Letting God Fill the Empty Places in My Heart

I have a give-away and a specialwelcome” for new friends hopping over from my Proverbs 31 Ministries devotion. I hope you’ll make yourself comfortable and stay a while. Before we get started, I wanted to show you my book cover!! I can’t believe the cover is in catalogs and the book will be on shelves July 2011! All I can say is wow God.

 

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In my devotion today, I wrote about our longing to be chosen. From the time I can remember, I wanted someone to choose me. To value me. To want me. Someone other than my parents, that is.

Do you remember the first time you wanted someone to choose you? Maybe it was a game on the playground, a position on a team or an invite to a party.

Wanting to be chosen plays into our question of whether we’re good enough to be chosen, doesn’t it? But, when someone says or does something that makes us feel good enough, it fills an empty place in our hearts where the longing was before.

Then they change their mind or hurt our feelings, and our filled-up place leaks. Our good enough drains out and our confidence goes with it. A sense of inadequacy leaves us feeling empty again.

There are several things that have happened to make me feel like I wasn’t good enough. I recently started sharing a part of my story that I hadn’t shared before, and I’ve discovered almost every woman can relate. I don’t have the whole message available today, but I have a 2min video segment that I’d like to share with you.

Note: The first 20 sec are photos/titles because we use this for event promotions, but it’s pretty quick. Just click the arrow to watch, and then scroll down to read the rest of my post. But be sure to watch this first, or it won’t make sense.



More than anything, I just want you to know I understand. I have felt the cavernous emptiness that comes with painful rejection from someone you love.
It’s hard to believe I can smile about it now, and share lessons I’ve learned. When it happened, I was devastated. Crushed. Wounded. Convinced I’d never be good enough.

I remember going to my pastor, asking him to help me process the pain and excruciating sadness. I wanted him to tell me how awful my fiancé was and how I had the right to feel betrayed and deceived. I’ll never forget him saying, “Renee, you can’t put your hope in a man; you can only put your hope in God. A man’s love will always disappoint you.”

Honestly, I wanted to throw something at him. I didn’t want him to correct me; I wanted him to side with me. How can you love someone and not put your hope in them? I questioned.

Deep down, though, I knew he was right. I’d always put my hope in a man’s love and been disappointed. I’d tried to find my good enough in what others thought about me and now I had to face my fear of not being chosen.

I needed to separate myself and my worth from a man’s decision to want me or not. I had to hold his words and preferences up to God’s Word and cling to the promise that He chose me and would never reject me. In time, healing came. As I recovered from being unwanted by a man, I embraced the fullness that comes in knowing I am completely accepted by God. I learned how to let Him fill the empty places in my heart and help me find my good enough in Him.

God gave us the deep desire to be chosen, loved and accepted so He could fill and fulfill that desire. He chooses us. He loves us. And through Christ, He accepts us. If we didn’t long for love and acceptance, we’d never recognize our need for His.

“But the eyes of the Lord are on those who fear Him, on those whose hope is in His unfailing love.” Psalm 33:18
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A Confident Heart Gift Pack
Today, I’m giving away the complete 45minute DVD message that my 2min video clip was taken from so you can hear the whole story, along with my message Letting God Fill the Empty Places in Your Heart on CD, a gift certificate for a signed copy of A Confident Heart (coming July 2011), and a Starbucks gift card! Here’s how you can enter to win:

 

1) Send this post or a link (with God’s promises below) to someone who might need to know just how much God loves them.

2) Tell a friend (via email, twitter or Facebook) about today’s give-away and how they can enter to win here.

3) Share today’s devotion,You’re the One I Want with someone who needs to be reminded that God sees them and chooses them again and again!

4) Click the word “comments” at the bottom of this post, to tell me which one, two or three you did. Each time you share the love, you’ll be entered to win! For another chance, let me know if and how God spoke to your heart through today’s messages.

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Confident Heart Promises
In my book, A Confident Heart, I share how I found lasting soul-security by learning to live in the power of God’s promises. Here are a few I copied from chapter 6 to share with you and for you to share with those you love:


When I feel unimportant, God says: I am CHOSEN.
“You are my witness,” declares the LORD, “and my servant whom I have chosen, so that you may know and believe me and understand that I am He.” Is 43:10

When I feel worthless, God says: I am LOVED.
“You are precious and honored in my sight, and I love you.” Is 43:4

When I feel forgotten, God says: I am REMEMBERED.
“See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands.” Is 49:16

When I feel abandoned, God says: I am NEVER ALONE.
But as for me, the nearness of God is my good; I have made the Lord GOD my refuge… Ps 73:28

When I feel inadequate, God says: I am SECURE.
“Let the beloved of the LORD rest secure in him for he shields him all day long, and the one the LORD loves rests between his shoulders.” Deut 33:12

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About Renee

Renee Swope is a Word-lover, story-teller, heart-encourager and grace-needer. She's also a wife, mom, friend, daughter and author of A Confident Heart, a Retailers Choice Award winning book that became a best-seller and has been published in six languages, with over 150,000 copies sold. Renee is speaks around the country at women's events and and serves on the writing team for DaySpring’s inCourage blog. For twenty years, Renee served in leadership at Proverbs 31 Ministries and as former co-host of the ministry's radio program, “Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee.

Comments

  1. not sure this counts, but i posted the devotion to my facebook page. it is really awesome! thanks for sharing, i needed to hear this! : )

  2. Hi i thank you for the encouragement i open my heart today for Him to fill the empty places

    i have send it to two people via e-mail

    God bless you

  3. Well, I posted this to 332 of my facebook friends. It really spoke to me. And I told them all about the contest too. It took some time, but I'm sure it will speak to someone else as well. Thanks for the words of encouragement! I knew God had something for me the 4:00 am.

  4. God woke me at 5am. He has missed the time I was spending in His word. What a treasure today's message…I shared with with my mentor Julie. I tell my teen daughter God fills the empty spaces…it is good for me to hear the same for me.
    blessings
    Kay

  5. God woke me at 5am. He has missed the time I was spending in His word. What a treasure today's message…I share with with my mentor Julie. I tell my teen daughter God fills the empty spaces…it is good for me to hear the same for me.
    blessings
    Kay

  6. Kendra Cameron-Jarvis says:

    I friended you on Facebook and I emailed your devotion to my friend. Thanks for sharing! I think many women feel the same way you did-perhaps we all do at one point in our lives.
    Visit me at A Busy Woman's Life http://www.abusywomanslife.com

  7. God is a good God faithful and true to His word
    i believe from to today that He fills that empty place in my heart.
    The hurt and disappointments and take me back to our quiet time alone

    have blessed season filled with His great love for us
    Thank you so much you have touched me and give me hope again

    God Bless

  8. Amazing is all I can say. I sent the devotional to my daughter and my niece. I cried because the words written was what I needed to read! I read it out loud because I needed to hear them. The last two years have been what I call a place from a place. Being unemployed for those last two years have brought me to a place of feeling unwanted, unneeded, unappreciated, useless, worthless, guilt, ashamed, and depressed. I have revisited places in my life that had caused much pain the death of my 11years old son, the stupid and crazy mistakes I've maded in life, and other areas of weaknesses. Telling myself i desreve to be be where i am! To read your devotional has lift my heart to know that Yes, Jesus Loves Me!!! In spite of what the enemy is trying to do I can trust in God's love.

  9. Margo I sent this to some of my friends. This touched me so much a tear was running down my cheek as I read it. Thank you.

  10. Renee,

    Thank you so much for this wonderful uplifting piece.It came at the perfect time for my feeling of an unchosen heart. God always amazes me with his timing, when I feel so low. I sent this to 3 friends via e-mail, who I am certain it will uplift and encourage.

    God Bless you…

  11. I am always amazed to find how many other women deal with the feeling of insecurity and self-esteem. Sometimes I feel I am out there alone. Thank you for reminding me that I am created the image of God, how cool is that? I have the spirit of the creator of the universe living in me, awesome! Thank you for reminding me.

  12. I shared today's devotion with both my daughter and daughter-in-law. They are both amazing but over-worked moms who don't hear how great they are nearly often enough.

  13. Hey Renee,
    I'm in. Such a great word. I shared this link with a friend of mine who's really needing some encouragement today.
    Paula G.

  14. joannalogan1@juno.com says:

    What a wonderful message to share! For all of my teen years, I based my opinion of myself largely on what the guys thought of me. Heartbreak after heartbreak finally led me to the One who will never leave me or disappoint me. This is now a message that I wish every teen girl would hear and grasp.

    I have forwarded this e-mail version of this post to a few close friends and posted a link to the blog on Facebook.

    Thank you for sharing your testimony!

  15. Your message today was what my sould needed. At 42 I have finally found a man that will never leave or forsake his name is Jesus. My biological father left me, I saw him once at seven, and held his hand when he died at forty. I wasted so many years of not knowing this man because of anger and guilt. Due to being left I always look for someone to fill a fathers shoes. Someone to step up and take care of me. Someone to want this outspoken, athletic, fun-loving, lady. A man I call dad now adopted me however, that daddy daughter relationship never formed. He provides for finanacial needs but emotional not so much. Then I latched on to every guy I ever dated trying to fill that void. What a mess. I married a man I love him dearly, but you guessed it he could not fill the void. I have two wonderful boys and they too could not fill the void. The only one was Jesus. It took hardship after hardship…whys…what is wrong with me….why am I not able to be loved like everyone else then the best gift of all Jesus. I am not able to tell you the exact date or time frame but since I realized He is the only Man who truly loves me for me, life has been amazing. Thanks for your words today I needed them. I cannot wait to read your book because as we know Satan comes to steal, kill, and destroy. I will need your book to put him back into his place under the rock of my Lord and Savior. Merry Christmas,Daphne

  16. Thank you for today's devotion! Your words are awesome and inspirational. I posred the link to the devotion on Facebook; so many people can benefit from this especialy around this time of the year.

    Thank you!!!
    Tonya

  17. I am forwarding the devotion to friends. mheard11@frontier.com

  18. Renee,
    Can't wait to read your book. I have forwarded the links to your devotion, posted it on my facebook and sent out tweets. Hope it blesses others. Proverbs 31 Minitries has been such a blessing in my life over the last year or so and I cannot speak enough praise as to how all the ladies have ministered to me through their personal journey's toward wholeness.
    Christmas Blessings.
    Juli

  19. Today I sent this to my sister in law. She just accepted the lord this past Sunday. We went to church together for the first time at her suggestion. She has been searching for a long time and I finally said, "you need god". That is all I said because Ididn't want to push. that was enough and now she is beginning a new wonderful life filled with god

  20. Marianne S says:

    I am emailing this to friends. It's so important to hear this – especially during the holidays. Thanks again!

  21. Thank you Renee—I feel Jesus led me here—I emailed your devotion to three friends who are praying for me at this time—-I am feeling rejected by my husband of 39 years who walked away—I know Jesus is holding me up but there are times I feel alone–Thank you for your blog–God Bless Alberta Griffith

  22. I have a group of women that are prayer warriors at my church and I sent it to myself first to be able to forward it on my email, and then all the other friends, (too many to count) so the word has been spread. Praise God! A lot of women will hear your word today!
    The Lord is going to Show Out today!

  23. Oh Renee this is beautiful! You are so precious…love you so much!

  24. I could hardly finish this post but I had to comment…LOOK AT YOUR BOOK COVER! Congratulations, girl. It's been a long time comin' – she is lovely 🙂

  25. Seeing your book cover brings tears to my eyes!!! I loved your devo and I love your testimony. I love you!!
    I'm sharing this on Facebook.

  26. Hi,
    I sent the devotion to several friends. I hope it will encourage them as it has me. I have been longing to feel like I belong – anywhere. This really speaks to me today!
    Thank you!

  27. I sent today's devotion to a friend I don't see very often. It's good to know that God is there and wants her when I wish I were there with her as well.

  28. Thank you for these words of encouragement! I have shared this post with my Facebook friends!

  29. I posted a link to the devotion to my facebook page. i also shared the devotion with a friend via e-mail.

    This devotion went along perfectly with what God is doing in my life right now. I am reading Micca Campbell's book and the Lord is really speaking to me about trusting Him. Thank you for your sharing and encouragement.

  30. I sent the link to your blog to my neice in Pa. And today's devotion to my sister here in Fl. I rarely win anything, but I'm hopeful!
    I can relate totalyy to your devotion today
    Darlene Mullet

  31. Wow! Thank you so much for sharing today! I needed to hear this, as I struggle with my own perfectionism and need the reminder that it's not about *me*, but it's all about HIM.

    Not only that, but my 13yo daughter is really struggling with her confidence in Christ. She is so aware of her own spiritual shortcomings, that it is overwhelming to her sometimes. I have shared your devotional with her.

    I have done all 3 things – I have linked a friend to the giveaway, sent the devotional to my daughter, and also emailed your post and the promises to a friend!

    Thank you!

  32. I emailed this devotion to several ladies I know. What a great reminder that God chose me! Thank you so much for this lesson.

  33. Thank you so much for the devotion today as well as the choosing His Presence one…I have sent both of them to several people and printed the Presence one out for me to read each day during the holidays! Grateful for the devotions…there is a very broken girl staying with us at the moment..praying she will read the one I sent her.

  34. I sent today's devotion to friends via email on facebook. I also left a comment on the P31 blog. This devotion was such a blessing to me…as I indicated on P31, I am encouraged as I draw nearer to God but this has led to interpersonal struggles. Your devotional was a great encouragement. Thank you!

  35. Thank you. This is a message I have needed all my life. I have been rejected by men most of my life starting with my father and lastly by my husband. How I need God to fill the empty places. I need to know there is man that will never reject me or change his mind.

    Dot

  36. I will share this with my teenage daughter. She often feels rejected at this stage in her life. I want her to know God chose her. He will never change His mind.

    Dora

  37. This really hit home for me. Thank you. I have been placing too much importance on what others think of me and not rejoicing with the One who has chosen me for all eternity! Thanks again.

    I posted this to my Facebook wall, forwarded the link to my sister and sent the email to my daughter. Everyone needs the reminder of God's love! 🙂

  38. Stacy Sims says:

    I have been struggling recently and praying for God to give me confidence in who I am in Him and who He has created me to be! Several times a week I read the daily devotion but decided to read your blog for the first time. I was encouraged to see you have a new book coming out A Confident Heart (just for me)! I look forward to reading it.
    1) I sent a link to your blog post to my bible study girls!
    2) I posted on facebook the giveaway and a link to Proverbs 31 ministries.
    3) I sent a link of todays daily devotion to my bible study girls, my sisters and mom!
    Thank you! I am sure they will be as encouraged as I am!

  39. Thank you for your encouragement. I am sharing this with my sister & my friend. Thank you!

  40. This is just what I've been needing to hear, thank you so much for sharing your heart! I came from the Proverbs 31 devotional site, really enjoyed your devotional, too. I shared this post and giveaway on my Facebook wall! And I am so preordering your book as soon as I can!

    Lindsey
    kindredspiritreviews at gmail dot com

  41. I also sent the devotional to my sister via email. 🙂

    Lindsey

  42. Thank you so much for today's devotion. I forwarded it to several of my friends this morning, posted it on facebook and even printed the promises. It really was what I needed to hear this morning. I am always amazed at how God does this. When I have a question or thought in my head or am feeling down, God always reveals His answers and gives me encouragement. Today He used your message to be my encouragement. I look forward to reading your book in July.

  43. The words you wrote always seem to be a personal message for me. God Is Good and I know he is working thru you. Thanks, THANKS,
    Yvonne

  44. I'm sharing your post in a variety of ways today. I'm emailing it to a group of women I count among my "prayer warrior" friends. I am also having lunch with friends today and will share it with them too. Thanks for always sending a blessing my way!

  45. Thank you, Renee, for reminding me that God loves me just as I am. A year or so ago, I had a man tell me after 4 years of dating that he could not marry me. It was because I was "gaining weight", and my children were still in my home with me. But now I have found a great Christian man who loves me just as I am and loves my kids, too! I am forwarding your devotion to several of my friends today to share God's love with them! Merry Christmas! God Bless!

  46. Renee:
    I will be sharing this with my entire email contact list. I have so many lonely and hurting friends this Christmas. Your message is relevant, timely and much needed.
    Thank you,

  47. Emily B (emleepc@yahoo.com) says:

    I email the devotions daily during the workweek to family and friends, and today is no exception. Someone is always blessed with the words of the P31 sisters.

  48. Emily B (emleepc@yahoo.com) says:

    I friended you on FB too!

  49. A friend sent this to me, and I truly needed it. It is amazing how God speaks to us. I look forward to receiving emails from proverbs 31 ministries!! I sent it to my mother in law, friend and sisters. Thank you again!! :)LAM FAM LOVE
    Have a blessed Wednesday.

  50. A friend sent this to me, and I truly needed it. It is amazing how God speaks to us. I look forward to receiving emails from proverbs 31 ministries!! I sent it to my mother in law, friend and sisters. Thank you again!! :)LAM FAM LOVE
    Have a blessed Wednesday.

  51. Thank you so much for today's message. Just what I needed. I've been struggling with being overwhelmed this season and it's manifesting itself in being overbearing with my family and when they don't respond the way I like, a feeling of rejection and being unloved by them. Just this morning after waking up still exhausted and having a heated discussion with my husband, it was decided that I should stay in bed and let my husband get them ready for school. Instead of relishing a couple more minutes of much needed rest, I lay there waiting for the roof to cave in and for my family to miss me and NEED me. This didn't happen. Everyone got out of the house fully clothed and hair combed, etc, without the usualy bickering and nagging. Quite an eye-opener for me and left me feeling empty, until I read your devotion and realized that I'm seeking love and approval from my family and expecting them to show it on my terms, instead of seeking that love from God and allowing him to work on the areas in my life that need changing so that I can inturn show that love to my family in a more appropriate way.

    Thank you for your words of encouragement. God Bless.

  52. Thanks so much for your devotion today.. God is the only one who can fill those empty spaces of my heart. so thank you for that reminder. I need to hear that today.

  53. Thank you! This spoke to my heart at the very moment I needed it.

  54. I shared these promises with each of my teachers in our Children's Ministry this morning. I thought it would be a great Christmas gift.

  55. Sara Rogers says:

    After spending several years in the dark, the Lord has graciously called me back to Him. I'm slowly working on rebuilding the relationship that we used to have. Your post couldn't have come at a better time!

  56. this was great! and just what i needed. i was going really good about not worrying with gifts and things but today i woke up very early for some reason and all i could think about was what i still needed to do or get and i that peace i had was gone. after erading this the encouragement it gave me was nice. gave me that feeling of peace back 🙂

  57. Your word today God really used YOU. I am sole caregiver for a elder parent who suffered a stroke. Her body is fine her mind affected moderatly an has worsened. She is hostile,beligerant ect. However reconize the enemy is using her to assualt me. God is at work in my life as never before. He is showing me no matter what to believe him,his word and stand not to look to left or right . Set my eyes upon the Master of the Sea and "If God be with me WHO can be against me".thank you, Cindi Herring

  58. I love this devotion! I remember feeling like I needed someone to be accepted but I only needed one, Jesus!!! He's all we need. I forwarded this to friend on Facebook whose son just got home from over seas after almost 3 years and she will have to send him back soon when they find out where he will be his next place to be. He is in the Air force. But she will need all the encouragement she can get. Hopefully this will help.

  59. I posted this to my facebook page. A gift from God to show me what my heart has really been needing and wanting.

  60. The moment I read the devotion through I forwarded it to a dear friend with the subject line reading "OH WOW."

    I then followed your blog link and as I read that I copied and pasted it to an email I sent my mom with a note – a good lesson for us both.

    I love how God speaks to us when we need it most. I was just telling a friend this morning that my marital problems are consuming me and instead of running to God for comfort I am pulling away from HIM. Your devotion hit the nail on the head. I felt like it was written just for me. And such a powerful lesson in your blog – from your pastor. “Renee, you can’t put your hope in a man; you can only put your hope in God. A man’s love will always disappoint you.”
    Thank you for letting me see Jesus through you today.

  61. I shared this with some of my other single girlfriends!

  62. God always seems to bring to my mind someone I can send devotions and encouragement to… inevitably, the message is very appropriate to one special person in my life. So while I choose to send the email, it's God who chooses to bring to my mind a particular person. I shared your devotion and webpage with just that one chosen person today, and if I win please give the gift to that other person in your mind that God has chosen to pass the gift on to!!!! I would rather have the God-chosen person receiving the gift!

  63. I posted on FB. Can't wait to see your book!

  64. Hi I emailed you devotion to my women friends and let them know how they can enter this contest. Thanks for the chance to win!

  65. Hi Renee!

    I did all 3! God has been speaking to my heart about my self esteem in Him – that everything He creates in good. Your devotion today has added another building block to this promise. Thank you 🙂

  66. Renee:
    I needed this TODAY! I've been struggling with not "being enough", with not being lovable, with being alone – especially during the holiday season… my husband of over 7 years left me 3 yrs ago, and there's been nothing but "desert" since. Throughout my entire life, I've always been chosen over, and this episode just seems to be more confirmation of that. I KNOW in my heart that the Lord loves me, but the loneliness can be rather stifling at times – I have trouble fighting back the tears. I pray and pray, and talk with God, but there seems to be no peace, no encouragement from Him… I don't know why I feel so lost… I'm hoping that someday my heart won't hurt so much – that it won't feel so empty and broken…
    ~ Ann in Seattle

  67. I so needed to read this today. I have been struggling with feelings of being unwanted and not being good enough. Thank you for the words of encouragement.

  68. Hi, Today of all days, this meant so much to me. Growing up rejection was a daily thing for me at school, home, and even our in-frequent church visits. Still looking for love and acceptance I somehow managed to never get into drugs and didn't go to very many parties to drink and find acceptance. After college I did get married to a great guy and we have two wonderful kids, but surprise, they are not perfect and could not fill the void for me. I accepted the Lord as a child but up until 6 or 7 years ago, after the few "friends" I did have said they did not want to be friends anymore said goodbye. I was filled with the Holy Spirit and have been searching for Gods love and acceptance, just recently I have found that I have always had Gods Love, Peace, and Mercy in me all the time, but now I am realizing that it is also FOR ME too!!!!! I just have to take it. I don't have to feel rejected and not worthy and unloved anymore because HE IS ALIVE AND WELL IN MY HEART, and HE LOVES ME!!!! He has put things in my heart that I want to do and I know that until I have this knowledge in head I will not see my desires come to pass, because he does not want me to find my self worth in what I do.

    God Bless you and yours,
    Merry Christmas
    No more why's
    No more when's

  69. I forgot to say that I fulfilled all of the requirements, 1 2 and 3 please enter my name. Thanks

  70. I emailed God's promises to 3 friends and I e-mailed your devotion to 4 different friends. I guess we all go through times when we feel like we are not good enough. Thanks for the beautiful devotion that reminds us that we are chosen by God and thats what matters.

  71. Angela Hobbs says:

    Hi Renee,
    Your message echoes an identical conversation I had with a friend last Christmas Eve. My fiance had just left me weeks beforehand and as I poured out my heart about the hurtful things he had shared my friend simply said 'Ang, hope can only be found in God. Nothing else.' We kept talking and within that conversation my friend said the same simple words over & over again. It really was a healing balm for my soul that night, a perfect reminder at the perfect time. God's presence has been the strength that forged me forward throughout the year gone by and it was the simple message of hope in God alone that started the true healing.
    Before reading your blog last night (I'm in Australia not the US!) I had already forwarded your devotion onto a friend over in the UK – thankyou for sharing such precious words with women all around the world!
    Merry Christmas!
    Ang Hobbs – Sydney, Australia!!

  72. Renee, what a blessing your message was today. I remember too well those times when I have felt lost and abandoned. My husband is such a Godly man that I gain warmth and self esteem through his ministry to me. But even he cannot fill those empty places left for God alone. I am so warmed by the presence of the Almighty God of Israel in my life.

    I shared your blog with a dear friend who has struggled mightily with feeling alone and forsaken. I pray this will help her to heal. I also shared it with my daughter who is trying to find her place with the Lord. I know she will find it in His arms.

  73. I sent the link to 10 of my friends.

    I cannot believe God's timing. Seriously. I am so very much right in the thick of needing the reminder that God picks me every time and that my worth and value come from Him alone. Not from my husband or my friends or my things or my abilities or my family or . . . Thank you for the reminding.

  74. I shared the devotional via email.

  75. This is something I've struggled with all my life. I feel God has been speaking to me about this. It's just taking a little bit of time for healing to come.

  76. Thanks for your always encouraging words. We all need to be reminded that being chosen by Him is what matters most!

  77. I shared this post with my friend Wendy who has been struggling lately. She is single at 33, has a strong desire to find a loving husband and start a family of her own. Nothing has seemed to work out yet. This message was just what she needed to hear! Thanks so much!

  78. I am a survivor of sexual abuse. My abuse started around the age of 3 and lasted until I was 8 years old. I have grown up feeling like there was an emptiness in my heart/life. I never felt whole or loved and tried filling that void in many unhealthy ways. It was only until I found God and His love that I realized He was all I needed to fill that void. I have healed and it's all because of God's love and grace. Your message is awesome and I can not wait to read your book. I know many ladies who are also survivors that would be interested as well. I am thankful to God for blessing you with the gift of writing and compassion. Love your posts!

  79. I have sent your post to a close friend. Can't wait to read the book.
    mlrevord@sbcglobal.net

  80. I love the devotional! As I read, I thought to myself how could someone else feel the same as me. Thank you for sharing and encouraging. You have been a blessing today.

  81. Good evening. I shared all 3 ways with friends. I look forward to sharing with more friends from my desktop.

  82. I love the devotional! As I read, I thought to myself how could someone else feel the same as me. Thank you for sharing and encouraging. You have been a blessing today.

  83. I don't have facebook but I shared the Proverbs devotional, your blog and scriptures especially with a friend who has a daughter seeing her self-worth through her boyfriend's eyes (very timely post)and encouraged her to enter the giveaway, and shared the devo and scriptures with a sister who desperately needs to know that God loves her.

    Thank you for the reminder that we need to always look to God to fill the empty places in our heart and not look to others or things to complete us.

    Merry CHRISTmas,
    Donna

  84. Sharing with a friend!!!

  85. Thank you I am going to print part of your devotion and give it to my children in their stocking on some nice pretty glittery paper for them to keep in their Bibles. I will have it too, it was what I needed to "put my boots" on today and keep going!
    oh have shared via email.
    Blessings,
    kareng

  86. I like to give this to my daughter its something she is struggling through right now .

  87. Renee,

    We share such similiar life stories and trials and your words of encouragement help me more than you know. I feel like I am reading about myself many times in the "Journey of My Heart". I needed to hear today's message and will share it with my teenager as well. Jesus shines through you. Thank you for allowing Him to use you for the good to weary souls. Please pray for my marriage. My husband walked out on the kids and I twice this years after 20 years of marriage. I am very weary, feeling alone with no family near and missing my deceased grandmother terribly. Your Confident Heart Promises were right on time. I covet your prayers. I have shared this with 3 times. Thank you, again from my heart.

    In His Grip,
    Anonymous

  88. There's some family members that I allow to do this to me over and over again. This really hit home for me – thank you for the encouragement.

  89. I just LOVE the cover design of your new book. It's absolutely beautiful…just like you!!!
    Love ya,
    Leah

  90. Thanks for sharing, I loved being reminded. Milissa Jenkins

  91. Thanks for sharing, I loved being reminded. Milissa Jenkins

  92. gritsgirl721 says:

    I am posting on this blog for the first time from the prov. 31 ministries devotion. I have just been encouraging my friend whom a man she had just begun dating decided he would give the ex-fiance from two years ago another try when she called him. My friend was very hurt and disappointed. You are SO right, Jesus is our True Prince!
    I sent the prov. 31 devotion to 6 people and included how to come here to your blog and sign up for a chance to win this package.
    Merry Christmas,
    Amanda
    Olive Branch, MS

  93. This devotional spoke to the deep longing in my heart that seems to always be there, crying out to "be chosen", to be cherished, to be valued, to be loved.

    I forwarded your devotion to almost 100 girlfriends and have received some really great responses of gratefulness from some of them.

  94. Thank you. I forwarded this on to a 16 year old girl I am caregive of who needs to hear this message. She is always trying to fit in and she struggles so hard with finding acceptance in others. Thank you for the chance to win.

    koinonia572001@yahoo.com

  95. God really used you to speak to me through this message. I can relate very well when it comes to being disappointed, hurt, and feeling rejected by man. My Father loves me! He is healing me and filling all of the places in my heart to make me whole again. Thanks! By the way, I emailed several family and friends regarding God's promises and your devotional as well as sharing about your giveaway on Facebook.

  96. I shared about this giveaway on Twitter. Here is the tweet: http://twitter.com/#!/LongWait4Bella/statuses/15587135419580416

  97. I sent this email to a few friends of mine.

    This devotion is so good and it reminded me that I am His.

    Sweet blessings

    Sheena

  98. I really need this book. Thanks for praying for me.

  99. Wow, this was the word I needed today- and I shared it on Facebook so everyone I know can read it as well!

  100. I have posted this to my Facebook page to all of my 384 friends. 2010 was a year that I spent struggling with these issues. I am finally coming to see that my hope has to be in God alone because humans will fail. It is not an easy concept to accept and work through. It is painful and I have lost trust in so many people whom I once believed in. It has been an overwhelming journey for me this year but I am embracing it and seeking God's guidance and praying for holy discernment. Looking forward to your book. Sound like something that can help me as I journey on.

  101. Thank you for this message. As one who's never had the sports talents, or "the looks", or ultra-intelligent, I was never one of the first ones picked for any of the "reindeer games." Being the last one picked nor being picked at all is hard on one's heart, isn't it? I sent this out to wives whose husbands haven't been there for them, I put this out 2x on facebook. It's touched my heart today and I know it will touch others. Blessings on your sharing this pain and and your heart; mostly, thank you for sharing your Hope in Christ Who loves unconditionally!

  102. Hi Renee,

    I'm sharing this on my Facebook page. I think it's something that a lot of us deal with…letting God fill the empty places and not everything/everyone else. I can't wait to get the book and have already put a request in at our local library for them to bring it in.

    Thank you and I may you and your family have a blessed Christmas!

  103. This sounds like a tremendous book. I needed this kind of book a few years ago, when my marriage exploded. I *knew* that I needed to turn to God. But I would have loved a book that said it clearly. The book that the minister handed me told me to submit to my husband regardless of what he had done. Looking forward to your book. Emailed this link to a couple friends who need to read it too.

  104. I loved the short clip!! I posted it on FB to share!! Love it!

  105. Thank you for the encouraging words and the pick me-up!Thanks for sharing!I have share all three and emailed to several friends.

  106. I did all of the above!!

    Reading this is such a blessing of affirmation! Thank you!!!

  107. I sent the post to a couple friends, I shared on facebook, and I also sent todays devotion to a few ladies in my Sunday School class

  108. Thank you for this word! Spoke directly to my heart. I'm struggling with the whole…"when is someone going to pick me" issue. God keeps telling me He is enough and has already picked me. Your message confirmed what God has been telling me.
    I'll be sharing this with my co-workers at lunch today.

  109. Auch a wondeful reminder that out trust and hope must be in God and not man. Thank you. I sent it to my daughter.

  110. The past two days have been filled with gift buying for teachers and co-workers, parties for kids classes, a friend coming in town and another brunch/Christmas party today for our P31 staff/volunteers. But in the midst of it all, I have been stopping by my blog reading your stories and praying through your comments – for you and those you have shared this with.

    This post was one I wrote in the midnight and wee morning hours. And it took quite some time because there was so much I wanted to say but couldn't say it all. I kept praying and tweaking and writing. I finally pressed "post" at 3AM. So, when I read some of your notes about the timing and the words being so much what you needed to hear that day, I could have cried. Partly hormones, partly exhaustion but mostly because Jesus spoke to your heart through these humble hands that simply type what I hear in my heart for you. I am so blessed and encourage to be part of your life. Please pray God will keep giving me words you need to hear from HIM, words that speak His grace, truth and love into your life.

    Love and Christmas blessings,
    Renee

    PS. See you Monday. I've got a great God=story to share and some fun jewelry to give=away!

  111. I shared this devotion all 3 ways! So excited to be entered in this amazing giveaway! 🙂 Blessings!

  112. Wow, what a devotion and message! I've struggled with rejection since I was a teen and being almost 31 it's not gotten much easier. I'm thankful to have a patient, loving husband-one God placed in my life. However, I know it's unfair for me to expect my husband to fulfill this need I have to feel worthy, loved and CHOSEN. Your words, Renee, spoke deep within my heart. Only God can fill my empty spaces. I love the verses you gave us at the end of your post. I will look at those often.

    ~Amy V.

  113. I really would love this I want to get everything I can to get thru this depression…

  114. I am SOOOOOOOOO excited to see the cover of your book! 🙂 Oh, friend! How precious it must be for YOU to see it! To see a glimpse of the finished project!

    Rejoicing and looking forward to reading it!!!!!!

  115. rose mortimer says:

    i shared this with my daughter who also shares alot with me. i needed this at this time for i take care of my two granchildren and one who is really a sickly child with his heart and kidney. i don't feel worthy of taking care of him sometimes but with your encouragement i see that if God wanted him someplace else He would have placed him somewhere else. thank you so much.

  116. Congratulations on your book! The cover looks great. Even more, the subject sounds intriguing and needed!

    Thank you for this devotion. I love what you said at the bottom of this post here:

    "God gave us the deep desire to be chosen, loved and accepted so He could fill and fulfill that desire. He chooses us. He loves us. And through Christ, He accepts us. If we didn't long for love and acceptance, we'd never recognize our need for His."

    This realization gives reason to our wanting and supports the One True Way to fulfill that want.

    I love the verses you shared along with the promises from your book. I love using verses to support ANYthing!

    Thanks for this gift opportunity. I also tweeted about this post: http://twitter.com/Keep_Tha_Faith/status/16029952809893888

  117. Renee…I am SO EXCITED about this book. I posted it on Facebook to let everyone know about it. For years I have struggled with a prohibitive conscience and I ALWAYS second guess myself and the impression I made on others…thinking I might have done or said something wrong when I know I didn't. It makes me feel so insecure…and I CANNOT wait to read about having a confident heart!! I really need one!! Thanks and i can't wait to read the book!!
    Buffi

  118. I sent this to 30 of my friends and family and shared it on facebook!

    ~Michelle
    shellbean27407 at yahoo

  119. I am your friend on Facebook now!! Yeah

  120. I was so encouraged by your devotional today that I shared it with my 3 sisters! What a blessing! God bless you!

  121. each time i used to read smaller content that as well clear their
    motive, and that is also happening with this post which I am reading at this
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