When You Need A Little Help & A Lot of Hope

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My friend Kathi Lipp has written a book every mom needs to read. And I promise I’m not saying that because she’s my friend. I’m saying that because {you} are! Maybe we’ve never met but, because our hearts and lives are connected through my blog or Facebook page, I see you as a friend God’s brought into my life to encourage. A friend to pray for. A friend to offer hope to and remind you of God’s truth for you.

Kathi’s book is unique and the timing of it is perfect! Over the past few months, I’ve heard from countless moms who feel guilty, overwhelmed and like a failure as a mom. They are discouraged and depleted. And I’ve been there.

One of my favorite chapters in Kathi’s book is chapter 2, Don’t Hang Out in the Motherhood Alone. Now that will preach! Gosh we need to know we’re not alone, and that our kids aren’t the only kids who struggle or make horrible choices.

Today, I’ve invited Kathi to sit across the table and give us a little help and a lot of hope for our hearts. {And if you’re not a mom I hope you’ll keep reading and share this encouragement with a mom you know!}

Screen Shot 2014-06-07 at 8.31.12 PMMy kitchen table has become the Confessional, only better, since I also serve banana muffins.

“My teenager is having sex.”

“I found pot in her dresser,”

“My son got kicked out of school. Preschool.”

I’ve heard it all. All of it.

And what everyone thinks is that as soon as they confess – as soon as they tell someone else about their son cheating at school, that they will automatically move from one category to the next.

They move from Good Mom to Bad Mom.

And now everything that your friend has known as fact is up for debate:

If I’m a good mom, I will raise great kids.

If I take them to church, they will grow up trusting God.

If I pray for my kids, they will turn out fine.

All the things that parenting books and Christian talk radio promised them has gone out the window, along with their sense of self and their hope for their kids. Because of a child’s lousy decision, you or your friend’s world has fallen apart.

So what do you say to the crumpled mom who feels like a mess? The one sitting at your kitchen table or looking at you in the mirror? Here are a few things that have been said to me (and I’ve said to other moms,) that have actually helped when my kids didn’t go according to plan:

  1. “Don’t judge your parenting on one bad day.” This is especially helpful when it’s a younger child who bit their teacher, hit their brother in the head with a tool box, or had to have security called at Target because they were throwing such a fit. We all think we have great kids – until they’re not. But one bad day doesn’t undo all that parenting that you’ve poured into them.
  2. “I’m still a fan of your child!” When our child has royally messed up, there is something about another adult who you admire seeing something besides “future adult delinquent” in your child that will give you hope. Let them know how smart, funny, creative and helpful their child is. It really can make a difference. And if it’s your kid, find something to remind yourself, that is good about him.
  3. “Don’t put your faith in the sheep, put it in the Shepherd.” We base the outcome of our lives on the actions of our children. Wrong. Our hope is only in God.

Psalm 25:1-3

In you, Lord my God,
I put my trust.
I trust in you; do not let me be put to shame,
nor let my enemies triumph over me.
No one who hopes in you will ever be put to shame,
but shame will come on those
who are treacherous without cause.

When our hope is in our kids, we are slaves to shame, but when we put our hope in God there is no shame.

  1. “God has not given up on your child.” Some the greatest mentors and friends in my life were the ones who were running the furthest away from God in their teens, 20’s and 30’s and causing their parents to be on their knees constantly. God loves your child and will use other means than you to pursue his heart.
  2. “Me too.” We all need to know that we are not alone. We all need to hear the two sweetest words of community: “Me too.” Let your friend know of your failures – and your child’s failures. “Me too,” is a great sting removed to a hurting parent.

And can I say, thank you? Obviously, if your friend is confiding in you, you have done something to demonstrate that you are a safe place – a refuge. We need more yous in the world.

kathilipp-inshh-pin1ENTER TO WIN: (Thanks so much for stopping by, the GIVEAWAY is now over, but I would still love to hear from you!)
It’s easy to feel worried and anxious as a parent. There are so many areas of your child’s life that can go wrong along the way. What’s a mom to do? In I Need Some Help Here! Hope for When Your Kids Don’t Go According to Plan, Kathi meets you in your moments of panic or despair with wit and wisdom.

In each chapter, Kathi offers the most powerful tools, from prayer to practical tips, for you and your child. The book covers all of the stages of your child’s life from toddler to young adult and tackles the most common issues that cause stress and anxiety, sharing:

  • Practical wisdom when your child makes poor choices
  • How to pray when your child is running away from God
  • Comforting words fore when your child feels left out
  • “been there” advice for when your child is different than other kids

Whether you are at the end of your rope, or simply need a little extra support as you walk the parenting road, you’ll cherish Kathi’s heart, humor and experience! 

Enter to WIN 2 copies by clicking Share Your Thoughts” below!
(Thanks so much for stopping by, the GIVEAWAY is now over, but I would still love to hear from you!)
What’s one thing Kathi shared that you will tell yourself or share with a friend this week? And let us know why you’d  like to win a copy and what friend will you give the 2nd copy to if your name is chosen?

 

About Renee

Renee Swope is a Word-lover, story-teller, heart-encourager and grace-needer. She's also a wife, mom, friend, daughter and author of A Confident Heart, a Retailers Choice Award winning book that became a best-seller and has been published in six languages, with over 150,000 copies sold. Renee is speaks around the country at women's events and and serves on the writing team for DaySpring’s inCourage blog. For twenty years, Renee served in leadership at Proverbs 31 Ministries and as former co-host of the ministry's radio program, “Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee.

Comments

  1. Noel Fry-Griffin says:

    I would love to win this book and learn how to set boundaries for my almost 14 year old teenager, thank you so very much

  2. WOW!!! How amazing this book would be great for any parent. I know so many single parents who would love this book. I don’t have kids and I would love it. Thank you for sharing.

    God bless

  3. Beth Norris says:

    oh, this is wonderful! i’m a retired middle school teacher and a mother; while I wish your book had been here sooner, it’s never too late for help like this… and not just help, but Christian help. Big difference! Thank you so much. I’ll be following you.

  4. Katie Wilson says:

    Love To WIn This Book

  5. Lezli Wagner says:

    Wow! Love to win this book!

  6. Jennifer Bailey says:

    Trust the Shepherd not the sheep! I always need Godly reassurance of my parenting. I would give a copy to Missy Hines.

  7. Michelle Summers says:

    I would share twofold the facts that we shouldn’t judge ourselves by one…or several bad days…AND that GOD hasn’t given up on our children! These are both crucial in surviving as the parent of both typically developing children as well as parenting those with significant disability/special needs. My second copy would go to a lifelong friend(Jennifer Griffith) who now also has a child with a disability. We are both constantly reminded that the world can be both supportive & hurtful. This book looks uplifting in our journey both as moms & friends on this road together. I look forward to reading it even if I’m not chosen. Thank You for sharing this! 🙂

  8. I will remember I am not alone.

    I really need some encouraging in my parentings so I would love to read this book.

    Parenting is hard for a friend of mine…lots of variables going on and I hope this book might help and encourage her.

  9. Don’t put your faith in the sheep, put your faith in the Shepard.

    Amen!

  10. Charity Faragoi says:

    As a mother of 4 year old triplets I could always use some Help!!! Judging my parenting skills from one bad day stands out. I’m guilty of that!

  11. I have 5 kids. Would love to read your insight, tips, advice. Thanks for considering me.

  12. As the mother of 5 teens currently (and 2 out on their own) – I would LOVE this book and can think of a number of friends to give the other one to, as well as loan out my own copy.

  13. SandraH. says:

    I would love to win this book. I would love to share it with other Moms in my MOPs group.

  14. Erin Day says:

    How wonderful! This would be very beneficial for me these days 🙂

  15. I think the best advice I saw above was “Don’t put your faith in the sheep, put it in the Shepherd.”

    We all need to remember this every moment in our interactions with our children and others.

    I would love to have this book because by the grace of God I have five kids ages 1 1/2 to 10 – Is there more of a reason than that? 🙂

    I would share the other copy with a mom from church, one of our newer pastor’s wives, because she has 4 children age 8 and under so she may even need it more than I do!!! 🙂

    Thanks for the opportunity and all you do!!!

    God Bless!!!

  16. tgifmom says:

    The one thing shared that I will tell me self and share with another mom is to put my faith in the Shepherd not the sheep. That spoke to me so loudly that I look forward to learning more from Kathi should I be chosen to receive the two copies. Copy #2 would be given to my church library in hopes of touching multiple lives. xo

  17. Missy Boone says:

    I need this book. I am at the end of my rope. I like that she shared that our hope is not in our kids, but in God. I know that God is changing me through this process, but it is much more difficult than I thought. I need to hear as much as God’s truth as I can, so I can be triumphant and give the glory back to Him. I will share the 2nd copy with my best friend.

  18. jasmine basch says:

    i love that she shared dont judge your parenting on one day.because if feels as if i want to do that everytime i have a bad day.
    the friend i would share the other book would be christina petker she has four kids like me and we both go through “those” days… the days that i feel this book is written for

  19. This looks like a wonderful book. I feel like a horriable mom when one thing goes wrong and all pumped up when my child does something nice. I need to rely more on God and can use more encouragement and practical tips.

  20. Put your faith in the shepherd. Awesome words. I would share the other copy with my friend, Julie. We have been encouraging each other in our parenting for years.

  21. What Mom wouldn’t want to read this book!

  22. This book sounds perfect for me and my family. I would love to win this book. I would give the other copy to my sister in law Stormie Roberson! They have just adopted a 12 year old little boy and are going through some difficult times and I know this book could help them also! Thank you for writing such insightful and inspiring books!!

  23. Susan Bliss says:

    I want to share this with someone this week-When our hope is in our kids, we are slaves to shame, but when we put our hope in God there is no shame. I would like to win because I have a 10 year old son that I need tips on raising him, he’s opposite of both of his sisters & because I am mentoring ladies with toddlers/babies at our church & I need a book to help with that. I will share the other copy with my neighbor. Thanks, Susan

  24. Melanie says:

    This book sounds ‘fun”, encouraging and definitely needed. Parenting is not easy. Would love to win this book.

  25. Trust the shepherd, not the sheep. What a great reminder.

  26. Katrina Hampton says:

    I would love to win this book. I have 2 children and often feel like I blow it as a parent. I also am a teacher and feel like sometimes I do a poor job at that as well. This book sounds encouraging for those of us with less than perfect families.

  27. I would like to win this book. I have a sister and a young mom friend that I would love to share these with.

  28. MICHELLE BARTHLE says:

    I’m 27 and a mom of 3 kids (2,4, & 6 years old). I loved what you said “Don’t put your faith in the sheep, put it in the Shepherd.” This is such a great reminder for those days when you feel like a parenting failure. I can’t wait to read more words of wisdom like this in your book!

  29. This week I will definitely tell my friends “me too”! I’ve battled depression (started with Prenatal Depression) and I constantly have guilt weighing on my shoulders about being a bad mom. I’m mentally exhausted and don’t play with them like I used to and I’m more frustrated than playful. My kids are 3 and 4! I would give the second book to my friend Ashley who went through postpartum depression as well and I got to be the one who was able to say “it’s ok..me too”. We are now working together to keep each other built up and not letting our bad days claim us 🙂

  30. Heather Lessem says:

    Love this: “Don’t put your faith in the sheep, put it in the Shepherd.” My kids are only 3 and 1 1/2 but I am already struggling with so many poor choices my 3 year old makes and how to love him through those, which is why I would love to win this book. I truly need all the help I can get, especially from a woman who’s already been there! I would give the extra copy to my dear friend Susan who has 5 kids and she is desperate for some encouragement as well. 🙂

  31. Such a timely topic and encouragement for us. Would love to share this with my sister-in-law.

  32. I am a mom of 3 daughters (4, 5 and 7) and I am an elementary school teacher. I am often looking for strategies to “make it through” a day or a particular circumstance. Prayer is so important! I would be so thankful to win a book for myself and a copy to share with my sister!

  33. I am a granny now and would love to give this to my amazing daughter for her to know she is the best mom for her children!

  34. Jennifer Fulmer says:

    Wow! I really needed to read this blog tonight! Especially after the battle I just had with my teenager, on a night when my husband is working and I’m here alone, dwelling on what a rotten parent I am 🙁 I needed to be reminded of all those things, but the thing I will probably tell someone else this week is “Me, too!” I know that God is always here, but some days when everything seems to be so hard and you just feel like you are making everything worse, this parenting thing feels quite lonely. I would share with my good friend Amanda 🙂

  35. Melissa H says:

    I love the reminder that one bad day is not the defining moment of our success (or lack there of!) as a parent. Actually have a couple of friends in mind who I would love to share this with! 🙂

  36. Rachel vamschouwen says:

    I love dont judge one bad day I always feel like I’m always messing up and am at a loss with the right things to say or do with my children. And I will share that encouragement w someone else and me too in the near future bc I know as much as I need to hear this so does another mamma bc when we put our hope in God there is no shame. Thank you

  37. Michele Cole says:

    I have raised two kids on my own who are fully grown now but i have another baby 1 yr old and starting over again is so much harder than I expected. I would really love to have this book and I’d give the 2nd book to my step daughter. She has four little ones plus she’s raising her younger sister.

  38. Amanda Evans says:

    To not judge my parenting on one bad day. I would give a copy to my neighbor who recently adopted.

  39. can’t believe just how challenging parenting has been for my mom. Ultimately, it was difficult raising two kids- especially one with special needs. Just because I have cerebr…al palsy, it seemed like my parents expect more out of me than they expected from my younger brother- especially when it came down to academics When I had trouble in school with grades, my mom had the nerve to punish me and assume that I was watching too much TV- when that was actually my brother. Naturalst I could, tackling homework as soon as I got home from school. Ultimately, my brother was the opposite; he would watch TV before doing homework. Why didn’t my parents keep on his case about that? “My friend Kathi Lipp has written a book every mom needs to read. And I promise I’m not saying that because she’s my friend. I’m saying that because {you} are! Maybe we’ve never met but, because our hearts and lives are connected through my blog or Facebook page, I see you as a friend God’s brought into my life to encourage. A friend to pray for. A friend to offer hope to and remind you of God’s truth for you.

    Kathi’s book is unique and the timing of it is perfect! Over the past few months, I’ve heard from countless moms who feel guilty, overwhelmed and like a failure as a mom. They are discouraged and depleted. And I’ve been there.

    One of my favorite chapters in Kathi’s book is chapter 2, Don’t Hang Out in the Motherhood Alone. Now that will preach! Gosh we need to know we’re not alone, and that our kids aren’t the only kids who struggle or make horrible choices.

    Today, I’ve invited Kathi to sit across the table and give us a little help and a lot of hope for our hearts. {And if you’re not a mom I hope you’ll keep reading and share this encouragement with a mom you know!}

    My kitchen table has become the Confessional, only better, since I also serve banana muffins.

    “My teenager is having sex.”

    “I found pot in her dresser,”

    “My son got kicked out of school. Preschool.”

    I’ve heard it all. All of it.

    And what everyone thinks is that as soon as they confess – as soon as they tell someone else about their son cheating at school, that they will automatically move from one category to the next.

    They move from Good Mom to Bad Mom.

    And now everything that your friend has known as fact is up for debate:

    If I’m a good mom, I will raise great kids.

    If I take them to church, they will grow up trusting God.

    If I pray for my kids, they will turn out fine.

    All the things that parenting books and Christian talk radio promised them has gone out the window, along with their sense of self and their hope for their kids. Because of a child’s lousy decision, you or your friend’s world has fallen apart.

    So what do you say to the crumpled mom who feels like a mess? The one sitting at your kitchen table or looking at you in the mirror? Here are a few things that have been said to me (and I’ve said to other moms,) that have actually helped when my kids didn’t go according to plan:

    1.“Don’t judge your parenting on one bad day.” This is especially helpful when it’s a younger child who bit their teacher, hit their brother in the head with a tool box, or had to have security called at Target because they were throwing such a fit. We all think we have great kids – until they’re not. But one bad day doesn’t undo all that parenting that you’ve poured into them.
    2.“I’m still a fan of your child!” When our child has royally messed up, there is something about another adult who you admire seeing something besides “future adult delinquent” in your child that will give you hope. Let them know how smart, funny, creative and helpful their child is. It really can make a difference. And if it’s your kid, find something to remind yourself, that is good about him.
    3.“Don’t put your faith in the sheep, put it in the Shepherd.” We base the outcome of our lives on the actions of our children. Wrong. Our hope is only in God.
    Psalm 25:1-3

    In you, Lord my God, I put my trust.
    I trust in you; do not let me be put to shame,
    nor let my enemies triumph over me.
    No one who hopes in you will ever be put to shame,
    but shame will come on those
    who are treacherous without cause.

    When our hope is in our kids, we are slaves to shame, but when we put our hope in God there is no shame.

    4.“God has not given up on your child.” Some the greatest mentors and friends in my life were the ones who were running the furthest away from God in their teens, 20’s and 30’s and causing their parents to be on their knees constantly. God loves your child and will use other means than you to pursue his heart.
    5.“Me too.” We all need to know that we are not alone. We all need to hear the two sweetest words of community: “Me too.” Let your friend know of your failures – and your child’s failures. “Me too,” is a great sting removed to a hurting parent.
    And can I say, thank you? Obviously, if your friend is confiding in you, you have done something to demonstrate that you are a safe place – a refuge. We need more yous in the world.”~ Renee Swope
    Wow! I guess parents don’t exactly have all the answers. Ultimately, I know that my mom sure didn’t. Unfortunately, the biggest challenge she had to deal with took place when my brother was in his teens. During this particular time, he’d been rebelling against rules and curfews that had been put into place. I remember he’d gotten grounded once for sneaking out of the house; another time, he’d gotten punished for under-aged drinking during his first year of college. “I need some help here.” Wow! How often do we find ourselves saying this when we feel like we’re stuck in an unplanned mess that we don’t know how we got into or how to even get out of without any help from someone trustworthy in our entire lime? I think it’s normal to ask for some help occasionally. Yet, this doesn’t mean that we’re bad people whatsoever; it’s normal to need little extra assistance every now and aga. I find myself saying that occasionally. Nevertheless, my incredible husband, Ron Smith is always willing to lend me a hand. Although he’s totally blind, he does whatever he can to help me out with physical tasks I can’t do because of having cerebral palsy.

  40. Christine YH says:

    I would LOVE & APPRECIATE having this new book b/c Kathi is a funny & God-centered writer. Would like to learn to look @ parents from those perspectives b/c God has to be @ the center of our day-to-day parenting and God could be funny too! I will give the 2nd book to a mom who has younger kids and is in the thick of learning how to parent with God’s enabling. Thank U VERY VERY much in advance Renee!

  41. Laurel Wycoff says:

    As a single mom, I always need to know I’m not alone. I would either give the 2nd copy to my co-worker who is a new mom or my sister

  42. I would love to win this book. My 4-year-old has a mind of her own and does NOT think the same way I do! I frequently feel like I’m doing this parenting thing all wrong and everybody else’s kids seem to act so much better than mine. If I won I would give the second copy to my friend Polly who shared this link with me and would love some help with her 6th grader!

  43. I will take the power of saying “me too” what a relief to hear someone acknowledge they too have problems. I would love to win this book because I love anything Kathi Lipp writes!! Also I know it will teach me something I have a 6 year old and could definitely use the help..lol ! I would give the other book to my bestie my sister who has 3 kids.

  44. Chrissy says:

    “been there” advice for when your child is different than other kids…

    Having a child on the Autism spectrum… I would love to read more about this!!

    And 5.. Me too!

    I would love to read this book!

  45. Michelle Brinson says:

    “Me too.” Not sure more comforting words have ever been heard by a momma. Especially a single one who feels alone. If I win 2 copies… I would give one to my friend and neighbor who is also a single mom. I think her first words to me were “me too.”

  46. I needed the reminder that God has not given up on my children. I often feel hopeless because I see the imperfect humanness in my kids all the time since we home school. Some days, I am exhausted from the battle. I have to remind myself that I am their parent, not their Holy Spirit. Jesus is the Savior of their souls, not me. I would share this book with my friend, Susan. 🙂

  47. Stephanie says:

    Would be great! I have four adopted kiddos three with fetal alcohol so things are definitely not according to plans lol!

  48. So many truths I need to hear right now! Love the reminder that one bad moment/day doesn’t make me a bad mom. Would love to win this book and share these truths with my friends.

  49. Christin says:

    I would love a copy of this book for my sister. She has a very active 3 year old boy and an 11 month old little girl. She’s a stay at home mom and needs help! It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the daily chaos….she feels like everything she she tries doesn’t work. If I don’t win it I will most likely just buy it for her 🙂 thanks!!

  50. I love the advice about not putting our faith in the sheep, but in the shepherd. So often, especially as a now single mom, I find myself feeling like a failure every time my kids have a bad attitude or make a bad choice. It seems worse because I have no one here to encourage or back me up with them. I would LOVE and benefit so much from this book!! I have another single mom friend that I would share the other copy with. Lately we have both been feeling discouraged and this book could be just what we need!!

  51. I am struggling now with regret and guilt as my 19 year old is lost and headed on a bad path and my 16 year old isn’t fitting in. They are both boys. Trying to put trust in their foundation and in God but so worried and tormented over this.

  52. Oh my goodness, its great that a book was written. Raising kids is so difficult, today. Help is so appreciated. It’s often hard to turn to another woman for advice, for fear they will think your a failure, unless its a close friend that is having similar problems. This is not our parents time of raising kids. I would love to have this book and then share it with friends. Times are tough with a teen in our house with learning issues.

  53. Debbe hartwell says:

    I’d love to read this book. Just had a blow up today with my 12 yr old daughter. I need some help!

  54. Colleen says:

    Oh my! Could really use this book right now. She spoke volumes to me.

  55. Rebekah Slocum says:

    I’m going to remind myself to keep my trust in the Shepherd. I’ve been at my wits end lately, and I really needed this reminder! I have a friend who could use this book as well 🙂 Her kids are a challenge for her too!

  56. I really need to remember that one bad day does not make me or my husband a bad parent & I always need to be reminded to not be so quick to judge. I would give the second copy to my friend who has children about the same age as mine, we could then support each other and “compare notes”…

  57. Jen Manginelli says:

    Trust the Shepherd not the sheep!

    I would praise God if I won this book because He directed me to this offer immediately after I wrote to my son telling him I was honoring his wishes by letting him go. He has walked away from God over the past 2 years, is living a homosexual lifestyle, is in a toxic relationship, and has written most of his loved ones out of his life. I’m heartbroken. This was a child who said God was his medicine and life until the age of 18. In a sense, I feel I am sacrificing my son so God can save his soul because I question whether he was ever really saved. My 17 year old daughter has walked away from God since my son announced he is gay because she’s angry. As she has gotten further from Him, she now suffers from severe anxiety and OCD which is debilitating at times. My kids used to live for Christ. Now they are wayward, and reject God completely. I’m a mess.

    i would give this book to my friend Julie who is dealing with similar issues of wayward children – she has 3.

  58. melanie m says:

    Being a single mom…of teenage girls, is very “trying” sometimes, and I often find myself judging my skills at being a mom. God gave me these girls to raise them up in the way they should go. Am I doing that? Satan preys on our weakest moments, and its then that I stop and thank God for giving me my girls. I have told my girls not to raise their children the way I have raised them, because I am doing it all wrong. Its the words of affirmation from them that tells me…”hey, its gonna be ok”. God gave us friends, prayer partners to hold us up and help us on our way. When I approach a “seasoned” mom with the troubles I am facing, it truly is nice to hear I’ve been there…me too! I would give the other book to my “seasoned” mom who has said, “I have been there…me too”.

  59. Brittini says:

    I need this book! I struggle with issues everyday & say to myself I just need some help! I try laying it all out through prayer which always seems to help. Realizing that I’m not the only mom that feels the way I do is also comforting, but it’s easy to forget during stressful, frustrating times. I love my kids & want to give them the best of me all of the time, not just when I feel stress free. I would love to have this book!

  60. Angella Lewis says:

    My 16 yr old son will be leaving me in less than two weeks to live with his father.. I’ve had him since birth..the good, the bad & the ugly… But now he’s decided that I’m his worse enemy and dad is the better option. Where did I go wrong? Will ever love me again? Will he ever look at me and smile and not look like he wants to spit at me? My heart is broken.. But I’m also tired and feel like if it’s that bad for you..them go… It sounds harsh to even type those words. Past mistakes make me wonder if life will ever get back to normal. What if he moves there and gets involved with drugs or gets hurt? BUT what a fabulous reminder You have given… I believe the “sheep” could be myself or my son…bottom line..look to the shepherd.. HE’S GOT THIS!!

    ““Don’t put your faith in the sheep, put it in the Shepherd.” We base the outcome of our lives on the actions of our children. Wrong. Our hope is only in God.
    Psalm 25:1-3

    In you, Lord my God, I put my trust.
    I trust in you; do not let me be put to shame,
    nor let my enemies triumph over me.
    No one who hopes in you will ever be put to shame,
    but shame will come on those
    who are treacherous without cause.

    When our hope is in our kids, we are slaves to shame, but when we put our hope in God there is no shame.”

    ****that last line makes me want to shout!

    I’d love a copy of the book…and the copy would go to my next door neighbor who has shared many cups of coffee with me!

    God Bless,
    Angella L

  61. Piece of advice: when a child has messed up, being able to see something amazing in the child. I practice this with my students in my preschool classroom b/c I have found it so encouraging when someone did that for me with my children.
    We have 3 kids and two of them are strong willed! Wow it’s down right hard parenting strong willed children, sometimes it’s like I’m talking to myself. I have found that it has made me a better teacher and I’ve been able to encourage some of the parents of my students and make a difference in their lives.
    I would share my copy with my bible study girlfriend who is a single mom of four precious children who have already gone thru more in their short lives than most adults.
    Thx for the opportunity.

  62. Sharon Feener says:

    I couldn’t have seen this at a better time. My 12 year old (going on 30) and I are butting heads ALL the time, and I’ve spent too many nights feeling like I’ll never get this parenting thing right. Just reading the words “don’t judge your parenting on one bad day” makes me feel like I’m not alone…

  63. Tina Loewen says:

    I would love to read the book for some advice in parenting. It sure can be overwhelming some days.

  64. Christi says:

    A lovely phrase, and such sweet words to tell myself: God loves your child and will use other means than you to pursue his heart.
    A burden has been lifted because I was holding myself entirely responsible for making sure my son knows God. This entire message is so timely for me. I’m a single mom and have been feeling like such a colossal failure.

    No one immediately comes to mind to share a copy of this book with. I’m sure if I had it in my hands, God would lead me to the person who needs it most at that moment.

    Thanks for your hard work and sharing your insights!

  65. I will repeatedly tell myself to trust the Shepherd and not the sheep this week. I have a kiddo with autism and I am a constant bundle of worry and fear. I would love to give a copy to my neighbor.

  66. My favorite of the points listed is #4 – God has not given up on your child. I am the mother of a special needs now adult child. It’s so difficult to treat her as the adult that she is and step back and watch as she makes wrong decisions that I know are only going to hurt her. I understand it’s hard for everyone to let go of their child once he/she arrives at adulthood, but with a special needs kid, it’s even more difficult to know where to draw the line, when to step in and when to step back. I have to trust every day that God loves her even more than I do and that He knows the situation and has her in his hands.

    If I win, I would give the second copy to a friend who has three special needs adult children and is struggling with severe issues multiplied by 3.

  67. Kimberly Burch says:

    I will remind myself this week that I am not the only one with these struggles! I am very uplifted by this article & would love to win the book because I have a lot of difficulties dealing with my son acting out in public. He is great at home but a whole different kid when he gets around other people which is very discouraging & I wish others could see what I can! Would share the second book with a friend who is also a single mom.

  68. Felecia Williams says:

    Would love to have this in my collection and share with one of my closest friends that has an 11yr old son like myself.
    The chapter “Me too” seems to be perfect for those times when I stop another parent to let them know, that although the current situation is not really funny, it makes me happy to know I’m not the only parent having to deal with a particular issue.

  69. marta mozzott says:

    I would this book to help with 13 yr old daughter who was bullied, started cutting herself and thinks God is stupid and mean. Thank you for writing this book. I love the reminder God hasnt given up on your child.

  70. Waiting on God says:

    “Don’t put your faith in the sheep. Put your faith in the Shepherd.” My friend Lisa & I have been trying to remember this in the last 20+ years that we have been raising our kids. Just because your kids are in their 20s doesn’t mean they don’t need your prayers and that they don’t come back & ask for guidance. As we have dealt with our kids health issues, emotional issues, learning disabilities, we have constantly tried to keep our eyes on Him and not on the “Bad Mom” label that you feel gets stuck to you by school staff, family & friends. Our children were created by the One who has known His plan for them all along even when we don’t see it.

  71. Margaret says:

    I God has not given up on your child.. Boy, did I need to hear that.
    I guilty, overwhelmed and like a failure as a mom – I told that to a friend the other day.
    I would give a copy of the book to Gi a.

  72. There were two points from this book that really encouraged me. The first was not to judge your parenting based off one bad day. We all have them and sometimes I forget that. The second was not to trust the sheep but to trust the Shepherd. I needed that reminder today!
    This book sounds amazing and if I don’t win the giveaway, I will definitely buy it.

    If I do win, I will give the second copy to a friend of mine who has 8 children. She and her husband had three, adopted two, and are fostering three, two of whom they are trying to adopt.

    Blessings to all the moms on this journey. Our God is faithful.

  73. What stuck with me is not to judge your success on one bad day. I’d love the book!

  74. Alessia Lloyd says:

    I would really love to read this book to help me conquer some of the parenting challenges we face with our 12, 4 and 2 year old. Thanks for sponsoring such a relevant giveaway!

  75. Michelle says:

    My kids are still very young but oh man do they make me lose it. I love how Kathi reminds us that our ONLY hope is in God and praying for our kids is the best we can do.. and it still may not go how we want. What a great outlook on parenting, so encouraging!

  76. Nicole S says:

    Don’t put your faith in the sheep but in the Shepherd. Also, don’t judge your parenting on one bad day. I’d love to give a copy to my sister. She has a child who has always been difficult & as bad as it sounds just today she said she feels as though she has a “project” child. It’s really sad & the situation makes my sister doubt herself as a mom.

  77. Would love a chance to win this set of books! The reminder that one bad day doesn’t make us a bad mom and that we are not in this motherhood journey alone.

  78. Michele says:

    I love her point if not judging your parenting on one bad day. As the mom of a pre-teen I cold really use this book and I have a number of friends that could use the second copy. ❤❤❤

  79. Do not judge your parenting by one bad day, this is what I needed to hear. Reading the entire book would be great.

  80. Don’t put your faith in the sheep, but the Shepherd. Great reminder. Would love to win for advice on pre-teen & there are lots of Mom friends I could share with.

  81. kristi g says:

    I love the ” I am still a fan of your kid.” What a wonderful thing to say and be! I would love a copy of this book because I learned so much from this little article , imagine what I would learn from a whole book. 🙂 2nd copy would be for my friend Hali because I am a fan of her kids!

  82. Danelle says:

    The book all sounds great, but the part that interests me the most at this time, is the section on a child that is different. I am certain this book will be a reference manual, along with my bible, in the years ahead. Similar to the What to Expect When You Are Expecting book was some years ago. The second book I would definitely give to my sister, who is a hard-working, single mother of a strong-willed child. Unfortunately, my nephew sees very little of his father and my sister can use all the help she can get. Thank you for your generosity and may God richly bless you for sharing your words of wisdom and encouragement with us.

  83. Chasidy says:

    I need to constantly remember to put my faith in the Shepherd. No matter the situation. I’d love to win the books for myself & my sister!

  84. Kristen says:

    I would love this book. It seems I generally make things more of a mess when my Children are having a bad day. It’s not until I’m alone and things are quite that I hear gods voice telling me I should have been more gentle. I’m sure this book would help me out.

  85. Susan G says:

    Sounds like an awesome book! Great job Kathi. I would look through the book first because I am a grandma of 6 delightful grandkids, but then pass it on to my daughter Allison, who lives with us along our oldest grandchild and her 10 year old brother. I would give the other book to my daughter Jennifer, who has an 18 month old and a 3 year old.
    Wish I had this book when I was raising my kids… 😉
    Thanks Renee for a great encouraging blog for all moms…and grandmas!

  86. It would be a blessing to win this book. I have more days of wondering where I’ve gone wrong than days when I feel like I’m doing something right… and my oldest is only five! I’ll take all the help I can get, and the best thing about a parenting book like this is the knowledge that others need that help as well… so us struggling moms can see we are not alone.

  87. Sherrie Murphy says:

    Wow. I am so glad that you wrote a book on these things. My kids are grown but I still have those thoughts of how I should have done something different or more for my children so that they wouldn’t wander from God. I would give the other copy to my niece who has two daughters. One is going into middle school and the other, who is still in elementary school, loves to push the limits with her “creativity”. Both are very bright girls but can be a challenge for my niece and her husband. After I read my copy, I will give it to my daughter who is raising my granddaughter. She needs to hear some of these things too. Thank you for the opportunity to win these books.

  88. Sarah Hogan says:

    This sounds like a book i need!! I am home raising three girls alone. I look for ways to connect with my oldest, 13, this is becoming a challenging age!!

  89. Barbara Rivera says:

    Being a parent is hard work. We don’t have all the answers, but God does. It woud be great to give a book to a young mom in my church that has young children and is feeling overwhelmed. God’s word is the only thing that can change hearts.

  90. Jessica Stevens says:

    Because love drives us (moms/parents) to humility on a daily basis. Finding true north on the compass seems to require constant re calibration and seeking out resources to broaden wisdom.

  91. Linda Peppel says:

    Although I haven’t had experience with all of the topic she talks about, I may in the future. I will give a copy to my best friend.

  92. I would love to win because everyone needs encouragement on this crazy ride that we call parenthood! And the second copy naturally goes to my best friend!

  93. Barbara says:

    Love the blog and try to catch up daily!! If I was to win this book since my children are grown I would give it to my daughter who is always self doubting her ” mom abilities”

  94. Nicole Konotopka says:

    I would love to win this book and share with another mom friend. Sometimes in the rough of it, it gets overwhelming and the next thing I know I can feel a little hopeless.

  95. The past couple of days have been exceptionally trying. I have felt like such a failure of a mom to my four year old daughter. I need to remember that I’m not alone in this feeling. I’m guessing that there are others who need to know that they aren’t alone either. There are a number of people I could give the other copy to but I think it will be to a fellow Coastie wife and friend. Even if I don’t win, I’m going to purchase this book! 🙂 Thank you!

  96. Me too. Everything! I keep thinking, after raising 2 kids and starting over with 2 more, I should be better at this mothering thing. I mean, really. I let Satan talk lies to me and kee me in guilt and shame. My 19 year old daughter eloped with a man she barely knew. Already getting divorced after 7 months. My fault? No. But in my weak moments, I blame myself. Even when I know better. I have a friend I woukd LOVE to share this book with. I’m not alone. I will repeat that over and over.

  97. I would love to read this book. Needing a lot of help here. Thank you.

  98. Tracey Shaffer says:

    I have two very strong willed children. At the ages of 6 and 8, I already feel like I’ve failed them. And continue to fail them, Daily. Would love a copy of her book.

  99. Annie Sadecki says:

    The most beneficial thing that I read in this post was: Don’t base my value as a parent on one “bad day” (or “bad moment”) of parenting. As a single mom, this is the most difficult concept for me to grasp at times because that dang devil likes to tell me lies too.

    If I were to be chosen, I would give the second copy to my friend, Nancy Forster, because she too is a single mom of a special needs child (and her daughter has epilepsy). She is one of the strongest women that I know, but I also know that she feels overwhelmed at times too.

    Blessings to you all.

  100. I don’t have children of my own. It wasn’t in God’s plan for me. However He has given me the gift of working with children. I was a preschool teacher for 20 years and I decided to put my faith in God and start my own preschool. Not just any preschool but one to bridge the learning gap for low income children while teaching and showing the love of Jesus. The message I will carry with me is I’m not perfect and I will make mistakes. This not only helps me, it can have a ripple affect to the children I care for and their parents. If I won, I would make my second copy available to the parents of my students. It takes a village to raise a child and I want all my kids and parents to have every resource available to succeed academically, emotionally, physically and spiritually. Thank you

  101. I would love to win this book. As a single mom of two teenagers, this is much needed.

  102. “I’m still a fan of your child”. What encouraging, comforting words to say! I will remember and use. Thank you. I would read the book for more tips then pray for God to show me who needs it and give the second to our church library for those who are searching the shelves.

  103. Natalie Kolnacki says:

    I have a strong willed only child with some ADHD tendencies. I would really like this book. I need help.

  104. Rebecca says:

    Thank you for sharing!
    Don’t put your trust in the sheep…put your trust in the Shepherd. I needed that reminder. 🙂
    I have a teenage daughter and an almost teenage son. I feel lost and discouraged very often.
    Please pray for me to have wisdom.
    If I won the books, I would give the other one to my sister.

  105. Help!!! I need help. I am a widow and I have taken on the wonderful job of raising my granddaughter. I really need help with a very active, confidant young lady!! My niece has just been blessed with daughter # 2 and her first is not even 2 yet–would love to give her a book!! Thank you–Barb

  106. Julie Armel says:

    Wow, this book sounds just like what I need. My boys are still very young, but my oldest starts Kindergarten and I am already stressing about the ungodly influences he will have in his life every single day.

  107. Joyce W. says:

    The timeliness of my reading about this book is the reason I would enjoy reading it to encourage young mothers. My children are grown, but would love to share a copy of this with a precious sister in The Lord and mother of three…a preschooler, a 2 1/2 year old ahead of his time, and newborn.
    Thanks.

  108. Robyn May says:

    I would really love to be blessed with a copy of this book because I am the step-mom to a beautiful 14 year old girl and mom to a 2 yr old boy. The point that resonated with me was “don’t judge your parenting on one bad day”. Sometimes I feel like a failure when my son won’t listen or when my step daughter and I don’t see eye to eye. Parenting is the toughest thing I’ve ever done! I would also love to give my sister a copy because she is the mom of 3 wonderful kids who are heading into their teens. Thank you for the opportunity. God bless you!

  109. Christie says:

    I’ll encourage the mom near me at Target (the one with a screaming toddler) with a me too!

  110. I would love a copy of this book!

  111. I would like to win this books as I have a daughter whose fallen a different path and also a friend who is dealing with the same thing… Two moms hurting and praying for one another and our daughters..

  112. since the birth of my second child I have been in a sort of depression because this job of momma is so much harder than I ever expected. I have my good days and my not so good days. I am learning to not be so stressed about it but any source of information would be helpful. this book sounds like just what I need.

  113. My daughter just recently gave her life to the Lord! I am so blessed and happy to know that she will be in heaven with me praising Jesus always! She SO needs this book as she doesn’t always listen to mom’s wisdom. She has only begun to search the Bible and is slow starting….but….she does LOVE to read and learn for her children and needs this book so much! I pray my name is the name you draw! Thank you for this opportunity! Love you ladies and the way you are the Light of Christ to many!

  114. Tracie Gilbert says:

    GOD has not given up on your child. I needed to hear this. I worry about my daughters and pray that they will find their way. I would give a copy to my oldest daughter Jennifer Gilbert.

  115. I like the part about looking to the Shepard and not the sheep. I’m a single mom since i lost my husband and we have a teenage boy as well as 2 grown daughtet’s. I need all the help and encouragement i can get from the Lord. I would give a book to a friend at church.

  116. Love to win a copy. It’s so easy to get caught us in a single bad event and lose sight of the big picture.

  117. I think my new mantra will be, “One bad day doesn’t make you a bad parent!” I think we all need to hear that at some point. I would love to share this book with my new neighbor. She has two little ones and I know that there are days ahead where she will have doubts, and I would love to be able to encourage her along the way.

  118. Debbi Bailey says:

    I have six kids. I have run into every problem and gone through every solution…or so I thought. Then there is the next problem or all the solutions I know have failed. This book would be an inspiration, it would help me think in other ways. Winning it would be awesome, as I said I have six kids :).

  119. Bekki Pestar says:

    Thank you for reminding me that God has not given up on our children. My daughter is only 16 months old, so if I won, I would want to give it to my friend Jason. His daughter is 18 and joined the Marine Corps right after high school. She is now engaged to a man she’s only known for two months, and just as he was getting ready to break up with her for being too clingy, she dropped the bombshell that she’s pregnant. Before she left, she made a profession of faith and was baptized, and he is a pastor’s son. My friend is furious with his daughter, but at the same time not really surprised it happened. My husband and I reminded him and his wife that God’s not surprised by any of this, but I feel the book will bring them peace of mind that even if they feel she’s messing her life up, God can still use her for His glory.

  120. How God uses other people & circumstances to draw your child when he’/she is running away from God. He doesn’t give up on my child or me as a parent!

  121. God is not through with my child and I am a fan of Him. I want to give a copy to Mandy who has 4 girls and is pregnant with a boy. I really think she could use a copy.

  122. Emily Combs-Lewis says:

    Me too!! Thank God ww are not alone! God means for us to live in community, but sometimes as Mothers we feel alone and judged by the moment. I am on both ends of the spectrum, I have two adult children, one grandchild and a seven year old son. Even now I feel it sometimes. I do know Trust the Shepherd not the sheep:) He loves them even more than I do!! I would love to share this with my friend Lynn:)

  123. Jill Kuiper says:

    God has not given up on my child. Nor for that matter, has He given up on me!

  124. I am a home base Childcare provider and I run my business as a Christian base for the children. Almost all my parents are not christian and am asking me advice all the time. I could use a new book of good faith to help lead them to Gods ways on child raising. Also I have a lovely 13 year old and could use guardance.

  125. NeeNah B says:

    Looking forward to reading this book. I love when she says ‘Don’t judge your parenting on one bad day’. I would give my sister a copy.

  126. Karen M says:

    I’d love to win! It would certainly assist us in raising our 2 year old son. Thank you!

  127. Elisabeth Cridlin says:

    I need to remember not to judge my parenting on the bad days. I would have to think about who to share the book with. I have a lot of friends who I think would like to read it.

  128. Jennifer F says:

    I am a foster-adoptive mom who would love to share this book with some other foster parents. Especially the “me, too” message. Sometimes we feel like we have to have all the answers or give advice, but it can be more helpful to just admit we struggle, too!

  129. Tammi Y says:

    I need to read this, more than any words could explain at this point. My heart is overwhelmed. Thank you for sharing.

  130. I desperately need this! I’m struggling so badly right now as a mother of 6 kids.

  131. Shawn Mummert says:

    I will remind myself that God has not given up on my children. I suffer from chronic debilitating illnesses and sometimes set my standards too high for my children. I would give my second copy to Mindy, my daughter’s best friend’s mom, who has been a true friend and a huge supporter.

  132. Trista C. says:

    My husband and I have been really struggling with our 3 yr old the last month or so. We are reading a ton and trying to be patient but firm. But I definitely feel the more I read the better! I would love to win a copy to read and help me get through this difficult time. Especially with baby #2 on the way and the due date approaching faster than I can imagine! Our daughter is a sweet girl but very strong willed! And we want to make sure that goes in a positive direction not negative. Thank you for the opportunity to win!!

  133. I have two daughters and a son raising their children. What a blessing this book would be to them.

  134. Trista C. says:

    Forgot to say I would share it with the one of my friends in my summer bible study!

  135. I would share “I’m still a fan of your child” and “don’t put your faith in the sheep, but in the Shepherd” with a sweet friend of mine who struggles in parenting a difficult child prone to anger and depression. Her precious boy has so many amazing gifts – and sometimes it is tempting to get caught up in the challenges and overlook the amazing ways God has put him together. I would share the second copy of the book with my friend Shannon who is in a place to offer hope to many other moms as well.

  136. Heather Sweeney says:

    As a newly single- mother of 2 girls, ages 18 and 8, this book could really help me out a lot. Some days I wonder how I am going to make it thru another day.

  137. The Lord has used you mightily today. Our children are all young adults, making choices and decisions that keep us on our knees with hands lifted. So many of your words offered hope and encouragement today. A direct answer to prayer as I asked God for word from Him to know that He hears my heart. Thank you. God bless you.

  138. Great cover….easy to relate to the book already.
    Thanks for the words of wisdom….we all go there, “I’ve failed as a mom”….but God’s grace and mercy are new every morning and my hope lies in the fact that He will walk along side me this day. This day will bring new growth, strength and direction. He has a plan for each of our children….one that far exceeds any of our hopes and dreams…..in Him I trust.

  139. Jessica says:

    I don’t have kids, but I keep my nephew a lot. I’m always wanting good advise to help me with him and of course my future children. His mom is a young mother and has another one on the way. I would share with her to not judge your parenting on one bad day. I would also give her the 2nd copy. She could use all the help she can get!

  140. Heather Sweeney says:

    I would share this with my sister- in- law , who is also recently single raising 3 girls on her own

  141. As a mom of four and a teacher, I desperately need all the help I can get!

  142. GInger M. says:

    “Don’t put your faith in the sheep, put it in the Shepherd.” I love ALL of them, but this one touched my heart.

  143. I really need this book

  144. rachel wemple says:

    How wonderful it would have been to have had a book so down to earth while I was raising my 2 sons.They are now grown and raising their own children! YIKES! This book would be helpful to their wives,who are in need of some very helpful and realistic views from another mom! The girls both have July birthdays,and this would make such a great gift! The kids range from 1-6. Very busy toddlers…..:) Thank you for the opportunity to be a winner! God bless you as you help others and point them toward Jesus! Rachel W.

  145. Sheri Levingston says:

    I would share this book with my friend who is raising her grandchild. Sometimes we get weary and think that parenting a grandchild is overwhelming because we want to get it “right” with this child and not make the mistakes we made with our own children. It would be great to hear that parents today are still having the same challenges she is with her grandchild and it is comforting to know that no matter what your age, every parent needs help and encouraging sometimes!

  146. Kim Elkie says:

    Don’t trust the sheep, trust the shepherd … powerful and encouraging words! If I won I would surprise my friend, Eryca, with the extra book! She has three amazing boys, I have one amazing boy and we pray each other through the tough times.

  147. Kandice Campbell says:

    I really need to win this book. You see I have two daughters who are now 7 and 9. They started out as our foster children in early 2010. They are not biological siblings. We adopted them in July 2012. We love so very much but we have serious problems with respect, sibling rivalry, my youngest is stealing cash from us, finds her behaviors cute, stole a milk from school, and the oldest as an attitude to all of us. I’ve so many things and pray that God will somehow direct me or send someone my way to direct me. I’m lost and I have no idea how to turn things around. I truly want them to grow up to be God girls, to have a compassion to help others, and to be productive members of society and have a better life than they came from. I don’t know if it is because it was an open adoption that we still have these issues or not. But I really would love a chance to read your book and see if this could be just what we need to find peace and joy back in our home. Thanks for the giveaway and may God bless you both for your blog and for your book.

  148. Amber Smith says:

    The thing that stuck out the most to me is remembering to trust the Shepherd, not the sheep. I am not perfect and cannot expect my children to be either. But with God’s grace we are forgiven and still loved so much. I would love to have this book as I have 2 young children and am going to be a stay at home mom beginning next month. I need help remembering to keep my patience when my kids get out of control. I would share this book with a friend at church who is a single mom that has struggled with her sons behavior at school this past year. I think it would be a great asset for her.
    Thank you!!

  149. Oh, I so need to read this….and wow such Godly wisdom. Thank you so much for writing this book. I pray I win a copy as I cannot afford to buy one right now as I’m single mom and have raised 4 kids on my own, from ages now 32 – 15 yrs old and I’m tired…I know I’m not alone, God is with me, but I could definitely use this help. I’m so happy to find she put it in words…Thank you and God Bless You….

  150. Carol McClurg says:

    Our children are grown. Our daughters each have two beautiful children. We see them struggle each week with behaviors and wondering what they could have done differently to help their child behave. To let them know they are not alone is so important. I would love to win these books to give to our daughters. Thank you for the opportunity

  151. This is great! I know when my kids make poor choices it is automatic to think what didn’t I do right and to feel like I’m the worst mom. I love Kathi Lipp’s point about knowing that all mom’s can struggle with these thoughts and sharing them can be helpful to me & other mom’s who may be feeling alone in their thoughts as well. I would love a copy of Kathi’s book!

    Thanks.

  152. I had my first son at the age of 19, hardly old enough to be raising a child..or so I was told nearly every day, week, month. I came out of the Mom gate thinking I was inadequate and not good enough. My son was ALWAYS a challenge from age 2 on..he is now 28, soon to be 29, and trying to get into seminary. I have carried the bad mom guilt for nearly 29 years, he was into drugs, stole from anyone he could, was defiant and so passive agressive that his counselor gave up on him. I have three children in total and all of my kids are loved and cherished for themselves. I had some minor trying times with my now 21 year old daughter when she was a teenager, again I instantly thought bad mom. My last kiddo at home is my 8 year old son and thankfully have not had a bad mom thought..yet. As parents we have a responsibility to give our children love, support, and a healthy environment to grow up in, one that is devoid of chaos, uncertainty, violence. We are NOT responsible for their every action and/or choice they make. We do our best and that is ok…just don’t give up and keep giving them the best you can.

  153. I believe these tips would also apply to grandchildren. I have three children who are parents (one is a foster mom), and sometimes they all get frazzled and could use a little encouragement. I only have two grandchildren close by, the others on the easy coast, but I want to make an impact in all of their lives. One thing I appreciated from Kathi is that I may not be the one involved in helping them pursue God. But, I still pray for all of them. I would love a copy to pass on to one of my parenting kids, or if God laid someone else in my heart it would go there. Humor in stressful situations can be the best medicine.

  154. Ashley Lowry says:

    I love where she says to remember that our hope needs to be in God and not in our child’s behavior. That’s powerful stuff. Honestly I’m not sure who I would share the second copy with. I might hang on to it until I see a friend in need of some help and hope.

  155. “Don’t put your faith in sheep!” Learning this, would love a copy to read!

  156. I would love to win 2 copies….. One for me and one for my daughter in law. My son is enlisted in the US Army and his job takes him away from home often. She and I talk a lot about my grand kids. She is a writer and would just love this book!

  157. Brandy Milton says:

    Don’t judge your parenting skills by one bad day. As a new mother, I constantly judging myself and worry if I’m doing this thing right! I would share a copy with my friend Samana as she has three kids, and two foster kids… All boys! She has been an inspiration and she would love this book!

  158. Elaine Segstro says:

    “When our hope is in our kids, we are slaves to shame, but when we put our hope in God there is no shame.” Wow, such wisdom and insight. So often we feel our identities are in our kids – when things are going well, we’re at the top of the world, and when things are NOT going well, we are in the dumps (at least I am). THANK you for this. “Me too” is shared with my friend Trudy who would love this book.

  159. Kristin says:

    I would love to have this book as my daughter is preparing to enter her teen years soon and I feel that despite my chosen career field I am going to need all of the help that I can get. Maybe I can even recommend it to families who come to me. I raised two sons who are now adults, but I realize that I am raising a daughter in a different time than my sons grew up in and that girls experience things in a different way than boys.

  160. It makes me feel better that she said you don’t go from being good mom to bad mom. I always feel like I’m being judged and as soon as my daughter( who is quite strong willed) reacts in a way that isn’t all peaches and cream, people look at you like you are not doing a good job. (Or you feel like your doing a bad job.) I feel like this book would be a great confidence booster to any parent! I would give the extra book to a friend of mine who has a strong willed child as well. She would appreciate the confidence boost. And once I finished I would pass my copy on to another mom who might need some peace.

  161. Mitzi Spraggs says:

    “Don’t put your faith in sheep , put your faith in the Shepherd ” . Psalms 25:1 spoke to me out of your book. A lot times we forget that God is in control of our lives, if we would just let him in…
    I would share this book with my daughter. She has three children in a blended marriage, ages seven, two and eleven months. There are times that she feels pulled several different directions but she some how makes it thru.

  162. failure. despair. isolation. living it. no idea how/where we went so horribly wrong. could use a little encouragement minus the judgement.

    • Me too Megan! Praying for you and your children. He is faithful to carry us through this and He does love them as well as us. God has convicted me to pray for mine. I can’t make their choices or fix things or make any of it go away but I can faithfully pray for them.

  163. I live in a very small community where everyone knows what happened later. After reading about this book, I thought of a mother that has had a “bad year” not day. Prayers and encouraging words have helped but you can see the despair in her eyes. They are a strong Christian family that has been affected by the ever growing drug problems that our youth face today. I had the opportunity to say some encouraging words to her thinking it was not enough. We all have so much going on in our lives these days it is nice to know we are not alone. The second copy I would like to give to my cherished friend Leah. She has been a rock during my times of need. We compare stories about our kids even with the huge age differences and experience of public school/special needs versus home schooling. I have so many friends that I would love to share this book with that I plan to give them as gifts….myself included!!!

  164. Debbie B says:

    Every mother wants the best for their child/children and imagines themselves the best mother and when things happen and you think the worst of yourself as a parent, you look for help and suggestions. This book would help me with all those doubts! Thanks for the opportunity to win!

  165. Jenna Edwards says:

    Mom here to a five year old son and twin two year old daughters. Would love this book. Was encouraged so much by his post.

  166. Danielle I says:

    I love that this book provides practical wisdom for my child’s poor choices. I struggle with this area because sometimes the punishment may not fit the crime. I would share this book with my sister-n-law who just had her first baby.

  167. Michelle says:

    I love “Don’t put your faith in the sheep; have faith in the shepherd.” I am a mother of 5 kids age 4 months -9(4 boys and 1 girl). I lost my mother a month after my daughter was born. This year I homeschooled my oldest and often felt subpar and overwhelmed. If I win, I would give the other copy of the book to my best friend. Also a homeschooling mother of 5(3months-9). Her family has several food allergies and she is unable to buy many things that make cooking or eating out easy.

  168. I would love this book! I think my MOPS group would also enjoy this resource!

  169. Michelle Renee says:

    I’m a ministry wife with 2 daughters. I know that I need help and I can also mentor other moms as well. My friend who is also a ministry wife could benefit from this book and minister to other moms as well.
    If we can be blessed in this way, we can bless and minister to others.
    Ministry families are always seen as “perfect” and there are high expectations in place. In all actuality, ministry families are just as human and flawed as the rest of humanity out there. There is a certain amount of stress that a ministry family lives with – some of which (I agree) we bring on ourselves, and some of which are unspoken and/or unrealistic expectations.

  170. As the mom of three girls – the oldest of which is on the brink of becoming a teen – I welcome any and all advice & hope! Every teen thinks they are alone in feeling different and out of place. It is heartbreaking as a mom! I would love a copy to read & a second to use to start a MOPS library for our group!

  171. Gennie Griffin says:

    Wow. Would love to win a copy of this book. The timing couldn’t be better ( isn’t it funny how God works?). I needed to hear not to judge my parenting based on one bad day, and I know a friend that might need to hear that this week as well.

  172. Audrey Jobes says:

    Would love to win this book.
    I need to remember to be a fan of my friends’ kids. 🙂

  173. Mel Brown says:

    I would love to win this book!

  174. Christie Hamby says:

    It is so easy to feel alone and overwhelmed as a single mom (Dad doesn’t help at all!). I would love to win a copy of this book and I would give an extra copy to my friend Angie.

  175. I will hang on to the words: God loves your children and He hasn’t given up on them. He will use another means to reach them besides you. I paraphrased…but thank you Kathi as those words spoke right to my heart, as a parent of 3 young adult children who are not saved yet. I would love to read your book as I enjoy reading parenting books written by friends in Christ. I would give my extra copy to a girlfriend of mine who is a single parent and a mother to young adult children also.

  176. I would love to share this book with my oldest daughter. My beautiful grandchildren, aged 2 & 3 1/2, are going to grow up before she knows it. She is also a 3rd year Med school student. whew! She is a believer, and raises the children as such. She is very fortunate to have other Believers in her class, and they support each other and grow together. This would be an Awesome tool to have available and lean on…

    In His love~Anne

  177. Amber B. says:

    I would love to win this book. I have a son who is 13 and another who is almost 11. They don’t listen to me and are so defiant right now. I know it’s because of the teenage hormones, but it’s very hard for me to handle at times. My husband is in Afghanistan right now and that makes it even harder. I would give a copy to my sister Nicole, who has 2 little boys, ages 3 & 1.

  178. I’ve been here many times. I like the part about trusting the Shepherd and not the sheep. I always feel more peaceful when I keep God in my thoughts. Praying through the laundry, dishes, & messy rooms carries me through my day. 🙂 I’ve spent many days feeling completely alone & I’m glad to finally have a few friends who are transparent & let me know they are right where I am, too. When I remind myself that my kids are sinners, it frees me to love them as I want to be loved & to extend the grace to them that I so desperately desire from God & others.

  179. Shelley says:

    I’m in desperate need of this book! I have a 16yr old son that’s pushing me to the brink of insanity. He’s a good kid… And I feel like the choices we’ve made (okay- me) are now coming back to bite us in the rear and he’s making poor choices because of it. He’s not doing bad things – he’s just not doing ANYTHING. He doesn’t wanna work, doesn’t wanna do his school work, doesn’t wanna do anything.

    The nugget that struck me most was “Don’t put your faith in the sheep, put it in the Shepherd.” What a revelation!!!

    If I win, I’d share the other book with my exhusband so we can help our son together.

    • I just have to say Shelley that I think it is AMAZING that you would share this with your ex-husband. I don’t have an ex-husband but my parents got divorced when I was in high school and they didn’t share anything except for me and they used me to fight through. I just wanted you to know that you are awesome and God is so proud of your co-parenting! God Bless!!!

      Korrine

  180. “Me Too.” I wish SO much I had someone I could be honest with about my kids’ poor choices. I don’t. I walk this road pretty much alone. If I were to be honest with anyone, I know they would look at my kids in an unfavorable light. I’m not sure this book applies to people like me whose children are young adults, but it sounds like something I could use if for nothing else but for the prayers for kids who go astray. I was just talking to someone today at a grad party who is also dealing with a young adult on the verge of making bad choices. She would benefit as well.

  181. Melanie Taylor says:

    Two things from above stood out to me, “Don’t judge you’re parenting on one bad day” and “God has not given up on your child”. I have three girls ages 26 , 16 and 6 years old. That’s right every ten years we were blessed with a beautiful daughter in hopes we will eventually get it right. Can’t tell me God doesn’t have a sense of humor 🙂 There have been many times a bad day can cause me to question every parenting decision I have ever made. As well as cause me to toss my hands up and think I give up. How reassuring to know God will never give up. I would love to win a copy of this book not only for myself but to also pass on to my girls. My 26yr old has blessed me with grandchildren so I’m sure she could benefit from this book as well.

  182. My favourite advice is “Trust the Shepherd”. I would love to win this book as my children are in the teen/pre-teen phase. I know they will be making more and more of their own decisions and I need to learn to know how to go through this ‘letting go’ stage.
    I would give the second copy to Michelle as she is a new Mom and I know she really wants to be a great Mom and raise her kids well.
    We both need help from other Mom’s who will say ‘Me too’!!

  183. I will share and remember to praise and encourage my friend’s with their parenting. That we are not alone, and that He is on our side. Looks like such a great book!

  184. nancys1128 says:

    My favorite piece of advice is “God has not given up on your child.”

    If I win, I will give the second book to a dear friend since junior high. And I will give it to her anonymously so that it will be a total gift, and not some preachy thing coming from a friend.

  185. Eileen Montfort says:

    The “Don’t judge your parenting on one bad day” if something I always struggle with, so it’s nice to see that others go through that as well!

  186. Linda F says:

    Not to long ago I said to my husband that I was a bad mom-then recently I’ve read several things by Kathi Lipp -the first was a devo on P31. I would really lime yo read this book for Godly encouragement and to help me start thinking the right way-God’s eYes-and how HE sees me and its just nice to know I’m not alone, my kids aren’t the only ones who have been terribly disrespectful…in public and private and much more:) My sister could use some encouragement as well in her mothering journey. I would bless her with the 2nd book. I think I would probably want to share all about the book with other moms as well. Maybe we could have a book sharing chain-many would be encouraged!

  187. Chantelle Allison says:

    I like to know that I’m not alone. Would love to know what boundaries others set for their daughters.

  188. Diane R. says:

    I love the idea of remembering that one bad day does not define your mothering! I would love to read this book and I would love to share a copy with my sister.

  189. Jennifer Sutton says:

    My 4 children are grown, but I have 9 grandchildren that I spend a lot of time with and I need a refresher in more ways than one! I feel that this book would greatly benefit both me and my children as we continue to “raise up” our children “in the way they should go!”

  190. Susan Rowland says:

    I would LOVE to get this book. As a mom of 4, I have plenty of opportunity to mess up… A LOT! I love the encouragement I get from this blog and others from Proverbs 31 Ministries. I have a sweet friend of 3 that I also know would love this as well. It’s always so nice to hear it’s okay to be a perfectly imperfect mom. Thanks so much!

  191. I never knew parenting would be so hard- but I love my little blessings so much and I would not have my life any other way. I am quite exhausted right now, however ( we have a 4 year old and a VERY active 2 year old) and I yearn to have more energy to be an even better mom and find more wisdom and peace in parenting in godliness. I would give the 2nd book to another friend of mine who I admire so much- 4 kiddos under 7, one who is very very challenging. She is a wonderful mom and her name is Carly (;

  192. i would love to win this book as I am struggling at a military wife with young children that are really challenging me while their father is gone!

  193. this gave me hope. I feel like a bad parent. I grew up in a dysfunctional home and I feel I am dysfunctional trying to raise children who aren’t. There is so much going on in my home. Sometimes I just want to throw the towel in and say, “I’m done here” on top of everything going on I have this woman, who failed her children, thinking she can save mine. Really? Like I need that on top of what I am in right now. School just ended so I have all 7 of my children together. We don’t have buses so I really didn’t want to put them in any activities that I had to be a taxi for a while. Driving 4 kids, with 3 little ones in tow to drop kids off at 3 different schools and then turn around in 6 hours and do it all over again. I have a reformed cutter but I am still worried that it could happen again, two boys that fight like cats and dogs on a daily. Makes me feel I live in a war zone. A little girl who thinks she’s princess and I am the Cinderella who has to clean up after her. I told her this isn’t your castle and I am not the maid. daily battle there. I am in the process of potty training two boys. They like the thought of being naked. So everytime I turn around I have naked boys. Then I have a son with ODD, OCD, and ADHD all rolled into one child which makes life hard but throw in all the above with it. In the midst of al this I have a laid off husband who has no clue when I say, “I need help here, like now” He still thinks it can do it in his time or he calls on one of the kids to do his job. I keep praying that life will get better. I feel at times I am praying the same prayer every night. I can’t see the end of the tunnel right now but I know one day I will. But for now I am at my wits end…..

  194. Rachel Song says:

    Sounds like a great book to read! As a mother of two boys under 5, I’m definitely in need of all practical wisdom I can get!!!

  195. Tammy W. says:

    This sounds like the perfect book for my friend Judy and I. Just today we did a walk together and shared our challenges on the parental front. LOVE the comment not to judge your parenting ( or ANYTHING, for that matter) on a bad day!

  196. Sylvia S. says:

    I want to remember to always be a fan of my child. Always encouraging and not always critiquing. If I win this book, I want to give one copy to a friend of mine with a child the same age. We are constantly swapping kid stories!!! 🙂

  197. Melissa Pascarella says:

    Don’t let one day define you as a parent! I try to remind my girlfriends of this as much as I can. I also need reminded of this often! I would share a copy with my little sister, who is a new mom!

  198. “Don’t put your faith in the sheep, put it in the Shepherd.” I love this advice because it reminds me that not only is my son one of His sheeps, but so am I. I am looking to win a copy for myself as I enter into the pre-teen/teen years with my son. Also, my second copy would go to my sister in law as she has a two and five year olds. It would be great for her to have this knowledge while her children are still young. Blessings!!

  199. Vanessa Crisolo says:

    I would love to win this book as we are battling with how to help our 5 year old son. He is a very angry child. But also the sweetest boy you will ever meet. We have given this to God and it would be nice to hear from another mom and get some helpful CHRISTIAN tips. Thank you so much. Blessed day to you and yours.

  200. Becky D says:

    Such words of wisdom! “When our hope is in our kids, we are slaves to shame, but when we put our hope in God there is no shame.” Something I definitely need to remember! As a now stay at home mom my kids become my “job” and the only “performance review” I now get at this job is how well my kids are doing. Needing to remember to keep my eyes and hope on God. Think some of my other stay at home mom friends would love some of this encouragement too.

  201. Joanne Kocourek says:

    I’d love the book and frequently need encouragement and support. If I were to win a copy would go to my friend Tammy M who is walking a journey similar to mine.

  202. I would share it’s encouragement and wisdom with my 8 grand children

  203. How very needed this book is, from the sheer number of responses to your post indicates ! Wow! How much as parents we need to be reminded that
    “When our hope is in our kids, we are slaves to shame, but when we put our hope in God there is no shame.”

    As a parent of 2 children, who are not walking with God right now, how often I have felt that shame, and how quick the enemy is to load that shame onto me. Thank you for this important reminder, that when I put my hope in God I don’t have to carry that shame, that at times has been so very very heavy. I have a couple of close friends I would love to share these books with, after I have read it myself !

  204. I have two adult children, one is struggling in her christian life, and one has denounced Jesus as his Lord and Savior. I believe that God still loves my children and that He is pursuing their hearts. I would like a book for myself and one for my daughter who is a mom of an infant and toddler. I became a prodigal as a teenager and turned back to the Lord when I was 26. I am so grateful for my mother’s prayers and prayers of others..no one gave up one me. I will not give up on my children.

  205. I would love to win this book. I would give the second book to my sister who is a new mom and helping other moms through the journey. I think this book is going to guide and show moms where they have started to fall for lies like “if I pray my child will turn out ok”- Definitely pray and keep praying, but suffering is a part of everyone’s journey more or less. A hard truth for mother’s to grasp and let it resonate in their soul. God is good!!!

  206. I have two adult children — one is 23, pregnant, not married, lives at home with me part-time and still with her boyfriend (who is not good to her at all) the other part and a 19 year old son who has not quite made his way to adulthood yet. I pray daily that they both will come to know Jesus as their savior. I did use to blame myself and my mistakes for the way my kids would act and I now know better………the devil took hold of them and is holding on tight. I would love to see what this book could offer to me; I am always looking for further inspiration and ways to pray over my “babies”. I would also give the second book to my sister who is dealing with similar issues. All the time God is good and He nor I will ever quit!!

  207. Skimmed through some of the comments – there are so many challenges to life! I have a friend going through the “I must be a bad Mom…” right now & will share the e-mail with her. Would love to win this, read it as a way to encourage others, then pass it along! Thanks so much for this opportunity!

  208. Jennifer says:

    I need to read this book- I am struggling with the belief that if I do this, and this and this and some of this, my kids will grow up great, never leave church, always love and serve God, and I am learning that is not the case. The whisper of me too is so powerful to me. I have felt like a failure so much because I don’t have the perfect family and so many people seem to have it all together and all the answers. I feel alone in our struggles. I have a friend who is divorced and is struggling with the behavior of her child from her first marriage and gained two more little ones in a new marriage. I would love to bless her in this walk that she is experiencing right now.
    Thank you for the thoughts shared above, so helpful!

  209. Michelle M. says:

    So many parents need to read this book.

  210. I love the words “being present over perfect”. I am a bit of a perfectionist, and it can certainly become a problem. I want to be present with my children instead of just having it all picture perfect.

    I would love to win a copy of this book. I have a couple friends in mind that I would love to share it with, the biggest set back is that those two friends do not enjoy reading. 🙁 I may have to come up with another, or add it to our church library.

    Thanks for the great advice and encouragement you offer daily.

  211. We are all in this together and don’t judge one day in your parenting journey, I see that often amongst our moms group. I love to read this and share with a friend.

  212. Elisabeth says:

    I’d like to win this book because I know my children are little sinners who will not always make the right choices and I need all the wisdom I can get to raise them well. I’d give my extra copy to my good friend who is always willing to watch my kids when I need it.

  213. It is so difficult to not let your child’s poor choices be a reflection of your parenting ability. This is a prayer that I never cease to ask for His understanding, and it is quite a challenge for me.

  214. 3.“Don’t put your faith in the sheep, put it in the Shepherd.” We base the outcome of our lives on the actions of our children. Wrong. Our hope is only in God.

    Exactly! Thanks for the opportunity.

  215. Katie h says:

    I always feel like I’m the only mom going through some of the things with my kids. But if I can just remember that I’m not alone thay will help

  216. I would love to read this book. I am constantly feeling like a failure for things my child has done and I always wonder what I could have done better in raising them to change things. A lot of sleepless nights.

  217. Jessica Hulen says:

    I love that Kathy reminds us that God is bigger than our parenting AND our children’s choices. I’m a mom of 4 children, and I always felt like I was a great mom, until number 3 came along….from the time he first crawled out of his crib at 14 months (he’s 4 now), he has turned my world upside down and made me strongly question whether or not I am “a good mom”! It’s also humbled me and changed my worldview on parenting. I no longer see a mom with a child that is strong-willed and automatically assume mom is missing something on the mom front (which I humbly admit that I had to repent of!) I want to read Kathi’s book for myself, but I’m also a MOPS coordinator and I would love a copy to give to another mom in my group!

  218. Amber Chapais says:

    Don’t judge your parenting on one bad day. That’s a great reminder. Thank you for a chance, I would give the second copy to my sister because she sometimes feels like she has bad parenting skills. Please pray for my sister Jenna, to have peace and satisfaction in everyday parenting, Amen.

  219. I love the advice of confiding in a friend who can point out the good stuff to you while you’re only seeing the delinquent. I’d give the 2nd copy to a friend going through a similar thing.

  220. I have boys of all ages and a daughter 26 married, 23 still at home, 17 at home 9 and then 8 and boy could i use this uplifting encouragement.
    🙂
    Kim

  221. “Don’t judge your parenting on one bad day.” We are so quick to generalize on one bad day or forget all the positives in each day, that one moment can ruin a day.
    I would like to win the book for parenting help now for my toddler and hopefully, some things to keep in mind for the future. I would like to share the books with my mom friends that need the ultimate hope of the Savior.

  222. I learned and shared on Facebook don’t think you’re a bad parent by making one mistske! I also think the encouragement would be good as we are going through a lot with our oldest daughter!!!

  223. Cynthia says:

    There hasn’t been much that Kathi has shared that didn’t hit home for me. I have a handful of her books that carried my family through a rough spell a few years ago. This one needs to be next now that my four little ones are doing circles around me.
    Reminding myself that I’m not alone, is hard for me. Especially when I turn to other moms for help and get a blank stare and a shrugging of the shoulders, as if they were saying, “sorry my kid’s perfect, can’t help ya”.
    I would love to add this book to my reference section. I know it would help me and my family immensely.
    I would share a copy with my friend Lauren. She is a friend and recent mom. We safely and comfortably text each other all our daily kid woes, from which cartoon we are watching to what color boogers are streaming out of our child’s nose.

  224. Cindi Sikora says:

    wow! Isnt it amazing how much we all need encouragement! My husband and I are on a road trip and yesterday we were visiting friends. The mom is a young woman like a daughter to me and she is struggling. I told her that we all struggle and there is something about knowing that other moms have their problems. “Me too” is a real encouragement when you feel that you are the only one with problems.l I think that she would enjoy reading this book. My desire is to be there for these young women to help and encourage them to keep on knowing that the Lord will always be only a prayer away. This particular young woman was so thankful that I was willing to be transparent, that I was willing to tell her about my mistakes with my children and my feeling of inadequacy when my children were young and there was constant commotion. It is definitely something that we as older women can do to be there for these precious young women. Thank you for your care in writing this book!

  225. Oh my goodness! This could not have come at a better time for me! Just this morning, I said, ‘I just cannot do this anymore!’ My child is 32, with 2 little ones of her own, 3 months ago my husband and I became legal guardians for our grand daughters! This has been one of the toughest things I have ever done. Just reading all Kathi has said has made me realize there has to be a silver lining in all of this mess! I know that God is working, but when we go on day after day, it is so very hard to keep on keeping on…. I not only need this book, I need the friend who says ‘me too’! Thank you for this post and for speaking to me! I would love to win this book, I am serious need of knowing what to do or what to say to my adult child!

  226. Deb Weber says:

    All the advice is great! I like this : “Don’t put your faith in the sheep, put it in the Shepherd.” We base the outcome of our lives on the actions of our children. Wrong. Our hope is only in God. I’m not a mom yet, but moms with children are in my life. I plan on sharing truths from the book and give a book away to a niece.

  227. Nora Perez says:

    Sounds like a GREAT book!
    I’m in desperate need of Godly advice!
    Being a single mom can be very lonely, challenging, and leaves me exhausted making me wonder if I’m doing this “parenting” right.
    I need all the encouraging I can get because at times I find myself dealing with a great amount of guilt due to our current situation.

  228. Linda N. says:

    Would love to win a copy of this book to pass along to my son & daughter-in-law who are just beginning their family. Wish I’d had more Christian resources available while raising my sons, and can only thank God for the fine men they have become. Somehow, He took my mess-ups, cleaned them up, wrapped them in love, and guided all of us down the right path.

  229. Cortney says:

    I need to remember not to judge myself by one bad parenting day. The same way I still love my kids when they have bad days, so does our Father still love us. 🙂 I would share the second book with one of my MOPS moms who stays at home and has some tough days – and hopefully the book would get passed around the group!

  230. Would love to win this book! It is so hard to keep our eyes on the Shepherd when our sheep have wandered off. So thankful he leaves the 99 and searches for the 1 who is lost!

    Thanks,
    Vicki

  231. The point that I needed is to put my faith & hope in my Shepherd, rather than my sheep. If my hope is in children, then I am a slave to shame. There is no shame in Christ. I need this encouragement right now as we raise 2 teens and a tween. I would share the 2 book with my friend of four kids. Thanks for sharing this resource & this opportunity to win 🙂

  232. Jane Sumner says:

    Each day is a challenge with our 9-year-old who wants to run the world, not to mention our home and family! Somehow, parenting was easy and straight-forward before I became one. Now all my attempts at fair and loving discipline aren’t yielding the results they are “supposed to!” She’s angry, violent, sassy, rebellious… and still the most creative kid I know, and I can’t keep from loving her even in the midst of the frustration! I’m hungry for help and support on this journey… Our 3-year-old is much more responsive to our direction. If I were to win, I’d gift the 2nd book to my friend and co-worker Nicole, who is over her head juggling her 3 kids, one who has special needs. Thanks for sharing your wisdom, as always!

  233. I look forward to reading this book. I’m the mom of 3 girls and with my oldest turning 12 this month, I just feel alone and like I’m failing. I had no idea how painful it would be to have her tell me little white lies, declare she doesn’t really want me chaperoning things anymore and just needing to let go of making choices for her even though I know she is going to find pain in the choices she makes. Right now, all my friends are moms of younger kids and I feel alone. I know I’m not. I just feel that way right now and sometimes it’s hard to overcome the feelings of failure. I think I’ll get myself a copy of this book because I’m really in need of help and hope.

  234. Juanita Stevens says:

    I loved Kathi reminding us “Don’t judge your parenting on one bad day.” It is so easy to do that. I have done that and I know that my sister has done that as well. Especially since she has eight children. It can seem like a never ending struggle to get them all to cooperate.
    Another thing I appreciated about Kathi’s talk with the “Me Too” comment. So many times moms feel like they are alone and that it is only their child(ren) who act out at the store, or at church. They have the only children who talk back and refuse to do their chores, but to hear from another that “I’ve been there”, can be so helpful.
    I am a single mom of a 16 year old son. He is the joy of my life and I am so thankful for him.
    I have the opportunity to mentor moms of younger children. I would love to see them all receive this book. I would give it to one of them, whomever the Lord lays on my heart, or to my sister with her 8 children.
    Thank you for your words of encouragement.

  235. Thank you for sharing about this book, I would love to have it and share with a young mother who I am mentoring. I love all of Kathi’s suggestions….finding and identifying the good that we see in their child along with the ‘me too’ and our hope is always in The Lord. Thank you Kathi for writing and Renee for posting!

  236. Shannon says:

    I learned from Kathi that alot moms going through same things and the me too advice hit close to home. When you think you are alone in this mom job and you tell a friend or even a coworker your difficulties, it’s amazing how those two words me too can help lift the weight off your shoulders and help you feel not alone. I would give the second copy to my friend shana because she’s always helped me feel better about my parenting and gives good advice to help me with my kids.

  237. Brenda S. says:

    Thank you for the verses Psalm 25:1-3. It was just what we needed to read. We are in the midst of a battle and are so thankful that we can put our trust in God. Would appreciate your prayers.

    If I won, I would give the book to my sisiter-in-law. The picture on the front of the book reminds me of when my kids tried that ~ minus the helmet…. Thankfully, my son had no lasting damage.

  238. Danielle says:

    My favorite piece of advice : don’t judge your parenting on one bad day. I would love to win this book! I would give the second copy to my good friend who lets me share my bad mommy moments and shares hers right back.

  239. PJ Ingram says:

    Wow…I would love to have this book! I love the “Don’t judge your parenting on one bad day” piece of advice.
    Despite our best intentions as parents we are all humans that are imperfect and we need to remind ourselves not only to extend grace but to receive it also and not be too hard on ourselves when those “bad days” are more frequent than we’d like them to be. I am a parent of two young boys and just reading this post already has given me hope and encouragement. So, thanks and God bless you!

  240. Deb Cary says:

    I would absolutely tell someone that I am still a fan of their child. I would love to read this book to help me with my grandkids raising, encourage their moms, and encourage members of my church as an elder’s wife. I would give my daughter a second book as she is attempting to raise a foster daughter whom she wants to adopt. There are so many issues in raising a godly foster child.

  241. Heather Burton says:

    I am that Momma you are talking about!!!! Oh my goodness, our Father was speaking to me while reading this. Thank you for being there for those of us who are struggling with their children. I’ve always heard it was harder for children who have parents that are in ministry. I didn’t know the truths of those words until this year when we accepted a Children’s Pastors position at a church in a neighboring city about an hour and a half away. Our 4 year old son struggled with this and the adaptation to traveling every weekend and him not being the center of our world. It was the hardest 90 days of my parenting. It’s still an issue even after resigning because the stress and pressure became too much. I followed my husband because he truly thought that was His Calling. Through this experience, he found that it wasn’t but I found that it was mine! It’s funny how the Lord works. He is so mysterious and majestic. I would love this book because it is for EVERY stages in parenting. I would love to have it so I can use it whenever I need that extra boost. I would also give the other book to my sister in law who is a single momma struggling to keep custody of her precious babies whom she is a wonderful Mother and Father to. Please pray for her because the Lord is doing some amazing things through her and for her. “Don’t judge your parenting on one bad day” really resonated with me and I will at least keep that tucked in my heart. Thank you Renee! I consider you as my friend and LOVE your daily conversations with me through email. God bless you. Who knows, maybe we will get to meet one day! That would make my day! Blessings to you and your family. THANK YOU!

  242. Wow! I love the don’t put your faith in the sheep, put it in the shepherd. how true this is! i have a very active, way of the will, fearless two-year-old who definitely keeps me on my toes. I am 11 weeks pregnant with my second (due at the end of the year) and am wondering just how much our family dynamic will change when he/she arrives. My boy is such a lover of life! He gives me such joy. Us mommas know though, not all days are peachy keen! and really i think how much am I going to my Father to get new energy? I need not to forget that Jesus fills my soul in order to be able to parent better. He gives me the strength and encouragement, my identity is in Him and Him alone! It is so good be around others who are in the same boat- just make sure to be surrounded near those who uplift and encourage.

    Cant wait to buy a copy of this book – thanks for the knowledge, Kathi!

  243. Debra Rose says:

    I WOULD LOVE TO WIN THIS BOOK. I HAVE A 10 YEAR OLD WITH ANXIETY FROM A DIVORCE, AND I HAVE A 19 AND 23 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER.
    MY 23 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER COULD ALSO USE THIS BOOK SINCE SHE HAS A 5 YEAR OLD AND A 1 YEAR OLD BOY.
    WE NEED AS MUCH GUIDANCE AS WE CAN GET RAISING OUR CHILDREN IN TODAY’S WORLD.
    THANKS SO MUCH FOR YOUR HELP.

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