD ALL THE TIME>

  200. You are such an awesome angel of God for bringing this to those of us who so many times feel that we are not good enough in anything we so desperately try to do. I get so drained by giving, giving and giving some more that I don’t even know who I am anymore. But you have reminded me to stay close and listen to God and he will direct my paths. Many Blessings!!

  201. How satan works to discourage us.
    Thank you

  202. Paulina Stagg says:

    My earliest memories of not measuring up are from the first grade playground. I lived my life in that place even through salvation, until the day Romans 8:1 became real to me by the power of the Holy Spirit. Ever since, I have been able to live mostly guilt-free, able to move on. There is only so far down I can fall because GOD holds me up with His love and forgiveness. I’m OK because He knows me in and out, the deepest recesses of me, and has accepted me as His child anyway. For that, I am eternally grateful!

  203. /Phyllis Kinn says:

    I guess at some point in time we have all been hurt by comments that seem unfair or unwarranted. But this made me wonder how many times it was my words that spoke hurt into another’s life. How many times have I failed to lift others up because I choose to judge instead. I pray when that does happen to have the conviction I need so I can confess my sin. Maybe there are times I’m not hard enough on myself. How great it is to know that even through our failures we have a God who still loves us. Lord, help us all that failure doesn’t become the lie we use to define our self..

  204. Thank you for this sweet reminder. I battle taking my thoughts captive and not letting the foothold of defeat and negativity to settle in my thoughts. I have posted verses, on my phone lock screens or on post-its at my computer at work, that remind me of the TRUTH that helps to turn my thoughts from assuming the worst to hopeful for the best. Psalm 23:6a (MSG) is HUGE to me: Your beauty and love chase after me every day of my life. This helps me remember that no matter what is done to me, said about me, how I have missed the mark or just having a down day, the Lord loves me and pursues me in the midst of my mess.

  205. thank you for the reminder that we are great in the eyes of the Lord. I just went through a separation and felt like I was a complete failure. Through this reading I am reminded that I am not and that I am loved. Thank you for your ministry and the 7 day doubt diet. It is a. Blessing,

  206. I have to remind myself daily that God thinks I am perfect because the devil tries to tell me something totally different.. My life has been one failure after another. Two divorces, bankruptcy, single motherhood and still struggle financially. I am 52, and I play the devil’s compare game and look at friends with their beautiful homes (I rent), their happily together families who get to travel and seem “successful.” Thank you God for the Holy Spirit that over rides those thoughts and reminds me my success is not on this side of heaven. I wouldn’t trade my struggles for anything because where I am weak, HE is strong. Everyday I fall more in love with HIM.

  207. The feeling of not being enough has been my companion most of my life. I have a solid faith and a biggish personality, so people probably have no clue I struggle so much inwardly with feelings of self-condemnation. Something like a mistake at work, or disappointing a child or my husband, sounds the battle cry for the enemy and “its on” inside my head. I tell myself things I would NEVER say to anyone else: no grace, no patience, no love… just condemnation.

    After year’s of battle, I’ve realized I don’t have to be enough because I have the Holy Spirit within me and He is Enough. But, I still have to live and that doesn’t stop the attack or the patterns of self-condemnation. When I make a mistake or notice the voice of criticism in my head, my go to verses are Romans 8:1 and Zephaniah 3:17. I remind myself that, in Jesus, there is no condemnation; consequences, of course, condemnation… never. He is my, ever-present, mighty warrior; my defender. Regardless of my performance, Jesus rejoices over me, He is ready to quiet me with His love and He takes great delight in me.

    If that is true… then one mistake then I can move on. Who am I to argue with Jesus?

  208. Trying to keep my mind steadfast on Him. Isaiah 26:3
    Thank you for reminder in this devotion

  209. Melanie Sparks says:

    Your Blog, always seems to come at the right time. As a mother of two that works full time, I feel some days
    that my best will never been enough, thanks for the reminder that It is in Gods eyes.

  210. This devotion just confirms to me that God is revealing to me that I have to stop worrying about pleasing others. I have struggled with people pleasing. But that happens to pull the best of me from my husband and family. They get my leftovers. And that’s not pretty. Thanks for your post. It is confirmation of so things I need to tweak and things I have to let go!

  211. Cathi Cari-Shudde says:

    When I finally realized, deep in my heart and soul, that doing my best really was good enough for God, it was incredibly freeing. As a life long perfectionist, who had been afraid to try new things if I didn’t know how to do them (just a bit silly really) for fear of not doing them well, my new understanding of ‘good enough’ was a gateway to try new things in life, parenting, work, etc.

    And, the concept of ‘good enough’ is so easy for me to extend to others now. Seeing them as fellow children of God, no matter what their relationship with God is, has helped me be more supportive and encouraging to others.

  212. Kate Semer says:

    Renee, I was with two girlfriends at the Reaching Women’s Conference in Findlay, Ohio last week and we loved your presentation. Your story with all the challenges, blessings and burdens is inspirational, we loved you so much! It was if a good friend was speaking to us, thank you for using God’s gift and sharing with us all. I purchased your Confident Heart book and would love to win the devotional to go with it. That said, your devotion is wonderful and timely. Our church and small group is having an 8 week Transformed Campaign, a Rick Warren study, and this week’s study is Mental Health. I have shared your devotion with our group, it is just perfect to keep us in His word and thinking about our studies today. God bless you and your family, your ministry is touching lives.

  213. thank you for reminding that I only have to “look” good in God’s eyes……..I don’t have to fit in at work or live up to my kids’ expectations. As long as I live for God and do as he expects me too than I am “good enough”.

  214. Thank you for the timely reminder! I struggle with perfectionism and feeling like I have to be perfect to be loved, by others and God. Of course, I fail on a daily basis and the cycle continues. Grace, grace, beautiful grace.

  215. Thank you for these beautiful words. Far too often, I allow my negative thoughts to overtake me and drown me in words of pain and sorrow. And it’s no fun! Your words are always encouraging and pointing to God’s direction. And reminding me to find the truth from Him, not those harsh words whispered from the evil one. Thank you!

  216. This is a struggle spoke to my heart. When I take the time to pray my heart out before Jesus, and really wait and listen for His voice, I am always encouraged. My own fears and doubts make me question who I am in Christ! So grateful that Jesus never changes!

  217. Jill Brookshire says:

    I can fully relate to feeling like my best isn’t good enough for others and then suddenly doubt that anything I do and worse all that I am is suddenly called into question because of another’s comment. I honestly struggle with telling myself that I am always worthy in God’s eyes. I have fibromyalgia and many times I have to turn down offers, change plans, and just stop completely because I physically/mentally can’t go on until I rest. I don’t look sick on the outside and so sometimes I think people question if I’m just making excuses. Maybe that’s a lie I tell myself too! I always give my best, but often it isn’t enough to others. I want to stop the crazy insanity of believing Satan’s lies and change my thinking to where I can walk through the truths and not let things people say (or don’t say) pull me down to where I feel bad about myself. God created me and is crafting me, so how can I believe that He doesn’t know what he’s doing! Get behind me Satan!!

  218. Sharon Tavera says:

    This is me to a pin point – I constantly think about how I potentially made someone feel – do you see “potentially” …I often don’t even know that if I have hurt someone, yet I get so sick feeling that I may have that I analyze over and over until I’m blue in the face what I did, what I said, how I hurt them and I end up really honestly hurting myself more. I’ve put up so many walls around me because of this because I’m afraid of people getting mad or being hurt and I stifle my own emotions along the way – but something has to change and this post has give me the courage to realize I’m not alone and that I do not have to live in this purgatory!

  219. Lisa Rettig says:

    My biggest hurdle is just feeling like I never do my best. I have to remember to take more time with God to be at my best with Him is to be at my best with everyone else.

  220. So many times we do as women feel that if we fail at something we’ve let everyone down. God is the only person we need to please. And I like the words that was spoken above start to have negative feelings about myself and have my pity party. Wondering why am I here? What’s my purpose? But then I realize that God has a plan for me. And I know that as a mother and a wife that is an important role that God has given me. Thanks you for the words.

  221. Juanita Shelton says:

    It is amazing to me how so many people, for whatever reason, find fault with anything that someone else does or doesn’t do.
    I truly believe if there is a situation that needs commenting we should FIRST – pray, SECOND – give God time to answer and THIRD – comment. Not in reverse order!
    I personally am very blessed and impressed with all that you are a part of….teaching, writing and speaking.
    May God richly bless you now and always in every endeavor you do for Him.
    Juanita Shelton

  222. Recently as the enemy pressed down hard on me, my friend asked me to encapsulate in one phrase how I felt about myself. The phrase I came up with was “not good enough.” When I read your post this morning I thought of that discussion and how I desperately needed to feel good enough. I realized the only way I could do that is through the Lord and His love. Thank you for all you do to help keep us on the right track!

  223. Thank you Renee, I needed that today. Trying to remain steadfast in Him.

  224. Joselyn T. says:

    It is so true that Satan can use failure to keep us in bondage. Often we remember our wrongs, longer than anyone else does. We need to truly learn how to leave our confessions at the cross, and not pick them back up. Thank you!

  225. Oh, it is so easy to fall in the trap of feeling that you are not good enough when you are in the work world, sometimes when you feel that your family is let down – you can feel that you are not good enough.
    Then, I have to take time apart from everything and spend time in His Word and let God speak to me through scripture and just being still to listen to God speak to you.

  226. I believe we are our own worst enemy sometimes…I could so identify with this post! From being raised in a dysfunctional home, since coming to Christ I used to fight almost a daily battle with the “Not Good Enough” monster. I found myself over achieving and over scheduling, looking to others for confirmation of my self worth instead of my creator. The good news is, I figured out a few years ago that God passionately loves me, just the way I am, and I don’t have to do everything perfectly anymore…what a joyous, liberating truth!

    Thank you for your daily dose of inspiration! God bless you!

  227. Christine says:

    I have tried to please some family members, only to be hurt. I have realized I cannot please everyone. In doing so, some will not have anything to do with me because I would not take sides! We are family and should stick together, Pray together. My family is split and yes for a good reason, but I got stuck in the middle. I am happy to know, that I really only need to please God!! I might have lost some family, but I will never lose God, my Father who is Faithful and never will leave us!!

  228. Angella L says:

    I’m finding “perfection” trying to keep everyone happy, pleased etc…leads me to a complete loss of peace because I don’t always measure up..others disappointment in me leaves me feeling inadequate and replaceable..

  229. So needed to hear this today! Thank you!

  230. I went through a period where it felt like I was failing everyone around me, all the time. God really used that time to show me that His grace really is enough…

  231. Deborah Herbst says:

    thank you for this devo. I have read “The Confident Heart” book 3 times! Guess that shows how much I need it! My husband is leading us in a new direction with our Sunday night group and the challenge is to seek the leading of the Holy Spirit, even if we are some times misunderstood. A note of success: My daughter and I hosted a baby shower for a dear friend and the inviation was for 48 plus a blanket invitation to our church! we started with a lengthy food list and as time and money and energy progressed (or digressed) we had to decide NOT to make the cute little hand cutout cookies for favors. Although did not want to disappoint, it was the wise and right decision. Shower went very well without those cute little cookies that would have put me way over the edge! Great feeling to have made a wise decision. thanks

  232. I see my mistakes glaring with every typo on my blog… every misspoken word when I’m teaching. I have to constantly remind myself, “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” Romans 8:1

  233. Bobbi Ishol says:

    Every thing I do has to be perfect, in my eyes. Maybe not perfect but done a certain way. My husband can do a job right and get the same results but I think it’s wrong because he did the process different. I’m sure this is called Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder. This isn’t the best situation as I am a SAHM to a three year old boy, 2 year old girl and a 3 week old girl. God has been working on my control issues a lot, more so in the last few months. I’m up at 4 am feeding my youngest when I read this blog. It’s a reminder to me that God hasn’t forgot about me even when I feel like he has. That he is using others to speak to me. That he knew I would read this. Some days can be worse and my husband feels it but I know I’ve come a long way thanks to God.

  234. So needed to hear this. I struggle daily with this. And my daughter so struggles with self worth and trying to find her way in life it scares me. I would love to receive a copy to share with her. God bless your ministry.

  235. Paula Horton says:

    Thank you for this reminder and encouragement! I have to diligently stay on guard for Satan’s attacks on me in my mind daily. I did not struggle with this until I was in my 50’s. What a battle! But thanks be to God that through the Holy Spirit’s help he can be kept at bay.

  236. I have had those moments when I just couldn’t even breathe the weight of stuff hanging on me. I have to sit back and remember God is for me not against me. I lost a position I could handle because of letting others dictate how I felt about myself. I was a terrible people pleaser and these people were killing me!! It was a long road but I have learned a lot from My Jesus since then. He is the one who dictates my worth and to him I am worthy and loved and I am ok. I thank you for your ministry of Proverbs 31, I look forward to a good word and biblical guidance and have tried to pas on to others..

  237. I have a couple of things to share; the first is about me, personally. I was mentally & physically abused, and wild unfounded stories made up by the accuser to justify his actions. I got to a point of walking on eggshells, afraid to do the least tiny thing wrong, lest I get punished for something I didn’t deserve. After years of struggling, I finally handed it all over to God and let Him heal me. None of the situations I went through were my fault (aside from the staying with that person because of his kids), and I was worth so much more in God’s eyes. And I had so much more to offer to friends, family, strangers to encourage them and uplift them. I was able to walk away and start living the life God intended for me to live.
    The second thing I want to share is a family situation…I was asked to help a relative make an important decision about a job & finances. The choice this person had to make was putting themselves in a happier situation and gifting me with their success, but losing some of their own financial security and alienating other family members. The other choice was to stay where they were and keep the peace and financial income, but feel bitter inside. I did not have an answer, other than a strong pull on my heart to pray about it. I asked this person if they had prayed, and the answer was no, they didn’t think of that first. We prayed separately, distanced by many miles, and in just a few minutes, we both had the same answer. God is good. Very good.

  238. Vicki McGillivray says:

    I recently committed to making a big change in my life with the Lord’s help. My bible study group leader reminder me that when we state out loud our intentions, the devil will often try to throw us off course. This has been so helpful to me. Before I thought it was me and felt like a failure when I messed up. Now, I often tell the devil to get lost and get back on track. Thank you.

    • Kathy Campbell says:

      Thanks you for sharing. I often feel inadequate and need to be reminded that God is my source of peace.

  239. I needed this today, I struggle with the need to please people and when I fail that negative voice tries to take over and it’s hard to block it out. Thank you for sharing your experiences and showing that God loves us no matter where we’re at in our journey. Have a blessed day!

  240. Sheila Kauffman says:

    I need this reminder today. Feelings of inadequacy & rejection can haunt me. Thankful that Jesus knows my heart.

  241. Oh, how I needed to hear this today. That “roaring lion” has been on the prowl and discouragement has been on the increase. Thanks for the words of encouragement and hope!

  242. Our mental battle I feel is our greatest threat against us…and yes the devil uses that time and time again. For me it is my job, my kids, my life…all the times I have come short of what I thought was the best. But have learned that when those times come to step back look at it through the mirror of God’s eyes praise Him that He loves inspite of the failures around me…and that I learn to lean in on Him. Thank you for your honesty about this you are a blessing.

  243. I think we must think of those of you who share and bare your souls with all of us as super human? All of you who are called to this – thank you! And my prayer is that He will remind you every day just how powerful a tool you are through Him!
    I guess you could say that I have that perfectionism bully hiding under my bed, like one of the scary monsters that used to make me hide under the blankets – so reading that others struggle with it and seeing what you do to get past these incidences is so very inspiring and uplifting to me! Nothing I can ever do on my own will be enough in this cruel world, but EVERYTHING I do through Christ Jesus is!

  244. This devotion touched me in so much that I printed out so that I can be reminded of God’s promises. I have always compared myself to others which in turn just knocked me down more each time. As I have been reading all your devotions it is helping me to take God’s word and replace it with the doubts and fears of satans lies. Not always easy and I still have my pity parties but with God HE picks me up and helps me to learn and move forward. I am so blessed to be on this mailing list. Thanks to all of you who share your hearts and God’s word with me. God bless each of you.

  245. Diana Bennett says:

    I seen to be reassured, daily that I am good enough. Because of an abusive childhood, I isolated myself, even from my own children, causing them great pain. As I heal, my oldest does not forgive, tells people I am dead. So through scripture and c devotionals, I am reminded I am good enough, always, a chosen daughter of a King

  246. Gerri Almond says:

    Thank you Renee for these encouraging words. God knows when we need encouragement and His timing is always on time! I am and have been going through tough times at work for quite a while now. I have been demoted and my salary cut quite a bit, I am back to where I was 12 years ago, but expected to do the same work. I know that I am not the only one who experiences this and that God is in control and I am thankful I still have a job and benefits. It is just hurts when push yourself to please your boss, everything is placed on your shoulders and you have to ask for approval that you did a good job. Satan is a liar and he and his demons are working overtime on our minds. We just have to remember to pray and turn our eyes on Jesus! God will protect and provide what we need. Thank you again for your devotion today! I needed it!

  247. LuAnn Schlossenberg says:

    God is so ‘on time’! Just this morning I was crying (real tears) to God ….why do I struggle with losing weight… I’m so stupid for not getting it. Losing weight is great for everyone else but elusive to me. I then opened the Bible randomly to:

    1 Peter 3: 3-4 3 What matters is not your outer appearance – the styling of your hair, the jewelry you wear, the cut of your clothes – 4 but your inner disposition.

    God reminded me he loves every part of me, top to bottom, inside and out. This encouraged me to take another step forward instead of wallowing in self-pity. God is so ‘on time’!

  248. My heart so wants to be affirmed by other but I am learning that other people are flawed and can never really affirm me. My affirmation comes from Christ

  249. I am the new women’s ministry leader at my church and this truth is something I will need to remember – that my best is good enough in God’s eyes. Praying I’ll always be giving my best to God and his people. Thank you!

  250. Christina says:

    I think as women it is so easy for us to try and make it look like we have it all together, at least for me this is true. It is when I begin taking on more than Ican handle and striving for perfectionism and not simply relying on the Lord that I find myself in these situations. I have never stopped to think about though how this gives the devil a perfect chance to feed lies into my life. Thanks for the reminder.

  251. Thanks for the encouragement! I often feel not good enough – as a mother, as a friend, as a disciple, as a worker…appreciate the reminder that in God’s eyes, I am more than good enough. I am His.

  252. I needed to hear this truth today. Thanks for sharing . Doubt and fear make us judge ourselves harshly

  253. I think as women we are especially hard on ourselves. We have to be so many things to so many people….wife, mother, daughter, employee …its a full cup for sure. I know I am hard on myself. I recently failed on a project at work and I beat myself up all day. My boss was respectful about the issue and moved on. Not me I couldn’t move on….failure set in. I spent the day questioning if this was a sign I should be doing something else with my life. I know this for sure, with God there is always forgiveness and thankfully, second and third and fourth…..chances to get it right!!! We are not perfect because then we wouldn’t need God…thats his way for us to need him and to stay connected. We look outside ourselves for answers and only need to look inward to God!

  254. Rebecca Hill says:

    Thank you for sharing this. I often feel like I am not good enough and have let everyone around me down. I now see I need to look at my committments and schedule and see what is really important and what can be cut. And God does not call us to live our lives as failures….we are daughters of the King. Just wish I could remember that all the time. 🙂

  255. Susan Knapp says:

    Good morning:
    I’m currently reading “A Confident Heart” and enjoying it tremendously. It is so appropriate and hits so many areas in my own life. My purpose for entering your giveaway is actually to “give it away” to another. So many hurting women out there.

    thanks for sharing your thoughts and your life

  256. Donna Spitzer says:

    It seems no matter how much time passes between my visits here, When I return, the devotion for that day seems to be directed at me…Speaking deeply to my heart & soul….Thank you, I desperately need all the encouragement I can get….

  257. Renee –
    I love your thoughts/posts. It is so easy to fall prey to negative/former ways of thought and feel as if you are being devoured. One tool I used was to carry verses of truth with me in my pockets wherever I went so that whenever I needed to combat the lies, the truth was right at hand. It also aided in my memorizing several vereses.

    Thanks for sharing your heart.

    Sherrri Woodbridge

  258. I am so grateful for you and your ministry. The Lord has used your book and blog to challenge me and help me many times….that includes this devotion. The Lord showed me that I am giving Satan room to discourage me when I don’t keep my mind fixed on Him and His Word . Blessings to you and your family.

  259. I know n my head God’s grace is for me, but my motions and mind tend to run wild with my failure and my perfectionist standards that are not from my Heavnly Father. Thank you for being real and your faithfulness to share how much God truly loves us in the middle of our mess. 🙂

  260. The Lord’s been working on this with me for the last several years. He’s been trying to teach me to keep my eyes fixed on Him; to look to Him to get all my needs met and not to look to or rely on anyone else but Him. It’s such a hard lesson to be learning. I find so much encouragement in scripture where it talks about how much God loves me, how He wants the very best for me, that I’m created in His image.

  261. My life has been in a wait and see mode for so long… that is my normal. Without my blog sisters encouraging me everyday I would not make it. For the past three years God has been doing a new thing…. tomorrow. Road worn I can say today… it is well with you soul.

  262. I just read a quote today: ” My imperfections will never override God’s promises. God’s promises are not dependent on my ability to always choose well, but rather on His ability to use well.” By Lysa Terkeurst. Those words of truth paired with your devotional, was what God used to set me free today! My heart thanks you.

  263. Thank you so much for these words and exactly the right time! God knows timing! I have had a couple of weeks of work where I am fixing and cleaning up problems created by others, but yet I feel the boss only sees his work as being done correctly and no one else, including mine own. These words from God helps so much! Thank you.

  264. I read your encouraging words on the Proverbs 31 blog and they resonate with feelings I have battled for most of my life. No matter how hard I ever tried, my efforts were met with critical words from important family members. I have been set free in Christ and no longer need to accept my failure to satisfy someone else. Our God knows our heart and when we give our very best to serve him- that is enough! Thank you for your message!

  265. Thank you so much for this; I continually struggle with feeling good enough. I hope I can take these words to heart and realize that I am good enough!

  266. B'Elanna's Mom says:

    I so understand that feeling of, “Oh, I failed again.” It is something I am working on with the Lord. There is no way I can always be that perfect wife, mother, daughter, sister, and /or friend. I am trying to learn to just be me and what that means.

  267. Man looks on the outward things they see but God looks at our heart, our attitude and what we do because of our love for Him.

  268. I’ve been sharing with all my friends to visit this website for it’s motivational and thought provoking content. I am blessed every day, in different ways. Thank you!

  269. Thank you for this devotional. It seems daily I’m reminded I am good enough in God’s eyes. I grew up in a divided household where my mom was a believer and my dad a fallen believer. It seems I never measured up in my parents eyes which in turn I grew up being a perfectionist always putting myself down in my mind and later becoming a huge people pleaser and having others put me down always wanting to be complimented for what I did do right. I seemed to need that to survive to just know I did something right. Slowly I am working thru this with God’s strength to hold me up. But the devil does play in my mind on a daily multiple times a day basis. With god I will get thru this he reminds me often I am good enough I am who he built me to be. And i will conquer satan as many times as needed in all areas. Thank you so much for understanding what I believe all women believers and nonbelievers go thru daily. Bless you.

  270. Thanks for sharing this devotional. I need to pin it up as a daily reminder. My cultural background and upbringing made me hold a high standard to myself and others. Not only that I need to remember this motto for myself, but I also like to remember it for those around me and be pleased with their best, no matter what the outcome of their effort is. Thanks again!

  271. I often think this way when it comes to my children and providing for them. Sure I provide what they “need”. But its sometimes the things they want that I feel I let them down.
    For example: my eldest just graduated from High School. All her friends are now gone to college except her.
    I feel as though she is missing out on her college/friend experience and somehow I have let her down.
    Although I know it is not entirely me, she did have a hand in her own outcome (ie not finishing a class online and not registering and not having the grades needed). However, the pain and guilt seem to be the same.
    Also with my youngest child (16) going through some friendship situations. I feel I let her down in not knowing how to pick the friends that are your actual friends and knowing that meaning. Not rainy day or when things are good they want to be around. Actual real good life long friends that stand up for her as much as she stands up for them.
    Lessons we all learn and have to go through, however, still does not make it easy in a mom’s heart.

  272. It always amazes me how some days the devotionals seem to be tailor made to what my heart needs to hear. I’ve felt like such a failure today so this was just what I needed to hear at just the right time. I would love to read A Confident Heart Devotional. It soulds like it is just what I need everyday.
    Thanks

  273. Thanks for this devo! My 12 year old son and I homeschool together, and we have really been struggling with these types of feelings and attacks this week. I started reading this to myself, and then immediately started over, reading aloud to him as well. He payed attention throughout and even asked who wrote that…very big compliment from the boy whose apparent apathy for all things “Mom” has grown in direct proportion to his feet and hair. 😉
    Anyway, thanks for opening this door for us to have an uplifting and honest conversation about God’s unfailing love for us!

  274. This devotional was a great reminder that I won’t be able to please everyone, sometimes I will let people down and that’s ok. I am human.

  275. Diane Arndt says:

    The Lord has taught me so much through the years and we will let others down as they will also. But if we know that and have the gift of mercy and compassion and understanding all will be put into the right prospective.

    I recently went to visit my son in Seattle. I was very excited to go and as much as I loved seeing my son it was also sad because even though I am sold out for the Lord he has yet to be. I have prayed so many years and am still praying and believe with all my heart that a time is coming for his heart to be the Lord’s. But upon coming home I so appreciated my relationship with the Lord, my home, my lovely plants, and all that the Lord has given me. I am so comforted to know that no matter what is happening around me, I am covered, loved and cared for by our loving Father. We do learn in the hardships of life to dig our heals in, forgive and live in peace and light..

    Blessings, Diane Arndt

  276. The devil is really coming against me right now. I am feeling like what is the point of life at this point. My son is off at college, my mom died 9 months ago, I broke up with my boyfriend this year and have not a lot of motivation to keep going. I have a good job and a beautiful son and am truly blessed with our relationship and have many blessings and things to be grateful for, yet it doesn’t seem to be enough. I have been reading Gods word and listening to Elevation Church online, Joyce Meyer. I am just in a bad spot now and depressed and I know I will get through it by the grace of God.

  277. Thank you for the encouraging devotional today. Many years ago I when I was struggling as a young pastor’s wife, a mentor reminded me that “God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity but of power, love and self-discipline.” (2 Timothy 1:7) Her word of encouragement to me really helped me to not listen to my fears but to trust God through them.

  278. Pam Rittman says:

    Wonderful thoughts on how we are to trust God even when we fail at the things and turn to him for continued guidance.

  279. Robin Cantwell says:

    You did an excellent job of being real, accountable, transparent and followed it up with practical processing tools. Thank you so much for sharing how to mentally and emotionally bring Jesus/The Word into our everyday life! You are an amazing inspiration of overcoming victory in Jesus.

  280. I needed this today. I am in the middle of striving to please everyone, to living up to an idea of who or what I am supposed to be, and I feel like it is all falling down around me. As I read your blog post I kept wishing I was sitting next to you watching you go through your bible and find these truths. I struggle hearing the voice of the Lord, I struggle trying to spend quiet time, and listening for him to whisper these truths to me… Thank you for sharing your heart with us.

  281. Susan Sparks says:

    This devotion reminding me to clear my mind of self-doubts and “not good enough” thoughts was truly an uplifting part of my day! I pray that I can keep these words close to my heart and use them whenever I start to feel like I’m drifting back into thinking I’m failing myself or others. God knows my true heart and I have peace knowing I am pleasing to Him. Thanks so much for being a blessing to so many of us!

  282. Thanks Renee! What a wonderful reminder to ask God to help us through the difficult times as opposed to allowing the devil to make the difficult times even worse!

  283. It’s always good to remember that God is there to help us when we need it.

  284. Melissa May says:

    Yep. Right there. That’s where I am. In the middle of a doubt-war! Wishing I could more easily tell the difference between my doubts and reality – what I really can do and what I just fear I can’t.

  285. Kim Baker says:

    I am 52 years old and I have not had a girl friend, since high school, that I can share my thoughts with so reading all the comments has been an ah moment for me. I have a wall built around me for fear of rejection, not saying the right things, not doing the right thing or looking the right way. I have listened to the”roaring lion” for so long and I am so ready to see what is on the other side of that wall. God knew that I needed this today. Thank you.

  286. Lately my best hasn’t been good enough for myself. I’m very much a textbook people pleaser. Either I’m forgetting to pack a cold lunch for the 6 year old since she doesn’t like what’s on the menu today, I’m arguing with my husband about something petty, or I’m giving half attention to a position I said I could take on. I feel like I’m spreading myself thin and not giving credit where credit is due. I have to start knowing how to say no, to remind myself I can’t save the world, and stop worrying about things I have no control over. I feel I spend too much time focused on what I’m doing wrong in my day and not starting my day focused on what really matters, coming to God in prayer to start my day out in the “right light” and to do everything for His Glory. As long as I giving it my all, no matter if the outcome isn’t picture perfect, I shouldn’t feel that I didn’t do my best. God sees our attempts and attitudes and thank goodness because I only see the finished project at the end of the day, not the big picture.

  287. Thank you for always sharing your heart and God’s faithful love for us. I went for prayer today and once again surrendered to God all my burdens and people in my life. I was encouraged that my righteousness is found in Jesus. The scripture that comes to my mind…

    “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.” Philippians 4:8 NKJV

    Philippians 4:8 in all English translations

  288. Ginny hrushka says:

    It’s encouraging to me since I recently list my job and am looking for work. I’ve gotten a lot of job rejections so far and have been doing my “best.” I know god will take care if me but it’s been encouraging to me to know that he’s not disappointed in me right now also .

  289. I so needed this today! I have been totally tapped out! And having my son express some hurtful words to me in the midst of all that’s been going on, really cut me right to the core. Communicating the Truth in Love is such a delicate balance, isn’t it? And with our family, those closest to us; sometimes its even more challenging. Thank you Renee for all YOU do to encourage us! We are sisters in Christ, with the spiritual bond that no person can break.

  290. I have often felt that my best wasn’t good enough, and sometimes with people, that is true. But, I have learned that God isn’t like the rest of us, and my best is all He asks! thankfully, I don’t have to worry about what people think.

  291. Wow! This was yesterday’s P31 devotional, but I didn’t get to it until today – just now. I could not have heard it’s message yesterday, but today God had me ready for it! Thank you for these words that help reinforce what I was hearing in my own heart today as I struggle through some things right now. I do need to take an honest look at some situations, balancing both responsibility & mercy for myself: embracing grace.

  292. I have been on a long painful journey for the last 2 years that is starting to show blessings in a way I never expected. Since a young girl I have feared God was not going to allow me marriage and a family of my own. I have wrestled with that for years sometimes really feeling His peace and sometimes feeling so defeated I questioned my faith ( not God, but me). 3 years ago I met an amazing man. I was 35 and he was 41. Neither of us has ever been married and it truly seemed like a match made in heaven!! We had complimentary personalities, and our beliefs were very much on the same wave length. Then …….the tsunami hit…..he was let go from his job of 20 years and I found out through an er visit I had some advanced reproductive problems. He was unemployed for over a year, and after a horrific year of finding new things that should not be growing on my reproductive organs, I went in for surgery. Fast forward…..he got a great job, and i recovered from surgery quickly and we thought we were on our way to a place where we would finally be able to settle down and eventually (but quickly) start a family. And then it all caught up with us. The stress of his new job, and my continued hospitalizations for complications have driven a wedge between us and he is angry and I am at times hopeless. Now, if I were talking to anyone else I would easily say, and believe, that God’s plan is perfect, and His grace will get them through this. I just can’t seem to believe it for myself. So I made a decision….. I am starting a best yes book club with some girls through my church (so that book-if I were to win the bundle-would go to one of them, as I already have my copy and am loving it!!!!) And we would burn the candle during our time together, and when the evil one jumps into my thoughts, instead of bring hopeless, I am praying for hope for other women who desire children and are experiencing some of the exact

  293. sheila mckinzie says:

    This is something that I have to battle every day. I am not perfect and never will be but God still knew me before he created the world and created me anyway. I know that he loves me more than I will ever know on this earth and I try to thank Him every day and do my best (with His grace) to act like it.

    He is forever faithful and I just have to keep my mind on that. Even when I feel like I’m falling, He is already there to catch me, provide for me, keep me safe, offer peace…. I could keep going on and on…

  294. Boy, could I relate to this devotional. I work very hard to get things right, to say things right, to strive for excellence. But, sometimes I’m misunderstood or I make a mistake and someone calls me on it. Then I take it personal and feel like a failure. You have given me some practical steps to help process the truth. Thank you.

  295. Lately I’ve been realizing that the being “more” for someone else’s perception of me isn’t truly following who God has called me to be. I have also learned that giving God what I have and letting Him do the rest is a lot less stressful than trying to manage it all on my own!

  296. Ginnie Montoya says:

    It’s hard at times specially when you are the Pastor’s Wife and you need to counselor and serve.but thank you for your support and counseling. First of all it reminds you you are not alone. There’s other women going through hard times and that the devil uses that to discourage you. But we can do all things through Christ who gives us the strength to continue

  297. KAY LYNN PARRISH says:

    Having been diagnosed with Bi-Plor in the 80’s I felt useless, afraid people would consider me insane or retarded. It really played out bad. Then started getting a handle on it and started letting go and letting God take care of my life . I started getting better and feeling better about myself. I now claim 2nd Timothy 1:7. God has not given me a spirit of fear but of love, power and a sound mind. God has been so good to me in this area of my life. I feel confident and at peace with myself. To God be the glory and praise. Thank you for sharing with us. God bless you and yours . Kay

  298. Just early this morning the Lord spoke to me about this matter. Almost two years out of a horrible, abusive marriage at the hands of a self-professed Christian man, I still sometimes feel the shame and inadequacy that he put on me. God said His love for me is unconditional. What a wonderful, secure feeling! God is the best provider, protector, and Lover of my soul.

  299. Thank you for reminding me that when I feel like a failure it is a lie from the devil. The Lord always sees me as His precious daughter. I am so thankful for that.

  300. Diane Higgins says:

    I am constantly battling feelings like I’m not good enough. I am such a people pleaser that I always worry about what I’ve said or haven’t said. Having been a former pastor’s wife for 20+ years, this happens quite often. But I have to constantly remind myself that God loves me just as I am and I am not perfect. . It’s amazing how when we feel better about ourselves, everything in life is better, including our relationships. This devotion really spoke to my heart and I would love to win the books and candle. Love Proverbs 31 team and pumpkin scented candles!

  301. I want to start by saying Proverbs 31 ministry and Renee Swope both are very encouraging and I enjoy the posts, blogs, devotions from you guys!! Very Blessed. Secondly I too struggle with never feeling “good enough” yet remember that It’s in HIM that I am. NOT in Me but In HIM!! He is my sufficiency, my strength, my Goel, my friend, my provider and He’s all I need to get through today and any day that Satan wants to steal all that I am in HIM. <3 Thank you again for your posts!!

  302. I feel like that a lot with my dad I feel like he’s go these unrealistic expectations of me and if I do what he asks me to do he always comes back with a comment like well you did this but you didn’t do that or you could have done this to along with that. There are a lot of times with him that I don’t feel like my best is good enough and the devil starts putting thoughts in my head like, See I told you your not good enough, You never do anything right, Your never going to measure up. There are so many times I feel like that and I think mainly because my dad always has something negative to say and that in itself can overwhelm any ones heart when someone is always making you feel insignificant and that you never do anything. He does mention things I do that are good but those moments are very, very rare. Sometimes I don’t even think he realizes that those comments are hurtful. I’m just praying God will give me the grace to handle those situations with him. Just because a thought pops in my head doesn’t me I have to think it. 2 Corinthians 10:5 (We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.) [NIV]

  303. DEBRA ROSE says:

    THIS DEVOTION SPOKE TO ME, AS IT REMINDS ME TO FOCUS ON GOD AND HIS LOVE. RECENTLY WE HAD A TRAGEDY IN OUR FAMILY, MY GRANDSONS AGES 4 AND 1 WERE IN A CAR ACCIDENT AND THEY WERE CALLED HOME TO HEAVEN. EVERYTHING IN ME WANTS TO BE ANGRY AND I HAVE TO CONTINUE TO REMIND MYSELF THAT THEY BELONG TO GOD AND ARE BACK HOME. i MISS THEM MORE THEN WORDS CAN SAY.. I WANT THEM BACK HOME WITH MY DAUGHTER SO WE CAN LOVE THEM AND ENJOY EVERY MOMENT WITH THEM. BUT NOW ALL WE HAVE IS THERE MEMORIES. I AM THANK FULL FOR HAVING THEM IN MY LIFE. I MUST REMIND MYSELF THAT WE WILL SEE THEM AGAIN. EVEN THOUGH IT IS A DAILY STRUGGLE RIGHT NOW. THANK YOU RENE FOR SHARING YOUR THOUGHTS AND WISDOM WITH US.

  304. Cynthia Brinson says:

    I often struggle with trying to be as good as everyone else as being a parent, student, friend. This devotion was a good reminder that I am good enough in God’s eyes and that is all that really matters. As long and I believe in him I am good.

  305. Martha T. says:

    Very nice devotional! Sometimes I feel the same way.

  306. God is so faithful to remind me in a song, a devotional or even a whisper when I am feeling I am not capable, worthy or qualified…

  307. I appreciate the honesty and transparency of your story. Most of us would never share something like this. Thank you for sharing what most of us experience but won’t admit. There is nothing we can do to embaress ourselves with our Heavenly Father. So good to remember.

  308. Connie Boroff says:

    I struggle with the comparison trap of thinking I’m not good enough because I’m struggling financially, so I feel not as good as others when I can’t give as generously as I wish I could. I struggle with thinking I’m too slow at completing tasks. I feel not good enough when I compare my home’s cleanliness or space to my friends’ homes. I am learning that God blessed me in unique ways and with my temperament for a purpose. I am learning to try my best, and then to stop the enemy’s lies with God’s truth in Scripture! God has equipped each of us uniquely and according to His greater good! I/we need to live in joy & celebration of being His specially designed daughters!

  309. As a teacher I give my all daily to my students. There are days when my students may be sad when they arrive at school or a parent may have a complaint. This really hurts when I’ve tried my best to make my classroom a fun and inviting learning environment. This devotion is a reminder that I’m not perfect and I cannot control what may be going on in the lives of my students and their parents outside of school. In God’s eyes I am doing my best by loving each and every student, because they all all uniquely made by Him.

  310. Karen Simpson says:

    I spent many years feeling inadequate. I had so many “not enough’s” in my life. Not smart enough, not pretty enough, not skiinny enough…. Thank the Lord, I have learned His truths! “I am precious and honored!” “I am strong and courageous!” “I am seen” “I am loved” and oh so many more. I am God’s daughter, He made me perfect. Thank you Renee, Your books and devotionals have helped me SO much to get the “Not enoughs” out of my thought! Bless you 🙂

  311. This devotion spoke to me because I’m going through a difficult time right now. We just began a new church ministry about a year ago, and a lot of changes have already taken place, both in the church and in our lives. I struggle with change and with understanding how I fit in. My health doesn’t allow me to participate the way I used to, and this makes me feel even worse. I know that I do the best I can and God accepts that, but I still struggle in all of this. Please pray for me. Thank you.

  312. Such good truths Renee! The enemy is always waiting to pounce on us to ‘tell’ us we are a failure. The quicker we stop our thoughts from ‘running wild’ and believing the lies of the enemy, the quicker we can hear God’s truth speak to our hearts. We have to believe his word that we are God’s ‘masterpiece’, and He has ‘good works’ for us to do (Eph. 2:10). Your book “A Confident Heart” started me and my women’s small group bible study on our journey of believing God’s word, not the enemies lies.
    God is always faithful to us!
    Bless you as you speak His truth!

  313. I love this verse 1Peter 5:8-9. I always share it with our children, and I go to it so often. We have to be on guard and not give satan a foothold, and not let our thoughts be consumed with his lies. I did the OBS for your book “A Confident Heart” and I am so grateful to you for writing the book, it encouraged me and changed my life. on page 132 you write “He taught me that my failures don’t have to be fatal; if I let them, the can help me become more like Him. In Christ, you are a woman who is becoming all God created you to be.” Thanks to you and my Savior, I continue to grow everyday. Blessings Anna

  314. Two things I like about your book, Confident Heart, that I’m reading, and the posts are your clever word plays that stay with me (Example – AM and FM) and the surety that the doubting thoughts and negative selfishness are real and that I can be free of them.

  315. I never felt like or all I do is struggle and question what I did is not the best but this past month was extremely hard and I had to be remminded by a close friend to leave it in Gods hand, to really trust him with my load and rememebred how I have to remember as I walk though and through my best is good enough in God’s eyes even when it’s not good enough in the eyes of others.
    I finally let go and was at peace!

  316. Love this devotional! Thanks for the chance to win! I feel like I mess up a lot and know it but knowing my mistakes helps me realize that I need God daily. I’m in need of a Savior because I’m not perfect. I could never measure up to God’s standards as a sinner. I need His grace daily.

  317. I think that comparison is something that is truly evil and from Satan. When you compare yourself to others, you will always feel that you come up short in one way or another – we’re just all different with unique experiences. Recognizing that your path is not and should not be the same as others and that it is still beautiful no matter what is really important. Those people you feel you come up short against probably feel the exact same way about YOU, too!

  318. This devotional was EXACTLY what I needed… Oh, how I could relate to the “uninvited critical thoughts… resigned to the fact that I must be unable to do anything right.” Because, YES, “This enemy is bent on making me believe that when my best isn’t good enough, I’m not good enough.”

    Those very thoughts were circling around in my head as I began to read this – and the Lord gently reminded me through your words that I was believing lies and needed to look at truth. I love the 3 points of view – and that is now a “tool in my toolbox” for working through these times.

    Thank you so much, Renee, for continuing to share your heart with us!!

  319. Christina Beebe says:

    I loved today’s devotional! I often have to remind myself that I can do SOMETHING right! Even if it is just saying I love you to my husband and child! After my last back surgery in April I have often had to look at something I had done and remind myself that I did it to the best of my ability for right now. It may not measure up to what I could have done 8 months ago but that is ok. God loves me just as I am! Even when I or something I do is not “perfect”!

  320. One day I was feeling discourage about work and I noticed a piece of paper on the floor. it was an old calendar paper from one of those one-a-day rip off calendar devotionals and it was a reminder we do our work for Godand not for man. And no, it wasn’t a current one so I felt it was meant for me to find.

  321. I enjoyed reading your article, thank you for sharing. I often struggle with thinking I’m never good enough, but after reading this I am good enough in God’s eyes and that’s all that matters.

  322. Peg J. Ribble says:

    God is always there to help us out & He keeps telling me we are perfect in His eyes. So I just need to listen more to Him & not to others.

  323. Lisa Richardson says:

    This is funny that I read this today. Last night during dinner at church I asked another mother what her children thought about Sunday school. My husband and I recently took over teaching their class. My husband leads the RA’s on Wednesday night, so he knows some of the kids well. Anyway, this mother told me that her kids said it was ok… it was different..not as much fun as before and that her son held a little resentment towards my husband for something that had happened at camp during the summer. I was stunned. I had no idea there was a problem, no one had said anything to us. Anyway, when we got home I was talking to my husband about it. We were both upset.. thinking our best wasn’t good enough.. that maybe we had made a mistake teaching..maybe God wasn’t calling us to teach… Then today, my husband was reading his Bible and read the verse in 2 Peter and we both realized that we let Satan chew us up and spit us out last night. Our hearts are in the right place, we are being obedient to God, we will look at our lesson and see if there is anyway to change it up a bit and be more fun, but bottom line we want the kids to hear about God and what He has done and is doing in their lives…

  324. Thank you for this timely message. It spoke volumes to my heart, I’ve been struggling a lot lately with attacks from the devil. These attacks have come through the one thing I love most, my daughter. I am dealing with the enemy constantly. God bless!

  325. Kathleen Bennefield says:

    I often feel my best is not good enough, but I offer it to HIM and pray He’ll use it for His glory!!

  326. My take away from this devotional is asking God to clear my thoughts of what others think or feel about me. Asking for that peace within beyond anyone’s understanding, asking the Holy Spirit for the strength I need to stop beating myself up trying to please everybody. I’ve come realize thought guidance and the Word of God and prayer, that I’m good!!! Thank You so much for this insight.

  327. I would love to win this “bundle”.

  328. Sammie Warwick says:

    It is so easy to second-guess myself, especially in my job. Thank you for this daily devotional. It really hit home with me. I try to turn all my problems over to God and ask Him to give me the peace and confidence to do the best I can.

  329. The struggles we place ourselves in are not thT ones He calls us to. Your devotions and both books teach me time and time again, that I need to go to Him and trust Him and I can rest assured that I am good in His sight and strong enough to push through.
    Thank you for the inspiration and your courage.

  330. Thank you for this insight-perfect timing for me!! Everyday I feel inadequate, and Saran magnifies it for me by making me feel useless and unforgiven. A wonderful idea-to see us as God sees us! Forgiven! Equipped! LOVED!!!

  331. Thank you for this insight-perfect timing for me!! Everyday I feel inadequate, and Satan magnifies it for me by making me feel useless and unforgiven. A wonderful idea-to see us as God sees us! Forgiven! Equipped! LOVED!!!

  332. Kristin Sparkman says:

    I have had lots of hurtful things happen with friendships this year and it is hard to want to invest in peoples lives and not just withdrawal. I love what you wrote about ” can feel offended, but I don’t have to be offended.

    I can feel insecure, but I don’t have to act insecure.

    I can feel angry, but I don’t have to respond in anger.”
    Such a great reminder for me.

    Thank you for all you do.

  333. If I was always at “my best”, maybe life wouldn’t be so difficult. With one daughter at college and the other one depressed/lonely/grieving her sister’s absence (and not going to school after I leave for my school), I have not been at my best lately, and I have felt like such a bad mother. I know that I also need to unclutter my thoughts and pray…

  334. It’s always a joy as well as informative to read your posts. Thanks

  335. Es grandioso poder caminar con Dios que es tan poderoso y amoroso en todo momento de mi vida es mi guía perpetuo me agarro de su mano fuerte y no me suelto me da la gran fuerza de un búfalo para seguir con gran alegría,fuerza y animo ante cualquier circunstancia de mi vida.Gracias a Dios voy adelante,siempre,adelante. Saludos desde Oaxaca de Juarez,Oax. México. Dios le cuide.

  336. Slowly learning to preform for my audience of One! It’s hard to focus and not be distracted. Thank you for your honesty!

  337. MaLeia Coy says:

    This is just what I needed today!!! So often in the midst of a struggle God uses these devotionals to encourage my heart. Isn’t He amazing?! I find myself moving toward a crossroads after obtaing my degree at 35years old. I have been feeling overwhelmed with “what’s next”. Good just reminded me to do my best. If I do the work God will show up. That is a life lesson I learned from a previous devotional & have clung to. Thank you for letting the Lord use you.

  338. Lisa Fernbach says:

    Thank you for you daily thoughts! They always seem to hit home some way.

  339. Lisa McCaskey says:

    This devotion was what I needed today. I recently left a job (career) after more than 17 years and what you described is how I felt. Unfortunately, I did not have the wisdom to look at the situation as you described here. I am seeking God’s help to move past the hurt of condemnation and disappointment. And trusting His plan because He knew then where I would end up. Thank you for sharing.

  340. I just recently had a friend tell me that she could never work her way into my clique! I felt like the wind had been knocked out of me. I am passionate about eliminating the clique and the friends I would deem closest to me often fault me for not spending enough exclusive time with them. It was too much confusion. It broke me. I asked God to help me see clearly and He brought to mind several moment I had invited this friend into my life and into my “clique”. I didn’t need to bring that to her attention (I had already addressed one that came to mind immediately) but I needed it for my own peace of mind. It also just confirmed that God is to be my best friend and is helping me refocus my efforts on my relationship with Him. I truly cannot please humans. It was your Confident Heart that helped remind me that God is the one who will not disappoint… I am human and I will disappoint others. Thanks for your ministry!

  341. Christina Dwyer says:

    I have a problem with trying to be perfect. It gets worse the older I get and I expect my children to do the same. Thank you for reminding me that whatever the outcome of what we do, if we try our best, it is good enough for God. We shouldn’t let human expectations rule our lives, but God’s expectations!

  342. Thank you so much for this….as a full-time working mom I strive to “have it all together”. But sometimes that just isn’t going to happen, we are human and we make mistakes. Trying to learn from them and trying to be better organized shows that you did not intend to let things fall through the cracks but you are willing and desire to make things right.

  343. I felt God was ‘nudging’ me to step into being a back-up for a leader of a woman’s ministry in our church. She was excited and the ladies seemed to receive me well. As they shared their stories of abuse, my eyes would fill with tears for them & the pain they went through yet rejoice at how God had rescued & redeemed them. After several weeks, the leader asked if we could get together. I told my husband “I’m about to be fired”; “why would you think that?” Just a ‘gut’ feeling, or maybe God preparing me. When the leader & I got together, she could hardly make eye contact and we were just ‘chattering’; finally, I said, smiling, ‘you’re going to fire me aren’t you?’ She laughed and asked why I would ask that; told her it was okay, God had put me into that place for a reason & I was ok with whatever – just wanted what was best for the ladies. “Yes, there’ve been comments made that you cry too much and you’ve never had their struggles so how could you understand what they’re going through?” (don’t remember much else of the ‘why’). Ouch! In that moment, I was okay to be ‘relieved’ of the responsibility. Later, the enemy used it against me, trying to keep me from stepping into any other opportunities – ‘you’re not enough, you don’t know enough, not good enough’ etc. What he intended for evil, God truly meant for good. I’ve been able to continue to love these ladies as God allows our paths to cross & He has opened so many other doors! I am so thankful for God’s grace and that we are overcomers in Him!

  344. Karen Carlson says:

    I seem to set goals as to what I think God wants me to do and I always fail to achieve them. I start to dwell on how disappointed God must be in me. The devil is there to whisper in my ear, “Karen, how can God love you when you keep doing these things that you know aren’t good for you?” Sometimes I start to believe his lies, and then I remember that there is nothing good in me that makes be “worthy” of salvation, but God sees what I can become when I give Him control of my life. He is Love, His love never changes, no matter what I do or how many times I disappoint Him. He is so wonderful!

  345. Loved this. I often struggle as most of us with not measuring up to the gal the neighbor the co-worker. Women can be so competitive and I struggle to fit in. But I love the giveaways so I’m in.

  346. That gut-wrenching feeling in the pit of your stomach is familiar to me. But, thank God, so is the belief that I can learn from my mistakes and press on and that fear does not have the final say. The book A CONFIDENT HEART How to Stop Doubting Yourself & Live in the Security of God’s Promises by Renee Swope has made such a difference in my life. I have always been a fearful person. Until I learned to fail forward, and embrace my God-given purpose, passions, and personality and have become determined to become the person God intends for me to be. It is still a daily decision, and I sometimes fail. But by the grace of God, I am “becoming!”
    God has given me a passion for learning and ministering through sign language. I am learning, but am basically still a new student of the language. This week, I signed a couple of songs for a worship service. I didn’t do as well as I wanted, and started to feel like a failure, then realized that I can use the experience to press on and use it to push me forward. I am living and moving into my dream.
    Thank you Renee Swope for being transparent enough to write your story and share your experiences. They are a treasure to me, and I look forward to reading and growing with you in the future.

  347. Proverbs deeply touches my heart and ministers to me. THANK YOU for your servanthood to Jesus and for sharing your wisdom/life story. GOD BLESS!!!!!!

  348. As a self-confessed perfectionist (and also lately Satan has been reminding me of my “shortcomings” in the past tempting me to have that “not good enough” feeling again), I am reminded by today’s devotional to resist the whispers of the enemy and rest in God’s love and grace. The spiritual truths you shared comfort and enlighten me…that these feelings of guilt and not being good enough are just the devil’s accusations, not what I first thought as conviction from the Holy Spirit. How consoling to know that God’s standard is not that of man. How refreshing to be reminded of the fact that God looks at our motives and intentions (faithfulness) rather on the “success” of our actions (fruitfulness). Thank you, Father God! Thank you, Jesus!

  349. I love how you talked about how you had a tendency to let negative thoughts linger for too long. I can so relate to that. I can play a bad parenting decision over and over in my head until I convince myself that I have no right raising children. And like you, as I spent more and more time in God’s word, I began to see how my thoughts were more consistent with the enemy’s than with God’s word. I still struggle, but now I can more easily discern between satan’s condemnation and the Lord’s gracious correction.

  350. Delores McPherson says:

    This was such a good and practical article. Not only did it help remind me that I am ultimately responsible to God for doing my best. It gave practical advice as to what to do in those times when I don’t measure up. Forgive myself, make honest evaluations, seek God’s face, and then make the appropriate adjustments so that I can not only serve God, but others as well.

  351. Virginia Walter says:

    I am so grateful for today’s devotion. I have been struggling so much lately with feeling inadequate. I have always had a problem with negative thoughts running rampant in my head. These two things paired together have made my last 3 years so tough. My husband left me, I lost my home, I am living with my in laws and feel like such a burden…but I am doing my best. Your devotion reminded me that my best is enough for God, and he is all that matters. I love receiving the daily devotions from Proverbs 31. Thank you for the wonderful words of encouragement you all provide!! God Bless you!

  352. Melissa Wallace says:

    It is so easy to jump to those negative thoughts when things don’t go right. It is always me. I am never good enough. I just can’t do anything right. Yep- it seems that I jump to those thoughts each time. But I don’t let them take over anymore. I fight them with God’s Word.

    I read A Confident Heart for the first time a few years ago. Your book really helped me change the way I look at myself and how I react to things. Thank you so much for writing it and sharing your heart.

    Thank you for continuing to share your heart. God Bless You!

  353. I’m a huge fan of Encouragement For Today. Every time I read them, the Lord speaks to my heart. This one was a reminder that I was not created to be defeated, guilty, ashamed or unworthy… I was created to be victorious. There are days I fall short of victory! If I remember to look up, spend time with Jesus, I regain victory. Thank you for sharing God’s Holy Word. Thank you for sharing your struggles, it is encouraging to know I’m not the only one. Blessings! Mary Wescott

  354. Maureen G. says:

    I let those thoughts over power me a lot and then I hear the soft whisper through a verse or a devotion like this! That’s when I write those verses or quotes on index cards and put them around the house! Thanks for the reminder!!

  355. Rosalind Roberts says:

    Your words are words of wisdom and truly come from the heart because they blessed my heart today. Thanks for sharing them and continue to do so. I will share these with others just as they were shared with me in hopes of warming someone else’s heart that needs it.

  356. I am so needing to hear this today. The devil is filling my head full of bad self thought and negativity about my life right now. Need to keep repeating this verse over and over. Thanks so much!

  357. Annette D. says:

    I loved this post. I am currently separated from my husband and feeling like I can “do no right” with my husband or my children. It’s just a hard place right now. But thank you for reminding me to turn to God and not let the devil in!!

  358. Dawn Vander Tuig says:

    I love this post because it is so true. It took me a long time to realize that little voice I hear telling me I’m not good enough is actually the devil telling me lies. I had to stop what I’m going and just pray at that moment and that always helps!

  359. Jennifer Vore says:

    I have felt my best wasn’t good enough for a long time. I went through twenty years of depression, being a perfectionist and a people pleaser and it was exhausting. I couldn’t do it anymore. When I finally stopped trying to control my world and let God take over, it was the most freeing feeling I have ever had. I still slip from time to time but I know that God knows I am doing my best. I looked in the mirror one day and asked God to help me see me the way He sees me. That changed my life.

    • Jennifer, I am exactly in the position you were in, addicted to being a perfectionist in my professional life, working overtime, exhausted, and not taking time for my own physical and spiritual health. For various reasons I’ve felt inferior in my personal life for 30+ years, so I’ve focused solely on my profession where I strive to make an impact on others’ lives. It is a process to change thought patterns, but I am blessed with an amazing faith-filled supervisor and co-worker who are encouraging me along the way, and an even more amazing, glorious, & forgiving God who knows my heart, loves me for who I am, blesses me in what I do, and is ever-patient with me while I learn to “Let Go and Let God”. I thank Him and Proverbs 31 for these daily devotionals that are so meaningful and a blessing to so many.

  360. Yes. I was a meth addict for twelve years. During that time I came out pregnant with a child I didn’t want to have. Growing up being sexual molested I had shut my feelings out so I wasn’t excited about this pregnancy. I kept using and had my son in bad environments. My mother ended up taking him when he was a baby. I had my son and Continued to use. Well once he started school we noticed he was not catching on and not able to keep up with students. Come to find d out he had a brain disease. He deals with retardation. Every day for me use to be hard to wake up and face this when I got clear and sober 9 years ago. Christ came in and turned my life around and restored my life with my kids but when my son struggles this is the first thing that I feel Satan uses to attack me. It’s not easy having to watch your 16 yr old boy struggle and have the mind of a seven year old. But my story is God’s story so glory to God now

  361. Jennifer Nixon says:

    I am very much a people pleaser. So, I inevitably, end up letting someone down somewhere along the way. The devil does a bang up job convincing me of how big of a failure I truly am. Letting me believe that my best just isn’t cutting it. I want more, Lord. I want so much more!

  362. Koby Mitchell says:

    This was so helpful! I could say so much, but I will narrow it down to the point that motivates me most. Being in management I am big on accountability. Unfortunately, being a perfectionist as well, I often find myself wallowing in self-pity when I am in the hot seat of being held accountable for my own mistakes. In order to get the heat off of me I often resort to “blaming” rather than “claiming”. I love the 3 steps, but most of all the first step because it challenges me to look at what I’m being held accountable for “logically.” This is pure, raw truth void of my opinion, excuses, and emotions. Approaching it logically first, will help me to be able to proceed to the next two steps with a better perspective considering the feelings and perspective of all parties involved and not just my own. Thank you for this! I’m going to make a template of the steps and follow this process whenever applicable in my life moving forward. My life is forever changed. Thank you again!

  363. Debbie Kay says:

    I am on my fourth marriage and really, truly thought I had finally found my prince. I thought everything was good – we have some problems but mostly I chose to overlook them as he is a good man – not a good husband – but a good man. Five months ago he blindsided me with the fact that he wants me out, immediately if not sooner, he just wants to work and kill zombies on his computers. I am 61 yrs old, can’t work and he is my sole support. I’ve begged, cried, pleaded, bargained, done everything I can with him and God. I don’t want to leave. I’m scared to my bones. I will have to leave my two little furbabies behind as he won’t pay the extra $100 it would cost for me for rent to have them. I am falling apart and it is only through the Christian love and encouragement from some new fb friends that are helping me and my strong faith in God. I’ve been crying for five months now – when do the tears dry up?

  364. vimalkumari david says:

    I was really moved and touched by this. As God teaches us to be encouraged through Him is the best I could gather!

  365. Pam Messenger says:

    I know this feeling well. Feeling like one is never good enough. Praise God He is teaching me to think like He thinks which goes something like this most of the time, “That is a lie from the enemy. If you are misunderstood, so what. I was misunderstood and it is okay.” I praise God for His constant teaching and training me to be and think more and more like Him.

  366. I have felt like I have never been good enough from a very young age- I am now 48. it is something I am trying hard to work on- I know I am good enough for God, but the devil sure tries to derail me.

    I am definitely a people pleaser and I find it really hard to say no to anyone- another thing I am working on as I have spread myself too thin and I also have health issues that have hit me hard since the beginning of the year. I need to learn to say no sometimes so I can say yes to myself and family more often. Stress obviously makes my health issues worse, so I have to learn to say no. One day at a time.

  367. Jennifer King says:

    The devil loves to remind me how “awful” a person I really am. I have a situation in my life that reminds me how much I need God’s grace and I need to remember that is all I need. It is a struggle because this situation is a consequence of my sinful nature. I am going on faith that it is not what defines me but God’s grace is. Thank you-Jennifer

  368. Thank you for this devotional. It was perfect timing as alway. I felt it was written just for me but see how I am not alone. We need to know we are good enough and not believe the lies.

  369. Thank you for this. I have recently experienced this and this devotional was so relevant. God has been teaching me to trust His truths over my feelings. It is His promises that keep me going. Thank you again.

  370. I sure did need to read this today. It seems no matter how hard I try to do something it is never good enough. So I give up and say what’s the use. I need to pray more that God will give me the wisdom to discern what is truth and the lies of the devil. I need to commit I CAN do all things through Christ who strengthens me. I need to do things to please Him and not men.

  371. I loved this devotional…speaks right to my heart.

  372. I tell myself that trying to meet everyone’s expectations in everything I do in a day means I’m taking away the focus on meeting God’s expectations. If I could meet one person’s expectations, I’m in a better place at the end of the day if I’ve focused on God’s purpose for my life. I can so easily be down on myself at the end of the day for not doing enough in other people’s eyes.

  373. Evalyn Elliott says:

    One of the biggest regrets of my life is that I wasn’t enough, and that ultimately led my husband to move out and “seek happiness” 2 years ago. Our divorce will be final this month, after 29 years of marriage and two daughters. I wasn’t pretty enough, thin enough, open minded enough, flexible enough, didn’t make enough money… the list goes on and on. It is a daily battle now to give all of that to God, and know God’s truths that indeed I am enough for Him, and that’s all that counts.

  374. Kathy Forsyth says:

    I’m a registered nurse who caught a medication error that I made before I gave it to my patient. Even though no harm occurred, I have been tormented by this mistake. I needed to hear this. Thanks for sharing this devotion.

  375. Linda Jackson says:

    This was so timely for me, although I found it a week later than it was posted. Just two days ago I fought this same battle – leaving work feeling like I’d failed AGAIN and so, of course, I was a failure. In this case, I wasn’t even entirely sure what I’d done wrong, because i’d been told, “We’ll talk about it another time.” On my ride home I battled my thoughts with God’s truth. I KNOW I am loved, forgiven, precious to Him. As one of my current favorite songs states, “He knows my name”!! I know those truths. But I forget, and I let Satan have his way with me. This devotion not only reminded me to fight that battle, but gave me the ammunition to not only wage that war, but win it. Praise God!!

  376. I know if I have failed someone else or just failed in all aspects of my life . “I will fall
    (Righteous) seven times, they rise again”(proverbs 24:16) I need to keep my eyes fixed on God. As it says in Romans 8:28 ” I am assured that God works for my good in all circumstances. ” I feel that it’s so reassuring for our confidence in life that “God is always with us. ” Thank you, Renee Swope for your 7 day Doubt Diet devotional it has truly given me the tools to help my walk with Christ in all areas of my life.

  377. Denise Brown says:

    Thank you for reminding me that I am not the only one who feels they never reach the standards they set for me. I am a pastor’s wife and I know I set the standards to high for myself. Thank you for reminding me that God just wants me to be who He made me.

  378. This is one website I don’t mind hanging around longer than I should. lol God’s word NEVER comes back void, and I need it every hour! A mother of 5 and a very busy husband can make for a bit of stress and “whoa is me” attitude. But God knows what time of day it is, and your devotions help me keep my mind and heart focused on ‘His will and not my own”. God bless you! Diana:)

  379. I loved your devotion today. It was what I really needed to hear. I try so hard to please my husband but no matter what I do it’s wrong. I know that without God I will never please him. He is a good man but I am a failure as a wife as he said. I know through prayer and faith it will get better. My faith keeps me strong and I know God will get us through this. .

  380. Lisa Elias says:

    Last winter I went through a 6 month physical, mental, emotional and at times spiritual time. I lost nearly 30 pounds (not on purpose) and was constantly falling apart anywhere and everywhere. It was made worse by getting anxiety all the time and had many panic attacks. I finally decided to make a “note ” to myself and continue to add to it regularly. The note is called “Words to live by” which consists of many scriptures and inspirational sayings. I was often wondering, why is this happening to me? I was constantly down on my ability to be a wife, mother, daughter and daughter in law and a friend to others who also needed a friend because I was such a mess but then I would constantly read my note and add to it and it would give me more peace and even use my situation to be more understanding of others. Devotions like yours are a great help, thank you.

  381. this was a great read for me as I made a big mistake today and let someone down…. I just found your blog and the Proverbs 31 site~ I look forward to reading more. THank you.

  382. Thank you for sharing. Such a strong powerful message to every young woman, mother and child, I am enough.

  383. Ohhh – knowing our worth in Christ even when we don’t feel we measure up — this is so where I am right now in my life. It’s an ongoing challenge – to listen to Him and hold that Truth in my heart and now allow the enemy that room.

  384. Kelli Wright says:

    Thank you for reminding me that it’s what God thinks that is important! I have always been a people pleaser, and it is exhausting. Many days, I feel like it’s never enough. Thanks again for your encouraging words, and reminding me of the promises I already know!

  385. Allie Van Hee says:

    Today I decided to take a little time to read my numerous unread emails from Proverbs 31. I haven’t not wanted to read them, I just haven’t had the time. Or so I thought. Turns out when I took the time to read God’s word, He had a message for me. This semester at college has been brutal with all that I have going on and I have never felt more unintelligent or more crunched for time. I strive to do the best I can in my classes, and time commitments. But, when things don’t go right, I feel like a failure and feel stupid. This (and You Can’t Cram for What Matters Most) devotion helped me to remember to stay confident and keep doing what I know is my best while making small blocks of time of more value. God is on my side and I need to bring my prayers to Him when my best isn’t good enough. Such a great eye-opener!! Thank you so much!

  386. Hi Rene,
    I am so grateful for todays devotional and for you and your books and website. Thank you so so much I have always whipped myself mercilessly. I have struggled for many years with Approval Addiction and trying to be perfect, which i never will be. Self Acceptance and loving myself as God loves me unconditionally is part of my recovery process. I have come a long way with the Grace of God. This morning i was whipping myself over a little incident at work. I realize now that Saton was trying to rob me of my peace. I will not allow that to happen. I have the power to choose,how exciting, thank you for todays devotional which set my mind on the right track, the Lord Bless you and keep you Rene.

    Terrie

  387. one of my bible verses for today is Psalm 73 “my heart and flesh may fail but he is my strength of my heart and portion forever.” Humbling moments come, I appreciated your questions to help evaluate the situation and learn from it. But, what I find mist helpful in my weekly meltdowns on not being enough is that He is, and that is exactly what He wants me to remember. Noy my inadequacies, but His sufficiency. I am so thankful that He is my strength and so thankful for others that also seek Him in the storms.

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