Okay, I have a confession to make. I am one of the worst when it comes to staying in touch with friends when they move away or when I move away. There is just something about seeing each other that makes it so much easier for me to stay connected. I think about sending cards. I want to email more often or even give them a call. But the never-ending demands of everyday life crowd out all my good ideas and sentimental intentions. I want to be a better friend, but often times I feel like I disappoint my O.O.T. friends. (Thats O.ut O.f T.own)
As I have shared before, I even have a hard time staying connected with friends who live in the same town now. I am closest to those I see most often – at work or at church or in the neighborhood. There is just something about my current season of life – working, traveling, older kids who have different friends and interests, days that fly by at light speed, and never-ending new adventures like adopting, moving, learning radio, etc .
It used to be easier when my kids were smaller and my friends were moms with the same age kids. Play dates with our little ones gave us the perfect incentive to get together. It was our only guaranteed adult conversation so it was also a survival tactic. I loved having so much in common and feeling like we were learning things together and could encourage one another in something we were all so new at.
Now that I think about it, it was also easier before then – when I was single and could go out for lunch or dinner with my co-workers and roommates. Even after I got married before kids, there was more time in the evenings and on weekend. But I do remember it took a lot of effort, trial and error to find other couples that both JJ and I liked to hang out with.
I am getting ready to move again in just a few weeks. I won’t be going far – just a few blocks away – but I know it will be easy to lose touch. But I want to keep in contact with my neighbors and friends, Jan and Kim, who have lived next door and across the street for almost 10 years. God’s timing of this friendship series is so good for me because I know it will help me be intentional in giving them a call and just getting together for no reason – except for the fact that at one time God made us neighbors and now we’re simply friends.
I really want to be better at staying in touch with my O.O.T friends, so if you have any ideas please share them.
PS. I fly out tomorrow afternoon to speak in FL at a retreat Friday night and Saturday. I get to meet some new friends and spend time with my sweet friend and asst. Aimy. It’s been such an exhausting week so I’d treasure your prayers for God’s strength to be perfected and His power to be revealed in my weakness. Thank you sweet friends!