I am sitting in my bed with my laptop and I am so stinkin’ tired it’s not even funny. JJ looks at me and smiles. Why don’t you just go to sleep? he asks. I explain that I need to touch base with my bloggy friends and let them know how my lunch went on Friday and how we’re all encouraging each other to reach out and then share what happens. He smiles and turns on the basketball game.
So much happened the past few days. (If you want to know more click here.) Life has been quite the whirlwind, but in the midst of it all, I enjoyed a little oasis of simplicity with my girlfriends Bev and Sharon. They are the two that came over for lunch on Friday.
I wanted to serve something special but I was running out of time. I got consumed Thursday by work and house stuff. By Friday morning I still hadn’t confirmed our time, place or menu. I called Sharon to get her suggestions. She gently encouraged me to keep it simple. “Who cares what we eat? It’s being together that matters.”
Then I called Bev to let her know we’d decided on noon and I was getting croissants and chicken salad if that was ok with her. I could tell by her tone that she loves that combo just as much as I do. She even told me where to get some great chicken salad with grapes and walnuts – Lowes Foods – oh so yummy!
I had also called my friend Jen earlier that morning between carpool and helping in the school store that morning. We’d decided to go for a walk so I could show her the home we were hoping to buy. She came by at 1oam. We walked the few blocks between my current home and new home, peeked into all the windows, and then walked back to my house while talking about different things going on in our lives. We only had an hour together but it was another oasis of simplicity at the end of a chaotic week.
When I got home, I jumped in my van and ran to Lowes to get lunch. I pulled into my driveway just as Sharon and her 5 yr old Madeline were getting here. We went inside and set up our simple lunch – store bought chicken salad and croissants, along with Sharon’s freshly cut cantaloupe and pineapple. Madeline requested a movie – Thumbelina- while the rest of us girls just ate and talked.
Our conversation was so sweet, yet so simple. We talked about things we’d been thinking about, struggles/changes we were all processing in life, simple joys we’d experienced recently. One that I remember well was something Bev shared about how reading blogs has helped her see that women are so much alike. She’s enjoyed reading the responses to Jodie (Pearls) questions about a woman’s 10 greatest struggles. Mostly because it reminds her that she is not alone.
I think that is a simple truth about women and friendships. We want to know that we aren’t alone, we aren’t the only ones who think the way we do or feel the way we do. We long for that simple, yet common connection…face to face and heart to heart.
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