There is No One Like You!

Do you remember being in middle school? Those were the awkward years. I remember not really liking who I was or how I looked. I have a feeling a lot of us didn’t like ourselves at that age, but we all desperately wanted others to like us, right?

At that point, I think a lot of us secretly compared ourselves to those around us, observed who was liked most, and tried to be like the popular people.

In my Proverbs 31 devotion, “Becoming the Real Me,” I talk about having that same unhealthy habit in my adult life, too. And I know I’m not alone. For many women, it wasn’t just a phase when we were teenagers; it’s still a struggle now. Sometimes it’s because we don’t have the confidence to find out who we really are. Many of us are just more comfortable buried in busyness and hiding behind our self-doubts.

Lots of times it’s because we’re believe we don’t have anything special to offer anyway, so we just keep being who others want, need or expect us to be.

Well my friend, it’s time to do something about it. How? First we have to stop comparing ourselves to other women. Why would we compare how we feel inadequate on the inside with how someone else looks like they had it all together on the outside? We’ll always end up feeling less than.

Not only is comparison toxic for us personally, it’s also destructive relationally. Comparison makes us measure our worth against other women, and we end up competing with each other.

But God created us to complete one another, not compete with each other.

In my book, A Confident Heart, I share how we can do that by encouraging each others’ strengths, overlooking each others’ weaknesses and celebrating each other’ uniqueness.

The truth is, life is hard and we need each other! “But now God has placed the parts, each one of them in the body just as He wanted. And if they were all the same part, where would the body be? Now there are many parts, yet one body.” 1 Corinthians 12:18-20

God gives all of us unique personalities, abilities, passions and experiences because we each play a leading role in the story He’s writing with our lives.

So, today when you are tempted to compare yourself to another woman and doubt starts whispering that you’re not as smart as she is, or gifted or pretty or godly…remember you are “God’s masterpiece…created anew in Christ so that [you] can do the good things He planned for [you] long ago.” Ephesians 2:10, (NLT)

In my upcoming book, A Confident Heart: How to Stop Doubting Yourself and Live in the Security of God’s Promises, I have a whole chapter on this topic and other self-doubts that keep us from becoming the women God created us to be!

I’m giving away three copies today, but first I’d love for you to watch this 2-minute introduction video.

I’m praying for each of you today as you begin to discover and embrace the woman God created you to be! Remember, there is no one like you…and the world is missing someone special until you become her!

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About Renee

Renee Swope is a Word-lover, story-teller, heart-encourager and grace-needer. She's also a wife, mom, friend, daughter and author of A Confident Heart, a Retailers Choice Award winning book that became a best-seller and has been published in six languages, with over 150,000 copies sold. Renee is speaks around the country at women's events and and serves on the writing team for DaySpring’s inCourage blog. For twenty years, Renee served in leadership at Proverbs 31 Ministries and as former co-host of the ministry's radio program, “Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee.

Comments

  1. What you said today really resonated with me — especially, your observation that the LORD made us to complete each other not to compete which each other. Bravo!

  2. I often forget in the heat of mistakes and wondering why I do the things I do that I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Thank you for reminding me.

  3. I ran across your blog after readin the P31 for today. As soon as I started reading, I immediately said to myself, "I hate when people ask those type of questions because I never have an answer."

    I'm a soon to be 25 year old tax consultant… I'm not sure what my true purpose is or what God's desire for my life is. As you stated, I too am a people pleaser and tend to be who people who need me to be. My prayer from now on will be for God to reveal who He wants me to be.

    I'm sure that as I reconnect with Him, He will reveal exactly what it is that will fulfill both His desires as well as mine. I hope that I can soon know the real me!

  4. Wow! I needed this today. At 37 I frequently am ashamed of the fact that I "don't know what I want to be when I grow up". This book is made for me!

  5. This really hit home with me. I have always done what was expected of me without a lot of thought of what I am good at or what I really want to do. You have encouraged me to seek God and discover His purpose/design for me. I look forward to reading your book.

  6. I think that as women we think we are to take care of everyone else and their needs. We lose ourselves in our family, friends and work. Then when someone does ask us "What do you want to do or be" we are lost.

    God did make us fearfully and wonderfully made…to do for His kingdom not for "our" kingdom. He gave each of us a specific trait of what His plan is for us.

    I agree "I don't know what I want to be when I grow up". And here I am 51! Time to let go and let God!

  7. Anonymous says:

    I'm now 56 years old and as the years fly by I wonder if I am who God planned for me to be or if I am who the world wanted me to be? My passions are creative communication, people and administration – I've learned this through 2 Spiritual Gifts inventories. I manage a 300 person group of volunteers at a local hospital – but I feel called, pushed, prodded, to do something else. Is it God? I think so but I'm not sure how to move on.

  8. Anonymous says:

    I am excited about the possibilities of this book! I think just about every woman I know has one confidence issue or another! I'm going to think about presenting this to my Bible study group! Thank you, Renee!
    Leslie Mears

  9. Thank you for sharing God's word with me today. It spoke directly to my heart

  10. I would love to know what my dreams are, but more I want to know what God has for me. I feel I just go from day to day, hoping I do something worthy.

  11. Your words made me stop and think today. I've been divorced almost a year and am struggling with finding myself. I didn't want the divorce but had to realize I couldn't change my husband. I've also come to realize that I don't really know who I am, what I enjoy doing. I think I became wrapped up in my ex-husband and enjoyed those things he did. As I began to look back over the years, I noticed I've always identified myself with a man, boyfriends and then my husband. I look forward to learning who God wants me to be and developing a closer relationship with Him as well.

  12. Outwardly, no one would ever look at me and think I doubt myself. But I am constantly wondering who I am in Christ and what His purpose for me is. I look forward to reading your book. Thank you for snippets of it already!!

  13. Anonymous says:

    Wow Renee, it was like I was reading about myself in what you wrote in Prov31 devotion today. Thank you for the hope and encouragement. I look forward to reading your book to learn more about having a Confident Heart. Blessings
    Cathy

  14. This morning when I got up I asked God to speak to me today on why I feel like I do. I am sitting here in tears after reading P31 today. I am 44 and all my life I have devoted all of me to what everyone else needs. When I step out to do something that I have an interest in I get no support or feel condemed for doing it. So here I am I don't know what I want to be when I grow up. Still wishing I knew who I was. Praying for God to reveal the real me He intended. Thank you for this ministry, you have blessed me.

  15. Anonymous says:

    Thank you. I thought I was the only one who didn't have a dream for who God made me to be. I've been trying very hard for the past year and a half to discover that, but it still seems to elude me. My prayers appear to be unanswered, but after reading your blog and realizing I've taken spiritual gifts inventories, personality inventories, etc. I have a new direction…I haven't put them all together and really looked at them with prayer! Again, thank you for the encouragement that I'm not alone.

    Kelly

  16. Right before I read today's Proverb 31 devotional, I prayed that I would go back to being the person I was when I first turned my life over to God. I was confident and trusting in God. My faith was so strong, and I started becoming the woman God made me to be. I was a foster mother to 9 beautiful children, and through that I adopted my precious son who is now almost 4 years old. Through the past 5 years, I have forgotten the woman I was then. I want to find her again, and be the woman God wants me to be; no matter what anyone says I can or can't do. I know that God has a purpose and a plan for me, and I ready to find out what that is! Thank you, Renee not only for this devotion, and the book you wrote, but for asking God what his dreams are for you and for listening! Through this you not only helped yourself, you are, also, helping hundreds of women across the globe!!!! I pray that God keeps using you and that you keep listening!!!

  17. Anonymous says:

    As you described the book it felt like you had written it specifically for me. I have had so many lows lately and I needed to read your devotion and blog today. God's timing is perfect.
    Diane

  18. My daughter is 20 and she is struggling with what to do with her life. So far she has not experienced God's peace and that troubles her. I empathize with her since I am 46 and I don't know what it is that I should be doing right now. In the past, I've been in the place I needed to be; but now I am sensing the need for a directional change and I have no idea how to go about it or what direction to go. We both need help!

  19. Anonymous says:

    Needed this reading today. Not only am I comparing myself to a strong woman at work, but also comparing myself to a strong man at work. It's an unhealthy combo. I look forward to reading your book and letting it soak in.

  20. Anonymous says:

    Renee,
    Thank you for your words of encouragement this morning. I have always put my families needs before my own and in the process I have lost who I am and what does God want for my life. Your book sounds like a good read for me. Have a Great day.
    Cindy H.

  21. My name is Angel. And I am excited about your book. I find me and my friends stuck in the very area of Doubt. We really desire to get out so we can reach the city we live in. So I pray that when reading your book we will be able to walk this out. (Great time to start a bookclub)~From worry to WORSHIP…Amen!

  22. Wow what a timely Word for me today. So many years of thinking I'd missed the boat on my life's purpose and direction.thank you for letting me know it's not too late

  23. Kristina says:

    Thank you Renae! This is exactly what I needed to hear this morning. I'm so thankful for His perfect timing! I can't wait for your book to be out! I really need to read it. I know that God doesn't make junk and I often disappoint others. Even more frequently I think I disappoint myself. I set such high expectations for myself and others. It's not good. Thank you for writing this book.

    Blessings,
    Kristina

  24. Thank you so much for both posts!!! As a mother of five young children, I don't take time to think about those things at all…I'm too busy doing whatever needs done for our family. I appreciate you bringing this important topic to me today. I will be praying about this!

  25. Faith E. says:

    Thank you! I really needed to hear that today.

  26. Anonymous says:

    I clicked on here after reading the P31 devotions this morning and feel like it could have been me in that meeting. I too haven't got an answer when people ask me my dreams for my life. I am over 50 years old with my first child getting married this summer and I have no idea what God wants me do with this life. After reading your devotions, I will start to pray for God to show me who He wants me to be … and not continue living as who others expect me to be. Thanks for your encouragement. I can't wait to read your book.

  27. Anonymous says:

    In the not-too-distant future, I will be an empty nester after spending the majority of my life as a stay-at-home/homeschooling mom. I often wonder what it is that God has for me when that day comes. I wonder, "What do I want to do when I grow up?" I also want to help my 3 daughters discover who it is that God has created them to be. Thank you for your insight.

  28. In the not-too-distant future, I will be an empty nester after spending the majority of my life as a stay-at-home/homeschooling mom. I often wonder what it is that God has for me when that day comes. I wonder, "What do I want to do when I grow up?" I also want to help my 3 daughters discover who it is that God has created them to be. Thank you for your insight.

  29. Anonymous says:

    Although I have been one of God's children since I was a little girl, I have spent my whole life being envious of other girl's and now women's looks, personality, and confidence, rather than being secure in who God made me to be. I am a domestic violence survivor and have struggled the past few years with feeling like a failure. I don't have any real passions and I long to discover God's plan for my life. I cannot wait to read your book! Thank you for writing about something many women need help with!
    Kim

  30. I too have struggled with paralyzing self-doubt since I was a teen. I didn't realize until the past few years how that takes its toll on every relationship and every aspect of your life. I have been on a journey to discover who I am as an individual-not wife, mother, daughter, friend, and am so excited to read your book to help me put everything together!

  31. Wow, as I read through the comments I'm amazed at how many women this subject resonates with, including myself. God has been speaking to me over the past several months about my insecurities and being who He has created me to be. Thanks for the reminder. You're a blessing and I know your book will be as well!

  32. I have always had confidence in myself but I found that the confidence I had was in how others saw me & not how I saw myself. I recently born again & am starting to understand how much I don't know. While I struggle in my quest to learn more & know more about God, your blog & others with Proverbs31 help me to find the answers I am seeking. Thank you.

  33. I actually saw myself in this message and it stirred my spirit. I never really felt complete in my life never knowing what god had for me and what my desires were.

  34. I just posted a comment & shared your page on facebook. Thank you for this outlet for women who want to be closer to God. You are a blessing.

  35. I actually saw myself in this message and it stirred my spirit. I never really felt complete in my life never knowing what god had for me and what my desires were.

  36. Anonymous says:

    I so look forward to the next step in discovering where, how and what God intends for me in my life. I have found much hope when realizing that there is no age that is right for my journey to find God and his plan in my life

  37. I was that woman, the one who didn't know what I wanted. I, too, want to be the woman God desires for me to be, but I often compare myself to others thinking each one of them "has it all together." Your book would help me truly find the woman God planned me to be. Thanks for using your gifts to help others.

  38. Anonymous says:

    Thank you for your devotion. I am a 44 year old woman who is constantly comparing myself and sadly my family to others. It is so destructive. I don't believe I have the gift of anything to offer another person. It leaves me in a funk many times. I look forward to reading your book.

    rwhite

  39. I was oh so confident of my "mission" as long as I was in my classroom and teaching my babies. It is now that I am retired that I am searching for what is next. I am CONFIDENT that there is a next and am asking God to lead me there. God Bless you and your ministry. Paula

  40. I needed to hear this as life seems to be changing. And now in a real place to see who I am. Not define by what I had to do. But don't think in the last 15 years really look to see who I was created to be.

  41. Renee. Today's words really hit me square in the gut. I am living the same exact experience. When someone asks me who I am or what I 'really' want I honestly do not have an answer. When people ask me what I like or what I dream about, I don't know. Oh sure I know things like enjoying fellowship with Christian ladies, bible study, reading, movies, music, the 'usual' but nothing deeply personal or intimate about me.

    I was abused in my childhood and learned to be a chameleon, to adjust to any circumstance, any situation, be whatever I needed to be to survive and that followed me all my life.

    Jesus has healed my wounds and given me a life of beauty for ashes I never could have imagined. I have a fantastic family – an amazing husband and two beautiful girls, and I know my calling is to be a Godly wife and mother, but yet, I still don't know deep down Who Am I? What are MY dreams? What does God have just for me?

    I don't know. I prayed that prayer in you wrote today. I desperately pray the Lord would show me who he created me to be, what – if finances were unlimited and failure was unlikely, what would be MY dream?

    I pray the Lord will answer that in my spirit and give me the courage to believe and pursue whatever he has for me.

  42. Anonymous says:

    Your comment in the devotional today about listening to others' dreams in order to have one of your own really struck home with me. I pick and choose the "good" parts of girl friends that I admire and try to mirror those qualities, but I find I often don't truly know who I am. I don't know that I ever have. I have a 2 year old little girl and I want to be able to raise her to be confident and proud of who she is and whose she is. How can I do that if I don't know myself?

  43. It is far too easy to fall into the trap of comparison, especially when you don't feel like you're fulfilling your life's calling. I love how you point out that we need to take the time for self-examination and that it is not selfish to do so. We're so busy wearing all of our hats as wives, mothers, employees, etc – that we forget about ourselves in the mix of life. That's exactly where I am, and I can't wait to read your book!
    🙂 Christine

  44. This topic could not have came at a better time for me. Your book and devotion must have been a answer to prayer.

    Thank you so much for Renee for your devotion and dedication to this book. Would love to win a copy, but if not, guess it will go on the wish list. 🙂

    Blessings to you.
    Cindy

  45. Renee, I really needed to hear this. I'm a 29 yr old and I am staying home with my 2 little kids. I'm constantly taking care of my little ones, my house, my sick cat, etc. And honestly I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up 🙂 I just recently started staying home with my kids, and it's quite an adjustment. I often compare myself with other Moms who look like they have figured this all out. I look forward to reading your book when it comes out!
    Thank you,
    Irina

  46. Anonymous says:

    Like so many others here, I relate to this. A lack of clarity I guess. At 39, my youngest child now 6, I have space and time to pursue something for myself…but I don't know how to do it or where to start. I have no real sense of who I am. Thanks for your timely reminder of God's perspective on me…I will ponder the verses in Psalms today. – Cathy

  47. I do not have an answer for the question you asked. I've started praying and thinking already! I have two wonderful little boys and a precious husband…they need me to be who God made me to be, not just busy going through life. I need to read the book. Can't wait!

  48. Your post today really made me think today. I am constantly questioning what my purpose or calling is. I feel like I try to do too much and end up not doing anything really well instead of focusing on one gift and running with it. I would love to win 3 copies of your book, I know just the friends I would study with!

  49. your post today and devotion brought tears to my eyes this morning. I had prayed somewhat desperately that God would show me His truth clearly this morning before work. I have been praying to find my purpose and just talked this past weekend with my husband about how I always feel like I am letting people down. My life feels blurred and jumbled between circumstances and calling… I don't have a clear sence of purpose and feel even less fulfilled in pleasing people and getting through the days. Your message is timely. I look forward to God's work on my heart as I soak in the message He has given you.

  50. Anonymous says:

    As soon as I read my devotional this morning and then read what your book was about it spoke to my heart. that is what i desire and long for is to be confident and secure in me and who I am so that I can be all that He created me to be. I am excited to read this and share with otheres.
    Laura Fisher

  51. I struggle with this, after being molested as a small child, almost kidnapped at 11, and date raped at 16, I didn't want to get to know the real me, I felt the real me made those things happen, so I became who I thought would avoid all the hurt. Now, I look back and realize that that decision to be somebody that nobody would hurt only hurt me as an adult. That was Satan's lie that I believed. I have been trying to figure out who I am and at 41 I still have no clue.

  52. Also linking to you FB site for another chance to win!!!

  53. Thank you Renee. I'm a military spouse and mom with 2 young children. I find myself getting "lost" on a daily basis anymore. I have noticed that not only does it hurt me, but my marriage and parenting as well. I've been struggling for balance through prayer and reflection. It helps, but I still wonder who I am sometimes. I've been blessed with multiple talents that I LOVE, but there is never time to work and develop them all.

    I know I have other friends who feel the same way.

    Blessings,
    Jennifer

  54. Anonymous says:

    I've had to answer questions about dreams before and I never knew what to say either. How do you have a grown up dream? After my divorce 3 years ago I realized I didn't know who I was? I'd always been something else to somebody else. I have been working on discovering my identity as a person and more importantly as a woman of God. His are the only expectations that I need to live up to. He loves me and created me to be the way I am. – Laura

  55. Anonymous says:

    It has been touching to see you and the other commentors laying bare this struggle. It sometimes feels like everyone else has it together but me, everyone else knows what they want except me. I've done the comparing thing for so long. I've recently quit a job that provided for me an identity or a feeling of importance. I am searching for what God wants for me. I want more than anything to be able to know but I do get impatient and struggle with going back to what is comfortable.
    Thank you for this devotion. Psalm 139 has been a recurring theme this week for me. Blessings! Julie

  56. Wow- your truth-filled words really cut straight to my heart and has set my mind turning this morning. Time to explore these thoughts with my Heavenly Father!

  57. Anonymous says:

    Dear Renee, Thank you for this devotion. I have struggled it seems all my life with finding my dream and comparing myself. I would love to win this book in hopes that I can move on and quit struggling. Thanks and God bless. Tammy

  58. Anonymous says:

    I just shook my head when I saw this today. God never fails to send something entirely relevant to my life or the life of someone I am walking beside just when I/we need it most. The video particularly resonated with a particular need right now. So many people are stuck in the person they've made themselves be and not the one they were created to be. Thanks for being God's messenger today.
    Debbie

  59. Anonymous says:

    Renee,
    This was exactly what I needed to hear (and read) today. My sisters and a group of women at church have just finished a Sunday school class and we're looking for another topic to study together. I think your book would be a perfect option to consider.

    ~ Mary M.

  60. Anonymous says:

    I am going to post this on FB. Tammy

  61. SherrySmith30 says:

    Your devotion and blog today touched my heart. I am constantly comparing myself to other women. I work in an environment that is filled with women so I am always comparing myself with how I am doing with how they are doing. I am comparing myself with how other women look. In all measures I come up short, in my eyes. How blessed you are to be challeneged in your 30s with the question that started you on your search for God's desire for your life. I am 57 and will start today. God bless you.

  62. This was a great devotional and a hard one to read, because as I read it, I knew that it was going to require some work on my part. And I'm too "busy" right now to focus on myself. Looking forward to your book;)

  63. Thank you for the encouragement to seek who God desires us to be. I'm looking forward to knowing what God wants me to be when I grow up.

  64. Anonymous says:

    I shared a link on Facebook encouraging my friends to check out your new book! I hope it gets them excited about the possibility of studying this topic together.

    ~ Mary M.

  65. Melanie says:

    I've tried to answer the who am I question several times. I have never really come up with an answer. I liked the comment you made about asking God what His dreams are for me. I've never done that.

  66. Thank you for this post. I identify with much that you wrote and would love to win your book in the hopes of taking 1 step closer toward being all that God fashioned me to be.

  67. I, too, find that I don't have an answer to the questions. God made me a "helper," and I enjoy helping others, but I don't know how to relax and enjoy time just being Barb. Can't wait to read the book!

  68. Anonymous says:

    Renee, I am going to post this link on Facebook (already sent a comment).
    Debbie

  69. I read your devotion today "Becoming the Real Me", and really feel that I am in the right place where God wants me. I teach a therapeutic yoga to breast cancer survivors. My heart is full of joy when working with these women. If you just allow God to lead and take control, the path will be an incrediable journey of joy and fruition!

  70. I saw your note in an email newsletter I received. I recently divorced after a bad 32 yr marriage where my whole focus was on HIM (while his was on HIM too, and other women), I used to say laughingly, my name is Coach XXX's wife. For so long I did not feel I HAD a name. I lost the real me. I did for him so much, and worked too so hard to make everything "okay" for our family I completely lost who "I" am. Your words sounded so much like me. My sister just said "that's you!" ha! So true (sadly). It's like you know me. Would LOVE to figure out how to find out who I am again. Lost that by the time I was 20 and am now 52. May God Bless you and all the women who are looking for "who they are" in their lives. I do hope your ministry will help YOUNGER women figure this out and not wait until they are in their 50's or disabled like me. But it's never too late to find out who I am and I know there can still be a "purpose" God has for my life. There's always time, even if it's only one day and I can help or save one person. God Bless. Linda

  71. Renee,

    Great video! After praying for you during the writing process I can't wait to read A Confident Heart. Just yesterday I was comparing myself to someone else thinking "I wish I could be a mom like that." I love knowing that God has a special plan for me but I do struggle with self doubt. I will also be linking this post on my facebook.

    Have a blessed day,
    Mary

  72. Wow! You really spoke to my heart today! This is exactly my struggle-figuring out who I am, and I am 47 years old! I guess its about time. I can't wait to read this book.

  73. Anonymous says:

    Awesome!! I can totally relate to this and am excited to read your book. Thank you! 🙂
    Caty

  74. Anonymous says:

    Wow! This devotion had to God inspired specifically for me! I am so thankful for the gift placed inside of you. He spoke through you this morning in His perfect timing.

    I am only 27 & I just had to have a total hysterectomy, while in Nursing school, trying to be a Godly mother to my 3 young beautiful children, also at the beginning of a painful divorce. A divorce from a man who cheated & emotionally abused me the entire duration of the 5 year marriage. So I have been lately asking God was this his plan for me. I just feel so lost, & asking "NOW WHAT"….

    Quoting Jeremiah 29:11 while waiting….

    Victoria L. Patrick

  75. Anonymous says:

    This devotion described me exactly. It has encouraged me to start seeking God's will for me.

    denise@lci-lineberger.com

  76. Brought up in a different culture, so education, career were important, so never got to find put my gifting, talents, have been asking God to show them, so that I can get into the destiny and purpose he has planned for me – Jerem, 29:11 has been God's reminder to me nearly every week in various ways

  77. confidence is a big thing many women lack. They always are comparing themselves to this person or that. Very important message thanks

    ABreading4fun [at] gmail [dot] com

  78. I too don't like the question because at 52, I still don't know. I have read a few books on the sunject but haven't come to a solid conclusion. I just do what's on my plate each day, occasionally doing something I enjoy.Have a blessed day!

  79. I just read the devotion for today,"Becoming the Real Me" I feel I am doing exactly what God has in his plans for me. I am reaching out to breast cancer survivors, by teaching the a healing/therapeutic yoga. My heart sings with joy when working with these women. When you allow God control, he will guide you in the direction of fruition and joy!

  80. Thank you for your post today! As you said in your devotion that at 32 years old you had no idea what you hopes and dreams were I couldn't help but see myself. I too struggle so much with "doing" to please others and wind up burned out, only to realize later that no one had the expectations on me to "do" all these things, but rather I placed the expectations on myself. Sometimes I do feel lost, wanting to do God's will but not necessarily knowing what that means for me right now or in the future.

  81. Thank you for today's devotion. It could definitely been me you were writing about! I am almost 70 yrs young and have NEVER had real dreams of what I want to do with my life! I've been searching for the last few years for something meaningful, have a couple of ideas, but didn't have the want to to go ahead. Thanks for the encouragement and with God's help, that dream will become His desire for my life!

  82. Wow! That hit me like a ton of bricks.. I do know Some of Gods plan for me but I have pushed it aside thinking I don't have the confidence or time. To think I am taking myself out of the will of God!.. wow! Thank you for sharing! Stella

  83. Thanks for sharing this today. For me it's easy to forget who I am as I take care of two babies and a husband.

  84. Anonymous says:

    I can see myself in alot of what you spoke about. I am definitely getting the book, and will share it with my daughters! I still don't know what I want to be "when I grow up!

    Dana

  85. Wow, I'm not sure why but you're introduction alone made me cry. This is an area that I struggle with very deeply. I think it starts when I was twelve and my dad tried to kill himself. I always wondered why he didn't want to live for me if not for anything else. This affects a lot of my relationships I have today where I push people away in fear of getting hurt when it's my own insecurity that is doing it. It really creates a vicious cycle for me where both people involved are just frustrated.
    I will be sharing this link on my facebook page because we can all use some confidence. Thank you Renee!

  86. I know who i watn to be, but have nto really prayed to God to become who he wants me to be. this spoke to me, I need to quit making my own path and listen for his guidance to walk his. Thank you.

  87. Anonymous says:

    Comparing ourselves with one another is one of our biggest temptations as women to see how we measure up.

    Erin Wyrick

  88. sharedon facebook. Thank you.

  89. Wow! I sure needed your P31 devotion today. I've been struggling with doubting myself and worth for 42 years. Thank you for breathing God's truth into my morning today!

  90. Confidence is a tricky topic. So many women need to hear what God thinks of them in order to give them confidence!

  91. Wow! Your blog hit me right at home. I am feeling everything you described… I can't wait to read your book! I wish I didn't have to wait until August…

  92. Glad to know I am not the only shell walking around this earth.

  93. Anonymous says:

    Amazing how these wonderful messages from Proverbs 31 always seem be just the thing I needed for the day. I had just been praying last night that God would show me who it is I am supposed to be because I am so lost to who I really am. Thank you for writing just what needed to hear today.
    ~Katie

  94. I am so encouraged by your post! Thank you! Just last night (as I was pondering what the Lord is asking of me during the season of my life) I ended up just in this same place. I struggle so much with my identity and the ability to not only rest in but celebrate the woman God made me to be. I so desire this confidence and now I am really looking forward to reading your book!

  95. I am in tears over this topic right now. I feel like I have failed my daughter who is so rebellious right now and I feel like if I was a better mom she would not be this way. I don't know why God gave me all of this to deal with and I spend all of my time taking care of others and not myself. I have no personal friends or real hobbies – all of my time is taken up with housework and my kids. Yet, I still struggle knowing God made me for more. I have abilities and I am a smart person. I know there is more – He created all of us to work for His kingdom and to bring glory to His name. I needed this devotional this morning – I am so thankful someone understands these feelings. Renee you are such an encouragement because sometimes I feel so alone in this. You remind me God is there.

  96. Corrie L. says:

    I do not so much compare myself to others, but I am a people pleaser. I to, at the age of 34, often wonder what I will do "when I grow up". I know what I should do and what would be best financially for my family, but is it my true calling. I hope this book will help me in recognizing my true potential and what I need/should be doing with my life. Thanks, Renee!

  97. Wow…I read your blog this morning…and your devotion on Proverbs 31. I have been wrestling with this very thing for a few years. I'm turning 40 in a few short months…and when I ask myself your question at the beginning of the blog…"If finances were unlimited and failure was unlikely, what would be your dream?"

    Its sad for me to say…but I STILL DON'T KNOW this answer. I SO want to be all God wants me to be…but somewhere in the middle of life and trying to "find myself" I have truly lost myself.

    I LOVE my life…and my family…but there is this nagging feeling that I'm missing something…that there is more. And I just don't know what that is. SIGH….I look forward to reading your book. It seems like something that would really speak to my heart. Thanks for sharing!
    Blessings,
    Buffi

  98. Anonymous says:

    Your words truly speak to my heart. I have struggled with feelings of inferiority for most of my life, comparing myself to the "image" projected by others. I now see the same pattern beginning in my daughters. I want them to accept themselves for who God created them to be, and find their purpose in life at an early age. Even at 39, I'm not sure that I know my purpose. I can't wait to read your book. I think God has led me to your blog today, and by faith I hope to discover who He has created me to be!
    Lori H.

  99. Jess M from Tx says:

    As moms and wives, I think we are in that constant battle of how to use our gifts we may have used pre-family as professionals and now as full time moms. Thank you for the thoughts today on using our gifts

  100. Just shared your post on Facebook! And included this quote which really touched my heart this morning: God gives all of us unique personalities, abilities, passions and experiences because we each play a leading role in the story He’s writing with our lives. Amen!

  101. Anonymous says:

    Thank You So Much for this Devotion and for the upcoming book. I can't wait to read it. I was just thinking this morning of how I didn't know where I fit in and what I should be doing when I was having my quiet time with God.Then I read your devotional and it was like God was speaking straight to my heart. I have Never figured out what it is God wanted me to do and have Always felt like a useless person.I know of several other women who could use this as well and will be recommending your book to them. PLEASE keep up the Great work you & Proverbs 31 Ministries are doing. What a Blessing y'all are.
    Anita Wittkopp

  102. Christina B says:

    This is exactly what I needed to read this morning along with your devo at Proverbs 31. I have been struggling with these very thoughts lately and feeling like I am the only one, because everyone else hides their emotion and I wear mine on my sleeves. I don't know who I am aside from a mom of three and each day is such a battle of my mind that i feel so all alone.

  103. wow…you are preachin' to the choir! I sooo relate to this topic, it is scary – and clearly there are many others as well. God is clearly leading me in this direction and I think it's about time I started walking down this path of discovery & healing.
    Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!

  104. Hannah Smith says:

    Wow Renee! Thanks so much do sharing hat I know is a God thing. I I've been WAY behind in my proceed 31 daily d's, but for some reason woke up early this morning and opened this one and read it. I am a college student searching for the major God intends for me to have,and have realized that all the majors j have tossed around have been to appease ither people. Such a slippery slope to slide down! This devo has found me in a silent house saying Lord use this insecure 19 year old to further your kingdom and to bring not myself, but you glory. Thanks so much! Can't wait to post on my facebook wall for other college questioners(:

  105. Even at 44, I often wonder about God's purpose for me. I love the Lord and want to live for Him, but I am so often beaten down by self-doubt. I can't wait to read your book!

  106. Anonymous says:

    Thanks,
    I needed that this morning. I think this book was written for me.
    Thanks,
    Kristy F.

  107. Anonymous says:

    I was just asking God about this very subject this morning. God is so good! He had this P31 devotional waiting for me…and apparently so many others. So thankful and so excited about your book!
    Tanya

  108. Sharon E says:

    What a blessing and encouragement to fill fear filled thinking with faith filled thinking and Trust in God. Breaking the chain in my upbringing and some of those around me.

  109. Thank you for your post and sharing God's word. I struggle with this every day…I really needed this today. Thank you!

  110. As I sat down to do my own personal devotions this morning the first thing I said was Lord I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing with my life. Please help me figure this out. Then later in the day I read your devotional. I had tears in my eyes as I identified with everything you shared. Here I am 47 years old and I don't know who I am or what God's purpose is for me. Yes, I know I am to continue being a good mom and wife, but I feel there is something more and I'm missing the boat. Thank you for the recommending readings and for sharing. It helps to know I'm not alone.

  111. Your post hit me right over the head. I am at a loss after parting ways with the family business after 15 years! Plus – it wasn't a good split… I am LOVING being a Mom & volunterring, but feel God's calling for so much more…if I could just figure it out! I would LOVE to have the book, plus looking for a new Bible study for women's group.

  112. Anonymous says:

    I hadn't thought of Ps 139:13 in the context of my dreams and being all I am. Thanks. Marcy Ganow

  113. Anonymous says:

    Wow! This is so me. I have been struggling for the past few months with total self doubt and the comparison game. I have been praying for God to show me the way! Reading your post was a great way to start my day!
    I can't wait for your book!

    Amy E.

  114. Rachael says:

    I wish I had known you were going to be writing about ms today.

    I'm 34, never had a real job, and my husband has just left me and our 2-year-old for another woman.

    If I don't find out God's purpose for me now, I never will.

    I just don't know how. I never have. I've done what I'm "supposed" to, but I don't know what's next.

    Maybe your book can help.

  115. Thank you for this post today; I am struggling with direction as my life circumstances have dramatically changed. I was just praying this morning for something to read that would help with my confidence of God's faithfulness–and this was my first email Prov 31 devotional. I think the answer was clear, so thank you.

  116. i dont know if ill win but i know this is for me. I constantly compare myself to others because i dont like who i am. Someone in my world was close to me was abusive and acted in a really evil way. and i thought if this person is so bad, i cannot possibly be any good. I wanted to be someone else, someone better. I know this goes aganist God, but I was desparately searching for the good when around me was all bad, abuse, domestic violence, anger racial hatred. It took a toll on my self esteem, thus i sought after ppl who did not value me, and what i had. What i had was a fad like being married to someone who looks a certain way may be popular. So guys would alway choose someone else, because those ppl 'were' in style' and i figured okay well what i got must not be very good since they leave to find somebody better. I valued ppl more than myself, because evrywhere i looked ppl told me what i had was bad or not good because of racism. How can this be when GOd said everything was GOOD. Even those ppl who you dont like. So self acceptance has been a real struggle for me, b/c those who were supposed to represent good in my growing up didn't so i thought that meant i wasnt either. I hope to come to accept how i've been created even if it isnt popular, or special or what is in popular demand. someone wants what i got even if its just God. I want to love who I am all of it and get over my hang-ups so i can do 'whatever it is i'm supposed to be doing.

  117. Anonymous says:

    Thank you, Renee. I needed to hear this. I am a people pleaser and I always seem to morph into whatever it is others need me to be. I sometimes lose myself. I really do want to be the woman God created ME to be. I'm looking forward to reading your book!

    Kristie M.

  118. I came to your site by the P31 devotions I receive each morning. This really hit home with me. I have continually felt embarrased and ashamed that at the age of 36 I still don't know who I am or what I truly want to do. I'm stuck in a profession that I'm not at all happy with but I have no idea of what I would rather do with my life. I look forward to reading your book and pray the Lord will enlighten me as to his plan.

  119. Thank you for this! I've been thinking a lot about "what I want to be when I grown up" lately. At 37, I thought I would know but I don't. After reading Proverbs 31 Ministries today, I realized that it's not what I want but what God wants me to be. This really spoke to my heart!

  120. Anonymous says:

    You spoke to my heart today…I can't wait to read your new book. I am 50 years old and have been asking myself those questions alot lately. I find myself excited about what God has in store for me. Thank you for putting into words what I've been feeling and pointing me in the right direction. – Pam

  121. so thought provoking….I never really stopped to examine my dreams or purpose. Thanks for sparking this thought…

  122. Wow!! You want to talk about hitting the nail on the head! I find myself constantly trying to be who other's want me to me and ignoring the inner voice that says I'm my own person. In fact, I don't even know who my own person is. I look forward to using your suggestions and listening to God instead of others to find me. Thank you so much. Can't wait for your book to come out.

  123. Still at age 53 I ask myself what do I want to be when I grow up. By the end of this year 3 of my 4 children will be married, it has been a great road. I homeschooled them all through high school graduation. Three have graduated college, 1 has his masters degree. More importantly they have a relationship with Christ! I could not be more proud and thankful for these wonderful people (my Children) and all that they have given to me. Now comes another time of my life. What DOES God want me to do? What does GOD want me to do? What does God want ME to do?

  124. Reading your devotion today really hit home with me. I am 47 years old and have never had a dream of my own. I have always been there to do for everyone else and make sure everyone else is happy and they have what they need. I will start praying to day that God will show me what His dreams are for me. I thought I was the only one who felt this way! Thank you for sharing this with me.

  125. I like this devotion today, it really makes you stop and think if you are doing God's will and what you as person desire in your heart. After all he gives you those desires!

  126. Thank you for your article. I do want to find out who God made me to be and I definitely need to take time to think about the dreams God has for me also.

  127. Anonymous says:

    This sounds like exactly what I need to hear! For too long, I have been hiding in my busyness of raising 4 children and doing all the things I thought I was supposed to be doing (i.e. homeschooling, being a "good" mom, etc.) but I am pretty miserable (trying to be who I think others want me to be or trying to please others more than God) and I don't really know who I am or what my God-given gifts are. I'd like to find out and enjoy the freedom of who God made me to be!

  128. I can totally identify with the feelings of fear and shame of not having an answer for those types of questions. Sometimes we get so caught up in life and with life that we forget that God created us "fearfully and wonderfully".

  129. I really related to your devotion today. I really have no idea who I am. Thank you for making me realize I need to find out.

  130. I am a very real person but over the years I have struggled with many problems. I have been meditating in the Lord for quite a few months now. I was save as a teenager with my twin sister and one of our friends at our lighted cross at night in the front of our church. The Lord told me to go there and pray and we 3 went. We prayed that GOD WOULD SAVE US AND HE DID IN A MIGHTY WAY. I STRAYED FROM THAT MANY TIMES SINCE THEN BUT THE Lord is my Rock now. I feel a calling to go into young menastry and woman prisions. I was abused badly before christmas 2010 by my husband. It was rape in the night and I don't recall any of it. I had to have a 3 hour surgery on my rt. Shoulder and bicept muscle and have been in thearpy every since. We seperated for a few months and I felt the Lord telling me our marriage was not over. Yet with his screaming at me over the phone, many times, I knew I couldn't handle it anymore. He came over one night and as humble as I could be I told him that I had nothing in me annymore.I had no clue what the Lord was about to do. He fell to his knees after a very prideful minute or more and cried like a baby. He was praying and crying to God. I was just ready for him to get over it at the time. He then went to the floor in a fetal position and continued. He ask me to put my hand on him and pray. I thought to myself ," it couldn't hurt". I did just that and prayed also that God show me what to do. I heard the Lord say Lgive him another chance and it felt as if my heart was filled with a gallon of warm water and my Love for hik returned. We had revival at our church during that time and it has turned our life around 180 o. We. Both feel a calling to move to the Mountians 5 hrs. Away but don't even have the funds topay our phone and lights that r due in just a couple of days. I want to finally do what God has plans for me in my life and it is now up to Him. For I am following his wishes and desires in my life. I would love a copy of your book for I feel it qill help me in my ministry. God bless you all.

  131. Thank you for your encouragement in this matter. I have often found myself not knowing what I was "meant" to do. I continually pray for God to make me the woman He created me to be. Today, however, I stopped and thought about what I love. You have inspired me to do just that. Thank you again. God Bless!

  132. As I read through this devotion it rang so true to me. I spend a lot of time being what others need me to be and changing my hats to fit that need. It was a wake up call to not just continue in the craziness of life but to reevaluate and make sure my focus is falling in step with my heavenly father. Much needed devotion, thank you.

  133. Anonymous says:

    Kathy

  134. God has been working with me on this very topic over the past week. This devotional is confirmation for me that I am on the right track! I have just finished 20 years in the military, and I am wondering who/what am I supposed be now? I have been what everyone else has wanted or needed me to be and now I have no idea of who I really am. God is opening doors and leading me through some fantastic teaching this past week! I will definately read this book!
    thank you!
    Chris

  135. Wow! I read today's devotion and then followed your blog. Talk about stepping on toes. I needed that though. I am 37 and find myself wondering who i really am. I, too, always seem to do as other's want me to do and be. I look forward to trying your suggestions and actually listening for God's answer of who he wants me to be. Thank you so much. Can't wait to read your book.

  136. Anonymous says:

    I would love your book!
    Sarah

  137. This is so me! are you a fly on my heart wall, Renee? Thanks for the encouragement and the reminder of who I truly am! Cynthia

  138. Anonymous says:

    This devotional spoke to me as a woman trying to help her husband find his dream. He loves God with all of his heart but has never found the freedom of satisfaction that you are following your dreams that God put in your heart. I am going to encourage him to continue searching and listen to God to find that dream.

  139. Anonymous says:

    I really needed to hear this today!I just had a conversation with my hubby last night about everything I am doing and nobody seems happy. That's the problem though right, I'm not supposed to be trying to make everyone happy am I. I'm 41 and have stayed at home with my children since birth. My oldest is graduating this year and trying to figure out what I'm supposed to be about is screaming at me…….Brenda

  140. Anonymous says:

    I forgot to leave my name. I was "anonymous" at 8:50 AM.
    Thanks, Becci

  141. This was very good for me to read. I have been trying to be someone else my whole life and now i am 25 yrs. old.The hardest part is i compare myself with my best friend all the time. I am going to being praying for what Gods dreams and goals are for me becuase right now i am in a place where I am stuck in life and not moving foward

  142. It was a relief to know that I am not the only thirty-something woman who has no idea what she's good at or what she's passionate about. I never thought of asking God what His dreams are for me; I didn't even know that He had dreams. It's so uplifting to know that it's never too late to figure out who I am.

  143. Simply amazing how connected we all are. Can't wait to read your book!

  144. Anonymous says:

    I would love to read your new book. I think all women struggle with this issue.

    Thanks,
    K

  145. Anonymous says:

    A much needed devotional for me today as I am struggling with several issues going on in my life. I am 51 and have struggled with worry and doubt for most of my life.

    When you are in the storms of life, you really doubt your self worth and why God has you where you are.

    A wonderful devotion and prayer as I never thought of asking God to reveal my dream HE has for me. Thank for you all your encouragement and sharing what God has done and is doing through you.

    Dierdre

  146. I am in a place in my life where I desire a higher, inner righteousness not based on outward experience. I want to follow hard after the Lord. I have not always been grateful over the person God made me but I am learning to be confident in who He made me and who He made me for, Himself.

  147. Anonymous says:

    Wow, your P31 devo today is right in line with what I've beeen thinking and praying lately! I have some dreams and ideas, but I have fear and lack confidence too. What I've been praying about though, is that God would lead and direct and show me the plans He has for me; where is it He wants me and what is it He wants me doing with the gifts He's given me and the unique way He's made me.
    Thanks for the affirmation!

  148. I am learning to be grateful and confident in who God has made me. I am dealing with anger against others and self for changing myself to please others or fit in. I somehow forgot who God told me I was and who I was made for, Himself but I am asking God to give me ears to hear again.

  149. Please enter me in the drawing Renee. I feel like God is speaking to me through your devotion today and want to hear more!

    God bless you!
    Heather

  150. I can't wait to read both of your books. I struggle with who I am and should be in Gods eyes.

  151. Anonymous says:

    Your message spoke to the deepest places in my spirit. I have spent my entire life trying to be who everyone else needed me to be and have only just realized that I have not honored God's plan for my life. It is with a renewed sense of excitement in His word that I am embarking on a journey to know myself and to believe that I am not being selfish by doing so. Seeking His plan for me is indeed a form of worship and praise. Please pray for my journey. He made me and I am indeed wonderful! Halleluiah!!! Paige

  152. Anonymous says:

    You give me a lot to think about. I think I have been one of those that tries to be what everyone else wants me to be. If only I had the resources to do what I would like. I allow the busyness of every day rob me of what I wnat to do but I have to support my family. time to read your book and do some real soul searching.

  153. Anonymous says:

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts about finding the
    "Real You". You blessed me!
    From Susan

  154. what an incredible and much needed topic in th elives of every woman! I would love to read this book, renee and share it with other woman who struggle to know the love God has for them and how powerfully He can use them!

  155. Anonymous says:

    My daughter and I have fought alot lately. I told her this morning that today I would try to understand her more and that she do the same with me. Our problem – my expectations. I wanted all As in school and even though she is a JR in high school I still email all teachers and make frequent appearances at school.

    I need to LET GO & LET GOD help her decide what her purpose is….not mine.

  156. Anonymous says:

    Reading your devotional really hit home! I do think it is a struggle to do what you (think) you need to do and be for others, while at the same time recognizing our own true self and needs.
    Anna

  157. Anonymous says:

    Yes I am definitely sharing your devotion on Facebook!

    God bless,
    Heather

  158. Thank you for your devotion today, you have been hitting the nail on the head for me lately! I've really been bothered by how I compare myself to co-workers and friends. I have begun to see the damage it is doing to me and some relationships. The prayer at the end of your devotion is great and helpful for me to begin praying specifically about this issue. And, I always love reading Ps 139:13, it puts this kind of thing into perspective for me. Thx, Jacquie (jlafay10@gmail.com)

  159. I am sharing this on my FB page for others to be blessed 🙂

  160. When i get lost in caretaking, i live life just doing the next thing. I again realized that "without vision the people perish". i have never dreamed of what could be…."with God all things are possible". Thanks for a new courage to ask…

  161. Anonymous says:

    Hallelujah, Renee, looks like you have hit a quick in all of us that is important to God! I am recently divorced from my 40 year old marriage and at 62 am seeking how God will complete His years in me. Having lived in Him and Him in me since I was 27 years old, He has grown me up through many hardships and happy-ships, so I know He has something special for the rest of my life. Thank you for pointing us…Onward Christian Sisters!

  162. When i get lost in caretaking, i live life just doing the next thing. I again realized that "without vision the people perish". i have never dreamed of what could be…."with God all things are possible". Thanks for a new courage to ask…

  163. Anonymous says:

    What u said hit home. I too have found that I am so busy that I miss the fact that we are all different and created that way for a reason. When living with a family of seven that is a good thing to remember. Thanks-Olivia

  164. Anonymous says:

    Renee, The devotional on the Proverbs 31 email that was taken from your book could have been written by me. In fact, I am starting today to ask God what His dreams are for my life. This may seem strange to some as I am almost 63 years old, but I know that it is never too late with God. Thank you for sharing. Susan

  165. I love it when I read a devotion so close to my life. I am at a point in my life where learning who I am is the forefront of my daily life. My husband of almost 20 years died two years ago, I was 18 when we meet, and our daughter has recently turned 18 and is in some ways anxious to leave the nest. I now have the time to sit back and take a true look at who I am and how I can use that to make a differnce.

  166. Here I am…Doubting Donna…and I will be 60 yrs old this year and I am still lack confidence and struggle daily on who I am and where & what & how God wants me. After reading your post at my daily devo on Proverbs 31, I followed on to your link as you hit the nail on the head and described me and my emotions. I do so much want to seek the woman God wants me to be!

  167. Thank-you. The question you shared about what would you do if finances & failure were not a problem, really turned a light on for me. I too have no answer. I have neglected myself to meet the needs of others- thinking that was the godly thing to do. Thank-you for opening my eyes to the fact that I need to be who God created and wants me to be, and I'm doing a disservice to mysel and others by ignoring that.

  168. Anonymous says:

    Today's devotion truly spoke to my heart. The more I read, the more emotional I became. I am clueless in regards to the "real me." I have always, always been a people pleaser. What saddens my heart the most is my daughter is following in my footsteps. It's time for me to discover my identity in Christ and who He created me to be. Thank you for sharing a piece of your story. I look forward to reading the book.
    Sincerely,
    Shannon

  169. Anonymous says:

    This book sounds like something I need to read!
    Kelly

  170. Anonymous says:

    I have been praying for this information.

  171. Your devotion really struck home with me…especially as I had just gotten off the scale and was a bit frustrated!! I have this conversation with my husband frequently…what is the thing that God has gifted me with…and how do I figure that out! As a 32 year old stay at home/homeschooling mommy of 2 children, it is so hard to stop in the midst of all that and figure out what I am really gifted in. I get caught up in the game of comparison with other women who I feel are smarter, prettier, more talented, and just end up feeling like I am not good at anything. Thank you for reminding me that God made me in HIS image and made me unique…exactly the way He wanted. Looking forward to reading your book!

  172. Anonymous says:

    Thank you for your entry in Proverbs 31 – was meant to read it today as I haven't thought about what God's plans for me are besides being a wife and mother and other relationships.
    Christin

  173. Melanie Mckinley says:

    Ever feel as if you are in a desert? Bland, blah, nothingness? thats where I am. I am 44 and feel as if I have wasted my life away taking care of other people, pleasing, doing the "right" thing, keeping the peace. I keep thinking there is more….something just for me. Most of the time I feel as if I don't fit anywhere. I've had this longing…restlessness in my heart for some time now for something different. Thank you for the devotion. I look forward to reading the book. Melanie McKinley mamckinley3@yahoo.com

  174. It is so sad that we are raised in the world to believe we all need to fit a perfect mold, ie Barbie, and when we do not fit that mold we are crushed and we shove away who we are and what we desire to become for that Barbie desire. I do not know why the world has created this strong desire for commoness and putting down uniqueness, but as women we need to embrace that uniqueness and run with the dream that God put in our heart as you said. That is so encouraging to know that there is a very special dream inside of me that God put there and desires that I live out. That means I am special and so is everyone else in their own way. I pray that we change the worldly view around us and show other women that each are made perfectly unique by GOD and to embrace that.

  175. Anonymous says:

    Renee I am so excited about your new book! I just happened to click on this e-mail this morning and it was just what I needed to hear. There are days when I think I know who I am and where I am headed but then many days I think, "am I really who I am supposed to be? Am I doing what God wants me to do?" I think this book will really help me have more confidence about this issue. I would love to share it with the ladies at my church. Thanks for your encouraging words this morning!

  176. Anonymous says:

    Every devotion I read from you speaks directly to my heart, but this one was like an arrow to my soul! I find myself saying "get up, shake yourself off, and start again!", words that I have never embraced because of paralyzing fear of the unknown, and fear of failure. Thanks for the encouragement to seek God's will, and for the "push" I need to get going! I can't wait to read your book! – Melinda

  177. I seem to endlessly search for who I am. Sometimes I sense the answer; often times not. I would love to read your book. Thank you for today's post. It really spoke to me.

  178. Anonymous says:

    Todays devotional bought tears to my eyes as I prayed the prayer. I am 54 years old and have been seeking God about His purpose for my life. I am nearing retirement completing 37 years of work and I still don't know what my passion is. I have spent my life taking care of children and grandchildren and never discovered who I am or what I enjoy in life. Idella

  179. Thanks so much for this post, Renee. I've felt from a young age that God has called me to be a performer. It took me many, many years to have the confidence to follow that dream but I finally am. I believe I'm not just called to be an actress but to be a light in a very dark industry. It's very challenging at times. Thanks for this reminder that what I'm called to do isn't just some selfish pursuit but a desire that God placed in me from the time he knit me.

  180. Here I am…Doubting Donna….I will be 60 yrs old this year and still lack confidence and struggle with who I am..I so much want to be the woman God wants me to be. After reading your post on my daily P31 devo, I followed your link as you hit the nail on the head and described me and my emotions exactly. I truly am seeking God's way in me:)

  181. Anonymous says:

    I thought I was the only 47 year old who did not know what she wanted to be when she grew up.

    Angie

  182. Anonymous says:

    wow! i used to have confidence in what i was to be doing for God; something got lost along the way! thank you for this post and p31's message. i may be able to put my finger on why i've felt so "undecided" about things for so long! praise God 🙂 i would love to have your book and pass along a couple to friends i believe are struggling along with me! thank you! Angela B.

  183. Anonymous says:

    Thank you for sharing today. As a wife and mother, I am often left with the feeling of "is this all". I love my husband and children but I feel I have so much more to offer others also. Fear often stands in the way. I pray that God will reveal to me "what else" he has called me to do and that He will give me the confidence to step out in faith to do it.

  184. Renee,

    I am 49 and keep waiting for that time in my life when I'm comfortable with me. It's not happening. I think its because I don't know me. I, too, am a people pleaser who does what I'm expected to do. I find myself more worried, not less, about what other people think or say. I would love to read your book and maybe try to find myself.

  185. Anonymous says:

    I'm in my 40's and still don't know what I want to be or do with my life. I belong to Christ, but am lost to myself! Would love to read your book.

  186. Anonymous says:

    Thank you for your devotional today. For the past few weeks, it has hit me that I don't have a dream. I think for years, I have been afraid to dream, to want something, thinking it was wrong. Now, at 45, I am praying for God to show me his dream and plan for my life! I am trying to overcome my fear and doubt about myself and know that God is in control! I am looking forward to your book. Thanks again, Amy

  187. Anonymous says:

    What do others want/expect of me – is a question that follows me. I continue to struggle with "what's God's desire/dream/purpose for me". What are my gifts and what do I really like/want to do. I feel like I just keep muddling through life.
    Ann

  188. I am 29 years old. Single. Overweight and I feel invisible. I know God has a plan but I just cant see what it is. I've always had to be the strong one in my family and that has taken its toll to where if there isnt a crisis going on then I dont know what to do. I like my job but I dont love it and I really have no clue what I want with the rest of my life. But I do know this… I want to find out what my purpose is. Since your book doesnt come out in July and if you feel someone needs the copy more than I, can you suggest some other reading until then? Cause I feel like I need something now. Thanks, Melissa

  189. I am the same way. I feel that I never really thought about what I want to do. My worldly desires I had before I came to the Lord have melted away and now I have no idea!!

  190. I have always heard that God places you where you need to be when you need to be there. Your blog was on my email and ready for me to open just at the RIGHT time. I have been struggling for years with "who I am" and "where do I fit in as a Christian woman". I've had many, many ups and downs the past few years that I thought I had it all figured out and then…"boom"…it comes crashing down and I'm back where I started, asking God, "ok, where do we go from here?"
    I am anxious and ready to read your book and finally realize that I am a Christian woman who lives for our loving God first and foremost and He will lead me to where I need to be if I just listen for His direction.
    Thank you!

  191. I will post this on my facebook page!!! Yay for sharing!!

  192. Anonymous says:

    Um missed my name for "belong to Christ, but am lost to myself"
    ~Shera VanGoor

  193. I was abused as a child then married an abuser. For a long time I thought I was useless,ugly and had no reason for living. Then in 2003 a samll voice came to me and said " I didn't pur u hear on earth to be treated like this". That is when I started reading who God says I am and since then believing who God says I am. I am now happly married with 3 beautiful children and with God first in my families life and us beleiveing. That we are His children.heir to His throne. We can be anything we want . We r his children and he only wants the best for his children.

  194. I would love to win a copy of your book! Been on this quest for purpose for as long as I can remember.

  195. Anonymous says:

    As I read this devotional today, I felt like God was talking directly to me. For years I have struggled with who I am and what my passion in life is. I've been living my life trying to be what others want me to be. I can't wait for God to reveal His true plan for my life.
    Kacy

  196. I can so relate to your post today. I wonder if I'll ever be who I'm suppose to be. Right now I feel like I'm in the firey furnace and not sure how much more I can take. I know God is working on me I just wish he would hurry up.

  197. Thank you for reminding me that I am special to the Lord. I have always had issues with who I am, and who people expect me to be.
    I grew up as a PK and now I am a pastor's wife. I have put pressure on myself trying to live up to people's expectations. I try so hard not to let this change who I am and how I live my life. You have encouraged me to please God and fullfill His purpose in my life. Looking forward to reading the book!!

  198. Anonymous says:

    After reading the P31 for the day, it made me think about what I would do to, its one of those loaded questions, but I know doing things you love will make you happy! Melissa

  199. Anonymous says:

    Unlike some of the others, I needed this years ago. I am the usual 39 at 64. In the later years all I've been able to say about myself is that God has shown me how to LOVE. I do that very deeply and to almost all I meet. I am so disappointed when I cannot ALWAYS come up with a devotional that really flows. I admire all of you speakers and writers. Believing God!

  200. Anonymous says:

    I thought I knew my purpose my entire life ? I was a confident outspoken sometimes to a fault women.I was living the dream or so I thought? Then 2 years ago everything came screeching to a halt. I've been trying to recover ever since….The one gift that I thought was my God given gift that I've based my entire being on I am now being told i'm not good enough at any longer? Was I confused or misled I thought I had that Talent everone said I did & now I'm being told I don't have it ? I try to not compare myself to others but what is they have that I no longer pocess that they get to do the very thing that my heart aches to do? I pray & ask God to help me to find rest just in being His beloved child & it works for a while, but only a while & I get smacked in the face again with Those words your not good enough they just keep echoing in my mind.Why do I give other peoples words more Power over me than God's Words? I guess to be honest I'm scared to dream again because I couldn't bare to have the rug swept out from me again. And what my heart aches to do I;m being told I can't do.And now writing this I feel so self serving so pety I'm in constant limbo trying to give up my will for God's will and feel left in limbo and as confused as ever.

    Afraid to dream

  201. I'm really excited about your new book coming out, because this is something I have really been struggling with. I know that God has a plan for me and I want to know the woman he intended me to be.

  202. Anonymous says:

    Wow! This topic really speaks to many women! Look at all the comments, this alone is a comfort for me. So many women I know are so driven. Knowing what they want to do and what their dreams are. I was struggling with this not having a dream but also not having the time to figure out what my dream should be. 5 kids and husband keeping me more than busy. Life is just too busy. The quote from Yogi Berra keeps coming to mind: If you don't know where you are going, you might wind up someplace else. Ultimately I do know where I am going: home with Savior. Maybe I was created to be a good mom and wife both of which seem in question after husband had affair and daughter had baby in her teens. So I just keep going with the only purpose being to live this day to my best ability and to honor my lord and savior. I would like a dream but maybe that would just be more disappointment when you know it can't be full filled. Melody

  203. Anonymous says:

    Renee, I shared your post on my fb page.
    Thanks,
    Susan

  204. Anonymous says:

    Thank you so much for this post! It is so comforting to know that I'm not the only person who has self doubt and struggles with not knowing who I am. But it is even more comforting to know it doesn't have to be this way. I don't have to live in it. I'm really looking forward to this book!
    ~Carmen

  205. I was so touched by what you said today. I have said so many times that I don't know myself and I could not answer the question, "what are your hopes and dreams?" I long to find out about myself and what God made me to do. It helped me a lot to know I am not the only one who stuggles with these issues. Thank you for being so honest and open!!!

  206. I am 44 and have no clue what I want to be. Would love to read this book so that I can figure out what I want to be.

  207. Just started reading P31 this week. It has been so encouraging and now this today — so good and timely. Psalm 139:13 has a whole new meaning and it gives me hope. I feel like I live my husband's life and so desire to be who I was created to be. It is hard as my confidence gets shot down alot. Maybe your book would be good.

  208. I've always known what I enjoyed doing , and accidentally stumbled on what direction God wanted me to take. But my real concern is for my better half. I pray God guides him to his purpose soon.

    I will be posting this to my fb account

  209. Ha ha – I am at the grand old age of 51 and still am not sure of what God wants me to be when I grow up! I have felt without a "passion" for far too long. I wish I could sit on my Father's lap and for him just to tell me what He has made me to be. In the meantime I will just pray!

  210. This was so timely for me. I have been feeling lately like I don't measure up as a Pastor's wife. As I have questioned why God called me to this, your devotion reminded me that He called me because I am His, and He has work for me to do, the way He created ME. Thank you for your encouraging words.

    Jennifer

  211. Anonymous says:

    I am 59 years old and I am still searching for the woman that God created me to be. Unfortunately I am seeing the same traits in my 25 year old daughter. Looking forward to your book. Thank you for sharing your struggle.

  212. I shared your devotion on facebook. Thanks

    Jennifer

  213. I am 47 years old and still struggle every day with who God wants me to be. What was I meant to do? What situations am I meant to affect. How can I stay in the Word every day so that God can lead me to the place I am meant to be? How can I make my light go from dim to BRIGHT?! All of this self-doubt is just exhausting. I am looking so forward to reading A Confident Heart. I hope it speaks to me and so many other women still struggling with finding direction.

  214. Thank you Renee for addressing this issue. I am a 43-year-old woman who has recently described myself as a "chameleon" – one who changes to blend into each background. I recently have been looking into this realization, that I 'change' myself according to who I am with, what their likes and dislikes are, etc. I too, like you mentioned in your devotional, would not be able to answer that question about myself. I don't know that I have a passion for anything. I very much look forward to reading your Confidence book. Thank you, again.
    ~Kelly

  215. Anonymous says:

    Thank you so much for allowing God to use you to be an encouragement to others. Today's devotion "Becoming the Real Me" was used by God to answer prayer for something special just for me from HIS word. Your willingness to share your heart is a blessing.
    Carmelita

  216. We sometimes forget that we have been created by God for a special purpose which He had ordained for us before time began. For those of us who are/have been in ministry, we can also be shoved into areas that we are not created to be in. We must learn who we are in Christ and know who we are in the ministry of the Kingdom so that we can complete the Body as the Part that God created us to be. How stressful it is trying to be the 'leg' when God has created us to be an 'arm.' After reading P31 for today I realized that I need to revisit who I am in the Body in order to be the most effective for the Body of Christ.

  217. Anonymous says:

    Your description of that meeting made me start to sweat – I HATE those kinds of questions, but I never knew why – until now. I would consume this book and savor every word; then pass it on to all of the women in my homeschool group.

    Marybeth

  218. Renee,
    Thank you so much for your devotional today. I was just asking God to help with to stop comparing myself with one of my close friends who seems to have everything together, her family, her finances, her home etc…My comparing us is hurting me and our relationship. I do not want that in my life. I want to be all that God created me to be and be completely satisfied with that and not ever compare myself with others. I do not want to be insecure in myself anymore but be secure in who God created me to be.
    Thank you so much for ministering to me today…

  219. Anonymous says:

    As a women's ministry leader I battle with low confidence alot but through your words and others praying for me I have seen God building that confidence up in me.
    I know he loves me and has made me the way I am just for this purpose.
    Thank you!
    Sharon

  220. Jeanette says:

    I am soon to be 60, and believe I have had a good, fulfilling life. Yet your thoughts today have penetrated my heart and made me stop to ask God, "Am I being who You made me to be?" I think so often I focus on 'what I am doing' and not on 'who I am being'. Thanks for making me think….and pray!

  221. Anonymous says:

    At 40, I feel overwhelmed with discovering my purpose – a task I should have accomplished many, many years ago! Looking forward to your book!
    -Nina

  222. I have never had the words for the way I have felt all of these years, but I sit here with tears inmy eyes because I realize that you have given me those words. Thank you! This has encouraged me to begin seeking and stop comparing.

  223. Anonymous says:

    I felt like you were talking about me when I read your post!! I am 27 and just now trying to figure out my "purpose." I have never felt like I am good enough or good at anything along with CONSTANTLY comparing myself to every woman that crosses my path. But what you have said opened my eyes and made me realize that I am a Masterpiece. Thank you.

  224. I am at this place in my life now at 51 years old! I am excited to continue on this journey of learning who I am as God's girl!
    Many Thanks & Blessings,
    Peggy

  225. Anonymous says:

    "I felt like you were talking about me when I read your post!! I am 27 and just now trying to figure out my "purpose." I have never felt like I am good enough or good at anything along with CONSTANTLY comparing myself to every woman that crosses my path. But what you have said opened my eyes and made me realize that I am a Masterpiece. Thank you."
    (Sorry, forgot to include my name, Jessica T.)

  226. Just Lost says:

    This devotion really hit home with me. my "real" mother wants nothing to do with me; from the age of birth I was sexual, mentally and emotionally abused. Then I got married; everyone said I was a blessing but he decided to divorce me in 2010. i have a boyfriend and i did work at their family business & the same things were said u r a blessing to this family but as of yesterday I have no job; no vehicle..woke up not feeling like a blessing to anyone. I'm lost & I don't know what to do….

  227. Anonymous says:

    Your book sounds like just what I need to help me "move on" in my life. I have always struggled with poor self image and self doubt. I was married to a man (a pastor!) that encouraged that self doubt by telling me that I was really not adequate in most areas. He chose to divorce me about 7 years ago. Since then I helped and arranged for help for my aging Mother who went home to be with the Lord about a year ago. I just feel really lost at this time. No home church (divorced former pastor's wives aren't often welcomed with open arms!)and just trying to figure out what purpose God has for me. Thank you for listening.

  228. How wonderful it is that I found your blog! I have been praying lately that GOD guide me to the place HE wants me to go! What talents does he want me to utilize in order to fulfill his dreams and purpose for me AND for him? My mind gets discombobulated with all different thoughts and ideas and it's hard to decide exactly which path to take…and I end up running in circles! I need GOD to help me stay focused so I can begin the path he has planned for me! Thank you for your encouragement! I can't wait to read your book….maybe I will be picked to win!! God bless you!

  229. This is a topic I have been dealing with for a few years now. I don't know "how" to put my needs, and God's plan for me, before my family and friends. It acutally scares me to even write the words. It makes me feel ashamed that I would put myself before others. This is a book I need to read, and know that God wanted me to see this today. Thank you!

  230. Off and on this has been my story through my life. There have been times I've had the confidence and that's when I'm living in the Spirit but in the flesh, I'm full of self doubt. I also have a husband that adds fuel to the fire making me doubt myself. When I stay connected with my sisters in Christ, they encourage me but too many times my life is still focused on performance. Need to get this book when it comes out.
    Thanks, Renee.

  231. I love hearing from you! What you have to say matters to me. In fact, your words and stories encourage me to keep sharing mine.

  232. I added your link to my Facebook page!
    Blessings,
    Peggy

  233. Anonymous says:

    Your article and blog really resonated with me this morning. I have been searching my heart and soul (with God's help) for several years now, trying to discover 'myself' in there somewhere. I am 55 years old and He has given me so many creative talents, which fill me with such joy when I can use them, but so far I have had very little time (or resources) to use them as more than just a hobby, or a distraction to retreat to when I am weary from work and the world. I desire so much more! I am praying that God would lead me to His purpose in giving me these gifts. I, too, used to compare myself to others (and still battle with that way more than I should) but I am struggling with trying to find the woman He wants me to become. And I feel so trapped where I am, so imprisoned by a business that demands all my time and energy, that I have so little left for what truly brings me joy, I find myself looking around and asking, what can I (should I) be doing differently to bring about change in my life? And so far, I am clueless. The answers are not coming. So I am 'waiting on the Lord' and trying my best not to burnout before He answers. Thank you and bless you, Renee, for the encouragement. Linda M.

  234. I am forwarding your link via FBook.

  235. I will definitely share this on my facebook page….

    Just Lost
    Felicite Thompson
    rellifefairytale@aol.com

  236. I am forwarding your link via FBook.

  237. Anonymous says:

    I loved this post and devotional today! I'm still learning how to just be me. Thanks for the encouragement!

  238. Anonymous says:

    I shared the link for your blog/devotional on Facebook.

    Thanks! Becci

  239. I read the devotionals ready. this is important to me now as I retire from the full-time workforce after 30 years and enter on a new phase of my life. I plan to homeschool my daughter through her four years of HS and want to continue to be open to God's desires for my life.

  240. Heather says:

    I have grown up hearing how God has made each one of us unique and can use each one of us but still have not figured out how God can use me. What are my gifts? what do I like to do? I don't even have dreams any more because I have given up trying to figure out what God can really do with me. I know fear of failure holds me back but I want to find out what God sees in me and what He created me to be. Your devotion has given me hope once again that I can dream. I want to dream and I want God to use me. I just don't know in which direction I should go

  241. Anonymous says:

    My daughter is making plans for what she wants to do with her life and I still don't know what I am supposed to do with mine. How can I help her when I can't do it for myself?

    Desperate Mom

  242. I loved your devotion today. I am struggling with my job. I would love to be a stay at home mom, but that's not financially possible right now. I used to love coming to work but now I found myself dreading it, and nothing has really changed but me. I feel that God is calling me to switch careers, but I don't know what to! I had an amazing job I interviewed for, but did not get, so I find myself wondering if not that job, what job? I'm just trying to trust in God that he will reveal to me in his time what his next step for my life is and know that he created me for a purpose to glorify him. Thank you for reminding me of that today!

  243. As a pastor's wife I could certainly relate to your devotional. Somtimes I'm so "busy" doing what's expected I forget who I really should be pleasing and that's God. When you are a God pleaser you will meet your purpose! Thanks for reminding me, Praise the LORD! Cheryl
    johnwhoward@gmail.com

  244. Oh my goodness…where to begin? I signed up for P31 encouragement emails yesterday! Your encouragement "Becoming the Real Me" was the first one I received… holy cow. I felt like I was looking in a mirror… I'm about to be 32 and I have NO idea what my dreams are… This is definitely a line I am going to pursue! Thank you!

  245. Anonymous says:

    WOW! My family is temporarily living with my in-laws and my MIL and I were debating our differences in personalities/abilities/attitudes as they relate to homemaking. She in the most polite/loving way (or was it)told me I need to learn how to clean (she's a perfectionist. never anything undone or dirty in our outside of her house).I started feeling a little insecure and then opened my email to this. Thank you!

  246. shared your post on my facebook page too!

  247. God has a plan for each of us and once we really grasp that, it's liberating. All we have to do is surrender to that and embrace the fact that he is at work, delivering his plan minute by minute, day by day. If we surrender to him daily, his plan naturally flows into our lives. It is in this surrender, that our need to be like others, to compare, etc. dissolves.
    Thank you for your insights.
    Re K.

  248. Anonymous says:

    Sure needed this today. Like many, I've been caught up in the busyness and need to step back and that I'm following God.

  249. Keeping Up With the Coeho's says:

    I loved the P31 devotion today by you! It was something I truly needed to hear. I get so bogged down in the people pleasing that I sometimes forget about my goals and dreams.

  250. Anonymous says:

    Hi Renee,
    I was encouraged by your devotion. It resonated with me in my heart, because I have been in that same position, in a woman’s gathering an ice breaker was introduced and I was the last person to share. I didn’t know what I could share that was interesting or unique about me. I am on a journey learning how to dream again and how to look ahead with hope. Learning who I really am in Christ. How much my Father loves me, delights in me, thinks about me with joy to the point that He sings over me. Knowing that He made me unique, just the way I am for a purpose. I am discovering that I do have preferences. In the past when asked what would I like, be it what to eat, where to sit, you name it my response was it doesn’t matter. I need to know my identity in Christ so I can use that knowledge to redefine my image of who I am. So I can embrace who I am, not afraid I am not good enough, significant or worthy. It is hard to believe that I could be addicted to approval from other people to feel good about myself but that was what pushed me to please others all my life. Now I know what really matters is what my heavenly Father says about me, is my life pleasing to him? Is my heart right? Am I motivated by love? Am I thinking thoughts that line up with His word and what He says about me? His opinion should be my reference point, my firm foundation. Praise God, Beth

  251. It's really hard NOT to compare your self with others – especially when most people in your life let you know they are comparing who you are with other people. At times I just reach a point where I give up.

  252. Lisa in VA says:

    As I read your devotion today, it made me think about knowing the REAL me, and I have never gone down that road. Thank you for opening a door for me today.

  253. Keeping Up With the Coeho's says:

    I also shared your devotion on facebook, and tagged your book. Thanks for this opportunity!

  254. Anonymous says:

    Can't wait to read this!!
    Michelle Love

  255. Oh I am SO going to put this link on my FB page!

  256. SO going to put this link on my Facebook!

  257. This devotional was right on time! Not only is it something I've been thinking about for myself, but we're in the process of developing a small group for young adult ladies and I've been praying recently about how to "encourage the strengths and overlook the weaknesses" of one another. Thanks for the insights – can't wait for the book! May God continue to bless you, your family and your ministry. Praise Him for revealing to you who He created you to be 🙂

  258. Thank you so much for opening a new door for me today. I never really thought about who the REAL me is…

  259. This is a topic that really resonates with me. I'd love to read more about it. Thanks for having a draw.

  260. As a mom of 5 in my mid 40's I've been dealing with the issue as well. Your article just confirms for me that I'm on the right track. I've been trying to be everything for everyone for too long. I want to know who God made me to be.

  261. Anonymous says:

    This devotional really hit home! Thank you I truly want to be all God wants me to be. And to ive the life God created me to be. Thanks so much for your insight and looking forward to the book. Tina

  262. jackie mutz says:

    i am a 55 year old widow. i just lost my dear husband 6 months ago by a work related accident. i fee i still am in shock.,but i know i want to be the woman GOD wants me to be. i am so glad i found this in my email this morning. i am that person who always compares myself to others. i will read your books and i know that i will become what GOD created me for. thank you so much. you r such a blessing. ,jackie

  263. Anonymous says:

    I'm still trying to figure out at 50 what my talents are and what I would really like to do with my life. I know if money wasn't an issue, exactly what it would be, but it is an issue so I am stuck. Thanks for your words today. I know God still has a plan for me. Nanci D

  264. Anonymous says:

    I know without a doubt that God is calling me to be more than I currently am. I know He has a mighty plan for me, but I do struggle with doubt and insecurities. Reading your blog today, I don't feel alone in this struggle and am looking forward to your new book coming out.

    Thanks! Amy Pitman

    P.S. This giveaway sound GREAT and if I win, I have a couple of ladies in mind for the other 2 books 🙂

  265. Anonymous says:

    You are connected to my fb page. Keep up the good work. Nanci

  266. Throughout the past few years, with your help and the help of Proverbs 31 I am realizing exactly what you said in todays devotional about about never taking the time to think about "My" dreams and who I want to be! Maybe in the past I have been comparing myself to others and thinking there is no way I could ever be like them! Now I ask myself, why would I want to! God created me to be me and that is my journey. To be confident to be me! Can't wait for the book!!

  267. Sharing your devotion on Facebook and a link to your "Confident Heart" page!! Hugs to you!

  268. Anonymous says:

    Thank you, Rene, for allowing God to use you to speak much truth about women of all ages. Brought to mind today specifically are my 21 year old daughter and 62 year old sister-in-law, both of whom are struggling with "who am I" and are extraordinarily fearful of the process of finding the answers to that question. I am anxious to share your resources with them and pray that God will use them mightily to guide and bless them both as His beautiful women of faith.

  269. I like that each of us is constantly becoming. Even if we think we're fulfilling God's desires for our lives and using the gifts he gave us, He always ups the ante. He doesn't let us remain stagnant.

  270. Can't wait to read this book. How i need it. I remember when the topic of dreams (not the ones we have at night but what we hope for) came up in a small group. I remember thinking…people have dreams?? I was so caught up in the day to day living that I totally forgot that one could hope for more…dreams!

    Thanks for the devotional and the post today!

  271. Anonymous says:

    I have shared it, and posted on your facebook page.
    Boy do I need your book. One would think being mid 50's they should be able to answer the question. Life can deal you with things and turn another way. With me it did. As I always wanted to be a mom and wife, those jobs been done. Kids are grown with thier kids, husband was called home on April 18th, 09. Now I feel this void inside of me, who am I, what does GOD want me to do now. Survive I'm trying to do, but I feel GOD wants more from me, but what? GOD is taking care of me, Praise GOD! Now, I have some health problmes and can't work…
    I always doubted myself due to my upbringing. I need your book . It could help me.
    I know I'm a child OF GOD, but I know He put me here for a reason, but is that reason over with, I don't think so, but what is next?

  272. Anonymous says:

    Renee- So excited for you and the release of your new book. I am so excited to read it and put my doubts and insecurities down. I really realized reading your devotion today that I am hungry to find out what God desires me to do. I LOVE being a wife and mother but my hear longs to do more. I just am not sure what…..Thanks for sharing your story and saying yes to God. Kelly

  273. This touched me right in the rut I have put myself lately! I do 'know' that when I compare myself to others, I always lose, but it is such an easy trap to fall into! Thanks for the encouragement first thing in the morning!

  274. Anonymous says:

    I am 55 years old and still haven't a clue as to "who I was made to be" – I function as a wife, an empty nest mother, a part time nurse, a former caregiver to now-deceased parents but when it comes down to what are my dreams? I find I have none. Help!
    Pam

  275. Anonymous says:

    I struggle with this because I don't understand how this meshes with dying to yourself, considering others more important than yourself…having the mind of Christ. He was God but became man to accomplish salvation for all. So if we sacrifice our desires doesn't that serve God's purpose in some way? I would love some positive feedback of clarification/ideas.

  276. I'm sharing this on my fb page! I know I have friends who also need to see this!
    thanks,
    Carol

  277. Anonymous says:

    I read this blog after reading P31 today. I need to read this book. Everything you said describes me to a tee. I am 35 years old and have no clue what God wants me to do in my life so I stay super busy thinking that is what I am suppose to do. Be everything to everyone and I stay exhausted and unsatified. I am at the point in my life where I am ready to make a change and discover what God has instore or me. Thank you so much for the P31 dovotion and this blog. I can't wait to get a copy of this book.
    Brandi

  278. Anonymous says:

    I have been struggling with this exact issue so much lately. I can't wait to read your book and to begin exploring these very issues now in prayer.
    Thank you.
    Neely

  279. I definitely need help in this area. I play the comparison game and am very critical of myself. I want to live like I believe that I am accepted, that I am loved so deeply right now. I know God doesn't make mistakes, but I live like I believe I am a mess, that i'm not a good enough mom, wife, sister, daughter and friend.

  280. Anonymous says:

    I posted a link to your fb page and blog on my fb page. Lots of internet traffic coming your way! 🙂
    Thanks, Amy Pitman

  281. Anonymous says:

    I thought I was the only person in the world that did not know what hobbies or interest I have. I do not know because my life has always been about serving others. Thank you for sharing this!

  282. Anonymous says:

    As a 54 yr old mother of a 12 yr. old daughter, I often tell her that she was fearfully and wonderfull made in God's image. Often times, my spirit is filled to the brim with the power of the holy spirit and I can relay those feelings with so much confidence and exuberance. There are otther times when past and present hurt, doubt and absence of reading God's word can cause me to completely withdraw from showing compassion for the lost and not witnessing about the love of God to those that need to hear it. My prayer is that I will be, not just do, whatever God has purposed me to be. And in being me, God will get the glory, my daughter will gain the confidence in allowing God to shape her to be what he has purposes her to be. It is not a easy task, but essential to live a victorious life. Our purpose is to be a light in the midst of darkness, for we are fearfully and wonderfully made for and by God.

  283. You are writing about what many need to hear. Just as in your post at Proverbs 31, I am that 32-yr old now and prayerfully desire to know God's true purpose for me. Yes, it is so easy to get caught up on what every other woman has going on (or so we think) and not to really focus on ourselves and listening to what God is telling us. Can't wait to read this book and be touched even more.

  284. Anonymous says:

    I am 55 and I still do not know what I want–isn't that sad… I hope I win–I have been praying about this all the way to work–I was meant to read your writings today!!! Thank you and blessings on you Renee—Barb wall

  285. Anonymous says:

    I have been waiting for years to hear this devotion! I have always wondered what my purpose and dreams were here on earth. I would love to win a book but will definitely buy one if not because this devotion made me realize I need to find some answers!
    Valerie L

  286. Truth is I don't know when this feeling of uneasiness with my current goals came about. I've cut off all of my hair, stopped communicating with folk who cause me stress – pretty much a recluse now – but it still doesn't feel right. As an employer and business owner it is ridiculous that I have to pep=talk myselk into going to waork each day.. Either I am allowing the devil to control me with unknown fears or I need to stop, look and listen for my directions from above. They don't stop coming. I think we just turn a deaf ear when things get a lil bit comfy..

  287. Very well said…thank you!!

  288. I have always and still doubt that God gave me a "talent" to share with others. I see talent as being able to sing, dance, play an instrument, etc. and I can not do any of those.
    I believe your book is a 100% fit for me. God can't be finished with me yet.
    If I win these 3 copies I will be able to share with a friend that I have been looking for a way to reach out to.

  289. Stephanie says:

    WOW! It always amazes me how God knows what i need to hear each morning and taht Proverbs 31 always provides it! I'm a 38 year old mom of 3 teenage boys, and have truly lost my identity and my goals. I have spent all of my adult years being who my family needed me to be and it saddens me to think that I could not answer the questions your brought up, I cant wait until your book comes out!

  290. Anonymous says:

    I really needed to hear this today! For so long I have struggled with not measuring up to other women. Sure I realized that I have a lot to offer and God made me for a reason, But. I could never seem to shake that voice inside suggesting I just would never be as good as all the other "Godly" women in my life. You have really inspired me to seek to find out what exactly it is God has created me to give. What gifts do I have to use for the glory of God? Thank you!

  291. Veronica says:

    What an amazing message that blessed my heart today and one that I most definitely needed to hear … as I started my day I felt like just a big failure! I so needed this truth and word of encouragement. Thank you and God bless

  292. Anonymous says:

    YES! This is wake up call to all people pleasers. Thank you for your opening our hearts and minds to being who God made us to be. I am excited to dig into this book.
    Kristi W.

  293. Wow, I can't wait to read this book. This is exactly what I have been struggling with and working on so hard to try to change about myself. It helps to know other women struggle with the same thoughts of being a failure.

  294. Anonymous says:

    I am 55 years old and have lived in the shadow of my 3 sisters all my life. I feel I can never live up to what people think I should be according to their talents and accomplishments. I often question whether I am where I am suppose to be, doing the things God planned for me to do. Todays devotion has made me think about all the questions I have about myself. Hopefully I will be able to be all God intended for me to be before I meet the Master.
    Teresa

  295. Anonymous says:

    THANK you THANK you THANK YOU!!!! look forward to reading your book… (Mary Caldwell)

  296. Anonymous says:

    Wow… When I read about "There is No One Like You! today I felt like this book must have been written for me. I'm 50 and have always struggled with what is my purpose in life. Is it just to be a good mother, good wife? I've always felt like there was something I was missing. I can't wait to read your book.

    Sharon

  297. Wow. This is so me. I am 45 and still unsure of my dreams or God's dreams for me. Please pray "God gives me wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of Him and enlightens the eyes of my understanding". Eph 1

    I am in a constant cloud of doubt and insecurities and have been as long as I can remember. I am looking forward to this book.

    Sonya

    • Your style is very unique compared to other people I’ve read stuff
      from. Thank you for posting when you’ve got the opportunity, Guess I’ll just bookmark this page.

  298. Anonymous says:

    OMG .. I am 54 years old and still have no idea of what God had planned for me. I cannot wait to read your book.

  299. Anonymous says:

    A very thought provoking devotional and blog. If you ask me at my age (49), I am not sure what my true purpose is, what are my passions and what are my strengths. What a shame? i.e. to me but not to God because He knows my true purpose in life. I would love to read your book. I pray that I will be selected so I can start to discover who I truly am and if I don't I will pre-order it.

  300. I was just planning to blog about this today – well, specifically about wanting to be someone I'm not naturally. More demonstrative, more vocal about my faith, more…something. This message arrived in my inbox this morning and really resonated with me. I would love to win your book!

  301. Anonymous says:

    I thoroughly enjoyed today's devotion. It made me smile and really reflect on who I am and the woman God wants me to be. Thank you. I'm looking forward to prayer time with the Lord today and sharing this with my girlfriends! Have a blessed day!

  302. Michelle F. says:

    I truly need the Lord to show me what He wants me to be…when I grow up LOL My walk with Him has been a process. When I accepted Christ into my heart and life 36 years ago-I wasn't magically transformed into a Super Christian…it has truly been a process. If I strayed I always came back home. That is where I need and want to be. The purpose of my life? To love the Lord God with all my heart, to be a confidante and an example to my children-always showing the truth to them. I have found out my passions, photography, baking and collecting/sharing information to help people. I just need Him to show me what to do with it 🙂 Love your devotions, Renee. Please keep sharing.
    Michelle

  303. Anonymous says:

    My name is Cassi. I know for certain that i stumbled upon your website for a reason. I have been crying to Jesus about my worth in life. I feel as if i have no reason, no meaning, (other than motherhood), to be here. I can't wait to get a copy of your book. I need to search within myself to figure out how to be the me that God wants. But right now i don't know who that woman is. Thank you for reaching out to women. I still can't believe i found this website. I am going to post your link on facebook. I want everyone to know their purpose.

  304. I am sharing this on my FB page.

  305. Anonymous says:

    Much needed words for all women to hear! Thanks! Cala Obenauf

  306. Anonymous says:

    Today's topic on Encouragement was exactly what I struggle with. I find myself at a new place in life being widowed with a little over a year with this new title, and realizing for the first time in my life . I don't know who I am, let alone who God made me to be . I have been a caregiver and people pleaser my whole life… todays topic has encouraged me to seek deeper answers. Thank you for a the kick-start I received this morning.
    June

  307. Thank you for reminding us that we are unique in the ways God has made us. I struggle with my God-given purpose. I'm a 37 year old mother of three and wife. I just finished my elementary education degree after deciding to finish two years ago. My husband owns a business and I am currently working in his office because he needs me to. I have been wondering why God wanted me to finish my degree if I'm not going to use it. Hopefully your book will help me put things in perspective!
    Bless you!

  308. Anonymous says:

    Your devotion today Renee touched my heart. I listened to your video also. I am constantly trying to figure out what God's plan is for me. I am always doing for others and, yes, feel self-sacrifice. I'm not sure what I want. I wanted so much to have my college degree but have had to work two jobs the past 15 years day and night and haven't felt like I've been able to do that. I have sent my kids to college. I have a beautiful family. I am active in my church and I love doing things for other people. I ask you to pray with me as I ask God to guide me. I would love to read your book. I know the Lord made me unique but am I doing what he wants me to do.
    Thank you Gwen

  309. Anonymous says:

    My name is Misty and I think what you said really got to me. I am 26, married and a mom to 3 children. While I love being a wife and mom I feel there is something else God has planned for me but I dont know what. I have really lost myself and am not sure the direction God want's me to go. I need to remember to be patient and trust in Him.

  310. Anonymous says:

    I am struggling with this so much. I have been divorced almost eight months and I feel stuck. What do I want from my life?? I am 40 years old and have no dreams or focus. I know God has a plan just for me and it is good but I feel like life is moving forward without me… Thank you for your words, I am fearfully and wonderfully made.

  311. I never realized this was what has been wrong with how I thought – I did realize I couldn't pinpoint any personal dreams…or at least that some of my dreams seemed so unrealistic to me that I never tried. At 43 years old, I've always tried to do what others thought were best, but I do want to find out what God has planned for me!

  312. Julie K. says:

    I feel like you were talking to me today. I am 46…and still haven't figured out what I want to do with my life! And, of course, that causes me to feel less than others. This gives me something to think about! Thanks!

  313. Thank you for your message.

  314. Thank you for your message

  315. Anonymous says:

    Listening to you today I realized how much I struggle with these same issues. Not only that, I hear other women saying some of the same things. I wonder if this is just a "woman" thing, a "me" thing or just a "human" thing we all struggle with. Whichever it may be, I'm tired of it. Thank you for your words to my heart.

  316. Anonymous says:

    I loved this message today and I can't wait until your book come out. Thank you, Melissa

  317. Miss Sophie says:

    I do not know you personally but you wrote about the very season I'm in now. I'm feeling like at this point in my life at the age of 36, I should know my purpose that God has for me, but I don't. No one really addresses the issue of self-comparison with others and how it feels to not measure up (so you think about yourself). Thank you for letting me know I'm not the only one and that there is more to life than just "busyness" and the cares of this life. Thank you, you spoke volumes to me today.

  318. Anonymous says:

    I'm one of those women that bury herself in the busyness of life and what others expect from me. I've always struggled with this and I'm about to be 37. I also struggle with figuring out what God's will is for me. We are often asked in our church to use our gifts and talents; to have dreams for God … well, I don't really know. I hope this book will really help me to discover who I am and to trust God's words that I am wonderfully and fearfully made. Thank you all for your thoughts.
    Marta

  319. Anonymous says:

    Today spoke about a desire of my heart, I loved being a mom and that was my goal as a child but I'm always trying to discern what my gifts are and where to use apply them, the real me!

  320. Jennifer Renee says:

    Renee, I love your devotional and post for today. Learning who I am in Christ and learning that I'm the woman God wants me to be has always been hard for me. Just last week a close friend of mine encouraged me about this very topic. I had told her that God forgot about me when he was handing out looks. I've always been one to put myself down about so many things. I'm not pretty enough, I'm not as spiritual as the next person, and so many other things. I need your book.

  321. I am pretty sure your book was written just for me. I feel like I desperately need the message NOW. I guess I will have to wait until August, but will seek the Lord as best I know and ask Him to bring healing!

  322. Sharing your post on my Facebook page.

  323. Anonymous says:

    Today spoke about a desire of my heart, I loved being a mom and that was my goal as a child but I'm always trying to discern what my gifts are and where to use apply them, the real me!
    Fran D.

  324. I JUST texted my friend about the fears and doubts you mentioned in your blog. Ever since I got saved, I jumped right in to "be" the "right" type of Christian I was "supposed" to become. Which really meant I got busy doing and literally got completely burnt out. When I stepped away from serving in ministries, I wondered "who I am?" because I didn't have a function or title to label me. Now, I find myself starting all over again and seeing that it is very easy for me to slip into the do mentality. Lord Jesus, help us!

  325. Anonymous says:

    I have been praying for a while now for God's dreams for me to be realized in my life. Your words just pounded in my heart and soul. I related on every aspect you spoke of. Thank you for your inspiration and I know that I am a treasured child of His! Cathy

  326. Anonymous says:

    As a mom of two and starting a MOPS group this got me thinking who am I really…I want to uphold all God created me to be. Thanks for getting me thinking. AManda Hamon

  327. Looking forward to reading this. I don't think I've ever taken the time to figure this out. I get some glimpses now & tehn, but I don't slow down enough from the busy-ness, and I don't try to. Few things make me as uncomfortable as self-reflection.

  328. Anonymous says:

    Sounds like an exciting book. Please enter neon the drawing thanks torisgrandma@gmail.com
    Carol

  329. Anonymous says:

    DianMP52@aol.com I was born an illigetimate child and have always felt like I wasn't good enough. Your message today made me stop and think what I was created for and like you I couldn't say what it was. I prayed the prayer and hope God will show me His will for my life. I'm 59, but I know He can still use me for His purpose and show me what I'm good for.

  330. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and heart with us. This is something I struggle with too. Even though I'm already in my 30's I still don't really know what I want to be when I grow up. Your devotional really encouraged me to seek Gods guidance.

  331. Thanks for sharing this today! It spoke to me. I have struggled with this in my life. I need to be reminded daily of what He says about me and look to Him to show me the works that He has prepared for me in advance to do and not say yes to every good thing but wait on Him until He reveals to me the God thing he has for me. Blessings!

  332. Anonymous says:

    I am a woman who as a child was the product of a divorced home. I have always struggled with feelings of inferiority and incompetence. Since becoming a mother, these feelings have become intensely magnified because I want desperately for my daughters to feel worthy, wanted, and loved! I'm discovering for myself, and passing on to my precious children, the only place to receive completeness is through the redemption of Jesus! Thanks to Renee for your good works and encouragement of women that we can indeed become all that our loving Creator has in store for us! Michelle

  333. Anonymous says:

    I have always wondered if I am doing what God planned for me! Maybe I've been doing what's expected of me by others. I need your book. Connie

  334. I can so relate to your devotion. I am almost 35 and I struggle with what my desires and dreams are. I don't really know what I enjoy. I am excited for your book to come out.

  335. Here's what I said on my FB page: Sara Odell -It's true, I don't really know what I want to do when I grow up, but apparently that's pretty common. Saw some great thoughts about it by Renee, check out her FB page: https://www.facebook.com/renee.swope?ref=name#%21/pages/A-Confident-Heart-by-Renee-Swope/160376334023273

  336. Anonymous says:

    As I read and listened to your video I just remembered what my daughter came home to say after her youth group. She said that "God has a plan for me. A plan that is way better than I could ever imagine". Remembering to do life with a fresh, young outlook is necessary to feel refreshed. As women, we are the ones that really allow us to get bogged down with the daily routines. Whatever you do, whether it is being a custodian or a homemaker, do it with a servants heart that everything is done in his name. Joy will come from that if your heart is truly living for him. You will not feel insignificant

    • I have to thank you for the efforts you’ve put in writing this website.
      I’m hoping to check out the same high-grade content by you later
      on as well. In truth, your creative writing abilities has encouraged
      me to get my own, personal blog now 😉

  337. I linked to your Confident Heart FB page in a status update on my FB page.

  338. Anonymous says:

    In the struggles of becoming who God created me to be, I have found that I need to be careful not to overlook the fact that it is God who does the work. I don't need to change to become that woman because I already am her. In Psalm 139, it is past tense…"He created us, we were woven" etc. We are HIS workmanship! We simply get lost & distracted in the things of life and forget who we are…beautiful daughters of the King of Kings! Thank you for your words of encouragement, Renee. We will all do well to seek God's plan for us and know that He is faithful!
    Andrea Bock

  339. I was so encouraged by your devotion today. I have struggle really knowing who I am for many years… mainly due to a mother who always told me what to do via guilt trips. Course she got it from her mom and so goes the chain. I'm hoping to break the cycle and that it does seem to get better with each generation. Thank you for speaking out and writing something so encouraging for the next generation to become what God wants us to be, not our mothers.
    Sincerely, Angie

  340. Anonymous says:

    I felt like I was reading my own thoughts when I read your encouragement post today. I am looking forward to reading your book!
    jill_harriott@yahoo.com

  341. Oh man do I ever know what its like to be a people pleaser. Just last night a friend and I were talking about what we wanted to be when we grew up. I have been trying to discover which path God wants me on and focusing only on me and God instead of others.

    Debi

  342. Thank you for posting this. It has really touched my heart. I have been so ashamed to say that I have no idea what God wants me to be doing. When asked what I want to do/be, I have no other answer than "I don't know." I felt God say to read the book.
    May God richly bless you!

  343. Judy O. says:

    I too would not know how to answer if someone asked me what my dreams are, or what I enjoy doing. It seems crazy not to be able to answer such a basic question about myself. I have two little girls and I know that in this season of my life God wants me to focus on being their mother foremost. I struggle with the how to do that withour losing a sense of who God made me to be apart from my children. There is even guilt in thinking that I need that.

    I am reading Beth Moore's book on insecurity, and I think your book will be a great addition to what I am learning!

  344. Anonymous says:

    I appreciate your devotion today but I have to say that I'm really tired of being told that if I don't have this great conquest that I'm not fulfilling God's promise and falling short. I love the life that I have and I don't need to go out and stand on a mountain to feel that way.

  345. Anonymous says:

    Funny how these very thoughts have been rolling around in my mind for years and I just figured it was my "normal." I've not ever taken the time to find out what I like, thinking it just wasn't that important. Thank you for showing me that God wants me to be ME! Toni

  346. Anonymous says:

    Funny how these very thoughts have been rolling around in my mind for years and I just figured it was my "normal." I've not ever taken the time to find out what I like, thinking it just wasn't that important. Thank you for showing me that God wants me to be ME! Toni

  347. I am sad to say that I am guilty of comparing myself to others and being unhappy with who I am I can say I won't be posting this on facebook not because I wouldn't love to share this just because God has shown me that is one of the things I needed to give up even if its temporarily until I can completely find joy with myself facebook and other social sites add to the damage of compairing oneself with others because majority of what you see out in the social world are facades If it is God's will I will someday write and publish a book about all the things God has shown me during this time. Also there were many things I liked to do but once I was blessed with a family somewhere down the road I lost all the things I loved to do so dearly.My dreams somehow no longer fit in and that was something I was ok with because having a large family is 24/7 and I hardly get time for myself. But in this time I can say I have sacrificed everything for my family and to build a relationship with God like never before and I can say that he is truely working a miracle and slowly restoring all the things I loved to do back into my life. 🙂

  348. I must say this really touched my heart. I seem to be in that spot these days as I grasp my place and purpose. God is so good and loves us for who we are and I am so glad to know he knows I am a work in progress.

  349. I needed to hear this today.Sometimes I feel like I have to give up my own dreams and wishes to be a good mom and wife. I'm not sure what they even are! I will be praying for God to show me the real me! Thank you for your insight.

  350. Thank you for this devotional and for your upcoming book. I have just been talking with some of my friends about issues just like this. Hurdles that I need to find a way across to be the woman God created me to be.

  351. I am so ready to figure out what my purpose is. I have struggled with this for a long time all the while feeling like I'm just not very good at anything. I know He has a plan for me and it's time for me to listen and figure that out. I'm relieved to see I'm not the only one and I wish all of us encouragement on this journey of discovery.

  352. I have posted a link on my fb page!

  353. Since I am not on facebook I posted it here on my blog http://hiddenwisdom-savannahhutchinson1208.blogspot.com/2011/05/amazing-post-by-renee-swope.html Although there is only opne follower I believe that it will touch the lives of whomever may come across my blog!

    One last thing,
    If I were to win I would give one copy to my sister in law as we had this discussion over the weekend about the dangers of compairing ourselves with others and also try to avoid prayer envy! And the other copy I would give to my mother/sister. These are my family members but most my sisters in christ whom are the closest and dearest to me. Praise God for women lie you who listen to the calling and are used to bless so many others!

  354. I had an amazing revelation about myself. I had gone my entire 43 years putting every thing and every one that I have blessed with in my life house, family, children car etc. into a category that excluded myself. All of these things I acknowledged came from, made by and on loan from God. All was his but not me. My view of myself was flawed, a mistake, damaged one that needed fixing or to simply disappear. Finally he showed me that I too am his, I was created in his image and I am perfect the way I am. Completely his to do with as he sees fit and to remain here and occupy until he calls me home.

  355. Lorrie Baladad says:

    I read your post on the Proverbs 31 email today. It was such an encouragement. I've spent 50 years trying to be what others have wanted me to be – very frustrating. Compounded with having Bipolar Disorder and being a pastor's wife it has been so tiring.
    I have finally come to the point in my life that the disease that has held me captive can actually be a blessing to not only me but to others. Your post is another confirmation and encouragement to move forward in what God has called me to do (not what I would have chose)but wonderful just the same. I can't wait to read your new book. Blessings, Lorrie

  356. I shared your post w/ my facebook friends today!

  357. I shared your post today with my Facebook friends. Thanks for the timely inspiration!

  358. I can completely relate to so much of what you said, and feel like there's still something out there that I'm missing out on or not fulfillng in my life. I would love to have a copy of your book to discover more about this topic!

  359. Love this post and the devotional at proverbs 31. I'm a 31 yr old wife and mother of 2. Some things have come to light that have shaken our marriage, and I've been in a self-discovery process for the last couple of months. I am trying to figure out who I have become over the last few years and who I should be. This post has come along at the right time for me. Thank you!

  360. I just tweeted this too

  361. I can't wait to delve into this inspiration a little bit more. What a blessing!

  362. Anonymous says:

    I want to be the person that God created me to be; however, I have a hard time figuring out who that person really is. Thank you for your encouragement today. I look forward to reading your book! I am also going to post this on my facebook page!
    Megan McCormick

  363. Kim in NH says:

    Wow, Renee, this introduction to this book really hit me where I need it. Thank you for sharing your heart! My friend and I were just talking the other day how our insecurities get in the way of what God wants us to do.

  364. Renee, I'm posting you on my FB page. Thanks, Angie Pazurek

  365. Anonymous says:

    Your blog today hit me right between the eyes…. I have been buried in caring for my husband who had a stroke at 57 eight months ago, juggling the healthcre of my 16 year old daughter with CF, and I really don't know who I am or what God even could possibly do to use me….I really am in a place of needing direction & purpose. Tammy

  366. Hello Renee,

    Today’s devotion was confirmation to me because I have been praying and asking God to make me the woman He has me to be. On time devotion! Thank you for sharing!

  367. Single again, three teenage children, a failed business and a husband who simply walked away. I have found both solace and companionship reading P31. I have been praying for God to show me the road to my ultimate purpose. I recognize my passions but need to turn those into "profits". I am looking forward to your book. Thank you for sharing a bit of yourself. Your words make a difference….

  368. Oh Renee,
    How this devo touched my heart! I sooo need help. This is an issue with me and you helped me to understand myself a little better. My mind is really messed up right now, I can't explain. just need to thank you and hope I can win a copy of your book. I can't believe you struggle with this. I think you are great.

    God Bless Ya!
    Dana

    danawade@hotmail.com

  369. Anonymous says:
  370. I sure needed this today! I have really been struggling trying to be who I think I should be for everyone, getting burned out and not knowing what God's plan for ME truly is. Thanks for helping me straighten out my path!

  371. I will be sharing this post on my FB page!

  372. Renee this sounds like exactly what i need. I remember when i was in HS, people would ask what do you want to do after graduation. I didn't have a clue and at 58 years old today i still don't have a clue. I think i'm afraid to have a dream or a goal in my life. I'm a writer and write poetry and even a play. I have had some poems published but, i seem to sit on what i do and never progress with this talent God has obviously given me. I think i need help and this book and your study may be just what the Lord is leading me too. Thank you for your openess and desire to help others.

  373. Wow, this is exactly what I needed to hear today. Just this morning, the words "I can't do this anymore" came out of my mouth. I need this book now! I am a 49 year old stay-at-home mom with 2 wonderful kids ages 6 & 9. My marriage has been struggling for years, lack of intimacy & communication. I lack the strength & patience to deal with every day life issues. I would never hurt myself or anyone else physically, but verbally or emotionally is different. I do tend to fly off the handle too much and I am very disappointed in myself almost on a daily basis. I know this has to stop and I have been praying & reading God's word everyday for about 125 days now but some days I just feel lost. I am trying to start an encouragement group at my church and this book would be great.

  374. I am putting your Facebook link on my FB page in hopes that it will also help someone else who is struggling.

  375. Renee, I shared this on my Facebook page

  376. Jean Reeves says:

    wow that is the very same question I ask myself all the time. I'm 48 and floundering with who am I and what is my purpose? What am I supposed to be doing with my life??? I've been married & divorced twice and am the mother of 5 but who am I…I DON'T KNOW!!! Wow did your words hit me smack in the face. I love the title: The journey of my heart, my personal journal is What is it all about? Who am I???…a search.
    Best regards,
    Ms J. Reeves

  377. I won't be able to stop until I discover God's purpose for my life..it is a constant search right now. Beth Reed Adkins

  378. Jean Reeves says:

    Shared this on my FB

  379. Just in addition to my earlier comment. I have a friend who used to ask everytime he called – "what are your thoughts, feelings and needs or wants as a woman today"? I hated that question and would get furious with him – saying, "I DON'T KNOW! STOP ASKING ME THAT!". As a writer the one thing i don't do is journal. I can't seem to make myself sit down and just write about what i'm feeling even. What is wrong with me?!

  380. Anonymous says:

    I am ready to find confidence in who I am in the Lord and discover who he wants me to be! Looking forward to reading your book!
    Cindy

  381. Wow! It was like you were writing about me. Always trying to please everyone in my life while having no idea what my dreams are or God's dreams are for me. Thanks for sharing your story.

    Lisa K

  382. God's timing is always, perfect. I needed to hear this today, thank you for sharing you heart. Looking forward to reading your book!

  383. I know some of the purposes God has for my life..mother, daughter, sister, friend..I know I am just scratching the surface. Beth Reed Adkins

  384. "FAKE" is the word that comes up when you text my name, which is ironic because that has been my overwhelming feeling for many, many years. I struggle with who am I and why am I here…..So many wasted years, it is time to get this figured out and move on in the Truth and Light of God's plan for me. I related with the example in your devotional of not having dreams and would like to find God's vision for my life.

  385. Shared your post on Facebook as well.

    Lisa K

  386. Anonymous says:

    This post today hit home with me as I too am a people pleaser.
    The only thing that I ever wanted to do was to be a stay at home wife and mother but never realized that dream because when my kids were little (they are now 17 & 21)my husband and myself did not put our full faith and trust in the Lord. So of course the world always got in the way. I would love to have you're new book, it sounds great!
    Thanks Janet-jwood@jordanagency.com

  387. Dale Katherine says:

    "FAKE" is the word that comes up when you text my name, which is ironic because that has been my overwhelming feeling for many, many years. I struggle with who am I and why am I here…..So many wasted years, it is time to get this figured out and move on in the Truth and Light of God's plan for me. I related with the example in your devotional of not having dreams and would like to find God's vision for my life.

  388. I found your blog through the Proverbs 31 devotion today. I needed your words, on your blog and devotion.

    I make so much "noise" trying to fit the roles I *think* I need to fill, that I drown out His voice. I don't know what I want to be doing or what my dreams are, but I don't know how to figure out it out, either! 🙂

    Thanks for the reminder that it's not selfish to take some time for myself to discover my God-given dreams and talents.

  389. Anonymous says:

    I don't have a blog spot, but wanted to tell you that your devotion today fit me to a "T."
    I'm 44 next month and am still unsure of any dream. My childhood was quite tramatic with a father who suffered from schizophrenia & alcoholism…plus other painful occurrences which I won't get into. I was too busy "surviving" to have time for dreams, much less have one of my own. In 2002, God started showing me How much He loves ME…daily loading me up with grace & mercy. It is my desire & prayer to know what His drem for me is. Thx 4 your devotion, sharing your wounds. IN Him- Melinda Schelling

  390. Thank you so much for writing this. It is so easy to be who others want us to be rather than what God had called us to be. I would love to win your new book!

  391. Anonymous says:

    What a neat thought to learn who the real you is. I was just thinking the other day about what God's purpose was for me and hoping that I hadn't missed the sign he had given me. I would LOVE to know who I really am aside from a wife, mother, daughter and friend.

    Thank you!

    Amy Lowery

    lowery8506@hotmail.com

  392. Anonymous says:

    What timing! Just last night my son asked me what I would want to do if money was no problem. I couldn't answer him. I had no idea. I realized then that I had no dreams for myself. I just want to get through the day. Wake up the next morning and get through that day. I'm the one that makes sure everyone else's day runs smoothly. That they have what they need. I have no idea what I need or want.

  393. I actually have the opposite problem of yours in a way: when I was younger I thought I knew exactly what I wanted to become. But now the older I get, the more vague the understanding and vision get to the point of me having no idea what I should actually be/become,especially if we throw in 'what does God want/expect me to be' and do with my life…then I am really out of ideas. But I really liked your devotional today and it encouraged me to start thinking about it more than I do (I usually prefer to brush it off), and in particular I liked the wording of the prayer. Thank you!

  394. Anonymous says:

    I am 72 years old and have never really knew what my real purpose in life is.

  395. This really spoke to me today. How often do I find myself wandering…what do I want to do for myself. Even the things I choose to do, I wonder if I choose for the right reasons. It reminds me when I read an obituary and it states what that person liked to do…and I wonder…what will mine say? Clean the house? Is that God's plan for me?

  396. I am 35 and still don't know who I am or what my dreams are. I THOUGHT I knew, but it turns out, I really don't. I am in the process of reading "The Dream Giver" by Bruce Wilkinson and I have had to really put my mind to work and open my heart to even know if I even HAVE a dream much less knowing WHAT my dream is. I have always been the one who is what everyone else wants me to be and, frankly, it gets very worrisome trying to be "this" for him and "that" for her and "the other" for myself… I don't fit in. I am praying daily that God will show me HIS plan for my life… that is the only one that really matters! Thank you for your words today… I am looking forward to your book. 🙂

  397. Martha T. says:

    Great devotional! A few years ago I attended a day retreat at my church. One of the sessions was about passions/dreams and I realized that I don't seem to have any. Pretty depressing. Please enter me into your contest! Thanks!
    CRPrairie1@imonmail.com

  398. Anonymous says:

    I am a pleaser…and need to ask God to show me who HE created me to be…at 40+ I feel I should already know… I can't wait to read your book! 🙂 Cindy LouWho

  399. I have too been down that road. It's amazing when God shows you what He wants for you

  400. I have always been that woman… being "this" for him, "that" for her and "the other" for myself. That can be very worrisome and makes for a weary heart/soul. I thought I had a dream, I thought I knew what it was… turns out, I don't. Well, at least I don't know what it is. I am in the process of reading the book "The Dream Giver" by Bruce Wilkinson and it has made me really question IF I even have a dream, much less trying to know what that dream is. I am lost and am praying daily for God to show me HIS will for my life. That is really what it is all about and I am trying to focus on being constantly in HIS presence, for it is there that I will find peace. Thank you for your words today. It lets me know I am not alone. I am looking forward to your book! 🙂

  401. Anonymous says:

    Thank you for sharing today's devotion. I need to be reminded that I am created for HIS purpose. I have to stop doubting and put my confidence in God.

  402. Anonymous says:

    20 years ago, I had a brain aneurysm. Because I could not see, my self esteem was not affected. After I did see and some of the side effects became noticeable, THEN my self esteem plummeted. Six years after the aneurysm, I became friends with a fantastic man. He made me feel like a million dollars. Six years later, something happened and we were no longer on speaking terms. This devastated me. I am trying really hard to see myself and accept myself in Gocd's eyes instead of depending on a person. Thank you for your article and ahead of time, thank you for your book. I intend to buy a few copies.-jeannette

  403. Natalie Feulner says:

    I'm working right now to find my place in the world and today's devotional resonated quite strongly. Thank you for the encouragement to keep seeking the Lord's purpose for my life.

    Natalie

  404. I can't wait to read your book! Confidence is something I often struggle with. May God bless this book and use it to heal women that really need assurance from Jesus.

  405. Anonymous says:

    I'm 53 and wish I knew what God wanted me to be when I grow up. Time to find out, I'd say!

    Shawn

  406. Thanks for the encouragement to find who God created me to be! And not just continue to wonder, "Who am I?" Confidence is definitely a struggle, so I look forward to reading your new book.

  407. Renee,

    I am so excited about the response to your book! God is going to use this book book to change so many lives!! Praise His Name!!

    Love you,

    Tammy

  408. Renee can totally relate to your words in the short video as I have NO clue who I am or who God made me to be I don't even know what my own dreams are. I've never taken the time to try and know any of this about myself I've always been the women others want me to be and who I thought they wanted me to be, so THANK YOU. Christy

  409. It is so amazing how God has His perfect timing. As of late, I have been truly struggling with my place in His world. I am afraid that I too have not really held on to or ever really known my purpose. It has been a source of tremendous grief for me, because I have been surrounded by people who always knew. I have always just tried to fit in the shoes that I keep being presented with and I find I can walk around but I always feel that pinch of something not being right. It isn't really pleasant and seems more duty. Your gifts shouldn't feel like a duty.

    Thank you for this post Renee. It truly was a blessing. I am looking forward to learning God's plan.

  410. Thank you for reminding us that God created each of us special! Way too often we lose our identity. Taking time to allow God to reveal His plans and purpose for our lives is exciting. I am looking forward to reading your book!

  411. Hi Renee my name is Joan I received my first Devotional Encouragement For Today May 18/11. Relate to Becoming the Real me. Fits me to a "T".

    Psalm 139:13 I have often shared with my family and close friends. I always feel reassure when in doubt. As to what my purpose here in life is meant to be. I look forward to Reading your new book. I am 67 and sure would like to know God's reason and plans he had in mind. When he created me and knit me together in my Mothers womb.

    Praying I will be chosen to win a copy of this awesome book.

    In Christian love
    Joan

  412. Anonymous says:

    Wow!! I really needed to hear this. I have been struggling with this very thing. I need to read your book. I am 36 years old. I am a wife , a mother to three teenagers, a homeschool teacher and we own our own business. I have many titles, but my question here lately is who am I? I mean the titles to not tell who I was created to be they just tell you what I do. Don't get me wrong I love each of those things and know they are God given, but I don't know who I am apart from those titles. You get so caught up in doing all what those titles require of you and somewhere in all of it you loose sight of who you are. A matter of fact the more I try to be better at each of those things I seem to feel as though I fail. Trying to be what everyone else needs me to be and not even considering who God created me to be. Gosh I don't even know what I really like to do or what my dreams are. It seems as my children are getting older the more unsettled I am getting. A lot of questions and not so many answers. Thank you for sharing this. Just knowing someone else has felt the same way and that I am not so crazy after all helps me and now I have a place to start, finding out why I am the way I am and that God created me to be like no other and that He has plans for me too. I have always told everyone else these things but I have never really applied it to me.
    Kim

  413. This came at such a perfect time…God's really been teaching me about this lately. My friend loaned me a copy of the book Motherstyles, by Janet Penley and it has really sparked this desire to get to know myself, the woman God created! In the midst of mothering 4 children over the last 8 years, I lost myself before I even got to know myself! Now I am busy serving in 3 MOPS roles. I was on the road to burnout, when God had me step back. Now that I am learning who I am and what energizes me and what drains me, I can do a better job in the roles I am truly called to fill. I look forward to reading your book!

  414. I am sharing this post via Facebook!

  415. Your words spoke straight to my heart! I could not agree more with Ms.AMK. I hate those kinds of questions as well, for I never have an answer.
    After walking and serving the Lord for 31 years. In all of His callings,in serving Him. First,in being a daughter of the King,then a wife, mom, friend, and sister in Christ, and also the honor of serving as a pastor's wife. None of which I would ever change! Indeed I have been a very blessed woman!
    But, honestly as a woman, those callings have have caused me to struggle with being a people pleaser as I have been about meeting the needs of others. Not in bad ways, mind you. It is just in those callings,I have been serving Him,in my serving others.
    Don't get me wrong,that is not a bad thing at all. He himself came to serve, not be served. But,now at this stage in my life, with all of those callings being so very different ~ I definantly have found ~ I have lost my knowing who I,am in Him. Not based upon those callings.
    At this stage in my journey,my life has changed so many ways ~ I am now a widow, with grown children, and things in my life are completely different And this has brought me to a place of feeling a bit lost at times. He now seems to have me on the this journey to discover and know who I really am in Him, as well as to dare to dream. As CS Lewis has put it: "You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream." I want His dream for me! I hope to find the confident and real me, and to find His dream for me ~ that completes and fulfills His purpose and ideas, when He fearfully made me. I look forward to all He has ahead for me. I am so looking forward to reading your book. Thank you for your words of encouragement!

  416. Tweeted this encouraging post as well.

    http://twitter.com/#!/kellyblackwell/status/70894352481796096

    PS To give myself a head start, I popped over to P31 and ordered your CD & Workbook. I am soooo excited!

  417. Anonymous says:

    I agree with so many of the comments that others have left and can identify with your devotion today. I often say I wish I knew what I would be when I grow up. Now that I've hit 40, I feel like I'm running out of time and may never know. Thank you for sharing this and for the reminder to take it to God, the One who created me and loves me like no other.

  418. I almost didn't read today's devotion and I am glad I did. Because I know I am just going through the motions and am afraid to ask God what his Purpose is for me. What if I can't handle the answer? Thanks for the words of encouragement – can't wait to get the book 🙂

  419. I was introduced to your program by a girlfriend/prayer partner. Your devotion for today reminded me that I need to continue to forge ahead in my calling. I have a passion for praying with and speaking life into people's life.

    I am currently involved in a prayer meeting group. I also minister one and one with co-workers and neighbours. My next step is to complete a degree in counselling. To enhance my knowledge in this area.

    Thanks so much for your words of encouragement, which reminded me that we are a body and we should not compare ourselves with each other, rather use our gifts and talents to compliment each other.

    Jaccy Calgary, Alberta

  420. Renee,
    Thank you so much for your devotion today. I have been struggling daily with who I am meant to be. I am sure that it has something to do with my oldest child going off to college and the youngest not far behind her. I am a single mom and have been since they were babies. My world has revolved around them and their activities for so many years and I haven't taken the time to found out who I am meant to be in Christ. It is a little exciting to begin the process and a lot scary but I am going to go forward in the process. I would love to be entered for a chance to win your giveway. Again thank you for the encouragement.
    In Christ,
    Trudy

  421. Christy D says:

    I loved your comment "Sometimes it's because we don't have the confidence to find out who we really are. Many of us are just more more comfortable buried in busyness and hiding behind our self-doubts. " That totally has described me and how I grew up! Thank God that he has shed light onto who I am suppose to be in His image, and am constantly working towards becoming a woman in HIS image! Thank you for your post today!

  422. Christy D says:

    I also shared your facebook link on my page, in the hopes that other women would be blessed by the message God wants to get out through you!

  423. Renee, again I am amazed at how close your devotion today hit home. I am 33 yrs old, a stay at home mother of two beautiful daughters, and I have absolutely no idea who I am or what God's plans are for me. It seems like every time I feel I may be on the right path, Satan steps in and brings doubt and fear. I am excited for your book to gain some insight as well as the thought that others feel or have felt the same way
    Thank you for blessing so many with your ministry!

  424. Anonymous says:

    Thank you, I will be looking forward to reading your book.

    Janet

  425. Hi Renee,
    I appreciate your devotion and blog today. I also lost God's dream and vision for my life after my husband died 8 years ago. I have been afraid to search these things. Now, He is healing my heart and I am encouraged to seek His vision and dream for me. I am going to share your ideas with my womens bible study tonight and encourage us to all examine seeing ouselves through God's eyes. I am trusting we will all agree to use your new book to "step out of the dark shadow and into His light" for our next study. I am truly grateful.
    Aloha,
    Sue

  426. Anonymous says:

    It is very true that when we turn away from our shadow and walk in the light and have a confident heart in God's word, but how do you do that alone God has to make that happen?

    M.O.

  427. When I began reading your blog today, it sounded like you were talking about me. I look forward to reading your book to find out what my dreams are.

    Jackie

  428. Sounds like a great book! Can't wait to read it.:)

  429. Sounds like a great book! Can't wait to read it.:)

  430. Anonymous says:

    These words are so true and really spoke to my heart. I started the day a little rough and reading this just reminds me not to over analyze myself. I attended your conference at Rock Gap Maryland earlier this year and I learned so much in that weekend about myself. I know I have a long way to go but it is amazing what God puts in our path to put things into perspective. Can't wait to read your book! Dana V.

  431. Anonymous says:

    Two weeks ago, I picked my 17 y/o daughter up from a weekend basketball trip. As soon as she got into the car, I asked question after question. At first, she answered my questions and later became reluctant in her responses. She then told me I asked too many questions. Initially, I became offended. After all, we fund this, we take you to practice, etc… but later the Holy Spirit revealed that she was right. I did ask too many questions and that I was overly involved. The Holy Spirit also revealed that the reason I was so obsessed with her dreams was because I had lost my own.

    I don't know if I ever dreamed things for myself. Life and circumstances have a way of claiming things that we fail to diligently protect. Sometimes we hold others in much higher regard than we hold ourselves and believe that they are more worthy of the more precious things in life.

    The next day I saw the same senerio repeat itself except it was with my daughter and my husband. He was asking question after question and she responded in the same manner.

    I later told him what the Holy Spirit revealed to me. I told him that I would support my children in their dreams. I would encourage their dreams and I would do all that I could to equip them to pursue their dreams. But, I could no longer obsess about their dreams and that I had to find my own. I also encouraged him to find his dreams. I also suggested that once we find our individual dreams that we dream as a couple.

    I truly believe that Becoming the Real Me was God sent to remind me, the challange me, to push me and to confirm that what I am pursuing is from God and not self.

    Kim

  432. Wow. This really hit the hot button today. I'm still crying as I type this. There was a brief time in my life when I truly felt I knew who I was and why the Lord made me 'so weird' in so many ways (by the world's standards, not His of course)…but somewhere I got lost in circumstances and just trying to get through each day. I really needed to read this. Thank you.

  433. I struggle with this daily and lately I have really been feeling like I need to figure out my purpose in life. I'm tired of being stuck in a rut just because it's comfortable. It may be comfortable but it's defintely not fulfilling!

  434. I just shared your Facebook link.

  435. Dear Renee,
    Thank you for today's devotional and your blog. God has been speaking to me for some time about connecting with His dream and vision for my life. I am afraid I lost this after my husband passed away, and had been afraid to even think or pray about it. I plan on sharing your thoughts and ideas tonight at my woman's bible study and trust that we will agree to use your new book for our next study guide to encourage ourselves to "step out of the shadow and into His light" for our lives.
    Aloha,
    Sue

  436. I visited your blog for the first time today after reading a devotional by you sent out by Bible Gateway. I instantly knew I should read your book! I married young and had six kids in 10 years – now as a homeschooling mom, working part time, and involved in church ministries, I often feel like I'm just reacting to my life, not really living it. Sounds like you might have some answers for me! 🙂 I'd be happy to share this on FB too – sounds like something my "gang" could use to hear too! 🙂 Blessings ~Kerrie

  437. BTW – I shared the link to your FB page on my FB page. I know I'm not the only one of my friends that feels the way I do. God bless you Renee! Anastasia (Stacy)

  438. I visited your blog for the first time today after reading a devotional by you sent out by Bible Gateway. I instantly knew I should read your book! I married young and had six kids in 10 years – now as a homeschooling mom, working part time, and involved in church ministries, I often feel like I'm just reacting to my life, not really living it. Sounds like you might have some answers for me! 🙂 I'd be happy to share this on FB too – sounds like something my "gang" could use to hear too! 🙂 Blessings ~Kerrie

  439. I am 50 years old and dieing each day because I do not who, what or were I belong in this life. I love the FATHER with all my heart and soul. I have committed to reading the Bible everyday and have developed a personal/intimate relationship with HIM. I have been unemployed for the past year, divorced and betrayed by my husband. I sit still trying have yet to find a passion for life. I sit home looking for a job because I need health benefits. I sit at home trusting in the FATHER to continue to supply my needs as HE has been for the past year. HE has kept me from loosing my mind and keeping my heart in tact. The quesiton often asked by me is " what will become of me?"

  440. melinda says:

    Wow; I have always wanted to know what God wanted me to be im life besides a people pleaser I would like to read your book. I know it would be a blessing to me..Good job

  441. Anonymous says:

    I agree with Ravynword's comment it sounds just like what I had to say, resonantes is a great way to describe the struggle I have had since childhood with self doubt. I have done the Breaking free study but I am still captive. I can't wait to hear what God has told you to tell me.

  442. http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1295267327

    Here's where I shared you on Facebook. Not sure if I did that right! 🙂
    ~Kerrie

  443. I loved this devotion today and it instantly caught my intention. I especially enjoyed the part where you encouraged us to get to know ourselves and ask GOD what his dreams for our life our and that its okay to enjoy the process! It has been a beauitful journey;God has brought me so far, though I still have a ways to go. I can honestly say that I like who I am, and I look forward in excitement to what God has planned for me;I can actually see beauty in me, when before I was filled with self-hatred and low self worth, my prayer is that this knowledge will continue to resonate with me and sink down to my heart where I need it the most.

  444. Anonymous says:

    Oh my, did I need this today!! Although I've always been the exact opposite in that I have TOO MANY passions, talents, and desires… My struggle lies in knowing just what God wants me to do with them. I've never wanted to be like anyone else either; I've always rebelled against the status quo. This leads to a pretty lonely life though… I'm 34, never married, with no kids. Like I said, pretty lonely. People like others to be in pretty packages, without giving any regard to the true person who lies within. I pray that my Father in heaven will bring people into my life who can see past my outer "package" to my God given "inner being". God bless you for this devotional today! Love in Christ, Julie Mae

  445. I am a mess. In the middle of so much with my health, our family, military, and ill children.

  446. Dorothy says:

    I am very confident in all that I do or try. I do not compare myself to any one. I also do not dream because dreams do not come true. They just get shattered. All you get left with is reality and a broken heart.

  447. Emily B. says:

    Thank you for sharing this today! Phew- I can not even begin to tell you how much a needed this! My husband and I were talking this week and he asked me- what do I want to do with my life? we were discussing us maybe going back to get our Masters degrees and he kept asking well what would you want to do. Where is my passion? Where do I feel God leading!? I got upset with questions wondering why is he harrasing me! Up until now I always had a check list- graduate HS- check; graduate college- check; get married- check; okkk now what! everytime someone asks what my goal in life is I always try to come up with an answer based on the person who asked so I sound good or they approve. Your devotion helped me figure out I need to sit down with just me and God and figure this out! Who am I?

  448. I am so anxious for your book to come out! I'm leading an online Bible study in my church and want A Confident Heart to be one of the books we study.

  449. It's interesting to me how many of us constantly do what others "expect" of us, but not what GOD expects of us. Exactly what I needed to read today. Thanks!
    Erin

  450. I'm still trying to believe that I am valued and loved – at 37 years old! I want my 3 year old daughter to know that in her heart long before she is 37, so I need to believe and live it!

  451. What an important subject especially in today's world. I love that saying that our Lord has made us to complete each other not compete with each other! You see it all too often, and we are wearing ourselves out trying to be something we are NOT! I would love to get a copy for myself and 2 for my friends — What a blessing it would be! I also posted this to my facebook, really good message for all my fb friends!

  452. I need to learn this myself. At 37 years old I still am trying to believe that I am loved and valued. I have a 3 year old daughter and I want her to learn this truth long before she is 37.

    I am planning to do this book with Melissa's Online study, I cannot wait!

  453. Striving to believe in myself is one thing, but trying to understand God's purpose for my life is something I struggle with. If I win these books, I will share them with two women with whom I share a music ministry at church. We are good friends, and this study would be wonderful for us to do together. Thanks!

  454. Self-doubt and lack of confidence is something that women frequently encounter these days. I'm anxious to learn more on the topic as you explore it in your book.

  455. This devo hits me sqware in the center of my fears today. The shadow of Suicide Loss , growing older, empty nest, menapause, remarriage, financial troubles, diabetes etc has cast a very dark painful shadow upon me these last 8 years. I am turning back to His Light…His TRuth. The LIES are just too dark & hopeless.
    Isaiah 61:1-3..Beauty from these dark ashes..I can not allow fear & pain to define who I am in the flesh of sorrow yet in Christ I know I can get off my mat & WALK again. PTL!
    Thank you Renae..for reminding me today that He Loves me anyway.

  456. Also I do plan to share this blog on my Facebook with a link back to this blog, no twitter, facebook is enough social networking for me!!!

    Kay

  457. Shared on my Facebook page too.. thx again Renae!

  458. Ann Marie says:

    If I hadn't known better I'd have thought you were describing me to someone. I have ALWAYS been a people pleaser and done things everyone else wanted. It's almost like I have never been my own person. Sometimes I feel like I can't even make the smallest decision like what I want to eat. I want to know where God wants me and what he wants me to do with all that is in me. Yet I stay trapped in that bubble of doing what everyone else wants. I need to break the cycle!! Thank you for what you said today. I never realized that was the reason. I just thought something was wrong with me and I would not ever know. What insight!!!

  459. Thank you for sharing today. I know God chose to speak to my heart through this. I struggle a lot with doubting and knowing my value in the Lord, but He knows me so intimately and cares for me. Thanks!

  460. I really can appreciate your comments on the blog and the video. I am in my mid 60's and I still feel as though I really don't know who or what God designed me to be. I have read Florence Littauers books and I come closest to Phlegmatic & Perfection with a lot of Control mixed in, with just tad of sanguine! As you see, I perceive myself as a highly mixed bag! And I also have always tried to be what others wanted me to be, they were confident I could be their design. Yet more often than not I really wasn't comfortable in those spots either, so I keep praying Lord please make it really, really clear, black and white, no doubts involved, clear to me who I am according to your design, not mine, not my spouses, not my friends, and not my children. My siblings and parents for the most part no longer have that much affect on me as they are up in heaven, well I hope they are at least! I feel like they should have been they all loved the Lord and knew His forgiveness. Oh my, would love to read your book, I am like a sponge when it comes to Gods word and always appreciate well written, helpful books to grow in Gods garden of words! May God Bless you Renee!!!!
    Kay

  461. Jennifer Graham says:

    Wow. This sure seems to be a theme that God keeps placing before me! Excited for the things God might be doing / preparing me for through what He is teaching me!

  462. Anonymous says:

    this really sounds like the book for me!
    Carol in NC

  463. I have struggled with this my whole life. I don't like to show the real me because I'm afraid of rejection. I always doubt everything I do or say. I doubt if I'm a good mom or wife, I doubt my relationship with Christ. I doubt it all.
    The true me is deep down inside and it is only up to me to let her out and with God's help I know I can.
    Thank you so much Renee, for all you do for us, you are truly doing God's work. Can't wait to read this book.

  464. Anonymous says:

    Renee,
    I saw you as I read a post by Lysa on Facebook.
    I am a mother of a prodigal. I feel so insecure. I wonder now that my son is grown and out of the house, and my young adult daughter has left as a prodigal not speaking to me for over two years, just what am I worth or what does God want me to do now?
    I have wanted to serve God in some way for a long time. I love to share the Word of God with others, but I am afraid of blogging ( even though I want to) because I have not English or Writing degree. I have no degree at all. I am a wife and a mother, but now it seems like a mother who is having a security problem because of a feeling I am a failure at mothering.
    I hope to read your book and find God speak to me through it.
    Thank you for the bried video, for it was encouraging to me.
    My Name is Debbie, and email is needmorelandco@q.com

  465. Anonymous says:

    Renee,
    You said to write two comments , so here I am!
    I am going to share you on facebook, and I am going to hope to read your book soon.
    I am asking God to show me HIS dreams for me, being that His are perfect, Jer. 29:11!
    Mine have been shattered and maybe that is just what He wanted in order to mold me His way!
    Debbie at needmorelandco@q.com

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  466. This post really resonated with my spirit. As a 26 year old strong female, I've always struggled with the "me" God created and the "me" the world has tried to create. It was a refreshing reminder to take time with my creator and rid myself of the distorted "me" I've created and let Him guide me to the "me" He originally crafted.
    ~Virginia

  467. I love how you so beautifully captured turning away from the shadows of darkness and back into the light and promise God provides. As a new (and exhausted) mom of two in my 40's I so needed to hear this message today! I've doubted my abilities as I try to adjust to sleepless nights and trying to keep up with bill paying, house cleaning, bible study and fellowship with friends and more. It just seemed effortless for other moms. I can't wait to see how God uses me in this new phase of my life and what his purpose is for me. Thank you and Proverbs 31 Ministries for continuing to bless my life!

  468. Thank you so much for this post today! As a second time mom in my 40's I have struggled with trying to juggle so many plates over the recent weeks and continuously reminded myself that other moms seem to make it look effortless! I love how you so beautifully captured how you turned from the shadows and back to the light and promise God offers. I can't wait to see how he uses me in this new phase of my life and what his special plans are for me. Thanks to you and Proverbs 31 Ministries for being a blessing (and something of a virtual morning hug) in this stay at home mom's life!

  469. wow this resonated so much with me. Can't wait to read your book.

  470. Anonymous says:

    Thank you for your words today. This is something I have struggled with my whole life. Now as a 40 year old single mom of two little girls, I find myself struggling still, but wanting so much to get it right so I can teach them well.
    ~Ceci

  471. wow everything you said resonated with me so much. Can't wait to read your book.

  472. Anonymous says:

    Also, sharing this via fb. ~ceci

  473. Anonymous says:

    I read your post on P31 and came over for a visit because at 39 I am pondering similar ideas. Please enter me to win. Tina M
    pray4usinNC@nc.rr.com

  474. Your devotional today really touched me – and I want to discover who God wants me to be. Thank you! Rebecca

  475. I felt like you were speaking to me directly! I am 44 with a PK career in software programming where I made great money and must have found some identity in that. Gave it up to become a Domestic Engineer, even homeschooled my kiddos. Now my kids are in school, and I work part-time at my youngest daughter's elementary school, which is a blessing as I get to see her every day. But, I feel like I am too old to consider going back to school to get further education, not to mention the financial factor. I just feel although I am being the wife & mom God has called me to be, I have lost 'me' along the way and always feel guilty thinking about it! Signed, Can Use All the Help I Can Get! Thanks!

  476. Your devotional today really touched me. I really want to become who God wants me to be… and to know who that person is!!
    Thank you. Rebecca

  477. We are each unique, praise God for loving us and creating us with such detail. Thank you for the reminder, and I'd really love to win a few copies of your book so I can share this journey of learning with some other women.

  478. What an encouraging reminder – God created us uniquely for a purpose! I hope to win a few copies of your book so I can share this journey of learning with other women. Thank you!

  479. Always comparing. Ugh. Gloria

  480. Thank you for the encouraging reminder that we are created uniquely for a divine purpose. I hope to win a few copies of your book so I can share this journey of learning with other women. Thank you!

  481. I have a co-worker who is a beautiful and humblelady with gifts and talents that she does not recognize. I believe she is a Christian but does not have a church home where she can use the gifts she has to serve the Lord. Despite her outward and inward beauty she has confidence and self-worth issues. Just today we talked about her feeling. This book would be awesome for me to share with her. I also teach an adult ladies' Sunday School class and would welcome the opportunity to share this book with them. I am hoping I will be blessed with the free copies.

    Thank you for your ministry. It blesses my heart.

    Ellen Davis – epdavis@boardofed.net

  482. Anonymous says:

    This is the first time I have sat down and really listened to you. I find you uplifting and that lifted my spirits. I am suffering for the third time with breast cancer and struggling to find my faith. I thank God every morning when I wake up that he has given me another day. My husband has fallen from his faith and this makes it very hard to keep and hold on to mine since he is my primary caretaker. He has me tied down to the apartment with only his way to do things. I have no way to get away from him short of calling police and telling them I am being abused. Thanks!

  483. Anonymous says:

    Thank you so very much for sharing your struggle. I am glad to know that I am not alone. I am a 30 year old woman struggling with the same things and am so ready to know who God made me to be so that I can live life the way He planned for me to live it. I want to live a life happy and content with who God made me so that I can model that to my daughter. Thank you again. Desiree

  484. I like the question in the companion devotional for this day that asks, "Do I like who God created me to be? Why or why not?" I had never outwardly asked that question of myself but realized that in how we compare and sometimes self-deprecate, we are answering that question.

  485. Anonymous says:

    WOW! I never really thought about this. You are exactly correct in all you said. Too many times as women, we spend our time "living up" to others' expectations instead of God's. I appreciate your devotion!! I would love to read your book also.

    Rebecca R.

  486. Anonymous says:

    It is amazing how the Proverbs 31 devotion is always what I needed to hear that day as this one was today which led me to your blog. I have always battled with what I want to be when I grow up and I am way way past being grown up. I try to please everyone else and never seem to please myself and probably not God either. I really would like to fulfill my purpose that God intended for me. It will be perfect for me if He decided it.

  487. I loved the devotion this morning! It's so refreshing to remember that (as you said) it's "God-seeking" to figure out WHO I am supposed to be…the unique strengths, talents, etc. God blessed me with for HIS purpose!!

  488. Anonymous says:

    Wow! As I sit in tears over your devotional, I am reminded of how big our God is. This is exactly what I have been struggling with for the past few years. Thank you so much for sharing this with us. There is obviously still hope for me.

  489. Encouragement is what we all need. And that feeling that we are not alone in this.

  490. So looking forward to reading your new book. I lead women's ministry, blog and have an online ministry for women. Yet I daily deal with a lack of confidence in myself. Your video spoke volumes to me and I am excited to read A Confident Heart!

    Jenifer
    http://www.jenifermetzger.org

  491. I just facebooked this wonderful blog/video and giveaway!!

    Jenifer
    http://www.jenifermetzger.org

  492. This is what I needed to hear today. I've been struggling on am I being how others expect me to be or am I being true to myself. I would love to be able to recognize my strenghts and become the woman that God wants me to be.

  493. I have a very hard time not comparing myself to other women. I know in my brain, that I shouldn't do it. But I still do it.

  494. I grew up in an abusive home. I spent most of my first 18 years (basically for as long as I can recall) trying to be whatever it was my mother wanted me to be (and for her to love me), only to fail over and over again. I also did most anything I could to fit in at school and church. Again, failing most of the time. It wasn't until I went to a women's retreat several years ago that I discovered that it doesn't matter who loves you or who doesn't. Who approves of you or who doesn't. All that truly matters is God's love and acceptance of us. I also learned to be grateful for those that did love me, they may not be my mother, but at least they love me, unconditionally (as does God).

  495. Your devotional has cut through me like a knife, because this has been something I have been struggling with for a very long time. I can't wait to read more about how to find out who I am in Christ, and what God's plan is for me. I hope to have the guts to do what He says…
    Babs.

  496. Anonymous says:

    I know that I have a purpose but I don't know how to find that purpose. I think I have a clue but what if I am wrong and take the wrong steps?

  497. thank you so much for sharing…
    I would love to read this book and be more confident in my role as wife and mom but to really be what God has called me to be

  498. shared link on facebbok

  499. I am 52 years old and still don't know what God wants me to be. I recently sold a business and have been helping my daughter with her two little girls. There are some days that I wonder if this is what God wants for me or if there is more. I often feel like I'm not doing anything/using my talents for God. Thanks for the reminder that I am unique and God has special dreams and ideas just for me and no one else.

  500. Anonymous says:

    Renee loved your blog today and can't wait for your book to come out. I myself have struggled with these issues off and on my whole life. I have had issues with fear, worry,anxiety as I have gotten older and especially after losing my parents 6 months part at the age of 29. I was pregnant with my youngest when my mom died very suddenly so fear has been a battle for me and satan has attacked me numerous times over the course of my adult life. It has been over the course of the past year that I have desperately tried to cast my burdens and worries on him and not let satan get his grip on me. I was sitting in church one Sunday feeling very weak, anxious scared not knowing what was going on with me, why couldn't I shake these feelings of doom and gloom, and praying that God would hear my prayers and take this anxiousness away from me when I felt this overwhelming peace just flood over me. God heard my prayers, he didn't forsake me,he didn't let go of me and he never will. Now when I feel anxious or worried I do try to cast them on my Lord and Savior because he is there for me. God Bless!! In Christ's love,Judy B. from CO

  501. Anonymous says:

    I often struggle like you said with not being confident enough to do what God has asked of me. Thank you for sharing your thoughts today. Angela G.

  502. Anonymous says:

    I am in the beginning stages of feeling that it may be possible that I am lovable. It is very new to me to even say it to myself but I am continuing to make a choice to trust that God really does love me. Warmly, Anna C.

  503. Anonymous says:

    I will definately be sharing this with my Facebook friends. Thank you. Angela G

  504. Wow! This hit home with me. I have struggled with this for years and just yesterday was ready to give up. Will be getting this book as soon as it comes out and working through it. I no longer want to live in doubt or defeat.

  505. I have never known who the real me is. I was told by my family from the time I was little that I was a mistake. I was made fun of for being bigger than everyone in my class. I had kids in elementary school jump on my back and yell, "Let's take a ride on the Amazon." I was molested by an uncle when I was 8, then abused continually by various males in my life until I met and married my 1st husband who I thought loved me but only continued with the abuse for 10 yrs til I met him. I have never had a strong lasting friendship with another woman. I met my 2nd husband when I was 27, and I think he is the 1st person (other than my 2 daughters) who has loved me unconditionally. He gets upset because I compare myself to other women or feel I have to "fit myself into a mold that a materialistic society has created" He prays for me to see that God loves me exactly as I am and for me to find what I enjoy in life. For so long I have defined myself by everyone else by being a wife, a mother, a daughter, and everything in between. In the last year I have begun to explore who God made me to be. I am finding that I truly love diving into the Lord's word and prayer, and I am praying for God to lead me on the path He has for me. I am still working on the courage to stand up for myself and not let myself be taken in to situations that I know are unhealthy or wrong. Finding your posting today was an answer to a long time prayer. Thank you and God Bless!!!

  506. Anonymous says:

    This is me…..looking forward to what God is going to help me realize about myself!

    Kari

  507. Anonymous says:

    What a great word! It is often so easy to get caught in comparing ourselves to one another. Forgetting that we were divinely created for a unique purpose that only we can fulfill. Thanks again for the reminder.

    Dawn Miller

  508. Anonymous says:

    Renee I know this is going to be a book every woman needs to read. I have friends who need to read this bokk including my self. I HAVE A BOOK COMMING FOR MY SELF BUT IF i WIN THESE BOKS WILL BE PASSED OUT TO THOSE FRIENDS. SORRY DID NOT RELIZE i HIt the caps button. Thanks Miranda white

  509. We all need a reminder to keep a dream for ourselves in mind. It is so easy to get caught up in the busyness of the world. Thanks for this devotion. I can't wait to read your book. Even if I don't win it, I will buy it.
    I am going to post a link on my facebook page also.
    Thanks again

  510. God has called me to be a Children's Pastor. I'm trying to overcome many many obsticles such as panick attacks when speaking infront of people. I know He's called me to do this I just need to get comfortable in my own skin and put hte past behind me. Your book sounds awesome and I would love a copy, God willing 🙂

  511. Anonymous says:

    I was encouraged after reading your devotional and blog today! I thought I was the only one who had trouble answering questions about my goals and dreams, and understanding God's plan for my life. As I was reading your words, I realized my thoughts and feelings are very similar, and was encouraged by that also. I have struggled with doubts and feelings of inadequecy since childhood, which has caused me to often feel discouraged…and alone in the battle. Renee, I am truly looking forward to reading your book! Thank you for this opportunity to win free copies. May they be a blessing to the winner and those people they are shared with. Amy W.

  512. Kristin says:

    I was captivated by what you said today in the devotional. I never thought about what dreams I had and have always been focused on being who I thought I should be instead of who God made me to be. I would be thrilled and honored to get a copy of your book.

  513. What a blessing your blogs have been to me. I can't tell you how timely your past few blogs have been to where I am. Thank you for your encouraging words and for sharing the real things of your heart.

  514. Anonymous says:

    Thank you so much for todays encouragement!!!!! I am a single mom of 5 boys and I am consumed in busy!!! God has been speaking to me to let him more into my life and giving my self more time for him!!!! Your blog has reached me through him!!! I also have never thought about what it is that I was made for other than just being a mom its what I have done since I was 19!!! Today is a perfect day to start!!!!

    Leslie C

  515. Kristin says:

    I will definitely be sharing your link on Facebook

  516. My name is Lynne. I am soo looking forward to this study and would LOVE to have a book for myself and two of my friends. I know exactly who i would share with.Thanks!

  517. AMY RUTH says:

    Can't wait to read this for myself. I know that it is right where I am at this point in life and needing to trust God and what He says about me. Thank you for this opportunity.

    AMY

  518. My name is Lynne. I am so looking forward to this study. I would love to win the book for myself and two of my friends. I know exactly who I would share the books with.

    thanks!

  519. I can not wait for this book to come out. I am also looking forward to the online Bible study this fall. Far too many women fall victim to this. We need to encourage one another that our identity lives in Christ and nothing else.

  520. WOW!!! Lots of people commenting to win the book. Encouraged that I am not alone in feeling self-concuios and inadequate. Loved the wonderful reminders and uplifting words. What a great and gorious Lord we have!! Thanks for the opportunity to win, I know the right person will win! 🙂

  521. I love the analogy of the shadow distorting in a way our emotions distort things as well. Thanks for the message. – Vivian

  522. HI Renee!

    I just posted your link on my facebook account. I am so excited about this as I am really wanting to be free from worrying about what others think..and just wanting to be all God created me for.

  523. Cynthia says:

    Love the analogy about the shadow and turning to the light. That is so me!!!

  524. When you said in your video blog that you decided at age 32 that you did not want to grow old without discovering your dreams, it gave me pause. I am 58 years old and I just recently articulated my own dream. Now I am waiting for God to reveal how He plans to use my uniqueness to fulfill His dream for me.

  525. I absolutely need this book! Hoping I win a free coy but if not I will run to my nearest bookstore and buy it. After 3 years of being the executor of my mother's estate and being at odds with my 2 siblings, multiple layoffs, financial troubles and now marital distress, I am ready to be the woman that God wants me to be. To know, without a shadow of a doubt, that He made me this way for a reason and a purpose.

  526. I will also share this on Facebook. So enter me again!

  527. Anonymous says:

    I have been asking God so many questions about myself lately. I was at lunch right now and asking God those questions you were talking about then I come in and read about the real me, God is so amazing, he is always answering me whether I like it or not. I am excited to read this book. Thank you

  528. I have been feeling a nudge to lead a Bible study for the women at my church and your upcoming book "A Confident Heart…" would be an excellent choice. I am posting your link on my FB page so others can be equally inspired.

  529. Anonymous says:

    I really REALLY love your devo and blog today. I think that this was something that was on my mind for awhile but i have been ignoring. although, i feel sometimes that my talent is one that is silly and over looked it is much deep if i use to right. I will be praying about what HIS plans are for my life and HOW i need to stay focused on it. I would love to win a book but if i dont then i know its not ment to be. I am going to post your link on my face book wall.

    KAROL!

  530. Doubt has entered my life recently after losing my husband and purpose for living! In these days of grief I have wondered if I will ever find purpose again. Confidence is something I need restored to my soul and Hope for a brighter tomorrow!
    I'd love to win and share your book! Blessings!

  531. This is what I have been praying for. That God would show me what my strengths are, what His dreams are for me and my purpose so that I don't feel like I am wasting my days not fulfilling His purpose for me.

  532. I shared this great devotional on Facebook too!

  533. Renee,
    Oh, I thought I had written this article! I have been in those group settings and I hate that question… because I evidently don't seem to hav hopes and dreams of my own anymore. so sad, I know.
    I thank you for opening our eyes to this!

  534. I feel like I am never the real me. Do I even know who that is??? I don't think so. I would love to know how to stop doubting and learn to live in the security of God's promises…

  535. Anonymous says:

    Self doubt has been a ruler in my life from my earliest memories; hand in hand with worry. They have prevented me from being the woman God wants me to be – I know this as a fact. I have, at times, glimpsed the life God has for me, but life gets busy, doubt creeps in and I crawl back into the shadow that has become so comfortable for me. Now, at the age of 40 and the mother of 3 great kids, I find I struggle almost daily with fear, doubt, & worry. Answering a call God placed on my heart over 15 years ago will not be easy. But His patience is great, greater than my doubt. I look forward to reading your book in September, and hope that by then I am pursuing God's call as has been pursuing me. Thank you for your words of Hope & Encouragement. – Shelly

  536. Anonymous says:

    Thank you , Thank you for this reminder today. I soooo needed to hear it. Can't wait to read this book. Kim Goldstein

  537. Danielle says:

    Thank you for bringing this topic to light. I am plagued by thoughts of wondering who the real me is and what do I really like. I have struggled in all areas of my life because of this and think of myself as having "failed to launch." I will be looking forward to hearing what God has to say through you about this.

  538. I hit the big 4-0 on my last birthday, and I've really been wrestling with who I'm "supposed" to be. I think a fear of failure is what keeps me from taking a few risks. I'd love to read your book! I loved today's Proverbs 31 devotion!

  539. Anonymous says:

    Your book sounds like a wonderful read, that I very much look forward to in the near future.
    -Abby

  540. Anonymous says:

    It's so hard not to try to be everything to everyone. It helps to know that I'm not the only one.

  541. I completely understood what you were saying when talking about that you didn't have an answer about who you were…it made me stop and think, and I honestly don't know either. Definately something to think and pray about!!

  542. Anonymous says:

    Renee,

    I've been struggling with this topic for two years. I went through Christian based career counseling and know more about my personality, what makes me who I am, and what my talents are; however, my problem is support from my family. They seem to think that if I go off the normal 8-5 course of work and into something I love and something that fits me, I am making a mistake. At 29, I don't want to wake up at 39 and be in the same place. I loved the devotional this morning and can't wait for the book! Thank you for your encouraging words!

    -Miranda H.

  543. I am 61 years old and still don't have a clue what God planned for me to be. I have spent my life taking care and doing for others. I often ask myself if this is it. Who am I? Is this what God has wanted me to be? I don't feel fulfilled and feel saddened that I have wasted so many years not knowing. Thank you for your encouraging words. Perhaps it is not too late.

  544. I needed this post! I am ALWAYS comparing myself to others. She's a better mom because she stays at home. He is a better employee because he got asked to do this project. She's a better daughter because she lives closer and visits more often. The list just goes on and on… Thanks for reminding me that God made me exactly the way He made me.

  545. Anonymous says:

    Your devotion and additional information on your blog have hit the bulleye of my heart today! Following the suggestion your instructor gave you, to ask God about what I enjoy and/or who I am — I find I really did know all along, but have allowed shame and insecurity to keep me from admiting "who I am", even to myself. Thank you for helping me to explore this today and please pray for me that I will take some real action to live out what I have discovered.

  546. I have certainly fallen into the comparison trap more times than I'd ever care to over the years. Yes, it definitely still plagues us as women–whether we compare ourselves to co-workers, other wives/moms/daughters, and in the form of looks/talents/drive/strengths/who's the busiest, etc. It's crazy! For the past few years I've been desperate to just be ME! And it would be great to journey deeper and uncover more security through "A Confident Heart"!

  547. I shared the link to your facebook page on "A Confident Heart" AND the blog!! 🙂

  548. O how you spoke the words of my heart. Between marriage, homeschooling our children, being overweight… it seems that I feel like I am constantly disappointing someone. I was excited to read your blog. I thought I was the only one!!!!!

  549. Anonymous says:

    This really touched me as feeling 'less than' is something I've struggled with all of my life.
    Beth Conaway

  550. O how you spoke the words of my heart. Between marriage, homeschooling our children, being overweight… it seems that I feel like I am constantly disappointing someone. I was excited to read your blog. I thought I was the only one!!!!!
    -tinawooley@gmail.com

  551. 'Comparing ourselves to other women' This phrase really caught my attention. I am definitely a textbook case when it comes to this. For years I have hated myself because I never seem to measure up, especially when I compare myself to my best friend. She ALWAYS seems to have it together.

    Your comment 'But God created us to complete one another, not compete with each other.' was huge for me. I never really thought of it that way, but now that you've pointed it I so see the truth in that.

    The truth is I am not a confident person. But I am continually seeking help. I have not given up on myself, and I thank God daily that He has not given up on me, that He has something better in store for me, and that with His help (and thru the help of others like yourself) I know I’m going to be able to become the confident and strong woman of God that He created me to be.

    I am eagerly looking forward to being able to read your new book A Confident Heart. Thanks so much for your words of wisdom and for letting God to use you! 🙂

  552. Such great words! They come at such a great time and you really made an impact on me today. Thank you!

  553. Anonymous says:

    I am 36 years old and have no idea what God wants me to be doing with my life. What am I good at? What is my passion? I have no idea. This blog has really openned my eyes and I am anxious to read the book and explore further God's purpose for my life.
    – Susan

  554. I was inspired by your words. Over the course of the last week or so, I have been asking myself actually just that – what are my gifts, talents?
    Am I better suited for another job/role? I have been busy busy busy – being a mom, wife, sister, daughter, good employee,friend – I need to take time out for myself. It will only help me help others if I am the best that I can be. Thank you for your honesty and reflection. Many, I feel, are probably going through similar emotions/questions and looking for direction and answers.

  555. Anonymous says:

    God does hear us when we cry out
    for help. That is what I thought when I heard about your book. You understand, sweet sister. A book for every woman in pursuit of being all that God created us to be. Thank you so much.

  556. I am from Jamaica and came across your blog after reading my Encouragement for Today. I must say it hit home very hard and I realise that for the past couple of years I have really lost a sense of who I am while trying to please everyone. I remember as a teenager I was encouraged by a favourite teacher and mentor to strip down and stand in front of the mirror and name all my body parts and tell them how much I love them. Finally I was to look myself in the eye and tell me how much I am in love with me.

    I stopped affirming me and the God within me at around age 25 and now at age 39 I feel lost and unsure. I want to rediscover the me in me and what God's dreams of me are.

    Thank you for the blog – I am now on the path of redicovering the Authentic Me.

  557. Anonymous says:

    I am sitting here weeping, knowing that this is God's message for me today. Thank you, Renee, for being the woman God created you to be, who in turn can be an encourager to total strangers, yet sisters in Christ.

    Bonnie W.

  558. Anonymous says:

    This book sounds like something I REALLY need to read! I have had issues with confidence ever since I can remember & would love to be freed from it once & for all! 40 years is too long to be captive to intimidation and lack of confidence!

  559. I am looking forward to the release of your new book!

    I am now a follower of your blog after reading your devotional today. 🙂 I also retweeted your Twitter post on my Twitter account.

  560. Anonymous says:

    i plan to take time to pray on & develop those qualities that God gave to me uniquely to share with others. I know us sisters all need each other, because for sure- not one of us can do it all! (Kim H)

  561. Here I am at 51 years of age and I still don't know who I am or who God wants me to be. I am encouraging my teens to figure out what their passions are and pursue their dreams but I never did it for myself. I recently returned to the work force and while I can do the job well, its not what resonates in my heart. But then again I am not sure what would. Being who God wants me to be, with the personality He gifted me with is something I never pursued for myself, always being caught up in what others expected or what I thought they wanted. My approval addiction manifesting its ugly head once again. Thank you for giving me some hope today to turn my eyes back to Him and that maybe its not too late for even me.

  562. Okay…here I am 32 years old and recently struggling with the "who I am" and "what do I like to do" question and I actually take the time time read my P31 email today. Crazy how I read it on days that it really touches my heart and my life. Thanks for letting me know I am not alone in my struggles.

  563. Anonymous says:

    I am interested in your book. I have struggled with self-confidence for years. I am aware that this (lack of self-confidence) is not from God. I know I can do so much for God's kingdom if only I would give it all to him….stop the lack of confidence and know HE can show me the way.
    Shelia G.

  564. Renee would love to have a copy of your book . It sounds just what I need I am going thru a tuff time right now and I feel why would Gog use me in the situation that I am in. Because I feel my self worth has just went out the window due to being unemployed for 2yrs cannot find ajob and numerous other things so would love to get a copy of the book.
    Thanks Carol

  565. Qinugan Roddy says:

    I want to thank you for sharing. For the last two to three months I have been wondering what my next step is. I am a wife and mother of two, and just finished college. About a month and a half ago I had this dream where God told me, "You need to step up now." I'm still seeking Him to open my eyes to what I need to step up in. I pray that I do what He's calling me to be. Thanks again for your reminder.

  566. Anonymous says:

    Wow! I just just sharing with a colleague today how I don't feel very confident in myself and that I'm a big people pleaser. This is so timely and the book sounds excellent. I look forward to reading it.
    Melody R.

  567. Maria A says:

    I started counseling with a christian woman a few weeks ago. Yesterday, I told her that I am the age I am and believe that I have never been "me" and I wasnt sure who I trul was inside. I am not sure who I really am, what i really like, what I really wanted to do. I have been maneuvering thru life where I was directed to go because I didn't know where I was supposed to go.

    mamoe

  568. Anonymous says:

    Your devotion today really spoke to me. I constantly find myself struggling with self-doubt, and comparison. I am also very much so, a "people pleaser." I have been struggling for the past year to find my purpose for HIM. I find myself not confident enough to seek it!! I have heard so many wonderful things about your book, A Confident Heart, and look forward to getting the chance to read and learn from it. Thank you!! God Bless You!! Jodi

  569. Anonymous says:

    This fits exactly with what I am going through with my teenage daughter. She is struggling with where she fits in. She cannot seem to figure out what she is good at. She struggles with her grades, she feels like most of her teachers do not like her, she worked really hard and still did not make cheerleader, she is afraid to wear a dress to school because the boys might say something, the list goes on and on! In her struggles, I am having trouble figuring out how I can help her. I know that God has a plan for her , but am growing weary and do not know how to help her. Being a teen can be especially hard. And especially hard on mom's too!!!

  570. Anonymous says:

    I read your Proverbs 31 devotional today and so much of what you mentioned hit home, so I skipped over to your blog to read more. Thank you so much for the reminder to avoid comparison and to allow God to speak to us about our gifts and callings.

    Stacey O. – PA

  571. Its amazing that God has a plan and a purpose for each of us. Yesterday, I was reviewing the 7 Habit of Highly Effective People and creating my mission statement. I noticed that when I got to the question, "If money was not object, what would you do?" and I had no answer. Today, this was the devotional on the P31 website. Think God's trying to tell me something…Such encouraging words. thank you so much!

  572. This post was exactly what I needed to hear today! Looking forward to reading the book 🙂

  573. It's amazing that God has a plan for each one of us. Yesterday, I was reviewing 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and creating my mission statement. When I got to the question about "if money was not object, what would you want to do?," I did not have an answer. Growing up I had dreams and I have accomplished most of them, but now as an adult, I find myself without dreams and direction. Today's devotional on P31 and your blog post from today have really opened my eyes to the fact that I'm not in touch with what God wants from me. I need to figure out His dreams for my life. thank you.

  574. Anonymous says:

    This spoke to my heart and met me exactly where I am right now. As a stay at home mom now for 8 yrs I constantly question my worth beyond motherhood. I know that doubting and lessening of my "profession" is not of God. I can't wait to read your books and do some practical work to figure out who I am!
    jen
    jenhuffman76@hotmail.com

  575. Anonymous says:

    When ever those questions would come up I would always think to myself, "Pass me, I don't have an answer that will sound good to the others in this room." Even at 42 I still am trying to figure out what are my gifts that God has given me. I think that people who know me well would be able to identify them, but I have a hard time.
    Thank you for reminding me that I need to keep connecting with Him to be comfortable with myself and how He has made me.
    I look forward to reading your book and I'm thankful to see that there are other women out in this world who want to build other women up instead of breaking them down.

  576. I am amazed at how God speaks to us through other people, and yet have so much difficulty seeing how God could possibly use me. I too have succumbed to the paralyzing fear of self-doubt, constantly comparing myself to other women and feeling like such a failure. I know this is not from God, and that the enemy is lurking about seeking to devour. I just have a problem with applying God's promises to my life. I am looking forward to reading your book and sharing it with my neighbor.

  577. Sometimes it is so hard to believe and then remember that God has a unique and special purpuse for my life when I get caught up in looking at sother women's lives and what they've accomplished in comparison to where I feel I am in my life. Thank you for reminding me once again that God has plans for me and that those plans are unique to how He has made me and the gifts and talents He has carefully placed in me to bring Him glory!
    God bless you!

    loving without fear,
    Groshonda McDonald

  578. I am sharing this on facebook. I posted the prayer because it resonated within my heart and echoed my desire for my life…to manifest God's dream for me!

    loving without fear,
    Groshonda McDonald

  579. Another "God-cidence" as I started today asking, as I have frequently since becoming a believer Nov 2011, "am I living your purpose for my life?". The email from Proverbs 31 and your article and upcoming book put a huge smile on my face as God once again answers prayer. Looking forward to your insight in your book – thanks for walking in the light and shining the path for many! God Bless – Sara

  580. I felt like you were telling my story. I am 64 and still doubt myself. Alway's trying to please everyone and not say anything to rock the boat. My feelings of insecurity need to get a boot as well as feeling not good enough, or smart enough,and feeling frumpy. Thank you for writing a book to help all of us to stop feeling unworthy and start being the woman God had made us to be.

  581. Monday of this week, I had asked myself if God had ever given me a dream for my life and I couldn't think of anything. At 54, it feels like the days are passing much too quickly and I have more of a desire than ever to leave a legacy for my family that will not only give them memories of mother/grandmother who loved God, but of someone who also fulfilled the dream God had placed within her heart. Bless you for your ministry….I ready your blog daily and you bless my heart!

  582. Anonymous says:

    Wow! It is like you read my mind… I have been wondering what I should do and how I can be HAPPY. I can't wait to hear what God wants me to do now. Thank you for your blog and devotional. God Bless.
    Brenda

  583. Anonymous says:

    Thank you for sharing this..such wonderful information!!

  584. Thank you for sharing this is such good information!!

  585. I received your devotional through KKLA. I read it then linked to your page. Amazing how God gives us just what we need to get by. His Mercies are new every morning, and I need to stop feeding my doubt. I have gone through so much and sometimes question God as to when I will I see the end and when will HE ultimatley be Glorified in all this. I pray that your ministry continue to reach women all across the nation, because there are so many hurting out there…christian and non christian alike. Thank you for your obedience to God in sharing His promises in this very specific way!

  586. Anonymous says:

    The Lord gave you words for me today. Thank you for listening and sharing! I look forward to reading your book and hopefully sharing it with some friends.
    Beth Voorhees

    • When I originally commented I clicked the “Notify me when new comments are added” checkbox and now each time a comment is added I get three e-mails with the same comment.

      Is there any way you can remove people from that service?
      Many thanks!

  587. I love today's post. I believe God had me in mind when He inspired you to write this book. I am a grown woman with 6 grandchildren and all my life I have disliked who I am. I've always wanted to be like others and often wonder what is my problem. I don't have any talents to offer and often feel as if I'm a failure to every one-even God. I definitely want to read this book and I will share with everyone I know. Thanks so much and God bless you. 🙂

  588. I feel like today's devotion and comments were written for me…oh, how I need to be reminded that I was created for a purpose…a unique one at that. I am constantly trying to live up to what others want me to be, and it's a daily battle that I truly desire to be set free from.

  589. Anonymous says:

    This really struck me, Renee! Thank you for your insights. I recently took on a new position and I have been filled with self-doubt. It is so debilitating the comments that keep replaying in my mind. This book seems like it would be the best thing for me since I have always struggled with self-worth issues.

  590. I needed to be reminded that I am created for a unique purpose. Pleasing everybody around me is difficult to do day after day. I thought it was hard in high school, but I learned as soon as I became a mother that peer pressure and expectations are even worse now.

  591. When I read your prayer, I shouted. I want to say where were these words when I was young, raising children, feeling defeated, inadequate, wanting to feel loved. Well, I know today that I know the God that created me and he helped me up the stairs to where I could hear these words. God bless you and thanks for being in my life. I am going to be attached to your hip until I have learned whatever you are going to teach me.

  592. Anonymous says:

    I love how the Lord leads… "beside still waters and refreshes our soul". He led me to your blog today I believe because I need to get this book. He's been speaking to me about this very topic and I believe your book will be helpful in the journey He is taking me on. I can't wait for it to come out… but I trust in God's timing too. God bless you, Karen

  593. Awesome message that you shared in your introduction of this book. More times than not I am my own worst enemy with my feelings of inadequacy. I am sure that I truely need to read your book to help me through. Can't wait until August!

  594. Anonymous says:

    This devotion was perfect! God has been working on me for the past two years… In the past few months, I am sure God is trying to lead me in a direction and preparing me for His purpose. I remain faithful and patient… It's hard but I know God will reveal in His time. The one thing I do know about my passion and dreams… I miss dancing and working with children. What that means in God's plans, I don't know… I keep praying and journaling. Thank you for this devotion today! Farrah Benson

  595. You are sure helping me open my eyes. Would sure like to win copies of your book. Keep up your work for the Lord

  596. Cheryl Motsenbocker says:

    What an amazing book this sounds like! My oldest will be starting middle school in the Fall and I so remember those times of always comparing myself to others. Your post made me realize I am still doing that! I will be reading this book asap to help us both!! Thank you!!!!!!!!

  597. I was shocked today to discover that my dreams have gotten buried by life. When I was younger, I loudly proclaimed that God is the giver of dreams, and have actively and passionately pursued dream after dream. God has been faithful and has always brought me new dreams to replace those that He accomplishes. But now I find myself living in my sister's basement, geographically separated from my husband while he goes to school, unemployed, raising two little ladies solo. I still have so many dreams, but they have been put on hold, and I often wonder, are these Your dreams for my life, God, or are these dreams that will never be fulfilled by me? How does my family fit? Where has the confidence gone that I once had? And so, my dreams are somewhere under the pile of dirty diapers, rejection letters, bills, and endless laundry. I need a new reminder that God still is the giver of dreams and that He is big enough to bring my family together and to orchestrate our dreams into His own tapestry. Thank you for the reminder.

  598. Anonymous says:

    I identify completely with your words today as I have lived in that place for the majority of my life. Attempting to please people, who by the way, were never happy with my attempts and along the way I either lost the person I was or never really knew who that should or could be. I would love to read your book and be a part of your 7 Day Doubt Diet. With God's help I am trying to be more optimistic and open to all the possibilities God has planned for me. I am so very tired of always feeling worthless instead of feeling that I have self worth.Thanks for allowing me to share this. Knowing that I am not alone helps me to have hope and to feel better.

  599. Heather says:

    Your thoughts that said "comfortable buried in busyness and hiding behind our self-doubts."… totally describes me. I spent a lot of time trying to be SuperWoman and thought this was accomplished by running myself ragged (if we are never lazy we must have self worth and be important right?), always volunteering and organizing things for my kids and their friends etc. Crazy busy to the point that I thought I could become someone in everyone's eyes by all that I did being a SuperWoman. But one day I finally realized it didn't want to be SuperWoman… I wanted to be a Super Woman. That entails me being me. Me doing things for the right reasons. Me feeling comfortable in my own skin. and me doing things because I want to, not just to get another notch on my SuperWoman belt of badges.

    Thanks so much for your writings. I can't wait to read your book! I can already tell that I will be very easily able to relate.

    Blessings,

    Heather Eads

  600. Anonymous says:

    Oh Renee, I keep trying just as you said to move forward and ignore the voices that tell me I:m not capable. I am finally learning to see God in the things around me that point out the lessons I need to learn…but I still lack the confidence to believe I can make it…I too often hear myself cry out that I just can't do it…I'm tired at 52 and beaten down…and I look forward to reading your book & your visit to our conference next month!! Linda Evans @KBC

  601. I cannot wait to read this book! Thank you for sharing God's truths about confidence. Oh, how I need this!

  602. Anonymous says:

    I put a link on fb pointing to your book & your blog…hoping others will come to know you! Linda Evans @KBC

  603. Anonymous says:

    This is me. I have always people pleased and doubt myself daily. I will say this prayer many times over. Thank you for this reminder. I can't wait to read your book!

  604. I just shared your Facebook page on my wall. Thanks for another entry!

  605. Great blog! So much that touches my heart!

  606. What a wonderful blog. Truly spoke to my heart!

  607. i would love to win a copy of your book thanks for reminding me of my worth ruthie

  608. Anonymous says:

    You have always inspired me. I can't wait for your book to come out so I can start reading it. What you have said today in your P31 devotion, on your own blog, and on the video is exactly how I feel today…other than I am still living in the shadow. And I want to start living in the light! Thank you for always encouraging us. May God always bless you!!
    Nicole

  609. Anonymous says:

    Thanks Renee. I am going to reread and reread this devotional until it sinks in. I've always struggled with who I am suppose to be. I have teaching degree, am currently a stay at home mom, and am trying to decide what I want to do/be within the next year or so when I go back to work. Time to start listening to God and not everyone else. 🙂
    Rachel – tete5@att.net

  610. I'm so excited to be reading your blog today!! I've been on the same path of self-sacrifice for years. After many losses of family members over the years & most recently, the loss of my husband to ALS (Lou Gerhig's disease), I finally realize that time is of the essence & now want only to fulfill God's purposes for my life! I believe He is showing me, but I think your book just may help me move forward with confidence. I look forward to reading & learning from you!

  611. Anonymous says:

    Your devotion today really hit home. I have no idea who I am. For 27 years of my life I was a wife and mother. Then my husband left and so did my kids. I was laid off my job and took another to pay the bills that I really do not like. I have no idea who I am or what God wants me to be. I look at other women and it seems they are so creative and fulfilled. I would love for God to reveal to me what the purpose for the remainder of my life is to be. I do not even feel like I have a dream but surely God must have something left for me. Dana

  612. I'm so excited to be reading your blog today!! I've been on the same path of self-sacrifice for years. After many losses of family members over the years & most recently, the loss of my husband to ALS (Lou Gerhig's disease), I finally realize that time is of the essence & now want only to fulfill God's purposes for my life! I believe He is showing me, but I think your book just may help me move forward with confidence. I look forward to reading & learning from you!

  613. Anonymous says:

    What awesome timing God has! I have been so bothered lately by the fact that I still don't know what I want to be…or what my dream really is. I have a "great" job, but get the sensation that God did not create me for the job I am in, I am just to afraid to move out of that position. I feel flighty and like I will disappoint someone if I choose something else that fails. I have no idea what my strengths are and worry too much about what everyone else thinks. Praying for a peace, and God's dream for me to come to light.
    Thanks!
    Evie C

  614. Wow! I really needed to read this today! I have always compared myself to others, but that is not how God intended us to live!! We have the same power that raised Christ from the dead, available to us today! Why do we not tap into His power! He's there! He's waiting! Thanks for the reminder!

  615. Love it….I would like my daughter to read it, I think she would enjoy it….

  616. I would like my oldest daughter to read it…her husband left and she needs a confident heart…

  617. I shared this on FB! Thx!

  618. Anonymous says:

    This is the first time I have heard of you, yet I feel like I have known you forever. I cannot wait to read your book and I have faith that it will help me more than anything I have read so far, except for the Bible, of course. I have been struggling for months now trying to figure out how I can become me instead of everyone else's puppet. My mother still, to this day, tries to control me and I struggle daily between keeping our relationship alive and being who I am. I didn't realize until about a year ago that for all of my life I have made decisions to either please my mother or to totally rebel against her. I love my mother dearly; and, I desperately yearn to find a way to be who I am yet still maintain the line of communication with her. Only recently with help from Our Heavenly Father I have found the strength to forgive her for all the hurt she has caused me through out my life, but I also need to start being me. And that's only a small portion of my history. Nonetheless I look forward to the release of your book when I can learn from your insight on how to at least be who I was meant to be. Not who everyone else in this evil world wants me to be.

  619. I'm finally learning to hear Him again after years of keeping Him out. Now, I'm asking Him to make me what He wants me to be. Each time I pray for guidance I am encouraged by women around me. Thank you for your obedience. He is amazing! Blessings on your book!

  620. Anonymous says:

    I just had my third, precious daughter a month ago…i am so full of emotion and so empt all at once..i spent some time looking in the mirror tonigt and found it almost impossible to smile at the stranger staring back at me. I realized that I really don't know who I am, since I've dropped the old story that used to define me before I married and had kids. Now, though I'm thrilled to be blessed with the titles 'wife' and 'mommy', I have no idea who I am outside that. I also gave up some yucky addictions by God's grace, only to finally realize I've replaced them with junk food. Long story short, I really needed to read this today and I hope I can find your book if I don't win, because I think I really need is insight and direction. God bless you all. -Rebekah

  621. Your Proverbs 31 devotional today brought tears to my eyes because it is exactly where I am at this point in my life. At nearly 47, I realize I don't have dreams and I'm not sure who God made me to be. You hit the nail on the head! I'm really looking forward to reading your book!

  622. Anonymous says:

    This hit a bullseye with me, when you shared your story, I could relate 100%. I feel so inadequate because I really don't know my full purpose, or why He made me the way He did?
    Debbied

  623. Anonymous says:

    Really excited to hear more about this book. Sometimes I think I know what God wants me to do and be, and other times I doubt. Lived reading this blog and I LOVE the encouraging words from Proverbs 31 Ministries!!

  624. Thank you so much for the powerful post. Please sign me up for a chance to win the book!!!

  625. Praise God! I read this same devotional 12-18mths ago & I resonated with the message immediately. At the time I was almost 30 yrs old & had never taken steps to provide myself with the space & opportunity to really get to know the daughter & bride that God see's me as. I was too busy seeing myself & who I should be through everyone else's 'glasses', including my parents, family, friends, church family, work colleagues & others. I'm happy to say that I am now slowly taking off the 'glasses' of others, one by one, & really beginning to see myself as God see's me. It is a slow process, but after 31 years of seeing myself as others see me, rather than as God see's me, I'm finding this whole process of 'becoming' as a truly liberating experience. I'd love to read your book & share it with others. Its awesome to read your devotional again this morning & realise that God has been working in my life so powerfully since I first read your message, & He's slowly stepping me closer to where He wants me to be.

  626. I used to be very tough on myself and expected so much of myself as I compared myself to others until I ended up diagnosed with severe stress, panic disorder, depression and phobias. I longed to be exactly like mom – an overachiever that secretly suffered all my maladies most of her life.

  627. Hi. Just like when you were asked that question, I am right now 32 and have no answer either and it makes me sad. I think my heart needs to go on a journey with God to discover who He created me to be. Thanks.

  628. Anonymous says:

    I would love to hear about Biblical confidence. How do I balance humility and brokenness with confident assurance? Thanks!

  629. Anonymous says:

    This is an excellent topic to write about and I look forward to reading this book.
    Thanks – Colleen G.

  630. Anonymous says:

    Oh Renee, thank you for your words of encouragement. I am thankful that God has given you the gift of helping women like myself. I am riddled with self-doubt. I have a husband who continually reminds me of my faults. Hard as I seem to try I can not get out of my 9 foot shadow of doubt. It sadden me that I could not answer the question you asked either. I have no idea what my dreams are. I am living in the buiyness of life and taking care of other needs that I have not taken the time to take care of my needs. Today that stops. I pray that God will open my mind and heart to His desires, wishes and plans for me. I ask that you pray for me also.

    Denise H.

  631. Anonymous says:

    First i want to thank you for your blog and the encouagement page i just read. It made me think about who am I and what gifts does God want me to have. This week i'm going to ask God to show me who am I and who am I in God. No more trying to be like someone else. God bless Donna

  632. I also have been in a struggle trying to determine what my gifts from God are, I feel like I am just an ordinary woman. I look forward to reading this book and discovering His will for me!

  633. I could definitely use more confidence. People think I am confident but inside I am always saying what if they thing this when I say that or react this way. I like to write about many things, but again always fear someone is going to judge me. Thank you for the helpful devotion and this book looks like it be a wonderful book to hear God speaking to me.

  634. Anonymous says:

    What a blessing to find this post and this blog!! I always felt like so many of these women – frustrated and wondering why I didn't have a big dream for my life. My husband does, my sister does but when my kids ask me what I wanted to be when I grew (or grow!) up, I never have a good answer. It makes me sad but reading this makes me want to delve deeper into His word and gives me hope that I might find out what I want to be when I grow up just yet! Looking forward to reading your book!

  635. It is amazing but I find myself at this place of doubt again.

  636. Comparing myself with others is something I do constantly and it always leaves me feeling defeated. I'm very interested in your book!

  637. I'm sharing your post on facebook as well.

  638. Anonymous says:

    Thank you!!! This is just what I needed to hear this morning! :)What a wonderful reassurance to my heart! I am a volunteer leader in our church's women's ministry and often feel defeated with the lack of involvement by those I am trying to serve. I would love to win your new book and be able to share this info. with a couple of my friends who also need to hear this kind of teaching! ~ Thanks again for reminding me of these truths!~ Sincerely, Carol Danielson

  639. Wow! Just what I needed to hear. Thank you so much. I'm almost 40 and I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up. Your tips are great and I look forward to your book. Hopefully I'll win one!

  640. Anonymous says:

    wow, this has so resonated with me and the struggles I have been dealing with. I pray God continues to bless your ministry. I'm not on facebook or twitter but I will send today's message on to my string of friends & family thru my email list. I look forward to reading your book & sharing it with my bible study group. Thank you, Renee!
    Debbie W.

  641. I compare myself with other women constantly. I need help to quit doing that!

  642. Anonymous says:

    Renee~ thank you so much for your encouragement today. I am going through a time right now where this message truly spoke to me. I am finding myself doubting that where I am serving God is where He wants me. I am so involved in work @ the church but I really do not know who I am to be or what I am to be doing in Gods family. I desire so much to serve him but yet I don't really know who I am or who God has made me to be. I am desiring to read your book for I feel God's drawing me there to help find answers. I know I am His child but I need to know who He has made me to be. Thks for your encouragement & please keep allowing God to work through you for us, His daughters! Bless you! Debbie

  643. I don't think I've ever been that young girl that stopped comparing herself to others. I STILL, at 45 continually wonder what He made me to be and only pray I figure it out before my time is over…

  644. Anonymous says:

    I am an American expat living in Taiwan now for over 4 years. I have just recently started receiving devotionals from P31 and feel like each day something is being said that affects where I am at in my daily life. We live in a very different society here and sometimes feels like it is make believe. I have found a new side of myself but feel like I have lost something as well, my identity. I am not the same person as when I left the US. I know that in the next few years I will be going back there and have no idea how and where I will fit in. I have 3 small children that will all be in school by that time and feel like my life is just getting through our time over here and can't even imagine what my future will be. I look forward to reading your book in hopes it will help me start to figure out and feel more secure as to where my place in the world really is. Thank you for all your wonderful devotions. They are keeping me going.

  645. Anonymous says:

    So true, when I focus on God and less of self and reach out to those around me (women and men) it is almost sad to see their reaction. To hear an encouraging word, a compliment from a stranger, or just shown genuine kindness and care touches a heart that lacks confidence. We are all created as God's masterpiece through Him we get a confident heart to reach others, thank you for writing a book to encourage and show us how. Yanna from Bryan

  646. Thanks Renee, your blog today touched on what I have been working on and praying to God for months now! It really spoke to me!

  647. I have always felt over shadowed by "godly" women and always being someone's mom has left me in limbo. This book sounds like just what I need! Candice

  648. Anonymous says:

    I am so thankful for this reading this morning. I have been wondering what my purpose in life is for a long time and recently been focusing on that even more. I am a 64 yr. old woman and not sure what I'm supposed to do with the rest of my life (however long that may be.) But, I want to do whatever God's purpose is for me!
    I need answers…….Anonymous

  649. Anonymous says:

    I am 30 going on 31…with 3 kids. It is so interesting that I am pushing my older kids to pray and ask God to guide them with the decisions they make and to realize their full potential. Yet I have neglected to do so in my life. Perhaps it is most evident as I have complete 6 years of graduate school for my doctorate and I cannot as yet say what I would like to be…shameful…and what is worse is that I have had a difficult time with 2 professors (another long story) and I will be switching degree concentrations. I believe God opened up the way for me..now I am wondering what he would have me do on this new path…it is scary as it is more time, more money and my family have been through so much, so patient…

  650. I'm sure I'm too late to get in on the give-away, but I wanted you to know that I'm going to share this on my fb & twitter pages anyway. Simply because it is something that is VERY near and dear to my heart! TOO many of us women struggle with this and it's time we realize where that struggle is coming from – THE ENEMY! It's just another way he keeps us down and keeps us from doing what God has called us to do!

    I DEFINITELY want to read this book when it comes out 🙂

  651. Tracey Lyons says:

    I would love to read your book and try to connect myself to true interests and talents that I KNOW are hidden.

  652. Oh My!!! I need to read this book, hoping I win if not I will have to check to see if our local library can get a copy.
    Thank you for remindning me that I am fearfully and wonderfully made! HAVE A BLESSED DAY!
    Charlotte

  653. Anonymous says:

    Thank you for sharing your story. I feel lost right now myself. Not liking who I've become and not knowing who I am supposed to be. Wanting to be liked and being a pleaser has just made me angry, bitter and unable to trust anyone.Reading your story showed me I am not alone. I can still find out who God made me to be. I don't have to give up on myself. even though sometimes I thought God had.

  654. This really rings true for me.. I let self-doubt rule way to often and end up missing many opportunities.

  655. and here I am 65 yrs old and wondering if I am all God wants me to be! I think not! You are never too old to open your heart to the Lord's revealings.

  656. rradiogirl says:

    I'm sharing your blog post on my FB account! 🙂

  657. rradiogirl says:

    How very amazing to have more than halfway to one hundred comments on your blog post within six hours of posting!
    What a blessing you are to so many people, Renee!
    Thank you!

  658. Anonymous says:

    Thank you for your words today. I have been been stuggling with self doubt for so long. I too have wondered what my passions and dreams should be.

    I have come to realize that my true passion is for the Lord himself. I feel that I am a lump of clay longing for the Potter's creative hands, yet day after I am left on the shelf not knowing what I am to become.

  659. I have lived with self-doubt all my life. I know in my head that God made me his masterpiece, but my heart can't accept my imperfections.

  660. Kristin says:

    I think this is one of the biggest struggles women have and truth be told alot of us have never even been asked what do you love to do, we just sift thru all the hats we to wear as a woman. So excited about this book.

  661. Anonymous says:

    I know one person already who I would like to share this with. Thanks, Eva

  662. I loved the "Becoming the Real Me,"
    It's sooooooo encouraging to know that I am not the only one! Sometimes I feel like I must be crazy for not trying to find out who I am, because it often seems that so many other have already. I have felt like I've been "stuck" and unsure, because I am trying to do the "right" things a christian GOOD wife does, when I should be worrying about what God wants me to do, and discover who I am in Him. THANKS! 🙂

  663. I could certainly benefit from this book, as so many of us can. If it's not too late, please enter my name in the drawing.

    Thank you so much for your ministry. The Lord bless & keep you!

    Walking in the Light!!!!
    tina gilbert

  664. What you said really rings home. I wish I had a delete button and that I wouldn't spend so much energy thinking about what other people think of me.

  665. What you said really rings home. I wish I didn't spend so much time thinking about what other people think. I also wish I had a delete button.

  666. Anonymous says:

    This is exactly what God is speaking to me! I'm 59 years old, but it's never too late to come into who He made me to be. THis seems to be a real theme for women of God right now. He has a calling and a place for each one of His daughters. Thank you for the encouragement!
    Rita

  667. Hi, Ugh…you're getting a little too close for comfort there, Missy! I have always felt like a "less-than"…tried to get over it but stumble over certain weaknesses and physical flaws that seem to taunt me.

  668. I'm sharing with some of my friends on f.b…especially my sisters/"sisters"… who struggle…

  669. Anonymous says:

    I long to reconnect and find my completeness through His plan. I find your words encouraging.
    Tami

  670. In the Spirit says:

    I am still praying for the Holy Spirit to show me what God has planned for me and I am 51. If I compare myself at all with others it is with wistfullness that they seemed to somehow know what path they should walk on, and I am still struggling.

  671. Your words hit home with me

  672. We all need this message as we recover from the sin of having to tear someone else down or apart to feel better about our-selves. That's really what we are doing when we compare ourselves to other women! And it hurt so much more when it is going on inside or between women that are wearing the 'mask' of friendship:-( all the while secretly being competitors.

    As we learn to accept God's love inside all of our dark little places and heal then we are able to be radiant reflections of HIS glory.

    I listen to you speak every other day on the P31 radio show that you share with Lysa and I can tell your voices apart especially when I close my eyes! Actually knowing which one of you is about to give the devotional before you announce which of you is speaking.

    I really like the quality of your voice. I don't detect any pretenses. I can tell you have a strong nurturing quality as your voice has a really warm, soft-spoken glow/ beauty!

    And the little hint of a 'Southern Accent' is so endearing! I'm from the south and I have spent too much of my life not being fully comfortable with that but all of you God-loving and authentic ladies with P31 have inspired me to view my southern roots differently.

    And yes, I will also share this post via Face-book and Twitter.

    Jennifer

  673. Anonymous says:

    At the moment I am hurting for my daughter who is battling with the issue of not knowing who she really is – and what God wants of her. I found this article such a help and will be passing it on to her. Thank you. Trish

  674. Loved the statement, "But God created us to complete one another, not compete with each other." No if I could only remember that in the heat of the moment!

  675. Stephanie~Wow that is very though provoking. I tend to compare and then get down on myself.

  676. Allison Hyde says:

    I cannot wait to read this book. More than anything I would love to be able to share it with other women also. This is a message we all need to hear so desperately.

  677. Oh and I shared on fb how awesome I think your book will be!

  678. Sounds like a great book! I can't wait to read it and share it.

  679. I love the way you said "But God created us to complete one another, not compete with each other." Oh how true, but easy to forget. I know how this feels and am slowing working on getting some of my own goals (that are just mine, not my husband's). This book is made for me and a few girls in my youth group that have the ability to grow so much. Fantastic!!

  680. Anonymous says:

    I would LOVE to win a copy of your book A Confident Heart! I would love to share it with my teenage girls. It is so important to realize you are truly God's unique creation and be confident in who you are, especially through the tough teen years (something I still struggle with as an adult). I look forward to reading it when it comes out!

  681. If is very encouraging to be reminded of our own worth when we start to feel worthless. I need to remember that God made me who I am and how I am for a purpose.
    Thank you

    • Amazing things here. I am very satisfied to look your post.
      Thanks so much and I’m looking ahead to contact you.
      Will you please drop me a mail?

  682. This already sounds like a book that will be on my summer reading list! You included my favorite verse – Ephesians 2:10! Can't wait to get the book and get started. Thanks, Renee!

  683. i copied the prayer onto my dektop to pray daily!

  684. Anonymous says:

    This book sounds like a really great book and is one i really would like to own. So many of us need to have that confidence within ourselves and in God which is the only way will make it through life. Your awesome Renee!I shared your post by the way on facebook with my friends.

    God bless you,
    Gloria Castillo

  685. Anonymous says:

    Hello! The video spoke of such hope. So encouraging. Very much needed in these times. It is so hard to trust and surrender our hearts to God. I hope to be able to do this. I know of two others who also are in need of help. God bless you and continue to guide you in your ministry!
    Josie

  686. Anonymous says:

    I am a grandmother of 2 and 65 years old. I would love to share the books with my 2 daughters, so they don't end up like me, wondering what God wants me to do with the rest of my life, when I retire. I have always put myself last, I am a nurse so I even do that at work. Carolann Luersen (Nanacarol to my family)

  687. This ties in with a bible study that I am doing, Captivating by John and Stasi Eldridge. Love it and perfect timing!

  688. Wow, this really hit home with me today. I have been thinking about this a lot lately. Thank you for the post today.

  689. Wow, this is me all over. Something I've been trying to overcome my whole life. Thanks, Renee for the reminder of God's truth.

  690. Anonymous says:

    I was still trying to find my identity which now I can only in Christ. Thank you for the encouragement I am God's desire and unique.

    Rebecca

  691. Anonymous says:

    Sounds excellent Renee! mheard11@frontier.com

  692. Rene, your devotional came at such an opportune time. God's timing could not have been any better. Him timing sees to always be good, or just better. Thank you for the wake up call that I can be confident and for posing that question about our dreams. I realize I do need to take time and ask God, what are His dreams for my life. God is using you in such a powerful way, If it's God will for me to win these 3 copies of the book awesome, I already know who to give them to. If not I will get one for me and pass it along after. THX
    MASI

  693. Hi Rene, Wow! That devotional came at the right time. I had just been sitting at my dinning room table, asking God "when will this all end, I am so tired. Lord what do you want for me?" and literally thinking, what's the point in living right. I know terrible to think that, but I know I am not alone, we all come to a breaking point, it is then that God has our attention. Reading your devo yesterday blew me away, and everything you said in your video was so righ on for me. I would love to win those three copies of your new upcoming book. Thank you, your ministry is helping thousands of women like myself to see life and ourselves through the eyes of a MERCIFUL SAVIOR and CREATOR.
    Blessings MASI

  694. I was so blessed with this devotional. I have been using every tool God has placed in my path to healing and restoring what the locust have eaten. Sometimes defeated, I say Lord when will this end, I just want to go be with you. But God it not finished with me yet, and the consolation of yourdevotional was ever so comforting to realize that I just need to ask Him what His dreams for my life are. going on 39…and I still don't know what I wanna be,but HE does!
    Blessings MASI

  695. I was so blessed with this devotional. I have been using every tool God has placed in my path to healing and restoring what the locust have eaten. Sometimes defeated, I say Lord when will this end, I just want to go be with you. But God it not finished with me yet, and the consolation of yourdevotional was ever so comforting to realize that I just need to ask Him what His dreams for my life are. going on 39…and I still don't know what I wanna be,but HE does!
    Blessings MASI