When You Feel Like You’re Not Enough…

I was completely blindsided. I’d been called into a meeting at my church with another women in leadership who was upset with me. She’d been upset with me for months, but I had just found out about it.

Someone had told her I didn’t agree with the way she was leading. But that wasn’t at all what I’d said – months before – in a meeting with several other leaders. I had simply been asked my opinion about a situation and I shared my thoughts and they weren’t directly about her at all. And I was so sad that I was just being asked about it, several months later.

I was hurt. She was hurt. We both volunteered countless hours in ministry, pouring our hearts and our lives into women in our church. All the while, we were on the same team and assumed we both fully supported one another. But now the trust we had built for years was coming unraveled.

It was a mess. I was a mess.

I was done. I decided I wasn’t strong enough. Wasn’t resilient enough. And I was exhausted from trying.

That afternoon I went home and cried. Told God I was ready to call it quits. Laying my head down on my desk, I said I couldn’t do it anymore.

But… {my heart whispered} there was more to it… “I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.” Galatians 2:20

I knew in that moment if I was willing to die to myself and completely rely on Christ in Me I could experience resurrection power. 

I could walk away from God’s calling on my life or I could allow Jesus to live HIS life through me.

 I could die to my desire to protect myself from getting hurt again and choose to tap into His power by relying on the strength of His Spirit in me .

I wasn’t enough … wasn’t strong enough, resilient enough, or humble enough.  But Christ in me was more than enough.

In my P31 devotion today, I talked about how we can turn away from our feelings of defeat and doubt by living in the Light of God’s Truth. And here is one of the most important truths:

Jesus did not die on the cross just to get us out of hell and into heaven. He died on the cross to get Himself out of heaven and into us! That is resurrection life – and the very place where we get our enough!

If you have been crucified with Christ, you no longer live, but Christ lives in you!! The life you now live in the body, you can choose to live by faith in the Son of God, who loved you and gave himself for you.”

When you feel inadequate, remember God says: You are CHOSEN.

“‘You are my witnesses,’ declares the Lord, ‘and my servant whom I have chosen, so that you may know and believe me and understand that I am he’” (Isa. 43:10).

When you feel afraid, remember God says: You are REDEEMED.

“Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine” (Isa. 43:1).

When you feel unloved, God says: You are LOVED.

“You are precious and honored in my sight, and . . . I love you” (Isa. 43:4).

When you feel forgotten, God says: You are REMEMBERED.

“See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands” (Isa. 49:16).

When you feel insecure, God says: You are SECURE.

“Let the beloved of the Lord rest secure in him, for he shields him all day long, and the one the Lord loves rests between his shoulders” (Deut. 33:12).

When you feel unable or unstable, God says: You are ABLE.

“The Sovereign Lord is my strength; he makes my feet like the feet of a deer, he enables me to tread on the heights” (Hab. 3:19).

When you feel worthless, God says: You are CALLED.

“Youare a chosen [woman], a royal [priest], a holy [daughter], God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of the darkness into his wonderful light” (1 Pet. 2:9).

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Comments

  1. I want to thank you for your article on self-doubt. I am constantly guilty of that, and you helped me to realize that I am also hurting God when I doubt, not just myself. I’ll be praying for more self control so I can have God-fidence!! Keep up the great work! Thanks again!!

  2. Claudia Lamp says:

    Within the past month, more so than ever before, I’ve felt so inadequate. The ironic part is that things in life are going well, but I have so much self doubt. I just don’t ever feel good enough. Most devotions I read sound good and nice and helpful for others but your post and devotions was definately placed for me. God is definately using you to minister to me. Thank you so much for reminding me that God is always my light just as everything else he made is perfect in his eyes, so am I. :-) thank you for blessing me today

  3. Taimane T says:

    Thank you for sharing your devotion. Its exactly what I needed. GOD-FIDENCE :-)

  4. Renee, your devotions continue to be water for my soul and I would LOVE to receive your book! Thank you for always pointing us to the Light and sharing your heart and gift!

  5. Amanda Johnson says:

    I found this through Proverbs 31 Ministries, and it couldn’t have come at a better time. All I ever do is doubt myself and see myself as unworthy in the eyes of God and everyone else around me. I would love to have a copy of the book so I can learn more about how to overcome those doubts that trouble me so much.

  6. Thank you for sharing everyday with all of us that think that our issues are only ours. Thank u for all of your wonderful words and the encouragement

  7. Salina Millen says:

    Thank you, Renee. Your words were exactly what my heart needed at 3 in the morning. :)

    Thank you for your energy, faith and sharing heart.

  8. Irene McColl says:

    Sheeese! where to start…. I was rolling around my house talking with God asking Him to help me to let go of some potentially horrific scenarios should they be played out like the incessant dramas imagined in my mind (re: a few people’s situations dearly connected to my life) and just really trying not to beat myself up but to truly believe what He was saying to me “Perfect love casts out fear” But Lord, if only I had of trusted you 24 years ago…. “Oh ye of little faith” If only…I knew that I was truly hearing from you and not imagining that I was talking with you “Do not fear, for I shall be with you in the flood” If only, I were a better Mom, wife, homemaker, Grandmother…a neater person, if I could only…If only, I would get to church more consistently……if only, if only, if only….. THEN I thought to myself let me go read Encouragement For Today, before I go nuts!!! Maybe God would confirm His love for me and let me know (again) that He has everything under control! And with tears in my eyes, I just started to melt into a smile as my heart began to take courage once again! Thank you for sharing Renee I really needed this today!!!! Irene McColl

  9. This morning, after being convicted of holding tightly, once again. to rotten thoughts and lies from the enemy, I was overwhelmed, once again, at the number of scripture that speak to God’s great love, care, provision, desire for us, for me. Thank you for reminding us, reminding me, of our Father’s great love.

  10. I must die to my desire to protect myself from getting hurt again. I must choose to tap into His power by relying on the strength of His Spirit in me. That is exactly what I must do. Thank you, Renee! Thank you, Jesus!
    Blessings All!

  11. Michelle Watkins says:

    This was very timely for me as I am facing a similar situation through work where someone said a bunch of untruths and half-truths to someone else about me. And neither the people who said these things or the person who heard it came directly to me to ask. But in my job it’s my role to model healthy relationships. So even though I am hurt and angry and want to quit, I have to find a way to put those feelings aside and talk about what happened and how to go forward from here. I know that I cannot do this on my own strength and with my own words & will have to rely on God’s strength and God’s grace to get me through. It is always a blessing when someone else shares how they got through as well.
    Thank you!

  12. Kaysha Pettaway says:

    My most profound insecurity is if I am a good enough mother to my four kids. My youngest is son is living with Autism, and that causes most thoughts of inadequacy. Am I doing enough? Why did God feel that I was strong enough to handle the tantrums, the constant battle for him to toilet train, the teachers, the therapist, and the lack of money for treatments that could work. Are my other children getting enough attention from me? I am a stay at home mom, and that is a job, a career, that rarely gets slaps on the back or high fives for cooking, cleaning, transporting, helping with projects, etc. Being at home, I serve my family better, but money is always tight, and I’m plenty bored, though the work is there. With having my fourth child, I now have issues with my weight, how my body looks. I wonder if I am an adequate wife. Today’s devotion was spot on, and it helped me a lot. I love it when the devotion was written almost specifically for you. This blessed me. Thank you.

    • Hi Kaysha,
      Thank you for choosing to stay home with your kiddos. You are exactly what they need. I applaud you for all you are doing and if we were friends I would give you a big ole hug!
      Blessings to you,
      Melissa

  13. Thank you for a much needed devotion and a wonderful list of verses to keep handy when my lack of confidence wants to creep up, but God is urging me to take the thought captive before it (the thought) takes over.

  14. Colleen Ladd says:

    All I can really say is Thank-you. Thank you for trusting the Lord and not quitting, for the example of triumph you set before us. Thank you for those “apples of gold” scriptures, and for the way you so beautifully shared. Teaching us how to trade in our thoughts for the wonderful Truths of God’s words. They instill the hope that we need. And thank you for this wonderful giveaway!

  15. As a single mom to 4 small kids, I’ve been struggling with so much inadequacy. When I read your email this morning, it was such a reassurance from God that I am never alone. Thank you for allowing God to speak through you. :)

  16. Thank you for being so open to share your heart. I feel blessed every time I read the devotionals. I really needed to hear that I matter to God and the reminder that I am God’s daughter and he wants to live through me. I need to be more of Him and less of me.

  17. It saddens me that we have allowed the devil to permeate our thoughts about ourselves to the point that we think so little of ourselves. BUT it delights me that God sent his son for US! and that we can overcome all the things the world throws at us because HE LIVES!! Thank you for reminding me of his overwhelming love for us.

  18. I was sitting here praying during my morning quiet time feeling so overwhelmed and ready to quit in relation to some real disappointments and related stress at work. I had just prayed and asked the Lord to send me a word that was solid and very concrete, so I could feel a solid and concrete encouragement. I stepped away from my devotional chair to get a cup of coffee and my phone beeped to let me know I had a new message. I thought, “Maybe it is the Lord,” and it was! He answered my prayer by allowing this message from HIM THROUGH YOU to arrive at the VERY moment I most needed it. Our God is SO awesome!

  19. It seems like I have been fighting things or feelings this whole year….I needed to read this post today to know the truth….that I am HIS daughter and that I’m loved. Thank you for your ministry and being here today when I needed you in a big way. (You are being used….in a good way…through Christ).

  20. Thank you for this post. It is perfectly timed for a breaking point in my life. Perfect encouraging words to not allow myself to fall into condemnation but to be convicted and walk forward in gods truth. Thank you for your willingness to share your life.

  21. Stephanie says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this devotion and most especially for sharing the printable page of “go-to” verses. I intend to fill my mind and heart with these verses so that when the negative thoughts enter in, I have the power Scripture to overcome.

  22. I will be 45 yrs old in November & I am a brand new RN. It has taken me years to overcome lack of confidence and self-doubt. I still struggle with it daily, especially as a new nurse at my age. The very person who has implanted the idea in my head that I am not worthy of happiness and confidence is still a very integral part of my life. So my struggle remains but with God’s help I am overcoming it little by little. Ministries such as yours contribute to my success. One way God speaks to us is through others, and your words today have spoken to me, have encouraged me & uplifted me. Thank you and God Bless!

  23. Tricia Gadson says:

    Normally I receive daily P31 devotions, sometimes I read them, sometime I don’t. One day I was in turmoil and felt inadequate, not deserving of love, having no direction. Just a complete failure as I am not able to provide for my family. Even my dogs are suffering due to our financial instability. I read an article and it was sourced by your book “A Confident Heart”. It was empowering and uplifting I subscribed to your emails. I get a spark when I see the emails come through as I know you are speaking directly to my soul. Thank you for being obedient to God’s will in your life as it has lended a beautiful spiritual outlet for other women enduring the same fears and now can relate and overcome.

  24. Thank you for allowing GOD to speak through you. I know that whenever I fail myself and others that God never fails. I need to cling to HIS promises daily. Thanks for the list of verses that will encourage me as I trust HIM to care for me.

  25. Kathy Miller says:

    Such good words – will share with the women on the card ministry at my church – always like to share words of encouragement with them.

  26. Lisa Donaldson says:

    I have so many self doubts at times. I would love to read the book A Confident Heart. I think it would help me in my Christian life. Thank you.

  27. Amanda Cross says:

    I read both the blog post and the devotion. I had read the devotion at another time in the past, but it really spoke to me in a new way today. Our family is about to put our house up for a short sale. This is very unsettling and I am feeling very insecure and unsure. I am a stay at home mom and our son is almost 3. We’ve only been here around 2 years and our house was brand new when we got here. We are the first owners. This is the first home brand new home that we have ever lived in. I have moved about 30 times over the course of my 34 years of life and I thought I wouldn’t ever have to move again. I want to be settled. I want to feel secure. I want to know what is next for us. The Holy Spirit has encouraged me over the course of the last 24 hours since our decision to get a vision. I don’t know where we will live next, but I can dream and get a vision and leave it in God’s hands. I can think about what I would like in our next home. I may not get it all and it may not look at all like I imagine, but at least I can begin to be hopeful instead of focusing on what we will lose.

  28. I love the encouragement you give to women! I think it’s something we all struggle with…whether we are good enough. I’m just learning myself that I most certainly AM good enough – all because of God!

  29. This is just icing in the cake for what I have been going thru! He spoke to me in this devotion and scripture…I’m printing this on off! Thanks Renee !

  30. This devotional today is straight from God. I am so paralyzed by feelings of insecurity. I have printed God’s promises and placed them directly in my line of site beside my computer monitor. Sometimes it’s so easy to ignore what God says about me and defer to what other’s may think about me. My prayer is that today I take full advantage of God’s mercies and compassion being new every morning and He will be able to use me for His Glory. Thank you Renee.

  31. Thanks so much for sharing your insights and doing God’s work. I relate in some way to every devotion of yours that I read. God bless you.

  32. Leslie Greene says:

    I have grown so much in my walk with the Lord because of your inspired devotional. I think if we as women are honest with ourselves, we all struggle with self-doubt and self-worth, some on such a high level that is has inhibited them to really live. They merely exist! That describes my sister-in-law to a “T”! She has so much to offer but constantly lives in that shadow you described. Thank you for this opportunity to get the chance to win 2 copies of your book. When I read this devotion today, my sister-in-law immediately came to mind. Whether I’m chosen to receive your giveaway or not, I am definitely going to make sure she and I get a copy of your book. In fact, I am going to give all the women in my family the book for Christmas. May God continue to use you and bless your ministry! Your sister in Christ!!

  33. Sometimes self-doubt creeps in quietly, and this was a great reminder that through Christ we are more than able. Thanks for the encouragement to keep our hearts focused so we can live in the confidence that can only come from Him!

  34. Thank you so much for your devotion today on self doubt. I have struggled with this for years but over the last couple of years God has shown me so many truths in Him. I have began to focus on Him and who He is and in turn the focus is not on my insecurities anymore. Thanks for all you do. God bless you!

  35. PAM SCHAEFFER says:

    Thank you so much, Renee, for this devotional. I need to remind myself of these truths daily. I have a family situation right now that has been pulling me down emotionally and causing me to feel unloved, inadequate, unworthy, and a failure. The thoughts and Scripture you shared were such an encouragement. Thank you, Renee, for allowing God to use you and your experiences to encourage us and to focus us on God’s truth. God’s Word is truly amazing and when we apply it to our lives, He changes us one baby step at a time.

  36. My 17 year old daughter has been going thru alot of things socially at school where she is having to dig deep and find where her security lies. She’s having to take a stand for what our Lord says is “right” even though socially it might make her an outcast. In my attempts to counsel her, I am realizing my own insecurities. The years of living in an abusive marriage; the years of single parent living; and then the redemption of God in a marriage ordained by Him! Talk about insecurities! God speaks to us in many ways, thru His Word, thru others, thru prayer and even thru these P31 Blogs. I have shared these blogs with my daughter. It never amazes me that when I open my email, I find a Word in these blogs that directly confronts the insecurity she and I are facing. Bless all of you P31 Women for being a willing vessel. God is good all the time; All the time God is good. Be blessed today!

  37. Oh…why in the Body do we do this…we went through very painful fellowship spilt…just because someone did not come and ask my husband directly about what he shared…my husband who is somewhat like EF Hutton…very quiet and wise…but when he speaks people listen. He said a statement…a one sentence concern…almost a year later…we got why we were treated differently…this person who heard my husband…went to everyone but him…such damage was done…we tried to reconcile…but we had be so vilified by then…no one was interested. and one of the people was my sister and her husband…we were close as any twins…even though we not.
    This can shake us to our core…but God’s grace is big enough and strong enough…and He is our strength…thanks for these reminders…and the encouraging words. blessings to you~

  38. Thank you for this!! I have been feeling weary, and overwhealmed from going to school, homeschooling my 3 boys and in the midst of a divorce. This came just in time!! i needed to hear them all!! Thank you!!

  39. Today’s P31 devotion really hit home and I wanted to say thanks. I can relate very much to the blog post too. I have been walking around the last few days feeling 100% inadequate for the tasks I have been handed and very overwhelmed. I want to take everything wrong and make it mine. It is selfish, destructive and not relying on God at all! Thank you Renee!

  40. It’s a good day for this devotion on self doubt . It’s been a tearful morning. I struggle so much with frustration concerning my weight and my age. Most people don’t seem to understand how much it hurts to et past the young and pretty stage. I need to figure out how to deal with this.

  41. In the midst of my storm these words were like water to my soul in the midst of it It is a reminder of who I am in Christ and puts my focus back where it belongs. On Him. Thank you for this today.

  42. Thank you for this devotional. Because of emotional abuse suffered in seventh grade, I have suffered times of inadequacies. I needed the reminder that I am all I need to be in Christ. He formed me in my mother’s womb just the way He wanted me to be. I also needed to be reminded that I am the one who is blocking the Light. My prayer is to remember to rest in the Light and see myself as Christ does.

  43. Today’s message blessed my downtrodden soul! I had a really, really bad day yesterday….. I was ready to quit – EVERYTHING!! Today, I feel unbeatable, unstoppable, unbreakable – because HE that is in ME, is greater than he that is in this lowly world!!! Thank you for sharing – I will be printing this and hanging it where I can read it all of the time!!

  44. Today’s devotional went straight to my heart. I could almost feel the tug on it, and hear God whispering “pay attention, I had her write this message for you”

  45. This is a great book, I love to gift this to a couple women and do as a small group study! This is definitely one of those books that has helped me and something I needed 20 years ago, confidence!

  46. Thank you for today’s devotional . I loved the comparison of the shadows and light. I am also going to print the today’s promises you have above.

  47. I loved this devotion. Thanks. I like the thought of Christ died to come into us. That gives much strength.

  48. Brianna Thomas says:

    Thanks you for today’s devotional. It’s always a nice reminder to stop doubting ourselves and remember who created us.

    Thank you!

  49. Molly Higle says:

    I recently had my self-confidence shaken. This word is very timely for me. Thank you.

  50. Karen Schoenfeldt says:

    What a beautiful new word ‘God-fidence’! I cannot wait to get your new book! It is much needed by me…Thank you so much!

  51. Thank you for not giving up and for allowing Christ to work through you! By continuing His work, you are blessing others and allowing us to learn and grow. God bless you!

  52. Your blog and devotion both hit their mark today. I have suffered these insecurities since childhood and struggle daily to keep my head up. I would love to win your book to delve more deeply into overcoming this obstacle. Thank you!

  53. Confidence and security in the Lord and NOT in myself is something I have been battling with as I walk the road of life. I have found, with each and every day, that HE is life and HE is all that I need! Resources like those provided by this ministry are so appreciated!!! Thank you!!!!!

  54. Thank you for your words of encouragement. What a great reminder (EACH DAY) that we are CHOSEN, REDEEMED, LOVED, REMEMBERED, SECURE, ABLE, and CALLED.

  55. Thank you so much for your blessed reminder of what I am to God. So often I forget and get caught up in life of kids, husband, work, household chores that most of all I am God’s beloved.

  56. Amber Frady says:

    I love the new word God-fidence. This blog was exactly what I needed today to know that I am loved, redeemed, called and remember. Thank you for all your work in The Lord.

  57. Many times in the midst the challenges of work and life I feel like I don’t measure up, can’t get it all done, or don’t do “it” very well. Reading this post today is a tremendous help, letting me know I am loved, I am good, and the efforts that I make in everything I do are good. Thank you. Once again, this ministry has spoken to me in an unexpected and blessed way!

  58. Nancy Shepard says:

    Thank you Renee for this wonderful devotional today. Exactly what I needed to read today! I’m feeling the lack of my GOD-fidence lately and this was a great reminder to turn to HIM and turn everything over to HIM (and not take it all back!). I struggle with self-doubt, but this teaching reinforces (again!) that HE chose me, and I am redeemed, loved, remembered, secure, able and called. Thank you providing such a timely devotional.

  59. Angilen Adkins says:

    Wow! Thank you, thank you. Your devotion this morning knocked on the door of my heart. For the last almost 4 years ago, the seed of doubt was planted in my life through losing my job. However, God has kept His promise of provisions. Recently, in the last two months is where the real struggle began. Because of things happening in my church my husband (his way of protecting me) asked me to step down from the positions I held. After the initial shock was over and the “whys” were shared; I went into a sphere of several emotions: rejection, disappointment, anger and self-doubt. I could not grasp how those who said they loved me; disappointed me, especially when I had open myself to be accountable to them. I became angry not because of the request, I became angry because the evidence of them not loving me. I believe if you really love a person, and that person is walking in a way that will bring shame to our Father’s name, lovingly tell them. Of course this became fertile ground for slef doubt. I question my purpose, I question my self-worth, I question my gifts, I question who I am, I question am I adequate, I question my competency, I question everything.
    However, God shed light through your devotion. I have allowed this humongous shadow of doubt over-shadow what I know to be true. “I have NOT” been living in the light. I have allowed the shadow of self-doubt reign supreme in my life; blocking the light of God’s Truth in my heart. Thank you, Thank you for visiting me in the place where I was and setting me on the path to freedom!

  60. Thank you for sharing this today. I really appreciate having specific scriptures to be reminded of for those self-doubt moments. Lately they have felt too many! I would love a copy of your book. Thank you for allowing God to use you to further His kingdom! Blessings.

  61. Dorothy Malone says:

    I have such a hard time talking about myself. I wake up each morning thinking that I did not get enough accomplished the day before even though I worked from dawn to dust. I seldom give myself time to sit and read with a good book. It is amazing that such a vast majority of women feel so overwhelmed. This mind set can only be overcome through the power of Jesus Christ. I thank you that you have allowed God to use you to be the vehicle to carry forth His message of depending on Him. Do not shut yourself down.

  62. Renee,
    Thank you for the wonderful reminder of what we are to our God. A reminder to live in His light and His truth. I stuggle with doubt daily and need constat reminding of where this doubt is coming from. It is not from Him. I am printing out the scriptures you listed to remind me daily of the truth. Bless you.

  63. Thank you for sharing your devotion on self-doubt today. It certainly sunk into my heart and confirmed those feelings of doubt. Thank you for the reminder to re-focus our attentions not on our insecurities but on God, and to keep our focus on Him. I would love to have a copy of your book. It would help me with a new women’s ministry we started in our church for young mothers.

    I thank God that you have a heart to help and teach others’ His Word from a woman’s and mother’s perspective. Thank you for your dedication.

  64. This devotional was great. I want to especially thank you for the printable promises!

  65. misunderstandings sometimes can be the work of our enemy. If he can get us to feel hurt… He can knock us down and out if we let him. What a powerful encouragment you have brought to me this morning…. I have been struggling with a best friend over this misunderstandings…. And today I now know how to respond…. Thank you so much!!!!!

  66. Lucille Loeppky says:

    My husband and I foster a sibling group of three and we have had them since newborns from the hospital and the oldest is 8 and the twins are 7. All three have Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder and so all three have different challenges. This last week has been especially tough and I have been very discouraged and I have been feeling like I am not able to do what God has called me to do. It’s too much for me and I feel I am not the one God should have chosen to do this. Thank you so much for your sweet reminders in scripture. The one that spoke to me the most is Hab. 3:19 God says I am ABLE! Thank you so much for your encouragement!

  67. Thank you for sharing this devotion. Actually, a very close friend of mine sent it to me and it was just what I needed today. Although I find myself in a much better place spiritually these days, doubt always seems to be a struggle. When you spoke of how “your insecurities were creating a huge shadow over your soul-a shadow of doubt,” that really resonated with me. I went through a similar dark period in my life after a trouble-some diagnosis, and found myself very much in the shadow’s of darkness, I created. Through God’s amazing graze, and much prayer, He brought me back into the light. Thank you for being so transparent.
    Bless you.
    Pressing On…

  68. I would love to win this book and package. We all at times frind ourselves overwhelmed with life. We are at burn out and need a good cup of coffee and a nice soak in the tub. I find your reminders fill that for me.
    They bring me back to our Heavenly Fathers reminders that we are not walking this walk alone. We need our armour on and our minds tuned to Him. Thank you for all your reminders and your willingness to be obedient to Him.

  69. Thank you for this devotional. It helped me put into perspective that when I doubt, I am hindering God. Thank you also for the “When you feel” statements!

  70. Thank you Renee for your choice words. I keep coming back to these thoughts about being enough. About not being picked & therefore not loved. Pray that I finally hear and belive that being loved by God IS enough. Abba is big enough to love each of us and still be enough. Appreciate your counsel. Grateful. My part s to believe. Blessings…

    • This story is really beautiful and inspirational. This story was what I needed to hear. It gave me hope and confidence. I always felt that other people were better than me or I wasn’t good enough. Thank you for the beautiful Bible verse, Renee.

  71. Wow, God is good, this is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thanks so much!

  72. Yesterday I put your book in my Amazon “shopping cart” to purchase next time I had a little extra money.

    This morning came and it was rough. I was struggling with self-doubt and jealousy. God and I were working through it, but I was feeling defeated and weak. At the same time I was grateful that He is a big God who hears my heart’s cries even when they are not eloquently spoken.

    As I was struggling I felt nudged to read one of my daily devotions. I opened my Proverbs 31 email and started reading today’s devotion, “When You Feel Like You’re Not Enough.” Seemed appropriate. I started reading without really looking at the author’s name. Your words spoke to me and echoed God’s truth. You referenced Isaiah 43:1-4, a verse that has been sitting on my desk for weeks. I am precious in God’s sight and He loves me. I smiled at the connection.

    As I finished the devotion, and went to print it, I noticed the author. “Renee Swope, Author of A Confident Heart.” The book that is sitting in my shopping cart waiting to be purchased and read. Now I really smiled at the connections.

    God spoke to me. He told me as plain as day that I am good enough. I am loved. I am a daughter of the Most High. He also reminded me that it is time to believe His truths about me and live a life of confidence through Him.

    Thank you. Your words and God’s truths have blessed me immeasurably today. I pray you are encouraged in your walk and blessed in return.

  73. Thank you for this devotional. I know God’s word is true and reciting His promises always helps me!

  74. Thanks so much for this devotional and especially for the bible verse printout. What a great reminder to keep handy in my bible.

  75. Don’t let the e-mail address name fool you, I actually rarely feel “glad2bme” and suffer daily with a lack of self confidence, so much so that I rarely leave my house. This makes me sad since I know this is not what God intended for my life because how can I possibly be a great witness for Him if I never see or talk to anyone else? Sounds like your book was written for people just like me and I hope I can win it and change my life so that maybe someone else’s life will be changed for the better as well!

  76. I had this happen to me and was totally blindsided! I had NO clue I had offended this woman. We worked it out and I apoligized even though I did no wrong, but it still lingers in our relationship. I’m fearful of offending others and have stepped back in a few areas. But on the other hand God has opened other doors of ministry for me. Thank you so much for sharing your ups and downs. God has really been using your ministry in my life and I have been able to share what I have learned with many others. It’s wonderful to serve a living, loving and forgiving God.

  77. Oh, isn’t it funny how you don’t even know you need something till you get it and that emptiness is suddely filled and it brings you to tears. Thank you for listening to God so he could use you to speak His love into my life today. :)

  78. I enjoy reading your devotions as they all come in a time that I am going through what your message is about. My supervisor introduced me to you and your website. The both of us share your messages and it helps us to continue to provide excellant service to our organization. God has blessed you to send us blessings. Please continue to provide and I will continue to pray that God sends you the message to give.

  79. This is just what I needed to hear. I wrestle with this lie from satan often. That I am just not enough. I have said it to myself in so many ways… lie after lie after lie. I’m not pretty enough, smart enough, generous enough, thin enough, organized enough, loving enough, Godly enough, sweet enough, talented enough and the list goes on and on. It has endless aplications and satan knows just what to say to put those seeds of doubt in my head and watch me squirm. I am so thankful for your words of encouragement. It is nice to know that I am not alone in this struggle. God is with us every day. With Him we are all enough in everything we do. Thank you for laying out some of those “I feel” lies from satan and replacing them with Gods truth and light…for those shadows of doubt truly do dissapear when we focus on Gods light and love!! :)

  80. I love it, Renee! Thanks for sharing openly and encouraging those of us who can relate to the struggles of leadership! Blessings!

  81. Christina Anguiano says:

    Recently within the past month or so I have been feeling so inadequate. I know that it is just an attack on me from the enemy. I have been getting involved with our youth group girls and I have no doubt in my mind that this is where the Lord wants me but these feelings have just been coming up in my head. Just the other day we had an activity and my group of girls didn’t “choose” to go with me. Thoughts started going through my head saying to me…see you aren’t good enough…they didn’t even choose to go with you. It just kept festering at me. But it all comes back to the self confidence issue in me….I lack it. Thank you so much for this word this morning. It just blessed me beyond belief. A great reminder of how the enemy tries to trick you into believing those doubts….BUT GOD!!!!!! I know the Lord has great plans for me and I have to get that GOD-fidence in myself!!! What a blessing you have been!!!

  82. I’ve been lacking confidence lately, especially in my schoolwork. When I feel overwhelmed, I often tell myself I’m not good enough, smart enough, strong enough, and I’m going to collapse. I think of it as the push I need to work harder so I can get everything I need to accomplished, but it tears me down instead of building me up. Instead of GIVING me strength, it TAKES my strength. This devotion was a beautiful reminder that I can have confidence in God–confidence that will give me strength. Thank you for sharing this wisdom and encouragement!

  83. Danielle B says:

    I had to give a chuckle this morning. I had just gotten done with my morning Quiet Time and had *just* finished telling GOD how very unworthy and worthless I felt because of how I have failed Him. My phone dinged telling me a new email had come in, I opened it and low and behold it was your devotion. Does GOD have a sense of humor or what? This is just what I needed. I am printing out your promises page even now. Thank you.

  84. Kristina Martinez says:

    This was just the information I needed at this very time in my life. Thank you and God bless you for sharing such life-changing information. I look forward to continuing to read your heaven-sent work!

  85. Vicki Wells says:

    Thankyou for reminding me Jesus didn’t just die on the cross for me because of my sins but he died on the cross to live in me. Thankyou.

  86. Thank you so much for today’s devotion and thank you for your encouragement it has come at a much needed time. I find it very easy to encourage other women, but when it comes to myself it is a different story. Often times I struggle with God am I good enough to do what You have called me to do or who You’ve called me to be……a soon to be pastor’s wife. And you have reminded me I am everything He has called me to be. Today and everyday I will walk in “God-fidence” knowing I am exactly who He has made me to be and called me to do. Thank you again for sharing your struggles and just being real. May the Lord Bless you abundantly!

  87. Eileen Hopkins says:

    Thank you for this devotion today. I have been feeling inadequate as a mother as my relationship with my oldest son is non-existent. He no longer talks to me and if he does, he’s very disrespectful and hurtful. He is using drugs and alcohol and into porn and illicit sex. My heart breaks for him. I know I have been less than perfect in my upbringing of my three kids. I made a lot of mistakes. I believe I am paying for those mistakes now so it has lead to my feelings of inadequacy. Your devotion has helped to remind me that I am a daughter of the Most High. THat I am forgiven and that God is in control. Thank you for these reminders. I pray for guidance and direction and that God will move in my childrens’ lives.

  88. Wow, its like you read my mind….I CONSTANTLY struggle with this problem. Only recently have I figured out that THAT is really what the problem IS. I’ve known that I have been dealing with insecurity and depression for quite some time, but its only since I’ve started listening to KLove and following a couple of blogs I discovered on Proverbs 31 ministries that I figured out that a deep sense of unworthiness, and inadequecy is the root of these feelings. Thanks for posting this – I definitely think I would benefit from reading your book, so I hope I win!!

  89. deborah fultner says:

    Renee, I appreciate so much the way you open your heart to tell us what God has done for you and will do for us. I have been in similar situations but I didn’t pray, I quit. I never stopped to think if I was valuable or not and I never listened to God. It’s no wonder why life is a wreck when we’re in the driver’s seat.
    Blessings

  90. Thank you so much for today’s lesson. I have had many episodes of feeling I was not good enough. I recall thinking when I was a little girl how I felt I wasn’t good enough – for anything; not even good enough to go to heaven.

    I thank God for His Spirit who worked through godly people He placed on my life journey who showed me and taught me that God loved me and had chosen me for His purpose. It wasn’t until I was in my 30s that I came to realize that it was not me but Christ in me that makes the difference.

    One day while standing on a college campus waiting for my husband to pick me up, I had a conversation with God concerning the difficulty I was having with some other leaders of the youth ministry. At the time I was the Youth Director but there were others who were making my job tough. I started to feel I wasn’t good enough and questioned my ability as the leader even though during my leadership the ministry had grown, the youth had grown and several activities had been implemented that lead the Pastor to recognize me for doing an outstanding job and making history in the ministry and the church. Still, I was not good enough. I couldn’t handle the ridicule, the lies and the disappointments.

    The Lord spoke to me that afternoon and told me that this was all part of the process and that I will be prosecuted. He also told me that it wasn’t about me but about Him. He promised me that He would be with me and I was to look to Him for my strength and guidance. From that moment, which I call my “defining moment”, I look to Him and allow the Lord to strengthen me and remind me that only through Him am I good enough.

    God bless you and thank you again for allowing God to use you in a mighty way.

  91. Today was the first time I’ve ever read any of the Proverbs 31 devotions. Of course it’s all about timing. God knows what and when we need to hear. I struggle on and off with insecurity. Lately I’ve really had some doubts about me. I needed to read this today. The shadow blocks the light. What others think and how I perform are big ones for me. I am called out of darkness and into His marvelous Light. I want to remember what He thinks of me. Thank you for this word.
    Nancy

  92. I will be turning 50 on November 27th. As it gets closer, I find myself pondering what I have done with my life and what I’m going to do with the rest of it. I know that’s normal, but sometimes I get really scared thinking that I’m almost 50 already and how fast time goes. And though I have a wonderful husband, I never was able to have children so who’s going to take care of me when I’m old? What is my purpose in life. And then the “you’re not good enough” thoughts start in. Isaiah 43 really helps comfort me when these thoughts hit, especially verse 1 where God say “you are mine.” Thank you for these truths today Renee and reminding us that no matter our age or what others may think, we are all special to God!!

    “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine” (Isa. 43:1).

  93. Jackie Smith says:

    What a great post….love it. And thanks for the scriptures to keep handy! I would love a copy of your book….actually read it on Kindle, but I want a print form to read again and again, mark in it, and absorb it more!
    Wonderful book.
    Blessings~~

  94. Thank you so much for today’s devotional. This one and the P31 Ministry devotional hit the very core of what I’ve been feeling lately. Tell you what…. Satan sure does a good job of planting those seeds of doubt. Thank you for giving of yourself and your time to help us stay on track! I believe a copy of your book would really help solidify those “God thoughts”!

    God Bless you~~

  95. I live in Kingston, Jamaica and a few years ago my coworker introduced to your website for daily devotions and I have been hooked since. I am really thankful that God is using this website made by women to reach out to other women. I always share these devotions with my church sisters and even brothers and friends. You have blessed many people. Continue to let the Lord use you to reach others even across the seas.

    There are many times when I get the feeling of being inadequate, not measuring up. I am grateful for your thoughts today. I know I am chosen by God and He has a purpose for my life.

    Regarding the book, if I win, I will ensure that I share it with others.

    Be blessed.

  96. Thank you! I really needed this today. I plan on reading it several times and meditating on the scripture.

  97. Marlene B. says:

    Thank you so much for this article. In our women’s group this year we have been studying ourselves in Christ. This month’s meeting was about who we are when our husbands, children, and jobs are stripped away. I have had the hardest time trying to see who I would be if I wasn’t a wife, a mother, or a chemist. Who would I be? I am chosen! I am a daughter of the KING! Thanky ou for bringing to light the verses that I needed to confirm myself in the Lord!

  98. Renee~

    Thank you so much for sharing this topic with me. It really means a lot to me. You see, I been through a lot of rough experiences through out my whole life. I’ve been sexually abused, molested, physically abused, spiritually abused, and raped. I currently suffer from major depression, I have my whole life, and most recently I was diagnosed with the early onset stages of Fibromyalgia. I have been unemployed since 2008. I had to quit my job in 2008 to take care of my mother who was diagnosed with CNS lymphoma (brain cancer). I took care of her until she died on August 4th, 2009. Losing my mother was a major, major emotional setback for me. I ended up hospitalized. My mother and I were very close. In 2010 I went to college to become a medical administrative assistant and graduated with honors in April of 2011. I was promised help from the school that I went to and never received help even though I tried to get help. I’ve filled out many applications, posted my resume on many websites, and to no avail I haven’t received responses back. This has taken a financial toll on me as well. But, to God be the glory! He has been my Rock through it all! I put my hope, faith, and trust in Him and only Him. I’ve surrendered myself to God many times and will continue to do so. My God is in control! He is Mighty to save. Your topic gave me a reminder of just how good God is to me all the time. No matter what circumstances I’ve gone through or am going through right now, God has always been here to save me. I have your book already with a special verse that you’ve chosen specifically for me. I’m not looking to win any contests. I just wanted to share that I appreciate how God works mightily through you to help people like me. You are truly a blessing, Renee, and I appreciate what you share with me. You are an encouragement to me and I can’t thank you enough for your ministry and your books. May God richly bless you, Renee.

    Love In Christ,

    Aleithia

  99. Jill Kuiper says:

    You always have the right words just when they are needed the mist. Thanks for the reminder and the confidence to go forward knowing who I am and who I belong to and whim I’m showcasing through my words and actions. Bless you for your ministry.

  100. Thank-you, Renee. Your blog post in Proverbs 31 Ministry today was just what I needed today. God’s timing is always so perfect. I had just admitted to myself yesterday that the reason that I struggle so much in life is because I (and those close to me) can never live up to my high (and often unrealistic) expectations. I often withdraw or quit in fear of failure. When asked what I was afraid of when I didn’t live up to those expectations, I replied that I was afraid of failure, of not being good enough and therefore unlovable. But you squashed all those fears by showing me God’s words. I am chosen. I am able.

  101. Why is so many of us feel this way? We’ve gone to church, been in studies, even ministered to others.
    Perhaps we forget to refresh ourselves in the spirit. To relent and Let Christ work thru’ us?
    Thank you so much for finding those truths of God for us Renee. Now all we need to do is not study them but take them to heart!

  102. Just what I needed today! Thank you so very much

  103. Thank you so much for being real! Sometimes as Christians, we try to hide our true feelings because of the fear of others. God bless!

  104. I’m a nursing student that could really use some God Confidence ! Thanks for sharing !!!!!!!!

  105. Renee thank you so much for this article. I spend my life in self-doubt and you really hit home! Again thank you for your honesty.

  106. Thank you so much for this – it was exactly the reminder I needed today!!!!!!!!!!!!

  107. Your blog title alone had my attention, and I was eager to know what testimony and wisdom you would bring to a subject I’ve struggled with most of my life. I am not disappointed, and I will be sharing this blog with a couple relatives and friends who also struggle with both not being enough but also with trying to work it out in their own strength and not accessing the Spirit of Christ’s power within them. I’m going to hang the Scripture promises you provided in my work office and at home, so I can memorize them and turn them into declarations when self-doubt and insecurity try to waylay me.

    Blessings and thank you for your openness and wisdom!
    Becca

  108. Debbie Sulecki says:

    Thank you so much for this devotional. As so many others have commented, this is just what God knew I needed to hear today. On the eve of my 50th birthday, I have really struggled with doubt and wondered if God is disappointed in what I have or have not done in my life. It is so comforting to know that many women have the same struggles. Also, to have scriptures to place in our hearts (or should I say, to replace the doubts :)) I will be printing out the “God says” and keeping it in my Bible.

    Thanks so much, again.

  109. Thank you so much for speaking out loud the things so many of us struggle with. It is so sad that there are so many of us that do battle self-doubt. My life over the last year has been exceptionally difficult and has created a lot of doubts about almost everything. If I’m being honest though, I have struggled with doubts, especially self-doubt and defeat for most of my life. Your words help to change my perspective and strive to see myself and others the way God would like me to. Thank you again.

  110. Tracie Gebauer says:

    Wow, this was what I needed to read today. This is a constant struggle for me. Thank you….

  111. Angie Stewart says:

    Thank you so much Renee for this post, it rings so true to me EVERY day!!! :-) Angie

  112. Stopping by today was a “God thing.”

    I’ve been struggling with leaving a ministry that Ive been a part of for 7 years, helping women find healing who are post abortive. Because of another worker and friend that has betrayed me in my personal life, I been having a diffcult time preparing for a speaking enagement with her in just a few weeks. This is something we done together for the last two years and it touches many young ladies.

    This post reminded me that Christ did it all for ME, so that I could to do it all for HIM!

    In His Grace~Tammy

  113. I could use some “God-fidence.” I am going through a very dark time in my life. My husband is a soldier with PTSD and TBI. We have battled this for over two years. It has taken its toll on our marriage to the point my husband is talking about leaving and divorcing me. I have been told I am a horrible wife. That for reminding me I am a child of God and he will take care of me.

  114. Hi. I can really identify with the words Denise wrote! Thank you for your posts and pointing people to Christ! God is using you as a light in my darkness! Thank you!

  115. Thank you for sharing this and everything that you share!! I really feel like whatever you say really speaks to my heart and are areas that I really struggle.
    I have dealt with something similar to what you posted about today, except I’m not in leadership, but the person had held onto something and not told me about it until months later. I was very hurt and sometimes still feel hurt today. Every time I think about it, I just think that she has probably long forgotten about it and has moved on and so should I, but it’s hard sometimes.

  116. I’m glad you’ve posted this warning and encouragement, Renee.
    4 years ago I did say, ‘I’m done.’ And walked away, yet again, from a difficult situation of lies and gossip. I wish I had this writing then. It would have saved me years of grief and loneliness. It has been hard to pick up the pieces and try to re-build what I shattered.

  117. Joanna Branson says:

    I found out just this week that my dear friend at church was “making a change” due to (I suspect) a similar situation, though not involving me. I love her and her family and want to respect her decision, but I’m going to miss her dearly. I KNOW she is not giving up, but making the change that the Lord is leading her to make. Still her presence and leadership will be missed.

  118. Susie Daggett says:

    I feel so totally inadequate, I will try focusing on Gods word and promises to see if I can get over this.

  119. Thank you for posting this.
    I am going through a strong Spiritual battle.
    I needed to be reminded who I am through Christ.

  120. This was very helpful for what I’m going through. I can relate to this completely. I’ll continue to pray. Hopefully, I win your gift package because I don’t have your book yet.

  121. After having LOVED Confident Heart online study with you, and gaining a huge amount of God-confidence, I find myself under an attack, just as you describe, out of the blue, unknown to me and completely off the radar…hit blindside, but HIT and mine was at work.

    Today, I actually shed tears when I read when you feel unable or unstable, God says: You are ABLE. This is exactly where I am.

    Just so you know how much this study meant to me…I have shared Confident heart with my daughter, and have a friend coming to share her questions with me weekly; 2 other friends got the book when I told them it was life changing. It really is, and I thank you. Even here in tears…

  122. I absolutely loved your devotion and needed to hear it today. Thank you also for the list of promises. I’m going to print it off as a handy reference.

  123. I really like how you said “Jesus didn’t die on the cross just to get us out of hell and into heaven. He died on the cross to get Himself out of Heaven and into us. ” I never thought of it that way before and for some reason it really resonates with me. So thank you for a new thought to ponder!

  124. Thank you for reminding us who we are in Christ Jesus. The world and incorrect information gives us mixed signals about our Savior. We are made stronger when we know what the Lord has to say concerning His daughters & (sons). Remembering that all (not some, but all) of our help comes from the Lord, and we can do or be nothing except He does it in or through us. Thank you for the list of lies we tell ourselves or allow others/enemy to tell us and for reinforcing the “TRUTH”, the affirmation of the word of God that refutes every lie.
    Praise God for you and your heart for the building of His Kingdom.

  125. Precious Jordan says:

    COFIDENCE…..such a word has been obsolete my entire life. I’m 27 years old and I’ve grown up in church my whole life. I’ve been taught the Word iof God, lived for Him and helped others in the proccess but I could not escape this empty feeling, this void that I realized I could never fill. Questioning my salvation and worth caused me to backslide. Upon my return to God, I felt a major struggle, was I really delivered? Did he really save me? If so, why do I keep failing, I’m going strong in The Lord for awhile then I find myself in a place I shouldn’t be, doing things I shouldn’t do. Trying to identify the reason I cannot be consistent led to frustration, anger, pity, and depression. I’ve lived surrounded by the shadow of my doubts for so long that it became normal to be. I constantly allow my thoughts to consume me and I can’t seem to get away from them. I get migrains, crying and sleeping day in and day out. I feel like an inadequate mother because of my emotionals issues revolving around my self doubt, my worth and abilities; I get angry with her and push her aside because I cannot think straight to be there for her. I cry out to The Lord for help until I cry my self to sleep. Your Book really blessed me, I feel that The Lord really used you to speak to women like me. There is so much more to my story but I would like to say Thank you. Although I’m still going through this storm, deep down inside I still have hope. I imagine myself being totally free, free from those chains of bondage of low self-esteem, feeling inadequate, incapable of succeeding in anything I do because I’m not educated, I can barely speak, but I love to write. Freedom from laziness and self pity, discouragement and all f those things that keep me from moving forward. Please keep me in your prayers.

  126. Thanks for your insights. Very helpful.

  127. It’s amazing how easily we all fall prey to Satan’s lies about being inadequate. I too have just recently been struggling with these same feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt. One of the verses the Lord showed me is Colossians 3:16 which begins with, “Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly…” I was forced to ask myself, “Am I allowing God’s Word & its truths to change me & to change my self-deprecating thoughts?” I realized I was not focusing on God’s truth about myself. I did not want to be known as the one spoken of in I John2:4 “He who says, ‘I know Him,’ and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him.”

    Thank you so much for your encouragement and reminder that we who are in Christ ARE indeed adequate — more than that. We are God’s precious children whom He loves and acccepts completly. Today I am so grateful to be called His Beloved!

  128. I enjoy your emails so much. I look forward to getting them :)
    I would love to have a copy of A Confident Heart. Please keep doing all you do for all of us ladies out there. U really are an inspiration. Thank You!!

  129. Abby Gruber says:

    Thank you for this truth! For a long long time I have been searching for something….the perfect career, the next house project, a puppy, a baby, a new haircut. But nothing seems to make me feel complete. Tonight after I got off work I couldn’t stop feeling like there was something missing from my life and I wanted to know why I felt that way. Then I stumbled across this devotion on proverbs 31 woman’s daily devotion, I believe it was a word from God to my heart telling me that I’m good enough and I’m not missing anything. Thank you for sharing.

  130. Im so thankful God led you to my devotion today Abby. Praying you will spend a little time here and let Him love on you!! Be sure to check out my FREE resources page { http://reneeswope.com/freeresources/} and I have some FREE video message that will really encourage you heart and remind you of just how valuable you are here {http://reneeswope.com/videos/chvideos/ }

    Blessings,
    Renee

  131. cindy shipley says:

    i know the feeling very well

  132. RUTHONA WASINGER says:

    I HAVE STRUGGLED WITH THIS FOR MY WHOLE LIFE AND TODAYS POST WAS VERYHELPFUL!!

  133. Really appreciate the Scriptures to help counter negative thought – it’s important to speak God’s truths into our lives to help overcome the enemies lies that we are so vulnerable to listen to and believe and let play in our minds. We need to replace the lies with God’s promises and accept His great love for us.

    Thanks for sharing important stuff and for the opportunity to win some fun give away offers. Thanks for being real, Tammy

  134. lucretia smith says:

    Just what I needed today, the encouraginging thoughts and reminder to look to the light!

  135. Been having a tough life lately. One thing after another has been piled in on me. My strength is gone. These verses give me renewed hope. Thanks.

  136. Wow, I really needed your devotion this morning! I’ve been struggling with self-doubt for weeks now and it has really affected my attitude, my work, my thoughts, my EVERYTHING! I will hold on to the promises that you shared until the negative thoughts cease. I know that with Christ, I can overcome this. I am normally a very positvie person…I’m kinda known for that. How can Satan attack me…through my greatest strength! He knows I’m not interested in an affair or gossip, but he also knows I’m fragile and that’s where he chose to strike. Thanks and may God bless you for your ministry!

  137. I really enjoy all your devotionals. This one on self-doubt is what all women need to hear. Thank you so much for showing us we are truly loved. I loved how you show scriptures with everything we all need to remember. God has truly blessed you with this ministry. Thank you for sharing with others. I struggle with self-doubt on a daily basis and so worry what others think.

  138. A friend emailed me this article and just 6 months ago I would have been so insulted. The funny thing is -what you described above could have easily happened to me but thank God it didn’t. He has renewed my heart in so many areas. I am grateful for God’s movement in my life and the way He shows me step by step without overwhelming me the same way life does! I have always felt insecure off and on my entire life. I have reached the point where I can no longer do it. My feelings have gotten the best of me. In your devo, you stated “That afternoon, I realized my self-doubt wasn’t going to just go away. I had to purposefully shift my focus from my feelings of inadequacy to God’s promises of His all-sufficiency and grace in my life.” When I read that my first thought was… uh yeah..know that, but it is so hard to do! HOW do you do that? When your feelings have been buried for so long and you haven’t learned an appropriate way to express how you feel about things or you are afraid to express your feelings, then you don’t just automatically turn to the brilliant, secure woman you know you are way down in there! You hide a lot of things to avoid conflict, to avoid being rejected, or just because hiding has been a common practice your whole life. So I’m so happy to see the plan at the end. I would love to read your book and even share it with the friend who emailed me the devo. Thanks for writing your thoughts of insecurity because I know I am not alone. I know I need to change my prayers because God made me just like this so why would He need to “fix” me? ;) I’m already fixed! I just have a much needed shift in perspective to make and voice to find… and soon!

  139. Debra Conness says:

    I have been struggling with no confidence for almost 9 yrs. My husband had an affair, we divorced and he married the woman he had the affair with. Things only got worse. I was diagnosed with Crohns and Colitis which made it hard for me to work. Which then lead to not being able to pay for utilities. So I lived without electricity for more than half the year. I also could not pay taxes and now lost my home of about 30yrs. I felt no confidence and no hope. But, God was ther with me through all of it. So many times I felt like giving up. . I was between doors and it was very dark there. With no hope, no place to go; homeless. At the last minute my daughter told me to call some old friends we knew and they had me move here. The door of the past has closed and I have stepped into the light! I still lack confidence, and this morning a friend sent me me this article!
    Thank You!

  140. Today’s Scripture promises brought me to tears. I’m feeling broken lately. I’m stressed and overwhelmed, and in those weak moments I forget just how much I’m loved by my Heavenly Father, and I don’t have to be everything, because He is everything. His strength is made perfect in my weakness. Thank you for sharing God’s love today.

  141. Julie Castenson says:

    Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and heart with us. I so badly needed to hear this message of God is enough. I don’t have to be enough, because God is.

  142. Amazing how God intertwines things and brings you to what you need when you need it. I’m feeling all of those insecurities as I am deciding to resign a position–something I really enjoy doing but taking priority over my family. The doubts and negative thoughts about giving up this position weigh heavy, yet I know in my heart that I need to step back. I know God led me to your devotional right when I need it the most! Thank you!

  143. I have been insecure forever. As a mother of a special needs child, I am constantly not enough for what he or the rest of my family need. Thank you for the devotional.

  144. Michelle Clark says:

    I have just recently started checking out your blog/website and each time I have been uplifted and reminded of what a great God we serve. I strive to listen to God’s calling for my husband and I but sometimes I feel unsure, as if I am failing him. I am so thankful when I am reminded that God is a forgiving and merciful God and want so much to be confident when I am witnessing and sharing the love of Christ. Thank you for the boost of encouragement and reminders through your words on the radio and devotionals.

  145. Danielle Hicks says:

    These are just the words that I needed as they arrived in my inbox yesterday. I cannot tell you how much your ministry has aided me in my walk. Praise God!

  146. Thanks for your encouraging words……glad to see your going to be having another
    Bible Study in February!!!!

  147. Thank you for sharing about “God-fidence”! This is exactly what I needed to hear today…I have been struggling with feelings of unworthiness and not being enough and the verses really helped me to re-focus my thoughts on Jesus, instead of myself. Thank you!

  148. I especially like the verse about being engraved on God’s hand. Even if my husband were to forget our anniversary or my best friend forget my birthday, even if all my friends forgot me on the anniversary of my son’s death, God would always remember me and be there for me!

  149. Thank you for your ministry. I really needed to hear your post today. I constantly struggle with feelings of inadequacy, self-doubt & fear. I want to learn more about how to turn to the Lord in those moments.

  150. Karen in PA says:

    Renee, Thank you for sharing your hurt with us. It helps to know that we all face trails, many times this all due to mis understanding and lack of communication. I am trying to be more open to ministry opportunities, becasue it seems women often do just what you decribe and I have fear of dealing with this. I will print and pray over the verses you privide.

    In Christ, Karen

  151. I just found your website. I am so thankful that once again God leads me where I need to be. Thank you for the promises printable. I forget so quickly…

  152. Thank you for sharing. I really needed to hear it.

  153. I struggle with this daily. As a widow (my husband passed away a few weeks after his 48th birthday), mom of two, teacher of developmental education college students, and novice follower of Christ, I know that I’m not enough. But I remind myself daily that God IS, and I’m thankful for your wonderful blog entry that so eloquently has put it far better than I ever could.

  154. The Confident Heart has been a life changing book for me! Thank you for writing it and for your ministry to women around the world!

  155. ” I could die to my desire to protect myself from getting hurt again and choose to tap into His power by relying on the strength of His Spirit in me .”

    Thank you for this reminder… Sometimes we wonder if we can survive the hurt, but with HIS power we definitely can!

  156. Thank you for this. I have forever felt inadequate, in everything I do. I’ve always looked to the world, to those close to me for confirmation. I know I need to quit doing that, I know where I need to look, to Whom I need to look, for confidence and to quit being afraid & feeling inadequate. Thanks for sharing your hurt and for your ministry!

  157. Chastity Ray says:

    What a beautiful post and exactly what I needed today

  158. Thank you for sharing your heart, for being vulnerable. Real. Beautiful. Oh, have I had days like this. Thank you for giving me the confidence to keep going. To live in God’s truth, His light. Blessings to you on this fall day! I so can’t wait to read this book!

  159. I needed to read this today! Thank you! :-)

  160. I have read many of your posts, and I have enjoyed them. I’ve even shared some on my facebook. Thank you for writing and sharing insight.

  161. So much hurt can be avoided when we grab the strength God has given us and go boldly forth. How much pain could have been spared had others not misunderstood you… or if the other lady had asked you about it immediately. We are so broken we are always ready to believe the worst in others too. Our insecurities keep us from so much.

    Thanks for sharing with us, and for the giveaway offer.

  162. Thanks for your obedience to share what God has done in your life. So many things I identify with, and while reading your book, have been equipped to recognize and deal with issues that hold me back.

  163. I love how God – who loves us and created us for His glory- meets us right where we are with what we need to hear. My situation is with a co- worker, not ministry, but she is upset and angry with me. It makes for a very tense work environment! I find that I am entertaining thoughts of self-doubt and second guessing myself. It was so good to read through the verses and be reminded of who I am in Christ and Gods great love for me. Thank You!

  164. Thanks! We always need to be reminded of Gods promises and that He is working in us. Sometimes its difficult, im having a hard time dealing with stresses of life. But we need to keep in mind that everything we do as christians has to be for his glory! God bless u!

  165. Jenny Mabe says:

    Thanks for sharing this article. Your messages are uplifting and encouraging .

  166. Vicky Warrick says:

    What a wonderful message that truly speaks to my heart today. I believe that the enemy tries anything to keep us from God’s purpose for our life. Ane of the methods is isolation from each other. Feelings of not being good enough can make us withdraw from the very people that could help build us up.

  167. This made me cry. Loved the reminders & printed them out so I can remind myself daily of them. Thanks for the post!

  168. Renee Dawson says:

    Thank you for the encouraging words and prayers. The past few months have been challenging as the enemy has been actively attacking. My confidence has been extremely low, and this is the month of my husband’s passing’s anniversary. My son contacted his birth mother. Constantly, I have been criticized and called selfish and told I am inadequate. People have delighted in my pain. There have been many moments when I felt defeated, but I know who determines my worth. He paid the price for me and chose me. There is no condemnation for her who is in Christ Jesus.

  169. Sheila Highers says:

    I really enjoy reading all of your inspiring words, also I had the opportunity to go to one of your conferences at Bellshoals Baptist Church last month. Your truly inspiring.

  170. Isn’t this how it usually goes…talking about rather than to the person…
    Thank you for the loved reminders…

  171. Sherry Smith says:

    Your message was very timely. something I really needed to hear. Isn’t God wonderful when He makes sure you hear what you need to hear from what might be a very unlikely place.

  172. Thank you so much for this devotion, coming at the end of a long week. It really spoke to me; I am going to pass this on to a dear friend who is gong thru a lot of marital difficulty. I know it will encourage her in the Lord to hang on. God bless you!

  173. Since recently starting a new job I have felt inadequate so many times. I keep focusing on all my limitations instead of focusing on God. My heart has been anything but confident!

  174. melissa p says:

    I can’t tell you how excited I am to read this book! Thank you Renee for writing this book. I have been plagued with insecurity since I was just a little girl.I thought I was the only one who struggles with it. When i was little my mom left the home and it created deep,deep scars. I always thought it was my fault. Throughout school I was bullied and made fun of and then when i was married my husband had several affairs. But something changed.I got saved. After that I realized I could be free from this self doubt and pain but honestly it’s been a long road and many times I have felt it was impossible to be free from this. When I read a preview of your book,I just felt like crying and was so relieved that I wasnt the only one that has a problem with this. Thank your obedience to God in writing this. I have a strong feeing it will help tons of women. From the bottom of my heart I thank you and cant wait to get A confident heart for myself.

  175. Feeling inadequate and worthless is a constant, daily battle for me. Thank you for this post and the verse reminders that I am loved, I have no reason to fear, and that in Him I can do all things. It is truly a battle that needs to be fought constantly for me.

  176. CATRINA GARCIA says:

    I really thank God for gifting you and how you use your gifts. I decided one year ago to really follow God and I’m finally feeling real peace. But on those days that are hard your devotions left my spirit up and remind me God loves me!

  177. This so blessed me today. When we were pastoring a small church, I felt I could never do enough or be enough. I tried but just couldn’t meet the expectations of others. This post brought the memories back but also how God has allowed me to be myself as we are taking a break from direct ministry. In God I am enough, but at times those old voices and complaints try to take over. I love the “when I feel statements”. Going to print those and put them by my mirror. Thank you!

  178. Kim Santo says:

    Its been a long difficult road for my 8 year old daughter and I- we haven’t had a permanent home for the duration of her life and sometimes I’m not sure I can keep going but with God I do. Praying for some peace, security and healing for me and my baby and a good home and job and some confidence and courage.

  179. “I wasn’t enough … wasn’t strong enough, resilient enough, or humble enough. But Christ in me was more than enough.” I love this statement!

  180. thank you for the honesty in your devotional, it is nice to know that I am not alone in feelings this way and going through thiings like this.

  181. Sometimes it seems as though life is a daily struggle. When we think we have it all together and are walking with God, things seem to fall apart.

  182. Theresa Clark says:

    Thank you for the reminders AGAIN. The Truth. The Truth will set us free. And I must fill my mind and heart with this Truth and allow God to use it for His glory and to push out satan’s lies. Your words of encouragement and truth continually do that.

  183. Lesly Verbeten says:

    I am loving your book, and also Unglued. I love the verses you posted in your download. I am really trying to “get” my identity in Christ, and I love a list that helps me remember who I am, based on what God has said. Thank you for your work. God is using you to encourage me as I am going through the absolute hardest thing I’ve ever had to do before. My husband and I are going through a separation (not legal, but physical) after dealing with results of him having a midlife crisis of sorts. He has made some horrible choices that God brought to light, and now w are dealing with the fallout. All of this at the same time I have been struggling with my own identity in Christ. I know God will make all things work together for good, and I am really striving to trust and rest in him, and walk faithfully during this time of difficulty. You are helping me through it.

  184. Maria Johnson says:

    I’m standing in a long line for early voting so unsure about my decision. I’m happy to say that the one thing i can be sure of is Jesus :)

  185. God allows so many hurtful & painful things to happen in our lives, so that His name will be glorified. Thank for your continued encouragement & hope rooted in our resurrection faith.

  186. I am constantly guilty of that, the seed of doubt was planted in my life more so through losing my job. After 23 years with the same Company you start questioning yourself & your abilities. Thank you for reminding me of God’s great love.

  187. Christ in me is more than enough!

  188. Renee,
    I have so much respect for you and what God has brought you through in order to speak through you to the hearts of so many! It was such an honor to get to meet you at She Speaks this summer and just for a few moments share my heart with you. Your story here, though its only a glimpse of all that happened, is so dear to my heart because of what happened to me as well in my own life. Keep sharing Renee! Thank you for being His hands and feet and choosing to press on even when life makes you want to quit!

  189. Amanda Norwood says:

    Thank you for such a great topic. I go back and forth between fear of not enough and being afraid of what will happen when I succeed.

  190. Thank you so much or your words of encouragement…low self esteem is one of my major struggles…

  191. Billi Ott says:

    I enjoy your posts and books. Thank you for encouraging women.

  192. Reading these truths means a lot during a time in my life that has been the hardest I have faced…and I very often feel Not good enough…but it is good to know that God sees and says otherwise.

  193. Fran DeGregoria says:

    I found this to be very applicable to me and my life.

  194. Diana Gardner says:

    I really love the When you feel…..You are…..reminder. I need to hear it every single day. I can never be reminded too often. Thank you for sharing!

  195. Love this book and everyone I’ve bought it for has loved it as well. Especially helpful in my young adult ministry. Would love to have a couple copies to share with a few more girls and be able to take them to Starbucks to talk about it.

  196. Shawn Schenk says:

    Sometimes it is not always easy to remember that God loves you, especially when you are in the pit and it feels as if there is no way out. One thing that I have learned it that even though you are in the pit, God is there with you, He never leaves you. That was one of the AhAh moments for me, and helped me a great deal. Lord Bless all of you for what you do, and the support that you give to everyone.

  197. Kellie Rose Wilson says:

    Thank you so much for this reminder. I have days where I am searching for my purpose and need positive thoughts. Today is one of those days. Thank you so much!

  198. Jen Brook says:

    I love your devitions . They are so encouraging in my life

  199. Lisa Dawn says:

    Loved your book, and read your blog! Thank you Renee for opening your heart and sharing so freely, you have blessed my life! Blessings, Lisa Dawn ~<3~ <3<3<3

  200. Beautiful post and a great reminder for me. Thank you!

  201. I’ve been fighting the not good enoughs lately. It’s a constant challenge to keep my thoughts focused on God and not on what I “think” others may or may not think of me. It’s been a rough few months with my health and that leaves me isolated and alone with my thoughts. Dangerous if I let it be.

  202. I think we all feel like this sometimes. Thank you for the wonderful printable verses. Your blog is wonderful!

  203. Melissa N. says:

    It’s been a rough time here for the past month or so, where one thing after another bears down on me and my family, to the point the we do feel defeated. Thank you for your post today; it came to me at the right time when I needed it most. I really hope to get a chance to read A Confident Heart soon.

  204. Theresa LeBlanc says:

    I first heard of Proverbs31 Mnistries when I saw Lysa speak at a women’s conference in Kansas City. I have read and enjoyed Lysa’s books and Lysa and Renee’s blogs. I would love love LOVE to read the book.

    Pick me! Pick me! Pick me!

    Clearly, subtlety is my strong suit. ;-)

    Seriously, I pray that the Lord blesses your ministry and it continues for years to come. You have truly blessed me.

    Thank you!

  205. I could use some uplifiting!

    janemaritz at yahoo dot com

  206. Kelli Braley says:

    I love today’s printable promises. I copied these out of “A Confident Heart” when I first read it. Now when I start to feel inadequate or not enough, I focus them back toward God in a prayer of thanksgiving: “Thank you God that I am chosen, thank you that I am redeemed, thank you that I am loved….” It helps calm my heart and to remember to listen to truth and not the lies that Satan would have me believe.

  207. Meghan Heasley says:

    Very true. Thanks for sharing.

  208. I know these feelings all to well. I am going through somethings right now and am overwhelmed with emotions. Not sure how to get where I need to be with God. I have struggled with feeling I don’t fit anywhere or belong. Thank you for the printables. I have printed it out and am going to carry it with me at all time. Thank you for all P31 does for people like me that needs that extra encouragement.

  209. Your comment that Jesus did not die on the cross to get us out of hell into heaven. He dies on the cross to get Himself out of Heaven and into us. That statement made His entire ministry crystal clear to me. Thank you for using your ministry to move women, young and not so you. Peacefully and respectfully.

  210. Jennifer McGinnis says:

    Renee, I really enjoy your devotions so much. I listen to you on Spirit FM as well.

  211. I was talking with a lady in our church who really had not been involved with our ladies ministry, but maybe one time and she seem very up-set for some reason. I ask her would she come back again and join us. She told me she just did not know yet, there were some things she did not like. So, I ask her well, what would you differently? Before she was done, I felt overwhelmed. I wish I had not ask, because she acted angry. We are a small church and she thought things should be run like a big church. She thought we should have games at the annual women’s brunch etc. etc., which I started years ago. We do not have alot of time for games, but I could put a game in to give away a gift.
    But, that night I went home feeling like I was not a good leader. I felt like I had failed. Everything I do is wrong. I beat myself up good and cried too. But, that night when I laid down I started praying to God and ask Him to help me. I told Him I wanted to always do things His way, not someone else’s way. I needed Him to help me and I trusted Him. I felt so much better after turning everything over to Him.
    This is what I wrote:

    Change me, O Lord
    Make me beautiful inside and out
    Help me be the kind of person You want me to be.
    Change my attitudes and my thoughts
    Help me to focus on You,
    Help me be more loving and kind
    Change my heart, O Lord
    to feel Your presences,
    to be humble
    to let You guide my life.
    Change me, O Lord
    to be more like You. ~joyce
    Thank Renee for this post. It really speaks to my heart. in Christ

  212. Recently God has shown me I am not adequate, I am not enough! God is all to everything. Thank you for this opportunity.

  213. I really enjoyed this devotional! So timely, and I’ve printed off the reminders for myself and for a friend who deals with self-worth issues. Thank you for being led by the Holy Spirit to write the things that will help set women free!

  214. Amanda Gay says:

    Thank you for your devotional! It was very timely. I love the encouragement and verses you give. I also love the printable that I can post and read daily!

  215. Jan Heinen says:

    All I can say is ditto to ALL that everything everyone above has said. it’s so encouraging for me to hear that I am not the only one with these feelings. Thank you, thank you to all the gals who freely shared their issues/situations as it is again, helpful for me to know I am not alone.

  216. Aleshia Howard says:

    Thank You so much for what you do. I thank God that he has led you to share the things he has brought you through..It is so encouraging!! God bless you in all you do!!

  217. I love your devotions! I love the part where it says God loves the unloved…so very precious!!!!

  218. Susie Daggett says:

    Thank you for your thoughts

  219. Tonya Creek says:

    God works in our lives every moment of everyday, if we just pause to see it. I needed this post so much!! I pray daily that I just be enough. Enough for many reasons and in many ways. It’s not that I need to BE ENOUGH but instead,,, I need to let go and let God BE ENOUGH! I’m flawed, and He loves me anyway and that is more then enough. I love you Lord for loving that lonely little girl that never leaves this 46 yr old woman. This post came at a perfect time for me. ~Tonya
    God Bless You and Keep You

  220. Thanks so much for sharing. Just what I needed today! Blessings, Debbie

  221. Thank you Jesus I am chosen, redeemed, loved, remembered, secured, able, called. Help be live in your promises daily.

  222. Thank you for the wonderful insight. Always a blessing to read your devotions.

    Living in the Light <3

  223. Renee your blogs usually seem to fit my life as I need them and I’m so grateful God led me to your blog. Today as I read your message it seems you were in my head again as this was a perfect reminder as God & I just spoke about this very subject the other day. I have doubted myself most of my life, especially if I am a good enough daughter of Christ. Often I feel as thought I am such a disappointment to him but see he is reminding me through you that I am not and his love for me is truly unconditional.

    Thank you for your words of wisdom, encouragement and love. Also thank you for the printables page. I clip them and tape them up on my bath room mirror and car visor mirror, my notebooks for school and bible studies and even in my kitchen cabinets to serve as reminders.

  224. Love your book and blot posts! Your book blessed me so much! I would love to win to share the blessing! God bless you!

  225. Would love to win your book Renee. I struggle with self-doubt, and feel like I learn bits and pieces from different study’s and sources, but I have a long way to go. I have heard wonderful things about your book and would love to read it and see for myself. Thanks for the opportunity.

  226. apple blossom says:

    those promises are so wonderful thanks for sharing the pdf download

  227. a wonderful posting, renee…thanks for sharing.

  228. This is so true when your parents really aren’t accepting my own walk with God. I know I have hurt them but when I was younger there was something that was different I couldn’t explain and still can’t. I was raised Catholic and so are my parents but lately God is calling me to a different church and as I look back to the past. I would always go to the Christian section and Beth Moore books were eyeing me but I was afraid to talk to them. So I was attending Zumba at a Church where you just know Jesus is there it is amazing and that led to me to Bible Study which also lead me to the single groups. About 3 weeks ago, I told my parents they gave me their blessing but you can feel that disconnection of dissapproval. Before both of my parent were married let me state that again before both of my parents were married there were in minister vocation. Plus I’m their miracle child…I’ve been crying about this for a couple of days just because but I know it is my walk with God and His plans for me. Plus I feel so much closer to God with the Church community of believers where I can see His reward and His glory and it is amazing. Asking for prayers and would love the confident heart to give to a friend and unglue..Thanks.

  229. Mary Beth says:

    I have dealt with feelings of inadequacy my whole adult life. I will definitely add these thoughts and scriptures to my prayer scriptures to battle and overcome this self doubts. Thanks for reading my “mail”.

  230. Tracie Gebauer says:

    This is a constant struggle, I jokingly said the other day, I will be known as the lady that explodes then feels guilty and will apologize. Sadly it’s so true and I carry the guilt around like it’s a duffle bag.

  231. I would love to have a copy of your book to give to one of my Praying Wife’s Bible Study!! I got the eBook version of Confident Woman…Thanks & God Bless!!

  232. Michele W says:

    Thank you for being so open about how discouraged you felt about your situation. It is a reminder of how God works in our lives as well as others. As our journey of day to day situations confront us, we may not always think or do the right thing at first, but if we listen and repent, His grace, mercy, and strength will help us to do, His will, not ours. We need to pray for the ability to be more real with other women, so they can see the victory we can have in Him.

  233. Renee
    This is something I struggle with in so many areas.

    So this was what I really needed to be reminded of!!

  234. Jennifer Miller says:

    Thanks for sharing.I enjoy reading your blogs.

  235. Hi Renee,
    I thank you for ministering to me today..
    I hope you get an opportunity to read this comment. You are a blessing and I would be so fortunate to be able to get a message like this across to other people. I am praying that God will continue to help you minister to others. Thank you. Love and prayers

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    work and coverage! Keep up the very good works guys I’ve incorporated you guys
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  237. Jill Sanderson says:

    Thank you for your thoughts :) I really needed them tonight… I have been dealing with thoughts of feeling like I am not good enough for a VERY long time. I know that it is unhealthy, but, I find that the more I try and fight through the feelings, the worse I feel. Fear just keeps creeping in and destroying my relationships with others and with God. So, I appreciate all the help from God’s word that I can get. Thank you :)

  238. Delvena Leak says:

    “….I Love You More Heavenly, Father….” With this I will continue to share the gospel of the Lord. I am greatful and appreciative of your work Renee Swope. Thank You!

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