Messy Beautiful Love

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A guest post from my friend, ~Darlene Schacht, The Time-Warp Wife

Darkness enveloped the sky drawing its curtain around us, while the rumble of thunder composed a symphony of sound that was carried by on the wings of the wind.

It was only 8 pm, but Michael was fast asleep. Stretched out on his recliner by the window, he dozed off while two little puppies wrestled under his chair.

The steady tip-tapping of rain made me want to curl up beside him and fall asleep too, but I had some dishes that needed to be cleared away and some laundry to do for the morning.

I wasn’t surprised to see him sleeping like that. I knew he’d be exhausted after the crazy week he just had. Working overtime every night, he was struggling to catch up at work.

And the weekend? It wasn’t much better. Since he’s been at the shop so much lately, the honey-do list was long and he was determined to get it all done.

He’s a hard worker, there’s no doubt about that. And weeks like this remind me of just how hard he pushes himself when the going gets tough.

There’s a lot of weight on that man’s shoulders. In fact, I can say that about most husbands I know. Even when they aren’t facing deadlines at work, they are dealing with the spiritual and financial responsibilities that come with leading a family.

While many of them appear to have everything under control, most of our husbands would not only appreciate encouragement from us, they would benefit from it.

Any mom who cares for a growing child knows the importance of praise in their children’s life. Not only does it help to build a healthy sense of self-esteem, it also reminds a child that he or she is loved.

In the same way, any wife who cares for her husband will also know the importance of praise in a marriage. It’s vital to a growing relationship.

Matthew L. Jacobson once wrote, “We need your affirmation – we have to have it and, oh, how we thrive with it. Typically, men are quiet about these things but that doesn’t mean we need and enjoy our wife’s affirmation any less. And every man feels it: When his woman is behind him, he can slay dragons.”

Do you realize that there are four verses in Proverbs alone that talk about nagging wives? They are referred to as quarrelsome, fretful, and a continual dripping. If you have ever experienced a leaky roof, you’ll know how annoying that is. We experienced one about 20 years ago in our back porch, and regardless of how many times I emptied the pail it would only fill up again.

That’s the danger with nagging. It becomes a never-ending habit if left unchecked, and unfortunately it festers resentment. Praise on the other hand has the reverse affect. It builds the bond of marriage and draws a couple closer together.

That’s only two of the benefits, but there are so many more. Let’s look at five of them:

  1. When you affirm him, you are affirming your love for him. Knowing that someone loves you deeply strengthens the bond of marriage. Think of it this way: we form the strongest friendships with those that we deeply trust.
  2. When you praise him for the little things he does, it’s more likely that he’ll be encouraged to repeat them in the future.
  3. When I praise my husband, whether it be in his presence or in his absence, we bear witness of our marriage covenant. Keeping in mind that marriage reflects the covenant between Jesus Christ and the church it’s important to honor our vows in the best way we know how.
  4. Kindness is an attractive quality. There’s no possible way a wife can be attractive when she’s constantly nagging her husband. Sure, you can put the pretty on, but unless you’re also attractive it wears thin. There’s nothing appealing about a critical spirit.
  5. He’ll be glad to come home. Let’s face it, the world is tough place. Many of our husbands are dealing with difficult situations at work and need a sense of relief when they walk through the door. Unfortunately, some other husbands are working with women who are building them up outside of the home. If we want a husband who is glad to come home to his wife, we can make him feel welcome by letting him know that we appreciate him, that we respect him, and that we’re glad he is with us.

You are loved by an almighty God,

~Darlene Schacht
The Time-Warp Wife

Check out Darlene Schacht’s newest book, Messy Beautiful Love: Hope and Redemption for Real-Life Marriages

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Messy Beautiful Love delivers an incredible testimony of grace that offers hope for today’s marriages and a spark for rekindling love.

Love gets messy.

Financial problems, sickness, aging parents, a chronically unhappy spouse . . . trials will inevitably come that threaten your marriage. No matter how long you’ve been married or how strong your relationship is, sooner or later you are going to have a mess to clean up.

Messy Beautiful Love is about cleaning up messes God’s way, exchanging your ideas for His, and being prepared for both the best and the worst that marriage has to offer.

When you surrender your relationship to God, then and only then will you experience the blessing of marriage as He intended. This is the blessing of obedience.

Messy Beautiful Love is an invitation to that obedience. The cynical world says marriages don’t last, but God knows better. Tune out the world and tune in to Him. When you do that, a beautiful marriage is not only possible, it’s inevitable.

Want to win a copy?

We’re giving away two copies of Darlene’s book, Messy Beautiful Love. Enter to WIN a copy by clicking “Share Your Thoughts” below this post, and leave us a comment telling us something you love about your husband. We’ll randomly choose two winners. {If you’re reading this via email, click here to ENTER TO WIN by leaving a comment on my blog}

About Renee

Renee Swope is a Word-lover, story-teller, heart-encourager and grace-needer. She's also a wife, mom, friend, daughter and author of A Confident Heart, a Retailers Choice Award winning book that became a best-seller and has been published in six languages, with over 150,000 copies sold. Renee is speaks around the country at women's events and and serves on the writing team for DaySpring’s inCourage blog. For twenty years, Renee served in leadership at Proverbs 31 Ministries and as former co-host of the ministry's radio program, “Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee.

Comments

  1. Lara Bloyed says:

    I love how my husband finds me beautiful when I don’t see it and how he lifts me up when I fall. He is my strength on Earth that God has blessed me with.

  2. Nicole Oliver says:

    One of the many things I love about my husband is how selfless he is. He is the most caring, respectful man I have ever met.

  3. One of the things I love about my husband is his caring and generous spirit. One time we passed a guy standing beside the road with a sign. My husband turned in the first fast food place we came to bought a meal and took it back to the guy and gave it to him. He did this at a time when he was struggling with God (and still is) so it impressed me even more. He has such a heart for people hurting.

  4. There are times I do not understand my husbands line of thinking, but I was just reminded on Sunday by a dear friend from church that he is very special. My friend’s husband is an over the road trucker, and many people ask how her husband is doing, my husband, Kerry, asks her how she is doing and it totally makes her day. I need to ask God for his perspective on my husband. I have much to learn.

  5. One of the things I love about my husband is that he doesn’t mind going places with me… such as family gatherings, antiquing, the farmers market, etc.

  6. I am Blessed by the Almighty God with a loving, caring husband who is the spiritual and financial provider for our precious family. I am uplifted by all of you beautiful ladies and your words of wisdom. Thank you emmensely! Blessings in Christ Jesus~

  7. I would LOVE to win this book for my daughter who is getting married next Saturday, October 4th. Thank you for the giveaway!

  8. Mandy Hawkins says:

    I love my husband for being so committed in all that he does. He is always dedicated to providing for his family.

  9. We have moved a lot! And with each move, it is a choice to take better care of our family for one reason or another that life has thrown our way. My husband is a great provider and is always looking to help others, even in our most difficult times.

  10. What I love about my husband is that he works so hard for us. He rarely has free time and never complains. I know he’s unhappy with his job, but keeps on plugging because we need him to.

  11. Wow, thanks for sharing. I could really use this book to help me in our relationship. You spoke of many things. We have been married for 29 years but those have not always been the happiest of years. My husband is the sole bread winner in the home and there is always more for him to do or deal with when he gets home from a long day at work. I know I am not always the encouragement or affirming wife I need to be. I would love to read this book and study what all God says to me about changing me to support and love my husband more.

  12. I love the deep down connection my husband and I share even in the messiest of times it is uncanny how we can be having the same thoughts and ideas.

  13. Regina Horstman says:

    I am blessed with a wonderful husband. Sometimes I get caught up in the busyness of life and lose sight of that. He is always willing to to help out without being asked, always there with a helping hand not only to me and our family but to others in need. He is a remarkable man of God who lives out his faith.

  14. Carol Duncan says:

    I love the heart my husband has for serving The Lord and how he shares his talents every day ministering toGod’s people!

  15. I love my husband because he is so caring, giving and has a grreat sense of humor. People often comment, “how do you put up with that?” or “you must laugh all the time.” Yes, it is one of the things I love best about him. But the absolute number one thing I love about him is his love for our Lord, and the spiritual leadership he gives. He has always had a strong work ethic, and in fact, I thought Darlene was talking about my husband when she described hers. In a few weeeks we’ll celebrate 25 yrs of marriage. Even through the tough times, I can’t imagine doing life without him.

  16. My husband is a wonderful man of God. He’s been a provider for our home. We’ve had some rough roads because we came together as a blended family. People often say blended families do not last. Well, I’m here to tell you they do if God is in the midst. It’s not been easy but we have been married for 10 years and our girls are 17, 17, and 14. When we got married they were 7, 7, and 4. I have said from the beginning of our relationship that he is my angel. I had went through a bad divorce and felt my life was just a complete mess. Then I met him and he’s been wonderful and very supportive. He is a retired Army veteran who served in the Iraq War in 2003. He loves the military and would love to go back active duty if he could. We are going through a big hurdle right now that is challenging but God will see us through. My husband has multiple myeloma which is bone cancer and terminal. He was diagnosed last year and has been through so much in a years time. It is believed that being in Iraq is the reason for his cancer. We are in the process of proving our case at this time. He just says that he handing this disease over to God. Thank you so much and God bless each and everyone of you.

  17. One thing that I love about my husband is his servants heart. He just wants to serve the Lord. He has such a heart to help people. Yes sometimes I get annoyed with people asking him to help because he can’t say no to helping, but it’s one of the things I love about him.

  18. What a wonderful reminder! I need to work more at praising my husband! When life gets busy, it seems that is the easiest thing to forget, but the one things that needs to be remembered.

  19. I really need this book; my marriage is in a tough place and I want to fight to get it back. I’m going to start by praising my husband and want to learn more.

  20. – I love to see the joy that overtakes my husband when he is helping someone! 🙂 Whether it is cleaning out someone’s gutters for them, helping them with yard work or just helping someone move, he comes alive when he is able to do something for someone! …I love that about him! ♥

  21. I find it the most amazing thing is when he knows what is on my mind before I ever have to tell him. Makes me know he is very connected to me.

  22. I lost my husband 9 years ago to cancer and had been married for 39 years. It was a long marriage but not always a good one. Single then, 4 months ago I remarried. I have only known Bob since Nov., but I couldn’t love anyone more. He is kind and considerate and treats me very special. We care how each other is feeling and what we can do for each other to make the other person happy. We want to do things for each other instead of feeling that we have to. I thank God everyday for sending Bob to me, he is a. Very special man and I love him dearly.

  23. I love that my husband still finds me desirable after 14 years of marriage and how much he is willing to give to provide for our family.

  24. I love my husband because he is a hard working provider for our family,

  25. This is a beautiful book to share with so many women who are brought up in the now world, and for many that means they each think of themselves more than the other, and marriage is hard enough as it is already, but if you don’t have God’s love, and love like He does, and women in your lives who teach you to love your husbands – marriages are in trouble. We need material like this out there as so many of us take our husbands for granted…and we should tell them we appreciate all they do even if it’s take the trash out so we can continue doing what we need to do. My man, is a worship leader, works full-time as I do and we clean on the side to make ends meet. I fall short on telling him and showing him how much he means to me and how I appreciate all that he does for his family and the body of Christs. We often times get caught up in the chaos of life, but truly need to remember what is important and that is loving, honoring and keeping our men built up so they can be all that they can be – through that, they will see/feel love and honor us as well.

    Blessings to all….
    Penny

  26. My husband-to-be…he keeps me grounded when I jump to being irritated with someone, reminding me that I don’t know what they are going through and God has a plan. And he is always thoughtful, thinking of me when he’s out & about, and bringing me home small treasures when he finds something he thinks I will like or can use. Love this man!

  27. My husband is my best friend..we have been together since high school and I love how we have grown up together. He has taught me how to love and he has loved me when I didn’t deserve his love.

  28. I love how my husband shows me his love daily, and loves our children. He is determined to do whatever he has to to provide for us.

  29. So true!! Every relationship gets ‘messy’ at times, and it is ONLY through God’s strength and HELP that we get through. After all, we are ALL human!! Praise God for His mercy!! Terri Kirk

  30. I love the closeness my husband and I share. I often communicate my appreciation for him. He is my closest friend.

  31. Sarah Miller says:

    My husband and I just celebrated our 11th annniversary. He is my rock and I couldnt imagine life without him. He constantly gives to others, even when we have little to offer ourselves, he remains positive in trials, he is very creative, has many talents and most of all loves his family and provides. He is quite a tough guy on the outside and a manly man, but as his wife I know the softer gentle side of him and he reserves those tender moments for me.

  32. You guys are just so amazing with the books you come out with, They so touch us right wear we’re at. If I had know God growing up I would have looked for a Proverbs 31 man if that is correct to have one. I grew up in an abusive home, had a baby out of wedlock just to have something I could love and would love me back. Unfortunately my baby’s father was exactly like my dad. I married him to get away from my home. It lasted 5 years. My spirit was gone and then God gave me that wonderful man to love me unconditionally. My body is deformed through so many surgeries but he thinks I’m beautiful. He lets me be the child I never got to be growing up. My parents can’t say a kind word to us ore each other no. They’ve been married 69 years and they are the most hateful people I know with no empathy for anyone. He’s 92 and she’s 90. I haven’t always done things the Godly way but my husband never thinks bad of anyone. I don’t want to be a bickering couple as we grow old like I see so many couples do. I would love to win the book and see how much better my marriage can be. My husband is a diabetic and I’ve had 25 abdominal surgeries and 9 nose surgeries so we have a sexless marriage. I know there is other ways to treat each other like King and
    Queen. Do you think you will be doing an online bible study of it. So many people get married now knowing that if anything goes wrong they don’t have to work it out, they can get a divorce. What are we teaching our young people that are just starting their lives. We need both mom and dad’s to show how to treat each other especially dad’s with their daughters. With the right father showing the daughter how to be treated like a lady she will choose a mate that treats her like a lady too. Thanks.

    • I’ll be having 31 days of prayer on my blog this October, and Women Living Well is having a book club in November. You have been through so much. My heart goes out to you. And I see that God has provided the perfect man to ride these waves with. I rejoice at the gift you have in your husband.

  33. My husband has one of the sweetest spirits I have ever known….a real softy inside….and a wonderful provider and father to our children….but, even with all that, we have had some highs and lows over our 26 years of marriage. I would love to have this book to help in anyway that I can to have more and higher highs and many, many fewer lows….and so my husband and I can even be better role models to our children of what marriage is all about…a Christ-centered marriage, which can look very different from most other marriages in this world…..

  34. Now that’s a hard question… How do I narrow it down? He balances me… My struggles are his strengths. He listens well and understands when no one else does. He’s my best friend! He loves people and cares about their needs and hurts. He’s everyone’s hero… He’s MY hero!

  35. After 3 months of dating, and married 1 year after our first official date, 32 years of marriage and 5 kids, I feel truly blessed! Yes we do have our ups and downs, but when friends, relatives around us are getting divorced, (married close to the same time we were) we realize how important it is to Support. I don’t want to be the nagging wife, patience is sometimes not my greatest virtue! Trying to be more positive to everyone around me. The books you have are great, and I have re-read several. I would love to add this to my collection.

  36. I love that my husband is willing to help when he sees a need, whether it’s with recycling, driving older parents to the city when needed or packing food for the third world countries!

  37. Although my husband and I are complete opposite on things most of the time, I’m so glad God chose him for my husband. Today’s message really hit home because I look back at this week, and I’ve been nagging way too much lately. My husband works six days a week, and I expect him to have the energy and work as hard as I do around the house.. I work around the clock and often get frustrated because my husband is resting on the couch and not helping me. I love my husband for loving me despite my faults, and he is a wonderful father to our three children. God has surely blessed me.

  38. I love my husband because of his ever so kind heart, he is compassionate and brightens other’s day. He not only compliments me on a daily basis but also compliments those he comes in contact with! I am amazed at his ability to pick up the little things in others and compliments them. It is awesome to see the look on their faces when they receive this from him! Not a day goes by where he doesn’t show me how much I mean to him, he cannot walk past me without touching me in some small way, and we have been married for 38 years!

  39. Appreciating anyone makes them feel great and wanting to do more, how much more your loving and caring husband, you cannot overdo it.

  40. cheryl williams says:

    Very encouraging words to help save marriages today.

  41. These are such great points! Frequently thanking and appreciating your husband’s hard work and his role as a leader also gives him the respect he needs!

  42. I love that my husband loves the Lord and therefore is able to love me flaws and all. He is truly a picture of God’s love for me… I love that he leads our family to God and he teaches me as the Lord teaches him – I’ve been so blessed by him! He brings to life the scripture of 1 Corinthians 11:1 Imitate me, just as I also imitate Christ.

  43. Paula Blake says:

    my husband is so forgiving when it takes me forever to let things go. he also doesn’t nag me when I continue to screw up, like I do him.

  44. My husband and I have been married 44 years……we have had our ups and our downs but have always managed to overcome and go on. Ten months ago the ugly head of porn rose up in our home. I just didn’t know if I could go on…my heart was broken…..I prayed and asked for God to help me forgive him… while I was praying my prayer…my husband went before God and repented and made a vow with God to never do this again….. to make a very long story short…..I forgave….He has kept his vow….almost 11 months clean….and we began a new journey together to rekindle the things in our marragie that had died….it has been an amazing journey so far……My husband is really an amazing man….. I would love to win this book so we could read it together and to continue to grow in this journey we are in right now.

  45. My husband is not a Christian, but he goes to church with and has for 25 years. He has changed so much over those years. I am so thankful he supports me in caring for my parents. He keeps the grass cut and weed eats, drives them when we have to take them for doctor appointments. He does all the up keep on their rental property’s, which is a lot of hard work. It gets hard for both of us, my father has Alzheimer’s and Mother cares for him and she has health issues also.

    I feel like your book is very needed for the days we live in. We all are so busy and rushed we forget sometimes to say loving and kind things to our husbands.

  46. I would love to win this book!
    I love my husband he is my high school sweetheart and after being married for 8 years I still fall more and more in love with him. He is the best!

  47. My husband constantly thinks of others before himself and I love him for that!

  48. I have just been through 5 months of being sick, my husband has loved me and cared for me with no complaints at all, he has chosen to miss certain things to stay home with me, even miss work, he has laid in bed with me when I needed his comfort to go to sleep. I have loved him for his love for me, he is a great man.

  49. I really need this book. I was married but we went through such difficult times. He said I didn’t affirm him enough when I though I was. I felt like walking on egg shells in this marriage trying to please someone. I really dont know……..I pray that I will be blessed with a husband and reading this message has been a blessing to me.

  50. My husband is such a hard worker and I appreciate that so much. And, although I am one of those insufferable women who always feels ugly, he is so good at making me think that he does NOT feel that way in the least and always makes me feel desired.

  51. I love and appreciate that my husband puts up with me and all my faults and messes. He is a hard worker and is very involved with our kids sports.

  52. What I love about my husband is that no matter how messy things are for us whether it be family, finance, lack of time together, overworked, etc he always remains calm and collect and reassures us that we will be fine. He does all that he can so I can stay home and take care of our children.

  53. My husband is not born again: He doesn’t believe in God. It is hard and I show him by example who God is and His love. My husband is caring, hardworking loving man. He cares for me and God has blessed our relationship. He cared(physically) for me when I had brain surgery and could not do a thing for myself: he basically kept me out of a nursing home. I appreciate him, love and care for him. Times are tough right now and he is turning inward with no hope. I continually pray that God would open his heart to Him. There is always hope and I persevere with God’s new mercies and grace each day!! He is my man!!

  54. My husband and I just celebrated our 35th wedding anniversary in August. Everyday is a struggle to survive after the loss of our son in 2009 and my husbands subsequent infidelity. Sometimes it hurts just to breathe. But the Lord’s mercies are new every morning and I am learning at age 53 for the first time what it truly means to trust in Him completely. Pray for us. Especially my husband. All that we have been through has caused him to, as he puts it, “question his faith”. Spiritually, he doesn’t even remotely resemble the man I married. His mind is entangled in a web of Satan’s lies and schemes about what this world has to offer, and seems to have decided that God’s Word is flawed and outdated. I pray constantly that God’s will grab hold of his heart and bring him back to his senses. Please pray God will give me the strength to love him unconditionally. I struggle with being still and waiting for God’s perfect timing, and daily surrendering to His will and way in my life and in our marriage.
    Sandra – the porn and “gentlemen’s clubs” have made their way into our home as well. Praise God that he revealed Himself to your husband and brought him to repentance! I pray God will do this in my home so we can start our own amazing journey!

  55. Gerri Almond says:

    I love my husband because of who he is and he loves me just the way I am. He encourages me and supports me. He has a heart to serve God by serving others less fortunate or who need help whether it is a widow or a disabled person needing their lawn mowed or leaves raked, or just helping where there are needs. Just last night, he thought of me while in the grocery store buying his type of coffee creamer, he bought my type as well. God blessed me through him with that what he might have thought a small gester, but to me a huge blessing. It reminded me that I need to be more thoughtful and encouraging. This book sounds like one that I need to read and be reminded of how God created marriage to be.

  56. I love my husband’s small things he does. Like Lysa our time is in the evening when he brings me a cup of tea.
    He is loyal and loved me through times I had given up.
    The book sounds like such a vehicle to learn, grow and build a more solid relationship for us and God. Thank you XO

  57. I love how my husband cares so much about providing for us. He is a hard-working man who only wants the best for our family.

  58. I love when my husband makes me laugh

  59. Jessica Brevard says:

    My husband is a protector. He encourages me and tells me how proud he is of me since I have returned to school. He has become disabled and unable to work in the past 2 years. It is very hard for him because he doesn’t feel like a man or provider for our family. He helps the kids with homework and helps with chores around the house when he is feeling well enough too. I am so very blessed to have this man for my husband. We have been together for 7 years and not all of them great but each trial has brought us closer to God and to each other. This sounds like a great book for our relationship and I look forward to reading it. (Whether I win a copy or not, I will get a copy)

  60. I love that my husband is organized because at home, I am not. I also love that he doesn’t mind doing dishes!

  61. My husband is faithful & trustworthy.

  62. Tammy Parker says:

    This sure would be a great helper as I do tend to nag and feel justified by doing so. My husband or I didn’t grow up with any positive marriages for us to immolate. One thing that I am grateful for is that he’s always had the desire to support our family. I’m looking to do things differently now. I’m tired of always fussing and complaining. Thanks in advance!

  63. I’m currently waiting for Him to show me another husband – if that’s what He intends for me. Having this book would be good thoughts to help guide me.

  64. I love that my husband now seeks The Lord and desires to live a Godly life! Praise God!

  65. I love that my husband is so even in his temperament when I many times do not rely on God to help me with coping skills. This sounds like a great book for me to learn how to surrender and be a better wife. When my life gets out of balance, I want God to be my first line of defense, my source of strength, comfort, and peace. My default temperament seems to be to react instead of respond and that is not very Christ-like. I am praying earnestly for God to change this in me.

  66. I love my messy, beautiful life and I love my husband and respect him like crazy. He’s the hardest working guy I know – at his job, at being a father, at being a husband, at being all that he’s called to be. I’m so thankful that God knows exactly who to give to each of us!

  67. Angelica Salinas says:

    I find life interesting with my husband. We have been married for 18 yrs now and am blessed to have him in my life. We have a family that sticks together thru thick n thin Nomatter what comes our way. Yes my husband makes decisions sometimes that is hard to accept, but he does it for a reason. It’s awesome the life we have, although it gets sticky, ugly, stinky, and all kinda of stuff that doesn’t feel good. But it’s the glory and blessings we enjoy when the storm passes that I look forward to. Thank you for writing this book, I am a work in progress, a runner in this race, and an overcomer in Jesus. Look forward to reading your book.

  68. I love his beautiful green eyes and that he works tirelessly very long hours to provide for us even though he does not enjoy his job. I also love that even though he was not raised in a religious home he has given his life to Christ truly making our home a house that serves the Lord. (As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord!) 🙂

  69. Thank you for sharing 6 Reasons to Build Up Our Husbands. I needed this confirmation. I am learning to look past all the mistakes and imperfections of my husband and just love.

  70. I love that my husband cooks, and is good at it. He likes to cook (I could take or leave it) and he’s adventurous in his creations. I also love how he fathers our daughter. He is an awesome daddy.

  71. My first husband’s primary love language was words of affirmation & that was a hard one – I spoke well of and to him but it took awhile to learn how to ‘speak’ not just flattery but words that affirmed his character. He passed away and I have been blessed with a second marriage. I’m learning that he receives notes of appreciation at a deeper, heart level more than speaking to him; he also is ‘lifted up’ when someone shares what I’ve spoken to them about him! It’s been exciting seeing God birth ‘new’ strengths in him as he ‘hears’ what others see in him. Ladies, it’s so important to not emasculate our men. Kinda like Peter Rabbit quoting his Mama in Bambi “If you can’t say nothin’ nice, don’t say nothin’ at all!”

  72. We are celebrating our 16-year wedding anniversary today and would love to win a copy of this book to become a better wife.

  73. I love that he is such a hard worker at his job.

  74. He worries about keeping everything working for me!

  75. Kathy Sturgis says:

    Yes, messy, but God is teaching me lots. This book could help.

  76. What I love about my husband is he has a sense of humor and very talented and working hard.

  77. My husband has always been there for me. We support each other, and I am so blessed to have him.

  78. My husband and I both lost our fathers this summer – within 7 weeks of each other – and we are working hard to buoy each other up each day, getting accustomed to our loss. There was a service scheduled honoring my dad in a town about 45 minutes from home yesterday, and after an exhausting day at work, I knew my husband did not want to make the trip. With no complaining, he generously changed his clothes and hopped into the car, showing me as he always does that our needs together are more important than his needs alone. I am blessed to have him on our journey.

  79. I love my husband because he came I to my life during a very dark time. I was going thru pastoral sexual abuse and trying to overcome childhood sexual abuse while being newly Wed. He rescued me and starting teaching me about God. He helped me to understand who God is and he loved on me during a time where my heart was so closeed up. He also took in my too kids as his very own and took on all the duties of a Father. He loved me with the love of Christ something I didn’t even know existed for me. We went thru a very hard time in our marriage while I was trying to heal from all the abuse I had encountered in my life and we never had the honey moon stage. We went from marriage to just trying to survive as I was a broke mess. He stood by my side and today we are 6 years strong now helping others in their walk with God

  80. My husband is amazing he is always there for me and our family no matter what. Works overtime to help with the bills after I lost my job. He is my other half and completes me perfectly. I thank God for him everyday!!

  81. B'Elanna's Mom says:

    I am sure I need this book, but our finances our very tight due to my husband not having full time employment. So, I am blogging now and praying to be one of ladies that is fortunate to win this book.

  82. Thanks for this reminder! In fact, God’s been convicting me of complaining to my husband and you gave me a whole list of reasons to nip that bad habit off in the bud…

  83. What a wonderful message! I don’t suppose I qualify, I cannot brag on my hubby… I am an old maid, a spinster. I devoted my life to taking care of my parents, teaching children and loving my nieces and nephews. I have had three beautiful nieces get married in the last three years. They had awesome weddings and love their spouses dearly. Two are in wonderful Christian marriages, doing advanced college classes work and working. They would love this book and would share as they are loving sisters.

  84. Elaine Segstro says:

    My husband is so sensitive to my needs, and has been throughout our 35 years of marriage. He is a wonderful listener, and supports me in all that I do. I love hearing him say “I love you”. We really are best friends too! We so enjoy getaways together 🙂

  85. I love how my husband loves God, loves me and loves our kids. He travels in the sales industry but always makes a point to call our sweet children before bed and each morning before school. Even when there is a large time difference. Sometimes he has to get up at 4 to catch us before school. Those little things make all the difference!

  86. I love my husband’s hugs!!!

  87. I love my husband’s quick wit and GREAT sense of humor…he can bring a smile to my face even in the most difficult of times. And even more I love that He is a man of character and integrity….the same in the house and outside the house. Before we ever walked down the aisle he said once married neither of our lips could ever utter the word “divorce.” If we were going to do this thing, it would be forever. And we have done that…27 years later those words have never been spoken in our home, and I praise God for that.

    Thank you for your words today. I needed to hear them today. 🙂

    Blessings,

    Wendy

  88. I love how my husband knows me well enough to give me the best surprises. Also thanks for the reminder of being nagging and critical. I know I slip into that so easily and am still learning how to avoid it.

  89. I love my hubby’s ability to make me laugh!

  90. Sherri Owens says:

    He puts mine and the boys needs above his.

  91. My husband and I are a great team! He helps me so much with house work and it’s such a blessing because we both work and real life takes over and the rest is history. He is working so hard on his masters and always provides for our family. He knows he has so much potential and is putting in the hard work now to give our family an even better future. I would love a copy of the book because there is always growth and I am open to hear what He can teach me through the book about being an even better wife to him!

  92. I love how my husband works so hard for our family. He is always finding ways to make a little extra cash through surveys, studies, etc.

  93. Debbie Stewart says:

    This sounds like a wonderful book. I look forward to reading it. It’s a great reminder to appreciate and recognize what a wonderful partner I have in my husband.

  94. My husband loves his family, great dad to our kids, hard worker, great provider, serves our country, and is kind.

  95. One of the many things I love about my husband is that he is such a hard worker and devoted husband and father. He has always been a awesome provider for our family. He is faithful to me, our children, and to God. I pray that God will continue to strengthen our marriage and show me how to better support him in all he does. This book would be amazing to read. Thank you and God bless.

  96. My hubby is a super-hard worker…he goes above and beyond to provide for us! He is also a great protector…my hero 🙂

  97. After 35+ years of marriage I’m still in love with the man I married, not just because of the man he was when we repeated our vows, but because of the Godly husband, father, and grandfather he strives to be on a daily basis.

  98. My husband is a very hard working,honest man. We will be married 28 years & have had our share of trials from miscarriage,loss of our oldest son,teenage trials ,failed adoptions,cancer ,sickness & adoption of a special needs child but my husband is my pillar of strength that seeks God & gives me the love & comfort I need . He is my BEST FRIEND !!

  99. Suz Conchinha says:

    I love the fact that my husband loves Jesus more than me! I respect that kind of love. It makes loving him all the more easier!

  100. Stephanie O says:

    I love that my husband is always calm and loving. Even if I am nagging or angry with him he is always loving. He doesn’t complain even if I am. :-/

  101. My husband of 20 years has brought out the best in me, encourages me and believes in me. And he’s willing to take me out for a “girlie” lunch at my favorite coffee shop!

  102. I love that my husband thinks I’m worth pursuing.

  103. This may sound silly, every morning my husband lays out my work clothes for me and try’s to coordinate my underclothes with them. He cooks our breakfast while I make our lunch! Although our marriage hasn’t been perfect, it’s perfect for our family.

  104. I love how much he loves me. I love his love for our children, his protectiveness and loyalty. I love to hear him pray for us.

  105. I am blessed to have married the man that God intended for me. Twenty nine years so far. He works so hard for his family and loves us unconditionally.

  106. No matter how bad it got when I was in the worst of my depression, he stuck by me, did his work outside the home as well as mine inside the home, supported me and loved me anyway. He has truly loved me in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health.

  107. My husband takes are of all the finances, maintains the house and vehicles,all without complaining. He is a great provider and protector. He is my high school sweatheart – married for 28 years. He has a great work ethic.

  108. I’m new to this whole being married thing and it’s so strange/fun to refer to him as my husband! We just got married in June this year.

    I love my husband because he has the most giving and committed heart. He pursues me well, even when I don’t deserve it. He is romantic, tender, and loving. He is willing to work through the hard moments with me. What a blessing to have this wonderful man in my life!

  109. I am so blessed to have married the love of my life 21 years ago. We are recently “empty nesters” and I love being able to spend time with just him. It’s pretty neat!

  110. One Of the things I love about my husband is his kind heart.

  111. Thanks for the reminder that our guys need to be praised…and thanks for the chance to win your new book.

  112. I love the way my husband loves “our” grandson (he married into having our grandson from my daughter)! He tells me all the time that he could not love this little guy any more than he already does, even if he wasn’t his Grandaddy by blood. Makes my beam! Our grandson actually lived with us for three years. I love them both so much.

  113. Linda Maybee says:

    I appreciate my husband’s wisdom and discernment. These are truly gifts God has given him and I am so thankful for how he has poured his wisdom into our daughters. They are blessed to have him as their dad.

  114. I love that my husband can make me laugh until it hurts! In a world so full of heartache and pain it feels so wonderful to laugh with the man I love!

  115. He goes above and beyond for me and our 2 girls. I am very fortunate and lucky.

  116. Jolene Patterson says:

    We are still very much so newlyweds and learning how to do this. We have both had a failed marriage previously.. God is at the center of our marriage but we have been arguing so much lately! This is not easy, but I definitely thank God for this man, EVERYDAY!! He is a great guy! Such a blessing!

  117. Babs Harrell says:

    We will celebrate our 12th Wedding Anniversary this weekend. In all those years, my husband has only called in sick once and he was so sick he couldn’t even sit up. He is such a hard worker and I know that he works hard to provide for us so that I can stay home with the boys and homeschool. I am so thankful for that hardworking spirit that he can pass on to our children. He does a good job of leaving his work there and not bringing it home so he can spend time with his family. I am very thankful God gave him to me. 🙂

  118. Liz Tompkins says:

    I love my husband very much. However, I hear how much we should build them up but what about us working women who are expected to bring home a paycheck and keep the home in perfect order… I really need some affirmation at this point. I struggle with the balance of home, work and family. I feel the positive effects of giving the extra energy to my husband but when I am at my tipping point, I feel like I’m weak and unable to provide. Where is the reaffirmation for the wives who pull double duty? I have struggled for a long time now and I need help.

  119. Love the book and this post! Thanks, Darlene. Pinning now.

  120. Thanks Darlene for uplifting and guiding words, we have been married for just four months and even though ours is a long distance marriage, my husband makes the effort to continuously make me feel loved and appreciated, which in turns makes me feel safe. He has taken me and my daughter and loved her as his own. I thank God for him, and thank God for His work through you.

  121. I’ve loved my husband for many years. We’ve been married almost 43 years in December and have two grown kids and four grandchildren. Praise the Lord. I know I can do better as a a wife and reading books like yours gives me encouragement, motivation and tools. Would love to win a copy of your book. I have lots of young wives I could pass it along to as well.

  122. My husband is a very kind hearted, giving and selfless man. While I have known this about him for nearly 22 years, I somehow allowed the business of life and the familiarity of marriage to stuff those thoughts deep in my soul. That is until recently, when I made a very genuine choice to filter the chaos in my life and truly listen to God’s voice – allowing him to reveal to me the areas in my life that weren’t getting the best of me. My husband was at the top of this list. Thank you God for this revelation and for your mercy and grace!

  123. I would love to win your new book since my husband and I are in a mess right now. We separated a few months ago for almost a year. He is back at home, however, we are still having problems.

  124. Oh how I need to be reminded of these things daily. My husband is disabled so he can’t work and it causes a lot of issues for us – financially, emotionally, spiritually AND also relationally. He often feels it is “his fault” and building him up is a challenging battle most of the time. I fail often at being his cheerleader and his support system.. I let bitterness and unrealistic expectations get the best of me some days… I try to be encouraging, loving and supportive but with the role of ‘breadwinner’ stripped away from my husband; it is hard to get through to him.. He lashes back.. often leading to a defensive mode for me – which of course is led by the enemy… Any tips or practices to help me better manage my role as a wife and really walk the will God has for me in the way He has planned would be most appreciated!

  125. I respect how hard my husband works and how great of a father he is!

  126. My husband works so hard. He strives to see everyone through our Heavenly Father’s eyes. He really listens and looks for ways to bless my life. He gives me the freedom to be totally, freely me–even my not so pretty parts–yet doesn’t encourage me to stay stuck in those areas because he knows how much pain they cause me. My husband is truly an answer to so many prayers.

  127. My husband just buried his father. He had the responsibility of making all the arrangements for two viewings and the funeral itself. We’ve been married 34 years, plenty of time to collect hurts and pain between us, but as I watched him over the last week, none of that mattered. The love I have for him was strengthened in a way I can’t explain. I had struggled with feeling our marriage had no hope, and all those doubts have faded and been replaced with such respect for him and trust in him. God has used a horrible situation to renew our love for each other, and I’m so thankful.

  128. My husband is such a great father to our four boys. Even though we married young (we were only 20 years old!) I knew he was going to be a wonderful father. I was right!

  129. #5….I use to get annoyed and think “with all the stuff that has to be done how can he just go to sleep like like that?” But I am learning to be thankful that he wants to come home and our home feels like such a safe place for him to rest and I strive to be more like him. Cherish the moment and yes I would have put those dishes on hold and curled up beside him 🙂

  130. Michelle Jane says:

    I’m not married but I want to be and I want to prepare myself!♡

  131. When I think of my husband of 23 years I think of the total package! Inside and out he is still who I want for life. I love his dedication to our family, and I know we are safe and will be led the right way, God’s way. My prayer is that I always take time to show him the blessing he is to me and our children.

  132. My husband is currently working 15 hours away from us… Another state. It has been almost 2 years of this… Five days each month he come home. We’re trying to sell our house and hope we will all be living together next year. People always say “I don’t know how you do it…” it is hard on me and the kids but my husband has it worse in my mind. The stress of living away from us, providing for us, not seeing us daily. I try to make sure I tell him daily his much I appreciate HIM… his sacrifices and hard work, his love and his devotion… but I’m sure I fall short.

  133. My husband is a hard worker and is ambitious. I was the nagging wife and didn’t love him, honor him and show my gratitude to him for all he was to me. He took special care of me especially when I was sick and had many surgeries I saw and felt his love for me then more than ever. But when I got better I forgot all his love and patience and dedication to me. I have so many regrets. We are separated but I m believing in God for His miracle for us. I dont know how or when but I am TRUSTING GOD. Thank you for this I am glad I was able to speak great and special things about my husband. God bless you all.

  134. Such a great reminder of how to support our husband’s!

  135. I’m one of those unhappy, resentful wives right now. I’m sure my husband hates coming home to a constantly depressed wife. In Celebrate Recovery, counseling, etc. I’ve been depressed most of my life and feel so stuck, trapped, hopeless sometimes. May God have mercy on me!!!

    • Felicia Parak says:

      Dear Renee,

      I will pray for you. You are loved of the Savior, I have a friend who has your struggle, and I believe what helps her the most is dwelling on the promises of God. Like in Colo. 3 When I fall into that, what helps me is reading the book the excellent wife, and memorizing scripture to fight the temptations. But making my own devotional journal has helped, getting up ever morning and saying good morning Lord, instead of saying, Good Lord it is morning. I think if you have a consistent quiet time with God it will help.
      I put hymns and song in my journal I have sang that morning, it is interesting to note that, when I get to busy for my time with God , my mood swings are awful. Hang in there, God is still able to change us and make us a wife our husbands want to be around. Try sharing with your husband what you are learning in God`s Word, and he will begin to be built up and see Christ love in you. Love in Christ Felicia

  136. Lana Archer says:

    So important to encourage your husband…it comes back to you and builds a fortress of love that can withstand any troubles or challenges that come..

  137. Amanda Alvarez says:

    I love my husband because even though our marriage is going through an extremely rough season he continues to recommit himself daily to our marriage, our family and our Lord, through prayer, counseling and the study of Gods word.

  138. Anita Connelly says:

    I love my husband because he shows me on a continual basis how Jesus loves. He is amazing and I’ve never known anyone like him. He works 60-70 hrs a week and goes to school full time. Plus still stays being a great husband and dad. He loves Jesus more than he loves me and that is how I know how he can love me fully.

  139. Brandy Hampton says:

    I have always said and believed that it is easy to fall in love with me, but impossible to stay in love with me. This is because everyone has always left me when times get a little rough. Even my mother. But my husband, David, has stood by me and loved me THROUGH the touch times and he is the exception to my belief. We are just beginning our life together, but we have had to walk through some “stuff”. As hard as I made life for both of us, he’s stuck with me and loved me regardless. I’m so blessed for this man that God gifted to be to adjust me vision and chisel me to be more like Jesus. And David truly is a gift and inspiration to me, always pointing me back to the cross.

    And I’ve found that everyday writing on the dry erase board a new note of gratefulness to the lord about my husband has encouraged us both!

  140. I love my husbands playful spirit

  141. Kristin Sparkman says:

    I used to be a nagging wife. It didn’t work. The more I tell my husband how much I respect him and appreciate all the hard work he does for our family the more he flourishes. He even started making the bed every day.

  142. Lisa Bostic says:

    My husband has a positive attitude and helps keep me positive when at times I want to be negative and complain. We are a team and help each other get thru each day. He makes me feel beautiful when I don’t . I am the luckiest girl to have married my best friend!

  143. My husband has a capacity to serve like no one else I know. He gives beyond the extra mile which can be one of his greatest strengths but can sometimes pose as a weakness too. I love it that God chose me to be his helper and am so thankful for His grace in our marriage for the past 25 years. My husband faithfully encourages me, blesses me, helps me practically, emotionally & spiritually. He is a beautiful example to our two young adult daughters and definitely raises the bar when it comes to qualities of a godly man! I love him more than I could have possibly imagined & am still crazy about the guy!

  144. My husband is a wonderful man. He is my best friend and confidant. He willingly provides for our family day in and day out. He is a daily reminder of dutiful-sacrifice as he is both a member of military and a prospective police officer. His willingness to protect our family, country, and community is one of those qualities I may never understand, but am always supportive of. He is a rock and role model for many, including our children. He makes time to help our children grow in their love for Christ and reminds me daily of the love Christ had for his church through the love and friendship he extends to me.

  145. My husband, Paul, and I, just finished doing a ten week Couples Bible Study with a book called “So What Did You Expect?” It was about life after marriage and what we must do to keep our marriages strong. Mostly I think I would say, Have a “Veridical relationship with God then a horizontal relationship with your spouse.

    Also, that we are sinners and can improve our relationships with our spouse by communicating, forgiving one another and grace. God has helped my spouse and I get back to having better conversations, focusing on the positive in one another and reaching out and praying daily together.

    God is so good,” Nothing Is Impossible With God!”

    Mary Kaiser, more in love with God and my spouse than ever!!!!

  146. I love how he strives to make things right for his family….

  147. One of the things I love about my husband is he never complains about what the house looks like. He has helped me to be more relaxed about trying to keep a perfect house, which never happens when you have kids. I also love it when we pray together or when he prays for me.

  148. When my husband comes home from work each day its like he’s been away for a month – he is so excited to see us all! The neighbours asked for some of his happy pills!! Watching him study and grow spiritually encourages me to grow alongside him which is sometimes hard to find time when you homeschool –

  149. I love that my husband is always willing to protect me and how he worries about my well being.

  150. Susan morgan says:

    I love that my husband always kisses me hello and goodbye! Even if he’s just running to the store. He always puts me before himself and the kids. This is after 21 years of marriage. I love him so very much.

  151. I will celebrate my 30th wedding anniversary this year. How time flies! They say it’s supposed to get easier and in some ways it has but…maybe not. Just because you become more comfortable with someone doesn’t make it a great relationship. I’m guilty of not appreciating my husband, of taking him for-granted. Thank you for sharing your devotional with us!

  152. I appreciate his unconditional love and attentiveness to my needs…Thanks for the chance to win! 🙂

  153. Always need to grow and be reminded of thoughtful deeds and needs. Thank you

  154. God has been doing such a work in my husband and my marriage. We started out rough but slowly are getting it together. It would be such a blessing to get this book !!

  155. I would live to win a copy of the book . We just celebrated our 38 th anniversary . We had our ups n down. It ‘s only by the grace of God that we r still together. My husband is such a hard worker n I try to pray for him everyday that God lifts his heavy load at work. I have worked 2 jobs just to help out with bills . It’s been hard but God has helped n blest us.

  156. I really need the help, and I feel like I benefited so much just from the email.

  157. Forwarded this to my bible study group. We were just talking about this last week at study. Thank you for sharing!!!!

  158. My Dear Husband suffers from mental illness. I appreciate his desire to be involved in the work of Christ and his love for Him and for the children and I. I love the way he always tries his best to do things. He is my best friend.
    Linda

  159. I love that he always takes time out of his day to text, email or call me and check in on my day.

  160. martha pigott says:

    Love the article on supporting your spouse.

  161. What I love about my husband is that he can comfort me when I’m down like no other (human) person can.

  162. My husband is a hard worker and will do anything for his family. We are a young family and trying to do what we can to raise a family on God and love. Often times my husband and I burn out and our marriage suffers because of this. We could use some help in navigating through this. I think the book would help.

  163. I love how my husband lets me be messy and then wipes away the tears with love when I am! I love him also for then speaking truth into me in love even if it hurts because then he helps to heal the wounds he’s necessarily created <3

  164. Alexandra says:

    This was a great article for me to read. I sometimes forget that my husband wants, needs, and sometimes seeks my attention, affection, and approval. Sometimes I get so side tracked with the day to day things I do that I forget he has a lot on his plate as well. Thank you for this article. It’s always great to have that little reminder that our marriage isn’t about the hustle and bustle of the everyday but on the ways we can bless each other and in turn bless our family.

  165. My husband shows me that he loves me even when I’m at my most unlovable..

  166. I love my husband, it’s crystal clear to everyone in our vicinity… But I sometimes worry its not so clear to him. I suspect the issues lies with my level of comfort with him… I trust in his love and thus take him for granted at times, my people pleasing nature gets such a work out in the other areas of my life that I am on empty by the time it comes to my husband and I find myself being short, uncompromising and domineering…. I hear my words sometimes and I immediately want to call them back, to wish them unsaid- they are born of frustration and exhaustion not of truth or love and it breaks my heart that he may take them on board and add them to his burdens. Thanks for this blog post, it certainly has made some things clearer for me and I’m definitely going to apply some of these principles starting now

  167. Gretchen Scoleri says:

    I love that he is creative, even domestic and cooks better than I do! Love it 🙂 he has shown me Gods love time and time again by how He loves me

  168. I love that my husband is always there for me, always making the effort to try to help me and support me. Our lives certainly are not easy but it makes it a lot easier knowing he is a part of this life WITH me and not IN COMPETITION with me.

  169. My husband is my best friend and biggest help in this world. We have 6 children together and 2 have special needs and we make a good team. He is a good communicator and always makes me laugh. It’s not always been easy in our 23 years of marriage but always worth it.

  170. Recently we’ve been through a lot in our marriage, my husband lost his job a year ago. He was without a job for the entire year. Our marriage took a lot of strain as all the financial responsibilities became mine. However, although bits of bitternes and less communication tried to break us down…every time God came and show me the person I married 10 years ago. The Holy Spirit reminded me all the time to see in my husband the small things that he does…his attitude toward me never changed, he treated me always with respect, although I was not so nice to him many times.
    Today I can say I love him so much…because of God’s love for me…I am able to love my husband. We still have a lot to work through…but with Gods grace Im sure we will make it till death do us part.

  171. I love my husband for who he is. He has always been my biggest cheerleader and a listening discerning ear.

  172. I love my husband for the selfless way he loves and cares for my children and I.

  173. Kim Anthony says:

    I love that my husband supports me in all that I do and is always there to pick me up if I fall. His love is a blessing to me.

  174. Praise the Lord for this sight. I hope I win the free resources. So far everything on the blog has been very inspiring and encouraging to me in my daily life. Thank you.

  175. My husband has an admirably strong work ethic. No matter how tired he is, he will use his gift to help anyone in need, friend or stranger. I can’t count the times I’ve sent him to the store for something and he has come home with a story of seeing someone having car trouble, or in need financially, that he has stopped to help. ♥

  176. Loved reading your inspiring words – thank you!!

  177. Holly Jespersen says:

    Would love to win a copy of your inspiring words.

  178. I recently got married and it’s been an awesome journey so far. I’d love to win this book so I can learn how o can keep encouraging my husband.

  179. This sounds like a very encouraging read.

  180. melissa homner says:

    Wow. I could really use help right now. Trying to recover and put things back together after my husband had an extended affair with my sister. I just don’t know how to do this. God has been my refuge and strength and I have hung onto him with a death grip. He has literally held me together. I am so broken. Some days He helps me just to breathe. We have three beautiful boys that we both love so much. I have no where else to turn but to Him.

  181. melissa homner says:

    Just posting an email address so I can see replies. Thanks.

  182. My husband compliments me so perfectly, where I am weak in areas he is strong. He is so patient, kind, and gentle with me and our two older son’s. He truly is a gift to me from God! My husband is the love of my life next to God!! (God comes first, then my husband and then our son’s).
    He is myBestest Bud too!! I’m truly blessed to be married to my husband.
    Our marriage is still a work in progress, we’ve had our share of up’s and down’s in the 26 years married.
    There was a very hard time in our marriage that nearly ended us.
    But God…
    He has grown our marriage into something I at one time never thought or imagined possible!!
    When I began to learn the power in praying for our marriage and the Lord began turning things around according to His Will, not mine… I had to learn to be in His will for our marriage, both my husband and I surrendered our hearts and lift our marriage and lives to Him. His Will be done, not ours.
    God has done amazing things in our marriage though faithfulness,obedience and prayer.
    Praying scripture over our marriage also has grown us in leaps and bounds. I encourage all couples to pray over thier marriages.
    We serve a Great God!! God is good All of the time!!
    He can save the deadest of marriages! Believe me, He saved mine!! Never doubt or loose hope in your marriage, He is bigger then our marriage issues. He is Almighty God!! King of Kings and Lord of Lords.
    God Bless each of you~

  183. Sorry about my few spelling mistakes in my post. I typed it up off my phone.. Two words should read “through” not though and the other “their” not thier. 😀

    God Bless!

  184. I find this post a blessing, made me stop being busy for a minute and realize how fortunate I am that God gave me my husband! Too often we take our gifts from God for granted!

  185. I am always looking for ways to “self-help” my marriage in any way possible. I loved reading the posts so I know the book will be just as good. We have a great relationship but there’s always room for improvement right?!

  186. diana callahan says:

    Reading all of the wonderful comments wives are making about their husbands has brought tears to my eyes and conviction to my heart. I know I should be more appreciative of my husband’s hard work ethic, but so many times I just see him putting work before me and the kids. How do I stay positive when he is working all of the time? He got promoted 3 years ago and all I can say is that I am so grateful it wasn’t any sooner!! We have 5 children. Three have graduated high school but two are still in school. I am always reminding him that our parenting isn’t done. I even got mad at him this Friday night when he said he was coming home “on time” because he had worked late every night that week. He came home late, again. Now, I want to say that my husband is a God fearing man, an excellent provider, devoted husband and father and loves being with us when he is home. I know I need to be more encouraging and not so critical. I just feel like if I am then he will continue to work late hours. He is pressured at work and doesn’t know what to do. It is a constant prayer of his asking God to help him balance it all. Even if I don’t get this book, I know I need to ask God how I can be the wife “He” wants me to be. Not the wife I think “I” need to be. I have prayed this prayer many times. We will celebrate 25 years in December. I need to get my act together so we can truly celebrate this time God has given us! I know two widows my age in our church that would love to celebrate just one more day with their husbands. “Lord, forgive me.”

  187. Needed to hear this! Thank you.

  188. I know it’s a little late…..but I love the way .mu husband cuddles with me at the end of the day.

  189. Felicia Parak says:

    I have been married now for only three years. I was such an out going person and went everywhere even the Mojave desert before I married him. Now God is teaching me it is okay to slow down and smell the roses. Life is still an adventure with him, and it is even more beautiful then I sometimes notice. This is my Mary time, the time Mary sat at the feet of Jesus, I GET to stay at home and build one, listening to my Savior and learning to build up this wonderful man. My life may not be as busy as it use to be but that`s okay there is a season of life where all is peace, and quiet. So I love reading good books on marriage anything that will help me to keep my eyes on the One that has given me everything I need for life and godliness.

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