Letting God Fill Our Empty Places

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Renee Swope is a Word-lover, story-teller, heart-encourager and grace-needer. She's also a wife, mom, friend, daughter and author of A Confident Heart, a Retailers Choice Award winning book that became a best-seller and has been published in six languages, with over 150,000 copies sold. Renee is speaks around the country at women's events and and serves on the writing team for DaySpring’s inCourage blog. For twenty years, Renee served in leadership at Proverbs 31 Ministries and as former co-host of the ministry's radio program, “Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee.

Comments

  1. What a wonderful reminder! I love this video
    I believe God allows us to fill up our hearts/life with other things besides him for a season, so that he can then take them away from us (some or all of them), so that we will be filled up with him to overflowing. While it may seem painful for a season, God is more satisfying then a new car, a new wardrobe, new job, and the list goes on…our stuff only satisfies us for a season, but God can satisfy us forever. It makes us depend on him, and gives him the Glory (not us). New cars, wardrobes, jobs… are not life giving, God is.
    God help me to not fill my life up with earthly things, but to be filled up in you. Help us thirst for you. Amen

    • Very nicely stated Emily. This is a lesson that it has taken a while for me to learn, but I’m learning daily. Those empty spots in my heart are gradually going away and this illustration has made it so clear the God’s love doesn’t leave room for empty spots.

      • Thank you Nina! I am still learning this also.
        God is constantly reminding me that only he can truly satisfy
        All this other stuff I pile in my heart/life , it’s just stuff. I long for more of him.
        Have a wonderful day 🙂

      • Charletta Rupert says:

        I loved your illustration of how we fill our hearts with legitimate things.
        I am so thankfu that the Living Water can fill us and we have no empty places.
        My desire is to be filled wih His love.

      • Great reminder, i’ve seen this repeated a lot in my life and in other peoples. We are constantly looking to be satisfied and we try everything. Set new goals and when you finally get there, you still feel the same. Until one day you finally realized only God can satisfy us.

    • Thank you Emily. What you said is so very true. Have a blessed day.

    • I have come to realize that through out my teens and into adulthood, I have been looking for love, fulfillment, acceptance, and security in all the wrong places and especially in ALL the wrong faces. When Renee was holding the jar out as if asking others to fill it…I thought about how I’ve held my jar out to others with the expectation of being filled and I’ve actually opened myself up to allow others to take from me. I’ve allowed others to freely have my time, money, love, and joy. Being recently divorced, I’ve been able to look back on my pattern and past marriage to see that I wasn’t looking to God to fill my void. Although I still long to have the companionship of a partner…I look to Jesus first.
      Hosea 2:19-20 says: “I will make you my wife…I will give you righteousness and justice, unfailing love and compassion. I will make you MINE and you will know me as the Lord.”
      I want him to be My Husband, My Portion, My Supplier, My Redeemer, My Father…My SAVIOR!

      • Heather,

        • oops not sure what happened there.. but thank you for sharing! I honestly believe now, and through this study, that I have put way to much onto my husband to “fill” me. I have to look to God to fill and fulfill those deep longings and empty places in my heart. I feel blessed to be in this study with you and all these wonderful sisters-in-Christ!

          • Marni,

            I feel the same way concerning my husband. I have put so much expectations on my husband. I should seek God for my expectations and fulfillment. God is my everything.

    • Thank you for showing me what my jar should look like!

    • While I agree Emily 🙂 It’s really hard when currently there are no jobs in the family at all. Trusting is hard once the bank balances start to shrink and no job in sight.

      I know God will provide and I want to be filled up with his joy but it’s been hard getting my eyes off “But I need a job! to I will trust you until that job comes along”

      To keep knocking on doors, sending resumes to be rejected over and over hurts.

      So yes 🙂 I want God to be my all and all and to help take away my fears and unbelief.

      • Hang in there Debbie! I’ve been there where you’re at now. It’s hard, but I found that if you just lay it all down at God’s feet He will be true to His Word and he’ll carry that burden for you. I know we never like to ask or say anything when we’re at where your at, but people want to help out. Sometimes from the least likely sources – whether that be church or family or friends.

        I’ll be praying for you and your family! As the Mercyme song says …

        Hold fast
        Help is on the way
        Hold fast
        He’s come to save the day
        What I’ve learned in my life
        One thing greater than my strife
        Is His grasp
        So hold fast

    • WOW!!!!! I love the demonstration of the jar. But it is so true, because I think that when we try to feel with those things that we are looking for something that we can either touch or someone that we can talk to. Instead of much more of a spiritual need to fill us. I want to say that it really touched me and not only that we do need to realize from time to time that is all it is is just stuff for the most part. But he can touch our hearts and soul and he can talk to us, if we listen. Because I will admit that I am trying to look for that better job than what I have.
      Renee, Thank you for the Video today!!!
      Yes, I wished to that we could all get together in a room too.

    • I loved the jar demonstration and I can agree with Emily’s comments how “God allows us to fill up on other things for a season then he takes them away.” Those people/places/things that brought us temporary joy seem to cause a lifetime or season of pain when they are taken away from us. We don’t always see or understand God’s hand in the matter but his word reminds us “all things work together for our good” and he does indeed have a plan for us, to give us a hope and a future. Even when we feel hopeless, saying these words over and over again can give us hope. I can already tell I won’t want this study to end because each day, with each new mercy, God does or sends something incredible to remind us he is indeed looking out for our best interest and he really is all we need. Lord fill me with more of you so there is no room or desire for anything else.

      • Yes I agree that God gives us the gifts and he sometimes takes them away perhaps because He wants us to spend more time with Him so he can fill the empty places of our hearts. Do you think He also takes them away sometimes a bit like a parent taking away our childish toys that are broken or too childish for us so that we can have new toys or new relationships that will help us to grow and mature and develop. It can be so painful to have an “old favourite” taken away but when we later look back in life we can see Gods purpose. I once lost a good friend in a painful disagreement but now I can see that God had a fresh calling and a new direction for me leading me to a new job and lots of new friends. I would never have chosen to move forward by myself but God as my father could see the way ahead. I am so enjoying this study thank you so much Renee and all you wonderful sisters.

        • Thank you for your reply. I had been ill for a while and during this illness two friends whom I considered to be my best friends were not there for me. I can not describe the pain and betrayal that I felt because of their actions. There was a big void in my heart and if I am honest there was a lot of dislike for these women. I now understand that God removed these women because at the time I need women who knew our Father to be around me to pray for me and to take care of me. I am so grateful that God has all the answers even when we don’t know the questions to ask. I can see God leading me in a different direction. Thank you .

      • Kay,

        I love your closing prayer. Lord fill us with more of you so there is no room or desire for anything else.

    • Wow..what a beautiful perspective way to have an illustration of my heart. It really open my eyes and made me reflect on how I was placing God on the side lines and choosing the wrong substance to fulfill me. The jar presentation made me have an aah moment to redirect my priorities in my life. Thank You so much Renee for the enlightment.

    • That was a wonderful example on what really matters and what I need to remember and focus on. I also need to help my family focus on Jesus and that we need him more than we need anything else. It is so easy to get caught up in the fashion of bigger, better, and more. Our culture screams this at us and Jesus whispers “look to me”. Thank you.genia

  2. WOW…. Great illustration Renee. Totally get it, along with all those things we are filling our jars with, the hurt, pain, self-doubt etc we are feeling is also blocking the way for God to fill all those empty places in our hearts.
    Thanks for sharing your heart with us and leading us through this journey of wholeness in Christ 🙂

  3. wow!What an amazing illustration….I felt u were talking about me as this is how I felt all my life. I grew up in an orphanage and always was looking for real love…. I did everythng to gain or earn peoples love. Although I knew Jesus as my saviour as a child, I still felt empty and unsatisfied….I wanted people’s love not sympathy. I wanted to have what every kid had…..Untill I remember that day I spent the night on my knees and Prayed Jacob’s prayer” Lord take that thorn fromm y life. I am tired of measuring up to people.I cannot take it any more and I will not let go untill u bless me with the gift of being satisfied in you” What an awosome feeling that was when God freed me and He alone satisfied my soul…I am a new person now…He is the only one whose well never dries……I still at times fall into the trap of thinking other material things can make me feel better but then I hear that voice in the back of my head saying”I alone can satisfy you” so I make a u turn and reasure myself of His love
    Thank you Renee and all the beautiful ladies who are sharing their hearts on this blog so we can all learn
    love u all

    • Kim,
      I read your comment and here we all love you and each other for we all share experiences and we don’t have to measured by anything or anyone. I loved what you said and I am happy to hear that you are a new person now and that you are happy. I believe that you have a heart of love.

  4. Thank you for sharing Renee. I needed to be reminded that only God can fill the empty spaces in my life with His unfailing love. Awesome illustrations. Thank you.

  5. I find myself falling into this trap much to often. I feel I am devoted to JESUS – I want to follow him and be completely his. As the enemy would do – he uses those things important to us to break us at times. I have never thought of myself as materialistic…a love seeker yet as I watched this illustration I could see how I have used the “THINGS” of this world and flesh to fill the voids in my life. As my relationship with JESUS has grown and developed over the last 2 years (I tell everyone I believe he has me in the fast lane – to make up for the lost years) I just want to follow him…yet the biggest struggle I have is overcoming the attacks the enemy uses to DOUBT myself and my love for JESUS. I find myself thinking I will never be good enough for JESUS…even while watching this video the thought entered my mind – yet I know without a doubt I am loved and forgiven by our SAVIOR… the enemy wants me to throw in the towel and say nothing I do will ever be good enough. So today my prayers will focus on praises and thanks to my HEAVENLY FATHER for loving me – and I will ask he keep on emptying me and filling those holes he empties with only his divine love, mercy and grace.

    • Fast lane is fun! God works powerfully and I’m so thankful that you’re resting in His love today!

    • Bonita..I have read several posts before yours that reference the similar idea that “God does things to break us or takes things away from us which makes it sound like he is “punishing us” for what happens in our life. In my life journey I have come to believe that in most circumstances, my choices, thoughts, and actions are what determine the consequences I am suffering, whether it be my own or the result of someone else. By this I mean that we are “breaking ourselves.” Then our amazing and merciful and loving God sees us through whatever hurtful, painful, or devastating circumstance we can imagine–He can and does show us a different path to follow, but we have to make that choice. His unconditional love does truly fill us up, not tear us down.

  6. Thanks so much for sharing with us Renee, that was an incredible video message this morning. That is exactly how I lived my life, and have until just recently. I’m learning that God is the only one who can fill all my empty places. I’m looking forward to each day that I have with you & these women in this Bible Study.
    Have a wonderful day & God Bless!

  7. I agree – many times I look to the gifts to fill me and fulfill me, instead of looking to the Giver. May all of us seek Jesus and be filled with His unfailing love!

  8. Helen H. says:

    Good morning Renee, Thank you for this wonderful God given message. It touched my heart so much. I to fill my jar with lots of things as well as dirt….. I hope, pray and will try to empty my jar and let the healing water from God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit fill me with unending love that we are so truly promised. Thank you soo much and may God bless all that you do. Your friend in Christ

  9. So often we place our dependence on the people in our lives to help make us feel loved and significant hoping that will settle or fulfill our need to feel secure. The probem with that is that so often we find our security system fails us and out of great disappointment we end up takng it out on those we’ve created as a support of self gratification.
    Your video helped me to see the tier of false support I created to make mysef feel satisfied but instead remained yet empty feeling inside, angry and frustrated and unfortunately was taking it out pn those I chose to try to make me frel better about myself when they came short.
    Jesus is our true comforter and He alone can fill thr empty spaces of oyr hearts and cure the longing of beong tduly accepted, adored, validated, treasured, and affirmed. Ttuly aJesus is the only way to this kind os satisfaction, fulfillment, longing, and hoping.

    • I can relate to wanting to feel loved and accepted by others. But I’ve learned that the best people are still human and they are capable of failure. But God doesn’t fail may you find fullness in Him today!

  10. Thank you Renee, I felt chapter 3 and your video hit home. I am grateful for all the blessings I have in my life but still long to feel loved for just being me. I have felt empty and alone for the last 8 years and now realize I am looking in the wrong place to be filled and fulfilled. I felt isolated from many of my friends since my divorce 8 years ago and thought that if I had a partner I would fit back into my old social life. I tried to run from the truth….what I need is God’s unconditional love. I love reading that I am not alone!

    • I’m saddened to read that you need a partner to fit back into your old “social circle”, though your situation is not uncommon. Perhaps this is God’s way of doing something new in your life? May you find His guidance and rest in His love today!

  11. Thank you for the visuals. Great lesson.

  12. Your book is awesome, it is written well…more real. I kind of read ahead. Right now I am in school for Massage Therapy so been having alot of studying going on there. The video was great and I know that there is a place inside of me that only God can feel. For me it is hard because like Iknow it in my head but the knowlege hasnt reached my heart. I am thankful for everything God has given me in my life. I try to live my life with gratitude and each day in the moment and take each day for what it is. Not easy task, sounds easy but it really isnt easy. I suppose my problem is feeling His love inside my heart. Not sure how to do that part yet.

    • PS. I am not a negative person, well try not to be. I am not going to sugar coat anything. I am going to be blunt how bout I feel and what I think. One thing I wont do is tell you what you want to hear, I am not going to live a lie, or pretend to be something I am not for anyone.

      • Did I miss something or did Renee not say we do not have to be perfect because we know we are daughters, wives, children, of the ONE whose love is perfect and unconditional. I would hope that this is a place where we CAN be honest about our lives, our struggles, the temptations, the pain, our desires, fulfilled and unfulfilled. I hope this is a place we DO NOT compare ourselves with each other, but learn and grow as we share each others struggle and burdens. I know I am tired of saying I am fine, when inside I am searching for things to fill empty places and holes that only God can fill. It does not happen over night, but we are all works in process, and as such we will have times when it is hard and we fall, but God will NEVER stop loving us. I know, because I have tested that love more than I like to admit! I know because God has been faithful even when I have not been. I know because my life is blessed in ways that only God could have understood and filled. I believe HE uses others to fill some of those spaces, maybe for a short time, maybe in person, maybe on line, maybe till death do us part, but we have to realize it is the GIVER who provides the gift and count the gifts with thanksgiving to find joy.
        Don’t give up! God will not give up on you!

        • Thank you Mary!
          I hope I never come across as being perfect or having it all together, because a lot of days I am still really a mess. I need Jesus like never before. We are all in process in our God journey!

        • Good point Mary! It was good to hear you say that this is a place where we can be open and honest! And, reading your words also caused me to stop and remember the many, many times God has repeatedly shown me his unending devotion and faithfulness in my life. When I start to feel sorry for myself, it is SO easy to forget that!!

    • I’m struggling with this also…

      • I am struggling also…..I feel I do all the right things, but I am just not there yet. There is something I am just not getting….so my prayer for Him to show me will continue…

  13. I have watched this twice already and LOVE it! I fell like I spent a great portion of my life trying to get that jar filled, I just wasn’t looking in the right place. I always felt inferior, unimportant, unloved…..I always felt like I was the child my mother never wanted. I always “went” to church, but it wasn’t until i was in my 30’s that I truly felt God move in my heart. I don’t know if it is because I am older now, 50 now, but I have peace in my heart. I still have bad moments but for the most part I know that the only place I can be filled up is through God. Isn’t our God so Awesome!

  14. Lauren C says:

    It’s seems God always know what I need to hear. Recently I told my mother I wanted more people to pour into me. I feel like I’m always giving but not as many people give to me. The jar example showed me I’m looking for people instead of God to fill me. This week I’m going to focus on this a lot.

    • Stephanie says:

      Yes! I have been very lonely lately and been praying for God to send some people who will pour into me. I am now reminded that the only way my jar will be completely full is to let God pour in. I will be working on removing the things from the jar and putting them back in the box so God can fill the void. Thank you for the amazing example Renee!

  15. Beautiful illustration and so very timely for me. I am quick to look for comfort from everything but the one person that is the Source of it all.

  16. What a great message! We so need to be reminded of this. Those things that we try to fill our jars with are so fleeting as you remind us. As I think of this, I am reminded of all those who do look to those things to “fill the jar” and it’s never enough…… bigger houses, cars, etc. With God filling our jars, it IS enough. His gifts do satisfiy us if we are open to Him. I also love how you reminded us that these gifts can have a priority, not a preeminence. They are gifts from our Heavenly Father who loves us very much.

    Thank you Renee!!! Praying for all of us in our study that peoples hearts will be open for what the Lord wants to share through you. God bless!!

  17. Thank you for sharing our heart. I am a person that self doubt has tormented me ever since I can remember, But I am truely done with it. A few weeks ago I made a decision I didn’t want it any more . I love God with all my heart, He has brought me through so much and self doubt has kept me from recieving all that The Lord has for me. The morning I made the decision to give it totally to God and let Him heal me I found your study. I never join on line studies. NEVER but this one was calling my name ( I love when God does that ). It has been a blessing already and I just finished chapter 2. I just wanted to thank everyone for being apart of God setting me free from this chain that has been keeping me down for soooo long. Please keep me in your prayers because I really want to be done with it and I am a firm believer in the power of prayer. Thank you Renee and many blessing your way from our amazing father .

    • I’m so thankful that you have been able to purge self doubt from your heart! God is amazing like that. I’m glad to have you join us and you will be in my prayers!

    • Lucy, this is my first online study as well. And I almost didn’t join it also!
      So Glad you are a part!
      🙂
      I’m so ready to be done with the things that are holding me back from more of Him. (like self doubt, failure…)

  18. Thank you for sharing this. You have really spoken to my heart, I have spent so long trying to find acceptance and love in so many other things. God is really working in my heart to help me understand that who I am and what makes me worthy come from him and God alone. This message is yet another confirmation of this truth. I need to look to God for confidence, acceptance and the love I need to fulfill my heart and satisfy my needs.

  19. This message could not have come at a more needed time. Since yesterday, I have been feeling “not good” enough” because I wasn’t invited to my programs Early Childhood Ecuation get together by the woman who used to be our boss. I dismissed it my saying to one of my co-workers that “it was mean” and “I wouldn’t went anyway” but as the day went on I realized my feelings were hurt. I just could not shake how it made me feel, I felt left out, not important enough and once again looked over. Once again I allowed rejection to steal my joy!

    I am so grateful that this morning God has used your video to show me that He always invites me in and never looks over me; that His unfailing love is sufficient and that I can find my security in Him.

    • I agree. Rejection can steal joy and each rejection can be another reminder of how we’re not good enough. But it doesn’t have to be. It helps me to think of rejection as an opportunity to explore God’s will in a different way. God has shown me that choosing something means giving up something else, but surrendering everything can allow me to gain a lot. He is wonderful and willing to be our gain.

  20. Wonderful ‘visual’ illustration! I love how you said we need to ‘put the things we have tried to fill our lives with back into their places of priority~ with God’s help’ often those things are things that we need to do… but I have used them to replace the one thing that is needed so desperately the COMPLETE filling of God’s unconditional love~ the love that will fill in all the spaces that have been feeling so empty!
    Thank you for the message Renee… praying God’s Word as I start my day! <3

  21. Good Morning Renee , thanks I needed that word this morning . I reminded of the song looking for love in all the wrongs places , I have been divorce for 5 years and I know i am not alone . I want God to fill my empty jars and put me with the right people . I long to be loved by partner but most of all be loved my God. I am excited about what God is doing in my life . Thanks Renee .

  22. Beautiful. I have seen this illustration before, but with a different representation of God and what we are to fill the jar with. However, I love the purity and satisfying fulfillment of our thirst represented by the water. Just beautiful.

  23. I am so glad I signed up to participate in this study. Your video visual sums up the message perfectly. Reading your book has hit home and helps me see I am not the only one who has felt the way I have. Thank you!

  24. I think sometimes God holds back gifts and rewards just like a parent holding back rewards until their child begins to grasp thankfulness for what they already have. Sometimes I get a glimpse of myself acting like a spoiled brat. Thank you for this reminder that God wants to grace us with gifts whether we feel like we deserve them or not. <3

  25. Help me, Lord, to find YOU; fill my emptiness with your light and love and acceptance of who I am at this very moment.

  26. Good Morning.
    This is a blessing…I am so glad I joined this…I am doing a group study , what happens when women say yes to God, by Lysa T…
    This , I am doing alone…it is helping me to be confident in what I am doing as a group, as with your teaching Renee is allowing me to search the things that hold me back…dealing with stuff and be confident…in my saying yes…
    It has brought a Joy within that has been lost for awhile now….Thank you! And may our Lord continue to shine on your life with his love and his word….

    Patty

  27. Thank you for the beautiful reminder. Reallyneeded that today!

  28. Ky'Anne Thomas says:

    Only Jesus can fill those empty places. I know this is truth yet daily, I struggle just as your illustration suggested. Thank you for your sweet heart for God. Your love for the Father exudes through you. And thank you for loving us enough to speak God’s truth. We can only be filled by him. Fill us Lord Jesus!

  29. I am so guilty of this, trying to find “things” to fill my jar instead of looking to Jesus , thank you so much for this reminder.

  30. Yes I have been so guilty of looking for other things & people to fill me. I am praying for God do this now.
    I am enjoying the bible study. Thanks!!

  31. Great illustration and plenty of thought provoking Word. I could see the things that I run to and who I run to o be the somebody that I wanted to e. The seed Word that I have been planting the last few days is that He, who has begun a good work shall complete it. That jar will remain a constant reminder to me. Just now, the Holy Spirit told me that the biggest space of my jar is filled with fear. Just like Sam, that which I long for, I am also afraid to have. His promises were meant for me.

  32. Great video. I find myself looking to items to fulfil the emptiness within me. The one statement resonates with me: “Put these gifts back in a place of priority in our life, but not in a place of preeminence.” I am going to add that to my daily affirmations.

  33. For several years after my divorce (& even before), I looked to men to be found attractive, desired & pursued. What an amazing day it was not long ago when I asked God to show me & help me change that thought process. Thank you for sharing this message. I love how you showed the jar still had empty spaces with the things and the statement about them having priority but not preeminence.

  34. Last night God showed me that i was making an idol out of my prayer for marriage restoration and then your video this morning confirm that God was speaking to me last night. Thank you for confirming that God is in control and all I have to do is REALLY believe he is in control.

  35. Your illustration was amazing. It really spoke to my heart. My biggest struggle aside from fear which is probably related is doubt. I am a beliiever but I find myself doubting God’s love for me. I am one of those double minded people James talks about. I have been struggling for 15 years with physical issues and my hope has been faltering. I hope this will be my time of break through. If not physically at least spiritually.

  36. Such a wonderful message. Thank you, Renee ~

  37. I love the illustration of filling up our hearts with things that don’t last. However, in order to fill up The Lord, we have to me empty ourselves first before we can fully receive. We can’t just pour God’s love on top of everything we already have and hope it all works out. We have to let go in order to receive. The old must to make room for the new. Amen!

  38. For so long I sought love/approval/acceptance from my mom or husband only to be met with critism and disapproval. My self worth had no value in my eyes. But praise God, He has given me the strength and courage to change my thought process and allow HiM to fill me with His love and His truths and His promises. This study is another way that I am submerging myself and reprogramming my mind in God’s love.

    • Charlene says:

      Carrie I can relate to what you are saying after reading this chapter I realized that for so many years I have allowed my husband to determine my self worth and felt I could only be fulfilled by him I now realize that all I need is God’s unfailing love and the damage mentally I have done to myself by allowing others to determine my self worth. I am also on a journey to reprogramming my mind and becoming that woman GOD meant me to be I am sure it will be hard but I now realize and believe all things are possible through Christ.

  39. Renee, Thank you so much for this beautiful illustration of how only God can fill us. I believe Him and know that only he can fill my empty places. He can fill the empty spot where my dad made me feel unworthy Jesus will make me fill worthy. Only He can fill the unfailing love I desire from a husband. Only He can feel my longing desire to connect with fellow men and women of Him fellow Christ followers, He has made this possible through this study Renee you are truly a blessed women of God, thank you for following Him and believing Him. I know that only Jesus Himself can satisfy me and He is all I want and need everything else will fall in place like the bible tells me in Matthew 6:33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. To all of us going through this study I know we will become SATISFIED in JESUS I love you ladies and I too wished we all could meet. Thank you again Renee God Bless You!!!

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bW5unzXXC0k
      If anyone gets a chance this song i feel goes right along with our study I just wanted to share this with you all.
      The name is The Well it is by Casting Crowns.

      • Wow Amanda. I’ve never heard this song before- I LOVE it! Thank you for sharing!!!

        What a beautiful visual Renee. A fantastic reminder of what every person needs to dwell upon. There is nothing on earth that can fill our empty longings and yet how simple it can be if we just come to the well and let him fill us with his living water. Love it.
        Blessings to everyone!
        Cindy

        • Cindy you are welcome I am happy to share the Lord anytime I can. I pray all us ladies are filled by Him!
          Bless you

          Amanda

      • Amanda, Thank you so much for posting! I’ve never heard this song either.
        Incredible! May we all go to the Well (Jesus) and thirst no more!
        Blessings!

        • Emily I can feel your excitement through the computer!! I am so happy the Lord is blessing, I must say I never thought an online study could have this much power BUT its in the God we serve that it is only possible!! To Him be the Glory!! May we ALL Blessed in HIM!!!

      • Thank you Amanda for sharing this amazing song with us!! Yes, it does fit perfectly with Renee’s message! And thank you Renee for sharing your awesome insight and love with us all!
        Let us all drink deeply from the WELL! It occurred to me that so many of the people I have spent years trying to please and fit in with are also filling their jars with the same “stuff”, in their own attempt to be filled. I pray this lesson will help strengthen me to be a testimony to the power of LIVING WATER.

        • WOW Amen!!! So glad you enjoyed the song, and thank you for sharing, I too pray to for strength to be a testament to others and lead them to HIM!! God Bless You!

      • Ferehiwot aka Tati Michael says:

        Thank you for posting that song, I too have not heard this song b4 today. So nice, and very fitting indeed. God bless you. May God continue to heal you and restore your confidence in HIM I pray. This is my prayer for myself also. Blessings to you my sister. Enjoy the study. Let’s ALL of us…. continue to pray for Renee during this trying time of her life–her mom beings sick etc.

      • dianewhittington says:

        I love that song! It really spoke to my heart and it really goes with this lesson. “Leave it all behind and come to the well”. Thanks Amanda!

        Thank you Renee for your illustration and your wonderful book. You are such a good writer! I have held out my empty jar, waiting for others to fill it, only to find that no one could fill it, except Jesus.

      • Perfect for this study. Thanks for sharing.

      • This song is perfect for the words that Renee spoke in her video. Thanks for sharing.

  40. Vicki R. says:

    What a wonderful way to demonstrate God’s unconditional love for us and how only He can fill our empty places. As much as our husbands, children, friends & families love us they can never fill the void that only a deep loving relationship with God can provide. Since I have discovered & realized what you have shown us in this video, my life is definitely full & I am happy & content. Thanks Renee!

  41. Michele Crisp says:

    Hi Renee

    Very good picture of how we try to fill the places only God can fill
    Jesus invites us to drink of his water that only he can give. Every time I am focused on him I am filled and content. When I let myself become distracted by something and my focus comes off Jesus I begin to feel those empty places and my needs begin to scream at me . Then I start trying to fill myself.
    Too much food too much TV, too much shopping, too much bad reaction to the actions of others.
    When I am looking to Jesus it is well with my soul as the old hymn says. Thanks for this message and for writing the book. I am connecting to other women who needed to hear about Gods perfect father love for them too. One has joined the study and is now on the way to salvation. May our perfect Father continue to bless and possibly save the women who participate in it with us.
    Love and prayers
    Michele

  42. Definitely an eye opener and hopefully the beginning of something beautiful for my Lord and I.I am a visual person, so I will be physically doing that jar for myself and placing it so I can remind my self . I really loved thegift box…been there done that. Thank you

    • Tisha Fletcher says:

      The visual presentation that Renee shared with us is priceless. I have been guilty of filling my jar with so much “stuff” in my life. However, seeing the jar filled with living water, just takes my breath away. I will treasure this in my heart as God continues to fill me. Thank you everyone for your comments!

  43. Thank you for the reminder I sometimes get off track ….Love your illustration.

  44. Thank you Renee for this beautiful reminder to be filled with the right thing! I saw an email this morning with the scripture of Proverbs 30:8. Keep falsehood and deceitful words far from me. Give me neither poverty nor wealth; feed me with the food I need. God knows our hearts and EXACTLY what we need. Taking the time to stop and still ourselves for God’s word to penetrate our hearts is when we can hear God speak to us. Taking the time to still is when our souls will truly come alive!! I desire and crave God’s balance in my life. Only He knows what I need to grow!!

  45. This was a great illustration. I have spent a lot of time trying to fill those empty spaces in my life with all those material things. With acceptance of people. I know deep down inside that only God can fill the empty places of my life. But, for some reason, I get distracted. Now my closets are full, my house is full, and I am frustrated by all the clutter. I want my house filled with the Lord, I want my house so filled with God, that it spills out. I want to be satisfied by Him and filled with His unfailing love. I need to empty out and make some room for Him. I have allowed clutter and things to crowd the Lord out! I am going to give some things away….material….and spiritual, I need to make room….so God can continue to fill my heart.

  46. That was wonderful! Thank you so much! God is really working on my heart and I’m overwhelmed daily by the teachings and reading in this Bible study. God’s timing is perfect! I felt such peace when you poured the water into the jar. That’s what God’s love brings. Peace. Instead of the hectic, busy, constant demands the other ‘things’ bring along with them. I pray God transforms my thinking in a lasting, life-changing way through teachings like today’s.
    Thank you!!!

  47. Loved the video! I went to a Woman of Joy conference this past weekend and heard the same message there! God is dealing with me on this subject of allowing Him to fill my empty places. Being a Pastors wife you would think I should have everything together however I have ALWAYS struggled with self confidence. I think I’m actually afraid of it? If that makes sense?? I have always turned to other things to fill in whether it was relationships with the male species (lol), my children, my job, my poisition as Pastors wife, or anything else you mentioned in the video.
    God is revealing to me that I need to look to Him and Him alone for fulfillment and love! Instead of talking to others about my concerns or problems…….take them to the only ONE that can help me!
    Praying that God will continue to help me in this struggle and me to allow Him to teach me about His unfailing and unconditional love!!!
    Renee thank you so much for allowing God to use you. Your ministry is important! I need it! 🙂

  48. What a great illustration and so well timed for me personally. It’s so easy to split back into old habits of expecting people to fulfill me in a way that only God can do. Thanks for the message. I’m loving the book as well.

  49. Hi Renee,
    Thank you for these videos. What a wonderful way to illustrate what our “humanness” naturally goes for vs what God, in His Word, tells us to strive for, to find that wonderful, unconditional, pure, Godly love! It’s through the living water that Jesus promises. That made my day! Thank you. I may use that sometime with my kids, so thank you for being so invested and allowing God to use your live so mightily! I am looking forward to digging deep with everyone!
    Agape,
    Cindy

  50. Love the video Renee and thanks for the study notes to the video, I am a note taker so loved that you did that for us! Thanks for showing us how we let other things try and fill us to no avail. Only God can do that. I pray that all of us will let God fill us and not rely on things, people, food is my issue. Praying that we will all only look to HIM.

  51. All day yesterday, into the long early hours in the morning, I wrestled with God.
    Now I have a better understanding as what part of my wrestling is about.
    I thirst for the Father’s unconditional love for me. This video gave me a better understanding
    that I don’t need to fight and wrestle for God’s love. It’s already there, and ready for me to
    receive it. I am encouraged to forge ahead in my walk of faith, one step at a time. Thank you for the reminder.

  52. Blessings to you Renee! The video is so true, I always find myself wanting more of those things that can’t feel the hole in my heart. Lately, I have been seeking God on a much deeper level. With the loss of my sweet brother 6 months ago and my precious niece shortly brfore that, I have felt a tremendous hole in my heart. I went into a deep depression and only by Gods grace am I here today. I tried to get busy to avoid the pain, that didn’t work either. One day I was up, the next down, over and over. I do have a relationship with God, but something is missing. I know what that is…truly trusting and having confidence in the LORD!! So thankful to have found you ( that was no coincidence ). Through this study and bible study, God is lifting me up and filling me up with His everlasting word and love. I am finding Joy in my suffering!! Praise Jesus!!!

  53. Thanks for the reminder! What a wonderful video message to start the day. It is so easy to forget in our day to day routine that He is all we need.
    Thank you!

  54. I loved this message! For so long I have been living for others` approval, namely my parents and relatives, who are always quick to point out everything I do wrong and how I just don’t measure up of what a Christian should be. I’m discovering that God wants me to live for Him, not for others. He is the One who will love me without fail. But I struggle with finding that place of loving my parents without putting value in their opinion of me ( which is that I’m not meeting their expectations). Please pray for me!

  55. Thank you Renee. I needed this at the precise moment I received it. You were a part of answering my cry to Jesus. Praise The LORD!

  56. Boy this hit the nail on the head for me today. Before my divorce two years ago I expected my husband and children to fill my every need for unconditional love. I have learned since then the only one I can rely on is God. Things are great but they are just that things. They won’t get me into heaven to spend eternity with God. I can not say that these last couple of years have been easy, as a matter of fact they have been downright hard, but they have been a great growth experience for me. My kids on the other hand, well they are teenagers and we have no cable or internet enough said. No really after the six months with out it they have adjusted and we have spent more quality time together. Don’t get me wrong I do not advocate divorce. If I had my choice I would have fought a lot longer. But God has used this experience to bring me to rely on him more fully. Now if he would just see things my way on going back to school we would be all set. Actually I have decided that I am going to give up that fight (two years is long enough, I guess). Bit if you would pray fo

  57. Angela 2 says:

    Good Morning Renee, Hope you are well today. I have watched the video and I so much feel the way the jar does. I try and fill it up whit everything and anything and nothing works. I have been trying to change that since last November 2012. With this study and my new Church I’m getting better days and somedays I’m not so good. But I’m learning to lean on God more and more. When this study is over I want my jar filled with the Living water at all times and over flowing. I love and Know God is the one and only just waiting for my heart to catch up. Thank you and God Bless you and people like you for ever. In Christ love Amen.

    P.S. May all the women in this study including me let God Fill and fulfill us today. Amen

  58. This has been one of the biggest realizations I’ve had in the past three years: I was dependent on people and things to fill me and it was killing me how empty I remained.

    What I love about this illustration is how perfect it would be for young girls; they could even participate by putting the objects in the jar.

    I can’t wait to show this to my daughter when she’s a little older; because her father chooses to be mostly absent from her life, I am desperate to teach her early where the truth sense of worth comes from! I don’t want her to struggle for 36 years like I have!

  59. Linda Bonato says:

    What a beautiful illustration of what we most definitely need to fill our spirits,minds and hearts! I am already growing so much from this study and feel like scales are being taken off of my eyes. As this is happening more light is radiating into me and my love and connection to Jesus is becoming so much more alive!!!! I feel like my spirit is “dancing” to the rhythm of the love that Jesus has for me. Renee, thank you for this study and may God bless you and all of the women who are partaking in this with me!

  60. Amy Mcclerren says:

    Renee, thank you so much for accepting who God made you to be and living it out to the fullest. As a single mom I at times put to much on my children than I should. With the finances and our need for a vehicle it can get so overwhelming at times. I needed to hear this at this moment. I pray constantly and I know the more I read and learn of our Heavenly Father the more I will understand. All I can say is that I trust God and that I accept His will. Sweet Jesus fill my empty places with your unfailing love, change my heart Lord, I accept your strength and I know this situation will not last forever for you Lord will bring everything together for your glory. Amen

  61. Florence says:

    My closets, my schedule, my mind and my life are not only full, they are cluttered. However, there are many empty places that only trust in God can fill. There are many cluttered areas that need to go so there is ROOM FOR TRUSTING GOD!

  62. Elizabeth says:

    Thank you for this wonderful video. I am in tears realizing how true this is in my life. I grew up as a pastor’s kid and even though my life has been good, it has had an unexpected shaking that has left me in a very hurting place. But Jesus is teaching me so much through this suffering and through your book I’m realizing how much I need his unfailing love. Thank you for being a blessing to me and many.

  63. Linda Frye says:

    Renee,
    Thank you for the video. It is helping me to look at what I am trying to use to fill the void in my life when I should really be looking for God. God is good and only He will satisfy my being. I am the one who turns to food and I know that the satisfaction of eating is temporary. God’s love is forever. Thank you for sharing.

  64. Sandy Steinkoenig says:

    What a great video. I too have looked at different things to fulfill my life instead of looking to God. I just also wanted to add that I too was to a point where I wanted my life to end that I felt worthless and helpless. Your book is such an inspiration.

  65. Jennyp1973 says:

    I have that jar! I’ve had that jar my entire life I could remember. Being born to a 16yrl old mother & 17yr old father started my jar. My father abandoned us very early on…and while my mother was still growing up herself and trying to fill her jar…I had my jar held out too. My mother eventually married a wonderful man when I was 10, however more children came & my jar was still void in places. I was the typical type-A first child…honor roll, job, sports, chores @ home…yet my mother rarely came to any event I had…and at most times I felt more the parent than she. I still rememeber the time she forgot to pick me up after being away @ cheer camp for a week when I was 16.

    For the longest time, my husband would tell me to ‘let it go’…however to me it told me ‘I was not worthy enough for her to love me that much to remember her own child’…nor was I worthy enough for my bio-father to be my father…nor was I worthy enough when my husband made be feel abandoned & alone in our marraige thru his sin.

    Only thru extensive individual therapy w/ a christian counselor, me surrendering to the Lord, intensive marriage therapy w/ same therapist…did I begin to heal those wounds and let Jesus fill my jar. Less than a year ago my husband and I experienced a restored marriage by the grace of God…after 38 years I was finally aloowing myself to fully trust someone other than myself…that was tough for me…but my trust started w/ the Lord…and He led me thru the healing.

    The Holy Spirit recently showed me I was still focusing too much on the relationship w/ my mother…to trust that she is on ‘His hook’…that I don’t need to carry her on ‘my hook’ anymore. That allowed my heart to see the relationships I need to focus on is the one I feel safe, loved, worthy, not alone…my Jesus…and my husband because I believe God gave me my husband as an example of His love & grace here on earth.

    I look back on my life…childhood till now and I see abundant finger prints from God. I am so thankful that He chose me as His adopted child to love. That He placed safe people in my life to show me His love here on earth. That I am worthy because of Him, even in the times I doubt…to have my husband wrap his arms around me and give me a ‘physical God hug’ reminding me how much God loves me makes my heart soar.

    I will hold that jar out in the future…I’m sure of it…I’m not perfect…but I may be more aware & quicker to pull it back & protect my space for Jesus not things or people.

  66. Kathe Miles says:

    I have thoroughly loved reading “A Confident Heart” and reading your messages via your web site and also by reading all of the messages of everyone taking this class wi th me. There are so very many women who feel the same way I do. And to think that I thought I was the only one!

  67. Marcella R says:

    Thank you for sharing that visual. I’ve seen you do it somewhere before, but great reminder. I struggle so hard to find my worth in Christ. I know I can’t find it in worldly things God has allowed me to go through a season of loss of job, church, health, and marital issues, to show me I need to depend on him completely. But I’m still struggling giving him everything. Depresson seems to be my best friend right now and I don’t like it. Hoping that this study will help me to completely be filled by Jesus, so that none of my problems will be so overwhelming.

  68. This is so amazing ! Thank you . Love how u demonstrated all this.

  69. I love this reminder!!!! As a single never married woman in her late 30’s (the only single one amongst her Christian friends as well) it is easy to compare and believe that life would be more fulfilling when in the RIGHT loving, reciprocal, God serving relationship with a husband. However, I need to step back and take to heart what this video is reminding me and receive God’s love and unconditional acceptance and forgiveness.

    • Jess, I am 42 and never been married and I too have felt the same way. I need to start focusing on God more and what he wants for me instead of my own wants.

    • Hi Jess and Stacey!

      I am 37, single and never married too. (I was wondering if I was the only one doing this study who was.) I have always desired a husband and children. In the last few years, I have really struggled with being single. I find it so easy to compare myself to others and wonder what I am doing wrong that I am not receiving my heart’s desires. As a result, I have HAD to turn to God for fulfillment/ answers but I find that I keep turning away from Him – not believing He can fulfill me. In the last few months, God has used a tough experience to break this stronghold in my life. The sweet communion I have had with Him has been amazing. One of the things that has helped, has been when one of the pastors from my church spoke about how we are each placed in our life circumstance – whether single or married- for His glory. He also said that if we could better glorify Him in a different situation, He would bring that about. I still struggle and question God about why I am single but I almost instantly know I need to turn back to Him instead of focusing on my desires or on the lives of those around me. He has been so faithful at filling my jar with water esp. when I turn to Him to fill it. God bless!

  70. For myself, I have been living with the void all of my life; a family of emptiness to learn from. I struggle to be full, look in all the wrong people and places waiting for that booming declaration from God and I miss the small whispers, so I am learning to quiet myself to listen for those nuances, the small voice, the things that find their way to my life to make me smile and hold on to them tightly realizing they came to me not by my own ability but because God is being patient and those small taps, those whispers will chip away at my resistance and bring me closer to the Lord.

  71. Simply put, I must decrease so he can increase.

  72. Thanks for this video. Like many others, I have spent most of my life looking to others or other things to fill my emptiness. I feel while looking for that fulfillment I have not made the best choices and often times have broken relationships. I feel that I am now at a place where I do not know where to turn. I know I have to turn to God and I want to turn to him, but how? How is all this going to work? How long is it going to take for me to trust The Lord so I can work on the other relationships in my life that are slowly slipping away? My fear is that by the time that happens, everything else will be gone.

    • Hi Nicole. Your story breaks my heart. I just want to tell you, don’t give up. Don’t let fear rule your heart. Just take one day at a time rather than trying to “fix” everything at once. Trust is a life long process. Go before the Lord and share your heart with Him. Tell Him about your fears, failures and faults (He knows about them anyway). Ask Him to forgive and heal you. HE WILL DO IT! Read the Bible daily and search for messages of His love and acceptance. Talk to Him constantly and ask Him to give you wisdom regarding your relationships. If you don’t have one, find a good Bible believing church. Join a small group or ask the Pastor or his wife to put you in touch with someone who can mentor you. Most of all, remember that GOD LOVES YOU AND HAS A PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE!!! I’m praying for you, dear sister, and know that God will come through for you. Can’t wait to hear your story of victory!

    • Nicole, by joing this Bible study you have already made a choice to turn to God. Just keep walking, talking, trusting, and believing in Him. He will fill you with love, peace, hope, and joy. It is all there and it is freely given to you. You just have to ask for it!
      Loving God, I pray you will fill Nicole with your abundant blessings. Walk with her daily as she puts her trust in you, believes in you, and loves you. In Jesus’ most precious name. Amen

      • Nicole, I am really glad you asked! I am like 1/2 a step ahead of you in process from what you have said. (*Not* saying I am better than you or anyone else)
        Trust is a life long event, and the more we trust, the easier it gets.
        The more we spend in prayer and God’s Word, the more he will begin speaking to us.
        This time last year I gave my heart to Jesus. I didn’t fully understand what that meant, and still don’t.
        God is revealing himself to me as I quiet myself before him.
        It’s not easy. My flesh always wants to do something else, but it’s worth it.
        Hang in there and keep putting your trust in Jesus.

  73. Really powerful demonstration. I’ve always thought that the theme song of my life should be : “Looking for love in all the wrong places.” I see that it should be titled “unconditional love” instead. Looking to my Abba Father today to fill the voids! I have enjoyed the study so far, thanks much for a great book!

  74. This was powerful and eye opening. Your illustration with the vase and what you filled it with opened my eyes to just what you said. Looking at the gifts instead of the giver.. Blessings instead of the one who blesses us . I think the hardest part is remembering when your feeling… low self esteem that He is the one that will always love us, esteem us, want us ..

  75. What a wonderful illustration of how God completely fills us with His Love. Thank you for this video!

  76. Cindy B. says:

    Precious Lord and Savior please help each one of us to come before you with our emptiness and offer it to you alone to be filled to overflowing with your Holy Spirit, “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may OVERFLOW with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit”, Amen!!

  77. Thanks for allowing me to join you in this study of a Confident Heart. Your illustrations are amazing. You are so right, nothing created by man can fill the empty spaces in our heart. A lot of times it’s not only things that you can see and touch that take up space in our hearts , it’s emotions( bitterness, hatred, forgiveness, doubt, fear etc). Once we can let go and give it all to God, He will fill our heart completely without any empty spaces. I really do not see how people exist without daily walking with Him.

  78. Christina says:

    I know what you are saying is true. It’s getting that truth to my heart and walking in it that is the struggle. I can see with a recent loss of a love interest (it didn’t work out) that I have to put him back in my “gift box”. (We were always friends first). And ask God to fill those places I was wanting him to fill.

  79. I wept when I read chapter 3. I felt the words were taken from conversations I had with my first husband. We were high school sweethearts married for 17 years then divorced. I realized how much I was looking for him to fill me up and when that wasn’t working I thought something was wrong with us. Well, there actually was other things wrong with us but there was a lot of me expecting him/ people to satisfy my needs. I’m now recently remarried (2 years) and and feeling I am still waiting to feel satisfied! I yearn to be filled by God! I am learning so much from this study already and come eagerly with expectation to meet with God with a burning desire to know Him deeply. Thank you for your faithfulness, your wisdom and your encouragement!

    • Angela Weitzel says:

      Thank you for your post. I am married 22 years to my high school sweet heart. It hasn’t all been sweet. Your post made me look a little harder into myself. Thank you!

  80. This really hit home with me today. I can see now that I have been looking to the gifts to fulfill and validate me instead of the giver. Thank you for opening my eyes to this!

  81. This video really hit home for me. I was not popular in school. Never got invited to school dances or prom. Other girls received 2-3 or more corsages from boys for homecoming. I didn’t get one. When the first boy who took interest in me asked me to go out with him and then months later asked me to marry him….. I said “yes”.. I was 23 yrs. old already and thought ” if I say no, will someone else come along? ” But,this video made me see my reasons for marrying were wrong. I thought he was my knight in shining armor that would fill All those empty places.

    • I can relate to wanting to hold onto a person because there might never be anyone else. But God is faithful and He can bless your marriage, even if you think the initial reason for marrying was wrong. He can still work that out for good in your life and for His glory. Don’t give up!

  82. So very true! We always think we need more only to get it then stand stand around and wonder why nothing has changed inside. We still feel anxious and frustrated knowing something is missing in our lives, we just cannot seem to find what is missing .

  83. What a great demonstration! Reminds me of the song, Looking for love in all the wrong places. God’s love is all I need to be satisfied. It saddens me that I allow other people, material things, food, etc to attempt to make me satisfied knowing God is all I need. Lord, thank you for giving me this Bible Study and video to once again remind me to come to you, only you, in order to be satisfied. Your love is the love that satisfies. Amen

  84. I have been truly inspired by the message today. I was exactly like the person you described in the video. I looked to other people and possessions to make me happy instead of looking to Jesus to full fill my needs. Thank You for your divine revelation and I ask that you pray for me and my family. I want the Lord to fill me with his un-failing love.

  85. I thoroughly appreciated the illustrations! So far in chapter 3 God has dealt with me regarding Him filling my empty places. The same way God wanted Sam to get honest with herself and Him, was identical to me. We both had to look around us and when God directed her to the husbands she didn’t have, and the man that wasn’t hers, there was nothing left but Him. I don’t want things/people to be taken. I know I need Him more but didn’t realize how much more and the “places.” I did this before, so I thought I was ok but obviously not. It goes back to being distracted and my focus shifting.
    Realizing my well is deep and dry, only God understands and can fill me. His love is significant and I want it to be enough. Not sure how to start (again) because as stated, I’ve been here before and apparently it didn’t work. I want it to be right this time, you know? Really tired of messing up in Relationship(s) – with Him and others! That’s why it seems easier to stay to myself because then there’s no opportunity, expectation of others, etc.
    He’s so Awesome though because He knows how messed up we are, yet puts us amongst who? PEOPLE! We’re all over the place!
    I want to be empty again but am hurt by all the time passed, and things done wrong. Definitely need His healing touch and love in another processing stage of life. I’m encouraged though (deep within the well).

  86. Kellie Wilkes says:

    Asking God to fill me today. Removing expectations of fulfillment that will never be met by things or people. Holding on to His precious promises with every breath.

  87. This message was so inspiring and so true. I am always looking for something or someone to give me their “approval” when all I need is God’s love.

  88. Brenda Kay says:

    It’s hard to express how timely this study is for me right now. I signed up for the online study and bought the book. Each chapter and each day’s study has ministered deeply to my heart and soul. This is a good example of how God does meet us in our time of need and He fills all those gaps. Thank you for such a practical illustration today with the vessel. That will stick with me as I evaluate my life and the extra “stuff” versus allowing the Lord to fill me completely.

  89. I am VERY ready to empty my jar so Jesus can fill it to overflowing with his living, life giving water! Thank you Jesus that you alone are enough to fill every whole and hurt in my life. And because of your love and your truth, my equation no longer has to be My performance+ Others approval= My self worth…Praise your name!

    Whom have I in heaven but you? And earth has nothing I desire besides you. My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and portion forever. Psalm 73:25-26

  90. This video was wonderful. One of the things I have been struggling with has been filling my life with other things. Mainly my relationship with my boyfriend. My pastor, mother, aunt (all ministers) have repeatedly told me I needed to let go and put God first. Not only first but have my focus on Him and when the time is right, my boyfriend and I will be together. I am a single mom and like you mentioned in the video,Ii think about marriage, not obsessively but quite a bit. With others getting married and having kids, that desire is in the fore-front of my mind. I guess, I have been trying to balance everything in a way. And looking at my boyfriend for the love that not only is he not ready to give but that only God can give me. I am from NY but I am in TX visiting my parents. My boyfriend and I agreed that while I was gone, we would really focus on God and seek His guidance on what we need to do next. This video came at the right time. I will be spending my free moments today seeking God and asking Him how to proceed during this time in my life. Thank you Renee!

  91. I love this video, I needed to be reminded that only God can fill the empty spaces in my life with His unfailing love. I felt you were talking about me as this is how I felt all my life. Thank you for this wonderful God given message, it touched my heart so much that I wanted to cry at loud and release all my hurt. This is medicine to my soul. I thank and pray the Lord for you and your obedience on doing this study with us. !EXCELLENT JOB RENEE!

  92. Kerrie W says:

    This was a great illustration. I certainly fall into the trap of looking for other ways to fill those places in my heart. Even if I have a tough day at work, I would often find myself in the mall to buy something over my lunch to help me feel better but in all reality, that may make me feel better for a short time but it doesn’t last. This was a great reminder to me to turn to God in those times of feeling empty and alone rather than trying to fill it with ‘stuff.’

  93. Denise Lamkin says:

    Renee,
    I loved the video! You are such a great Bible study LEADER for the God! I am really enjoying this study and I hope there is more videos!!!! You remind me that I need to clean up the stuff in my heart and life to be able to have God’s love fill my heart. This message is very important and I needed to hear this! Thank you!

  94. Ferehiwot aka 'Tati' Michael says:

    ‘By recognizing and replacing our emptiness with the fulness of God’s promises, we drink the gift of living water. We acknowledge our need which allows him to pour his truth into the well of our hearts’ P.60 of ‘A Confident Heart’

    Thank you Renee for taking the time out of your busy schedule to do this video….so we can visually see about how filling our hearts with other things look like, as well as the replacement…. of filling it with the LIVING water. This chapter so blessed me that I cried a GOOD cry. But the cry, was a cry of relief-or a cry that ended with comfort for…. it felt I got a good embrace from my father feeling God’s presence, wiping my tears with JOY filling my hearts. My tears of Joy cleansed me and gave me that confidence that his love is surely unfailing and everlasting. And though ppl come and ppl go, HE will NEVER leave me nor forsake me.

    Renee, I can somewhat relate to your childhood– though very different from yours. Having gone thru childhood abuse *verbal-emotional*, (N, having been told I was NOT smart, kind or caring, by my step-mother and— *believed the lie since I was a child* ) I’ve lived all of my life so far *trying-retrying* to please others, and prove I was kind, smart and caring person. None of it brought joy to me, but since I was looking for satisfaction, I often told my self I was satisfied–saying “ok, at least, she/he thinks I was a godly woman to help him/her out” but this kept me in an approval addiction and doing too much for others and NOT much for me. I gave to others, but criticism of myself I gave to myself. Even now, I have to catch myself and ask my self, ‘what is your intention? Are you serving God by helping others or trying to get the recognition for yourself so you can feel good? ‘ Are you leaving yourself out? And, though my father wants me to serve and be of help, I am learning, the only time I get full satisfaction is when I serve with HIM in mind (hope I am making sense here) HIS love is filling me so now I am learning, the only thing I would owe the world is…. not what I do for them but LOVE. God’s filling me with HIS love and loving on me so I can begin to love me and so I can serve/love in a GODLY way, with HIM in mind.

    Renee, I so enjoy your book, that I can’t stop reading it. Yes, I can’t help for reading ahead. Though its hard, I 0ften go back to the chapter to do my notes-assignment at the end of the chapters. I like how each chapter somewhat relate to the other chapters, and the references that you make, helps me to remember well what I read, and gives the message a clear meaning. Thank you so much. I wish I got/read your book a couple of years ago, when I first heard about it. But, hey, that is ok now I am reading it right. I am also, so glad for I am in a group with a great bunch of study partners–for their messages are so encouraging, and comforting.

    God bless everyone!!!!

  95. Great video Renee! Just the reminder I needed this morning! God is the love and assurance many need as life journey takes upon some unexpected roads. I thank God for you and your study it’s a blessing and growth tool for me.

  96. PAM SCHAEFFER says:

    Renee,
    Your message today was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you so much! For years, I have tried to fill up my needy spaces and am never satisfied. I want to allow God to be the Giver and to fill up the empty places in my heart that I have been depending on everyone else or everything else to fill. Just last night, I was in tears because of pain inside of me and had to stop and pour out that pain to my Heavenly Father who truly understands. Every perfect gift is from Him. I just struggle so much with truly getting this message into my soul and becoming the confident woman God wants me to be. I do appreciate your prayer, and your book has been a blessing in my life. Thank you, Renee and please keep on sharing from your confident heart.

  97. What a great thought! I am constantly reminded that “people fail, Jesus doesn’t.” I have some pretty good people in my life, but nothing anyone does can ever compare to the Greatest. The more I remind myself of that…the happier I will be.

  98. Angela Weitzel says:

    Thank you for the message. This has been a long, difficult journey for me. I feel like this bible study is a true gift from God. Via a very twisted route this fell into my lap. The disappointment I feel is tremendous. And, I let myself become disappointed in God. I do not understand the “why’s; but I know I have to let them go and let God love me like He longs to love me. I have had a relationship with Jesus for many, many years. So I know that feeling of complete love and acceptance from Him. I just have to let it (that feeling) back into my heart. What I do not know, is how to escape the pressure and stress of everyday life. I cannot walk away, I would let too many people down, including my kids ( ages 15, 13, 11, and 9). But, I cannot seem to handle the responsibility. My husband, on a good week, works 60 hours per week. His responsibility is financial. Everything else is mine. It is hard

    • Angela, I hear your pain. Life is such a struggle and as wives and mothers, it can be just exhausting. We are the warrior at home, trying to keep everyone safe and happy. I have found that the pressure and stress can’t be dealt with in my own power, it’s just too much. And, when I feel so unappreciated…well let’s just say I do a little shouting around the house. And then the Spirit gets ahold of me and I realize I was again trying to do it all in my own strength and not His. Dissapointment can fill my cup too. I will pray for you and me on that one! God bless you sister!

    • Angela, I know how you feel . I have two boys 15 and 13. My husband also works all the time only day off is Sunday. When I do things on my own I just want to run…. What I find that works for me is getting up early and being in His word, doing a couple of devitionals and listening to worship music all day. This keeps Jesus in the fore front of my mind, so when things start going crazy I feel His present more.

  99. God bless you too Tati, I love your comments and thoughts.

  100. Renee, thank you so much for sharing this video with me, this video could not have come at a better time. It’s always amazing how God working in our lives. I’ve been dealing with a lot of ups and downs with trying to satisfy others, feeling that if I can do that I would be excepted in society, and with family members. In the back of my head I always here “what’s wrong with me, I will never be good enough, why keep trying” this thought process not only effects me mentally, but physically as well. But looking at the bigger picture there is nothing wrong with me. Through daily prayer with my Father and staying in his word, being in your online study, this just reassures me that I will never satisfy others here on earth, the only one that I need to satisfy is our Lord and he will fill and fulfill my life, everything else will then fall in place.

  101. Vanessa Wynn says:

    I LOVE this reminder that only our loving – unfailingly loving – father can fill all of our needs…all of our empty places. So often, we let “things” get in the way when all we truly need is Jesus!

  102. Great reminder! I love seeing the illustration, it is a great way to remember it. It is so true too and we need to be reminded to keep this in check. I think I will share it with my 15 year old daughter too. Our children really need to learn this! I am bring my daughter to your conference at the end of this month in Tallahassee. Can’t wait!
    Blessings

  103. Unfortunately, I am unable to view the videos from your blog. I am not sure why.

  104. There’s a hole in our hearts only God can fill!

  105. Awesome video, thank you Renee. I think I’m going to need to watch it a few more times and let it really sink in and let God show me those “things” in my life that I have looked to to “fill” me. Then…the task of making that shift from “things” to “God”. I’m sitting here wondering how that transition is going to take place, but I know that only God can show me that and I can’t wait until he does!

  106. Katherine says:

    This was such a powerful message. We so often surround ourselves with all the worldly things that seem so natural to have that we forget that we only need one thing to sustain us. That being the love of God. One of my pit falls is food. I love to cook and when things get tough, it is my comfort place. I am trying so hard to break this pattern. Thanks again for the words of encouragement.

  107. Oooh! Great visual!

  108. Thank you for helping me to know what I am looking for and where I can find it.

  109. Oh Renee, how true your remarks were in your video. If only we stop looking in all the wrong placing and start looking into God’s word and study what He has to say to us we will be confident.
    Through this study, so much of what we have already touched on is things we know – we just need to be reminded that we have a source to be and feel confident – that is is our LORD (Jehovah).
    Thank you, for the time you are giving to share this study and may you and everyone (including me) be
    touched in a special way to know that the LORD, will fill our empty “jar” of life.
    Bless you!

  110. What a great video. I really appreciate the notes too. I am a note taker. Thank you for your heart and sharing. I often feel like something is missing and have no idea why, because God has been so good to me. I believe in Him and trust His promises. Thank you for this online study.

  111. Thank you so much for sharing your illustration! I can really relate to searching for things to fill the emptiness in my heart. I have been searching so long and so hard to be loved and accepted unconditionally, that fear has been keeping me from experiencing God’s unfailing love. I am praying and hoping that God will use this Bible study to break the chains of fear and to fill me with Him and His love that flows so abundantly.

  112. Isn’t it funny, that the message is so simple and so often (at least for me) we forget this important truth. Nothing in this world will ever fill us completely, and yet we continue to look for “things” and “people” to fill us when they just can’t. It is an important reminder for me as I struggle with this truth. thanks for sharing this message.

  113. I bet Sam would have never in her wildest dreams thought she would be an example for women over 2000 years later! Glory be to God!!

    • Julie – I Wow! I agree! In chapter 2 (pg 36) of Confident Heart, Renee talked about how, “Jesus could have chosen to be anywhere else that day, but instead He was there pursuing Sam” and then she goes on to explain how unlikely it would be for a Jew to go through Samaria. My immediate thought when I read that was how amazing it is that Jesus didn’t go out of his way that day just for Sam, but for EVERY WOMAN through time who suffers from self doubt, and needing to find true fulfillment and unconditional love!

  114. It is good to remind ourselves of these very thoughts frequently. I feel it is so easy for any good Christian to fall back into old habits of seeing our worth is from material things instead of the love of God. Thank you very much for the video because it hits home for me!

  115. I LOVED the example of the jar being filled. Seeing the actual image brings light to the real situation. Sometimes we don’t realize it until we see a visual image. Thank you for this! Such a great reminder!!!

  116. Kristine says:

    What an amazing video. I can so relate to trying to find something and not particularly knowing what it is. That void/emptiness we feel. My journey has been one of constant fear, not feeling good enough, never feeling worthy enough, anxiety, etc. Though I have a wonderful husband, 3 grown daughters, a nice home, etc. I have always found myself wanting more to fill my cup. Assuredly the closer I have drawn to God, the more I realize I have all I need in His unfailing love. Life sometimes gets us down, things go wrong, people hurt us and the list goes on. There are times I have to really struggle to remind myself God loves me, He knows His Plans for me & I have to be willing to lean on Him, His love, His timing, not my own. I have struggled with panic/anxiety disorder for 15 years. So I have been or become very isolated over the years. When we get to much into ourselves, we think to much and the thoughts aren’t very positive. I’m continuously trying to find happiness somewhere. When my happiness can only be filled with God’s Love, His Acceptance, His Mercy, His Grace. Only He can fill that hole I feel and slowly I’m seeing that. When I first starting reading A Confident Heart, I felt as if Renee had taken my life and written about it. I’m blessed to be able to share in this group of wonderful women! Thank you so very much!

    • I agree that when we think too much about ourselves, the thoughts are not always positive. But adjusting our thoughts and attitudes to God makes a huge difference! Thanks for sharing and may you receive many blessings on this journey!

  117. Ack. Sadly, the minute that you started talking, all I could think of is how perfect you look and remind me of the girls in my Christian ministry that seem absolutely dolled up and perfect and all put together. And that even when they do share their flaws and what not, they’re still beautiful because they seem to just glow with God’s grace. I know that everyone struggles with something and we can’t compare the worst of ourselves to the best of someone else, but it can be hard. I want to say my jar is typically filled up with “living water” but I just start puncturing holes in the jar itself when I compare myself to others and seem to not measure up – the living water is no longer good enough for me because I’m not as pretty/put together/awesome as someone else’s best. I guess it’s like eating – when you’ve been satisfied with your meal and it was great, dessert may look beautiful, ornate and great, but you have no want/need for it because you already feel so full in the amazing meal you’ve had and you don’t feel like you’re missing out on something. I guess. Thank you again for this video, it was great mental picture of what you talked about in Chapter 3!

    • I like your analogy of poking holes in your jar by comparing yourself to others. Comparisons can really steal our joy and destroy our confidence. It helps me to pray for those who I think are ‘perfect’ and God usually reminds me that those women are very human and have the same struggles that I do. It helps menot get too blinded by their appearance of perfection and look for the sister in Chist deep inside.

  118. Sometimes it feels as though those who make food for consumption, put just enough flavoring to make you come back for more….and more….and more…..we NEVER feel satisfied – AND THAT’S WHAT THEY WANT!

    HOW MUCH MORE does the ONE who made us want us to come back to the Source of “FLAVORING” for us to attract other’s to Him!! And then, not only feel satisfied…..but be satisfied to the FULL…and be so excited about it that we want to GIVE to others….not keep taking more for ourselves.

    ONLY WITH GOD IS THAT POSSIBLE!!
    PRAISE BE TO THE LORD who knows our every thirst and every need
    and GIVES MORE THAN ENOUGH!!

    All of You is more than enough for
    All of me for every thirst and every need
    You satisfy me with Your love
    And all I have in You is more than enough

    You are my supply, my breath of life
    Still more awesome than I know
    You are my reward, worth living for
    Still more awesome than I know

    You’re my sacrifice of greatest price
    Still more awesome than I know
    You’re the coming King, You are everything
    Still more awesome than I know

    More than all I want, more than all I need
    You are more than enough for me
    More than all I know, more than all I can see
    You are more than enough

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aHEm-b4IRYk

    • bobbyjo21 says:

      Pillar ~ thank-you for putting up this song ~ one of my favorite worship songs ~ perfect!!! 🙂

      • He always is singing over us and to our heart! May He bless you with the perfection of His Presence always!

    • Julie R. says:

      Thank you Pillar for sharing this song and the link. It was a blessing and prayer for me just now as I watched it. How true this song is!! I have not always lived this truth, but I am getting there again through this study and people like you obeying God to share what He has you to share. Thank you.

  119. Millicent says:

    Going deep with the Lord, finding that he is the complete answers to everything. I have found that there is nothing without him.

  120. Thank you so much for this message. I struggle with this and am discovering how empty I really am. I continue to look to my husband, children, parents, friends for them to give me worth. My husband and I have been separated by distance for a month now, he finally comes home next week, but my fears run wild….what is he doing, is he seeing someone, and on and on. I even dream about it. this is my third marriage and I have felt the pain of rejection so much I almost expect it! I need The Lord ‘s precious healing. I look forward to learning more.

  121. It’s a hard lesson to learn for many and as one sister said, some of us have to learn it by losing those things we put too much hope in. Reading others’ posts made me realize something very important and that is, while I am learning to trust God to fill those empty places in MY life, many people that I encounter throughout my day are struggling and still looking for someone or something to fill them. God’s Spirit has reminded me to consider this, to have compassion for others…to reach out and share that love that fulfills and only comes from Him. Jesus, fill us up so that we will overflow and spill over to others around us, each and every day!

  122. Thank you Renee. This message really blessed me. I have found myself really looking to my fiance to help me be confident. I see him as my protector and safe place. I am realizing that he is losing patience with me at times because he feels I should have this confidence internally. I am starting to see what he really means is I should be looking to God for my peace and confidence rather than to the “gifts”. I really appreciate you putting these thoughts into a visual representation. Your words and your actions are really blessing me and I pray that I can apply this to my life and start depending in the Giver rather than the gifts for my self-confidence and my peace. Thank you again for speaking what God has laid on your heart so that I can be blessed as well as the many others in this study who needed to hear it!

  123. Thank you Renee for this wonderful video (and the notes). This study is helping me to turn my thoughts to Christ and not my insecurities. Where you said some get tired and quit that is more like me. When I am in a group I tend to stay quiet because I feel what I have to say is never important enough for others to hear. Especially when I am mid sentence and they turn their attention elsewhere. They probably don’t mean anything by it but I have to work at not telling myself I am just dumb because I have done that most of my life and still feel that way sometimes. I feel like I am a not a deep thinker and by taking this study I am praying God will show me how to have the confidence I need.
    Thank you for doing this study and all that you have put into it for us.

    Staci I am with you too as for watching this video more times. I want this to sink deep into my heart now and forever

    • Gloria C says:

      Hi Bonnie! I think you are wrong! You are a deep thinker and I read intently every word you said! Don’t ever think your thoughts are not important! You are a child of God! You have the mind of Christ! If someone turns their attention elsewhere while you are speaking, it’s their loss. They are missing out on a valuable message. Thanks for sharing. I’m praying God will bless you and keep you as you walk the path of this life with Him. Love you, dear sister.

  124. bobbyjo21 says:

    Oh, Renee ~ Thank-you so much for this video. I am a very visual learner. I love the jar example. When you filled the jar with water ~ just like Jesus told Sam abt LIVING WATER ~ the water fills every place of that jar ~ and HIS living water fills every crack, crevice, hole, scar and tiny space in our hearts and lives. Your book and sharing have been a true light to me. I’ve walked with Jesus a l o n g time. However I have just been going thru a time of deep disappointment and heart-ache. This has been perfect for me to absorb at this time. I also truly believe in Gods’ time this will be life changing for someone very dear to me. Thank-you, thank-you, thank-you.

  125. I went through a “valley” a short time ago, looking for someone to befriend, be a prayer partner, sharpen one another, etc. God is faithful & was working in my heart, gently reminding me that He is enough! He alone fills my deepest longing & was I going to choose to be satisfied in Him? Realizing I had invested in others and we would be friends, just not the intimate level I craved, it was then my heart knew (yada) God is All. Now, it seems to be a season where others are sharing their appreciation of how God has used me in their lives! What a huge gift to my heart. God knows when to allow a “dessert” experience so we will totally enjoy the riches of His living water. Thanks for reminding us of Who He is!

  126. Your video really spoke to me! For years I have fetl that there was something missing in my life. I was always wishing and praying for God to bring me someone to love and to whom I could give my love. God never provided this. I had relationships but never married. Four years ago my Mom fell ill and ultimately passed away. My Dad was in his late 80’s and could not live alone so I made a very difficult decision to move to Florida to take care of him. I was drawn to the church that my Mother had loved so much and I began going regularly. What a sense of peace and love I have felt since I began attending. What I realized was that God did bring me towards someone to love and to whom I could love….God filled my life with love, joy, peace and satisfaction that no other but HE could ever do.

  127. Turned my computer off and on and now the videos work!

  128. I love the video , and the illusttration of how we can not fill our hearts with things people and fill every place. We still have holes that sometimes seem so big that our hearts feel so empty. We have to empty our jar or our hearts and let God pour His spirit into us and we are totally satisfied with His unfailing love Our God os an awesome God

  129. I really liked the visual in today’s video teaching. Seeing the things put in the jar, representing how I try to fill up my heart with the approval of men, bosses, people, food (a big one for me), work, but no matter how full the jar is, there are still so many empty places. THEN when Living Water is poured in, it completely fills up the jar (my heart). Seeing this made it so helpful. That is what The Lord wants to do, and only He can fill me completely. A lightbulb experience!

  130. Renee I am sitting here thinking about your video and your illustration and something very important came to me. I realized how important it was that you emptied your jar again before let God fill it. It is not enough that we just allow Him to seep into the places that are left empty around our lives, possessions, relationships. We have to fully let Him fill all of the space within us.

  131. Thank you, Renee, for this awesome reminder! Although i learned this long ago, i know that there are times still when I catch myself looking at the gifts rather than the Giver. Like most things, if we don’t make a conscious effort to look at the Giver it is too easy to look at and for the gifts so again, I thank you! Even now, I am asking our Giver to show me anything that I’ve hidden in my heart that shouldn’t be there!

    Many, many blessings to you and all of the women who are participating in this study! I am so glad I joined!

  132. This is a wonderful illustration. Thank you for being that vessel that God can work through to speak these truths into our hearts. I have forwarded this video to my dear friends and pray that they too find the value that I found in it as I watched. May God continue to bless your efforts in spreading His word… and may he abundantly fill each of our jars!

  133. I’m such a visual person and LOVED this video! Thank you so much for taking the time to give us a visual demonstration. God’s love is SO fulfilling and truly does leave us lacking nothing.

  134. It has taken so many years for me to understand this. It’s freeing to realize we don’t have to go after all these worldly things. Thanks

  135. Thank you Renee for this study. It is wonderful to be with you, these other women and God every day. God is so good that he gives us so many wonderful gifts to enjoy. I believe he wants us to enjoy our time on earth, with friends, family, meaningful jobs etc. It is when we take our eyes off God that these gifts become a replacement for God. When we turn off our hearts and only think with our minds, then we believe we can exist with only the gifts and not the giver. That’s when we feel empty. Again thank you for reminding us to be full of God’s love every day!

  136. Thank you so much, Renee, for sharing that beautiful message & lesson today. It speaks volumes to my heart (in the most simplictic way)! I am reassured that this time in my life, is meant to be just as it is ~ for the Lord is there with me and allowing me THIS TIME to reconnect w/ HIM. It’s a nice feeling (especially after you said it in your video) to fill the empty spaces (in my life). I have been given my blessings in my life and I’m continuing to be thankful for HIS LOVE everyday.
    Thank you again.
    Love & God’s blessings to you.

  137. Your video and message was awesome. I am searching for something to fill my heart. I am a Christian woman but lately have felt a burning hole in my heart. I cannot find a a comfortable place. I am so blessed with a nice home, loving husband, grown, successful children and a grandchild, but yet I yearn for something and desperately for peace. I keep wondering what I am searching for. I am grasping at everything and my mind races day and night. Thank you for your message as I search through all the tangled webs in my mind and heart. I know Jesus loves me more than I could ever imagine, but I don’t feel it. Thank you for your message today!

  138. Okay so let me sum up what God is showing me.
    1. Misplaced value – overvaluing or undervaluing whether on key relationships, things , achievements , ect…leads to the edge of the pit of hopelessness. The beginning of hopelessness which is what happens when we believe what Satan has said or others who we’ve given to much value said about us INSTEAD of believing what God has said about us.
    2. What are we giving worth to in our lives. Is this lining up with God’s economy or the worlds ( what does God say we should value)
    3. Worship (worth -ship), What do our thoughts reveal about what we are truly worshiping, What tapes do we play about what others have spoken int our lives.

    All these things lead to hoping in the wrong things. It’s misguided, false hope lead by idol worship. The Bible states that Hope deferred makes the heart sick.
    Lets look at our thoughts and hopes ….are they built on lies we have believed or on how God looks at us.
    God is the author of our mental health! I see how I have set up idols unknowingly, I have entanglements because I have given someone more value than they are to have and allowed them so speak into my life more than God. I’ve listened to the wrong voice/voices. So I have given the idol power over me…

    This is the beginning of taking all thoughts captive to God’s word. This is the beginning of sliding int the pit. I guess I’m wising up to Satan’s progressive plan. First satan distracts you ( how busy are we and what are we thinking about, or how hurt you are by someone- this is where he caught me) then our misplaced value/ worth of people and things causes hopelessness which leads to despair which leads to depression which leads to destruction. Satan wants to destroy us. That is his desire to convince us he has destroyed us. For as a man thinks so he is. Proverbs 23:7

    WOHOOO! You all can’t see it but I’m jumping for joy and for freedom sake. GLORY TO GOD! Greater is he that is in me (and You) than he that is in the world. Enlarge my steps under me Psalm 18:36

    • Monet Davis says:

      I FELT THE HOLY SPIRIT JUST READING YOUR COMMENT.

    • Hi W I felt my heart touched when reading this I want to copy this . May I In Christ Love

    • “God is the author of our mental health!”
      “Satan wants to destroy us. That is his desire to convince us he has destroyed us. For as a man thinks so he is. Proverbs 23:7”

      These 2 statements! Woo! Truth.

  139. Renee, what an Amazing illustration of God’s unfailing love. We tend to allow so many things to superficially fill our lives; and God in His simplicity shows us that ‘stuff and things’ are only a placebo, and that only He is the Real Deal! Thank you again for reminding us all that the emptiness that we often feel and the ‘stuff’ that we resort to using to fill that void, are nothing compared to the joy and completeness we get… IN HIM! I am so loving this study!!

  140. This goes so well for me with yesterdays message from Bible Gateway Proverbs 31 message. For those of us that run to our thoughts instead of prayer. http://links.biblegateway.mkt4731.com/servlet/MailView?ms=NDEyOTA0OTMS1&r=Mjc1MjUzMTk5MTcS1&j=MTg0MjczNTU0S0&mt=2&rj=MTg0MjczNTU0S0&rt=0

  141. Barbara R. says:

    “When we worship something or someone, we give them great worth in our lives and oftentimes we find our worth in them.” (Pg. 58) “We long for (their) approval because it gives us a sense of significance, but then we feel like we are only as valuable as our last accomplishment.” (Pg. 59)
    These verses have really hit me hard, and I thought I wouldn’t get much out of this study…oh, I was SO wrong and am thankful that I was! My job/position was eliminated a few months ago. I had worked for the company for 10 years, then quit to be a stay at home mom for 7 years, then finally accepted their offer to return – which ended up being 6 1/2 years. During the last 6 1/2 years I was always praised by senior management how instrumental, valuable and irreplaceable I was to the company, and how they appreciated the personal sacrifices I had made in working 60-70 hours/week for many years. It wasn’t until God closed the door on that job and in grieving its loss that I realized I had tangled up a huge majority of my identity and self-worth in that job and my accomplishments. I had lost my job, the source of my identity and self-worth, and wondered what I was going to do, who am I now? This bible study is well timed and I know He timed it! I realize now the mistake I made in putting my identity and worth into my job, making my daily walk with Him an occasional occurrence, and working late which prevented me from being home early to be the mother and wife He called me to be. I am now where He wants me to be – at home, focusing on my relationship with Him and my family, re-finding my identity and purpose in Him. I praise God that my identity and worth in Him NEVER changes!

  142. Thank you for that illustration today .It really spoke to my heart. .

  143. I appreciated that video very much. I do feel like my confidence has been so shaken because I have been putting a lot of value in what other people think about me or whether or not I perceive that they accept me. The problem with that, is that people are fickle and they disappoint us. They all have their own struggles and “stumble in many ways” as the Bible says, so this will always be a merry-go-round ride for me.

    Lord, help me see my value through your eyes and have confidence based on your truth. Amen

  144. Christina says:

    I loved the visual! It really hit home with how we let things and not God feel us up! I spent the better part of my 20’s holding out my jar to have the “wrong places and faces” try to fill it up! Then I held it out to the Lord in the beginnings of my 30’s – The most joyful and peaceful time in my life! Even through the birth of my son I let my jar be filled by the Lord! In my mid 30’s I married (to great man!) but I TOOK my jar and held out to my husband and son to be filled and have not had the peace and fullfilment since! This is something that your video and visual showed me. I have to now take my jar and HOLD IT OUT THE LORD for fillment again! I am crying as I write this because I had not even relized that I did this! Thank-you!

  145. Jennifer Smith says:

    I loved the demonstration on your video. Wow how I do at times try to fill my jar with “stuff” to feel satisfied, yet I never become satisfied! But when we do look to our Lord and Savior to fill that longing we are completely filled.. There was a time in my life that I really looked to my husband to fulfill my needs….but i felt that he never did. It caused great struggle in our marriage. Then I found myself taking it before The Lord asking what was I missing?? Through prayer and searching of the scriptures the Holy Spirit revealed to me that it was only Jesus who could meet my every need! Wow how that changed my life, my thoughts, my love, and my heart! He is all I need–Jesus Christ! I love my husband and am very thankful for him but in my Christian walk I have learned Jesus is the one I need to fill my life and His love will satisfy my longing!!

  146. Heather W. says:

    What a great word to start my morning off with! Wonderful truth!

  147. I can so relate to this message. I searched for love in so many people and still felt empty.

  148. I have been a people-pleaser for as long as I can remember. I’m 40 and it’s still such an issue for me — crazy!! I do a very good job pretending everything is fine on the outside but if people only knew, they’d be shocked!

    This study has just been so incredible so far; uncovering truths I have always been aware of in my head, but not my heart. I had consciously stopped asking God to help me with my issues because I didn’t see much change. I like things to happen *now* but I’ve come to realize that God’s timing is waaaay different than mine 🙂

    Ever since starting this study — reading these truths, PRAYING these truths — I have had a heart change ALREADY! I feel more at ease. I don’t *react* in my default when I don’t get the reaction I need from someone. I am asking God to satisfy my heart with is unfailing love and I can feel He is doing just that.

    This study, and particularly, chapter 2, is encouraging me to be filled with Living Water and not the temporary things of this world. I have a loooong way to go but I can feel God with me and I sense His joy as I take this journey with Him. So excited for the adventure!

    • Ferehiwot aka Tati Michael says:

      Rachel, I will pray for you as I pray for myself, for I too have battled this issue for years. GOD IS ABLE… and will set us free for I know….HE is currently filing us with HIS ling water. I pray we will continue to seek the GIVER-the lover of our soul to satisfy our soul, and heal our wounds. May HE be the one that we long for, may he be enough I pray. I love you with the LOVE of the Lord. Stay strong, and thank you for your words of encouragement sister. I pray ‘God who have made known to you the path of life, will fill you with Joy in his presence , with eternal pleasure at his right hand’ (Ps 16:11)

      Tati

    • Ferehiwot aka Tati Michael says:

      Rachel, sorry for the typo, I meant LIVING water.

  149. Donna Olsen says:

    Thank You Emily! I love analogies and visuals…very helpful in remembering always >”from the gifts to the giver”

  150. I have learned this lesson once in my life it seems then went back to the things of this world to fill me up. Praying I can learn to look to Jesus for those things I need in my life, put him first. Thank you for doing this bible study online.

  151. Thank you for this wonderful video. It is so difficult to not fall into the cycle of trying to find fulfillment through people and the things of the this world. There is such peace and relief in knowing that through God’s love we can find complete fulfillment and contentment in our hearts.

  152. What a beautiful message Renee! I have been under the attack of Satan the past few days and he is trying to pull me down. I am new to my Christan walk and I am thirsty to get more and more knowledge. But, I have Satan knocking on my door all the time trying to bring me down. This video really showed me that God does love me in spite of everything that I have done in my past. It also showed me that I have been looking for acceptance in ALL the wrong faces and places. I must keep my focus on God’s love. He has the ONLY unconditional love..a love that never changes. I am enjoying this study so much! Please continue to inspire women..women just like me. God bless!

  153. This video got me thinking…I always wanted to feel valued. To feel special, more than ordinary, chosen. and where was I looking to find this, in being perfect…if I could just keep the house perfect, if I could just lose the weight, if I could do this job perfectly, be the good wife, daughter…..I would be valuable, special, accepted. Even with the Lord, I feel more like He begrudgingly accepts me because He has to be true to His word, rather than chosen. I mean, why would He really want someone like me, such an imperfect Christian !! Now I know in my head that these things are lies, the trouble is reaching my heart. It’s funny, the thought that occurred to me was the one I need to be accepted by most besides God, is myself. Maybe one of the reasons God is unable (not in the sense He can’t, but that I am unable to accept it) to fill my empty spaces is because I am too busy rejecting myself. I am trying to learn that my value is in Him alone, not in anything else, not even myself.

    • I can relate to wanting to be special so I would be accepted. I had to learn that God already made me special and I don’t have to work or earn that “special status.” I think that accept yourself is much easier when someone else is willing to accept you. I pray that you will receive His love and acceptance today. Also, no Christian is perfect, not even David, and he was called “man after God’s own heart.” So take heart and rest in Him!

      • Madeline says:

        Thank you Julie. You are right, about none of us being perfect…David is a “perfect” example. I will learn to rest in Him. It’s hard to remember that we are special because He created us and saved us, not because we earn it. Sometimes I think I need a neon sign in front of my eyes to keep me reminded every day !!! Thanks for being my “neon sign” today !!! : )

  154. And now I am rereading my comment seeing all the imperfections !!! LOL

  155. Absolutely wonderful! Oh my jar–full yet empty!
    Love to listen to your voice- it is so calming, so reassuring– like God speaking through you!
    Thanks so much

    • Treasure you said it all about Renee. I too feel this way. Praise God For giving us Renee, In Christ Love

  156. Thank You Renee. Am learning. God bless you.

  157. So in need of Jesus. I had this thought earlier when I was reading, that I act as a people-pleaser so that they will accept and fill me, but it doesn’t always work. I have to please God… that is the only aim.

  158. Thanks Renee for such a timely message. I loved question two at the end of the chapter about how what we have chosen to fulfill us shapes our thoughts and actions. It was hard to admit in writing that when I’ve done this – allowed something or someone to take Jesus’ rightful place in my life – I’ve become preoccupied, controlling, manipulative, and selfish as I concentrated on the object of my desire. Hard truths but important to recognize so I can see when I’m tempted to fall into the same trap again.

    The note-taker in me thanks you for the note sheet as well!!

  159. Thank you Renee for reminding me that the emptiness can’t be filled by anyone or anything but Jesus. The more I try to use other things, the emptier I feel, because it is one less ‘tool’ in my arsenal to meet my own needs. Thank you Jesus for being enough and for making me enough.

  160. Regina Williams says:

    Beautiful illustration Renee, Thank you. I like visuals…when trying to “Do” everything (that never gets done), I forget to just “Be” at peace, “Be” in His presence, and “Be” filled with His Spirit. Again thank you for the illustration, I can see myself running around trying to “fill” my cup, when I need to rest in Him, ask and then allow Him to fill it up.

  161. I have been blessed by this study~Thank you Lord for leading me to Proverbs 31 Women!

  162. Norma Arenaz says:

    Hi! I have been struggling for the last 5 years. My two oldest, are now 22 and 19 and are not walking with the Lord. My jar has been filled with idolizing the kids, their accomplishments, their beauty, their education, their future. I found my worth in them. So when they rebelled ( both of them ran away from home at 18 with men) , my world came crashing down. I felt it was my fault, I felt so empty. Chapter 3 and this video has helped me understand that I cannot fill my jar with God’s gifts. I can give thanks for the gifts He gave me in my kids, but they belong in a gift box, not in my jar. I can now visualize myself emptying the jar and allowing God to fill me. Right now I am like Sam I need to be filled up with living water that only God can provide. I pray that one day my daugters will realize that the men they are with are not going to fill the void in their life, I pray that they will return like the prodigal son, and will allow God to fill them up completely.

  163. This video says so much. I have felt those “empty” spaces for the past several years and I am slowly letting Him fill them up. It’s taking time, but with the Bible studies, books and devotionals I am getting there!

  164. Elke Kelly says:

    I heard that story of the Samaritan women before, that is years back. I felt at that time, that I was like a robot. Only there to fullfill the needs of others. I felt empty inside. So I took part into a seminar weekend in a convent. After that I felt much better. Sometimes you have to remove the stones from the well, to get to the water. I removed the stones. But sometimes the same story has diffent meanings. So it is this time. I always, looked more or less to somebody to fill my emptyness. Although I alway pray to GOD and ask Him for guidance.I try to follow Him, although it is sometimes not so easy for me.

  165. So good to be reminded to put the Giver and the gifts in the right place. Too often I look to the gifts for my fulfillment, when God is the only one who can truly be my fulFILLment. I will let God, The Giver, My Wonderful Rescuer fill my soul.

  166. I have been really struggling for the past couple of days, but I am believing that it’s because the enemy knows that my victory is right around the corner. I did something yesterday that I did not want to do; I told a friend what was going on in my head and heart instead of slapping a smile on my face and pretending that I was okay. Her response was to embrace my confession with so much love and to offer me encouragement as I purged it all out. I told her at one point that if God would just come down and tell me that He loved me, that I would be okay…to which she responded, “Maybe He is ;)” I am not sure that I ever thought about the fact that His silence may be a loving desire for me to open up and fellowship with other believers…
    Thanks for listening! Praying for all of you.

  167. I started doing this study cause I finally realized that all the THINGS I thought were suppose to fill me up, weren’t, I know God loves me to pieces, and I know his promises are true & I SHOULD believe, it is hard to let me go of the notion that something else could possibly fill me, it’s easier for me to see this cause we can see the THINGS materially & we can’t SEE the promises right away working for us, I keep reading verses over & over, it helps for awhile, I guss I don’t have alot of faith, I suffer so much from depression & social anxiety it’s hard for me to share with others how I really feel, I tried once & of course they said they felt sorry for me, I have a very hard time making friends cause of my low self esteem & insecurities, I’m always comparing myself to others & I never stack up, I hate being such a Debbie Downer compared to most everyone else’s posts, why am I not getting it? Anone else still having some problems & doing or reading certain verses that are helping, would like to know, I live out in country, so I feel even more isolated.

    • @Zoyie I hear what your saying what I have found is to find security in Jesus Christ, to get my self esteem from him, and what his word says about me, the devil comes to put doubt and lies in our minds, that I contrary to what God says. I have found this website helpful in telling me Who I am IN Christ.
      https://www.bellshoals.com/uploads/WhoAmI.pdf hope this helps you, never forget you are not alone, even though may feel alone, Jesus is an ever present help in trouble. Our identity is only found in one Jesus Christ.

      • Thank you SO much, I printed the Who I am in Christ off already, I NEED verses to keep reminding me, it just feels so good that you cared enough to respond to my email, I so needed that today, Thanks, God is definately using you, PTL!!!

      • Oh, I loooove Neil Anderson!!!!!!! Thank you for posting this. I am going to copy this for myself as well.

  168. Wow! That was a great message! Exactly what I needed to hear. I’ve spent the better part of my life as a huge “people pleaser”. Trying to make everyone happy so they wont be disappointed in me and like me or love me. Through your book I’ve come to realize that all the people that I’ve been looking to to “fill me up” are mere humans, uncapable of what I really need.Im realizing that only God can satisfy my longings. I still struggle but I catch myself redirecting my focus backto God. Thank you for this study, Renee…..its helping me learn to be truly happy ONLY in Jesus!

  169. Priscilla says:

    As you we’re speaking on the video the song “Only Jesus can Satisfy you soul” came to mind. Here is more from that song:
    Yes only He can change your heart
    And make you whole.
    He’ll give you peace you never knew,
    Sweet joy and love and Heaven, too.
    For only Jesus can satisfy your soul.
    Thank you for sharing with us in this video!

  170. Great message!
    I learned so much about how I’m trying to replace God with possessions,and how they will always leave my heart wanting more.But if I let God fill my heart with more of him,I will never feel empty or alone again.
    Thanks so much Renee!

    • Kayla, I also have replaced God’s special space with possessions many times. It’s not fulfilling.
      My heart too wants so much more! Seeking more of Him
      Glad you’re a part of this study! 🙂

  171. It’s very hard for me to get out of the HABIT of using things/ppl/activities to fill me up, I guess I need to find Jesus as my new obsession, what’s ironic about this whole thing for me is now that I know these other things are of no worth to my worth, I don’t even want to do any of them, does that make sense to anyone out there?

  172. Caren Carter says:

    Thanks for sharing that powerful video, I know it’s not by accident that I’m apart of bible studies. God.is clearly giving us message through you, and I welcome it with open arms. I love the demonstrations from gift box to water. I. Will share that with my family. I have a lot to learn & will to accept what ever God is calling me to do. Thank for writing this book, I so love reading chapter 3 so far it’s my favorite. You are a true inspiration, and one already being blessed by being apart of it. I know every chapter will be like a new beginning, and I know that I will be fulfilled,and my confidence will be greater than my I can.imagine. thanks Lord for sending so many people to me on my journey. Thanks God for living inside of me, and thanks for loving me unconditionally. I one day to never let you go, because I know that you will never leave me or forsake me. You met rock. Love you Renee, and I will continue to pray for a speedy recovery for your mom. Amen!

  173. What a great illustration, thank you for reminding us that the things we use trying to fill those empty places in our lives does not work; and only the living water of God’s word can fill us. Thank you so much for the video

  174. I struggle so much in this area. I love God, follow Jesus but still feel empty at times. Just recently I was complaining to my husband that I feel empty inside. And how true this is! My schedule is full yet I feel empty, insecure and not confident. What a great reminder that our hearts are created to be filled and fulfilled only by God alone! So often I look to my husband and other people in my life to fill those empty places and get frustrated and disappointed when that doesn’t happen. I want God to fill me with love and assurance, confidence and security. And that’s exactly what I am going to ask Him for! Thanks, Renee!

  175. Wow. Very awesome. Long journey here after the 18 wheeler hit me. He has drawn me closer to Him through this. It’s a life changer. Now I am praying he will change me and He has done so. I am gleaning so much from your teaching. I really appreciate your video message today. So many yours spent on being accepted… holding my jar out. I am so thankful that you see what we need and have the courage to teach it. Blessings.
    Michelle

  176. Caren Carter says:

    You are my rock.

  177. Thank you so much for the Video and for the PDF
    I already posted a comment on youtube. In addition, I “Thank the Lord” for you being in my life and giving me Hope and Inspiration!
    God Bless

  178. Should be “years” not yours”. Computer is on “auto-pilot”. 😀

  179. Wonderful illustration, Renee!
    Your example reminded me how I sought happiness in all the things society tells us that we should have to be happy. Even after achieving some of those things, I still felt empty and sad. People would tell me all the time that I had such a wonderful life and should never be sad or want for anything. I felt so ungrateful that I had a degree, a nice car, great job, and an awesome husband. I just could not understand it myself. But, oh! It was not until I encountered God and his unconditional love for me that I started to feel complete. I started to realize I could have all the riches, but without my Father’s love I would always be searching for that thing to make me whole.

  180. Angela G. says:

    Renee, the video was a great visual reminder of what Jesus can do if we allow Him into our hearts. We become so concerned with things of this world, we forget, at least I sometimes forget, this is only our temporary home. We can’t be filled by things of this world because we weren’t made for this world. It’s easy for me to forget that so thank you for a much needed reminder.

  181. What a great video and illustration, Renee. Thank you so much for reminding us that our thirst can be filled with God’s living water and it will fill all the empty places in our hearts and lives. The song Amanda shared–The Well by Casting Crowns–is just super. Thank you so much.

  182. Thank you, Renee. A very special time with the Lord prompted by this study and your message today. In my journal I wrote, “a turning point”. The Lord continue to make you fruitful. Thank you also, Ladies, for sharing your hearts. Your words are just as encouraging.

  183. Wow, the visual of the gifts in the vase vs the Giver filling the vase is exactly what I needed. Thank you, Renee.

  184. I received this in an email and thought it would be nice to pass it on to
    everyone here.

    THE U IN JESUS

    Before U were thought of or time had begun,
    God stuck U in the name of His Son.

    And each time U pray, you’ll see it’s true,
    U can’t spell out JesUs and not include U.
    U’re a pretty big part of His wonderful name,
    For U, He was born; that’s why He came.

    And His great love for U is the reason He died.
    It even takes U to spell crUcified.

    Isn’t it thrilling and splendidly grand
    He rose from the dead, with U in His plan?

    The stones split away, the gold trUmpet blew,
    And this word resUrrection is spelled with a U.

    When JesUs left earth at His Upward ascension,
    He felt there was one thing He just had to mention.

    “Go into the world and tell them it’s true
    That I love them all – Just like I love U.”

    So many great people are spelled with a U,
    Don’t they have a right to know JesUs too?

    It all depends now on what U will do,
    He’d like them to know,
    But it all starts with U.

    • That’s great! Thank yoU for sharing!!!

    • Awesome poem.
      One day on a beach on the East coast of Florida, as the sun rose through the clouds and the waves beat on the shore, now smooth after high tide washed away all the tracks and castles, i felt God. He reminded me that HE was the God of creation. Each day is a gift. He keeps the world spinning, the tides in control, the stars, moon, and sun hung in space. AND HE LOVES ME! Boy did I need to hear that at that point inmy desperate life. I wish I could say I magically “got” it from my head to my heart, but that is still happening, over and over, and over. Each time I take my eyes off Him and focus on the things of this world I have to go back and be lifted up again, reminded that His love is unconditional, there even when I wander away. And this God of mine, He’s yours too. Just as He has been for women from Eve on.

    • Veronica says:

      Thank you for sharing. This is truly a blessing.

    • Love it

    • Thank you Bonnie for sharing this poem. I love it!!

      Thank you Renee for the amazing video. It is so true. Our priest shared something similar once, it meant a lot to me then and you have provided an awesome reminder that I need to allow God to fill my heart as only He can!! God bless you!!

    • Hi Bonnie thank you for sharing this is great I love it, God Bless. In Christ Love

  185. Debbie Jo says:

    I always used men to fill that empty place and now that I am alone, I use food still. I have been praying for God’s will with this situation….Thank you, Renee, for the video–what a great object lesson with the vase and toys–it really is SO simple–yet so hard to surrender completely to God and let Him in to fill all the voids in our heart, mind, body and soul!!!! I truly want this and Daddy God, with you all things are possible…..Thank you for You!

    • Me too with the food! Just last night I found myself stuffing my face and it was very apparent that I was trying to find relief and comfort in it. I yo you back and forth with starving myself to please and stuffing myself to fill that hole…I desire to find balance. Praise God that you have taken steps into victory as far as men go though! God does not despise small steps! “Do not despise these small beginnings, for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin” (Zech. 4:10

  186. Michelle Johnson says:

    It’s funny, I have been hearing a lot about getting my priorities straight and making time for people. I struggle with trying to fit everyone and everything in my “jar” and like the illustration my jar is full but I am so empty. I long to be filled with the living waters and pray and hope that I an learn to drink it in. I know I am taking the steps to do just that and like all good things it takes time. Some days are better than others, some days are just plain hard but I know that God is with me know matter what and will catch me when I fall. I pray that I can put back the gifts and take the most important gift that I will ever be given…

  187. nancy kimball says:

    I sometimes have looked for gifts to fill my life instead of the real person that I should be looking to fill my empty jar. I have been looking for unconditional love and I have not been looking for the true love that I need to look for .Only God’s unfailing love will fill my empty jar and take away the empty places and spots in my life. I need to look at the giver instead of looking for gifts and items to fulfill my wishes. I have to change the direction I am going in and do what is best to get on the right path to God. Great video and a very hard lesson to learn. I am trying real hard to do this but it is not easy.

  188. Thank you Renee,

    My husband and I were just talking about feeling unfulfilled sometimes as we get older and the things we used to be able to “do” are not always easy or even reasonable for us to do. I can’t wait to share this with him because men are as vulnerable to a world that tries (and unfortunately often times succeeds) in defining worth. But for today, I think I will just go dance with the Lord to “El Shaddai” by Amy Grant. He truly does love us and yet so easy to let other things pop into that first place for priority. Thanks again.

    blessings,

  189. Mary Hilding says:

    That video was really encouraging. I do look to other things than looking to God. Its easier to look to people and objects than look to God because I cant physically see him. Something that Im trying to remember is that God loves me even when people fail me because none of us our perfect but God himself. Something that God showed me is that I have not griefed my dads death. he passed away in 96 and I have been angry and bitter ever since.I don’t know what to do. Any suggestions?

    • Gloria C says:

      Hi Mary. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. If God showed you that you haven’t grieved his death, then that’s the place to start. Allow yourself to grieve. Get alone with God and pour out your feelings–no matter what they are. Go somewhere that no one can hear you and cry or scream or yell, whatever you need to do to release the feelings. Writing your feelings down in a journal may also help you. If you need to, find a support group to join. Since God revealed this truth to you, He will help you on your journey. Just remember you are not alone. He is always with you and our prayers are for you. Take care, dear sister.

  190. Marsha Bauldry says:

    Thank you Renee for the outstanding illustration to remind us that only God can fill the empty spaces. I sometimes tend to forget that and then find I have a lot of empty spaces. I am going to work harder at filling my jar with “living water”.

  191. Tami Meyer says:

    Wow! I have felt misunderstood and empty all my life. I have a great family, friends, now kids and a husband. I have been so unhappy cause I have filled my life with people instead of letting God fill me. I have gone through times where I am on fire for God and then it slowly fades. But during the time I remember my heart being full. I need to remember that, stay with it and never give it up. This study is my life and for the first time not only do some of you ladies know what I am going through but now I realize God sees me and really does know my heart. That even though I am one person and I dont hold alot of significant positions in my life that God still sees me. What a wonderful concept.

    How do I allow God to fill me with the intimacy I lack from my husband? It feels weird to think about God being able to fulfill that in me…. any thoughts or ideas?

    • Gloria C says:

      Hi Tami. I’ve been where you are. Believe it or not, God actually can fulfill the lack of intimacy with your husband. There have been times when I have ached for someone to hold me. One night I was so lonely I cried out to God. I told Him I needed to feel an actual TOUCH from Him. In my mind I could see Him lying on the bed beside me, putting His arms around me. I could actually FEEL His arms around me! The comfort I felt was indescribable! God truly can be our everything!!! Praying for a breakthrough in your life, dear sister.

  192. Marsha Bauldry says:

    P.S. I am also praying for your mom!

  193. Barbara in AZ says:

    Thank you, Renee for this video. It’s a great reminder of how much God loves us and only wants the best for us. I make my life so difficult sometimes for myself by looking to everything to fill me when I know it can only be filled and fulfilled by Jesus only. I see Him at work in my life though, taking things out of my jar and reminding me of this very message from Him through this video. If only I could “get it” from my head to my heart! And start living my life with more confidence, knowing, really knowing, that He is all I need. I’m so thankful I’m doing this study with you all.

    Father God, I just want to take a moment to thank you for each and every lady here. Especially thank you for Renee and the Proverbs 31 team and for being obedient to their calling to help woman live a Godly life. Lord, we are so desperate to know you and live for you. It’s difficult with all the pressures and disappointments and struggles we go through. Remind us of what you went through for us so that we can live freely, joyfully and confidently. I ask you to be with each one as we study. Open our hearts. Help us to be honest. Show us what is in our jar that needs to be removed and help us to let go of them. In Jesus name Amen.

  194. Catherine Correll says:

    I cried throughout the video…It really hit home. I understand that I have to fill up the PLACES with Jesus.I just don’t seem to do a good job at it. I will keep trying.

    • I’m right there with you. I know what I need to do. I just have a harder time doing it. We will just keep trying together!
      Have a wonderful day!

      • Me too! I thank you for your honesty and encouragement! We are all this together!
        You sisters have a wonderful day!

    • Hi Catherine You are not a lone I to full up with other things in stead of letting God fill me. I m trying to change and hope this study with all you sweet ladies and Renee will help me a long. Praying for you In Christ love Amen

  195. Thanks for the reminder that possessions and positions do not matter to God. I am challenged anew to let God fill my life with what he chooses for me, not with what I think I may want.

  196. Lydia Parker says:

    Thank you very much for sharing with me a portion of how the contents of my jar should be. I received it in the name of Jesus. May God continue to use you to be a blessing to others. Amen!

  197. This was good – I used your notes to take notes. This describes me – looking to my husband to be my everything, never content or happy complaining alot, always wanting more things, etc. I need to ask God to show me those areas and ask Him to fill me. Thank you.

  198. What a wonderful visual! Thank you Renee

    I started out my day being tested. I had one of the moments when I got to work today where I thought why am I even here… Good news is I didn’t let that thought get as far as usual. I took a deep breath and listened to Chad’s Song of Prayer. (About three times lol).

    I am learning to catch myself before I get to far down that road of doubt and redirect my thots. It sure does take a lot of concentration. I’m so thankful that even when I doubt myself I can look to The Lord and His Word.

  199. Wow! That was an eye opener for me. It really struck home with how I’ve been feeling…. I have so much to be thankful for, but feel so empty….

  200. Tina Martinez says:

    Thank you Renee for reminding me of God’s unfailing love.

  201. Venetta Adams says:

    This video is amazing, it speaks directly to me. So many times I’ve asked God to empty me but didn”t tell Him exactly what to empty me of. I”ve also asked him to filled me but there are too many empty spaces in my life. Like the woman at the well,l I”ll bring my empty jar and asked Him to full me. Renee I”m so greatful to have u in my life. I thank God for His unfailing love.

  202. Lisa Staton says:

    Renee,

    I just read about your mom being in the hospital. I pray the blood that our Lord Jesus shed and the power that raised Him from the dead will flow through your mother’s body right now in Jesus’ name. EVERY sickness and EVERY disease was placed upon HIS body so that we might BE healed. I come against every work of the enemy and every plan he has devised for your mother in Jesus name. May that resurrection power manifest in her body now for the glory of God. He IS faithful to His Word and His promises. (Read Psalm 103 – His benefits that He has provided for us that He tells us not to forget). God bless you both and strengthen you in your inner man by His Spirit with power. In Jesus name, Amen!

  203. That was a wonderful video. Thank you so much, Renee. Reading the book and the posts of others is a blessing to me. I have done the same thing – letting people or things or gifts try to fill me and fulfill me but was left still feeling empty. When I lost my job and thought I would lose every “thing”, HE showed me that even if I hit rock bottom, HE is the rock at the bottom. Praise His holy name.

  204. Wow! That jar was a great illustration. It is so hard to let go of things in the jar sometimes, but I think itis well worth it.

  205. shannon jacobs says:

    I loved this video. I saw a demonstration like this once before, but it was with rocks, sand, marbles and water. We fill our days with so many other things, that we sometimes forget about God. He needs to be first in our thoughts as soon as we wake up in the morning and and last on our minds when we got to bed at night. God provides everything we need and we need to thank him daily.

  206. Thanks so much for the video, I really enjoyed it and need this reminder. I need to empty my jar of stuff and fill it only with “living water.”

  207. Dorene MacVey says:

    Great message — one of the thoughts I had as I watched this video — if you try to look through the jar filled with all the “stuff”….you can’t see very well. There are too many things jumbled up in the jar. Kind of like life….yet if we fill our jar with Him — like the water– we see things so well. The water is transparent. Life throws many things at each of us….they kept our eyes off Him. This reminded me how important it is to fill my heart with Him first….then everything can become clear.

  208. Praise the Lord!!!! This is one of the simplest object lesson that I have seen in a long time. Basically this is what God is saying to His creation and even more so those who have accepted Him as Lord and Saviour – put Him first then all other things will be added unto us. This object lesson on video can be taught to children in Sunday School, youth camps, women seminars/conferences/workshops. Even the ministering of Word in a service. I will certainly use this in ministry as God’s leads. One thing about object lesson is that some how it remains indelible in your mind. I love it. I am bless by it. I will remember it. It is a good reminder. It reminds me of Jesus speaking in parables. He spoke that so they/we will be able to identify with what He was saying and also remember it. God bless you Sis. Other Sisters Let’s all go forward in Jesus’ Name. Love you all. Be bless

  209. Renee, thank you for this ministry and video. It was exactly what I needed to hear and see and I thank God for you and pray His blessings over you and your family, and over all of the ladies participating in this study. May each of you be blessed and filled with the unfailing love of God.

  210. Christina says:

    I liked the visualization of the video example. The items placed in the jar did not fill it up like the living water does from Jesus. A great reminder.

  211. I love this!! I have seen the jar visual before, and it was a great reminder for me. I have found myself looking for other people or things to fill the void in my life, but I need to be reminded that only God can do that!! The world is constantly telling us one thing, but I need to remember what God says! Thank you so much! Me and three of my friends are currently reading your book and doing a Bible study together. It has really gotten us to all thinking and we are challenging each other to live more confident lives in Him!!

  212. I will never look at a glass of water the same again! 🙂

  213. This video is so convicting to me which is a good thing. I personally have almost always looked to those in my life to fill that empty space only meant for Jesus. I have been through one divorce and my marriage right now is strained. I know I’m not being fair to my husband by expecting more from him than he is meant to be. I need a closer relationship with God and this study is helping me so much!! Thanks to Renee and to Proverbs 31 for doing this. I know for sure now that God will continue to woo us until we are finally to the point where we can look only to Him!!

  214. Renee, It seemed like you were explaining my whole life. I had an abusive dad and learned at a very early age not to trust and that I was worth nothing. I also learned to keep secrets and not share anything with anyone because I always felt different. And if my secret got out I would even be more different. And through out life things have happened with friendships that have made me still think that way. We have a son with an addiction and a lot of people judge you. So again I hide. And I have done just what you said, I have tried to fill myself with things. And am paying for it now. Thank you so much for explaining to me and making it so clear why I’ve done all this. Your amazing, thank you, Sue

    • Thank you for sharing. It’s unfortunate that people can be judgmental, but if I were honest, I’m pretty judgmental too. But God is not and He can turn that around. I pray that You can continue to fill up on Him today!

  215. Through some Christian marriage counselling last year, I realized that much of my last 40 years has been spent trying to search for something to fill my need for unconditional love. I had never heard it expressed in this way and its so reassuring to know I’m not alone. Thank you for your message. Even now, I have to make sure Jesus is the priority.

  216. That was a great object lesson! I often I am the only one who struggles with these issues. It has reminded me that everyone is hurting & everyone has a story.

    If you guys wouldn’t mind, would you please pray for me? My doctor has me going in for some tests tomorrow to try & figure out what is going on. Thanks-

  217. Thank you Renee. What a blessing this video is. I’m sharing it on my Facebook page to bless others.
    What a great word picture you created. That jar looked like my own life, filled with “stuff” to soothe pain and fill emptiness. But none of it ever really works. Only Jesus fills me completely and makes me whole. He is truly ALL I need.
    God bless you. <3

  218. Renee,
    This is exactly what I have been seeking. As a matter of fact, I quit my full time job July 2012 to re-evaluate what is important to me. I was wanting more, more of a fulfillment. I was always busy on the go, but too busy doing what? By quitting my job I was able to spend my time building a closer relationship with God.
    I have been divorced twice, I am in my 3rd marriage we have 4 kids ages 14,13,11,and 6. We celebrated our 2 year anniversary 2 weeks ago. My husband Eric is the one God had intended for me, in fact it was God that brought us together at the perfect time.

    Unfortunately, I need to return to work outside the home. The last 2 weeks I have been searching for a new job. It is tough, it is tougher taking this step when I really was enjoying my time with our Lord, just me and him. (From 9-3) after 3 forget it, that is when my husband children take up all my time & energy.

    Please pray for me that I can find the perfect balance between God, Husband, Children, and work.

    • Barbara in AZ says:

      Hi Janet, I will be praying for you to find the job for you. I am also looking after taking a year off to reflect and figure out some things and spend much needed quiet time with the Lord. I cherish this time I’ve had as I’m sure you have. I will be praying for you to have the perfect balance with life and still maintaining your closeness with The Lord. Blessings, Barbara

  219. This is a very cool video! It made me easily understand and understand it more how Jesus can satisfy me in every area of my life. It’s very cool I can show this video to my young children to help them understand what Jesus means that he can satisfy us and not people or stuff. Thank you Renee for sharing this with us!

  220. Great video, I love the illustration. I have taken time since I started this study to write alot of things down from my past. Things I hadn’t even though of until now, I asked God to reveal to me things that were unsettled in my heart, and I repented for any hidden things in my life. I felt such release, and comfort.. Im so grateful for this study. Yes, we always look for “stuff” to fill our lives with, and don’t stop to realize that God is just a prayer away, and yes, that only He can fill those empty spaces. I like what Dorene says, you can’t see the inside of the jar very well, because of the stuff. And His Living Water is so clear. We need to put God first in our eveyday lives, stop and pray before our day begins, I say good morning and thank Him for my day… get my husband and son on to work, and then sit and study God’s word, but There are days studying just doesnt happen right away and I feel, “blah” during the day. There are so many distractions in the world, that tend to draw us away from God. I pray for God to help me continue bringing “the empty well of my heart to Jesus, and for Him to fill it with living water, His promises, and His unfailing love…. Thank You Renee

  221. Gloria C says:

    Wow! I read each and every post on this blog today! Took me about 2 1/2 hours! What amazing women you all are! I’m so blessed to be able to share in your lives in some small way. Each of you is so valuable to God, and yet how many of us realize it? I’ve struggled with self-doubts and people pleasing a lot in my life, too. Isn’t it just like the enemy to make us think we are ‘the only one” who feels that way? What a lie! It’s so wonderful to know the truth of who we are in Christ!!! The illustration in the video was wonderful! Another woman and I are taking this online course together so we can teach it our our small group in the near future. Please pray that we will present it the way God wants us to. I’m praying for each of you that God will continue to touch your hearts and lives with His truth and grace. Blessings to you all.

  222. Thank you Renee for your wise words. As I listened to you my heart swelled w/ thankfulness as I connected w/ what you said. Thank you Jesus! Thank you for opening my heart and mind to hear the meaning in Renee’s words!

  223. This was a great object lesson. A lot of wisdom as I read through these posts. Living water trumps our stuff anyday.

  224. Wonderful illustration!

  225. This is an excellent video, thank you! I pray that I look only to God to fulfill my needs instead of others.

  226. Kristine says:

    Like so many others, I have been looking for a new job. After almost 15 years at my current job I have realized that it is time to move on. My husband and I were so hoping to move back to my home town (just an hour away). It looked like it was going to happen, he had an opportunity come his way. We were so excited, we were going to live with my Mom and I was going to go back to school full time. Today we found out that that opportunity will most likely not be happening. I feel so lost. I have been praying and it seems that this is what God wants me to do, go back to school. But now we need another opportunity to come our way.

    Please pray for direction and patience. Thank you so much.

    • Don’t give up! It’s hard to face closed doors but God doesn’t close one door without opening another. He’ll find a way for you and your family. God bless!

  227. Today was tough for me. When I first saw the title of this chapter, I wasn’t sure how it would pertain to my life, but just as God so often does, He surprised me and showed me some things I need to work on. I have been a people-pleaser my entire life. I was overweight and cast off by many peers when I was younger and when I did good things, I felt important and needed and loved. But that has followed me into my adult life where I still long to feel accepted and wanted. I thirst for the approval of others and while it fills my heart briefly, I find myself back at square one questioning myself, my worth, & my purpose and the longing creates a vicious cycle of pleasing others to lift my spirit up. I relate to the busyness you describe in your life in chapter 3. That has always been me, involved in too many activities to count b/c as long as I stay busy, say yes to everyone that needs help, and give myself as a living sacrifice, I could earn my worth. I just don’t know how to let go of that. When it’s all you’ve ever known, it’s hard to know how. I’m praying for God to fill me up with his living water so I will stop looking to fill me up with things and people that can’t satisfy me like God can. Thank you Renee, for your words, your honesty and your prayers!

    • I can relate to wanting to do as much as I can to “earn” my worth. I’ve learned to break that cycle by praying before I say yes to people and commitments. And only to say yes if God is calling me into something, not just because I would be good at it. It’s hard to turn things down and risk losing peoples’ approval, but it’s actually been great. I have a lot more free time and I’m only involved in things I’m sure God wants for me. It’s really a change in perspective to glorify Him instead of me. As He must increase, so I must decrease. God bless!

    • Right there with you.. I feel I have no value sometimes… But when I pray I thank God for valuing me

  228. Heather S. says:

    I really enjoyed this video! Just as so many others have commented, actually seeing a visual representation of our jar makes the message very powerful and memorable. I have full jar of things and people, but with empty spaces. I’m ready to fill them up with Jesus’ love!

  229. Thank you so much for this video!! I have spent my whole life filling my jar with the things of this world. I am finally seeking God. Thank you for this study!!

  230. Great video…thanks for sharing from your heart Renee. I too like you didn’t grow up with a Godly father. So chapter 2 hit home a lot for me. I realized that yes, I do have a Father who loves me and wants me to long for Him with unconditional love and to know that I am not alone. Thank you for this wonderful reminder.

  231. Stephanie Rudash says:

    This video lesson reminds me that I need to ask God to fill my cup and satisfy me each day when I pray. It reminds me of an analogy I used once when I was student chaplain at my High School and leading a chapel service.

    In the same way that God is the water that fills our the cup of our heart, God is the outlet that gives us power (or fire) for Him. I use to be in a traveling choir, and sometimes we had to beautify ourselves in Sunday School classrooms or bathrooms without an outlet. I would plug my curling iron in the closest room with an outlet, let it heat up, and then run to the bathroom for the mirror to curl my hair. Unfortunately I would have to return to the outlet several times before finishing.

    So this is the analogy: God gives us power like the outlet gives the curling iron power, and like the curling iron, the longer we’re “unplugged” (out of prayer/quiet time etc) the colder we become.

    Thanks so much, Renee, for reminding me of this awesome time in my life when I was a teenager and more on fire for God than ever!

    • Love the analogy!

    • Monet Davis says:

      I love the analogy of the curling iron. This is so amazing and awesome. I never thought of it that way. God is awesome! i will remember to stay plugged in so I can receive his power. I dont ever wanna get cold. I LOVE THIS!!!!!!!! THANKS STEPHANIE!!!! YOU JUST MADE MY DAY!!!!! : )

  232. My sister shared this with me today. I have seen this illustration before (Beth Moore)but I needed to think again about what I am filling my jar with. My is filled today with thoughts many many thoughts and concerns..wondering how all the problems in my life will ever work out for my good? Some have been going on for many many years. Thoughts on why it is taking so long? Thoughts of where is God’s love/Thoughts on quitting, thoughts of frustration. Thoughts of self pity. Thoughts of living a life I’ve never thought would have ended up this way, but am living it. These thoughts are not fulfilling and leave you with many unanswered questions. Daily I battle to “take every thought captive unto Christ”. What a battle. So not only things can fill your jar but your problems too, so much so that you don’t leave room for God’s peace, presence and grace. So the question then becomes will my thoughts be ones of trusting God with all the messes, living in his hand protected by His peace or thoughts that leave me empty.

    • Cindy, I can so relate to what you have said. And, yes, I struggle every day to take my negative, worrying, weary thoughts captive and to allow God to fill me and to give me peace. Thank you for sharing.

  233. Regina Cook says:

    Thank you for the wonderful reminder that my jar should be filled with the thing God and not clutter with the worldly things.

  234. I was/am struggling a little bit so I wrote this very quickly without allowing myself to over think it. I haven’t edited the structure or anything, lol, but I thought I would share it with you in hopes that it might encourage you:

    I am forgiven. Once was for all.
    I am forgiven forever. I’ve been freed from that fall.
    There is nothing, I said nothing that can be said or can be done that could ever separate me from God’s One and only Son.

    I am free. Free to be who I am.
    I have been freed- by the Great I Am.
    So who could say anything or do what I so fear?
    I cannot be lost, I will not be tossed, so I will go and draw near.

    I am redeemed. A child of the Living Lord.
    I have been redeemed- so what do I keep searching for?
    Why am I scared?
    Why do I hide?
    Why do I listen to those lies?
    I am redeemed, forever made clean, I will lift up my eyes.

    I am restored. My life has been spoken for.
    Oh yes, restored. A precious child of the risen Lord.
    The darkness made light, the truth and the life, oh nothing I said nothing could keep me a prisoner of this world.

    and so I sing! Yes I sing to my King- a song of -I am free! A song of blessed be! I will sing forever to my King!

    • Hi Laura that is so heart touching It had tears in my eyes as I read it. Don’t change a thing. May I copy this so I can put it on my daily read wall that I have made in my house In Christ Love

      • Absolutely! Thank you SO much for your encouragement. I hoped it would touch someone’s heart when they read it, so I’m happy to hear that it did! God bless you <3

        • Angela 2 says:

          Hi Laura Please keep writing God has giving you a gift to reach people by your writings. Share more when you feel the need. In Christ Love

          • Oh thank you! If you click on my name it will take you to my blog if you are interested in anymore of my writings 🙂 My mind gets so noisy, that God and I speak best through the written word, lol.

          • You want to hear something neat, Angela?
            I have been questioning my writing lately and then just today, you encouraged me and then a man who has an online ministry emailed me asking me if I would volunteer my writing abilities and be a guest blogger from time to time on his site. Pretty neat timing from God wouldn’t you say?

        • Angela 2 says:

          Laura
          that is great see God works in ways you would never think of. Keep up the great writings and God Bless. Amen In Christ love

  235. What a beautiful video and it brought me to tears. At 40 years old, I have finally come to this overwhelming awareness of my life long insecurity and the pattern of ill choices I have made based on fear and putting my faith in everything BUT God. This study is helping me so much right now, as I am working through one of the deepest valleys of my life and trying desperately to withstand the temptation to crusade as a “victim” and allow all hope, joy and beauty to be stolen by the Enemy. I feel that is exactly what happens when we focus SO much on what we dont have….we become unaware of the gifts that remain, the love and beauty around us….the people who needs us and the ultimate peace and sustenance of our Heavenly Father!
    I am what they call an “alienated” mom. My ex and his family have crusaded to keep me from my 15 year old son for years now with absolutely no other purpose but pride and vindication. I have kept this inside for so long….the despair, the anguish in feeling the sting of court system corruption, lack of resources, and simply fighting an earthly battle I can not physically win. Until this study, I felt myself slowly dying inside, as I have for YEARS now, tried to move on with my life, even putting my “jar” out to gain acceptance and love elsewhere, from ANYWHERE I could get it. Doing this to “fill” the void has left me on the verge of total spiritual collapse at times….to the point where my physical and mental health were severely compromised. It wasnt until recent years that I REALLY allowed God to start pouring into me….slowly filling up those empty spaces– a very slow process but every day I get stronger. Immersing my mind in his word daily has done wonders for me. We can never allow the lies of the Enemy to convince us that we are defeated! Though people may say my situation appears as though I have lost, I am now believing and praying for miracles….that my son will be spared from the bitterness being implanted in his heart, that God’s justice will one day soon bring truth to light… and my heart will be filled with the promises of Jesus and his assurance of PEACE through every trial. Thank you, Renee for your beautiful message of hope and confidence that I so need right now! You signed my book in the office that day and I have waited to read it until my heart could truly receive the message. It is serving as a daily spirit builder for me, such a time as THIS. Thank you so much!

    • I have had very similar feelings.. I am separated from my husband and he wants nothing to do with me and seeks another.. I feel am trying to seek god’s will of marriage and no the world’s exceptance of divorce

  236. This is a easy and hard lesson all in one. I think it’s so difficult to fill our jar with God because he doesn’t fill it with concrete things, nothing we can physically hold in our hands. I find that I pray and pray, but nothing ever seems to happen .. I’m a very tactile person, and I can’t hold and touch and feel and manipulate the Living Water of God .. makes this very difficult.

  237. This video and chapter 3 blessed me so much. This year I turned 27 and for the longest time I have been single and although I’m not sitting around for him to come it’s always in the back of my mind. Because I’m single I often times doubt my beauty and my personality. God has ministered to me in this area and it’s gotten a little better but there are times I still doubt. Yesterday after reading chapter 3 instead of letting my mind wander into thoughts of one day being special in someone’s eyes I began to think of God and His amazing qualities. My mind and heart began to worship Him for His amazing love and kindness, and Him healing words He speaks over me and the times, He has show Himself strong. It blessed me so much. I pray that I would continue to grow in that thinking and to %100 truly understand that his love is greater and deeper than any love any man has to offer.

    Wendy\o/

  238. Wow, I forgot how powerful your message was from the first time around. I am amazed at what I picked up so much more this time.I am growiing even more about Jesus and how he affects our lives daily. Last time I would of told you that my pitcher was only half filled and that there was a darkness vying over my pitcher. Today I can honestly say that my pitcher is just about completely full. I am hoping that by the time I finish this bible study will fulfill my pitcher to the top. I love reading others comments and seeing that I am not alone in some of the things in my life that there are other woman who feel the same way I do. Thanks for this wonderful Bible Study Renee.

  239. Today’s message really hit home for me. I have tried to make myself feel needed, wanted, accepted by what others thought of me. I thought if a man was interested in me…then I am OK! I am somebody. This is such a lie. My identity is found in Christ, and not in any….thing or person!

  240. I recently went through a break-up with someone I thought loved me. I loved him so much that when his job transfered him I also moved. I had been a window for 9 years. I trusted him. The pain was sometimes is unbarable, I didn’t think I would make it. I was so tired of trying to fix our relationship, I lost myself but, most of all I lost my relationship with God. Through it all I never stopped praying but it seemed things weren’t working according to the way I wanted. I finally surrendered to God. I beat myself down for not listening and still at times beat myself down for failing God. Learning to let go of the hurt has been a struggle. I can say “The Confident Heart” has opened my eyes thus far to how I was looking for the emptiness to be filled in the wrong places. I feel as if I have walked a part of Sam’s shoes. I’ve read that story many times but I see it in a different light. Reading so many of the testimonials has really given me strength, I love u all for your strength u are giving me.

  241. This message was exactly what I needed today. Lately I have been feeling empty and it has effected my relationship with my husband and 2 girls. Your advice and action steps are a great help. Thanks for the book and this OBS.

  242. Thanks Renee for the great visual. Every time I think I have this area covered I find myself once more looking to other people to give me significance and applause. You are correct no one person can fill us and meet our every need like our God. He knows us best and knows exactly what we need to fill those voids. Thank you again for the reminders. This book is a blessing.

  243. Chapter 3 was very eye opening for me. I see how I have always tried to fill my heart with worldly things and people. Even as a Christian woman, I am trying to fill my life with “good works” and “serving” others. I get so caught up in trying to think of what I can do for God, that I don’t spend time with Him, I don’t stop and listen for His voice. I am not drinking His living water. I’m still thirsty and searching. “I know that I am saved, but I am not satisfied.” This speaks straight to my heart. I think serving and being Gods hands and feet are good, important, but that doesn’t validate my salvation, it is a product of the love God and I share. God is still building a foundation in me, I have to learn to slow down and focus on Him. I love this bible study. It’s the first one I have ever been apart of. I’m still a new Christian, and I love the openness of sharing with women walking in my shoes. God Bless.

    • @Lori-so needed to hear this today, thanks & may God OVERFLOW your jar:-)) i wish I could somehow print this off as a reminder to me!

  244. carla. r says:

    What a timely message. Was just journaling today about looking to those around me to fill those spots or needs in me. It really does feel like that sometimes to, like I don’t quite know what I’m looking for. Going seek Him for the answer to that question over the next couple days. He is really more than able to fill my jar and leave no empty spots.

  245. Thank you so much Renee, me and my heart needed to hear your video. I think I’ve been searching my whole life.

  246. Been there, done that over and over and over. I came back to Jesus a year and a half ago and have been working at filling my jar up with him since. It is amazing to let Him fill me up. It feels better than any shoe purchase, sweets binge, or attention from others. He is the true sustenance for my soul.

  247. I remember back when God had to show me that I was doing this in my life! People, jobs, money, church, status, and even family. All needed to be removed from me so he could consume with what he had for me, I began to see what was lacking and why it was lacking and how I could receive it, again this word RECEIVE was a challenge for me, b/c I did not like to take from ppl do to not wanting to OWE them any thing in return. Once I learned to receive what God had for me I then learned and began to see the gift that laid before me, through and FROM HIM and HIM alone. What a wonderful message and a GREAT reminder when life gets to busy with stuff all over again, I need to stay focused on being filled with more of Him and less of me!!!!!!!!!!!!

  248. Monet Davis says:

    I love the way renee explains the Word of God so simple and plain. After I hear her speak i feel as though I can conquer the world. I am guilty of looking to people to fill my empty places. i use to hang out with a set of friends and as soon as they stopped talking to me I looked to people to fill me. Well, I am so glad that he Holy Spirit led me to Renee’s Bible study because this is just what I struggled with. BEING BY MYSELF AND LOOKING TO PEOPLE THINKING “THEY” WOULD MAKE ME HAPPY. I WAS SO SO WRONG. God is my strength and my source and only HE can fill those empty places in my life. We all have valleys, but in order to conquer those valleys we have to respond with TRUST and FAITH in God Almighty. I also long for marriage, but I am thankful to know that marriage wont fill my empty jar. I learned from this lesson to not always look fo rthe gifts, we should look to the giver, God Alone who is our refuge and strength .

  249. Dawn Marie says:

    Renee,
    Thank you for sharing this with us today. It was so nice to hear your voice. I really appreciated the part where you said, “Until God is enough, nothing else will be”, because this is something He’s been working on with me for a couple of years now. And when you were pouring the water into the jar, it just gave me chills. I could feel the Holy Spirit using your words to lift me! Thank you again for this message.

  250. Thank you sooooo much for doing this Bible study! I have been wanting to do a Bible study for awhile now. I need all of your prayers for several reasons. Please know that I am praying for each of you also. God is so very good to us!!!

    • Hi Pam I’m praying for you for all your reasons and remember God Loves You and knows what you need and when you need it. He will provide you with all. In Christ Love Amen

      • Hello Angela 2! You made my day! Your prayers and reply mean alot to me. I’ll pray for you also! Hope you have a GREAT evening. With love in Christ

  251. You are really helping me to understand my thoughts and feelings. I really “got it” when you were talking about your son who was looking for something but didn’t know what. I feel that way. I know I need something more but I didn’t know what. I now understand. I’ve always looked to people for acceptance and here all along God has accepted me for who I am. I know that there are other things that im going to uncover that I didn’t know I was looking for but at least I now know who has what I need. Im so grateful for this study. You are making me a better person and more important you are helping me to build my relationship with God. God bless you Renee!!!!

  252. Hi Renee!
    I watched your video and it was so powerful. Your demonstration allowed me to see how I’ve been looking to all the wrong people and things to fill this void that I have. I’m not finished reading ch. 3 because I have to keep putting it down to digest the words. The words that i’ve been looking for to verbalize what i’ve been feeling. As I read every other sentence I say to out loud “YEEESSSSSSSSSSS…UUUHHHHHH”!!!! It’s hitting a place deep down in my belly!!! I understand now!! Thank you Jesus!!!!

    Thank You Renee for being available and willing to be used by God to pen the words that give us the understanding that so much of us have been looking for!!!

    (PS – I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the note sheet as well. I’m a notetaker!!)

  253. Rosemary says:

    What an awesome video! As the other women in this Bible study, I could see myself in filling my jar with other things to satisfy me when I truly just needs God’s unfailing love! It reminded me of what an evangelist had said when he was at my church. He stated, “Your husband, friends and family will disappoint you. There is only one person that can give you pure joy and that is our Heavenly Father!” How true that is! I use to look to my husband as my “knight and shining armor” and that he could fill my heart with happiness. He does to a certain extent but I have learned that my true joy comes from God and Him alone!

  254. Tammy Haymon says:

    Wow, I really needed the reminder today about only God being able to fill our hearts. It is so easy to get caught up in chasing all that other stuff Renee talked about. This is why having a quiet time where I focus on God and His word is so important. I’ve always thought doing what I love as a career and following my heart would fulfill me and often get bitter because things didn’t work out like I thought they should. But I am reminded again today that nothing will ever fill me up and fulfill me like God.

  255. Patti Pierce says:

    My name is Patti and I am the wife of a full time Army Reservist. We have 4 children who we homeschool. God is working amazing works in our lives right now. We are investigating a possible job change. It is taking a huge dose of faith. So this study is coming at the perfect time.

  256. Such a great reminder that we need to get everything else out of the way to make room for Jesus 🙂

  257. Cherielynne Phillips says:

    All of those things in the jar can be taken away in just a moment of time……..loss of a job or death or extended illness. The one thing that cannot be taken away is the love Christ has for us. We just simply need to trust that he will fill our jar with spiritual things and not materialistic things.

  258. Crystal Rowin says:

    This video was a great reminder for me. I grew up without a dad and allows felt like I was not good enough for my mom and I was always trying to find love and someone to fill those holes in my heart. I have recently go through a divorce and I have been searching for a man to fill that hole again. This video really reminds me that its God who I am searching for. I need to focus my time and energy on our relationship and once he has filled me with his living water, then more doors will open for me. Thanks Renee for confirming this message. I am so grateful for this study.

  259. It is always great to be reminded of how God loves each and everyone of us. I am so glad that I am allowing Him to fill my empty places. There is no greater love, ,then the one You have for me Lord!

  260. Renee, I could sit and listen to you speak for hours about Jesus. You have been blessed with such wisdom and you share it in such a loving way! I agree 100% with you about how we are always searching and trying to fulfill a void in our life and when we think we have done it , we wonder why we feel so very empty inside. I cannot count the times I have done this….shopping for clothes, or going to a certain party or even thinking doing a certain thing at church was what you need to do at that time…..but it was never right….always that empty feeling like you had just run out of gas. It took me receiving a diagnosis of ALS in March 2012 to realize what I totally needed at all times and all those things I thought I needed , just how unimportant they really were. I just recently gave my nephew an awesome DVD about teenagers reaching for the wrong things to fulfill themselves, with alcohol, drugs, sex, etc…and how GOD is the only way we will be totally fulfilled. I gave it to him to share with the youth(teenagers) at his church. It breaks my heart because I see my friends and relatives doing the same as I did….thinking that all the world has out there is going to really make a difference. The sad thing is I was involved in church and so are the people I am referring to but I was not totally letting God be the leader of my life . I tried to fix and do on my own without waiting on HIM. I have seen the light…I believe that is part of the good that will come from having ALS. I just want to thank you for this beautiful book , the love you are sharing through the glorious wisdom God has blessed you with, and the encouragement I receive from you every time I read your words!

  261. Thank you Renee. I loved the great demonstration and clear explanation, what a great teacher you are! I felt like you really understand me and want to share what you have learned!

  262. I know that for me I have done this for my whole life practically and have just recently learned that it is to God that I should have been looking.

  263. Thank you Renee and all of you ladies for writting your experiences. I don’t feel as alone any more.

    • Yes, agree,
      This is definitely a safe place to share our struggles, as well as encouraging others, and making new friends in Christ ♥

  264. What a great illustration! ESP for those mommies of young kiddos who can relate to the “little people”! Unfortunately it’s not always little people that affect us. It would be a lot easier! Thank u Renee! You’ve been a blessing to remind me that God is who I need to please. Not people!

  265. This message is very timely for me…..there’s a scripture in Psalms that says, “Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart..” God showed me that He is the one who puts that desire in our hearts……I’ve been single for a long time since my divorce. I’ve had longings for brief moments from time to time to have someone in my life…..but nothing like these past 6mos. The desire is soooo strong and I have had opportunities to meet men but they just weren’t cutting filling this huge hole in my heart. I’m beginning to realize that the desire God has placed in my heart to be loved can only be filled by Him…..he began to show me this right before this study and now this week’s message has only confirmed what He has already been showing me. I so love how His timing is always perfect!

  266. Thank you for this video. Thank you for showing me what my jar should look like. This really spoke to me and where I am at right now. Thank you so much !!

  267. I too have spent much of my life, certainly my adult life, seeking something or someone to fill my needs (my husband, my children, my friends). The only time I feel at peace is when I’m right with God. And that is when I seek him daily, spending time reading my Bible, just opening up my heart and talking to and listening to Him. My struggle is, however, not having the discipline, or maybe it’s just desire, to do this on an ongoing, continual basis! I am SO hot and cold in my relationship with my Lord. I have lately begun praying for Him to place a desire in my heart to seek Him, not out of obligation or guilt, but a true desire because I WANT to be with Him, because I LOOK FORWARD to my time with Him. Life can be so hard. It is through an entirely new perspective that I view life, when I view it with Jesus at my side. I only wish I could learn to stop pushing Him aside!!!
    Thanks so much for this visual, encouraging lesson Renee! Your book and study are helping me chip away at that wall that I’ve placed around my heart!

  268. Renee,
    Thank you for this study and for today’s video. I’ve struggled my entire life filling my calendar, desiring to be involved in anything and everything I could. As long as I was doing that, everyone would think I had it together or so I thought. I have so much to be thankful for yet at times feel so empty and begin questioning my purpose. Raised by an abusive father, I never felt good enough no matter what I did. I carried that into my relationships with men just seeking someone to love me… To be proud of me. This type of behavior has followed me in many aspects of my life..marriage, parenting, work, accomplishments… Many things. Today reading through your study I could so relate to the “I’m fine” mentality. Thank you for the video and for reminding us today that it is only Jesus who can fill the deep wells of our hearts. I watched as you put all of those things in the jar. God showed me that with all those things as wonderful as they may be there are still so many gaps after we fill our jar. His love (living water) completely covers us and fills those gaps. Thank you so much for such a wonderful visual! Thank you for sharing your heart and your story with so many of us!

  269. Thank you Renee for sharing this with us. I have been that woman who has held out the jar for others to fill. Go has been working in my life teaching me total dependance on Him is what will fill me, not others, my job or my ministries.

  270. I am such a visual learner…always have been. This was big for me. I have to admit that I still have to get my book, but I knew I wanted to join this study because of your first video introducing this book. I know I need to stop doubting and be confident in God’s love when times are hard. And right now things are hard in my house. What a great illustration showing that no matter what is going on around me that I need to fill my heart w/God’s whisperings of his love and his promises instead of satan’s whisperings of worry and doubt.
    Thank you!!

  271. I have been struggling these last two years living in a different state that is so beautiful yet SO lonely. I have yet to find anyplace I feel at home or fit in. I long to be back home so desperately and have tried everything from praying, crying, begging, anything you can think of. I miss my church back home, I miss family, and FRIENDS! I have prayed for friends here and the ones I thought would be friends are only interested in selling me their product as long as I listen or buy they will call. I nor my husband never dreamed it would be such a culture shock like it has been. I have primarily only positive things on facebook now and read and listen to positive messages and some days it just isnt enough. I have never been in so much doubt before not knowing what God is wanting from me or what I should be doing. Thank you for your devotion to share your love and word I appreciate it very much. God Bless you!

  272. Loved the video! The visual illustration of how we try so hard to let “things” fill our empty hearts was powerful. I was really struck by the fact that the term “unfailing love” is never attributed to a person but is only attributed to God. And how I love that description of His love – unfailing. His love will never fail us and will never fail to fill us if only we ask. Wow!

  273. Kristine B. says:

    This video is so simple yet so powerful. I am guilty of the exact same thing. I am trying to open my heart to God and let him fill me and fulfill me. It’s so easy to type the words but not an easy task. I am so glad that I found this bible study. Doubt and insecurity have plagued me all my life. I have wanted to continue my education but the threat of failure has kept me trapped. I am now looking into going back to school and pray to God daily. With Him by my side I can do anything I set my mind too.

  274. I have searched my whole life for approval and identification of who I am and my purpose.
    All the while I was putting on a happy face and “thought” I was following Jesus and in His will, I was searching in the wrong places. I was compromising who God said I was for affirmation and finding my significance and identity in what others thought/perceived me to be. I was trying to be everything to everyone to please them at the cost of not living by my Christian values and hurting others in the process. I’m learning that the Christian faith IS intentional living. It is not merely reading your book but daily applying the truths you describe of God in my life. It is a daily struggle as I deal with depression, a stressful job, kids in college and home situations. There are so many parallels in my life with your story that I feel I’m re-living my life. I pray that I will allow God to fill me up and I will remove all the obstacles in my way to let Him fill me. I loved your analogy of the items that we try to fill us and yet there is void, but when God fills us, there is no room for more. One example of this for me was on Easter Sunday. I went to church and came home to an empty house. My husband was at work and my children at college. I was lonely and tearful so I began singing praise songs and God turned my sorrow to joy and filled my heart.

    Thanks for inviting me to be part of your study. I’m certainly blessed thus far!!

  275. Brittanygintn says:

    I’m so thankful for this study. I have to slow myself – because I keep wanting to just read-ahead! I keep asking myself “what’s God showing me through all of this?” I’ve had the opportunity to share God’s love so much over the past week through this study! I work in an orthodontic office, and we lost our boss and his wife to a tragic plane accident in September. As our patients come in, they want to “comfort” us still and make sure that we’re all ok. I’ve had the opportunity of sharing this book with so many of the moms and telling them, that God has been filling me in a new way for the past week, and that because of Him, I’m ok.

    Even though I had a HORRIBLE DAY yesterday, and Satan tried to make today the same, I’m not going to stop spreading hope!! I will continue to fill myself with TRUTH as he tries to sew lies into my heart and mind. I’m taking captive thoughts – and proclaiming truth!

    My husband’s employer told him today that they’re closing a part of the company – MY initial thought was to panic. But then I thought, God, I never missed a day of work when my boss passed away, because YOU are my provider!! So I know He’s got this too!!

    Like I said – yesterday was HORRIBLE, When I woke today, Satan tried to convince me today would be the same – not even a minute later I got a text from my Pastor’s wife that simply said “I love you, and I’m rootin’ for you!” God’s way of affirming He’s got this! He’s always had this, so I don’t have to have it, I just have to have Him!! God is just TOO good!

    Thank you for your obedience Renee!

  276. Being able to visually see objects in our life that get in the way be placed in the jar and taken out to be filled with God’s holy water makes it must be realistic. It made me really realize that I need to work on slowly taken things off of the important list in my life so God has more room in it.

  277. I seek God everyday to fill my void… But it comes back in the evening and I cry myself to sleep most nites..my separation from my husband… Which I want to reconcile… Weights on my heart.. I know God loves me and I have grace and salvation but I still feel unvalued ……??

  278. Video was great. Not sure I can go through this on line Bible study right now. Just lost my mother unexpectly and I have never felt such raw, painful emotion. Just getting out of bed and dragging myself to school to teach each day has been all that I can do. Mom was a christian, so I know I will see her one day. I just wasn’t ready for her to go so soon. I talked to her every day and miss that so much. Please pray for me. Thanks.
    Kathy

    • Kristine B. says:

      I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. I cannot imagine the pain you are going through right now. Please know that I will pray for you.

      • Thank you so much for your prayers. I feel so lost right now. Having trouble just getting through the day. I teach school (first graders) and I really need to be energized to meet their needs. I can’t wait for the weekend. It has been a hard week back for me. I know in time it will get better but right now the emotions are so raw. My family spoke with her several times a day and spent time taking her to appointments, errands, etc. I just want to speak to her again and I know that one day we will be together for eternity. That brings me peace.
        Thanks again for your thoughts and prayers. Be sure to give your momma a call or hug because you never know when it is their time to leave us.

    • Kathy, I recently lost my mom and can truly understand how u maybe feeling. I want to encourage you to trust God. He will help you as you walk this journey. I will keep you in prayer and if He kept me and comforted me doing my loss, I know He will do the same for you. May He give you peace that surpasses all understanding. Be blessed. Rest in Psalm 23.

      • Thanks so much. We read Psalm 23 at her service. It was one of her favorites. I read it each day sometimes more than once. I am sorry for your loss. I know I went get through this. It was just such a shock for my family.

    • Kathy,
      Praying for God’s supernatural peace and comfort!

  279. I want to say thank you for this video. I was able to share it with my nieces and one said she was amazed how I knew just what she needed. You are a blessing.

  280. Thank you so, so much for this study and all that you have shared. I have not had the chance to write before now but did want to say that many of us are visual learners so this video message was an especially helpful
    reminder that we need to give Jesus the first place in our hearts and we then will be truly filled!
    Bless you, Renee 🙂

  281. I was blessed by the video. I can honestly say I have tried to fill my void with many of the objects used in the video but soon realize that I needed so much more. I thank God for loving and caring for us and knows just what we need and when. Thanks for sharing… There is no greater love!!!! Thank you Lord for filling my voids.

  282. Take your masks off ladies, I did it for the first time (other then my husband) to my oldest son, he still loves me & even more I think, he has the same problems i do, which i thought he did but never talked about it, what a freeing experience that was, i can not say how good it felt, i was able to cry when i haven’t been able to for so long, it’ll be easier now to tell others, these are my problems, if you want to stick around & be my friend and help like i help you, if not, they weren’t my friends to begin with, praise God for this, now i know He truly brought me to this bible study, and i can’t thank you enough renee for doing what you’re doing, i know it isn’t going to be easy all the time, but this is a giant step for me, I CAN’T SAY ENOUGH ABOUT HOW FREEING THIS WAS, PLEASE DO IT LADIES!

  283. Renee,
    Thank you so much for incorporating the video message. It further amplified the reading. Chapt. 3 is so powerful and is spot on! I believe I highlighted the entire chapter. All I can say is “I get freer by the chapter!”
    Glory to God!

  284. cammie joon says:

    what I really love about the Sam story/Jesus giving living water/you using water to illustrate how thoroughly He will fill us, is just that…water will fill every nook and cranny, will get into every crack, completely. there is no empty space nor surface untouched.

  285. I loved this video message. I learned this the hard way several years ago when I was looking to a boyfriend to fill my voids. He felt like he was not good enough and I was always disappointed. I now know that only Jesus can fill me the way I need to be filled and I am forever grateful.

  286. I want to be filled with The Living Water and know without doubt I’m filled. I don’t know that feeling….

  287. I loved the message today. I’m a very visual person so seeing the visual was a great way to help everything sink in a little more.

  288. Donna J Spring says:

    So what I needed to hear and seeing your beautiful face actually speaking the words made them seem even sweeter. How hard I have struggled for years trying to fill that void and just like you illustrated….never feeling full. Thank you for that great illustration and your tender words that help us to know that we ALL struggle with that same issue but giving us the confidence to go to our Heavenly Father and ask HIM to fill us!

  289. Charlene says:

    Thanks for the great video. What a great illustration of how we try to fill our jars with worldly possessions and people, and yet we are still not fullfilled and completley satisfied , yet when you filled the jar with the water representing Jesus there was not a single space left void. Jesus does fullfill our lives we just need to put our trust and hope in him and not just believe IN him but believe HIM( like chapter 1 states) that he will be there for us and fill our needs and love us for the women we truley are .

  290. Julie E. says:

    I realized from watching this video, that I too, have looked to so many people and things over my life to fill me up. I just recently found Jesus and this is all so new to me but it makes so much sense. It’s no wonder I never felt fulfilled or satisfied. I now realize that only Jesus can do this for me. Thank you for this Bible Study- I am learning so much from it and all the wonderful comments posted by everyone.

  291. What a wonderful visual representation of the concept you want us to learn, Renee! I love how it’s simply put, so that we realize it’s attainable and doable for all of us. I will think of the jar when I need a daily reminder of what I should be filling mine with. Thank you!

  292. RUTHONA WASINGER says:

    I REALLY RELATED TO TODAY’S POST. I ALWAYS THINK THAT EVERY NEW TYPE OF MAKEUP
    THAT COMES OUT WILL BE THE ONE THAT WILL REALLY MAKE ME LOOK “GOOD ENOUGH”.

  293. This is such a great study, and Renee’s video just helped drive home the truths in her book that we all need to hold in our minds and hearts – and never forget. We all need a ‘confident heart’ so that we can share Christ with others, and battle the enemy – and put him in his place!
    God bless you all my sisters!

  294. I really liked watching the video. Having the hand outs are a great addition and are an awesome learning tool to have. Watching the video helped drive home and reiterate the message from chapter 3. Thank you Renee for the video and handouts!

    I have been so guilty of looking to worldly possessions and relationships to fulfill me. As I was reading this chapter and watching the video I kept thinking to myself, “Yup, I’ve looked to that to fulfill me before.” I once allowed the amount in the checkbook dictate my thoughts and attitudes. More so, I allowed it to place value on me as a person. Through my walk with Christ, I have surrendered that to Him and now I no longer find comfort or value in how much is in the checkbook. (I could give many more examples of how I have looked to worldly possessions and relationships to fulfill me.)

    This past year, I have recommitted to doing life with the Lord, and through my church, women’s Bible Study, reading, and other resources (just like this online study) I have “turned from my wicked ways” (2 Chronicles 7:14) and am following Him. I am mindfully choosing to look to Him to fill and fulfill me. Doing so requires continual effort and obedience. The results bring peace and assurance in Him. I’m happy to say that I now praise God for providing the funds that are in my checkbook instead of desiring a “bigger bank account.” Thank you Lord!!

  295. Annette D. says:

    I’m so glad I took the time this morning before to work to watch the video!! What a strong message! I have been trying to “let go” of how a co-worker makes me feel in the things that they do. It’s so hurtful when people seem to go out of their way to be hurtful and not forthright. While this subject is a little off-topic to the message, Renee is reminding me to turn to God and know that I don’t have the power to change this person and I should pray for them.

  296. God, you continue to amaze (& love) me with your tenderness and compassion and offerings of resolution to our aching hearts. Thank YOU, first, Father, for speaking here in ‘this room’ of ladies and for the words you share with us through Renee – and all of these precious ‘sisters.’ Praise Your Name Father

    SO many of us have SO many of the same daily battles…. being filled up this morning, for this day anyway, as it is a daily need and desire (Ta’avah)!

  297. Jilliandee says:

    This video really spoke to my heart.
    My love for my Lord grows more deeply as I long to know Him more and trust He will supply my needs, not the world to which I long to belong.
    I desire His unfailing love and have to remind myself to let go of the things I am tring to fill my jar with that only cause frustration, anxiety, and disappointment.
    Thank you for this wonderful reminder…

  298. I love the illustration of the empty jar being filled with “stuff” and then with the Living Water. I made my profession of faith when I was ten years old but now at 61, I am learning afresh and anew that Jesus is my “all in all” and He is everything I need. I am for the first time in my life really becoming a confident woman in Christ. Thank you !

  299. Thank you Renee for sharing such a beautiful message. It is so true that I try to fill up so many spaces with material things and people who I think can fill me. God has shown me that it is truly Him I seek and no one person or thing can ever take His place in my heart and in my life. It’s funny for years I would think ” Oh, well this new SUV is going to be great!” only to find as soon as we drove it off the lot I still felt empty even though my friends and family thought it was a great thing. Or the new house, the bigger house, still empty! The new job, still empty! New clothes? Nope empty. It wasn’t until last August when i started having panic/anxiety attacks that I realized only God could fill me, He was what I needed all along not all the “junk” in life just Him and his unconditional, powerful, everlasting love for me! Amazing and overwhelming all at once. I cried tears for joy then tears of unbelief. I’m still a work in progress but what a great work I am with God as my potter! Thank you for this study for your book! Thank you for acknowledging that I’m not the only one who tries to fill the empty spaces with empty things. God bless you and this study and all the women in it!

  300. This is all so true to me . I realize how much I desire love in all the wrong places. If I can just learn to let God fill my empty places and realize after I do that my life will be filled with HIM not the material things. I so hope this study teaches me to let those things go and stop trying so hard for the material things and try harder to let God fill my empty places with HIS love!

  301. I am enjoying the book very much & it has a great message. This may be a little off topic but today I am really struggling with my husband/best friend & soulmate working 7000 miles away in Afghanistan. He has been away almost 5 YEARS & the last 3 weeks I have been so down & in tears because of our separation. I have read, prayed, cried & talked to God over & over about how we are to work on our marriage this far apart. To come home requires a local job & there isn’t much good news on that. And of course he needs to find something in his job skill. I don’t work, have no small kids & the days, weeks & months drag by while I wait to see him again. We see each other every 6 months. SO we are together 60 days a year & apart 305 & it’s killing me. I feel like I have no one to talk to who can begin to understand the pain. I know God has the solution & it will happen in his time, but being a normal female with emotions I find it hard to cope lately. I hear women complain if their spouse is away for a weekend. I think Oh you have no idea. I find myself staying home, & avoiding people who can only say Oh that must be hard, or I bet he will be home soon. Two years ago wasn’t soon enough. When asked at church how am I – I am faking a smile to say Oh I’m fine while fighting back the tears. I pray yet feel like God has my calls on hold. It’s like I am a broken record with my prayers. I pray my hearts desire & ask for comfort & strength & I STILL feel empty inside. Maybe someone has some advice.

    • I can’t begin to imagine what you are going though, so I don’t really have advice, but please know that I am praying for you and wishing you the best.

  302. I really enjoyed this chapter very much. “A confident heart is found in a woman who knows beyond the shadow of a doubt that she is loved no matter what. Lasting security comes when we bring the empty well of our hearts to Jesus and ask Him to fill and fulfill us with the security of His unfailing love.” This is an awesome statement and one that can be very difficult for those that have been touched by some sort of abuse in their lives. Always seeking that unfailing love in so many different places. So very sad but they have to know that God’s unconditional love is all that we need. It does not come easily but God waits patiently for us to say enough is enough and seek Him in every aspect of our lives. Through His unconditional love we to can love unconditionally and find peace and comfort in that. Thank you Renee for laying your life out so that others may see and know His unfailing love. God has asked me to write a book called “Unconditional Love Hurts” I am anxious to see where it leads.

  303. patricia swindle says:

    Love it! God is sharing with me that if my heart is full with anxiety, fear, sadness that there is no room for Him to fill it with joy, love, happiness. I am now searching my heart because I know I am full of worry, fear and anxiety since I lost my job of 15 years. My job meant so much to me. I become more than I ever thought and made more money than I could ever believe. now it is gone. I have often asked why He took it away from me. After all, He gave it to me. I believe He took it away so that I can be where I am today. Married, with children, supporting my husband and kids and yet, He is still giving me a voice, still allowing me to build a business. It is a slow process. I am scared, worried, full of doubt; however, I realize that I must let all of that go so that He can continue in me the work He started. Wow. I am amazed by His love, His timing, His everything. Patricia

  304. Great message. So true, we look way to much on buying material things that only bring us temporary comfort. I’m learning everyday, it’s just stuff and I don’t need it and it will not make me happy or whole. Thanking God everyday for what I have and not what I have, cuz what I have is him in my life.

  305. Renee, that was a powerful illustration. At first I thought “Oh, I’ve seen this before ” but then I guess the Holy Spirit began to break through my jadedness. I was thinking about all the remaining empty space and thought you would fill it with water to fill in the gaps. Then you emptied the jar! It struck me that God doesn’t want to just fill in the gaps, He wants to fill the total emptiness and have all the “stuff” be blessings and things that we hang on to loosely – they aren’t our identity. Now if I can relinquish control and trust and allow God to make this a reality in my life. : )

  306. What a great video! When I moved from the UK to the US 10 years ago, I gave up the familiarity of everything I knew, my home, my work, my friends, my church, and most of all my family. I married my true love but he became so much more than that as I felt alienated from all of the other things and had to “start again” on a new continent creating the same things here. I think I put my husband before ANYTHING in my life because I needed him so much and he was willing to be what I needed so that made it easier. I always knew the Lord and that He would never leave me, but personal issues between me and God made me alienate him also. I have since realized that HE is the one true love that will NEVER let me down and be EVERYTHING that I need, I am learning to put my husband back in the “safe box” and allow the Lord to be the one who fills my jar. Of course now I have the other things too that I had once left behind, but what a great reminder in this video that Jesus STILL must be the one to fill my jar and not make the mistake of putting him in the box and other things in the jar.

  307. Great video. I yearn to be to the place where I am completely fill with Jesus. I am still at the stage where I am trying to fill my jar. Thank you for the reminder.

  308. Unfailing love… Only available to us from God…. But truly available to us from God. It takes us so long to figure out that only He can fill those places. I am still salvoring the connection of the verses in John about eternal life and what that means. I want to “get it” to my last cell.

  309. Great video! Great message! Great encourager! Keep up the great work for the Lord! 🙂

  310. Reading through these comments I am just overwhelmed. I pray for each of the ladies participating in this study that God would move in your lives in a mighty way. May He be the only thing we choose to fill our lives with because that is the only way we will be fulfilled. Thank you for this wonderful video, Renee. You are touching and changing countless lives as God is working through you. Continuing to keep you in my prayers as well.

  311. Marcia B. says:

    Thank you for today’s video. It is just what I needed to hear today, as I am feeling a bit rejected by important people in my life. First and foremost, I need to look to God to fill me completely. He must be my all in all. He must be more than enough. I prayed and asked Him to fill me with all that I need, and I know He will help me be confident in Him alone, not relying on others to affirm me. Thank you, Jesus.

  312. I really enjoyed the video message. Actually seeing the things going into the jar provided such a wonderful visual for how we look for fulfillment in everything else first when Christ is the foundation and everything builds from there. It is my desire to become confident in Christ and to find my value in Him.

  313. Sarah S. says:

    I love this example. Far to often than I’d like to admit, I have filled my jar with “stuff” to fill the void in my life. I’ve noticed that it’s not just stuff like people or positions etc. A lot of times it’s feelings that fill my jar. Fear, anxiety, worry, frustration, anger, etc. I’m so glad that God is loving and understanding and PATIENT. It’s not easy to let go of all of the “stuff”. We cling to it because it gives us a sense of security and control….but it’s a false sense of security and it’s a lack of control…self-control. We gobble up anything and everything that gives us that sense of “security” & “control” and when it doesn’t fulfill our needs we look for something else. I was thinking of the jar filled with stuff. I was imagining that God was pouring Himself into that full jar and all the “stuff” floated to the top and spilled out. He took the place of all the stuff and completely filled the jar with His unconditional love. We can see the stuff but we are so filled with His love that we don’t have to let it back in. He has quenched our thirst.

  314. Carol Hoffman says:

    I am in a season of loss. Both of my daughters/grand kids have moved away with husbands for new jobs in ministry. My Dad passed away and just a couple of weeks ago my best friend died of a short battle with cancer. Sorrow upon sorrow as I adjust to a new normal ………..but learning truly He is the One who fills my life….”.Satisfy me in the morning with your unfailing love ! ” I have been mediating on this verse this week….and it is now on bathroom mirror and chalkboard in great room. Constant reminder to look to Him for the holes in my heart where people once occupied. Thanks for the video !

  315. Hi Renee,

    I love the jar and water illustration. Jesus is our living water. Like the Samaritan woman, I need to be honest with several things going on in my life and my heart that only God can heal.

    Thank You

  316. A powerful message in the video. I have a hard time expressing my feelings and I hope that you will be able to understand what I am saying. I have questioned many why was I even born and then have tried to fill my life with things that I thought would bring happiness. And then I would try to fill the emptiness with work and other than getting totally exhausted I found that it too failed to meet my needs. My family I grew up with live on the east coast and I live in the mid west and so I don’t get a chance to visit them like I would like. This week the Lord has been reminding me of a time of learning and how I was starting to grow. I just want to continue to grow in the Lord and have Him fill the empty places in my life and to guide me in all that I should be doing. I know that He loves me and yet I feel so unworthy of that love sometimes. Didn’t have a very good childhood as I always felt like I wasn’t good enough. Thank you Renee for taking the time to teach us and to help us with what God has shown you.

  317. TJ Ellis says:

    Thank you for making the video. It is wonderful that the God of the universe is willing and able to fully fill us. It must break his heart when I fill up with other things

  318. I have no idea what I’m doing here. I’m way over my head. I have no idea how to do any of this…

    • Victoria says:

      Melinda,
      I felt the same way too but I am slowly learning that it’s okay to feel that way. Just ask God to lead you and you will start to see/feel a change and also some peace in your life. Just let go and let God take over.

  319. Thank you so much for the encouraging video and more so, for doing this study online. I heard you on the Encouragement Cafe last week and ordered your book right away.. I was delighted to find out you were offering a study on this very book, right now! I LOVE God’s timing!!!! I look forward to the encouragement in this book and through this study!!

  320. Debbie T says:

    I have been playing catch up…I am so excited and ready to break the chains that keep binding me. I have a hard time leaving the past in the past and I worry about everything. I want more confidence with it comes the ability to spread his word to more people..if each of us that has joined this group would talk to one or two people what an amazing testimonial you would have. Praise God for you and your ability to spread the word. I look forward to the next several weeks. Thank you for spending your time to help others.

  321. Hello thank you so much for the video. I long and keep asking Jesus to give me a heart to love Him like Mary Magdalene did. I need that confidence to believe that Jesus hears me and love me even when I disappoint Him. And that He will answer my prayers especially in regards to my fears. I do look to get the a pproval of people only to realize not everyone will like me and I can’t please everyone. I am so blessed for everyone hereand all the pprayers lifted up on everyone’s behalf. I don’t feel so bad cuz I know I am not alone. I live in Pennsylvania just moved here and it has it challenges since I m not good with directions and finding new places fearful of getting lost taking the wrong exit going down a one way street ect. I pray for all the ladies here for Gods love mercy and favor and for Him to keep showing and teaching us His ways and to believe Him. Lots of love.

  322. Alma Trevino says:

    I am very thankful for this book. I just want to cry and thank him for using this book to open my eyes.

    I have been living in self-pity for a while now. I was married for 14 to an abusive and controlling man. We have 3 boys together. I am 37 years old. I have now been divorced for 3 years. I did not date anyone for 2 years. I finally met this man who I thought was a God sent and wonderful. He was very good to me and treated me good. He made me feel loved when he was with me. Then after one year of dating he told me that he wanted to end the realtionship because it had already been a year and he had not fallen in love with me. I have been seeking God like never before. I cried out to him and told him I was tired of getting hurt and people using me. I felt used and betrayed by this man. I did not understand how after a year of spending every weekend together he could just end it. There are still a lot of things that I do not understand and I question God. Reading this book has opened my eyes. Jesus is the only one who could bring joy to my soul and he is the only one who could satisfy my soul.

    I was longing to have someone in my life that would care for me and take care of me. I still have that feeling but it is not as it used to be thanks to this book. I just long to have a man in my llife that will take care of me, be there for me, and protect me. I just want to feel loved. Todays message has shown me that Jesus is the only one who can satisy the loneliness in my heart.

    Thank you for praying for me.

    • Alma,
      I have felt that same way almost all my life. I am 55 and never knew my father and didn’t live with my mother until I was 13. I have felt like I was never wanted as well as unloved and unlovable. I too have been praying for a man just to fill me and fulfill me. With this study session, I am learning that I need to draw closer to God more than I need anything else. So don’t feel like you’re alone. You’re not.

      • Alma Trevino says:

        Thanks Victoria! This book is teaching me so much about depending on God and knowing that he is the only one that will ever be able to satisy me wholly.

  323. Julie K. says:

    I am struggling with the thought the God’s love is enough. Even though I know in my head he loves me unconditionally, it doesn’t seem to be a comfort to me when I feel rejected or not thought of by friends. God made us to need to be in community with people. I guess it’s the priority that we place on the people that’s the issue. That’s what I’m trying to take to heart…that friends and even all the other things Renee put in that jar are important, but we shouldn’t look to those things to fill us. All those things will disappoint, but God is faithful.

  324. I so relate to being saved but not feeling satisfied. I wondered if something was truly wrong with me and if God hears my prayers. I don’t feel like I can do anything right and I’m often having a pity party because of what I don’t have and can’t do. I’m in school now and I sometimes feel inadequate compared to other. I think that’s my problem, I’m always comparing myself to others and then I feel worthless. I don’t feel like I can talk to anyone about it but I can encourage other to victory. I am thankful for this study session and for Renee for inviting us to share.

  325. Alma I know its hard to be alone and we all need someone to share our love with and need someone to love us. And to do the things for us that sometimes require husbands to do but in your prayers ask God to help you to see His Great love for you and you have chi

  326. Alma I am so sorry my keyboard froze on me. You are truly blessed with your children. I have no children of my own. Sometimes having a man in our lives brings more trouble. I believe God will provide for you as you try to keep your focus off wanting that relationship. Easy for me to say and so hard to do and apply to our lives but God keeps giving us all we need to press on. I need to trust the Lord more and I have serious trust issues with everyone. God bless. Renee thank you for this class I hope and pray I can apply all the help you are providing for me in my life through this book and your guidance.

  327. Debi. I live in Georgia. Love Hiking. I am being blessed by the encouragement a Confident Heart is providing to help me live victoriously in Christ and be filled.

  328. Maureen Chiasson says:

    Love that illustrated message. This is so true. It took me a while to realize this truth and sometimes I forget and have to be humbled. I remember pursuing education and a position to define me. When I came to the end of myself, I cried out to the Lord. He as lone filled me and knew what I was created for.This h as s taken me ona long journey of discovering who I am in Him, His Word and His vision for my life. As, I have drawn closer to Him, he has shown me His vision for me that is much bigger than me. It stirs my heart. As Mother Teresa said she could do nothing without God and is an instrument in His hands, so I must become. God defines me he created me sand knows more about me than I know about myself. Thank you, so much Renee, for allowing God to use you. When God fills us, WOW!!!! That is about all I can say is, WOW!!!!

  329. You are so right I struggle with trying to fill my life with everything but God himself and I like how you open my eyes to see what I need to see. Thankyou again!!

  330. I loved the visual demonstration of the empty places in our lives. This chapter on significance in Christ alone has been very powerful for me. I am newly retired from teaching, and while I am enjoying my free time so much with my family, I have come to realize how much significance I drew from my job and in being a financial contributor to our household. This study has really helped me see the power of praying scripture. I love the “When…..then” examples in the chapter.

    I also love reading all the responses of the women. It’s wonderful to see healing take place as women share their suffering and how they are OVERCOMING! Yes Lord!

  331. I really love this video, the illustration, the message which GOD want to shows us personally…It really remind me again of his unfailing love. I have been experienced this 10years ago (when i still in high school) when he spoke personally to me said that even i never feel my earthly father’s love(because im from a broken family, my father and mother was divorced since i was 5yrs old) but JESUS really love me and his love is enough for me. I really touched again by this message today…GOD LOVE is just enough for everyone of us..thank you for sharing this video 🙂 GOD BLESS

  332. Thank-you for a great reminder!

  333. Thanks for sharing what a awesome reminder. Only God can fill the void in our lives.

  334. Melinda Rogers says:

    Thank you for the video message. It made me think about my life and what I am filling my heart with…..I have been working at a job that I hate for 6 years. I truly don’t understand why the Lord has put me here in this place. I struggle with it daily….My prayer is that I will let the Lord fill the void of my job and that I would be a light to those around me.

  335. If I’m honest with myself, I’m filling in those places and I need to pull back and just come into quiet time with God and just ask him to fill me up because He already wants what’s best for me and has an amazing plan that’s for me and my family! So I’m not losing ANYTHING, just gaining my heavenly Father’s security and love and joy and then so much more than the other ‘stuff’ would ever.

    • So true! 🙂 Well said! If we let Him fill us, it is more fulfilling then any amount of stuff we could ever have.

  336. I could not play the video at all since it would not load. bumbed. But I look foward gleaning some of the lesson from the other comments.

  337. Renee, thank you for this reminder. Several years ago, God showed me that I was seeking the gifts far more than I was seeking the Giver. I made it my prayer that I would want God more than what He could give me. That worked for awhile. I had some difficult, yet precious years, where he brought me through some hard times with joy and passion for Him. Not sure how that changed. But, I realize how empty my life it now. I was caught up in seeking fulfillment through my marriage and family and even health. My marriage ended, my kids grew up and left home, I lost my health…and I’m empty. I’ve only just begun seeking Him with more passion and giving Him the priority He deserves. I’m so far from arriving in this area. But, it is good to see progress. I NEED Him. I NEED to experience His grace, love and healing. So thankful for this study!

  338. Wow! I just watched this video. It is so true! I need Him to show me what his plan is for me. I have tried so hard to achieve my dream of being an RN but hit roadblock and failure over and over. In June, I am trying one last time and if I don’t pass this time; I know that I need to find another calling. I need to quit looking for others to fulfil me and know that HIS LOVE does. Thank you so much for this study. It is incredible!!

  339. Shirley Peele says:

    I need to focus on the Giver and not the gift! I also need for God to show me what is I continually look for. I know all I need is in Him (my head); now my heart needs to know the same.

  340. Wow! Thank you for the wonderful demonstration. Seeing this reminds me that it doesn’t matter how much we fill our jars up, if we spend time filling it with the wrong things then it’s never really full. It also reminded me how often I’ve done this as well.

  341. thank you for the beautiful visual of such a simple truth. Yet I forget to do just that over and over again.

  342. Becky Hawkins says:

    Loved this message and analogy of God’s love – great reminder to hold on to….

  343. First of all thank you so much for allowing God to work through you to write such a wonderful book. I loved your illustration on how we use eartly things to fill us and what a conviction that was for me as I have been going through a really hard time recently, I have been sick for about 8 yrs with auto immune issues and that has been hard but I always knew that God had a plan for my life and that He would use it somehow in my life, but recently my kids (16 & 13) have been turning on me and turning to their dad whom i’m married to. Problem is that we don’t stand united with them. He has not always been there for them, I am the one who has done everything for them and my youngest is just rude to me and says that i’m just sensitive but she loves her dad. But even through all that I have realized that I have relyed on my family to fill my jar for the love that I was looking for. Even though I read my bible and pray I don’t know how to depend on God i guess the way I a suppose to. I never really had an earthly father, my real dad left when I was little, when i was first born he was mad that I was a girl and whe he came to visit he would ask for just my sister so he didn’t come around much. Then I was molested by my grandfather and my stepfather. I have gone through forgiveness however going through this study I have realized that I have been holding onto self doubt for a long time. Its funny I did this study for my 16 yr old daughter who has been bullied and realized that it is helping me. I’m sorry that I am probably rambling but I feel like I can share without being critisized. Anyway, thank you again for this study and sharing gods word you have been a true blessing and it is great reading what others have written to know that we are not alone.
    God bless

    • Nikki,

      I too have had difficulty at times with my husband and children being “nice” to me. I know that sometimes I am overly sensitive also. Put those two things together and it can crush the happiness of being a wife and mother.

      Unfortunately, moms tend to be the dumping ground for frustrations. You mentioned that you don’t know how to depend on God’s love. Something I do when a family member is being rude…I either leave the room or stand up for myself and say “I don’t like to be yelled at” and then leave the room. Then I spend a few minutes by myself, to pray and read a few verses or sing a hymn to reconnect to God’s love for me personally. When this happens, the sadness and hurt feelings go away. Then he puts joy and forgiveness in my heart. That’s how I have learned to depend upon God when I hurt…run to Him and tell Him how you feel and ask Him to change the way you feel, then start reading His words.

      I admire and applaud you for choosing to forgive. In order to be able to forgive you must know more than you think you do about depending upon God.

      Maybe your children are needing their father’s love and at the same time may be taking yours for granted.

      Remember they love you and will someday honor you for all the things you have done for them.

      • Charlene,
        Thank you so much for your encourgement. I appreciate it. Thank you for the example on how to depend on Gods love, I will try and use that.
        You are probably right about my girls needing their dads love, they have probably been missing that and desiring that for quite some time so the fact that he is paying attention to them, they are eating that up, and I love that he is doing that I just don’t understand why we can’t just be a family and do that why it has to be him and them or me and them.
        I know that they love me and just hope that someday they will remember the things that I have done for them when they are older.
        Thank you again you have encouraged me more then you know.
        God bless.
        Nikki

  344. Very beautiful depiction of the difference between how the world fills us and how Jesus fills us:). I think I might do this for my middle school Sunday school class! 🙂

  345. I loved the visual of the jar and thank you for the video this week. The older I become the more I realize that God fills my empty spaces much more completely than people, places and possessions ever could. I wish I could have know this earlier in life yet I am a work in progress.

  346. Latrelle says:

    I’ a LITTLE behind with the lessons, So I’m just now on this lesson & it’s probably to late to enter on this give-a-way, BUT I still want to thank you Renee. You have brought so much insight into my life. My life is so empty now & lonely, I’m trying to on purpose not fill it with other things. Gradually the Lord is filling it with Himself, if I just be patient & stay faithful. I know from experience that other fillers are fake.

  347. Latrelle says:

    PS—–I wished you lived next door !! or at least within driving distance. I sometimes hear a pity party calling—–& it’s hard to resist the devil. I retaliate by turning my praise music up on the radio.

  348. Great reminder for me.

  349. Thanks Renee! This is a great visual reminder of this concept. It’s a great reminder that we should be filled by God alone.

  350. Anna Bermea says:

    Thanks Rene – reading Chapter 3 really resonated in heart, but watching the video really helped. I need to ask GOD to show me what is taking up space in my heart instead of me just telling GOD, because I can truly miss items. Thank you

  351. You know lately, I have been thinking…I want a bigger house…should I get a bigger house, can I afford a bigger house. This video reminds me, I don’t need a bigger house. God has provided me this house and it is sufficient. I loved the video and the illustration of the jar to remind me, I can only feel full, if I’m taking in Jesus.
    I know this from the past, when I walked closer with God than I do right now. I have allowed life to take over and put the “stuff” as a higher priority than my God.
    This Bible study is a start of trying to get things back in order and it seems everything in this study is exactly what I need to guide me back to where I need to be and lead my children by example.

    Thank you!!

  352. I had read the chapter at the beginning of this week, but did not watch the video until just today. The video really helped to give a visual to the meaning of “filling our hearts” with Him instead of everything else in life. After having read the chapter and discovering the main point, I really tried to use/reflect on that main point throughout the week – especially when I was feeling stressed and went to fill myself with food, instead of Him. Unfortunately the food won out sometimes, but I keep trying; it’s a work in progress, as I am, too.

  353. I love this book. It really makes me stop and look at myself, what I really want, where I am in my walk with the Lord. I look forward to getting deeper even though I know I may not like what I see in myself.

  354. Some of my favorite thoughts from this chapter:
    …”God put a longing for unfailing love in our hearts because He knew it would lead us back to Him”
    …”by being honest about her life and the lies she believed, she could start turning toward the truth”-lies keep us from the truth. Believing in the lies is why we haven’t been able to feel His unconditional love. It’s been there all along yet we haven’t been able to connect to it because of believing in the lies.
    …”She could bring the thirst of her heart to Him”- that’s how I want to change
    …”seeking satisfaction in Christ”- this is the main message for me that I have gained from this chapter
    I have learned that I:
    * constantly look at my performance, judging myself and not being happy about it, never good enough
    * looking to my husband for love, acceptance and approval
    * look to food when I don’t feel good, when I feel empty inside

    No wonder I struggle with having a steady stream of happiness. I have been looking for happiness in performance, my husband and food. A great eye opener. I guess that is what this chapter was meant to be- an eye opener for us, to see where we are looking to get our needs filled and to realize that we’ve been looking in the wrong places-it’s in Him where happiness lies.

  355. Angelina says:

    WOW!!!! What an amazing perspective!!!! I have never thought about my heart as a jar. But like other people (which is quite comforting to know that I am not alone in my thoughts, feelings and actions), I have struggled for so long, struggled with happiness, feeling alone, feeling not good enough, feeling like I am never going to get ahead, always wanting better, always wanting that acceptance from people and things that I missed out on alot of time, precious time with my family, friends and most importantly God. I never felt good enough, smart enough, to the point it was self abusive. But when God blessed me with a very supportive, understanding, loving husband, and the most wonderful, understanding and beautiful daughter, he gave me a taste of what true unconditional love is and I can’t thank him enough for that. Now I need to shift myself into being more appreciative and grateful to him for HIS LOVE, HIS UNCONDITIONAL, UNFAILING love and so I can see the beauty that he sees in me, someday.

  356. Miss Mary T says:

    Renée, your video message put the story of the Samaritan woman into a simple and real message. Even though I know that there is only one source that fills my heart, mind, and soul and fulfills my desire to love and be loved, sometimes I receive a gentle nudge or a big shove if I don’t turn to Him right away. God has great plans for me! He satisfies my deepest longings and desires and all I have to do is rely on Him in faith and trust with hope and love! Thanks for the imagery!

  357. Reading this chapter was powerful enough, but this video really brought it home (especially since I am a very visual person!). Seeing all the things that we try to fill our lives with. I do this all the time, though I know it’s wrong. I’m an “addiction” type person. Not bad addictions per se, but then, anything that takes me away from focusing on God is pretty bad. This is usually electronic related, or even regular books, food and coffee. In themselves they’re not bad, but I tend to turn to them more than my Bible when I’m feeling down or tired, even though I know how good I feel when I am in His Word.

    I seek approval from others. I look to them to tell me, “Well done, good and faithful servant” instead of living my life waiting for Him to tell me. This is something I have realized about myself previously, and something I have been working on. It’s a matter of wanting others to tell my I’m doing a good job, that I’m needed, that I’m special, that I’m important. I want to be sought. And yet, I’ve already learned that HE sought me. That why I am where I am today. Washed in the blood of the Lamb. He has filled me, yet I still slip.

    • I would also like to say that I am so very thankful for this Bible study. I feel comfortable sharing my real thoughts and feelings. Plus, It takes me a while to get all my thoughts together, so having a place to come and really think about the message, and then being able to write it here (I’m a writer, it’s so much easier for me!) is amazing.

  358. Love this video! I give a lot of safety trainings so these types of demonstrations always speak to me! It is similar to the demonstration of putting rocks, pebbles, sand and then water in a jar. It always seems full but there proves to be room for more each time. But this demonstration dumps that out and puts it in perspective: fill it up with the water first! Seek Him and he will provide!

  359. I just loved this video! When you were putting everything into the jar all I was thinking was I do that, I try so hard to fill up my jar in order to be loved or accepted. It’s hard to acknowledge that I do that. I feel so guilty just knowing I do that and wonder how can God love me so much when I push him away so much. I loved how you filled the vase up with water. I just had a smile on my face thinking, God can do that for me, he can fill me completely! What a wonderful feeling. Thank you for sharing! I am loving this study.

  360. Such a wonderful message.Thank you for this, it is helping me tremendously.

  361. I spent years trying to fill the void in my heart with everything and everyone but God. It wasn’t until I hit rock bottom that God opened my eyes to see that He was all that I ever needed and He was the only one that could fill the unsatisfied quenching of my heart by His unfailing love, mercy, and grace. Thank you Renee for this beautiful reminder of my need to rest in God’s love, mercy, and grace each day and that nothing and no one else can satisfy the hunger of my soul and bring me true peace and rest but Christ and Christ alone.

  362. Great ‘show and tell’ of a lesson I’ve been learning for many years and have many more to go I’m sure. Thanks!

  363. Hey!

    I was really inspired by the video and chapter 3. I’m in the middle of trying to fill my life with other people, my job, house and other things. but it never seems to be enough because I lack in my relationship with the All mighty God.
    Just need to work my way around it and start making some progress in my relationship with Christ!
    Thank you for your encouraging words and video.

    Riina

  364. Trine Feuerborn says:

    This describes exactly how I feel most of the time. This was a very powerful message to listen to.

  365. Brittany B. says:

    Loved the message! I think the most powerful picture was after the vase filled with all of those “things” there was still so much room/space. God is the only one who can fill us up. I am so thankful for His love!

  366. I lost my job 6 months ago and I hadn’t realized how much of ME was lost in that job; I allowed my job to consume me. My prayer is for the Lord to show me through this study how to re-align myself w/ Him and for Him to direct me where I should go. I pray for complete satisfaction that HE is my portion. Amen!

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  3. […] morning I watched a video by Renee Swope about Letting God Fill the Empty Places in our hearts.  She talked about the places we look for unfailing love and how they cannot fill the empty place. […]

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