{week 3 – Chapter 4} Hope

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“In the security of our relationship with Christ, God wants us to ask questions and look for answers that usher us into the depths of His redeeming love. He wants to give us the courage to live in the promise that He offers hope for our future despite the pain of our past.
from Chapter 4, A Confident Heart

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Our Word for the week: HOPE
(Download in a PDF or download in MSWord). Please print it and post it everywhere this week.

HIS Word for us this week:
“May the God of hope fill [me] with all joy and peace as [I] trust in him, so that [I] may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” Romans 15:13, NIV

Our Assignment for Today: 

  • Read the prayer at the end of Chapter 4 to begin your day. Start or continue reading chapter 4.
    Remember, take your time and highlight or underline sentences that resonate in your heart.
  • Let’s commit to memorize this week’s verse together :)!

My friend Heather is a Word girl!! When she was in college she performed in over 14 plays and memorized hundreds of lines, so I’ve asked her to share some tips to help us hide God’s Word in our hearts this week. Here are a few she shared. I’ll post more each week.

Ideas for Memorizing Scripture

  • Write the scripture on several index cards or post-it notes and place them in areas where you will see them frequently throughout the day. Examples: on the bathroom mirror, refrigerator door, in the car, at work, etc…
  • Get a stack of index cards and on each one write one or two words from the verse, including the reference. Shuffle them up and see if you can put them in the correct order again. Save the cards and reuse common words found in other verses.
  • Send the verse to friends and family by typing, texting, or writing it out by hand. You can look at the verse, but do not copy and paste! Try writing it at least once a day.
  • Study with a friend, your spouse, or teach it to your kids! Quiz each other and keep each other on track. What a great way for families to spend time in the Word together!
  • Change the wall paper on your computer to an image that has your Bible verse.

Connecting in Community:

As we read chapter4 this week, let’s share our hearts below – answers to the questions, sentences we’re highlighting, thoughts we’re thinking, feelings and fears we’re experiencing. This can be a hard chapter for some because it addresses our past and our pain. Let’s pray for each other each day and commit to memorize this week’s verse together! If you are in, leave a comment by clicking on “share your thoughts” and tell us how you plan to memorize it. I’m writing it on a ceramic plate in my kitchen. I’ll be praying it for you every time I see it.

REMEMBER: If you are reading this via email, click here to return to my website to connect in community. That is the best part of an online study, so I hope to see you there!

About Renee

Renee Swope is a Word-lover, story-teller, heart-encourager and grace-needer. She's also a wife, mom, friend, daughter and author of A Confident Heart, a Retailers Choice Award winning book that became a best-seller and has been published in six languages, with over 150,000 copies sold. Renee is speaks around the country at women's events and and serves on the writing team for DaySpring’s inCourage blog. For twenty years, Renee served in leadership at Proverbs 31 Ministries and as former co-host of the ministry's radio program, “Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee.

Comments

  1. I will wrtite the memory verse for this week on index cards and place them in visible areas. I just changed by computer screen.

    • I am printing out the graphic and putting on my kitchen counter. When I want to memorize a verse, I also text it to myself or write on a note card and carry with me throughout the day. I find that just saying it over and over makes it stick in my mind. It never ceases to amaze me that when I am in a situation and I need a word from God the verses just come. Praying God’s blessing over everyone as we take on Chapter 4 about the pain of the past. So thankful that God can heal all our hurts…the hardest part is letting Him. Let’s do the work so we can get to the other side of it! Have a wonderful day!

      • Great idea to text it to yourself, Anne! I think I’ll do that in addition to writing it out on an index card! I’m TERRIBLE at memory – my family makes fun of me because I always get cliches wrong. I get the general idea, but usually word it in a ridiculous way because I can’t remember things verbatim!!
        This is a verse I really want to memorize. Some days hope can seem so unattainble!

      • I love what you shared and its’ my heart’s prayer this week too: Praying God’s blessing over everyone as we take on Chapter 4 about the pain of the past. So thankful that God can heal all our hurts…the hardest part is letting Him. Let’s do the work so we can get to the other side of it!

        • How do you let go of the pains of the past? How do you give it to God? I have a lot of trouble letting go or forgetting the things that people have done or said to me to hurt me. I hold on to it and I dont like that I do, but because of years and years of basically verbal abuse I have a hard time being around these people, and they are family so I do see them. I wear my feelings on my face, meaning you know when I am sad or mad. I cant cover up that. It is like I am just sitting the waiting for them to say something to hurt me again and when they do I do not know how to just let it be. I want to not let their words hurt and haunt me anymore but I am crippled by them. I wish I could just let it go, or forget everything that has been said to me, but I cant. I think also since it is from family it is harder to let go of cause I always believed that your family is suppose to love you and build you up and be there for you with out criticism, not judgement or talk behind your back and let you know that every choice you have made in your life has been wrong, mainly because it was not done how they would have done it. It is just so hard. I am almost forty years old and I still long for the approval of my mom and even my sister. I just want them to like me.

          • Holly, I feel your hurt as I read the words you shared. I have been hurt so very deeply by family also. It wasn’t easy letting it go for me either. I will tell you what it took for me to get past the pain and let God take care of it. I felt God leading me to study his word more, His word is all I had to help me. I got in his word more than I ever had before, I bought some commentaries by Warren W. Wiersbe (they are interesting and easy to understand) in his Be series they are so helpful. I would recommend starting with the one on James it is called “Be Mature” it is the one God lead me to do first. You can find them on Amazon’s web site the cost is only around 8 or 10 dollars. Read it along with your Bible in James. I pray you will do this, God can give you healing, Satan wants to keep you in the chains of pain and hurt. As long as he can pull you down God can’t pull you up. God said to me in my heart when I was studying in James; If I forgive you for all your sin’s and loved you how much more should you forgive those who hurt you. He said, each time you sin it is as if you have crucified Christ on the cross again. That really made me think, God forgave me and he says I am to forgive others and not hold it against them. You can’t always forget it you learn in time when the things come to mind you as God to help you to not think on these things but on good things. I will be praying for you Holly. I pray you can break out of the bondage of Satan, because it is hurting you and your life, your walk with God and your health, it isn’t hurting the people who hurt you. It will hurt every aspect of your life. Don’t let Satan use this to hold you back and in prison anymore. Read Isaiah 41:10 and stand on God’s promise.

          • Denise V. says:

            I feel like I was looking into a mirror reading this!
            I hate that I can’t hide my emotions and can store up
            painful memories like I am a history book! I try to
            give my pain to God, only to unconsciously snatch it
            back!

          • Donna D. says:

            Holly, I feel for you too. It is hard to forget when those we have trusted hurt us. One thing I believe the Lord gave me during prayer not long ago is this….”Do not receive what I (God) did not intend for you to receive.” Those spoken words which you know are not true of you and are not from God are not to be received in our hearts and minds. God never intended them for you. Praying for you.

    • Bernadette Burgess says:

      I will post it on my computer desktop. My computer wallpaper is the Serenity pray.

    • I Am A Little Discourage Just Got Start. I Am Using My Mobile phone , Also I Have A Ebook On My Phone I Have To Order The Ebook But I Have To Pay 9.95 That’ No Problem My Phone Is Captializin Each My Day Is Starting Out

      • Don’t be discouraged. You have time to catch up 🙂 And we’re so glad you are joining us Cynthia.

        If you need them, here are links to all of the posts from the first two weeks.
        http://reneeswope.com/a-confident-heart-spring-2013-online-bible-study/

        • I’ll memorize my verse this week by posting it on an index card in different places in my home and car so I’ll see it wherever I am. I’m also going to print out the artwork and frame it and put in on my bedside table. I really need that this week.

          Last week was really hard for me. I’m currently out of work and found out last week that I didn’t get yet another job that I had my heart set on. It hit me harder than i expected it to. I struggle with depression anyway, so I ask for you ladies to please pray for me as I struggle through this time in my life. I’m trying not to let it get me down and let Jesus fill me up like Renee’ showed us last week. I thank you in advance.
          Blessings to all,
          Janet

          • Janet thank you for sharing that. Lord I lift Janet up to you. Fill her heart with your hope as she walks this journey. Xoxo

          • angela 2 says:

            Hi Janet I will be praying for you on this journey with Christ Love. Don’t ever give up. God is with you. Lord here our prayers. Amen In Christ Love

    • I have started a Bible study notebook where I am writing out the verses that are in each chapter along with the answer to the questions, the word of week and verse of week. Writing helps to stay in the moment of reading plus a reference for later when I can look back over the study. I like the idea of the verse of the week on cards. That would help me to think of them more during the week…thanks for the tips.

      • That’s a great idea Bonnie!!

      • Bonnie, I love your idea! I am going to make a notebook. I also think I will add experiences from my day that reflect the verse and the way my thinking is changing as we continue with the study. I like the idea of going back and reflecting on what I wrote and what I have learned! Thanks for sharing! Rachel

      • Sharon Macri says:

        Great minds think alike! I started a notebook too. I am so excited about what God is going to do in my life through this study. Thanks for sharing. I will lift you up to The Lord in prayer. Annie C.

      • angela 2 says:

        Thanks bonnie I’m going to start a notebook also. In Christ Love

        • What a great idea I am going to start a note book too- I like to add pictures from magazines or cards something that helps me connect with what I am trying to remember!

        • i am going to start a note book too- I like to add pictures from magazines or cards something that helps me connect with what I am trying to remember!

    • I am terrible at memorizing. I will write multiple times. It just may take a month to memorize one.

  2. I’d also recommend listening to the verse. If you have a smartphone, or even via computer, YouVersion has several bible versions on audio. I listen, read, and write. Thanks, Heather, for your tips on memorization. I’m currently memorizing the book of John, and finding that I need to make connections or rote memorization will soon fade. Once I grasp some of the depth of God’s Word(s), it’s easier to hide in my heart.

    • Bernadette Burgess says:

      I use the Daily Audio Bible from Bible Gateway as a tool for my daily devotional.

      • I found DAB this year because of P31 devo last in Feb and have LOVED it. the verse Psa 143:8 Let the MORNING bring me WORD of your UNFAILING LOVE….prompted me to stop listening to the radio and listen to DAB as I’m getting ready first thing in the morning and I have HEARD much from Father ever since.

        • Thanks I just looked it up and love it, I will use it daily while I am getting ready for work. AWESOME!!!

      • I have never heard of that but Im going to check it out. I love listening to God’s word. 🙂

      • angela 2 says:

        I Have the same thing I love it . It helps me to remember things with the highlight features. I have a friend that I told about it and now she uses it. In Christ Love

  3. btw, regarding hope, I recently came across the quote: “Forgiveness is the giving up the hope of a different yesterday.” I adapted it to: Forgiveness requires us to give up the hope of a different yesterday and place our hope in Christ alone! – amen. placing our hope in the future, in Christ alone. that is where i remain anchored. Have a blessed day, ladies.

    • Thank you for posting that quote on forgiveness. I LOVE it! I am struggling in a marriage with a man who doesn’t love me anymore. He has tod me that He has felt unloved and pushed away for years. Because of this he has found comfort with other people. I have apologized for the past and told him that I can’t change the past but we can change the future. Your quote really hit home with me today!
      However, how does one continue to have hope when the past is constantly being shoved in your face every day?
      I know God can restore and heal my marriage but my husband and I have to be willing to allow God to heal and one of us isn’t willing. Trying to hang on and trust but some days it is so hard to believe!!
      Thank you again for the quote.

      • Thank you for sharing and my heart breaks for you. I believe that regardless of the actions of others, you can find hope in God’s promises, that He will deliver you and heal you. Don’t give up, He will give you guidance on what to do next. You’re in my prayers!

      • Rebecca,

        Your post touched my heart deeply. Whether or not your husband ever chooses to allow God to heal your marriage, you can heal anyway. Keep your eyes completely on God. Stay in His Word and on your knees…and draw strength from your sisters here. You will be in my prayers. Remember by sister, you are loved, you are a treasure and God has wonderful plans for you.

        • Julie and Rene,
          Thank you for your kind words. I truly needed them! :)I am holding on to God, some days better than others, but I’m not giving up.
          I have loved this study and reading the posts of all my sisters. It has been encouraging to me!
          Again, thank you so much for your responses and especially your prayers.

          • I completely know where you are coming from Rebecca. My husband decided to leave me over a year ago and i was devastated and left with four children to look after. they are now9,6,5,and2. He wants me to change and i know i need to change and have done alot of changing, but he doesn’t see the change as he is too busy living his life. He won’t admit he needs to do any changing and says hes moved on, but he’s just moved away to a single life with a well paid job, only giving the minimum to support his family. He says he’s getting on with his life.

            But we chose this life together, family , kids etc and I am getting on with my life. the one we created together. I struggle constantly with holding onto the hope we have in God and the promises he has given us. I am pro marriage and even though i am going through this time I too like someone mentioned , feel the pain inothers who are experiencing similar things and and it sadens me, but how much more it must saden God!

            I have tried to keeplooking at the good that has come out of my time already.
            1. My relationship with God has grown stronger( which puts a smile on my face to see satin defeated)
            2. I have regained my self confidence and refound ( and still am) who i am. not only in Christ but just plain me.
            3. I can do it. – look after 4 children
            – work on the home /house work
            – do practical things
            – Build other friendships ( out side of my husband and kids)
            4. Life seems worth living again. Despite my circumstances God is the centre, he is prioity and whatever happens he will never leave me.

            I can TRUST God because he is my FATHER, my PROVIDER, my STRENGTH, my SHELTER
            He is in CONTROL, not me, not my kids,not my husband, only God is in control. he is my alpha and omega.

            I feel like i become preachy when I start writing like this but its me declaring it for myself.

            I want to share a few things so I hope you (all) will listen. I Like renee would love to just pick up the phone and arrange to meet you all in person. I know thats not possible practicaly( in my own thinking i must add, as all things are possible through him who strengthens me), but it is exciting when you can see what a big family we have in Christ.
            Our pastor was sharing on family at our church plant into the town I live and it was brilliant to see the comparisons. The one thing that struck me most was it didn’t matter when you joined the family, you were just as much a part of the family as anyone else. The question camr up….How many years you had been a Christian and I can’t believe I at this point in my life felt embressed to be the oldest Christian there at the time!
            I look at my life and again the comparisons to others creep in, wondering why i’m not as good as another who maybe seems to have achieved more as a Christian.
            No! His hope fills me and it does overflow to others, we may not see it but it must do. I have just gone through alot and yet my faith has kept me. I may not feel this hope as I focus on my circumstances, but I need to focus on him, the author and giver of my faith, and He gives me Hope. I know I have this Hope or I wouldn’t have made it this far.
            Well I just sat there on sunday and thought of my church in tamworth being my family, my support then other churches and then my family internationally and all these sisters i have taking part in this journey of a confident heart. Wow God Is Big and thats pretty exciting.

            To back track a bit. I can’t change whats happened and I can’t change my husband. I can only change me and not only that i have a big God who cares about my marriage and my immediate family; husband,kids just as much as the “BIG ” family I am part of. which reminds me ot the verse that goes something like ” if he clothes the flower in the field so much more will he clothe you, or the sparrow who finds food so much more will he feed you.”

          • I’m not sure I have done this right and this next post is supposed to follow my previous post, which i stopped typing as it was getting rather long!

            I have been encouraged by reading what others have posted and how we can encourage and pray for one another. So I just wanted to share another thing which is outside of this group.
            I have a story.
            My friend has had some hard times of her own and she sent me a text, which was great. I then replied with a prayer. I then was having a hard time getting the kids to bed,being tired,and the whole struggle of being able to do this on my own. So I went outside from the noise and sat crouched up as small as i could because of the cold and rang my friend who i neded to blurb on.Not ‘feeling ok’. Thank God she answered the phone!,but instead of my own plans to pour out my heart, she began to tell me what had happened.
            She said my prayer worked. that it was a miracle God “healed her car”. not only that her husband said if God can “heal the car” then he would go to church(again)! You see they spent a fortune on the car to get it fixed but it wouldn’t work. She is working hard to get this degree as it means she will get paid for what she does properly. Her husband has his struggles, which i won’t go into and she was fighting anxiety and stress levels…well you can imagine.
            The bottom line is God answered my prayer for her and the whole situation and brought her hope and her husband hope that God is in control. And even in my struggle God still used me to bless someone else who in turn blessed me by sharing what had happened. that i can hold on to the hope he has given me and be encouraged that yes he is in control and he does want the best for us.
            “That he is doing a good work in me….”
            That you all have encouraged me and i think that you are a part of me as i was able to focus on God and send that prayer at that time. There is a purpose i am here typing and as much for any of you. There is apurpose i am going through my circumstances, drawing me closer to him. There is a purpose God chose me to be a part of this amazing family.
            I can have joy and peace in him even in my circumstrances because he is my hope and my salvation, the rock on which I stand. All things come together for those whose Hope is in him.

      • Rebecca, I am going through the same situation. It breaks my heart to know that others are going through the same pain. I do not know how to get through this other than constantly reading the Bible and praying every word back to God for my marriage. It is so hard to know if I should let go of my husband or hold on tight. I do know that I cannot let go of God.

        • Same here. For now hold tight to God and my man that He gave me.

        • I just wanted to share my experience with this. My husband left me in 1999. I finally filed for divorce in 2002, feeling that it was the right thing to do after much prayer. Then in 2003 God moved me to the area where the rest of my family lives. My husband called and wanted to join us for Christmas in 2003. I agreed; my feelings for him were done (I thought). We enjoyed the visit and he went back to Georgia. We talked several times on the phone, usually about the kids and grandkids. One day, out of the blue he asked me if he could move over here. I was shocked and prayed heavily over this decision. He did and we have been married now for over 8 years. God knew he needed me to take care of him because he has gone through several illnesses. I have never been happier. I turned it over to God and He took care of us both. I had always believed that when I married him, I had married for life. Just keep talking to God and let Him decide what it right for you. He loves you!

          • Amen! What a wonderful testimony!!!

          • Praise God!!!!

          • Sammie thank you for your testimony. It gives me hope in my situation. My husband is also sick with a rare disease that no one knows much about. He has told me that he is dying. I hate the fact that I’ve hurt him and want to make it up to him and be able to love and take care of him in the time we have. I need to pray harder and ask God to change our hearts or maybe to just change my heart first! I want to love my husband the way he needs me to, the way God wants me to. At this point I’m not sure what that looks like. However, knowing that all of you beautiful Jesus girls are praying for me gives me hope and confidence already!!! 🙂 I love you all and so appreciate your openness and obvious love and devotion to our God. I will be praying for you all and asking God to bless each of you with His love and guidance!

        • Amen Pam! I’m staying with God no matter what! I am nothing without Him! He is my strength each day.

      • I too have a very difficult marriage. Instead of giving up I started a group of women who had unbelieving husbands or who just needed encouragement in their marriage. We meet monthly and prayed diligently for our marriages and help from God to change not only our husbands hearts but ours as well. That was 2 years ago and I am happy to say everyone of those women are still married and some have marriages that are thriving will love for one another. I am reminded daily that this is not my home and that I can choose to be a light in this marriage. God never promised us a great marriage or an easy life but He did promise us hope, forgiveness and unconditional love.

        • Angela 2 says:

          Hi Pam in reading Rebecca’s story and thinking of my own I too can have hope. We are not married but have been together for 20 years and it seems to get harder by the year, I have put my trust in God but he (Doug) could care less about himself are anything else. He has made me give up school to work full time at he business and now he wants me to cut back on my church involment. that I will not do, when I’m at church or with church family I feel complete and I will not give that feeling up for no ONE. Thank you for you post it touched my heart. IN Christ Love Amen

      • Hi Rebecca,
        I had a sister-in-law once whose husband turned to drugs and alcohol and lived mostly out in is garage with his friends. My sister-in-law lived out her life in front of me and him by praying, reading her bible, going to church and taking her 3 kids very quietly not confronting him and let him live his life the way he chose. I know it was hard. But today he helps her teach a Sunday school class and I am saved because of this lady living her life for Christ quietly before us all.

      • 1 I waited patiently for the Lord ; he inclined to me and heard my cry. 2 He drew me up from the pit of destruction, out of the miry bog, and set my feet upon a rock, making my steps secure. 3 He put a new song in my mouth, Psalms 40:1-3 ESV
        With God the future can be different, my heart cries out to God that he will come very close to you and show you the steps to take to come out of the miry bog that you are in. Please everyone who reads this pray with me for Reecca

      • Keep praying for your husband and I will be praying too. About 20 years ago my husband left me and our two children.There are faults on both sides. It was hard but the blessing was that we were all saved through it. When he first left he wanted nothing at all to do with us except what he had to. Some days it was hard to hold on to the hope that God gives us. I was the only one fighting just like you. I held on to Isaiah 54:5a ” For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is His name” and Phil 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”
        I also had a wonderful Christian counselor and a wonderful positive Christian friend who helped me get through those 13 months, especially the times I didn’t think I could hold on.
        Praying for you and your husband.
        Christ love. Bonnie

        • Rita Walters says:

          Bonnie, God put it on my heart to respond to your comment. 39 years ago my husband walked out the front door and left me with two children also (ages 4 and 7). As he walked out the front door, he said “I will never paid child support” – and he didn’t. I discovered he had left only 400 in checking account and none in savings. He had moved us to Florida and I had no job. I was devastated to say the least. And by the grace of God, I not ony survived thrived. I am not going to say there was not some rough days but His strength got me through those – and His Love always surrounded me. And better yet, He surrounded my children with His Care and His Love. The children have grown into two wondeful adults, married terrific people …. and have four beautiful, healthy children (my pride and joy as a Grandma). So just let Him ….. just let Him ….. and most of all trust Him.

      • Christina says:

        Rebecca – I will pray for you daily for healing of your marriage and God’s will for your life and marriage! In Christ’s love,
        Christina

        • Christina, it means so much to me to know that you are praying for me! I pray that God will bless you for your thoughtfulness.

      • Praying for you, my son’s wife left him on Friday, they have two little girls 10 & 5. I am praying that satan is bound from destroying marriages!!

      • Bernadette Burgess says:

        Rebecca I am standing in agreement with you for God’s healing power to restore your marriage.

      • Hi Rebecca,

        I had the same thing happen to me almost two years ago. My husband said he had shut off his feelings for me because I didn’t seem interested in him enough. He also was having feelings for someone else. That road was crushing at first, but we made it through. It helped to have a christian counselor. He didn’t really think it would help at first, I prayed it would. I also read the book Power of a Praying Wife during that stuggle, it helped me see that I had left our marriage wide open because I never really prayed for my husband before. I pray for your marriage to be restored in a way that lines up with what God intended. I am sorry you are going through this. Don’t lose hope!

      • angela 2 says:

        Hi Rebecca I to face my past everyday, my boyfriend just loves to bring things up on a daily bases just to hurt me. I turn to God for help. I have a place in my house where I go and close myself off and just get in His presences. Don’t every give up God is on your side always He will never stop loving you. In Christ Love.

      • Charlene says:

        Rebecca,

        I was reading your words about how you want to forgive and that you are ready to move on and start a new and different future but your husband is not. I have found that when things need to change, there needs to be a leader and when the other spouse sees the changes, they may follow. You can move on, strive to forgive yourself and him and strive to be happy in Christ. When he brings up the past and does some blaming, say out loud, “I forgive myself.”

        I will be praying for you. A great book you may want to look at is “The Power of a Praying Wife” by Stormie Ormatian

    • Thank you dKnigh for the quote about forgiveness. I am having a terrible time forgiving my former boss for laying me off. I was the main bread winner and currently there are no jobs in my house.

      He knew that and he was also my Christian brother and he still let me go. Just business not personal.

      I was so angry at him at God and now almost 3 months later stilll no job. I have asked for God to take the bitterness and anger away, for me to truly forgive but the hurt and anger keeps coming back.

      I trust God to bring a new job then I waver and worry and fuss about losing our home and living in the car!

      Sometimes my imagination is my worst enemy.

      But to realize I can’t change yesterday but I need to forgive and move on and be free of it sounds wonderful to me 🙂

      • Christina says:

        Debbie – My imagination is sometimes my worst enemy too! My husband was in a wreck with a semi 5 months ago (Thank you God he was not hurt bad!) and has to have a torn rotator cuff repaired. He is the only one with a job in our household (I am a stay at home wife and mom) and he will be missing 6 months of work as he recovers! You can probably imagine what situation my imagination has us facing!

        I will be praying for you to find a job and for you to find a way to forgive your ex-boss.

        In Christ’s Love,
        Christina

      • angela 2 says:

        Hi Debbie my prayers are with you and your family. He will lead you to a better job in time just keep trusting in God. In Christ Love

    • I am so sorry you are hurting. You are in my prayers. Trust God and continue to lean on Him. “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'” I found great comfort in the verse recently. I posted it were I would see it all the time. When I got worried or frustrated, I would say the verse again and again. I am praying for you.

    • Thank you so much for sharing that quote on forgiveness. It is surely a good one. God bless you!

    • Thank you for sharing the Forgiveness quote, I have written it in the journal I am keeping with this study..God bless

    • Love this: Forgiveness is the giving up the hope of a different yesterday.” I adapted it to: Forgiveness requires us to give up the hope of a different yesterday and place our hope in Christ alone! – amen. placing our hope in the future, in Christ alone. that is where i remain anchored.

    • I am so stuck with yesterday dreams that never occurred. I always thought I’d forgiven the other person, but it keeps coming up in my mind. And, of course, I feel sad about the situation. When I realize that I’m getting into “that” cycle again, I say, “Jesus, Jesus” out loud. Later, I’ll remember doing that and realize that I’m not dwelling on the past anymore. Praise God!!

  4. I am going to write the verse on index cards and put on the bathroom mirror, car dash, and in the kitchen, That way when I see it I will remember to pray for everyone taking this course and to memorize the verse.

  5. I will be placing my verse in my car and in my bathroom.

  6. What a wonderful verse for this week. I will be copying it down & putting it in my car to study as I’m busy with carline & running errands. It will also be a great verse for me to pray this week as I prepare for surgery on Wed. My to-do list is a mile long & I only have 2 days to get it all done. Please pray that God will give me His Joy & His Peace as I follow His priorities for my list. Pray that I will yield to His list of priorities so that I may love my family well in these next 2 days. Pray also for a quick & smooth recovery.

    • Yes, Mary B.! I am praying with and for you. Father God, please be through the surgeon’s hands, and may the surgery go smoothly, to Your glory and honor. Thank You for peace for Mary and her family. Please help her to how to prioritize that to-do list and rest in Your loving care as she prepares for the surgery on Wednesday. Thank You for Your joy to be full in her during this time. We do ask for a quick and smooth recovery. Thank You for Your hands on this entire situation, wrapping your loving arms around Mary and her family and for Your strong, everlasting arms that are underneath them as well. Praise You, Father God, that You are in control and will carry Mary and her family through this different time. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

      God bless you richly!

    • Christina says:

      Mary B – I will be standing in pray with you and Cindy for healing and a quick recovery! In Jesus’ mighty name Amen!

    • Praying for you Mary B. Love seeing your sweet face and smile in the comments. You are a treasure!

  7. I plan to place the verses on index cards around the house–bathroom, kitchen, car, my quiet corner–and the car. Thanks for the great ideas!

  8. I’ve written the verse on a post-it-note and I’m placing it in my “path” to see it often. I’m also emailing to my self to put on my phone & tablet to look at throughout the day.

  9. Good morning everyone, Praying chapter 4 will truly enable me to let go of some terrible baggage I have carried since I was a child. I will memorize this verse!!!

    • Amen, Debbie: Praying with and for you. Please include me in those prayers. Just this weekend, I was talking with my husband about still feeling like that little girl who was made fun of and laughed at. I believe that still hinders my entering into conversations more confidently, and maybe into just life. As I shared this with him, my voice quivered and I could have cried. I sometimes ask myself, “When am I going to grow up?” “Will I ever grow up?”

      Father God, thank You for Debbie. You know all about the baggage of which she writes. Please help her to lay it all at Your feet, never to be picked up again. Help her to cast her care upon You. May anything that supports that baggage be rooted out once and for all. Thank Your for the shed blood of our Savior, Jesus, that does so much in our lives, among them is healing, delivering and restoring. Praise You, Jesus. May we keep our eyes, hearts and minds fixed upon You and all You have afforded us through your death, burial and resurrection. Thank You, Jesus, that You live to ever intercede for us. Thank You. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

      God bless you richly, Debbie!

    • Rita Walters says:

      I can so relate to you. I was raised by a Mom who verbally abused me so by telling m I should never be have been born (I was her third child) and I was a “mistake” God made. I saw myself this way until I accepted His Love for that little girl and saw her as God see her. It took a lot of work – and now I will still hear those words “I am God’s mistake” once and awhile but I am ready with His Word “I am His masterpiece”. I think that is the key – His Word as ammunition against the words of the enemy (whether the enemy uses friends, parents, etc.). Now as soon as I hear the enemy, I answer Him back – and answer Him strongly with confidence – with His Word. By the way, who is smarter ? The people who made fun of you as a little girl or God (the Creator of this beautiful world)?

      May you – and that litte girl – learn to see yourself as God sees you. (By the way, Josh McDowell wrote an excellent book called just that See Yourself as God Sees You)……. a precious chld and His masterpiece!

      • Thank you, Rita, for what you have shared here. Praise God! “…accepted His Love for that little girl and saw her as God sees her.” Wow! Yes! “His Word as ammunition against the words of the enemy” – may I add, and our flesh and the world. Whew! God is most definitely smarter! 🙂 Hallelujah!

        • Rita Walters says:

          Besides being smarter, He, your Creator, knows you better than anyone …… He knows every minute inch of you ….. and He loves every minute each of you. Let that little girl in you crawl up in His lap – and let Him hug her so she feels how truly precious she is ! He loves her so much ! And He knows how truly wonderful she is – She is His Masterpiece (my constant weapon for any enemy whether the devil, the flesh, or the world). Have a great day in His Love !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

      • Gloria C says:

        Thank you for sharing your heart, Rita! So glad you are battling the lies of the enemy with the truth of God’s Word! One thing you might also remember is that GOD NEVER MAKES MISTAKES!!!!! Bless you, dear sister!

      • angela 2 says:

        Hi Rita REMEMBER GOD DOES NOT MAKE MISTAKES. God Love you as you are In Christ Love

    • Praying for you Debbie. Just take this chapter in one page at a time. Jesus is right there with you leading you into truth and grace, hope and wholeness. He’s with you and He will never leave your side. You are loved!

  10. Chapter 4 wasn’t hard to read, but I was mesmorized. I kept thinking “oh my gosh! oh my gosh!” I am currently coming to the place of living no more in the shadow of my childhood, my doubt, my insecurity. At one point or another, I have thought or experienced so much of what Chapter 4 shares. I just want to praise Jesus today for keeping me through all the years of my life so that I would be able to reach this place and know true freedom, true worth through Him!

    • I too no longer want to live in the shadow of my childhood. I still carry so much pain from things kids said to me. It is amazing to me how I can still believe those untrue things that were said yet I have trouble believing the word of God.

      • Oh, Mary I so relate! God, help us to move into fully trusting in and relying on You. Your Word is truth. You are our strength, our hope, our joy and very life! Please forgive us for holding on to the lies of our past, and please help us to finally and fully let them go, along with all that supports them. In the Name of Jesus, we rise up into your definition of us, we find our identity in You and no other. We also bow and surrender to You. Thank You for your mercy and grace and everything else You give us to help us. Thank You! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

        • Jesus, I echo Cindy’s prayers:

          God, help us to move into fully trusting in and relying on You. Your Word is truth. You are our strength, our hope, our joy and very life! Please forgive us for holding on to the lies of our past, and please help us to finally and fully let them go, along with all that supports them. In the Name of Jesus, we rise up into your definition of us, we find our identity in You and no other. We also bow and surrender to You. Thank You for your mercy and grace and everything else You give us to help us. Thank You! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

    • Debbie, what a precious place GOd has you in and it gives me so much hope for each woman reading chapter 4 this week. We are all in different places but Jesus longs for us to find freedom from our past, our doubts, our pain and our deep disappointments. Not that they don’t hurt, but that they no longer have a hold on our hearts. Im praying this week’s prayer again and again for each and every one of you – and me too!!

  11. I too will be writing the verse on index cards. Planning to put one on my computer at work and share with my coworker. I also like the idea of listening to the verse so I will be doing that. I hope that everyone has a blessed day.

    • I just read the prayer. It truly spoke to me. I have said before that I get it in my head but I want to know it in my heart. “Open the eyes of my heart so that I can know the hope to which you have called me…” I want to believe what God is saying in my heart. I have heard “Open the eyes of my heart” in songs but this morning it felt different, more exciting…Can’t wait to soak in this chapter.

      • 5 For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all God’s people, 16 I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. 17 I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Spirit[f] of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. 18 I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in his holy people, 19 and his incomparably great power for us who believe.

        In Jesus’ Name, amen!!!!

      • angela 2 says:

        Hi Mary Like you said its in my head but I want it to be in my Heart also I’m praying for us both. praise God for his Love for us. In Christ Love

  12. I will be posting the verse by my daily calendar. The hope of God is stronger than any other.

  13. Patricia says:

    I will write out on index cards and place in visible areas. I will also share with family for our weekly scripture. Praying peace and comfort over us all as we start this week. Be blessed ladies!

  14. I have to wear reading glasses, so I put the verse in the case and everytime I take my glasses out….there it is. This worked for me on our last verse. May God Bless our Study

  15. I love the statments on forgivenes and the path to hope. I will ask my PaPa to show me the broken places, ask the Holy Spirit how He was there all the time, and invite Him to enter into the memories with me. In doing this PaPa can bring freedom from being captive in these memories. But most important for me I will pray HIS promises. Guess that means I will choose to let go of my hurts and see Jesus has been with me on every journey I have ever taken. Now that’s freedom! Isaiah is my favorite book and as helped me understand PaPa’s promises for my life. Thank you Renee for the reminders.

  16. Kathe Miles says:

    Thank you Renee for this on line course. I will read, write, and listen to this verse throughout the week. By the way, I am loving this course.

  17. Chap. 4 hit home for me. Pretending things are fine and being afraid to show the not so happy parts is my unfortunate habit. I have prayed for God to heal this & slowly but surely I have been stepping out in faith more. I have a 20 year friendship that has been unbalanced for years, as I allowed this “friend” to repeatedly lie and abuse my trust. I finally felt the burden that it was me being dishonest if I didn’t address how these instances were affecting me. I have prayed for God to show me a way to address this. Another incident with this person happened this weekend & when I tried to speak with her about it, she literally started screaming in my face and turning everything around. I believe this person has many problems bigger than me & what was the topic that day. I pray to not harbor anger & I hope she finds help to overcome these things. I pray for confidence to move forward in love, and walk this the way Christ would. But I am hurt & trying to recover from being a perpetual doormat to so many in my life. I worry about things that could be said about me or what she will make up or how she will manipulate this. I just pray for God to strengthen me to break the chains of this abusive relationship. Say a prayer for me please!

    • Father God, Thank You for Katie: I pray she will be strengthened in her inner man for dealing with these situations/ this friend. Please prepare the heart of the first friend mentioned to talk with Katie, if You lead that way. Please prepare Katie’s heart as well. May she have your supernatural peace and hear your voice clearly. Thank You for showing Katie how to address this area of difficulty. Please help Katie not to harbor anger, but give it all to her loving Lord and Savior. We pray for emotional healing for Katie’s friend and for Katie, too, May Katie lean on, rely on, and trust fully in You, Father God – Abba! Thank You for Your great and deep love for us. May we never, never lose sight of that. Please help us to keep our eyes, heart, and mind fixed upon You. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

      God bless you richly, Katie!

      • Thank you, Cindy! You kind words & prayer bring tears to my eyes. It’s so lovely for a stranger, but a sis-in-Christ, to reach out & care. It means a lot.

      • Amen, Lord Jesus I agree with Cindy’s prayers for Katie!!

        Wrap Katie in your tender mercy, your amazing grace, your courageous peace and confidence as she processes with you the honesty of her feelings and the reality of these unhealthy patterns in her friendship. Lord, bring her your love through others in her life, help her to see her worth and how valuable she is and not allow others to mistreat her. Help her see she is worth protecting even if it means losing that friendship. You are her best friend and I know you want the very best for her. Lord, be with her and give her a confidence and assurance that comes from saturated in your truth and secure your promises. In Jesus’ Name, amen!!

    • Katie my prayers are with you all the lady’s going through some of the same things. I too am fighting for a 20 year relationship that has and is rocky at best. I love him with all my heart but he will not let go of the past. He thinks I owe him everything I have ( not that I have anything) he thinks I should give him every penny I have or get, I work for him for no pay ( he and his dad said I get paid in the form of a roof over my head food to eat and everything else he gives me.) So to him I am only a servant in our home. It is even harder now that I have given My life to God. Sorry for going on about myself. I will be praying For you always. In Christ Love

  18. I’m going to use the suggestion of changing my wallpaper. Each time I see it on my computer I’ll recite to remember!

  19. My hear is troubled today. May the God of all hope fill Diana with all joy and peace as Diana rust in him, so that Diana may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Romans 15: 13 blessings

    • Diana I pray peace to your troubled heart and that and that JOY and HOPE will rise up and overflow through the Holy Spirit. I will lift you up today!

    • Diana, Im praying for you sweet friend. May the God of all hope

      I am asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Spirit[f] of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in his holy people, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. And May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Eph 1:17-19, Rom 15:13

  20. I will place my verse in my bedroom and kitchen and attempt to write out a prayer using our verse to pray this week- I will repeat it over and over

  21. Angela 2 says:

    I’m posting it everywhere I am everyday so I will see it all day long. going to put on computer screen a;so. I will pray for everyone through out the day everyday. I’m going though some rough time now too and need all the prayers I can get. Please pray for me if you can. In Christ Love

  22. I am going to place it on my bulletin board that I have in my kitchen. It is a great location as I will be passing by it several times throughout the day.

  23. Each week so far I’ve shared the verse with my children as we homeschool. I write it out on our white board, print out and we use it for our copy work too. We start the day with His Word and it can spark some wonderful conversation. What a tremendous blessing to share with my kids!

  24. Cass James says:

    I’m using index cards and posting on Facebook. 😉

  25. I plan to staple the scripture print out to my wall or carry a copy with me; look it up and meditate on it from my Bible. I am still waiting for my copy of the Confident Heart book to come in the mail. I ordered it just Wednesday (litterally no funds before then). So I can’t wait to be on the same page as everyone else, literally!

    On another note I’d like to share where I need prayer. I am considered a woman of great faith, a woman in ministry in my church and so are most of the women I hang out with. The feelings I am having have never been more accute than they are now that I’d decided to pursue leading in public singing/worship. Lately however, I am struggling with figthing back a barrage of insecure feelings about who I am and whether I am sincere and accepted fully both those around me and particular by my pastoral leadership. I often feel undersupported. I even worry about never being married because I have am tempted to think I have nothing to really offer but negative, unstable feelings and insecurities. At times I know its simply spiritual ware fare but other times feelins of being over looked, judged, misunderstood and underappreaciated are do real. I hate feeling this way and that’s why I have joined in on this Confident Heart Bible study. Please pray for a deep deep healing, truth, forgiveness and freedom for me. I want the heart and perspective of God over my life. And I was to freely walk in the secruity and faith Christ died for me to have.

    • Angela 2 says:

      Hi Taiye My Prayers are with you where ever you go today and God will heal all your pain and doubts . Amen In Crist Love

    • Celia L. Arenal says:

      Praying for you Taiye. I think we are all familier with those feelings. I am just like you and have the hope and confidence in Christ to help me with my struggles like he has with everything else. I know he will with you….trust in him completely and pursue your dream. God Bless You!

    • That’s a very good prayer, Taiye! Thank you. I am praying for you, me and for others. God bless you richly!
      Father, God: Please strengthen us in our inner men to receive that deep, deep healing, truth, forgiveness and freedom about which Taiye is praying. May the heart and perspective of God be over our lives. We thank You that this is possible because of the shed blood of our Savior and His continued intercession for us as He is at the right of our Father God. May we all freely walk in the security and faith for which Christ died. Thank You, Jesus, for dying in our place and all that affords. May we fully immerse ourselves in all that You are to, in and for us! Thank You! Thank You! Thank You! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

      God bless you richly, Taiye!

  26. I have a quote board in my room where I put versus or quotes that inspire me, teach me, or touch my life, I read all of them each day at least twice, I will also put the verse on my IPhone calendar as a reminder for the week. I made the word hope in the verse in all capitals and a different color than the rest of the card.

  27. bobbyjo21 says:

    On Saturday I changed my computer screen to this verse ~ had no idea this would be the verse for this week. It has been one of my favorites for a while now. I will use index cards and type on my timeline on face book. Looking forward to this week of study. Blessing everyone as we look to Our God of all HOPE!! 🙂 🙂 🙂

  28. Celia L. Arenal says:

    Love the idea about changing my wallpaper in my computer, since I’m there most of the time. Loving the study!

  29. Pg. 79 – “You can’t go back and change the circumstances or relationships that have wounded you, but you can go back and process the pain with Jesus. In fact, you won’t move forward with God until you do. And left unresolved, the pain from yesterday can keep you from having confident hope for tomorrow.”

    That paragraph just really spoke to me. I have a hard time letting things go, so this is a great reminder to let it go!

    • Hi, Kellie:

      Thank you so much for this reminder. This goes along with so many of the comments we have seen and the prayers we are praying. God, please help us in this area – processing the pain with Jesus and fully possessing what is ours in Him! Glory! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

  30. I going to write it over and over. If I repeatedly write something it tends to stick in my head.

  31. I have ordered the book….But from this point I have learned so much in reading your post and doing the exercises…We do not realize the impact we can have on one another….I have taken thes words given , Known, Satisfied, Hope and printed them along with journeyling..

    Thank you all for sharing from your hearts and allowing me to come into your lives and share lifes experiences…This has truely been awesome for me and encouraging for my walk with God!!!

    Blessings to all!

    Patty

  32. Hi, I am going to print it off and post it in my cubicle at work so I and others can read it all week, and write it at the top of my prayer journal everyday this week.

  33. I will be posting this verse by the mirror and on the fridge. We will be teaching our teen and preteen tonight. God’s timing for the need of this verse is absolutely perfect. I live in FL, and I just came home from AL helping my mom get set up with a home health care service that will turn into hospice care in a few weeks. She’s been battling cancer since November. God paved the way in providing what we needed to get help for Mom. It just breaks my heart to see her in so much pain. I was up there Thursday until Sunday, and on Saturday my husband calls me with the letter from my mammogram stating they want me to come back in for more tests. I’ve never really have had problems with anxiety, but that news about did me in Saturday night. But, I have HOPE! Thank you, Lord for this message you sent through this ministry. I love you, Lord!

    • Hi, Carol! I am praying for you as you go though this different time. Thank you for sharing your HOPE with us.

      Father God, Thank You for Carol and for the HOPE she has as she walks through this different time. May she find supernatural rest and peace in Your strong, everlasting arms – Deuteronomy 33: 26-27 “There is no one like the God of Jeshurun, Who rides the heavens to help you, And in His excellency on the clouds. 27″The eternal God is your refuge, And underneath are the everlasting arms; He sill thrust out the enemy from before you, And will say, ‘Destroy!’ Thank You, Father God, that You are Carol’s healer and her mother’s Comforter, as well as Carol’s Comforter. Thank You, that You know every detail of what is going on with her and her mother and You love them greatly and deeply. Thank You for wisdom for all involved with both of these precious women. Please calm Carol’s anxieties. Thank You for Your mercy and grace to walk through these different times on her journey with You. May You be glorified though all of these goings on. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

      • Thank you so much for your words, Cindy! Deuteronomy 33:26-27 has been the verse I have clung to during this time. God is so good to confirm this verse to me through your response. Thank you!
        I found out today that I’m clear. Praise God! Thank you for your prayers! Please keep praying for my mother. She’s in a lot of pain at this moment.
        Blessings to you!
        Carol

    • Christina says:

      Carol – I will be praying for you! I have been there with letter to come back in for a second look! It is very scary. I will be praying that you will be told that it is nothing! And praying for God’s will to be done in your life! Mine is just a sisk from taking hormones.

      I will also be praying for your mother! I will be praying for her to not be in pain and for God’s will in her life to be done!

      In Christ’s lovve,
      Christina

      • Thank you so much for the prayers, Christina! I received news today that I am clear. Praise God!
        Thank you also for praying for my mom. She needs comfort and healing.
        She is such a precious lady. I love her so much!
        Blessings to you!
        Carol

  34. I’m committing it to memory, this is such an important study thank you everyone for your daily/weekly inspirations!

  35. I will be writing it on index cards & putting them in different locations in my house & in my car. I have started writing the daily word & verse on NotePad on my smart phone. And, I am going to write it over & over.

  36. Rosa Williams says:

    Why is it so easy to say I do? ( and mean it) we stand in front of God, family & friends exchange vows.. and then the waves of stress come along and you see your marriage in trouble but, feel paralized?? My husband and I got married on 8/4/2011.. We were a blended mixed family He has 3 kids and I have 3 kids.. ages from 19 yrs old to 7 yrs old. I remember requesting of my husband for us to seek step-family counseling time and time again.. I would request for us to read a scripture during dinner with the kids, and all I heard was yes, we will.. and nothing happened. needless to say my husband left me on Dec. 1, 2012.
    I stop and I think to myself why didn’t I just seek the help???? but, I didn’t want to step on my husband’s role as the “Leader” of our home… he choose his kids over me.. I can’t understand it. I still remember when we were dating how he would talk about God and make plans for our futre together it was US against the world.. and then it didn’t happen.. My kids hurt, his kids hurt.. I mean what is the point? I pray for healing in my heart and healing for all of the kids.

    • Rosa,

      I know your pain. Being in a blended family is hard work! It takes more preparation and planning than we know. When kids are involved it is even harder. It takes decades for the blending to work. Those relationships with our kids and the history we have always trumps a new marriage. It isn’t God’s design to commit and then give up, but as humans we get fearful.

      I am praying for you and your husband and children.

      “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” Romans 15:13

    • Father, We pray for healing for sweet Rosa. Please help her not to give up, but to stay focused – eyes, heart and mind – on Jesus – who loves her greatly and deeply. We pray for healing for all the kids, too. Please draw Rosa’s husband to Yourself, as well, and heal him – emotionally and spiritually especially. May Rosa rest in your strong, everlasting arms, and lean, trust in, and rely on You. I pray any lies be silenced and she hear the still, small voice of her loving God – the TRUTH of His promises for her. Thank You for helping her to walk hand-in-hand with You through this different time. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

      • Rosa Williams says:

        Cindy, Thank you.. I am taking it one day at a time. I know deep inside that My Daddy God loves me and he has a purpose for me and my children.. 😉

    • Rosa,
      Heavenly God, because you love us, and fill our hearts with hope, we believe you will I heal Rosa’s heart and the heart of her children. You are patient and understanding with us, give this family guidance and direction and a listening heart so they will know the opportunities you have in store for them. Your love for us can not be measured, let them feel your presence. As they continue to trust, believe, and obey your word, remove the mountains from their path and bless them with joy, hope, love, peace, health, happiness, and prosperity. We live by faith and believe that what we ask in the name of Jesus, we will receive, Amen

      • Rosa Williams says:

        Debbie, Thank you.. PEACE is what i desire more than anything.. Peace in my heart and soul.. this will take time.. I know that this strom will soon pass.. in Jesus name! 🙂

    • I am so sorry for what you have gone through, Rosa. We are a blended family as well, and it is difficult in ways and really hard to know where the boundaries lie. I will pray for you and your children.

      • Rosa Williams says:

        Laura, I am sure you know how difficult it is.. May Daddy God Bless you and your Husband may God give YOU wisdom and a gentle response when things get rocky.. May your husband see you as a flawless angel.. and may your husband have the heart to always work things out when times become challenging with the kiddos. You are blesed Laura!

  37. I had an earth-shattering experience yesterday that brought all of this into perspective. An ex boyfriend of 7 years contacted me after 5 years of not hearing from him. He is still in the same rut, living out the same pain which prevented him from committing to me so many years ago.

    I am now married, with a beautiful 5 year old stepdaughter and my first baby happily growing inside my belly. I’ve been frustrated with the birth mother drama and some anger and resentment has creeped in to make me begin to distance myself from my new family.

    As God brought back the painful memories of that broken relationship, the feelings of loneliness, despair and rejection flooded over me. I remembered how deeply I loved this man, but his emotional detachment and our lack of being equally yoked had brought me away from the Lord and in bondage to loneliness.

    I stood watching my husband and step daughter getting ready for bed as if looking through a department store glass and the Lord spoke to my heart. He reminded me that those many years ago, this is EXACTLY what I prayed for and God fulfilled the desires of my heart.

    My gratitude and love for my Savior, my husband and my step daughter flooded into my heart and washed out the doubt, pain and fear that had been trying to plant roots.

    I know without a shadow of a doubt that my Redeemer lives. He has great plans for me and he delivered me from a life of pain, loneliness and despair.

    The other trials and challenges will come, but the Lord assures me that I am exactly where he wants me to be.

    • Brenda,
      Prayers of thanksgiving and praise for you and your family. May our God of love and hope live in your heart always. He does show us an amazing love, doesn’t he? Bountiful new baby blessings!

    • I am sure the pain you went through at that time was overwhelming but how awesome that you can look back at it now and see that you had to go through it in order to get where you are now. Thank you for sharing that uplifting message and I pray that God will continue to bless you and your family.

  38. I love the idea of using index cards to help memorize. I used to do this in college! I’m going to get me some index cards Today! 🙂

    I’m struggling in my marriage as well. I have been married 12 years.
    I know God calls us to hang on, even when the ride is bumpy and he sustains us.
    It’s difficult when the interest has melted away.
    I know I must forgive him for past mistakes, and he for me.
    I want to Honor God, and marriage covenant.
    Often I feel like I don’t have anyone that understands what I am going through.
    People can say they care, but they don’t take the time to really listen.
    Thank you ladies for caring and listening. ♥

    • Father, God: Thank You for Em. Please help to continue to remain strong and maintain her relationship with You – leaning on, trusting in, and relying on You – Your great and deep love, mercy, and grace toward her. Please give her Your peace and help her to think clearly about all the issues surrounding these concerns. May she grasp the promise of having the mind of Christ. May any voices other than the voice of her loving, caring God be silenced, and the Truth prevail in her life. Thank You for wrapping your strong, everlasting arms around her and upholding her with Your righteous right hand. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

    • The “really listening” part comes in, I think, by actually going through what you are going through. I believe that God allows bad things to happen to us so that we can understandingly listen to someone else who is going through the same thing so we can encourage them and offer them hope.

    • Hang in there Em! We will overcome! You are definitely not alone! Praying for you dear sister.

  39. I love this verse!! God has shown this verse to me 5x now since Jan.(3x in 24 hrs.) I have printed it out and posted it on mirror in bedroom and inside the cabinet door where my water glasses are. I can leave that door open when in the kitchen and see it.

    God is my hope during a difficult situation now.

  40. This is a verse that hits home for me. Seven years ago my husband committed suicide. I was a 27 year old widow. The pain and problems that were left behind for me to take care of and deal with were overwhelming. There is not a day that goes by still that I don’t think about him and miss him dearly. I was angry at God for letting this happen in my life. Recently I have been drawn to healing myself and having a closer relationship with God. I feel very blessed by finding this bible study and working towards a confident heart and letting the Holy Spirit work his ways in me to be overflowing with the joy and peace of our God.

    • Hi Michelle,
      It is my prayer that you are overwhelmingly blessed with a confident heart by this Bible Study. God tells us we should not be afraid because he is with us and that He will strengthen and help us. He will heal your heart if you give him your hand. Be fill with His hope, joy, and love by the power of His Spirit. Thanks be to Jesus!

    • I will pray for you. Suicide is a tough thing to deal with. A lot of unanswered questions, a lot of blame. Perhaps God put you through it so you could eventually help and offer hope to someone else that has gone through what you have. Do not lose faith. God knows His plans for you, plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Continue to ask Him to show you the way. He will.

  41. I will be using index cards as well. One thing I like to do is leave one on my nightstand so I read the card first thing when I get up in the morning and right before I go to bed at night.

  42. Love this verse! Yesterday I pretty much lost hope that certain situations will ever be different in my marriage. But this morning after reading and thinking about this verse, hope is slowly returning. If my situations never change, I want to be at the place that I can trust God and live with joy and peace regardless of my circumstances.

    I Googled the verse and clicked on Images then saved one of the images to my desktop.

  43. Hi everyone! I’ve not started chapter 4 yet but hopefully today will start reading. As far I’m wanting to share something. The marriage is hard! Been seperated long time and he’s in Christian treatment, try visit least once month for 2 days. He will be staying in treatment for long time. He working full time, church, classes. He want to change and improve himself by allowing God in his life. He raised in Chrisitian home and had problems with addict with drinking. I thought long ago I wanted it ended marriage and he want this marriage. Sometimes it hard to forgive but as times goes by I forgave him and rely on God more thru His words. Sometime I wish things would be difference in the past, but know it has nothing to do about it by his bad choices. My parent doesn’t want him aroind as he’s not welcome. I felt somewhat numb and asking myself am I stupid for wanting to stay in marriage? I need prayer please!

  44. As I go over my daughter’s verses for this month with her, I will have her be my “teacher” and help me to learn mine also. We use: hanging the verse on our bedroom door and read it out loud each time we leave the room, make up a melody to sing the verse, and quizzing each other each night by reading the verse to the other person and leaving blanks for the person to fill in.

  45. TABITHA JONES says:

    I am posting this on my computer here at work to let me see it at all times.

  46. Courtney says:

    The OBS is just amazing! And God is so amazing how he ties everything in our lives together. For the past three weeks at church, we have been doing a series on Bridges: Building and Burning Relationships. Yesterday the topic was “Build a Bridge and Get Over It!” The focus was on forgiveness. And what I learned yesterday is forgiveness is not only for the offender, but the offended. When we forgive we are being set free from resentment, bitterness, and any other negative feelings that keep us from God. If we don’t forgive, out Father doesn’t forgive us. Matthew 18:35. Ouch!

    I want to share with you how Pastor Ed told us how to get over it:

    1. Lead out in Construction
    See Romans 12:18
    Cancel the debt.

    2. Let go of your emotions
    See Galatians 5:22-23
    You don’t always feel like doing what’s right, but after you do you feel sooooo much better. Kind of like working out!

    3. Lift them up to God
    See Luke 6:27-28

    4. Leave the situation to God
    See Romans 12:19

    I pray this will bless someone in addition to the wonderful teachings by Renee.

    Oh! And to answer the original question I am going to write these verses on index cards and change the screen saver on my computer and iPad.

  47. Christina says:

    I am going to write the verse on index cards and have my son help me memorize it! Thank you everyone for sharing and listening and praying!

  48. I encourage you to check out the In-Courage blog today. It is very appropriate to this chapter.

    A lot in this chapter. The part about forgiveness especially touched me. I really have a problem with this and I know it has really affected my life. I cannot move into future relationships or even find my calling from God until I let go of the past.

  49. I have a trick that I’ve always used when memorizing anything. I take the first letter of each word in a sentence and I create and memorize an acronym for it. It is so much easier for me to recollect the scripture when I do it this way. I also put it into my cell phone on my post it app to look at throughout the day. If you have an Android phone there is an app called “Versed” It is AWESOME! Unfortunately the iphone doesn’t have it 🙁 I was so upset when I switched phones and discovered this. lol.

  50. I learned a long time ago instead of asking “Why me?” I learned to ask “Why not me? That is how I dealt with my pass hurts and other issuses in my life.

  51. I have written the scripture in my journal I am keeping for this study.I go over things Ive written daily, and keep highliting in my book, I tell you the pages are all turning yellow LOL…….Praying for all you great ladies, and love being able to share and read your stories, Thank You…

  52. I print the verse off and hang it in my desk at work. I can look up and see it all day long. I might have to post this one on our fridge at home as well. We need it this week!

  53. I live in Virginia. I recently turned 69 and believe that one is never too old to learn. In my spare time I use to eat compulsively, read novels, watch movies, and play mindless games on the computer. Especially since starting this online study — my mindless game playing has been greatly minimized as I pay more attention to this study and God’s word. I have spent the last 30 years hiding from a psychological and spiritually abusive husband who hides in alcohol. I have learned the hard way that I can’t change anyone else — but, with help from Christ I can change me.

    • OH Sharon!! I am praying for you!! What a brave confession and powerful testimony you shared today. I love how God is replacing your go-to places with HImself and His word and this place of community online. I am so thankful you are here with us for such a time as this. God is up to something big and wonderful in you, I sense it in my heart. I pray you will let Him encourage you, speak to you, and show you how to live in the confidence of His love and the security of His plans for your life despite all the hard things you are living through. He’s for you and with you – and we are here cheering you on!!!

      May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Amen!!

  54. Priscilla says:

    I love this verse and already memorized it but in a different translation. Just have to change a few words plus make it personal.

  55. It has been nice reading through all the comments so far. I can so relate to a unhappy marriage. I have been married for almost 10 years to unequally yoked man (that is a challegne) and unhealthy person. I have tried to make things work and in the process have become more insecure and feel like a failure. I came into the marriage at 38 and acquired 2 step daughters who lived with us and I barely even knew my new husband. I have hung on for so long. I have left a few times but have come back. We are like roommates. My fear of failure and starting all over again is overwhelming. My family will always support me but it is hard to change. My childhood issues haven’t been resolved even though I have seen counselors and have grown up in the church throughout my life. I am and have always felt like I had to control my stuff yet I can’t even stand up for myself. I want to scream sometimes. I want to be rescued instead of doing all the hard work but know that is not possible. My father left me and my siblings when I was 9 and that has impacted me throughtout my life. Even though I love my dad and we have a relationship. Even though I have forgiven him I am still angry with him for what he did to me. I have struggled all my life to be accepted not rejected, yet I can’t even accept myself. I done a lot in my past to fill that void of my dad leaving and it has only gotten me no where. I feel like I am on a treadmill and I can’t get off. I do pray and have a relationship with Christ. I am afraid to let go.. I will write this verse down and put it by my bedside table. Talking about a person that can’t let go of the past or living in the past that would be ME… Thanks for letting me vent..

  56. Thankyou for Chapter 4. God is a God of perfect timing. So the last year has been a time like you spoke of for me… one thing at a time from my past I have been taking to God and going through the process of healing. I was brave once and asked God in prayer why He allowed all this junk in my life and He spoke very clearly to my heart that it was :”For such a time as this” I believe that my past is the story God gave me… it was filled with a lot of pain and broken heartidness. God has restored my hope. The timeliness of this chapter though is in reference to my relationship with my father… or lack of relationship with my father. My step mother aproached me recently and asked me how I feel about him. I really feel like last year sometime God helped me forgive him for pains I experienced as a child through his choices. I really needed something from my father as a little girl that I didnt get. Once the Lord and I walked through the forgiveness process I started looking to God to fill that void. I have had very little contact with my dad over the last year because I wasnt chasing those needs anymore. Recently and then with my stepmom approaching me I have been thinking about him alot. I don’t want to lose him and feel regretful that I didnt have a chance to talk to him more. So Ive been the last few days revisiting my feelings about him and life. I was actually writing a letter this weekend and some of the sadness was still there. Reading this chapter the Lord spoke to my heart. I need to seek my fathers forgiveness for the bitterness I carried in my heart all these years. It has kept me hostage and thats the missing piece here I think. I also feel like I have offered him forgiveness but that maybe my little girl heart needs to feel that and grieve a little. I think I will take some time to cry over a little girl that never had the love or affection of her daddy. He is a very different man then he used to be. God is a God of restoration and Ive known all week as Ive been thinking about my father that Gods heart on the matter for us is to start something new here… I just didnt know what was left for me to do… now I do.

    • I feel very similar towards my mother that you feel toward your dad. Especially, the not chasing needs of mine to be met by her.
      We had a fight last Easter. She told my husband and I all the things that we had done that upset her the past 10 years. I tried to let it go, not harbor anger, but she made it difficult because she didn’t want to be around us. She wanted to see her grandkids, but not us. Eventually, I stopped trying, I stopped listening and feeling. We (my husband and I) stepped back. Many times I wanted to fix it, but I had to stand through that time. Just stand. I had to be patient and wait for the Lord because she wasn’t ready. I was afraid to check emails or read texts from her because they were full of accusations and guilt laden words. It shook me to my core, but God. Oh, but God, He carried me.
      After Christmas she approached me a church and asked us to stop by. We did and we have had a shallow relationship since then, my toes are barely in the water. I am doing it for my kids, so they can see their grandparents.
      This sounds cruel, but I don’t need her anymore, I don’t need her approval, or acceptance, or her criticism. I guess what I don’t need is the hurt that I feel will come from a relationship with her.

      Like Renee wrote “ We hesitate to ask others for forgiveness because they might think we’re the only one who did something wrong – and they won’t think they need to change. Or we’re afraid if we bring something up again we’re going to unearth bitterness we don’t want to deal with, so we just leave it buried. But any time we bury a hurt that’s still alive it just rises from the dead to haunt us.”

      Sounds like you’re on your way to unearthing your hurts.

  57. I was kind of ticked off to realize that I am still a codependent. My dad and every other man that I’ve ever loved have all been addicts, and I seriously thought that I had handed the codependent part over to God. Why can’t I stop working so hard? Why do I constantly live in fear of thinking, saying, or doing something to make God leave me? sigh…I guess I still struggle with my past after all. If you were to read my journal from last week, you would see that the scripture from Corinthians about using your hurt to eventually comfort others and then Isaiah 61, are my scriptures that God gave me for my my future ministry as a Christian counselor; pretty crazy when both of those were used in this week’s chapter. I think that along the way, that I lost my ability to say “No”…or to put up any kind of boundaries with people, because after begging my dad to get clean and other situations that rendered my voice silent, it seemed that it was easier to just allow everyone else to call the shots….like maybe it hurts less if I don’t tell people what my needs are…that way there is an illusion that nobody has hurt me. The problem? The Holy Spirit often asks me to address things that need to be addressed….and the enemy comes right alongside and tells me that this is wrong or gives me wrong ways of doing so. Also, I am then essentially controlled by other people and what they do/don’t do..say/don’t say…feel/don’t feel…etc…because I have given them that power. It is all an act that has never quite worked out anyway. I still feel the pain of every situation and I am still screaming at them inside of my head…and then getting angry when they don’t hear it. lol. I am a hot mess!!!

  58. Catherine Mary Prezbindowski King says:

    Hi there ladies,

    Just writing in a need for prayer. I’m thank ful for all of you looking at this post today. I see how hard I am on myself…I need prayer for this. God bless you all Jesus, I’m praying May the God of hope fill everyone of his daughters with all joy and peace as we trust in Him so that I may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

    I’m filing for a separation from my husband and am wanting more of jesus.

    In Jesus Name

    • Oh Catherine, Praying for your heart and for wisdom with every move that you make!
      God bless you

    • Catherine I know how difficult today will be, just know that our God will sustain you, lead you you provide for you, in Isaiah 54 he said He will be your Husband, your covering, your strength, your protector… I pray you will not only know that God is with you through this difficult time, but that you will physically feel the presence of the Holy Spirit. We don’t know what brought you to this point, but I know who will bring you through!! Will be praying for you Catherine- Peace to You!

  59. I am writing it on index cards and putting it in my bathroom and car

  60. Heather S. says:

    I am going to print out the verse and put it on the fridge. I will see it a lot this way! 🙂

  61. I will be posting it in the bathroom on the mirror. This is where I usually put scriptures I want to memorize or hold onto.
    Hope is what we all need during times like these! My daughter has been dealing with severe health issues for the past six months and hope has kept us all going!! God is good and wants us to trust Him, love Him, and Hope in Him!! Blessings!!

  62. I truly am so very greatful that I was lead to this by a dear friend of mine! These words will be ingraved in my brokenheart. I will re-read this chapter/prayer every morning this week.
    Thank you!

  63. I like to write scripture verses on my mirror with a dry erase marker. Since I tend to be a little vain, I know I will see the verse often! 🙂 My husband and I also write notes to each other on special days or “just because.” I usually use a verse that reflects a certain issue that I seem to be struggling with in my Christian walk. Writing the verses Renee gives us has helped me to internalize the truth behind them, helping me truly know how much God loves me. This Bible study is really touching my heart. I find and grab onto a new truth or old truth that settles in my heart and means so much to me! I feel God working in my heart to realize that my confidence is in Him no matter what the circumstances.

  64. Tammy Haymon says:

    I am writing my verse on index cards to take to work, taping the Hope pdf beside my bathroom mirror and I just changed my desktop background.

  65. I am going to write it on a sticky note and keep it in my car. Chapter 4 was life changing. It helped me deal with the pain of the past. I highlighted “If God’s love doesn’t fail, then why do I feel like He’s failed me?” So many times, I have felt like God let me down many times. I also highlighted, “And left unresolved, the pain from yesterday can keep you from having confident hope for tomorrow. This is SO TRUE!! I have felt like I wasn’t good enough for so long and this just helped me let go. I also love, “God’s love is not only perfect and unfailing, it redeems and restores.” God’s love restored my low self esteem and feelings of failure. I know God’ has a purpose for me. I am still trying to find it. I cannot thank you enough for this wonderful book.

    • Oh Tiffany!! You are so welcome. My heart is so full reading how God is redeeming and restoring your heart and so many others. It is truly the sweetest gift to get to watch Jesus change lives and bring hope to the broken hearted as we walk through the book together!! Im so honored to be part of each of your lives!!

  66. Our pastor challenged us to memorize Rom. 15:13 last year – what a blessing to my heart in offering that to others or to remember in times when I was struggling! The comment “Often we are afraid to forgive because it might open us up to be hurt again.” struck a chord with me. My first husband & I worked through forgiveness issues, but I’d put walls around my heart to protect it from being hurt, specifically by him. God said “Tear down the walls”; “Okay – but God, what do I do when the hurts come again?” “Trust Me.” Are you kidding? “Will you trust Me to be your healer?” So as an act of my will, I said yes. What an amazing transformation God began to do; yes, there were times of hurt again & God was true to His promise to heal the wounds & there were times of extreme joy as a result of being in the relationship wholeheartedly! My husband passed away in 2006 & I will be forever grateful to God speaking to me “Tear down those walls.” so my life was not filled with regrets; we ended well because of God’s redemptive work in our lives.

  67. “When we let Jesus pour His healing power into our lives, His love flows into our pain and cleanses the wounds from our past.”

    Wow, that seemed like a hefty job when I first read it. I took the steps to write out a timeline of my life, or at least from where my troubles seemed to begin. I was exhausting! Lots of tears and sadness. But, the next day I woke up feeling lighter than I could ever remember. I know there is still more to be done, but what a relief. I was even able to burn some old mementos that I could not part with before – I kept them to punish myself with the reminders of the pain – but no more!

    • Brittney, thank you so much for sharing today. I can’t tell you how much it means to know you took that big step while reading Chapter 4. Some have told me they just skipped it b/c it was too hard and I understand. But I also know that complete healing can’t come if we don’t’ let Jesus pour His healing power into our lives and let His love flow into our pain to cleans our wounds from the past.

      Thank you for sharing how you felt when you read that quote and what it was like to work on your timeline. That takes so much courage but like you shared, the weight that is lifted is so huge. A freedom comes that we never imagined we could have. I don’t think I knew how much my pain held me captive until I allowed Jesus to really set me free!!

      Praying for your continued process and courageous faith to let Him keep working. The best is yet to come as you turn it all over to HIM!!!

  68. I print out the pdf’s and hang them in my kitchen so I can see them every day!

    Loved this quote from Chqpter 4: Yet in the security of our relationship with Christ, God wants us to ask hard questions and look for answers that usher us into the depths of his redeeming love.”

    I’ve had to ask those hard questions and look for the answers and there is no way to do it outside the security of relationship with Jesus. Without that, it’s too hard…and threatens to take us under. With it, we can face whatever we have to face.

  69. I have been writing down my verses but it doesn’t stick lol
    Chapter 4 says a lot about me. I never really let people know how o feel. Right now I’m staying with my daughter and son in law because my daughter is not mentally stable. Some days are better than others. Today was not a good day for her or me. I had no one to reach out to. Dealing with someone who suffers from depression and anxiety is taxing. I pray that God keeps my sanity. What keeps me going is my precious 16 mos old grandson. My daughter did except Christ as her savior, now the seed mist sprout fruits. I need to keep trusting god. I do write about my situation in my notebook for this bible study. I feel that the lord is preparing for something in the future alone the line of depression. The scripture setting the captive free comes to mind. I can’t wait till she is set free.

    • Praying for you Norma and your daughter. God is writing your story even now. You are a good mama to be there with her. Jesus is right there with you and we’re praying for you!!

  70. Thank you all for sharing your stories. Your faith is so inspiring. I will be praying for all of you in this Bible study with me.

  71. I have always used index cards when needing to memorize stuff. Lime green is my favorite color. I found a large index card and wrote the verse out in lime green! I also printed off the PDF file and it is hanging on my fridge. Besides repeating the verse out loud to myself, I have a mini goal and that it to tell someone about the verse each day. Speaking Truth to friends and family members will help me to recite it, and share with others about the study.

  72. I like to write memory verses on index cards and work on memorizing them while I’m running on the treadmill!

  73. The one thing I’ve found was setting the verse to music helps. Any song that teaches a Bible verse through music makes the words of scripture pop out in 3D when you actually read it in the Bible again. It’s like finding treasure 🙂

    Page 80 “He wants to use everything He has brought you to, to bring you THROUGH. Not a single thing in your life will be wasted. God will use your past and present to prepare you for your future.”

    Thank you Renee for confirming what God whispered in my heart through all my tears and wounds. I pray that my losses would not be in vain…I still wait in FERVENT HOPE to see God make all things beautiful and new in His time.

    As I grow towards the future Hope…it seems He wants so much to break though the layers of my heart, to reach its raw state so I’ll be sensitive enough to discover Him at a deeper level. With each tear, He’s re-building a stronger foundation in Him as I let Him carry me. I’m tired of fighting the ONLY Being in life who KNOWS what’s best for me…

    Here’s God’s Faithfulness…I was just writing about the topic and this song came to mind….sums up what is on my heart, PRAISE GOD IN THE STORM!!!

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xGPS8sa-bRQ

    I was sure by now
    God You would have reached down
    And wiped our tears away
    Stepped in and saved the day
    But once again, I say “Amen”, and it’s still raining

    As the thunder rolls
    I barely hear Your whisper through the rain
    “I’m with you”
    And as Your mercy falls
    I raise my hands and praise the God who gives
    And takes away

    [Chorus:]
    And I’ll praise You in this storm
    And I will lift my hands
    For You are who You are
    No matter where I am
    And every tear I’ve cried
    You hold in Your hand
    You never left my side
    And though my heart is torn
    I will praise You in this storm

    I remember when
    I stumbled in the wind
    You heard my cry to you
    And you raised me up again
    My strength is almost gone
    How can I carry on
    If I can’t find You

    But as the thunder rolls
    I barely hear You whisper through the rain
    “I’m with you”
    And as Your mercy falls
    I raise my hands and praise the God who gives
    And takes away

    [Chorus]

    I lift my eyes unto the hills
    Where does my help come from?
    My help comes from the Lord
    The Maker of Heaven and Earth

  74. Sandra Anderson says:

    I will be memorizing. This has been a rough Chapter. I have realized I too need to forgive. Thank yph!

  75. Miss Mary T says:

    Something that also helps me with memorizing Scripture is that I write down at least 3 times from 3 different versions of the Bible. This also gives me a chance to explore the choices of words and the effect they have on their interpretation and meaning, but most of all how they touch my heart! Just read the chapter 4 prayer. Faith, HOPE, and love…all come jumping off the page! Thanks Renée!

  76. Jennyp1973 says:

    Ch4 spoke to deeply to my heart. Specifically ‘God’s plans for us are found when we surrender ours and seek His each day. God’s plans unfold each time we come to Him, talk to Him, and really believe He’s listening.’ This reminded me our God is a living God.

    In 2012 I experienced A LOT of healing around my youth from a father that abandoned me, a teenage mother, and a husband who made me feel rejected, unworthy, alone, and unloved. I had a wonderful Christian therapist who led me thru healing…but it was mostly me & God. Actually…it was God…and I just surrendered. I was faced with having to grieve the hope of my childhood…I had to grieve the hope I had for my marriage…I had to grieve the hope of a bio-father wanting a relationship with his daughter. I had to forgive my husband, my mother, and my bio-father…even tho he is not in my present life. God healed so many past wounds that left big ‘soul holes’ for me.

    All that therapy & work led me to a redeemed marriage…my husband being the one person that asked me for redemption himself…I told him ‘I had already forgiven him before he asked.’ When it came time for me to work on forgiveness…I knew I needed to forgive my husband first…my parents were a deeper wound. I may never get the apology from them, however I had to make a decision for my heart that I will not let an absent father or hurting mother define me anymore.

    The verse I highlighted above is one of many from this chapter for me, however it reminded me that my hopes for a marriage that honored God…He provided for me in restoring my marriage to an amazing level of intimacy & authenticity we never embraced before. But also the hope of redeeming the promise that we will be parents some day are still alive because He is alive. Not my plan, but His plan.

    I have the word ‘hope’ circled, written, printed, hanging, posted…on my ipad, my iphone reminders, hope scripture for passwords, photos, written on rocks & walls…but most importantly written in my prayers and on my heart…and on a promised baby…some day.

    • Wow Jenny. Your story of redemption and forgiveness is powerful and offers so much hope to those in our study who may be going through the same things you have gone through and are going through. Thank you so much for sharing your heart and what God’s done. It was up to you to let Him – and Im so glad you did.

      Im praying that you will personally keep seeing — ‘God’s plans for you will be found when you surrender yours and seek His each day. God’s plans unfold each time you come to Him, talk to Him, and really believe He’s listening.’

      He is there, listening and loving you each step of the way 🙂 Im cheering and praying for you too!!

    • Wonderful story of restoration , i myself had to forgive my man before he came back, God is so Loving and so knows what is best for us:)

  77. Yikes…I am one chapter behind! Ack! But I really felt such resonation (spell check is appalled, apparently with that word!) in Chapter 3. Moving on. Lord, help me- love the tips for memorizing. I love to write scripture everywhere. The act of writing is powerful to me. I especially love index cards and my journal…onward through Chapter 4…

  78. I will write it on an index card and say it as I look at it

  79. im going to memorize this verse on scripturetyper.com , i always have a hard time memorizing things.

  80. How do we get to the previous posts on here?

    • angela 2 says:

      Hi Lisa if you go to the top of the page and use the drop down under ” A Confident Heart” then go to ” A confident Heart Archives” you should be able to find it all. Hope this helps. In Christ Love.

  81. cammie joon says:

    This week, I keep being reminded of Jesus’ words on the cross, “It is finished.” I take that to mean my shame, my pain, my regrets, how others have treated me, how I’ve treated others …all nailed on the cross, all are finished. When thoughts pop up to weigh me down, I say, “It is finished.” So far, so good! profound peace! circumstances haven’t changed but, at least right now, my emotions are balanced.Thank you, Jesus, for the marvelous work you do in my life and for restoring me and my heavenly Father! I believe you, Jesus!

  82. Linda S. Aranda says:

    It seems like as I read this book, I see areas that still need attention and I know that God is helping me to realize that His love for me is never going to change. I have never had the love of a father till I became a Christian and I’m still learning how to trust Him to always be there no matter what. This chapter is a catapult in my life. I feel like I am beginning to understand more about who I am in Him and be able to turn away from who I thought I was. My future and my hope are good because it is God’s plan for me. I never realized until recently that all the things that happened to me were so I could comfort others. Thank you for bringing that up to me. I do usually talk to people about it when it comes up but never knew how to turn the hurt over to Him completely.

  83. Patricia W says:

    I have printed the message and will carry it with me throughout the week.

    Reading through the posts, makes me deeply appreciate my family and God more than ever. My family is very good to me, and God blesses me in more ways than I could ever mention. My prayers are going out for all of you who are experiencing painful relationships and battling satan in your daily lives. I pray that soon you are able to experience the joy and freedom God wants for each and every one of us. Listen for God’s message in your hearts and trust His message. God is never wrong. I’m human and struggle with a few things. God continuously shows me how wonderful He is, so I listen for the messages.

    During my second pregnancy, I thought I had miscarried. In a sense, I did. I was carrying twins, but one baby did not develop so my body reacted in the normal fashion. My husband and I were sad to lose the one baby but were happy that God let us keep the other one. As the pregnancy progressed, things began to look bad. The baby God let us keep wasn’t growing fast enough and blood tests and ultrasounds suggested a large array of health problems so my doctor suggested terminating the pregnancy. Because even if my baby survived the pregnancy, he likely wouldn’t live more than two years that would be spent in countless doctor’s offices. Needless to say, I cried. Because of the overwhelming amount of tears she sent me for another ultrasound at the hospital. The results from that ultrasound made the situation look a little better so she sent me for a second opinion with doctors who specialize in problem pregnancies. They’re diagnosis looked even better. My prayers to God were to help me make the right decision. My prayers were answered. The little voice in my heart told me that God didn’t take the wrong baby. God doesn’t make mistakes. So I listened to that message and didn’t terminate the pregnancy. That baby will be 16 years old this month. And he’s as healthy as ever. I receive messages every day from God and this one important message has led me to pay attention to every message God puts in my heart. My hope lies in these daily messages. Praise God!

  84. I just read chapter 4 this morning. How encouraging that God will build up our broken places! On my way home from work last night I heard the last few minutes of a sermon that kind of ties in here. The pastor was talking about how if there had been no tree in the garden and man had not fallen how it would be different. He then said, but how much more do we understand God’s love because we have failed? Isn’t that true? Our failures of the past are used by God to help us better see who He is and how much He loves us. What a compassionate and merciful God we serve!

  85. Chapter 4 is place where I am. Last few months God has been showing me I need to forgive. And I want to, but it’s not happening. I was very hurt by my family as a child and young adult. Well, they still do some things that hurt me.
    I feel like I could forgive them what they did if they showed me they were sorry. But they think they are good parents, grandmother, aunts… I am damaged by them, and they don’t care.
    I want to forgive them as Jesus forgave me. I do not want to be hypocrite and I do not want to be in captivity of my own unforgiveness.

  86. Your comments are beautiful. I’m encouraged to see how The Lord is healing so many of you through this study. He knows our situations and will use them to help others. Keep on sharing. You never know how He will use your story to help someone else and at the same time bring healing to your situation. This is a powerful tool. God is here in a powerful way, healing hurts, growing us, mending marriages and broken hearts. Don’t be discouraged. Press in to Him. Jesus loves us more than we know and wants to be our Joy and Peace. I need to surrender more and more to Him. It’s hard but knowing He is for me brings comfort. I’m praying for us all to rest in Him. Psalm 46:10 Be still and know that I am God.

  87. BELIEVE TRUST HOPE

    Mark 11:24 (NLT)

    verse 24 I tell you, you can pray for anything, and if you BELIEVE that you’ve received it, it will be yours.

    Proverbs 3:5 (NLT)

    verse 5 TRUST in the Lord with all your heart;
    do not depend on your own understanding.

    Hebrews 11:1 (NLT)

    Great Examples of Faith

    verse 11 Faith is the confidence that what we HOPE for will actually happen; it gives us assurance about things we cannot see.

    I set as background the wallpaper in my laptop three verses as above.

    God loves me as God Loves you all women! You are in my prayers. Say in Prayer: LORD, I will NOT give in to my weakness. I will be STRONG to the end! Philippians 4:13 ( I can do all things throught CHRIST who strengthens me).

    Blessings!

  88. Stephanie says:

    The first time I read through chapter 4 I was thinking all about me. It’s true…I have suffered many, many significant hurts in my life. I underlined lots and lots of things that I will want to remember for the future. It so impacted me that I decided to read through it again last night. When I did something wonderful happened! You see, I have been harboring quite a lot of unforgiveness toward my husband over all sorts of things from the way he hasn’t released hurts from his former marriage to his anger to the way he treats my children to the way he treats me and the list goes on and on. I have harbored such anger and hurt that I have recently come to the point of losing hope in our marriage. I have distanced myself from him and I even stopped wearing my wedding ring last week.

    Last night while I was reading through again God whispered, ever so gently, into my heart that it’s not just me who hurts, it’s my husband too. He started to melt my heart of stone and fill my heart with a compassion for my husband that I haven’t felt in many years.

    “Invite God to enter into those memories with you. Give yourself time to grieve your losses as you ask Jesus to heal them with the power of the Holy Spirit as you focus your thoughts on transforming truths in His word. As He shows you broken places, ask Him to bind up every wound with His healing touch and set you free from any captivity that has held you until now”…Wow! Praise God He has started to soften my heart toward my husband and now I can start the REAL process of forgiving and praying FOR my husband instead of just ABOUT him.

    I sincerely ask for your prayers as I embark on this journey. The hurts go deep and my heart has been very hard. Please pray that I will be able to forgive and to encourage my husband with the compassion God has granted me. For the first time in a LONG time I feel hope!! Putting my wedding ring back on right now 🙂 because God’s love is sufficient for both me and my husband.

    • Praise God, I will be praying for you and your husband!! 🙂 God Bless you for listening to the voice of God!!

    • Jennyp1973 says:

      Stephanie…please have hope. You are right! God’s love is sufficient for both you and your husband. And you can chose love for your husband because God loved you first. God’s grace & mercy are new every day, and I will pray for you. So glad you put your ring back on.

      Lord please help Stephanie be open to receiving Your grace and love. We are confident You are already there in Her hurt Lord, and we ask You to send healing thru the truths of Your promise for us as Your beloved children. We ask for her to have courage thru You to surrender her husband’s heart to You…help her have confidence You have a plan for him as well. You are our Jehovah Rapha, and we love You. In Jesus’ sweet name we pray. Amen!

    • Stephanie says:

      Thank you ladies!! Your prayers really carried me through. The enemy tried to derail my thoughts last night but I was able to put him in his place through prayer! I’m choosing love today because I will have the opportunity to confess these things to my husband and ask his forgiveness. Keep the prayers coming 🙂

      • Hi Stephanie
        I will be praying for you and your husband and the forgiveness you know God will grant.

        In Christ Love

  89. Debbie Jo says:

    “Broken is Beautiful is Broken”–

    I love broken because I know God is gonna work in me—change me—bring me to a new place, with Him!!! I, too, struggled with divorce, death of my 2nd husband and a soulmate with alcoholism. I am not in a relationship now and am still afraid of being in one. I have been alone for almost (5) years now. I still struggle with letting go and letting God take care of this part of my life. It is hard to admit that I am still scared of having a man in my life, so I say I don’t want one, but I also don’t want to grow old alone. I must believe that God has the plan for me and for my future, whether it be alone or with someone, I KNOW HE is with me always and his unconditional love is the bestest!!!!!

  90. This chapter has also brought up memories of past mistakes and things that have happened to me that still affect me today. I’ve been working through some of it in my journal and was brought to tears yesterday just thinking about the mistakes I’ve made and overwhelmed that God does still love me. The Holy Spirit really did show me how I have hurt others as well.

    I’ve been struggling with exactly where God wants me right now. Reached out to several opportunities but nothing seems to work out which makes me think I’m on the wrong path. Just two days ago, God brought the opportunity to share something painful with someone who was hurting so maybe that is what he wants me. I’ll keep trying to listen for His promptings

  91. I have been doing alot of thinking since I have read chapter 4 of the book. My therapist who is a christian always says we have to ask God what he thinks about something before we do it. Sometimes I get frustrated with her because i see how much she trusts her whole heart and sole in him. I wonder somedays to myself how can she be so calm about all that is going on. I grew up in a real abusive family and have alot of trust issues as well as emotional issues. She said that I need to put all my faith in God and trust that he will help me. I just want to the hurt from the past to go away but, for me it isn’t that easy, I have to work through all the pain and do it with trust in God and know that he truly is by myside. BUT HOW IS ALL I WANT TO SCREAM BACK AT HER! How can I do this without going insane? Because she says you are a child of God and he is your heavenly father and will not hurt you or let you down.God is here to help you to heal not to hurt you as those in your past have done so. There is such a person known as Gentle Shepperd and every part inside of you knows who Gentle Shepperd is. Gentle Shepperd is the one that my little ones refer to as their God. Anyway I don’t like going through the battles of healing,yet I guess know in order to heal I have to walk through the pains of the past. So, i guess this is where I end for now.

    • Robin,

      Your message touched my heart and I feel that I need to share with you how I was able to overcome a lot of my past hurts. They didn’t happen overnight and so in order for me to forgive the person that hurt me I had to take baby steps and handle one at a time. It was only when I started doing that, then I could see just how God was helping me to handle the hurt. For 40 years I carried a hurt in my heart and in my mind. It was the death of my baby sister (she died on Christmas Eve back in 1969). I babysat her (I was 17 at the time)and I blamed myself for her death, which I know now I wasn’t to blame. It was during that time of the year I would be reminded that perhaps I could have done something, I shouldn’t have been jealous of her, I shouldn’t have wished that she would be dead, and on and on….This last year I believe in my heart that God talked to me during a time that He knew I would really listen to him. It turns out that not only did I find out that her death had nothing to do with my babysitting her, nor because I was jealous that she was getting all the attention, but I also learned that my choices that I made after her death was me searching for LOVE, I felt that my family blamed me, etc….but God showed me that I was not to blame myself anymore. So it is with baby steps that I continue to handle the different things that have happened to me over the years. And I know that it isn’t always easy, but it is possible. Have I had doubt or setbacks over the years the answer is YES. I will continue to pray for you and ask that God will guide you through this process also. You are not alone…..

  92. Jerrianne says:

    Wow, after reading the comments and writing down so many wonderful thoughts and quotes, I went back and reread the chapter. Doing this bible study(my first online and on my kindle) has taught me that I need to take notes while I read. HOPE is what I am holding on to, as I TRUST the Lord to restore my marriage. My pain is not in my past but right now in my marriage. I could relate to so many of you. Satan is attacking marriages. I am standing strong that the Lord is going to bless my marriage as I daily give it to him. Renee I liked when you said “Learning to live in the security of God’s promises is a daily journey of dependence.” So many times I want to be the one to fix my marriage but I need to depend on God daily. I also like how you reminded us that DOUBTS will creep up and when this happens we need to stop and seek God’s perspective. God’s perspective is the only perspective I want to see.

    I am writing my verses on index cards and sharing with my MOPS moms. I am also part of the teaching team for our women’s Sunday school class and I am encouraging the team to do this study for the summer. Thanks Renee for sharing your heart with us.

  93. I will soon be 53 years old. My past still haunts me. I have so many scars that effect my life in such negative ways. Abused from the age of six sexually, physically, emotionally and mentally. I have been in such deep depression, that I have wanted to die. With the resent loss of my sweet brother( who was often my protecter) I have at times lost all hope, clinging to Jesus, trying to find some hope to live. Socially, I cannot cope. We were always moving and I went to 18 different schools. I never had the chance to learn social skills, I was always the new girl and I hated it!! Still have nightmares of walking into classrooms and everyone starting at me. But mostly my nightmares are of not being able to find my way around the schools,always lost. I am a very quiet person and always struggle with what to say when I am around people. The only time I am comfortable is when I am home by myself. I prefer my bedroom and sleep over anything. I’ve tried over and over to truly give it all to Jesus. I will do better for alittle while, then I’m back to the person I hate being. I will fight to stay until Jesus calls me home, oh but how I look forward to that day!!! I read all of chapter 4, but I don’t think that my heart will ever be confident. Maybe I don’t fully trust in Jesus like I should and I hate that because I know He died for me and expects more from me. I have forgiven my abuser( my stepdad) and then 5 of his 7 brothers, so at least that is not a problem for me. I do my best to…Trust in The Lord with all my heart, and lean not on my own understanding, acknowledge Him in all my ways and He will make my paths straight. Prov 3:5-6

    • Jerrianne says:

      Debbie- Praying for you that you experience God’s grace as you surrend your life to Him daily.

    • Praying for you, dear Debbie

    • Susan Whitaker says:

      Debbie, my prayers are with you. Without going into detail, I want you to know that I have experienced simular situations as you have. I truly understand how diffucult it is to heal. It’s not impossible. With God all things are possible. I learned to reach out to others. I learned how to be a victor and no longer the victim. I started reading my Bible and daily devotions every day. I learned to lean on God. Having a personal relationship with my Heavenly Father. Met many wonderful christian friends through Bible studies. I do everything I can to keep my focus on Jesus Christ. Including this online Bible study with Renee. Prayer is important, its talking to God on a very personal level. Build your relationship with your Heavenly Father and you will heal with time. Be patient, stay in faith, continue with this online Bible study and know we are all praying for you. God will help you grow and become more confident.

      • Thank you Jerrianna,Marina and Susan, I don’t usually say to much, but this chapter dug deep. I know all things are possible with Christ, but since I have prayed most of my life for release of my painful past with no change. I have been to two Christian canselors. The only good result from that was forgiving my abusers. I guess the thorn in my side will have to stay and his grace will be sufficient for me. In my weakness He is strong. I will praise Him come what may!! May God bless us all as we strive to be all He has planned for us to be.

        • Jerrianne says:

          Debbie- Praying that by the end of this study, as you press in closer to Jesus and trust Him to heal you that you can say boldly that you have a confident heart.

    • @ Debbie,
      I suffer from depression, soical anxiety and low self esteem too, force myself to go out, I take meds for it, are you on meds? If not maybe you should consider that avenue, it isn’t a weakness if you have to take them, it’s like any other medical condition you might have. Have you taken off your masks and told ppl how you feel? I have started doing that & it is such a freeing feeling, no one has rejected me yet, & I feel closer to all the ppl I have told, no more ‘hiding & pretending’ with them.
      When I get discouraged I keep telling myself the God that created everything plus myself loves me to pieces, and keep reminding myself to trust Him fully with my life, which is very hard for me, but getting easier as i see how He’s working in me.
      You must be a very strong person to have come this far, God does have a purpose for your life, just trust, trust, trust Him. Hope this helps in some way, I fell led to write this, so God is working already, will be praying for you!

  94. But any time we bury a hurt that’s still alive, it just rises from the dead to haunt us.

    I know ALL to well the reality of this statement.
    True freedom comes from giving it to Jesus and forgiveness. Forgiveness is a choice and a decision made on the truth of God’s word.

  95. These are all such great ideas – and I have done a few in the past as well. What I did this time is to print out the great Hope download from Renee with the lovely pink heart and all. 🙂 I put it in my bathroom and while drying my hair (it takes a long time 😉 ) I think I had the whole thing memorized. It is a verse that makes sense to say too, as you are thinking about how it goes – and that helps tremendously. 🙂 We all need hope, and joy and peace, to sustain us daily and I will repeat this to myself every day! 🙂
    “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace, as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” Romans 15:13 I ‘hope’ I got all the words right – and that is my prayer for each of you ‘sisters’!
    With His love…

  96. Jeannine says:

    I love the verse from 2 Cor 1:3-4 “the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.” It’s evident here with ladies lifting up others who are struggling, sharing their own experiences to give others hope that God does know what we’re feeling, He hasn’t abandoned us. I too struggle with how to give up control to Him. I’m working through that right now with my kids, taking all of their struggles and hurts on myself because somehow I think if I don’t do everything right, my kids are going to suffer & go through hurts & experiences my brother & I went through. I’m trying to find that balance of where my “control” ends, and where I rely on God so I can be a better mother & wife, not one whose total identity is wrapped up in her kids’ lives.

    Praying for everyone here, that you all find the peace & comfort from God. Renee, I love this book and this study, thank you so much for all of the work and effort you put into this project!!

  97. caren carter says:

    I will truly write this down, and share it with my family & with my facebook family as well. Thanks for inspirational words by God that will be written in my heart externality.

  98. Susan Whitaker says:

    As I am writing down the chosen Bible verse I think about each word as I write. I think about the verse as I go about my day. Reading it from a post-it I carry with me in my pocket, when neccessary. I also pray and ask God to help me understand the words as I am memorizing.

  99. I will commit to memorizing Rom. 15:13 I will put it on post-it notes and place them around the house and I will put it on my computer desk top. In my life I have had some serious pain and hurt. I questioned why God allowed it he could have stopped it from happening. I had prayed and prayed that he would not let it happen. But it did and he walked me through it, carried me through a lot of it when I felt I couldn’t make it one more day. God taught me so much through all of the pain and I know now I can trust him with anything. It took a lot of praying, studying his word and trusting what God’s word said. Thank you for your time to do this Bible Study it is a blessing.

  100. I really like this idea and think I will go with it■Get a stack of index cards and on each one write one or two words from the verse, including the reference. Shuffle them up and see if you can put them in the correct order again. Save the cards and reuse common words found in other verses.

    I am truly enjoying this book study…praying for you all this week 🙂 God Bless

  101. I never stopped to think that past hurts might be the cause of anger and frustration in my present. I always thought I had worked it all out with God. Over many years of working in ministry settings I have been hurt more often by the people that call themselves Christians than when I worked outside of ministry. Lately when things started getting ugly here where my husband is pastor I found myself reacting more quickly and more angrily. Thanks for pointing out that maybe there is still something I need to go back and work on to heal completely.

  102. Dorene MacVey says:

    There is such pain in this world….but He is HOPE. I will text this verse to someone each day of the week. (both kids for sure! ). God Bless.

  103. Dorene MacVey says:

    My daughter is a senior in high school and is taking her certified nursing assistant course. As part of this, she has been doing her clinic practice in a nursing home for the past week and a half. Last night she came home after watching a man die who had no family. He was alone — going soon to meet his wife in his eternal home. He held the rosery, the priest came, hospice came by… all-the-while physically fading away. She and her classmates stayed in his room praying and holding his hand. When she came home, she was very emotional — it had been a lot to process for a beautiful, compassionate young woman. This verse came to me today and I texted this to her….There is Hope for a dying man going home and there is Hope for a young girl to trust in His promises. I love watching God work!

  104. Stephanie Rudash says:

    Hi everyone.
    I am so behind this week, but it has been such a God filled, blessed week. Yesterdayy I finally finished the chapter the first time through. It is really hard for me to let God take away my past hurts. Fot example, mybPap passed away when I was 12. It wasn’t until late in High School that I was finally able to feel peace and let my God take away my feelings of guilt.

    I also us the methods of multiple postings and repetition to memorize verses.

  105. I will write it on a notecard and keep it on my desk. I am nervous about this chapter, because it seems hard to process the hurts and pains of our past. I am praying that God will give me strength to complet this journey!

  106. Wow… Renee thanks for sharing your story. I have just finished chapter 4 and watched the video. I have been blown away.
    A couple of things have set sparks in my brain. ‘My husband would provide security and shelter for the little-girl-heart that was still crushed inside my adult body’
    For many years now my husband has been my emotional security and shelter, my protector and provider. All the things I longed for as a child. When we met my husband was very active in the church, but over the years through 3 premature babies and 4 miscarriages along with the many issues that have come along with them over the last 18 years. As well as being hurt in a nasty church situation a few years ago he slowly drifted away from the Lord. My security and support in my christian walk is now gone, although I have a wonderful supportive church family, at home he wants nothing to do with it. I can not even speak of God in his presence without some criticism of the church in general. He doesn’t stop me going to church or bible study, but his negative, critical comments make me feel guilty for going.
    The ministry God had begun leading us into as a young couple (nearly 20 years ago) was put on hold many years ago when the children were small as we dealt with the practicalities of their disabilities. Now, in their teens they are all managing well and as I began moving forward in the vision God gave us he has moved away.
    Reading chapter 4 has made me realize that I do hold a huge amount of resentment toward my husband in regard not only in this and also for his walk in the world of pornography last year which nearly destroyed us. I am still dealing with the rejection and pain this has caused me. I don’t have my happily-ever-after I so desperately wanted and hoped for all my life. The dream of the loving, supportive family I never had.
    So now, it is learning to let go and give it all to God and let him be the security and hope, the happily-ever-after I long for. Sounds so easy when you read it or write it down. It’s tough, it’s emotional but it’s life changing. I just have to believe that as God changes me he will change my husband too! 🙂
    Thank you Renee and all you ladies, reading your stories of how God has/is leading you through healing to wholeness in Him is so encouraging me to continue in my journey and get complete breakthrough.. 🙂

  107. Patrice E. says:

    I throw the word “hope” around and know what it means, but in my verse mapping for today I looked up the definition: HOPE: to expect with confidence; to desire with expectation of obtainment; to cherish a desire with anticipation.
    Part of Romans 15:13 says we are to “overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit”. So…then what am I supposed to expect with confidence I ask? I read all of Chapter 15 and verses 1-2 stand out: (The Message) 1-2 Those of us who are strong and able in the faith need to step in and lend a hand to those who falter, and not just do what is most convenient for us. Strength is for service, not status. Each one of us needs to look after the good of the people around us, asking ourselves, “How can I help?”
    WOW! lend a hand to those who falter? In this instance could that mean ME?
    Not just do what is most convenient? Could that be look back at those hard places in my past?
    Look after the good of the people around us, asking ourselves, “How can I help?” Does this mean be gentle with MYSELF and take time to help ME?
    Maybe what I need to expect with confidence is that my past wounds can be healed, forgive where it needs to be done, ask for forgiveness and especially be forgiving of myself.

  108. Angela G. says:

    I’ve been trying to focus and memorize the verse this week but it seems like our enemy is working overtime yet again. It would be easy to get discouraged but I refuse to do that. It’s exactly what Satan wants me to do. I’ve written the verse on note cards and in my journal. I have the note cards strategically placed around my house so I can read them throughout the day. Praying for God’s grace and strength to guide us all on our journey to discovering our own confident hearts.

  109. Charlene says:

    I love to have cards in my pocket with His words and glance at them while I:

    * Walk around the school to supervise the children.
    * Lunch duty
    * Putting on make-up
    * Cleaning house

    Find those moments while doing something else, to ponder on His words. Those little times do make a difference.

    “Hope comes when we allow Jesus to search our hearts and bring truth into our wounded places”
    I have many and they are hidden but I no longer want to “store them.” I want Him to heal my pain and comfort my brokenness.

  110. I just started on my questions for chapter 4. Each question has taken a page each. And I’m only on Q3. I didn’t realize how much pain I was still holding onto. Through the timeline, which completely drained me, I was able to pin point a major source of my insecurities. I always thought ” insecure is just who I am, my DNA”. I never realized it was the side effect of some awful things I was subjected to as a child. I see how those events took control of my future. As painful and exhausting as the timeline was, I feel able to actually deal with those events. I may never be able to reach out to the people who caused them, but for my own healing, I can forgive them and forgive myself for falling into a vicious cycle. With Gods help, I feel ready. I am confident that He has not and never will leave me or forsake me. He will prepare my hands for battle, He will crush my enemy beneath my feet, and He will give me peace that surpasses all understanding.

  111. Hope you feel better soon Renne!!!1

  112. This is my first post, but I have been with you my sisters in Christ since the beginning. I can’t even put into words how much this study is helping me. My greatest lesson has been to admit to myself that I am not fine, good, or the other terms we use to hide how we feel. Answering the questions after each chapter has caused me to deal with a lot of hidden issues in my life and to shed ALOT of tears. I can honestly say today that I’m good, I’ll have to take tomorrow when it gets here. I am an intense note taker. I am about to start in my second notebook. When I write out the questions I write them down in personal form. I use the words, I, us, we, and our. Making it personal helps me to dig deeper into my inner woman to see what God wants me to face so I can turn it over to Him. Right now I am having a hard time allowing God to define the new role HE has put into my life. I am a first time author and sometimes I want to walk away from what I know has come from God. My book has allowed me to heal from so much of my past. One day I will share how God led me to write this book in only two months. It saved me from going into a state of depression. GOD is awesome, when we least expect it, HE shows Himself strong on our behalf for our good and His Glory. I will hold on to my confidence in God for I believe it will be richly rewarded, but it is hard some times. Take care and Be Blessed!

  113. Dawn Marie says:

    I wanted to say that, although I am getting a late start on this week’s verse, I am very excited about memorizing it. Last week’s verse has really been helping to change my thought processes (something I need desperately). I wasn’t sure if I liked changing the pronouns from plural to singular, but I have to say it was a very effective way to enable me to say it as a prayer!
    Praying for you all.

  114. I plan to write the verse on notecards and place in car, at office, in bedroom. Also I plan to follow the suggestions of creating a notebook and listening to the Word.

  115. Thank you ladies for sharing your hearts. The last year has been a huge struggle for me. I have struggled with anxiety and fears and even depression. It has made me feel unworthy and a failure as a Christian but.. But! What a powerful word! He has been faithful! He has never left me! His arms have carried me. He has let me cry and not even know why. I am seeing more clearly now. I am embracing His love and learning to live as a new person. Some days are easier than others but I have hope! I am excited about reading this book. I have to take breaks some just to digest it all but it is helping me heal. My God is faithful!

  116. Thank you, ladies for your hearts and sharing. I’m so very blessed by it. I just e-mailed this verse to my worship team from church…by heart. 🙂

  117. My answer to question 3 stood out to me most. The question was…

    “Read 2 Corinthians 1:3-4. How has God comforted you in your troubles so that you can comfort others with the same hope He has given you?”

    My answer…
    After my ex-boyfriend (of 6 years) disappeared from my life without warning or explanation, my self-confidence—which was already pretty much gone from being in a relationship with him— disappeared as well. I was sure that I would never be good enough for any man because if he didn’t want me, no one else would. But then I heard in a Bible study that God’s plans for my life far exceed my biggest hopes and dreams. This brought me great comfort and hope. And it has stuck with me for the past 2 years. Although I am still single and I have not been in a relationship since, I still hold onto that hope that God’s plans are bigger than anything my little human mind can imagine. I currently co-lead high school girls in our church’s youth group. Although this topic has yet to come up, I am prepared to share with them my story and how satan’s lies can tear you up and down, but God’s truth is renew and restore you.

  118. Nicole S. says:

    This chapter was the first chapter I wrote a bunch of notes in the margin. When I look back at my notes alot of the are “how can I do this”. When I read page 66 ” If God loves me why…?” I thought YES! why..why why… why does this stuff happen to me. And then I got too ” When our questions make us doubt God’s heart, our pain can lead to bitterness and bondage”. That is how I feel sometimes, just plain ol bitterness. I just get angry and think why doesn’t anything ever go right and then I get worked up and get so anxious about all the things that are going wrong. It is so hard for me to allow God to just take my pain and show me my purpose. I hold on to that pain for some reason and I just feel more and more pain as the times goes on.

    I was telling a friend how I just felt so tired recently, but what I didn’t tell them was I am just mentally exhausted. I’m tired of trying to change because I feel like I try and try but nothing happens and I really am not changing, or at least at a pace I think is good. I just want to give up. It’s like I know that if I just give it up to God everything will be better. I will feel relief and peace and then know that the healing will start and yes it might be painful but I will have God by my side. I can’t seem to do that though. Why can’t I just let go.?? I hear so many stories of people just letting go and I can’t see to do that. I hold it all in. I want to feel God’s love, I want to let myself feel god’s love. I don’t know why I am so resistant and it frustrates me. I need some prayers please.

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