How to Beat the Bully of Doubt

Satan is a bully who tries to make us feel small, inadequate, less than and insecure. But we don’t have to believe him anymore.

Often times He’ll use something to trigger our self-doubts and then he’ll pounce on us with lies. Today can be the day you decide YOU ARE are more than a conqueror through HIM who loves you!

I’ve got  a short video message based on my book that will equip and empower you to stop letting doubt and discouragement beat you up and start letting God’s Word build you up instead! Watch this for a practical way to beat the bully of doubs with the power of God’s promises.


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Today I’m giving away a year’s subscription to the P31 Woman magazine and a copy of my book, “A Confident Heart”  (to keep or share with a friend) along with my message “Don’t Throw Away Your Confidence” on CD and a Starbucks gift card!  To enter, click “share your thoughts” below this post and  let’s talk about those things that trigger your doubts and what truth God spoke to your heart today through the video message and/or my P31 devotion.

And the WINNER is…. Erin Maxwell {announced July 26, 2012}

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About Renee

Renee Swope is a Word-lover, story-teller, heart-encourager and grace-needer. She's also a wife, mom, friend, daughter and author of A Confident Heart, a Retailers Choice Award winning book that became a best-seller and has been published in six languages, with over 150,000 copies sold. Renee is speaks around the country at women's events and and serves on the writing team for DaySpring’s inCourage blog. For twenty years, Renee served in leadership at Proverbs 31 Ministries and as former co-host of the ministry's radio program, “Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee.

Comments

  1. kristen barkdull says:

    I suffer from lack of confidence, insecurity, and fear everyday. I really want to learn how to do away with those fears and rely solely on God; on His strength and His view of me. I have a problem with thinking way to much about what others think of me. Another thing I struggle with is trying to please everyone and doing what everyone else wants me to do rather than what is best for me. The beat thing I can is work through this book and pray and ask God to help. I have this book already but if I win I would love to share this wonderful message with a friend! Blessings Renee for writing such a great book!

    • Today I’m sitting on a deck overlooking a humming bird feeder and watching its visitors chase each other to and from the feeder to a near by tree. Up til now only one at a time would stop and drink the sweet nectar and then hurry away before the other would buzz past.

      I try to find solace in this tiny cabin and it’s beautiful surroundings but did not find peace until this morning. A few things plague my thoughts. Our ministry ” Walk on water equine therapy” weighs heavy on my mind as it becomes more demanding in caring for the horses and trying to make a difference in the lives we touch. I am fatigued at best. On top of that I have accepted a new position as a pre k teacher in a public school. I wanted the opportunity not only to teach but to demonstrate the Lord’s love to at risk children. It’s a challenging task that I have prayed about for 5 years and God answered miraculously just 6 weeks ago. On the home front I have four children, teens and a 21 year old. Two which are sold out for God and two who I am in constant prayer over.

      So self doubt consumes me at times, especially now. How do I do all things well and to the glory of God? How do accomplish all that He has set before me? He said to seek Him first right?

      My daughter sat on the porch 2 days ago writing from her bible. I asked what she was doing? “I’m writing a bible study for my youth group, mom.”. She explained she had been watching the hummingbirds as well. ” mom they just won’t be still. If they would be still they would get all that they needed. “. Oh my goodness. She was right! And there was God talking to me through my 15 year old. ” Be still and know that I am God”. How many times have I told her the same thing.

      So this morning as I was reading my devotion from proverbs 31 God showed me what he meant. The humming birds who would barely feed at all…stopped and sipped….I’d never seen a humming bird stop, have you? Not only that both humming birds perched together at the feeder and drank. Then for the first time as well God sent a myriad of birds chirping and singing as if to say ” be still my daughter and come drink with me and you will see my glory manifest through you. “.

      I’m glad that my Lord takes the time to physically show us that he can meet our needs if we are just still and know that HE is God.

      • Dear Sis. Patti,

        Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for posting this! I’m at a place in my life where it seems the struggles keep coming more and more and more…..it seems the more I try to commit myself to God the more attacks I keep going through, mentally, physically, spiritually, financially, you name it I am going through it. I’m a single mother of 6 kids from 19 down to a set of 16 month old twins, no job no income coming in AT ALL, alone. I’m SO drained, I’m so tired I feel alone with a lot of questions most of the time but its when I get confirmations like the one I just read through your post it let’s me know that I am truly on the right path. Recently at Church one of the sisters there told me to “Be Still” then I read your post, which I usually honestly was not going to do (you know those voices in your head prompting you not to do what you really should) but praise God I did…..and he told me yet again thanks to your 15 year old baby…..”BE STILL”! He is working it all out. For me, for you, for those of us who are truly seeking his face….I know I am!
        So I THANK YOU and I encourage you to keep moving towards him through it all. He’s got us!!!!

        God Bless You!

        Davine

      • Thank you for that wonderful comment!

      • It is amazing how often God uses ‘our’ environment to show us mini yet profound spiritual truths by using His creation to teach and confirm in our spirit the things that He is wanting us to grasp. I live in one of the suburbs of outer Darwin in Australia and when I examined the heavens tonight it was so amazing and peaceful! I have struggled with self esteem issues and also with incredible back & neck pain and currently are not working and thus are struggling with the feelings associated with not working. Despite not feeling a sense of purpose in life God has also recently told me: ‘To be still and know that I am God!’ So thank you for sharing about what God has been telling you. This correlates with my own experience and communicated a sense of peace despite my situation. God’s richest blessings to you, your family and ministry.

      • Reading this experience I am reminded too that God is calling me to still myself before Him.He cannot make me be still but I have to want to come and drink from Him.He is the resource for all that is needed for me to overcome.Yet it is I who must still myself before Him.I have a hard time sitting down and waiting on the Lord. Thank you for sharing this with the readers.Quite the truth I needed to hear for this season of my busy life.

    • I took the step of faith I knew God was calling me to (to homeschool our children), but then struggle with doubt when others disagree or are critical. I care too much about the opinion of others…assuming they’re smarter than I am. Then, I end up discouraged and feeling defeated.

      • You are about to embark on a wonderful adventure that will allow you to see how GOD is the one who will give you everything you need to homeschool your children, in fact He already has, as you obviously love them and are willing to make a huge personal sacrafice to obey God and give your children the best education. My youngest child is a sophmore in the toughest state university in our state, and my middle daughter is returning there to get her doctorate of nursing after graduating summa cum laude with her BS in nursing and then going right to work to gain experience for two years before returning. I homeschooled both of them for the parts of their education that God called me to do. It gave them excellent study skills and ability to work independently and really learn, not just pass tests that teachers would let them continue taking until they passed or bring in extra hand soap or tissues to get extra credit which was a practice in the public school. I didn’t know about the homeschool option with my oldest child, now 29, and if I were to ever feel guilty or doubt myself, it would be for not getting to homeschool him at all. However, the Lord has been gracious to me in allowing me to see that He is always in control and doesn’t want me to ever feel guilty about something I didn’t know about. All of my children are bright, well socialized, hard working, successful people who love the Lord and are confident and hopeful about their futures.

        I had to return to work when my youngest was ready for high school so she did go to the public highschool. Her faith and roots were strong and she was a tremendous light in her high school, not part of the cliques that had begun years before and she continues to be part of a Christian group at the university that ministers to high school youth, establishing relationships with them in order to win the right to be able to share with them about Jesus. We tell everyone God has a perfect plan for their lives and then try to make it our plan or at least give God some helpful hints. He doesn’t need our help, just our trust and obedience.

        During my children’s lives we did public, private and homeschool. We woud take it step by step, and ask God for His guidance and try our best to follow His lead. Homeschooling was definitely the most exhausting and gratifying. So many positives that they outweighed the challenges, including what others might have thought about our decision. If God has called you to this, He will take you through it and it will be a wonderful thing. ENJOY!

    • I was reading page 101 of A Confident Heart. I realized I already had a God given dream that I can and will pursue. I have a heart to bring Gods” Word to the elderly. I’m starting a Bible Study at the elderly tower where I live. And I may see if doors open so I can teach the Word at the nursing home I work at. Then I turned on a Joseph Prince message today about pursuing our God given dreams empowered by God”s love. Please pray with me that doors will open for me at the nursing home. Thank you for all I’m learning from Renee and her book. And the wonderful sisters who post comments.

    • Stefanie says:

      I really am doing this for my mom, she needs to see this video, so as soon as I can, I will show her this video. My mom has lots of insecurities and fear in her life. I think this confidence gift pack would boost her confidence and your book will to. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us to help us. I will tell her about the AM/FM channels in our hearts. We must have more FM thoughts. Thank you Renee for sharing your heart. I pray that mom will be able to receive this CONFIDENCE BOOST gift pack.

  2. Florence says:

    The stress of raising a child on my own and all that entails (physical exhaustion, financial issues, etc.) is my number one trigger. I always question whether I am doing a good job or I’m making the right decision.

    • Was thinking about how difficult this would be just yesterday! Keep up the good work and just keep asking the Lord to give you wisdom to know how to do it right!

    • Florence, I was single mom to 3 kids. I found the Lord at that time. Remember that when you feel weak Jesus is there to help and guide you. You’re not alone. Do your best and rest in Him. . Stay blessed dear sister.

  3. Amazing God gives us just what we need. i have been feeling insecure at work because of my teams results. This message immediately boosted my confidence! I will now walk with assurance that i am a conqueror no more AM just FM for me

    • BRISEIDA says:

      one of my worst triggers are my mother’s comments always negative never encouraging, incapable of recognize the good deeds of anyone, on the contrary always talking about others lack of this or that, very critical of others behavior and never realizing how god has bless her 85 yrs of life after loosing her mother at age 9 i know she has a hard life and i pray god will fill me with patience empathy understanding so we can have a wonderful mother daughter relationship before she dies , she claims that she is a firm believer that god exist and that he has been with her all hr life that is good but she refuses to go to church and when she does someone’s funeral that is about all she has gone to church for she is very disruptive and talk a lot , she beleives in giving to charity and that makes her feel ok wth god always someone is doing something to her everyone is bad and mean to her, that is why she attacks everyone and criticizes dimish them and insult them always looking to start an argument,,, she does that with me a lot and i try not to call her for a couple of days so i can take a mental brake,, since i also have to deal with a bipolar /drug addict son who is 40 yrs…. that is also a huge trigger point for me and my insecurities and anxieties,,,, even thoug i very thankful to have receive god in my life whos is the source of my strengjht and who reminds me that he loves me and that all i need is his love to keep me strong, thrugh him i have been able to cope wth alll this burden and trials that i been going thru and now i’, able to help others wth theirs struggles. he just mold me to make me stronger and i give all the glory to him…

      • Briseida, I also have a negative, critical mother. Our relationship changed as I walked more in Gods love. . Sounds like you’re already on that path.

  4. Maureen says:

    I am my worst critic and I constantly doubt myself and my decisions. I want FM thoughts, not AM thoughts (love that idea).

  5. sue Falco says:

    Today I am up early…(too early) after a night when I never really got to sleep… Very thankful to read today’s P31 entry. Thank you for your words of encouragement . I think that I could learn a lot from your book..

    I;ve been dealing with malignant brain cancer for 9+ years . I struggle with holding onto my God’s confident heart… so many setbacks… then feeling hopeful again… only to be smashed flat again over and over.

    BUT…
    I am confident in my faith in Christ and the love of God our Father…

    But my own confident heart ??? Seems like the beginning of that old song that starts off — “To Dream the Impossible Dream…”

    Thanks again for your devotion today…

    • praying for you to rest and trust in God through the tough times andy easier times also. please pray for me as I have a similar challenge with health issues. thanks! pray for my family also assome of them are still going and coming to God or hesitate in returning to him, and some are seemingly not wanting Him at all.

  6. God called me to leave my teaching job at a Christian School where I had taught for 21 years. At His bidding, I have started a school for students desiring a Christian education that could not attend traditional Christian schools because of severe academic or behavior problems.(autistic, bipolar, etc.) I love the place God has me, but feel so insecure about the business side of things. We have finished our first year. It is amazing to see how God provides! I just need to learn to walk confidently in a new calling.

    • Janet,
      I hope you get this message. How remarkable that you have started this school. I teach entrepreneurship and am an entrepreneur myself. Please read the book “start something that matters” by Blake mycoski’s. So e really great thought and practical support for business creation. What you are doing is truly inspirational.

    • Janet: You are an inspiration for me. I am ready to follow God’s calling to open a law firm/ministry to serve women and families in crisis, to offer them a place to go to get legal help and healing from a Christian foundation and to help reverse some of the cultural decay that has devastated women and children. So many of the legal arid organizations have become secular, progressive havens, that there is nothing available for Christians who want to fight against the enemy’s war on the family and children. It is way outside my comfort zone to go out on my own, so to speak, and God is challenging me. I’m so blessed by your story. Renee’s study has been invaluable to me as well since the enemy has been working overtime to destroy my confidence and convince me that I cannot do this. Thanks for book suggestion Juli.

      Love and blessings,

      Mary

    • that is very wonderful that you are giving the children and families an opportunity thru Gods help and strength! God is with you! some of my family members and myself could have benefited from something like your school 🙂

  7. I was 16 when my dad left my mom and 9 children. I was very close to my dad, so when he left, I became very insecure, filled with doubt and fear that I still struggle with to this day. I have moments when I feel I have finally overcome those thoughts, but it is always easier to slip right back there every time something happens to trigger them. I lack self-confidence and constantly struggle over what people would think of me if they knew the real me. I always feel like I am taking more steps backwards than forward and wonder sometimes why God hasn’t given up on me yet.

  8. I struggle a lot with my confidence. I worry a lot about what others think of me too. I like the idea of having these Fm thoughts ready ahead of time so that when doubts come we can stop them from overcoming us. Thank you so much for sharing. I really needed this to start my day!

  9. Michelle M. says:

    When my husband left, the last of my confidence seemed to walk out the door with him. The last two years, I have been working on rebuilding, and trying to focus on God’s truths and His promises. I am the mother of two young sons whom I want to raise well, and often find myself second-guessing my decisions concerning them. I almost didn’t leave a comment, because after I read some of the previous ones, the self-doubt talk of, “See, these women deserve this book so much more than you!!!” came out. So, I am taking the first step by leaving a comment. Thank you for this opportunity. I would love this book:)

  10. Noemi Welsch says:

    This is something I live with daily. Insecure about so many things. I pray every morning for a fresh look o. Things sometims I have the confidence I need but most of time I have doubt. I had forgotten about that story in the Bible. Thank you so much for your pick me up this morning.

  11. Michelle says:

    Wow, God is ALWAYS on time. I was just discussing my fear and self-doubt last night with my husband and my sister. I am finally tired of doubting myself. The devotion and webcast reminded me that I an fearfully and wonderfully made. I plan to be ready to counter my “AM” thoughts with my “FM” thoughts starting today, thank you!

  12. Robin L. says:

    Thanks so much I needed that major. I’m struggling especially at work. Thanks

  13. I go from feeling confident to feeling like a fake most days. I need God’s wisdom to change me….my thoughts and what I value. I am leading a group study on your book with some of my neighbors and they think I know what I am doing but I probably have the least confidence of all. I actually don’t have your book because I gave my copy to one of the participants to encourage her to come. Thank you for allowing God to use you this way.

  14. Becky Stroth says:

    I have a lot if doubt when I do what I feel God is asking of me but it doesn’t go as well as I hoped. Then I feel like I didn’t do it right or that I misread God. Gideon’s story reminded me to work through that, because God hasn’t left me.

  15. First of all, thank you for taking the time to encourage me with your message. I am literally the woman at the well and more…I will be completely honest here, I have been married five times and am now married again. Out of those marriages have come three of the most amazing kids all from different dads. My oldest daughter (25) is not speaking to me right now. She is married, living in their own home. The other two (daughter, 12 and son, 16) live with their dads. You can see why doubts and insecurities of being a good mom overcome me all the time but I try everyday to speak and think FM thoughts just to get through. Being the best mom I can, even if it’s from a distance, is my calling. I would love to read your book and be encouraged and learn how to have a confident heart. I know that God is in control and have laid my children at the foot of the cross and given them to Him! Thanks again for the encouragement. May the Lord bless you richly!!

  16. I am trying to do something that is way out of my comfort zone. I loved your devotional and video. It was great to remember that God is for me and that I can do all things through Christ! Thank you for sharing!

  17. As a young adult, I took on a lot of responsibility for my parents who went thru a divorce and then my father remarried and as a result, I felt as though I failed my family and looking back – I see how my insecurities and unreasonable sense of responsibility for people and things out of my control grew…God has really been working on me, on my heart and mind to build me up in Him and overcome those negative feelings…it truly is amazing how He sends us messages like yours today at just the right time!

  18. It never ceases to amaze me how I can hear something more than once and get something different out of it every time. I love your book and I will be requesting it to be our next book together in our Women’s Ministry class.

  19. As I sit here reading today’s devotion, I realize how much it resonates with me! I hate living in doubt and yet I seem to be really good at it!!! I’m waiting to hear about a big job promotion – have been waiting – and I’ve gone from “this will be great” to “wow I wonder if I can do this?” to “they haven’t called – it’s a sign” to “they probably changed their minds” to “who am I kidding, I can’t do this” to “I’m not going to think about it any more” – yeah right! Thanks so much for the reminder and encouragement!

  20. this really hit home for me. I lack self confidence and self worth. I so much want to change. I read this and think ” Yes, she is so right” but by the end of the day, I am back to second guessing every decision, reading into every remark made by others. I hope to continue reading ” A Confident Heart” and learn to rely more on the Lord and less on my doubts. I am very grateful for what you are doing Renee.

    • I would love to win your book! Thank you so much for your honesty on the subject of self-doubt. I believe most people struggle with confidence at some time or another but usually do not admit to feeling this way. Sometimes I am amazed at the confidence that other people seem to have while I often agonize over simple decisions because of self-doubt and fear of what others will think of me. Your practical solutions and plan of action make perfect sense- focusing on God’s truths, His word, and His plan for us instead of our own doubts or satan’s lies. Thank you for reminding me to seek His will, His truth, first. Then there will be less room for doubt.

      • Edriene Johnson-Butcher says:

        I was truly blessed by the devotional you shared today and realized that I too have experienced times of doubt, and lack of confidence particulary when I have chosen to lean to my own understanding.

        I recently had a conflict with my colleague and wondered why I had allowed my anger to be my response. When I reflected on the incident, after reading your devotion, I now recognized that I was being controlled by doubt in both of our ability to succeed at the task while blaming my colleague for his expressed doubt. I was unwilling to admit my own self doubt.

        I appreciate the perspective you shared today and know that I need as always to trust God completely by asking him to help me examine my triggers that overwhelm me when I am fearful of success or achieving what I am capable of. Thanks so much for this Godly solution today!

  21. Patricia Greenlee says:

    I totally agree, I was so blessed to find your devotional in my mailbox on today, because ive been suffering from this all my life, I must admit i am getting better but I still have far to many days when im struggling with doubt, fear and insecurities about myself. Thank you so much. I would love to receive your book I need all the help I cn get, In Jesus name

  22. Jen Johnson says:

    I have a huge problem with doubt and feeling inferior. My husband is an extremely smart doctor and I only had two years of college and I constantly doubt myself and wonder why he chose me. I feel very insecure around his coworkers. I know this is coming from Satan but I don’t know how to get past these feelings. Any feedback would be great:)

  23. I too was tossing and turning early this AM with lots of self doubt and what if’s. I was thinking of a friend and a time that we both doubled over laughing at something I said. It was just one of those moments that I won’t forget. I thought, “she really thinks I’m neat”. I felt a nudge from God to get up and spend time with him so that he too could show me what he thought of me. More and more he shows me his love and acceptance. I wouldn’t want to live without his assurance, counsel and even discipline.

  24. Wow! Thank you so much for this video! God knew I needed to read (and see) this devotional today. Struggling with self confidence is a HUGE battle for me.

  25. I struggle as a mom and wife. I feel like I spend so much time letting my family down. I know that God placed me in this family because I am the exact wife and mother they need, but knowing the truth and accepting the truth are not the same thing. I need to spend more time clinging to God so I can not just know His truths, but also embrace them as my own.

  26. This book would be a great addition to my inspirational books. I recently redidicated my life to Christ and it is completely different this time. I can feel and hear God’s presence all around me throughout the day. When we really truly learn, understand, and believe that God is Love and we confidently put our trust in him supernatural experiences start happening you won’t want to stop. God tells us he is a god who doesn’t pressure or force anyone to do anything, we all have free will. He does not Bless us until he sees we have complete Faith in him and are no longer trying to fix things ourselves. He is all powerful, all knowing, and never changing. Take the burden off your shoulders of trying to be the peace maker and allow God to do his work. I would LOVE to have this book, when I was done I’d then pass it on to the next lady in my life. Thanks so much for your thoughts and kindness Ms. Renee. Women like you are truly a blessing to earth.

    amber 🙂

  27. Thanks for sharing Renee a great start to my day’! I struggle with finding contentment a lot I feel like I am never satisfied. I also struggle with what other people think of me! I am reading your book right now and it is excellent! I can do all things who gives me strength!

  28. I’m a newlywed struggling with selfdoubt. Sometimes I wonder how my husband fall in love with me,. Struggling with weight problems and feeling insecure.

  29. This was SUCH a blessing this morning! I have been wrestling with lies from the enemy for so long – especially regarding feelings of inadequacy, insecurity and doubt related to my weight and a single season lasting longer than I had hoped – but have been truly asking the Lord to help transform and renew my mind and release me from the bondage of these lies at long last.

    Reading this devotional today and the tools on your page seemed like a message from God that has reinforced the need for me to continuously replace the lies of the accuser with His truth and focus more on what God thinks of me as opposed to the thoughts I have about myself.

    Thank you so much for this spiritual food today…God bless you!

  30. Amanda w says:

    I struggle a lot with doubting who I am in Christ. I am so afraid I will let him down again. After my divorce two years ago I ran from God for a long while. I am back now but with all the stress of being a single mom of two and working full time I have worked myself into a stress induced paranoi that I am now being treated for. I know God has forgiven me and I have changed but the mistakes I made haunt me and I struggle with feeling I will never be good enough. I need to recall and speak Gods word about who I am every time those doubts and fears assail me until I can overcome them with Gods truth of who I am. Thank you so much for sharing this.

  31. stephanie says:

    Thank you for today’s message.
    The Lord has called me to walk out on the water and do something I never would normally do.
    Over the last couple of days I have been wracked with self doubt and the devil has taken many opportunities to amplify this.
    The ‘refocus’ was just what I needed. Focus on God and not my limitations.
    Thank you again.

  32. Shirleen Murrell says:

    Thank you so much Renee. I have been struggling with a situation and honestly, I have not asked God to help me with it; I didn’t know how, but now I know how to ask. Thank you for your works.

  33. I know for sure I struggle with doubt… doubting what others think of me, my abilities as a mother, my decision to homeschool, and the list could go on. I look forward to completing the book, A Confident Heart, and finding God’s promises for me amidst this struggle!

  34. Kallen Thompson says:

    I am currently suffering from doubt about how I raised my children (who are grown and out on their own), whether I am worthy to serve God in any capacity, sometimes I feel as if I am in the middle of a tornado and confusion is all around me…I feel reading the book, A Confident Heart, will give me a direction and reveal God’s love for me.

  35. Jen Ellis says:

    I so often feel like I am lacking in so many areas. I look at the 3 children God has given me and feel so inadequate and just plain not good enough to be their mom. I want them to grow to love the Lord and follow Him and feel like I am going to mess that up. Your message actually reminded me that I am not responsible for changing their hearts. Only God can do that. I am so focused on me that and my doubts and fears that I am crippling myself. I know Phil 4:!3 but needed to hear you quote it to remind me of this amazing promise. Thank you so much letting Christ use you to remind me and others of His unending faithfulness and promises.

  36. I really enjoyed the video. I downloaded the triggers and truth and plan to use them. I love this website and I am soooo thankful to the friend who told me about it. I went through a very difficult time last year and this website has helped so much. My motto…Take one day at a time!

  37. I can’t wait to read A Confident Heart. I recently had a interview and was asked why they should hire me. I stumbled over my words too embarassed to say anything positive about myself. I ended up saying, “I won’t let you down.” I felt like I had just let myself down with such a weak response.

  38. This message is right on time, as God always is. I have received promotional work and know it is from God and when I experience what you were talking about, conflict with a peer/friend, I begin to doubt my abilities as a leader. Thank you for the reminder that I am fearfully and wonderfully made and God has me where I am for His reasons!

  39. My biggest confidence problems lie in being a wife & mom. One bad day, disagreement over something tiny, or a meltdown from a toddler & I’m convinced I’m not only not cut out for the greatest job on Earth but also that I don’t deserve God’s blessings. I constantly question if I’m doing enough for God, and I have a hard time seeing my family as a mission field. I would love to win this give away.

  40. Kristie Wilson says:

    I am looking forward to reading A Confident Heart. I have realized especially over the last 5 years that everything I start I end up giving up on it because lack of confidence in myself. I have such great dreams, but until I gain the confidence that the Lord created me to have, I know that i will not be able to achieve those dreams.

  41. Kim Petersen says:

    I am feeling lead to homeschool my three elementary aged girls, 5, 7, 10. In this process I have done a lot of digging with regards to curriculums available and assessing my teaching style and their individual learning styles. I have had conversations with several homeschool moms and of course, my sweet husband. I too often allow myself to feel overwhelmed and then I get cold feet and doubt myself. Watching the summer- clock tick away I am feeling pressure to make the decision soon. Reading your devotion reminded me of the importance of keeping my eyes focused on God for strength. Peter began to sink when he took his eyes off of Jesus. Hebrews talk about running the race with perseverance keeping our eyes fixed on the author and perfector of our faith. When I dwell on my own uncertainty and lack of experience, that is when I get overwhelmed, when I focus on how big my God is compared with my circumstances, than I am strengthened and courage wells up inme that I know is not my own. Thank you for reminding me where to keep my focus. I can’t follow verywell, if I don’t keep my eyes on my leader. 🙂

  42. I grew up in a abusive christian home. A lot of emotional cuts to make sure (I would never amount to anything). I went for counselling as a young adult and got into God’s word the true healer.
    A few years later I got married and soon had children. Both things have stretched me and now with two teenagers and a husband who is just like Dad (we always do that) I find myself questioning everything about me. I have gone back to all the emotions of childhood and can’t seem to get a grip on anything.
    I want to run away so I can have time to think and try to get evrything back to young adult where I could breathe. I would love any help to get back to a functioning relationship wit everyone. Most inportant God.

    • Cindy, Your story seems very familiar to mine. Have you considered finding a good Christian counselor? I’ve been through many different ones in my lifetime & have pretty good ones now. I have a degree in psych so I guess that makes me a little more critical as to whether they are a good counselor or not. There’s also some great books I can recommend to you…one of them being “Victory Over the Darkness” (Christian book). I hope you can find some help…I know your pain & it is not fun at all. I will pray for you! Cindi

  43. I just found your website today! Wow! This is really what I need. Doubt, and little self confidence have actually paralyzed my life in so many ways. Enough to the point where I would rather just stay home and not go anywhere sometimes. I know that God loves me, that He made me and He died for me!!! I’m so thankful for that!! There’s times though that Satan can really overwhelm my brain and make me believe that I can’t do something, that I will fail. I’m so thankful that I can say “In the name of Jesus Christ, be gone from me Satan!” God is Alive and He Reigns!!! As a popular song goes “Satan is vanquished and Jesus is King”!!!!!

  44. Judi C. says:

    I work a job where everything I say and do is being monitored, evaluated and scored. My confidence seems to ride on the waves of whether or not the monitoring team “liked” my call or not. This is the first secular job I have had in the last 17 yearsand while I know God has me here for a reason I began this job with my confidence damaged after the way our ministry ended, and having to start over in a new town at a new church where I am not in ministry. I want to know what the triggers are for what I Cal the downward spiral so I can stop it and refocus my attention before things get so out of control. Thank for sharing what God has done in your heart.

  45. Last night I was talking to my five year old daughter about being afraid of bugs. I explained she had nothing to fear, those are God’s creation and he made her brave. After reading the devotion, I realized I live in the same fear my daughter does, but because of doubt and insecurity. I recently accepted a job teaching an Autism class. I have been doubting my decision even though I am thrilled w/ the opportunity. I hear the voice saying I can’t manage structure at w/ my own kids how can do that w/ children who must have it. I disappoint people and not dependable. But one thought that seems to linger and after this morning broke through those negatives is, God will never present me with something I cannot handle. He is leading in a direction and today I decided I am not going to fight it or doubt His plan. Thank you for these words this morning and now I can relate to my 5 yr old and revisit out talk today… I can live an example for my kids!

  46. I am going to print your triggers & post it in my office. I am an administrator & many times either I get discouraged or have employees who come in with these things & I can just refer to your list & give them the verse for the feeling. Thank you so much, I look forward to your devotions every morning. I have fibromyalgia and have to sit for 30+ minutes in a hot bath every morning to relieve the muscle pain & so my family knows this is my time alone for healing the body & now spiritually. What a great combination with your devotions.

  47. I allow my stress, workload and life-load to burden me in a way where I begin to doubt my ability as a wife, as a servant of the Lord and as an employee. Satan unfortunately does a great job of really getting me to believe that I’m not good enough in those areas, and I really need to learn how to navigate the waters through stress and focus on the Lord’s truths about who I am as His daughter!

  48. Erin Peart says:

    Your list of triggers and truths is invaluable! I’ve struggled with all of these triggers and I’m beginning to see my sons start to struggle with this. I can’t wait to share this with them today! Thanks for being obedient and writing this to share !

  49. Because I am shy I often loose my confidence to speak out even when I know God disapproves of something being said. I need to work on my confidence and trust God to be there with me!

  50. I sometimes feel like I take on too much. I jump in with both feet, get very excited, then the doubt sets in. “what if the event is a flop?” “what if everyone thinks it’s stupid, etc.”. I almost always paralyze myself into giving others credit for what I’ve done, or simply walk away from he project altogether! It’s overwhelming.

  51. It saddens me how easily we listen to the lies of the enemy about ourselves. Just like any other lie he tells, we do not have to believe it. But that’s where it is so important to know the word of God to counteract the lie! He has given us the tools to use. He values us so much to try every way possible to help us to know that. It takes faith to believe just like every thing else. We just have to choose to believe He really can and does love us like no one else ever can or will!

  52. This really hit home for me today. I need to spend some quality time praying about this.

  53. Dawn Parrish says:

    Renee,

    It doesn’t seem sufficient to just say, “Thanks, I needed that” but it sums up how I felt when I watched and read this.

    I will try to only tune in to FM today!

    Thank you!

  54. Ok, this is so amazing! Just seconds after my first post, I walked over to the printer to get the copy of “Doubts Triggers & God’s Truths” and was going to show my co-worker. When I got to the printer, it was not there! I looked over at my co-worker, who had taken it off the printer and was high-lighting it! I laughed and teased her that she stole my copy! I was really going to make her a copy, but she saw it on the printer and thought, “this is for me, God must’ve known I needed this”! She said she had been thinking thoughts like the ones in the copy! Praise the Lord! See? He always knows what we need and when we need it!

  55. I’m now on Ch. 12 of ACH. I cannot thank you enough for the peace that God has given me through your book. I bought copies for each of my sisters and hope to lead a bible study in my home based on your book. Our earthly father was often neglectful. Our parents divorced during our adolescent years. Ironically, we all married men that act a lot like our father did. Through your book, and God’s Holy Spirit, I have personally been able to start overcoming my insecurities. If my marriage were a patient right now, it would be in critical condition, hooked up to life support. Your message has given me hope. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart. God has used you in great ways. Please pray for me. I have a 12 year old and a 9 year old who need their dad to break his gambling addiction and give his heart to God. I pray without ceasing that God reveal His face to my husband, and that He soften my husband’s heart. Thank you for your prayers in advance, and for the comfort your words have provided! God bless you, Renee!

  56. Suzanne Howard says:

    Hi Renee,

    I just recently left a full time ministry position to focus on a post abortion recovery ministry. God is good and has given me the opportunity to apply for a position specific to my calling, but those doubts start creeping in. Your message was timely and I will focus on what He says about me. He is calling me therefore equipping me for that purpose! Thank you!

  57. Angela N. says:

    I doubt my family members which hinders our relationships. Today spoke of how I need to get rid of Sayan’s lies and only rely on the truth of God.

  58. Pornography in my marriage has led me to doubt everything about myself – even though my husband proclaims how beautiful I am to him, I constantly find myself comparing myself, doubting myself. Most of the steps backwards in our healing are a result of my lack of confidence and self doubt of my worth. I tell myself God made me, I am His creation, but those doubts creep back in and I find any confidence I had flying out the window. This mornings devotion really touched my heart.

  59. Kendra White says:

    I have never quite felt as if I measured up in certain areas of my life. I grew up poor, overweight, and in the shadow of beautiful sisters. I became the “Funny Fat Girl” who was really smart. I had a niche. I adore serving others, filling needs, and being the hands and feet of Jesus is the joy of my heart. but I have never, or rarely, felt “good enough” to receive the agape/grace I often try to give. Negative words and criticism set me back and it hurt. I seek affirmation from the people I have set highest in my personal life. Professionally, I feel rather strong most days. I just do not feel-personally- all that special…I put up walls, I put off “earn my friendship because I have been hurt” actions and attitudes. But, in all of this, I am thankful that now I am aware of it and can now lay it at His feet…it’s taken years of prayer and study to get to “here” and I praise Him for that.

  60. Adrienne Essink says:

    I have doubts about every facet of life. It affects all of my relationships and I hate that. Your devotion today was just what I needed. My mentor and I were talking about finding a book to study about our identities in Christ and your book sounds like just what I need.

  61. Our Lord has allowed me to read this today, in his perfect timing! I, too, struggle with confidence issues that are triggered by a mistake in my past. I pray that Jesus will release me from being paralyzed when new opportunities arise. I want to learn how to see myself through His eyes, not my own. Thank you Renee 🙂

  62. I let fear and insecurity rule what I do. I tend to compare myself with others and it causes me to doubt myself. I need to replace my doubts with God’s thoughts about me. I know this and know this will work, but I just let the devil get a hold of me. I need to be intentional about relying on God and replacing his thoughts with my doubts and fears. He will give my the strength I need. Thank you for this. This is something I really need.

  63. I am constantly comparing myself to other women, and I know that I shouldn’t. I need to always remind myself that no woman is perfect, we all have our faults and strengths too. As a community we need to lift eachother up and stop comparing. We need to help each other and be willing to ask for help when we need it. God made us all in his image and we can do all things through Him. Thank you for the reminder that I need to stop doubting myself, and that God will help me with this.

  64. As a mom, wife and teacher, I feel like I’m so hard on myself. I deal with the doubt and failure. God is with me and I should have no fears! This message was a good reminder.

  65. Your devotion today really spoke to me, causing me to explore your website and learn more about all of the resources you offer to help women become strong. Like many of the women who have commented here, I do spend too much time trying to please others, and draw too much of my self-worth from what others think of me. I also tend to have a terrible time forgetting past wrongs and hurts, leaving me insecure and ready to be hurt again, even by those close to me. I’m hopeful that spending time with your devotions and resources will help me grow in God beyond these weaknesses and become a confident woman again…thank you for your words. I read the P31 devotions every day and am always grateful for how they speak to me and help shape how I try to live each day.

  66. Penny Nearhoof says:

    I have lived with “fear” for so long that I had lost any hope of peace. God has been healing me as I walk through the mess I’m in, but that are still days that I get overwhelmed with the fear and self-doubt and don’t remember who I am in Christ. I pray for a breakthrough, for His strength, for His peace but feel too weak to fight… the last couple days have been hard, I know that God is with me and will never leave or forsake me… but I WANT TO BE FREED FROM THIS HELL! I know His timing is perfect and there is a lesson He is trying to teach me, I just hope I get it soon. He loves me and suffers with me as I struggle with this but because He loves me He knows I need this to become the person He planned for me to be. Thank you Father that YOU will never leave me or forsake me, or lie to me or deceive me. Help me grasp these promises not just in my head but in my soul. Amen.

  67. I just can’t teel you how doubt enters my mind all day. I am going to take heart to the am/ fm philosophy today and every day!!!

  68. Traci H says:

    Renee, I just finished your book, A Confident Heart, this morning. Wow! I feel that you wrote this book just for me! I too have struggled with so many of the issues that you have addressed. I praise God that you were obedient in writing your personal struggles down for women like myself to read and to know that we are okay because of Jesus’ blood and sacrifice. I look forward to ‘recovering’ from doubt and living in the shadow of the Cross. May the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ continue to bless your ministry! Thank YOU!

  69. Marjorie Vawter says:

    I’ve been reading the 7-Day Doubt Diet this week, and what a convicting revelation of how I’ve let my doubts and fears and comparisons with others hold me back. I SO want to be delivered of these doubts, so I can live the life the Lord has planned for me. This week of devotionals and your messages of hope and freedom have turned my thinking around and I’m asking the Lord for victory over this stronghold I’ve allowed to hinder me.

  70. Raysha Ventura says:

    I need this confidence boost right now so much. I am a new widow and my children are college age, so I find myself trying to figure out who I am now, after being a wife and mom for 25 years. Handling everything such as finances, and making all the decisions myself can be so overwhelming sometimes. I need to be reminded that God is with me through it all, and that I CAN handle everything that comes my way. I just need to tune into that FM station regularly.

  71. What a blessing to come upon the Proverbs 31 one email/post that let me to your video. I have slipped into a season in my life where I seem to only be tuning into AM. In the last 2 years, we have sold a business we owned for 18 years, moved to a new town, and had my husband deployed shortly after the move. I have been shaken to the core. I also stuggle with depression. Just when I think I have take 3 steps forward, the AM station throws me back a few steps. THis was a great reminder of who is broadcasting AM and who is broad casting FM. I also really appreicate visual or story examples to this is perfect. This new metaphor is encouraging and will be one more arrow in my quiver to fight against Satan and his attempt to steal, kill and destroy. THanks for the encouragment!

  72. I really enjoyed your devotional today through Proverbs 31. I find that doubt in in my life is most strongly related to my faith. Not in the Lord but in my ability to be “the best Christian I can be.” It’s a very self taught doubt because I grew up in a home full of love for the Lord but not legalistic at all. I fear all the time that I’m not following God’s calling for me, that maybe I’m not listening to the right things, maybe I’m making up my calling and not listening at all. I also doubt because I fall into the comparison trap, especially with my husband. When we first started dating he judged my faith a lot based on things he was unsure of. Prior to marrying he stopped and apologized but now I’ve developed a pattern. He’s on the worship team and serving more, he knows scripture better than me, the list could go on forever. I hate falling into that trap because not only does it hinder me from serving the Lord but my husband as well.

  73. THank you Rene. I read your book this spring & your personal testimony has been very encouraging to me. I appreciate how you shared your thoughts & feelings. That is real and precious treasure.

  74. Carolyn says:

    Thank you so much for that video. Whether it is writing or speaking, I often doubt my ability to communicate my ideas. I am a college student and lead campus ministries but the Enemy certainly feeds lies about my inadequacy. Similarly when I saw this space to share ideas I thought “God anything but that, I don’t have a worthy contribution”. I was reminded of how God gives us the words of our mouths, the desires of our heart, and equips us to do His good work. I now realize my “against me” thoughts in that way and am able to surrender them for “I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful” (Psalm 139:14).

  75. wow! what a timely message for us women today. I recently saw an ad showing a woman standing on top of a huge pile of all that she had accomplished – we are expected to do it all! No wonder we doubt ourselves. I am a mother of four, pastor’s wife and work a full-time job. My work situation is not a very positive atmosphere and even though I work hard, it is never “good enough”. I have always struggled with self-doubt and this job has only magnified that. Thank you for this devotion!! I needed to be reminded to not get stuck in the mire of the AM thoughts…..

  76. Cherrie says:

    I am a middle-aged woman who loves God, has an excellent career, is well educated with multiple degrees, is well liked and respected, and has a wonderful husband. I am also over weight, which is my main trigger of doubt and self-worth. If I let it, it will crush my confidence and self worth in a minute. Through the love of God and others, I am able to overcome those negative feelings.

  77. DetermineI started a prayer journal just last week.something has happened to me, I’m a beautiful 29 year old single mom with so many things to be grateful for..but what happens to my self confidence? My insecurity keeps increasing and doubt keeps growing. I love God. What’s happening? Why do i feel like i lost a grip of myself, i want to feel confident and vibrant again. I want it back! Just last night i wad writing in my journal and asking God to please help me with my insecurities and lack if confidence in myself. You see… Being a single patent is hard but its harder where the father of my daughter always tells me what i screw up i am and what a bad mom i am..for reasons that are irrelevant and unnecessary.my new job..well I’m grateful i have one, its a great opportunity but its not what i truly desire to be..i just need it right now, my boss puts me down a lot when i make the littlest mistakes, I’m still learning but his personality is very volatile. I’m trying me best everyday,i all God to protect me from put downs and feeling inadequate.i hope that everything i go through can only help me to grow more and help other women, girls hear my testimony one day so i can be an encouragement and light to others with all that i have gone through. That’s why i write a lot. A quote from Mark Chironna i saw yesterday…”you are a walking set of interpretations because you are a meaning-maker.sometimes the meaning you make out of what you experience is not totally true.you then tell yourself half truths or mis truthsthat determine both your mood and your response.truth telling in self talk is a skill to be developed leading to transformation.it requires reframing the way you observe reality, interpret reality, and act on reality. ” This is a small key, step that God showed me that its going to start from my very thoughts andwithin me.
    Thank you for your devotional! You are inspiring Renee.

  78. Just last night I was dealing with this very issue! I wasn’t good enough, funny enough, cute enough, lovable enough, just not enough period! It turned what should have been a very fun evening into an evening of doubt & insecurity – stealing away a lot of the fun for me while others were having a blast 🙁 I am in your online Bible study so I know better but just could not stop comparing myself. On the drive home while having a mini pity party I began to remind myself of what God thinks of me. But then Satan remind me of all I had missed out on that evening because of my comparing. Thus the cycle began again. Your video reminded me that God IS in control & all I need to do is look to him.

  79. Heather says:

    I tear myself down constantly. I can’t see myself how others see me. People will tell me all these positive things about me, but I can’t see it or won’t believe it. I always feel like they’re just saying those things to make me feel better. I’ve never truly felt beautiful or worthy of a man’s attention. I see everyone in my life moving on and happy and I can’t help but feel like I never will be.

  80. Michelle says:

    Thank you so very much for your P31 devotion. The enemy is so tricky sometimes but Praise God He doesn’t leave us at his mercy! I feel a stirring deep down within my spirit. Praising God for awakening and hopeful for the first time in a long time for myself.

  81. Doubt and fear are my main struggles in my life. They cripple my relationship with the Lord and others. I know that fear is the opposite of faith, yet Satan still has a foothold there and uses it against me. It destroys the faith that I do have. I trust God is bigger in my head, but I want to know it in my heart. Praying this book can assist me in that battle. Thank you for writing this! Blessings to you all at P31 ministries 🙂

  82. Stephanie says:

    I use the visual from frank perietti (sp?) author of, “this prensent darkness” where there are these demons who have jumped on your back and are whispering your weaknesses and fears constantly in your ears. this spiritual warfare is constant and Satan won’t stop but neither has Jesus. I have days I let Jesus win the battle and other days feel defeated by the enemy. Hoping the book will bring clairity to my battle.

  83. melissa says:

    This was so nice to wake up and read this morning! As a mom so often I doubt myself esp after a rough day!!

  84. Elizabeth says:

    I just love it when God answers my prayers FAST! I was telling Him how terrified I am to go to work today – I’ve been at this job over 2 yrs and still feel completely inadequate for the task. Then I came inside and read your email on Encouragement for Today – and that brought me to this page. I have printed the Triggers and Truths! Thank you for the blessing that you are to so many of us who need the reminder that we can do all things through Christ! Thank you and God bless –

  85. I struggle with this issue. This year my life has been turned upside down(not bad things – just life things). In last three months went from 3 kids living at home to none. One of them moved across the country with her new husband(military). The youngest moving away to college. Another one just decided it was time to live on his own. Everything changed and I am feeling very vulnerable. I am fighting Satans negative thoughts daily.

  86. I grew up in a very disfunctional family. Only thru much counseling as an older adult was I able to gain enough confidence to really realize that Jesus truly loved ME just the way I am and that I couldn’t be any more perfect in his sight than I already was! Those insecurities are some that Satan still uses to attack me and render me useless at times. Praise the Holy God for instilling ablities such as you have in people willing to share them with people like me!!

  87. I deal with a lot of anxiety on a daily basis. I need to keep your words close at hand to help me realize I’m not in this alone! Thank you for all you do!

  88. Renee A says:

    I woke up this morning and saw your post and video….I started crying because EVERYTHING you said is ME! I am a mom of 5 beautiful children, and great husband, and I am blessed to have a job as an RN and my own small business. I KNOW how blessed I am, but still, everyday, and weighed down with self doubt and AM thoughts….I’m not a good enough mom, role model, wife, friend, daughter, housekeeper, money manager, christain…it goes on and on. These feelings weigh me down and keep me from accomplishing any goals I set for myself. I want to rid myself of these thoughts, but don’t know WHERE to start or HOW to start…I am looking forward to reading your book, and am hoping that I can get on that road to spiritual and emotional recovery….

  89. Love the point of the AM and FM thoughts.I must align my thoughts with God’s word for me.

    Thank you for sharing this today.
    I needed it,
    Tasha

  90. This definitely hit home today. Ive been struggling alot in this area and reading through the devotion helped me realize my doubt comes from fear of man and not focusing on God’s truth. Thank you for writing.

  91. Phew, this feels exactly like what I need right now!!! I’m so thrilled to have found these books and e-tools to help me regain my focus in Christ! I feel defeated spiritually so many days, and I know it’s the season I’m in right now. We moved across the country last year, so I’m slowly rebuilding godly friendships (I so miss my close accountability gals!!) Our firstborn went across the country to college, our finances aren’t what we expected with this move and both my husband and I come from families of non-believers. To the point my very own parents (after over a decade of living my life for Christ) challenge me still and are at times very difficult to deal with. At the same time, our second born lives with a vision impairment and we find out in one month if a license to drive will happen…every 16 year old’s dream. Add in daily struggles of being a wife, mom, teacher, etc and most days I’d rather bury my head in the sand, but I know God is for me not against me. That only He can provide the peace and joy daily that I need to cling too. I am thrilled to read these and let go of doubts in this season of struggle!!

  92. I have always been insecure….rather is be my weight, intellegence, looks, etc I have never felt good enough. Since becoming a Christian I am starting to try and study out being secure in Heart with God. It’s still a struggle because I now have chronic medical conditions and sometimes feel how can God use me, how can I love myself and see myself as God does? Thank you for taking the time to address this important issue for everyone. I look toward to reading your book and drawing on God for my security instead of what the world tells me. P31 is an AMAZING ministry and I am thankful to know of it!

  93. Melanie says:

    Your message today really hit a nerve with me. A very perfectionist person, both in my personal life and in my Christian walk, I find it incredible that God could ever use me. When He recently began dealing with me about ministry, all I had was a list of why I had to be misunderstanding His voice. Though having spent most of my life as a child or wife of a minister, I find myself divorced, rejected by some christian circles, and only too aware of all my little imperfections. How could He be calling me? I finally said “yes” to Him, after attending a service where He made His calling crystal clear to me, but I do still suffer with the exact thing you mentioned in your message today. Though I am doing what He has revealed to me to do at this point, I am continually having to try to push down feelings of my inadequacies and lack of qualifications. Thank you for sharing this message with us.

  94. What an eye opener for me. I never thought about how I compare myself to others and feel like I am not as good as they are. It is so true and real that it hit me like a ton of bricks. I always feel like others teach better than I do in Sunday School and other things I am involved in at church. It makes me feel so inadequate. I need to really get on my knees and pray about this. I am sure God puts me in these positions because He is using me and working through me. I need to trust Him more. There are other times in my life that i do not feel as good as others. I need to stop and realize how much God has blessed me with a wonderful life. He has been there for me through a lot of things in my life and I have trusted Him in these situations. I need to trust Him when it comes to just me. He made me different for a reason. Thanks for the devotion today.

  95. My doubts in myself come from failures. ..even while I was the perfect Proverbs 31 woman in my marriage, my husband abandoned me while I was 6 months pregnant with his son, working full time as a special educator, going to school, doing my masters internship for my counseling degree, and coming home to take care of my 4 yr son and my husband…he was caught up in sin of child/teen porn and I gave an ultimatum. ..this (a godly marriage) or that…he chose that and it really did a number on my self-worth…how can someone choose sin over all that was good? His son is 4 now and he’s not seen his father and his father has not provided support at all..Only by the grace of God do I make it every day with two sons with no earthly fathers support…I still struggle everyday because we are so alone except for God..thank you for your encouraging words and your continued help would be accepted and appreciated so that in being made strong myself, I can help others

  96. Satan is a liar! Lack of confidence is doubting the words of our Creator. But it has taken me years to learn this I still struggle with it. Being in a relationship with God, and not just a religion has surely set me free indeed.PTL

  97. My mind is constantly working against me. It’s kind of funny…yesterday, I was praying for help. I felt like a failure because I’ve let those feeling govern and dictate what I do with my life. I’ve had things come up and I’ve chickened out because of those feelings. Today’s Proverbs 31 devotion and your video really hit home. I’ve already printed up “Doubt’s Triggers & God’s Truths.” Today I’m sticking to, “There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” Rom8:1

  98. Wow, Gods timing is perfect! I have been struggling with a dark cloud of doudt and lack of confidence in my life for a while now and it has robbed me of all joy. I know God is faithful and he loves me but when his voice is silent it is hard not to believe and I question where he is? Thank you for sharing this message today.

  99. Lisa-Mae says:

    I want to know more about what God’s thoughts are toward me because for so long I’ve had AM thoughts instead of the FM thoughts. Thanks for your offer and your brief encouragement. I will be book marking this and hope to hear your message at least once more today. God bless.

  100. That speaks volumes today. I have recently joined a study and we are reading What Women Fear by Angie Smith (my very first study!!). Your video is exactly who I am. I live in fear and self doubt. There are so many things I want to do in this life and yet I worry that I won’t be good enough so I don’t even try. I would love to let thoes kinds of thoughts go away, and instead see a light of well all you can do is try and with pratcice, patience and persistence you can do it !

  101. Everything about your message resonated with me today. Self doubt has been front and center my whole life. Two triggers are my own perfectionist tendencies — something that resulted from growing up as a child in a home where “being the best” was expected, and then as a teenager, losing the parent that expected that to sudden death. For the nextt 30 years, I continued to try to measure up to those expectations. Then, four years ago, when my ex-husband and tthe father of my three children chose to leave us, all my feelings of inadequacy and abandonment were magnified and couldn’t be ignored anymore.

    I love your analogy of a radio with two stations. I like to think of the FM station as one that comes in clear and positive, and an AM station as one that contains lots of static and is unpleasant to listent too. I imagine physically turning off the AM station broadcasting the negative thoughts of self-doubt and switching on the FM station containing God’s clear message of acceptance, strength and love. Thank you for giving me such a powerful image to focus in on God’s love For Me!

  102. I have always dealt w/ negative self image issues & never thought I was good enough for whatever. I realize that I need to view myself as God does! Thanks for your insight Renee.

  103. Insecurity is something I have dealt with my whole life. My prayer is that I don’t pass it along to my teenage daughter & can teach her to not listen to the lies of satan. Thank you for your devotion today!

  104. Thank you for today devotion in Proverbs 31 ministries “When Doubt Won’t Go Away”. It spoke to me on my current situation where I always feel inconfident, insufficient, incapable of doing the task that have been entrusted to me. Often, I have compared myself with my colleagues as well and that made me feel even more “small” in many ways. It really discourages me and I know I need to focus and rely on the Lord and HIS Holy Spirit to get me out of here. I am very interested in your message and would like to see/read the book “Confident Heart”. I feel God has been spoken to me through today devotion from Proverbs 31. I want to journey in God’s confident and heal from this feeling insufficient. Thank you and may God bless you.

  105. I have struggled with confidence for the past few years. After a giant trial came my way that included close people – I have felt defeated, not good enough and unable to compete in life. My husband and I are in the ministry which has made it harder to heal. Satan makes sure to keep you secluded when you are in the ministry, no true friends, no one that you can go to that will not judge. The struggle of my kids getting older, having to be the example to others we minister too and daily life – somedays seem impossible. Deep in my heart I know God hears me and loves me. But it always seems the negative is way louder than the positive. I will be sure to check out your book and continue on this road to healing. Thank you for your words! Keep encouraging others – we all need to hear this!

  106. heather sumey says:

    This wad exactly the message I needed to hear today. Stress with work has been wearing me down to unbelievably low levels. I’ll make a conscious effort to work thru those AM thoughts today and in the days to cone. Thanks for the message of hope today 🙂

  107. Veronica says:

    Reading this today was a gift in the right time of my life. I’ve struggled 40 years and I was giving up. Now this is giving me hope.

  108. Thanks for your words of encouragement. Lately I’ve been struggling with doubt and anxiety in the relationships that I have. I know that my relationship with the Lord is the most important one, and I need to shift my focus back on Christ, not only daily, but every moment.
    Your analogy of AM/FM radio vs. AM/FM thoughts is great. Thanks for sharing that mental tool.
    Blessings

  109. Susan Wolf says:

    Thank you Renee-

    Between your devotional today and Lyssa yesterday, I know I’m being called to deal with the issue of two bullies in our small church. The sad thing is everyone in the church knows how these two men are but does nothing to stop them. The people who become completely fed up leave. Or refuse to volunteer for anything. These men are on our consistory now and are making people’s lives misirible.
    The last person they turned their attention to was me and I’ve spent the last week praying for these men and our church. Praying I overcome my natural fear of confrontation and that God will bring me the confidence I’ll need to address this issue with the church (who I feel should be confronted first) and then thes two men.

  110. Jenna Leverett says:

    Yesterday, I attended the funeral of a family friend. In the midst of the sermon I found myself listening to the preacher declare how this woman’s life was a great example of Christ. He spoke about her servitude and her heart for children. He displayed her tattered bible and talked about her confidence as a Christian. At a time when I should have been rejoicing over the positive things that this individual had done I was sitting there in the pew comparing myself to her. I questioned my actions and wondered if I were the subject of this preachers sermon would he be able to speak that highly of my life? It is amazing how our Father can use the life of others to help us put ours in perspective. You see, I’m a mother to a beautiful and healthy 11 month old. I thank God daily for my daughter and for my marriage, but I often question whether I can do this. I question whether or not I will be able to be an excellent wife and a godly role model to my daughter. I’m also a public school teacher. I ask God daily to let me be an example to my 8th graders, but it’s not always an easy job.
    I know that Satan is the originator of my doubts and sometimes it is easy to forget that. Just like Gideon, I doubt sometimes that I will be able to live up to all that God wants me to be. Thank you for reminding me that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. I know that I am wonderfully made and that God will use me to further his kingdom. In this journey we call life, it’s nice to hear about other Christians who face the same doubts and how they overcame their fears by the power of the Holy Spirit. Thank you for sharing this message with me today. These little pearls of wisdom all contribute to helping me build my confidence and live a life that is pleasing to our Father in heaven.

  111. Oh reading thru the commets makes my heart ache for how much heart ache there is out there. Boy what our world would have been like if sin never entered. But praise God we can experience it if we only put our trust in Jesus. My whole life I have dealt with self doubt l, my biggest obstacle is with my self image. I feel so restricted in the things I do cuz of my weight. I feel it’s become an idol cuz I think on it so often, there have been times it has been so paralizing. I know all the places my doubts come from but boy is hare to overcome.

  112. My friends and family constantly come to me for help, support and advice. They all seem to think that I am qualified and able to help them with whatever their struggles are at the time. I pray and trust God to give me words to speak to them that will help them through whatever the problem is at that time. Afterwards and even sometimes during the talks, I feel so inadequate to help them and then start second guessing what I said or told them. I have gone through so much in my life and I know that God wants to use these things to help others, but I just do not trust myself or believe in myself. I want to please God and help others so desperately but I battle with inadequacy.
    Your post this morning reminded me that if God calls me to do something it doesn’t matter what I think about myself because He is wanting to use me. I just have to trust Him and not lean on my own understanding.

  113. Nancy Sternad says:

    Doubt beats me up everyday, as I have OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) and my world is filled with doubt and worry. On top of this, I let OCD define me instead of God, I let it define my days, my choices, my relationships. I have so wanted to read your book “A Confident Heart” because I haven’t really had one for a long time. On the surface I may appear somewhat confident, but underneath I don’t feel good enough to maintain certain friendships or try new ones, to be a confident mother, to be a loving, strong wife, etc. My OCD has had many negative outcomes that I have let define me. I want to recapture what God wants for me and have purposeful living. I am tired of fearing the battles of each day. I want confidence again.

  114. I am reading your book (kindle edition) and am so blessed by it. I think this would be a wonderful bible study to do with high school girls.

  115. This is just in time….I recently graduated college and I am now on the job hunt. I have applied at a school for a teaching position but have not heard anything yet. I am nervous about getting a job because I am afraid I will fail. I have always been afraid of failure. It has kept me from doing a lot of things in my life. I didn’t even go to college until I was 24 because I was afraid I would fail and not be able to finish. Then it took me 9 years to finish. I live with a lot of self doubt. I am always comparing myself to other moms thinking they have it together and I can’t figure out why I can’t have it together. I try to over come these moments of doubt but I don’t know if I will ever be rid of them.

  116. Wow Renee! Loved the comment of Think-Feel-Live. How often do we allow those feelings to control us in how we react and what we do? But from what you said that it starts with our thoughts made sense. So many times you hear – you can let your feelings control you – but knowing where they stem from gives a target on how to conquer them. I could never seem to control my emotions – thanks to so much around me and in me, but I can control thoughts with God’s truth. Thanks so much!

  117. Self doubt is a constant companion even though I have overcome many obstacles in my life. It is by looking back at the times that God has lead, guided, provided, and carried me that I find my confidence to move forward in unfamiliar areas. However, it is a constant battle but the word of God is a wonderful resource when we are down.

  118. I would love to receive this book. I have always struggled with self esteem issues and am my own worst enemy. My friend is doing this book as an online bible study and has really grown. She encouraged me to consider it as well. Due to the horrible financial status of my state I continue to get laid off from work as a social worker because I lack senority. My employers praise my work, but regretfully I have been let go from 3 positions in as many years when social service budgets are cut. It is so hard to hold onto my belief in myself when I continue to find myself unemployed because I was the last person hired. Some days I just want to bury my head in the sand and say forget it!!! But, I know God designed me to help others and He is for me.

  119. struggling Lady says:

    I had a huge episode yesterday where the devil was really attacking me. My huband and I are bringing our marriage back together after an affair. We are doing really well. But I have times when the devil gets to me and says I am not as good as the other woman, or not as beautiful, or not as thin, and he completely takes my confidence away. In times like those, I need to just pray to God. I need my confidence to be from the Lord.

  120. There is no secret to have confidence in Christ; it’s exactly as you shared that we need to replace the lies we believe with the truth of God’s word. What I find difficult is identifying the lies that I believe… the root or core of what makes me feel insecure. I pray that one day I will come to the place where I will more easily identify the thought “in the moment” and have His truth hidden in my heart to replace it immediately so that I can shine for His glory! Thanks for your encouragement!

  121. I often am filled with self-doubt and worth. I try hard to be a good christian, wife, mother, and friend. As a friend, I am a good listener, but I doubt that what I say concerning God will be come out correctly and be accepted. As a mom, I am striving to be a better listener, but feel alone and that I’m saying all the wrong things. As a wife, I struggle daily with the need to please him by being the “good little wife” and the “let’s get real… I am a person and I want a life, TOO!”. As a christian, my thoughts & words are not living up to want them to be (for Christ). I do not spend enough time in the word or in prayer.

    Your words are sounding on me! I am blessed and thankful for so many things, but I definitely struggle with many AM messages! I need help with the FM messages!!!

    Thank for your message today! I will contine for God’s strength!

  122. Thank you Renee-

    Between your devotional today and Lyssa yesterday, I know I’m being called to deal with the issue of two bullies in our small church. The sad thing is everyone in the church knows how these two men are but does nothing to stop them. The people who become completely fed up leave. Or refuse to volunteer for anything. These men are on our consistory now and are making people’s lives misirible.
    The last person they turned their attention to was me and I’ve spent the last week praying for these men and our church. Praying I overcome my natural fear of confrontation and that God will bring me the confidence I’ll need to address this issue with the church (who I feel should be confronted first) and then thes two men. I pray everyone sees I’m not acting out of hurt feelings but love for the congregation

  123. This message was perfect for my day today, thank you! I recently started a new position in a college ministry setting. It is my first real job out of college and not something I ever thought I would be qualified for. The woman who had the job before me was perfect for the position and I’m constantly comparing myself to her and seeing my weaknesses. It’s been a real struggle to remind myself that this job is part of God’s plan for me and I just need to let him work through me. This morning was especially difficult as I was feeling uncertain and insecure about other things, and your devotion was (and always is) a wonderful blessing and extremely relevant. Thank you and praise the Lord!

  124. Missy Birkhead says:

    As a mom of two teenagers – 1 freshman in high school and 1 freshman going to college, I struggle with fear, doubt and insecurity especially now that they are making decisions on their own and I am not in control. So then I feel like I am not needed or loved by them because from teenagers perspective “we don’t know anything”. And then when they do continue to make mistakes then I feel like I didn’t do a very good job teaching them as a mom. Parenting is so hard. But thanks for your encouraging words through your video. I would really like to look more into the book and see if this is something my accountability group would like to study or I am even praying/considereing starting a Bible study group with other teachers and assistants at the school I work at.

  125. Jeanelle says:

    I contemplated not sharing my thoughts because I told myself I wouldn’t win anyway. And then it hit me – this is exactly what I need to stop doing. So I asked God for a FM moment and here I am sharing my thoughts! God is good! Things have never been “easy” for me and I can remember as I was growing up always wanting what others had. As I helped my own children grow through this same process, I learned that I am fortunate in many ways. I do still struggle with my life’s hard knocks and I have learned to rely on God and to be patient for He provides all things in His time. If it is His plan for me to win, I think I will benefit from the book teaching me new ways to remember that He is good and always in control.
    Thank you for a great ministry!

  126. I love the triggers and truths printable! This is a great help to me!

  127. Thank you for talking about all the things we have running through our heads that may not be our thoughts. We need to take captive every thought!!!!

  128. WOW!
    Were you standing beside me all day on Tuesday this week? God knew I really needed this message of hope. I was having one of those no-good-very-bad days and thankfully, was uplifted by the grace of my Godly girlfriends who reminded me of my amazing self-worth and that I AM one of God’s precious creations. I am guilty of comparision and letting it affect my spirit. Hopefully, with the help of your messages, I can refocus and remember why God blessed me with great talents so I can further His kingdom!

    Thanks for sharing your heart with all of us!

  129. Lisa In Virginia says:

    As soon as you spoke of Twila Paris, I KNEW the song you were going to refer to. That is my “go to” song when discouraged. Thank you for the reminder…this Summer has not been an easy one :).

  130. This is such perfect timing! It’s a word in due season. This is my first time to renee’s site and I am praising God for this insight. I have allowed the self doubt to become a stronghold of fearful torment and evil forebodings of worst case scenarios. Thank you for helping to unveil my eyes that Satan is a bully and he is shooting these flaming darts of doubt, condemnation, fear, and evil forebodings. Instead of fighting back II’ve been allowing these vivid negative “movie.type scenarios ” to flood my thioughts. Now I need to learn WHAT to do. Help.

  131. I struggle with worthiness and self doubt. I know I should not. I know that I am completely loved by God and that He forgives my sins. It just seems that I allow the devil to bring up old sins to create guilt and then when I fall and sin again, the devil says “see you are so unworthy”. Thank you for your encouraging words and I know that God will continue to help me beat this self doubt.

  132. Karen Doll says:

    Dear Renee,
    Reading through the above comments, I see that I am not alone. So often I think we, as women, feel all alone. I stayed at home and raised my children in a culture that seems to shout to women,” Work, Work, Work ! and you will feel worthwhile !” Well, any of you who have chosen the very Godly and demanding job of being a stay-at-home mother, can surely attest that it is indeed WORK !!! In my community, there were very few of us and I felt very much alone. Then, to add insult to injury, my husband and I chose to homeschool. I think the alone-ness I felt possibly tripled then as there were even less of us than stay-at-home moms. I wondered often, if my children were indeed getting a good education, were there any holes in our curriculum, will I be capable of teaching high school subjects, etc., etc. And, when you feel alone, you feel sad, possibly a bit depressed, and your confidence definitely waivers. Also, just trying to be a Godly mother can shake one’s confidence no matter if you spend your days with your kids or out in the work force. So, I wondered if God really was looking out for me. And, as a one income family, we struggled. And, even though we tithed, and gave to the hungry, participated in fundraising efforts for the least of these…we still struggled causing me to question if God really is taking care of me ?? However, through the years I have felt extremely blessed to have this amazing opportunity to teach my children Godly principles, share this beautiful world with them, mix and mingle with all types of people, and have real hands on learning. I would definitely do it all over again even though in those first few years family and friends felt it necessary to comment and question, ” Why ?”
    And, in my personal faith journey, I find myself not very confident that I am behaving Godly enough…I lose my patience, I raise my voice, I internally judge others, I sometimes struggle to forgive, and the list goes on and on. Yet, I call myself a Christian woman. And, even though I attend worship services, volunteer on church committees, give to others, give extra when our church is in need, I don’t always see what God is doing in my life. I know that some of this lack of confidence stems from missing days reading God’s word which only fuels the whole confidence issue causing me to feel less than passionate when I pray, less thankful, less able to battle the foe with Biblical wisdom. So, I would love to win a copy of “A Confident Heart” to glean Godly wisdom and perhaps pass on to another sister in need. Thank you, Renee for your inspiring ministry and this opportunity !!! May God bless you and your family !

  133. I have been self doubting a lot… I thought I knew who I was and what I was supposed to do for God but everything changed and now I am struggling to find sucurity and trust in God. The uncertainty of the future and worries consume me. I need to seek God more…

  134. Tina Sbriglia says:

    My insecurities lie in not being enough for the Lord, for my children, for my mom, for my friends, for myself. This week a challenge/falling out with friends in my life has caused insecurity to dig in deeper and I’m struggling to not let it take root and be drug down by the negativity of others. I have spent a lot of time in conversation with God. I have not given up on myself, on prayer, on life and I will not. I know the Lord is growing me through this challenge.

  135. I am just amazed at how God has been putting information for me from some very unexpected places. I am getting ready to make a very big life changing choice and I am scared and totally feeling that I am not worthy and inadequate. Thank you for the timliness of your message.

  136. Butterfly says:

    I thank God for his word this morning. I read the daily devotional every morning before starting off my day. But today I felt the Lord speak to me directly. I thank God for women like you. Your daily devotions have helped me so much. Thank you ladies! May the Lord Bless you!! 🙂

  137. I recently lost my job and my Mom passed away 2 weeks later. I decided that rather than look for work, I will spend one year to try to become a writer, which is my longtime dream. But I feel paralyzed! Voices in my head say, “Why do you think YOU’RE a writer?” and “What do YOU have to say to others?”, especially about my topic of Women Making Strides and being a leader in your own life. I get distracted with social media and daily tasks and pretty soon, the day is gone and I’ve achieved nothing. It’s those negative voices holding me back. I will post and read your “Truths you can lead toward” when I feel doubtful. Thank you.

  138. Missy Hubbard says:

    This is exactly what i needed to hear today. thank you for your powerful words of wisdom.
    Its going to take time, but I pray eventually I can become the person God intended for me to be.
    Proverbs 31 website helps me to be that person! God Bless!

  139. I had a rough marriage in the beginning. He had affairs. That truely zaps all confidence. When we finally got everything straight in our marriage he wanted to help me get past all of it. I knew that what he had taken from me he could not give back. Trust had to be earned but, I needed my confidence back my belief in me. The knowledge that I am worth more. I knew that only God could give me that back. It took 3 years before I felt like I was whole and worthy again. My focus had to be on God and everything else fell into place. He has honored my marriage and my husband and I just celebrated 24 yrs of marriage which we did not think we would make. With God all is possible. Satan is always trying to get at my confidence as he knows it is a weak point but I will forever always look and pray to God for he is my strength.

  140. Wow…I just found this website yesterday and I thank God for the
    message. I am at one of the lowest points if my life and really need Gods
    guidance daily. Discouraged and dismayed over how my past has so negatively affected my present and future. I have been asking God to help help me fix my eyes on Him. Asking God to help me trust and believe that He still has a purpose for my life though I have seemingly messed up at every point. God, I think, wants me to believe He will make a way even when it seems impossible. This message I think is a confirmation God is with me even now. Thank you so much.

  141. Thanks so much, Renee. I needed these reminders this morning. As soon as I woke this morning, the doubts and insecurities flooded in. I realize now the trigger was a dream I had about a “friend” who deserted me when I needed her the most. She didn’t believe me when I told her I was abused by a minister. After we left that denomination, we were treated by many as lost and going to hell. So all these thoughts are overwhelming me this morning… Thank you so much for reminding me that GOD IS FOR ME! Jesus is a Friend Who always understands me and will never desert me. The devil can be so strong, but Jesus is infinitely stronger! Thanks also for the print-out of “Triggers and Truths.” I love those printables. They really help me to remind myself of God’s indisputable Truths.

  142. WOW, I absolutely LOVE the devotional today. I am sure so many women can relate, we are so hard on ourselves.
    I myself have so much self doubt, I beat myself up over things daily, why? Not sure, but I love the idea of remembering to focus on what God thinks of me, not what I think of myself. Time to write post-its around the house with reminders of how He feels about me!
    He’s been nudging me to do something that’s totally out of my comfort zone, but with time and prayer I know he’ll show me His way if I let Him!
    I have alot of work to do, but with God’s guidence it can be done!
    Thankyou for this!

  143. Thank you Renee! I live everyday thinking I am not good enough…for my family, for my friends, even for God. God’s word says different and I believe His word, and that He is in control, I can even encourage others about His love, about drawing strength from Him, knowing His unconditional love but I cannot get it in my own heart for me!!!!! Some days I feeI like I cannot take it for another minute, the failure feeling is so powerful, it often consumes me. Thank you for the AM vs FM, this will help me focus on my thoughts. This past year has been a struggle for me, many great things have happened but many tragic things as well. Satan is really trying to use the most treasured thing against me, my family. We have some broken relationships right now that have just about put me over the top and have definitely left me with the feelings of extreme self-doubt which in turn, as I said earlier, makes me have the thoughts that God’s love and forgiveness is for everyone except me. I know different, I just let the AM thoughts keep me down. Thank you again for this message, I am truly blessed by this and will probably watch it numerous times!

  144. I just love your devotion today. My doubt comes from past failures and even though I know they are remembered no more by my loving Savior, I can’t seem to forget them. The AM (against me) and FM (for me) was really a unique way for me to process it all. Also, in another one of your videos (it might have been from the 7 Day Doubt Diet), you did a visual where you wrote your concerns on a post card and laid it under a cross next to your bed. You literally gave your concerns to God. I am working hard on doing this myself. Thank you for your words of wisdom. May God bless you!!!

  145. I struggle a lot with self confidence and doubting my abilities. I am so hungry for any kind of encouraging word and am constantly repeating Phil 4:13 over and over. The truth spoken to me through the P31 devotion today was, when doubt tells you that you can’t do something because it’s too hard, remember God says you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. I also love the idea of FM thoughts! I can’t wait to read A Confident Heart. Thank you for allowing God to use you to encourage others!

  146. Only over the last year have a come to realize that self-doubt is a major issue in my life. I’ve been through some tough times in the last few years, and it’s becoming apparent that I allow fear and doubt to control nearly every aspect of every day. I think it stems from years of being treated as insignificant and inadequate and learning to believe it. The I went through a period of time in which I simply made poor decision after poor decision and reaped the consequences. I began to believe the lies Satan had so delicately crafted for me. I trusted that God, but I found my own self to be wholly untrustworthy. This is something I’ve begun working through with God this year. It’s difficult to rewire the brain to think and believe so differently, but He is walking me through it step-by-step.

  147. At work, I’ve been asked to help make some difficult decisions that will cause some people to lose their jobs and others to work in a difficult environment. I’m the only woman on the team and I feel that I’m being ignored most of the time. Our CEO looks at the guys when he talks and I wonder why he even wants me on the team sometimes. Then I figure that I’m probably reading too much into it than it really is. I took the Doubt Index Analysis and most of my answers were “Almost Always”. But the P31 devotionals always help to get be back on track and I’d love to read “A Confident Heart” to learn how to surrender this self doubt thing completely to God. On the way to work this morning, I was listening to a song called “The Middle” by Jimmy Eat World and one part of they lyrics says, “Live right now, yeah, just be yourself. It doesn’t matter if it’s good enough for someone else.” It reminded me of a conversation I had with God once feeling frustrated with not knowing what my purpose was, and He said all he wanted for me to do was be “me”. It pleases Him when I am just who he created me to be. Simple. So why do I make it so hard? Thanks for all you are doing through your ministry – it’s really making a difference.

  148. Thanks Renee. This sounds like a great book. My first thought was to have it for a bible study with some friends. I am like Kristen in that I struggle with fear every day. I so want to be rid of that feeling. We do have to stay so alert to the attacks and go right to the Holy Spirit with our AM thoughts and ask, what’s up with that, and ask for the truth. Wow, if my thinking would change, then my feelings, that could change how I live. That’s huge. Thanks for writing this book. God has used you.

  149. Debra Overs says:

    I AM PHYSICALLY HANDICAPPED. WHEN I TALK TO PEOPLE ABOUT JESUS IT’S WHISPERED BECAUSE I’M HANDICAPPED YOU’RE NOT HEALED SO HOW CAN YOU BE A SPOKES PERSON FOR THE LORD. BUT GOD SAYS THEY DON’T UNDERSTAND ALL THINGS ARE DONE FOR MY GLORY. YOU KEEP PRESSING ON AND SPEAKING MY WORD I WILL DO THE REST.

  150. The Lord has blessed me with freedom after being held captive by the enemy in an abusive marriage that lasted twelve years. It has been two years now since I left that prison and I am ever so grateful to God for that freedom. Even though I have grown in many ways, I find that I must be vigilant of my own thoughts, particularly when I am hurt or treated harshly by others. If I am not diligent in giving those thoughts and emotions to Christ right away, I find myself in a place of self doubt, and begin to get into a slump. While I still stumble with this from time to time, I take heart in the knowledge that I serve an all powerful God who will always raise me back up!

  151. Thank you for this giveaway but more importantly thank you for you insight! I just started getting the p31 daily devotions and yours was the 2nd one I had read and God is definitely speaking through your words. I have a 2 year old and since she has been born I know that my purpose is to teach her God’s love but I find it defeating that I’m no longer in the role of leadership in our church because of taking care of her. I love my daughter and my new role as mom but I feel I get left out or forgotten about which makes me feel inadequate! So thank you for allowing to see that God has a plan that is growing inside of me!

  152. Erin Maxwell says:

    I have felt myself dragged down by paralyzing doubt in myself which I have now figured out originates from my lack in trust that I am worthy of Gods love….or ANYONES love forthat matter. Last week, my husband and I found ourselves at a new church after years of not going and God seems very excited to be working within us and our marriage. The feelings that I felt because everyone said I couldn’t do it have been muted by the steady voice of God telling me everyday that His opinion of ne is the only one that matters because He is the one who knows me completely. He made me the way I am because I am a reflection of Him and through Him all things are possible. I am so grateful that the love of God has managed to take away my doubt, guilt, and feelings of not being good enough. His hand is strong in my life and its because of websites like Proverbs31.org that I can see his message for me all day and not have to worry about what everyone else thinks of how I do things because through Christ, all things are possible and for that, I will praise Him foe eternity

  153. Patti
    Thank you for your comment, it touched my spirit. As I read it and some others it has reminded me
    so much of God’s goodness and faithfulness. I have just left my abusive husband Tuesday, and i have been waiting on God to show me the right time this time so it be the last time. I need to go to court today for a protective order but I have been praying for peace and He has given it to me to be able to take this step.
    God has lovingly given me reminders that He is with me every step of the way through my daily devotionals, friends postings on Facebook (they do not know of my situation, they are in OK and I am in AK). God does ask us to be still and listen for his voice, then when He speaks we must be willing to walk through three door He opens. Blessings

  154. I have lived with doubts about my purpose and what I am capable of even though I know that God has been by my side in all of my endeavors. I recently read The Forgotten God by Frances Chan and this book coupled with Renee’s comments is helping me break down the barriers of self doubt and reaching out to the Holy Spirit for guidance and knowing that I am perfectly and wonderfully made! I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

    Thank you Renee for your added insight…..

  155. Renee,

    Thank you for these words. I really really needed to hear these truths today, to be reminded who I am and who God wants me to be.

    I allowed an acquaintance to make me question my path just yesterday. I am coming to the She Speaks conference next week, and have begun writing with the A Widow’s Might team for P31. She put a seed of doubt in my heart…am I good enough? Do I have what it takes to minister to other women in similar situations and circumstances?

    My self-doubt lasted a bit longer than it should have. I know that God’s plan for my children and me is marvelous. I will not let one person discourage me.

    Thanks so much for giving me the tools to combat my self-doubts!

    Many blessings on you and your family.

  156. Kerry Ann Prodorutti says:

    I suffer from lack of confidence, and insecurity, over everything. I really want to learn how to do away with those fears and rely solely on God; on His strength and His view of me. I have a problem with thinking way to much about what others think of me. Another thing I struggle with is trying to please everyone and doing what everyone else wants me to do rather than what is best for me.

    I cannot wait to read this book. Thank you!

  157. I know that all humans deal with insecurity and that satan devises perfect schemes for each one of us. I’ve been divorced for 9 years and was engaged recently to a man I’d been seeing for about 2 years. What I believe satan tried to do was have my fiance open up scars from my childhood in order to defeat me and thwart God’s plan for me. It has been very difficult, but I canceled my engagement and ended my relationship with the man I love. Because satan knows how much I desire a strong, godly man in my life, he thought his plan would work. I’m still in a lot of pain and it’s a daily struggle, but thanks be to God…”greater is He that is in me than he that is in the world.” {I’m very excited about attending the She Speaks writer’s conference next week.}

  158. Renee … because of your positive influence in my life, my husband and I have started counseling. We are trying to stop the cycle that Satan keeps us in pulling us apart. I can’t thank you enough for all your encouragement and powerful messages that you share. You are truly a blessing! ~ Erin

  159. Josephine says:

    Just want to say THANK YOU, RENEE!! You have such a practical and powerful way that you bring God’s truths to light! I love the simplicity of your message, you help me to see that the answer is something that I can do. It comes down to a choice. You have challenged me to step up and stand up to the bully of self doubt! God has and continues to use you in a powerful way to empower people just like me. It is my deepest desire to help others see what God has shown me through your messages! Thank you, and GOD BLESS YOU!

  160. Wow….reading a lot of these comments really helps my perspective on all that’s going on around me. As a stay-at-home mom to 3 under 3, sometimes I lose sight of the “big picture” and focus only on my own little family and how much I feel I’m failing them miserably. I hardly speak to my own mother now and so my biggest insecurities come from believing I’ll fail my own kids in the same ways and end up with broken relationships with them as adults, as well. I would love the encouragement of knowing exactly where to go in God’s Word to point out His truth to me, and apply it to my parenting. Thank you for bravely sharing of yourself!

  161. Renee, Your P31 devotion spoke directly to me this morning. God has impressed on my heart to step out of my comfort zone and begin sharing with women how God redeemed my past so that they do not make the same mistakes. Not an easy proposition, being that transparent! The doubts are there, but I am encouraged by taking my eyes off of me and looking at the One whose plans are greater than my abilities. Thank you for encouraging me today.

  162. I have had self doubts much of my life. I’ve never felt quite as “good” as others. This has especially been a problem since losing my 27 year old son 2-1/2 years ago. Since then, I have isolated myself, gained 40 lbs, and the jobs I have been able to find, I always thought I wasn’t good enough – that people didn’t like me. Now, with the weight gain I’m embarrassed to even be seen by anyone who knows me, so I isolate myself even more.
    This morning, some things that have triggered this self doubt and lack of confidence was having to go to my home town to get a document needed for a new job I will be starting in a couple of weeks. I wanted to spend some time in my home town, but instead, I went straight to the place I needed to go, back in my car and to the cemetery to visit my son. I didn’t even stop to get a soda !

    This is no way to live. I am so tired of it and know something needs to change. I am 51 years old and want to live the rest of my life in some kind of peace – not to mention the fact that I have to work to take care of myself.

    The main thing that stood out to me from your video message this morning is what I “think”, I will eventually “feel” which in turn will help me to “live” a life without doubt and with confidence. “Think – Feel – Live”. Thank you !

    • Tami…..my prayers are with you. Though I have not experienced any where near the grief you have, I feel I can say that God is with you no matter what. When we don’t have the strength to stand I know that God will lift us up. When we don’t have the strength to lift our eyes, our hearts, or our hands to Him he will call someone to stand in the gap for us and hold us up. I am praying that God will bless your life with comfort, peace and joy.

  163. Veronica Sext says:

    It’s amazing how Satan can get us down through other people. He attacks us in our friendships, co-workers and in our home lives. I have been so down lately feeling as though I am unworthy of love. I need your video to show me I AM worthy. Jesus died for me, we are all unworthy of his love. The beauty is, is that he is so generous to us and invites us to his table and fills us with joy regardless of our sin. Thank you for your encouragement today!

  164. Today’s Proverbs 31 devotional where you stated “conflict, criticism and comparison had sent me into the shadows of doubt” spoke out to me. In times of insecurity, I’m going to remind myself of Philippians 4:13 and Psalm 139:14. Thank you for those awesome reminders.

  165. I love your A.M., F.M. analogy, how awesome! When I get down about myself God reminds me of Jeremiah 29:11. He knows the plans He has for me, He promises me a future and a hope. God shows me His plan is the BEST! When God gives me scripture and revelation to ‘see’ His plan I know His Love for me is never ending!

  166. I am in the process of reading your book and every chapter hits home. And now I see you have an online study guide to go with it, I will be all over that as soon as I finish this post. Thank you Thank you for writing this book. It’s a must read for everyone!

  167. While I am confident in my corporate abilities, I have an extremely poor self-image and very absent self-worth – due in large part to an extended period of psychological abuse in the workplace. It took me 7 years to before I finally “won” my worker’s comp settlement for severe stress, anxiety and depression. I am going through a very bad time right now – I have been doing better, have another job, and am trying to start all over at 53 years old. The family of a young lady my son is going to propose to believes they are the “elite” members of the mid-size town in which they live and though I have only met the mother, I am extremely aware of how the family is looking down on me.

    This woman is behind my intensified feelings self-doubt and worthlessness. She makes back-handed comments and uses negative phrases couched as a compliment. For my son’s benefit, I have not said anything about it to him. I had dreamed of having a daughter-in-law I could treasure and a new extended family through her relatives. I can very clearly see that is not going to happen. I asked my sister-in-law to pray for God to protect my heart and help me deal with this or I am going to lose my son due to my inability to deal with these people. I can’t handle their snobbishness and disinterest. Then I received my KSLR “Encouragement for Today” email message at work and saw the post with your book. I just feel like you are my last hope for help in trying to conquer these feelings of inadequacy. I am really drowning in emotions right now and none of them are good.

  168. Courtney says:

    Lately my biggest trigger has been college. I have three weeks left in the hardest class I’ve ever taken, and there are times when I’m just not sure if I can finish it.

  169. Thanks for stating the foundation of what I need – to trust God in the midst of this uncertainty of the high speed rail nightmare taking our property and totally devaluing our home and remaining property while we have to pay for a new well and irrigation system – with what. All this while my husband is fighting Valley Fever which is a full body fungal infection that takes months to recover. I know God cares and is the Wise Creator, Counselor and Intercessory amidst my insecurities. Thanks for stating the reality of what needs to be focused on – God and His plan as I am so inadequate.

  170. I doubt myself a lot. I never share in meetings because I feel other’s know more than me, of course I work with professors so that’s probably true, but I still wish I had the self confidence to state an opinion withough doubt. Just yesterday I scheduled a student group meeting and began doubting if it would be successful on my drive to campus, but it was absolutely wonderful! I am now telling myself when I feel like a failure, God has a plan! And if I’m mean’t to do something God will work it out beautifully and if it’s not mean’t to be, God will change it into something for his glory.

  171. I am always amazed how God always brings the very thing I need at the exact time that I need it! He is so AWESOME & FAITHFUL! I have struggled most of my teen and adult life with doubts of many kinds. I was raised in an extremely legalistic church where after becoming a Christian at a young age, I was told or led to believe I had back-slidden every time I did something wrong. This has been a battle for me…even though I learned in recent years that is by FAITH I am saved! It’s not a feeling or based on what I do or don’t do. However, even though I know this…it seems like Satan is always accusing me of not being a child of God. I was just thinking in the past few days that I have to get released from this battle in doubting my salvation…there has to be a way! And this morning I get on FB (something I don’t do very often) & here is this devotional video from Renee speaking to me! God is AMAZING & it’s very clear to me that I need to get a copy of this book & read it…asking the Holy Spirit to help me defeat satan & release me from this stronghold of doubt…crippling my walk wiith Him. Thank you Renee for your obedience to Christ in sharing your heart with all of us!

  172. latrisha says:

    I’ve been dealing with the spirit of doubt for some years now which has caused me to miss out on some things in my life. Going through a very difficult time in my marriage and trying to regain who I am, has caused doubt to implant itself into my life. I second guess everything and everyone and have serious struggles with this. I know what God tells and shows me through prayer and his word but sometimes I just can’t seem to shake this doubt which causes me to beat myself up and begin to question everything that I am. I have major inequities and I just want to be

  173. Cindy Broadway says:

    While starting my new business I’ve become aware of how insecure and un-confidant I am when I’m calling people. I raised 3 children, have 6 grandchildren and feel confident in my own little world, but not in the business world. Your devotion was just what i needed today as I want to make phone calls fto acquire customers and need encouraged! Thank you so much for your help, I printed the triggers and truths and will repeat these scriptures often! I would be thrilled to win your book, I know it would help me and I can in turn encourage others. Thank you so much for your ministry, may God richly bless you!

  174. I’m a non-traditional master’s student who returned to school after being out for almost 15 years. I made the decision when I finally realized I had been in somewhat of a dead-end job for 8 years. Throughout the program my advisor has voiced her concerns about my failure to speak up in class and thinks that I may have problems when I do my internships this year because I don’t share what I know enough. I’m working a part-time job this summer and received my review last week. They were way more critical than positive. They told me I was timid and slow. So, now what is difficult to deal with is that I’ve received this criticism since I was in 1st grade. I thought I took care of the slow part and hadn’t heard that since I left elementary school. But the timid part continues to follow me. I don’t think of myself as timid. I know that I don’t talk as much as others, but I must have something in my manner that says fearful and I’m not sure how to remedy it. I have always been afraid of making mistakes and people seem to hone in on that. So, anyway, this devotional was helpful today. I’m thankful that God has a different focus. I tend to forget that easily and have never been quite sure how to bridge the tangible life with spiritual truth. I don’t want my weaknesses to be a barrier to God’s work. I want to be useful to Him.

  175. Allowing past mistakes to define me in the present…

  176. Teresa Richardson says:

    I believe God is leading me to write a book. I wrote poetry and short stories as a teen, and I write infrequently now, but I am insecure about writing to be published.

  177. ethel gilless says:

    My doubts are more about is my lack of confidence from not knowing if I’m doing something because I convicted by God or by man. I’m dealing now with not wanting to do something (teach this next school year). I can work in the school and not teach but that would mean less than half my take home pay. So I feel obligated to teach but don’t want the work load knowing all the other new responsibilities of taking care of my Mother. I’m believing God will intervene to provide a way out of the teaching responsibilities but I’m keeping myself open and ready to move forward with a “right attitude” to teach. I’ve got my church friends praying with me for God to have His way and give me grace and strength. I’d appreciate your prayers too. Thank you

  178. danielle guidry says:

    I have been called into the ministry to Preach the Gospel of Jesus Christ, and I still sometimes doubt the call that GOD has placed on my life because of my focus on my own abilities, when I know that it is GOD and his precious Holy Spirit that works in me, to work as a servant in HIS kingdom.

  179. I feel like I spend more time and energy being scared, untrusting and uncertain. I want to stop living in fear and doubt. I want to quit going through the motions. I want to truly feel joyful and confident again. I’d like to use the energy I have been wasting and put it to better use.

  180. Michelle B. says:

    I want to start by saying THANK YOU for being so faithful in sharing God’s word. It means more than you can imagine. Your Proverbs 31 devotional today was exactly what I needed. I have struggled with doubt and insecurity my whole life. I grew up in a family with 8 siblings, which included 5 insanely beautiful sisters. We constantly compared ourselves to the others, allowing depression, eating disorders, and many other struggles to win when we didn’t find ourselves as beautiful or smart as our “perfect” sisters. I constantly felt the need to measure up, and so I aimed for perfectionism in everything. When I became a wife, teacher, mother, and youth pastor’s wife, the cycle continued. I constantly compared myself to others and knew I would never be as good as others. Your message about comparison being a source of doubt is SO TRUE! God recently showed me the Theodore Roosevelt quote that “Comparison is the thief of joy”, just as your devotional spoke about. The Lord has been faithfully showing me (and strongly confirming through your message today) that I don’t need to compare myself to anyone, for they are not the standard. Jesus is the standard, the benchmark, the One and Only that I need to strive to be like. If I could only keep this in my mind and heart, then the doubts would not be as crippling as they have always been.

  181. I too have asked God to zap me with confidence – it sparked my attention to look at what made me feel uncertain and insecure instead of just asking God to make it go away. I’ve been unexpectantly promoted into a new position at work, which would make most people thrilled but has me plagued with doubts that I can lead and care for the site as well as the previous management, despite everyone else’s confidence in my ability. I know this is all part of God’s plan – he tends to give me giant kicks in the butt to get me where I need to be, but yet it is so hard to trust – thank you for your words of wisdom and guidance. Since I’ve been subscribing to the facebook posts and emails I’m getting back to being God centered rather than fear centered.

  182. For most of my life I have compaired myself to others. I am learning to see myself as God sees me and use my talents and abilities the best that I can. I would just not do something because I knew there were others that were better than myself. God gives us opportunities and challenges as blessings if we will only step out and do it. Each time that I have taken those opportunities I have learned something and it has boosted my confidence that I did a good job. Thanks for your words of reassurance and encouragement.

  183. C Garrison says:

    Always worried about what others think of me. Constantly doubting if I’m doing the “right” thing. I know doubts and fears do not come from the Lord, but I continually fall into the trap. I want to be a perfect wife, mother, and school teacher, but when I look at others I feel inadequate. Lord, help me focus on you and not everyone else.

  184. April Robertson says:

    I recently quit my job because my employer thought it was okay to scream, yell and cuss me in front of the other employee’s and our customers. I had worked for the company for 10 years so this was a huge step of faith for me. I knew and still know what God wanted me to do. I know that God is dealing with this person and that God has it all under control. But over the past few weeks of adjusting to being a housewife I have developed a serious self-esteem problem. I did not realize this until last night when a very minor incedent escalated into a major argument. I truely felt that my husband harbored resentment toward me for quiting when in actuality he has been nothing but supportive of my decision. This caused a financial burden for him and I think I am feeling a tad bit inferior not “doing my share” when in all actuallity I am busier now than I was when I worked a full time job. I am leading a women’s ministry at our church which includes two different groups of ladies that meet at different times on different days about different things. I am organizing the church library which has been used for a storage room for several years. I am part of the ladies bible study/discussion group. All of these things come under the Women’s Ministry so that alone keeps me busy. I also do audio/visual on Sunday Mornings and help with the food closet. God has provided me with the time to do things that others do not have time for or that was a burden to some one else who was working a full time job but felt compelled to do it anyway. Several of these doors opened within hours of my leaving my job. Over time I have been able to recruit help and deligate responsibilities. I am finally getting my “schedule” to the point that I can take care of our home and volunteer work. I realize I am rambling. I really just wanted to say, thank you Renee! Todays video really helped me to realize that it’s satan putting the doubts and fears in my head and heart. My husband does not resent me at all! He tried to tell me it was my own self esteem issues but I didn’t want to hear that. I wanted to blame him. Thank you for being a part of my daily study and my healing process as I travel through this season in my life. I have a very full schedule that God has provided for me so I try to keep this thought in mind at all times…..”I want to be about Gods business, but I do not want to be “busy”. I want to be a productive part of spreading the gospel and will make every effort to make all I do honor Him.” May God bless you Renee’! Thank you for all you do for His kingdom.

  185. Virginia says:

    I always feel like I’m not doing enough or that I’ll make the wrong choice. Sometimes the fears can be paralyzing or I feel like God will not help me because I am not doing what I am supposed to dfo, what I feel I should have done. I have a lot of doubts especially when it comes to areas I’m not as strong at such as my career.

  186. Margaret says:

    This posting had to be sent by God today. I am facing retirement at the end of next month. I prayed for two years that God would let me know when it is time. I have worked for my current employer over 40 years. I put out a fleece to God to ask for confirmation from Him that it was time. He met my requests and granted them. Ever since I announced to my employer that I was retiring, Satan has done a number on me with all the reasons that I don’t need to retire. Satan has tried to undermine everything that God granted me in helping me decide to retire. This sounds like a wonderful book that I could so benefit from. Thanks for the triggers that you gave. I printed it and am going to incorporate it into my devotional time. I suffer so much from insecurities that are mostly self imposed. Satan knows which buttons to push to knock me back. I pray God’s blessings on your ministry. Thank you for the post today!

  187. When those we love the deepest turn a shoulder or roll an eye, stop greeting you or walk right by, stop talking coffee dates, or asking for prayer or sharing their joys….. when their actions or words find that plsace that stings the most…… I find my self in self doubt. Looking forward to words of encouragement to embrace in the empowerment of all God has for me!

  188. Boy, Renee, You hit the nail on the head with that video. I loved the am and fm analogy. I never thought about it like that. Both me and my daughter need a big dose of self confidence, so sign me up for your free gift package. Thanks for your generosity. God bless, Polly

  189. Deborah says:

    WOW!!! Just what I needed to HEAR today!!! I was struggling with self doubt over a position that t I feel that God has placed in my lap..something I wasn’t looking for, but it could be a great opportunity for me and my family…I was all GUNG HO and then the doubt started to creep in…thinking to myself ” I am not qualified or have the experience needed for this position”…but after seeing this post I have a NEW attitude and know that it was meant for me to read! Thanks so much for your faithfulness in getting the WORD out! Peace and Blessings to you and everyone who reads your words of encouragement 🙂 ♥

  190. Tiffany says:

    Thank you Rene, for doing what you do….as I read your devotional this afternoon, it’s just what I needed to hear! I don’t know where to start…to be confident in who I am in Christ, who I am as a wife, mom, daughter, sister..the balance of it all. I too have wished for overwhelming confidence, just like that…POOF! (lol) I am interested in this book and the magazine as a great place to start. Thank you again!

  191. This reminded me of this saying: “God doesn’t call the equipped… He equips the called.” This doesn’t have to apply only to mission work, teaching Sunday school or Bible studies, preaching, etc… it can apply to a project, a new job, or anything we are led to undertake. God will always provide what we need to be victorious at that undertaking. While I know this, I often struggle with subconscious doubts and “against me” thoughts that undermine my motivation… I need to learn to be more conscious of those thoughts so that I can take them captive, recognizing that they are NOT God’s thoughts. Even if God is not on board with something I plan to do, He would never use “against me” thoughts to redirect me! Thank you for sharing your insights on getting past these stumbling blocks.

  192. Just found your website today, loved this post on self doubt….something I struggle with a lot. Looking forward to reading and learning more from you, God Bless!

  193. I would love to win a copy of the book!

  194. I fear that I let the past haunts me at times. I want to be a blessing to others but frquently I doubt that I can be used the way the Lord want and needs. I and my family are going thru some life changes as we move and separate from the Army, there will be new challenges ahead. The Lord has much in store for me and I rebuke the devil for trying to plague me with self doubt. I would love the ability to receive this book, read and share with others that face a military spouse’s challenges of husband’s deployment, injuries. Ect. It is a challenge! Thanks for sharing Renee.

  195. My daughter sent me today’s devotional and her comment was quote, “I know it’s a “God thing” that this was the devotion from Proverbs 31 today!!!
    It just spoke loudly about how insecure we may feel in our work and ministry because of comparison or guilt.
    Our discussion last night had me thinking about how we need to look for the future and trust that God is bigger than people and circumstances….amazing how this devotion shows up today!!
    Mom this is a God Thing! Take a look at this devotional.”
    She was right. The things we talked about last night was about how inadequate I felt trying to be the perfect sister, daughter, wife, mother, grandmother, church secretary, friend, mother-in-law, Sunday School teacher, etc….
    There are circumstances at my job that have made me believe that I am inadequate in ministering to the people of our church, a job I love so dearly because I have the opportunity to minister to not only my church family, but the community too. I need the confident heart I had 3 years ago back. Your free gift package may give me the jump start I need.
    Its amazing how God answers ones prayers. I will be signing up for the daily devotional too. Thank you God for our daughters and those who equip us with what we need to take up the cross daily and follow you. Darla

  196. kimberly says:

    God speaks to us when we need it the most. I was bullied as a child and have never overcame that. I have self doubt and anxiety…happily married with 7 kids..a good job but still allow people to walk on me and cause so much pain and fear of inadequacies. I am so tired of taking xanax to help me through the day…I want to have god to ease my nerves and most importantantly…just feel good about me.

  197. Hi Renee,

    I just want to say that I purchased your book after reading a devo from it. So far it’s amazing! Thank you for stepping out in faith to write this. I pray that God really blesses you like crazy for it!

    PS Just so you know, and maybe you can pass this onto the girls at Proverbs 31 ministries (and then some), Starbucks Coffee donates to Planned Parenthood (who abort babies). Once I found this out I decided to stop buying Starbucks. The money I have is God’s and knowing that, I can’t support a company that is doing the opposite of what I stand for as a Christian. It says in the bible, if you know the good you ought to do and don’t do it, you sin. So I now try to make it a point to tell my brothers and sisters in Christ this truth. As Christians we need to stand together against things like this! I hope you and the rest of the women at Proverbs 31 will do the same.

    The reason for telling you is that you’re giving away Starbucks cards, so I’m assuming you didn’t know that they support companies that abort unborn children. I’m just trying to help Christians be aware :o).

    In His Service,

    Toni

  198. Today’s devotional is definately a “God thing.” I am in the process of a career change and every step of the way I have felt God leading me. It has been difficult at times, but I definately felt God’s hand in the entire process. Now that I am looking for a job in this new career field, I have lost confiedence in myself, my ability to follow through with something God layed on my heart so many years ago. Today’s devotion really hit home, making me stop and remember that God has a plan for me and that all of this will work out in his timing. It isn’t my lack of ability or knowlege, so I need to place my confidence in God in the plan he is working out for me. Thank you for this devotional. It really hit me today with everything going on in my life. God knew I needed this message!

  199. i could really use a Confidence Boost!!
    thanks renee.

  200. God works in mysterious ways, I am having some very personal family issues and there are other people that are saying not very nice things to others and causing huge problems at home with underage family members. I was feeling less than confident that I had failed once again as a parent and that I was going to lose my underage family member to this dark and evil force. But your message and several other spiritual messages have been presented to me today, either my email, text message or something on the radio that is sending out a message of boosting my confidence. I was reminded that God has a plan for us all and it is one of positive energy and He wants nothing but the best for all of us. His plans are according to Him and not me and I have to trust Him and know that He loves me unconditionally, that will never change. I thank you for the message and I am truly blessed to be loved by God.

  201. I have doubts about my spiritual growth due to my past. The more I try to fight against those feeling or thoughts the more they interfer with my journey to become closer to God. I want to be encourgaed by the daily devotionals, but often times I become distracted with everyday problems and issues, on the job and at home. I pray daily that God gives me the strength to move doubt out of my way, and that I can become stronger in his name. I want to move forward, toward being able toinspire others, by spreading the Good News of Jesus Christ, Our loving Father, who wants and will be there for us through all things.
    Todays devotional was truly something I needed for this day and beyond.

  202. the buly beast yes, he knows my home address… He seems to always come at just the right time to scare me… Thanks for the am/fm idea… I need to remember those promises when he comes knocking…

  203. Karen in PA says:

    I love that you remind us in you video segment that God is in control. That God chooses us and uses us as He see fit. He does not ask for more than we can handle. Often times we “think’ it is more than we can handle, but doesn’t God, our Father know better. I am ready to be obedient, to say Yes! to all He calls me to do.

  204. Pam Stewart says:

    I need to be more intentional about thinking for me thoughts rather than my automatic against me ones. Often times I am my own worst enemy!! I’m sure Satan gets a kick out of this. This week I will kick Satan and his schemes to the curb and w/Gods love and guidance I will work on becoming the women He intends for me to be!!! Jeremiah 29:11.

  205. Phyllis says:

    I’m so glad I have had the opprotunity to share in this Bible & Book Study. I face self doubt daily, my husband tries daily to point out my short falls. I love him and feel sure he does it because of his own doubt. He is 21 years older and has a lot of medical problems. I pray daily for strenght to put his bitter remarks out of my mind & for God to give him peace and a forgiving heart. He has issues with all his children and most of his grand children; he rarely sees any of them. Ladies I aske that you all pray with me. I know God can and will see me through. Renee your message was very inspiring and I truly believe that God guides us to do things because He already knows what we will need tomorrow. I love that you just decided to change the station on your alarm. God is always so very good to us. Thank you for your book and all the energy you are putting into helping us all become more confident in our relatioship with God which also makes us more confident in our daily lives.
    Phyllis

  206. Christina J. says:

    We just discussed this topic last night in our Ladies Bible Class. Just going around the table discussing what causes us to have doubts helped us all realize that we are not alone in what we feel. That realization will help us reach out to others. I AM thankful for the life God chose for me.

  207. Doubt triggering things for me are past sins, for which I believe God has forgiven me, but I can’t seem to forgive myself for, totally. They’re there in my mind and I think, wow, I can’t believe I let that happen, I should have known better – I DID know better and did it anyway. Then, I go down roads like, I am just not making spiritual progress, and how can I possibly be confident enough to know that I WILL go to Heaven…you get the picture. Sideroad after sideroad leads right to – DOUBT.

  208. Wow! I needed to see this message today. I have been paralyzed by doubt for some years now. I continuously go to school in order to have accomplishments but I still feel empty inside. I have never felt good enough and I HATE THAT FEELING. I have three beautiful daughters and a son and I want them to see me happy but despite the accomplishment I feel inadequate. I have fallen many times and failed at one marriage and it looks like my current marriage is not far behind. I know God and i feel like I have a calling to speak to other women like me but I can’t understand why? My home life is not in order and I have so much depression I am not sure what to do. I spend time crying and praying and everyone says be still but what does that mean? If I knew for sure what go wanted me to do I would do it I just can’t hear him. I thank you for these steps because I feel like I needed to send it. I received this message from a friend and I started to cry while I was listening to the video. I really want to have a confident heart but how can I fix the burdens that weight me down. I want to walk close with god and let him take control but I am not doing something right because I feel alone. I guess i just needed to get that out and it’s easier this way. Those that really know me think I have it all together but on the inside I am a wreck I need Help… Thanks for listening.

  209. Denise Maddox says:

    I have been overweight most of my life, and that has colored my perception of myself. Being overweight is hard emotionally and physically– I had no energy, and pain in my legs and back every day. I know that my overeating is my fault– I was using food for comfort and stress release, and not God. So, this spring, I began a diet, and have now lost 55 lbs. I feel so much better, and I am so thankful that God has been with me every step of the way. I still have a long way to go, and I worry sometimes that I will lose the progress I have made– the urge to binge comes upon me whenever I have a stressful day ( and who doesn’t have those?) So, I look forward to reading your book, learning from it’s pages.

    • Denise, that is such a strong urge and I struggle with the same thing. I too am trying to find my identity in Christ so that all my hunger will be from Him, and He will be all that satisfies me. It isn’t easy though, is it?

  210. Satan is a bully… Thank you for stating that in terms that hit home today. I am a teacher and mom who relentlessly tries to encourage children to do the right thing, because it it the right thing to do. When a bully enters an environment, our thoughts change and doing the right thing in confronting the bully, isn’t always easy. However, with Satan the bully, the victory has already been won by our Lord, Jesus! He has no power over my thoughts, unless I take my focus off of who I am in Christ. The next time I am made aware of a bully in a child’s life, I will recall your words and encourage my son’s to remember who they are in Christ, and thus become more accountable for recognizing Satan as the bully in my life that tries to take my eyes off of my Savior, and turn them inward, allowing the thoughts of inadequacy and doubt to flood into my mind. The battle has been won by Jesus! Help me, oh Lord, to trust you more and love you more.

  211. Lisa Johnson says:

    Dear Mrs. Renee:
    I also like all of the other responders,struggle with doubt. My situations revolves around a major fall at my own hand, as a result, I doubt the power of God in me when applying for a job. I sinned severly against God and Cesaer (my job), I leaned to my own limited understanding, allowing the Spirit of pride, and the Deceptive Spirits, to rule me. if you don’t mind me sharing the affects of my life(in that season) with others, I am sure it would not only transform the doubt in their lives, but allow them to see God a work. I was responsible for a transit program( the program was the first of it”s kind, in my workplace) I prayed that God would bless the people with the program (it was a subsidized pass program, helping people get to and from work using public transportation)He did, He gave us the victory, and the program was running and flourishing. I began to pray less and instead of God being my source of help, direction, and strength, the program became my god. I prayed less and worked more. I was blinded my pride and power. I would help some that couldn’t pay, by giving them “free” passes, and sold them to others that had nothing to do with my job. (confession is a bear!!!!) Nevertheless, I was so “stuck” that I didn’t see the destruction that was present, not until, it was too late and I found myself with criminal charges, a lost job, and on the verge of clinical depression. I cried out to God, confesed my sins of having another god before him, my failure to guard what He trusted me with and the sins of pride and disobedience.
    God not only kept me, I served no jail time ( have court fee and restitiution) and He used my failure to be a testimony to others. I was used as a witness, then and now. He never fails, even when we fall.HE IS EVER FAITHFUL AND PROTECTS WHAT BELONGS TO HIM…1John 1:9- is my story.
    My fears come when I appkyfor jobs and get rejected, because of my charges, but God!!!!!

  212. I love this book, and am learning more and more about seeing myself as my Savior and my God see me. I love the encouragement I receive from reading your posts and devotionals as well. So blessed by your ministry.

  213. When I find myself overwhelmed by my circumstances I can use “FM thoughts” to change the way I feel, the way I think and the way I live. But I do so remembering that I may have to repeat the process again until God has brought me through the circumstances to freedom in Christ.

  214. “Satan is a bully” says it all for me! He bullies my confidence, fear of want/need, how good of a stepmom I’ve been, why no godly man stands beside me in this life, but worst of all, my trust in God. This is something I need to repeat daily when I feel satan is bully my heart, spirit and confidence. Thank you Renee. Blessings!

  215. About 7 months ago, God began calling me to homeschool our children once they start school. I always had my own opinion of homeschooling and never thought it was for me. Doubt popped in and I felt I wasn’t good enough or smart enough to be able to teach them everything they need to know. I do have a lot of support, including my husband, but there are so many people who give me their opninions that cause me to doubt the whole decision. But after reading this book and hearing what you said in your video, it is just another way God is showing me that I am capable and his truth is much more important than others opninions. God is so good!

  216. I am anxious to dig into this area with a small group in the fall. I know this is an area I need help from God and accountability from some local sisters;) I need all the resources I can to look at this area. For a lifetime, I have let my insecurities speak into my heart. Time to fill it up with Jesus’ promises on a minute by minute daily way! Thank you for sharing these promises…they help me so much with my new journey of being a Mom of toddler;) love ya!

  217. What triggers me is when I fear that people will see my weakness, particularly my weight, and judge me as not worthy. I also tend to give in to feeling overwhelmed, thinking that things are just too hard and that I’m too tired to get through it. What helps me is to be still and know God is at work, and to remember how deeply He loves me, knowing that is all that really matters.

  218. Thank you for sharing. We have gone through 5 challenging years of financial difficulty, miscarriages, challenges with joint child custody, and they all have taken their toll. A toll on my belief and trust in God, and a toll on my confidence to persevere. It feels like the situation will never change. Job hunting is a real challenge to one’s self confidence. Rejection letters and no calls back on resumes, causes me to question myself.

    Today’s devotion reminds to me to seek God for the causes of the doubt and to work through them with HIM, not try to process them on my own.

  219. I know here you say that what we thing determines how we feel and that shows in how we live. Unfortunately I often operate by letting what I feel determine what I think and that is where doubt creeps in. When what I’m feeling is frustration or discouragement it leads my thought and then my actions are not very reflective of someone following Christ. This message is so important because it reminds me to keep my mind thinking clearly by knowing and being in God’s word so my feeling and life can reflect that instead!

  220. I guess that I’m just realizing that my obedience is not as good as it should be because I have not been fully forgiving and holding in anger and resentments. I realize that God Loves us unconditionally and that I should as well. I was letting my pride get in the way of growing spiritually and my prayer life. And it was getting in the way of growing as I thought it should and I was confused of why God wasnt working as I thought he should.

  221. L. Bonta Ahr says:

    Insecurity and fear have been a struggle in my life for years. Probably because i was told as a youngster, over and over, that I was stupid. No matter what I did wrong, small or large, that’s what I was told. I say that to myself sometimes when I drop something or lose something, etc. I know God loves me and I am working on internalizing and taking that truth to heart and sometimes that is easier than others. Thank you for all you do to help us walk with the King!

  222. I have been really struggling with discouragement, doubt and lack of self confidence lately, it just seems like satan has a foothold, he has found a weak spot and keeps attacking.
    I have a job that I truly enjoy, I believe God put me in this position, otherwise I do not believe I would have been hired. The timing and everything were perfect. It was a blessing. Lately though things have kind of gone down hill, it seem like coworkers are focusing on the negative, I am very hard on myself too, I tend to make mountains out of mole hills.
    I read the first chapter of “A Confident Heart” and it was almost like she had crawled into my head and wrote it about me. This morning on the way to work satan started ‘reminding” of what my mom told me years ago when I was a teen, she told me “you will never be able to hold down a job”. I told satan, “just leave me alone, I am God’s precious gem, no value can be put on me, I belong to him, so just leave me alone”. I am working on focusing on what God says, not what my mom told me. That was the only time she said that, only that one time, there were a couple other things at other times that were said that he also tries to use. I guess that is part of what James was saying when he spoke about the tongue, it is such a small part but can do such harm. I know that as Goad and I work thru this I will gain strength, and insight to what God is really like and just how much he does love me, which that he loves me in spite of myself, is really pretty amazing. I am looking forward to see my self confidence grow, the doubts leave, and the discouragement dissolve in to being able to encourage others. Just writing this little note I can already feel some of this happening. Maybe those AM thoughts really can be turned into FM thoughts.

  223. Melissa says:

    I really enjoyed todays post & video. I’m saving the “Triggers & Truths” verses to read daily. Another one of my favorites when being assaulted by doubt is Jeremiah 29:11. Thank you for sharing and letting God speak through you. 🙂

  224. MarySue says:

    How fitting that I read this the morning after I blew it with some friends because of my doubts about being good enough for them. I have been working for almost a year to repair a hurt friendship, and reacted to a couple of situations this week in a manner that showed how much I HAVEN’T grown… All because I don’t feel like this 30-something single will ever fit in with the married mommies that surround me. In it all, God is teaching me what it means to be accepted by Him, and what that looks like played out in real life.

  225. I am so thankful for your book and this study! I have always struggled with self-doubt and it’s so good to have these tips to help get through the worst moments. I never thought about looking for triggers before and then trying to do ‘battle’ to counter-act the trigger. I’m looking forward to learning my triggers, how to do battle with them, and winning this war against self-doubt!!! I am so thankful the Lord loves me too much to leave me as I am and that He never gives up on working on me to make me more Christ-like <3

  226. Your devotional today was so though provoking. It really made me think about how much I doubt myself. I have let it overwhelm me now that I am a wife and mother. I am excited to read your book.

  227. I don’t remember ever NOT having self-doubt and insecurity over almost everything. My childhood was filled with so much abuse and rejection that I thought for a long time that I was just damaged. I learned at a young age to put on the happy face and often overachieve, always looking for the approval of others and never wanting to upset anyone. I did that for so many years trying to “earn” the attention and affection of my earthly father. I just wanted so much to feel that I was worth fighting for. My stepmother never accepted me and resented me being around. And my mom has battled depression and addictions my entire life compounding the instability of multiple marriages and homes. What made matters much worse was the fact that all of these adults in my life making such horrible choices that profoundly changed my outlook on life were Christians. So although I believed in God, I think I always felt He was more AM that FM. As an impressionable child, it really made it difficult to grow in faith and trust of Him and to not doubt HIs love as well.
    I have a great husband and 2 great kids, but I never feel secure in any of my roles (wife, mother, daughter, friend, etc) and always struggle with fear, doubt, and it’s ugly sister worry. I have times where it gets a little better and I’ve noticed that it directly correlates to how much time I’m meditating on His word and working to replace my AM thoughts with FM ones. Satan definitely knows these weaknesses too. I have been fortunate to also come across some excellent Bible studies, like Beth Moore’s Breaking Free. I’m currently reading Lysa’s book, Becoming More Than a Good Bible Study Girl. I have printed the AM/FM thoughts page (twice actually-think I lost it the first time!) and the Triggers & Truths. I know I need daily, sometimes hourly, reminders of Truth and FM thoughts and I think what you said in the video is so true…I need to be armed in advance!
    I would love to read your book and if you make it into a Bible study, sign me up!!! In the meantime, please keep me in your prayers as I continue to allow God to help me identify my triggers and fill my mind and heart with HIs Truth!

  228. LaDonna Gardner says:

    I have lived in the land of “self-doubt” forever and I want to move away permanently. I am going to study this deeper and prepare for the move. I do not plan on needing a moving van. I am only taking myself and plan to “decorate” my new home with the interior design line with products such as “Positive Paint, Fabulous Flooring, Super Seating and Confident Curtains”. Corny maybe, but I am a visual person, so I need to see myself in a new setting. Everyone is invited over for tea!

  229. Maelyndy Currie says:

    Renee, thank you for today’s message, you found me right where I am today. Definitely you were lead by God, I needed that message so badly. Since we moved to England four years ago, my health has worsened and I am mostly house bound, I have major depression problems too, that I am fighting with my faith, it was good to hear today that I’m not alone in these thoughts. Thank you for the opportunity to win your book and CD, I really need help and direction. God bless you in your ministry. Kind Regards Mandy Currie (mandycurrie@googlemail.com)

  230. Jan Angel says:

    Wow. 246 comments ahead of mine. So many sharing much the same. I find it interesting how paralyzed I became with fear this past weekend. What I experienced was lack of confidence and feelings of inadequacy and doubting my abilities (so self-doubt). I haven’t been able to identify why. I need to spend more quiet time and be in the Word to let the Lord show me why. I have a deep passion to carry on a ministry and a work that has not yet begun, and I believe the fear is attack of the enemy. What has helped is scripture, taking God’s promises to heart, and confessing who I am in Christ and who He believes I am. I have yet to read your book. It sounds like it would be most helpful. Thank you for sharing your heart and what the Lord is teaching you.

  231. Barbara Trussler says:

    Lovrd the thought that she was able and willing to search deeper into the reason for her insecurities. I pray that I will be motivated by God to search the real reason for my hesitancies and sometimes refusals to do what God has called me to do.

  232. Carolyn says:

    One of my triggers is when people ask me questions during conversations. I immediately think I’ve said something stupid or wrong. And most of the time the questions are just for the sake of conversation or they really are interested to hear more. It happens so fast I don’t even realize it. Ugh…

  233. Christina Bridge says:

    I doubt myself all the time. I lead worship at our church once a month and no matter how many thank you’s or good jobs I still struggle with the feeling that I am not good enough to be up there leading. It isn’t a thought of I want people to think I play my guitar or sing well, it’s that I don’t want to be a distraction and cause people to miss out on true worship or God touching their hear. I know God wants me there. He put a guitar in mu hands a few years ago and doors started flying open.

    All the insecurities seem to come from negative or silly comments in the past. Even after I’ve had good comments to replace the bad, the bad seem to be what’s remembered. I hope I’m making sense. I had my tonsils out yesterday and the meds are causing me to have a hard time forming complete thoughts.

  234. Kelly K says:

    I always feel insecure about what I am supposed to do or what I am able to do. I am constantly criticizing myself for the mistake. I tell myself I am stupid. I look in the mirror and constantly find fault in the way I look. I feel like the ugliest creature in Gods creation. I work with many men. I hear them talk about women and discuss whether they are attractive. I constantly think. If they don’t think she is all that attractive then they must think I am a hideous dog. I see these women I think they are definitely beautiful. Then these guys say “oh she is a 5” I can’t help but think, “if she is a five i must be a negative 8”. They are not talking about me at all but i feel like they are criticizing me. if we are discussing an issue and we disagree I automatically think they disagree because they think I am an ignorant woman. Its hard to live this way but it is a constant thought in my head. When i am driving somewhere new and get lost. I think and say i am the only idiot who cannot follow simple driving directions. I feel like God could never use me or love me at all. It seems like God created all things to his liking and as an afterthought he created women. You read or hear men talk about how they are better at this or that than women. I feel if God created me to not be as good as men at those things then i am useless to him and all others. it is never enough. I am never enough. I don’t matter to anyone. I cannot do anything. Why bother. I don’t even feel as if God wants to use me and he never answers my prayers or leads me to anything. i feel as if I am just drifting through life.

  235. Janet D. says:

    I have gotten so much from going through this study, especially using the FM thoughts to counter the AM thoughts.

  236. Julie James says:

    Wow. Today’s devotion really resonated with me. I hadn’t even considered how a single comment could bring down my whole week. Yet, when I look back at times that I’ve felt unneeded, not useful, or all around weary, it’s usually after a time of weakness or a single event of negativity. I’m excited to read this book.

  237. Diana Flores says:

    I thank you for sharing the message about doubting yourself and how so easily someone can forget about who Satan is and how he uses doubts, the one of his many tactics used to try to steal all the gifts and blessings we have in Christ. I am struggling so much with doubts about myself not only as a wife, mother, but even a person who is here on earth. I know that I am here to serve God and tell others about Christ be a living example of Christ inside of me and the testimony that my life has to share to others, but since I moved out of state to Az. I haven’t found a church I could call home nor have had any luck making friends. So I really want to thank God for allowing me to come across crosswalks website.

  238. Please pick me….this video really spoke to me…..we all need to lean in and believe He can clean out these oh so frequent negative thoughts and replace it with His Way. I am so glad I have found this website. I’d love the P31 magazine!

  239. Thank you so much for your encouraging words!! Satan has had me under attack with fear and doubt for the past week and I’ve been asking God to show me truth. Well like always he delivers! Only I can allow others to affect me but I must believe Gods truth for my life that he has set before me!! My past is no more and can have no strong hold on me unless I allow it!! Thank you for your wonderful ministry to others and obedience to God!!
    Katie

  240. I struggle with being happy with the way i look and how smart i am as a person. i know in my heart God made me i am beautiful and i am smart enough for what ever God has me here for. but where i came from most look down on others knowing the truth now to make their self feel better. but as a child those things stick. and then satin’s lies. it defiantly a battle!!! i enjoy your devotional and it encourages me deeply! Thank you very much!!

  241. Michelle S. says:

    Thank you Renee for the video message. I’m a little behind in the book right now, but the video spoke to me in that I too often listen to the AM thoughts when it comes to my happiness (I suffer from the “if only’s”) and when it comes to my self-resteem (I suffer from focusing on my clothing size and weight instead of who I am through Christ Jesus). The truth I learned is that I need to ensure that I’m focused and immersed in God’s word and let that truth fill my heart. Thank you for the triggers and God’s truths as well. Those are helpful.

  242. Carolyn Rogers says:

    Thank you, Renee, for a great devo on exactly what plagues me. Love how you are so relatable and provide us with the truth of God’s Word on how valuable and loved we are. I need a daily reminder.

  243. I have so many negative thoughts about myself. I feel discouraged and feel I am not competent to do what God has called me to do. I know that he is there with me (in my heart) but my mind makes me question. I am getting ready to start a new with my new precious kindergarteners and am fearful that I will allow myself to get caught up in the old AM thoughts comparing myself to others, doubting my capabilities to do a good job and show my new students love, compassion and the desire to learn. I love the idea of using FM thougths and having one ready when one of the old doubts reappear. Thanks for some good thoughts and ideas to get me back on track!

  244. Laurie Moudy says:

    I lead a group of ladies at my church through your book and we finished 3 weeks ago due to schedules. I enjoyed every single chapter and thought I was done learning from the book. But I still received emails and would take time to read them and today hit me like a ton of bricks. I have been struggling with not feeling equipped to do my job because in the worlds eyes (qualifications) I should not be a director of a preschool but I truly believe that the doors opened because of My God and not man. We began as a 5 day preschool in January and were trying to add a kindergarten this fall. We did not have the demand we thought we would and now can not offer it, the teacher is VERY angry right now because we can not pay her that salary but she still has a job, just not as the kindergarten teacher. She has made hurtful comments on fb and to her friends. I am struggling with what I am suppose to do because my twins were going to be in this class and now I have to send them to public school, which I did not want to do. In the meantime, our family finds out our renter in our home in tn is having to move out 5 months early due to his wife returning from deployment and cleaning out the bank accounts and leaving him. Both me and my husband work in ministry, which at times does not pay enough. This is a 1500 mortgage payment that we don’t have to pay right now. It is on the market and we are praying that God brings the right buyer. My wonderful husband points me back to Christ when I have days like this. He says what is the worst that can happen we lose that house and go into foreclosure. Our credit in this world is not what matters….it’s our love of Christ. I was also reminded by a dear friend that no weapon formed against us will prosper. I am fearfully and wonderfully made, i am not perfect and I will fail those around me. I pray that God continues to lead me and that I am obedient to follow.

  245. Doubt & insecurity enter in when I am discouraged, when I feel rejected, and when I let fear control me. Listening to the video message makes me realize there is truly a simple cure. Be alert– be prepared to replace our AM thoughts with FM thoughts. So simple, yet a struggle to do consistently.
    Maybe it comes down to a faith issue– do I truly believe in the FM thoughts. Dear Lord, help me in my unbelief.

  246. Susan G. says:

    Thank you Renee for sharing this great devotional. This is such a huge problem for women – doubt. I do believe we need to stop listening to the lies of the enemy of our soul and keep focused on God’s Word that tells us the Truth about ourselves. You used one of my favorite verses – “You are more than a conqueror”! It’s great to be a conqueror – but God tells us we are “more” than a conqueror! How great is that!
    Thanks always for your great words of encouragement!
    Susan G.

  247. Chrystal Wood says:

    I have always struggled with insecurity. As I am the “black sheep” in my family…..the only church goer, the one who has always battled weight and now and seriously struggling financially. My husband and I have two girls, 6 and 7, and as this has caused severe depression. And other serious issues in my life and Also consumes me daily I am terrified my own children are going to take on these feelings. I pray daily for God to change me but feel it’s just not working. I believe He can, and I’m sure it’s mostly me!!!!! I just don’t want my beautiful girls to suffer the way I have and I am clueless How to change. I pray for this chance or one day to be able to get this book. Thank you.

  248. Thank you for the words of encouragement ! I am learning to redirect my thoughts!

  249. I’m sitting at the table…coffee in hand , tears streaming down my cheeks bc I so needed this this morning! I don’t have to write a long comment… Bc God knows what I need at this VERY,MOMENT!! I would thoroughly enjoy this gift. But even if I don’t win, I am blessed by that video and so glad that I found u on FB!! THANK YOU RENEE!!! LOVE you!!!

  250. Scarlet says:

    Call it a so God moment….as i opened my devotion this morning and realized the topic….self doubt, insecurity, etc. I am a very bad place mentally. My faith is strong but the pain in my heart is unbearable at moments. I keep looking up and Satan keeps attacking, ….I am feeling less than adequate, rejected, alone….ironicas God does not feel like enough, and yet he is. Sometimes you just need another human being to talk to or share with- someone/something tangible. I am not certain how the drama crept in my life as i stay on guard continually–all I know is from work, to my children, to past experiences, to helping my community/military, a friend–something has gone wayward. I am doing all I can to be confident and trusting God–reading my Bible, praying–living in the moment trying to not think–but I can’t help wonder why God is allowing these things…and if it is that my faith is not enough, or am I just too blind to read the neon sign to guide me–I am afraid, doubtful, insecure, alone and unsure but I will continue to pray through it–be steadfast tho- I am not…maybe at the end of the day I will have a peace and understanding. Thank you for your devotional, I will buy the book today…meanwhile, pray these chains be broke from me–as well as for my dear friend who struggles daily with PTSD.

  251. I have struggled with inadequacy all of my life. This feeling of being inferior blossomed when a boy began to call me “Fatty” every day that I walked past his desk on the way to my locker. The pain clutched my heart like claws. I still feel this pain at times today. At age 11, I found my precious 20-year-old sister dead on my parents’ bed with a gun pointed at her head. I will never forget all of the blood I saw. I adored my sister and always wanted to be like her. I felt as a young child that I had failed her — perhaps I had not let her know how much I loved her enough or maybe I did not say the right thing the night before. This fed my feelings of inadequacy. Please pray for me as I still struggle with feelings of inadequacy with my children, grandchildren, and friends. I deal with fear of losing my closest relationships. Thanks for sharing your insight from God!

  252. I have struggled with insecurity my whole life. Help me.

  253. Jill Kuiper says:

    A great reminder that it doesn’t matter if we don’t measure up to others expectations or our own for that matter. So often I counted myself as others judged me. Not so now! I know I matter to the King and that is all that matters!

  254. Tiffany Welker says:

    My questions & doubts have to do with the relationship I don’t “feel” & haven’t “felt” for some time now. I always felt so close to God & so hungry for relationship with him & knowing him. Now it too often seems that it doesn’t really matter. And I KNOW that is wrong, but I’m stuck. I want so much to be disciplined and to spend time in study & prayer, but don’t find the energy, desire, or time. I KNOW its my fault, but I can’t seem to get over it. Anyway, that’s where I am.

  255. Sharon Suen says:

    I am often being told that “everyone is not like you.” Meaning that I am confident in my walk with Christ. I took the Doubt Index Analysis. I scored a 76. I am very interested in this book because I want to ensure myself that my boldness in Christ is not Boasting. I don’t Boast but I do let those around me know that this is God. I walk in His word and I love this life. I will be sharing this book with friends and family. We are starting a bible study among friends and I will be sharing this book with them. I have found that being in God’s word is what is keeping me walking in His word. Daily with the devotions and friends email I stay in His word. My goal is to be in His word before I get to work and not all while I’m at work. Keep me in your prayers. I’m still striving to be what He wants me to be.

  256. Ruth Gernhard says:

    Hello, God Bless us all !! I could”nt help but notice all the wonderful little quilt squares in the conner of each person’s reply and thought that is what God made. Through all of our experiences, each one different but the same we are all awesome and together we make a quilt that covers us gives us warmth, comfort and surrounds us with love. Making a quilt takes time and a lot of Love goes into making one, which is what God is doing with each one of us.Ican’t tell you how much your book hit home for me, and I look forward to learning more and being free of all the negitive clutter in my head!

  257. Sherry Hope says:

    I have struggled with fear of not being loved, failure, not belonging, I’m not good enough, I’m not capable enough…..the list goes on. Now that both of my parents are gone, I really feel like an orphan–I have three older, married brothers however they have their own lives with their wives, children and grandchildren. I do have a wonderful Godly husband and two awesome sons and one daughter-in-law. My relationship with my daughter-in-law is great however I have different expectations from the “mother-in-law/daughter-in-law” relationship than she does. I am leaning on God to give me the patience I need for this relationship to grow over the years. Sometimes I feel like I am on a roller-coaster, one day up, the next day down, and the cycle starts over again. I have friends that tell me I have an outgoing personality, I can talk to people very easily, I can make people feel comfortable but inside I feel that I don’t measure up. At the end of the work day, I go home and retreat the solitude of no people around except my husband.

  258. Thanks for the video. Being stressed and/or being extremely tired triggers my insecurity and lack of confidence. Although I was high school valedictorian and received many academic accolades/awards, I always had a guilt trip layed on me whenever I did not get an “A” in a class, even if it was not an academic class, i.e., it was an elective. It is difficult to be confident when you still are criticized when you are doing well. I need to actively fill my thought with godly thoughts and HIs truths — prepare ahead of time — so I can replace the AM thoughts with the FM thoughts.

  259. Marie Holliday says:

    Satan, the bully, accuser has been after me for the last year..last December at my 20 week ultrasound we discovered that our fourth child has a heart problem, each month we would go to the doctor for ultrasounds and follow-up appointments until his arrival in April. Before our son Hexakiah was born we were aware he had a congential heart defect, but a more serious condition a congential diaphramtic hernia, he had a very low rate of survival. The doctors could give no explination for his conditions, his DNA appeared to be normal and no other defects were present, so thats when Satan started in on me telling me its my fault, I am a failure as a mother..look what has happened to my baby.. when Hezakiah was born on Aprill 11th, 2012 I was thrilled to finally hold my precious 4lb 4oz baby..but it was so very bittersweet, he lived for 58 minutes and is now in heaven with his heavenly father.. this loss has been so difficult. I have 3 beautiful sons that I have to keep on for, and some days Satan just hold me down with doubt and fear and guilt… I am encouraged and reminded that God is in control, and although we still have no explination for my sons congenital defects God had a purpose and a plan for him Jer, 29:11.. as much as my heart hurts and longs to hold my baby I know he is in the best place possible and is with the one that created him in me.. and I have to remember each day that I am not to blame, that God is in control, and that I must trust him.. my son has brought my family closer together and closer to God and for those things I am forever greatful!!! Thank you Renee for your encouraging words and reminding me of God’s strength and power, for we do have victory over Satan when we put our trust in him!! Bless you!!

  260. Latrelle says:

    I see now that I HAVE to be INTENTIONAL to battle my thoughts with God’s promises—-cause those doubts & insecurities, fear, etc. slowly ease in unbidden. I’ll practice this new habit until it becomes automatic AND THEN….I’ll keep on practicing !!!!

  261. My doubts come from listening family members that let me know they don’t approve of the life decisions I have made. I am thankful for Christian radio too. I have my car on Air 1 radio and at work I play it on the radio in the office even though I am in and out. I will here part of a song and then sing it in my head until I step in again.
    “HE SAID” by Group 1 Crew is the one that I come back to often lately.
    “I won’t give you more
    More than you can take
    And I might let you bend
    But I won’t let you break
    And know, I’ll never, ever let you go”
    Don’t you forget what He said
    Don’t you forget what He said, He said

  262. I am interesting in feedback concerning how to overcome doubting one’s salvation, manifesting itself through a fear that one has not believed enough in that regard.

  263. Stephenie says:

    Your message confirmed what I need to do: be intentional about spending time with Jesus and getting into the Word. Thank you for sharing. It is so easy for me to get caught up in how I feel about a situation and lose track of what the truth is.

  264. As a mom of a teen & pre-teen I so desperately want to instill Godly confidence with humility in my children, but am overwhelmed about how to do this when I so often struggle with my own confidence & doubts. Thankful for the thoughts & encouragement you have for this prevalent problem of so many Christian women today. We need reminded and encouraged of who we are and what we have in Christ continuously.

  265. Tanya Hoskins says:

    I struggle with the same doubts most of those who posted do. I struggle with not feeling worthy of God’s love because of my sins. I often compare myself to others and base my worth on what other people think of me instead of what God thinks. I am working on it but I still struggle. I hold on to the scripture “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.” Without Him I can do nothing.

  266. Thanks for sharing your story. I have an awful time with discipling myself to study God’s word or to unclutter my life. Right now I’ve become a recluse after my two surgeries and just hate leaving my house. I used to belong to several civic active groups but the thought of leaving the house frightens me. If I do have to go anywhere like doctors I want to get back home as soon as possible. I just don’t know how to break this and get back to my oldself. Its become like an addiction. Can you help. It’s the hardest also to read a book. I can’t concentrate as I read and wind up reading the same thing over and over and then give up. It’s about like Post Partum Blues without the Post Partum. Thanks, Sharon

    • Laura M. says:

      Sharon,

      I am far from perfect and struggle with my own fears and insecurties. But, one thing that does help me is to remember Philippian 4:13- “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.” Recite that verse over and over as you leave your house and believe it in your heart. Maybe start with a small Bible study group to go to and work up from there to other activities as God would lead you. The more you stand on God’s word, the further satan will flee from you and you will become your old self again.

      Blessings to you!

      Laura

  267. Thank you Renee for the inspiring reading – its really a revelation for me. It just clearly sums up what I’m going through day in day out. Before I read this, I can’t even begin to explain my problem myself – but today’s reading just laid it all out clearly for me…thank God & thank you.

    I’ve even sort of developed coping mechanisms to it that it wasn’t until just recently then I realized I was putting limits around my ability as this fear/doubt/insecurity continues to control the way I deal with situations and people around me. I’m paralyzed with doubt, fear and insecurity eveyday it renders me inactive – I’m almost always passive and reactive & uhhhhhhhh I can’t t stop…part of me was starting to believe that I’m just wired this way (a cautious person, strategic thinker, have to be reassured before acting – thus not reckless) in fact I realize that the devil being the liar and deceiver he is is putting me under this bondage – I’m living in a great ball of fear that will never allow me to do anything beyond self assurance so as to protect myself from humliation/embarrasement etc…its crippling.

    I can’t honestly voice out my opinion, I can’t do what I think is the best way to do things…I can’t even think the way I normally think..its like my whole person is being altered. I think way too much about what other people will think…I just feel like a prisoner in my own thoughts. I’m having a normal conversation with someone & my mind is running 2, 3 steps ahead…& bam I can’t say anything – coz I’ve already analyzed the unfolding conversation & there’s no ideal thing to say that would fit perfectly in to the conversation without the other person shooting me down in any way (small or big)

    But thank God for His grace – I believe in my heart today is a new beginnning for me & through Him I will beat fear/doubt/insecurity & satan & reach beyond my abilities to God’s plan & promises of prosperity in my life….

  268. Thank you for your thoughts and new book. I need all these messages yesterday. Rading over these posts and prayer requests, make me feel not alone in my struggle with self doubt, insecuriey, aloneness, putting my esteem in a box and handing it to others to judge and then totally focusing on what they say even when I know it is not from God. I feel so trapped at time. My friend has told me numerous times to believe what God says is tru about me and not others. I can’t wait to readyour book Renee and gain the tools to know what God says about me is true. Thank you for your message and to all the women before, be still and we can start anew with God.

  269. Thank you for sharing…a wonderful devotion. God has been helping me gain confidence for some time now and I can see how He is continuing to do so. I realized that shy was just a fear I had as a younger person but now, thankfully, I am pretty outgoing. I am excited to watch what He continues to do. Keep up the good writing.

  270. i have a difficult time focusing on the positive-negative thoughts always seem to creep into my head and i can’t seem to shake them. This is especially difficult when it comes to my marriage. thanks for sharing what God has put on your heart.

  271. Laura M. says:

    I so appreciate everyone’s honesty on here. It really helps to know that I’m not the only one who struggles with insecurity. For me it feels like an eveyday battle (sometimes minute by minute). It doesn’t help that my husband isn’t walking with the Lord and can be very critical of me. I find myself often striving to be “good enough” for him (and of course failing because he is man and not God) and that really triggers my self-doubt. I need reminders like this post that I am good enough for Jesus and that is what is most important.

  272. In January I was fired from a position I had held for 3 years and in a field I had worked for over 15 years. After reading your P31 devotion, I starting thinking about why I have not put my full heart and energy into finding another job. That was the first and only time I had ever been fired from any job and it really filled me with self-doubt and questions as to if I should to return to that type of work. Since I don’t have many skills in anything else, I have avoided looking for work in a new field.
    I can see how Satan has done his work in me.
    Thanks for opening my eyes and heart.

  273. I’ve been noticing struggles of inadequacy lately. Thank you for your message and practical advice on the AM/FM application

  274. Kathryn L says:

    This site really hit the nail on the head for me. As I suffer from insecurity, inferiority, and lack of self confidence. It’s like as time goes on, it’s been just getting worse. .

  275. Heard a message on Z88.3 FM, about checking out an article called “my true identity” on Renee’s blog but I looked and couldn’t find it, can you pleas email it to me. Thanks..

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