When You Don’t Know What It Is…

 I hated feeling so uneasy and uncertain. Lost within my own heart. If only I knew what was making my emotions so wobbly. If only I could name it. Then I could figure out what to do about it. One morning, Jesus whispered it’s name in the quiet of my heart.  It was doubt. It wasn’t fear. It wasn’t worry. Self-doubt was making  me question everything I thought, felt and said. Naming it helped me know how to pray. Naming it led me to confessions I needed to make and promises I could claim. Naming it made me feel like I could finally stand up to it. Two summers ago, I got to visit the Farm and sit on the porch with my friend, Ann Voskamp. We talked about the power of naming things- the hard and the holy everyday grace things. How essential it is to our healing. We shared how doubt and fear had overshadowed our lives for so long, but how we both found hope and freedom once we learned to name them. Would you join us on the porch? {Be sure to turn up the volume. A tractor passes by and it gets kind of loud.} If you’re reading this via email, click here to view the video on my website.

“When you don’t have a name for something, you’re haunted by it’s shadows…But when you can name something… It loses it’s mask and you can find a strategy to deal with it.” (One Thousand Gifts)

Just days after Ann and I chatted on the porch, I received these two notes. “Renee, I just finished reading the first chapter of A Confident Heart . Thank you so much for writing a book like this and knowing exactly what it’s called that I’m going and have gone through all my life and didn’t know what it was called. ~ Sharon “I’ve always doubted myself, but like you I called mine different names. It felt so good to know and hear that I am not alone and that I can find my God-Confidence. ~ Megin

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Lord, thank you for showing us just how much we need to name that doubt, that fear,  that worry – so we can find a strategy to overcome it with You! There is power in Your Name, and power in naming the things that hold us captive. Give us wisdom and insight to name them, and courage to claim and walk in the overcoming power that is ours in Christ. In Jesus Name Amen! Join Us On The Porch Slip a note in the comments below this post by clicking “Share your thoughts.” As a special gift, each of you who join Ann and my conversation will be entered for a chance win one of three copies of A Confident Heart and one copy of Ann Voskamp’s New York Times Best-Seller, One Thousand Gifts.

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About Renee

Renee Swope is a Word-lover, story-teller, heart-encourager and grace-needer. She's also a wife, mom, friend, daughter and author of A Confident Heart, a Retailers Choice Award winning book that became a best-seller and has been published in six languages, with over 150,000 copies sold. Renee is speaks around the country at women's events and and serves on the writing team for DaySpring’s inCourage blog. For twenty years, Renee served in leadership at Proverbs 31 Ministries and as former co-host of the ministry's radio program, “Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee.

Comments

  1. I’ve had so many situations in my life, where naming it really set me free!
    And I love how she talks about naming the good as well, it’s so wonderful 🙂

  2. Kathleen says:

    Being able to name things has helped me to be able to focus on what it is and how to proceed from that point to being set free,

  3. What a great little talk – thanks so much.

  4. Naming your doubt or fear makes it real. Then you can take the first step to overcoming it. The power comes the Lord.

  5. Debbie Herbst says:

    thank you. Praying about these very issues of doubt and fear today. Thank you for insight and hope

  6. Thank you both for allowing the Lord to use you mightily to help us name those things that would try to steal our joy. I thank the Lord for replacing my doubt with assurance, my fear with boldness, my depression with His joy, my weakness with His strength! Thank you for reminding me to be specific with my prayers & my praise!

  7. Vicki R. says:

    Thank you for this message Renee. And thank you for introducing us to Ann’s book. I’ve struggled with doubt for many years. I am learning to release the things that have held me captive. What a wonderful feeling to name them and let them go!

  8. I just love your book A Confident Heart. I like it so much – I bought one for my daughter and mailed it to her two weeks ago. I will have to get us both One thousand gifts too! Hope you both have a great day!

    Sue Tingle

  9. “I hated feeling so uneasy and uncertain. Lost within my own heart.” This is me at times. Would love to read your book!

  10. What a GIFT to listen to two of my favorite inspirations. Renee your book came to me at a time when I was struggling with so much darkness and I didn’t understand what it was that was happening. I was literally in a fight for my life. A battle against addiction which I know now stemmed from lies I was believing. I am an overcomer. I am a child of the one true King, I am redeemed, i am blessed, I am chosen. I’m learning and learning how to believe who i am in Christ. Ann, I’m so thankful for the Joy Dare, to look at every little thing and see the gift in it. We have a bluebird nest in our pump. What a wonderful gift that they chose to take up residence in our garden. There’s so much joy in observing them. I’m learning to thank the Lord for all of our circumstances, even the really tough one’s. Thank you ladies for sharing your hearts. Maybe, as my God-confidence grows and I continue to heal, I’ll be able to share my story.

    • Melissa says:

      I to have battled these things. But I really live the concept of the Joy Dare- going to teach a session on finding our Joy in Jesus in a month. Gratitude rocks for healing!

  11. Sue Monson says:

    I have been in a difficult ‘refining’ period this past year…and Satan is constantly trying to fill my thought with fear, worry and doubt! I am leading a Summer Study of Lysa Terkeurst’s ‘Say Yes to God’ at this time…and the two books that you are giving away would be a wonderful follow up! Thank you for your encouragement today…it was needed!

  12. This is so true! I have always struggled with doubting my salvation and the devil knows how to use it to really bring me down! It causes fear, worry, and anxiety! As a wife, and mother to 3 children under the age of 3, it can be a struggle to get through each day with those emotions. Thanks for your ministry!

    • Thanks Carolyn a light just went on in my head when I read your post, I too have struggled with doubting my salvation for too many years. I will name it and claim God’s promise that whosoever believes in Him (Jesus) will not perish but shall have everlasting life. John 3v16

      We shall overcome I clung to this verse from Isaiah when my 3 children were young
      He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young.
      I think it is Isaiah 41
      They are just so precious

  13. I have never thought about it that way…..maybe that is why I am still struggling with all of my “unnamed worries”. Thanks once again for a great read.

  14. Teila lee says:

    Thank you for sharing this segment. When we name something it becomes real and we have to face it!

  15. Thank you for sharing this powerful message. For me, I can name much of where my self-doubt comes from these days: adjusting to a life that has been completely changed (and limited) by chronic illness – or really, the inability to adjust to it. Overcoming doubt, fear and worry is a daily battle for me… as well as fighting off frustration.

    Focusing on the many things I can still be thankful for is a good ‘strategy’ for winning the war against self-doubt…. AND self-pity.

    Thank you both.

  16. This is so true. How many of us have sat by the phone and worried over medical test results, not knowing what to expect because the diagnosis is unknown. Then when the phone call comes and you finally know what is causing your health issues, it’s like a sense of relief, even if it’s bad. But at that point, at least you begin to have direction. You know what to expect. You know there is an answer. We, as humans, are so afraid of the unknown. And that’s why some of us have a hard time accepting God.

  17. Naming it can definitely be a scary thing to do!

  18. Renee and Ann thank you so much for this video. I read A Confident Heart and did the study, and it blew me away at times, I have grown so much since doing the study, not only as a person, but in God, in Chapter Four, I remembered something from my past, a molestation by a relative as a child. It was buried in my mind, yet when I saw this person, something in me was uneasy, my stomach would tie in knots, but I didnt know why. I started to have dreams during the study of a room, a closet, a shadow. One morning I awoke and saw the shadows face, and instantly knew what had happened to me. In the video you both talk about naming, I now know that my shadow is fear. I am reading Wendy’s book Hidden Joy, I have cried out to God to help me forgive, I cried until I almost choked. I read about Wendy’s struggle with fear, and see how God has helped her and spoken to her, and it just makes me realize God is in control of all, and He will guide us through anything in life. I’m learning to be still and listen for Him to speak. I love Psalm 46:10 Be still and know I am God. God allowed me to remember, and I am healing with His help. Ann you are right “beauty does come out of the ashes”….Through all of the things I have remembered and learned I know that the Lord has called me to forgive. He has whispered two words to me through all of this “grace” and “forgive”. I continue on my journey with my Lord and Savior and love to read His word, I continue to write in my journal, and memorize scripture…I keep my Confident Heart near for reference, prayers and scripture (thanks Renee), I am looking forward to reading your book Ann…One Thousand Gifts……I am truly blessed to walk this journey with my “El Sali” God of my strength….God Bless Anna

  19. Naming things makes them clearer, more visible. Thanks to God who gives us those names- the good and the bad, so we are able to recognize them and make them smaller than they first appear

  20. I have always prayed about my fears and lack of self confidence in myself and my daughter in general terms but have never fully put a specific name to each one of these. Thank you for the thought and insight you have allowed me to grasp through your talk. I will take a turn on that self discovery road to try to pray in more specific terms to receive the healing I am always praying for.

  21. Michelle says:

    I have been able to name quite a few things over the years and God has helped me through each one… but there was one lingering that I couldn’t quit put a finger on…. Doubt… (and Trust) I have just started reading your book and I hope to replace that doubt with confidence in who God is and in doing so grow my trust!! <3

  22. Patricia says:

    So what do you do when you name it, mine is doubt and trust issues because of my past growing up, just wish I could get to the point that I even trust God with my life. I can quote scripture and I dig into the word but I am not sure its deep in my heart. So it really changes my life.

  23. How beautiful….to see how naming it goes right back to God! And to think to name 1000 good things, seems like I don’t have that many….but, I have so many more! What a wonderful conversation! Thanks for sharing with me!

  24. I struggle with panic attacks. They are a result of sexual abuse in a time in my life when I did not have any control over what was happening. And, though they have gotten better as I have dealt with what happened and as the years have gone by, they still rear their head at times. The one thing that has helped me to abate them, has been naming what is causing the panic. Is it the fact that someone looks like the person who abused me? Is it that the environment I am in reminds me of where I was abused? Is it just that too much is happening and I feel out of control? Being able to name the cause always helps me calm down; it doesn’t always stop the panic attack, but I am able to ride through it because I can identify it and I know–just like you two were talking about–the process needed to ‘defeat’ that fear.

    And gradually, because I have father issues, I am coming to trust God with control in my life and that helps too. Knowing that you can go to the Creator of the universe, with your life and your fears and your hurts, and He will listen and take control is both liberating and terrifying at the same time. He created SO much and yet He loves little ol’ me enough that He will make personal time; it is a humbling realization.

    Naming things gives them power, but it also gives you power when you go to God and say, “I know its name; I know You created it and I know You have power over it. Please help.”

    Thanks for the reminder today.

  25. Thank you so much, Renee, for helping me put a name to why I’m feeling so down. Sometimes I know I’m down from memory triggers of abuse, but other times I just feel so gloomy and feel like weeping. I can’t always pinpoint the real cause, but this morning when I read your post, I knew this was why – “Self-doubt was making me question everything I thought, felt and said.” I’ve been getting back into that rut again lately. I don’t believe in myself, and I doubt everything I do, think, say, write. I don’t even trust my own feelings, the deep-down-in-my-gut feeling. I’m letting those negative voices get the upper hand again. When I first read your book, I was so uplifted and strengthened, but often I still get stuck in that rut of self-condemnation and self-doubt. Sometimes I’m so, so weary of this battle that it’s so difficult to lift up my head to Jesus…

    • Trudy,
      There are A LOT of responses on here, so scrolling through I think I stopped on your comment for a reason. You said things so well that I have been unable to say! I too have ignored that deep-down-in-my-gut feeling, trusting instead the opinions and advice of others, and making a mess of things in the process! I don’t know how to fix things, or if God will let me sit in this mess since it is of my own doing. I too am battle weary. I appreciate your honesty, and have said a prayer for you. Remember this verse, Psalm 3:3 “But you, Lord, are a shield around me, my glory, the One who lifts my head high.” You see Trudy? You helped me because I had to look this verse up, and am now reading others similar! I pray God blesses you!

  26. Tammy Miller says:

    I just love when seemingly random things occur! Who would have ever thought the author of the book I am currently reading and the author of the JOY DARE my bible study group is doing would arrive in my inbox together. Christ makes all possible!

  27. Thank you for what you do! I really needed this.

  28. catherine says:

    Loved the talk on the front porch.it made me think of all the things I’m going through and naming them get freeTthe books really sound great .I would love to read them

  29. What a wonderful message. It’s hard to move the mask sometimes because coming to terms with something is so hard and then you could potentially deal with denial. Sometimes, I know with myself, finding it is just so hard as well. Thank God we have a wonderful leader / father in our lives and that he can assist us in coming over Satan!!! What a wonderful video to help us. Thank you so much for the love you have for not only God, but everyone around you to submit yourself in your work and share with others.

  30. This is so true. Naming it and having a proactive plan to pursue doing something or eliminating something in our life. What seems like a simple thing to do but we don’t do it at times or can’t cause we don’t know the name. Slowing down also to listen to The Lord for the name if we don’t know is so important. So glad I listened to this this am.

  31. I loved the saying “when you can name sothing – it loses its mask (that is awesome!!) and you can find a strategy to deal with it. That is so true. When we know what we are dealing with, it makes it so much easier – that is where giving it a name comes in. I get that!!!
    Thank you for these up lifting words and will see you again on the porch.
    When we know God’s names – Elohim – the creator; ElRoi – the God who see me; El Shaddai – the All Sufficent One; and more that can only help us in gving a situtation a name when we also know who to pray to – making it so real.

  32. Yudit A. Garcia says:

    When You Don’t Know What It Is…

    Truly and surely, God is always on time. When we seek Him, we’ll find Him. Thanks Renee for your encouragement and obedience to the Spirit of God. This is the way I felt this morning when I woke up. I didn’t know what to do or how to sort my thoughts and feelings. My mind was wondering in different places trying to find God and peace. I took your book, prayed, cried but couldn’t find “WHAT IT IS.” I even read the promises on your book “Confident Heart” and I started to feel better when I got your email, blessed be the name of the Lord. I listened to the video, it was really a divine appointment and the Holy Spirit revealed to me “what it is,” He took me back to my teenage years and reminded me what happened to me. In a nutshell, I was rise by my grandmother, my father’s mother. When I was eighteen years old, she got a stroke and her children putted her in a nursing home. They sold her house and told me to find a place to leave. Ever since I find myself moving from one place to another, right now I’m applying for a senior housing apartment praying they will approve it. As you can see, it has been so long for my healing. Please be in agreement with me in prayer I’ll get it. Your video taught me to “naming it led me to confessions I needed to make a promises I could claim.” May the Lord blessed and keep using you and sister Anne for His kingdom. THANKS SO MUCH!

  33. There are no words, simply happy tears of how an awesome God spoke to my heart through this powerful post. Thank you, precious friend for saying yes to Jesus using your life to touch others! Hugs in Him…

  34. Courtney says:

    Renee, thank you for sharing your conversation with Ann. All my life I’ve lived in fear and never really knew what the fear was. After listening to you guys, it totally makes since to search ourselves and named our fears. Once we have a name for the fear, we can carry it to God. And, pray that he takes that fear from us and replace it with confidence.

    I love the idea of listing 1,000 things I love! If I can do that, surely I can put a name to my fears! Yesterday, I was watching a program called Brain Games, and the narrator told that as adults we try to filter everything in a certain category. We need to broaden our horizons and think more like children. Children do not have that filter and they can let their imaginations run wild. I think with this assignment, I need to let my creative, inner child out. And see the good things in the world that I love, big and small. Plus, I’ll open myself to other possibilities for my fears,instead of trying to filter them.

    And, I want to thank you for the Confident Heart OBS! I loved in and feeling more confident each day!

  35. What a blessing for me to see the two of you together and to hear your thoughts on naming the gifts of our Lord, and in naming them, bringing them under the power of Christ. I read Anne’s 1000 Gifts last summer at the beginning of what has been one of the epoch years in my life, and I went through Renee’s A Confident Heart with her this spring, and went through it again last week while I was on a silent retreat (a blessing, a gift of Jesus and my wonderful husband). The first epoch year of my life was when I was 24 and God brought me out of darkness, severe dysfunction and abuse of my family of origin and into His light, and I was saved and married that year.
    While over the past 24 years God has grown me, blessed me and matured me, I have struggled with self-value, guilt, shame, doubt, fear…
    A year ago, after attending a church for 17 years, making it our church home, raising our 4 daughters there, serving in leadership, small groups, etc, the undercurrent of legalism and performance-based christianity led us to leave the church. The blessing of leaving our church home has been incredible. While difficult, I realized that the atmosphere there was one in which I could not deal with the issues that needed work, and God has used this last year to walk me through some dark valleys, but using His Word, your books, godly council, prayer, He has taken me from a place of salvation but living much in my own strength, to really beginning to live my life in the reality of my identity in Christ. My past does not define me; Christ does. I am not enough, but because He is, I don’t have to be!!

    Thank you both for your openness and obedience to God’s call to share what you have learned.

    Blessings,
    Becky

  36. I have been on a journey of darkness with my family, with health issues, judicial issues and spiritual issues for myself. I started reading “A Confident Heart” and it has helped me so much in trying to get through and deal with the multiple issues in our family. I have been struggling with my faith, trying to hold on to trusting God through all these trials coming in so many directions. I like “naming my doubts” because I struggle with fear and doubt when facing so many unknowns. Thanks for you video.

  37. What a perspective…naming it ..”so we can find a strategy to overcome it with You.” Love it. It seems so simple and practical. Thank you for your insight. Now if I could just remember to do this!

  38. Renee, thank you once again for bringing something to the forefront where we can find the love, peace, and understanding of what God is doing in our lives! Anne is so positive and her book is one that I am definitely interested in. May God bless both of you and I am so blessed by how He speaks through you! Love in His name….

  39. Melissa says:

    Thank you Renee for this video. When I’m struggling and can’t figure out why, I start searching out my heart trying to figure out what it’s called that I’m currently dealing with. In my mind, if I can just know the name, I will be empowered to overcome it with God’s word. I also ask the Holy Spirit to reveal to me what I am feeling and where this emotion is coming from. Naming it gives you power I think.

  40. Greetings in Jesus’ Name:

    This is wonderful message. Even as I have watched it and am pondering it, I have an uneasy feeling about something, and realize I was at such peace when a certain person was away. 🙁 I want to experience when they are here, too. I am not sure what to name it. Hmmmmm? I am praying. God bless you both richly. Thank you so much for sharing your conversation with us.

  41. Susan G says:

    And I thought it was only me – no knowing what to actually call the ‘thing’ I was in. 🙂 God is so faithful and always lets us know we are not alone in our thinking, but lets us know there are many others who feel the exact same way, or have the same thoughts about a problem. I believe the enemy wants us to ‘stay in the dark’, but God’s glorious Light shines ever brighter to show us ‘the path’ to freedom!
    I refer back to The Confident Heart many times, especially when my ‘heart’ seems to be ‘feeling’ the wrong thing. I go directly to the reference scriptures in the back of the book to ‘take care of’ the problem, and let God soothe my soul.
    Thanks Renee and Ann!

  42. Renee, thank you for this small amount of your time. The message that identifying (giving a name) to my problems can enable me to pray about them specifically and have a plan to overcome is extremely personal! I really enjoyed reading your book these last few weeks and participating in your online study. I feel like I need to go through it again and again improving more each time! Thank you for taking the time to share your heart with me and helping me understand how damaging self-doubt can be!

  43. Naming what we go through allows to be honest with ourselves and should let to confession and repentance followed by becoming right with God. It sets us free and restores us. I had to get honest with myself about what pride is and also my fear of rejection. Once I realized that those were what I struggled with, then I was able to be set free from them.

  44. Tiffany Brown says:

    I really needed to hear this, thank you so much for sharing and for helping me “name it”

  45. Savannah says:

    Love this, thank you 🙂

  46. Judy Clark says:

    I find it remarkable that God placed both your book, Renee, and Ann’s book in my life this year. My daughter gave me One Thousand Gifts for Christmas stating “Mom, this book changed my life.” I have been reading it ever so slowly, underlining so many lines! Meanwhile, I stepped out of my comfort zone this spring deciding to do an on-line Bible study with you and A Confident Heart. Within days of opening your book, Renee, I determined that I would be giving my daughter a copy! You managed to speak things in away both my head and heart could understand!

    The fact that you two joined for this interview and spoke of the inter-weavings of your thoughts – Naming our Gifts and magnifying HIM when we can develop clarity and strategy….well, from my standpoint, only God, Jehovah Jirah, could have orchestrated this! I give thanks to both of you for your very unique and heart-felt writings. And, I thank our GOD for his divine intervention through you.

    • God also placed both books in my life this year! As a matter of a fact, I was reading the chapter in 1000 Gifts that talked about naming it just this morning! We are doing a small group at our church on 1000 Gifts. The gal that is hosting it said that the book 1000 gifts and writing down what you are thankful for has changed her life. God is so faithful!

  47. Latrelle says:

    I enjoyed your “front porch” conversation on the farm. I need a friend like that ! — thanks for sharing

  48. Susan S says:

    This is another one of those moments. I am going through a rough time in my marriage/life right now and a very good friend recommended Ann’s book. Thank you for sharing your discussion and for the opportunity to delve deeper into this issue with these two books.

  49. Rebecca says:

    Today, I am understanding this video very clearly because I need to put a name to something bothering me.
    This “something” is making me so sick. Yes, I would love and need these books!

  50. Barbara says:

    I have been wondering for some time now why I can’t make decisions and now I know. Fear and doubt are keeping me from even leaving the house. Now that I have a name for it I will pray that God will lift this from me and let me get on with my life. Thank you.

  51. michelle h says:

    thanks for the encouraging words today!

  52. Thanks for sharing. It is encouraging.

  53. Tatiana says:

    Thanks for the timely reminder to be praise specific! Praising Him in the shadows and in the light. After all, we can’t have one without the other. Couldn’t help but think of the old children’s song, “Count Your Many Blessings…name them 1 by 1…and you will discover what the Lord has done…”

  54. Rebekah K. Sumrall says:

    Naming the gifts from God helps me accept what God has for me. I miss His gifts when I rush by and re frame from stopping and naming them. I am a farm girl, thanks for the reminder.

  55. Really needed to hear this today. Thanks for sharing.

  56. Deborah says:

    Thanks for always sharing subjects taht hit home. You are the best. I have started reading A Confident Heart and love it. Keep up the great work.

  57. I’m in the middle of reading A Confident Heart … each time I read, I just weep and weep … never knowing that someone else felt exactly how I do and never knew that I believed in Him, but haven’t truly BELIEVED Him … trying to be confident in Him is such a hard thing to do for me!

  58. Lynette Duquette says:

    I have been struggling with self doubt. God is moving me around and I am struggling with knowing whether I am capable of doing what He has called me to do. I have a good friend reading One Thousand Gifts and she loves it, so both books would be a blessing!

  59. Naming it is so important it gives it a “face”, you don’t constantly question your sanity. Realizing you are not alone in your search. There is less of a void now. I am not questioning myself. I am listening better. Thank you for your books they are dogeared and rainbow highlighted.

  60. Emily. Cook says:

    This was just what I needed today. I am overshadowed with fears
    and anxiety over health, moving,retirement. Will we be
    provided for ? I so much need to name it and claim
    that Jesus is my sufficiency and be able to REST
    In that! Thank you for reminding me that I can trust
    Him!

  61. This is exactly where I am at. Somehow the Lord is waking me up to the voices inside my head that aren’t healthy. The voices that say such negative, paralyzing damnations about myself. I started journaling them and was horrified to see on paper what I was hearing and believing. Something in me is rising up against the lies and the Liar. By God’s grace, I will not be held captive any longer.

  62. Tisha Heater says:

    This is such a great message. On the days I feel alone and just “off” I know if I just look at it for what it really is; self doubt, fear, exhaustion, anger, and hurt then maybe I can work on that particular issue. I find that they run so much together though that it is often difficult to single out one emotion to work on. I want so Mich to be happy and I know that I need to trust God. It is just trusting is so difficult.

  63. I have been struggling with spiritual warfare in an area of my life for almost two years now. I know God’s truth, but for some reason I can’t claim the victory. I just finished reading your book “A Confident Heart” for the second time. The ladies at my church have chosen “One Thousand Gifts” for a Summer Book Club. I haven’t purchased the book yet, because I wasn’t sure it was what God was leading me to do. Thank you for the affirmation and clarification!

  64. Jacqueline Russell says:

    Love your book! We are doing a bible study with it right now:)

  65. Lori Williams says:

    Thank you for this. I have been struggle with so much in our family. My husband has been out of work for a year, no jobs in sight, and his unemployment just ran out. He has gotten very discouraged. We haven’t seen our oldest son in 7 years, and we have yet to meet 2 of his children, our grandchildren. Our middle son has told us that he is gay. Our youngest daughter moved out last November without our blessing. She ran as fast as she could away from God and did what she wanted. We welcomed her back home a couple of weeks ago, pregnant. She is due July 22. We have not been able to buy anything to prepare for the baby. My daughter is very angry, as well as my son. The two of them are not getting along at all. The tension in our home is almost unbearable. I know running isn’t the answer, but boy do I want to run away. I need to name each thing that is causing me to feel like I do. I need to give them to God. I need to rejoice that He will take each thing and handle it. I need to trust Him. I believe, I need Him to help my unbelief. It is hard.

  66. Oh my! What a thought . . . name it, so you can fight it. Food for thought!

  67. Lynn Bowman says:

    What a beautiful thing! So true and so needed! You can’t face and conquer what you refuse to name. We know our enemy, Satan, lives in the shadows and tries to create illusions so things seem worse than they, bigger than they are. As you said, naming them brings them into the Light. The Light can dispel the darkness. Thank you, God, for the Light, Your Son, Jesus!

  68. Margaret says:

    Thanks for sharing.

  69. Nicole Patteson says:

    Well said. Naming something is the first step in understanding it and resisting it. This helps me understand why I keep talking to process until I can name something.

  70. I have never really framed my own self doubt and anxiety in this way before, but it makes perfect sense. Like a person waiting for a diagnosis medically, I think I need to diagnose my own spiritual struggles. I appreciate you more than you know, Renee!

  71. Mary Jo Troyer says:

    Thank you Renee and Ann –
    I loved reading 1000 Gifts. It touched my soul. I am a “worrier”, “self-doubter”, and “self-hater” at times –
    trying to find and receive God’s grace in my everyday life. Practicing “eucheristo” helps me focus on all that is good from God.
    Blessings to you both for sharing from your souls…
    Mary Jo

  72. Sonia Rivera says:

    Thank you for that insight about name that which sometimes paralysis us. I think by naming that monster we are able to bring it down in Jesus name.

  73. It’s so like God to bring this little video chat to my attention just when I am seeking Him for healing about my constant battle with self doubt. Beth Moore’s “So Long Insecurity” got me launched on this current journey and I’m working through Rusty Rustenbach’s “Guide for Listening and Inner-Healing Prayer (Meeting God in the Broken Places)”. God keeps bringing what I need for the journey. What a Savior!

  74. How timely this is for me. I am going through so much right now that I can’t name it. It being what the main thing is. My husband passed away in February and I realize how much I depended on him in these moments of doubt and uncertainty and he isn’t with me anymore. I am feeling sure it is because I haven’t given Paul to God to care for and I miss taking care of him as I have in the last 8 years of his life. He was paralyzed and could not walk and had many, many problems with his health before he passed away.

    I realizing now what it is. I miss caring for him and have to let God care for him now.

    Any help you may give me through your friends who post would be most appreciated.

  75. Nicole H says:

    Such a powerful principle to diffuse our tormentors, identifying them for what they are! When God shines His light, His truth on these ugly lies we’ve been believing, watch out! It’s only a matter of time until freedom comes. I didn’t know why I was a prisoner in my mind, thinking thoughts and recalling events I didn’t want in my head but it became ritualistic almost, feeling the pain. I prayed for help all through my 20s but I really believe if I would have prayed GODS WORD for my specific issues I would have been on the road to recovery a lot sooner! But we have to know what we’re dealing with- wow so true. So thankful for these tools you’ve provided us with Renee, to overcome the shadow of our doubts!! Thank you too Ann! Awesome video & Cant wait to read your book. God sends forth His Word and heals us, we are advocates for that! Love & Blessings to you both.

  76. Laura Chapman says:

    I really needed to hear this.

  77. Elizabeth Trammell says:

    Such sweet insight to the heart of God’s love. Thank you!

  78. Thanks for sharing your heart and encouraging us in this process of “naming”, both the good and the bad and giving it all to God.

  79. This was exactly what I needed today. I’ve been feeling a sense of failure today, like everything I did went wrong. This helped me realize it’s spiritual attack and I needed to fight it as such. Thanks for the reminder and letting me join you on the porch.

  80. Thank you for words of encouragement. Today I am going through a period of self doubt and uncertainty and I am finding that if I just name those feelings, I feel so much more intune to the Lord!

  81. Andrea Kuenzi says:

    Love this, naming our gifts from God helps us to realize he is living in us, we aren’t alone, and good or bad, he is there. Thank you.

  82. Tammy Haymon says:

    Love the idea of calling out these negative thoughts from my brain and shooting them down with God’s Word. So thankful Renee and Ann for being obedient to God and sharing their struggles.

  83. Christi says:

    Naming things is so powerful. This simply truth although difficult at times has set me free!

  84. I think naming the negative is important because we face what it is that is overwhelming us. We call it what it is. And as Ann said we recognize whatever it is, God is bigger, able to handle it.

    Naming the positive is being thankful for each detail we have been blessed with. It’s like recognizing all the qualities in our children instead of just saying. Jessica is amazing. It’s itemizing why.

    I also think it is childlike which is what we are encouraged to be. When I pray with my grandsons they mention each little thing, as well as each little fear.

  85. God has been teaching me these past few weeks all about His timing…devotionals, little bits of wisdom, sermons, provisions, and your video. All have come at just the exact time I need them, just when I’m struggling with an issue. I’m battling Stage 4 Colorectal Cancer. The doctor has told me that I will be on chemo the rest of my life and that my life may be as short as 2 years. But I don’t accept that. I know my God is still a healing God. I know that in His time He will manifest my healing with physical proof. Until then, I will continue to praise Him and thank Him for my healing. I will be grateful and thankful for the many blessings He gives me everyday. And when the enemy comes against me, I use your AM/FM formula, Renee, from the 7 Day Doubt Diet, to stand firm on God’s word and promises. I struggle with doubt and fear daily but I trust God to see me through.

  86. I’m learning to name and submit my thoughts to the Lord both good and bad, and is so comforting to know that He’s there to help me and give me strength to overcome anything and everything.
    Emma

  87. I am so glad I found this. Great encouragement for me as I have struggled with this all of my life. I look forward to more conversations that may lead me in the right direction. Thank you!

  88. Thank you for sharing. I have been praying the last few weeks for God to help me identify the source of my anxiety/fear/worry.

  89. Wow what an awesome idea!! I am getting ready to go for a walk and plan to start giving my fears and doubts names and thanking God also for all the blessings He has given to me .

  90. Kristen Wirth says:

    I just love it and for the words of encouragement and to see to wonderful girlfriend’s talking to each other!!!!

  91. Sheree Grinstead says:

    Thanks you so much for sharing this. I was halfway through this video and decided to share this on my page on Facebook. As a single mother of 3 children, ages 12,5 & 3, I encounter some major challenges in life. I decided about 3 years ago to make my relationship with God closer. I realized as I was approaching 30 that some decisions had to change. I began serving at my church despite what my circumstances were at the time. I decided to attend our group sessions every 1st and 3rd week so that I stay connected with God’s people so that I am held accountable for my walk with God. At some points in our lives we have to decide what to do even when it feels uncomfortable. Now as I have been committed to my relationship/walk with God I can face my challenges knowing God sees everything. So as I listened to this video I began to realize what I needed to do to put things into perspective as I am encountering this ongoing challenge I face. I know now to name this thing, confess it to God, pray to God for strength and perseverance and know that he will take care of it all. Thanks again for sharing.

  92. Maureen says:

    Good reminder and lesson that I need to apply to my life. I try to not think about the bad but I should name it and bring it to light instead of repressing. Thank you.

  93. I am reading the confident heart book now during my devotional time with God and really learning a lot. I plan on joining you on the porch for the conversation. The other book One Thousand Gifts looks interesting as well.

  94. This has prompted tears, and soul searching. I’m writing out thoughts and feelings with a Word document open in another computer window. I didn’t want to share it here. But I look forward to your post on Thursday, and would like a chance at the book giveaway of One Thousand Gifts. I participated in your online study of A Confident Heart, but I feel I’ll probably be reading the book again soon, after intense honesty with myself. Sometimes, honesty with oneself is too painful to face until you’re at the end of your rope, and then you have to.

  95. jennifer miller says:

    Ann’s book (which I borrowed) and this short video have rocked my world! To think, that simply in naming the very things that we struggle with or , in turn, are blessed by, that that naming will unlock our true connectness to God, wow! Thank you for sharing that momental truth in this video. The quote above will be placed on my mirror today as a reminder of that! Praise God!

  96. Tiffany says:

    This message is confirmation to me that this process I’m dealing with has so much more to do with me, and less to do with anyone else. The Lord took me through this naming process 1 or 2 days ago and I was telling some friends how cleansing it was. He had me to list several different things, and then He told me to put only one name on it. Even though there was some not so cute things inside of me I needed God to reveal it to me for me to really be free. Thank y’all so much for sharing this with us. I’m definitely going to make a habit of putting a name on things. God Bless!

  97. Hi sweet friends, I am so moved by God’s timing of this post and what He’s doing in your lives through it. Im reading through your notes and plan to come back to share in the conversation tomorrow. Dinner needs to be fixed and we have a group of friends from church coming over for small group tonight. You are tucked in my thoughts and prayers.

    I love doing online community life here with you!!
    Renee

  98. melva nolan says:

    With recent major changes in my husband’s and my life, I would welcome some guidance to a confident heart.

  99. Thank you for naming what I didn’t even know I wasn’t naming! So much work to do! So grateful to be doing it with women like you!

  100. I am so smitten with the idea of naming, specifying, as God had Adam name the animals. I remember a sermon I once heard – Jesse Duplantis, perhaps – talking about how God had Adam name the animals as a confirmation of his being made in the image of God. When Adam said “Giraffe”, God said, “Yes, Adam, that’s right.” That the names were already IN Adam because he was made in the image of God, but it took a “Light be!”-like expression to establish their existence and Adam’s hegemony. It’s tough to be afraid of something you can name. And then use the name to cast it out. 🙂 Glory.

  101. Suzanne says:

    I have moments when I just want to cry and I don’t know why or what happened to make me feel so low. It sneaks up on me like a sneeze! I love my life and I know I am blessed but sometimes those crazy moments of tears just come flooding in and I have no idea what to call it. Seeing your video makes me want to meditate on what exactly is bringing me down in those unexpected moments…that it may have a name, and if I can figure it out, I can start to pray about God releasing it from me and rising good things up from it! Thanks so much for sharing this video and for opening my heart to the possibility of a new prayer in my life!

  102. Thank you both for sharing and posting this. I needed to hear this!

  103. Jaimie Rachal says:

    I’ve just recently started getting serious about my faith and one of the first things I did was to begin to pray about the things that I cannot change. My anxiety came from a deep doubt and an inability to give up my burdens and worries. I’m still new to this, but I find that a peace comes over me when I pray about those issues and acknowledge that I cannot do anything without the help of the Lord.

  104. Bing Boettner says:

    What a wonderful lesson on overcoming by putting a name to what we are struggling with! God is using both of you to minister to many of us in a special way.Thanks, Renee and Ann! On a side note: am working on a teaching strategy on literacy and I have come up with an adapted idea for my students to do a a little book, One hundred gifts. I don’t know where this would go but my thinking wheels are turning! Thanks so much!

  105. Carrie Vance says:

    The post on FB leading to this page couldn’t have come at a better time! I am having a hard time naming my emotions, and when it was named self doubt it just seemed real. Thanks!

  106. Sophia DeLongji says:

    Things kept in the dark are bigger than life and naming them brings them into the light…sharing some deep wound with a trusted friend is like a huge weight lifted off the heart and Lessing the power of that “thing” that had so much power over my life. Thank you for this!

  107. Katrina says:

    Listening to the both of you on the porch somehow made me a little jealous and at the same time a feeling of reassurance from connecting with the conversation of naming that thing. I was able to not only move pass the jealous moment but look toward receiving the blessings of the Lord which will enable me to work through my fears and doubts to be the works of ministry. I thank God and his divine guidance that brought me to this posting today!

  108. Patty Skaggs says:

    I was blessed by this chat you had Renee with Ann. Don’t we all have some of those shadows and unnamed things that pull is down and into the darkness? God is light! He doesn’t want us in the darkness. This video was very enlightening. Thanks. Bless you both in Jesus name!

  109. Knowing what something is, is very important. You have to know what your dealing with in order to deal with it well. Recognizing what it is that God has brought into your life as a good blessing, touches your heart. Recognizing what it is that you are struggling with really allows us to see past our problems and look towards God. One thousand gifts sounds like an amazing book of gratitude. Can’t wait to read it.

  110. Carol H says:

    I just love the framing and naming of those things that we can’t put a name on. In “A Confident Heart,” you show how through GOD’S perfect word frames those doubts with HIS very words. Thanks for the encouraging the word in our hearts.

  111. This has been huge for my freedom, knowing what it is, repenting and being made FREE!

    For my kids and I counting our gifts helped us overcome fear during a really difficult time. Thank you.

  112. Marquita says:

    Thank you for sharing that conversation and the reminder that we need to name things, both the good and the bad. For the past several months, I have been dealing with something that I couldn’t quite articulate or understand. I have had the feeling of addiction and I couldn’t fugure out why or where it came from. I’ve heard repeatedly that I need to understand the root of my feelings and it wasn’t until today that I was willing or able to admit that my feeling of addition stems from feelings of fear. I fear hurt and disappointment and as a result I wanted to turn to something else that divert my attention. I wanted to hold onto something that would act as a cushion should fear creep in. It’s all a figment of my imagination but I now know that I can overcome….now that I’ve named it FEAR. Thank you for reminding me that it’s okay to be honest with myself. Thank you for reminding me that God is in control of the good and the bad and that I must name things so that the power of God can work in my situation. He always steps in once we are willing to give him total control and naming things are the beginning to releasing our humanistic control. Thank you again. I truly appreciate you both listening to the Holy Spirit with willing spirits and being obedient to sharing what He lays on your hearts.

  113. What do you do when the answer does not have a name I have been having medical tests for 6 months they have found back problems then the medicine caused stomach problems but now the doctors think that it is IBS but not sure so I’m at this place where I have no name for it but I have decided that I believe that God is in control and all I can do is rest in His arms and enjoy the good days and pray through the bad ones
    Please keep me in your prayers

  114. Elaine Segstro says:

    Thank you for these words of hope reminding me that I am not alone with my struggles and doubts.

  115. I definitely believing in naming the good blessings in our lives. I have never thought about naming the not-so-good or bad things in us though. I do believe that we need to recognize and acknowledge our doubts, fears, insecurities, and whatever else that is similar. However, I don’t believe that we need to dwell on them as some people tend to do in society. Recognize and acknowledge them for what they are (doubts, fears, insecurities, etc.). Then, ask the Holy Spirit to either remove them or help you overcome them. Thanks!

  116. I am almost in tears after watching the video. Ann’s voice was so soothing that I think I could listen to her all day. When she said that she had to slow down or she would miss the gifts it made me wonder what gifts I may have missed in my busy/crazy life. I am going to take time to notice from now on.

    The video made me remember a time that I had forgotten. Years ago I started having pain throughout my body. The pain seemed to move from one spot to the other–my shoulder, then my knee, then my elbow–and I would be in a “fog” in the mornings until noon. Then when I tried to go to sleep at night I couldn’t fall asleep for hours. Before I knew it–it was morning and the crazy mystery started all over again. The worse part of this was trying to get a diagnosis–I looked completely fine. Finally I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia–it was a relief to have a name for what was going on. I pray that anyone who finds themselves in a similar situation will find a name soon–be blessed.

  117. I find healing in naming hurts as well! However this struggle I have with anger continues to press at me from all sides….could you please pray that God will allow me to put a name to this in my life.

    • Julie Z says:

      A wise counselor told me, when I was struggling with anger, that I could choose to offer the anger to the Lord to use for His glory. I did not instantly stop being angry, but I submitted it to God for His purposes. The Scriptures say to be angry but do not sin.

      A Bill Gothard class on anger resolution was helpful for me also. We were encouraged to, instead of asking, “Why me?” ask “Why not me?” A wrong was done to us that shouldn’t have been, but God is still in control. He is still sovereign and loves us more than we can imagine.

      God bless you and give you His peace, dear sister.

  118. Thanks for the encouragement to face our fears and doubts and seek God to find restoration.

  119. Julie Z says:

    Yes! By naming a fear, concern, or issue, we take a formless anxiety and contain it in a boundary, taking power from it. We are able to pray specifically about the concern and God who hears each prayer will specifically address it. When we pray specifically, we are better able to see God’s answers to prayer!

    Once, in a very difficult time for my family, I felt God say, “I will hold the hard things for you.” What a comfort! As I named those hard things, I placed them into His capable hands and knew He would take care of them for me. My Heavenly Father loves me enough to count the hairs on my head–He cares about each thing that touches my life. What a great, awesome and loving God we serve!

  120. What a wonderful idea to name your blessing as well as your burdens. Thank you Renee and Ann for sharing your heart with us.

  121. Vanessa Wynn says:

    Love this!!! When we name things, we can call them out to God and be more able to trust it to Him because we REALLY KNOW what it is we are asking! Again, thank you for sharing!

  122. Thank you for revealing this very powerful truth!

  123. Stephanie Mitchell says:

    Self-doubt and low self-esteem are things I have struggled with and still struggle with. I turned 49 on June 12th, and I find I am still not feeling worthy enough of even myself. I weigh 210 pounds and at my age it is not something I am proud of. there is a lot of emotional abuse that has kept me unable to be successful in weight loss but because of my size, I don’t feel worthy even of my husband and the attention he tries to give me. thank you for helping me ‘put a name on it’ and admit that I have given up on every being worth anything to anyone, even god.

  124. Thank you for reminding me of all the gifts that I have been given that show me that God is taking care of me. As Ann said they go by so quickly, that it is easy to forget them.

  125. I’m trying. I read the book and am going to reread it but when doubt and anxiety and worthlessness have been a proven repeatedly throughout a lifetime…it’s hard to believe God wants to and will change me.

  126. So true; it it good to thank God for the gifts He gives us on a daily basis. Too often I focus on the one bad thing that is happening to me. Thank you for sharing your talk.

  127. You truly cannot overcome a problem or struggle until you admit it and name it. I am going through a huge personal struggle right now. Just today at a counselling session I was told this same truth. Thank you for sharing your heart and reminding us of this victory that is ours in Christ.

  128. That was an eye-opening message. Thanks ya’ll !

  129. Love this! I never thought about like this before, but it is so true! Just being able to identify that “thing” by its name allows you to immediately turn to Jesus and the truth that He says about you! Thank you both for sharing!

  130. Stephanie says:

    Ladies, what you are saying is so true! 🙂 And it makes such a difference to switch our focus off
    of the vague darkness, and turn to the Face of Jesus, knowing that even though it may be a while before
    we know what the specific darkness is, that even in the dark, He gives comfort and peace until He chooses
    to shed His light on it. What a Faithful and Mighty Abba we have!! 🙂

  131. Thank you for a bright warmth in my day!!!!!

  132. I ran and hid from my doubts and fears for a very long time. I wasn’t able to confront them. I was in denial. But what we don’t confront, we will never overcome.

  133. Thank you for posting this. Very timely for me.

  134. Thank you for the encouragement today!! Loved it.

  135. Wow! I so needed to read this today. Been struggling and feeling so down. Unsure just why I felt this way and to read about naming our doubts and fears. That is exactly what I needed to do. Thank you so much for your posts. God has truly used you in a special way!! Blessings!!

  136. Thank you for this ‘porch talk’. This is so true. I and many of my friends were raised to believe that if you spoke something of weakness or negative, that it was not a ‘Christian’ thing to do. It is only after reaching a point where I had to ‘name it’ or be lost in a murky mire that I verbalized the ‘negative’ in my life and claimed victory in the name of Jesus.

    Since the silent birth of our second daughter at eight months into our pregnancy, I have had many people say that they do not know how I have coped. It was through complete honesty with God…telling Him the pain and confusion and anger…naming it and then dealing with it. We have since had a baby boy and throughout that pregnancy, I had to name the fear and the anxiety…and give it all to Jesus…

    I did not have a name for this, but now I do. Thank you…deeply…

  137. Thank you so much for sharing your story!! Much love!!

  138. Linda S. Aranda says:

    I went through the Confident Heart Bible Study and have realized so many things about who I am in Christ and how much God loves me. This video made me realize that when I name those somethings positive or negative in my life, I will be set free from the bad things and the positive (gifts) show me that He is always with me in the good and the not so good things. Thank you for sharing this video.

  139. Thank you for sharing this conversation. Thank you Ann for the gift of your book One Thousand Gifts. The past few years I have watched my parents go through a very hard journey. My Mom has recently done the study and read the book One Thousand Gifts and she has been incredibly blessed in her journey. I look forward to reading One Thousand Gifts very soon. I have already started a blessings box with my three little girls and plan to keep it going!

  140. Remee, your video messages really inspire me. I so look forward to listening to them when i see they have been posted This message had me focused on my own things that need to be named. It is so true about the need lf naming thing so they can be dealt with and let go. watching the video caused me to think about the jealousy i have in my heart towards a terrific friend !! It took the listening to the video…..it literally hit me like a brick….that i harbor jealousy towards her. Everything comes easy for her…or it seems….she is like the perfect Barbie !!!! I have given this over to God, but would like tons of prayer. Hopefully, through God and his plan i can get over this feeling….. NOW IT HAS BEEN NAMED !!!

  141. Treasure says:

    I checked this book out from our church library in March and fell in love with it. I have since given away 6 copies to various ladies but I still don’t own it myself. I’m on number 257 in my list and am trying to get more consistent on adding to it every day. I am ready to read it again!

  142. Samantha says:

    On my way home today, I was crying and telling God I can’t figure this out. I don’t know what’s going on, I don’t know what it is but I need you to do something about it. Please do something in me. Now I have a name for it!! It’s the doubt I didn’t make the right decision about my marriage, the doubt that I’m not a good mom or employee, the doubt that I can get that promotion or run a half marathon. It’s self-doubt!! It has a name and I can call it by its name and put it into my Father’s hands. What a blessing!

  143. Wow! Talk about God’s timing. I spent the day with one of my very best friends today. We are opposites in so many ways but our faith in God is what joins us together. We learn and grow together in faith. Fear was a huge issue today. She has lived in fear all her life in one form or another. This is something that is becoming more and more apparent as we get older. She expects the worst to happen in any and all situations. We had gone shopping when a downpour began. The rain came down so fast and hard that it caused street flooding. We were never in physical danger, yet she was paralyzed with fear. She does not want to react this way but doesn’t know how to change. I have already forwarded this email to her hoping that by doing what you have suggested in naming our fear(s) it will refocus our attention on God. Don’t we have an awesome God! His timing is perfect. Thank you so for being faithful to God’s calling in your life. We feel so alone, thinking we are the only ones that feel that way. God wants us to share and in doing so reaching out with His love to others.

  144. Two of my favorite and most life- changing books. I’ve given both away, & would love a freebe to share

  145. OH I know why I get to feeling un settled, or sad… I am not trusting God

    I know what I want… but instead of being patient and waiting…I just get so down and get hurt… for no reason
    So as I give my doubts to God, one by one , I now try to praise God for each goodness he delivers…
    He may not see to it that I get exactly what I want…but He will see that I get exactly what He knows I need…
    His choice will be the better… and in trusting Him, I may be surprised : )

  146. Hello thank you both so much for sharing. I ve learnt so much.I m truly grateful. God bless yo u both.

  147. It is amazing how God gets your attention with every blog, discussion and youtube post! I picked up 1000 Gifts “on a whim”, but now I realize God insisted that I read this book and share it with my center of influence.
    I have spent my life in the delusion that to criticize is to show intelligence and discernment. I was so wrong!
    It has been chewing away at my heart and soul and driving so many good things away. I am starting to “name the gifts” and I find my heart and head transforming into such a grateful state that I hardly know myself at times!
    I pray that this is contagious and I’m so excited to be using Ann’s book for our first fall bible study. It is also time to find my copy of “A Confident Heart” and look for the treasures and provide this as another stepping stone for our lives to be set free in Jesus. Thank you, ladies, for pursuing your calling!

  148. Thank you for sharing this! I am still digesting it but very encouraged.

  149. Thanks for the transparent look at ourselves!!! It truly helps!!!

  150. I have always been a worrier. I don’t think I know how not to be one. My life is consumed with that dreadful word “worry”. No matter what the circumstance, be it family, friends, work, financial..the list is endless. I am held prisoner within myself because of worry. It changes my personality and controls my emotions. Thank you and P31!! I have ask God to forgive me of my short comings and to lead me by the still waters..I know the mighty God I serve is true and just and will supply all my needs according to his riches & glory. Praise his name and God Bless your ministry.

  151. Renee and Ann, thank you so much for your openness and sincerity! Yes, naming things that bother and tug at your heart can be difficult. Sometimes I’m reluctant to do that because I do not always want to recognize that certain things are there. But it IS truly liberating and very, very helpful! Thank you so much!

  152. Morag Adlington says:

    I remember when I used to teach school how scary it was at the beginning of term when faced with 34 teenagers you didn’t know. They felt so safe to misbehave before the teacher knew their names. My first priority then was to learn their names as quickly as possible so they had to pay attention to me when I spoke. This is the same principle as Renee is talking about in the blog. When we know the name of what is bothering us we have authority over it and it has to pay attention when we speak! Wow! WOw! WOW!

  153. Tracey Poler says:

    Just an hour before I read this I was talking with someone about this very thing-always doubting myself. I didn’t call it that-I didn’t have a name for it. But now I do-thank you thank you thank you for sharing! I feel hopeful-doubt will not rule me any more.

  154. Erica Walker says:

    I love this! Naming the good and the bad is so very helpful. Naming the bad helps me to notice where things are coming from and not put my hurt and frustration on myself or others and not make the situation personal, but naming the good keeps me grounded and reminds me all the time that the good always outweighs the bad not matter how it seems. Thank you ladies so mich for sharing this with us. I know that I definitely needed it!

  155. I have always heard of “counting our blessings” and the benefit of looking at the good things around us. It lifts our spirits, re-focuses our outlook, and changes our attitude. But I had not quite thought about the power of naming even the hard things. It serves a different purpose: to shine light on a hidden enemy. We can overcome self-doubt when we view ourselves through the lens of Christ- how He loves us, despite how we feel. Recognizing both the gifts and the false-beliefs is a powerful thing. Thank you for your words!

  156. My soul is weary and my body is tired. But, these words have brought me refreshment. And for the first I don’t feel like I’m alone in these emotions. Thank you Jesus for the working of your Holy Spirit.

  157. The two ‘friends’ I needed most at this moment to listen to – thank you Renee and Ann so much for sharing yourselves with us. I’d love to meet on the “front porch” every week with you just to listen and talk about The Lord! You both are bringing The Word of God into practical, everyday moments, “the kitchen sink” of our lives. God bless you both! Sincerely, T

  158. This really blessed me. I now see how naming things make such a huge difference. Thanks!!

  159. Janet F says:

    I had never thought of naming my doubt or fear and that it would make it real so I could deal with it. Thanks for that insight. I love your book and the study you did on here. I will be doing it again with Melissa Taylor’s group later this year. You Proverbs 31 women give us so much good advice and visuals to help us in our walk. I have been writing my doubts on paper and throwing them in the trash like you showed us on one of the videos. What a freeing exercise that is!! I also have been writing my concerns down and found an awesome table top cross at Hobby Lobby. Now I can take those concerns and lay them at the foot of the cross, another awesome tip on one of your videos. I need those kind of visual aides to help me get it deep in my heart and head, so thank you for just being you and helping us women to find ways to get closer to our Lord and find our confidence in Him only!!!!! You are a blessing Renee!! ♥

  160. I was blessed by this video of your conversation. It felt safe to explore my thoughts and feelings of the worry and stress that at times overshadow and overwhelm my life. I love the idea of naming the good and bad. to identify what the blessing is and know what the problem is. I started a new job recently and had been living in fear of failure. the scripture Ann quoted was awesome, Perfect love casts out fear – 1 John 4:18. That touched my heart immediately and I drew strength from it. What a loving and caring God we serve.

  161. A friend shared this very thought with me last year. It is life changing. Want to continue internalizing this.

  162. Thank you so much for sharing. This really struck home with me.

  163. Leah LaRosa says:

    Thank you for help in naming the things I doubt and replacing those doubts with the things I’m thankful for.

  164. I would love to start to name gifts and name thing instead of not understanding.. There is power .. and I like how she said naming the dark things bring them into the light which is the Light of Jesus … how powerful.

  165. Gail Mosher says:

    Just wanted to let you know that what you have said is so dead on! After reading Renee’s book, A Confident Heart” several times I came to realize naming fear was the beginning to healing my heart. God has done so much to bless me through your openess and honesty.

  166. Charlene says:

    I’ve had a light bulb moment here- watching this video really made me realize why God has told me to call things by name- so HE can enter in & fix them!
    Thank you for sharing this – my resistance to name things is gone- now I know what God was really telling me- I just had to hear it- thank you for being His voice.

  167. Thank you so much for inviting us all to this conversation. I have struggled terribly with health anxiety. I will have panic attacks and slip into depressions, all because of terrible worry that I will lose my health. I watche this video and really prayed and contemplated what I needed to name. I came away that in reality it isn’t the loss of health I fear, but the fear of leaving my young children with no one to care for them. I feel like I need to pray for wisdom to make proper plans in case something awful were to happen, but more so, pray to let go and realize the children and I are in the hands of our loving God.

  168. I’m naming hoarding and clutter in my life. I have named anger in years past, Today I am naming hoarding. I searched out an interview where she reminded me that when I’m in the darkness, God is right there with me. He is covering me so that when I come out of the darkness he removes His hand that I may see Him. Thank you for this lesson. You have given me a different view of where I am at today, in this valley.

  169. Jennifer says:

    We have a 8 ft long banner on the wall of our dining room that says “I will give thanks to the Lord” at the top and we listing our gifts as a family! We even have friends who come over and add to the list! It has been such a wonderful thing for our family and a conversation starter about Christ and His love over and over!

  170. thank you for the drawing. It is wonderful to hear from two of my favorite spiritual teachers!
    Blessings!

  171. It’s has been such a blessing to me to see OTHER women name what’s haunting them. For many years, my pride kept me from naming my insecurity and self-doubt. I thought it was expected of me to be strong and confident and that I would be letting others down if I admitted my weakness. Now I truly see that God’s power is perfected in my weakness and His grace is sufficient for me! Thank you! May God continue to richly bless your ministries!

  172. What a beautiful soul Ann is. Thank you both for this wonderful message:)

  173. Jennifer says:

    I love that we can put a name to something. That I can change my thought process by naming my fear. I have the name of “not good enough” and that holds me back. I am praying now that I see myself as good enough because I do know that Jesus sees me that way. Thanks for sharing.

  174. Just need to share something that I have a hard time with using the phone due some mechanical issues with the phone and with myself. Honestly, I’m a little scared to tell this story due to fear of rejection but I want to share this so maybe where I’m coming from they will understand. I’ve only shared this with probably two people. One of them understood; the other one just say we went our own ways. But I know there’s a lesson in all of this and it’s the hardest thing I’m working through.

    A couple of years ago, I had a cell phone that had some mechanical issues and I guess you can say I had the same issues. 🙂 I had some mentor church friends and one of them would ask we would like to invite you to have some food. I had that gut feeling that one of them that didn’t want me to attend but being naive I ignored it and with them. Did this many times and even started drinking alcohol with them.

    I admire one of these friends because she was single/older and than she got married which still gives me hope but I donot know it’s in God’s plan. This older friend mentor me but I also know she had a lot of changes and I was getting to dependent on her and walked over the boundaries (maybe it’s part of being an only child) I’m not making that an excuse well maybe just a little. In addition, I was trying to help her stepdaughter who was living with me at that time free of charge. Well, it just didn’t work out. Well one day my cell phone would just keep on calling the stepdaughter Mom all the time that one night I had a police officer visit me and said you’re going to be cited for phone harrassement but I tried to explain that it wasn’t my phone and thankfully when the officer was there and I was talking the phone rang that number and yes that number was deleted but I know he didn’t tell that to the other lady but I loved the officer face. However, that point I was scared that I had a nervous breakdown that night on top of it the next day I went to the Church to play piano and I guess the Priest saw me and talked to the director that we were okay (she said no and I don’t want her to play the piano) so the stepdaughter told me if I played the piano the priest will call the police. That did it I stopped going to church for almost a year. I tried a couple of times but would just cry on my way there. One day I made it to the parking lot but couldn’t make it inside the Church.

    It took me along time to trust anyone in the ministry but two years ago I found one that I told my story and even today even though we are very busy she still calls me even when she comes home from a long trip and understand my new way of living.

    Also, as I was praying I know it wasnt all my fault but I was partly to blame due boundaries and I know lately I have failed with that e-mailing some people too much but I’m afraid if I would call them. They will say I’m sorry I don’t have time for you which I do understand with family, jobs, vacations, illness etc and somedays and there are truly honest which I’m thankful but it does sting. I know I’m guilty of doing the same things

    A couple of times I have open this up to some friends that totally understood what I am working on this part with the strenght of God.

    I give thanks to God for teaching this lesson to me and I’m so thankful for the friends who are in the ministry even when I act like jerk. The actions that they do just amaze me when I act like a fool (at least in my eyes) they still pray for you when they can’t be there or help you out when you run out of gas, or treat you to ice cream since they see you behind you in the drive thru, and help you out when you locked yourself out your house or church or car even when they have plans to go somewhere else they go out of their way.

    How blind that I couldn’t see this kind of love. I know I am loved and accepted by God no matter how crumble I get. It’s a new day everyday and I’m glad that I have God walking side by side or even better in my heart and I know His love will never fail.

    • Shannon, you are not an only child! Being of Christ makes you a daughter, a princess, of the King and entitles you to sisterhood with all of us!

  175. Thank you for sharing this moment.

  176. Thank you so much for the conversation. I am listening to all of the conversations that you are having with Ann Voskamp. I am being totally blessed. Being willing to have the intimacy with God where He will expose the demon that is binding me up will show me the path that I need to take to walk in His freedom. It is always God. He wants to come close to show the specific things that need to be addressed when there is pain. Maybe it is fear, of what will happen. Maybe it is doubt that He will show up because of what happened in the past. Maybe it is a past issue of forgiveness. God is here and will love me in the way I need.

  177. Cheryl Harris says:

    Thank you for sharing together. I so needed to listen to this. I have been feeling overwhelmed lately. One of the things intimidating me has been that I am going to lead a women’s discussion of “A Confident Heart” next month. I need this truth, but I don’t yet live it. Your conversation reminded me that I don’t have to perfectly live something I am teaching. I am sharing with sisters on a journey, not leading the way. Christ is our Leader.

  178. thank you very much for the encouraging video. Just the other night I was thinking along the same lines, except that I am not courageous enough to find out what’s causing my fear, but I was praying for God to reveal the solution to it (is that cheating? 🙂 I suspect I know what’s causing it, I just don’t want for my suspicion to be confirmed).
    I liked the visual that Ann mentioned of the circle of gifts -in Christ-thru Christ-back to Chist…so neat! And by the way, her voice is soo soft and soothing…you two make a great team together.

  179. Jesus, is truly the Name above all Names! We are able to name our fears, insecurities, joys, blessings, etc. because of Him. Everything we do is in Him and there is nothing we go through that he hasn’t been through already. This was a wonderful “front porch” discussion….keep up the good work GIGs, we love you!

  180. I did not realize that I should put a name to my fears or that I can change my thought process by naming my fears. I have the name of “not good enough” or “measuring myself to others” and always feel inferior which holds me back in both of my current businesses. I am praying now that I see myself as good enough because I do know that Jesus sees me that way. Thanks for sharing your findings.

  181. In this season of my life, as I continue to strip away all the masks I’ve worn, I can very much appreciate your conversation! Naming (and removing) the gunk is on ongoing process! Praising God comes very easy for me but the more I become real, the more real my worship becomes! I encourage those struggling with identity issues to allow God to remove the masks, clean out the cobwebs and be who God has made you to be regardless of life around you. I have always been too concerned about what others thought of me, not any more! You can take my God loving self or not! I use to stuff my emotions – not anymore! If you walk away from me because of not liking who I really am, it will hurt my feelings, feelings that I am now learning to freely admit – not to allow them to control me or to wallow in them – but by naming them and allowing them to be recognized and dealt with, freeing me from the need to stuff them, freeing me from the need of masks. God bless you!

  182. Phyllis says:

    Thank you so much for this message. It is truly humbling and sent chills when I realized that begin specific to God(even though he already knows)was a freedom within itself. Dealing with family addictions, major health issues, loss of two jobs and major incomes, loss of health insurance are things I have been dealing with over the past year. I pulled away from everything and everyone, overwhelmed with all of this, when it was in fact fear, doubt and feeling that somehow I just deserved the pain. Thank you <3

  183. So often when struggling with life, I have cried out “what is going on?” This conversation has helped me to stop and reflect and name what is going on. Naming has helped me create a first step in resolution. Thank you so much.

  184. Mommy Ann says:

    Am so blessed and thankful to hear about naming things. All my life there are so many things I need God’s name because of the endless struggles despite I know Jesus Name has power. I love the prayer you had and praying things will be clearer now as I name them.

    Thank you for sharing your life….

  185. Tammy Beyer says:

    Thanks for sharing your words.

  186. Krysten H says:

    Wow, naming it really brings out more repressed doubt that helps you deal with what’s there. It’s less scary when you have it in front of you rather than that shadow following us.

  187. This makes so much sense….you cannot fight a battle without knowing who or what the enemy is. Thank you.

  188. Without prompting my grand daughter who is 8 yrs old named hers today (3 no less) – and then we prayed a simple prayer asking The Lord to help her make choices that will honor Him. WOW !! !! !!

  189. Karen W. says:

    what a couple of dear, dear ladies – thank you for posting this and I want to get both books –

  190. Been wanting to read 1000 Gifts for a while. Guess it might be time to do it!

  191. Missy Pluta says:

    This couldn’t come at a better time. Going through a tough time after the death of my Dad. Countingy blessings comes hard right now. It is starting to get easier to remember the good times with my dad but my heart aches so much. So much has changed since he died. But there is always a light in dark times. And that Light is Jesus!!

  192. Rene i love you and Ann! I look forward to both your emails daily and can’t wait to see the next porch video. Ann has such a poetic way with her thoughts, and you are so positive and inspiring, empowering women to love themselves as imperfect as we are, it is a joy to see your unique personalities interact! Thank you for blessing us with your conversations. Good is good!

  193. Gloria C says:

    I loved the way you were talking on the porch together as if no one else was watching. I also loved that Ann confessed that she still has fears–it shows she’s human, and makes it easier to relate to her. What a great teaching time! Thank you both for sharing!

  194. Both of these books have been used by God in my life to bring about some radical change for the better!! I pray that my life can someday be used to bless others as much as you ladies have blessed mine! And I haven’t finished either book yet! I’m still in the process of reading both! Thank you for being faithful to God’s call on your lives…

  195. Misty Jeffers says:

    I am so thankful for the opportunity to share in your conversation. Naming both the good gifts and negative trials in my life changed my perspective. God is good and I am blessed because my good gifts always out weighs the negative trials. Thank you for giving yourself to the Lord and sharing your heart with so many of us that struggle with the same problems. It’s when I hear others talk about what they fight with that helps me to understand that we all face the same things and we can get strength from one another to push further then we ever thought or imagined. Thank You!!

  196. thank you so much for “naming it”!!

  197. Name it!!! WOW! It is necessary to know your adversary in order to create a plan to overcome it. GOOD STUFF!! I think we know this, but it is neccessary to hear it from time to time. Thank you!!

  198. Brandy Austin says:

    This conversation was very encouraging to me! Thanks for sharing:)

  199. “I know how loved I am when I name the gifts. Because things go so fast, I miss the gifts… If I can slow down to name them, I see that I’m oved in the midst of a crazy-whirlwind kind of life.” So good and so true!!! “One Thousand Gifts” has really challenged me to stop and thank God for the everyday little things that God brings into my busy life. How he holds and sustains me through it all.

    I agree, naming both the good AND the bad and then turning it back to Christ can be so freeing and healing. Thank you so much to you ladies for your ministries and for sharing your insight! I have been abundantly blessed by both of you!!!

  200. Winnie Morehead says:

    Oh my goodness! What a powerful tool this is. It is a way to help me focus on how to pray. It helps me grab on to something rather than sitting in the junk. Thank you so much for this video. It will change on how I attack the enemy right back!
    Winnie Morehead

  201. Deborah says:

    Even if I name it how do I completely overcome it…the doubt that I am forgiven, that I am good enough, that I am going to heaven, that I am in God’s will, and how do I hear God? Just a few of the thoughts going through my mind…

  202. I have both these books (A Confident Heart and One Thousand Gifts) and thank God for both authors who have so succintly captured the struggle so many of us have with deeply-rooted self-doubt. They really do give you something to grab onto instead of feeling alone and it is such a huge help to know there are others who feel the same and more importantly, have found ways to overcome self-doubt and unease 🙂

  203. Thank you both very much for being so real. I don’t think I realized just how many women struggled with the very thing I’ve struggled with most of my life. God is doing a wondrous work in me and I am so grateful. Renee, I have read your book and spoken of it often to my Ladies Bible study group. My mom has it right now and I’m sure the Lord will use it to minister to her as well.
    Ann, I’ve not read your book yet but after listening to you ‘n Renee talk I’m sure its one that I will read before too long.
    May God continue to bless you both for empowering others through all that you share,
    Beth

  204. Allison Crow says:

    I want to share something that I am grateful for. Monday 6/24/13 I met with my Emmaus Reunion Group at our church to do Wendy Blight’s Bible study from May 2013 called Quiet My Anxious Heart. We reviewed her questions together and she wrote…Find one way to outwardly express this gratitude. Maybe give up something for God. Maybe create a gratitude journal or box where each day you write down something for which you are grateful. Commit to do this for at least a week and keep a journal on how God changes you and maybe even those around you. We talked about what else we would study this summer after Wendy’s online Bible study was finished. My friend brought out an email that she received on 5/2/13. She asked “Have you read “A Thousand Gifts? It is about gratitude and how it can change your life. I highly recommend it. There is even a study with DVD that your reunion group or whatever can use.” So last night I was working on my gratitude journal and then checked my email. Renee Swope sent an email that had an interview with Ann Voskamp about her book One Thousand Gifts!!! I’m grateful that God is working through you to guide me on my journey! Thanks!

  205. Needed this. Thank you!

  206. I have been blessed by God and the Proverbs 31 Ministry team
    I. Have throuly enjoyed “Meet Me on the Porch”
    So many reasons to Praise His Holy name and all His works
    I have just learned from you to seek His face to name an claim
    His victory over the things that pleague us or weigh us down
    I think even in that we have to be careful to not get a critical spirit
    I have never heard of the book “1,000 gifts” it sounds so awesome
    Nor have I read “Unglued” I am anxious for the day to own & read them.
    I am sure they are true blessings! I use to log so many blessings in my
    “Blessings Book” a ledger a friend gave me for my Birthay years ago
    It has been hard to get my “Alone Time with The Lord” since my husband
    and son lost their jobs and they are here so much. They have had
    some good interviews but no call to work. Please join me in prayer for
    the work God has planned for them. It has been a long couple of years

  207. Thanking God for His marvelous work and the molding and shaping us on the potter’s wheel.
    I like the thought of framing the moment you shared today. I have enjoyed a ledger a friend gave me for my Birthday yrs ago to log a blessing each day. She labeled it “Blessings Book” and what a blessing because we forget as time passes us by of the great things He has done. His Mercy is new each morning.
    However as you were talking of naming our fears or weaknesses to find victory in Him, I have a struggle but I desire His victory over all the powers of the enemy each day.
    I am excited about your books “Unglued” and “1,000 Gift” Hoping to own and read them someday, until then
    God Bless You Richly. Thankful for His ministry in you.

  208. This is wonderful insight! Very encourging and right on time! Thank you for sharing!

  209. This is Monday’s lesson but I’ve been reading it every day for encouragement. Last Saturday, my 16 year old daughter was arrested for possession, with intent to deliver. My precious, beautiful daughter who has been raised to love Jesus, who has been trustworthy and delightful. My 16 year old daughter who was diagnosed bipolar, grew up in an abusive home (before my divorce) and struggles with severe anxiety. My 16 year old daughter who refuses to go to therapy and thinks that she can do it all on her own. My heart is broken in a million pieces. I am so lost and so grieved. Please pray for me. I don’t even know what to do with this. But more than me, please pray for my daughter. She is not humble in her consequences and she has been very difficult to communicate with. Thank you so much, from the bottom of my heart.

    • tricia ashley says:

      Prayers for you. I’m sorry for this heartbreaking time. Jesus, Healer & Sustainer, please comfort my sister with peace beyond comprehension.

  210. Trisha Kemp says:

    I want to share with you how I believe The Lord spoke to me tonight……I’m sitting in my living room feeling sad and confused. I wondered why these unsure feelings and emotions creep up on me. It’s like I’m on a constant roller coaster feeling confident and full of Gods peace one day then the next feeling like this….just sad, insecure about so many things. My journey with The Lord has brought me through so much brokenness from my past and I am always sure I’ve let go and am healed, then these unsettling feelings shadow over me. I began to speak Gods word out loud on the subject of fear and emotions and praying. I opened up my email and there was your email….”when you can’t name what it is”. I knew this message was for me. Thank you for helping me see that naming this uncertainty can be the beginning of healing. I’m praying for victory over this stronghold so that The Lord can use me to help others.

  211. Oh wow – Gods timing is amazing!
    Guess that’s why I read this tonight instead of the other day!
    This will help me follow up w a conversation I had tonight w my daughter!
    I pray that naming will help w knowing how to pray & helping us stand up to things!
    Thank you!

  212. Latrelle says:

    The visit to the country sounds almost too good to be real—–a mini vacation

  213. Lisa Holst says:

    I need to get better at this! I would love to win!! These books could really help me pray about the challenges with my career and health!

  214. Tammy W. says:

    This jumped off the page right into my heart! What an emotional day today was . . . over situations that I keep trying to give to God but the selfdoubt about everything i say and do keeps creeping in, paralizing, destroying, and stealing my Joy! Thank you for telling me to Name it and thereby rebuking it! It’s difficult to pray when you can’t even put words to exactly what is wrong.

  215. Amanda sears says:

    Very helpful!

  216. Would love to get to read these awesome books. Thank you

  217. Mary Jo Cyr says:

    Thank you for this opportunity. I look forward to “sitting on the porch” and talking about those things….fear and doubt….that invade our thoughts and hearts. We as believers can stand together, with confident trust, believing that the Lord Jesus will NEVER leave us or forsake us.

  218. Ashley Smith says:

    I really needed to read this today! I was having a hard day and couldn’t figure out why. Thank you so much for sharing this, it was exactly what I needed to hear (or read).

  219. I try to make sure I talk to God every day, I don’t think it’s in the traditional way we usually pray, I feel most comfortable speaking to God as if He was next to me, that we were sitting at the kitchen table or taking a walk outside. I ask for guidance to be a better person to those around me, a better mother, a better wife, to live the way God would like me to live, to show me the way. I love naming self doubt. I think I read the other day on this page about how when we react negatively to a situation or aspect of someone’s personality or situation, that we really are looking at a part of ourselves we feel discomfort with, that we haven’t come to terms with. This helps me so much, it’s good to really give myself a true self evaluation, being honest with myself will help me to be more like that person I know God wants me to be. 🙂

  220. I feel like God put this on my Facebook newsfeed tonight for a reason. I pray about this all the time.

  221. It’s most always self doubt for me. I usually don’t call it self doubt when speaking of the turmoil it can cause. I usually refer to my struggle as fear or anxiety of sorts. But truly the bottom line is, and has been, self doubt….self doubt about my body changing, my age, my younger husband, my social awkwardness etc. Well maybe naming it can help. Lord Jesus, I pray.

  222. Would love to read these books.

  223. Would love to read both of these books.

  224. Halona Luna says:

    Both of you are such great blessings. I hope that I am lucky enough to win.

  225. I know reading these books would help me in my walk with God.

  226. Nancy Fife says:

    Thank you for this and the opportunity to learn more about it.

  227. I would love to learn to do this.

  228. Miranda Holman says:

    I am having a really hard time naming my emotions lately which is causing great problems in my marriage and family life. Nice to know I’m not the only one experiencing this.

  229. So true!!!

  230. My, what good timing of this interview. It reminded me again of naming things. So many times the Lord has said to me: “Take this thing in your hands – which looks like a stone – and proclaim it to be bread. Wait until it transforms into bread, and you can even smell the aroma. I’m the Bread of Life; I’m the One who will turn it into what I designed it to be. I promised I would not give you a stone. Trust Me.” As a pastor, I fight self-doubts when a trusted member of the flock displays disloyalty. Someone so close. How that hurts so deeply. Then I remember how His flock turns on Him relentlessly. Lord, help me to name this pain, so I can give it to You to heal.

  231. Two women with a beautiful heart for God and such encouraging words for all.
    Thank you.

  232. This was something I needed to hear right now. We’ve got the possibility of something very good coming for our family, and I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop. My husband and I keep wondering, well, is this really going to happen, we aren’t getting any red flags, but is a roadblock going to come up at the last minute? God, do you really mean for us to have *this*? Perhaps it’s not so much that God isn’t speaking to us as it is that we need to name what’s keeping us from hearing Him. Thank you for sharing!

  233. You have my attention! I have named it (doubt), now I need the next step. I want the promises from The Lord and to tell this mountain to jump in the sea.

  234. tricia ashley says:

    Ann’s book and counting all that Christ is has transformed my life. I am thankful for her passion for Jesus and His gifting me with a bit of her heart through One Thousand Gifts. The battle goes on and as I have taken a path not travelled in the church as I know it, doubt and fear have both reared their ugly head. Naming fear was easier, doubt more sly… both named and claimed and now the daily walk in the comfort of His presence. The pain of the journey has drawn me to Him in a way I can only marvel at. This is the first I’ve seen of Renee’s book. Looks like one I need to get!

  235. Just found your blog on proverbs 31 ministries. Love this conversation. Reminds me of conversations with a dear friend of mine a few years back when I was struggling with issues. Would love the book and I will be signing up the updates.

  236. Kelly Thompson says:

    I seem to struggle with this exact thing. I would love to read both of these books! This is a great giveaway! Thank you so much!

  237. WOW! The very thing I have been struggling with. Thank you for sharing it. Such a timely message.

  238. Valerie Freeman says:

    Looking forward to Thursday’s conversation. I now will be looking forward to reading Renee’s book and Ann’s challenge to list my own 1000gifts. Thank you both.

  239. Kristin M. says:

    I have also dealt with anxiety in various forms which has greatly caused doubt to creep in often without me realizing it. When God shows me my fears and the lies behind them, it brings freedom because then I can lay down that fear by name and cast doubt out from my heart and mind. It is a daily practice, but brings such joy and peace that enables me to find the freedom that can only be found in trustin The Lord.

  240. When friends and coworkers see me, they see a strong, confident woman. On the inside, I’m a mess. Naming this mess, self doubt and insecurity now makes so much sense. Naming it means I know what to give to God, what I need to pray about, specifically. Naming it makes it real and sometimes all we need to do is know is that what we’re feeling is real, and that it has a name, and that others feel this way too. Thank you!

  241. Sarah Golden says:

    “Once you name it, God can raise beauty out of the ashes”
    I just thought that was a beautiful way of stating what I experience on a daily basis. At times, I feel as though I am consumed by my fears, my doubts, and I would use them as excuses to not follow God’s will for my life. Once I realized what it actually was, just doubt, it allowed me to pray to be released from it and for God to turn it into something beautiful. It is still a constant and daily battle I wage with myself, but now that I know it’s name, it’s easier to lift it to the Lord. Thank you so much for sharing this with us.

  242. Sheryl Eubanks says:

    I’ve heard it said, “You can’t fix what you don’t acknowledge”. Guess that’s the same principle.

  243. That is just what I needed this morning. I have been working on identifying my emotions and stopping the snowball effect. And as a child of God knowing that I can turn to the Word for wisdom helps me from letting doubt overtake that process. Thank you for reminding me this Sunday morning. I will listen to God’s heart for me today and everyday.

  244. Mary R. says:

    Self doubt is something I struggle with daily. Am I a good enough mom, good enough Christian, good enough wife. It encompasses fear and worry as you said and perpetuates anger and jealousy. Today I pray to release the self doubt and allow me to serve God as he deserves to be served. God made me the perfect me and I need to have faith that I am serving His purpose. Thank you for posting about this.

  245. Kimbe Ramirez says:

    I needed to hear this today. I have been focusing on the darkness and shadows. 2013 has been a bad year for my family from my son leaving our home, unexpected illnesses and major surgeries, disappointments and car issues. Naming things including my fear and worries has helped. Thank-you.

  246. Kristen Schults says:

    How awesome it is that God meets our nerds daily! Cant wait to read these two books!

  247. I am currently coming out of a season where I wasn’t able to name this dark cloud which hung over me. Something haunted me from my past that was affecting the present. I had many possible names for that which was haunting me, but not until recently have I been able to see more clearly the name which affects my heart. It isn’t a pretty name, one that is going to take a lot of healing and prayer, but as you said – giving it a name gives me a plan of attack and opens my eyes.

    Thank you for the point that giving it a name also brings God into it – that was so very encouraging.

    Blessed by this!

  248. Rebecca Y says:

    This topic speaks to my heart and draws me. Jesus truly has it all covered. His name is above all names. When we are specific in our prayers, His name is above it. When we’re too hurt for words, He knows our heart and thought anyway.

  249. Amy Faulkner says:

    I realized just yesterday that self-doubt has a hold on me! Now to begin the journey of letting it go.

  250. A simple powerful truth, naming it so I can develop a strategy to overcome it. Just what I needed today, thank you. Be blessed!

  251. Thank you for the thought prayer and insight this has inspired.

  252. I needed to se this! In the midst of making so many decisions and struggling with doubts right now. Thanks!

  253. Just What I Neede to Hear says:

    This was so perfectly timed… God is good! Those shadows are so powerful in their oppression… I had never realized the power of naming the darkness before. Last night I was able to talk about my questions, concerns, and doubts with a friend who was willing to listen and help me shape them. He gave me clarity and confidence in my perceptions which had been filled with self-doubt and insecurity. Seeing all these comments helps me to see that self-doubt is part of our human condition; why it is so important for us to of course rely on God, but also be vulnerable enough to share our fears with each other.

  254. shandra says:

    I just recently purchased ” A Confident Heart”, I feel like your words match how I’ve felt for a very longtime now, I’ve struggled without a father, being a good wife stepmom and mom, a career, and losing my husband to drugs and losing my marriage. and now watching my children struggle with life and its temptations….Thank you for sharing your wisdom and insights! so I can walk more confidently in this life with Christ and into the next …..

  255. These past few years have been so tough,and nothing seems to be easing up. I think trying to define what I feel would help, although sometimes I think if I jsut sat still enough, I would know. Doubt, fear, loneliness. I would love to win these books, if not, going to purchase! Thanks so much.

  256. Tiffiny Palm says:

    As I saw this I was thinking wow that is exactly what I have been trying to do, name what it is that is troubling me. This was really encouraging because for so long myself have struggled to name what that issue is. I have felt for so long I have had this cloud hanging over me and not being able to have peace or break through. Been finally able to name it “selfishness”. The hard part is knowing how to work through that so it doesn’t keep controlling my life.

  257. I’d love to join you on the porch! I am ready for God to help me identify and name what is in the dark – not doctors or other people with letters after their names. GOD sees it and GOD heals it.

  258. Thank you for this! It has opened my eyes and my heart.

  259. Jessica Sutherland says:

    Naming it does help you to surrender it to God and search out His truths. Right now, I’m naming fear and trusting God.

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