Praying for Our Boys

EncourageOneAnother

I noticed something different as soon as Andrew walked in the door. One evening, not so long ago, my 16-year old came home from working-out at the Y and told me a custodian had stopped him in the hallway and said he “looked like a champion” after working out. Andrew said he felt like giving the guy a hug because it made him feel good someone noticed his hard work lifting weights. Then he felt kind of awkard so he just told him “thanks” and kept walking.

But, when he got to the exit door, Andrew decided to drop his bag and run back to thank the guy for encouraging him.

The next morning as we were heading out the door for school, Andrew was still thinking about what had happened. He said he was tired of thinking about himself all the time and he’d decided any time he gets a sense in his heart that he needs to encourage someone, he’s going to follow through.

I did everything I could to hold back the tears. And with his permission I want to share why.

We have been on a hard part of Andrew’s journey this past year. A journey filled with doubts and hard questions about God, compounded by frustration and uncertainties about his purpose in life.

A journey that has broken my heart and brought me to my knees.

And while praying for my son, I’ve heard wisdom that could only come from his Heavenly Father.

  • Wisdom told me not to react, but to listen closely as Andrew vented words that were hard to hear.
  • Wisdom told me to keep my mouth shut, and let my actions speak louder than my emotions.
  • Wisdom helped me breathe deep and look for ways to affirm unique gifts I’d seen in Andrew that he could no longer see in himself.

I have admired Andrew’s natural tendency to notice and encourage others for years. But it had disappeared. So, I’d been praying 1 Thessalonians 5:11 for him, asking Jesus to help this boy I love remember what brings him joy and purpose.

And God had answered, using the kindness of a stranger to stir up that life-giving gift in my son. That day, a ray of hope broke through the clouds. And each day it gets a little brighter as I stay on my knees and in God’s word on my son’s behalf.

Parenting is hard. It can leave a mama feeling worn out and weary from the battle for the hearts of her children.

If that is you, please keep reading and enter today’s special giveaway. I’m excited to introduce you to my new friend, Brooke McGlothlin.  Brooke knows what it’s like to want to wave the white flag and give up the fight but she also knows God has called mothers to get in the battle. So how do we do that in the most effective way? By coming alongside them in prayer.

Praying-for-Boys.CoverBrooke just released a new book, Praying for Boys: Asking God for the Things They Need Most, And I love it! So I’m giving away a copy today!

From fun boy mom humor, to insightful biblical wisdom, Brooke helps mothers of boys discover their value and power as praying moms. In Praying for Boys Brooke teaches us to discover delight in the chaos of raising boys, and helps us have more peace in our hearts and homes. {Disclaimer: If you have a daughter, don’t worry I’ve got another friend whose written a book for you and I’ll be giving away one soon!}

But if you are a mom of boys, I want to tell you a little more because this book is a praying-boy-mom’s treasure chest!

Praying for Boys will:

  • Help you stop hovering, and start covering.
  • Give you permission to wave the white flag, while empowering you with the tools you need to keep going.
  • Help you recognize your value and power as a praying mom.
  • Overcome feelings of failure, and walk in confidence as a mom.

My favorite part is that Brooke includes over 200 topically-organized, Scripture-based prayer prompts for 21 areas in which boys struggle the most.

Brook McGlothinBrooke McGlothlin is Co-founder of Raising Boys Ministries, where moms and dads come to discover delight in the chaos of raising boys. You can find her writing about fighting for the hearts of her sons at the MOB Society blog.  Brooke is also a homeschooling mom to her two boys and happily married to the man she’s had a crush on since the third grade.

 

ENTER TO WIN: Click “Share Your Thoughts” below this post and tell me about the boys you pray for.

I’ll choose a winner Sunday night, and announce it on my blog Monday, along with the 5 winners that will be picked from Wednesday’s Giveaway.

About Renee

Renee Swope is a Word-lover, story-teller, heart-encourager and grace-needer. She's also a wife, mom, friend, daughter and author of A Confident Heart, a Retailers Choice Award winning book that became a best-seller and has been published in six languages, with over 150,000 copies sold. Renee is speaks around the country at women's events and and serves on the writing team for DaySpring’s inCourage blog. For twenty years, Renee served in leadership at Proverbs 31 Ministries and as former co-host of the ministry's radio program, “Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee.

Comments

  1. Janet Lobdell says:

    I was so touched by this. I have a 14 year old son that I worry about so much. Reading this really hit home. I need to pray for my son just as you did. I know that he struggles with figuring out who he is and what his purpose is. I also struggle with mothering too much and when to let go and let him figure it out on his own. Would love to have this book. It would be a great help!

    • This book sounds wonderful. I have two sons one 16 and the other 14. My 14 year old is at war with his father. They just keep on bumping heads at every turn. And he now sometimes starts with his older brother. My older son I worry about him finding his way in life. They have both stop going to church and I feel that they don’t have God like they should. This book would really help me learn to pray for them. Bless you for sharing this with us.

  2. Jeanie Kelley says:

    It would have to be my son Daniel who is 13 years old. We have, it seems like, a war around here. I am not sure of my boundaries with him. He came to me one afternoon and said,”mom, someone is yelling at me.” I was completely surprised and wanted to know who it was. It was me. When he was young I would yell. I was just like my dad who was an exploder. I exploded at every thing. I also knew that I had a lot of verbal abuse when I was growing up. I have begun counseling for this issue of the verbal abuse and learning how to take those small steps that only God can provide. I would love to win this book just so it can give me wisdom to know how to pray for Daniel in such a way that we can begin the healing process of our relationship. Thanks for offering.

  3. The boys I pray for are my 23 year old son, my son-in-law, my grandson, and the future husbands of my daughters.

  4. I LOVE being the mom of boys but sometimes I feel like I am at war with the enemy fighting for their souls! I would love to read Brooke’s book to be encouraged and to know that I am not alone in this battle. I love the habit of praying scripture over our guys. With 2 teenagers I feel like we sometimes we are all speaking a different language and need God to be the interpreter.
    Thanks for having this giveaway.

  5. Thank you so much for this lesson today!!! It was just what I was aching for. My son is a beautiful and kind young man who has always been strong in his faith and walk for God. He is a junior in high school this year and it’s a tough one! The peer pressure is unbearable at times and although he remains strong, I can see the struggle. I see his battle to remain faithful and feel his pain. Pressures from athletics to perform, pressure to make his grades and still have time for his friends and Church activities and then the girls…it’s all taking a tole on him and he needs reassurance and encouragement but sometimes I really do want to wave the white flag!! The book sounds like a lifesaver! Beautiful post Renee, thank you!!

  6. There are several “boys” I pray for – my husband (yes, still a “boy” at heart!), my son, my son-in-law, my grandson and my future grandson. I like to have focused prayers for all of them!

  7. Thanks for the resources on praying for our sons. My son has been struggling some in school and we started praying together each morning. He even reminds me now if I forget to pray with him before school. It is really teaching him the power of prayer!

  8. This post gave me such hope! Not because your son had that revelation but because it shows me I am not alone in this fight for my son! I’m sad that I didn’t have these tools to be enlightened early on in my sons life but even though he’s 20 now, he’s still my boy and I still have that power of prayer and loving him that will linger on even when I am gone!

    Thank you for the confirmation, thank you for allowing GOD to bring that breath of fresh air to the moms who are blessed with such special children such as boys!! Thank you!!

    Although my son is not out of the woods yet, and doesn’t seem to want to be free of them, I know that GOD’s plans will prevail and he will break forth soon!!

  9. Christina says:

    I have two teenage sons! This story has encouraged me to start being more confident, secure and exact in praying for my wonderful boys! The oldest is a man of God! He is a young life leader to a group of young men from a high school and does a fabulous job. However, at home I he is not that young life leader! I have often prayed and even begged God to teach him that his natural family needs him and his words. Especially his younger brother and sister!!! Oh I am praying hard for the opportunity to be able to receive a copy of this book to read. To be able to pray for my oldest and to be able to help him understand! What a fabulous and inspiring story ….THANK YOU RENEE.

  10. T.K. Floyd says:

    I pray for my son Benjamin, who just turned 12 years old this week…

  11. My 24-year-old son has blessed me with my first grandchild (son). Praying, praying, praying for this new generation. This book would be a great blessing to my daughter-in-law.

  12. Crystal Moore says:

    I have a grown son but 4 grandboys under the age of 6 by my son. . I was a young mom and still pray for my son. My son was grown before I had the wisdom to breathe deep and truly point him toward God. He is a father now and I want him to raise his boys so much better than I ever did. My prayers are with him, his wife and my grandsons. May God use each and everyone for His glory.
    Thank you for all you share.

  13. Terra Bryant says:

    I have a wonderful 10 year old son, whom I look forward to getting this book for! As a single mom, it is very hard to sit back sometimes and see my son wishing for a dad like everyone else has. One day at baseball practice, Caleb was having trouble hitting the ball, and one of the other kids shouted “you cant hit the ball, because you dont have a dad.”! I keep reminding him about his great Heavenly Father,and how He is all we need. I am so glad somebody finally wrote this book!

  14. I have a 20 year old son that has struggle since my ex-husband and I divorced. There are a lot of negative people in his life. This past summer he contemplated suicide. He is not happy in his life and work. I work at our local church as the secretary so I have our church ladies praying for him. I am trying to talk him into moving to Texas to be with my brother and sister in law. I have two other boys 16 and 6 and am a single mom.

  15. Maureen Chiasson says:

    A good reminder to pray daily instead of expressing anger and disappointment. Humbling myself today to look at my boys through God’s eyes instead of my own. Back to prayer as a priority for everyone I know in need of prayer.

  16. The book sounds fantastic. I have a son who has a mild from of aspergers and I worry about him and his future. In addition his father is not a positive roll model for him. I’m constantly praying for him and his future. Thanks for sharing today!

  17. Jill Kuiper says:

    My son is 10 right now. He focuses on himself and his winning abilities all the time. I often tell him to think of others before himself. There are those sweet precious times when he says or does something that brings tears to my eyes. I would love the chance to read this book and look at who he is and my role in that. Prayeris something I struggle with – I know it’s importance, yet don’t give it the attention it needs/deserves. Thanks for sharing!

  18. I pray for my 2 sons continually. My youngest son who joined the Air Force 2 years ago. Happily married one minute and the next she says I want a divorce, I don’t love you! My son is devastated ! My heart is broken for my son and selfishly for myself! I loved and still do love her and pray for her (she does not believe in God or Jesus) my son thought he could lead her to Christ and she would be saved! He feels he let her down and worries about her salvation! He is alone at Eglin Air Force Base with no family and no friends and oh how I want to be by his side! My heart breaks for him! Son number 1…..where do I begin? He has been in trouble since as far back as I remember. He loves his momma this I know!!! He is 33 and recently started going to church! Praise God!!! Been praying for years for my son to find Jesus! I know the only reason he goes is to appease me! I have to believe Jesus will crack his heart open and he will truly hear the word! I find my faith dwindling at times and need so much to STAY IN THE WORD, which can be very challenging at times!!! I thank you for sharing your life stories and struggles! God Bless!

  19. Jill Blackburn says:

    I am the mother if 3 growing, beautiful boys. Jack is
    14 and trying to navigate through high school, Justin who will turn 13 this spring (in the midst of middle school and finding his way)and James who is 10 and struggles with controlling his emotions, especially being the youngest brother.
    My sons are similar, yet different in so many ways…I don’t know I could handle mothering without having God to turn to.
    Thank you for your story and for sharing about this book!

  20. Paula Blake says:

    Praying for my boys j who is 16, and n who is 13, who came to know The Lord before 3. I pray that my Jesus will become their Jesus, and that they will want to live for him!

  21. I have 5 boys 13, 12, 10, 8, & 5. The 13 yo doctors say he ADHD and my 12 yo the Dr’s say he’s ADHD & pediatr bipolar. Sometimes I find myself praying for those two more than the three youngest. My 12 yo have been to numerous mental hospitald & ive been back and forth to school plenty of times. There were days that i just wanted to just give & questioning God why. This book would be great resource for me to pray for all my boys because since my walk w God has been better i know there’s no better word than our Heavenly Father. Thanks for having this giveaway!

  22. That was beautiful. As a parent and a mother, we do spend many hours on our knees. Always keeping you and your family in our prayers.

  23. I pray for my two grandsons and their wonderful parents. As I watch these sweet boys, ages 3 and 5 months, I am sometimes at a loss as to what to pray. I am grateful for the promise of the Spirit who intercedes for us. This is a battle not to be lost.
    Thank you for your blog that encourages and inspires.

  24. Thanks for sharing. I subscribed to the blog 🙂

  25. I love this post! I continually pray for my 16 month old son, Evan. Since my husband and I found out we were pregnant, I have prayed for God to protect him and for his salvation. Every night, we say our prayers and I pray for a hedge of protection around him, for Evan to have an open heart toward God and for him to be kind to others. I pray that he will accept Christ in his life and become the man God wants him to be.

    I know the book will definitely be useful as Evan grows and encounters different stages in life!

  26. I struggle with my boy at times I feel so unrelatable to him and not something I like feeling. He struggles with listening and doing things before the thinks. This book may be an answer to prayer.

  27. Oh my where do I start, I have the brady bunch!~ My husband and I have 3 boys and 3 girls ~ we are a blended family with many blessings and challenges. Our two peas in a pod boys seem to be the ones struggling the most at the moment but all have had their struggles. Yes, one is my biological and one is his. We have had the prodigal child syndrome a couple of times too! but these last two do need a lot of prayer! Thank you for your site and God inspired words of hope and love. God always knows when I need them most@!

  28. Raising boys is hard because the way society has tried to form their minds on earthly things
    Instead of Godly things. They want them to be selfish an self centered. But tne Bible days train a chil in the wAy they should go an tney will not depart from it. Our boys need our prayers .

  29. Pray for my daughter as she raises her wonderful, precious, 3 yr old son Rylee and for Rylee to grow and become what God has planned for his life. Pray Rylee will know Jesus as his Savior and trust Him. Pray for God’s protection, grace, mercy, love and guidance over Rylee. Prayers of thanksgiving for blessing us with Rylee and the joy and love he brings through him. How wonderful to be Nana and experience God’s love and presence in this way. As a mother, you feel love in a new dimension and it is indescribable. As a grandmother, it is again brand new and another revelation of God’s glory. Oh how our Heavenly Father loves us SO much more, so much better with such deeper understanding than we can even imagine; but he gives us a glimpse of the magnitude, through our children and grandchildren. Praise God for all these blessings and may Proverbs 22:6 be evident in Rylee’s life.

  30. Elaine Segstro says:

    I am the only “woman” in our family – 2 sons (ages 21 and 24) and my dear husband. There have been MANY challenges – sometimes I feel like waving the white flag! And, to stop hovering but cover them in prayer is a challenge to me. I feel that I should have/could have been a better mom. I love them and I know God loves them even more. This book sounds wonderful!

  31. Thanks for the encouragement to pray better! My boy at home is 21, my other “boys” are my Marine son, two sons-in-law, one darling grandson and even my hubby and brother. Thanks to the LORD for your servant’s heart to encourage us through Proverbs31 ministry. We appreciate you and all our sistahs in the LORD! Have a delightful day in Jesus!

  32. Patty Buchanan says:

    I have 2 sons. They are 31 and 27. As parents we can never pray enough for our children. From finding the perfect mate to making the right choices. We still pray for them and the struggles they face as adults. It makes a Moms heart warm when you see rhe fruits of those prayers being answered. Boys are wonderful and I always knew God wanted me to be a Mom of boys. Since I never had girls he sent me a beautiful granddaughter and 2 precious daughter in laws. I tell my daughter in laws all the time that we have been praying for you for many years and we did not even know your name. We planted seeds when they were young and God has blessed us to see the fruits of those prayers! I continue to pray!

  33. This book is a reminder I need to pray for my son too. I realize I’ve been putting all my energy and prayer into my older girls. I think it is because I fear they will have to go through the same things I have and I don’t really know that much about boys.

  34. I pray for my sons and my husband and I could really use the guidance of this book! Thanks for posting information about it. Looks like a great resource.

  35. This could not be more timely. Driving my son to school this morning, he confided in me that he was struggling with a difficult decision. After dropping him off , I said a quick prayer at the next stoplight on his behalf. Raising a boy is a blessing but can sometimes be a challenge.

  36. Renee, I am so excited you shared this book! I can’t wait to read it. Always looking for more truths and promises to pray over my sweet boy.

    Love you,

    Wendy

  37. I recently married a man with a son. I have a daughter so I have a hard time understanding what boys go through. I believe this book will help me know how to pray God’s word for Nathan as he finds his way in this world.

  38. Renee, thank you so very much for sharing your son’s story! I truly needed to hear those words & am committing to praying 1 Thessalonians 5:11 for my 15 yr old daughter. We too have been travelling down a rough road with her this school year and sometimes I look at her and want to check for a zipper – to see if someone is wearing a costume to make them look like my daughter, because the words & actions do not match who we have always known her to be. Thank you for your words they are a blessing from God to remind me that there is hope and to keep pressing on. Blessings to you, Jody

  39. I pray for my 2 sons-24yr old searching for the path God has chosen for him and my 14yr-the temptations that are waved in front of and him ,that he will be strong to resist those and remember that he is a child of God. Also I pray a future son-in-law

  40. Crissy K. says:

    I have two sons. Almost 13 and 11. We are a military family and preparing to move again in 3 months. The boys basically love each other, they share a room, but there is a lot of fighting and wrestling and trying to establish power. I, of course, and a hover and do -it-all kind of mom. I need to let go – let them grow into the amazing boys/men they are going to be but I would love to be covering them in prayer so that I can rest in that fact. Love the story you shared about your son.

    Moving is hard. Have two boys is hard. Being a parent is hard. But I love it – I just want to be better at it.

  41. Renee, our son has been struggling all his life, never feeling like he was good enough, and never wanting to do the work to make himself feel successful. Now he has a brain injury from an work accident, he has become angry, bitter, confused and spilling downward. He breaks my heart daily from the angry, and the way he now chooses his life, of girls, sex and drinking, WE are now paying him not to drink, and so far it has been working for 8 weeks. He is a bright, smart young man, who if he worked hard could have an amazing life. How do we make him want that? Need prayers to continue just to listen and not react, to be the pray warrior for him and help him want the good life that God has promised.

  42. My son, 10, is autistic. He blends in and by all accounts is very typical. HOWEVER, he has obsessive thoughts and doesn’t always understand things the way we do. Because of that, I am particularly worried about the “teen” years and all the social pressures of relationships, intimacy, etc. I worry about that for him for marriage too. He has an insane sense of right and wrong, but often not until after that fact and learns the why. I can’t expose him to everything at once to give him every life lesson he will need to navigate this but at the same time, I think about it often praying his eyes and heart will be protected.

  43. Helen Loewen says:

    This book sounds really wonderful to me. I look forward to reading it. I have 3 boys, one is 23 and married, he has all kinds of things on his plate, but the one that stands out right now is he and a friend are opening up a store at the beginning of March, one is 21 and has done through all kinds of struggles, from being a dad at 16, giving that child up(very difficult decision), getting into drugs, struggling to hold down a job(but doing well in this area now), and he now has a house and is renovating and struggling financially, and my youngest son is 17, goes to youth, bible study and helps teach Sunday School, he is graduating this year, he also plays drums in a Christian band. So as you can clearly see, I have a lot to pray for and any help I can get, is much appreciated.
    Helen

  44. My son is 15 and light years beyond most of his friends in maturity! Some days I wonder aloud about the whereabouts of my precious first born?? I do catch a glimpse of the young boy that was so loving and sweet. I keep telling myself it is his age, but all too often I walk away from encounters with him ( cant quite call them conversations:) ) feeling lost and hurt:((. Some days I don’t even know what to pray for???

  45. My son is 15, the youngest of three. (older two are girls) I worry about my son sometimes because my husband’s job requires him to travel alot, usually for a week at a time. with weekends at home. My son struggles with being the “man of the house” when his dad is gone, as well as being the only male in the house. He is still a teenage boy who needs to enjoy this time in his life, focus on school, church and friends. I worry that he gets overwhelmed. I do not want him to feel pressured into growing up too soon, and then start rebelling. I would love to have the book as a resource and guide on how to pray more effectively for my son and his needs, his faith, his future, as well as praying for my husband when he is away from home, and the need for him to be a spiritual leader and an active, positive influence for our son when he is here.

  46. I am a Mom to 4 fantastic sons 26, 21, 17 & 14. It has brought me some of the most joy I have ever felt, and some of the most pain. But I am SO blessed and thankful to be the mother of sons. My oldest son is having his first child this Summer and it is a girl! What am I going to do?!

  47. I am so grateful for the oppurtunity to pray for my sons who are 16 and 15. They lost their dad 3 1/2 years ago by suicide. Their feelings of grief and abandonment have been very hard to break through. Lets face it, boys do not talk and share freely. Trying to listen and not speak and learning to be the disciplinarian has been a challange for me. As a mom, we want to encourage and love our children. Take away all their pain, not enforce rules and boundaries. It’s been an incredible time of learning and growth for all of us. I am blessed by God for the wonderful people that he has so graciously sent our way to help. I would love to have the opportunity to read Brooke’s new book and learn more about the power of prayer. Thank you Renee for all you do to encourage woman!

  48. Hi Reene thks so much for your so timing post sahring your heart about praying for your son.
    I have a 14 year old son who has been expouse to sex videos about a year ago and when I found out it just broke my heart. I can begin to explain the pain I felt since I know God’s plan for my son are amazing. He’s still battleling and struggling with thoughts the enemy likes to throw at him, so I do pray and fast for my son to be set free. I know Jesus has set us free but we need to believe it and walk in that freedom, so I pray my son will believe that he’s set free by the power of the cross that Jesus is enough. That he doesn’t need to feel trap in any thought or behavior that is not pleasing to God for he’s a child of God bought to freedom.
    The other night my son came to my crying since the enemy has been harassing him and I just prayed over him and for him. I do love and thk God that my son has that open heart and mouth to trust me, so please pray for also for me so as I seek God He will give me the wisdom to share His word and His heart with my son.
    Thank you so much! Thks for your book A Confiden Heart and your life- a precious testimony of being an aver comer by the power of Jesus!

  49. I pray for my husband and my son, who’s 4. He has some issues that make him a little different so I pray that he and I will learn to deal with them the best that we can. It can be difficult with him because he is hard to work with at times, but I just pray for him the best I can

  50. My husband and I have two wonderful boys – a 22 year old and a 16 year old. I pray for special care and godly and moral direction for them daily. Although our 16 year old has been homeschooled his entire life in our Christian home with a social life of mostly extended family members, a day will come soon when I must turn him loose completely to the world. I pray that with all the newness of that “freedom”, he will remember everything we have taught him about prayer and living for God and about being a leading example with those tools instead of letting others lead him where he should not go. Scripture to aid us through this transaction would be wonderful to have. Thank you for this offer.

  51. Diana Bayer says:

    I have a church member that is a young unwed mother of two little boys that I would love to give her a copy of this book to help her as she tries to raise these little boys on her own. I know today it is harder to raise children with all the distractions they have at their finger tips.

  52. My nephew worries me so much i pray to God to show him the way he needs to go. when he was a Young boy he used to sing for the Lord with passion its sad to see the path he is taking.

  53. Suzanne VanSligtenhorst says:

    When I read “Help you stop hovering, and start covering”, I smiled because that’s me sometimes. I am the lone female in the household with my hubby and 9 year old son, Jacob. Sometimes, I have so much difficulty in relating to my son. I grew up with an older brother with cerebral palsy so there are does when I just don’t “get” my son. But, with the Lord’s help, I’m trying 🙂

  54. My boys are 8 and 4. My serious, football stat loving, mop head B, and my silly, kiss giv’in, war cry yell’in, PJ lover, Ty. They are as different as night and day and I love them with all my heart. I pray they grow up to be Godly men like their Daddy. I actually just purchased this book and can’t wait to dig in. But I would love a copy to give away to another Mama of 2 boys. We share quite a bit, how to do life with our “wild things.” I praise God daily that he chose me to be just the mom they need. Me. Not my task list or accomplishments. Just me. Lord, help me to do a good job introducing them to you!
    Paige

  55. This year has been one of those years. My son has come home from his 5 years in the military so discouraged and bitter at God as well as family. I have been praying he will be reminded of all the verses he has learned and turn back to God

  56. This book would be very beneficial to me. I have 2 sons, ages 16 and 8. Please include me in this drawing

  57. Pam Jones says:

    I have a 6 year old son and I have been having such a hard time with him for the last year or so. His Daddy took a job where he travels a lot, sometimes up to 3 weeks out of the month. My son is a very sweet, loving, kind little boy but when his Daddy has to leave, his entire personality changes. He has such separation anxiety and sadness over his father being gone that he becomes angry and defiant, sometimes crying over nothing, sometimes being very argumentative and disrespectful. He has problems concentrating on homework and what should take fifteen or twenty minutes at most can take an hour or more to complete. I’ve tried everything from stiff discipline to just hugging it out and it has gotten some better, but it still gives me so much anxiety when his Dad has to leave that I have begun to dread it almost more than my little boy. I’ve prayed and I’ve cried and I know God has helped me, but it’s been a long road and I think it will continue to be difficult in the years to come. I’m determined that my sweet little boy not grow up to be an angry, trouble-filled teenager but I know that it isn’t all in my hands. I have to give some of it up to God, but some days I don’t know how?

  58. Julie Tate says:

    As I read your article tears filled my eyes because I feel were your coming from. I’m the mother of twin 11yr. old boys. It’s truly been a blessing to experience Gods creation through their eyes, but it’s also very difficult raising boys . I can see their heart for God, but I also see the enemy battling for that heart on a daily basis, SPIRITUAL WARFARE. I know my boys are ultimately Gods boys not mine and want to please him in raising them and how I handle each challenge in there life. This books looks like a must have for a mother of boys.

  59. Nicci Ramirez says:

    **Tears** My (5) nephews…..

  60. Liz Cress says:

    I have two boys 11 & 9 . I really want to be more proactive in praying for my boys. I want them to be better than me in their relationship with Jesus.

  61. Vanessa Wynn says:

    I have one daughter – almost 21, and four boys. My boys are 18, 15,14, and 12. As a mother, I sometimes find it hard to relate to my boys. I try to understand and advise them, but I know that women and men think and see things differently and sometimes that gap is hard to bridge. It is a blessing to be a mother and to be given the gift of sharing our lives with these wonderful, lovely people, but being a mother is hard sometimes, too. The best gift we can give to our sweet families is the gift of prayer.

  62. I am a single mom raising two amazing teenage boys. Like any mom, I worry about them & the choices that they make. I put a lot of pressure on myself to be the best mom that I can be for them. My heart’s desire is for them to be godly men someday. I would love a copy of this book – praying for my boys is the most powerful tool I have in raising them.

  63. Lesley Geer says:

    I pray for my 4 yr old son, Noah and my husband. I would love to receive a copy of this book! I pray that God gives them wisdom and a heart that seeks the Lord in everything they do!

  64. The boy I pray for is my son, who is 4 days away from being 13 years old! Thank you for the encouragement!

  65. My son is now an adult with a wife and children of his own. I find that I need to pray for him now more than ever. I am thankful that we have a God that hears our prayers with no limits, no boundaries. We mothers must have the wisdom, guidance and direction to pray for our sons in a manner in which God wants us to. Our sons never outgrow the need for their mother’s sweet prayers.

  66. Juanita Smith says:

    thank you for the encouragement to keep praying for our children even when we think it is getting us no where. I look forward to reading this book. I pray for both of my sons, my son-in-law and my brothers, but for my youngest who is 14 gets angry quickly mostly at his family and I keep attributing it to his father passing a couple years ago. Even though he was saved and baptized when he was 9, I know this is eating away at him. Please, if you remember, keep my Michael in your prayers. Thanks again for your inspirational post and knowing that we are not alone, and need to pray for all the boys of this world.

  67. I have been busy raising three daughters who are 23, 19, and 15. However I also have a son who is 5 years old and he is SO different from my girls! I feel like I am learning to parent all over again. I am greatly enjoying my little man but could definitely use some words of wisdom to help me through this process. I also have two grandsons who are 10 months and 3 years old and I would love to be able to share words of wisdom in raising boys with my daughter!

  68. Jessica F says:

    I have a 6-year old boy and this book will for sure help me to be the godly man God has called him to be. Raising boys seems so challenging. Thank you so much for sharing your story! God bless.

  69. Oh gosh this is what I’ve been needing to read, thank you thank you thank you! I just told my husband the other day that ” I couldn’t do it anymore” so frustrated waving the white flag. We have 2 boys 14 & 11. It’s our 11 year old that is giving us a run of worries anxiety and grey hairs 🙂 already. He is disobedient , tells fibs, and isn’t motivated in school at all until we are on him ( and take away all privileges ) then it’s crunch time and do better. It’s very draining and causes friction in our home with everyone, I am at loss for words things to do etc, so with that being said I am so grateful to have read this devotion this morning and being reassured their is hope and to keep praying and Let God do his miracles.. Thank you for writing and knowing of a book to help with this. Enjoy you journey
    April 🙂

  70. As a Mom of 2 grown sons and 3 precious grandsons I have varied issues to pray about. I look at how the world and society has changed since we raised our sons and fear for our grandsons lest they get drawn into the snares the world has to offer that weren’t there even 25 years ago. It’s an awe inspiring responsibility to lift them up and to hold my tongue when I’d so like to offer unasked for advice to my son and daughter-in-law. The book sounds like a wonderful resource and encouragement.

  71. My son is 16 years old. My son and I were separated for almost 10 years because I decided in my past wrong way to think that I was the correct person to make the plans in my life and my sons life so I came to the United States to offer him a better life. “The american dream” but I lost too many days and years being separate of the biggest blessing of my life not knowing the big damage I was doing to my own son. I’m a single mother and Glory to God in this country I started to knew who really is God. I gave my life to Jesus 2 years ago and I finally surrender to Him. My son came to live with me 3 years ago and it has been really a challenge for both of us but my trust is in The King of Kings. I really think mothers prayers can change the life of our kids but we need to know how to pray and ask God for His perfect will for them. Sounds an interesting book. No doubt to buy it. God bless you all!

  72. Janell Kessler says:

    I love my boys. I have two, 15 and 8. Both at different stages in life. Both with different concerns that I pray about. God has blessed us!

  73. I so loved your story. Thanks to both you & Andrew for sharing it. I have 3 sons I’ve prayed for since before they were born. Zach is a married 27 year old, Jordan is 25 and Tyler is 23. They are amazing men. They have each had struggles and we have recently seen our middle son come back to God after 5 years of being a prodigal. It is so so so hard not to hover, try to control and sit in fear. God is good, I know He loves them more than I do. I’ve struggled with the prayer peace in that I know God tells me to pray, prayer matters but I don’t understand how, why and have sometimes used prayer as a “gum ball machine or lucky rabbits foot”. I’d like to grow in my faithfulness in prayer. I’d love to win the book. I also have a friend struggling with her 18 year old, I would like to have her read Brooks book too. I am excited to read Brooke’s book.
    Thank You~
    Annie M

  74. Debbie Peebles says:

    I have two boys. The oldest is married and has a good job, loves his family and attends church.
    The youngest is in Afghanistan. He is married but the marriage has problems. We had a few rough teenage
    years and words and hurt happened. He is doing better now and he reads his Bible daily. I pray for both of my boys!

  75. Barb Kreutzmann says:

    My 12-year-old who is struggling with Type 1 Diabetes and ADHD. He’s smart, but hates school. He questions his purpose in the world. Such heavy things for one so young. Also for my 31-year-old who watches his friends get married and start families and wonders why he hasn’t found his “the one” yet.

  76. I was really moved by this. My heart is so poured out for my Killian. He is 12, has some autism spectrum, but worse–has a Dad who discourages him from loving the Lord. Even before he was born I could feel the Holy Spirit pouring off of him, but now it is that God must work in him in other ways. He is kind unless he’s bullying someone, he’s a great reader & a good student, unless he doesn’t like the subject or the Teacher, he will say grace but rebels when it’s time to go to church.

    I pray for him, his brother & all the men in my life. God seems to send them to me lately & it’s an honor to pray for them. Thanks for everything!

  77. Debbie Herbst says:

    I am praying for my 20 year old college son and my prayer partner’s 15 year old son. Another friend has a son who is 21 and struggling but what encouragement about this book, after my conversation with her yesterday. This encourages me to be stonger and more confident in my prayers, when it does seem very effective. Thank you and thank God.

  78. I am an old maid retired school teacher. I never gave birth, but I have many boys. I have four living brothers, two brothers in law, eight nephews, eight great nephews, my church boys and many precious former students. I pray! I pray for two brothers who were elders in their churches and no longer attend, for the husbands of my nieces, ESP. the one who used drugs. I pray for the boys at church whose parents don’t attend. I pray for my brothers in Christ. This book sounds great. I would love to give it to my sister who has a 14 year old ADHD son and a brain damaged husband.

  79. I am a single Mom praying for my 13 year old son. It seems like lately we are speaking two different languages and everything is a confrontation. It’s amazing because our church family doesn’t believe I’m speaking of the same child when I say what is going on, our latest battle. My prayer partner and I having praying about a way to connect to him. How do I get through the hormones that clearly know how to reach him?

    • Cindy Power says:

      Don’t give up, Karen! I also am the single parent of two sons and a daughter. We had some very rough times but God is faithful! HE will take care of your boy and draw you closer. Boys go thru just as many rough times as girls do in their teenage years. I am very thankful to share that my boys are now in their early 30s and married to precious Godly women. Wishing you the best…..

  80. My husband, 4 grown sons, and 4 grandsons. It is such a privilege to raise sons. A gift from the Lord.

  81. Cindy Power says:

    OH…how is WISH I’d had this when my boys were younger. I was/am a single parent from the time my boys were 5 & 7. It wasn’t easy to raise and teach, care for and be the right example and not fall asleep in the middle of praying from total exhaustion. I thank God we made it and I have two fine Christian sons who married precious Godly women. BUT…they are still my sons and still need guidance, encouragement and prayer. One is expecting his first child now and if I find it is a boy I will certainly order this book for his parents. My daughter has a son and this would be perfect for her. God bless you, Renee…I feel the joy of your heart! It is so thrilling to me when I SEE answered prayers. Praise the Lord!

  82. Iris Roubique says:

    I am praying for my youngest son. He has had to become a man way too young. 3 1/2 years ago, at 16, he and his 16 year old girlfriend became parents to extremely (4 months early) premature twin girls. The doctors had told us all that the second twin would be stillborn due to stunted growth and a rapidly failing heart beat. The first twin (Kileigh) was born at 2 pounds 2 ounces and one minute later the second twin (Hope) was born, alive and crying at only 12 ounces.
    The girls spent 3 1/2 months for Kileigh and almost 5 months for Hope in the NICU. The mother didn’t want to be a mother, so my son (wanting the girls very much) dropped out of highschool to stay home and care for these wonderful blessings. He has devoted his future to them and has given up many things a teenage boy would normally have. He is a wonderful father and is searching for the God he knew as a young child. His faith was strengthened during the NICU days with his girls as God defied every decree the doctors had as to the potential for severe handicaps. We have seen God perform miracle after miracle with each of these girls. However, as we all know, the day to day of raising children can wear away at our faith. I just continue to pray that God will show him the way home to his Heavenly Father and that the faith and trust will truly be doubled. I know that God has a special plan for all His children and I continue to pray that my son finds his.

  83. Shirley Allen says:

    Yes, Sister Renee: I would have loved this book 42 yrs ago, however, God’s message is the same then and now as “Praying Boys.” Thank you as my son & granddaughter live with us and my prayers are still being answered just like you shared about Andrew. I have a 14 yr old grandson and would love the refreshment of “praying boys”. Thank you.

    All praise to the God and Father of our Master, Jesus the Messiah! Father of all mercy! God of all healing counsel! He comes alongside us when we go through hard times, and before you know it, he brings us alongside someone else who is going through hard times so that we can be there for that person just as God was there for us. We have plenty of hard times that come from following the Messiah, but no more so than the good times of his healing comfort—we get a full measure of that, too. (2 Corinthians 1:3-5 MSG)

  84. Thank you for the encouragement that I needed to hear! I am a mother to two boys and a girl. It has been fun and challenging at the same time. There have been many times where I always ask my husband if it’s “normal” for boys to fight this much. I want to show them how to love, but am tired. Through your email, I’ve realized that I need to let go and trust them to The Lord for His love. Thank you!

  85. I have 5 boys. Ages 12, 9, 5, 3, and 2. Life with boys is hard and sometimes I am all around grossed out by them. I do pray for them. Right now I am at a lost about how to pray. My 12 is so sensitive to what he hears and what goes on around him. He has a caring heart but gets annoyed easily by the 9 yr old. My 9 yr old thinks he’s so funny in his agitation and what he says. I don’t like what comes out of his mouth at this time. My 5 yr old has been diagnosed with ODD. Which is a whole new world altogether. And the littler ones give me a run for my energy and my attitude. But I keep asking God for direction and wisdom. Mother in law is no help asking advice. She can’t remember or wasn’t around much when her boys were growing up. I only have a sister so this territory is all new to me.

  86. My son is a young adult and I have an excellent relationship with him. However, while he is successful in terms of the world’s definition of success, he is not walking with the Lord. As a result he has, unfortunately, engaged in many unwise worldly activities and relationships. I pray for him every day. I know that nothing is too hard for God and that His will is that all come to repentance. That is what gives me hope.

  87. Carmen Palmer says:

    I have a 16 year old who questions everything about God , and Religion. He has stopped going to
    church as he gets nothing out of it. Struggling and very sad. Sure could use this book.
    God Bless

  88. I have a twelve year old boy, and middle school is taking its toll on him. He doesn’t play sports; he prefers to read a good book or play video games. This makes him a little different from the “in” crowd. He’s having trouble making friends and feels he’s doomed to be socially awkward. I could certainly use advice in praying for him and shepherding his heart in the right direction.

  89. My two sons (ages 5 and 3 right now) and I pray every night before they go to sleep, and my prayer is always “Lord, please help me to raise them up in the way they should go so they’ll never depart from it!”

  90. I am a grand mother of 2 grand sons… and their mommy is a new Christian, tho raised knowing about GOD… she made her choice with God in His perfect timing : )
    I know she is living this exact part of life as I live next door, I am welcomed into their life…I am so blessed… But mt daughter is so thirsty for all she can do to be a better mom she exceeds any thing I ever did… I think this will be so helpful and encouraging for her… One of those little gifts from God…

  91. My husband and I just recently found out that we’re pregnant with a boy. We have been praying for him since we found out we were pregnant. We want to make sure he is grown up as a Godly man, even though it is so hard to do these days.

  92. I pray for my 4yr. old grandson & his parents as they are raising him. He is at the age where he is curious about different things around him and asks a lot of questions. I would like to give this book to his parent .

  93. Lana Archer says:

    As any mom of grown children know, you are always a mom, and though it is different, still raising your children. I have raised/am raising two young men… one who right now has really taken a wrong turn off the right path, and the other who volunteers for missions,and actively works in the Youth Ministry field…I remember the exciting, tearful, and fun times when they were young,and am looking forward to the exciting, tearful, and fun times ahead as they continue on their journey. I would love to read this book and share it with my daughter who is now on her own adventure raising her sons, 4 and one soon to be 1. I believe you need to do alot of praying and have a positive attitude to go on our journey with God.. and he will never leave you and make a way where there seems to me none sometime!!!!!!

  94. My husband and I have 5 sons! We have always said we are raising an army of boys for God but it sue isn’t easy. Ours is a busy chaotic home at times, that’s for sure! I would love to have a book about raising godly boys to help encourage us through! Our oldest is almost 17, our youngest is 5. They are truly a joy! 🙂

  95. Linda Fern says:

    Renee, your story is really touching. A mother never stops worrying over her children, and this book sounds like the perfect gift for my mother, who raised three sons. She often comments, have I done the right things where the “boys” are concerned. My brothers are awesome men, but a mother’s heart is always towards her children. My brothers and I are blessed to have our mom, she is amazing.

  96. I just saw this book in a ad my grandma received in the mail yesterday and thought to myself I need this book because I have a 5yr old son. God works in the most ironic ways because today you mentioned this book.
    Renee for the last 6 months it has not been an easy road with my son. I left a relationship that was not based on God and my son has taken his anger out on me because I took him away from the only Dad he knew. Praise God in the last few weeks he is starting to listen to me and not attack me. This book will be a tremendous help and resource for me and my son!

  97. I am praying for my 25 year old son who needs the Lord.

  98. I am praying for my son who is 9 and his sister who is 12. They are in such a critical time of nurturing and guiding. I pray that I am the mother that they need. I want my children to always know that I am on their side and I have a listening ear without condemnation. Just last night my son did something that wasn’t bad but he thought he was going to be in trouble with me and his dad. We showed grace and I could tell it made a difference. His countenance and attitude changed.

    Love to read books that lead me back to Christian principles for raising my children. I would love to receive a copy of the book! Thanks.

  99. Thank you for the encouragement. I have 2 sons, my oldest entered the Lord’s Kingdom at the age of 17 yrs (will be 7 yrs this month) and my youngest is 22. He misses his brother and looked up to him. He was a godly example to his siblings.
    This week I have been praying for my son, that the Lord would fill him with His knowledge and wisdom. Praises to the Lord that my son has stayed on the path and that he would continue all the days of his life.
    The Lord has revealed so many scriptures in just this week and then I read your devotion, all God’s timing.
    He is amazing!
    Love you Lord!
    Blessings to all mothers praying for their boys.

  100. Kerrie Williams says:

    Thanks for sharing your story!
    I have a son who is 8 and a stepson who is 9 and a stepdaughter who is 6.
    I am continually praying that I am the nurturing mother these children need. To me, it’s a balance between helping them learn to do things on their own and doing things for them. My stepchildren are with my fiance and I one week and then their mom the next so that adds more complexity; just different rules and expectations!
    I’m certainly not perfect but continually ask the Holy Spirit to guide me in raising these children.
    My 8 year old has such a big heart already and it melts mine when I see him give up things so others can have them.
    I love to read and this books sounds amazing!!!!

  101. Stacy Welmaker says:

    God’s timing is perfect. I drove my 16 year old to school. He had a heavy heart, but didn’t want to talk about it. He didn’t eat breakfast and didn’t sleep well last night. I asked my typical pushy mom questions with no success. Finally I asked: what can I pray about? I have to admit I asked the question for my own selfish reasons really hoping to find out the root of the issue, but God didn’t want me to know. My son asked me to pray for grace. So, when I got home, I texted him a short prayer. He responded with a thank you. I am learning that patience with a teenager is where love meets wisdom. Thank you for writing this devotional piece for me to read today!

  102. I loved the story you shared about your son. I have a 21 year old son. He is at college and has been having a tough time. He has went through a lot over his school years. I pray for him all the time and sometimes I just don’t know what to say anymore. I know that God is preparing him for something big. It is the only way I can justify the many trials. He is a great guy with a sensitive and kind heart. I pray that he will turn toward God and not away, especially in the tough times. I often feel like I have failed as a mom. It is so tough not to get caught up. When your kids are hurting or someone hurts them, it is so hard not to react. I am excited about the book you told us about.

    I have a 23 year old daughter that I worry about too. I will be looking for the other title you were talking about. It is so hard to wait and hope that our children choose the spouses and paths that is God’s perfect plan for them.

  103. Both of my boys are men now–young men. The younger of the two knows that God has called him to be a pastor and he is currently pursuing that career in Bible college. He has been on the enemy’s radar for a few years now and in the last 2 weeks, it has been one attack after another. I can’t really hover anymore since he is 600 miles away, but it sure is hard to be a mom. My oldest is 24 and has no clue why he is here. He didn’t like school so did not pursue college. He works a low paying full time job but has to live at home for several reasons. He desperately wants a girlfriend that will lead to a marriage but no one seems interested. This is hard for him, especially since his younger sister is getting married next week and his younger brother will most likely be engaged by the end of this year. My heart HURTS for him. He feels God has left him and doesn’t care about him anymore. I never realized how difficult it would be to parent adult “kids”. Never. I was told once they turn 18 your job is done. That is a lie. The job just gets more difficult, especially in this world.

    • @Becky-I agree the job is not done it just changes-as a parent you do have to step back but you will still need to be there for advice etc and most importantly our job is to pray-whether we have children young or old.

  104. Wendy Hernandez says:

    I pray for three little boys, all under the age of five, my grandsons. My family is a good family but has made mistakes, and I want the next generation to have an unshakeable faith. My daughter is a wonderful mother, but boys are different, and her boys are so different in personality already, it’s hard to know how to help the quiet, passive one. If I win this book, I’ll be giving it to my daughter. If not, I guess I’ll need to buy it. Either way, I want this book!

  105. Kelly Smith says:

    Oh My Gosh! For Sure you wrote to me, I’ve been saying where is the blogs and help for the single moms of teenage boys! Last year my son while dabbling with trouble was still in band for his fourth year, loving his church group, and texting his hurting friends if they knew Jesus. Now he just turns 14, and there’s 2 friends, a girl 3 states away, he wants to live w/ his “no rules” dad, he wants nothing to do with any church, he thinks there could be multiple “himselfs” in ultimate dimensions! Ugghhh, my little 5 year old that out Bibled the high school Bible study wants to “take a break” from God… I asked him if he thought during these tough, puberty, trying teenage times he thought the devil was going to take a break from him? I told him it might be a good time in his life to keep God close. But I am a helicopter mom, and I need help. I’d love to hear more about what you did, because you didn’t have this book, so you’ve got to have some advice too!

  106. I have a son that’s 13. He’s a smart, loving, good kid. He’s not the type that likes to go anywhere. He goes to school, places on the computer or x-box. He does plays baseball, it took years to get him to like playing. but it’s the only activity outside of the home he does. He never wants to go out to dinner with the family, or anything else with the family. It’s not easy to talk to him. I also have a daughter 17 and she likes to frustrate him. It’s always a battle, attitude. Neither one of my children have had a real experience with the Lord. We attended a Christian Youth Production called “Acquire the Fire”. My son didn’t want to go, but I talked him into it. I could tell after that weekend God touched him. There was a small changed in him. He told me he would got to church with me once a month,it put a smile on my face and gave me hope. My son stopped going to church with me. My husband doesn’t attend, so my son decided he wasn’t going anymore until dad went. I know the God spoke to him during that weekend. I can’t wait to see my son on fire for God. I know God is working in him I just need to continue to pray and wait on God. This book would be so helpful to me to know how God wants me to pray and talk for my son . And I can’t wait for the book on daughters.

    We have an amazing God.
    God bless the mom’s in all they do!

  107. AnnMarie Dixon says:

    I would love to win this book. I have a 22 year old son that I worry about. I would love to know how to pray for my son. I live in a country where young boys and men are looking at “bling” , guns and how to get rich quick as the way of life. In addition they are dying before the age of 30. So far my son has not looked that way. He is attending university and he tries to steer clear of those things. However as a mother, I would love to know how to cover him every day in prayer.

    I am open to receiving scriptures and prayers fo my son.

    Thank you all. Strength and grace to us mothers.

  108. Bobbi Miller says:

    My son is 15 ,and a delight to be with. He is ,however, struggling with worrying too much about himself. I need to learn how to pray specifically for him about issues in his life,that will help him grow to be a godly man.

  109. This is the perfect day for me to hear this message. God is always right on time. I have a 17 year old son. I need to be a more positive influence on him. I wonder how much longer I will have him at home as I moved out of the house at 17. We had to take him out of school and he is going for his GED. He needs direction in his life and I need more ways for me to inspire him and his friends. He finally came to church with me again so I am very hopeful. He has witnessed on Facebook, he has good in him but does not always make good choices.

  110. Praying for my son, Colby,every day!

  111. Emma Arias says:

    Thank you so much for today’s post and for reminding us that we need to be on our knees interceding for our sons, and all the men in our lives.

  112. Greetings: I am the mother of two daughters, but I am also the grandmother of a precious grandson. I would like to be able to give the book to my daughter if my name is chosen. I will be watching for the giveaway for the book on praying for daughters. My daughters are 17 and almost 27 yeas of age. It’s never too late for help with prayer. God bless you all richly!

  113. I have three grown boys of my own who I continue to pray for every day and now have a 15 year old stepson who is struggling with many defeats, which bring his confidence way down. I agree that boys are so different from girls as they struggle with many different things so this book would be so insightful to read, even for my boys who are grown and on their own. 🙂

  114. Thank you for this message. I too am the mom of two boys. One suffers from addiction and ental illness and has had a lot of legal issues. My other son is years beyond his true age because of what he had lived through and experienced with his older brother. While we are still in the midst of this struggle, ad a mom I wonder what am I supposed to do. God spoke to me in a big way, he reminded me that my sons are his children first. He has taught me to let go and surrender my boys to him. In doing so, I have seen his protective hand on both of them. So I continue to pray for God’s plan for ther lives and for their protection. Don’t get me wrong I still struggle at times to retake control, but realize God needs to do His work in their lives and I have to let Him. A small compliment goes a long way to a young person I believe especially today because we live in a world of automation and we have so little human touch and although we may not realize it we all crave human touch. I have watched my sons who suffers from these diseases suffer because of loneliness, and lack of friends, and will seek their approval in anyway possible. God has given me my spans as a gift and I am so grateful and thankful.

    • Thank you for reminding me that we need to surrender our children to Him. I know this, but I sometimes slip and begin to worry about them needlessly.

  115. I pray for my 4 boys, 24 yr old twins, 20, and 17 that they make the right choices, and that I had the things I needed to guide them in the right direction. I thanks God for blessing me with them, and praise him when they make the right choices, and don;t follow others just because it seems like the thing to do.

  116. Patricia Hill says:

    I have 2 boys , grandson and one more grandson on the way. I worried about my boys so much . One of my boys had to go though a hard time to find God in a most pervious way he has change quite a bit form that. my other Son Devin who loved God in away when he was younger is in need of a lot of prayers since he move out to live in CA to become a actor. I had to let him go to do this . It’s been very Hard for me. He is so far form God right now it worries me . I have my Grandson who daddy is the one who been threw a lot I hope that my son will continue to raises him to follow God .

  117. delene martinez says:

    wish I would have had this info when i was a singe mom raising 3 boys
    I really screwwed up and now there is nothing I can do they are adults

  118. I am a mom of 2 boys.my oldest is 6 (7 in the spring:) and my youngest turned 5 last month. I pray for my boys in regard to everything-spiritual life- social life-academics-relationships with family and friends and making godly friends-I pray they will be respectful kind who love God first and do what’s right no matter what anyone else does. I long for my son’s to be close to God and to want to pray & learn -not just do it b/c they are asked to. I hAve even prayed that if Jesus tarries He will even now be preparing g their future mate if that’s what He has in store for them. Oh I long for my boys to be holy and happy-that’s most important…I’d love to read the book as I need all the help I can get per the marriage they see is not a good one and they’ve seen too much anger in their young lives and I don’t want them to ever think b/c daddy got mad that makes it ok-I’ve seen some things that concern me but prayer is all I have- thankfully God is powerful!

  119. After learning to love my self and God through your book A Confident Heart, I had a wonderful 15 year old boy and his father, steal my heart. Both have been betrayed, twice, with promises of love and a joyous-faithful family life, and the confidence of this 15 year old has been shaken to the core; he no longer feels he is worthy of a mother’s love. He tries so hard to find love within by attending daily bible study with a group before school; it literally breaks my heart though to see his smile and joyous nature continually dashed by doubts with a simple phone call or blast from his past. I want to help so badly, not having children of my own though I’m just not sure where to turn and what to do to rebuild his confidence and provide the love he is so desperately seeking. This book Praying for Our Boys sounds like just the inspiration and message I need. I am looking forward to reading it and helping fill all our hearts with love and joy.

  120. Rachelle Smith says:

    This blog spoke to me so deeply today, I have 3 daughters 26, 21, 17 and a son 13. I love my children so much and in my eyes I gave up everything to raise them i.e. furthering my education to be a stay at home mother (only the oldest went to daycare for a short period of time). I kept them from the stresses/issues of the marriage/life and I was the main disciplinarian but now they don’t seem to want to understand through God and life we all change, grow and mature so the best I wanted for my children only came across to them as mean. Yes I need to learn to pray for my children through the tears, hurt and unloved feelings. Thanks for the book that will help in this area.

  121. Doris Jardine says:

    I truly enjoyed this encouraging article. I am a grandmother with 4 grand kids….2 boys and 2 girls.I pray constantly throughout each day and at night when I cannot sleep.My grandsons are ages 12 and 6 and they have a sister whom is 8. My other granddaughter is 5. My oldest grandson is in middle school and struggles as his friends have all been accepted into competitive sports and he was not chosen.I continually encourage him to keep doing his best and that is pleasing to our Father.Please pray for him to accept each day as God directs.Also, his younger brother is very active and gets into trouble with his teachers at school.He is so sweet and immature but he has to learn to listen and follow rules.He needs our Father’s guidance so please pray for him also.And the parents need prayer support too as they seek to honour God each day.

  122. Joan Boxell says:

    I pray for my husband, who has a lot of baggage he is dealing with. I pray for my son who has been through alot this past year. I pray for my 3 grandsons who are growing up in this world thankfully knowing God. I pray for our military boys (and girls) to come home safely. I pray for the old men and the young men in our church and our world to become the men of God they are suppose to be.

  123. Praying for our 8 year old who faces social challenges and struggles to please this hard to please mom (I’m working on it) and our 3 year old who has his own challenges of speech delay and social/emotional growth.

  124. I have two teenage sons and one is really struggling with some things. He considered walking away from his faith, because God isn’t fixing the things that are wrong with him. He has prayed for deliverance in an area of his life, yet God is not hearing him. It breaks my heart because he has had such fire for the Lord in the past. He has a younger brother who looks up to him. If he knows that his “hero” is wavering in his faith, what will that do to his own? I have to leave it at the Father’s feet constantly. It’s one of those things that I can’t fix, even though I would do anything to fix it. He is leaving for college in the fall. I would gladly take any encouragement I can get!

  125. Catherine Prezbindowski says:

    Hi Everyone, Renee,

    I’m so grateful for this message today. You see I have been though some really rough patches with my boys (31/2 and 8 years). I love them with more love than I thought I could ever have for a human being.

    When I was in grade school I remember that what I wanted to be was a soccer mom. That was my wish. I loved the thought of driving a mini van full of boisterous boys and cheering them on as they got really muddy. Then promptly after practice or a game, taking them out for icecream or a big dinner.

    When I was 19 I got pregnant with my first son ( I was so excited he was a boy) and a few years later came to know the Lord. Then I got married to an emotionally abusive man and had another son (again so happy) but the emotional abuse and my crushed spirit were not match for the raising for two boys. After my husband and I separated the problems with my oldest son went from bad to worse. He had become rebellious and angry and scared. As my younger one grew he developed a very strong willed personality which was an added challenged. Because of the fear and the anxiety that the emotional abuse had triggered and then the stress of suddenly becoming a single mom I was constantly bombarded with lies from the enemy saying that I was going to loose my kids because I couldn’t take care of them and I didn’t really know how. But I DESPERATELY wanted to be a good mom. I loved them so much it hurt. I could see their potential. In the darkest point of all this God led me to Renee Swope’s book A Confident Heart. Through this book I began to gain confidence that God could form me into the mom he had designed me to be. I got a job as a preschool teacher ( the last thing I thought I would become) and began to learn valuable tools in raising boys. Through this job, God strengthened me and reinforced my confidence. I began to establish order in our household and to create modes for encouragement (star charts and M’n’M jars). God began to show me how to discipline in love and how to be kind but firm. in the midst of all this I began to rebuild as well. I began to see how much God loved me even when I messed up as He infused His own love into my heart for the boys in the midst of their messy mornings and difficult bed times. I began to heal from the emotional “death blows” of my marriage and to see that even others in my life had contributed to my pain and difficulty with my children. Knowing he underlying problems has given me the opportunity to heal. With God all things are possible. I am living proof of this truth! Encouraging the boys has become a daily process. I was encouraged by a Family Life Today radio program to leave encouraging notes for your kids every morning. We have been doing this for a week or so – its amazing how they are lifted up by this little task. I’m so proud of them. I’m so thankful that my Abba has given me his love and strength and wisdom.

    In His Love,

    Cathy

  126. I have two boys ages 15 and 10 and I have another on the way. Since they are so far apart in age sometimes its difficult to know what is bothering each one individually and how I can help or pray for them.

  127. I have been praying for my son for YEARS and the doubt has been around several times. I keep saying in Gods timing but then I wonder, when is His timing coming. I have to keep reminding myself God knows the plans he has for us (Jeremiah 29:11). It’s really hard sometimes when my son keeps getting knocked down when he tries to get up. I will continue to pray and believe he will be OK in the end.

  128. The boys I pray for are my adult son, son-in-law and grandson. I would give the book to my daughter, who is raising her son the best she knows how. She and her husband also have a daughter. The other day he told me, “I don’t like God movies. They are boring to me.” He often lies and then defends the lies when someone challenges him. It breaks my heart and the heart of his mother. He’s still young, so I’m hoping this book will give her the weapons of warfare she needs to fight the battle for his heart!

  129. Loved your words today! I have a son who is 21 and I’m praying for him. I learned a hard lesson in 2012 to cover him in prayer instead of hovering over every action and decision in his life. I am also praying for my future son we are trying to adopt from Colombia. I am praying that God will hold him until I can <3

  130. Adrienne Maples says:

    Hi Renee!
    I receive your emails and have read your book, A Confident Heart- with our women’s group In Peachtree City, Georgia. My husband recently changed jobs, causing us to move to Montgomery, AL. While this is “home” for him, and I am from Birmingham, we lived in GA for 14 years and I consider it home now. This move has been hard for me. My children have taken it so well! I have 2 boys and a girl, and my oldest boy is 8. He is such a unique, sweet spirited boy. He is gifted, sensitive, and loving. He is super fun to be around and always includes everyone. He was excited to be the new kid in class. (2nd grade). Due to his giftedness, he has some hyper-sensitive tendencies occasionally. The past 2 nights have been so out of character for him- struggling to go to bed because he needs to go through “rituals” first- visions of a scary dog coming in the room to check to see if he is asleep yet… repetitive behaviors that lead me to believe he definitely has childhood OCD. (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). I am thinking the move has maybe triggered anxiety that is causing these behaviors. Last night was so sad. It broke my heart. I laid hands on him and just prayed over him- with tears pouring down my cheeks, praying for God to release him from this. I laid in bed with him and prayed for him while he was asleep. I tried to figure out- why now God- why am I being attacked during this transition that has been SO extremely difficult for me- and then I knew- Because I have struggled so much this first month here, I felt lead and called to a 21 day Daniel fast. My world has been turned upside down- and I don’t know who I am here. I feel like I have lost myself. I decided to fast in an effort to seek God’s vision for my life here and more than anything to just seek comfort and solace through prayer and the Word. The first day of my fast was yesterday. It was such a great day with the Lord- and then in the evening, this happened with my sweet son- and I felt that satan was attacking me. I know that when you are taking on something that glorifies the Lord- the enemy will try to attack. I felt like he was getting to me through my son… because I had taken on such a lofty goal in my walk with the Lord. I had also just read that morning in Matthew 17 about the demon-possessed son. I felt like I was experiencing it. All this to say, as I press on this morning- and seek out a new pediatrician for us to go to with this- I opened your email. Often, I just glance through it- but this time, I read on down, and was in tears when I saw it was about praying for our boys. I have done this non-stop since last night, and God affirmed me through your words. I hope to read the book soon. Would love a free copy, but will purchase it regardless. Thank you so much for your encouraging words. I will rebuke the enemy, and continue to press on.
    In Him,
    Adrienne Maples

  131. It’s assuring to know that God will still work through my imperfections as a parent & that we have resources for encouragement. Prayer is so essential & powerfull, but remiders to continue are needed as distractions will always be around:)

  132. A mom that needs help says:

    Thank you for talking on this topic. I am struggling with my kindergarten / 5 year son and his negative out bursts at home and school. I really think I need this book. My daughter never acted like the way my son is acting, and I am clueless as to what to do to help him understand his behavior is not acceptable. We have tried various things in addition to talking to him about his behavior. I am a female and I need insight into a boy’s mind.

  133. I have two boys, aged almost 7 and 10. I have no idea how to help them become strong, generous, helpful, thoughtful men. I had only sisters in my family and my two older children are girls. I definitely need help on this journey.

  134. I’m the deaf mom and son age 14 is hearing. We the deaf parents and our son are Jesus Christ in our hearts. Always praying for son. Sometimes lack of wisdom what best for him his school grades we are concerned, he disliked math! He is intelligent young man… doesn’t seem motivated to bring about any positive change… by his teacher… and I pray and ask God gives us His wisdom (James 1:5) how or what am I do with son, sometimes ran out of idea to give him good reward…he is getting improved by respect to us and teachers… his responsibility is to remain attentive to Him, let Him guide son through the many choices (good or mistake choice) along his pathway that what is pray for… We know teen young boy(s) have peer pressure we understand that but pray for boy(s). Soon his high school coming up this August 2014 for him. We pray for son to reduce playing video games. Video games is good or not good for children? for being habit playing often and was told to limited minutes to play but… We keep pray. And Pray 7 Steps: first step: Put God comes first, second & third is husband/dad & wife/mom, and job, fourth is child(ren) (have or not have children), fifth is family , sixth is ministry and seventh is friends. James 4:10: Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.
    I don’t have book ‘Praying for Boys’ yet. Always praying for boy(s) without ceasing. 1 Thess. 5:17. And pray for me being walking in confidence as a mom (me) and pray for son God gives him strength, motivate & wisdom learning education in class & at home (family together).
    Thank you Renee for sharing with me this e-mail about Brooke McGlothlin’s book I would like to read. God Bless!

  135. Misty Davidson says:

    I so needed to hear these words! I have a son who just turned 16 and we have fought Satan every step of the way for this child’s life. He is defiant, rebellious and honestly makes me want to pull all of my hair out sometimes but I know God has a great purpose for his life. His sisters faithfully walk in the path of The Lord and my son likes to get on the path and stop and detour down every path that can be crossed. The majority of the men in my family have not done so well and I want so much for my son! I just don’t know how to help him. He’s my only boy and sometimes seems like I am hitting my head up against a stone wall! Pray for Hunter! Pray for me to have wisdom to direct my son on the path God has laid for him!

    • Please be encouraged today. I have come to realize that satan attacks those that he knows God is going to use mightily for the kingdom. Not that He doesn’t use us all, but satan knows that your son will be a strong solider in God’s army and he is doing his best to stop your son. What satan doesn’t realize is that your son has a praying momma! PTL! Don’t be discouraged, keep praying and you are going to see your son turn around. God’s hand is on him. Keep your eyes on Him and all is going to be well. God bless you and your family.
      kathy

  136. I pray for my 4 boys! Ages 9, 12, 15 and 18. Single mom (their dad walked away from it all) – I don’t even know where to begin . . . that should say it all right there!

  137. Gloria Hardee says:

    My heart was lifted today after reading your post. I am a mother and grandmother of boys. When our son was growing up, {he is 34 years old now}, there were not websites or women like you giving encouragement and teaching mothers, through experience, on a daily basis. I thank you so much for giving of your time and talent to encourage mothers and women of today.

    I have learned through experience, {or maybe I should say mistakes}, how to pray for my twelve year old grandson. He is a sweet loving tween who is trying to figure out his place in this world. He loves playing sports, especially baseball, loves being with his friends and enjoys being with his parents. I see my son and daughter-in-law doing the parenting job of a tween and a five year old little princess and see the pressures of the time we live in. It seems raising children today is so different than when our son was growing up. Children are involved in so many activities at school and outside of school. It not only puts more pressure on the children but the parents also. The juggling of activities causes stress on the family as a whole. Now, my son has taken on the task of going back to college to get his masters degree and teaching certificate. That is just another activity added to their already busy schedule. Praying for our children and grand children is more important today than ever. Satan can use, what seems at the time, very important activities or busy-ness to destroy families. My prayer for my son and his family is for them to focus on what really is important in life and that is God. Keeping their focus on him first and foremost, spending quality family time together along with quality husband and wife time is so important. Family time for them now is spent on the baseball field nine months out of the year. My son coaches travel ball and my grandson plays. I don’t know if this is right or wrong so I pray God will lead this precious family through these busy years. I pray their hearts will stay focused on God. I pray they will seek God’s will in their lives when it comes to decision making. I pray that God will put good Christian friends in their lives that can be a positive influence. I will continue to pray for my boys! I know God can use them to make a difference in their family now and my grandson’s future family. I want them to be strong Christian men making a difference in God’s kingdom.

    I want to thank you again for your blog and for the inspiration you give to women, especially young women!

    Sincerely,
    Gloria {aka/Grandma Gonnie} 😉

  138. Paula Collins says:

    I am the mother of a 15 year old son. What I love most about my son is his compassion toward others. When he loves someone, it is with his whole heart, no half way. I have always admired his love of God and willingness to be involved in youth ministry, service projects, and mission’s trips. Lately, I have also witnessed his falling away, little-by-little, from God. Sure, he still is involved in youth group and the rest, but I see less of selflessness, and more about approval from others. I have tried to gently speak with him about this, but he denies it adamantly. But moms know! I have spent much time lately praying for a prodigal daughter that I have missed many prayerful opportunities for my son. I would love to read this book and get someone’s insight and encouragement in this area. I am a voracious reader and crave books written by Christian authors such as this. I did the same with regard to my daughter; still a work in progress, but all in God’s timing.

  139. Kathi Pride says:

    I am the Mom of two children and teach 5th and 6th grade boys and girls. My daughter is 27 and I pray for her off and on each day as she has suffered through many hurts and difficulties of her own. I pray that God will send her a Christian mate that he has planned for her this time and for God’s blessings to rain down upon her. I know this is about boys, however. I pray for all the boys I have had the privilege to teach or know. My only son passed away when he was turning 7 after a 26 month battle with medulloblastoma (brain tumor) and cancer of the spine. I pray for all mothers of sons that they will treasure them and guide them. I do work with boys each and every day, and I teach Sunday School to 4th and 5th graders. May God bless all of you mothers with the love, strength, wisdom and patience it takes to raise a child. I would love to read and learn from your book, but there are others out there that need the encouragement. Thank you for your posts. Kathi Pride

  140. Sounds like a great book! I have a 22 and 19 year old . Both have been a blessing in my life. But with everything in life it has been a roller coaster at times. As I get older I see that sometimes the emotional strain is more wearing on me as a mom now than those years with them as little ones physically exhausting me. Wouldn’t change a thing! Love being a mom! 🙂

  141. I pray for my sons Nolan Nd Connor, the boys in my daughter’s Kindergarten class and my husband and brother in law.

  142. Stephenie says:

    I pray for my sons, Adam who is 6 and Ethan who is 18mos. I pray that we are doing this parenting thing right and showing them God every step of the way so that they turn into Godly men themselves. I pray for my husband and when I remember I pray for the man my daughter will eventually marry. I don’t do that one as much as I should. Thanks for this today.

  143. Wow! I’m so excited to see this book! I am a mom of three boys. I love my boys and I desperately want them to be men after God’s heart and will for their lives. I admit it is tough being a mom of boys at times. I grew up in a house of women (mom, my older sister and myself) because my parents divorced when I was 7 and my father was absent from my life. Mom was good, but I realize now how not having dad around certianly left a void in my life. However, I praise God daily for these precious guys in my life. My high school sweetheart husband of 25 years, my sons Andrew 20 and twins Matthew and Michael 17. I pray everyday that they will be faithful fathers and husbands in God’s timing.

  144. Bernie Daniels says:

    My son is Kevin & even though he is grown now, I still have a lot to pray about for him! He’s still at home while finishing his education. Kevin told me several years ago that he no longer believes in God or going to church. So, I have lots to pray about! But he’s a good son, & a good man, who cares about his family & friends, but not about anyone else. I can see God’s hand moving in his life, & the tremendous potential in him, even if he can’t right now! Keeping quiet is sometimes hard to do, but I try & of course I pray for him, but knowing how to pray over specific areas would be helpful!

  145. My sister sent me the link to this post as she knows how desperately I love my two boys. As a single mom raising two boys without an earthly father I realize my role in raising them to be Godly men is a vital one. I do spend so much time I feel talking and teaching and would love to learn more about praying for them…praying that the Holy Spirit work on the soil of their hearts to help them as they grow and give them the desire to know God in a personal way and as the Father they both desperately long for.

  146. I have a 2 year-old son, Barrett. He is such a joy and has added endless amounts of love and laughter to our lives, but he is also strong-willed, and I find myself struggling almost daily to maintain a sense of calm and sanity! I could definitely use this book…especially with #2 on the way 😉

  147. Thank you for this post today. I have a 17 year old son who your son reminds me of. I miss the way he used to laugh and share with us. I need to start praying more for him.

  148. I love my sweet, goofy boy and love that he has met friends in his youth group that enjoy each other so much. You just keep plodding in faith and then the sky opens up and your steps are oh so much lighter!! Your child is again happily worshipping! So many prayers I need to pray for him and spiritual guidance is always good. Love the thoughts behind this book!!

  149. I would love to have the book – to read, then share w/friends! I don’t have children but help ‘parent’ several nieces & nephews. One recently broke up with his girlfriend & in his heart-break, reached out to me, and we had several phone conversations where asked me to pray for him & I just got to love on him, encourage him & pray for him. A couple times later when he called, asking for prayer, I asked him to pray first. My heart swelled with love as he talked to our heavenly Father. Oh how God loves to encourage us!

  150. Cheryl Armstrong says:

    I have a 10 year old that I pray for everyday however I know our journey is only going to get harder as he grows older and the challenges he faces will be tougher. I would love to read Brooke’s book. thank you.

  151. I’m posting this for my friend Gwen who has two wonderful boys that she prays for each day. She is learning to let go instead of hovering, but she’s filled with doubt about how to do that. She’s so loving and fiercely protective of them and yet she’s so hard on herself when there are struggles and hard issues to tackle. I’m so glad there’s a book out there just for her! Thanks for sharing with us!

  152. Tamra Gamblin says:

    My boys are 14 and 19. I pray for God’s protection, direction, and favor in their lives every day. My 14 year old has a soft heart for family. He has (surprisingly by his dad and I) ministered to his older brother who has struggled with “understanding” God. My older son has had a tender heart for God and people. Some of that changed at 16 years of age when he remembered a traumatic event that happened to him when he was a little boy. His struggles, doubts about God, and anger issues have brought many tears to my eyes. There are times my heart aches so badly. My motherly flesh wants to take over and speak “words of wisdom.” But I have to stop and listen to the Holy Spirit, which is very difficult at times. I still see the tender heart of my hurting older son. I know it ‘s there. He just needs God’s healing. I will fervently continue to pray for boys. I believe it is one of the most important things a mother can do:)

  153. Barbara Gonzalez says:

    As a mother of three sons and three grandsons, I wished I had this resource.

  154. Having the privilege of being Mom to 1 son and also 1 daughter, I have seen how differently God created them. Each one, man & woman; a reflection of our Creator. It has also caused me to learn to pray differently for each one individually. I need all the resources I can get, as I want to continually lift my young adult children to the Lord. As Moms, we don’t ever stop caring, loving & thinking of them as our “kids”. Even when they are officially “adults”.

    Thank you for offering this resource!

  155. This one especially touches me, as I have been struggling within myself. As a parent, I feel like I have let down my wonderful grown son by not doing a better job of ‘introducing’ him to God early in life. There was a half-hearted effort, thrown in during my single-parenthood raising of him, and his grandmother took him to church for a little while before she passed from liver cancer. It wasn’t that I didn’t believe in God or that he shouldn’t… I just didn’t make the good faith effort and so he was left to decide on his own what to believe about religions, beliefs, faith, God, the Bible. Of course, I have always tried to be a good role model and be kind to everyone, honored my parents, etc. But, I didn’t attend church regularly, very spotty at times and then 2 years in Brazil with nothing. By the time we returned to the States, he had a mindset of his own. It isn’t that he doesn’t want to believe, he just doesn’t have faith that God is there. But he’s not denied Him, just questions if He is real or not and it is easier to not believe. Every single day I talk to God about my son, praying fervently that God will touch his heart, his head, whatever it takes to get his attention. I don’t ask for miracles, just the Spirit to enter him and start working from the INSIDE out, while I now work on the OUTSIDE in. I continue to model what it is, get the information to him as I am able, question him, let him question me. I am NOT giving up on my son. God didn’t give up on me, so how can I? Please pray for both of us. That I can help bring God’s light to my son and that my son will see it.

  156. Thanks for this important resource. I am praying for my grandson who was born today.

  157. midnightsalty says:

    Thank you for these comments today. That is just what I needed! I’ve been praying for my boys since before they were born, but sometimes I just don’t think I’m praying the right words for them. Ages 16, 9 and 20. This book is what I need!

  158. I pray for my grandson who is nine years-old. His parents are not together and neither of his parents will take him to church. I would love to give this book to his mother to help her know the impact of a mother’s prayer.

  159. I pray for my 2 adult sons! I can not stop praying for them just because they are adults!! They seem to need the most prayer now! They grew up in the church and know the Truth so I trust God’s plan for them and stand on His promise of Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.” Thank you for the opportunity to win a copy of the book!!

  160. This was so encouraging! I sent it to my daughter! I (we) pray for my grandson who is 10. He is such a special boy that God has given much wisdom, talent and insight. I pray that he will always follow God, and be a ‘Daniel’. He, his sister(15) and his mom (my wonderful daughter) live with me and my husband. The kid’s dad passed away last June, and we are a very big part of Clay’s ‘support team’. Grandpa plays football with him, mom and sister play basketball with him, and I (Gramma) hit a baseball to him in the summer. Did I mention he loves all sports that use a ball? 😉 I pray for a special protection over his heart and mind as he follows Jesus.
    The other two ‘loves’ I pray for are my other 2 grandsons. I pray for Colin (14) that he would come to know Jesus as his personal Savior. I also pray for little Lorenzo (1) that He will follow Jesus with his whole heart and be used of God.
    Thanks for this!
    May you be blessed!

  161. I have a 10 y.o. son, and I’d love to have this book! I pray daily for him and my daughters, but I’d like a book specifically about praying for boys.

  162. It’s as though you read my heart today. Even though my boys are grown, my heart aches for them at times when I hear them question whether God exists. Driving home from work today, I said to myself, “I need to pray harder for them, teach me to pray for them”. Then when I got home and was going thru my emails I found this. You made me cry and smile at the same time. I look forward to reading this book! Thank you

  163. God must have led me to this site tonight! I have a 19 year old son who is in his first year of college and has strayed from the organizational church. He says church is filled with hypocrits and he won’t be a part of that anymore! There isn’t much I can say to that, because it is true! It is why they are there, son!! I have a 13 year old step-son and he has no desire for anything in life! He is perfectly fine with status quo. There really is nothing that lights his fire – nothing! So, I find myself on my knees frequently praying for these boys, that God would fill them up His love and His desire! I know He can do it – He can do anything. It’s just me being patient!!

  164. The boys I pray for are my 19 & 16 year old boys. I would love to read this book!

  165. My boy isn’t a boy anymore. He’s 18, soon to be leaving the nest for university in about 6 months. I have been praying for direction from God as to which university he should attend that God knows is best for him. I have also been praying for which career path for the service of mankind suited for his gifts and abilities. At 18 he struggles with the purpose for which he was created. So many things scream for his attention to throw him off of the chosen path.

  166. I am a single mom to an almost 6 year old boy. He is the only guy in my life and I pray for him daily.

  167. I have two sons and a daughter in between. But my oldest, the one who’s quiet and tender-hearted, often emotional like me…he’s the one God gave me first. To learn how to parent in grace. He is so patient and forgiving with me. But I have battled shame and guilt through many seasons parenting him. So I would love to read this book! Just today he told me (he’s 11) that he felt gloomy today wondering about what his purpose in life is. Sometimes I forget what can be bouncing around in the mind…and how could I, since I am the same quiet thinker? Bless my dear son, Lord! That you would be his Rock.

  168. I am mother to Colt (3) & Ruger (8 months) & I want to get it right at the beginning. I’m a new stay at home mom & the more time I spend with them (especially Colt), the more I find myself frustrated & unsure of my decisions. And I think prayer is the best antidote. And having prayer prompts from someone who has been there, sounds very encouraging!

  169. I have a precious son that it is my priviledge to pray for & would enjoy this book.

  170. Miss Mary T says:

    Renee, I am always praying for my 3 wonderful boys. My 25 year old son Troy, who happens to be my youngest. He is one of the gentlest men I know. I also pray for my 2 grandsons, Shamus, who will be 2 next Tuesday… a spirit-filled little guy with lots of energy and an impish grin and my oldest grandson, Andrew, our own miracle. Andrew turned 6 on the 6th. They told us he would not live 3 days but God had plans for Andrew. He is medically fragile, with an extremely rare genetic disorder. He is a gift from God and a blessing to all whose lives he touches. A precious reminder of God’s great love! I am sure I would love this prayer book!

  171. Jen Cannata says:

    Just this little passage that I read just brought me to tears . I have three sons my oldest son moved out of our house and moved all the way across the ocean to Australia we live in Florida I go three years at a time without seeing him my heart breaks for him he needs to surrender and come back to Jesus so this passage that I read this morning gives me hope that my prayers are being affected .I have another son who is 20 and he too is on his journey which is heartbreaking at times when I see him struggle with his confidence and living for God on his own . I also have a 17 year old who just went through a heart surgury which God showed himself completely faithful to all of us ! My husband is a worship pastor so all my sons have been raised in church .each one I have to daily surrender to God and trust that His word prevails and as we have trained them up in the way that they should go,when they are old they will not depart from it !!I I love being a mama of boys but the struggles and worry can sometimes get overwhelming !thank you for taking the time to post this! God Bless-Jen

  172. This sounds like an awesome book. As I was getting ready to get yo this form I read a thought by a mom of a 14 yr old. Mine just turned 14 yesterday and I too haven’t been very diligent about praying for him to find his purpose in life. I too also hover sometimes and want yo just tell him how he needs yo do something rather than letting him figure it out.
    Thanks for offering this giveaway.

  173. I’ve been struggling with my son for years, and he is now 20 and has moved out. He is my only child, and I am hating the empty nest feeling! Not only that, but I feel even more out of touch with him. My pastor gave me Ruth Graham’s book on the prodigal son, and I can’t wait to read this book. All I know to do is get on my knees and continue praying!

  174. My fourteen year old is one of the most compassionate, loyal, loving boys I know… But he struggles so much with learning disabilities that it has taken away his confidence. Instead of turning to God (who he loves with all his heart), he often gives up, puts himself down, and turns to goofing off with friends (who he lets bring him down also from time to time). I wish he knew and believed that God created him for such great things to do THROUGH his disabilities. I fear that his desire to follow the crowd will end up in disaster, and I pray God will protect him and show him how we can use our brokenness for the good of God’s Kingdom.

  175. My boy is 5 and his name is Wesley Robert…but wen he was 2 he would have told you his name was “John Wayne Wesley Robert Bernard.” He would rather watch John Wayne movies than any cartoon. He has since reverted to cartoons more than John Wayne now, but you will still find him with a cowboy hat, boots, spurs and a play pistol on his side most days. He wants to be a cowboy. His father is a real life cowboy and we raise cattle on a farm. He looks up to his Dad. Wants to be just like his Dad. And this is where my heart cries for God to save my husband and my son’s one hero…his earthly father. My son and I pray together for his father to know Jesus. At 5 my son already has a very real awareness and love for the Lord and for people. He has a sensitive spirit and I believe God will use him and our 3 year old daughter to move my husband. In His time. His will. His way. I just struggle a lot of days with patience. And fear. And doubt. I want my boy to have a father worth following on this earth. Worth looking up to. Worth adoring. A father that has a relationship with Christ and is leading his family in that way. So for now, I pray. And I try to be the example. But I’m his mother. His father is his hero. So, I pray. I would love to read this book and be encouraged about how to pray. I seem to run out of things to say. But I know God knows and He hears and He will answer. In His time. His will. His way. Blessings to you in your ministry. Proverbs 31 is touching my heart so grand recently. I joined compel ministries this week and have already been blessed immensely. Praying for you and your son. So glad to hear your encouraging story!

  176. Kelly Smith says:

    My dear sweet son, who has been the Bible thumper of his school is pulling back from God, and I’m worried. He says he just doesn’t care about ANYTHING! That nothing brings him joy. He tries to bring others some happiness hoping he might catch some. He needs to find real friends he can invest his emotions in and that will invest their emotions back! He just turned 14, and started high school, and there’s nothing I can do. I’m the enemy to him. I just keep praying and swatching fr a míracle. I would love to win this book, and any referals to blogs on boys…they’re hard to find!

    Blessings
    Kelly s

  177. Molly higle says:

    I am overwhelmed with testosterone in my home. I have four boys. One adult sin and two teenagers sand an eleven year old. I have faced many battles with my oldest, who is an addict. Try not taking responsibility fur that one.
    My other sons are pretty well behaved but I am more concerned about their relationship with god than how well they behave. I am struggling to fit a family learning time into our lives. I feel so inatiquaite.

  178. This parenting journey has just begun for me. Our baby boy is most precious and already I have a heart burden for his sweet soul. This sounds like a wonderful book to help us on our way. Thank you, Renee, for your ministry!

  179. Having raised 2 daughters, I was blessed with a Grandson 10 years ago. Every day, I cover him (as well as his two sisters) in prayer. His parents have had a rough marriage, and unfortunately, he has not had a Godly role model in his father (who he adores). He is starting to not want to attend children’s programs at church…and I am beginning to see more rebellious behavior. Because he is only 10…I know that my husband and I still can have a positive influence on his future. I definitely want to read this book…and also pass it to my daughter…who is a good Mom, but is struggling to hold her family together. Lately, God has been impressing on me to BELIEVE. He CAN heal my family. He WILL raise up my Grandson to be a Godly man.

  180. I still pray for my married “boys” and my grandsons. They never get too old for our prayers.

  181. I have two boys 18yrs and 20yrs old. It was tough because they lost their father when they were 12yrs & 14yrs old, I would not listen to them and one day it became so bad that my dad intervened, and my father sat us down and said Shontel you need to listen to the boys hear what they have to tell you, you need to ask God to guide you, you cannot fight with them all the time, I told my dad, they don’t listen to me. My father looked at me and said commit this situation to the Lord he will answer you, I was down on bended knees, my sons still did what they wanted. God told me be still and know that I am God. Today I have obedient and respectful boys. I still pray for them. God is truly an awesome God. Amen

  182. I wish I had this book like 40 years ago! I have 3 sons; thought my husband could show them all about life. I now know that Mom’s do a whole lot for their young men. So far none of them have been bad (no jail time).
    They just don’t go to church. This does effect the gandchildren (we live sooo far away). I plan to try to start each day with prayer before I get out of bed. I believe I should call them by name.

  183. My husband and I have 5 children – 3 of which are “boys” – young men. One will be graduating college this spring and we are covering him in prayer as he trusts in God to provide him with a job. Our next son will be graduating high school in the spring and we have been watching God work and move in his life as God is calling him to a year of mission work to the First Nations community in BC Canada. And our third son is a sophomore in high school and struggling greatly with his identity. We adopted him at 15 mo. and the past year and a half have been very hard for him/ all of us. God IS our refuge and strength – the solid rock on which I stand and intercede on behalf of all my children!!!!

  184. I was soo moved by your post today I am a mom of 6 boys and I my youngest son Kyle has also been struggling with his purpose in life .. in my prayer time God told me the same thing he told you just listen to him ..I was soo blessed when I read you email today soo encouraging ……

  185. Deb Arnold says:

    My three sons are 23, 18, 14. What a joy it has been to be a mom to these three young men. They are all loving’ and caring and supportive of each other, and they treat their momma and dad well. I have found that through each stage of the journey of raising these young men the hardest part for me thus far has been in letting them go. Letting them find their way in the world. I have spent many days, nights in prayer over them and hurt when I see how they struggle to find their way in this world or pay the consequences of their mistakes. They know that they are loved and I am thankful that love covers a multitude of sin for I have made mistakes along the way. My prayer is that one day they will walk with The Lord and have a faith that can move mountains. In the meantime I pray.

  186. I pray for my five year old little boy, already so curious about the ways of this world, and my nephews who are 3, 6, and 8.

  187. I have 3 boys that I pray for all the time; our youngest is at the stage where he knows it all and doesn’t listen to anyone, so he makes it very difficult to connect with. But he is in college and seeking direction for which way to go and what to do. Our oldest son, I’m doubtful whether he knows the Lord or not, so I pray for his salvation. He has been through some difficult times and our relationship has been nonexistent at times, but he’s coming around to that again. Our relationship is finally back on track. Our middle son, is our sensitive one and he gets hurt easily. He has no idea at this point what he wants to do or what direction God wants him to go in. I think he does seek God but just isn’t close enough to Him to always hear what He has to say. So I pray constantly for all three of my boys (as well as our daughter and her husband). Our boys are 20, 21 and 25; all living on their own with their girlfriends. Life is so difficult these days to connect and communicate in ways they can all understand with each one being so different.

  188. I just got off the phone with my son who is discouraged with his job. It is not what he wentt to college to do. The economy has not been great and even though he is greatful to have a job, it is not what he feels is his purpose in life. He is frustrated in figuring out his purpose. I encouraged him and when we hung up, I began to pray for my son. I would love to receive a copy of this book. I am so grateful that we serve a God who is always available to hear us and answers us.
    Kathy

  189. I’m praying for a son, a son-in-law and four grandsons. Your post is so encouraging. Praise God!

  190. Thank you for sharing your personal story about your son! God has blessed me with one of each, I believe it’s because they both challenge, uplift, and cause me worry! I pray for them daily and we praying nightly as a family but they are young yet, 10 and 9 but the years are going quickly!
    Thank you Renee for helping us all feel like we can breathe a sigh of relief knowing we’re not the only one going through challenges with s children.
    Blessings,
    Dawn

  191. Andrew has his Momma’s heart for encouraging others! Praising Him for answered prayers. Love ya!

  192. Before I became a mom, I knew parenting was a challenge, but I was completely unprepared for reality! I love my son, but I feel so overwhelmed and clueless. I worry so much about “messing him up” with my mistakes that I’m almost afraid to spend time with him (which would be the worst mistake). I need help! 😛 I’m so thankful that God does help when we pray, trust Him, and follow His guidance.

  193. I desperately need prayers for my 29 and 25 year old sons. Also, my 7 year old grandson who is autistic.
    My 2 boys (especially the youngest one) have serious alcohol problems. They have been in trouble with the law since they were in middle school and have also had prior drug issues. It has been a long hard road (especially raising them as a single mother). They have had a difficult time keeping jobs and have also been in a string of bad relationships. I just pray that God will save my boys from themselves before it’s too late. It’s so hard to see your children go thru life this way- neither of them have a relationship with God. They both have so much potential, but all they are doing is throwing their lives away. I’m afraid they will either die of alcohol poisoning or kill themselves or someone else in a car accident. It’s so hard to live this way- constantly worrying about their health and safety.

  194. I have been blessed with one wonderful son. I pray over him, wanting him to see the great qualities that God has given him. I pray that he will come to know the Lord and live for him and use the gifts he has to bring glory to His name. I sometimes fret over what he is being shaped by out in the world and don’t want these things to snatch him away from knowing God more. My greatest desire is for him to live for God while on this Earth fulfilling the purpose that God has instilled in Him from before He formed him in the womb. My son has such a loving heart, with a hysterical sense of humor and I want him to keep that. I just know how this world can cause you to become calloused and bruised, and I also know I can’t keep him from any of it. It’s just my Mother’s heart wants to protect him as much as I can. I’m sure you can relate. 🙂

    Melissa

  195. Wow – did this grab my heart this morning! I have a son who will be 16 next week – he is beautiful, talented, smart, bold – but he can turn me inside out and upside down on a daily basis! He has been in the “stretching boundaries and finding my independence” stage for about 2 years – and although he has not fallen to any of the horrible vices that press on our teenagers these days, he’s not reaching his potential. I find myself worrying to the point of exhaustion sometimes! My prayers become so chaotic because that how my heart feels when I’m praying for my son! He’s my only child – I have one of those horror-birth-stories that led us to praise God for the one child He gave us and move on! The description of this book sounds like the encouragement and guidance I need right now – I want to step back and let God do His planned work in my son’s life, but that frantic desire to protect him and teach him gets in the way sometimes! I can’t wait to check out Brooke’s blog – I know God led me here this morning and has some wisdom waiting for me!

  196. Kristin Sparkman says:

    I am so excited about this book. What you were saying about your son and how he encourages people is like my sweet boy. He is almost 10 and such a sweetheart. But I do worry as he gets older how that may change. This book sounds like a great way for me to learn to release him and trust the Lord with him.
    Thanks for sharing your story.

  197. Thomase Martin says:

    This is an answer to a prayer. I had my son late in life and it seem as if I hover, nag and nothing get through if I don’t stay on him he goes no further than my push. He is a good son that needs to know God for himself, but instead of compelling him it seems as if I’m hindering. He was a part of ROTC in school and wanted to service his country after graduating, His medical records was mixed up and one word that has been since remove from his medical record has cause a problem now he has lost what faith he has that all thing work together for the good of those who love the Lord. I need to know how to pray and trust God and know when to be silent and when to encourage.

  198. I have 3 brothers,3sons, and 6 grandsons. I love them all immensely! I have learned so much from them!
    Recently ! The Lord has brought me in contact wit a single mom of a 12 year old. For the very first time he openly lied to her. She was crushed. I found myself sharing lots of stories with her from my own experiences.
    I was praying on the way home in the car about hooking her up with a book that she could use. Then I read your blog for the day.The Lord just dropped you into my life. What a great book that would be for her to use with her son. Thank you for bringing this to our attention!
    God Bless,
    Sue

  199. Jennifer Chapman says:

    I Am a mother of a 9 year old son who is constantly trying me at times but has brought me happiness too. My prayer is for him to instill Christ in his life and make mature decisions as he grows older. I love my son with all my heart just want him to know and understand that.

  200. I love this email and would love to read Praying for Boys !! I constantly pray for my 13 yr old son. He is “Living in the World” by moving in with his father ( my ex husband) 1 yr ago. My present husband and myself are Christians and are having such a Spiritual Batlle in dealing with this. We are trying to lead by example and are Praying ALOT !!!!!! God is All-Knowing , All-Powerful and Definately is holding our hands thru this.

  201. Thanks for sharing. I love to hear stories from other MOB. My boys include 4 sons (9,6,5 & 2), a future son in law(24) and a husband. While I try to pray often for these boys, I find it hard to be specific about exactly what to pray as I do not know or truly understand the male world. It seemed so much easier to pray for my now grown daughter when she was little. I knew more about the female world. I am intrigued by the male world but am so afraid of how gruel it actually is. I want to shield my beloved boys from that cruelty but I also understand that I have to prepare them for it. Thank you for all the work you do, God bless.

  202. Thank you so much for sharing, it touch me deeply. I am a single mom raising my two blessing that the Lord sent me while being married to their dad. I have been divorce for 7 months now. i made sure that received counseling right away and it has pay off, since they no longer feel anger towards their dad. My oldest is 13 and going through his rough teen years. My Youngest is 10 going through his tween years and he always keeps me going. They are very loud when they play with their friends their video games or just when the rough play together in the house. Some times I can not even hear my self think. My oldest Brandon, is going the difficult time because our house is going to be foreclose. This is the only home my boys so I understand. I am not working just thriving on child support which helps pay the bills, not including the mortgage or 2nd mortgage he left me with. I have to say that I am blessed that at least I am receiving child support. It has been hard to finding work that will work around my children school schedule being that I do not have any family members in this state to help out. The women I do know they are at work or have their own thing going on to give me a hand. I did work for sometime after the divorce but what I did make went straight to childcare. So I chose to be with the boys instead of working and watching them grow with out much time from me. The only thing that has kept me going is knowing and living by Gods promise. He said he would never leave me or forsake me. I know my children could benefit from a great role model but I decided that instead of searching for one I hand it over to the Lord. I just pray that I can always direct them on the right path and that the divorce circle ends with their dad and I. My boys Brandon and Cristian are most of my strength. I have to say they are a great blessing even though at times I do not know if I am coming or going. I know that we must all go through our tribulations some worst then others but I also know they will bring us to a better tomorrow. I pray that I may be one of the luck winners. God bless you for what your are doing.

  203. I pray for my 19 year old son; he is such a good kid and a great help to me, His dad remarried and pretty much doesn’t have anything to do with him now. He has been looking for a job and hasn’t found one yet and continues to talk about joining the army. Praying that God will lead him down the path He has laid out for him.

  204. Sara Jane Adair says:

    I have a son who lives with us in an apartment part of our home. He is 21 and his gfriend ( SOON TO BE fiancé!!) and 9 month old daughter, Charlotte Alesandria- the absolute best granddaughter and joy of my life, live with him. He has a calling. Was saved young, baptized and raised in church. But as his father and I bitterly divorced and due to his suffering and witnessing our lives he has turned from God, his beliefs, and hope. I know it lays dormant within him and desperately plead for The Lord to awaken him as a Christian man to his family. I also have a 14 year old son who has followed his brothers path. He is the “floater”. Doesn’t get involved but knows The Lord, the word, and salvation. Again he in lying dormant but they both should not be alive!! My oldest had less than 10% of living at birth and spent nine weeks in NICU. He was violently ill and barely was diagnosed with appendicitis in time for emergency surgery. Daniel has suffered with asthma and twice in last six months has been hospitalized with severe illness!!! He has A PURPOSE!! My youngest was conceived AFTER MY TUBAL LIGATION!! Yep!! They’re both my miracles!! AND GOD HAS A CALLING FOR THEM!! Help me help them!! How can u do what they need to come back to God!!??

  205. As a mom of two boys, I learned early on how to pray fervently, desperately, and openly for both of them. Our first son was born with birth defects and endured six surgeries. Those long walks down the corridor into the OR with our baby were terrifying! Those long hours in waiting rooms were excruciating. But those long hours in prayer were comforting. So thankful that God brought us through it all and so blessed to be a mom of two teenagers now. Wait, did I just say blessed and teenagers in the same sentence!

  206. Latasha Burrus says:

    I pray for my 19 yr old son.

  207. I have a son and 3 grandsons- William, Thoren, and K.C. My son’s boy is K.C.. My other two grandsons are by my daughter who died Oct 2011. Their father has totally cut me out of their lives since my daughter’s death. The last thing I heard about them were they both were in the hospital for hurting themselves. I wonder if they ever got to grieve over the loss of their mom. Six months after her death, my son-in-law got into a relationship with a woman who had a son. On my son-in-law’s facebook page, I see a lot of talk and praise about this other woman’s son, but nothing on either of my grandsons. The oldest one, William, was being home-schooled by my daughter as he was ADHD. My son-in-law would never accept the diagnosis or go with my daughter when she took William to a psychiatrist. After the funeral, my son-in-law enrolled William in public school.
    I have been praying for my grandsons to be totally healed and to be able to get in contact with me

  208. I have 3 sons, ages 10, 9, and 6. They are the joy of my heart! I would adopt 3 more boys if my husband would let me! My 10 year old is just starting to show signs of puberty. I can’t believe it, my baby! This book and blog caught my attention because I know there is a battle raging out there for their hearts and minds and we are about to really start walking through it. I need all the wisdom I can get! Thank you!

  209. I am the grandmother of a grandson after raising 3 beautiful daughters. My heart is broken for my grandson because his parents our struggling in their marriage and as hard as my daughter tries, I’m not sure they are going to make it. I am on my knees praying for them and this sweet wonderful little boy who adores his father and mother. My daughter is so concern for him and I think this book would be wonderful for both of us so we can be the prayer warriors this little guy needs.

  210. Roberta Gabriel-OBS Small Group Leader says:

    Hello Renee,
    The boys that I am praying for are my grandsons who are 13 yrs old and 7yrs. Our 7yr old grandson lives with us along with his 5 yr old sister and we are raising them due to the tragic and unexpected death of our middle daughter ,Erika (their mom) on September 26,2012 when she was hit and killed by a car. Our eldest grandson lives with his mom and her significant other who also has a son who is 12 yrs old and I consider him a grandchild as well. I pray for the boys and my daughter because she seems to have abandoned many of the principles and values that she was taught and that I believe we have modeled for them and she has become obsessed with material possessions. I so desire them to be godly young men who love the Lord and are bold in sharing their faith with their peers and who learn to seek the face of God so that He can reveal the plan that He has for each one of them. I am certain that this book would be a blessing to me and my husband as we endeavor to impart eternal truths to them and to assist them in fulfilling their divine purpose. My heart is breaking to see how sad my grandson is in his present living situation but I know that God has called me to pray and stand in the gap for them.

  211. Carol Flammond says:

    Hello I am a mother of 3 grown sons who have been deployed at different times in the last 4 years. I had one return last fall and one just a month ago his second tour of duty! I am very proud of there military careers and proud of them! I have a six year old Grandson who for all of his 6 years has had his Dad in the military. My Grandson’s parents where young when he was born. but are no longer together. Its hard for my little grandson. My heart just breaks for my Grandson he loves his Daddy so much just praying for fair visits for him and his Dad and Grandparents(my husband and I) I am on my knees in constant prayer for all of them!!
    Yes Our God Reigns!!! He will prevail!!! I will continue to pray and stand in the Gap!!!

  212. I would love this book. I have a thirteen year old son. Thank you,

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